They Only Read The Headline

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
I was informed yesterday that and I did not know this,
but I was informed by my wife that we are separated.
Let me tell you this story. This is a good story.
So Chelsea and I talked on the phone yesterday. Chelsea's
down in Florida and she's down there and she gets,

(00:21):
you know.

Speaker 2 (00:21):
We always we have like this.

Speaker 1 (00:23):
We have a great, great marriage going on right now,
which knock on wood, maybe me bringing this up on
the radio will probably hurt it or something. I don't know,
but we have really good things going on right now.
And she said to me, she goes, you want to
hear a funny story, And I said, what's that? She goes,
we're separated. I go, we're separated? What are you talking about?
And she said, I got a phone call from my friend.

(00:43):
And so her friend called her and said that a
friend of hers called her and said, did you hear
that Mojo and Chelsea are separated? And she goes, no,
they're not separated. I'm like one of Chelsea's best friends.
And she goes, no, they're separated. I'm telling you they're separated.
And so she said, well, I don't think that that's true.

(01:03):
What you know, what is making you think this while
I was listening to their podcast and their podcast on there,
it's obvious they're separated. And so Chelsea and I do
this podcast called the We Don't Podcast. We started this
thing like a year or so ago, and it's been
kind of fun. It's actually been therapy for our relationship
because we talk about different things in our relationship but

(01:24):
talk about others, you know, raising kids, all that stuff.
And the last top or the last yeah, I guess topic.
The last show was about people who are living apart together.
It's a trend that is going on right now with
people who are kind of like in my age range,

(01:44):
like the forty to fifty year old age range, or
going in second marriages where they'll get married to each
other with the intention of being together, but not being together.
They actually will have separate homes. And we had friends
of ours that did this years ago. You should go
listen to the podcast. By the way, I couldn't believe
I looked at the numbers of this podcast. For some reason,

(02:05):
I always think that the titles of things that Zach
posts for the titles are always would probably get people
to listen to him. But it's actually a pretty good,
pretty good podcast. We talked about friends of ours that
started doing this years ago, more than a decade ago,
and I thought these guys were insane. I thought that
they were going to be failed, you know, in their
relationship because they both decided that they were going to

(02:25):
get married, but then decided they were going to have
either separate living arrangements or separate homes. Totally so long, Sorry, sure,
I let me go back to this. So this lady,
I was gonna say names, but I'm not going to
say names. So she said to Chelsea this, and I
said to Chelsea, I go, isn't that interesting?

Speaker 2 (02:43):
She's so vested in this?

Speaker 1 (02:44):
Said maybe she's got a little thing for me. And
then Chelsea said, we're now officially separate, but isn't that wild?
But it's all off of and I am listen, I'm
guilty of this. I'm a headline reader, are Yeah.

Speaker 3 (02:58):
I read a headline, yeah story sometimes and you're like,
you didn't do the story.

Speaker 4 (03:02):
I'm like, because you didn't read the story. I read
the headline and it was a million percent clickbait.

Speaker 2 (03:06):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (03:06):
Do you think it's like that old adage of distance
makes the heart grow fonder?

Speaker 6 (03:11):
It?

Speaker 2 (03:11):
So, I do think that we talked about that.

Speaker 3 (03:14):
I mean, my husband's been gone for the past two weeks.
He's coming home tonight, and I'm so excited and I
feel like I have this this new like appreciation or
I will have this new appreciation for him.

Speaker 4 (03:24):
I'm so excited to see him.

Speaker 3 (03:26):
Like I just I do think that there is an
element when you are not around somebody all of the
time and you're able to be independent and do your
own thing, but then when you come together, it's so
much more special.

Speaker 7 (03:38):
I don't think I'm built to be with somebody twenty
four to seven, Like, it's just not in me. Do
you guys ever watch Abbott Elementary.

Speaker 4 (03:45):
No. I believe Sheryl Lee.

