June 9, 2026 ⢠28 mins
Senile isn't just a river activity in Egypt.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Is it a rough conversation for two people, whether they
are married or just in a long term relationship or whatever,
it is when it's time to put someone in in
like a like a house a home?
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Is that? Does that cause problems between or are you
both on the same page?
Speaker 4 (00:21):
Yeah? But cause problems between the person who is being
recommended to go live in one?
Speaker 3 (00:27):
No, I'm no, no, no, no, between the two people,
the couple or is it.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
So it's not it's like you don't both maybe not
at the same time.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
But does that cause big problems.
Speaker 5 (00:43):
If one thinks that's what needs to happen and the
other doesn't yet.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Yeah, remember it's they're living with you.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Well, I guess they don't have to be, Like, they
don't have to be I was reading a story about
this one and realize that, what do you mean?
Speaker 4 (00:56):
Living with you is a whole different thing.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
Oh, I think that would be worse. No, well, maybe better,
maybe better.
Speaker 5 (01:03):
You see this a lot in multi generational homes.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
But it might be better because then both of you
see it right, and you're not just you're not just
relying on one to go, Hey, I think it's time,
And then the other one's like, well, I don't know.
Speaker 5 (01:18):
Stereotypically, it's going to be the daughter or son in
law who maybe tries to press the issue, force the issue.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
So the non child.
Speaker 5 (01:32):
I'm not saying that it can't be the other way.
Just obviously you may be more pop.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
You'd be protective of your own parent. Yeah, okay, that
makes sense to me. That makes sense to me.
Speaker 5 (01:44):
What were you reading?
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Yeah, so I was reading.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
So there's this couple right and there the mother in law.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Yeah, so it's a man and his wife. Her mom
moved in with them. Okay, she's been there, I don't know,
doesn't say how long. It's been a handful of months, right, Yeah,
she got she got priced out of her rental property.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
It doesn't matter how she ended up there. She's living there, right.
Speaker 5 (02:14):
For only a couple of months.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
Yeah, it's been like four or five months.
Speaker 5 (02:17):
Okay. In my head, I'm imagining someone that's been with
them for years.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Yeah, no, this is this is a handful of months,
and she's she's been living there, right.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
I don't know how old she is, but she's been
living there.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
So anyway, the husband and wife, the neighbors, they're outside
doing something or whatever. The neighbors go, hey, let me
see it for a second. So they go over and
they're talking to the neighbors and they get along with
the neighbors, and the neighbors are like, we want.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
To show you a video.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
And the video is of the mother in law or
the mom, yeah, walking through their yard, not the neighbors.
Your neighbor walking through the neighbor's yard, looking through the
windows and like trying to like get into like the
screen door.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
Oh boy, she thought it was her hand. She mixed
out the houses up.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
No no, no, no, no no, And they just said, hey, listen,
this is this isn't right, Like we don't need your mom,
like you know, coming over here, and like they're trying
to be kind about it.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
I don't know how you say that to somebody where
you're trying to be nice, but at the same time
you're like, get the old lady out of my yard
or like.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
I get it. Is that the first sign of some
sort of maybe it was a mix up on her part,
and she's starting to like go into dementia.
Speaker 5 (03:34):
No, how are you so confident?
Speaker 1 (03:40):
So then they go and they confront the mother in
law and they're like, hey, like what's going on here?
Speaker 3 (03:47):
And that's when she says that she is convinced.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
That the neighbors were spying on her, that they had
bugged her stuff and she was going to check on it.
Speaker 5 (03:59):
And you're saying that's not dementia. Say again, you're saying
it's not dementia to Diane.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
No, I'm not saying that.
Speaker 4 (04:05):
Strike to me.
Speaker 5 (04:10):
One more, why does she think that? Does she give
a reason?
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Wait?
Speaker 4 (04:16):
Why does Why does she's being spied upon?
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Yeah? Why does she think that? I know why?
Speaker 5 (04:23):
But the what I'm saying are they are they of a.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Certain No, they're not. As a matter of fact.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Now, these people say that the that the neighbors and
the mother in law have never met, but I'm sure
they've seen it.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
They've definitely seen her on camera.
Speaker 5 (04:38):
But does this have like Cold war tendencies?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Okay, they're living next to the Russians.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
Can the mother in law see that it's a Russian family?
Speaker 3 (04:50):
I do, It doesn't Russian.
Speaker 5 (04:53):
I'm just trying to figure out what. Well, they definitely
have a camera feel this way.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
I know, strike too, that's what's making her feel this way.
So it starts this big fight with the couple.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Yeah, so well. But their fight is that the husband
is like.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
We got to get your mother in law screen for dementia,
which I don't know how they do that, but I
guess there's a test.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
So they were like, we got to get them, we
got to get them screened for dementia.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
And the wife is like, no, I don't think we should.
I think maybe we just keep a better eye on her.
Let's monitor and see what's going on. Maybe we maybe
we put you know, like some doors have a chime
on it, like if somebody goes in or out or
something like that. They're like, maybe we chimed the door
so that if she goes out, we know, like, oh
(05:41):
she went.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Outside, she's not an invalid. She can go outside.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
Clearly she goes I'm getting tested.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
No, But now these two end up in a big
fight about it.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Well that's where I was like, if Jackie was like, hey,
she's root in the neighborhood thing she's getting spine on
and trying to break into the house. Yeah, I don't
need to I could skip the test.
Speaker 5 (06:07):
Isn't And this woman is how old.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Late seventies, early eighties, I have no idea.
Speaker 5 (06:13):
That's around the age I thought because my mother is
seventy five and she was just telling me that she
has to do a senile screening every year.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
I'm sorry, but that is the blunt language of that generation.
I don't think the doctor calls it the sea nile screening.
Speaker 5 (06:34):
Honestly, I thought that was a nice way to describe it.
Speaker 4 (06:39):
Se Ennile is not a positive.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Well, neither is dementia.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
I don't know. I mean, are they interchangeable?
Speaker 5 (06:45):
No, seenile is not like a disease?
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Is dementia?
Speaker 4 (06:51):
Is senile in any way used in a positive way.
Speaker 5 (06:56):
Old people?
Speaker 4 (06:59):
It's not a like, am she is so senile?
Speaker 5 (07:02):
It's not a positive A senile discount senior. Maybe that's
what I'm thinking of. My mom definitely said senile. No,
senile is you're crazy?
Speaker 3 (07:13):
Right? Isn't like you're losing it?
Speaker 5 (07:16):
No, you're going too far? That that's an extreme? What
what would that be? What's the extreme?
