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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, this is Mike.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Hey Mike, how are you, sir?
Speaker 3 (00:04):
Hey man?
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Doing pretty good?
Speaker 1 (00:07):
How are you?
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I'm doing great? Thank you Mike.
Speaker 4 (00:08):
You I'm assuming you called because you were you were
married and are now divorced.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
That's correct. How long have also engaged?
Speaker 4 (00:18):
Oh? Congratulations? Congratulations. I hope this is a better one. Hey,
what is how long were you? How long were you
married for?
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Uh?
Speaker 5 (00:27):
Married?
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Thirteen years together? Eighteen?
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Oh wow, that's a good long haul question for you.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
Yes, if your wife was in a workplace accident and had.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
A significant injury to.
Speaker 4 (00:43):
Her leg, would you go to would you go to
the hospital to see her?
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Yeah, I'm your ex wife.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Wait wait wait, wait wait wait oh oh we're already
divorced at that point. Oh yeah, oh no, no.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
No, okay, how long after the divorce?
Speaker 4 (01:04):
Like, if it were a month after the divorce, are
you going to go see her?
Speaker 1 (01:09):
If we were separated, I would go. If we were
actually divorced, You're out. It would be kind of iffy,
but but probably probably out. I mean, SHUFSA moved away,
so that in my specific case, it would have been
a lot harder, right, yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
No, I guess well, yeah, I mean that that's what
you have to go on. I mean for me, it
would just be imagined.
Speaker 5 (01:30):
I think if if you have kids, than you wouldn't
play into it. Why, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
No, I don't have any kids.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Okay, smart, thank you sir.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Yeah, maybe maybe where I guess if they were younger, yeah,
and wanted to go.
Speaker 6 (01:44):
But if they were adults, they can go on their own.
But if they're younger and want to go, someone has
to breathe.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Yeah, no, that's what I mean.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
But like if you're sixteen and could drive, you go
see them.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I don't think there's anything wrong.
Speaker 7 (01:56):
We were talking about like adults, Like if you got
kids in their twenties, you wouldn't go back.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Money, you don't have to go.
Speaker 6 (02:03):
What is the significance of a workplace?
Speaker 4 (02:05):
Yeah, because I wanted to say that if the person
was injured in an accident.
Speaker 5 (02:10):
Like a normal car accident, I.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Think the first thought is that it's a car accident.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
Which it could be. It could be any kind of accident.
I just didn't want it for I just didn't want
it to just be where all of a sudden, you
imagine the worst.
Speaker 6 (02:23):
Well, workplace accidents can be fatal.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
Yeah, I guess so so can car accidents. So I
guess any accident, they're just in the hospital.
Speaker 6 (02:32):
To me, it was as if you were distinguished in between. Oh,
they got hurt during some extreme sport with their new lover.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
No, no, no, no, no, it.
Speaker 6 (02:41):
Was something they were doing when you were with them
and continue to do.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
No. No, it just they were in an accident.
Speaker 6 (02:53):
I feel like some people would certainly expect their ex
to show up.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
You're saying, no, oh no, I no. I do think
that there is some that would expect it. But I
wouldn't go.
Speaker 6 (03:08):
No matter how your relationship, well.
Speaker 4 (03:10):
It ended in divorce, well amicable, but you're still getting divorced.
I'm capable of being friendly and still hating you. Where
am I going? Kristen Line four, Hi.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Elliott in the morning, Good morning, Hi. Who's this? You're divorced? Yes,
if you're well, don't say it like that.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
If your if your husband, if your husband was in
an accident, workplace, car, doesn't matter, would you go see him.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
In the hospital.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Has a divorce?
Speaker 6 (03:47):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Wait, I'm sorry one more time.
Speaker 4 (03:50):
Oh yeah, so you wouldn't like because I'm One of
the things that I was wondering about is do you
is it like if it's been six months or a year,
but as time goes by, you grow apart, right, even
if you are still amicable, Like if you've been divorced
ten years, you're not going to the hospital for anything.
Speaker 6 (04:09):
I think some would definitely still do it.
Speaker 4 (04:12):
At five years, you're not going like where's the line?
Where If it's the day after the divorce, you might
think like, ah, crap.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Maybe I should go.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
But if you're if you're six months a year into it,
like where's the where's the dividing line?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
And also is there backlash in the family?
Speaker 5 (04:34):
Right?
