December 6, 2025 • 29 mins
When life goes on autopilot, you don’t need another “someday” plan—you need a wake‑up call that is practical, specific, and kind of impossible to ignore. This is John C. Morley—Serial Entrepreneur, Engineer, Marketing Specialist, Video Producer, Podcast Host, Coach, Graduate Student and, of course, a passionate lifelong learner—and you’re tuned in to the Inspirations for Your Life Show, the daily motivational show that helps you move from stuck to unstoppable. This week’s master topic is “Reset Week: Second Chances, Fresh Starts, and Daily Do‑Overs” (S4) S50 E1, and tonight’s episode is all about “See It Clearly: Your Personal Wake‑Up Call,” where you and are going to stop pretending everything is fine and start designing the change you actually want.
1️⃣ First, notice one area of your life that feels like it’s running on autopilot and actually write it down instead of letting it float around in your head. When you ask, “If nothing changes here, what will this look like a year from now?”, you force yourself to see the real destination of your current path, not the one you wish you were on. Circle the part of that picture you absolutely do not want to live with, and let that be your honest starting point.
2️⃣ Next, admit one truth you’ve been dodging about your habits or choices and name one thing you keep saying you’ll fix “later.” When you decide that “later” is now and put today’s date next to it, you turn a vague intention into a timestamped commitment. List three ways staying the same has already cost you time, energy, or peace, then ask, “What’s the real price of doing nothing?”—because doing nothing is never free.
3️⃣ Pick one feeling you’re tired of waking up with—stress, guilt, regret—and then choose one feeling you actually want to wake up with instead—calm, focus, hope. Write one sentence that starts with “I am done pretending that…” and let yourself be brutally honest. Then stand up, take a deep breath, and say out loud, “Something has to change—and I’m in,” so your body hears the decision your mind is making.
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(00:24):
Well, hey guys, happy Saturday to you guys.
It is Saturday.
It's December 6th, by the way, that is
the first Saturday of December 2025.
Welcome everyone.
We have another master topic.
We'll get to that in just a minute.
If it's your first time here, I want
to take the opportunity to say welcome and
thank you for joining me.
(00:45):
If you're coming back, definitely want to say
welcome back and thank you for joining me
again.
Really do appreciate that.
Don't forget to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for
more of my, of course, amazing, inspiring creations,
which you can do right after the show
is over, 24 hours a day, by visiting
BelieveMeAchieve.com.
All right, so you know what we do
(01:07):
here.
We're a daily motivational show.
Really grateful to have you.
Oh, and if you're thirsty, feel free to
go get yourself a hot tea or chocolate
like I have here, a snack, a beverage,
a cookie, some fruit, whatever it is, and
come on back to the show.
All right, guys, without any further ado, I'd
like to go ahead and kick the show
off.
(01:27):
All right, guys.
So welcome.
This is John Seymourley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing
specialist, video producer, podcast host, coach, graduate student,
and of course, a passionate lifelong learner.
And of course, it is my privilege and
(01:47):
pleasure and honor to be with you here
this evening or today because you're tuned into
the daily inspirational show called Inspirations for Your
Life.
And it is the daily motivational show that
helps you build emotion mindset and live with
intention.
So I think sometimes, guys, we forget some
(02:08):
of the stuff that's out there, right?
We forget what's going on or why things
are happening a certain way.
We kind of get stuck in our own
rhythm.
And I think that's a very important thing
(02:29):
for people to realize that when we think
about how the show can be, what the
show should be about, what are we doing
on the show.
And the bottom line is, guys, we do
all types of motivation, OK, all types of
(02:49):
motivation.
And motivation, guys, doesn't just start like anywhere.
You have to have a plan for motivation
to really, really work.
I mean, I think that's an important thing.
But I know sometimes people, well, they get
(03:10):
a little bit lost because, you know, they're
getting bombarded by like a million different things.
I think that's something that a lot of
people don't quite understand, but I think it's
something that we need to understand.
So again, without any further ado, I'm going
to go ahead and let's get this show
kicked off because like I said, guys, it
(03:32):
is an amazing show tonight.
Well, it's always an amazing show, right?
So when life goes on autopilot, you don't
need another someday plan.
You need a wake-up call that is
practical, specific, and kind of impossible to ignore.
This is John C.
Morley.
As I said, I'm a serial entrepreneur, and
(03:53):
you guys know all the things that I
do.
