January 8, 2026 • 29 mins
We’re kicking off the new year asking the big question: What are we even doing in 2026? And very on brand for us, the forecast is… slightly messy.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it is time for the first slightly Messy
Show of the new year. It is Mike formerly from
Mojo in the Morning, which is why you're hearing this
on the more Mojo platform now co hosting my own
show with my co host Ali mack Over on B
ninety three point seven B nine three, or if you're
searching on the iHeartRadio app, you can just search WBCT.
(00:22):
It is time to jump into the first slightly Messy
Show of the new year. And I we're gonna get
into guests and we're gonna get into if you're new here,
this is a very very not formatted podcast. It's it's
the show title is exactly what it is. It's slightly messy.
(00:43):
We just hang out with friends. We bring people in
who are right here in the community, but also maybe
radio friends, maybe people in the building here, some friends
along the way as well.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
And we got some guests that are coming.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Up next week, starting off with the EEO of the
Girl Scouts, the odds of that that Yeah, apparently there's
a brand new cookie this year, and yeah it's called
Explore something I don't know, but they want to do
like a taste test of the new cookie and talk
(01:17):
about it, and I said, yeah, absolutely absolutely, you could
come in joining on the first podcast of the new year,
a regular not only to the slightly messy show, but
also a friend and somebody who joins the morning show regularly.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Miranda, how are you?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
I'm good? How are you today?
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Mike fantastic?
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Let me say that, first off, thank you for the
gifts that you got for Christmas, and then full Miranda fashion,
she didn't tell anybody she was getting gifts, so then
when I got the gifts, I'm like, oh, this is wonderful.
I didn't get you anything, so not only did you
make me feel bad, but you made me feel good
at the same time.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
So well done, well done.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
It wouldn't be our friendship if I didn't do things right.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
It is.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
It was great gifts and and I didn't talk about
it on the air the other gifts this morning, but uh,
real quick, I'd like to talk about it now. Yeah,
they were some of the most thoughtful, great gifts in
the entire world that like, they were very very I
don't know if you're always told you've been a good
gift giver, but you're a very good good gift giver.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
I I I get excited. Right, So, Like you talked
about cutom pops on the air and I'm like, oh,
does he know that you can make? So I did
not know that, right, I didn't think you did. So
as soon as you talked about it on the air,
I was like, Dade, I told Kenny, I'm like, I'm
gonna make them for them kind of you, Chris, I'm
(02:40):
gonna tell anybody. They're just gonna show up and he's
gonna be so excited.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Yeah, this box. I was very excited. This box showed
up and it's the size.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Of like, uh, I don't know. It looked like there
was like a shop back inside of there. It was.
It was a huge box.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
And the kids you got yet my son, Sebastian those magnets.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
The magnet yeah, which perfect.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
They're not legos, right, but he doesn't sink together and
they're easy to tear apart and put together.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
It's very very age appropriate. That's the perfect age appropriate
gift for him.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
And I have my best friend has a little boy
who's three.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Okay, so turn three.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
Uh So he's into that kind of stuff too. So
I'm like, okay, so was like this. I bet the
bastion would love that.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Yeah, those magnetiles are our gold, are absolute gold.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
He loves them.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
My you got my son Milo a Funko popa spider
Man one?
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I did. I got him the spider Man because you
had done the Batman. As for what's in the box,
And when I ordered the Funkos for you guys, they
had a deal going on and I found that cool
Spider Man one and he talked Hey Radio Lydia, Uh
you talked about how how Milo was super excited to
(03:59):
have something to put on the shelf.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Yes you yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. He's in the Spider
Man with glasses.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
And I'm like, well, he got a Batman one. That's cool,
but what if he's got a cool Spider Man one
that's his own.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
He loves it so much so that you know, what's
the rule with Funko pops?
Speaker 2 (04:16):
What is the thing you do? You don't.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Here's the thing. You can take them out of the
box if you don't plan on reselling them, Okay, plan
on reselling them. Keep the box pristine, keep everything fresh.
It's all about presentation.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
I feel. I feel I've always lived by, live and
die by. You don't open the thing now, I don't
plan on reselling these.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
But well, example, my friends that have the little Boy
that's about the Bashlar's page, they will buy duplicates if
he wants to play with one, so they'll buy one
to put on the shelf and then one he can
play with.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Well, I like that. I like that. I wouldn't ask
of that. I wouldn't ask that at all.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
But he he immediately opened it up.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
That's how I knew he liked it. He immediately opened
it up.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
And then I found out that some YouTube video with
Funko pops where you can I guess there's there's rumor
that there's something inside their heads, like a brain or something.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
So he's like, uh, look on YouTube, there's videos of it.
I don't think they're real. I don't think that's real
for every single one. I think it's just like a
But my son somehow stumbled upon it, and he's convinced
that there's either I don't know if it's candy or
just another toy inside of the head. And I'm like, dude,
I'm like, dude, you're not cutting that open. He's like,
but Dad, I saw it on YouTube. So we had
(05:31):
to have a long conversation about what do you watch
it on YouTube?
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Baby?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
So then.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Then I got sess the journal, which she loves.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
I got That's the journal because when I was her age,
I loved those kinds of things. And I got a
chance to sit down and talk to her a little
bit when it came to the chili cookoff. Yes, and
we talked about school and how creative she was and
all these things, and she said she likes to write.
And I'm like, this is perfect. It comes with everything,
it's all in a box. I'm like, I love these
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things when I was a kid.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Yeah, why not?
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Absolutely great, just great, guess And then my wife, Uh,
we opened the box up and it's a Clorox box
and I'm like, did she gets you? Did she get
you Clorox wipes? So like why would she? Why would
she get you Clorox wipes? And then she opened it
up and it's a is it sleep token?
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Is it a sleep sleep blanket? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Well, funny story about this blanket. Actually, I got online
and I ordered it. I head it off TikTok shop actually,
and uh, we got that huge ice storm that came
in and they're like, oh, well it's not going to
be here because it was supposed I was supposed to
have everything in time for Christmas, like I wanted. I
was hoping you guys were going to be able to
open it like on air, like in time for everything.
