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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to the Weedon podcast starring husband and wife Mojo
from Mojo in the Morning and his better half Chelsea.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
On this episode coming up on the episode that you're
about to hear of the we Edme podcast, we're back
and she thinks that nobody wants to hear from her
or me or anybody because she always does this passive
aggressive thing. We're not actually gonna do this thing anymore,
(00:40):
are we. Let's begin the podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Well, all right, all right, all right, without further delay,
here are Mojo and Chelsea.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
So I like the thing that you always do when
we haven't done a podcast in like a week or two,
and it's usually a month or a month. It's a
holidays though a great nobody watches television or I'm sorry,
nobody listens to podcast over the holidays. They watch and
binge watch television and they talk to their family members.
(01:10):
But you'll do this thing of So I guess we're
not going to do the podcast anymore, are we? And
you pull it off like I am the reason why
we're not doing the podcast when you easily could say,
all right, podcast tomorrow, record time, noon, let's go. I
have to be the initiator of it all.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
The time because you're the one that has to set
all the equipment up. I don't know how to set
the equipment up.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
But it has nothing to do with just the equipment.
It has to do with us making time to do it.
And I think that you're putting an all on my
plate when it's equally This is a fifty to fifty
show here, I hear go. This is the we Don't podcast,
the Tom and Chelsea show. You are heard, all right,
So new year going to be an interesting one too.
We got a lot of stuff going on. First off,
(01:58):
we are recording this podcast, asked just a couple of
days away from your ninety days, right of you then
going back and having some new tests on right, Yeah, yeah,
So I want to talk about that. I just want
to talk about the fact that it's crazy to think
that we're gonna have as we just ended a education
(02:18):
level for a son, we're gonna have a son that's
gonna be a senior in college. And then we have
the biggest news of them all for the whole year.
We have a son getting married this year. We do
so I want to talk about stuff like that. So cool,
all right, Should we begin with the stuff that is
more emotional to me, the fact that I'm going to
(02:40):
have to give some money to Joe for a wedding. No,
which one do you want to talk about? You want
to talk about your test that's coming. That's fine, all right,
talk about this thoughts on our son, our baby, our
oldest of the bunch and him getting married and us
also now not just losing a son, but we're gaining
(03:02):
a daughter in law, daughter in law.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
But yeah, we're gaining a daughter in law. I've watched
a bunch of things and they say, it's really important
that you say, because she's not our daughter, she can
never be our daughter. We didn't have a daughter, and
so you have to be very careful with how you
like you meshed these things. So whenever someone marries someone else,
(03:26):
So when Joe gets married, we're gaining a daughter in
law because they're going to form their own family separate
of us.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
That's the healthy the reasoning behind that. What did it
say about that?
Speaker 3 (03:38):
It was so when two people get married, family, you
got a daughter. Because she's not a daughter, she's actually
the daughter of two other people. Two other people actually
made her get one another woman gave birth to her.
They raised her. So we are gaining a daughter in law,
(04:00):
are not?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
So is it insulting to me to say that?
Speaker 3 (04:04):
It's insulting to the other family. Essentially, we are not
adopting a child into our family. She is marrying into
our family and she's going to be a daughter in law.
And it's really important that you, you know, make that.
I can't even think my brain is dead. It's really
(04:25):
important they make that distinction because you want to let
them know that we're okay with them starting their own
family separate of us.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
We aren't.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
This.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Our under our umbrella was five. So now under his umbrella,
when he gets married, will be two, and we are
in support of that. And then when Jacob gets married,
there will be two. And then when Luke gets married,
there will be two. I will not be gaining another
son when Jacob gets married. I'll be getting a son
(04:59):
in law. And I will and same with your.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Parents always treated me and even would say that you're
like a son to me, but they would but your dad,
I know, did call would always call me a son
in law.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Yeah, because that's what you are. And I think that
is a very healthy, healthy thing to say. And by
the way, I've had this discussion with you many times.
This is not the first time you act like I'm
giving you a new thought process here, and you still
like continue to do that, Like I want this to
be very respectful, and I've said to you even like
we need to respect this and encourage it, because I
(05:37):
don't want them to think that they have to be
ammeshed with us, or like we have to respect the
fact that they are starting their own family and support
it that way.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Like I'm not saying you're not my son.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Anymore and I don't want you to be in my
family or because you're marrying my son.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
You know, I'm not saying that.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
I think it's really important that we support it in
the correct way. They are going to have boundaries with
us that we're going to have to respect, and we're
gonna have to encourage that they have and they're not
They should not be afraid to say.
Speaker 4 (06:10):
We're not coming.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
We're not coming over for this holiday because it's hard
for us because we have little kids, or we're not
coming over for this holiday because we have to spend
it with you know, her family, and as hard and listen,
this isn't the first rodeo with that Joe has been
doing that since he started dating her, and it was
a really hard pill for me to swallow. And it
(06:35):
was hard not having Jacob on Christmas Day this year,
but you know what, that is how life goes, and
so I and it's just a day. I have been
telling myself at the end of this it is just
a day.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Did you take it easier from Jacob than you did
from Joe?
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Because why because.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Well, for a lot of reasons that I'm not going
to go into a lot of the details of it,
just because there are some things that I like to
keep personal in private. You know, no needs to know
all of our weeds. But it was it.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
Was just different.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
It was different, you know, for me, it was equally difficult.
I was not altogether, you know, extremely happy that we
didn't get Jacob and I am keeping score. So he
got Christmas this year. There I'm hoping that we get
next year.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
I just hope that somehow we can make it like
we arrange it where we're all together for a holiday,
because right now, if we keep it the way that
it is now, we won't be Because Joe was with
her family Thanksgiving and then us for Christmas. Jacob was
with us US for Thanksgiving and Chris's family for Yeah,
and Chris's family for Christmas. So it will never be
(07:54):
together if we continue to do it that way. So
I'm hoping, what if.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
We pay them all off with a trip? I mean,
is that what it's going to have to be.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
I would hate that we would have to pay them
off for that. I hope that we can like just
work something out.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
You know.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
It's funny because with everything that is happening now with
our family, I think about how I don't necessarily feel
like we were great with your parents like as and
my family, like I think that we are getting a
taste of our medicine.
