October 27, 2025 • 28 mins
Welcome to another episode of Inspirations for your Life, where every moment is an opportunity to make a difference. I’m your host, John C. Morley—serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast host, coach, graduate student, and passionate life learner. It’s my mission to empower you with insights and actionable wisdom that can enrich your life, boost your leadership, and help you elevate your community one step at a time. Today, we’ll dive deep into the everyday wisdom that fuels true connection and positive change, exploring how doing what’s right—especially in the small moments—shapes the world and the people around us. Let’s embark on this journey together, because the path to greatness starts with simple, intentional acts.
[1️⃣] Small kindness = big impact.Every act of kindness, no matter how small, plants a seed of positivity that can blossom into extraordinary change. Holding the door, offering a compliment, or simply lending a hand might seem insignificant, but these gestures have a ripple effect, inspiring others and fostering a climate where mutual care becomes the norm. In a fast-paced world, your mindful kindness is a powerful antidote to indifference—reminding everyone that genuine connection still matters.
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(00:02):
Oh, hello
(00:24):
there, guys.
It is John C.
Morley here, Serial Entrepreneur, and you're tuned into
Inspirations for Your Life, and it is a
privilege and pleasure to be with you once
again this evening.
Welcome to the show, everyone.
If you are here the first time, well,
welcome.
If you're coming back, welcome back.
It's always great to have people that enjoy
my content coming back and choosing to apply
(00:45):
that in their lives.
So the other day, Saturday, we started off
with a brand new master topic, in case
you guys were wondering.
Yes, we started off with a brand new
master topic, and that master topic is a
pretty good one.
Well, there are always good ones, you know
that.
And that is everyday wisdom on doing what's
(01:09):
right.
Tonight's granular topic is Empowering the Vulnerable, Series
4, Show 44, Episode 2.
Hey, how about that?
Three fours in a row, Series 4, Show
44, Episode 2.
So in two days, we'll have all fours,
and we won't be able to do that
for a while.
That's a pretty cool...
(01:29):
I'll have to do something very special on
that day.
That'll actually be on Tuesday, so I'll have
to do something very special for that show.
All right, guys.
So if this is your first time with
me, you may not know about BelieveMeAchieved.com.
Feel free to check that out.
That is after the show.
You can get short-form content, long-form
(01:50):
content.
You can get my articles and much more.
Hey, and I don't want you to be
parched, so feel free to go get yourself
some RO water or a beverage, a drink.
I have my healthy drink over here.
You may or may not be able to
see it, depending on whether you're watching or
listening.
I have a...
It looks like a mug here.
And in that, I have two tablespoons of
blackstrap molasses that I have my instant hot
(02:12):
water on top of to melt it.
And then I have a nice teabag that
I put in there and a metal straw.
The reason for the metal straw is that
the metal straw is so that your teeth
don't get stained.
All right.
So without any further ado, guys, I want
to go ahead and kick this show off
because this is really exciting.
(02:32):
All right.
So welcome everyone to another episode of, that's
right, Inspirations for Your Life, where every moment
is an opportunity to make a difference.
I am John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
podcast host, coach, graduate student, and a passionate
(02:55):
lifelong learner.
My goal here is to share actionable wisdom
that will enrich your life, boost your leadership,
and help you elevate your community one step
at a time.
Tonight, I'm going to explore how small acts
create true connection and positive change, proving that
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greatness begins with simple, intentional choices.
Many people I know want to do these
grand gestures, but you don't need to do
that.
All right.
Number one, our first point, small kindness equals
big impact.
Even a simple act, holding a door or
offering a compliment, can spark a ripple of
positivity.
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And these gestures foster connection and remind us
that caring always matters, even if it's little.
Number two, defend those who can't defend themselves.
True character is shown when you stand for
those without a voice.
Whether seeking up or shielding the vulnerable, integrity
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means acting with courage.
Number three, guys, listen more, judge less.
In fact, don't judge at all.
Empathy grows when we listen without quick judgment.
Doing so opens understanding and forms genuine relationships.
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Yeah, so a lot of people are quick
to judge, and they don't realize that there's
so much potential in your life that you
can actually, you know, let's say grow things
with.
You can look at that and see that
there's so much possibility and ways that you
can grow.
Number four, guys, inclusion is strength.
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Diversity brings resilience.
Invite others in, celebrate difference, and create a
place where everyone thrives.
Number five, no one succeeds alone.
Success is supported by encouragement and collaboration.
Helping others as you advance sustains growth for
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all.
Number six, guys, choose to make room for
quiet voices.
Quiet contributors have meaningful insights.
Encourage everyone you know to speak and to
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enrich your collective wisdom.
I think that's something that a lot of
people don't get, but when we are that
voice, sometimes it doesn't say anything.
The one that's just kind of listening.
