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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Just one of seven One it's time to make a
date or break on tip in the morning.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
H Hi, we do this on Tuesdays.
Speaker 3 (00:07):
Let me introduce you to this part of the show.
If you're like, wait a minute, I'm just kind of
getting back into my regular routine, remind me of what
this is again. It's where relationships and therapy come together
on my show every Tuesday. Lori Sharpage is our licensed
clinical counselor really nothing has ever stumped you before questions
wise when it comes to relationships.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Oh, I love them all, bring them on.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
And then if you guys don't have questions, you're more
than welcome to hit us up on any of our
platform's phone line, Instagram, talk back, whatever is easiest for you,
especially if you want to remain anonymous. She brings something
to the table usually every week, regarding something that's coming
up in her office.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
You know, what's something that you've seen trending.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
What is the one thing you can do every day
for six seconds to make your relationship better dating or married?
Speaker 1 (00:51):
It is a long kiss, a very intentional kiss to
connect with your partner for at least six seconds. And
what this does is number one, It creates a connection
obviously physically, but it also it releases neurotransmitters, things like oxytocin,
which is also known as the trust hormone. So it
(01:12):
is a way to not only take that time to
connect with the person, but also remind your brain to
be continually building that relationship and that intimacy.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Kissing is one of my favorite things to do in
a relationship. Let's just see what six seconds feels like. Okay,
here we go, I'm gonna time this. This is this
is essentially six seconds. Okay mm hmmmmmmmmm six So if
you do that how many times a day?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
It only wants at least once a day.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah, I mean obviously more is not gonna hurt you,
but at least once a day. And the idea is
that it reconnects us and it helps us to you know,
keep that trust and that spark alive, which honestly does
take work. A lot of times people think it's just
something that happens. No, we have in our relationships to
keep them at this level of quality. All right, make
a date or break is the keyword.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
You're gonna need like ten or so minutes to win
those Megan Trainer tickets. So if you want to hang out.
Coming up next, if we got a DM from somebody
that is nervous about this one thing, that will I'm
gonna get your take on this. Hopefully we can help them.
Right after Shaan Kinkston shut out, good morning. You're waking
up with TIF in the morning on Kiss one oh
(02:25):
seven one. If you're nervous to do this one thing
for the first time with your partner, don't go far.
You're gonna need the keyword. I'll repeat it one more time.
It's make a date or break for your chance to
win those Megan Trainer tickets coming up like around eight
forty ish.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
We're not far off from it.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Laurie Sharpage Hi Hi is our licensed clinical counselor nothing is.
I mean, nothing's ever stumped you as far as like
weird relationship questions or dating things. She comes to the
show every Tuesday to help us out, help you out.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
She's helped me out, She's helped out.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Hundreds of Cincinnati and so I'm going to read a
message that we got and I would like your honest.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Take on this one.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Okay, I've been seeing this woman for about six months
and she's amazing because of our work schedules. We don't
get to spend as much time as I'd like together,
but we see each other once or twice every couple
of weeks.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
She's impressive. I really think I'm falling for her.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
So when we get together, I find myself being overly
nervous about when we're going to be intimate.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
For the first time together.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
I'm sometimes so nervous that I worry that I'm not
going to be able to perform my best. How can
I learn to relax a little bit so I can
enjoy it?
Speaker 2 (03:38):
That is, Oh, sid my gosh, A good question. Girls
go through it. Yeah, yeah, and it's hard.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
I mean, so, first of all, I can tell they
really like this person because they are very aware that
once you take that next step into intimacy, things change
and it is kind of the wild wild West, so
to speak. But one of the things, the things I
really want to be clear on is the more that
we're anxious about something, the more we avoid it because
of that anxiety, the more the anxiety builds. So in
(04:06):
some ways, one of the best things to do is
not to rush yourself into it. But no, where is
that line where you're just kind of continuing to make
yourself anxious and getting further away from the goal. I
think one thing to do is to take the pressure off.
You know, but it's so easy to say, but you can't.
It feels so hard to control your nerves in that
situ is And I think one thing to do to
(04:28):
take the pressure off is to not try to imagine it.
