Episode 16- Let_s talk about dating, relationships, and marriage_

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button to receive notifications of my videos. I hope everybody
is doing well me and I'm doing good. Well, I'm
better than what I was. I've been sick the past
couple of days. I've been feeling absolutely horrible, so it's
been kind of a struggle. It started like probably Wednesday

(05:17):
or Thursday, and I just started feeling horrible. So I
took some time off and I told y'all before I
was gonna take a break, and I am, but I
was taking I think today was like kind of a
good day because I actually just bench watch a bunch
of shows. That's pretty much what I did. I wasn't

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even on social media like that. Really, I was just
pretty much binge watching shows, and you know what, it
was like the best feeling in the world, not picking
up my phone. But I did get my flight and
everything straightened out, my hotel and everything straightened out. So
I was definitely glad to just be able to just
do absolutely nothing. So I was definitely appreciative of just

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being able to just you know, be able to just
enjoy no social media. And it's been very nice and
very peaceful. But I decided to come on here because
I've been seeing a lot for a very long time
about dating and relationships and the blame game and who's

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the blame for relationships going wrong, and male's version and
female version and all these different versions of why relationships
are not working, especially in the Black community. Why is
it that Black women are getting the short end of
the stick when it comes to relationships. Why is it

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that Black women are not being married, Why Black women
are single mothers, Why Black women are getting basically overlooked
for women of other races. And you know, I just
hear it back and forth, forth and back, and I
hear it all the time. But to be frank and honest,

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I'm kind of over it. To be honest, I'm really
over this question because no matter how many ways you
swing it, no matter how many ways you say it,
it's not going to change how people are going to

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act and think and do so. At the end of
the day, men and women are really not very different
when it comes to when it comes to the way
they deal relationships. There are women that cheat and there
are men that cheat. End of the day, there's always

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gonna be a you know, it's always gonna be somebody
that's gonna be cheap. It doesn't matter which one it is.
Now people will say, well, men and women chief for
two very different reasons. No, men and women chief for
the same reason. They're unhappy. That's why they're unhappy and
they're not getting whatever they need or that person was

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just to see Philip Captain say with O build a bear,
build a doll. That's pretty much it. At the end
of the day. I need y'all to grow up at
this point, because I don't think nobody knows what it's
like to be an adult, and being an adult is
not like it is in high school. These we're not

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in high school relationships anymore. And that's the problem. Relationships
haven't evolved. That's why people don't know how to grow,
evolve and elevate into something new, because you're so attached
to what was. I'll give you an example. I saw
one of my exes on my on my you know
how your Facebook timeline, where you have people that basically

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you can be friend. I saw my ex, saw him,
went on his page, saw nothing changed, and got back off.
Sometimes you do that. Sometimes you'll see your ex and
you'll just click on it. You'll just click on it
and you'll just see, you know, what they're doing, now,

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how are they doing? Not because you want them back,
but just to see what was the point of you
dating them in the first place. My ax hasn't changed,
hasn't changed it all. A lot of my exes are
still the same people they weren't when I'm at them.
They ain't changed and they're not going to. And I

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asked myself all the time, why did I date the
majority of people I dated? Why did I have sex
with the people have said was it even worth it?
And so when you get to a certain point, you're
gonna have to come to the realization you waste a
time with a lot of people. You're gonna have to
come to the realization and people are gonna come and

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go out your life. That's just the way it is.
There's nothing you can do because if your person is elevating,
why are you lowing yourself? And I had to really
what I've been saying the past couple of days. I've
had really time to reflect on that, and that's part
of recovery. Recovery is why am I going back to

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the same things and getting the same result. Why because
I haven't changed. Not because the men that I dated changed. No,
I didn't change. When I changed, I started meeting different
type of men. So you gotta change. I don't care

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what nobody to tell you, and I'm gonna say this
for what it is. When I was reading the Bible
yesterday and going over somebscriptions I'm gonna do tomorrow on
my Peace and Tranquility channel, I learned something very important.
And God never said that I had to be a fool.

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God never said to lower myself. God never said that
somebody lowering myself esteem, self worth of self value. God
never said to stay with somebody's abusive God never said
allow a man to have sex with me and get pregnant.
So I had to really start looking at things for

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what they are. And I had to say to myself,
you know what, I set up here and wasted fifty
years lowering myself for people that ain't worth me. I've
set up here and gave all my good sexual tips
to people that aren't worth me. So a lot of

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people now are at that phase where they are now
not gonna let anybody, and I do mean nobody mess
with their spiritual and a peace of tranquility. They're just not.
There are people that are no nonsense people. And I
hear men now saying, well where are all the good girls?

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That the good girls ain't never out? Because the good
girls are at home money they god for sake of business.
The good girls are not even wasting their time. Every
time I turn around this morning, I kept seeing for
my man, for my man, somebody getting unalive because of
domestic violence. That's all I kept seeing all day to day.

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Domestic violence. Somebody dying being unlive for domestic violence. That's
what I saw. Women are aliving another woman because of
a man. That's all I saw today. And I'm just
sitting here like I don't even know if I was
the one did at all, And I'm fifty, So it

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come a time like me and my sister were talking
today and she's her All her kids are grown, so
all are our kids are grown. So we're at a
place now where we said once a year, we're going
out of the country once a year, regardless of what
it is. We named a whole bunch of places. And
so a lot of people thought that in that sex coat,

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they thought they were gonna come between me and my sister. No,
y'all brought us very much close together. We talk more
now than we ever have. But the point that I'm
trying to make is this, there are a lot of
females that's very easy for them to get a man,
it really is. It's not a problem with them getting
a man, but they can't keep a man. You have

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women that can that can't exactly get a man, but
when they get one, hold on to them longer than
the one they can get him. So again, dating is
not the way it was in twenty in twenty eighteen, No,
in twenty two thousand and one. Dating's not the same

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as nineteen fifty four to nineteen teen. So on and
so far, dating has become a joke at this point,
and I came to realization there is no such thing
as dating. And I'm explain why there's no such thing
as dating. Dating to me is back in the day,

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when a man asked you to go out and he
picked you up, he will take you to dinner, you'd
be home at a decent hour and he did not
come to your house. So all it was he would
take you to your door, he might kiss you good night.
Daddy would come to the dough and Daddy would bring
you know, make sure Daddy you know the man didn't

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mess with the door. Back in the day, your parents
never left you alone with a boy. You would have
to sneak the boy in the house. Trust me, I've
done it. But I'm just saying, at the end of
the day, at this point in juncture, especially in the
Black community, I'm gonna tell you what the issue is.

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And it's not what none of y'all have been saying.
The reason why Black people, when it comes to dating,
it don't work is because of slavery, and not only that,
also our tribal culture. Okay, let me bring it down
the same way in India that young girls marry their uncles,

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their their uncles, their cousins. Well, guess what Africans did
the same thing. You didn't get to choose your husband.
Your husband was choosing for you by your father. And
some of them girls were married by the age of thirteen.
So that's one reason black women number two. Black women

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need to pay attention. So I want to do this
a little bit different today. I'm gonna get into the
sex part, but we need to be a little bit
real about something. The reason why Black women are single,
it has nothing to do with anything that you've done.
It's just the fact a preference. Number one is preference,

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and a lot of men have their preference, and a
lot of women are upset because the preferences that men want,
a lot of women are not. So at the end
of the day, you have one or two choices to
make in this situation as a woman. Either you gonna

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be independent, self efficient and dominant, or you wanna be
alone the rest of your life because you're not gonna
have too much of a choice in the matter in
that So, even though there are a lot of women
that want to be married, but what you have to
give up for marriage, I don't think a lot of

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women now want oh they're there are women that want
to be submissive and they want to be in these relationships.
But here's the problem. A lot of people still want
to be single and still be in a relationship. In
other words, you want to be polyamory and polygamy and

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being polygamist. So you basically want somebody to take care
of you, somebody to pay your bills, somebody to let
you do whatever it is you want to do, and
they still gonna be there, somebody that if you get
in trouble, gonna bear you out. You want a parent.

