December 7, 2023 • 16 mins
2024 is the year of The Homecoming. Listen to hear what I mean.
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(00:00):
Welcome to episode ten of A GirlWilling. It's your host, Nicole McKenna.
I need you to know that weare coming home in twenty twenty four.
We are coming home to ourselves,and home is going to be the
(00:21):
safest, most nourishing, most supportive, most loving and exciting space to be.
I've shared some little tidbits on Instagramthat I am launching a new baby
(00:44):
in twenty twenty four and it's calledthe Homecoming. And I just want to
talk about what the homecoming is tome. And you're going to see more
information about what it means from alike a logistical stand point, you know,
if you sign up for it,and like what's it going to be,
like, what we're going to doand all of that. I just
(01:06):
want to talk about what being homemeans. We spend so much time trying
to travel everywhere. We're trying togather as much information as we can.
We're trying to not get swallowed upby societal pressures to be a certain thing,
(01:30):
to act a certain way, toparticipate in life a certain way.
We're constantly fluttering around outside of ourselves, trying to find safety, find where
we belong, find love, findmoney, find opportunity, and like we're
(01:56):
just ripping around at a pace.And then there's on top of that,
just so much that we consume somany things to try, and we get
lost because we left ourselves somewhere alongthat time. We're trying to find who
(02:19):
we are. Meanwhile, this vessel, with all of its pain and love
and suffering and likes and dislikes andskills and failures is just become a shell
while we're trying to accumulate enough tobuild a new self. So this homecoming
(02:53):
is the act of coming back intoourselves, opening the door back into ourselves
and knowing that we're going to touchpain and suffering and dislikes and failures,
(03:15):
but we're also going to touch allof the goodness that is in there and
find I know, for me,throughout time, inside of me was panic
inside of me. When was safeinside of me, I didn't want to
(03:42):
be And in fact, the momentsthat I felt connected to myself often brought
a panic and brought panic attacks andbrought this huge nervous system disruption. So
it felt better to be dissociated.It felt better to be too busy,
It felt better to be outside ofmyself. So This homecoming is not this
(04:10):
jarring. I'm not picking you uplike a baseball and then chucking you back
into yourself. It's this tender walkhome with yourself. And when you get
close to your house, your heartmight start racing, and we're gonna pause,
(04:33):
and we're gonna feel, and we'regonna process, and there's gonna be
a somatic experience and you're gonna getto know yourself in that moment. And
eventually we're gonna get back into thehome and we're gonna take up all the
space back in ourselves and we're gonnalet the light in and we're gonna have
(04:54):
just this profound experience of being us, and there's gonna be all of these
I just caught off a call witha client and I use this analogy of
you know, we've been weaving thisthis art throughout our life, right,
(05:18):
so there's just all this woven stuffbehind us, and coming home to ourselves
is not the act of unraveling everythingthat came before us so that the house
is how we want it to benow. It's not, you know,
we don't find the ends of thestrings and then fuck it, start going
back and unraveling everything and now we'vegot a mess of strings and we've touched
(05:42):
all of our pain at once,and we're completely lost and we're drowning,
and it's like, oh my god, I don't want to be here.
Coming home to ourselves is finding theend of all these these threads and weaving
a new pattern. And along theway, when we're taking the strings and
(06:03):
maybe we're passing one over the other, it might bring up something that we
have woven before, and we'll dealwith it then. But we don't have
to unravel everything that came before usin order to change where we're going,
or get to where we're going,or come back home to ourself. So
(06:25):
if you want to travel and journeyand experience and have all the things you
want to have, but your vesselgot left behind, there's no way you're
getting on that airplane. You needto be at home within yourself in order
to get to where you want togo. You know, you want to
go to Germany and you want toyou want to do something that Germans do.
(06:51):
You're gonna have to be in yourbody. You're gonna have to be
at home, safely in yourself beforeyou can fully journey there. There's so
much fleeting energy that people are onthese highs. We have this, we
(07:13):
whip up to these highs. I'mmanifesting, I'm doing these things. I've
made the money, I've got therelationship and everything it crashes so fast.
I've done that. I know.I mean, I've been doing this journey.
I'm with you. I get it. I've done that. I've done
that with money. I've done thatwith relationships. I've done that with opportunities.
