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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Mojo in the morning.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
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we're talking about, or you got to comment on a
War of the Roses second date update, anything that we
do on the show. You can always text call me
and Lydia will call you. So this story, when you
told us the story in our pre show meeting, it
was funny because you were like, wait a second, this
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is kind of a backhanded at me, what's the full story?
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Show?
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Well, so I ran into a woman that I haven't
seen in a while, and so we were just catching
up on life and kids and work, you know, all
the things. And the last time I saw her, I
knew she was going through a divorce. And so now
that divorce has been finalized, she said, for about eighteen months, and.
Speaker 4 (00:44):
She's dating somebody new.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
She's been dating him since the holiday, so like a
month and a half, two months, and she's like, and
we are getting married.
Speaker 4 (00:52):
We are in love.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
We just know he loves my kids. We are getting married.
Speaker 4 (00:58):
And she's like, ecuse me, She's like, everybody thinks.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
That I'm crazy because he's the first guy that i've
dated post divorce, and she's like, do you think that
I'm crazy? And I said, wow, as a matter of fact,
that was me too. Wes was my first and last
day after I got divorced, and everyone thought that I
was crazy for not dating more before settling down and
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getting married again for the second time. So I just
know that a lot of people have so many thoughts
on this, and I also want to find somebody like,
is there anybody listening who has only ever dated the
person they're married to?
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Interesting? Why did you only go one to day with Wes?
Speaker 4 (01:42):
Well, I Mojo can attest to this.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
It took me a really long time to even be
in a space of wanting to date in general. And
even when I started dating Wes, I was very forthcoming
to him of I don't even know if I'm ready
to be doing this yet.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
But then I think when you, I mean, I dated.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
A lot before I got married for the first time,
and then, you know, you, I just feel like at
a certain age and also having done it one time already,
you know you know what you're looking for. You know
when you meet somebody like you know that this is
this is going to be a good fit, This is
a great person. This is a person I want to
spend the rest of my life with. Why would I
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risk going? Yeah, I'm just going to keep going when
I found you.
Speaker 5 (02:29):
So maybe there maybe there's a middle ground where the
two opposite ends meet and that's the answer. But were
you ready to date or was Wes the right person
to date? What made him the first person?
Speaker 4 (02:41):
I go back on what I said. I don't.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
I don't even know that I was ready to date
when I started dating Wes, and I told him that,
I'm like, I am still in this weird space of like,
am I ready?
Speaker 4 (02:52):
Am I not ready? I don't even really know.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
But we went out for coffee and I was like, wait,
I really enjoyed myself. I had We had a great
conversation with a lot of things in common, a lot
of mutual values, and I'm like, I like him.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
I like him.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
I want to see where this goes. So it was
like healing and trying to figure out if I wanted
to even date as I was dating, and he was
aware of that.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
You had a lot of picking up the pieces too,
Like I think that when you got divorced, that was
that was a tough tough thing for you. And so
I think that you also didn't want to bring somebody
else into it. And it seemed like because I remember
asking you questions. I remember asking you questions like are
you going to get out there and date?
Speaker 1 (03:32):
What's going on? Because she did take them along. How
many years after the.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Divorce, I mean it was more than two, yeah, and
it was like she was like, I'm not ready for
another person, let alone for just me, you know what
I mean, Like she's trying to do it. But I
it's interesting you bring this up in both this person
that you met or saw in yourself second marriages.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
I wonder how many times that does happen because I
hear a lot of times because of similar situations with
friends who are just getting divorced or have been divorced.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
They don't want to go.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Back out into the dating world, but they want companionship.
They don't want to be alone. They want to have
somebody that can share things with. And I wonder sometimes
if you treat it differently, because not that you're settling,
because nobody's going to settle, and if you settle, you'll
figure out that you settled, like that will come out
right away. But I wonder if It's kind of like
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you find somebody and you're like, oh my god, this
person's actually nice and normal and great and whatever the
deal is, and it's like, you know what, I'm willing
to do this. Let's get married because her you said
hers was fast, wasn't it? Because she just got divorced.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
She's been divorced officially for eighteen months, okay, she said,
And she's like everybody thinks I'm nuts.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Do you think she's only dated him for how long? Though?