And that's hard when we're talking about something as exciting
as this, But try not to spend a lot of
time in your head imagining it if it makes you anxious. Instead,
do things to ground you in the present moment when
you're with that person. So one thing you can do
if you find yourself in your head really really anxious
about stuff is to get attuned to the present moment.
(04:49):
So one quick thing you can do is you can
look for five things you see, four things you hear,
three things you smell, two things you feel on your skin,
and one thing you taste. And by doing and taking
yourself through that exercise in the present moment, it grounds
you back into what you're doing in that moment and
takes you.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Out of your head.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
So I would really encourage him to try and get
out of his head, try and get grounded in the
present moment and to really focus on enjoying that time
since they don't get a lot of time together, and
take the pressure off with the visualization of what this
could look like or what this might be.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Let me say this right now too, there is no
way that she's not feeling that same sort of anxiety
and nervous, especially if you start to like someone. Yeah,
and there's no alcohol involved. This isn't one of those
things that you just did in the middle of the
night because you pick someone up at the you know,
down in OTR Like, yeah, this is someone that you have,
you care about, and she's definitely feeling it in the
(05:43):
same way.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
For sure.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
It sounds like this is something that's building and that's
very exciting.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
But also remember that, like, you're not going.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
To stay perfect together the first time. It's going to
take time. So really be compassionate with yourself and each
other on this one. But also don't just stick in
your head and make yourself anxious because you'll get farther
away from that goal.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Yeah, that's a good piece of advice. Don't imagine it happening, okay.
Lori's sharp Page is our licensed clinical counselor at the
coping Queen on social media is a great way. If
you're like I just don't I don't think I can
do the radio. I just don't think I have it
in me, you can hit her up. You already know
my page too, and again we try to keep you
anonymous if you want it, Lori Sharp, Shall we do page?
(06:24):
Should we do the tickets? Yes we shall. You are
I cannot announce the keyword anymore. Okay, you cannot do that,
But your chance to win the Megan Train, your tickets
coming up next
Just one of seven One it's time to make a
date or break on tip in the morning.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
H Hi, we do this on Tuesdays.
Speaker 3 (00:07):
Let me introduce you to this part of the show.
If you're like, wait a minute, I'm just kind of
getting back into my regular routine, remind me of what
this is again. It's where relationships and therapy come together
on my show every Tuesday. Lori Sharpage is our licensed
clinical counselor really nothing has ever stumped you before questions
wise when it comes to relationships.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Oh, I love them all, bring them on.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
And then if you guys don't have questions, you're more
than welcome to hit us up on any of our
platform's phone line, Instagram, talk back, whatever is easiest for you,
especially if you want to remain anonymous. She brings something
to the table usually every week, regarding something that's coming
up in her office.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
You know, what's something that you've seen trending.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
What is the one thing you can do every day
for six seconds to make your relationship better dating or married?
Speaker 1 (00:51):
It is a long kiss, a very intentional kiss to
connect with your partner for at least six seconds. And
what this does is number one, It creates a connection
obviously physically, but it also it releases neurotransmitters, things like oxytocin,
which is also known as the trust hormone. So it
(01:12):
is a way to not only take that time to
connect with the person, but also remind your brain to
be continually building that relationship and that intimacy.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Kissing is one of my favorite things to do in
a relationship. Let's just see what six seconds feels like. Okay,
here we go, I'm gonna time this. This is this
is essentially six seconds. Okay mm hmmmmmmmmm six So if
you do that how many times a day?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
It only wants at least once a day.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah, I mean obviously more is not gonna hurt you,
but at least once a day. And the idea is
that it reconnects us and it helps us to you know,
keep that trust and that spark alive, which honestly does
take work. A lot of times people think it's just
something that happens. No, we have in our relationships to
keep them at this level of quality. All right, make
a date or break is the keyword.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
You're gonna need like ten or so minutes to win
those Megan Trainer tickets. So if you want to hang out.
Coming up next, if we got a DM from somebody
that is nervous about this one thing, that will I'm
gonna get your take on this. Hopefully we can help them.