Speaker 3 (07:21):
I don't know what I do with my key.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
Senile. Senile describes physical or mental deterioration, memory loss, confusion
as you as you age. Yeah, I always I always
thought senile your brain? Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
I've never seen an old person hobbling and been like, well,
look at that senile.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
But if they're like uh uh, you're like they're senile.
Speaker 4 (07:47):
Yeah, So anyway she has to take her.
Speaker 5 (07:52):
And she worries. I don't know when she started the test.
It might be through Medicare, but they is it's done
with your general practitioner, So it's not something that they
have to go to like the VA four. Now I
know that my mom, that would not make sense. But
they don't have a government building to do this. It
is done through your personal doctor.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
But what's the screen?
Speaker 5 (08:15):
It the two examples she gave me because her friend
has it coming up and they have they have to
get on the phone with each other to calm each
other down because they get so nervous ahead of this
test about scoring poorly.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
I don't yeah, because you don't want to be labeled
as semile.
Speaker 5 (08:32):
Again, I don't think it's as bad as you're using
the word.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
I don't think it's as positive.
Speaker 5 (08:37):
What about senility? What if I do the noun.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
Version, Yeah, that's not good either.
Speaker 5 (08:43):
That to me sounds like civility, like it's no you.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Know what, it's ol fit in or set in?
Speaker 6 (08:50):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Really, what was happening?
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Oh? I don't know they were wearing underwear on their
head and eating their feces.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
It says sinility is an outdated term ale. But but
maybe that's we've forgotten how we used to.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Anyway, take it back.
Speaker 5 (09:08):
So there are there are is a part my mom
panics about in the test and a part that her
friend panics about. And the test is very similar, sort
of like our training here at the radio station every year,
so they know this stuff's going to be on there.
The one her friend worries about is you have to
draw a clock.
Speaker 4 (09:27):
I would like put the hands in the correct spot.
Speaker 5 (09:29):
So you do do everything to circle the numbers and
the hands and everything.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
They don't how to make a clock.
Speaker 5 (09:34):
Notile. That's what we're testing for, Elliott. But you're laughing.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
Kids are senile. They don't how to make a clock.
Speaker 5 (09:48):
Diane finds this very funny. But this is what I
feel like anyone at any age you would worry about.
The part my mom is scared by. At the beginning
of the test, they give you a made up address.
Oh god, the end. At the end you have to recite.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
It if it's not here or home.
Speaker 5 (10:08):
Fail. So it's numbers, street, city, town. Wait, so it's
not I don't think it was ZIP code though.
Speaker 4 (10:16):
So they give you and then a half hour later
you have to tell them I.
Speaker 5 (10:19):
Don't have to test half hour, but yes you have to.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
It feels like a half hour. I don't know. I
couldn't tell on that clock.
Speaker 5 (10:25):
You have to recite it back to them.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Wait, so you have to remember a whole new Is
it easy to remember?
Speaker 4 (10:31):
Is it like one two three Main Street or something? Yeah,
that's the only other one I know.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
I live on sixty nine, sixty nine, But Hole Lane.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
I'm just saying, non Sa Niles, don't remember that.
Speaker 5 (10:44):
When my mom told me about it this weekend, I
thought that that could be difficult for any use.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Yes, yes, just a made up number in a street.
Speaker 5 (10:55):
So if this wasn't to put down my mom or
her friend, or for Diane to do that.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
I said, I liked the radical honesty of that generation.
Speaker 5 (11:07):
But if you to get someone tested in its most
basic form, it should be happening at your doctor's office
at that age. You don't have to like drag them
to an institution.
Speaker 4 (11:19):
When Scott's mom did one a couple of years ago,
she just it was a link on an iPad.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
I don't I didn't even, if I'm being honest, I
didn't even know there was a senile test.
Speaker 4 (11:29):
Well, I mean, I think they probably got different, different,
different versions of it. But it was just send a link.
And I think it took her like twenty minutes or
so maybe to.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
Do what's on the test. It was like the dress
that I know.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
It's like it was like, you know, number sequences and
hit this and hit that and not kind of you know,
so is it easy?
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Well, I guess if you're.
Speaker 4 (11:49):
Not seen, I at it. So for the most part, where.
Speaker 5 (11:58):
Did you falter?
Speaker 4 (12:00):
It was probably that address. Now I haven't killed the clock.
I don't even think we had to do it, but
I was. I was sitting and I was trying. You
have to like restrain yourself because you want to go no, no, no, no,
you can't know what a fish no, but you But
you can't help them.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Oh, I know, I would not be good.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
I would not I'd yell at them that, which is
not what you're supposed to do.
Speaker 5 (12:20):
But now, come to think of it, this woman who
you described, who thinks the neighbors are spying. She may
pass a test like this, no problem.
Speaker 4 (12:31):
But maybe she's just like paranoid or something.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
Oh yeah, maybe you could be paranoid at any age.
That's why I don't need I don't need a test
to tell me. I use the sniff test to tell
me if you need to. Not like they peed.
Speaker 4 (12:44):
Themselves in the choice of words no, no.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
But like I could tell like if if if Jackie's
parents were living with us and her mom came home,
it was like, the neighbors are spying on me.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
I've been looking in their windows. I'd be like, jack
get your mom to a home, because that does that's
not going to end well. No, that's not going to
end well.
Speaker 5 (13:05):
In terms of like it could become violent.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
It's just it's not it's not going to get better.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Yeah, she's not going to walk in tomorrow and go, well,
you know what, I was wrong.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
They're not spies.
Speaker 4 (13:18):
That's how the the deterioration starts.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
No, you've never heard anybody go, well, she was seenile,
but all better now.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
Altyto writes, I'm not seenile. I could play one in
a movie.
Speaker 5 (13:34):
I panic when I have to recite my address when voting.
I'm supposed to remember when we were told hour ago.
Speaker 3 (13:43):
That would be a hard one. That would be a
hard one.
Speaker 5 (13:47):
Yeah, that's why they get.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Like, don't you ever haven't you ever been to a
museum where they give you like somebody else's identity, and
like you go through the museum as though you're them.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
You get to the end, You're like, I don't even
know who this person.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
I've been this person for the last two hours and
I don't know who this is.
Speaker 5 (14:08):
Just start practicing now, line too, Hi elliot in the morning.
Speaker 6 (14:13):
Hey, I after watching my mom go through dementia, I
after she passed, I decided, can I interrupt you?
Speaker 3 (14:21):
Can I interrupt you? Real quick? She went through sinility,
she was senile.