Speaker 4 (04:50):
Since Christmas?
Speaker 2 (04:51):
So they've only dated for a couple of months yesterday,
so her first date, and she's like ready to go.
How soon after you and West started dating, did you
guys even talk marriage?
Speaker 4 (05:02):
God, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
It was longer than that.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
Oh yeah, oh god?
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
I mean, but you know, and if Wes we're here
right now, I think we would both say we probably
got married too soon, Like we we knew that we
wanted to get married. But I think we we actually
like got married too soon. I don't know, I'm just
like a lot of different reasons. I still think that
we had a lot of things to work out and
figure out about each other and blending families under the
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same roof, And I think we've done a decent job.
It hasn't been perfect, but that's like a really, really,
really big deal. Yeah, and I think we probably could
have taken more time with our kids getting to know
each other and us getting to know each other and
us getting to know each other's kids.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Reagan, Hello, Hi, what's happening?
Speaker 6 (05:55):
Not much? How are you?
Speaker 1 (05:56):
I'm doing great? What's going on?
Speaker 6 (05:59):
I get how you steal Shannon. I was with my
person that I went to high school with. We were
in a relationship for eight years and we got married,
and then six months after we got married, we split
up and I met my husband now four months after
my divorce and we have been together since then. He
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was the first person that I dated, and we also
got pregnant three months into our relations.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Oh my goodness, could you imagine that you.
Speaker 4 (06:29):
Feel the judgment like this this girl did? And I
guess like I kind of did.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Marrying the first person that you go out on a
date with after.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Your divorce.
Speaker 6 (06:41):
Both like one hundred percent. And he also had a
child from his previous relationship as well, so people were like,
you're so crazy jumping in and becoming a stepmom and
having his child, and I'm like, guys, just don't know.
I totally feel like once you've been married and then
you you meet your actual person, there's a very different
love that you have for sure that you realized wasn't
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there the first round.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Oh that's interesting.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Yeah, the question for you, Reagan, after you got divorced,
did you ever think you would marry again?
Speaker 6 (07:17):
No? I definitely didn't. And he proposed fairly quick. He
proposed to me when our son was born. So we
got we were engaged nine months. And how did y'all
meet Tinder?
Speaker 5 (07:30):
Okay, so were you looking for a date or were
you looking for a night out?
Speaker 6 (07:35):
Honestly, just looking for a night out. And we both
told each other that interesting.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
It's uh, my first.
Speaker 6 (07:41):
Time on Tinder and the first one I matched with
it went out on a date.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
The rest of It's interesting to hear second marriages and
how they came about, because a lot of times the
second marriages, you'll hear somebody say, I never thought I
was going to date again. I was not into wanting
to get married ever again, And all of a sudden
and it's like, you go for it, So Lexie, what's up?
Speaker 1 (08:03):
It's moje on the morning. Hi, Hi guys, good morning.
Speaker 7 (08:07):
It's more common than maybe Shannon you think, because I
also did first person I dated. I ended up just
getting married to him last week.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
Really relations yup, so thank you.
Speaker 7 (08:22):
And I met him through my brother. He was actually
my brother's friend, and I also was not looking to
date at all, So I think it is more common.
And like the last caller said, second marriages, I feel
like you just kind of know what you're looking for.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
How long? How long were you dating him before you,
guys got married? A little over a year?
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Is it like second marriage is like your second house
or second car. You knew everything that the other thing
had that you hated and some things that you actually liked.
So you kind of knew specifically what you were going
to look for, and then when you found it, you're like,
this is the one. I think I'm going to put
an offer in. That's what That's what it kind of
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sounds like when I hear this story. Yeah, yeah, that's good.
