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Speaker 1 (00:03):
And welcome. Our Big Pot is back on the twentieth
of July. We're currently on break.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hints they ask me anything.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Yeah, we just thought. You know, people message us throughout
the year asking questions. Busy, busy, busy busy.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
We won't to leave you without one.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
So Hailey's excuse for never getting back to you because
a lot of people have to message more.
Speaker 4 (00:23):
No, I have been incredible, have you.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Yeah, And people misses me saying I know you probably
won't say this, and I said, I've turned it around,
and I missage.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
She's a social media queen.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Well, our Big Pot and the show, the live show
will be back on the twentieth of July. But promises
there now if we don't know if we'll all survive, Yeah,
well you might be dead in an avalanche.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
An avalanche.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
You guys could die of some sort of European What
was that? What it was that one?
Speaker 2 (00:49):
What was that? What was the what was the STI
that was ripping through your rain rocks?
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (00:53):
Your rain rock.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
I didn't know about this.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Oh you'll know.
Speaker 4 (01:01):
When they're hearing this. You might have rain rock.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
It sucks fingers crossed, not rain rock. Now when you
are for the ask me anything. You are someone of
a question mark. You've got all the listener questions that
have been collated by a lovely This is correct.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
This is correct.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
I'm just doing the maths on how many questions per episode. Okay,
so some episodes might have one if we get to
add one, and some will have two. Okay, Okay, I'm
imagining there may be some tangents as well. Yeah yeah,
not like us Marts is kicking the ball off m
A r t Z Marts from Dunedin, Haley and Vaughan.
What are your because takeaways or lessons learned from each
(01:39):
of the end of each of your long term relationship? Fun?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
And what would you be your long term relationships a
week in mate?
Speaker 1 (01:47):
You can't from great insights? Okay, you can have your
hot take And what advice would you give other couples
don't get into a relationship advice?
Speaker 4 (01:59):
Yep, reframe the question, redo it again.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
What is your biggest takeaway slash lesson learned from each
of your long term from the end of each of
your long term relationships?
Speaker 2 (02:10):
And what advice would you give to other couples?
Speaker 4 (02:17):
Life's too short, Life's too short, Life's too short? Yea
and you want to get one shot. Go to therapy,
Go to therapy. Communicate, yeah, communicate.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Just because you've been together doesn't mean you should stay together.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Everything works out, everything like it'll be super gnali for
a bit, but then it'll then it won't be and
some longer than others.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
And I maybe don't don't don't get all fucking bitter
and twisted about it for too long.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
You know, you gotta like you just gotta just go
with the flow of what your new life brings. Yeah,
whatever that may be. It has everything fun though, do
you know what may have some fun fun? I have
some nice safe fun and fun. Have some safe fun fun? No, no, no, no,
just say fun.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Speaking of which, I got an Instagram ad, a targeted
Instagram ad the other Yeah, what for? Did I screenshot this?
I'm pretty sure I did, stand by.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Thanks for stepping in there, nough, Vaughn will delivered my friends.
You got to have good friends. You don't keep it inside,
do not.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
This is the one thing that blew my mind as
the amount of men that I've talked to who were
going through a similar thing had no one to talk to.
I was so like, I had you guys and you
guys are amazing.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Welcome took them to BALI.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Yeah, I'm serious and in all seriousness, there was a
couple of groups of people who really did save the day.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Yeah, for sure, you guys are my close group of mates.
Like it was, it does. It feels really lonely.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
I think I can imagine if I cry. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I also feel like a little bit of cry, a
little bit of I don't feel like crying, surprise cry
because it will be good for the podcast. Say it out,
Sorry chiatments, Sorry, sorry, so Hailey, just elaborate some more.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
It's your friends and friends like Flitch dude, Yeah, you know,
I've been a pretty good friend.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Head.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
What what thing have you been advertised?
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I was like, that looks like that model Haley was
going to fuck.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
And it is God, he is so hot.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
Do you know why it never happened? Because imagine fucking
going in with.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
That for those I mean this is a visual meaning
but the largest black man and he was advertising workout here.
He's not wearing much, No, he's wearing shorts in the
British and I saw it and I was like.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
I know, the one quite a nice British wo to yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Just your your point.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
Have fun. Oh you've got to have fun.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Give the couple. We kind of cover that therapy. I
see heaps during that. Oh I saw.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
I was looking.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
I was trying to looking at my black.
Speaker 4 (05:18):
Model Funns, but not a model.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
You didn't here on a footballer that was there was
my that was your product.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
That was that.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
I was proud.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
I was so proud of you that.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
These aren't secrets.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Second question, why don't we say E D G E
out loud? And that's that's the first part of their question.