But I think it's important to understand one
thing, anybody can have success in their life.
Doesn't matter what age, what time of day,
you know, being passionate and a lifelong learner
is a real key to success.
And you know, and tuning in daily to
this show is something that I think a
(04:13):
lot of people don't realize, but it really
can ignite you and get you unstuck to
be unstoppable.
This week's master topic is Reset Week, Second
Chances, Fresh Starts, and Daily Do-overs, Series
4, Show 50, Episode 1.
And tonight's episode is all about, see it
(04:35):
clearly, your personal wake-up call.
Where you end, are you going to stop
pretending everything is fine and start designing the
change you actually want?
I think sometimes people don't do this because
they get stuck, right?
(04:58):
They get stuck, and the reason they get
stuck is very simple.
They become perfectionists, all right?
And by becoming a perfectionist, well, guys, it's
hard.
(05:18):
And not everything is going to work the
way you want the first time, all right?
That's important.
So number one, first notice one area of
your life that feels like it's running on
autopilot and actually write it down.
Instead of letting it float around in your
head, when you ask if nothing changes here,
(05:42):
what will this look like a year from
now?
Well, you force yourself to see the real
destination of your current path, not the one
you wish you were on.
Circle the part of that picture you absolutely
do not want to live with, and let
that be your honest starting point, all right?
(06:06):
Number two, next admit one truth you've been
dodging about your habits or your choices, and
name one thing you keep saying you'll fix
later, but you never do.
When you decide that later is now and
put today's date next to it, you turn
(06:27):
a vague intention into a timestamped commitment.
Now everybody always says, oh, I'll do it
tomorrow, I'll do it tomorrow, but tomorrow never
comes because it's always going to be the
next tomorrow.
List three ways, guys, staying the same has
already cost you time, energy, or even peace.
(06:48):
And then ask, what's the real price of
doing nothing?
Because doing nothing is never free.
No, it might seem like it's free, but
when you do this, you sacrifice potential to
get ahead sooner.
Number three, pick one feeling you're tired of
(07:09):
waking up with, stress, guilt, regret, and then
choose one feeling you actually want to wake
up with.
Instead, calmness, focus, hope.
Write one sentence that starts with, I am
done pretending that, whatever it is, and let
(07:32):
yourself be brutally honest.
Then stand up, take a deep breath, and
say out loud, something has to change, and
I'm in.
So your body hears the decision your mind
is making and starts to put things in
motion.
(07:54):
Number four, think of one person you'd be
embarrassed to update if you stayed stuck like
this, and one person you'd be proud to
update if you actually changed it, right?
I think those are important things that some
people, again, don't realize what's happening.
(08:16):
They just don't understand what's happening or why.
So decide which version of that story you
want to tell them in 90 days.
Identify one tiny behavior, just one, that proves
to every day that you're stuck.
Maybe you're snoozing, you're doom scrolling, right, on
social media, or always starting, well, we'll do
(08:38):
it tomorrow, we'll do it the next day.
It's always tomorrow.
And decide you won't do that one behavior
for the rest of today.
Can you do that for me?
Just do it for just today.
And then you're going to start to realize
that your life's going to change.
Number five, choose one signal that tells you
(09:02):
you're slipping back into old patterns, like a
phrase you say, a tab you open, or
a time of day you always crash.
Then choose one rescue move you'll use when
you notice that signal, a glass of water,
a short walk, a reset breath, or a
(09:25):
five-minute action toward your new path.
Look around your space and spot one object
that screams old me.
Then move it, trash it, or donate it
as a physical sign that you're not that
version anymore.
(09:45):
That's hard for a lot of people because
when they get rid of something, especially if
it's materialistic, they feel like they don't have
a crutch anymore.
And that's scary for a lot of people.
Number six, play, yes, but take five minutes
to walk and mentally list what you're no
(10:09):
longer willing to settle, to tolerate from yourself,
from others, patterns, excuses, or moods that don't
match who you want to become.
Write down the phrase, change is coming.
Either way, I'd rather help design it and
let that become your new lens.
(10:31):
Ask yourself, if my life were a movie,
is this the part where I wake up?
And if the answer is yes, decide one
thing you will not complain about.
Any more without taking at least one.
(10:52):
Number seven, choose one area where let's say
I don't know how has really meant I
haven't tried yet.