That's nice. Nice to know, and I'm happy that you're
by the way, she's talking about as a listener, not
as the marriage part. So but Lexie, we love you,
thanks for listening.
Speaker 7 (09:23):
Yeah, thanks, Bye, guys, Bye bye.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I love when we bring something up on the air
and the actual exact person that has that same sage
situation that Shannon's talking about with this other person that
she met and her and what comes in and we
got two calls. We're two for two with the exact
same you know, situations, because it makes you know how
relatable the stuff that we are all living in our
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lives is living out there with our listeners through the speakers.
What's up, Amanda, Hi, Good morning everyone, Good morning. This
one is not a divorce, though, this was what happened.
Speaker 8 (10:00):
Okay. So I was married for nineteen years and then
my husband passed away unexpectedly. So I was about eight
nine years ago, and then I had three children. I
had a son and two daughters. And then unexpectedly, like
a couple of years later, while I was at work,
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I met a gentleman who was pretty new because I
was there for a long time, and it just he
asked me out on a date. I was unsure at first,
so I told him no, and then I called him
like a couple of days later, asked him on a date.
He said yeah, because at this point I already knew
obviously he was interested, so I was like, you know what,
I might as well just give it a whirl. So
I did and we have been together ever since. Months later,
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three weeks, three months, three months later to Super Bowl.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
So hey, Amanda, I gotta ask you some questions, because
first off, I'm I'm sorry to hear about the the
your husband passing away, and that's gotta be horrible unless
you murdered him and then you're happy about it, right,
But no, but I.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Gotta ask I gotta ask you a quick question.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Sure, did you feel like you were cheating on your
husband that died when you started dating again?
Speaker 5 (11:15):
What I did?
Speaker 8 (11:17):
For a split second, I did. But I do believe
in God, and I do believe people are put put
in your position or your path for a reason.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
Yeah, do you think your husband? Do you think your
husband had something to do with you guys meeting?
Speaker 8 (11:31):
You know what you did, And that would be a
whole other topic, but that's sweet. Yeah. Yeah, I actually
had a dream he came into my dream, and I
was like begging, I was praying, like, let him come
in my dream when I'm coming to my dream. Finally
he did, and he actually came into my husband, my
new husband's dream first and then came into my more.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
And gave his blessing for you to be with him.
Speaker 5 (11:58):
Yeah yeah, wait wait, so how did you How did
the new man know that the man that came in
his dreams was your ex husband?
Speaker 8 (12:08):
So it didn't happen right away, so he didn't before
he engaged me. So it was probably like two months,
and I've already had this conversation because I was very
leary at first just bringing another man into my house
with my kids period to let alone or Jesus went
through all this, you know, and I didn't wait it
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was I would I would have probably waited either longer,
to be honest, but it just happened this way, you know,
So I just kind of went with it. But yeah,
I mean, he already knew the situation, and I had
already told them, you know, like these are my pride
and my joy, these are my children, I you know,
So it just he already knew kind of a little
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bit about it. So it just love.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
I love.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
I love that that you you found love and that
your your first love is still there with you guys,
but also you know, loving that you are happy now
much because if I die I want Chelsea to be
miserable after I die and never date ever again.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
I'm not going to huh, I'm.
Speaker 8 (13:19):
Not gonna If I die.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
I want her to be celibate for the rest of
your life. No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
I'm just kidding. I mean, I mean, I'm so happy
for you. You brought a smile to all our faces
today when you told us that story.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Thank you, Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
A wonderful good stories, good good stories. I know, switch up,
like why you Why are you also a guy who's
got so much spiritual love? Why are you doubtful that
the man the man you're like doubtful?
Speaker 1 (13:59):
How do we know always?
Speaker 5 (14:00):
I'm not that's not interesting to you that the new
guy had a dream about it and his husband, But
you sounded like you were that.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
I just wanted to know how he knew it was
the husband. These pictures of him trying to understand.
Speaker 7 (14:12):
Bro.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
I can't ask the question that's b asked. I'm just
asking a question.