Speaker 2 (03:46):
Rolf does this with her husband.

Speaker 4 (03:48):
I think they like live separate home from each other.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
Yeah, and she loved it.

Speaker 4 (03:52):
I think it was her that I saw on the internet.

Speaker 5 (03:54):
I wish we could take this approach with work, Like
imagine only working three days, but then when we come
back the next this show is so much better.

Speaker 1 (04:01):
Well, you have more to talk about it.

Speaker 2 (04:05):
Or maybe like every Friday. Yeah, I actually like to
do that with you right now, don't tell.

Speaker 1 (04:15):
Chelse and I have been kind of going in this
direction a little bit. And it's not that we're living
in separate homes, but she goes down and visits Joe
all the time. And so when she goes down and
visits Joe and then Jacob too, she goes and sees
him in Chicago, and she'll stay for lengths of time
and she'll be gone, and then it gets to a
like in our relationship.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
We've been married.

Speaker 1 (04:35):
Believe it or not, we've been married thirty years. I'm
fifty four, Chelsea is fifty. We've been married thirty years.
So majority of our lives we have been together. That's scary.
It's scary for her. I feel bad, But we in
all of our relationship, even in the beginning, we were
kind of lovey dovey with each other. I think, at
least I think she doesn't think so. But we never

(04:57):
really said how much we missed each other. And I
I have on and I'm being really honest with this.
I think that's post surgery, that heart surgery I had. Yeah,
I think my mortality came into play where now I
literally miss her every moment. But I also like the
idea that I can order a pizza, you know what
I mean? Like I like that idea too. And you

(05:18):
were talking about Wes. You guys are newlyweds. Yeah, I
know you guys are very lovely w but I'm also again,
you guys probably getting to each other's nerves a little bit, right. Yes,
all the time you were worried about him leaving, Yes
he leaves, Now he comes home. You got all this
like spark of what you know, the built up you know,

(05:39):
stuff that happens to you when you have sex. And
then three or four days from now, you guys will
be like back to listen to.

Speaker 4 (05:48):
I think, especially you know, for second marriages.

Speaker 3 (05:51):
I have noticed that if you have gone through a
relationship and then a breakup and you have spent that
time by your like I did for several years, and
I grew really independent and I got to really like
my alone time, and that is something that fills me up.
I do think that it is important, and I think
Wes would agree that we do spend some time apart

(06:14):
from time to time. Like he has a new job
now and he's going to have to travel like every
other month, and he was like, do you think that's
going to be okay? Are we okay with that? I'm like,
I think it's great. I think it's a great idea
for us to miss each other and for us to
be able to get that time to focus on ourselves
so we can recharge and be great when we are
together again.

Speaker 7 (06:33):
And I know we've talked about this in the past,
and like when you're dating or have a spouse and
they won't share any of your interests with you, like
say you're into the ballet and your guy just like
won't go with you. Like I do feel like sometimes
you need to bridge that gap and do things that
you don't want to do. But I don't think that
should be a constant. Like it is okay to do
some things by yourself.

Speaker 4 (06:51):
It's really important. It's not just okay, it's.

Speaker 2 (06:53):
Very important, right, it is really healthy.

Speaker 1 (06:56):
And that was something that I didn't understand when I
was young and dumb. I know, Christy, what's going on?

Speaker 8 (07:03):
Hi? This is definitely exciting for me. My first time calling.

Speaker 1 (07:07):
I've been lit.

Speaker 8 (07:13):
I listen every single morning on my way home from
work to my fiance and our four kids.

Speaker 2 (07:20):
And I had tested because.

Speaker 5 (07:22):
We never fight. I don't like being away from her
during the week, but it just works out better for
me to help with the kids.

Speaker 9 (07:30):
In the evenings.

Speaker 8 (07:31):
Yes, and like I get to stay home tonight and tomorrow.

Speaker 6 (07:34):
And I wait all week for that.