Speaker 4 (08:30):
I disagree with you, and go ahead, and I'll tell
you why.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Well, I think that for the holidays we kind of
pulled away from my family, and.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
Tell you how I disagree with that, but all and.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Then eventually we pulled away from your family and started
doing Christmas with just our five and we stopped seeing
your parents at that time. And I thought that about
that a little bit over the holidays, and I thought
to myself, I'm like, not necessarily would I change things,
but I own would be more mindful of the fact
that it does kind of suck for the people that
(09:05):
don't get to spend the holiday with you.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
So what I'll say with that is we lived in
Arizona when we started our family, and the very first
Christmas that Joe was born, he was three months old,
we flew back to Chicago and we had Christmas with
your family one Okay, so ok.
Speaker 4 (09:24):
And why was it one?
Speaker 3 (09:26):
It was one because your sister had a massive meltdown
over chocolate, and which is funny now, and you and
I it's funny now. But I looked at you and
I was like, ah, so this is not normal for Christmas.
And you, by the way, made the decision.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
I did say that. I said, this is bullshit. I
don't want to ever do this again. So you do
want to travel? That was my biggest anying.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
So you made the decision. It is not your family
is not.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
And and this is never I'm not going to say
this that this is never on you.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
This is not us, But it was also on you
because it is your family. It is your job to
say I want to spend a holiday with my family.
Speaker 4 (10:14):
Now.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Fast forward, so we would fly back to Arizona a
couple of times. My parents would come to Michigan for Christmases.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
But and we invited my family for Thanksgivings.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
Yeah, So I was just going to say that for
Thanksgivings we were either in Chicago. We did with Thanksgiving
and import of Iarta with your brother, yes we did,
or we would have your family at our house for Thanksgiving.
So it's not like we totally abandoned your family went
and then we would spend Easter with your family in Chicago.
(10:49):
We've done Easters, We've done Mother's Day with your family
in Chicago. I have not abandoned your family at any way,
shape or form.
Speaker 4 (10:57):
Now, Also, those holidays that we've.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
Been there have been your family reaching out to me
or us saying we should do this. It's never been
like you saying to me, this is really super important
to me. We stopped going to Arizona when it was
really hard for me to make sure all of the
(11:21):
gifts were sent there. I was staying up wrapping all
of their gifts and it was it was hard on me,
and so I decided, you know what, We're not doing
that anymore. We're gonna have Christmas here and we invited
my parents to be here. My parents have other kids too,
and so they would have to go take turns and
spend time with them as well. So I am not
(11:44):
going to put that pressure on my kids. I think
it's what I realized after like trying to stop travel
and make everyone else happy for the holidays, and my
family would get together and have.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
A huge Christmas.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
My mom would have a big Christmas party because she
is a huge family. And then her birthday was the
twenty ninth of December, so I felt I just really
have to be there for her. And after I have Luke,
it just got really hard and they understood it was
like so, and I think there is something to be
said about your kids waking.
Speaker 4 (12:16):
Up in their own home on Christmas.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
Morning and you know what, it's just gonna It might
look different with all of us in different states, in
different places and different but that is where the boundaries
come in. And that's where I think we start setting
the boundaries. Now, you, Joe, you and Melissa are getting married.
This is a day where you're starting your family.
Speaker 4 (12:38):
It is not where we have a daughter.
Speaker 3 (12:41):
We have a daughter in law and that's amazing, but
we don't have a daughter. We never had a daughter.
We have three sons, we have some when they have kids,
then we are grandparents. I can't believe I have to
talk to you about the biology.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
It's going to be tough for you to not be
with them on a Christmas.
Speaker 4 (12:59):
Oh, I'm sure it is, but but you know, like
that's just how it is.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
Our kids never had to compete with another set of
grandparents because well, they had Grandpa.
Speaker 4 (13:10):
So we would go see your dad.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
That isn't my share. It was not like a he
was not a real active well, but we would.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
I mean we would go back and they would have
Christmas gifts for the boys, so we would. We must
have gone back around the holidays because we did.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
I think we did a couple of times. And then
we would go over and my dad would have a
special Christmas on a different day because he would leave
us and go to his wife's family.
Speaker 4 (13:34):
I mean, listen, family dynamics are it's rair.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Yeah, you know, holidays are tough. The holidays are joyful
and beautiful when the kids are too young to date.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
But I think also you and I have to realize
too that a girl is going to be super close
to her family. I agree, and I'm not going to
set myself up for pain like I see my friends
who have boys, and I see what happens, Like you know,
Joe and I are super close, and I don't think
that that will change. But you better believe when it
(14:08):
comes down to our house and her mom's house, her
mom's house is going to win every time.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
What is your expectations if Joe, If Joe and Alyssa
have a baby, how soon do you want to see
that baby? Do you want to see the baby the
day it's born? Do you want to see that baby?
Because I was surprised, like my brother became a grandfather
for the first time, and my brother and my sister
in law didn't see the baby for days, and I
was like shocked by I was thinking to myself, oh
(14:35):
my god, if I became a grandfather, I want to
hold that baby that day.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
So again, I think that it's a different generation, number one,
Like they're the way that they think of the family
unit and how they want to how that looks to
them is different. They're older, like our niece, our nephew
and niece were older when they had that baby. And
I think, and I think it's really hard for your
(15:01):
family to process that because you guys are so close
and when our other niece has her baby, like, it'll
be different with her mom. But that is the difference
between it was our nephew that had the bait like
he was the dad is our nephew, and then the
woman he married obviously was the mom. So and I'm sorry,
(15:21):
guess what, when you're pushing that baby out of your body,
you make all the rules and it's it's cold and
flu season, it's there's a lot that goes into it.
Speaker 4 (15:32):
RSV.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Like I think that it will be opposite of me. Well,
because I'm gonna be knock, I'm gonna try to pay
off the doctors the way.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
Well you're not, because that no, no, because this is
again boundaries and you need to go in there with
realistic boundaries. I am from the media and you need
to They don't care, and you need to understand that
it's not your rules anymore. And what we did is
going to be so different from what they do, and
we need to rec back to that and remember Joe
(16:01):
okay with it.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Do you remember when Joe was born? How many people
were in.
Speaker 3 (16:06):
The well, not really because I was in labor for
thirty two hours. That's kind of it.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Not in the delivery room or whatever the room was
that you had the baby for the first time. Like
people that came in and started like seeing Joey as
a little baby for the first time. It's like all
of a sudden, it was like every person in the
world came in there the hospital. I had no security
at all, all right, So it was it was a
nice holiday, did you We all were saying I was sick. Uh,
(16:34):
you know, you got sick. It was not great, yeah, yeah,
but it was fun. It was the pre Christmas that
we had where it was yeah, you know, the five
of us and the six of us because of Alissa
was also there for a little bit. It would have
been cool to have Chris there. And if you know,
Luke wanted to bring his girlfriend, it will be uh
(16:55):
he just give me a weird look.
