December 5, 2025 • 7 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Wake your ass up, John Jay and Rich? What's crack
a leg? And this is the big Boss dog snoopy Deagle,
double gigsel bang boom, what you don't do?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
We're not talking.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
About Rin ten Tam.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
We're not talking about last year. It's the one and
only go you all the glassy lastly big snoop Eagle,
double gizsel in your face to me and in the
place to be And you're listening to John Jay and Rich,
wake yours.
Speaker 4 (00:26):
Our phone number eight seven seven nine three seven one
four seven text line text jj R whatever's on your mind?
Speaker 1 (00:32):
The ninety six eight ninety.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
Three Laura sent me a message and she wanted to
know how to get advice from the four of us?
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Am I right, Laura?
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Yes, that's right. It's a crazy story. This is one
of my closest friends then has decided to reunite with
her baby daddy. They have a twelve year old together.
But this guy has multiple baby baby mamas as well,
so I believe that they're another five kids, grand kids
(01:03):
involved everything. So where my friend comes in places. Then
all of a sudden, after twelve years, they have realized
that they are still in love. This guy has never
paid child support. He doesn't even live in the same state.
As a matter of fact, I think he lives like
four or five states away. He is in jail for
(01:23):
abuse and everything to one of the ex wife, and
my friend has decided to quit her job. She has
gone in debt, all of her credit cards are maxed out,
her car doesn't even run right. This guy has never
paid anything, and she is dropping everything in here. She
has gone from being working in a fast food restaurant
(01:44):
to managing like hospitals, and she is dropping everything to
go and be with this guy to help him. He's
still in jail, and she's planning a wedding and she
wants me to be her maid of honor. And I
love her, I really do. But I think she called
(02:05):
me by surprise. So I was like, oh, okay, and
I haven't spoke to her since it's been like two
three weeks and I don't know you no. Well, I
told her kind of yes because I was kind of
like shocked. I was like, oh yeah, sure, And I
was like, well, what is your other friend doing? But what
is your other friend doing? You know, I think she
kind of got this, you know, she got it. And
(02:26):
I was like well, what is your other friend? You know,
your other best friend. And I want to support her
as a friend, but I don't support what she's doing.
She is throwing her life away. She is even leaving
her daughter behind to go and be with this guy.
And I mean, I've been married for over twenty years
and I even tell my husband, I love you so much.
(02:50):
But if we were on the same situation, you know,
you go, do you boo and whenever you have everything ready,
you know will come and meet you. Because there's no
way that I would, in any way in any world
that I would leave our two girls to come and
help you build a life at fifty five years old.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Okay, so what is your advice to us? What are
you asking us for?
Speaker 3 (03:09):
How do I tell her? I mean I have already
tried to talk to her, or her family has already
try to talk to her. She's not listening to anybody.
I don't want to be rude. I want to support
her because I love her, but I cannot support her
marriage and what she is doing. Is there a way
for me to get out of not be her maid
(03:30):
of honor and not do any of that? Or if
my friendship with her pretty much ruined the moment that
I open my mouth.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
It's a good question.
Speaker 5 (03:39):
That is really hard because I mean, yeah, the easy
hout to just say I can't do that. I don't
support this marriage. I don't think you should get married.
So I can't stand up next to you. I want
to because i'm your friend, but I also see what
you can't see right now because you got the love
blinders on. But also, yes, that will definitely affect your
friendship because if she's already said no to her family,
and she's already said no to you, I'm going with
(03:59):
this guy, she's probably gonna cut you out.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Yeah, but you objecting to the marriage, it may make
her go into I'm going to prove you all wrong exactly.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
And then when you could do it anyway, well, when
she is proved.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
Right, you know, she's probably gonna come back and say, hey,
I really messed up.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
And you know, eventually maybe your guys gets friendship can
remand but right, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
She's already Yeah, she's already like pushing me away as
a friend. Like our girls have been friends since they
were in daycare, since they weren't in diapers. That's how
long I've been friends with her, and it's just I
see it like she comes and tells me, you know,
like her bank is overdrafting, she got into a car accident,
we try to help her fix her car, and if
(04:41):
she has no money because she's putting everything on this
man account, and I just don't understand. I'm so heartbroken
and so towarf because of that, and I just I
don't know how to speak to her.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Okay, So the advice you're asking is about being a
maid of honor. Her financial situation, all that other stuff
that out of our hands. But as far as being
her maiden, in my opinion, my opinion, you kept talking
about how much you love her and how you're heard
this friend of hers and she loves you and you
love her. So I have a different opinion than these three.
