September 8, 2026 • 8 mins
Getting ghosted once? Understandable. FIVE times??? That's a trend.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The next segment we're going to do is called Second
Date Update because that's what we're going to try and get,
and that's what the bit is called.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Second Date Update starts right now on John Jay and Rick.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
All right, we're getting ready for Second Date Update. We're
going to find out. Whoa, Sierra, clear your throat on
the air. Hi, you're on the air. Good morning, Sierra.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hi, sorry.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
It's okay.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
It's okay. You've got a lot going on. So what's happening?
What would you tell us about your date?
Speaker 1 (00:27):
So.
Speaker 4 (00:29):
I just, like, want your guys' help because I've been
on five first dates this month and I keep getting
ghosted by guys. Like, I've literally gotten ghosted by all
of them. And I don't, like, I'm starting to think
maybe I'm the issue.
Speaker 5 (00:47):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
But this most recent guy, like, we were talking on
Instagram and And we went out on a date and
I thought it was a lot of fun. And I
haven't heard back from him. He, like, didn't even give
me his number until we were on the date. And I've, like,
(01:10):
texted him a couple times. And then I also messaged
him on Instagram. And I haven't heard anything back from him.
And I'm just, like, so over it.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Is he reading your messages on Instagram? Like, you know
how on Instagram someone opens it, it says, like, that
they saw it? Or is he completely ghosting you?
Speaker 4 (01:33):
No, he hasn't opened them. It's like, yeah, he's completely ghosted.
I haven't heard anything.
Speaker 6 (01:41):
I feel like, John Jay, you would be like, maybe
they're all deathly ill.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
All five of the ghosters. They're lined up at the
same hospital, just in the emergency room.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
All of them.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
Yeah, maybe I'm cursing all these guys. I don't know.
Speaker 6 (01:56):
I mean, five dates for this to happen to you.
I feel like that's so brutal. I feel so bad
for you.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
She sounds defeated, too. I mean, I get it. I
would be. Even if you don't get to go on
another date with this guy, if that's even what you
want to do. But just to know, like, what's going
on here? Because I would definitely be looking in.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
The mirror, too.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
Well, sure.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
But, you know, it's also kind of the culture. It's
not her culture. It's just that people don't know how
to behave their butts.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Yeah, men can't communicate, so they just ghost.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Is that what you're saying?
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Yeah, I don't know. I'll call her if I want
to see her again. And she's just gotten a few
of those in a row. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
So, shall we call?
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (02:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (02:28):
Give us some names, Sierra.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Tyler.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Tyler. Okay. Hold on the line, okay? We're going to
get Tyler on the phone. We're going to find out
why he's blowing you off, okay?
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
John Jay and Rich. We are like a whole bunch.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
All right.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
We are in the middle of Second Aid Update. Sierra
and Tyler? Poor Sierra.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Five times. She's been ghosted by five guys in a
month in her dating life. And she's starting to wonder,
am I the problem?
Speaker 3 (02:54):
Is it me?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
But she went out with Tyler and had a great date.
The conversation was flowing. The connection was happening. Now she's
messaged him. She didn't even have his number until the date.
And he's not answering. He's ghosting her too.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
What's the deal? You know what's funny, Sierra, is you
went out with five guys in one month and they
all ghosted you, right?
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:19):
It's funny.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
If you actually went to the five guys restaurant and
they didn't wait on you. And then I go to
five guys and they wouldn't take my order.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Come on.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
What is the deal? Hey, and how come out of
the five guys, why is Tyler the one you want
to talk to? How come you don't want to have
us call any of the other ones?
Speaker 2 (03:35):
I mean.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
I don't know. I had a fun date with him,
but also I think I'm just kind of at the
end of my line of getting ghosted right now. And
I just want to ask if there was something about
me or why did he ghost me?
Speaker 3 (03:52):
We could get all five guys on the phone at
one time on speaker and then be like, hold on, guys.