(07:35):
I've done that with emotions. I'vedone that. I have these quick
up levelings and then I very quicklycome back down because I wasn't at home
in myself. I was out ofmy body, out of my being,
trying to be where I wanted tobe and do what I wanted to do,
(07:56):
and there was no longevity there.But when I'm at home in my
life, I can travel there andI can be there because I'm safe at
home in myself, so I cannavigate the hardships, I can navigate the
sticks that get you know, putin my spokes because I'm here and I'm
(08:18):
safe, and I have my tools, and I know myself deeply. I
understand my systems, I understand howI process. I understand how I feel.
I understand what I've woven up untilthis moment, and I understand what
I'm going to continue to weave.But the times that that doesn't work,
(08:43):
and the times that it's filled withpanic and that it changes so quickly and
it feels so awful is when we'renot at home within ourselves. And I
truly feel like this is my jobin this space of coaches and mentors and
(09:09):
guides and healers, and I justdon't want to bring people outside of themselves.
I want to help guide you homebecause out of all of the things
I've given myself, out of allof the experiences I've had, my favorite
(09:33):
one is when I got to bringmyself back home. So I think,
and I feel, and I knowthat that is the most valuable thing that
I can offer. And I justI don't have to fight myself when I'm
(10:00):
at home and myself. It's justsuch a different way of being. And
I've walked this walk not being athome and myself, and I have and
I want that same experience for everyone, And I just I feel really excited
(10:22):
to have language around this and tohave clarity around this, and to be
able to offer it because this isthe only place that I can be in
(10:45):
this lifetime, So why would Inot want to make that enjoyable. And
it's so much more simple than I'mused to. It's so much more simple
(11:07):
than what I'm seeing, you know, sort of be taught and in a
lot of places. And it doesn'tmean that that's that's not valuable. But
I always felt that, you know, something had to be like a MC
(11:28):
squared equal I don't even know that, which is not a good analogy to
use because I don't know it,but that whatever I offered had to be
some like crazy equation. This thislike let groundbreaking, I cracked the code,
This amazing crazy thing happened. I'vegot this gold mine, and I'm
(11:50):
so different than everyone because of it. And this is why I'm valuable,
and this is why my services arevaluable. And I've never wanted some thing
less than that. I want tohave the most like simple space for people
to come and to just know howto journey into themselves and know that walks
(12:13):
so well that no matter what getsthrown at them, they know the way
home to themselves. And then theycan make that over and over and over
again, and it feels so good, and it also feels so bad,
but they can still do it.Meeting ourselves where we are at is so
(12:37):
important. There's all of these alignmentpieces, so you know, right now
we're heading into winter, and soto support myself, I should to be
in alignment with nature. I shouldhave certain supports with me that I should
be actively bringing in to be inalignment with the seasons. But what if
(13:03):
I'm out of alignment with the seasonsand I need a different type of support
to make me feel okay right nowand to nourish myself and to make my
systems operate the best. And maybethat looks out of alignment with the way
that we should, quote unquote shouldbe supporting ourselves right now. But I'm
(13:28):
more important than whatever season we're in. I have to create my own balance,
my own support, my own nourishment, not this big collective should be
should be doing alignment in support.Sure, ideally I'd love to be in
this season with everyone else and tobe perfectly dialed in and aligned, but
(13:50):
that's not the reality for everyone.So I want to be able to for
everyone to be able to go wheream I? What is my internal space
look like? And I navigate thatin the most tender and gentle and nourishing
and simple way, so that they'renot outside of themselves looking for how to
(14:11):
be the perfect winter person, andthen they're creating more imbalance for them.
We know that not everyone can havedairy, so why would everyone you know
have the same experience with a specificway of being and doing and anyways,
(14:41):
I could ramble on, and Idon't have a ton of time. I
just I wanted to share what homecomingmeans and my intention behind this this offering
because it feels like the most importantwork and it's a very different offering for
(15:05):
me, Like the logistics of itare very different, which is also scary
because it's like, oh fuck,like are people going to like this?
But I truthfully, I know thatthis is the most valuable work, and
(15:26):
I just my wish is for everyoneto feel at home inside of themselves and
not the type of home that maybesome people are used to or we're raised
in or are in right now,the type of home that feels like safety
and warmth and a knowing where everythingis comfort feeling capable and nourished and thriving.
(15:58):
And that doesn't mean that we don'thave garbage and compost and dust,
and a cat who is five monthsold and is using a litter box and
accidentally miss the litter box this morning, so there was pooh on the carpet.
Doesn't mean that those things are notgoing to exist, but our ability
(16:18):
to process and navigate them is justgoing to feel so much more simple.
