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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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So Mojo in the Morning Show. This is a great
(00:23):
topic anybody that is in a situation with ship or
marriage or whatever it is where you have blended families.
Shannon wants to bring up something about her husband, Wes,
that he does not want to be.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
He does not want to be the mean stepdad. And
this is so funny to me, Anna, because Wes, with
his own two kids, is pretty strict, intimidating. He is like,
very regimented with how he parent. He parents very differently
than I do.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
I'm laid back.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
He's kind of the opposite. And it's it's interesting because
this just happened. So Lucy, my sixth grader, has an
iPad and she has screen time on it, so there's
a limit. I think after an hour is what we
haven't set at. Right now, everything goes off, so you
can't You basically can't use the iPad, all.
Speaker 4 (01:20):
The apps and everything. They just go dark.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
I need that.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
Okay, you can do it. You can do it.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
You can have Chelsea be a charge of bit so
everyone's in the great while. On the weekends, I'll give
her unlimited screen time if she's face timing with her friends,
because like her big group of friends will all FaceTime
together and they'll sit and chat and do their makeup
and it's really cute. And I just give her unlimited
because I have the code so that she's not constantly
asking me for more screen time. And so I was
(01:46):
going out with some of my friends and she was
on there the other day, and I said to Wes, hey,
you know, make sure that she is not on that
thing the entire time I'm gone, Like, make sure she
joins the family and is like watching a movie with
you guys, and you know, comes and eats dinner and
all the whole thing. Make sure she's not hold up
on her iPad the entire time. Well she was, and
(02:06):
after a while he sent me a text and he
was like, hey, I just want to let you know
she's still on her iPad, you know whatever, And so
he's like, but please don't say anything to her that
I told you, and I'm like, us, I'm going to
just send her a text saying get off your iPad
and you know, go watch a movie with with Smith
(02:27):
and Wes, and so I did.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
He was so mad at me.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
That I essentially outed him for tattling on her because
he's like, now you just made me the mean step dad.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
And I'm like, but I told you to.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
I gave you permission to please get her off the iPad,
you know, if she's if she's on there for too long.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
So so she she was not on it long enough
to have the code have to be well.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
So I can I can override. And since I was
leaving and she was talking to all her girlfriends, I'm like, okay,
I'm just gonna give her unlimited. But like Wes, go
up there if she doesn't come down when they all
hang out.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
And make sure she's not on it for four.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Hours, you know, you know, how to be the really
good stepdad, go give her the.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
Co Well, he doesn't know it because I know him
he would. I won't tell him. He literally doesn't know
it for either of the iPads.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
But it's just so funny to me that he's one
way with his kids with mine.
Speaker 5 (03:24):
I appreciate by the way, he's pretty strict with his kids, right,
He's so strict, Wow.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
With mine. He is so difficult kids.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Feel about that.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Do his kids ever see how he parents h Lucy
and Smith and go, what the hell?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
We didn't have it that? I think?
Speaker 3 (03:37):
So that's more of a question for him because I'm
sure they go right to him and say, like, wait
a minute, if we did that.
Speaker 5 (03:44):
You would have our heads because we used to get
that we didn't parent Luke, So we get that with
like the like the kids would be like, you let
Luke do everything.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
But it's it's funny because when I he was legitimately
so mad at me about this, and so when I
got home, I'm like, dude, I very specifically ask you
to do this. You're not being mean, you know, I
this is this was a thing, and he I do
the same thing, and that's what he called me back out.
I do the same thing with my step kids where
if I need them to do something it takes everything
(04:16):
in me to say something to them.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
Usually I'll just text Wes and be like.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Hey, can you ask what do you mean by Sam
to clean her room and put her laundry way?
Speaker 4 (04:25):
And He's like, no, but you can, right, But I
don't want to be mean step mom. Okay, right, all right?
Speaker 1 (04:32):
So can I say this.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I think that both of you guys are right in
doing that, But I also think that there's a level
of where you have to step in. And I don't
know if they're you know what you do, but I
think if they're going to hurt themselves, you know what
I mean?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Okay, But I I.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Don't know if I would want another person parenting my
kids in a way where they were being like because
I always hear these stories sometimes of you know, people
that get remarried and then they marry this woman who's.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Like a bitch to their kids or no.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
I agree with you, And that's why I said I
appreciate that kid doesn't want to be mean step dead.