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Well, I think it depends on how the divorce, you know,
how how the relationship ended, and mine ended terribly, So
there's no way and how I don't even think a
day after I.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Would have would he come see you? Oh my god?
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
As a matter of fact, I've been divorced for twenty
years and I finally had to change my phone number
probably about three years ago because he still kept stalking
and popping up into my life.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
God damn it. I shouldn't have asked. All right, very good,
very good, Thank you, ma'am. Thank you.
Speaker 6 (05:06):
So the new concern is they're coming to you to
see you, but it's not with the best of intentions.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
I guess I am looking at it through the best
of intentions.
Speaker 6 (05:18):
When you are asking about a demarcation line right a
period of time?
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Is that why?
Speaker 6 (05:26):
I feel like both callers have sort of focused on
are we separated or are we divorced?
Speaker 2 (05:31):
No, you're divorced. Yeah, you're divorced.
Speaker 6 (05:37):
So there's almost this like finality to the divorce.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Once you're divorced, I owe you nothing.
Speaker 6 (05:45):
It's not really about owing something to someone.
Speaker 4 (05:48):
My only other question is like, if let's say there's
let's split between twenty and sixty, you have an eighteen
year old kid together, and the eighteen year old kid
is like, Hey, I'm gonna go see If it were me,
I'm gonna go see mom she was in an accident
and I was like and he was like, let's go.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I'm like, I'm not going.
Speaker 5 (06:08):
You wouldn't go even if they were asked by them?
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Does that?
Speaker 6 (06:12):
Why's right? Yeah, that's rough.
Speaker 5 (06:15):
They asked you.
Speaker 7 (06:16):
Yeah, you don't necessarily have to offer up to go.
But if if the eighteen year old says, hey, I'm
going to go see her and will you come with me,
you can't say no to that.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
So what's the demarcation line.
Speaker 5 (06:29):
In terms of age or like if so?
Speaker 4 (06:32):
Now now I haven't I don't even live with my
kid anymore. I'm this is I'm making this scenario up.
My kid's twenty five and you, hey, dad comes different,
come with me to see mom.
Speaker 5 (06:46):
That's different. They're asking you.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
You're twenty five, yeah, but you're thirty.
Speaker 5 (06:50):
They want you to go. It doesn't matter.
Speaker 4 (06:51):
They want to.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Oh yes, yes, yes, no, yeah, I go.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
I could be so so now now now it's a
gram and I'm sixty, sixty nine years old, and my
forty five year old child is like, come with me
to see Grandma, And I'm like, I'm not going.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
I'm sixty nine years old. I'm not gonna go see her.
Speaker 6 (07:14):
It may bother your child less, but it certainly makes
it more interesting when they're requesting you go.
Speaker 5 (07:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (07:23):
It may be one of those things where I'm gonna
ask dad, even though I know what I'll say.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
Well, yeah, but so and you know what I'm gonna say,
So don't ask this.
Speaker 5 (07:29):
Dad's saying now no, but.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Don't put me in that spot. Now, I gotta be
the band.
Speaker 7 (07:36):
You're sixty nine years old, and you know what, that bitch.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
You know what, you grow up, you're an adult. Go
see your mom yourself.
Speaker 6 (07:43):
They're not asking you to go because I gotta.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Go stand in that room. You know, I hate her.
Speaker 6 (07:48):
It almost sounds like at that point forty five and
sixty nine, they're asking you to go because it's just
the right thing to do.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
No, I don't care about her. I've been married to
her in fifteen years.
Speaker 6 (07:59):
Your emotional support now, I know they're not getting it
from you, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
But I have to go because my kid asked, no,
Why is that a rule? You don't have to go.
Speaker 6 (08:09):
We're just telling you it's gonna be awkward.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
So there's gonna be backlash, yes, and then with all
the rest of the family it'll be like, man, Ellie,
it's a real dick. Wouldn't even go see Jackie in
the hospital?
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Oh yeah, yeah, And then I would. I would.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
I would post Sorry I didn't go. We've been divorced
for twenty years.
Speaker 6 (08:25):
I'm not saying you have to bring a new wife.
Are you married at this point?
Speaker 4 (08:29):
No?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
And if and by the way, I wouldn't.
Speaker 4 (08:31):
I wouldn't bring my wife if I was married, I
wouldn't bring my new wife by.
Speaker 6 (08:35):
But there are tons of scenarios where the dynamic is
such that it is the new partner telling the X
you should go.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Well Number one, I told you I would never ever
get married again.