So anyways, that's the homecoming andI can't wait to welcome you all home so soon
Welcome to episode ten of A GirlWilling. It's your host, Nicole McKenna.
I need you to know that weare coming home in twenty twenty four.
We are coming home to ourselves,and home is going to be the
(00:21):
safest, most nourishing, most supportive, most loving and exciting space to be.
I've shared some little tidbits on Instagramthat I am launching a new baby
(00:44):
in twenty twenty four and it's calledthe Homecoming. And I just want to
talk about what the homecoming is tome. And you're going to see more
information about what it means from alike a logistical stand point, you know,
if you sign up for it,and like what's it going to be,
like, what we're going to doand all of that. I just
(01:06):
want to talk about what being homemeans. We spend so much time trying
to travel everywhere. We're trying togather as much information as we can.
We're trying to not get swallowed upby societal pressures to be a certain thing,
(01:30):
to act a certain way, toparticipate in life a certain way.
We're constantly fluttering around outside of ourselves, trying to find safety, find where
we belong, find love, findmoney, find opportunity, and like we're
(01:56):
just ripping around at a pace.And then there's on top of that,
just so much that we consume somany things to try, and we get
lost because we left ourselves somewhere alongthat time. We're trying to find who
(02:19):
we are. Meanwhile, this vessel, with all of its pain and love
and suffering and likes and dislikes andskills and failures is just become a shell
while we're trying to accumulate enough tobuild a new self. So this homecoming
(02:53):
is the act of coming back intoourselves, opening the door back into ourselves
and knowing that we're going to touchpain and suffering and dislikes and failures,
(03:15):
but we're also going to touch allof the goodness that is in there and
find I know, for me,throughout time, inside of me was panic
inside of me. When was safeinside of me, I didn't want to
(03:42):
be And in fact, the momentsthat I felt connected to myself often brought
a panic and brought panic attacks andbrought this huge nervous system disruption. So
it felt better to be dissociated.It felt better to be too busy,
It felt better to be outside ofmyself. So This homecoming is not this
(04:10):
jarring. I'm not picking you uplike a baseball and then chucking you back
into yourself. It's this tender walkhome with yourself. And when you get
close to your house, your heartmight start racing, and we're gonna pause,
(04:33):
and we're gonna feel, and we'regonna process, and there's gonna be
a somatic experience and you're gonna getto know yourself in that moment. And
eventually we're gonna get back into thehome and we're gonna take up all the
space back in ourselves and we're gonnalet the light in and we're gonna have
(04:54):
just this profound experience of being us, and there's gonna be all of these
I just caught off a call witha client and I use this analogy of
you know, we've been weaving thisthis art throughout our life, right,
(05:18):
so there's just all this woven stuffbehind us, and coming home to ourselves
is not the act of unraveling everythingthat came before us so that the house
is how we want it to benow. It's not, you know,
we don't find the ends of thestrings and then fuck it, start going
back and unraveling everything and now we'vegot a mess of strings and we've touched
(05:42):
all of our pain at once,and we're completely lost and we're drowning,
and it's like, oh my god, I don't want to be here.
Coming home to ourselves is finding theend of all these these threads and weaving
a new pattern. And along theway, when we're taking the strings and
(06:03):
maybe we're passing one over the other, it might bring up something that we
have woven before, and we'll dealwith it then. But we don't have
to unravel everything that came before usin order to change where we're going,
or get to where we're going,or come back home to ourself. So
(06:25):
if you want to travel and journeyand experience and have all the things you
want to have, but your vesselgot left behind, there's no way you're
getting on that airplane. You needto be at home within yourself in order
to get to where you want togo. You know, you want to
go to Germany and you want toyou want to do something that Germans do.
(06:51):
You're gonna have to be in yourbody. You're gonna have to be
at home, safely in yourself beforeyou can fully journey there. There's so
much fleeting energy that people are onthese highs. We have this, we
(07:13):
whip up to these highs. I'mmanifesting, I'm doing these things. I've
made the money, I've got therelationship and everything it crashes so fast.
I've done that. I know.I mean, I've been doing this journey.
I'm with you. I get it. I've done that. I've done
that with money. I've done thatwith relationships. I've done that with opportunities.