To me, it's like you're there for her. If she's
(05:14):
gonna get married no matter what, and she asked you
to stand up for her, then go stand up for
her that same way you love her. She's and if
the marriage falls apart, well you're like, hey, everybody else
around you told you this is a bad idea. Your
whole family told you it's a bad idea. But you
as a friend. You love her, so she's you go
be her friend during her wedding and then after that,
you know, you can kind of do the old as
(05:35):
things go on, kind of that old I told you
so smirk or everyone told you so. But that way
you don't ruin a friendship. You're there for her. That's
my opinion.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
Actually, if you're in the wedding. I've actually almost said
no to my buddy Chris, who asked me to be
in his wedding, and everybody did not like his fiance
in fact, like she threw the ring back at him
one time. Like they got awful, awful fights. So I
feel like, is my job is the best man and
you stand up for your friend. But you're like, hey,
you don't have to do this. You have to offer that,
(06:05):
But if they're going to go through with it, then
you go through it. And I said, you guys fight
all the time, and they probably broke up in their marriage.
They probably broke up seven or eight different times over
the past ten years, but they're still together and they
figure out way back to each other somehow. As long
as you make your peace known, then I think you've
got to support your friend.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
Okay. I guess it's one of those situations that they
tell you that you know, people deserve grades when the
least you know needed, I mean with at least the
serve it. I'm sorry, and it's just I mean, I
agree with you, John Jay. I do want to be
there for her because I love her her. I don't
support her choices, but I don't want to stop being
her friend because I feel that everybody else is doing
(06:45):
the same thing to her.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
So well, it just when's the wedding? When is the wedding?
Speaker 4 (06:51):
March well, nib Yeah, A lot of time. Yeah, no,
I think there's a lot of time for a normal wedding.
Whole lot of a normal wedding. There's not a lot
of time for what's going on in this woman's life
and what's going on with this guy's life and he's
in jail. There's lots of time for lots of things
to fall apart. Since this guy he's got five other
kids with five other women and he's in jail. There's
(07:11):
a lot of time for this waiting to fall apart.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
But so, in my opinion, say, yes, okay, so it
is it.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
Bad for me to be like hoping that something that happened.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
No, I think. I hope things bad happen with people
all the time.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
Okay, okay, now this helps me a lot. It makes
me feel better. Thank you for calling me again.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
I got it. Thanks for listening. Have a great day
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Already too, Bye.
Wake your ass up, John Jay and Rich? What's crack
a leg? And this is the big Boss dog snoopy Deagle,
double gigsel bang boom, what you don't do?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
We're not talking.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
About Rin ten Tam.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
We're not talking about last year. It's the one and
only go you all the glassy lastly big snoop Eagle,
double gizsel in your face to me and in the
place to be And you're listening to John Jay and Rich,
wake yours.
Speaker 4 (00:26):
Our phone number eight seven seven nine three seven one
four seven text line text jj R whatever's on your mind?
Speaker 1 (00:32):
The ninety six eight ninety.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
Three Laura sent me a message and she wanted to
know how to get advice from the four of us?
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Am I right, Laura?
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Yes, that's right. It's a crazy story. This is one
of my closest friends then has decided to reunite with
her baby daddy. They have a twelve year old together.
But this guy has multiple baby baby mamas as well,
so I believe that they're another five kids, grand kids
(01:03):
involved everything. So where my friend comes in places. Then
all of a sudden, after twelve years, they have realized
that they are still in love. This guy has never
paid child support. He doesn't even live in the same state.
As a matter of fact, I think he lives like
four or five states away. He is in jail for
(01:23):
abuse and everything to one of the ex wife, and
my friend has decided to quit her job. She has
gone in debt, all of her credit cards are maxed out,
her car doesn't even run right. This guy has never
paid anything, and she is dropping everything in here. She
has gone from being working in a fast food restaurant
(01:44):
to managing like hospitals, and she is dropping everything to
go and be with this guy to help him. He's
still in jail, and she's planning a wedding and she
wants me to be her maid of honor. And I
love her, I really do. But I think she called
(02:05):
me by surprise. So I was like, oh, okay, and
I haven't spoke to her since it's been like two
three weeks and I don't know you no. Well, I
told her kind of yes because I was kind of
like shocked. I was like, oh yeah, sure, And I
was like, well, what is your other friend doing? But what
is your other friend doing? You know, I think she
kind of got this, you know, she got it. And
(02:26):
I was like well, what is your other friend? You know,
your other best friend. And I want to support her
as a friend, but I don't support what she's doing.
She is throwing her life away. She is even leaving
her daughter behind to go and be with this guy.
And I mean, I've been married for over twenty years
and I even tell my husband, I love you so much.