See people that say they can't, haven't even
tried, they've given up before they've even put
pencil to paper or, you know, hammer to
(11:16):
nail, et cetera.
And promise yourself you will replace one excuse
with one experiment this week.
Think of one big change you made in
the past and remind yourself that you survived
it.
Learn from it and probably grew because of
(11:38):
it.
Take one photo or write one short note
today that captures.
This is the day I stopped pretending and
started paying attention before bed tonight.
Write one line.
Today, I woke up to the fact that
(11:59):
I deserve better and I'm willing to work
for it.
That single sentence turns everything all around, guys.
And it's something you've heard and it's something
that you've acted on.
Okay.
A lot of people get stuck and then
(12:24):
they chastise themselves for being stuck.
Like, oh, I'll just stay stuck.
Like, I'm just going to stay here.
You know, I don't care what it is.
Some people, you know, they play the martyr
game and they're looking for sympathy.
One thing I never do guys is I
never put out if I'm having a challenge,
I never put out.
Oh, what was me?
(12:44):
I never do that.
Why?
Because it's not productive.
It's counterproductive, right?
How do you take being stuck to being
(13:04):
someone that gets in motion?
Again, don't expect to do everything like now.
Okay.
But take small, tiny steps, small, tiny steps.
(13:25):
That's important, guys.
Small, tiny steps.
I think when we realize what small steps
are about and how they're about just being,
well, continually pushing forward.
(13:53):
Sometimes we don't push forward because we don't
think we can.
And that push is something we have to
believe in.
You see, we can have these grand dreams,
but if we never believe in ourself, we're
never going to catch the glimpse of what
(14:15):
we need to do to be successful.
Because our attention is going to be focused
on things that are not related to being
successful.
Does that make sense, guys?
So, not being successful happens because we get
stuck in this abyss, in this maze.
(14:42):
And then we don't know.
(15:08):
They don't get it because people think somebody
else is going to step in and help
you out.
I'm not saying people won't help you out,
but we can't always expect other people to
bail us out of challenges.
Because if we do, we're never going to
(15:30):
put our own resources in to come up
with our own solution, right?
This was very common, I know, when I
was in grammar school.
A lot of parents always want to jump
in and help their kids, right?
And I would always say, I appreciate the
help, but I got to learn how to
do this myself.
(15:52):
And when you start to understand that, you
start to become a different person.
You start to be somebody who is accountable
for the things for which they do in
life.
But if you can't be accountable, then what
(16:13):
do you do?
I think what happens is we get stuck.
We get tired of being stuck.
Right?
If we're so tired of being stuck, how
(16:35):
is it that we can move forward?
Well, I think we can always move forward
in life.
But the key is, how do we take
where we are at this present juncture, this
present moment in life, and figure out how
(16:55):
we get somewhere?
So let me give an example.
Maybe you want to play tennis.
Maybe you've never played tennis in your life
before.
You might say, well, gee, John, I can't
play tennis.
I don't even know how to hold a
racket.
That's step one.
Once you learn how to hold a racket,
you have to learn how to do a
forehand, your primary hand, and then a backhand.
(17:18):
And you have to get comfortable with it.
Remember I said you have to practice getting
uncomfortable?
And so practicing how to serve is one
important thing.
If you can't get the ball in the
box, well, then you're going to keep losing.
(17:40):
If you don't know how to volley the
ball or you miss the ball, you're going
to lose too, because then you're going to
break the volley and the ball is going
to hit your court.
And then you're not going to be able
to return it.
And then the other player gets a point.
Remember, you only get a point when you
serve.
Tennis is just one thing.
There's millions of other things out there that
(18:03):
we need to do before we get to
serve.
Let's take baking.
You guys know I love to bake.
I've baked for years.
I love baking.
And so before you can be a good
baker, you have to first understand one thing.
You have to know how to measure.
That's number one.
And you have to learn the different types
of measuring techniques, like sifting out with the
(18:26):
knife or if you're patting down for packed
brown sugar.
Once you've learned how to do that and
you know how to do mise en place,
which is basically preparing all your ingredients first,
learning how to mix them in, starting to
learn about dough textures and dough consistencies, and
(18:47):
be a mindful watching eye of, oh, that
dough doesn't look right or this doesn't seem
right.
You start to troubleshoot and say, oh, gee,
this is why this isn't working.
OK, I had somebody the other day, and
(19:07):
you guys know I make great cookies.