Speaker 6 (14:26):
They don't call they don't use that word anymore. But
I decided to have that that test done. It's basically
a cognitive test.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
You get it done. Sure, that's smart. Oh, that's smart.
Speaker 6 (14:44):
And so I so I had it, had it done
to have a baseline, and they did. And I actually
did do it from home. I was sent a link,
but the doctor was on video with me the whole time. Boy,
and so some of the things were you know, tap here,
tap there, the draw the clock. I had to actually
draw the clock on videos so she could see it.
(15:08):
Then you know. At the beginning of the test, they
give you a series of eight words, and then ten
minutes later they ask you to repeat them whoa, whoa.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Whoa, whoa, whoa whoa whoa.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
So they give you but like, are they all related
in some way?
Speaker 6 (15:23):
No, so very unrelated. That's the point.
Speaker 3 (15:26):
Sock chimney, orange.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
And then ten minutes later, I have to remember that
I came up with sock, chimney and orange.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
Everybody say that nobody would.
Speaker 6 (15:38):
Remember they they do it again, so so they'll give
you the words. At least this was my experience. They
give you the words, you repeat them back, and then
ten minutes later you have to repeat them back again.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
And what am I doing in those ten minutes in
between other exercises?
Speaker 6 (15:53):
Right, other exercises exactly?
Speaker 3 (15:56):
But you failed that, didn't you?
Speaker 2 (15:58):
No?
Speaker 6 (15:59):
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
How do you remember eight words that they gave you
that you would never that you like, they're not your words.
Speaker 6 (16:10):
That's the cognitive part of it. I mean, it's it's
testing what how your memory is working right now?
Speaker 3 (16:19):
That's not but that's not useful memory.
Speaker 5 (16:21):
But the average person might not be a perfect score.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Yeah, oh I guess I didn't.
Speaker 6 (16:26):
I'm not saying. I'm not saying I got a perfect score?
Speaker 3 (16:30):
What you get? What'd you get?
Speaker 6 (16:35):
I don't remember. It was about four years ago that
I hadn't done.
Speaker 3 (16:38):
You don't even remember when you took the test.
Speaker 4 (16:40):
But she said she wanted to get like a baseline.
So maybe in ten years if she takes that, she
can be like, oh wow, I went really down.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
But no, but you know what's smart exactly like when
when the boys were playing hockey, like they would have
to get baseline tested for concussions every year, and that
way you knew that if cognitively is that what they
were doing, like, then you knew like stuff was like
like if they got injured, then they were able to
test against the baseline.
Speaker 3 (17:05):
And see how different it is.
Speaker 6 (17:08):
I did the same thing with my hearing. I got
a baseline hearing test.
Speaker 4 (17:12):
Elly, I can't hear you.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Wait, So how often how often do they say that
you should take the baseline test?
Speaker 6 (17:25):
Well, you take a baseline test once it's a baseline.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
Oh my god, you realize what I'm saying.
Speaker 6 (17:33):
I mean, if you notice some some that you're slipping cognitively,
you could go back to your doctor and say, hey,
I'm I'm having some memory issues, you know. Can we
circle back and see how I'm doing compared to my baseline?
Speaker 3 (17:46):
When are you taking it again?
Speaker 6 (17:50):
I don't know, maybe a couple of years. I'm doing
all right right now?
Speaker 3 (17:53):
You sound great? Thanks, I mean, but you're sharp.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
You're going back and forth with me like that's good,
like you under you understand the flow?
Speaker 5 (18:01):
Here the fourth where's your bed?
Speaker 3 (18:09):
All right? Very good? Very good? Thank you, ma'am.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Thank you.
Speaker 5 (18:11):
That part of it you hold, like the sample cup.
Speaker 4 (18:15):
Under your chin.
Speaker 5 (18:19):
They have right here?
Speaker 3 (18:20):
Is I like the idea of a baseline test.
Speaker 5 (18:22):
But this is sounds like it's very similar to what
my mom has to do. I guess my stepdad would
have to do it too. She didn't mention him. But
it gives you the address. There's a few more questions
and then at the end, what was the name and address?
I asked you remember? And you've done stuff in between there.
You've done stuff like what's the date today?
Speaker 6 (18:46):
No?
Speaker 5 (18:47):
No, but like or lose points for reacting that way?
Speaker 3 (18:51):
No? No, but is it like a made up day?
Like the name?
Speaker 4 (18:53):
Or I think they ask you what way is it
the date?
Speaker 2 (18:56):
Six?
Speaker 4 (18:57):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (18:57):
Yeah, it's Rick Lementhal's anniversary.
Speaker 5 (19:00):
And then you do the clock drawing. It says, please
mark in all the numbers to indicate the hours of
the clock, and please mark in hands to show ten
minutes past eleven.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
Oh, you've been hands on the clock.
Speaker 5 (19:17):
And then you're asked, can you tell me something that
happened in the news recently?
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Yeah, the spurs one. Okay, the King's made a mistake
and they hired lavio Let.
Speaker 5 (19:27):
It actually credits the participant if they're more specifics Peter
Laviolet like instead.
Speaker 4 (19:35):
Of saying the sun rose.
Speaker 5 (19:39):
I had great example because they say that you score
negatively if you respond a lot of rain or or war.
And then they come back and say, what was the
address I gave you? After working through these questions like that?
Speaker 1 (19:59):
Yeah, but but do they do they give you like
on that sheet doesn't give you the address?
Speaker 5 (20:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (20:05):
But just is it an easy thing to remember or
is it like what is the address?
Speaker 5 (20:10):
I think it's this one's easy for us because it
happens to be a town nearby, so it's not like.
Speaker 3 (20:16):
A random name like Laurel Lane.
Speaker 5 (20:20):
It's Kensington, but not Maryland. It just as Kensington.
Speaker 3 (20:23):
Oh, I would know that what's the number forty two. Oh,
so then you remember.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
You force yourself to go Jackie Robinson Kensington.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
That's how you remember.
Speaker 5 (20:35):
But the name is in Jackie Robinson.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
No, but I know what his number is. They retired it.
That's why I also put that down under news they
retired Jackie Robinson's number. Today war.
Speaker 5 (20:48):
A lot of rain.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
Just come get me a hig upside.
Speaker 4 (20:58):
Oh, it's really funny because it's true him.
Speaker 5 (21:02):
I think the real indicator will be the next time,
which hopefully isn't the next time, but the first time.
My mom, when giving insurance information at the front window,
gives them her wheel Watchers club spin id. Remember she
said not to mention that.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
Never mine one Hi Elliott the.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Morning, Hey Elliott. Yes, her wife's dad lived with us,
and I told my wife that as soon as he
forgets one thing at the grocery store or putting his
ass out because I want him out of my house.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
One thing, God damn it, I would remember something after
he left me go hey, you got gum right?