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You don't want a partner, You want a parent. It's
just like when it comes to girlfriend and boyfriend versus marriage.
Girlfriend and boyfriend in marriage are pretty much one the same,
except one got a sheet of paper and the other

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one don't. But everything in girlfriend and boyfriend is the
same as marriage. There's no difference between the two. The
only difference is you have two people who are spiritually married,
meaning they're being together, they're in a relationship, they're having sex,
they live together, they pay bills, they have children, and

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you have women that have a sheet of paper. But
let me also break down why a marriage and girlfriend
and boyfriend are one. Are not really different except the
sheet of paper. Let's say, for example, that a woman's
been married, right, her husband passed away, right, there's no

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will and testament at all, Okay, so the parents can
come in, everybody else can come in and take everything
from you, and there's nothing you can do about it. So,
for example, Kobe Bryant, if Kobe Bryant didn't have a
willing testament, I promise you so, Vanessa would have been screwed.

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So you have to understand the whole point of marriage
protects you financially. So that way, if anything happens to him,
if there's no will and testament, let me say it
like that, if there's no will and testament, then everything
goes to you. But if he has a will and
testament and it's and it can't be contested, he can

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give everything to his mama, he can give everything to
the kids, but nothing to you. Look at what happened
with Tracy Tracy Braxton when it came down to her husband,
she gave everything to her son. Now I know she didn't,
you know she left something for her husband. I'm sure
she did, but everything goes to her son. That can happen,

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and he's an adult. So at the end of the day,
you know, we don't know if Tracy wanted to change
it or what. We don't know, but at the end
of the day, stuff like that can happen. That is
why I say that piece of paper don't mean nothing
in all honesty, because a will and testament can out

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trump a marriage license. And a lot of women don't
understand that. You think I got the ring, I got,
I got the title, but you don't. You can't trump
that will and testament. You can't trump that license, that
life insurance. If that life insurance is in his mother's name,

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and if the kids are an adult, you don't get nothing.
If he puts the money in a trust that they
can't touch today twenty five, you still screwed. So everybody
keep thinking, oh, we're gonna go and have this big,
elaborate wing and we're gonna live happily ever after, and
we gonna, you know, do all these things, and then

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reality hits and then y'all mad because the fact that
it wasn't what you thought it was. You find out
your husband doesn't even know you. I mean, they're a
girlfriend and boyfriend to get the same sexual issues as
a married couple. You got couple that are living together

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as a couple, not married, but as a couple where
they're not having sex like that. No, mo, it happens
to everybody. So don't think you're special because you got
a ring on your finger, because actually you're not. God
never said that that ring means it anything, because it doesn't.

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That's an American thing. That's that's that's a society thing.
Marriage is this, and a lot of y'all don't even
honor what I'm your ready to say, love, arnold, cherish
and sickness and health for saking all others, doing only
unto that person. The last part do only on too
that person. Y'all will not do right by your wives.

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You will not be there in sickness and in health
for saking all others. No, not half of y'all. Don't
even honor your spouses. You don't you respect, You disrespect
them every chance you get. You sit there and you
make it seem like in the beginning you like each other.

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And what's even more funny to me? And I'm gonna
go back here. I have a question for women, and
I'm gonna be actually, and i'ma asking honest questions, and
I would like an honest answer. And in the comments
you can answer this question for those of y'all who
are engaged, for those of y'all who are married, for
those of y'all who are already who've been married. The

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man asked, stupid question, why is it y'all been wanting
this man to propose to you for the longest Okay,
you've been wanting this man to propose to you if
I don't even know how long? Okay, So he finally
decides to the post, does this elaborate engagement? Give me

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a certain does elaborate engagement? And everybody there, your friends,
your family, and then for some of y'all, you know
it can be just you and this person. I'm gonna
ask a very stupid question. And I know some women

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are not gonna really know how to answer this question,
because I already know you're not gonna know how to
answer it. Some of y'all gonna make excuses for it,
but there is no excuse for this. But I'm gonna
ask anyway, why is it that when y'all wait all
this time for this man to post y'all, y'all wait

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another two or three years for a wedding. So you
want him to marry you, right, but then you make
him wait another three to seven years to get married.
So now you want to have this big, gigantic wedding.
You want to wear the ring? Okay, cool? And yet

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and still, why couldn't you just get married right then
and there? I mean, you had the nice setting, you
have the real beautiful setting. Why not just getting married
right there? What is the point of waiting? And a
lot of y'all don't understand why y'all need to start
having these weddings later on in life. Let me explain

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why having a should not be into your tenth anniversary.
Because if y'all can make it through the trenches, then
have a wedding. Do not have a wedding when you
know just because now he y'all are engaged. No, what
you need to do is get a house. All that
money you're putting into a god for second wedding, you
can put into a house. You can put into your

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children's education. You could take that money and even travel.
You can go to the just of the peace, have overseas.
Wedding are very small just you him, and if you
got kids, the kids, your mama, your daddy. You don't
need all these people, just you and him and somebody

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to be a witness. That's it. There are people that
go to Vegas by themselves, go get married, and they
don't have a bit more than nobody else with them
except the two of them. I don't be understanding, y'all.
I don't you want the ring so bad? But and

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then you want these hundred thousand dollars weddings that may
absolutely no sense me. I don't want that. I can
go to the justice piece. I'm okay with it. I
would rather wait my tenth anniversary to have a wedding.
I do not want to have a wedding between my
tenth until my tenth to twenty fifth anniversary. That's when

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I'll have a wedding when I know me and him
gonna be together till death door's part. Until then, we
can go right to the courthouse. We can go right
to the beach and get married right on the beach.
We can go and get married at a winery. I
do not need an expensive wedding. I can rent out
a winery and get married. I can basically do this,

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go ahead and go to the juster piece, go ahead
and get married, and then if we want to plan
a wedding four or five years down the line, then
we can do that. But at least we've been in
our house for ten years. At least we've gone been
through the trenches for ten years before we say, okay,
let's get married. See that's your first problem. You don't.

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It's not about the marriage. It's about the ring. It's
about that expensive wedding. It's about showing anybody and I
am marry I am. That's what it's about. That's what
it's about. So what happens is, yes, these men ask
you to marry them, but do you know why they
want to marry you. Is it because he really wants

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to marry you, or is it because you're pressuring him
to marry you? And that's the point. I've seen people
know each other six months and get married. I've seen
people have only been together a month and get married
and been married for twenty five years. So you can't

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think that because the fact that you got a sheet
of paper and that you got a ring, that you're
better than a woman that's as a girlfriend. Let me,
let me explain the difference in that the only difference
is the is the breakup. Everything else is the same
the way you met him, you dated him. The only

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difference he is he made you a legal wife with
his last name. That is the only thing he's done.
The only thing you've done is get his last name,
which is always a good thing, but his prime I'm
i'm I'm gonna kick a monkey wrench in this. If
he's already been married, then you ain't the first, You're

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the third, or whatever the case may be. The woman
that is his ex wife is the first person that
got his last name, so she will always out trump you. Ladies.
I need y'all to understand something I need. I need
you to understand some If this man has already been married,

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you're not the first. Y'all don't understand the importance of
the first. Just like the first baby mom, I don't
care who comes after her. She's his first, the first
woman to give him his firstborn son. Y'all don't understand.