Listeners get a lot because they're processing everything
that's going on in life.
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Number seven, guys, stand in the gap for
someone.
Leadership often means stepping in when others can't.
Selfless support can change someone's course.
Number eight, guys, use your strengths to help
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others rise.
Share your skills to empower others.
Mentor and teach to multiply, impact, and build
lasting legacy.
It's not about, you know, you getting to
be top or you getting revered.
It's not about any of that.
It's about how you can make this world
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a better place.
I think that's something that a lot of
people don't realize is that, you know, many
people want a pat on the back, and
I get that you want a pat on
the back.
Don't get me wrong.
But what I want to say is that
you have to do things for the right
reasons, okay?
And when you're only doing it for a
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reward, well, you're going to miss the whole
enchilada, which is that life is meant to
be lived, but life is meant to be
shared, okay?
I think that's a very, very important point,
that life is meant to be shared.
Number nine, guys, give others the safety you
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wish for yourself.
Offer understanding and patience.
When people feel safe, they grow and innovate.
Number 10, help is never wasted.
Even unseen, genuine help makes a difference.
I'm going to have some more of my
delicious molasses tea here.
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Really good, guys, really, really good.
And it's healthy for you, too.
So the effects often surface later in powerful
ways, which that sometimes bites us in the
behind because we weren't realizing that.
And if it's good to have us bite
something in the behind that's good, well, that's
a good thing, too.
We always talk about it being bad.
But something biting you in a good way
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is also kind of neat.
Number 11, guys, lead with compassion.
Compassion builds trust and also motivation.
People go further when they know you care.
And I think a lot of times we
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miss that point.
Recently, I was doing something the other day.
And sometimes just showing that you care not
only gets you to realize something, but it
gets other people to realize, too, that, hey,
they actually care about you, too.
I think those are pretty remarkable things when
we can say those things, right?
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So put your arm out there.
Put your leg out there.
What I mean by that is be a
little vulnerable.
Share a little bit about yourself.
And I think you're going to learn not
only about yourself, but you're going to learn
about others.
And they're going to learn about themselves.
And they're going to learn about you.
So that's a really cool thing.
Number 12, uplift before you correct.
Encourage first.
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Positive feedback makes constructive criticism more effective.
I know so many people that want to
go off and rave.
And I get why they want to go
rave.
But at the end of the day, they're
just here to badger and complain.
They're not here to make the world a
better place for you or for anyone else.
And I think that's a huge thing that
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many people miss.
They miss that whole concept of the fact
that we want to be able to give
people feedback that's not going to make them
feel bad, embarrassed, or like they want to
go under a shell and hide.
Feedback that's going to allow them to stand
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where they are and correct.
Remember, when we correct someone, we're never correcting
the person.
We're just correcting the behavior.
That's the most important thing to realize, right?
It's the behavior we want to change.
Number 13, share your stage.
Opportunity to expand when shared.
Feature others and celebrate their successes.
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Number 14, guys, community.
Community means everyone belongs.
True community welcomes all, fostering loyalty and teamwork.
Number 15, guys, look out for the overlooked.
Find and encourage those who are unnoticed.
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Your recognition can be transformative.
But you have to first realize that you
have to know where you're coming from.
You have to know where you're going.
You may not need to know the exact
directions there, but you do need to know
where you're going.
I think that's a very, very important thing.
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You have to know where you're going.
If you don't know where you're going, well,
that can be a huge, huge problem for,
again, a lot of people.
And those people, unfortunately, are going to just
be pushing things because of what other people
say.
You've got to realize that you've got to
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stand up for yourself.
And I was with a group not too
long ago, and I think I mentioned this
the other day.
I said something and I was just praising
someone.
Well, because somebody didn't like that I was
praising that person, it turned them to go
against me.
Now, I call this petty, childish nonsense, but
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there are adults that are acting like petty
nonsense, unfortunately.
And when that kind of stuff happens, you
know what I say?
Next.
Because I don't have time for that.
You don't have time for the drama.
I always say to people, leave your drama
at the door, okay?
It's one thing if you have a situation,
but this is made up drama that really
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doesn't mean anything other than it just annoys
people.
And it gives people a power trip, which
I think is crazy.
I'm just being honest.
It really, really is crazy.
Number 16, teach your kids, your family, teach
everyone you know empathy.
Model empathy for the next generation to help
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them build stronger relationships.
I remember someone a little bit younger than
me and I was befriending them and just
kind of just talking with them and whatnot.
And they weren't really opening up.
So I said, gee, maybe I should, you
know, crack a joke or do something like
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that.
But I decided to do something a little
bit different.
I got one of these, you know, boards,
like it's actually like a large, if you
will, like a sketch pad, you know, you
flip it over like a flip chart.
And he's like, what are you doing?
So I'm trying to get you to laugh.
Oh, that's pointless because I never laugh.