Speaker 6 (08:46):
Forget the child asking the or saying.
Speaker 4 (08:49):
But if I if I got remarried and the new
wife was like, oh gosh, I'm sorry that Jack, let's
go visitor.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
I mean like, you're out a your f in mine,
you know what?
Speaker 4 (08:59):
That that may be the dumbest thing I heard. I
am now twice divorced. I can't be married to you.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Where am I going? Kristen Line three?
Speaker 6 (09:08):
Hi, Yellie in the morning, and what are the grounds
of this separation?
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Oh? She's badass nuts he's done? Yeah, Hi? Who's this?
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Hello? Is this me?
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Yes? It is.
Speaker 5 (09:26):
Hey?
Speaker 1 (09:26):
How you doing? I'm divorced?
Speaker 2 (09:28):
How long have you been divorced?
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (09:31):
Going on sixty years?
Speaker 2 (09:32):
All right?
Speaker 4 (09:33):
And you are never going to visit your ex wife
in the hospital.
Speaker 6 (09:38):
Not a chance?
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Do you guys have a kid?
Speaker 1 (09:43):
I got too?
Speaker 2 (09:44):
How old?
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Twenty seven and twenty three?
Speaker 4 (09:48):
Beautiful dad, Come with me. Mom's in the hospital. She's injured.
Come with me to the hospital.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Now, you old enough to get there on yelling thank you.
Speaker 4 (10:00):
It's like, but by the way, I'm talking to myself.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
All right, very good, thank you sir. Thank you.
Speaker 6 (10:06):
From Facebook. My parents divorced because my father got someone
else pregnant. Okay, my dad still today takes my mom
to doctor's appointments because they are great friends.
Speaker 5 (10:17):
Oh that's nice.
Speaker 6 (10:18):
Wait a minute, they're eighty some years old.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Wait a minute.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
He takes the woman that he cheated on and got
divorced from.
Speaker 7 (10:27):
Well, you know what, I get that he's probably trying.
He's probably still living with Guilda.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 6 (10:35):
That's what it is.
Speaker 4 (10:35):
No, I think I'm with Diana. No, the cheating bothered her,
It didn't bother him. She's the one that was like,
I'm over it. He was always okay with it. He's
okay with this double life.
Speaker 6 (10:50):
No.
Speaker 7 (10:50):
I think he's doing it because it somehow makes him
feel a little bit better.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
No way, yeah, no way. They're in their eighties.
Speaker 7 (10:59):
Yeah, like, I'm I'm still going to take help, take
care of you.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
You know what, if I'm her, I'm like, stop doing
this bad at guilt.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
She'd rather have him take him taker than like some
random uber driver. Yeah, maybe she doesn't driven.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Alo don't want to be a charity case.
Speaker 6 (11:13):
What must have said their great friends?
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Yeah, well they I mean, I don't get that to
begin with. But if it is.
Speaker 6 (11:22):
Caused by you, not you, Elliott, but if you're the
party that may be cheated or did something that that
ultimately led to the divorce, and I know that you
like to point across the room and say, well, they
did it because of that party. Do you then, as
you grow and mature, especially if you're younger, are you
(11:45):
more likely to be that shoulder to lean on because
you realize that you messed up so many years later,
because you're thinking, if you're so many years later, there's
no way there is still right.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
But do you come around so many years later? I
can answer that in two words.
Speaker 4 (12:05):
Hell, no, done is done.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
I don't know, and I'm with that guy. But twenty
seven and twenty three you're grown. Yeah you know what
cut the apron strings?
Speaker 6 (12:21):
Yeah from X, I absolutely would go I've been divorced
for twenty five years. Oh no way, we have an
amicable relationship.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
You could be amicable, but I'm not going to the hospital.
Speaker 6 (12:31):
I am remarried. As well.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
Oh, your spouse wants you to go divorce twice.
Speaker 6 (12:38):
Lisa, it's Elliott. You have to go. It's the right
thing to do.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
Why is that the right thing to do?
Speaker 4 (12:46):
I'm sure I have the people that I've known in
my life that have been in the hospital and I've never.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Gone to see him.
Speaker 6 (12:55):
It wasn't the hospital. But you did skip a funeral recently, Yeah,
oh yeah, I did.
Speaker 5 (13:03):
Yeah, yeah, and uncle right the Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
But I wouldn't close with him.