You all went on a date with this girl. Why
don't you like her? But all right. Hold on a second. Dylan,
did you get Tyler on the phone? Not quite. I
have Danae on the line. She'll fill you in. Danae?
All right, Sarah, you chill for a second.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Hold on.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
Hold on a second.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Danae?
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Yes, hi.
Speaker 5 (04:16):
Hi.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
You're cool jumping on the radio with us real quick?
Speaker 6 (04:19):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Oh, we were looking for Tyler.
Speaker 5 (04:22):
Well, you didn't get Tyler. Tyler is my little brother.
And this is my number that he gives out to girls.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Okay. Why would he do that?
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Oh, God.
Speaker 5 (04:39):
I did not ever expect this to escalate this far.
So when he goes on dates, if it's not going well,
if it's not a situation he's really into, he gives
them my number so that they don't have any way
to contact him afterwards.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
How rude.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
I have had so many girls call me and text me.
And I mean, I've gotten cussed out. And meanwhile, he
just blocks them on Instagram and he just moves on
with his life.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Oh.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Well, we have one of those girls. So we do
a radio show and one of those girls called us.
And she was so bummed out that Tyler's ghosted her
that she asked us to track him down. So that's
what we're doing. So say please say hi to Sierra.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
Hi, Sierra. So you're his sister?
Speaker 5 (05:29):
Girl, yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Hi.
Speaker 5 (05:34):
So, what?
Speaker 4 (05:35):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (05:38):
He's not worth tracking down. Yeah, he's not worth it.
It's not, this is, he is He's tragically unable to
communicate and he is not worth it. I promise you,
he is not worth your time.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Why would you let him give you or let him
use your phone number? You don't want to go through
deal with his mess.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I do not.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
He is.
Speaker 5 (06:03):
But he is my little brother. And apparently I am
running customer service for his dating life.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
I have him to stop. Well, Sierra's great. Do you
have any guys that you can hook her up with?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Right. Maybe another brother that doesn't do.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
What your other brother did.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
She cared enough to call us to find out what happened,
and she sounds sweet as she can be.
Speaker 5 (06:22):
Yeah. And, Sierra, I'm telling you, he is not worth it.
This is a dead end. It's a cul-de-sac to nowhere.
There's nothing. You don't want to get involved with him.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
He's a mess.
Speaker 5 (06:37):
I'm hoping someday.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
No problem. I think she's sold on not going out
with him again.
Speaker 6 (06:41):
I feel like maybe that we did. For a second,
I was thinking, oh, man, we didn't really get Sierra
any answers. I think maybe we do. And I think
maybe Sierra's got a bad man picker.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
Well, yeah, because today, you don't need to know all this,
but the last four guys before Todd ghosted her, too.
Speaker 5 (06:59):
Oh, well, I can't speak for the other four.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Right. What we can do is we'll just hang up
with you and then, Sierra, let's go. We'll just go next.
We'll call them all, Sierra.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
I mean, she's open to dating and putting herself out there.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
That's a good thing. I feel bad for Sierra. She
didn't get any answers. She's getting ghosted by everybody. But, Sierra,
we didn't ghost you.
Speaker 5 (07:18):
You didn't.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
Thank you. I mean, did he say anything about why
he wasn't into me or... I don't know.
Speaker 5 (07:28):
This is his process, Sierra. Do not take it personal.
Do not take it personal. He is an immature, unable
to communicate, not worth your time. He saw your DM.
He hit block. That is his process. Delete him. He
dodged a bullet.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Okay. Hey, today, thank you for taking the time to
jump on there with us. Really appreciate it. Thank you.
Speaker 5 (07:50):
Thank you. Thank you.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
Sierra, sorry we didn't get you answers. If you want
to try another guy, we can help.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
I'll hit you guys up.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
Well, whenever you're ready, use those.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
No.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Okay. Good luck to you.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
All right.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
That's sucking it up at you guys. John Jane rich.