I appreciate like he knows I feel like I'm gonna
say this wrong. He knows the lane to stay in
with my kids, and I know the lane to stay
in with with his yea. And I mean that in
the nicest way possible. I feel like that's coming off
kind of harsh.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
It makes sense.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
But also this, this to me, wasn't a mean thing
of him just being able to go upstairs and be like, hey,
lou like, we're watching I forget what they were watching.
We're watching you know, Gladiator or whatever, come down and
hang out with theater.
Speaker 4 (05:31):
You know what, he could I don't know what they
were watching.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
He could have sent Smith up and you know eight
four four Mojoe Live eight four four six sixty five
sixty five four eight Are you in a blended family
and do you have this? And then I also want
to ask this question, were you in a blended family
as a kid and you had the mean step parent?
(05:54):
Because I'll tell you I heard more of those stories
than not, Like I have buddies of mine who's parents,
you know, were divorced and they're you know, moms and
dads remarried and they remarried total ass.
Speaker 5 (06:06):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, because I you know, I will say
this to you that that would be like that would
be something you know.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
I have to mention this before with Chelsea and I
I never wanted to get divorced because I never wanted
anybody parenting my kid and I never because I always
was not that I didn't think that Chelsea could pick
the right person. I knew she would never allow somebody
to do to be a jerk off to my kids.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
I just couldn't pick the right person.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
I would have picked somebody. I would have picked somebody
that was mean to our kids. Let me, I don't know,
because I know what I feel. But I mean, you
live in a situation, so I'm gonna actually, is it
harder or what do you spend more time or you
used to spend more time worried about if Wes liked
you or if the kids like you?
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (06:56):
No, oh no, My answer is none of the above.
I worry more about if my hits like him.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Oh okay, Well, I mean, well, I'm saying if that
is your biggest worry, and I.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Can see why he did doing what he's doing.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
I know, have your kids ever had an issue with him?
Speaker 3 (07:16):
He They've heard him raise his voice before, not even
to them, I think, more so to his kids, and
that scares them because I like every once in a
great while I have to yell by I really try
to not yell because.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Anytime I've ever seen Wes with your kids, he's so
I know is.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Hi?
Speaker 6 (07:44):
So I have a step son. He is three, and
I love him so much. He has an attitude problem
because he's a three year old. He hates his nap
time and the only time he will take actual naps
is when I I'm over because I have to tell him,
you lay your head done, you close your eyes, and
(08:05):
he will not listen to his dad one bit. It
is the most funny thing I've ever seen in my life.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
So you have to be the disciplined person I do.
Speaker 6 (08:14):
His dad is just too nice about it. He'll clean
up his toys, and you know, because he's impatient and
he's three, it takes some time to do stuff.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Are you ever worried though, that he's going to look
at you as the evil stepmom because you're the one
that always has to give him the discipline.
Speaker 6 (08:32):
I hope he doesn't think he is evil. I feel
like it's more structure because his mom has four other
daughters and he's the littlest son, so I know that
there's not too much structure over in the other home.
I'm hoping that will appreciate it. In the long run.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Is there a way I can talk to him in
a private room. I mean, he's only three years old,
but I'd be careful though, just a thing. I would
be really careful that. I think dad needs to step
up a little bit and be, you know, doing something,
because the kid's gonna never look at you at all
as somebody that he's gonna have respect. He might all
(09:17):
of a sudden turn it into your being mean to
him like you you know, And I think that that
happens in non blended families, where you know, you got
fun parent and the disciplined parent. Chelsea always hated the
fact that she had to be the person that had
to give the kids discipline. What's going on, Chelsea? Uh,
not you, my wife, but listener, that throws.
Speaker 7 (09:40):
Me off every time I listened to I. Actually, I'm
speaking as the perspective of a kid, even though I'm
an adult now. I when I was little, my mom
remarried a couple of times, and I had stepparents that
were both ways. I had the overbearing dad, where figure
who thought he knew best and told me every single
(10:02):
day what to do and all the time, and was
the you know person I hated because I never wanted
to walk into a room because he was so overbearing.
But I also had the stand offish, Oh, I don't
want to tell you what to do because I'm not
your dad. And I think there's extremes.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
In both plays.