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It ain't nothing like the first, And I wish women
would start thinking like that. You're not the first, you're
the first of multiple. So if this man has done
all his first with his first baby mama. Then you're

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not the first. You're just a multiple because the first
of everything, there's nothing like it. It ain't nothing like
being the first of something. It ain't nothing like it.
It ain't nothing like being the first person that man

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gives his last name to. It ain't nothing like being
the person to give him his firstborn, whether it's a
girl little boy. Now, if he wants a boy and
he gets a girl, then yeah, that woman is the
first one to give his firstborn child. But if that

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man wants a son and the woman that gives him
his firstborn son, that's a whole nother thing. You can't
out trump her. I don't care if y'all lay together
or not. You are not gonna out trump the first
woman that gave him not only his firstborn child, but

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his firstborn son. So any woman after that, it don't matter.
At that point, that baby mama is gonna always have
something over your head. She's his first. Just let the
first woman he gave his body too. You're not the first,
and you won't be the last. So it ain't nothing

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like being the first. Even for a woman whoever the
man was that was her first, has very much significance.
Whoever the first one to give her an orgasm, that
is something that you ain't never gonna be able to
live up to. The first man that ever made her

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feel a connection during sex. I don't care if they
ain't slept together in twenty years, They're going to sleep
together again. Why because of the connection that they had.
So it ain't nothing like being a man's first. Because

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women are different for a woman, you know what I'm saying.
A man that takes a woman out for the like said,
there's a woman that's never been out, a woman that's
never had a man pay her bills or do anything
for her, and this man comes in and he's the
first one that ever do that, regardless that she has

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a child or not. The first first man that helps
her to lose weight, that's been there for her, that's
supported her, that's had her back, that sees something in her.
Is different than a man because a man is completely
different when it comes to their first. It's hard to

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be a man's first, it really is, because once they've
had they first, that's it. You ain't gonna be at
a competitor, you not. So again, the thing about a
man is different. To get a man to fall in
love with you, that's a whole another entity. It's easy

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for a man to get a woman to fall in
love with them, that's not even issue. But with a man,
it is different. Because a man to have a woman
that he actually is in love with, a woman that
he will stop every single woman that he dating for
that is a first. A man that's not gonna cheat

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on you, A man that basically is taking care of
you and building a life, that's a first. It's not
just about putting that ring on your finger. And let
me also say this for a lot of a lot
of black women, in particular, for a black man, it
takes them a whole year to say it again, it

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takes Don't let these men fool you because when they
say that they know the first thirty days, that's a lie.
That's not true. Men are different because men do not
value emotions. They don't emotions have been known to be
a weakness. So I'm gonna throw this back in women's
face because a lot of women do not understand this.

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When a woman tells a child, a mother in particular,
tells her son that emotions are weakness, stop crying, suck
it up. It's one thing when their daddy tells them that,
it's a whole nother thing when a woman tells them that,
Suck it up, stop crying. Just like Jada Waito, Jada
Waite was talking about her baby, talking about telling that

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boy he sound gay? What is wrong with you? That
is the reason why a little baby and this other
baby daddy you got is the way they are because
to them, emotions are a weakness. So if you really
want to get to the nitty gritty of it, let's
let's get into the meat and potatoes of it. All
the reason why black men and black women cannot be

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together and why they shouldn't be together trauma bonding until
black men and black women deal with everything and I
mean slavery, I mean the segregation. Until we deal with
all of that and go to therapy, I don't see

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black men and black women working out in any capacity whatsoever.
It's trauma bonding. And see that's why when you see
them with other racists, it's completely different. And that is why,
because if a black woman is dating somebody is Caucasian,
it's not trauma bonding. When a black man is with

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different race of women, it's not trauma bonding, but black
men and black women, it is trauma bonding. And not
only is it trauma bonding, it's expectation. You're expected to
be with a black man, You're expected to be with
a black woman. That is what you're told. And all

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races go through that. It ain't one that don't you
stay within your own lane, You stay within your own group,
not understanding that's not how love works because love has
no color. So you can't say that people should stay
within their own race considering love has no color, because
you're not only are you depriving yourself of somebody that's

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gonna make you happy, but now you gotta worry about
being dis own because the fact you're not dating somebody
is the same complexion as you or that it's black
versus finding someone based upon love, and that is the problem.
But this generation that's coming up, not only are they
proving that that's not the case, they're also proving they

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don't want to be the gender that they are. They
don't want to be the genda that they are. They
want to switch. And then you also have the gay community.
The gay community is contradicting a lot of things that
are heterosexual that we can sit here and talk about.
So at the end of the day, all the stuff

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y'all keep thinking it's heterosexuals incorrect because it's not correct. Yes,
you are supposed to be with one man and one woman,
of course you are. But because the society is so
screwed up, now we have a bunch of stuff that's
not even supposed to be what it is. I can
go in detail and tell you the real reason why

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people are gay. But it's not because they're born gay.
It's a lot of things I can tell you. I
can tell you why people are fat, or overweight or obese,
and that's gonna shock a lot of people. Let me
go here'm I'm gonna go here today because I mean
I can. I can leave social media tomorrow call today. Well,

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let's let's start with, babe. Let's start with people that
are overweight. There are now it is now finally being
told that going to the gym is not how people
and all overweight it gonna lose weight. We're now finding
out that that overweight people have estrogen estrogen eas issues,

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not only estrogen issues, but also glucose issues, also insulent issues,
also fibroids, thyroids, hernias issues, digestive issues. It could also
be when you were a kid, and this is one
everybody don't think about. I didn't realize this till one

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day I was watching I was watching Morey and then
and then it's like a long time ago, probably in
the early nineties, where they talked about babies that were
being overfed by their mothers. Okay, yeah, we're gonna we're
gonna talk about it because we're gonna go deep today.
All of this is going somewhere. I remember there was

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there was some babies on there that had to be
one hundred pounds and they weren't even three year. They
weren't even they weren't even not even a year. These
babies were fifty pounds before a year. They were huge.
I seen one on on Tiktop a couple of months ago.

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That little girl got to be over one hundred pounds
and she is big. Her mama is small. That's the
crazy part. Her mother is small, but this baby is huge.
And I'm gonna tell you why that is. Every time
a baby cries, the first thing y'all want to do
is put a bottle in that baby's mouth. Okay, that's

(39:40):
the first thing you want to do when that is
not necessarily what that child wants. I'm gonna tell you
what children, what babies want, because I learned it from mine.
I did not when he first started crying, put a
bottle in his mouth. I started playing with him, and
I noticed that when I was sitting there playing with him,
that's all he wanted me to do is sit there

(40:02):
and talk to him. He just wanted my attention. So
I would sit there with him. I would sit there,
talk to him. I would laugh with him and be
in the car. Hit me in the car crying, I play,
I play some old school music. Stop prying. I would
check everything first. I would check the bottle. If he
turned the bottle, I'm not gonna force him to eat,

(40:24):
because I know that's not it. So then when I
picked him up and I started rocking him and then
you know, just bouncing him, he started laughing. So I realized,
babies just want attention. They just want you to talk
to him. He like when I would just sit there.
I would come home, I'd have a bad day and
I would sit down with him and be like, but

(40:46):
I'm like, baby, I'm gonna take you how my dad was.
He's sitting there just listening to me. Like, Okay, just
sitting there listening to me, just enjoying me, says sitting
there talking to him. So I realized, babies just want
you to talk to They just want you to talk
to them. But check everything first. Check number one, check

(41:06):
their ears, because they start tugging their ears, that means
they have an ear infection. Check their bottles, make sure
there's no rashiest and it could be they could be
coming down with a fever. They could be coming down
with something. Because most of the time, when babies start
crying and they constant crying, it could be there coming
down with something. You need to take them to the doctor.
But don't just automatically just feed the child because they crying.