The next segment we're going to do is called Second
Date Update because that's what we're going to try and get,
and that's what the bit is called.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Second Date Update starts right now on John Jay and Rick.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
All right, we're getting ready for Second Date Update. We're
going to find out. Whoa, Sierra, clear your throat on
the air. Hi, you're on the air. Good morning, Sierra.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hi, sorry.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
It's okay.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
It's okay. You've got a lot going on. So what's happening?
What would you tell us about your date?
Speaker 1 (00:27):
So.
Speaker 4 (00:29):
I just, like, want your guys' help because I've been
on five first dates this month and I keep getting
ghosted by guys. Like, I've literally gotten ghosted by all
of them. And I don't, like, I'm starting to think
maybe I'm the issue.
Speaker 5 (00:47):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
But this most recent guy, like, we were talking on
Instagram and And we went out on a date and
I thought it was a lot of fun. And I
haven't heard back from him. He, like, didn't even give
me his number until we were on the date. And I've, like,
(01:10):
texted him a couple times. And then I also messaged
him on Instagram. And I haven't heard anything back from him.
And I'm just, like, so over it.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Is he reading your messages on Instagram? Like, you know
how on Instagram someone opens it, it says, like, that
they saw it? Or is he completely ghosting you?
Speaker 4 (01:33):
No, he hasn't opened them. It's like, yeah, he's completely ghosted.
I haven't heard anything.
Speaker 6 (01:41):
I feel like, John Jay, you would be like, maybe
they're all deathly ill.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
All five of the ghosters. They're lined up at the
same hospital, just in the emergency room.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
All of them.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
Yeah, maybe I'm cursing all these guys. I don't know.
Speaker 6 (01:56):
I mean, five dates for this to happen to you.
I feel like that's so brutal. I feel so bad
for you.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
She sounds defeated, too. I mean, I get it. I
would be. Even if you don't get to go on
another date with this guy, if that's even what you
want to do. But just to know, like, what's going
on here? Because I would definitely be looking in.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
The mirror, too.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
Well, sure.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
But, you know, it's also kind of the culture. It's
not her culture. It's just that people don't know how
to behave their butts.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Yeah, men can't communicate, so they just ghost.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Is that what you're saying?
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Yeah, I don't know. I'll call her if I want
to see her again. And she's just gotten a few
of those in a row. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
So, shall we call?
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (02:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (02:28):
Give us some names, Sierra.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Tyler.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Tyler. Okay. Hold on the line, okay? We're going to
get Tyler on the phone. We're going to find out
why he's blowing you off, okay?
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
John Jay and Rich. We are like a whole bunch.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
All right.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
We are in the middle of Second Aid Update. Sierra
and Tyler? Poor Sierra.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Five times. She's been ghosted by five guys in a
month in her dating life. And she's starting to wonder,
am I the problem?
Speaker 3 (02:54):
Is it me?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
But she went out with Tyler and had a great date.
The conversation was flowing. The connection was happening. Now she's
messaged him. She didn't even have his number until the date.
And he's not answering. He's ghosting her too.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
What's the deal? You know what's funny, Sierra, is you
went out with five guys in one month and they
all ghosted you, right?
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:19):
It's funny.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
If you actually went to the five guys restaurant and
they didn't wait on you. And then I go to
five guys and they wouldn't take my order.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Come on.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
What is the deal? Hey, and how come out of
the five guys, why is Tyler the one you want
to talk to? How come you don't want to have
us call any of the other ones?
Speaker 2 (03:35):
I mean.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
I don't know. I had a fun date with him,
but also I think I'm just kind of at the
end of my line of getting ghosted right now. And
I just want to ask if there was something about
me or why did he ghost me?
Speaker 3 (03:52):
We could get all five guys on the phone at
one time on speaker and then be like, hold on, guys.