So there was this one person on social
media, and things like this happen.
And I said, you know, I sent the
picture and, you know, he just he didn't
get back to it.
I said, what do you think of the
cookies, right?
Just being, you know, friendly.
And he came back with a very rude
comment.
(19:28):
Now, not a curse or anything like that.
He said to me, the cookies look like
dog food.
So I just said to myself, you know,
first would be to, like, say, gee, you
know, what's going on?
What's wrong with this guy?
I said, no, don't do that.
The problem is not with me.
(19:50):
The problem is with him.
The problem is that he's a heckler.
The problem is that he's looking for a
response.
So I could have gone two ways.
One, ignore him, which I did.
Or the second way, oh, yeah, you think
my cookies are like dog food?
Well, maybe they look like that, but they're
five star taste.
I didn't want to challenge him.
(20:12):
I don't need to challenge him.
I just say goodbye.
And if I get any more negative in
that person, I just block them.
You see, a lot of people in our
world, they want to get a rise out
of you.
They want to push your buttons and they
want you to get excited because that's what
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they live for.
They live for trying to make your life
miserable.
But when you don't return any emotion, they
just walk away.
They give up.
Now, I know that I won't send that
person any more pictures anymore because they have
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a mentality that's the propagation of most people's
shoe size.
Why do people get nasty sometimes?
I think it's because sometimes they're jealous themselves
of what you've accomplished.
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And I always believe that if somebody else
has accomplished something good, we should celebrate in
their victory, okay?
Celebrate in their victory.
Because when you do this, life changes.
You celebrate their victory.
They're going to want to celebrate your victory.
But there are going to be people in
this world, I got to tell you guys,
(21:37):
that are just not, they're not going to
be on board with you getting ahead of
them.
And that's just the nature of our world.
So we can reset this week.
We can give somebody a second chance.
But why would I give that person a
second chance?
(21:59):
Once somebody's rude to me, I'm not going
to give you a second chance, right?
If the person apologizes, sure.
But I already know that when you make
a comment like, you know, it looks like
dog food, that was hurtful.
But when I dismissed from it and said,
okay, it's coming from somebody I have no
(22:20):
respect for, it didn't really affect me or
disempower me.
If I got attached to it, it would
have.
But I'm like, it's just somebody on social
media that just, you know, has nothing better
to do with their time.
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I think knowing that we can push the
reset button on a lot of things, right,
is handy.
But knowing that we can have our own
reset to go back, whether it's a relationship,
whether it's a task we're working on, a
commitment.
We all sometimes need to hit that reset
(23:02):
button, right?
That allow us to start over with a
fresh new slate.
Reset allows us to be empowered.
Reset allows us to start again.
(23:23):
It does.
It allows us to start again and again.
And I think these are important things to
realize, that a reset's about starting again and
again and again.
(23:46):
A reset allows us to bring the pointer
back to the beginning.
It allows us to start with no marks
on the board.
Maybe we had a score.
It allows us to wipe out the score
and start from zero.
A reset means that whatever happened in the
past, well, they've all been dismissed.
(24:08):
We're going to reset where you stand.
We're going to shake our hands and re
-meet each other like we never met before.
Sometimes people will say that, you know what,
let's do this all over.
Why don't we meet again next week and
let's meet again for the first time and
let's do this differently, okay?
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Reset is something we don't hear a lot.
We hear the words, give up.
We hear the words, I'm a failure.
We hear the words, I can't reset.
There's no time.
But do you want to waste more time
being unhappy when you could just reset, right?
(25:00):
Think about that for a moment.
Think about second chances.
Did you ever want a second chance and
maybe you didn't get one because the person
didn't give you one?
Sometimes it's not up to us whether we
get the second chance.
But it is up to us if we're
going to give someone else a second chance.
Sometimes that actually might open the door to
(25:22):
allow a new beginning.
Not all the time, but sometimes.
And knowing that we can push the reset
button, the reset button to get us back
to where we started, the very beginning.
(25:43):
If you push the reset button on, you
know, let's say a thing you have that
maybe it's a counter or something, you press
it, it resets back to zero.
If you have a measuring tape and you
press reset, the tape goes back in.
So therefore, there's no tape.
You started zero again.
(26:06):
I think when we hear the word reset,
it gets a lot of people worried and
anxious.
It does.
But I don't want you to be scared
of reset.