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And let me tell you something, crying does not hurt
a baby. Let them cry. It is okay to let
the baby cry. They'll stop eventually. Honey. I've done that
to so many god second daycare kids. I sat down
and let them cry because I was knocked. I had
six other kids to deal with. Let me tell you

(41:50):
some true story I had on samowing baby. That baby
was big. He was kill a little some molling baby,
but he was he just all he did was cry.
He didn't want to be on the ground, He didn't
want to be he all he wanted was to be held.
I said, huh nop. So I did him like I
did every other baby. I put him in between my

(42:11):
legs and then spread my legs and he wouldn't even
realize he was actually sitting on the ground. And then
one day I got up and he realized he was
sitting on the ground, just sitting there. He was a shock.
He go, I can't believe I'm sitting on the ground.
So after a while, he just like he wanted to

(42:32):
sit on the ground. He didn't even want me to
home the mom Why because we realized that he enjoyed
being on the ground. Once he was on the ground,
and once you know, I got him start doing tummy time,
he started doing tummy time. The no wrong, he still cried,
but when he realized I wasn't gonna pick him up,

(42:53):
When he realized I was not gonna do what he
wanted me to do, it's that right. I was the
only one they could get them to do that. Why
because no, I'm not gonna sit up and hold you
because you crying. I'm not doing it, I got for
six other babies I gotta deal with no. All of
the babies understood this, and I was like, no, I'm

(43:14):
not holding no of them wrong. I paid each and
every last one of them attention. I love them all
and I love them dearly. I would sit down and
do storytime with them. They love it because us to
make them laugh. But she couldn't not thatcare you. You could
not understand how it was. These babies would just stop crying.

Speaker 2 (43:34):
I said, no, don't pick them up.

Speaker 3 (43:38):
I don't pick them up. Let him cry, cause she like,
you can't let them cry. It worked for me, but
then she realized what the method of my madness was.
It's okay for a baby to cry. You don't gotta
feed them every time they cry. Just let him cry.

(43:58):
Gonna start because when they realize you ain't paying them
no attention, they'll stop. And that's how I gotta stop,
because I was like, look, I'm coming. And then when
I came, and stop crying. But what I would do
is make them laugh while I'm dealing with the other baby.
I would sit there and make them laugh, talk to them,
and they stop crying. Why because all they wanted was

(44:19):
my attention, So I make little faces, stop dancing, turn
the music, prease, listen to music, and daycare. I ain't
sit there playing music, and they would sit there and
laugh and they would have a good old time. And
I was able to change all their diapers. Why because
I can multi task. So again, what y'all doing is
you're overfeeding these babies. So what happens is when they

(44:43):
get older, they connect food to that because of what
you did to them when they were when were younger.
So the reason why you got people that all oldweight
that eat, they eat. It's called emotional eating. And this
is when every time they get hurt, the first thing
they do is eat that comes from their parents. A

(45:04):
lot of people don't know that I'm telling you, I'm
write a book about all this nonsense. Well, yes, that's
why people overeat that are like six hundred pounds because
their parents never pushed them to work out, never pushed
them to do nothing, or they had an accident. So
for example, my situation is an example of this. And

(45:28):
that's how I noticed to be true. When I couldn't walk,
they told me not to exercise because they didn't know
why I couldn't walk, and they didn't want it to
happen again, so I wasn't able to work out. So
twenty and fifteen I was working out, going to the
gym and everything. Well. In two thousand and I was

(45:49):
going to the gym and everything. I was doing really
really good. And I think it was like two thousand
and eighteen was when everything changed. The last time I
used to do dance around my house all the time.
I used to always dance around my house all the
time on the weekends, and I would always, you know,
just have a good time in my house and dance

(46:09):
around my house and have a good time and be
in my little world. But one day, all of a sudden,
it was like I was just in constant pain. So
all of a sudden, everything started stiffening, and blood was
not flirting flowing in my body the way it was

(46:30):
supposed to. So I can understand how people can end
up overweight. An injury can certainly do that, especially when
they don't know why. It's just like with somebody paralyzed,
they can't move, They're they're not mobile. So when you're
not mobile and you're not moving and you're not walking around,

(46:52):
you will get stiff your your circulation in your body
gets stiff, so I can this. So these people are
not just six hundred pounds because there's six hundred pounds. No,
for most people, it's an injury. And you can tell.

(47:12):
And not only that, you have some parents that do
overfeed their kids. They do. They feed their kids number
jump food. They always take them to McDonald They always
take them something neat every time they say, ma, I
want mc dot Nope. Uh, y'all don't know how to
Teddy's kids.

Speaker 2 (47:28):
No.

Speaker 3 (47:29):
And then not only that, the reason why America is
so obese, y'all gonna be shocked by what I'm about
to tell you is not just about none of that.
The crime rate, that's why the crime rate, the human trafficking,
the gunshots, that is why people are overweight. People don't
even think about it from this aspect. But let's break

(47:51):
it down for what it is. Let's say, for example,
you got women that are okay, I give you a
very good zamp. The other day I saw a man.
A woman was going to her car and she was
going to put grosser in the car. The man forced
her in the car and tried to kidnap her. Luckily,

(48:12):
they were able to stop him and save her life.
Your kids can't even go to the park without worrying
about a tribal luster kidnapping your child. Your child can't
even walk to the bus stop by themselves because the
crime rate is so bad. So the reason why, another
reason why that were overweight is crime. You can't go

(48:37):
outside no more, you can't walk no more unless you're
in a very safe neighborhood. You can't walk, you can't run,
you can't do nothing. I mean, it's it's to the
point now you can't. You can't. You gotta literally put
your cell phone down just to make sure your kids

(48:58):
are not gonna be kidnapped. We're in a society where
a school was shot up in Georgia, so you need
to understand the things that are going on. It is
not just about people just being lazy and not want
to eat. Just eating, that's not what it is. It's

(49:21):
called emotional eating. And that's when your parents, every time
you cry, they feed you. And now when you go
through a breakup, what is the first thing you do
you eat? What happens when you're sick, The first thing
you do you want something sweet, because that's what happens
when when I was sick the whole weekend. All I

(49:43):
wanted was something sweet. Why energy energy. Your sugars are
lowest when you're sick, so you do need sugar when
you're sick, because if you don't have sugar when you're sick,
your blood sugar goes love. So you need sugar when
you're sick. Most people when they're sick, that's all they wanted,

(50:03):
something sweet. So at the end of the day, if
you can't exercise for whatever reason, whatever disability it is,
physically can definitely make people gain weight. And then if
you got your parents and all they do is feed you,

(50:23):
what do you expect if your parents all they eat it,
all they bring in the house is junk food. What
do you expect that goes about to parents? Because if
we really did not want a country that was obese,
then would that it would be more walking and everything
wouldn't be where you get in a car and you

(50:45):
just drive. We'd be on bicycles more than likely done wrong.
If you're going a long distance, yeah you're gonna be
in You're gonna be in a car. But people can't
even ride the bikes them up. You can't The world
it is today is not realistic, and all the things
that used to work a long time ago don't work now.

(51:06):
It don't because women can't even go to dinner without
a man bringing up sex. And even if you tell
a man no, you got to worry about him trying
to slap you, trying to abuse you, trying to sex
insault you, kidnap you, or even alive you. You can't even
you can't even have an argument because you scared somebody

(51:28):
going in there putting their hands on somebody. Now it's just, look,
I just can't do this no more. You have more
people now, this is like, I just can't do this
no more. They not even gonna argue with you. They
he's gonna say I can't do this no more because
they're just not even trying to go there. Or what
they do is they'll leave and then wait till they

(51:48):
get home and say I can't be with you no
more after their lease is up, and move so you
can't find them. As matter of fact, why they at
it changed their job. So for any of y'all going
through domestic violence, I'm gonna tell you the best way
to handle that. Number One, if you hit you once,
don't go back any man that hits you will do

(52:10):
it again. Don't do it. Don't ever do it. Secondly,
if you're trying to leave the domestic violence, don't stay
the same sick as that man. Move, change your so
secured number, change your name, and move. Thirdly, don't let
your parents know where you at because they may do

(52:33):
something to your family. Because some people are stupid enough
to unerlive somebody family because stuff like this, And I've
seen it happen in the news where somebody was trying
to find somebody and they ended up unlive with her
whole entire family except her that so you need to
be mindful of who you date. Y'all talking about looks this,