Speaker 7 (10:21):
And I think that being that stand offish and treating
the other one like your kids differently than you're treating
your step kids is going to backfire eventually because your
kids are going to resent it. I know that being
in blended families growing up, Like if the step kids
got to do something that I didn't get to do,
(10:42):
I was like, why why couldn't I do that? But
it was like I wasn't as important to that person.
It was even though they were getting the discipline and
they were you know, they had more rules. It was like, oh, well,
you don't care what happens to me.
Speaker 4 (10:56):
Though, Oh that's a very interesting perspective. So Wes always
said it is your job.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
To parent, in my job to support your parenting decisions,
which I like that he says that because if I
do need like I always always say okay, coach, like
it's your turn to go in if I do need
some backup, Like I've heard him say before if I
tell Smith stop doing that, stop doing that, stop doing that,
And by the fifth time I do appreciate that. Wes
is like, hey, Smith, mom said. I think I heard
mom say stop doing that. That's why I feel like
(11:22):
that's like a good in between.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
But Jim, what's up?
Speaker 8 (11:28):
What's going on?
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Not much, buddy, what's going on?
Speaker 6 (11:32):
I'm much.
Speaker 8 (11:32):
I have two step kids and my way so well,
we have one of our owners. But also to start
stepping up and.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Having a b what are you talking on right now?
Speaker 2 (11:45):
You don't understand you take us, take us off, whatever
your bluetooth is.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
It's horrible. Yeah, go ahead, what we're gonna say?
Speaker 9 (11:55):
Okay, yeah, sorry. I have two step kids, I have
a kid on my own, and my wife always wanted
me to get her back on when she would discipline
her kids. Right, well, I started saying things and then
I get hit with well, you're not my dad, and
I was expecting that. I was expecting it, right, And
I said, yes, that's right because if you were my child,
(12:18):
you wouldn't be acting the way you are. So so
also I tell him too, I treat my daughter the
same as I treat you guys. If I get mad
at her for something, I just as much as get
mad as you guys. So I'm like, you know what, everyone's.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Getting treated the same here.
Speaker 9 (12:37):
No one's getting favorite in it. Nothing'll squat Wow.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
Wow, man, maybe you should have stayed on that blue Tooth's.
Speaker 7 (12:50):
All right, good morning. My husband doesn't have a relationship.
Speaker 8 (12:54):
With his dad because of his stepmother.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
She was me and then.
Speaker 7 (13:01):
Yeah, she kind of put herself in that position.
Speaker 8 (13:04):
And she even got mad at his grandparents for having
a relationship with him. Mind you, the relationship has been.
Speaker 7 (13:12):
Fairly new within like the past year.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
He's thirty three now, but she.
Speaker 7 (13:17):
Even got mad at She's like, I guess jealous.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
Oh that's yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Well, and that's one of those things too. It's like,
that's what you don't want to have, right. You don't
want it to be a situation where later in life
you find out that your kids didn't like But I
cannot believe. I cannot believe this. You have a blended
family of how many.
Speaker 8 (13:42):
Rocky, We've got a family of eight?
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Oh my god.
Speaker 8 (13:47):
Wow.
Speaker 7 (13:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (13:49):
Well, and and that's the response that I get from
everybody when I tell them how many kids that I have,
because I don't use the term step it's been so long.
My wife came into the relationship with read kids, and
I came into relationship with two kids, and we ended
up having three beautiful kids together. Yeah, so dealing with
the whole steps kids. My oldest daughter, which is she's
(14:11):
twenty three now, she is one of my best friends
in life. I go to her with a lot of things.
She comes to me with a lot of things. I
went through the whole you're not my dad's stage and
I don't like you stage, and then that stage kind
of dissipated once she knew that I was stable. I
was the one here, I was the one doing for everybody.
(14:33):
And then one Father's Day, I walk in my house
and my daughter of I think she was eighteen at
the time, I come into a brand new set of
golf clubs and she hands me one hundred dollars and says,
go golfing, dad.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
Wow, that's amazing.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
I feel great.
Speaker 9 (14:46):
Do you have advice for any step stepfathers out there
that are trying to have a good relationship with their kids.