(06:54):
Huh worked out today and everything. But anyways, so when
it came in, it just came in in like a
package and I'm like, well, I wanted to wrap it
with some cool drapping paper, like you know, you saw
the wripping paper I put your stuff in and I'm like, well,
it's looking for a box and I'm like, well, this
is the only thing that's going to fit in. I
didn't even think about it, like throughout the years in
my household, we just use whatever box we had, you
(07:16):
know what I mean, Yeah, that's not what's in the box,
not necessarily the box. And then you said the chlorox
box and I'm like, oh shit, I totally forgot.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Yeah. I was so thrown off by it.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Normally I don't look at the boxes either, but it
was just like a it was such a random box
that popped up.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I'm like, I hope she got you wipes. I hope
that's what she got you.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Uh, you know, Ellie? Does mom mean sometimes when we
hang out.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
So yeah, but I thought I.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Was a sleek token blanket because I know she's a
huge fan. I can't stand slee token. I know she's
a huge fan and she likes to read and book
talk on TikTok is a huge thing, and I'm like, oh,
it's a perfect koby little blanket she can read.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
And oh she loves it. She absolutely loves it.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
It's funny too to see our like she'll app up
in it or so now the kids will get in it,
and so you see the kids that see blakets. It's hilarious.
But once again, thank you very much. I was very
kind of you. It's very rude because you didn't tell
us and so.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Now I have to. It's not rude, it's very rude.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
It's very rude to get somebody a gift and then
not tell them so they have the opportunity to get
you a gift as well.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
But doesn't it take away someone's surprise. But I was like, came, Mike,
I got you guys a gift.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Uh no, yes, uh yeah, damn it. Yes. Yes.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Also I kind of did tell you.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
You told yeah a week before, like three, like in
no time to get anything. Oh by the way I
got you guys something, it should be here like it was.
That was a very casual way to throw that in there,
and I did respect that. But a week before, had
you said that at the Chili cookoff, Hey, I'm gonna
get you guys. I got this perfect gift I found
for you guys, we'd go, no, don't do that, like,
(08:56):
and you go, yes, I already did.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
I'm gonna do it anyway, So why tell you?
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Because once we we because we say no, not that
I don't want the gift from you.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
It is like, oh, you don't have to do that.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
But then you would go, oh yeah, but I already
did and I'm going to And then we go all right, fine,
then we're getting you something.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Yeah, that's it's almost like a polite response, right right, right,
you know, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Anyways, it was very kind and also very rude, and
that's perfect.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
It's like on brand for me. Yes, and it is
honestly like it.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Was a thank you for everything that you you guys
have done for us.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Oh stop, you don't have to do any of that,
but you're welcome. You're rude, but you're welcome. Also. No,
it was a great way to start.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
It's awesome off putting ones and I took it as
a compliment.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
You're not really.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
So the it was a great way to start, honestly
the new year. As we as we get started for
twenty twenty six, we get to open gibs even later
into the new year, which is fun. Is actually more fun.
It makes like we saw of our Christmas tree and stuff,
so it was like, oh cool.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
We just took ours down over the weekend.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
You did hm, and we'll get to it eventually.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
We actually went to one of those Spirit Halloween stores
out here in Nova.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
And did what with it?
Speaker 3 (10:13):
And so well you know how uh no, not Spirit Halloween.
You know how Spirit Halloween did Spirit Christmas?
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
They had one of those out here. So that's where
we bought our tree from. And it is all in
one collapsible tree like vaults. Everything all you have to
do is put a pole in it and it just
goes straight up and then you just put it in
the stand and plug it in night.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Is that?
Speaker 1 (10:36):
So are you are you normally an organized like super
organized person trying to be okay?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
So is it like this will roll right into this?
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Is it like a twenty twenty six like goal, then
a resolution to be like an organized person, or what
is your I guess I'll ask you that, what is
your resolutions, your goals, your whatever you call them?
Speaker 3 (10:56):
My resolution, I guess you would call it. Or I
don't really like resolutions either, like you were saying, but
like I just try to better myself every year, right,
So this year my motto is let them. Okay, yeah,
So if they're going to talk about too cool, let them.
(11:18):
If they're going to do this that, whatever, let them.
If it costs you time, money or whatever. Any negative energy,
any negative bad energy, I don't care if it doesn't
help me, I don't care, Okay, I am happy in
my own safe note. Me and my friends started internet
(11:40):
gaming together. We're gonna start a stream here on tatok
live and like, outside of that and going to work.
I picked up playing the guitar recently. I'm building all
of these hobbies like we let them if you want to.
I don't care what happened up to the point. I
(12:03):
I'm all about every decision I've made up until this
point because it got me to where I'm at. I'm
happy where I'm at, and respectfully if you knew me
last year, you don't know me now because I've learned
a lot of lessons since then, and I want to
take all of those lessons and go forward.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I think moving forward in general is
always a great way to roll into any new year.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Any day.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Really, I wake up and tell the kids every single day,
or every at least once a week, it's a new day.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Tomorrow's a new day.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
You don't have to do the same thing or be
even the same person you were yesterday. You can do
It's a new week. We get to start over. Whatever
happened in these last hours doesn't matter. Tomorrow it won't matter.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
I like that. I like that a lot.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
I have like an add brain who wants to accomplish
all these things, all these goals, which makes it hard
only because because I know a lot of people do
this because you can't publish everything like you can't you
can't finish everything. You can get that it started and
kind of roll through it, but it makes it. It
makes it a pain in the ass to do these
(13:10):
resolutions because I when I don't get them done or
I slack in other areas because I'm trying to get
them done. I feel like I failed, so it was
impossible for me to set one goal this year, so
would helping you. I kind of created this, uh this,
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
It's like a mission statement.
Speaker 3 (13:33):
Mission statement kind of words to live by, I guess.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Yeah, yeah, and where I will be intentional with my time.