(52:54):
looks that, But y'all don't even know whether the person
is crazy or not. So I'm saying all of this
to say this sex ain't no different. Y'all having sex? Fool?
Can please? Somebody tell me what is the purpose of
y'all having sex? Again? Are you having sex because you
know somebody's depressing you to do it? Could it all

(53:16):
go back to the same thing. No, I'm doing that
for a reason. This is where a common sutter comes in.
At Okay, everything I said comes into that cause sex
is no different. Sex is not about none of what

(53:39):
y'all think is about. So let me explain this. Number one,
let me be as honest as transparent as I can be.
The same way that all of what I said I
said about dating and all of that, all of this
supplies because all of these things is what's keeping you

(54:02):
from having sex. Number one, you're worried about somebody's weight.
Number two, you're worrying about whether the size is Number three,
you're worrying about what they look like. When none of
this stuff matters. It don't matter when you because, like
I said, when you have kids. The perception that I'm
going with is when you have children, not when you're single,

(54:24):
not when you ain't got kids, when you do got kids.
I need y'all to stop being unrealistic. You are not
the same as a female that is single that does
not have no children. You ain't nowhere near in the
same running. You have a child by another man that

(54:45):
is not obligated to take care of another man's child,
which they are not. That is your responsibility. You laid
down and had a child. You gotta deal with everything
to come with it. Y'all need to understand that goes
two different ways here, and I'm being as transparent as
a cant. Number One, you cannot have fun while having

(55:09):
sex if you can get pregnant. Number one, no female
should not be having sex until you are married because
of children. So let me, let me, let me bring
it out of what it is the most scariest thing
for a female is getting pregnant at a young age.

(55:35):
That girl is waiting for her period to come on,
and when it come on, she is completely and utterly happy.
But that right there should tell you why you shouldn't
be out here having sex because you are playing Russian
roulette with your and shortening your lifespan. And them explaining
I don't mean the death wise, I mean enjoying your life.

(55:57):
You are cutting your and your goals by having kids
before twenty one. I do not think no child should
be dating until they get about twenty five. I don't
think male or female, because if you're focusing on what

(56:18):
you're doing, then focus on what you're doing. If you
don't want kids until you thirty, stick to that. Don't
have sex at all unless you want kids. I'm tired
of y'all believing that you can have sex and not
have kids. If this is not the man you want

(56:40):
to have kids with, don't have sex with them. If
there's not a woman that you want to have kids with,
don't have sex. Well, you can't enjoy sex until you
can't have kids or you barn. So let me say
that again. You can't have sex and really enjoy it
for what it is. Number one, until you get older,

(57:05):
until you in your thirties. Your twenties should not be
about y'all having sex at all. What it should be
about is you being your wild free by all means.
So let me break down the type of sex y'all
supposed to have for a play, nothing more, nothing less

(57:29):
than that it should only be four play because what
a lot of y'all don't understand is and let me
break this down for what it is. There's nothing wrong
with for a play. You don't have to worry about
getting pregnant, and you can enjoy each other and give

(57:52):
each other as many or gaps as you want to.
But them two don't need to touch each other. It's
just like when you were younger you played doctor No different,
did like where you play Spin the Bottle? No different?
But nobody should be having sex with nobody, especially in

(58:14):
this country, that is, in the United States of America,
considering we can't talk about sex for what it truly is.
A lot of y'all think, oh, I watched porn and no,
do you know how many of them got HIV, full
blown age, her fees and STDs. You ain't thinking about

(58:37):
none of that. Will great power come great responsibility. I
am loving my new burner. Y'all got new burner and
it's like a fire. It looks like a fireplace and
it's got fire coming out of it. It is so cool.
I love my burner and smells. I'm smelling the meditation stuff,
the diffusion stuff. Oh my god, it smells so good.

(58:58):
At first, it can't smell it, but then when I
turn the light off, I can smell it. It's got
a light on it, and it smells so good. Who
will smell good at him? Anyway, I'm getting caught up
in a meditation. Have I have this? I have this,
These diffusers like the liquid stuff that go in there,
and they have recipes how to make meditation, and I'm

(59:21):
loving it. It's I'm definitely relaxed right now. But anyway,
back to what I was saying, now, y'all think everybody,
everything in the Bible is not what it is, but
it is exactly what it is. You're not supposed to
foreignicate until marriage. Why because you're both supposed to be

(59:41):
inexperienced when it comes to sex. A man should not
be having sex with women before he gets married, and
a woman should not be having sex before she gets married.
Neither one of y'all should be not having sex. And
that is the first problem, because if neither one. Okay,
I'm gonna go back to Adam and e, y'all gonna
hear me go back to Adam and Eve. Quite often,

(01:00:04):
Adam and Eve if they had never ate that apple,
they would never They would never we would We would
pretty much be nine hundred ten, you know, a thousand years.
We would have never died. But anyway, long story short,
every day y'all having somebody coming to y'all and saying,

(01:00:25):
to y'all, if you love me, you have sex with me.
Ain't that the same as a serpent? See a lot
of y'all are not understanding my point in this. That
serpent is doing you the same way that Adam and
Eve and y'all do it. Every single day and you
don't even understand that. So that's why now I look

(01:00:48):
at it differently. So when I look at Adam and Eve,
that's the first thing that come to my mind. When
I have conversations with people. I think about it from
that perspective. And then I look back and all the
stuff that I did, and I'm sitting there like, I
let these people that are so called serpents convinced me
to do something that basically messed up my life. I

(01:01:12):
let these men in my life the same way that
Eve did when it came to that serpent. Same thing.
Y'all keep thinking that in twenty twenty one, you ain't
dealing with that serpent. Yes you are. You think you not?
You think you ain't messing with the same for bidding fruits,
because you are. So that was the first thing I
had to learn. I had to learn that part. I

(01:01:34):
had to learn that these men that I dated did
not deserve my vigeyj didn't deserve my mouth, they didn't
deserve everything else. They didn't deserve it. Why because they
were still with other women. And then I had to
think about it. So, you mean to tell me I
was with a man that was contividated. I gave myself
to a man there was one already experience, which is

(01:01:57):
what I shouldn't have done, because the first thing should
have came to off in my mind was he's not
a virgin? How many women has he been with? What
women is gonna be coming in my vagina? And I
mean you got to think about that. All y'all thinking
about is here's money. He got money, he can provide
and protect. Do you not understand they only provide, they

(01:02:20):
only protect. No, sorry, they only provide once a month,
and they only protect when the need be. But yet
you cook and clean once a week, you take care
of kids every day. Come on, no, y'all get to
stop playing my face. Y'all gonna stop playing my face.
So when I started reading the Bible and really, really,
really really reading it, I'm like, wait a minute. If

(01:02:44):
I was sat there and read the Bible a long
time ago, if I'd have been going to church like
I was supposed to a mamma um and didn't take me,
I probably would have been no, no, absolutely not. I
would have been like three little pigs, little pig, little
pig let me in knut hand chance chan chain, live, think, live, thing.
Let me in not gonna have my chance chian chin

(01:03:04):
while Papa blow. I don't care what you do because
you ain't coming in here. July. I learned the devil
get you in three ways, manipulate, bamboos or lies and manipulates,
and then force you to do something. Either you're gonna
do it on your own, he gonna he gonna manipulate
you and do into doing it, or a are you
gonna He's gonna basically force it, force you to do it.