Reset is something that can empower us.
Now, I'm not telling you to press the
reset button every day.
(26:28):
I'm telling you that if you feel that
you can't go anymore, you're stuck, reset, regroup,
go back to the drawing board, figure out
what would it look like when I'm successful?
What would it look like when I've made
progress?
What would it look like when I made
a profit?
(26:49):
Does that make sense, guys?
Reset is something that we don't hear very
often.
Because sometimes a reset, guys, it's not possible.
Second chance, fresh starts, daily do-overs.
(27:12):
Don't do over something every day.
I mean, we want to be cognizant of
that, right?
Reset, do over.
But then don't repeat the same mistake over
and over again.
Learn from your mistake.
And do it better this time.
Ladies and gentlemen, you have been listening or
(27:34):
been watching, yes, the ever-popular, inspirations for
your life, motivational show with myself, John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
podcast host, coach, graduate student, and yes, a
passionate lifelong learner.
(27:55):
Launching Reset Week, second chances, fresh starts, and
daily do-overs with your personal wake-up
call.
If this helped you see yourself more clearly,
visit BelieveMeAchieved.com for more keen insights of
my tools and content, and connect with me
(28:15):
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Share, comment, and let's start making your life
better one day at a time.
Have a good one, everyone, and be well.
Well, hey guys, happy Saturday to you guys.
It is Saturday.
It's December 6th, by the way, that is
the first Saturday of December 2025.
Welcome everyone.
We have another master topic.
We'll get to that in just a minute.
If it's your first time here, I want
to take the opportunity to say welcome and
thank you for joining me.
(00:45):
If you're coming back, definitely want to say
welcome back and thank you for joining me
again.
Really do appreciate that.
Don't forget to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for
more of my, of course, amazing, inspiring creations,
which you can do right after the show
is over, 24 hours a day, by visiting
BelieveMeAchieve.com.
All right, so you know what we do
(01:07):
here.
We're a daily motivational show.
Really grateful to have you.
Oh, and if you're thirsty, feel free to
go get yourself a hot tea or chocolate
like I have here, a snack, a beverage,
a cookie, some fruit, whatever it is, and
come on back to the show.
All right, guys, without any further ado, I'd
like to go ahead and kick the show
off.
(01:27):
All right, guys.
So welcome.
This is John Seymourley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing
specialist, video producer, podcast host, coach, graduate student,
and of course, a passionate lifelong learner.
And of course, it is my privilege and
(01:47):
pleasure and honor to be with you here
this evening or today because you're tuned into
the daily inspirational show called Inspirations for Your
Life.
And it is the daily motivational show that
helps you build emotion mindset and live with
intention.
So I think sometimes, guys, we forget some
(02:08):
of the stuff that's out there, right?
We forget what's going on or why things
are happening a certain way.
We kind of get stuck in our own
rhythm.
And I think that's a very important thing
(02:29):
for people to realize that when we think
about how the show can be, what the
show should be about, what are we doing
on the show.
And the bottom line is, guys, we do
all types of motivation, OK, all types of
(02:49):
motivation.
And motivation, guys, doesn't just start like anywhere.
You have to have a plan for motivation
to really, really work.
I mean, I think that's an important thing.
But I know sometimes people, well, they get
(03:10):
a little bit lost because, you know, they're
getting bombarded by like a million different things.
I think that's something that a lot of
people don't quite understand, but I think it's
something that we need to understand.
So again, without any further ado, I'm going
to go ahead and let's get this show
kicked off because like I said, guys, it
(03:32):
is an amazing show tonight.
Well, it's always an amazing show, right?
So when life goes on autopilot, you don't
need another someday plan.
You need a wake-up call that is
practical, specific, and kind of impossible to ignore.
This is John C.
Morley.
As I said, I'm a serial entrepreneur, and
(03:53):
you guys know all the things that I
do.
But I think it's important to understand one
thing, anybody can have success in their life.
Doesn't matter what age, what time of day,
you know, being passionate and a lifelong learner
is a real key to success.
And you know, and tuning in daily to
this show is something that I think a
(04:13):
lot of people don't realize, but it really
can ignite you and get you unstuck to
be unstoppable.
This week's master topic is Reset Week, Second
Chances, Fresh Starts, and Daily Do-overs, Series
4, Show 50, Episode 1.
And tonight's episode is all about, see it
(04:35):
clearly, your personal wake-up call.