I added energy as well and money, uh, so that
those things are being focused on. Uh, the focus with
all those things will be to gain my health, wealth
and happiness, and that you know, wealth not necessarily being
(13:57):
I want to make a ton of money, but I
hope so you know, wealth being might be just saving money.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
I think wealth as in contentment, right, like you're not
wanting for anything.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I like that. And then happiness being. Uh,
I've found in these last few years, I've I've let
some friendships go, I've let some the a lot of
the people that I reached out to all the time
and tried to connect with all the time. I've realized
that I was doing most of that, and so I
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just let it go. And it's actually been incredible for
my mental health because I'm not wondering why, you know,
I'm not thinking about all these things, and I don't
have to deal with any of the drama that.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
Comes compliment that. Also, that doesn't mean you don't respond
when they do reach out. That just means you stop
putting the first forward.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's yeah, because it's not like
I disliked them.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Uh, it's just it's just I don't have I've noticed
for me.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
I don't know spoon's left over, you know, the spoons
the mental capacity to handle extra additional stuff.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Yeah yeah, well and all of my my the most
valuable currency that I have is my time, my energy
and uh and well I guess money too, but time,
energy and focus really is probably the biggest currency that
I realized that's the most valuable to me.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
But obviously I want money. Who doesn't want money?
Speaker 1 (15:28):
But like, if I'm tired, Yeah, if I'm too tired
to even do anything, If I have all this money,
then what's what was the point?
Speaker 2 (15:35):
If my focus is always on.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Is always on work, or always on other things rather
than the things I want to focus on, then who
cares if I have all this money or all this
you know, all this time because I'm using that time poorly.
So I think if I put all those things together,
and that includes like I want to. I want to
like fix up the house a little bit, but I've
just chosen to use my time in other ways and
my money for other things, so that effect.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
Well you know something else that helps me because my
brain works like you, I want to do all the
things that I want to do them all right now,
I forced myself to slow down, yeah, and bring myself
back to the present, right, so like take the prioritize,
like make the list of all the things you want
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to do, right, but prioritize it so like you have
a list here so it's organized. Yeah, I know these
are the things I want to get to, but right now,
I can't do this one until I do this one.
So I'm going to start with this one and that's
all I'm going to focus on. And as long as
it takes me to do that, that's okay, because I
can't do the next one until I do that first one.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
Yeah, And I got to a point where I was
more counting down to vacations than I was living the
rest of my life to doing things.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
I would just I just not shut down completely.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
But like if I got all these things lined up
and then Sess wants I promise sess we'd sit down
and play chess, and I gave up the chest because
I'm like, well, I can always get back to that,
And instead I tackled all these things that I had
to tackle nine times out of ten, I created more
things like if I'm fixing something, there's a good chance
that I found something else that I didn't get fixed
yet either, So then I go to that. And so
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I felt like, I feel as though the things that
I did I said fail, but I would say came
up short because I don't feel like fail as ever.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Fail seems like such an indefinite word, like you.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
I sat that word because it makes me feel so bad.
I just didn't put my best foot forward. It didn't
do my best.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Yeah, and I don't.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
But I don't believe in like failing or losing. I
believe that it's all like a lesson, like it's all
to get to the next thing. But I I and
so I think I worded that that post even a
little harshly. But I felt like I came up short
with some of the things that I'm normally really really
good at, normally really really good at my wife's love languages.
Came up short with that normally really really good at
(17:55):
date nights, but even during some of our date nights,
I'm scrolling on my phone or when something that I
didn't need to be doing in that moment. And so
those are just things that that if I put it
all into that mission statement, and I'm focused on my
health mental and physical, if I'm focused on my happiness,
which my happiness is my people at home, that's everything
else is great. And I love you know, the people
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that I have come into my life and and that
I'm growing and building relationships with. But if like I
had to pick my happy, like, if I had to say,
all right, I can only have one set of happy,
it would be that that those four people at my house,
and right, that's so anything that makes that life better, uh,
that's gonna be my main focus.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
And then just unplugging. We we I don't know if
you do this.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
Do you have like probably not because you don't have kids,
But do you do you separate yourself from screens at all?
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Ever?
Speaker 1 (18:43):
Do you ever go through moments where you're like, I
can't be by a screen or in front of a
screen for hours.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
Excuse me no, because my screen is my escape.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Okay, see that's the difference.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Yeah, because I have like, like I would say, I'm like,
I don't internet friendships, you know what I mean? Like
I have a whole discord community that I hang out
with that you know the creator, I follow those live
on TikTok. We hang out in the lives. We're starting
the stream, like I'm building my comfort comfort spaces. Yeah,
which it's fine, but I'm also I was thinking about
(19:19):
this too, right, It's not about the screen, It's about
what you're doing with the screen.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
What do you mean?
Speaker 3 (19:24):
Well, so like I can sit here on my phone
and I can play a game, or I can sit
here on my phone and I can record an educational
video about me learning to play the guitar. Or I
can sit here and do this podcast with you.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Yeah yeah, yeah, Okay.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
So it's about being intentional about what you're doing with
the screen.
Speaker 1 (19:43):
Yeah, I like, I like intentional with a lot of it.
We I think, I I think I have so much.
I have small minds that I have to mold, and
those small minds, those new mind young minds. I guess
it's not small what I was looking for, those the youth,
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and I get to a point of like it's almost
laz It's my intentions are just to separate for a
minute and take a break. So then I turn on
a screen to take a break. And for me with
the kids, it just becomes lazy parenting. Like you, it's
different because you're not. It's for you, and it's you.
It's your moment of like zen, it's your moment to
(20:25):
connect with people. And for me, I've spent all day
doing nothing but connecting on a screen and and communicating
and talking and NonStop that I have to just shut
it off for a minute. And I've always I've grew
up with like you turn on a TV and you
could just let it play and you don't have to
do much of anything but sit back and unwind. The
problem with that is is that when the kids are
(20:47):
needing my focus and wanting my focus, I've I've definitely,
like every other parent out there, been like, all right,
you can just let's just swust some TV for a
little bit and then we'll do that thing. And that's
we've created now at my house a almost like a
dream time where we only do like screens like right
after dinner and then that's it.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
And so far it's been an absolute nightmare.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
You know.
Speaker 3 (21:10):
You know what's crazy about what I've learned is you
got to find what fits your schedule, right, Yeah, and
don't feel bad about not sticking to it, because if
you're not sticking to it, that means it's not working.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Yeah, yeah, that's true. That's true. Uh, it's so fun.