(01:03:28):
See what I learned is now no, if we're not
gonna be in relationship, I ain't have sex with you
point period. So I'm learning now Okay, if I'm gonna
be celibating, so are you, Because why in the world
am I gonna be celibate while you out here? Even
with most women. See, women don't know how to flip
this because I'm bop to tell if you let a

(01:03:52):
man know you will not touch me. As long as
you are with other women, you will not touch me
because unless you're gonna commit me, unless it's gonna be
the depth doest part, I ain't haveing sex with you
at all. I'm sorry, I'm not because in my past
me being me, me being a people. Please to seek

(01:04:13):
Phillip Captain Saber, Oh builder, band a, build a doll.
I'm here to tell you it doesn't work. You're gonna
end up lowering yourself. And I learned it now. God
is like, no, ma'am, why are you lowing yourself for
men that don't want you in the first place? And baby,
you know these men didn't want you. I showed you

(01:04:37):
every sign and they didn't want you. All I needed
you to do is just be patient. Your husband would
a cane. No, I'm out here be fouring a cat
and doing stuff I shouldn't be doing. So now that
I'm look at my ex, I'm sitting like I can't
believe I daddy is dude. So trust me, you gonna

(01:04:58):
get to this place when you buy yourself and you isolated.
Trust me, you're gonna be like, oh my god, I
can't believe I set up here and I could have
been doing something else I could have been in my career.
I got pregnant and now everything I know is gone.
Why do you think so many people unalliwed their kids,

(01:05:20):
and so many kids unlive their parents, and so many
men and women unlive each other because you are trying
to get out of your circumstance, and with kids you
just can't get You can't get rid of them if
you wanted to, unless you put them up for adoption.

(01:05:42):
But because and and I'll tell your story of where
I'm going with this, there was a there was two
situations and one one you know, one you don't. Susan
Smith was married, married to a whole nother man, love
with another man. He said he would not be with

(01:06:03):
a woman who don't have kids. What is she do?
Instead of leaving her husband and leaving the kids, she
decided to underlive her kids. And we all don't know
what happened in that situation. Second scenario, same similar situation.
White girl daves a black guy. He's talking about going
out of town and he tells her, no, we ain't

(01:06:26):
taking them kids, And instead of giving them to their daddy,
she decides to underlive her children just so she can
have freedom. I need y'all to understand what freedom of
choice and free will means. So you need to understand
if you somebody that values yourself, and you value your

(01:06:46):
health and wellness and your value of peace, of quality, tranquility, personally,
you better be careful who you bring it to, y'all,
into your space. If you somebody that has healed from
your trauma from high school, y'all, trauma from when you
were the kid and you went to therapy, you better
not bring nobody in your house that's gonna remind you

(01:07:07):
of that. Because now the minute I see something that
ain't right, you got to get out my house. I'm
not No. I pay attention to energy, and when it
comes to energy, I pay attention to it quite well.
So n ain't cooking. I'm laying there under the weather. No,

(01:07:33):
it's a I have a burner over to have a burner,
and it's that's what you hear in my background. It's
got water in it and it's got flames. It's really
I love them. I love this burner. I just got
it today. I just got inside to use it. But
I realized the sense I got five of them in there.

(01:07:55):
But it's like extremely, extremely strong. So I'm gonna turn
it off a little bit and then turn it back on.
But it works because I can smell my whole entire
room smells like meditation. But so it definitely is helping
me to relax but you can kind of tell I

(01:08:16):
sound congested. Yeah, I don't feel good. I feel better
than I did yesterday. Yesterday I felt yesterday, I felt horrible.
All this week. I have felt horrible from probably like
about Wednesday Thursday, and I've been feeling sick ever since.
But anyway, like I said, I want y'all to understand

(01:08:40):
that with great power come great responsibility. And so you
need to understand that where you are should be who
where the other person is. It should not be you
being with somebody that makes less money than you. You
should not be with somebody that's not a godly person
that you are. So wherever you are is where the

(01:09:03):
other person needs to be. Now, I'm not saying that
this person has to be as far as personality wise
like you, but when they come to morals, values, principles
and ethics and critical thinking, common sense and common judgment,
yeah it definitely y'all should have the same values, meaning

(01:09:26):
that say, for example, a person could drop their draws
and I may look at you and I might say,
and I'm looking at it, and I'm looking at it
and I'm just like, you can not be serious, And
I can look at it and tell if it's a
man in particular, and I'm I mean, so, let me

(01:09:49):
bring it down how this works. Somebody walks in your house,
their pants gets pulled down. You turn around and you're looking,
and you're like, really, no, I can look at it
and tell if I even want to even go there.

(01:10:10):
Because it's not always about whether or not it's ten
to twelve inches. I need people to understand this because
some of y'all really cannot handle ten to twelve inches
because it's not gonna go all the way in. And
number two, if it doesn't go all the way in,
you shouldn't even be trying to have sex with that
person in the first place. See, there's a lot of

(01:10:32):
things that y'all ain't gonna like that I'm gonna say
that some of y'all gonna be so heartbroken about. But
we need to be honest here. We're adults here. Number one.
If you're not an adult, you shouldn't be in here
in the first place. And second of all, for those
of y'all that are not gonna like what I say,
I'm not gonna apologize for it. I'm gonna standing on
what I said. There is a reason why God said

(01:10:56):
don't have sex with marriage. There is a reason for that,
because you're supposed to live your life first and make
all your mistakes and learn from them, get where you
need to be, and then and then start dating. So
let me break this down for what it is. First
of all, you are supposed to as a woman, live
your life by yourself. You're supposed to live your life

(01:11:20):
and show your life. Get a roommates before you see
that point right there, Get a roommate before you get
a man. If you can't handle a roommate, you can't
handle a man. So what you need to do is
live with a female first. Because I always say this,
live with a female first, because if you can't even
live with your parents, you can't live with a man.

(01:11:41):
Because guess what, it's gonna be the same equation on
both sides. So though differently than you lived at home
with your mama and you didn't like the fact that
with your mama told you you couldn't do, guess what
that's gonna be your wife, And same thing with your daddy.
Talking about you being fast behind about what you're wearing

(01:12:01):
is the same way your husband is. So basically, you're
gonna be a parent, You're a parent to your spouse
before you're even a parent to your children. So if
you can't even parent your own husband, then you can't
parent your own kids because guess what, If your husband
is disrespectful to you, then your children gonna be disrespectful.

(01:12:22):
You see now these Now does it make sense to you? Now?
That is the reason why you don't have kids, because
your husband is no different than your daddy and your
wife is no different than your mother. Why, let meansp it.

(01:12:43):
The same way your daddy is about his daughter wearing
certain clothes is same way your husband gonna be about you.
Your husband don't like the fact that men are looking
at you. Guess what, your dad don't either, the same
way your daddy don't want you hanging around with fast

(01:13:06):
behind females. The same way your daddy don't either. I mean,
your husband don't either. Let's get into it. The same
way your mama tell you to go in there and
clean up your room and go in there and wash
dishes is the same way your wife is gonna be.
It's no difference. There is no difference between husband and

(01:13:26):
wife and mommy and daddy. That's why I keep telling y'all,
husband and wife is mommy and daddy. I keep telling
y'all that on the way I understand this. It took
me a while to figure this out. So husband and
wife is not husband and wife. Husband and wife is
mommy and daddy. There is no divorce. You can't. That's

(01:13:49):
the one word you ain't. You're gonna be for the
rest of your life, the mother. So it took me.
It took me a while to figure out the correlation. So, yeah,
I'm still imagine my baby dad. I certainly am. I
said all the time, I said, you know, we still
you know, we're still married, even though we ain't married legally,
even though we're not married emotionally, even though we don't,

(01:14:11):
we're nowhere there in that space. But we share a
child and that is something we ain't never gonna be
able to divorce. Unfortunately. No, I ain't gonna say that
because I love my child. No, he gave me a
beautiful child. So y'all need y'all need to start figuring
out these correlationships. If you read the Bible, the correlations

(01:14:34):
will start coming together for you. And if it's somebody
that that pray on it and let God show you
what it means. That's how I figured all this out.
I asked God to show me what this stuff truly means.
Y'all just read it and you want to just by
your behavior and you want to say, well, in the Bible,
it says that do you not understand that God is

(01:14:56):
an unforg a jealous God. Do you you understand that
y'all ain't figured it out. If you ain't figured out
by the story of Job, that you gonna go through
some negative stuff and there's nowhere around that to test
your faith, y'all ain't figured it out by now. So

