Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you’ll finally find out.

If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved.

Inspired by the book Attached, we dive into real stories, psych-backed insights, and how to finally break free.

Bonus: Don’t miss the quiz at the end—It’ll help you decode your partner’s attachment style fast. Jump to minute 37:00 if you’re done guessing and ready to know who you’re really dealing with.

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