Speaker 3 (16:57):
I well, because we're celebrated in Florida and I'm not
going to have Luke bring his college girlfriend to Florida
for Christmas.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Oh. I'm kind of at a point right now where
I feel like I want to loosen up with it.
Speaker 4 (17:06):
I can't.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
I want to let you if it keeps me close
to the kids and stuff.
Speaker 4 (17:12):
If cancer doesn't kill me, you will because what a segue.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
That's a segue. You're still alive. Everything is good, you
look great, thank you. It has been ninety days, right.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
Or it's been longer.
Speaker 3 (17:26):
So I had my surgery August twenty fifth, and then
I went in for a six week check up after
and then I go in every three months for I
do blood work and then I do a physical exam.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
And so why is it I thought it was every
ninety days. You gotta do blood work three months. It's
ninety days, I know. But so it's been longer than it's.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
Been a little bit longer. But they want, well no,
because they want your give your body time for the
levels that they're checking to go down to normal range
because everything has been removed. So and they've switched, you
(18:06):
know again getting into the weeds of this. But I
was supposed to see one person and now I'm seeing another.
So because of that, they pushed my appointment back by
two weeks.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
I'm the release date of this, so this is being
recorded before it's been released. But the day that this
is being released, you will be going in and doing
your blood work.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
Nope, So I go in next week and do my
blood work. Oh to the I have a chest see
another test.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
You went, oh, okay, all right, how are you feeling
about going in and getting this blood work done?
Speaker 3 (18:40):
I know everything is fine, but i'd be lying to
say if I don't have anxiety, like to think, but
what if it isn't? But I know that it is,
but it's like, but what if it isn't?
Speaker 1 (18:51):
You know?
Speaker 3 (18:51):
So I think I'm getting a little bit of built
up anxiety thinking before I was like, oh, great, everything's fine,
But then they're so, you know, this little unrealistic part
of me like nothing's going to happen right now, I'm
gonna I can tell myself that again and again and again,
and it's like, okay. It's almost like you look for
(19:12):
the superstitious things like like what what can I do
to make sure it's silly? It's I need to not
worry about this first one, you know.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
But I have been worried about you. You were going
through a period probably a month and a half, two
months after you're getting up and about so a month
after you were up and ready to go where I
(19:45):
thought to myself and like, you know how they call
it a postpartum for after you have a baby. I
don't know what they would call it if there's an
actual term for post you know, cancer treatment, surgery. But
I felt like you were in a little a postpartium
at that time.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
Well I think it's a complete mind for a better
lack of word, you can say fuck, you know, like
I think that you know you you well. I never
thought that I would hear the word cancer when it
came to me, Like I just didn't, you know, when
we did those tests, I really thought you were the
one that was going to have problems, not me. So
(20:24):
it was a little shocking that that is what my
road is. And it was a whirlwind. It was this
is what the test says, and we're.
Speaker 4 (20:36):
Going to get you in and do this test and
this test and this.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
So before I could process really truly what was happening,
we were onto the next step. And it was I'm
very much a research person, so before I could even
research what was going on, that step had already happened,
if that makes sense. So while I it was just
(21:01):
a very quick and that's typical with cancer. You know,
you have cancer. Now we're going to treatment. We do surgery,
we do radiation, we do chemo. Like it's very quick, quick, quick, quick,
sometimes you have a little bit of time to process
in between, but it was just very fast for me,
and so I think all of the then I do
(21:25):
all the research after it's out of my body, and
I do all the research after. And you know, there's
some hard truth to this that I know you don't
like hearing.
Speaker 4 (21:36):
I know, you know some when I say.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
To people, because they're like, well, they got it out
and everything's great right today. Yes, but unfortunately it's not
a matter of if it comes back, it's when.
Speaker 4 (21:51):
Now.
Speaker 3 (21:52):
Having said that, it could be months to a couple
of years, two years for it to come back. But unfortunately,
with this cancer, it does come back. So my mindset
has been I never want to be shocked again when
I hear you have cancer. I don't want to I
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don't want that kick in the gut. I don't feeling
I don't want to be taken by surprise. It's just
that little thing that's going to be in the back
of my mind. And then when you tell people that,
some people are like, you can't think that. That's negative
thinking it's you're gonna make it come back. Well, here's
the deal. I never willed myself to have cancer in
(22:37):
the first place. So I'm pretty fucking sure that I'm
not gonna will myself. I'm about to So you know,
for me, it's just having and this is how and
anyone who has we all have our own journeys and
we all have our own way that we have to
(23:00):
deal with it. This is how I'm getting through day
to day because I was in a dark place for
a while with it.
Speaker 4 (23:08):
You know, it's the wyemy, the what did I do?
Speaker 2 (23:13):
My bod's failing me?
Speaker 4 (23:15):
Yes, like you know right, so as so why is
he not dead? No? I mean, but.
Speaker 3 (23:28):
It I think that it is just some This is
how I'm going to get through it, and this is
how I am going.
Speaker 4 (23:39):
To tackle it head on.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
People tackle their own cancer the way that they tackle it.
This is how I have to tackle it. This is
how you know, I've talked to my doctor about you know,
like she said to me, I don't want you to
worry about it. It's for me to worry about when
it comes back and what we do.
Speaker 4 (23:58):
Well, that's a lack of control for me.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
So while I appreciate that and I love that she
said that to me, that's not how we'd Is she
the one you're that is not how well I did.
That's not how we're driving this bus. I had to
learn through this that I have to be my own
advocate because unfortunately doctors can and one was wrong about me,
(24:24):
and they're human. So I'm not going to put all
of my trust in all of all of my eggs
in that basket.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
I'm not.
Speaker 4 (24:31):
I'm going to take some of them back.
Speaker 3 (24:33):
And while I am not a doctor and I will
rely on some of their I'm also going to fall.
I know my body better than anybody else, so I
need to I need to learn to listen to it better.
I'm going to do things for it better. But also
I'm going to have a great quality of life. I'm
not going to be this crazy woman that is like
(24:57):
no dies and no oils and no out alcohol. I'm
gonna live a little too, you know, because it's the
It's not yolo like you.