I mean it's only been what are we four days
into the week? Three days into the week with school
and everything, it's only been three days. But it's if
you've ever seen a kid who's been on screens for
two weeks basically because I mean, we didn't that's not
all we did. I'm exaggerating, but but we Uh it's
(21:46):
like cracked to them. They just like they just want
to be on the screen, and so we're getting there.
It'll be it'll be fine. But I'm exaggerating a tud,
but it is.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
It is.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
I think I don't think it's so much about the
screen as much as it is about being present in
the moment. Do you hear your kid when they reach out?
Like it's again, CJ. I don't have kids, but I
have little kids around me. Kindly, Kelly. Yeah, And I
watched my friend Ellie parents her son in ways that
(22:23):
are good. He's a good kid. He plays with his toys.
He she doesn't do a lot of screen time. But
also when we go out to eat together, he's gonna
send much a movie episode because it keeps them calm,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
That's something that as a as a guy who didn't
have kids and going into a guy with kids, I
saw the parents and every parent will go through this,
anybody who is going to become a parent or is
an aunt and uncle, and we'll see this at some
point and then have the kids on your own.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
You see that and you go, jeez, I would never
do that. God, I would never put my kids on
a screen. When I have that moment with him at.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
A dinner table, and then you get to that moment
at out back or at Applebee's and you go give
them the fucking phone. Let them watch Blue for a
minute so that we you and I can have a
three second conversation. Uh. And you'll say it to them
like that, but obviously you you're like, I just need it,
we just.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
Need a minute. We're we're out to eat, let's just
have a minute, right.
Speaker 3 (23:18):
And when we were kids, it was go to your room,
go entertain yourself.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
What's the different Yeah, exactly exact. Well, I mean, the
screen is the digience.
Speaker 3 (23:28):
The difference is the device that you're entertaining yourself with. Okay,
and unfortunately in it because it because it's not that
doesn't mean a phone can't be creative, you know what
I mean. Like, look at my setup that I have
right now, you know what I mean. Like, I got
a background, I got a camera. I'm doing things. You know,
Seth's talked about doing things on camera. My love was
(23:50):
talked about doing things on cameras. All about what you
do with the stuff that you have. Yeah, that makes it.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
We are at a different generation of like of like
growing up, and I understand things are different, and that's
why screens at a dinner table and a restaurant isn't
like the end of the world to me anymore.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
But I do think that.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
This summer, when we got them outside more and less screens,
was back to what I kind of grew up with.
And I don't think I think that's important. I don't
mind them wanting to do screen stuff. But my son
is so into games now and it's not like I
don't encourage it.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
We got him in a.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
Switch too, so like we like to because it is
a family activity that we can all do together. But
if it ever became like he can't function in the
world if he doesn't play video games, or he pushes
himself into the basement for hours and we don't see
him for days, like there is a line. I just
we were such new with all of this because even
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a lot of our friends and kids, people that have
kids our age or even older, their kids have been
on screens even longer and even more, and so this
is all kind of new to us because we held
back on the score. We're very much behind with screens
intentionally intentionally, but like kids didn't have an iPad.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
I don't know if I don't think either is better
than the other. I think that you do the best
you can with what you have and what you can do.
And we didn't do an iPad.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
We didn't do an iPad, and it wasn't we noticed
that they weren't, you know, looking for screens all the time.
But there's still TVs and there's still all these other
different things that come into play, and you just kind
of roll with it. And that's not one of my
biggest focuses in twenty twenty six. But it is a
focus to spend more time with each other and be
(25:39):
more intentional with those few hours that we do get
after school and after work. And so that's really.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
Something to keep in mind that I have kind of
started doing. I've kind of been talking to a lot
of people about instead of gift giving, give experiences.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Yes, we did start that with sess a while. I
like it. I like it a lot. We started it
with SaaS.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
And then she didn't fully understand it, so we started
it too early. As she gets older, I think we'll
do more of that with her and kind of transform
it with her.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
The boys. I don't think we'ld get it yet either.
Speaker 3 (26:18):
But what's cool is that you can. You can. What's
cool is the way you give to the experience. Like
I bought my steps to cern her fiance tickets to
SmackDown in February, h and I got on CAMEO and
had an old WWE legend give them a little message
(26:41):
to say, hey, here's your ticket. This is what you got,
you know what I mean? And I put it on
a USB drive, I wrapped it up and sent it
to him. There was something to open. There was a
presentation Teddy Teddy's gifts this year, I got him a
gift card to a rage room.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Oh did he love it? Has he used yet?
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Yeah? No, we haven't used. But yeah, but what it is.
What I did is I got this box that says
in case of emergency, break glass and I put like,
I put a Spotify code for a playlist in there,
and like this little incident report, like I had check
create a couple of images, and like I said, it
all up for him. So it was about presenting this.
(27:20):
So he got something to open. And now when we go,
we'll take a picture there and I'll put the picture
in the box and redo the box. And now the
box is the memory from the gift.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
See, you are a great gift giver. You are a
phenomenal gift giver. That's a that is a great gift.
And yeah, I think I think going into twenty twenty six,
let them is a great one. I think I'm a
big fan of what we kind of came up with
for all of mine because that to me, it simplifies
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all of it into one sentence. And so then if
I even tackle one of those things this year, if
I even get to connect and go on more experience
says with my kids this year than I did in
years prior, and really enjoy it and really take it
all in. Even that one thing to me, then I've
I've succeeded something in the new year.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
So I don't know, let us know what yours is.
I just realized it is. It is that time. So yeah, yeah,
appreciate you coming.
Speaker 3 (28:19):
We'll talk for an hour.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
I know. That's that. That's the greatest.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
That's why you You are obviously more than welcome any
time to come on.
Speaker 2 (28:26):
Always love having you on here. Appreciate you so much.
Absolutely anytime you need a guess, let me know, all right,
appreciate you. Have a great day.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
Follow Miranda on TikTok and Instagram at Batman Underscore NERD.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Now have a great day.