(01:15:19):
my point is it took me figuring this out to
understand now. Why now I'm not fornicating, why I'm not
having sex right now is because it's just like when
men say, oh, I want a younger girl. No you don't,

(01:15:40):
because I'm gonna flip this in a way. It's about
to make all this make sense. You gotta worry about
a young girl being pregnant. I keep this is my point.
Young girls are not supposed to be having sex at all.
They're supposed to be enjoying their lives and traveling, y'all.
At my you can't have a relationship without sex, uh,

(01:16:04):
but you can if you really wanted to. It's called discipline. Now,
when you have all the children you're gonna have, you
get your tools tied. He gets up aosectomy, you have
a you have a hysterectomy. Well guess what you can

(01:16:26):
have all of sex? You won't Why cause you can't
have kids. And the reason you ain't supposed to have
sex with most people is because of STDs. STDs ain't
going nowhere. See the problem is, y'all. Will you know
that out of sight, out of mind thing? Because they

(01:16:49):
say that COVID is over with, COVID is still here,
HIV is still here, The drug epidemic is still here.
It ain't went nowhere. It's never went nowhere. But because
you think you can go to the doctor and get
a shot, and you act like the thing can't come back,
and then you turn around do the same thing all

(01:17:10):
over again. You run around having sex with all these people,
and you think that's something you should be proud of,
having sex with all these different women, and you proud
of it, having sex with all these men, and you're
proud of that. You're proud of running around Forner Cayton,
having these children out of wedlock. Then you mad because
you can't do what you want to do well. This

(01:17:32):
is why I chose to do this this way. If
you want to have your freedom, Number one, don't have
sex NOMBERI don't have kids problems an't and then women
would understand and value yourself and stop lowering yourself. I
don't care how much money these men got. Answers, No,

(01:17:54):
get your own, get your own. Maybe if you get
your own, then you ain't gotta worry about wanting a
man to provide a protect for you because you can
provide a protect for yourself. So y'all don't understand what
independence means. Independent ain't got nothing to do with male
or female. It's got everything to do with two people

(01:18:14):
individuals that are independentent It means that both parties can
take care of themselves with or without you. I will
be okay. It ain't got nothing to do with being disrespectful.
It ain't got nothing to do with de masculating you.
It's got everything to do with the fact that the

(01:18:36):
same way I bust my behind to do what I
need to do to get where I need to be,
you need to get off your behind and do the
same thing. But the fact that your mama is not
pushing you the way my parents did me. That is
their ish cause they go right back to your mama

(01:18:58):
and your daddy. So the one thing I'm not gonna
do is be a parent. I ain't parenting nobody accept
my child and anybody's child that is around me that
is related to me. It is not my job to

(01:19:22):
raise a grown man. It is not my job at
this point in my life to worry about a man
and who and who he deal with. I am not
giving my body to any man that is having sex
with another woman. I am not disrespecting her like that,
and I ain't disrespecting myself like that. Because number one,

(01:19:43):
if you can't, if I have to spend even one
night alone and I'm not at your house and you
ain't at mine, we have a very serious problem. Now.
Kids is one thing. I get it because some dudes
who have their kids every other week, and I'm cool
with that. I'm cool that because if we're not in
that space to where we're ready to tell your kids

(01:20:07):
that we're dating, I'm okay with that. But when your
kids are gone, I should not be sleeping in my
bed by myself either. You sleeping over here or I'm
sleeping over there. It should not be where I can't
come over because you got some chick at the house

(01:20:28):
that you don't know whether or not you're gonna have
sex with or not. Absolutely not, It's unacceptable. I ain't
got time to be with them. And see, I'm also
gonna explain why men want multiple women, and it's not
what you think it is. It's not that is what
they've been taught. But the truth is, do you okay? Oh,

(01:20:52):
I'm debate should I say it, because I know it's
gonna hurt a lot of men's feelings, But I'm gonna
have to break the pride at this point for those
of y'all to be having sex with multi women. Do
you not know you're not good in bed? I hate
to say that. Yep, I'm saying and thought out Michael. Now, yep,
if you have sex with most women, you're not good
in bed, honey. Let me explain why. And it's gonna

(01:21:21):
ruffle some men's failing some feathers, but I don't care.
Told you, I've dealt with men that have slept with
multiple women. If I ask a group of men right now,
what is the purpose of being with multiple women, they

(01:21:42):
will give me the following explanation. Because I want to
feel a new VIJJ. What makes a woman good in bed?

Speaker 1 (01:21:54):
Uh?

Speaker 3 (01:21:54):
It feels good and it's wet. How long is on average?
Can you have sex between ten no, between thirty seconds
and twenty minutes? Well, fellas unacceptable. Sex is not twenty minutes.

(01:22:21):
Sex is not a point some seconds. Do you know
what's between your legs really does not matter? Do you know?
Sex has nothing to do with what's between your legs?
That's its added bones. Sex is about everything else except
that sex is really about really a connection between two people.

(01:22:45):
It's an emotional connection. It's really about two people that
have chemistry. And I'm not talking about attraction chemistry. I'm
talking about physical chemistry. Because I have seen women, I
heard men, and I kid you not, and I can

(01:23:07):
pull I can. I could pull some friends of mine
up right now, and they'll tell you. I have friends
of mine right now that are in sexless marriages and
their wife only has sex with them to habit dad kids.
They don't even want to have sex with their hooks.
They don't even like their husband. On the flip side

(01:23:28):
of that, you got women that love their husband and
they husband don't want to have sex with them. Why
because again, as soon as she becomes a mother, you
don't look at her the same. I don't care what
man it is. There are men out here that as
soon as she has a baby and they see that
eight pound baby come out of her, they gonna look

(01:23:51):
at her differently and then get mad because you're not
wearing sexy outfits no more because you're a mother. See sex,
e balls, sex don't law. I like my little, my
little nightties. But guess what I got underwear on underneath them?
The type of the type of lingerie I buy. I

(01:24:11):
can walk around my house in it. They're like the
cotton ones. They're really cute, little cotton cotton ones I
can wear around my kids because it looks like a dress.
It looks like a sundress. Because if I wear a
sundress enough, my kids ain't gonna know no different. I
sleep in a nightgown, and then if you put a

(01:24:32):
house caught on you good. Matter of fact, I'm about
to get me a one that says queen. But my
point that I'm trying to make is sex changes no
differently than anything else. It grows, evolves, it elevates. The
problem is y'all having high school sex and not adult sex.
Adult sex doesn't work like that. Adult sex is for

(01:24:55):
eighteen plus years. You ain't gonna be hooping and hollering.
You gonna be able to do a lot of positions,
but you ain't gonna be hooping and hollering because you
got kids next dough. All it is is quieter. Nothing changes,
It's just quiet. That's it. You have some people that
don't care that they kids in the room. Man. There

(01:25:18):
are countries they have safe but they also understand that
we have to be quiet. I gotta put something in
your mouth. I gotta put a pillow over your head.
That's how sex is. When you have kids your pit,
you got a pillow over your head. You tried everything
human impossible not to scream, and do you know how

(01:25:39):
exciting it is? Man? I had to break the down
to a man. Do you know how exciting it is
that you try to keep from screaming? Do you know
how hard that is? And people don't even understand that.
I have to tell people this. I've learned that now

(01:26:01):
that when my son is in the house with me,
when he was younger, he not. The only thing he
could hear was the headboard. That's why I got a
different headboard. But I had learned that I had to
pull my bed from the head from the wall so
it wouldn't hit the wall. I'm telling you, you gonna
be having sex everywhere but your bed. But I mean,

(01:26:24):
does it mean that you have to stop having sex. No,
it's just gonna be different. But it can be fun
because the fact that I have to sit up here
and try my best not to scream. It's just like
answering the phone and you trying to talk, and you're
sitting here and trying to have a conversation and you

(01:26:45):
and you're having sex. Come on, now, it's no different
than that for me. If anything is challenging, I'm trying
to I'm trying my besiness right, And so I remember
somebody was like, I never thought about it like that.
So it became I'm a lot more fun because he
had to try to get me to scream and I
just wouldn't. And it's not because he did anything wrong.

