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June 6, 2024 15 mins

In today's episode of One Hot Mess we are going to be talking about things that if you stay attached to, you will not move forward in life. And yes, I am still sick, so just bear with me and my screwed up voice, okay?

 

Living in the past is one of the biggest roadblocks to progress. We all have a tendency to hold on to our past experiences, our memories, and even past versions of ourselves. It's natural and it's part of being human. But when this attachment becomes excessive, it can hinder our ability to live fully in the present and embrace life.

 

Moving forward in life involves letting go of certain things that hold us back. Recognizing these barriers is the first step towards overcoming them. 

 

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Hi everyone, it's Brittany and welcome to another episode of One Hot Mess.
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Today, we are going to be talking about things that if you stay attached to,

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you will not move forward in life.
And yes, I am still sick, so just bear with me and my screwed up voice, okay?
Anyway, there is a fine line between cherishing memories or habits and being entangled by them.

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And staying attached to certain things whether it's past relationships old grudges
or perceived failures can keep us stuck in the same place preventing us from moving forward in life,
so we're going to go over 10 things that might be holding you back without you even realizing it,

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These insights, they won't just help you identify your chains They'll guide
you on how to break free from them So let's dive in.
The first thing is living in the past. That's one of the biggest roadblocks to progress.

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We all have a tendency to hold on to our past experiences, our memories,
and even past versions of ourselves.
It's natural and it's part of being human.
But when this attachment becomes excessive, It can hinder our ability to live

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fully in the present and embrace the future.
In mindfulness, it teaches us to observe our thoughts and feelings without judgment.
It encourages us to fully experience the present moment instead of getting caught
up in what has been or what could be.

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Take a moment to reflect on your own life Are there any areas where you're still stuck in the past?
Maybe an old relationship, a past failure, or even a past success That is stopping
you from taking new risks.

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Remember, it is not about forgetting or ignoring the past It's about acknowledging
it without letting it control your present and future and letting go of these attachments.
Of course, it's not easy, but it's a very important step toward moving forward.
So just take a deep breath, practice mindfulness and start taking that step.

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All right, and then we have resistance to change. I mean, change is an inevitable
part of life, yet a lot of us resist it because it takes us out of our comfort zones.
And I'll be the first to admit, I have resisted change in my life.

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But in doing so, I found that I was only holding myself back from personal and professional growth.
And buddhist teachings emphasize the concept of impermanence the belief that
everything changes and nothing remains constant embracing this concept it can

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help you immensely in dealing with changes in your life.
So the next time you catch yourself resisting change remember you are limiting
your own potential embrace change as a part of life's journey and see where
it leads you don't let your fear of the unknown hold you back from moving forward.

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Feeding your ego, an inflated ego, it makes us believe that we are always right
and that our way of thinking is the only correct one.
It prevents us from learning from others and it can lead to conflicts.

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And by learning to detach ourselves from our egos, we open ourselves up to different
perspectives, ideas, and possibilities.
And this is a key step in moving forward in life. Your ego is not your enemy.
It's a part of you. But if you let it control you, it can become a a stumbling

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block in your path to growth and progress.
Holding on to grudges, I mean, we've all been hurt by others at some point in
our lives, and it's natural to feel upset, betrayed, or even angry.
But holding on to these negative feelings for extended periods only harms us

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and hinders our progress in life.
Mark twain once said anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in
which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured,
and this quote perfectly encapsulates the destructive nature of grudges they

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weigh us down and prevent us from focusing on the things that truly matter matter.
Practically speaking, forgiveness is not about condoning someone's hurtful actions,
but about freeing yourself from the burden of resentment.
It's about choosing your peace of mind over your pride.

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And trust me, it is a liberating feeling.
Ignoring your core values your core values are the guiding principles that dictate
your behavior and action they are beliefs that you consider most important in your life,

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ignoring these values or living in contradiction to them it creates internal
conflict which can and hold you back from moving forward.
When we align our actions with our core values, we feel more fulfilled and content.

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We make decisions that resonate with who we truly are, and this alignment propels
us towards growth and progress.
Knowing yourself and your values is definitely a key step in moving forward
in life, So do not shy away from self-reflection and introspection.