Speaker 6 (13:08):
But most of your family was there, almost all of them?
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:16):
Line eight, Hi, Elliott the morning, Hey, good morning.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Yes, Hi, you're divorced?
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Uh twice?
Speaker 4 (13:25):
Oh oh did the new spouse want you to go
see the old spouse?
Speaker 1 (13:29):
I'm with you, honey, great, great track record.
Speaker 8 (13:33):
So this is Karen calling from America's most livable community.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
What's up, Nassas.
Speaker 9 (13:38):
Yep.
Speaker 8 (13:39):
So, my my kids are twenty one and twenty five,
and we divorced because my their father couldn't keep it
in his pants. Okay, So we kept it very amicable
for the kid's sake. They were young when we split up,
and to the point where my second husband, who I
(14:01):
divorced last summer, actually asked for his blessing to.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
To marry you.
Speaker 9 (14:11):
Oh my god, yep, because he knew that.
Speaker 5 (14:14):
I know.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
Why.
Speaker 9 (14:21):
Oh you just made my day's hilarioy So but no,
but if but would you go?
Speaker 4 (14:31):
Well yeah, but with your first husband, it sounds like
you would go to the hospital to see it.
Speaker 9 (14:35):
I would, even though my kids are in their twenties.
There's they means you guys, You guys have kids. They're
always your babies.
Speaker 4 (14:43):
Yes, sure, they also have to be adults, and they
also have to be adults.
Speaker 9 (14:49):
They are, and they live independently, they live on their
own like they are fantastic human beings. But if they said, hey,
I want to go dad in the hospital, I would
go for them because they're still my babies.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
Would you go? Would you go for the second one?
Speaker 4 (15:08):
Till?
Speaker 2 (15:11):
Hey, so the first one you said the first one
ended because he cheated?
Speaker 4 (15:15):
Why did the why did the second one end?
Speaker 9 (15:20):
Until it's too much to get that's fine, that's fine.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Yeah, no, and it sounds like it's a bummer. All right,
Very good, very good, Thank you, Happy for the July.
Happy for the July.
Speaker 6 (15:32):
From Aaron M. Barlow.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Oh, if my.
Speaker 6 (15:37):
New husband ever said he needed to go take care
of his ex wife. I'd tell his ass to have fun.
We had a good run. Wait, really he just got
Mary hell no and hell.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Spell the hell no.
Speaker 6 (15:51):
People need therapy and boundaries. And if she's continuing, of course,
stream of consciousness still rant and Kevin and if his
kids said they wanted him to go, they can all
(16:11):
go pound sand together.
Speaker 5 (16:14):
God, she's cold.
Speaker 4 (16:17):
No, she's not, she's she's she's right, Elliott, she's right.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Be an adult again. If they're five, I get it.
But if they're if they're old enough to drive, what
is that saying?
Speaker 3 (16:31):
No?
Speaker 4 (16:32):
Different saying but no, if they're old enough to drive
and get to the hospital themselves.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
They can go on their own.
Speaker 5 (16:37):
Sixteen.
Speaker 6 (16:38):
Yes, So as Aaron and Barlow was Kevin ing christ
and I saw your response pop up where you've told her.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
To preach, preach girls. She's got she's got my Kaplin
praise hands.
Speaker 6 (16:52):
So you're tam Elliott on this one.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
Oh thank you? You knew that? Or no, No, I'm
just I'm reading her lips.
Speaker 6 (16:59):
She seems to be giving me the death stare right,
I wasn't insinuating you weren't.
Speaker 4 (17:05):
Yeah, No, there's no reason to even if it was
amicable and you don't. And if it wasn't amicable, I
mean you don't even have to spend two minutes thinking
about it.
Speaker 6 (17:19):
So you are thinking about it for one hundred and
twenty seconds.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
If it was amicable. Yes, No, I'm just giving people
that opportunity.
Speaker 6 (17:26):
To do I'm not. I'm just trying to say face
because what's the post? You're you're joining Facebook to write what?
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Oh? Oh wait, what was I What was I think.
Speaker 6 (17:34):
About the time since you've been together? Oh wait you
we've been divorced twenty years? Yeah, like your.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
No, but it was succinct. What was my poast?
Speaker 5 (17:46):
It's like a purple background, big font.
Speaker 6 (17:50):
Yeah, you've got three years ago. That's it. L
Hi, this is Mike.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Hey Mike, how are you, sir?