Speaker 8 (14:53):
Patience patients, patients, patients, Never try and be better than
the dad. Always try and just be there, you know,
never try to be better than the dad because the
dad could be a POS. Like our situation, the dad
was a POS. He just kind of faded out of
the kids. Wives, didn't take care of child support and
things like that. He just kind of faded out of
(15:14):
their lives. So it took a lot of patience for
me to not be not be gloating as far as
you know what I mean, as far as like Steve,
this is what your this is what what what are
what your dad is done to.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
You, especially because a kid wants to have a relationships,
they want a relationship with their dad.
Speaker 8 (15:32):
Absolutely this day, Like from my youngest step son, he
is sixteen years old. Me and him just put together
two model cars last night.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
And that's cool.
Speaker 8 (15:42):
You know, I'm gonna little worked up, but you know,
I love.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
The kids, but I do idea. I love you. They're
lucky to have you, man.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
And the other thing too is and I'll say this,
and this is really something from friends of mine, don't
talk badly about the other parents. I mean absolutely not,
because the kids hear that and that's their parent.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Any if you in the moment, yeah, the moment that
you do that, you.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
Could have talked bad about this this dad, but that
the moment you do that, you put the kid on
the defensive because that's their that's their dad.
Speaker 8 (16:10):
I went through that a little bit with my my, my,
my children's my acts, my children's mother. I would always,
you know, like when I was younger, I would I
would talk and we weren't weren't together. I would kind
of talk bad about their mother. And it took my
current wife now to make me realize, like, Rocky, you
can't do that. You're you're putting You're putting them in
a situation to where they don't want to be around
(16:33):
you because.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
All you do is crap about their mom.
Speaker 8 (16:36):
And I had to take a step back as a man.
I had to take a step back and listen to
my wife and and go, oh wow, I've been doing
this for literally years, and I had to take a
step back and go, wow, Okay, I realized what I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Sounds like you got a good one there, Rocky.
Speaker 7 (16:50):
I do.
Speaker 8 (16:51):
I do.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Thanks buddy, Thank you guys.
Speaker 8 (16:53):
Y'all have a great day and have a happy New Year.
All right, it is Mojo in the Morning.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
We're gonna pay your bills coming up here in a second,
give you a chance to win one thousand dollars. We'll
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So get your you know device whatever ready. Your phone
probably is what you're going to enter this with. Or
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do it thirteen times today, thirteen thousand dollars a day.
So Mojo in the Morning Show. This is a great
(00:23):
topic anybody that is in a situation with ship or
marriage or whatever it is where you have blended families.
Shannon wants to bring up something about her husband, Wes,
that he does not want to be.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
He does not want to be the mean stepdad. And
this is so funny to me, Anna, because Wes, with
his own two kids, is pretty strict, intimidating. He is like,
very regimented with how he parent. He parents very differently
than I do.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
I'm laid back.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
He's kind of the opposite. And it's it's interesting because
this just happened. So Lucy, my sixth grader, has an
iPad and she has screen time on it, so there's
a limit. I think after an hour is what we
haven't set at. Right now, everything goes off, so you
can't You basically can't use the iPad, all.
Speaker 4 (01:20):
The apps and everything. They just go dark.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
I need that.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
Okay, you can do it. You can do it.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
You can have Chelsea be a charge of bit so
everyone's in the great while. On the weekends, I'll give
her unlimited screen time if she's face timing with her friends,
because like her big group of friends will all FaceTime
together and they'll sit and chat and do their makeup
and it's really cute. And I just give her unlimited
because I have the code so that she's not constantly
asking me for more screen time. And so I was
(01:46):
going out with some of my friends and she was
on there the other day, and I said to Wes, hey,
you know, make sure that she is not on that
thing the entire time I'm gone, Like, make sure she
joins the family and is like watching a movie with
you guys, and you know, comes and eats dinner and
all the whole thing. Make sure she's not hold up
on her iPad the entire time. Well she was, and
(02:06):
after a while he sent me a text and he
was like, hey, I just want to let you know
she's still on her iPad, you know whatever, And so
he's like, but please don't say anything to her that
I told you, and I'm like, us, I'm going to
just send her a text saying get off your iPad
and you know, go watch a movie with with Smith
(02:27):
and Wes, and so I did.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
He was so mad at me.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
That I essentially outed him for tattling on her because
he's like, now you just made me the mean step dad.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
And I'm like, but I told you to.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
I gave you permission to please get her off the iPad,
you know, if she's if she's on there for too long.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
So so she she was not on it long enough
to have the code have to be well.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
So I can I can override. And since I was
leaving and she was talking to all her girlfriends, I'm like, okay,
I'm just gonna give her unlimited. But like Wes, go
up there if she doesn't come down when they all
hang out.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
And make sure she's not on it for four.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Hours, you know, you know, how to be the really
good stepdad, go give her the.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
Co Well, he doesn't know it because I know him
he would. I won't tell him. He literally doesn't know
it for either of the iPads.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
But it's just so funny to me that he's one
way with his kids with mine.