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They are essential tools in your journey of personal growth.
A lot of people have this one and that is fear of failure.
It's definitely a common obstacle that can inhibit our growth and progress.
It's natural to want to avoid failing. but sometimes this fear can become so

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overwhelming that it prevents us from trying anything new or taking any kind of risks.
But we must remember that failure is not the end of the world.
In fact, it's just a part of the learning process.
Every failure brings with it valuable lessons and insights that can help us grow and improve.

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And one way to overcome this fear is to
redefine how you view failure instead of
seeing it as a negative outcome try to see it as a stepping stone towards success
each failure brings you one step closer to your goals so don't let it hold you

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back embrace it learn from it and keep moving forward.
Neglecting self-care.
In our busy lives, we sometimes prioritize everything else over our own well-being.
Whether it's work, family, or social obligations, it's kind of easy to forget

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to take care of ourselves.
But neglecting self-care is a definite way to stall our progress in life.
And mindfulness, it teaches us to be present and attentive to our own needs.
It encourages us to listen to our bodies and minds and to take time out for

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relaxation and rejuvenation.
Taking care of yourself is not selfish. It's necessary.
Because only when we are at our best can we effectively contribute to the world around us.
So try to make self-care a priority, whether it is taking a few minutes each

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day to meditate, going for a walk in nature, or just simply getting enough sleep.
Find what works for you and make it a part of your routine.
And you will be amazed at the difference it makes in your life.
And then we have comparing yourself to others.

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Others. In this age of social media, it's very easy to fall into the trap of
comparing ourselves with others.
We see the highlight reels of others' lives and start feeling inadequate about our own.
But comparing ourselves to others is a definite way to hinder our progress in life.

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It shifts our focus from our own growth to someone else's and breeds feelings
of inadequacy and discontentment.
Don't compare your beginning to someone else's middle or your middle to someone else's end.

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You know, this quote reminds us that each person's journey is unique and it
is unfair and unproductive to compare our process or progress with others.
Instead of comparing yourself with others, focus on your journey.
Celebrate your success no matter how small they may seem and learn from your failures.

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This shift in mindset will help you move forward in life with confidence and more positivity.
Over-emphasis on perfection. So yeah, perfection is something that many of us strive for.

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And we believe that if we do things perfectly, we'll be successful and happy.
But here is a counterintuitive fact.
Striving for perfection can actually hinder our progress in life.
And this is because the pursuit of perfection, it often leads to procrastination

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stress and burnout and it can prevent us taking risks and trying new things
for fear of not doing them perfectly,
it is far more beneficial to strive for progress not perfection focus on improving
and growing Rather than being perfect,

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embrace your imperfections as they are what make you unique and human.
Because guess what? Perfection is an unrealistic goal.
Letting go of this pursuit can free up your energy and focus for the things
that truly matter in life.

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And it's a liberating step towards moving forward.
Avoiding difficult or uncomfortable conversations. That is something many of us are guilty of.
We might think that by avoiding these conversations, we are maintaining peace and avoiding conflict.

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However, this avoidance can actually slow down our progress in life.
It prevents us from addressing issues head on and finding solutions.
Resolutions, and it can also lead to misunderstandings, resentment,
and even damage our relationships.

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So a practical approach is to face these difficult conversations with honesty and openness.
Express your feelings and your thoughts calmly and respectfully,
and listen to the other person's perspective and kind of work together to find
a resolution and don't shy away from difficult conversations.

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Yes, they might be uncomfortable, but they are essential for moving forward in life.
Moving forward in life involves letting go of certain things that hold us back
from living in the past, resisting change,
beating our egos, and holding on to grudges, to ignoring our core values,

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figuring failure, neglecting self-care, comparing ourselves to others,
overemphasizing perfection, and avoiding difficult conversations.
And these are all barriers to our personal growth and progress.
But remember, recognizing these barriers is the first step towards overcoming them.

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And from there, it's all about making conscious choices and taking one step at a time.
Remember, life is a journey of continuous learning and growth.
So embrace it with an open heart and an open mind.

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All right y'all thank you so much for listening i greatly appreciate it please
make sure to hit that follow button and share one hot mess with a friend and
i'll talk to you guys next time have a beautiful day.
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