That's from here and there a radio the radio station
we used to work for.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Yeah, we used to.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
We used to work on on the on the cart
I never did, no, never did ropped up here and
then we we were poached. We were poached. We were
lured across to work for ZM Radio and it was
a whole thing.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
That's just because it's just an ongoing joke. Yeah, don't
say how long has.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
It been now, because I was twelve years, because August
was twelve years and August was born just after we
started here. Twelve years of early mornings. Look at the space,
it's falling off.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
Think you're join all right for twelve years morning, which
is pretty.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Wretch because we just started and born Bales had a
few days off. I was like, this is so fucked
with a baby.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
With a baby, Yeah the fuck? Isn't it fun.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
To work by myself?
Speaker 4 (06:39):
You know what that is? That's selfish?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Whereas when I get a new cat, there's no caternity,
no fraternity. We need some equal you know.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
I think so that's feminism because it's about Equaliday.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Comes out in the wash.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
You didn't have to pay another eighty five dollars for
a school switch that you just paid eighty five dollars
for because somebody lost it.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
Yeah, and to go to Paris, that's exactly you know
what I mean.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
I don't get to go to Paris and I have
to buy another school uniform and I get a few
measly days off r at the start.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
Yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
And then here who's and Edinburgh also asks Hailey plans
on playing Edinburgh Fringe.
Speaker 4 (07:20):
I've done Edinburgh Fringe like ten years ago for.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
People that don't know as very as to start a
baby reindeer a yeah, bab India saw Lake it's doing
free in that. Yeah, it's massive.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
And then I did it pre kind of being good
at comedy and I struggled and then I got into
television and now I'm back doing comedy. I'd love to
go to Edinburgh, but I can't take a month off
of radio.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Absolutely the corporate slut, you know.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
But if you did, if you broadcast from Edinburgh, it'll
be like evening, which is when you kind of be playing.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
I take the person bit with and I do like
a month in Australia as well, and that's a little
bit closer to home and a goal I want to
take off.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
I will do Edinburgh once.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
I all bring the Edinburgh studio in my suitcase and
I'll stay there as well.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
So we holiday in July as we are now.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
To stay there.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
We'll just stay.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
You just stay here.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
No gods, you can't afford what we can afford.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
You've got you've got kids.
Speaker 4 (08:21):
How much money would you spend on feeding a child
for the week.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
A couple of hundred yeah, probably a couple of Hundredthley.
Speaker 4 (08:34):
I'm not on it, yeah, on board of the vices
I do.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
But she's trying me if she could well, I'm asking
you please both, just because you don't have children.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Doesn't mean you should be doing myth but it's.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
No, it wouldn't be terrbooks.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
About the mother.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
People do judge mums when yeah yeah, yeah, Okay, Today's
Questions will be back tomorrow with another couple.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
They got laughs, got tears, they got me everything
And welcome. Our Big Pot is back on the twentieth
of July. We're currently on break.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hints they ask me anything.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Yeah, we just thought. You know, people message us throughout
the year asking questions. Busy, busy, busy busy.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
We won't to leave you without one.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
So Hailey's excuse for never getting back to you because
a lot of people have to message more.
Speaker 4 (00:23):
No, I have been incredible, have you.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Yeah, And people misses me saying I know you probably
won't say this, and I said, I've turned it around,
and I missage.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
She's a social media queen.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Well, our Big Pot and the show, the live show
will be back on the twentieth of July. But promises
there now if we don't know if we'll all survive, Yeah,
well you might be dead in an avalanche.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
An avalanche.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
You guys could die of some sort of European What
was that? What it was that one?
Speaker 2 (00:49):
What was that? What was the what was the STI
that was ripping through your rain rocks?
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (00:53):
Your rain rock.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
I didn't know about this.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Oh you'll know.
Speaker 4 (01:01):
When they're hearing this. You might have rain rock.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
It sucks fingers crossed, not rain rock. Now when you
are for the ask me anything. You are someone of
a question mark. You've got all the listener questions that
have been collated by a lovely This is correct.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
This is correct.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
I'm just doing the maths on how many questions per episode. Okay,
so some episodes might have one if we get to
add one, and some will have two. Okay, Okay, I'm
imagining there may be some tangents as well. Yeah yeah,
not like us Marts is kicking the ball off m
A r t Z Marts from Dunedin, Haley and Vaughan.
What are your because takeaways or lessons learned from each
(01:39):
of the end of each of your long term relationship? Fun?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
And what would you be your long term relationships a
week in mate?
Speaker 1 (01:47):
You can't from great insights? Okay, you can have your
hot take And what advice would you give other couples
don't get into a relationship advice?
Speaker 4 (01:59):
Yep, reframe the question, redo it again.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
What is your biggest takeaway slash lesson learned from each
of your long term from the end of each of
your long term relationships?
Speaker 2 (02:10):
And what advice would you give to other couples?
Speaker 4 (02:17):
Life's too short, Life's too short, Life's too short? Yea
and you want to get one shot. Go to therapy,
Go to therapy. Communicate, yeah, communicate.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Just because you've been together doesn't mean you should stay together.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Everything works out, everything like it'll be super gnali for
a bit, but then it'll then it won't be and
some longer than others.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
And I maybe don't don't don't get all fucking bitter
and twisted about it for too long.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
You know, you gotta like you just gotta just go
with the flow of what your new life brings. Yeah,
whatever that may be. It has everything fun though, do
you know what may have some fun fun? I have
some nice safe fun and fun. Have some safe fun fun? No, no, no, no,
just say fun.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Speaking of which, I got an Instagram ad, a targeted
Instagram ad the other Yeah, what for? Did I screenshot this?