Speaker 3 (28:40):
Thanks by Mike.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
Bye,
All right, it is time for the first slightly Messy
Show of the new year. It is Mike formerly from
Mojo in the Morning, which is why you're hearing this
on the more Mojo platform now co hosting my own
show with my co host Ali mack Over on B
ninety three point seven B nine three, or if you're
searching on the iHeartRadio app, you can just search WBCT.
(00:22):
It is time to jump into the first slightly Messy
Show of the new year. And I we're gonna get
into guests and we're gonna get into if you're new here,
this is a very very not formatted podcast. It's it's
the show title is exactly what it is. It's slightly messy.
(00:43):
We just hang out with friends. We bring people in
who are right here in the community, but also maybe
radio friends, maybe people in the building here, some friends
along the way as well.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
And we got some guests that are coming.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Up next week, starting off with the EEO of the
Girl Scouts, the odds of that that Yeah, apparently there's
a brand new cookie this year, and yeah it's called
Explore something I don't know, but they want to do
like a taste test of the new cookie and talk
(01:17):
about it, and I said, yeah, absolutely absolutely, you could
come in joining on the first podcast of the new year,
a regular not only to the slightly messy show, but
also a friend and somebody who joins the morning show regularly.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Miranda, how are you?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
I'm good? How are you today?
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Mike fantastic?
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Let me say that, first off, thank you for the
gifts that you got for Christmas, and then full Miranda fashion,
she didn't tell anybody she was getting gifts, so then
when I got the gifts, I'm like, oh, this is wonderful.
I didn't get you anything, so not only did you
make me feel bad, but you made me feel good
at the same time.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
So well done, well done.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
It wouldn't be our friendship if I didn't do things right.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
It is.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
It was great gifts and and I didn't talk about
it on the air the other gifts this morning, but uh,
real quick, I'd like to talk about it now. Yeah,
they were some of the most thoughtful, great gifts in
the entire world that like, they were very very I
don't know if you're always told you've been a good
gift giver, but you're a very good good gift giver.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
I I I get excited. Right, So, Like you talked
about cutom pops on the air and I'm like, oh,
does he know that you can make? So I did
not know that, right, I didn't think you did. So
as soon as you talked about it on the air,
I was like, Dade, I told Kenny, I'm like, I'm
gonna make them for them kind of you, Chris, I'm
(02:40):
gonna tell anybody. They're just gonna show up and he's
gonna be so excited.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Yeah, this box. I was very excited. This box showed
up and it's the size.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Of like, uh, I don't know. It looked like there
was like a shop back inside of there. It was.
It was a huge box.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
And the kids you got yet my son, Sebastian those magnets.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
The magnet yeah, which perfect.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
They're not legos, right, but he doesn't sink together and
they're easy to tear apart and put together.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
It's very very age appropriate. That's the perfect age appropriate
gift for him.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
And I have my best friend has a little boy
who's three.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Okay, so turn three.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
Uh So he's into that kind of stuff too. So
I'm like, okay, so was like this. I bet the
bastion would love that.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Yeah, those magnetiles are our gold, are absolute gold.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
He loves them.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
My you got my son Milo a Funko popa spider
Man one?
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I did. I got him the spider Man because you
had done the Batman. As for what's in the box,
And when I ordered the Funkos for you guys, they
had a deal going on and I found that cool
Spider Man one and he talked Hey Radio Lydia, Uh
you talked about how how Milo was super excited to
(03:59):
have something to put on the shelf.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Yes you yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. He's in the Spider
Man with glasses.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
And I'm like, well, he got a Batman one. That's cool,
but what if he's got a cool Spider Man one
that's his own.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
He loves it so much so that you know, what's
the rule with Funko pops?
Speaker 2 (04:16):
What is the thing you do? You don't.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Here's the thing. You can take them out of the
box if you don't plan on reselling them, Okay, plan
on reselling them. Keep the box pristine, keep everything fresh.
It's all about presentation.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
I feel. I feel I've always lived by, live and
die by. You don't open the thing now, I don't
plan on reselling these.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
But well, example, my friends that have the little Boy
that's about the Bashlar's page, they will buy duplicates if
he wants to play with one, so they'll buy one
to put on the shelf and then one he can
play with.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Well, I like that. I like that. I wouldn't ask
of that. I wouldn't ask that at all.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
But he he immediately opened it up.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
That's how I knew he liked it. He immediately opened
it up.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
And then I found out that some YouTube video with
Funko pops where you can I guess there's there's rumor
that there's something inside their heads, like a brain or something.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
So he's like, uh, look on YouTube, there's videos of it.
I don't think they're real. I don't think that's real
for every single one. I think it's just like a
But my son somehow stumbled upon it, and he's convinced
that there's either I don't know if it's candy or
just another toy inside of the head. And I'm like, dude,
I'm like, dude, you're not cutting that open. He's like,
but Dad, I saw it on YouTube. So we had
(05:31):
to have a long conversation about what do you watch
it on YouTube?
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Baby?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
So then.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Then I got sess the journal, which she loves.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
I got That's the journal because when I was her age,
I loved those kinds of things. And I got a
chance to sit down and talk to her a little
bit when it came to the chili cookoff. Yes, and
we talked about school and how creative she was and
all these things, and she said she likes to write.
And I'm like, this is perfect. It comes with everything,
it's all in a box. I'm like, I love these
(06:05):
things when I was a kid.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Yeah, why not?
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Absolutely great, just great, guess And then my wife, Uh,
we opened the box up and it's a Clorox box
and I'm like, did she gets you? Did she get
you Clorox wipes? So like why would she? Why would
she get you Clorox wipes? And then she opened it
up and it's a is it sleep token?
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Is it a sleep sleep blanket? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Well, funny story about this blanket. Actually, I got online
and I ordered it. I head it off TikTok shop actually,
and uh, we got that huge ice storm that came
in and they're like, oh, well it's not going to
be here because it was supposed I was supposed to
have everything in time for Christmas, like I wanted. I
was hoping you guys were going to be able to
open it like on air, like in time for everything.