(07:35):
I've done that with emotions. I'vedone that. I have these quick
up levelings and then I very quicklycome back down because I wasn't at home
in myself. I was out ofmy body, out of my being,
trying to be where I wanted tobe and do what I wanted to do,
(07:56):
and there was no longevity there.But when I'm at home in my
life, I can travel there andI can be there because I'm safe at
home in myself, so I cannavigate the hardships, I can navigate the
sticks that get you know, putin my spokes because I'm here and I'm
(08:18):
safe, and I have my tools, and I know myself deeply. I
understand my systems, I understand howI process. I understand how I feel.
I understand what I've woven up untilthis moment, and I understand what
I'm going to continue to weave.But the times that that doesn't work,
(08:43):
and the times that it's filled withpanic and that it changes so quickly and
it feels so awful is when we'renot at home within ourselves. And I
truly feel like this is my jobin this space of coaches and mentors and
(09:09):
guides and healers, and I justdon't want to bring people outside of themselves.
I want to help guide you homebecause out of all of the things
I've given myself, out of allof the experiences I've had, my favorite
(09:33):
one is when I got to bringmyself back home. So I think,
and I feel, and I knowthat that is the most valuable thing that
I can offer. And I justI don't have to fight myself when I'm
(10:00):
at home and myself. It's justsuch a different way of being. And
I've walked this walk not being athome and myself, and I have and
I want that same experience for everyone, And I just I feel really excited
(10:22):
to have language around this and tohave clarity around this, and to be
able to offer it because this isthe only place that I can be in
(10:45):
this lifetime, So why would Inot want to make that enjoyable. And
it's so much more simple than I'mused to. It's so much more simple
(11:07):
than what I'm seeing, you know, sort of be taught and in a
lot of places. And it doesn'tmean that that's that's not valuable. But
I always felt that, you know, something had to be like a MC
(11:28):
squared equal I don't even know that, which is not a good analogy to
use because I don't know it,but that whatever I offered had to be
some like crazy equation. This thislike let groundbreaking, I cracked the code,
This amazing crazy thing happened. I'vegot this gold mine, and I'm
(11:50):
so different than everyone because of it. And this is why I'm valuable,
and this is why my services arevaluable. And I've never wanted some thing
less than that. I want tohave the most like simple space for people
to come and to just know howto journey into themselves and know that walks
(12:13):
so well that no matter what getsthrown at them, they know the way
home to themselves. And then theycan make that over and over and over
again, and it feels so good, and it also feels so bad,
but they can still do it.Meeting ourselves where we are at is so
(12:37):
important. There's all of these alignmentpieces, so you know, right now
we're heading into winter, and soto support myself, I should to be
in alignment with nature. I shouldhave certain supports with me that I should
be actively bringing in to be inalignment with the seasons. But what if
(13:03):
I'm out of alignment with the seasonsand I need a different type of support
to make me feel okay right nowand to nourish myself and to make my
systems operate the best. And maybethat looks out of alignment with the way
that we should, quote unquote shouldbe supporting ourselves right now. But I'm
(13:28):
more important than whatever season we're in. I have to create my own balance,
my own support, my own nourishment, not this big collective should be
should be doing alignment in support.Sure, ideally I'd love to be in
this season with everyone else and tobe perfectly dialed in and aligned, but
(13:50):
that's not the reality for everyone.So I want to be able to for
everyone to be able to go wheream I? What is my internal space
look like? And I navigate thatin the most tender and gentle and nourishing
and simple way, so that they'renot outside of themselves looking for how to
(14:11):
be the perfect winter person, andthen they're creating more imbalance for them.
We know that not everyone can havedairy, so why would everyone you know
have the same experience with a specificway of being and doing and anyways,
(14:41):
I could ramble on, and Idon't have a ton of time. I
just I wanted to share what homecomingmeans and my intention behind this this offering
because it feels like the most importantwork and it's a very different offering for
(15:05):
me, Like the logistics of itare very different, which is also scary
because it's like, oh fuck,like are people going to like this?
But I truthfully, I know thatthis is the most valuable work, and
(15:26):
I just my wish is for everyoneto feel at home inside of themselves and
not the type of home that maybesome people are used to or we're raised
in or are in right now,the type of home that feels like safety
and warmth and a knowing where everythingis comfort feeling capable and nourished and thriving.
(15:58):
And that doesn't mean that we don'thave garbage and compost and dust,
and a cat who is five monthsold and is using a litter box and
accidentally miss the litter box this morning, so there was pooh on the carpet.
Doesn't mean that those things are notgoing to exist, but our ability
(16:18):
to process and navigate them is justgoing to feel so much more simple.
So anyways, that's the homecoming andI can't wait to welcome you all home so soon
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