Speaker 4 (25:06):
Only live once.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
It's you only die once, so yodo, And I'm gonna
live every day and then who knows.
Speaker 4 (25:14):
It could be a car that takes me out. I don't.
Speaker 3 (25:17):
It may not be cancer that takes me out. Who knows,
But I'm gonna live every day until whatever it is
takes me out.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
I love that about you.
Speaker 4 (25:27):
I uh, but tomorrow might be a bad day. I
don't know.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
I love that about you unless it's a couple of
months ago when I literally thought, oh my god, she
is in massive depression right now.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
Well, I did go through depression. But I think that
that's normal. I think that, and I think that I
will have I'm going to have as this my appointment
with the oncologist comes up, I'm gonna get more anxious.
But then then I'll be able to take a deep
breath even though I know this one is gonna be okay,
but I'll be able to take a deep breath after
and then it'll be the lead up to the next one.
(26:02):
But I think that that's normal, and I think it
takes time, and I think if you allow yourself to
feel the feels and you know, grieve, grieve my life
that I thought I was going to have. It is
not fun to know that you have to go get
blood work every three months to check to see if
you have cancer.
Speaker 4 (26:20):
That's not fun.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Yeah, you know, a lot of anxiety.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
So that is not what I thought my life was
going to be like, you know, and get exams to
make sure things aren't growing in places it shouldn't be growing.
Speaker 4 (26:30):
That is not fun.
Speaker 3 (26:32):
And then when you then when your levels start creeping up,
then it's a waiting game. It's just there's a lot
in this and I just have to adjust. Will I
have bad days, I'm sure, but hopefully there's more better
than bad.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
All Right, here's what I want to do. Because we
got time still it's not the thirty minute mark.
Speaker 4 (26:52):
Yes, shocker, how many is it?
Speaker 2 (26:54):
I can I tell you because I don't want you
to think that I'm doing this all for timing. All right,
So this, this is what I want. You know, everybody
always makes New Year's resolutions, and I even hate talking
about New Year's because it is well past New Year's Like, hell,
the year is almost over with and it will be
over with before we know it. I said this to
our show. I said to them, I go, this year
(27:16):
is a year where we're not going to come up
with ideas and do a few of them. This is
a year we're going to come up with ideas and
we're going to do most of them, and at the
end of the year we're going to say, holy shit,
we just did a ton of things. And it's one
of those things where we're not going to just say it,
we're going to do it. And I am going to
take that same approach with this podcast because but I
(27:40):
need you to be the catalyst of this because I
don't know if you know this. I got some other
stuff going on in my life. Okay, I want this podcast,
which has an amazing listenership. Thank you guys for listening
to this thing. It's crazy to think it's three years
of doing this stuff that we've done it well, but
(28:01):
it's on. It'll be three. I want this podcast to
have more opportunity to flourish. So my goal for this
year for this podcast is number one. I want to
do video, so I want us to be so I
want listeners to be able to not only get a
chance to listen, but I want them to see us.
So I want the podcast to include that because that
(28:22):
is a huge help. I want us to get more
than just an Instagram page that every now and again
we throw a post up or remind people that we're
doing it. So I want us to have more of
a social following on this and I want us to
go back to I like when we you and I
do this thing. But I want us to tackle some
(28:42):
things and possibly bring a guest or two on every
now and again. And I know some people hate that,
and I know, like I get the feedback from people
that are like when I will say we should have
so and so on, They're like, we don't want to
any whatever. But I really do think that it's a
great opportunity for the podcast. And I will say this
Lydia has gotten some interest in some people wanting to
(29:02):
be on the podcast more than beyond our show. So
it's as crazy as it sounds, Jared Goff and his
wife were interested in wanting to be on the podcast.
Say that because well, I'm just going to throw it
out there. They obviously are not on the podcast. But
that is one of the things that people want to
come on the podcast, is you know and not go
(29:23):
on our radio show because I think they feel safer
because of you, that you are somebody that's going to
not you know, let me go crazy like I do
on the radio. So I want to do that. So
those are my things. What do you want to see
happen this year as far as the podcast is concerned.
Speaker 4 (29:40):
Yeah, No, I do think I need to work a
little bit more. I can do a lot more social
media thing.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
I think.
Speaker 4 (29:45):
I'm I just don't know the direction that you want
it to be.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
So what you want it to be?
Speaker 4 (29:50):
Okay, well, so.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
We will discuss that later when we turn off the microphones.
I think we need because this is how you and
I have lived our life, and it's like, well, let's
do do this and let's do that.
Speaker 4 (30:01):
And we never.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Our listeners don't realize this, but our show, well, we
don't have.
Speaker 3 (30:07):
A producer who's gonna light the fire and get things done.
Speaker 4 (30:10):
It's you and I.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
Maybe we get a producer.
Speaker 4 (30:13):
I think that's a bit much.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
No, honestly, I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
People have producers.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
Okay, well, let's not get too ahead of ourselves. But
I you know, I would like to see it grow.
I would like to honestly. You know, this started off
as something that was just a way for me to
defend myself or come on and set the record straight
for a lot of stuff I would bought now that
(30:41):
I know, I hard is putting commercials on the end
and sometimes middle of it.
Speaker 4 (30:48):
You owe me, so you're not gonna get this for free.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
So we have to figure out something with that too,
And meaning I want to own this because if something happened,
or I want to have a little bit more something,
because this was just a little brain idea between you
and I that now has become part of iheart's you
know property. Yeah, which, fine, you want to make money
(31:16):
off of it, but you're gonna give me some of it,
bitch or you're just it's not you know like that.
I if you retire in five years, I want us
to walk away with this and everything we built for it.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
So well, I will say this, and you guys can
listen to these podcasts and probably tell this is the
most uninterrupted conversation that you and I have, even without
having little kids, because there's nothing that's taking my focus
away from anything, and I'm listening to you, I'm hearing you,
(31:53):
and I also, to be honest with you, I think
that people will be surprised to know this. This is
probably the las longest that I stopped talking, as weird
as that sounds, because I get to hear you really
tell me some interesting things about your perspective on our
family and our lives. So and it's been more than
thirty minutes.
Speaker 4 (32:12):
It has it been thirty two?
Speaker 2 (32:13):
Yeah, I don't have to listen to you anymore. Let's
stop this thing now.