Speaker 5 (03:24):
I appreciate by the way, he's pretty strict with his kids, right,
He's so strict, Wow.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
With mine. He is so difficult kids.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Feel about that.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Do his kids ever see how he parents h Lucy
and Smith and go, what the hell?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
We didn't have it that? I think?
Speaker 3 (03:37):
So that's more of a question for him because I'm
sure they go right to him and say, like, wait
a minute, if we did that.
Speaker 5 (03:44):
You would have our heads because we used to get
that we didn't parent Luke, So we get that with
like the like the kids would be like, you let
Luke do everything.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
But it's it's funny because when I he was legitimately
so mad at me about this, and so when I
got home, I'm like, dude, I very specifically ask you
to do this. You're not being mean, you know, I
this is this was a thing, and he I do
the same thing, and that's what he called me back out.
I do the same thing with my step kids where
if I need them to do something it takes everything
(04:16):
in me to say something to them.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
Usually I'll just text Wes and be like.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Hey, can you ask what do you mean by Sam
to clean her room and put her laundry way?
Speaker 4 (04:25):
And He's like, no, but you can, right, But I
don't want to be mean step mom. Okay, right, all right?
Speaker 1 (04:32):
So can I say this.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I think that both of you guys are right in
doing that, But I also think that there's a level
of where you have to step in. And I don't
know if they're you know what you do, but I
think if they're going to hurt themselves, you know what
I mean?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Okay, But I I.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Don't know if I would want another person parenting my
kids in a way where they were being like because
I always hear these stories sometimes of you know, people
that get remarried and then they marry this woman who's.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Like a bitch to their kids or no.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
I agree with you, And that's why I said I
appreciate that kid doesn't want to be mean step dead.
I appreciate like he knows I feel like I'm gonna
say this wrong. He knows the lane to stay in
with my kids, and I know the lane to stay
in with with his yea. And I mean that in
the nicest way possible. I feel like that's coming off
kind of harsh.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
It makes sense.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
But also this, this to me, wasn't a mean thing
of him just being able to go upstairs and be like, hey,
lou like, we're watching I forget what they were watching.
We're watching you know, Gladiator or whatever, come down and
hang out with theater.
Speaker 4 (05:31):
You know what, he could I don't know what they
were watching.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
He could have sent Smith up and you know eight
four four Mojoe Live eight four four six sixty five
sixty five four eight Are you in a blended family
and do you have this? And then I also want
to ask this question, were you in a blended family
as a kid and you had the mean step parent?
(05:54):
Because I'll tell you I heard more of those stories
than not, Like I have buddies of mine who's parents,
you know, were divorced and they're you know, moms and
dads remarried and they remarried total ass.
Speaker 5 (06:06):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, because I you know, I will say
this to you that that would be like that would
be something you know.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
I have to mention this before with Chelsea and I
I never wanted to get divorced because I never wanted
anybody parenting my kid and I never because I always
was not that I didn't think that Chelsea could pick
the right person. I knew she would never allow somebody
to do to be a jerk off to my kids.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
I just couldn't pick the right person.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
I would have picked somebody. I would have picked somebody
that was mean to our kids. Let me, I don't know,
because I know what I feel. But I mean, you
live in a situation, so I'm gonna actually, is it
harder or what do you spend more time or you
used to spend more time worried about if Wes liked
you or if the kids like you?
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (06:56):
No, oh no, My answer is none of the above.
I worry more about if my hits like him.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Oh okay, Well, I mean, well, I'm saying if that
is your biggest worry, and I.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Can see why he did doing what he's doing.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
I know, have your kids ever had an issue with him?