(06:54):
Huh worked out today and everything. But anyways, so when
it came in, it just came in in like a
package and I'm like, well, I wanted to wrap it
with some cool drapping paper, like you know, you saw
the wripping paper I put your stuff in and I'm like, well,
it's looking for a box and I'm like, well, this
is the only thing that's going to fit in. I
didn't even think about it, like throughout the years in
my household, we just use whatever box we had, you
(07:16):
know what I mean, Yeah, that's not what's in the box,
not necessarily the box. And then you said the chlorox
box and I'm like, oh shit, I totally forgot.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Yeah. I was so thrown off by it.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Normally I don't look at the boxes either, but it
was just like a it was such a random box
that popped up.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I'm like, I hope she got you wipes. I hope
that's what she got you.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Uh, you know, Ellie? Does mom mean sometimes when we
hang out.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
So yeah, but I thought I.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Was a sleek token blanket because I know she's a
huge fan. I can't stand slee token. I know she's
a huge fan and she likes to read and book
talk on TikTok is a huge thing, and I'm like, oh,
it's a perfect koby little blanket she can read.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
And oh she loves it. She absolutely loves it.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
It's funny too to see our like she'll app up
in it or so now the kids will get in it,
and so you see the kids that see blakets. It's hilarious.
But once again, thank you very much. I was very
kind of you. It's very rude because you didn't tell
us and so.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Now I have to. It's not rude, it's very rude.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
It's very rude to get somebody a gift and then
not tell them so they have the opportunity to get
you a gift as well.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
But doesn't it take away someone's surprise. But I was like, came, Mike,
I got you guys a gift.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Uh no, yes, uh yeah, damn it. Yes. Yes.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Also I kind of did tell you.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
You told yeah a week before, like three, like in
no time to get anything. Oh by the way I
got you guys something, it should be here like it was.
That was a very casual way to throw that in there,
and I did respect that. But a week before, had
you said that at the Chili cookoff, Hey, I'm gonna
get you guys. I got this perfect gift I found
for you guys, we'd go, no, don't do that, like,
(08:56):
and you go, yes, I already did.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
I'm gonna do it anyway, So why tell you?
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Because once we we because we say no, not that
I don't want the gift from you.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
It is like, oh, you don't have to do that.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
But then you would go, oh yeah, but I already
did and I'm going to And then we go all right, fine,
then we're getting you something.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Yeah, that's it's almost like a polite response, right right, right,
you know, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Anyways, it was very kind and also very rude, and
that's perfect.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
It's like on brand for me. Yes, and it is
honestly like it.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Was a thank you for everything that you you guys
have done for us.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Oh stop, you don't have to do any of that,
but you're welcome. You're rude, but you're welcome. Also. No,
it was a great way to start.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
It's awesome off putting ones and I took it as
a compliment.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
You're not really.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
So the it was a great way to start, honestly
the new year. As we as we get started for
twenty twenty six, we get to open gibs even later
into the new year, which is fun. Is actually more fun.
It makes like we saw of our Christmas tree and stuff,
so it was like, oh cool.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
We just took ours down over the weekend.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
You did hm, and we'll get to it eventually.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
We actually went to one of those Spirit Halloween stores
out here in Nova.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
And did what with it?
Speaker 3 (10:13):
And so well you know how uh no, not Spirit Halloween.
You know how Spirit Halloween did Spirit Christmas?
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
They had one of those out here. So that's where
we bought our tree from. And it is all in
one collapsible tree like vaults. Everything all you have to
do is put a pole in it and it just
goes straight up and then you just put it in
the stand and plug it in night.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Is that?
Speaker 1 (10:36):
So are you are you normally an organized like super
organized person trying to be okay?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
So is it like this will roll right into this?
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Is it like a twenty twenty six like goal, then
a resolution to be like an organized person, or what
is your I guess I'll ask you that, what is
your resolutions, your goals, your whatever you call them?
Speaker 3 (10:56):
My resolution, I guess you would call it. Or I
don't really like resolutions either, like you were saying, but
like I just try to better myself every year, right,
So this year my motto is let them. Okay, yeah,
So if they're going to talk about too cool, let them.
(11:18):
If they're going to do this that, whatever, let them.
If it costs you time, money or whatever. Any negative energy,
any negative bad energy, I don't care if it doesn't
help me, I don't care, Okay, I am happy in
my own safe note. Me and my friends started internet
(11:40):
gaming together. We're gonna start a stream here on tatok
live and like, outside of that and going to work.
I picked up playing the guitar recently. I'm building all
of these hobbies like we let them if you want to.
I don't care what happened up to the point. I
(12:03):
I'm all about every decision I've made up until this
point because it got me to where I'm at. I'm
happy where I'm at, and respectfully if you knew me
last year, you don't know me now because I've learned
a lot of lessons since then, and I want to
take all of those lessons and go forward.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I think moving forward in general is
always a great way to roll into any new year.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Any day.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Really, I wake up and tell the kids every single day,
or every at least once a week, it's a new day.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Tomorrow's a new day.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
You don't have to do the same thing or be
even the same person you were yesterday. You can do
It's a new week. We get to start over. Whatever
happened in these last hours doesn't matter. Tomorrow it won't matter.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
I like that. I like that a lot.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
I have like an add brain who wants to accomplish
all these things, all these goals, which makes it hard
only because because I know a lot of people do
this because you can't publish everything like you can't you
can't finish everything. You can get that it started and
kind of roll through it, but it makes it. It
makes it a pain in the ass to do these
(13:10):
resolutions because I when I don't get them done or
I slack in other areas because I'm trying to get
them done. I feel like I failed, so it was
impossible for me to set one goal this year, so
would helping you. I kind of created this, uh this,
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
It's like a mission statement.
Speaker 3 (13:33):
Mission statement kind of words to live by, I guess.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Yeah, yeah, and where I will be intentional with my time.