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And I was like, really?
And it wasn't that they never laugh.
It's that they didn't want to be vulnerable.
Some people always have their guard up.
Unfortunately, guys, I mean, you know when somebody
is offended, right?
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And if you offend somebody and it wasn't
intentional, usually you go back and you apologize
or hey, I didn't mean to do that.
And when they still act like a jerk
and be like, you know, it's nothing or
and then they still like don't want to
talk to you.
You know that they haven't forgiven you.
Unfortunately, there are people out there that do
this every single day.
Why?
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I think it's called power trip.
I mean, that's just really the reason it's
called.
It's called a power trip.
That power trip is something that a lot
of people like they just don't get.
It's something, right?
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I don't know why people do this.
Does that make sense to you?
Some people do things for crazy reasons.
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Sometimes people do something because they're part of
a group, if you will.
Number 17, guys, one ally can change a
life.
Your support could be the turning point for
someone in need.
Now, you don't necessarily know that they're in
need, but you know that you want to
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be that friend.
You want to be something, someone they can
lean on.
I think when you do that, it changes
the dynamic between two people.
When somebody knows they've built a friendship, well,
what does a friend do?
Let's talk about that for a moment.
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A friend does things like sends cards.
It just sent out cards for Halloween and
for Thanksgiving.
That's what a friend does.
When it's somebody's birthday, a good friend sends
a card on their birthday.
A good friend is there to talk to.
I remember just making a new friend not
too long ago.
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And I remember telling them something, which I
don't tell everyone.
I only tell really good friends this.
If you ever need me, you now have
my cell phone number and you can call
me 24 hours a day.
I don't care what time it is.
I don't just tell anybody that.
I think you get compelled and you feel
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like you want to be there for someone.
And that's a great feeling.
And I think in the time that I've
been around, I think I might have told
three people that.
Unfortunately, two out of the three people kind
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of tried to burn me.
So I've been a little skeptical about giving
my cell phone number out and being like,
hey, I'm here for you.
But you get a gut when you want
to give it a try.
It's not something you do every day.
But I think it gets us to realize
that we're human.
And that humanness gets us to understand that
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we can make a difference, not only in
our life, but in someone else's life.
And that's really amazing.
And it might not be something expensive you
send them.
It could be a box of chocolates.
It could be just a card.
It could be a gift card to a
restaurant, anything.
Just somebody say, hey, I'm thinking about you.
I'm thinking about you.
You want to get a little deeper.
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You want to say, hey, you matter to
me.
Good friends visit each other's houses.
They come over.
They could be out of state.
It doesn't really matter.
But I think what matters is the truth.
And I think what also matters is the
fact that you really do care about the
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other person.
And I think that's something quite special, quite
special.
You never know when you're going to be
friends, somewhere somebody's going to be friends.
You never know.
Everyone's like an acquaintance, right?
Kind of, or not an acquaintance, but then
they become an acquaintance.
A friend's there for you.
And only time tells how that's going to
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work, right?
So number 18, never mock weakness.
Mend it.
Uplift those who struggle.
Compassion heals what ridicule harms.
And I think that's something that a lot
of people don't realize, especially a lot of
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the younger generations.
They think it's okay to mock somebody.
Why?
Because they think it's cool.
But I don't know about you.
I don't like getting made fun of.
And I don't think you would like getting
made fun of.
Everybody tries, well, you know, you have to
do that to be cool.
That's just sick.
That's just messed up, if you ask me,
all right?
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Really, really messed up.
So understand that, guys.
And understand the fact that once the words
leave your lips, they can't be taken back.
So be kind what you say to other
people.
Even if they're not your friend.
Even if they're just an acquaintance.
Or even if they're not an acquaintance.
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Even if they're just a stranger.
Be nice to them.
I know hiking today on my hike I
take every weekend.
I say hello to everyone.
How's your day going?
Good afternoon.
And I will tell you, for every 10
people that I said hello or good morning,
good afternoon, how's your day?
Great, how's yours?
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And they respond.
One out of 10 does not acknowledge.
Not bad averages, right?
It's got to be people like that.
Number 19, advocate for dignity.
Respect everyone and set new standards for civility.
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Number 20, fairness is felt, not just spoken.
Show fairness through actions.
Let it be an experience, not just a
principle.
Number 21, see potential, not limitations.
Spot strengths in others and encourage growth.
I think that's an important one to realize.
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We have to be aware of growth.
Invite new people in.
Number 22, new perspectives bring innovation.
Welcome everyone to strengthen your team, or at
least the community.
I'm going to have some more of this
delicious drink here.
Again, it's just two tablespoons of blackstrap molasses.
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Has to be blackstrap molasses.
Then I put in InstaHot, which is just
enough to fill the mug.
And then I dunk.
I'm doing Twinnings Earl Grey tea.