Welcome to the Weedon podcast starring husband and wife Mojo
from Mojo in the Morning and his better half Chelsea.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
On this episode coming up on the episode that you're
about to hear of the we Edme podcast, we're back
and she thinks that nobody wants to hear from her
or me or anybody because she always does this passive
aggressive thing. We're not actually gonna do this thing anymore,
(00:40):
are we. Let's begin the podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Well, all right, all right, all right, without further delay,
here are Mojo and Chelsea.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
So I like the thing that you always do when
we haven't done a podcast in like a week or two,
and it's usually a month or a month. It's a
holidays though a great nobody watches television or I'm sorry,
nobody listens to podcast over the holidays. They watch and
binge watch television and they talk to their family members.
(01:10):
But you'll do this thing of So I guess we're
not going to do the podcast anymore, are we? And
you pull it off like I am the reason why
we're not doing the podcast when you easily could say,
all right, podcast tomorrow, record time, noon, let's go. I
have to be the initiator of it all.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
The time because you're the one that has to set
all the equipment up. I don't know how to set
the equipment up.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
But it has nothing to do with just the equipment.
It has to do with us making time to do it.
And I think that you're putting an all on my
plate when it's equally This is a fifty to fifty
show here, I hear go. This is the we Don't podcast,
the Tom and Chelsea show. You are heard, all right,
So new year going to be an interesting one too.
We got a lot of stuff going on. First off,
(01:58):
we are recording this podcast, asked just a couple of
days away from your ninety days, right of you then
going back and having some new tests on right, Yeah, yeah,
So I want to talk about that. I just want
to talk about the fact that it's crazy to think
that we're gonna have as we just ended a education
(02:18):
level for a son, we're gonna have a son that's
gonna be a senior in college. And then we have
the biggest news of them all for the whole year.
We have a son getting married this year. We do
so I want to talk about stuff like that. So cool,
all right, Should we begin with the stuff that is
more emotional to me, the fact that I'm going to
(02:40):
have to give some money to Joe for a wedding. No,
which one do you want to talk about? You want
to talk about your test that's coming. That's fine, all right,
talk about this thoughts on our son, our baby, our
oldest of the bunch and him getting married and us
also now not just losing a son, but we're gaining
(03:02):
a daughter in law, daughter in law.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
But yeah, we're gaining a daughter in law. I've watched
a bunch of things and they say, it's really important
that you say, because she's not our daughter, she can
never be our daughter. We didn't have a daughter, and
so you have to be very careful with how you
like you meshed these things. So whenever someone marries someone else,
(03:26):
So when Joe gets married, we're gaining a daughter in
law because they're going to form their own family separate
of us.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
That's the healthy the reasoning behind that. What did it
say about that?
Speaker 3 (03:38):
It was so when two people get married, family, you
got a daughter. Because she's not a daughter, she's actually
the daughter of two other people. Two other people actually
made her get one another woman gave birth to her.
They raised her. So we are gaining a daughter in law,
(04:00):
are not?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
So is it insulting to me to say that?
Speaker 3 (04:04):
It's insulting to the other family. Essentially, we are not
adopting a child into our family. She is marrying into
our family and she's going to be a daughter in law.
And it's really important that you, you know, make that.
I can't even think my brain is dead. It's really
(04:25):
important they make that distinction because you want to let
them know that we're okay with them starting their own
family separate of us.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
We aren't.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
This.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Our under our umbrella was five. So now under his umbrella,
when he gets married, will be two, and we are
in support of that. And then when Jacob gets married,
there will be two. And then when Luke gets married,
there will be two. I will not be gaining another
son when Jacob gets married. I'll be getting a son
(04:59):
in law. And I will and same with your.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Parents always treated me and even would say that you're
like a son to me, but they would but your dad,
I know, did call would always call me a son
in law.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Yeah, because that's what you are. And I think that
is a very healthy, healthy thing to say. And by
the way, I've had this discussion with you many times.
This is not the first time you act like I'm
giving you a new thought process here, and you still
like continue to do that, Like I want this to
be very respectful, and I've said to you even like
we need to respect this and encourage it, because I
(05:37):
don't want them to think that they have to be
ammeshed with us, or like we have to respect the
fact that they are starting their own family and support
it that way.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Like I'm not saying you're not my son.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Anymore and I don't want you to be in my
family or because you're marrying my son.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
You know, I'm not saying that.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
I think it's really important that we support it in
the correct way. They are going to have boundaries with
us that we're going to have to respect, and we're
gonna have to encourage that they have and they're not
They should not be afraid to say.
Speaker 4 (06:10):
We're not coming.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
We're not coming over for this holiday because it's hard
for us because we have little kids, or we're not
coming over for this holiday because we have to spend
it with you know, her family, and as hard and listen,
this isn't the first rodeo with that Joe has been
doing that since he started dating her, and it was
a really hard pill for me to swallow. And it
(06:35):
was hard not having Jacob on Christmas Day this year,
but you know what, that is how life goes, and
so I and it's just a day. I have been
telling myself at the end of this it is just
a day.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Did you take it easier from Jacob than you did
from Joe?
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Because why because.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Well, for a lot of reasons that I'm not going
to go into a lot of the details of it,
just because there are some things that I like to
keep personal in private. You know, no needs to know
all of our weeds. But it was it.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
Was just different.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
It was different, you know, for me, it was equally difficult.
I was not altogether, you know, extremely happy that we
didn't get Jacob and I am keeping score. So he
got Christmas this year. There I'm hoping that we get
next year.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
I just hope that somehow we can make it like
we arrange it where we're all together for a holiday,
because right now, if we keep it the way that
it is now, we won't be Because Joe was with
her family Thanksgiving and then us for Christmas. Jacob was
with us US for Thanksgiving and Chris's family for Yeah,
and Chris's family for Christmas. So it will never be
(07:54):
together if we continue to do it that way. So
I'm hoping, what if.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
We pay them all off with a trip? I mean,
is that what it's going to have to be.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
I would hate that we would have to pay them
off for that. I hope that we can like just
work something out.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
You know.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
It's funny because with everything that is happening now with
our family, I think about how I don't necessarily feel
like we were great with your parents like as and
my family, like I think that we are getting a
taste of our medicine.