I added energy as well and money, uh, so that
those things are being focused on. Uh, the focus with
all those things will be to gain my health, wealth
and happiness, and that you know, wealth not necessarily being
(13:57):
I want to make a ton of money, but I
hope so you know, wealth being might be just saving money.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
I think wealth as in contentment, right, like you're not
wanting for anything.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I like that. And then happiness being. Uh,
I've found in these last few years, I've I've let
some friendships go, I've let some the a lot of
the people that I reached out to all the time
and tried to connect with all the time. I've realized
that I was doing most of that, and so I
(14:28):
just let it go. And it's actually been incredible for
my mental health because I'm not wondering why, you know,
I'm not thinking about all these things, and I don't
have to deal with any of the drama that.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
Comes compliment that. Also, that doesn't mean you don't respond
when they do reach out. That just means you stop
putting the first forward.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's yeah, because it's not like
I disliked them.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Uh, it's just it's just I don't have I've noticed
for me.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
I don't know spoon's left over, you know, the spoons
the mental capacity to handle extra additional stuff.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Yeah yeah, well and all of my my the most
valuable currency that I have is my time, my energy
and uh and well I guess money too, but time,
energy and focus really is probably the biggest currency that
I realized that's the most valuable to me.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
But obviously I want money. Who doesn't want money?
Speaker 1 (15:28):
But like, if I'm tired, Yeah, if I'm too tired
to even do anything, If I have all this money,
then what's what was the point?
Speaker 2 (15:35):
If my focus is always on.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Is always on work, or always on other things rather
than the things I want to focus on, then who
cares if I have all this money or all this
you know, all this time because I'm using that time poorly.
So I think if I put all those things together,
and that includes like I want to. I want to
like fix up the house a little bit, but I've
just chosen to use my time in other ways and
my money for other things, so that effect.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
Well you know something else that helps me because my
brain works like you, I want to do all the
things that I want to do them all right now,
I forced myself to slow down, yeah, and bring myself
back to the present, right, so like take the prioritize,
like make the list of all the things you want
(16:21):
to do, right, but prioritize it so like you have
a list here so it's organized. Yeah, I know these
are the things I want to get to, but right now,
I can't do this one until I do this one.
So I'm going to start with this one and that's
all I'm going to focus on. And as long as
it takes me to do that, that's okay, because I
can't do the next one until I do that first one.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
Yeah, And I got to a point where I was
more counting down to vacations than I was living the
rest of my life to doing things.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
I would just I just not shut down completely.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
But like if I got all these things lined up
and then Sess wants I promise sess we'd sit down
and play chess, and I gave up the chest because
I'm like, well, I can always get back to that,
And instead I tackled all these things that I had
to tackle nine times out of ten, I created more
things like if I'm fixing something, there's a good chance
that I found something else that I didn't get fixed
yet either, So then I go to that. And so
(17:15):
I felt like, I feel as though the things that
I did I said fail, but I would say came
up short because I don't feel like fail as ever.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Fail seems like such an indefinite word, like you.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
I sat that word because it makes me feel so bad.
I just didn't put my best foot forward. It didn't
do my best.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Yeah, and I don't.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
But I don't believe in like failing or losing. I
believe that it's all like a lesson, like it's all
to get to the next thing. But I I and
so I think I worded that that post even a
little harshly. But I felt like I came up short
with some of the things that I'm normally really really
good at, normally really really good at my wife's love languages.
Came up short with that normally really really good at
(17:55):
date nights, but even during some of our date nights,
I'm scrolling on my phone or when something that I
didn't need to be doing in that moment. And so
those are just things that that if I put it
all into that mission statement, and I'm focused on my
health mental and physical, if I'm focused on my happiness,
which my happiness is my people at home, that's everything
else is great. And I love you know, the people
(18:15):
that I have come into my life and and that
I'm growing and building relationships with. But if like I
had to pick my happy, like, if I had to say,
all right, I can only have one set of happy,
it would be that that those four people at my house,
and right, that's so anything that makes that life better, uh,
that's gonna be my main focus.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
And then just unplugging. We we I don't know if
you do this.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
Do you have like probably not because you don't have kids,
But do you do you separate yourself from screens at all?
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Ever?
Speaker 1 (18:43):
Do you ever go through moments where you're like, I
can't be by a screen or in front of a
screen for hours.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
Excuse me no, because my screen is my escape.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Okay, see that's the difference.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Yeah, because I have like, like I would say, I'm like,
I don't internet friendships, you know what I mean? Like
I have a whole discord community that I hang out
with that you know the creator, I follow those live
on TikTok. We hang out in the lives. We're starting
the stream, like I'm building my comfort comfort spaces. Yeah,
which it's fine, but I'm also I was thinking about
(19:19):
this too, right, It's not about the screen, It's about
what you're doing with the screen.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
What do you mean?
Speaker 3 (19:24):
Well, so like I can sit here on my phone
and I can play a game, or I can sit
here on my phone and I can record an educational
video about me learning to play the guitar. Or I
can sit here and do this podcast with you.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Yeah yeah, yeah, Okay.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
So it's about being intentional about what you're doing with
the screen.
Speaker 1 (19:43):
Yeah, I like, I like intentional with a lot of it.
We I think, I I think I have so much.
I have small minds that I have to mold, and
those small minds, those new mind young minds. I guess
it's not small what I was looking for, those the youth,
(20:04):
and I get to a point of like it's almost
laz It's my intentions are just to separate for a
minute and take a break. So then I turn on
a screen to take a break. And for me with
the kids, it just becomes lazy parenting. Like you, it's
different because you're not. It's for you, and it's you.
It's your moment of like zen, it's your moment to
(20:25):
connect with people. And for me, I've spent all day
doing nothing but connecting on a screen and and communicating
and talking and NonStop that I have to just shut
it off for a minute. And I've always I've grew
up with like you turn on a TV and you
could just let it play and you don't have to
do much of anything but sit back and unwind. The
problem with that is is that when the kids are
(20:47):
needing my focus and wanting my focus, I've I've definitely,
like every other parent out there, been like, all right,
you can just let's just swust some TV for a
little bit and then we'll do that thing. And that's
we've created now at my house a almost like a
dream time where we only do like screens like right
after dinner and then that's it.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
And so far it's been an absolute nightmare.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
You know.
Speaker 3 (21:10):
You know what's crazy about what I've learned is you
got to find what fits your schedule, right, Yeah, and
don't feel bad about not sticking to it, because if
you're not sticking to it, that means it's not working.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Yeah, yeah, that's true. That's true. Uh, it's so fun.