You can do breakfast tea, whatever you want.
A decaf.
And I put them there for a few
minutes, and then I have my metal straw,
and it's great.
Number 23, guys, check on friends who seem
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okay.
Even those who appear fine, they need support.
Reach out.
Number 24, kindness costs little and means much.
Small kind gestures have enormous positive returns.
You may not see them tomorrow, or the
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next day, or even next week, or the
next month, but you will see them.
Number 25, lift others, and you will rise
too.
By lifting others up, you grow alongside them.
That's a powerful thing.
Number 26, protect exploited folks.
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Intervene when you see injustice to foster healing.
And I think a lot of people don't
realize what that means.
But it's something that can really scar somebody.
It could hurt somebody.
Now, maybe you don't mean to hurt somebody,
but sometimes people just do because they don't
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care.
I think that's a terrible thing when people
say things like that.
Number 27, guys, every voice counts, especially the
quietest ones.
Listen now for the hidden wisdom.
The innovation often will begin with quiet voices.
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And if you're too loud or you're too
controlling, you're going to miss the advice that
they want to share with you.
That's powerful, guys, extremely powerful.
Number 28, pay support forward.
Return kindness by paying it forward to others.
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These are great movements, like on the National
Kindness Day and things like that, whether you're
in a drive-thru and you're buying somebody's
coffee behind you.
These are nice things to do.
And then hopefully that will be passed on
to other people in the line.
I mean, you hope, right?
But usually when I've done this, it's usually
gone for several hours.
And it could be something like a simple
coffee or buying them a donut or whatever
it is.
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But you feel so good about it.
Number 29, a gentle word heals more than
you know.
Gentleness in tough moments can give new confidence
and comfort.
The thing about gentleness is that there's no
agenda with gentleness.
You're doing it because you just want to
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be a good person.
And you're not trying to get anything out
of it other than one thing.
And that is to be genuine and show
that you care.
You're not looking for anything.
A lot of times I know when people
do things, they do it because they want
to get something back.
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They want to get something back.
I think that can be tough for some
people because you think somebody's your friend.
And then they're just trying to get something
for free out of you.
You probably had friends like that, right?
The ones that just come around whenever you
have to do something for them or they
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need something from you.
Number 30, vulnerability builds real trust.
Trust comes from honesty and sharing your real
self, not the self that you're pretending to
be.
So this is important, guys.
Let's unpack these lessons in today's episode, exploring
everyday wisdom to help you make the right
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choices and build a fulfilling life.
I know a lot of times we hear
this great advice, whether it's from me or
someone else, but you don't choose to implement
your life.
And the reason is, I don't know, like,
ah, it's not the right time.
Maybe I'll do it tomorrow.
Maybe I'll do it next week.
You're always giving yourself an excuse.
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There's never going to be the right time.
There's never going to be the right place.
There's only going to be now.
So why don't you make the decision and
act?
Stop playing games with yourself and others.
You're teasing yourself.
And you're also, if I may say, burning
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yourself out, probably burning the candle at both
ends.
And that's not very healthy.
We have so many choices in life, guys.
And empowering us to be vulnerable allows us
to grow, allows other people around to grow.
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And I'm not saying be vulnerable to people
you just met.
You know, maybe you got to know them
a little bit, right?
Maybe you got to talk for a few
minutes, not just every stranger.
But being vulnerable just means they also get
to see the true you.
There's no mask on, right?
Forget COVID.
There's no mask.
There's just you.
And I always tell people, you can like
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me, love me, or hate me.
And so many people want to get approval.
Yeah, I'd like to get approval.
But everything I do doesn't need everybody's approval.
I think that's a challenge a lot of
people have.
They do something, and then they're waiting for
the approval.
And they still don't get the approval.
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I'm like, oh my gosh, when am I
going to get the approval?
And then they feel so bad because they
didn't get the approval.
All right, that was the last of my
drink.
And when you mix it right, by the
way, guys, you don't have any molasses left.
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It's a nice, sweet taste, not too sweet.
I used to do it with orange juice,
but it really ruins the taste of orange
juice.
I used to take the two tablespoons of
black sugar molasses, put a little bit of
hot water, not much of the boiling hot
water, just to mix it up.
Then I put a little water in it.
Then I would dump the rest of orange
juice.
And it was OK, but it wasn't the
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highlight.
When I do this in the evening, it's
great.
I mean, it's great.
I hardly taste the molasses.
It's not killing you.
It kind of compliments the tea, which is
a nice thing.
So ladies and gentlemen, I invite you to
tune in to join the conversation and be
part of our community here, where inclusion is
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strength, every voice matters, and kindness never goes
out of style here on Inspirations For Your
Life.
And I hope that you realize that your
kindness should never go out of style, and
nor should anyone else's.
Listen now as you have been, or you
can go to BelieveMeAchieve.com once the show
is over.