Speaker 3 (21:48):
How'd you go? Hey? Can I ask you this like,
is it a real pain? Is it a real pain
in the ass?
Speaker 2 (21:55):
It is because he isolates himself. I mean we brought
him up from Kentucky because there was no one there,
no family for him to talk to. And now he
just stays in our in our guest bedroom and never
even comes out and visits with his daughter or his granddaughter.
We knock on the I'm not kidding. We knocked on
the door probably once every other day, say John, you alive?
And I told him there's no dying in his house.
Speaker 3 (22:18):
You get in the backyard inn, does he not?
Speaker 4 (22:20):
Does he not come and have like like dinner with
you guys.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
No, so we'll have dinner and then you know, I'm
laying down in bed and about ten o'clocky shuffling out
with a hungry man to the microwaves.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
But can I can I ask you?
Speaker 5 (22:35):
This?
Speaker 1 (22:36):
Is he doing that just so because he doesn't want
to feel like he's intruding.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
If he talked, I could ask him. I don't know.
I mean, he just just it's not I think that's
a bed. He paints these little like paint my number things,
does puzzles and watch his Fox News and doesn't say anything.
Speaker 3 (22:59):
Just what is your guy? What does your wife say?
Speaker 2 (23:04):
She's aggravated? And because it's been five years and she's
frustrated with him that he doesn't try to communicate or
come out and be a part of anything. Now I'm
getting mad when I have like my family come over
and then he wants to come out and sit in
the middle of the living room. I'm thinking, hey, old timer,
you don't come out for anything, and that when I
(23:24):
have people here, you want to sit here with your
gun hanging out at the bottom of his skirt.
Speaker 5 (23:28):
So hell's not good.
Speaker 3 (23:31):
Hung a lot of calories in that, man, say.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
TV dinners in Jack's frozen pizza.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
Hey, old timer, very good, Thank you sir.
Speaker 5 (23:45):
What is the grass greener? If he was always with them.
Speaker 4 (23:49):
Oh, then they'd be beside themselves.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
But that's what I meant, like, is the is the
father in law trying to be kind and be like,
I'm just going to be out of the way. I
don't want to be an inconvenient and so I don't want.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
You to have to.
Speaker 4 (24:01):
Yeah. But then but still, I mean I can understand him,
like maybe not feeling like I don't want to monopolize
all their time and be a burden, but I mean, shoot,
go have dinner with them, you know.
Speaker 3 (24:12):
Yeah, No, but I get it, I get it.
Speaker 5 (24:18):
Yeah, but it's basically.
Speaker 3 (24:20):
I mean, there are times I just want to go
sit in the bedroom and you.
Speaker 5 (24:24):
It's basically why I asked you to reiterate from your
original story how long that mother had been there? And
you said a couple of months.
Speaker 3 (24:34):
A couple of months, five years of that. Yeah, but
that's good.
Speaker 5 (24:39):
Now listen. Can I see you writing and to tell
your story after a couple of days.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
Yes.
Speaker 5 (24:47):
But the patience of some people to be able to
house an older family member for years is just it's incredible,
It's commendable.
Speaker 3 (24:58):
I wonder if i'd be good at it. No, oh,
you wouldn't.
Speaker 5 (25:00):
I wonder what a waste of time you want to
talk about a clock face? I'll show you how much
time you should spend wondering that.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
No.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
No, if I would be a good host, you'd be terrible.
I probably would be.
Speaker 4 (25:18):
I mean, god forbid, they don't want to watch what
you want to watch?
Speaker 1 (25:22):
Oh no, If they don't like hockey, then go sit
on your own bed. Okay, yeah, go sit on your
own bed.
Speaker 5 (25:28):
Is there ever an expectation that either one of your
family members would come to live with you? Guys?
Speaker 3 (25:35):
You mean, like Jackie's mom or dad? Yeah, or you're
no chance there?
Speaker 5 (25:39):
Okay, okay, how about just hearst if you.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Were in my house yesterday, you would understand Jackie's parents.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
Yeah, I would.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
I mean I'd be I'd be fine if they moved in.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
No, if there was an expectation, No, I don't think
my mom would expect is I don't think my mom
has any expectation that she's living with me at some point.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
I don't know Jackie's parents have any expectation.
Speaker 5 (26:02):
Do you think you're even if it hasn't been discussed
the best optimately?
Speaker 2 (26:06):
Are you?
Speaker 5 (26:06):
Are you the default option?
Speaker 3 (26:11):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (26:12):
Not for my mom, No, not for your momfraid go
back to Jackie's because there's other people.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
Know that's what I'm thinking. I'm going to the other
side now.
Speaker 5 (26:20):
I don't know or have they been around you long
enough to know that it would be an imposition for you?
Speaker 4 (26:28):
No, they know.
Speaker 6 (26:29):
No.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
I think they like spending time with me.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
And spending time with you over a few days visit
is a lot different than living with somebody.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
For five years.
Speaker 5 (26:39):
Oh god, what's the longest they've stayed with you?
Speaker 3 (26:44):
A couple of weeks?
Speaker 5 (26:46):
And how did the end of that wrap up.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
Well, I think everybody was happy that it was over.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
Yes, ill, yeah, I think everybody was like, this was
a good visit, This is good.
Speaker 5 (27:01):
But it wasn't a test visit.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
No, no, no, no, no no. I mean the truth
is they live in Houston. Jackie's sister is in Houston. Like,
why would they move here? They just stay in Houston
and I'm not moving there.
Speaker 5 (27:12):
But did say you were moving?
Speaker 3 (27:15):
No?
Speaker 1 (27:15):
No, But I think I don't know that my expectation
or their expectation would be like, oh, like, we can't
stay in our house anymore, We're moving to Virginia.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
I think it would be like we're moving down the street.
Oh they're that close, I mean ten miles maybe five
miles give or take.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
Yeah, So I don't think it'd be like, let's load
everything up and go to Jackie and Elliott's house.
Speaker 4 (27:35):
Yeah, but plenty of people moved to be closer to
their kids and grandkids. Yeah, but they have that there,
send me pushing back, Well, no, they don't need to
come here.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
Hi, Elliot in the morning, it's me. Yeah, Hi, real quick.
What can I do for you.
Speaker 1 (27:58):
To proved to my wife that her mom was living
I called her mom and after a couple of minutes
she didn't have to.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Put the life of her She couldn't remember.