Speaker 3 (00:04):
Hey man?
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Doing pretty good?
Speaker 1 (00:07):
How are you?
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I'm doing great? Thank you Mike.
Speaker 4 (00:08):
You I'm assuming you called because you were you were
married and are now divorced.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
That's correct. How long have also engaged?
Speaker 4 (00:18):
Oh? Congratulations? Congratulations. I hope this is a better one. Hey,
what is how long were you? How long were you
married for?
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Uh?
Speaker 5 (00:27):
Married?
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Thirteen years together? Eighteen?
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Oh wow, that's a good long haul question for you.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
Yes, if your wife was in a workplace accident and had.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
A significant injury to.
Speaker 4 (00:43):
Her leg, would you go to would you go to
the hospital to see her?
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Yeah, I'm your ex wife.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Wait wait wait, wait wait wait oh oh we're already
divorced at that point. Oh yeah, oh no, no.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
No, okay, how long after the divorce?
Speaker 4 (01:04):
Like, if it were a month after the divorce, are
you going to go see her?
Speaker 1 (01:09):
If we were separated, I would go. If we were
actually divorced, You're out. It would be kind of iffy,
but but probably probably out. I mean, SHUFSA moved away,
so that in my specific case, it would have been
a lot harder, right, yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
No, I guess well, yeah, I mean that that's what
you have to go on. I mean for me, it
would just be imagined.
Speaker 5 (01:30):
I think if if you have kids, than you wouldn't
play into it. Why, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
No, I don't have any kids.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Okay, smart, thank you sir.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Yeah, maybe maybe where I guess if they were younger, yeah,
and wanted to go.
Speaker 6 (01:44):
But if they were adults, they can go on their own.
But if they're younger and want to go, someone has
to breathe.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Yeah, no, that's what I mean.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
But like if you're sixteen and could drive, you go
see them.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I don't think there's anything wrong.
Speaker 7 (01:56):
We were talking about like adults, Like if you got
kids in their twenties, you wouldn't go back.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Money, you don't have to go.
Speaker 6 (02:03):
What is the significance of a workplace?
Speaker 4 (02:05):
Yeah, because I wanted to say that if the person
was injured in an accident.
Speaker 5 (02:10):
Like a normal car accident, I.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Think the first thought is that it's a car accident.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
Which it could be. It could be any kind of accident.
I just didn't want it for I just didn't want
it to just be where all of a sudden, you
imagine the worst.
Speaker 6 (02:23):
Well, workplace accidents can be fatal.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
Yeah, I guess so so can car accidents. So I
guess any accident, they're just in the hospital.
Speaker 6 (02:32):
To me, it was as if you were distinguished in between. Oh,
they got hurt during some extreme sport with their new lover.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
No, no, no, no, no, it.
Speaker 6 (02:41):
Was something they were doing when you were with them
and continue to do.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
No. No, it just they were in an accident.
Speaker 6 (02:53):
I feel like some people would certainly expect their ex
to show up.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
You're saying, no, oh no, I no. I do think
that there is some that would expect it. But I
wouldn't go.
Speaker 6 (03:08):
No matter how your relationship, well.
Speaker 4 (03:10):
It ended in divorce, well amicable, but you're still getting divorced.
I'm capable of being friendly and still hating you. Where
am I going? Kristen Line four, Hi.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Elliott in the morning, Good morning, Hi. Who's this? You're divorced? Yes,
if you're well, don't say it like that.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
If your if your husband, if your husband was in
an accident, workplace, car, doesn't matter, would you go see him.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
In the hospital.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Has a divorce?
Speaker 6 (03:47):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Wait, I'm sorry one more time.
Speaker 4 (03:50):
Oh yeah, so you wouldn't like because I'm One of
the things that I was wondering about is do you
is it like if it's been six months or a year,
but as time goes by, you grow apart, right, even
if you are still amicable, Like if you've been divorced
ten years, you're not going to the hospital for anything.
Speaker 6 (04:09):
I think some would definitely still do it.
Speaker 4 (04:12):
At five years, you're not going like where's the line?
Where If it's the day after the divorce, you might
think like, ah, crap.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Maybe I should go.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
But if you're if you're six months a year into it,
like where's the where's the dividing line?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
And also is there backlash in the family?
Speaker 5 (04:34):
Right?