Where you end, are you going to stop
pretending everything is fine and start designing the
change you actually want?
I think sometimes people don't do this because
they get stuck, right?
(04:58):
They get stuck, and the reason they get
stuck is very simple.
They become perfectionists, all right?
And by becoming a perfectionist, well, guys, it's
hard.
(05:18):
And not everything is going to work the
way you want the first time, all right?
That's important.
So number one, first notice one area of
your life that feels like it's running on
autopilot and actually write it down.
Instead of letting it float around in your
head, when you ask if nothing changes here,
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what will this look like a year from
now?
Well, you force yourself to see the real
destination of your current path, not the one
you wish you were on.
Circle the part of that picture you absolutely
do not want to live with, and let
that be your honest starting point, all right?
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Number two, next admit one truth you've been
dodging about your habits or your choices, and
name one thing you keep saying you'll fix
later, but you never do.
When you decide that later is now and
put today's date next to it, you turn
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a vague intention into a timestamped commitment.
Now everybody always says, oh, I'll do it
tomorrow, I'll do it tomorrow, but tomorrow never
comes because it's always going to be the
next tomorrow.
List three ways, guys, staying the same has
already cost you time, energy, or even peace.
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And then ask, what's the real price of
doing nothing?
Because doing nothing is never free.
No, it might seem like it's free, but
when you do this, you sacrifice potential to
get ahead sooner.
Number three, pick one feeling you're tired of
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waking up with, stress, guilt, regret, and then
choose one feeling you actually want to wake
up with.
Instead, calmness, focus, hope.
Write one sentence that starts with, I am
done pretending that, whatever it is, and let
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yourself be brutally honest.
Then stand up, take a deep breath, and
say out loud, something has to change, and
I'm in.
So your body hears the decision your mind
is making and starts to put things in
motion.
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Number four, think of one person you'd be
embarrassed to update if you stayed stuck like
this, and one person you'd be proud to
update if you actually changed it, right?
I think those are important things that some
people, again, don't realize what's happening.
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They just don't understand what's happening or why.
So decide which version of that story you
want to tell them in 90 days.
Identify one tiny behavior, just one, that proves
to every day that you're stuck.
Maybe you're snoozing, you're doom scrolling, right, on
social media, or always starting, well, we'll do
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it tomorrow, we'll do it the next day.
It's always tomorrow.
And decide you won't do that one behavior
for the rest of today.
Can you do that for me?
Just do it for just today.
And then you're going to start to realize
that your life's going to change.
Number five, choose one signal that tells you
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you're slipping back into old patterns, like a
phrase you say, a tab you open, or
a time of day you always crash.
Then choose one rescue move you'll use when
you notice that signal, a glass of water,
a short walk, a reset breath, or a
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five-minute action toward your new path.
Look around your space and spot one object
that screams old me.
Then move it, trash it, or donate it
as a physical sign that you're not that
version anymore.
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That's hard for a lot of people because
when they get rid of something, especially if
it's materialistic, they feel like they don't have
a crutch anymore.
And that's scary for a lot of people.
Number six, play, yes, but take five minutes
to walk and mentally list what you're no
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longer willing to settle, to tolerate from yourself,
from others, patterns, excuses, or moods that don't
match who you want to become.
Write down the phrase, change is coming.
Either way, I'd rather help design it and
let that become your new lens.
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Ask yourself, if my life were a movie,
is this the part where I wake up?
And if the answer is yes, decide one
thing you will not complain about.
Any more without taking at least one.
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Number seven, choose one area where let's say
I don't know how has really meant I
haven't tried yet.
See people that say they can't, haven't even
tried, they've given up before they've even put
pencil to paper or, you know, hammer to
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nail, et cetera.
And promise yourself you will replace one excuse
with one experiment this week.
Think of one big change you made in
the past and remind yourself that you survived
it.
Learn from it and probably grew because of
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it.
Take one photo or write one short note
today that captures.
This is the day I stopped pretending and
started paying attention before bed tonight.
Write one line.
Today, I woke up to the fact that
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I deserve better and I'm willing to work
for it.
That single sentence turns everything all around, guys.
And it's something you've heard and it's something
that you've acted on.
Okay.
A lot of people get stuck and then
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they chastise themselves for being stuck.
Like, oh, I'll just stay stuck.
Like, I'm just going to stay here.
You know, I don't care what it is.