Speaker 3 (28:04):
Why she called me.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
I like to think this mean, but I just proved
it to her
Is it a rough conversation for two people, whether they
are married or just in a long term relationship or whatever,
it is when it's time to put someone in in
like a like a house a home?
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Is that? Does that cause problems between or are you
both on the same page?
Speaker 4 (00:21):
Yeah? But cause problems between the person who is being
recommended to go live in one?
Speaker 3 (00:27):
No, I'm no, no, no, no, between the two people,
the couple or is it.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
So it's not it's like you don't both maybe not
at the same time.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
But does that cause big problems.
Speaker 5 (00:43):
If one thinks that's what needs to happen and the
other doesn't yet.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Yeah, remember it's they're living with you.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Well, I guess they don't have to be, Like, they
don't have to be I was reading a story about
this one and realize that, what do you mean?
Speaker 4 (00:56):
Living with you is a whole different thing.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
Oh, I think that would be worse. No, well, maybe better,
maybe better.
Speaker 5 (01:03):
You see this a lot in multi generational homes.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
But it might be better because then both of you
see it right, and you're not just you're not just
relying on one to go, Hey, I think it's time,
And then the other one's like, well, I don't know.
Speaker 5 (01:18):
Stereotypically, it's going to be the daughter or son in
law who maybe tries to press the issue, force the issue.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
So the non child.
Speaker 5 (01:32):
I'm not saying that it can't be the other way.
Just obviously you may be more pop.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
You'd be protective of your own parent. Yeah, okay, that
makes sense to me. That makes sense to me.
Speaker 5 (01:44):
What were you reading?
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Yeah, so I was reading.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
So there's this couple right and there the mother in law.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Yeah, so it's a man and his wife. Her mom
moved in with them. Okay, she's been there, I don't know,
doesn't say how long. It's been a handful of months, right, Yeah,
she got she got priced out of her rental property.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
It doesn't matter how she ended up there. She's living there, right.
Speaker 5 (02:14):
For only a couple of months.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
Yeah, it's been like four or five months.
Speaker 5 (02:17):
Okay. In my head, I'm imagining someone that's been with
them for years.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Yeah, no, this is this is a handful of months,
and she's she's been living there, right.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
I don't know how old she is, but she's been
living there.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
So anyway, the husband and wife, the neighbors, they're outside
doing something or whatever. The neighbors go, hey, let me
see it for a second. So they go over and
they're talking to the neighbors and they get along with
the neighbors, and the neighbors are like, we want.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
To show you a video.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
And the video is of the mother in law or
the mom, yeah, walking through their yard, not the neighbors.
Your neighbor walking through the neighbor's yard, looking through the
windows and like trying to like get into like the
screen door.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
Oh boy, she thought it was her hand. She mixed
out the houses up.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
No no, no, no, no no, And they just said, hey, listen,
this is this isn't right, Like we don't need your mom,
like you know, coming over here, and like they're trying
to be kind about it.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
I don't know how you say that to somebody where
you're trying to be nice, but at the same time
you're like, get the old lady out of my yard
or like.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
I get it. Is that the first sign of some
sort of maybe it was a mix up on her part,
and she's starting to like go into dementia.
Speaker 5 (03:34):
No, how are you so confident?
Speaker 1 (03:40):
So then they go and they confront the mother in
law and they're like, hey, like what's going on here?
Speaker 3 (03:47):
And that's when she says that she is convinced.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
That the neighbors were spying on her, that they had
bugged her stuff and she was going to check on it.
Speaker 5 (03:59):
And you're saying that's not dementia. Say again, you're saying
it's not dementia to Diane.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
No, I'm not saying that.
Speaker 4 (04:05):
Strike to me.
Speaker 5 (04:10):
One more, why does she think that? Does she give
a reason?
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Wait?
Speaker 4 (04:16):
Why does Why does she's being spied upon?
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Yeah? Why does she think that? I know why?
Speaker 5 (04:23):
But the what I'm saying are they are they of a.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Certain No, they're not. As a matter of fact.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Now, these people say that the that the neighbors and
the mother in law have never met, but I'm sure
they've seen it.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
They've definitely seen her on camera.
Speaker 5 (04:38):
But does this have like Cold war tendencies?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Okay, they're living next to the Russians.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
Can the mother in law see that it's a Russian family?
Speaker 3 (04:50):
I do, It doesn't Russian.
Speaker 5 (04:53):
I'm just trying to figure out what. Well, they definitely
have a camera feel this way.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
I know, strike too, that's what's making her feel this way.
So it starts this big fight with the couple.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Yeah, so well. But their fight is that the husband
is like.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
We got to get your mother in law screen for dementia,
which I don't know how they do that, but I
guess there's a test.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
So they were like, we got to get them, we
got to get them screened for dementia.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
And the wife is like, no, I don't think we should.
I think maybe we just keep a better eye on her.
Let's monitor and see what's going on. Maybe we maybe
we put you know, like some doors have a chime
on it, like if somebody goes in or out or
something like that. They're like, maybe we chimed the door
so that if she goes out, we know, like, oh
(05:41):
she went.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Outside, she's not an invalid. She can go outside.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
Clearly she goes I'm getting tested.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
No, But now these two end up in a big
fight about it.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Well that's where I was like, if Jackie was like, hey,
she's root in the neighborhood thing she's getting spine on
and trying to break into the house. Yeah, I don't
need to I could skip the test.
Speaker 5 (06:07):
Isn't And this woman is how old.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Late seventies, early eighties, I have no idea.
Speaker 5 (06:13):
That's around the age I thought because my mother is
seventy five and she was just telling me that she
has to do a senile screening every year.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
I'm sorry, but that is the blunt language of that generation.
I don't think the doctor calls it the sea nile screening.
Speaker 5 (06:34):
Honestly, I thought that was a nice way to describe it.
Speaker 4 (06:39):
Se Ennile is not a positive.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Well, neither is dementia.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
I don't know. I mean, are they interchangeable?
Speaker 5 (06:45):
No, seenile is not like a disease?
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Is dementia?
Speaker 4 (06:51):
Is senile in any way used in a positive way.
Speaker 5 (06:56):
Old people?
Speaker 4 (06:59):
It's not a like, am she is so senile?
Speaker 5 (07:02):
It's not a positive A senile discount senior. Maybe that's
what I'm thinking of. My mom definitely said senile. No,
senile is you're crazy?
Speaker 3 (07:13):
Right? Isn't like you're losing it?
Speaker 5 (07:16):
No, you're going too far? That that's an extreme? What
what would that be? What's the extreme?