Speaker 9 (07:36):
It's our time together and I always am.

Speaker 1 (07:39):
It's extremely excited.

Speaker 8 (07:40):
For it, and she it feels the same way.

Speaker 9 (07:43):
And as much as it's hard to be apart during
the week every night.

Speaker 6 (07:47):
It does make you know as nice that we.

Speaker 8 (07:49):
Have to go better.

Speaker 2 (07:50):
It's so funny.

Speaker 1 (07:51):
I've seen, you know, early in my life people that
would do long distance relationships and they'll be apart from
each other, and you always thought the negative, but you
never realize that it actually is a positive sometimes because
it makes you more focused and more interested in your

(08:12):
partner when you are together, because otherwise it's routine.

Speaker 4 (08:17):
It makes the time intentional.

Speaker 2 (08:18):
Routine is bad. What's up? Olivia?

Speaker 6 (08:21):
Hi?

Speaker 2 (08:24):
Hi, Olivia?

Speaker 4 (08:25):
She's eating her cereal?

Speaker 2 (08:27):
Is that what it is? Or she walking in snow?
Olivia crunchy? You know it is? What is?

Speaker 1 (08:35):
She She's like, she's got there, she is hold on,
let's guess.

Speaker 2 (08:43):
She's How does this happen? Olivia?

Speaker 7 (08:51):
Okay, what point did you forget that you call Olivia?

Speaker 2 (08:56):
I'll put her.

Speaker 3 (08:58):
I love when Lyda gets so mad, I know because
you just, yeah, what's going on?

Speaker 9 (09:04):
Bath Eye, Hi, I'm actually considering doing that now. I
got married three years ago, but catch moved from the
East Side to the West Side, so I still commute
for work, and then my kids still live on the
east Side and we've been trying to move and he's
just not that motivated. So I'm actually considering just getting
my own place back on the east Side for during
the week.

Speaker 1 (09:24):
So are you doing it because you're upset with him?
Or are you doing it because you Because this is
there's a little bit of thing that you have to
think about. You don't want to do it to spite
him because you're upset with him, because then if that's
the case. Honestly, I don't know if it's going to
be a successful thing, but I think that if you're
doing it for proximity, and you're doing it for your
relationship to grow it stronger, and because obviously you know,

(09:46):
it also helps during the week when you're working, not
having to do that long commute, you know what I mean?

Speaker 9 (09:51):
Right right, it's trying to have a little bit of both, Okay,
proximity and he's we had a we had a deal.
I moved out there while his daughter, what's will going on?

Speaker 2 (10:00):
High school?

Speaker 9 (10:00):
She graduated in twenty twenty three, and we are still
on the west side, and he's not like with the program.
So I'm like, maybe I need to just go be
on my own program for a minute.

Speaker 1 (10:11):
And that's maybe That's one of those things. Can I
tell you, Can I recommend something to you? That's where
you guys may want to go talk to somebody. You
may want to, you know, do some therapy before you
decide that you're going to actually do move and then
bring that up with a therapist. And I only and
I only say this because I think we've been there,
done that, and I think that then all of a sudden,
you you guys start getting uh bitter towards each other.

Speaker 9 (10:34):
You know, yeah, yeah, it's already getting there on my side.

Speaker 1 (10:38):
So well, good luck to you. I appreciate you. Uh
what's up, Barb? How you doing?

Speaker 2 (10:44):
I am, well, how are you good? What's going on?

Speaker 6 (10:47):
Well?

Speaker 8 (10:48):
I for a time, long time.

Speaker 9 (10:56):
Well, I I find that absolute makes the eyes wander.

Speaker 2 (11:04):
Oh interesting. It is coming from experience.

Speaker 8 (11:09):
Yes, when I was younger, not now, of course, but
when I was younger, when I was in long distance relationships,
or it just.

Speaker 2 (11:17):
Made your eyes wander.