I'm pretty sure I did, stand by.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Thanks for stepping in there, nough, Vaughn will delivered my friends.
You got to have good friends. You don't keep it inside,
do not.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
This is the one thing that blew my mind as
the amount of men that I've talked to who were
going through a similar thing had no one to talk to.
I was so like, I had you guys and you
guys are amazing.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Welcome took them to BALI.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Yeah, I'm serious and in all seriousness, there was a
couple of groups of people who really did save the day.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Yeah, for sure, you guys are my close group of mates.
Like it was, it does. It feels really lonely.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
I think I can imagine if I cry. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I also feel like a little bit of cry, a
little bit of I don't feel like crying, surprise cry
because it will be good for the podcast. Say it out,
Sorry chiatments, Sorry, sorry, so Hailey, just elaborate some more.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
It's your friends and friends like Flitch dude, Yeah, you know,
I've been a pretty good friend.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Head.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
What what thing have you been advertised?
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I was like, that looks like that model Haley was
going to fuck.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
And it is God, he is so hot.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
Do you know why it never happened? Because imagine fucking
going in with.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
That for those I mean this is a visual meaning
but the largest black man and he was advertising workout here.
He's not wearing much, No, he's wearing shorts in the
British and I saw it and I was like.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
I know, the one quite a nice British wo to yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Just your your point.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
Have fun. Oh you've got to have fun.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Give the couple. We kind of cover that therapy. I
see heaps during that. Oh I saw.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
I was looking.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
I was trying to looking at my black.
Speaker 4 (05:18):
Model Funns, but not a model.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
You didn't here on a footballer that was there was
my that was your product.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
That was that.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
I was proud.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
I was so proud of you that.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
These aren't secrets.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Second question, why don't we say E D G E
out loud? And that's that's the first part of their question.
That's from here and there a radio the radio station
we used to work for.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Yeah, we used to.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
We used to work on on the on the cart
I never did, no, never did ropped up here and
then we we were poached. We were poached. We were
lured across to work for ZM Radio and it was
a whole thing.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
That's just because it's just an ongoing joke. Yeah, don't
say how long has.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
It been now, because I was twelve years, because August
was twelve years and August was born just after we
started here. Twelve years of early mornings. Look at the space,
it's falling off.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
Think you're join all right for twelve years morning, which
is pretty.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Wretch because we just started and born Bales had a
few days off. I was like, this is so fucked
with a baby.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
With a baby, Yeah the fuck? Isn't it fun.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
To work by myself?
Speaker 4 (06:39):
You know what that is? That's selfish?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Whereas when I get a new cat, there's no caternity,
no fraternity. We need some equal you know.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
I think so that's feminism because it's about Equaliday.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Comes out in the wash.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
You didn't have to pay another eighty five dollars for
a school switch that you just paid eighty five dollars
for because somebody lost it.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
Yeah, and to go to Paris, that's exactly you know
what I mean.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
I don't get to go to Paris and I have
to buy another school uniform and I get a few
measly days off r at the start.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
Yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
And then here who's and Edinburgh also asks Hailey plans
on playing Edinburgh Fringe.
Speaker 4 (07:20):
I've done Edinburgh Fringe like ten years ago for.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
People that don't know as very as to start a
baby reindeer a yeah, bab India saw Lake it's doing
free in that. Yeah, it's massive.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
And then I did it pre kind of being good
at comedy and I struggled and then I got into
television and now I'm back doing comedy. I'd love to
go to Edinburgh, but I can't take a month off
of radio.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Absolutely the corporate slut, you know.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
But if you did, if you broadcast from Edinburgh, it'll
be like evening, which is when you kind of be playing.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
I take the person bit with and I do like
a month in Australia as well, and that's a little
bit closer to home and a goal I want to
take off.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
I will do Edinburgh once.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
I all bring the Edinburgh studio in my suitcase and
I'll stay there as well.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
So we holiday in July as we are now.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
To stay there.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
We'll just stay.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
You just stay here.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
No gods, you can't afford what we can afford.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
You've got you've got kids.
Speaker 4 (08:21):
How much money would you spend on feeding a child
for the week.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
A couple of hundred yeah, probably a couple of Hundredthley.
Speaker 4 (08:34):
I'm not on it, yeah, on board of the vices
I do.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
But she's trying me if she could well, I'm asking
you please both, just because you don't have children.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Doesn't mean you should be doing myth but it's.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
No, it wouldn't be terrbooks.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
About the mother.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
People do judge mums when yeah yeah, yeah, Okay, Today's
Questions will be back tomorrow with another couple.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
They got laughs, got tears, they got me everything
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