Speaker 3 (07:21):
I don't know what I do with my key.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
Senile. Senile describes physical or mental deterioration, memory loss, confusion
as you as you age. Yeah, I always I always
thought senile your brain? Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
I've never seen an old person hobbling and been like, well,
look at that senile.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
But if they're like uh uh, you're like they're senile.
Speaker 4 (07:47):
Yeah, So anyway she has to take her.
Speaker 5 (07:52):
And she worries. I don't know when she started the test.
It might be through Medicare, but they is it's done
with your general practitioner, So it's not something that they
have to go to like the VA four. Now I
know that my mom, that would not make sense. But
they don't have a government building to do this. It
is done through your personal doctor.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
But what's the screen?
Speaker 5 (08:15):
It the two examples she gave me because her friend
has it coming up and they have they have to
get on the phone with each other to calm each
other down because they get so nervous ahead of this
test about scoring poorly.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
I don't yeah, because you don't want to be labeled
as semile.
Speaker 5 (08:32):
Again, I don't think it's as bad as you're using
the word.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
I don't think it's as positive.
Speaker 5 (08:37):
What about senility? What if I do the noun.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
Version, Yeah, that's not good either.
Speaker 5 (08:43):
That to me sounds like civility, like it's no you.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Know what, it's ol fit in or set in?
Speaker 6 (08:50):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Really, what was happening?
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Oh? I don't know they were wearing underwear on their
head and eating their feces.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
It says sinility is an outdated term ale. But but
maybe that's we've forgotten how we used to.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Anyway, take it back.
Speaker 5 (09:08):
So there are there are is a part my mom
panics about in the test and a part that her
friend panics about. And the test is very similar, sort
of like our training here at the radio station every year,
so they know this stuff's going to be on there.
The one her friend worries about is you have to
draw a clock.
Speaker 4 (09:27):
I would like put the hands in the correct spot.
Speaker 5 (09:29):
So you do do everything to circle the numbers and
the hands and everything.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
They don't how to make a clock.
Speaker 5 (09:34):
Notile. That's what we're testing for, Elliott. But you're laughing.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
Kids are senile. They don't how to make a clock.
Speaker 5 (09:48):
Diane finds this very funny. But this is what I
feel like anyone at any age you would worry about.
The part my mom is scared by. At the beginning
of the test, they give you a made up address.
Oh god, the end. At the end you have to recite.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
It if it's not here or home.
Speaker 5 (10:08):
Fail. So it's numbers, street, city, town. Wait, so it's
not I don't think it was ZIP code though.
Speaker 4 (10:16):
So they give you and then a half hour later
you have to tell them I.
Speaker 5 (10:19):
Don't have to test half hour, but yes you have to.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
It feels like a half hour. I don't know. I
couldn't tell on that clock.
Speaker 5 (10:25):
You have to recite it back to them.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Wait, so you have to remember a whole new Is
it easy to remember?
Speaker 4 (10:31):
Is it like one two three Main Street or something? Yeah,
that's the only other one I know.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
I live on sixty nine, sixty nine, But Hole Lane.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
I'm just saying, non Sa Niles, don't remember that.
Speaker 5 (10:44):
When my mom told me about it this weekend, I
thought that that could be difficult for any use.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Yes, yes, just a made up number in a street.
Speaker 5 (10:55):
So if this wasn't to put down my mom or
her friend, or for Diane to do that.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
I said, I liked the radical honesty of that generation.
Speaker 5 (11:07):
But if you to get someone tested in its most
basic form, it should be happening at your doctor's office
at that age. You don't have to like drag them
to an institution.
Speaker 4 (11:19):
When Scott's mom did one a couple of years ago,
she just it was a link on an iPad.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
I don't I didn't even, if I'm being honest, I
didn't even know there was a senile test.
Speaker 4 (11:29):
Well, I mean, I think they probably got different, different,
different versions of it. But it was just send a link.
And I think it took her like twenty minutes or
so maybe to.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
Do what's on the test. It was like the dress
that I know.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
It's like it was like, you know, number sequences and
hit this and hit that and not kind of you know,
so is it easy?
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Well, I guess if you're.
Speaker 4 (11:49):
Not seen, I at it. So for the most part, where.
Speaker 5 (11:58):
Did you falter?
Speaker 4 (12:00):
It was probably that address. Now I haven't killed the clock.
I don't even think we had to do it, but
I was. I was sitting and I was trying. You
have to like restrain yourself because you want to go no, no, no, no,
you can't know what a fish no, but you But
you can't help them.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Oh, I know, I would not be good.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
I would not I'd yell at them that, which is
not what you're supposed to do.
Speaker 5 (12:20):
But now, come to think of it, this woman who
you described, who thinks the neighbors are spying. She may
pass a test like this, no problem.
Speaker 4 (12:31):
But maybe she's just like paranoid or something.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
Oh yeah, maybe you could be paranoid at any age.
That's why I don't need I don't need a test
to tell me. I use the sniff test to tell
me if you need to. Not like they peed.
Speaker 4 (12:44):
Themselves in the choice of words no, no.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
But like I could tell like if if if Jackie's
parents were living with us and her mom came home,
it was like, the neighbors are spying on me.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
I've been looking in their windows. I'd be like, jack
get your mom to a home, because that does that's
not going to end well. No, that's not going to
end well.
Speaker 5 (13:05):
In terms of like it could become violent.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
It's just it's not it's not going to get better.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Yeah, she's not going to walk in tomorrow and go, well,
you know what, I was wrong.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
They're not spies.
Speaker 4 (13:18):
That's how the the deterioration starts.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
No, you've never heard anybody go, well, she was seenile,
but all better now.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
Altyto writes, I'm not seenile. I could play one in
a movie.
Speaker 5 (13:34):
I panic when I have to recite my address when voting.
I'm supposed to remember when we were told hour ago.
Speaker 3 (13:43):
That would be a hard one. That would be a
hard one.
Speaker 5 (13:47):
Yeah, that's why they get.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Like, don't you ever haven't you ever been to a
museum where they give you like somebody else's identity, and
like you go through the museum as though you're them.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
You get to the end, You're like, I don't even
know who this person.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
I've been this person for the last two hours and
I don't know who this is.
Speaker 5 (14:08):
Just start practicing now, line too, Hi elliot in the morning.
Speaker 6 (14:13):
Hey, I after watching my mom go through dementia, I
after she passed, I decided, can I interrupt you?
Speaker 3 (14:21):
Can I interrupt you? Real quick? She went through sinility,
she was senile.
Speaker 6 (14:26):
They don't call they don't use that word anymore. But
I decided to have that that test done. It's basically
a cognitive test.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
You get it done. Sure, that's smart. Oh, that's smart.