Speaker 4 (08:30):
I disagree with you, and go ahead, and I'll tell
you why.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Well, I think that for the holidays we kind of
pulled away from my family, and.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
Tell you how I disagree with that, but all and.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Then eventually we pulled away from your family and started
doing Christmas with just our five and we stopped seeing
your parents at that time. And I thought that about
that a little bit over the holidays, and I thought
to myself, I'm like, not necessarily would I change things,
but I own would be more mindful of the fact
that it does kind of suck for the people that
(09:05):
don't get to spend the holiday with you.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
So what I'll say with that is we lived in
Arizona when we started our family, and the very first
Christmas that Joe was born, he was three months old,
we flew back to Chicago and we had Christmas with
your family one Okay, so ok.
Speaker 4 (09:24):
And why was it one?
Speaker 3 (09:26):
It was one because your sister had a massive meltdown
over chocolate, and which is funny now, and you and
I it's funny now. But I looked at you and
I was like, ah, so this is not normal for Christmas.
And you, by the way, made the decision.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
I did say that. I said, this is bullshit. I
don't want to ever do this again. So you do
want to travel? That was my biggest anying.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
So you made the decision. It is not your family
is not.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
And and this is never I'm not going to say
this that this is never on you.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
This is not us, But it was also on you
because it is your family. It is your job to
say I want to spend a holiday with my family.
Speaker 4 (10:14):
Now.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Fast forward, so we would fly back to Arizona a
couple of times. My parents would come to Michigan for Christmases.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
But and we invited my family for Thanksgivings.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
Yeah, So I was just going to say that for
Thanksgivings we were either in Chicago. We did with Thanksgiving
and import of Iarta with your brother, yes we did,
or we would have your family at our house for Thanksgiving.
So it's not like we totally abandoned your family went
and then we would spend Easter with your family in Chicago.
(10:49):
We've done Easters, We've done Mother's Day with your family
in Chicago. I have not abandoned your family at any way,
shape or form.
Speaker 4 (10:57):
Now, Also, those holidays that we've.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
Been there have been your family reaching out to me
or us saying we should do this. It's never been
like you saying to me, this is really super important
to me. We stopped going to Arizona when it was
really hard for me to make sure all of the
(11:21):
gifts were sent there. I was staying up wrapping all
of their gifts and it was it was hard on me,
and so I decided, you know what, We're not doing
that anymore. We're gonna have Christmas here and we invited
my parents to be here. My parents have other kids too,
and so they would have to go take turns and
spend time with them as well. So I am not
(11:44):
going to put that pressure on my kids. I think
it's what I realized after like trying to stop travel
and make everyone else happy for the holidays, and my
family would get together and have.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
A huge Christmas.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
My mom would have a big Christmas party because she
is a huge family. And then her birthday was the
twenty ninth of December, so I felt I just really
have to be there for her. And after I have Luke,
it just got really hard and they understood it was
like so, and I think there is something to be
said about your kids waking.
Speaker 4 (12:16):
Up in their own home on Christmas.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
Morning and you know what, it's just gonna It might
look different with all of us in different states, in
different places and different but that is where the boundaries
come in. And that's where I think we start setting
the boundaries. Now, you, Joe, you and Melissa are getting married.
This is a day where you're starting your family.
Speaker 4 (12:38):
It is not where we have a daughter.
Speaker 3 (12:41):
We have a daughter in law and that's amazing, but
we don't have a daughter. We never had a daughter.
We have three sons, we have some when they have kids,
then we are grandparents. I can't believe I have to
talk to you about the biology.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
It's going to be tough for you to not be
with them on a Christmas.
Speaker 4 (12:59):
Oh, I'm sure it is, but but you know, like
that's just how it is.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
Our kids never had to compete with another set of
grandparents because well, they had Grandpa.
Speaker 4 (13:10):
So we would go see your dad.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
That isn't my share. It was not like a he
was not a real active well, but we would.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
I mean we would go back and they would have
Christmas gifts for the boys, so we would. We must
have gone back around the holidays because we did.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
I think we did a couple of times. And then
we would go over and my dad would have a
special Christmas on a different day because he would leave
us and go to his wife's family.
Speaker 4 (13:34):
I mean, listen, family dynamics are it's rair.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Yeah, you know, holidays are tough. The holidays are joyful
and beautiful when the kids are too young to date.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
But I think also you and I have to realize
too that a girl is going to be super close
to her family. I agree, and I'm not going to
set myself up for pain like I see my friends
who have boys, and I see what happens, Like you know,
Joe and I are super close, and I don't think
that that will change. But you better believe when it
(14:08):
comes down to our house and her mom's house, her
mom's house is going to win every time.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
What is your expectations if Joe, If Joe and Alyssa
have a baby, how soon do you want to see
that baby? Do you want to see the baby the
day it's born? Do you want to see that baby?
Because I was surprised, like my brother became a grandfather
for the first time, and my brother and my sister
in law didn't see the baby for days, and I
was like shocked by I was thinking to myself, oh
(14:35):
my god, if I became a grandfather, I want to
hold that baby that day.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
So again, I think that it's a different generation, number one,
Like they're the way that they think of the family
unit and how they want to how that looks to
them is different. They're older, like our niece, our nephew
and niece were older when they had that baby. And
I think, and I think it's really hard for your
(15:01):
family to process that because you guys are so close
and when our other niece has her baby, like, it'll
be different with her mom. But that is the difference
between it was our nephew that had the bait like
he was the dad is our nephew, and then the
woman he married obviously was the mom. So and I'm sorry,
(15:21):
guess what, when you're pushing that baby out of your body,
you make all the rules and it's it's cold and
flu season, it's there's a lot that goes into it.
Speaker 4 (15:32):
RSV.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Like I think that it will be opposite of me. Well,
because I'm gonna be knock, I'm gonna try to pay
off the doctors the way.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
Well you're not, because that no, no, because this is
again boundaries and you need to go in there with
realistic boundaries. I am from the media and you need
to They don't care, and you need to understand that
it's not your rules anymore. And what we did is
going to be so different from what they do, and
we need to rec back to that and remember Joe
(16:01):
okay with it.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Do you remember when Joe was born? How many people
were in.
Speaker 3 (16:06):
The well, not really because I was in labor for
thirty two hours. That's kind of it.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Not in the delivery room or whatever the room was
that you had the baby for the first time. Like
people that came in and started like seeing Joey as
a little baby for the first time. It's like all
of a sudden, it was like every person in the
world came in there the hospital. I had no security
at all, all right, So it was it was a
nice holiday, did you We all were saying I was sick. Uh,
(16:34):
you know, you got sick. It was not great, yeah, yeah,
but it was fun. It was the pre Christmas that
we had where it was yeah, you know, the five
of us and the six of us because of Alissa
was also there for a little bit. It would have
been cool to have Chris there. And if you know,
Luke wanted to bring his girlfriend, it will be uh
(16:55):
he just give me a weird look.