Speaker 1 (11:19):
Okay, But is it okay to have your eyes wander
as long as you're not touching Huh.

Speaker 6 (11:24):
Well, yeah, that's true, that's true.

Speaker 2 (11:27):
I set you up for that.

Speaker 1 (11:28):
One oh eight a second, Barb, you do not sound
like the type of lady that's out there getting yourself
some strange penis.

Speaker 4 (11:37):
It was strange.

Speaker 1 (11:39):
Yeah, I did not, But it was when I was
sounds like she sounds like the nice neighbor next door.

Speaker 2 (11:47):
It's like, this is Barb on the.

Speaker 6 (11:51):
Ye.

Speaker 1 (11:52):
We're calling you, Desiree. You got to have a better
name than Barb. What's up Olivia? She's back, what's up Olivia.

Speaker 6 (12:00):
Radio? Oh my god, they're gonna be stupid. Hey, So
you know I got divors. I have kids that are younger,
and I started dating this man, and you know, we've
been together for now four years, but two years in
I'm thinking like, oh no, we should move in together.
But you know, it was just too hard with the kids.
And then I also thought at the same time, like,
you know, one the kids up with her dad and

(12:21):
he's at his own house, Like I really enjoy being
by myself. What if I want to hit it around
and do a puzzle all night. You know. It's like, yeah,
at some point, I'm forty seven, he sixty three, Like
you got your own stuff going on. I work a lot.
Your works all up. When we are able to like convene,
it's fantastic.

Speaker 2 (12:37):
So it's funny, and you see.

Speaker 6 (12:39):
That now, although I really want my bills to go
down to.

Speaker 2 (12:41):
Happen, that's right. I do find it.

Speaker 1 (12:44):
I do find it funny like I used to just
to notice, like when Chelsea would see people like friends
of hers and she hadn't seen it in a while.
I'd see her light up, like I don't think she
was lighting up for me, And I'm thinking to myself
sometimes now I see the light up sometimes when she
sees me, you know, like when we get back together
after having a little bit of a time apart from
each other.

Speaker 2 (13:02):
Kim, what's up. It's Mojo in the morning.

Speaker 8 (13:05):
Hi, good morning. I just want to say first time
love wow, love it. So I have actually been with
my boyfriend for about seven years and we have never
lived together. We lived in different cities here in there.
But I'm actually going after work today to sign a
lease for an apartment that's literally across the hall from his.

Speaker 2 (13:26):
Oh my gosh, that's wild.

Speaker 1 (13:29):
So instead of having a two bedroom apartment where you
guys each have your own room, it's like friends, you
want half your own. Yeah, exactly, you're Rachel and that's ross.
What's going on? Why are you guys doing that?

Speaker 8 (13:41):
Basically, it's basically that it's I like my things a
certain way. He likes his things a certain way. And
there was a point in our relationship, like you guys
mentioned earlier, where trying together got really routine and that
wasn't good for us. So this is definitely working out
a lot better.

Speaker 1 (13:57):
You know what, whose apartment is going to be decorated nicer?
I'm interested to see how that works. Will you call
us later and will you come on the air with
us and maybe even come on the podcast with Chelsea.

Speaker 8 (14:10):
And I Yeah, sure.

Speaker 2 (14:13):
I would love that.

Speaker 1 (14:13):
That would be awesome to hear because here you are,
you're doing it intentional, but you're doing it intentional in
the same apartment complex.

Speaker 7 (14:19):
And they've been together for a long time. But the
only thing that makes me nervous nervous is if you
separate and then you can hear them with other people.

Speaker 4 (14:27):
Well, let's not think that.

Speaker 7 (14:29):
Okay, yeah, show not jumping right to that conclusion.

Speaker 1 (14:34):
Come on, well that's the thing that you don't want
to do and that's the part that you get. Should
go check it out. Living a Part Together is on
our Mojo in the Morning we Don't podcast, and you
can check it out on the iHeartRadio app.