And you can watch this particular episode, other
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episodes, other shows that I have, short-form
content, long-form content.
But most importantly, you can re, let's say,
absorb a lot of these nuggets.
Because I know there's a lot of information,
guys.
I am John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur.
It is such a privilege, a pleasure, and
an honor to be with you here on
this show and all the other shows that
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I have and the other content.
Please do check out BelieveMeAchieve.com.
And I'll catch you guys in another episode
or another piece of my content real soon.
Be well, everyone.
Oh, hello
(00:24):
there, guys.
It is John C.
Morley here, Serial Entrepreneur, and you're tuned into
Inspirations for Your Life, and it is a
privilege and pleasure to be with you once
again this evening.
Welcome to the show, everyone.
If you are here the first time, well,
welcome.
If you're coming back, welcome back.
It's always great to have people that enjoy
my content coming back and choosing to apply
(00:45):
that in their lives.
So the other day, Saturday, we started off
with a brand new master topic, in case
you guys were wondering.
Yes, we started off with a brand new
master topic, and that master topic is a
pretty good one.
Well, there are always good ones, you know
that.
And that is everyday wisdom on doing what's
(01:09):
right.
Tonight's granular topic is Empowering the Vulnerable, Series
4, Show 44, Episode 2.
Hey, how about that?
Three fours in a row, Series 4, Show
44, Episode 2.
So in two days, we'll have all fours,
and we won't be able to do that
for a while.
That's a pretty cool...
(01:29):
I'll have to do something very special on
that day.
That'll actually be on Tuesday, so I'll have
to do something very special for that show.
All right, guys.
So if this is your first time with
me, you may not know about BelieveMeAchieved.com.
Feel free to check that out.
That is after the show.
You can get short-form content, long-form
(01:50):
content.
You can get my articles and much more.
Hey, and I don't want you to be
parched, so feel free to go get yourself
some RO water or a beverage, a drink.
I have my healthy drink over here.
You may or may not be able to
see it, depending on whether you're watching or
listening.
I have a...
It looks like a mug here.
And in that, I have two tablespoons of
blackstrap molasses that I have my instant hot
(02:12):
water on top of to melt it.
And then I have a nice teabag that
I put in there and a metal straw.
The reason for the metal straw is that
the metal straw is so that your teeth
don't get stained.
All right.
So without any further ado, guys, I want
to go ahead and kick this show off
because this is really exciting.
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All right.
So welcome everyone to another episode of, that's
right, Inspirations for Your Life, where every moment
is an opportunity to make a difference.
I am John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
podcast host, coach, graduate student, and a passionate
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lifelong learner.
My goal here is to share actionable wisdom
that will enrich your life, boost your leadership,
and help you elevate your community one step
at a time.
Tonight, I'm going to explore how small acts
create true connection and positive change, proving that
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greatness begins with simple, intentional choices.
Many people I know want to do these
grand gestures, but you don't need to do
that.
All right.
Number one, our first point, small kindness equals
big impact.
Even a simple act, holding a door or
offering a compliment, can spark a ripple of
positivity.
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And these gestures foster connection and remind us
that caring always matters, even if it's little.
Number two, defend those who can't defend themselves.
True character is shown when you stand for
those without a voice.
Whether seeking up or shielding the vulnerable, integrity
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means acting with courage.
Number three, guys, listen more, judge less.
In fact, don't judge at all.
Empathy grows when we listen without quick judgment.
Doing so opens understanding and forms genuine relationships.
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Yeah, so a lot of people are quick
to judge, and they don't realize that there's
so much potential in your life that you
can actually, you know, let's say grow things
with.
You can look at that and see that
there's so much possibility and ways that you
can grow.
Number four, guys, inclusion is strength.
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Diversity brings resilience.
Invite others in, celebrate difference, and create a
place where everyone thrives.
Number five, no one succeeds alone.
Success is supported by encouragement and collaboration.
Helping others as you advance sustains growth for
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all.
Number six, guys, choose to make room for
quiet voices.
Quiet contributors have meaningful insights.
Encourage everyone you know to speak and to
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enrich your collective wisdom.
I think that's something that a lot of
people don't get, but when we are that
voice, sometimes it doesn't say anything.
The one that's just kind of listening.
Listeners get a lot because they're processing everything
that's going on in life.
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Number seven, guys, stand in the gap for
someone.
Leadership often means stepping in when others can't.
Selfless support can change someone's course.
Number eight, guys, use your strengths to help
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others rise.
Share your skills to empower others.
Mentor and teach to multiply, impact, and build
lasting legacy.
It's not about, you know, you getting to
be top or you getting revered.
It's not about any of that.
It's about how you can make this world
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a better place.
I think that's something that a lot of
people don't realize is that, you know, many
people want a pat on the back, and
I get that you want a pat on
the back.
