The Partner After the Narcissist: How to Support a Woman Healing From Toxic Relationships (Without Triggering Her)

Episode Summary

If your partner is healing from narcissistic abuse and you want to support her without triggering past trauma, this episode gives you the essential steps to show up as the safe, steady partner she needs. Today, I’m breaking down what survivors carry into new relationships, the communication shifts that help her feel secure, and the practical ways to be a grounded, supportive partner — especially if her past involved narcissistic or toxic relationships.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why loving a survivor can feel different (and why it’s not your fault)

• The nervous system patterns survivors often bring into new relationships

• How the wrong type of “space” can trigger abandonment fears

• The power of time-stamped reassurance (and how to use it)

• Validation vs. problem-solving — and why survivors need both in the right order

• What NOT to do when she shuts down, spirals, or becomes hypervigilant

• How healthy, steady love rewires her sense of safety

Your Next Step in Healing

If this episode helped you understand your partner — or helped you feel seen in your own healing — and you want deeper support, I offer private 1:1 coaching to help women rebuild emotional safety, boundaries, peace, and self-trust after narcissistic abuse.

You’re not meant to navigate this alone. You deserve support built for your nervous system and your season of healing.

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Free Resources Boundaries Pocket Guide 

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Join the Private Facebook Community

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Listener Request

If you want a Part 2 specifically for partners — or an episode on how women can learn to receive healthy love after abuse — send me a message and let me know. I’d love to create exactly what you need.

 

TRANSCRIPT

Speaker 1 (00:00):

Hello. This episode is for Queens and Kings, and if you are a regular listener, it could get some insight into you and what you need for you. But this was created specifically for partners of someone who has gone through narcissistic abuse or just toxic relationships in general, right? So thank you to the listener who wrote in, I don't know if he is a listener, but he knows of me somehow and wrote in asking for information on how to support his partner. That is someone who is recovering and healing from narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. So hats off just the fact he wrote in shows so much. So thank you for all the super supportive partners out there, right? So if you are that partner after the narcissist or a friend or someone who just wants to know how to help people who have gone through this abuse, you're the safe one, the steady one, the one that they can finally breathe around or maybe should be able to finally breathe around, right? This episode is for you loving a woman who's healing from toxic relationships. It is different. I don't want to go say it's, oh, it's so much harder, but it is different and there are specific ways to deal with it. Just like everything else. Everyone has their stuff, so I'd like to call it not harder, but different. And if you want to support her without triggering those old wounds, like I said, you're already a rar