Speaker 3 (16:57):
I well, because we're celebrated in Florida and I'm not
going to have Luke bring his college girlfriend to Florida
for Christmas.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Oh. I'm kind of at a point right now where
I feel like I want to loosen up with it.
Speaker 4 (17:06):
I can't.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
I want to let you if it keeps me close
to the kids and stuff.
Speaker 4 (17:12):
If cancer doesn't kill me, you will because what a segue.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
That's a segue. You're still alive. Everything is good, you
look great, thank you. It has been ninety days, right.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
Or it's been longer.
Speaker 3 (17:26):
So I had my surgery August twenty fifth, and then
I went in for a six week check up after
and then I go in every three months for I
do blood work and then I do a physical exam.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
And so why is it I thought it was every
ninety days. You gotta do blood work three months. It's
ninety days, I know. But so it's been longer than it's.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
Been a little bit longer. But they want, well no,
because they want your give your body time for the
levels that they're checking to go down to normal range
because everything has been removed. So and they've switched, you
(18:06):
know again getting into the weeds of this. But I
was supposed to see one person and now I'm seeing another.
So because of that, they pushed my appointment back by
two weeks.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
I'm the release date of this, so this is being
recorded before it's been released. But the day that this
is being released, you will be going in and doing
your blood work.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
Nope, So I go in next week and do my
blood work. Oh to the I have a chest see
another test.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
You went, oh, okay, all right, how are you feeling
about going in and getting this blood work done?
Speaker 3 (18:40):
I know everything is fine, but i'd be lying to
say if I don't have anxiety, like to think, but
what if it isn't? But I know that it is,
but it's like, but what if it isn't?
Speaker 1 (18:51):
You know?
Speaker 3 (18:51):
So I think I'm getting a little bit of built
up anxiety thinking before I was like, oh, great, everything's fine,
But then they're so, you know, this little unrealistic part
of me like nothing's going to happen right now, I'm
gonna I can tell myself that again and again and again,
and it's like, okay. It's almost like you look for
(19:12):
the superstitious things like like what what can I do
to make sure it's silly? It's I need to not
worry about this first one, you know.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
But I have been worried about you. You were going
through a period probably a month and a half, two
months after you're getting up and about so a month
after you were up and ready to go where I
(19:45):
thought to myself and like, you know how they call
it a postpartum for after you have a baby. I
don't know what they would call it if there's an
actual term for post you know, cancer treatment, surgery. But
I felt like you were in a little a postpartium
at that time.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
Well I think it's a complete mind for a better
lack of word, you can say fuck, you know, like
I think that you know you you well. I never
thought that I would hear the word cancer when it
came to me, Like I just didn't, you know, when
we did those tests, I really thought you were the
one that was going to have problems, not me. So
(20:24):
it was a little shocking that that is what my
road is. And it was a whirlwind. It was this
is what the test says, and we're.
Speaker 4 (20:36):
Going to get you in and do this test and
this test and this.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
So before I could process really truly what was happening,
we were onto the next step. And it was I'm
very much a research person, so before I could even
research what was going on, that step had already happened,
if that makes sense. So while I it was just
(21:01):
a very quick and that's typical with cancer. You know,
you have cancer. Now we're going to treatment. We do surgery,
we do radiation, we do chemo. Like it's very quick, quick, quick, quick,
sometimes you have a little bit of time to process
in between, but it was just very fast for me,
and so I think all of the then I do
(21:25):
all the research after it's out of my body, and
I do all the research after. And you know, there's
some hard truth to this that I know you don't
like hearing.
Speaker 4 (21:36):
I know, you know some when I say.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
To people, because they're like, well, they got it out
and everything's great right today. Yes, but unfortunately it's not
a matter of if it comes back, it's when.
Speaker 4 (21:51):
Now.
Speaker 3 (21:52):
Having said that, it could be months to a couple
of years, two years for it to come back. But unfortunately,
with this cancer, it does come back. So my mindset
has been I never want to be shocked again when
I hear you have cancer. I don't want to I
(22:14):
don't want that kick in the gut. I don't feeling
I don't want to be taken by surprise. It's just
that little thing that's going to be in the back
of my mind. And then when you tell people that,
some people are like, you can't think that. That's negative
thinking it's you're gonna make it come back. Well, here's
the deal. I never willed myself to have cancer in
(22:37):
the first place. So I'm pretty fucking sure that I'm
not gonna will myself. I'm about to So you know,
for me, it's just having and this is how and
anyone who has we all have our own journeys and
we all have our own way that we have to
(23:00):
deal with it. This is how I'm getting through day
to day because I was in a dark place for
a while with it.
Speaker 4 (23:08):
You know, it's the wyemy, the what did I do?
Speaker 2 (23:13):
My bod's failing me?
Speaker 4 (23:15):
Yes, like you know right, so as so why is
he not dead? No? I mean, but.
Speaker 3 (23:28):
It I think that it is just some This is
how I'm going to get through it, and this is
how I am going.
Speaker 4 (23:39):
To tackle it head on.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
People tackle their own cancer the way that they tackle it.
This is how I have to tackle it. This is
how you know, I've talked to my doctor about you know,
like she said to me, I don't want you to
worry about it. It's for me to worry about when
it comes back and what we do.
Speaker 4 (23:58):
Well, that's a lack of control for me.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
So while I appreciate that and I love that she
said that to me, that's not how we'd Is she
the one you're that is not how well I did.
That's not how we're driving this bus. I had to
learn through this that I have to be my own
advocate because unfortunately doctors can and one was wrong about me,
(24:24):
and they're human. So I'm not going to put all
of my trust in all of all of my eggs
in that basket.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
I'm not.
Speaker 4 (24:31):
I'm going to take some of them back.
Speaker 3 (24:33):
And while I am not a doctor and I will
rely on some of their I'm also going to fall.
I know my body better than anybody else, so I
need to I need to learn to listen to it better.
I'm going to do things for it better. But also
I'm going to have a great quality of life. I'm
not going to be this crazy woman that is like
(24:57):
no dies and no oils and no out alcohol. I'm
gonna live a little too, you know, because it's the
It's not yolo like you.