Speaker 3 (07:16):
He They've heard him raise his voice before, not even
to them, I think, more so to his kids, and
that scares them because I like every once in a
great while I have to yell by I really try
to not yell because.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Anytime I've ever seen Wes with your kids, he's so
I know is.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Hi?
Speaker 6 (07:44):
So I have a step son. He is three, and
I love him so much. He has an attitude problem
because he's a three year old. He hates his nap
time and the only time he will take actual naps
is when I I'm over because I have to tell him,
you lay your head done, you close your eyes, and
(08:05):
he will not listen to his dad one bit. It
is the most funny thing I've ever seen in my life.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
So you have to be the disciplined person I do.
Speaker 6 (08:14):
His dad is just too nice about it. He'll clean
up his toys, and you know, because he's impatient and
he's three, it takes some time to do stuff.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Are you ever worried though, that he's going to look
at you as the evil stepmom because you're the one
that always has to give him the discipline.
Speaker 6 (08:32):
I hope he doesn't think he is evil. I feel
like it's more structure because his mom has four other
daughters and he's the littlest son, so I know that
there's not too much structure over in the other home.
I'm hoping that will appreciate it. In the long run.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Is there a way I can talk to him in
a private room. I mean, he's only three years old,
but I'd be careful though, just a thing. I would
be really careful that. I think dad needs to step
up a little bit and be, you know, doing something,
because the kid's gonna never look at you at all
as somebody that he's gonna have respect. He might all
(09:17):
of a sudden turn it into your being mean to
him like you you know, And I think that that
happens in non blended families, where you know, you got
fun parent and the disciplined parent. Chelsea always hated the
fact that she had to be the person that had
to give the kids discipline. What's going on, Chelsea? Uh,
not you, my wife, but listener, that throws.
Speaker 7 (09:40):
Me off every time I listened to I. Actually, I'm
speaking as the perspective of a kid, even though I'm
an adult now. I when I was little, my mom
remarried a couple of times, and I had stepparents that
were both ways. I had the overbearing dad, where figure
who thought he knew best and told me every single
(10:02):
day what to do and all the time, and was
the you know person I hated because I never wanted
to walk into a room because he was so overbearing.
But I also had the stand offish, Oh, I don't
want to tell you what to do because I'm not
your dad. And I think there's extremes.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
In both plays.
Speaker 7 (10:21):
And I think that being that stand offish and treating
the other one like your kids differently than you're treating
your step kids is going to backfire eventually because your
kids are going to resent it. I know that being
in blended families growing up, Like if the step kids
got to do something that I didn't get to do,
(10:42):
I was like, why why couldn't I do that? But
it was like I wasn't as important to that person.
It was even though they were getting the discipline and
they were you know, they had more rules. It was like, oh, well,
you don't care what happens to me.
Speaker 4 (10:56):
Though, Oh that's a very interesting perspective. So Wes always
said it is your job.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
To parent, in my job to support your parenting decisions,
which I like that he says that because if I
do need like I always always say okay, coach, like
it's your turn to go in if I do need
some backup, Like I've heard him say before if I
tell Smith stop doing that, stop doing that, stop doing that,
And by the fifth time I do appreciate that. Wes
is like, hey, Smith, mom said. I think I heard
mom say stop doing that. That's why I feel like
(11:22):
that's like a good in between.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
But Jim, what's up?
Speaker 8 (11:28):
What's going on?
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Not much, buddy, what's going on?
Speaker 6 (11:32):
I'm much.
Speaker 8 (11:32):
I have two step kids and my way so well,
we have one of our owners. But also to start
stepping up and.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Having a b what are you talking on right now?
Speaker 2 (11:45):
You don't understand you take us, take us off, whatever
your bluetooth is.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
It's horrible. Yeah, go ahead, what we're gonna say?
Speaker 9 (11:55):
Okay, yeah, sorry. I have two step kids, I have
a kid on my own, and my wife always wanted
me to get her back on when she would discipline
her kids. Right, well, I started saying things and then
I get hit with well, you're not my dad, and
I was expecting that. I was expecting it, right, And
I said, yes, that's right because if you were my child,
(12:18):
you wouldn't be acting the way you are. So so
also I tell him too, I treat my daughter the
same as I treat you guys. If I get mad
at her for something, I just as much as get
mad as you guys. So I'm like, you know what, everyone's.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Getting treated the same here.