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Well, I think it depends on how the divorce, you know,
how how the relationship ended, and mine ended terribly, So
there's no way and how I don't even think a
day after I.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Would have would he come see you? Oh my god?
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
As a matter of fact, I've been divorced for twenty
years and I finally had to change my phone number
probably about three years ago because he still kept stalking
and popping up into my life.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
God damn it. I shouldn't have asked. All right, very good,
very good, Thank you, ma'am. Thank you.
Speaker 6 (05:06):
So the new concern is they're coming to you to
see you, but it's not with the best of intentions.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
I guess I am looking at it through the best
of intentions.
Speaker 6 (05:18):
When you are asking about a demarcation line right a
period of time?
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Is that why?
Speaker 6 (05:26):
I feel like both callers have sort of focused on
are we separated or are we divorced?
Speaker 2 (05:31):
No, you're divorced. Yeah, you're divorced.
Speaker 6 (05:37):
So there's almost this like finality to the divorce.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Once you're divorced, I owe you nothing.
Speaker 6 (05:45):
It's not really about owing something to someone.
Speaker 4 (05:48):
My only other question is like, if let's say there's
let's split between twenty and sixty, you have an eighteen
year old kid together, and the eighteen year old kid
is like, Hey, I'm gonna go see If it were me,
I'm gonna go see mom she was in an accident
and I was like and he was like, let's go.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I'm like, I'm not going.
Speaker 5 (06:08):
You wouldn't go even if they were asked by them?
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Does that?
Speaker 6 (06:12):
Why's right? Yeah, that's rough.
Speaker 5 (06:15):
They asked you.
Speaker 7 (06:16):
Yeah, you don't necessarily have to offer up to go.
But if if the eighteen year old says, hey, I'm
going to go see her and will you come with me,
you can't say no to that.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
So what's the demarcation line.
Speaker 5 (06:29):
In terms of age or like if so?
Speaker 4 (06:32):
Now now I haven't I don't even live with my
kid anymore. I'm this is I'm making this scenario up.
My kid's twenty five and you, hey, dad comes different,
come with me to see mom.
Speaker 5 (06:46):
That's different. They're asking you.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
You're twenty five, yeah, but you're thirty.
Speaker 5 (06:50):
They want you to go. It doesn't matter.
Speaker 4 (06:51):
They want to.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Oh yes, yes, yes, no, yeah, I go.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
I could be so so now now now it's a
gram and I'm sixty, sixty nine years old, and my
forty five year old child is like, come with me
to see Grandma, And I'm like, I'm not going.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
I'm sixty nine years old. I'm not gonna go see her.
Speaker 6 (07:14):
It may bother your child less, but it certainly makes
it more interesting when they're requesting you go.
Speaker 5 (07:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (07:23):
It may be one of those things where I'm gonna
ask dad, even though I know what I'll say.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
Well, yeah, but so and you know what I'm gonna say,
So don't ask this.
Speaker 5 (07:29):
Dad's saying now no, but.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Don't put me in that spot. Now, I gotta be
the band.
Speaker 7 (07:36):
You're sixty nine years old, and you know what, that bitch.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
You know what, you grow up, you're an adult. Go
see your mom yourself.
Speaker 6 (07:43):
They're not asking you to go because I gotta.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Go stand in that room. You know, I hate her.
Speaker 6 (07:48):
It almost sounds like at that point forty five and
sixty nine, they're asking you to go because it's just
the right thing to do.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
No, I don't care about her. I've been married to
her in fifteen years.
Speaker 6 (07:59):
Your emotional support now, I know they're not getting it
from you, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
But I have to go because my kid asked, no,
Why is that a rule? You don't have to go.
Speaker 6 (08:09):
We're just telling you it's gonna be awkward.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
So there's gonna be backlash, yes, and then with all
the rest of the family it'll be like, man, Ellie,
it's a real dick. Wouldn't even go see Jackie in
the hospital?
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Oh yeah, yeah, And then I would. I would.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
I would post Sorry I didn't go. We've been divorced
for twenty years.
Speaker 6 (08:25):
I'm not saying you have to bring a new wife.
Are you married at this point?
Speaker 4 (08:29):
No?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
And if and by the way, I wouldn't.
Speaker 4 (08:31):
I wouldn't bring my wife if I was married, I
wouldn't bring my new wife by.