Right after Shaan Kinkston shut out, good morning. You're waking
up with TIF in the morning on Kiss one oh
(02:25):
seven one. If you're nervous to do this one thing
for the first time with your partner, don't go far.
You're gonna need the keyword. I'll repeat it one more time.
It's make a date or break for your chance to
win those Megan Trainer tickets coming up like around eight
forty ish.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
We're not far off from it.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Laurie Sharpage Hi Hi is our licensed clinical counselor nothing is.
I mean, nothing's ever stumped you as far as like
weird relationship questions or dating things. She comes to the
show every Tuesday to help us out, help you out.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
She's helped me out, She's helped out.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Hundreds of Cincinnati and so I'm going to read a
message that we got and I would like your honest.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Take on this one.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Okay, I've been seeing this woman for about six months
and she's amazing because of our work schedules. We don't
get to spend as much time as I'd like together,
but we see each other once or twice every couple
of weeks.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
She's impressive. I really think I'm falling for her.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
So when we get together, I find myself being overly
nervous about when we're going to be intimate.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
For the first time together.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
I'm sometimes so nervous that I worry that I'm not
going to be able to perform my best. How can
I learn to relax a little bit so I can
enjoy it?
Speaker 2 (03:38):
That is, Oh, sid my gosh, A good question. Girls
go through it. Yeah, yeah, and it's hard.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
I mean, so, first of all, I can tell they
really like this person because they are very aware that
once you take that next step into intimacy, things change
and it is kind of the wild wild West, so
to speak. But one of the things, the things I
really want to be clear on is the more that
we're anxious about something, the more we avoid it because
of that anxiety, the more the anxiety builds. So in
(04:06):
some ways, one of the best things to do is
not to rush yourself into it. But no, where is
that line where you're just kind of continuing to make
yourself anxious and getting further away from the goal. I
think one thing to do is to take the pressure off.
You know, but it's so easy to say, but you can't.
It feels so hard to control your nerves in that
situ is And I think one thing to do to
(04:28):
take the pressure off is to not try to imagine it.
And that's hard when we're talking about something as exciting
as this, But try not to spend a lot of
time in your head imagining it if it makes you anxious. Instead,
do things to ground you in the present moment when
you're with that person. So one thing you can do
if you find yourself in your head really really anxious
about stuff is to get attuned to the present moment.
(04:49):
So one quick thing you can do is you can
look for five things you see, four things you hear,
three things you smell, two things you feel on your skin,
and one thing you taste. And by doing and taking
yourself through that exercise in the present moment, it grounds
you back into what you're doing in that moment and
takes you.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Out of your head.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
So I would really encourage him to try and get
out of his head, try and get grounded in the
present moment and to really focus on enjoying that time
since they don't get a lot of time together, and
take the pressure off with the visualization of what this
could look like or what this might be.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Let me say this right now too, there is no
way that she's not feeling that same sort of anxiety
and nervous, especially if you start to like someone. Yeah,
and there's no alcohol involved. This isn't one of those
things that you just did in the middle of the
night because you pick someone up at the you know,
down in OTR Like, yeah, this is someone that you have,
you care about, and she's definitely feeling it in the
(05:43):
same way.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
For sure.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
It sounds like this is something that's building and that's
very exciting.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
But also remember that, like, you're not going.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
To stay perfect together the first time. It's going to
take time. So really be compassionate with yourself and each
other on this one. But also don't just stick in
your head and make yourself anxious because you'll get farther
away from that goal.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Yeah, that's a good piece of advice. Don't imagine it happening, okay.
Lori's sharp Page is our licensed clinical counselor at the
coping Queen on social media is a great way. If
you're like I just don't I don't think I can
do the radio. I just don't think I have it
in me, you can hit her up. You already know
my page too, and again we try to keep you
anonymous if you want it, Lori Sharp, Shall we do page?
(06:24):
Should we do the tickets? Yes we shall. You are
I cannot announce the keyword anymore. Okay, you cannot do that,
But your chance to win the Megan Train, your tickets
coming up next
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