(02:50):
But if we were on the same situation, you know,
you go, do you boo and whenever you have everything ready,
you know will come and meet you. Because there's no
way that I would, in any way in any world
that I would leave our two girls to come and
help you build a life at fifty five years old.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Okay, so what is your advice to us? What are
you asking us for?
Speaker 3 (03:09):
How do I tell her? I mean I have already
tried to talk to her, or her family has already
try to talk to her. She's not listening to anybody.
I don't want to be rude. I want to support
her because I love her, but I cannot support her
marriage and what she is doing. Is there a way
for me to get out of not be her maid
(03:30):
of honor and not do any of that? Or if
my friendship with her pretty much ruined the moment that
I open my mouth.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
It's a good question.
Speaker 5 (03:39):
That is really hard because I mean, yeah, the easy
hout to just say I can't do that. I don't
support this marriage. I don't think you should get married.
So I can't stand up next to you. I want
to because i'm your friend, but I also see what
you can't see right now because you got the love
blinders on. But also, yes, that will definitely affect your
friendship because if she's already said no to her family,
and she's already said no to you, I'm going with
(03:59):
this guy, she's probably gonna cut you out.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Yeah, but you objecting to the marriage, it may make
her go into I'm going to prove you all wrong exactly.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
And then when you could do it anyway, well, when
she is proved.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
Right, you know, she's probably gonna come back and say, hey,
I really messed up.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
And you know, eventually maybe your guys gets friendship can
remand but right, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
She's already Yeah, she's already like pushing me away as
a friend. Like our girls have been friends since they
were in daycare, since they weren't in diapers. That's how
long I've been friends with her, and it's just I
see it like she comes and tells me, you know,
like her bank is overdrafting, she got into a car accident,
we try to help her fix her car, and if
(04:41):
she has no money because she's putting everything on this
man account, and I just don't understand. I'm so heartbroken
and so towarf because of that, and I just I
don't know how to speak to her.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Okay, So the advice you're asking is about being a
maid of honor. Her financial situation, all that other stuff
that out of our hands. But as far as being
her maiden, in my opinion, my opinion, you kept talking
about how much you love her and how you're heard
this friend of hers and she loves you and you
love her. So I have a different opinion than these three.
To me, it's like you're there for her. If she's
(05:14):
gonna get married no matter what, and she asked you
to stand up for her, then go stand up for
her that same way you love her. She's and if
the marriage falls apart, well you're like, hey, everybody else
around you told you this is a bad idea. Your
whole family told you it's a bad idea. But you
as a friend. You love her, so she's you go
be her friend during her wedding and then after that,
you know, you can kind of do the old as
(05:35):
things go on, kind of that old I told you
so smirk or everyone told you so. But that way
you don't ruin a friendship. You're there for her. That's
my opinion.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
Actually, if you're in the wedding. I've actually almost said
no to my buddy Chris, who asked me to be
in his wedding, and everybody did not like his fiance
in fact, like she threw the ring back at him
one time. Like they got awful, awful fights. So I
feel like, is my job is the best man and
you stand up for your friend. But you're like, hey,
you don't have to do this. You have to offer that,
(06:05):
But if they're going to go through with it, then
you go through it. And I said, you guys fight
all the time, and they probably broke up in their marriage.
They probably broke up seven or eight different times over
the past ten years, but they're still together and they
figure out way back to each other somehow. As long
as you make your peace known, then I think you've
got to support your friend.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
Okay. I guess it's one of those situations that they
tell you that you know, people deserve grades when the
least you know needed, I mean with at least the
serve it. I'm sorry, and it's just I mean, I
agree with you, John Jay. I do want to be
there for her because I love her her. I don't
support her choices, but I don't want to stop being
her friend because I feel that everybody else is doing
(06:45):
the same thing to her.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
So well, it just when's the wedding? When is the wedding?
Speaker 4 (06:51):
March well, nib Yeah, A lot of time. Yeah, no,
I think there's a lot of time for a normal wedding.
Whole lot of a normal wedding. There's not a lot
of time for what's going on in this woman's life
and what's going on with this guy's life and he's
in jail. There's lots of time for lots of things
to fall apart. Since this guy he's got five other
kids with five other women and he's in jail. There's
(07:11):
a lot of time for this waiting to fall apart.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
But so, in my opinion, say, yes, okay, so it
is it.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
Bad for me to be like hoping that something that happened.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
No, I think. I hope things bad happen with people
all the time.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
Okay, okay, now this helps me a lot. It makes
me feel better. Thank you for calling me again.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
I got it. Thanks for listening. Have a great day
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Already too, Bye.
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