Speaker 6 (14:44):
And so I so I had it, had it done
to have a baseline, and they did. And I actually
did do it from home. I was sent a link,
but the doctor was on video with me the whole time. Boy,
and so some of the things were you know, tap here,
tap there, the draw the clock. I had to actually
draw the clock on videos so she could see it.
(15:08):
Then you know. At the beginning of the test, they
give you a series of eight words, and then ten
minutes later they ask you to repeat them whoa, whoa.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Whoa, whoa, whoa whoa whoa.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
So they give you but like, are they all related
in some way?
Speaker 6 (15:23):
No, so very unrelated. That's the point.
Speaker 3 (15:26):
Sock chimney, orange.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
And then ten minutes later, I have to remember that
I came up with sock, chimney and orange.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
Everybody say that nobody would.
Speaker 6 (15:38):
Remember they they do it again, so so they'll give
you the words. At least this was my experience. They
give you the words, you repeat them back, and then
ten minutes later you have to repeat them back again.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
And what am I doing in those ten minutes in
between other exercises?
Speaker 6 (15:53):
Right, other exercises exactly?
Speaker 3 (15:56):
But you failed that, didn't you?
Speaker 2 (15:58):
No?
Speaker 6 (15:59):
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
How do you remember eight words that they gave you
that you would never that you like, they're not your words.
Speaker 6 (16:10):
That's the cognitive part of it. I mean, it's it's
testing what how your memory is working right now?
Speaker 3 (16:19):
That's not but that's not useful memory.
Speaker 5 (16:21):
But the average person might not be a perfect score.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Yeah, oh I guess I didn't.
Speaker 6 (16:26):
I'm not saying. I'm not saying I got a perfect score?
Speaker 3 (16:30):
What you get? What'd you get?
Speaker 6 (16:35):
I don't remember. It was about four years ago that
I hadn't done.
Speaker 3 (16:38):
You don't even remember when you took the test.
Speaker 4 (16:40):
But she said she wanted to get like a baseline.
So maybe in ten years if she takes that, she
can be like, oh wow, I went really down.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
But no, but you know what's smart exactly like when
when the boys were playing hockey, like they would have
to get baseline tested for concussions every year, and that
way you knew that if cognitively is that what they
were doing, like, then you knew like stuff was like
like if they got injured, then they were able to
test against the baseline.
Speaker 3 (17:05):
And see how different it is.
Speaker 6 (17:08):
I did the same thing with my hearing. I got
a baseline hearing test.
Speaker 4 (17:12):
Elly, I can't hear you.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Wait, So how often how often do they say that
you should take the baseline test?
Speaker 6 (17:25):
Well, you take a baseline test once it's a baseline.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
Oh my god, you realize what I'm saying.
Speaker 6 (17:33):
I mean, if you notice some some that you're slipping cognitively,
you could go back to your doctor and say, hey,
I'm I'm having some memory issues, you know. Can we
circle back and see how I'm doing compared to my baseline?
Speaker 3 (17:46):
When are you taking it again?
Speaker 6 (17:50):
I don't know, maybe a couple of years. I'm doing
all right right now?
Speaker 3 (17:53):
You sound great? Thanks, I mean, but you're sharp.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
You're going back and forth with me like that's good,
like you under you understand the flow?
Speaker 5 (18:01):
Here the fourth where's your bed?
Speaker 3 (18:09):
All right? Very good? Very good? Thank you, ma'am.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Thank you.
Speaker 5 (18:11):
That part of it you hold, like the sample cup.
Speaker 4 (18:15):
Under your chin.
Speaker 5 (18:19):
They have right here?
Speaker 3 (18:20):
Is I like the idea of a baseline test.
Speaker 5 (18:22):
But this is sounds like it's very similar to what
my mom has to do. I guess my stepdad would
have to do it too. She didn't mention him. But
it gives you the address. There's a few more questions
and then at the end, what was the name and address?
I asked you remember? And you've done stuff in between there.
You've done stuff like what's the date today?
Speaker 6 (18:46):
No?
Speaker 5 (18:47):
No, but like or lose points for reacting that way?
Speaker 3 (18:51):
No? No, but is it like a made up day?
Like the name?
Speaker 4 (18:53):
Or I think they ask you what way is it
the date?
Speaker 2 (18:56):
Six?
Speaker 4 (18:57):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (18:57):
Yeah, it's Rick Lementhal's anniversary.
Speaker 5 (19:00):
And then you do the clock drawing. It says, please
mark in all the numbers to indicate the hours of
the clock, and please mark in hands to show ten
minutes past eleven.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
Oh, you've been hands on the clock.
Speaker 5 (19:17):
And then you're asked, can you tell me something that
happened in the news recently?
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Yeah, the spurs one. Okay, the King's made a mistake
and they hired lavio Let.
Speaker 5 (19:27):
It actually credits the participant if they're more specifics Peter
Laviolet like instead.
Speaker 4 (19:35):
Of saying the sun rose.
Speaker 5 (19:39):
I had great example because they say that you score
negatively if you respond a lot of rain or or war.
And then they come back and say, what was the
address I gave you? After working through these questions like that?
Speaker 1 (19:59):
Yeah, but but do they do they give you like
on that sheet doesn't give you the address?
Speaker 5 (20:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (20:05):
But just is it an easy thing to remember or
is it like what is the address?
Speaker 5 (20:10):
I think it's this one's easy for us because it
happens to be a town nearby, so it's not like.
Speaker 3 (20:16):
A random name like Laurel Lane.
Speaker 5 (20:20):
It's Kensington, but not Maryland. It just as Kensington.
Speaker 3 (20:23):
Oh, I would know that what's the number forty two. Oh,
so then you remember.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
You force yourself to go Jackie Robinson Kensington.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
That's how you remember.
Speaker 5 (20:35):
But the name is in Jackie Robinson.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
No, but I know what his number is. They retired it.
That's why I also put that down under news they
retired Jackie Robinson's number. Today war.
Speaker 5 (20:48):
A lot of rain.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
Just come get me a hig upside.
Speaker 4 (20:58):
Oh, it's really funny because it's true him.
Speaker 5 (21:02):
I think the real indicator will be the next time,
which hopefully isn't the next time, but the first time.
My mom, when giving insurance information at the front window,
gives them her wheel Watchers club spin id. Remember she
said not to mention that.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
Never mine one Hi Elliott the.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Morning, Hey Elliott. Yes, her wife's dad lived with us,
and I told my wife that as soon as he
forgets one thing at the grocery store or putting his
ass out because I want him out of my house.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
One thing, God damn it, I would remember something after
he left me go hey, you got gum right?