Speaker 4 (25:06):
Only live once.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
It's you only die once, so yodo, And I'm gonna
live every day and then who knows.
Speaker 4 (25:14):
It could be a car that takes me out. I don't.
Speaker 3 (25:17):
It may not be cancer that takes me out. Who knows,
But I'm gonna live every day until whatever it is
takes me out.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
I love that about you.
Speaker 4 (25:27):
I uh, but tomorrow might be a bad day. I
don't know.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
I love that about you unless it's a couple of
months ago when I literally thought, oh my god, she
is in massive depression right now.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
Well, I did go through depression. But I think that
that's normal. I think that, and I think that I
will have I'm going to have as this my appointment
with the oncologist comes up, I'm gonna get more anxious.
But then then I'll be able to take a deep
breath even though I know this one is gonna be okay,
but I'll be able to take a deep breath after
and then it'll be the lead up to the next one.
(26:02):
But I think that that's normal, and I think it
takes time, and I think if you allow yourself to
feel the feels and you know, grieve, grieve my life
that I thought I was going to have. It is
not fun to know that you have to go get
blood work every three months to check to see if
you have cancer.
Speaker 4 (26:20):
That's not fun.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Yeah, you know, a lot of anxiety.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
So that is not what I thought my life was
going to be like, you know, and get exams to
make sure things aren't growing in places it shouldn't be growing.
Speaker 4 (26:30):
That is not fun.
Speaker 3 (26:32):
And then when you then when your levels start creeping up,
then it's a waiting game. It's just there's a lot
in this and I just have to adjust. Will I
have bad days, I'm sure, but hopefully there's more better
than bad.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
All Right, here's what I want to do. Because we
got time still it's not the thirty minute mark.
Speaker 4 (26:52):
Yes, shocker, how many is it?
Speaker 2 (26:54):
I can I tell you because I don't want you
to think that I'm doing this all for timing. All right,
So this, this is what I want. You know, everybody
always makes New Year's resolutions, and I even hate talking
about New Year's because it is well past New Year's Like, hell,
the year is almost over with and it will be
over with before we know it. I said this to
our show. I said to them, I go, this year
(27:16):
is a year where we're not going to come up
with ideas and do a few of them. This is
a year we're going to come up with ideas and
we're going to do most of them, and at the
end of the year we're going to say, holy shit,
we just did a ton of things. And it's one
of those things where we're not going to just say it,
we're going to do it. And I am going to
take that same approach with this podcast because but I
(27:40):
need you to be the catalyst of this because I
don't know if you know this. I got some other
stuff going on in my life. Okay, I want this podcast,
which has an amazing listenership. Thank you guys for listening
to this thing. It's crazy to think it's three years
of doing this stuff that we've done it well, but
(28:01):
it's on. It'll be three. I want this podcast to
have more opportunity to flourish. So my goal for this
year for this podcast is number one. I want to
do video, so I want us to be so I
want listeners to be able to not only get a
chance to listen, but I want them to see us.
So I want the podcast to include that because that
(28:22):
is a huge help. I want us to get more
than just an Instagram page that every now and again
we throw a post up or remind people that we're
doing it. So I want us to have more of
a social following on this and I want us to
go back to I like when we you and I
do this thing. But I want us to tackle some
(28:42):
things and possibly bring a guest or two on every
now and again. And I know some people hate that,
and I know, like I get the feedback from people
that are like when I will say we should have
so and so on, They're like, we don't want to
any whatever. But I really do think that it's a
great opportunity for the podcast. And I will say this
Lydia has gotten some interest in some people wanting to
(29:02):
be on the podcast more than beyond our show. So
it's as crazy as it sounds, Jared Goff and his
wife were interested in wanting to be on the podcast.
Say that because well, I'm just going to throw it
out there. They obviously are not on the podcast. But
that is one of the things that people want to
come on the podcast, is you know and not go
(29:23):
on our radio show because I think they feel safer
because of you, that you are somebody that's going to
not you know, let me go crazy like I do
on the radio. So I want to do that. So
those are my things. What do you want to see
happen this year as far as the podcast is concerned.
Speaker 4 (29:40):
Yeah, No, I do think I need to work a
little bit more. I can do a lot more social
media thing.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
I think.
Speaker 4 (29:45):
I'm I just don't know the direction that you want
it to be.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
So what you want it to be?
Speaker 4 (29:50):
Okay, well, so.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
We will discuss that later when we turn off the microphones.
I think we need because this is how you and
I have lived our life, and it's like, well, let's
do do this and let's do that.
Speaker 4 (30:01):
And we never.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Our listeners don't realize this, but our show, well, we
don't have.
Speaker 3 (30:07):
A producer who's gonna light the fire and get things done.
Speaker 4 (30:10):
It's you and I.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
Maybe we get a producer.
Speaker 4 (30:13):
I think that's a bit much.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
No, honestly, I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
People have producers.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
Okay, well, let's not get too ahead of ourselves. But
I you know, I would like to see it grow.
I would like to honestly. You know, this started off
as something that was just a way for me to
defend myself or come on and set the record straight
for a lot of stuff I would bought now that
(30:41):
I know, I hard is putting commercials on the end
and sometimes middle of it.
Speaker 4 (30:48):
You owe me, so you're not gonna get this for free.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
So we have to figure out something with that too,
And meaning I want to own this because if something happened,
or I want to have a little bit more something,
because this was just a little brain idea between you
and I that now has become part of iheart's you
know property. Yeah, which, fine, you want to make money
(31:16):
off of it, but you're gonna give me some of it,
bitch or you're just it's not you know like that.
I if you retire in five years, I want us
to walk away with this and everything we built for it.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
So well, I will say this, and you guys can
listen to these podcasts and probably tell this is the
most uninterrupted conversation that you and I have, even without
having little kids, because there's nothing that's taking my focus
away from anything, and I'm listening to you, I'm hearing you,
(31:53):
and I also, to be honest with you, I think
that people will be surprised to know this. This is
probably the las longest that I stopped talking, as weird
as that sounds, because I get to hear you really
tell me some interesting things about your perspective on our
family and our lives. So and it's been more than
thirty minutes.
Speaker 4 (32:12):
It has it been thirty two?
Speaker 2 (32:13):
Yeah, I don't have to listen to you anymore. Let's
stop this thing now.
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