Speaker 6 (08:35):
But there are tons of scenarios where the dynamic is
such that it is the new partner telling the X
you should go.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Well Number one, I told you I would never ever
get married again.
Speaker 6 (08:46):
Forget the child asking the or saying.
Speaker 4 (08:49):
But if I if I got remarried and the new
wife was like, oh gosh, I'm sorry that Jack, let's
go visitor.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
I mean like, you're out a your f in mine,
you know what?
Speaker 4 (08:59):
That that may be the dumbest thing I heard. I
am now twice divorced. I can't be married to you.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Where am I going? Kristen Line three?
Speaker 6 (09:08):
Hi, Yellie in the morning, and what are the grounds
of this separation?
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Oh? She's badass nuts he's done? Yeah, Hi? Who's this?
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Hello? Is this me?
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Yes? It is.
Speaker 5 (09:26):
Hey?
Speaker 1 (09:26):
How you doing? I'm divorced?
Speaker 2 (09:28):
How long have you been divorced?
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (09:31):
Going on sixty years?
Speaker 2 (09:32):
All right?
Speaker 4 (09:33):
And you are never going to visit your ex wife
in the hospital.
Speaker 6 (09:38):
Not a chance?
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Do you guys have a kid?
Speaker 1 (09:43):
I got too?
Speaker 2 (09:44):
How old?
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Twenty seven and twenty three?
Speaker 4 (09:48):
Beautiful dad, Come with me. Mom's in the hospital. She's injured.
Come with me to the hospital.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Now, you old enough to get there on yelling thank you.
Speaker 4 (10:00):
It's like, but by the way, I'm talking to myself.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
All right, very good, thank you sir. Thank you.
Speaker 6 (10:06):
From Facebook. My parents divorced because my father got someone
else pregnant. Okay, my dad still today takes my mom
to doctor's appointments because they are great friends.
Speaker 5 (10:17):
Oh that's nice.
Speaker 6 (10:18):
Wait a minute, they're eighty some years old.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Wait a minute.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
He takes the woman that he cheated on and got
divorced from.
Speaker 7 (10:27):
Well, you know what, I get that he's probably trying.
He's probably still living with Guilda.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 6 (10:35):
That's what it is.
Speaker 4 (10:35):
No, I think I'm with Diana. No, the cheating bothered her,
It didn't bother him. She's the one that was like,
I'm over it. He was always okay with it. He's
okay with this double life.
Speaker 6 (10:50):
No.
Speaker 7 (10:50):
I think he's doing it because it somehow makes him
feel a little bit better.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
No way, yeah, no way. They're in their eighties.
Speaker 7 (10:59):
Yeah, like, I'm I'm still going to take help, take
care of you.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
You know what, if I'm her, I'm like, stop doing
this bad at guilt.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
She'd rather have him take him taker than like some
random uber driver. Yeah, maybe she doesn't driven.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Alo don't want to be a charity case.
Speaker 6 (11:13):
What must have said their great friends?
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Yeah, well they I mean, I don't get that to
begin with. But if it is.
Speaker 6 (11:22):
Caused by you, not you, Elliott, but if you're the
party that may be cheated or did something that that
ultimately led to the divorce, and I know that you
like to point across the room and say, well, they
did it because of that party. Do you then, as
you grow and mature, especially if you're younger, are you
(11:45):
more likely to be that shoulder to lean on because
you realize that you messed up so many years later,
because you're thinking, if you're so many years later, there's
no way there is still right.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
But do you come around so many years later? I
can answer that in two words.
Speaker 4 (12:05):
Hell, no, done is done.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
I don't know, and I'm with that guy. But twenty
seven and twenty three you're grown. Yeah you know what
cut the apron strings?
Speaker 6 (12:21):
Yeah from X, I absolutely would go I've been divorced
for twenty five years. Oh no way, we have an
amicable relationship.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
You could be amicable, but I'm not going to the hospital.
Speaker 6 (12:31):
I am remarried. As well.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
Oh, your spouse wants you to go divorce twice.
Speaker 6 (12:38):
Lisa, it's Elliott. You have to go. It's the right
thing to do.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
Why is that the right thing to do?
Speaker 4 (12:46):
I'm sure I have the people that I've known in
my life that have been in the hospital and I've never.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Gone to see him.
Speaker 6 (12:55):
It wasn't the hospital. But you did skip a funeral recently, Yeah,
oh yeah, I did.
Speaker 5 (13:03):
Yeah, yeah, and uncle right the Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
But I wouldn't close with him.