Speaker 3 (21:48):
How'd you go? Hey? Can I ask you this like,
is it a real pain? Is it a real pain
in the ass?
Speaker 2 (21:55):
It is because he isolates himself. I mean we brought
him up from Kentucky because there was no one there,
no family for him to talk to. And now he
just stays in our in our guest bedroom and never
even comes out and visits with his daughter or his granddaughter.
We knock on the I'm not kidding. We knocked on
the door probably once every other day, say John, you alive?
And I told him there's no dying in his house.
Speaker 3 (22:18):
You get in the backyard inn, does he not?
Speaker 4 (22:20):
Does he not come and have like like dinner with
you guys.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
No, so we'll have dinner and then you know, I'm
laying down in bed and about ten o'clocky shuffling out
with a hungry man to the microwaves.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
But can I can I ask you?
Speaker 5 (22:35):
This?
Speaker 1 (22:36):
Is he doing that just so because he doesn't want
to feel like he's intruding.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
If he talked, I could ask him. I don't know.
I mean, he just just it's not I think that's
a bed. He paints these little like paint my number things,
does puzzles and watch his Fox News and doesn't say anything.
Speaker 3 (22:59):
Just what is your guy? What does your wife say?
Speaker 2 (23:04):
She's aggravated? And because it's been five years and she's
frustrated with him that he doesn't try to communicate or
come out and be a part of anything. Now I'm
getting mad when I have like my family come over
and then he wants to come out and sit in
the middle of the living room. I'm thinking, hey, old timer,
you don't come out for anything, and that when I
(23:24):
have people here, you want to sit here with your
gun hanging out at the bottom of his skirt.
Speaker 5 (23:28):
So hell's not good.
Speaker 3 (23:31):
Hung a lot of calories in that, man, say.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
TV dinners in Jack's frozen pizza.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
Hey, old timer, very good, Thank you sir.
Speaker 5 (23:45):
What is the grass greener? If he was always with them.
Speaker 4 (23:49):
Oh, then they'd be beside themselves.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
But that's what I meant, like, is the is the
father in law trying to be kind and be like,
I'm just going to be out of the way. I
don't want to be an inconvenient and so I don't want.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
You to have to.
Speaker 4 (24:01):
Yeah. But then but still, I mean I can understand him,
like maybe not feeling like I don't want to monopolize
all their time and be a burden, but I mean, shoot,
go have dinner with them, you know.
Speaker 3 (24:12):
Yeah, No, but I get it, I get it.
Speaker 5 (24:18):
Yeah, but it's basically.
Speaker 3 (24:20):
I mean, there are times I just want to go
sit in the bedroom and you.
Speaker 5 (24:24):
It's basically why I asked you to reiterate from your
original story how long that mother had been there? And
you said a couple of months.
Speaker 3 (24:34):
A couple of months, five years of that. Yeah, but
that's good.
Speaker 5 (24:39):
Now listen. Can I see you writing and to tell
your story after a couple of days.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
Yes.
Speaker 5 (24:47):
But the patience of some people to be able to
house an older family member for years is just it's incredible,
It's commendable.
Speaker 3 (24:58):
I wonder if i'd be good at it. No, oh,
you wouldn't.
Speaker 5 (25:00):
I wonder what a waste of time you want to
talk about a clock face? I'll show you how much
time you should spend wondering that.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
No.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
No, if I would be a good host, you'd be terrible.
I probably would be.
Speaker 4 (25:18):
I mean, god forbid, they don't want to watch what
you want to watch?
Speaker 1 (25:22):
Oh no, If they don't like hockey, then go sit
on your own bed. Okay, yeah, go sit on your
own bed.
Speaker 5 (25:28):
Is there ever an expectation that either one of your
family members would come to live with you? Guys?
Speaker 3 (25:35):
You mean, like Jackie's mom or dad? Yeah, or you're
no chance there?
Speaker 5 (25:39):
Okay, okay, how about just hearst if you.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Were in my house yesterday, you would understand Jackie's parents.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
Yeah, I would.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
I mean I'd be I'd be fine if they moved in.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
No, if there was an expectation, No, I don't think
my mom would expect is I don't think my mom
has any expectation that she's living with me at some point.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
I don't know Jackie's parents have any expectation.
Speaker 5 (26:02):
Do you think you're even if it hasn't been discussed
the best optimately?
Speaker 2 (26:06):
Are you?
Speaker 5 (26:06):
Are you the default option?
Speaker 3 (26:11):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (26:12):
Not for my mom, No, not for your momfraid go
back to Jackie's because there's other people.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
Know that's what I'm thinking. I'm going to the other
side now.
Speaker 5 (26:20):
I don't know or have they been around you long
enough to know that it would be an imposition for you?
Speaker 4 (26:28):
No, they know.
Speaker 6 (26:29):
No.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
I think they like spending time with me.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
And spending time with you over a few days visit
is a lot different than living with somebody.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
For five years.
Speaker 5 (26:39):
Oh god, what's the longest they've stayed with you?
Speaker 3 (26:44):
A couple of weeks?
Speaker 5 (26:46):
And how did the end of that wrap up.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
Well, I think everybody was happy that it was over.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
Yes, ill, yeah, I think everybody was like, this was
a good visit, This is good.
Speaker 5 (27:01):
But it wasn't a test visit.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
No, no, no, no, no no. I mean the truth
is they live in Houston. Jackie's sister is in Houston. Like,
why would they move here? They just stay in Houston
and I'm not moving there.
Speaker 5 (27:12):
But did say you were moving?
Speaker 3 (27:15):
No?
Speaker 1 (27:15):
No, But I think I don't know that my expectation
or their expectation would be like, oh, like, we can't
stay in our house anymore, We're moving to Virginia.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
I think it would be like we're moving down the street.
Oh they're that close, I mean ten miles maybe five
miles give or take.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
Yeah, So I don't think it'd be like, let's load
everything up and go to Jackie and Elliott's house.
Speaker 4 (27:35):
Yeah, but plenty of people moved to be closer to
their kids and grandkids. Yeah, but they have that there,
send me pushing back, Well, no, they don't need to
come here.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
Hi, Elliot in the morning, it's me. Yeah, Hi, real quick.
What can I do for you.
Speaker 1 (27:58):
To proved to my wife that her mom was living
I called her mom and after a couple of minutes
she didn't have to.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Put the life of her She couldn't remember.
Speaker 3 (28:04):
Why she called me.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
I like to think this mean, but I just proved
it to her
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