Don't get me wrong.
But what I want to say is that
you have to do things for the right
reasons, okay?
And when you're only doing it for a
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reward, well, you're going to miss the whole
enchilada, which is that life is meant to
be lived, but life is meant to be
shared, okay?
I think that's a very, very important point,
that life is meant to be shared.
Number nine, guys, give others the safety you
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wish for yourself.
Offer understanding and patience.
When people feel safe, they grow and innovate.
Number 10, help is never wasted.
Even unseen, genuine help makes a difference.
I'm going to have some more of my
delicious molasses tea here.
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Really good, guys, really, really good.
And it's healthy for you, too.
So the effects often surface later in powerful
ways, which that sometimes bites us in the
behind because we weren't realizing that.
And if it's good to have us bite
something in the behind that's good, well, that's
a good thing, too.
We always talk about it being bad.
But something biting you in a good way
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is also kind of neat.
Number 11, guys, lead with compassion.
Compassion builds trust and also motivation.
People go further when they know you care.
And I think a lot of times we
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miss that point.
Recently, I was doing something the other day.
And sometimes just showing that you care not
only gets you to realize something, but it
gets other people to realize, too, that, hey,
they actually care about you, too.
I think those are pretty remarkable things when
we can say those things, right?
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So put your arm out there.
Put your leg out there.
What I mean by that is be a
little vulnerable.
Share a little bit about yourself.
And I think you're going to learn not
only about yourself, but you're going to learn
about others.
And they're going to learn about themselves.
And they're going to learn about you.
So that's a really cool thing.
Number 12, uplift before you correct.
Encourage first.
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Positive feedback makes constructive criticism more effective.
I know so many people that want to
go off and rave.
And I get why they want to go
rave.
But at the end of the day, they're
just here to badger and complain.
They're not here to make the world a
better place for you or for anyone else.
And I think that's a huge thing that
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many people miss.
They miss that whole concept of the fact
that we want to be able to give
people feedback that's not going to make them
feel bad, embarrassed, or like they want to
go under a shell and hide.
Feedback that's going to allow them to stand
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where they are and correct.
Remember, when we correct someone, we're never correcting
the person.
We're just correcting the behavior.
That's the most important thing to realize, right?
It's the behavior we want to change.
Number 13, share your stage.
Opportunity to expand when shared.
Feature others and celebrate their successes.
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Number 14, guys, community.
Community means everyone belongs.
True community welcomes all, fostering loyalty and teamwork.
Number 15, guys, look out for the overlooked.
Find and encourage those who are unnoticed.
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Your recognition can be transformative.
But you have to first realize that you
have to know where you're coming from.
You have to know where you're going.
You may not need to know the exact
directions there, but you do need to know
where you're going.
I think that's a very, very important thing.
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You have to know where you're going.
If you don't know where you're going, well,
that can be a huge, huge problem for,
again, a lot of people.
And those people, unfortunately, are going to just
be pushing things because of what other people
say.
You've got to realize that you've got to
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stand up for yourself.
And I was with a group not too
long ago, and I think I mentioned this
the other day.
I said something and I was just praising
someone.
Well, because somebody didn't like that I was
praising that person, it turned them to go
against me.
Now, I call this petty, childish nonsense, but
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there are adults that are acting like petty
nonsense, unfortunately.
And when that kind of stuff happens, you
know what I say?
Next.
Because I don't have time for that.
You don't have time for the drama.
I always say to people, leave your drama
at the door, okay?
It's one thing if you have a situation,
but this is made up drama that really
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doesn't mean anything other than it just annoys
people.
And it gives people a power trip, which
I think is crazy.
I'm just being honest.
It really, really is crazy.
Number 16, teach your kids, your family, teach
everyone you know empathy.
Model empathy for the next generation to help
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them build stronger relationships.
I remember someone a little bit younger than
me and I was befriending them and just
kind of just talking with them and whatnot.
And they weren't really opening up.
So I said, gee, maybe I should, you
know, crack a joke or do something like
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that.
But I decided to do something a little
bit different.
I got one of these, you know, boards,
like it's actually like a large, if you
will, like a sketch pad, you know, you
flip it over like a flip chart.
And he's like, what are you doing?
So I'm trying to get you to laugh.
Oh, that's pointless because I never laugh.
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And I was like, really?
And it wasn't that they never laugh.
It's that they didn't want to be vulnerable.
Some people always have their guard up.
Unfortunately, guys, I mean, you know when somebody
is offended, right?
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And if you offend somebody and it wasn't
intentional, usually you go back and you apologize
or hey, I didn't mean to do that.
And when they still act like a jerk
and be like, you know, it's nothing or
and then they still like don't want to
talk to you.
You know that they haven't forgiven you.
Unfortunately, there are people out there that do
this every single day.