Speaker 6 (13:08):
But most of your family was there, almost all of them?
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:16):
Line eight, Hi, Elliott the morning, Hey, good morning.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Yes, Hi, you're divorced?
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Uh twice?
Speaker 4 (13:25):
Oh oh did the new spouse want you to go
see the old spouse?
Speaker 1 (13:29):
I'm with you, honey, great, great track record.
Speaker 8 (13:33):
So this is Karen calling from America's most livable community.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
What's up, Nassas.
Speaker 9 (13:38):
Yep.
Speaker 8 (13:39):
So, my my kids are twenty one and twenty five,
and we divorced because my their father couldn't keep it
in his pants. Okay, So we kept it very amicable
for the kid's sake. They were young when we split up,
and to the point where my second husband, who I
(14:01):
divorced last summer, actually asked for his blessing to.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
To marry you.
Speaker 9 (14:11):
Oh my god, yep, because he knew that.
Speaker 5 (14:14):
I know.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
Why.
Speaker 9 (14:21):
Oh you just made my day's hilarioy So but no,
but if but would you go?
Speaker 4 (14:31):
Well yeah, but with your first husband, it sounds like
you would go to the hospital to see it.
Speaker 9 (14:35):
I would, even though my kids are in their twenties.
There's they means you guys, You guys have kids. They're
always your babies.
Speaker 4 (14:43):
Yes, sure, they also have to be adults, and they
also have to be adults.
Speaker 9 (14:49):
They are, and they live independently, they live on their
own like they are fantastic human beings. But if they said, hey,
I want to go dad in the hospital, I would
go for them because they're still my babies.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
Would you go? Would you go for the second one?
Speaker 4 (15:08):
Till?
Speaker 2 (15:11):
Hey, so the first one you said the first one
ended because he cheated?
Speaker 4 (15:15):
Why did the why did the second one end?
Speaker 9 (15:20):
Until it's too much to get that's fine, that's fine.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Yeah, no, and it sounds like it's a bummer. All right,
Very good, very good, Thank you, Happy for the July.
Happy for the July.
Speaker 6 (15:32):
From Aaron M. Barlow.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Oh, if my.
Speaker 6 (15:37):
New husband ever said he needed to go take care
of his ex wife. I'd tell his ass to have fun.
We had a good run. Wait, really he just got
Mary hell no and hell.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Spell the hell no.
Speaker 6 (15:51):
People need therapy and boundaries. And if she's continuing, of course,
stream of consciousness still rant and Kevin and if his
kids said they wanted him to go, they can all
(16:11):
go pound sand together.
Speaker 5 (16:14):
God, she's cold.
Speaker 4 (16:17):
No, she's not, she's she's she's right, Elliott, she's right.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Be an adult again. If they're five, I get it.
But if they're if they're old enough to drive, what
is that saying?
Speaker 3 (16:31):
No?
Speaker 4 (16:32):
Different saying but no, if they're old enough to drive
and get to the hospital themselves.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
They can go on their own.
Speaker 5 (16:37):
Sixteen.
Speaker 6 (16:38):
Yes, So as Aaron and Barlow was Kevin ing christ
and I saw your response pop up where you've told her.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
To preach, preach girls. She's got she's got my Kaplin
praise hands.
Speaker 6 (16:52):
So you're tam Elliott on this one.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
Oh thank you? You knew that? Or no, No, I'm
just I'm reading her lips.
Speaker 6 (16:59):
She seems to be giving me the death stare right,
I wasn't insinuating you weren't.
Speaker 4 (17:05):
Yeah, No, there's no reason to even if it was
amicable and you don't. And if it wasn't amicable, I
mean you don't even have to spend two minutes thinking
about it.
Speaker 6 (17:19):
So you are thinking about it for one hundred and
twenty seconds.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
If it was amicable. Yes, No, I'm just giving people
that opportunity.
Speaker 6 (17:26):
To do I'm not. I'm just trying to say face
because what's the post? You're you're joining Facebook to write what?
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Oh? Oh wait, what was I What was I think.
Speaker 6 (17:34):
About the time since you've been together? Oh wait you
we've been divorced twenty years? Yeah, like your.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
No, but it was succinct. What was my poast?
Speaker 5 (17:46):
It's like a purple background, big font.
Speaker 6 (17:50):
Yeah, you've got three years ago. That's it. L
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