Some people, you know, they play the martyr
game and they're looking for sympathy.
One thing I never do guys is I
never put out if I'm having a challenge,
I never put out.
Oh, what was me?
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I never do that.
Why?
Because it's not productive.
It's counterproductive, right?
How do you take being stuck to being
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someone that gets in motion?
Again, don't expect to do everything like now.
Okay.
But take small, tiny steps, small, tiny steps.
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That's important, guys.
Small, tiny steps.
I think when we realize what small steps
are about and how they're about just being,
well, continually pushing forward.
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Sometimes we don't push forward because we don't
think we can.
And that push is something we have to
believe in.
You see, we can have these grand dreams,
but if we never believe in ourself, we're
never going to catch the glimpse of what
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we need to do to be successful.
Because our attention is going to be focused
on things that are not related to being
successful.
Does that make sense, guys?
So, not being successful happens because we get
stuck in this abyss, in this maze.
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And then we don't know.
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They don't get it because people think somebody
else is going to step in and help
you out.
I'm not saying people won't help you out,
but we can't always expect other people to
bail us out of challenges.
Because if we do, we're never going to
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put our own resources in to come up
with our own solution, right?
This was very common, I know, when I
was in grammar school.
A lot of parents always want to jump
in and help their kids, right?
And I would always say, I appreciate the
help, but I got to learn how to
do this myself.
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And when you start to understand that, you
start to become a different person.
You start to be somebody who is accountable
for the things for which they do in
life.
But if you can't be accountable, then what
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do you do?
I think what happens is we get stuck.
We get tired of being stuck.
Right?
If we're so tired of being stuck, how
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is it that we can move forward?
Well, I think we can always move forward
in life.
But the key is, how do we take
where we are at this present juncture, this
present moment in life, and figure out how
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we get somewhere?
So let me give an example.
Maybe you want to play tennis.
Maybe you've never played tennis in your life
before.
You might say, well, gee, John, I can't
play tennis.
I don't even know how to hold a
racket.
That's step one.
Once you learn how to hold a racket,
you have to learn how to do a
forehand, your primary hand, and then a backhand.
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And you have to get comfortable with it.
Remember I said you have to practice getting
uncomfortable?
And so practicing how to serve is one
important thing.
If you can't get the ball in the
box, well, then you're going to keep losing.
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If you don't know how to volley the
ball or you miss the ball, you're going
to lose too, because then you're going to
break the volley and the ball is going
to hit your court.
And then you're not going to be able
to return it.
And then the other player gets a point.
Remember, you only get a point when you
serve.
Tennis is just one thing.
There's millions of other things out there that
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we need to do before we get to
serve.
Let's take baking.
You guys know I love to bake.
I've baked for years.
I love baking.
And so before you can be a good
baker, you have to first understand one thing.
You have to know how to measure.
That's number one.
And you have to learn the different types
of measuring techniques, like sifting out with the
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knife or if you're patting down for packed
brown sugar.
Once you've learned how to do that and
you know how to do mise en place,
which is basically preparing all your ingredients first,
learning how to mix them in, starting to
learn about dough textures and dough consistencies, and
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be a mindful watching eye of, oh, that
dough doesn't look right or this doesn't seem
right.
You start to troubleshoot and say, oh, gee,
this is why this isn't working.
OK, I had somebody the other day, and
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you guys know I make great cookies.
So there was this one person on social
media, and things like this happen.
And I said, you know, I sent the
picture and, you know, he just he didn't
get back to it.
I said, what do you think of the
cookies, right?
Just being, you know, friendly.
And he came back with a very rude
comment.
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Now, not a curse or anything like that.
He said to me, the cookies look like
dog food.
So I just said to myself, you know,
first would be to, like, say, gee, you
know, what's going on?
What's wrong with this guy?
I said, no, don't do that.
The problem is not with me.
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The problem is with him.
The problem is that he's a heckler.
The problem is that he's looking for a
response.
So I could have gone two ways.
One, ignore him, which I did.
Or the second way, oh, yeah, you think
my cookies are like dog food?
Well, maybe they look like that, but they're
five star taste.
I didn't want to challenge him.
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I don't need to challenge him.
I just say goodbye.
And if I get any more negative in
that person, I just block them.
You see, a lot of people in our
world, they want to get a rise out
of you.
They want to push your buttons and they
want you to get excited because that's what
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they live for.