Why?
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I think it's called power trip.
I mean, that's just really the reason it's
called.
It's called a power trip.
That power trip is something that a lot
of people like they just don't get.
It's something, right?
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I don't know why people do this.
Does that make sense to you?
Some people do things for crazy reasons.
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Sometimes people do something because they're part of
a group, if you will.
Number 17, guys, one ally can change a
life.
Your support could be the turning point for
someone in need.
Now, you don't necessarily know that they're in
need, but you know that you want to
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be that friend.
You want to be something, someone they can
lean on.
I think when you do that, it changes
the dynamic between two people.
When somebody knows they've built a friendship, well,
what does a friend do?
Let's talk about that for a moment.
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A friend does things like sends cards.
It just sent out cards for Halloween and
for Thanksgiving.
That's what a friend does.
When it's somebody's birthday, a good friend sends
a card on their birthday.
A good friend is there to talk to.
I remember just making a new friend not
too long ago.
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And I remember telling them something, which I
don't tell everyone.
I only tell really good friends this.
If you ever need me, you now have
my cell phone number and you can call
me 24 hours a day.
I don't care what time it is.
I don't just tell anybody that.
I think you get compelled and you feel
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like you want to be there for someone.
And that's a great feeling.
And I think in the time that I've
been around, I think I might have told
three people that.
Unfortunately, two out of the three people kind
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of tried to burn me.
So I've been a little skeptical about giving
my cell phone number out and being like,
hey, I'm here for you.
But you get a gut when you want
to give it a try.
It's not something you do every day.
But I think it gets us to realize
that we're human.
And that humanness gets us to understand that
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we can make a difference, not only in
our life, but in someone else's life.
And that's really amazing.
And it might not be something expensive you
send them.
It could be a box of chocolates.
It could be just a card.
It could be a gift card to a
restaurant, anything.
Just somebody say, hey, I'm thinking about you.
I'm thinking about you.
You want to get a little deeper.
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You want to say, hey, you matter to
me.
Good friends visit each other's houses.
They come over.
They could be out of state.
It doesn't really matter.
But I think what matters is the truth.
And I think what also matters is the
fact that you really do care about the
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other person.
And I think that's something quite special, quite
special.
You never know when you're going to be
friends, somewhere somebody's going to be friends.
You never know.
Everyone's like an acquaintance, right?
Kind of, or not an acquaintance, but then
they become an acquaintance.
A friend's there for you.
And only time tells how that's going to
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work, right?
So number 18, never mock weakness.
Mend it.
Uplift those who struggle.
Compassion heals what ridicule harms.
And I think that's something that a lot
of people don't realize, especially a lot of
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the younger generations.
They think it's okay to mock somebody.
Why?
Because they think it's cool.
But I don't know about you.
I don't like getting made fun of.
And I don't think you would like getting
made fun of.
Everybody tries, well, you know, you have to
do that to be cool.
That's just sick.
That's just messed up, if you ask me,
all right?
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Really, really messed up.
So understand that, guys.
And understand the fact that once the words
leave your lips, they can't be taken back.
So be kind what you say to other
people.
Even if they're not your friend.
Even if they're just an acquaintance.
Or even if they're not an acquaintance.
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Even if they're just a stranger.
Be nice to them.
I know hiking today on my hike I
take every weekend.
I say hello to everyone.
How's your day going?
Good afternoon.
And I will tell you, for every 10
people that I said hello or good morning,
good afternoon, how's your day?
Great, how's yours?
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And they respond.
One out of 10 does not acknowledge.
Not bad averages, right?
It's got to be people like that.
Number 19, advocate for dignity.
Respect everyone and set new standards for civility.
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Number 20, fairness is felt, not just spoken.
Show fairness through actions.
Let it be an experience, not just a
principle.
Number 21, see potential, not limitations.
Spot strengths in others and encourage growth.
I think that's an important one to realize.
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We have to be aware of growth.
Invite new people in.
Number 22, new perspectives bring innovation.
Welcome everyone to strengthen your team, or at
least the community.
I'm going to have some more of this
delicious drink here.
Again, it's just two tablespoons of blackstrap molasses.
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Has to be blackstrap molasses.
Then I put in InstaHot, which is just
enough to fill the mug.
And then I dunk.
I'm doing Twinnings Earl Grey tea.
You can do breakfast tea, whatever you want.
A decaf.
And I put them there for a few
minutes, and then I have my metal straw,
and it's great.
Number 23, guys, check on friends who seem
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okay.
Even those who appear fine, they need support.
Reach out.
Number 24, kindness costs little and means much.
Small kind gestures have enormous positive returns.
You may not see them tomorrow, or the
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next day, or even next week, or the
next month, but you will see them.
Number 25, lift others, and you will rise
too.
By lifting others up, you grow alongside them.
That's a powerful thing.