Speaker 9 (12:37):
No one's getting favorite in it. Nothing'll squat Wow.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
Wow, man, maybe you should have stayed on that blue Tooth's.
Speaker 7 (12:50):
All right, good morning. My husband doesn't have a relationship.
Speaker 8 (12:54):
With his dad because of his stepmother.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
She was me and then.
Speaker 7 (13:01):
Yeah, she kind of put herself in that position.
Speaker 8 (13:04):
And she even got mad at his grandparents for having
a relationship with him. Mind you, the relationship has been.
Speaker 7 (13:12):
Fairly new within like the past year.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
He's thirty three now, but she.
Speaker 7 (13:17):
Even got mad at She's like, I guess jealous.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
Oh that's yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Well, and that's one of those things too. It's like,
that's what you don't want to have, right. You don't
want it to be a situation where later in life
you find out that your kids didn't like But I
cannot believe. I cannot believe this. You have a blended
family of how many.
Speaker 8 (13:42):
Rocky, We've got a family of eight?
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Oh my god.
Speaker 8 (13:47):
Wow.
Speaker 7 (13:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (13:49):
Well, and and that's the response that I get from
everybody when I tell them how many kids that I have,
because I don't use the term step it's been so long.
My wife came into the relationship with read kids, and
I came into relationship with two kids, and we ended
up having three beautiful kids together. Yeah, so dealing with
the whole steps kids. My oldest daughter, which is she's
(14:11):
twenty three now, she is one of my best friends
in life. I go to her with a lot of things.
She comes to me with a lot of things. I
went through the whole you're not my dad's stage and
I don't like you stage, and then that stage kind
of dissipated once she knew that I was stable. I
was the one here, I was the one doing for everybody.
(14:33):
And then one Father's Day, I walk in my house
and my daughter of I think she was eighteen at
the time, I come into a brand new set of
golf clubs and she hands me one hundred dollars and says,
go golfing, dad.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
Wow, that's amazing.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
I feel great.
Speaker 9 (14:46):
Do you have advice for any step stepfathers out there
that are trying to have a good relationship with their kids.
Speaker 8 (14:53):
Patience patients, patients, patients, Never try and be better than
the dad. Always try and just be there, you know,
never try to be better than the dad because the
dad could be a POS. Like our situation, the dad
was a POS. He just kind of faded out of
the kids. Wives, didn't take care of child support and
things like that. He just kind of faded out of
(15:14):
their lives. So it took a lot of patience for
me to not be not be gloating as far as
you know what I mean, as far as like Steve,
this is what your this is what what what are
what your dad is done to.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
You, especially because a kid wants to have a relationships,
they want a relationship with their dad.
Speaker 8 (15:32):
Absolutely this day, Like from my youngest step son, he
is sixteen years old. Me and him just put together
two model cars last night.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
And that's cool.
Speaker 8 (15:42):
You know, I'm gonna little worked up, but you know,
I love.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
The kids, but I do idea. I love you. They're
lucky to have you, man.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
And the other thing too is and I'll say this,
and this is really something from friends of mine, don't
talk badly about the other parents. I mean absolutely not,
because the kids hear that and that's their parent.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Any if you in the moment, yeah, the moment that
you do that, you.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
Could have talked bad about this this dad, but that
the moment you do that, you put the kid on
the defensive because that's their that's their dad.
Speaker 8 (16:10):
I went through that a little bit with my my, my,
my children's my acts, my children's mother. I would always,
you know, like when I was younger, I would I
would talk and we weren't weren't together. I would kind
of talk bad about their mother. And it took my
current wife now to make me realize, like, Rocky, you
can't do that. You're you're putting You're putting them in
a situation to where they don't want to be around
(16:33):
you because.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
All you do is crap about their mom.
Speaker 8 (16:36):
And I had to take a step back as a man.
I had to take a step back and listen to
my wife and and go, oh wow, I've been doing
this for literally years, and I had to take a
step back and go, wow, Okay, I realized what I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Sounds like you got a good one there, Rocky.
Speaker 7 (16:50):
I do.
Speaker 8 (16:51):
I do.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Thanks buddy, Thank you guys.
Speaker 8 (16:53):
Y'all have a great day and have a happy New Year.
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