They live for trying to make your life
miserable.
But when you don't return any emotion, they
just walk away.
They give up.
Now, I know that I won't send that
person any more pictures anymore because they have
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a mentality that's the propagation of most people's
shoe size.
Why do people get nasty sometimes?
I think it's because sometimes they're jealous themselves
of what you've accomplished.
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And I always believe that if somebody else
has accomplished something good, we should celebrate in
their victory, okay?
Celebrate in their victory.
Because when you do this, life changes.
You celebrate their victory.
They're going to want to celebrate your victory.
But there are going to be people in
this world, I got to tell you guys,
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that are just not, they're not going to
be on board with you getting ahead of
them.
And that's just the nature of our world.
So we can reset this week.
We can give somebody a second chance.
But why would I give that person a
second chance?
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Once somebody's rude to me, I'm not going
to give you a second chance, right?
If the person apologizes, sure.
But I already know that when you make
a comment like, you know, it looks like
dog food, that was hurtful.
But when I dismissed from it and said,
okay, it's coming from somebody I have no
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respect for, it didn't really affect me or
disempower me.
If I got attached to it, it would
have.
But I'm like, it's just somebody on social
media that just, you know, has nothing better
to do with their time.
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I think knowing that we can push the
reset button on a lot of things, right,
is handy.
But knowing that we can have our own
reset to go back, whether it's a relationship,
whether it's a task we're working on, a
commitment.
We all sometimes need to hit that reset
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button, right?
That allow us to start over with a
fresh new slate.
Reset allows us to be empowered.
Reset allows us to start again.
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It does.
It allows us to start again and again.
And I think these are important things to
realize, that a reset's about starting again and
again and again.
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A reset allows us to bring the pointer
back to the beginning.
It allows us to start with no marks
on the board.
Maybe we had a score.
It allows us to wipe out the score
and start from zero.
A reset means that whatever happened in the
past, well, they've all been dismissed.
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We're going to reset where you stand.
We're going to shake our hands and re
-meet each other like we never met before.
Sometimes people will say that, you know what,
let's do this all over.
Why don't we meet again next week and
let's meet again for the first time and
let's do this differently, okay?
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Reset is something we don't hear a lot.
We hear the words, give up.
We hear the words, I'm a failure.
We hear the words, I can't reset.
There's no time.
But do you want to waste more time
being unhappy when you could just reset, right?
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Think about that for a moment.
Think about second chances.
Did you ever want a second chance and
maybe you didn't get one because the person
didn't give you one?
Sometimes it's not up to us whether we
get the second chance.
But it is up to us if we're
going to give someone else a second chance.
Sometimes that actually might open the door to
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allow a new beginning.
Not all the time, but sometimes.
And knowing that we can push the reset
button, the reset button to get us back
to where we started, the very beginning.
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If you push the reset button on, you
know, let's say a thing you have that
maybe it's a counter or something, you press
it, it resets back to zero.
If you have a measuring tape and you
press reset, the tape goes back in.
So therefore, there's no tape.
You started zero again.
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I think when we hear the word reset,
it gets a lot of people worried and
anxious.
It does.
But I don't want you to be scared
of reset.
Reset is something that can empower us.
Now, I'm not telling you to press the
reset button every day.
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I'm telling you that if you feel that
you can't go anymore, you're stuck, reset, regroup,
go back to the drawing board, figure out
what would it look like when I'm successful?
What would it look like when I've made
progress?
What would it look like when I made
a profit?
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Does that make sense, guys?
Reset is something that we don't hear very
often.
Because sometimes a reset, guys, it's not possible.
Second chance, fresh starts, daily do-overs.
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Don't do over something every day.
I mean, we want to be cognizant of
that, right?
Reset, do over.
But then don't repeat the same mistake over
and over again.
Learn from your mistake.
And do it better this time.
Ladies and gentlemen, you have been listening or
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been watching, yes, the ever-popular, inspirations for
your life, motivational show with myself, John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
podcast host, coach, graduate student, and yes, a
passionate lifelong learner.
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Launching Reset Week, second chances, fresh starts, and
daily do-overs with your personal wake-up
call.
If this helped you see yourself more clearly,
visit BelieveMeAchieved.com for more keen insights of
my tools and content, and connect with me
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there.
Share, comment, and let's start making your life
better one day at a time.
Have a good one, everyone, and be well.
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