Number 26, protect exploited folks.
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Intervene when you see injustice to foster healing.
And I think a lot of people don't
realize what that means.
But it's something that can really scar somebody.
It could hurt somebody.
Now, maybe you don't mean to hurt somebody,
but sometimes people just do because they don't
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care.
I think that's a terrible thing when people
say things like that.
Number 27, guys, every voice counts, especially the
quietest ones.
Listen now for the hidden wisdom.
The innovation often will begin with quiet voices.
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And if you're too loud or you're too
controlling, you're going to miss the advice that
they want to share with you.
That's powerful, guys, extremely powerful.
Number 28, pay support forward.
Return kindness by paying it forward to others.
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These are great movements, like on the National
Kindness Day and things like that, whether you're
in a drive-thru and you're buying somebody's
coffee behind you.
These are nice things to do.
And then hopefully that will be passed on
to other people in the line.
I mean, you hope, right?
But usually when I've done this, it's usually
gone for several hours.
And it could be something like a simple
coffee or buying them a donut or whatever
it is.
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But you feel so good about it.
Number 29, a gentle word heals more than
you know.
Gentleness in tough moments can give new confidence
and comfort.
The thing about gentleness is that there's no
agenda with gentleness.
You're doing it because you just want to
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be a good person.
And you're not trying to get anything out
of it other than one thing.
And that is to be genuine and show
that you care.
You're not looking for anything.
A lot of times I know when people
do things, they do it because they want
to get something back.
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They want to get something back.
I think that can be tough for some
people because you think somebody's your friend.
And then they're just trying to get something
for free out of you.
You probably had friends like that, right?
The ones that just come around whenever you
have to do something for them or they
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need something from you.
Number 30, vulnerability builds real trust.
Trust comes from honesty and sharing your real
self, not the self that you're pretending to
be.
So this is important, guys.
Let's unpack these lessons in today's episode, exploring
everyday wisdom to help you make the right
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choices and build a fulfilling life.
I know a lot of times we hear
this great advice, whether it's from me or
someone else, but you don't choose to implement
your life.
And the reason is, I don't know, like,
ah, it's not the right time.
Maybe I'll do it tomorrow.
Maybe I'll do it next week.
You're always giving yourself an excuse.
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There's never going to be the right time.
There's never going to be the right place.
There's only going to be now.
So why don't you make the decision and
act?
Stop playing games with yourself and others.
You're teasing yourself.
And you're also, if I may say, burning
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yourself out, probably burning the candle at both
ends.
And that's not very healthy.
We have so many choices in life, guys.
And empowering us to be vulnerable allows us
to grow, allows other people around to grow.
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And I'm not saying be vulnerable to people
you just met.
You know, maybe you got to know them
a little bit, right?
Maybe you got to talk for a few
minutes, not just every stranger.
But being vulnerable just means they also get
to see the true you.
There's no mask on, right?
Forget COVID.
There's no mask.
There's just you.
And I always tell people, you can like
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me, love me, or hate me.
And so many people want to get approval.
Yeah, I'd like to get approval.
But everything I do doesn't need everybody's approval.
I think that's a challenge a lot of
people have.
They do something, and then they're waiting for
the approval.
And they still don't get the approval.
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I'm like, oh my gosh, when am I
going to get the approval?
And then they feel so bad because they
didn't get the approval.
All right, that was the last of my
drink.
And when you mix it right, by the
way, guys, you don't have any molasses left.
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It's a nice, sweet taste, not too sweet.
I used to do it with orange juice,
but it really ruins the taste of orange
juice.
I used to take the two tablespoons of
black sugar molasses, put a little bit of
hot water, not much of the boiling hot
water, just to mix it up.
Then I put a little water in it.
Then I would dump the rest of orange
juice.
And it was OK, but it wasn't the
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highlight.
When I do this in the evening, it's
great.
I mean, it's great.
I hardly taste the molasses.
It's not killing you.
It kind of compliments the tea, which is
a nice thing.
So ladies and gentlemen, I invite you to
tune in to join the conversation and be
part of our community here, where inclusion is
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strength, every voice matters, and kindness never goes
out of style here on Inspirations For Your
Life.
And I hope that you realize that your
kindness should never go out of style, and
nor should anyone else's.
Listen now as you have been, or you
can go to BelieveMeAchieve.com once the show
is over.
And you can watch this particular episode, other
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episodes, other shows that I have, short-form
content, long-form content.
But most importantly, you can re, let's say,
absorb a lot of these nuggets.
Because I know there's a lot of information,
guys.
I am John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur.
It is such a privilege, a pleasure, and
an honor to be with you here on
this show and all the other shows that
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I have and the other content.
Please do check out BelieveMeAchieve.com.
And I'll catch you guys in another episode
or another piece of my content real soon.
Be well, everyone.
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