I mean it's only been what are we four days
into the week? Three days into the week with school
and everything, it's only been three days. But it's if
you've ever seen a kid who's been on screens for
two weeks basically because I mean, we didn't that's not
all we did. I'm exaggerating, but but we Uh it's
(21:46):
like cracked to them. They just like they just want
to be on the screen, and so we're getting there.
It'll be it'll be fine. But I'm exaggerating a tud,
but it is.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
It is.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
I think I don't think it's so much about the
screen as much as it is about being present in
the moment. Do you hear your kid when they reach out?
Like it's again, CJ. I don't have kids, but I
have little kids around me. Kindly, Kelly. Yeah, And I
watched my friend Ellie parents her son in ways that
(22:23):
are good. He's a good kid. He plays with his toys.
He she doesn't do a lot of screen time. But
also when we go out to eat together, he's gonna
send much a movie episode because it keeps them calm,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
That's something that as a as a guy who didn't
have kids and going into a guy with kids, I
saw the parents and every parent will go through this,
anybody who is going to become a parent or is
an aunt and uncle, and we'll see this at some
point and then have the kids on your own.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
You see that and you go, jeez, I would never
do that. God, I would never put my kids on
a screen. When I have that moment with him at.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
A dinner table, and then you get to that moment
at out back or at Applebee's and you go give
them the fucking phone. Let them watch Blue for a
minute so that we you and I can have a
three second conversation. Uh. And you'll say it to them
like that, but obviously you you're like, I just need it,
we just.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
Need a minute. We're we're out to eat, let's just
have a minute, right.
Speaker 3 (23:18):
And when we were kids, it was go to your room,
go entertain yourself.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
What's the different Yeah, exactly exact. Well, I mean, the
screen is the digience.
Speaker 3 (23:28):
The difference is the device that you're entertaining yourself with. Okay,
and unfortunately in it because it because it's not that
doesn't mean a phone can't be creative, you know what
I mean. Like, look at my setup that I have
right now, you know what I mean. Like, I got
a background, I got a camera. I'm doing things. You know,
Seth's talked about doing things on camera. My love was
(23:50):
talked about doing things on cameras. All about what you
do with the stuff that you have. Yeah, that makes it.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
We are at a different generation of like of like
growing up, and I understand things are different, and that's
why screens at a dinner table and a restaurant isn't
like the end of the world to me anymore.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
But I do think that.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
This summer, when we got them outside more and less screens,
was back to what I kind of grew up with.
And I don't think I think that's important. I don't
mind them wanting to do screen stuff. But my son
is so into games now and it's not like I
don't encourage it.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
We got him in a.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
Switch too, so like we like to because it is
a family activity that we can all do together. But
if it ever became like he can't function in the
world if he doesn't play video games, or he pushes
himself into the basement for hours and we don't see
him for days, like there is a line. I just
we were such new with all of this because even
(24:50):
a lot of our friends and kids, people that have
kids our age or even older, their kids have been
on screens even longer and even more, and so this
is all kind of new to us because we held
back on the score. We're very much behind with screens
intentionally intentionally, but like kids didn't have an iPad.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
I don't know if I don't think either is better
than the other. I think that you do the best
you can with what you have and what you can do.
And we didn't do an iPad.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
We didn't do an iPad, and it wasn't we noticed
that they weren't, you know, looking for screens all the time.
But there's still TVs and there's still all these other
different things that come into play, and you just kind
of roll with it. And that's not one of my
biggest focuses in twenty twenty six. But it is a
focus to spend more time with each other and be
(25:39):
more intentional with those few hours that we do get
after school and after work. And so that's really.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
Something to keep in mind that I have kind of
started doing. I've kind of been talking to a lot
of people about instead of gift giving, give experiences.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Yes, we did start that with sess a while. I
like it. I like it a lot. We started it
with SaaS.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
And then she didn't fully understand it, so we started
it too early. As she gets older, I think we'll
do more of that with her and kind of transform
it with her.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
The boys. I don't think we'ld get it yet either.
Speaker 3 (26:18):
But what's cool is that you can. You can. What's
cool is the way you give to the experience. Like
I bought my steps to cern her fiance tickets to
SmackDown in February, h and I got on CAMEO and
had an old WWE legend give them a little message
(26:41):
to say, hey, here's your ticket. This is what you got,
you know what I mean? And I put it on
a USB drive, I wrapped it up and sent it
to him. There was something to open. There was a
presentation Teddy Teddy's gifts this year, I got him a
gift card to a rage room.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Oh did he love it? Has he used yet?
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Yeah? No, we haven't used. But yeah, but what it is.
What I did is I got this box that says
in case of emergency, break glass and I put like,
I put a Spotify code for a playlist in there,
and like this little incident report, like I had check
create a couple of images, and like I said, it
all up for him. So it was about presenting this.
(27:20):
So he got something to open. And now when we go,
we'll take a picture there and I'll put the picture
in the box and redo the box. And now the
box is the memory from the gift.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
See, you are a great gift giver. You are a
phenomenal gift giver. That's a that is a great gift.
And yeah, I think I think going into twenty twenty six,
let them is a great one. I think I'm a
big fan of what we kind of came up with
for all of mine because that to me, it simplifies
(27:52):
all of it into one sentence. And so then if
I even tackle one of those things this year, if
I even get to connect and go on more experience
says with my kids this year than I did in
years prior, and really enjoy it and really take it
all in. Even that one thing to me, then I've
I've succeeded something in the new year.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
So I don't know, let us know what yours is.
I just realized it is. It is that time. So yeah, yeah,
appreciate you coming.
Speaker 3 (28:19):
We'll talk for an hour.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
I know. That's that. That's the greatest.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
That's why you You are obviously more than welcome any
time to come on.
Speaker 2 (28:26):
Always love having you on here. Appreciate you so much.
Absolutely anytime you need a guess, let me know, all right,
appreciate you. Have a great day.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
Follow Miranda on TikTok and Instagram at Batman Underscore NERD.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Now have a great day.
Speaker 3 (28:40):
Thanks by Mike.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
Bye,
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