You all went on a date with this girl. Why
don't you like her? But all right. Hold on a second. Dylan,
did you get Tyler on the phone? Not quite. I
have Danae on the line. She'll fill you in. Danae?
All right, Sarah, you chill for a second.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Hold on.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
Hold on a second.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Danae?
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Yes, hi.
Speaker 5 (04:16):
Hi.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
You're cool jumping on the radio with us real quick?
Speaker 6 (04:19):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Oh, we were looking for Tyler.
Speaker 5 (04:22):
Well, you didn't get Tyler. Tyler is my little brother.
And this is my number that he gives out to girls.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Okay. Why would he do that?
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Oh, God.
Speaker 5 (04:39):
I did not ever expect this to escalate this far.
So when he goes on dates, if it's not going well,
if it's not a situation he's really into, he gives
them my number so that they don't have any way
to contact him afterwards.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
How rude.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
I have had so many girls call me and text me.
And I mean, I've gotten cussed out. And meanwhile, he
just blocks them on Instagram and he just moves on
with his life.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Oh.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Well, we have one of those girls. So we do
a radio show and one of those girls called us.
And she was so bummed out that Tyler's ghosted her
that she asked us to track him down. So that's
what we're doing. So say please say hi to Sierra.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
Hi, Sierra. So you're his sister?
Speaker 5 (05:29):
Girl, yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Hi.
Speaker 5 (05:34):
So, what?
Speaker 4 (05:35):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (05:38):
He's not worth tracking down. Yeah, he's not worth it.
It's not, this is, he is He's tragically unable to
communicate and he is not worth it. I promise you,
he is not worth your time.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Why would you let him give you or let him
use your phone number? You don't want to go through
deal with his mess.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I do not.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
He is.
Speaker 5 (06:03):
But he is my little brother. And apparently I am
running customer service for his dating life.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
I have him to stop. Well, Sierra's great. Do you
have any guys that you can hook her up with?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Right. Maybe another brother that doesn't do.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
What your other brother did.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
She cared enough to call us to find out what happened,
and she sounds sweet as she can be.
Speaker 5 (06:22):
Yeah. And, Sierra, I'm telling you, he is not worth it.
This is a dead end. It's a cul-de-sac to nowhere.
There's nothing. You don't want to get involved with him.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
He's a mess.
Speaker 5 (06:37):
I'm hoping someday.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
No problem. I think she's sold on not going out
with him again.
Speaker 6 (06:41):
I feel like maybe that we did. For a second,
I was thinking, oh, man, we didn't really get Sierra
any answers. I think maybe we do. And I think
maybe Sierra's got a bad man picker.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
Well, yeah, because today, you don't need to know all this,
but the last four guys before Todd ghosted her, too.
Speaker 5 (06:59):
Oh, well, I can't speak for the other four.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Right. What we can do is we'll just hang up
with you and then, Sierra, let's go. We'll just go next.
We'll call them all, Sierra.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
I mean, she's open to dating and putting herself out there.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
That's a good thing. I feel bad for Sierra. She
didn't get any answers. She's getting ghosted by everybody. But, Sierra,
we didn't ghost you.
Speaker 5 (07:18):
You didn't.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
Thank you. I mean, did he say anything about why
he wasn't into me or... I don't know.
Speaker 5 (07:28):
This is his process, Sierra. Do not take it personal.
Do not take it personal. He is an immature, unable
to communicate, not worth your time. He saw your DM.
He hit block. That is his process. Delete him. He
dodged a bullet.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Okay. Hey, today, thank you for taking the time to
jump on there with us. Really appreciate it. Thank you.
Speaker 5 (07:50):
Thank you. Thank you.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
Sierra, sorry we didn't get you answers. If you want
to try another guy, we can help.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
I'll hit you guys up.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
Well, whenever you're ready, use those.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
No.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Okay. Good luck to you.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
All right.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
That's sucking it up at you guys. John Jane rich.
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