(01:27:09):
Is I have a child in the next room that
is asleep, but he's I think he's sleep So y'all
gotta understand, when you have kids and nothing has to change,
you just can't make no noise.

Speaker 2 (01:27:24):
That's it.

Speaker 3 (01:27:26):
That is the only thing that's different. And maybe she
might have gained a couple pounds, but other than that,
there's nothing different. She's still the same person. And that's
what I'm saying. Even if somebody is going through cancer
and they go through remission, they're still the same person.

(01:27:49):
Bing difference is they went through cancer. Now they might
be a little bit different because of the fact that
what they went through. But for a woman that has
a baby, if you walk way her, help her through
a prose produm, then everything go back to normal. Eventually.
Everybody goes through that. So you're gonna, boy, you're gonna

(01:28:11):
cheat on her because she gave twenty pounds. That's stupid.
So something that stupid is why you cheat on your girl.
Because when y'all have sex, y'all got y'all got kids
in the house. But you're gonna go to another woman
that got kids and have sex. If man some road, John,

(01:28:34):
some road John, because ain't no way, because like I said,
even if I was there with a friend of mine
and his kids, there's absolutely no way. Now I'm gonna
be number one. I probably would end up slepping on
the couch something like I said. Another reason why, and

(01:29:01):
this is for people that don't have the same fathers.
Let's say you have a man and you have kids.
You especially don't want them knowing that y'all having sex
knowing you don't even know these kids like him or
not expecially not say yeah, if you work from home,
you got you got it made. Because why you're at home,

(01:29:22):
y'all gonna have sex during your lunch break if you
want to, so again, you're depriving the other person of
what they need. And because everything's not evenly yoked. And
y'all own this thing about fifty to fifty, y'all, if
y'all don't go ahead all summer because any adult relationship

(01:29:42):
is fifty to fifty and it is partnership. Can y'all
please stop stop lying, because if y'all don't learn to
read the Bible thoroughly, God also says you have to
be evenly yoked to each other. And God never said
that women couldn't work, that women and couldn't fulfill their
dreams because of anything. God says, a woman's money is

(01:30:05):
her money. A man's money is to provide for his family.
So let me bring down what that means for those
of y'all who don't seem to understand that, it means
that basically, he pays the bills. My money goes towards
the kids, goes toward taking it as far as his clothes,
taking care of him, and spending money on my husband

(01:30:28):
is on the vacations and all of that. I pay
for that. My husband pays the rent, he pays the mortgage,
he pays the car payment. I pay for groceries, I
pay for Cleveland supplies, I pay for school supplies. I
pay for all the stuff that is personal for me
and my husband. That is what that means. The reason

(01:30:50):
why fifty fifty is so important. And I'm gonna say
this because none of y'all don't think about this extra money.
What is the point of having somebody that's doing everything
as far as paying all the bills, And then y'all
wonder why you don't have any extra money when you
retire because that man you spending his money gets as

(01:31:14):
quickly as he gets six. So how in the world
is this man supposed to be able to have any
money for himself? When every when you all you do
is spend it. What Okay, let's take away credit cards
from it, take away credit cards. Let's say all you
had was his income, if there was no black card,

(01:31:37):
if there was no credit cards at all, ATM cards,
no just ATM cards, no credit nothing, and you had
to pay for everything in cash? Do you really think?
And see, that's the thing I need. See, women don't
even look. See. I could not be on these panels
because I always straight up and down destroying people's arguments.

(01:32:00):
There's one alone. Men are not using their own money.
They're using credit cards. Oh see that part right there.
Women keep thinking men are using their own money. No,
they're not. They're using credit cards. You get his credit
card that he pays for every month, thirty nine dollars

(01:32:21):
a month, maybe one hundred some dollars a month at
the most. You're not spending his money. You're spending the
government's money. So you spill spending big Daddy's money. Gotta
be your caddy. You can be my beef daddy. Take
it slowly, heaven home man. Gotta be your caddy. You

(01:32:46):
can be my big daddy. All right. This is popping
my brain because the same thing the nature boy said
when they came to the government. The government is paying
when his bill. The government is giving them food stamps
in medicaid. The government is doing all this. Well, guess

(01:33:09):
what the government is your daddy too, because how you
think you get paid the government? So if you take
away the credit card, do you really think all these
men would have all this money? Nope, they be broke.
They would be broke. And y'all keep these women keep saying, oh, well,

(01:33:29):
he's got a body to protect. You mean with a
credit card, not his money. Credit cards. So you want
to know why Chris Brown can buy them cards because
he has credit cards. He got a black card. He ain't.
All you gotta do is swipe his card? Do you

(01:33:50):
do you not hear Donald Trump when he said that
it was barn buffett Is said, they like that. Why
you think these with these wealthy people like credit, y'all
be paying attention? Why you think why you think you
have muscle all the worth one hundred thirty You really
think they only worth one hundred and thirty billion dollars?
You are muscle them worth way more than that. Why

(01:34:15):
because their companies themselves make billions of dollars it's just
they pay themselves a salary, but that ain't what they
that's not what they're actually worth. Nope, not at all.
So you have to understand these men are not providing
for y'all. The government is. They don't have their own businesses,

(01:34:36):
and they certainly don't have their own brands. Said the
end of the day, you want to know the real
reason why Chris Brown get all that money. Credit cards.
They have an unlimited black card. So if you think
these men are paying your bills, they're not paying your bills.
The credit card debt is your bills. That's why I'm

(01:35:03):
laughing with it. When they say you going after these ballers,
I'm like, Sweethart, do you understand they're broke? Do you
understand the only reason they have their money because they
have credit cards and they get pay it out monthly
and when you pass away, it's written off. I learned

(01:35:25):
this when I started doing billing, Honey, I won't I
used to. I mean, I used to do billing for
medical in the medical field. That's how I started putting
all this stuff together. Honey. When you start doing billing,
you're gonna learn some things. I learned that, yes, majority
people are not paying for nothing. Credit cards are paying

(01:35:50):
it and you're paying it back. Just like if you
want to go on a cruise, all you gotta do
is go on a firm or uplift and you can
put it on your card, paid for it monthly, and
you going on the trip there. Yea. So if you
think these men are really paying your bills, now they're not.

(01:36:13):
Their credit card company is paying your bills. Not one
single solitary dime is coming out there, I think, And
y'all ain't figured it out, Bunner. Like I said, where
in any capacity are these men paying your bills? They're

(01:36:34):
not the only ones that are paying your bills are
the ones that don't use credit cards. My dad used
to use credit cards and now he don't use him
at all. He used cash and me and my dad
had two jobs. And it's for the state and for

(01:36:56):
federal and now they bay are taxing your retirement when
exactly are you paying your actual bills? So here, I
don't have credit cards, so I know of what I
speak on. If the majority of y'all really had to

(01:37:16):
use your own cash to pay your rent every single month,
a lot of y'all would seriously be broke, So please
stop playing my face. Please, for love of God, stop

(01:37:37):
saying that these men are paying your bills. No, the
credit card is the thing that got you that car
because they have an unlimited amounts of credit, which most
of these basketball players, football players do. They're not paying
for them cars with actual money, They're paying for it

(01:38:04):
on a credit card. Now, there are men out here
that actually do use cash, and they will go and
pay for a car outright, But majority these girls they
don't stay with majorit. These women they're not even married to.

(01:38:25):
So no, they're not gonna use their own cash. They not,
So they're gonna pay off the car and pay them back.
Most of them girls don't even have them cars because
them cars get taken back because they're gonna break up
with them within the days and to take the car

(01:38:47):
back so again. And then not only that, most of
them dudes be leasing them cars they give them girls
because I think somebody came out and said that a
while back that majority the celebrities when they come to
their girlfriends, they don't buy them cars outright, they leased them.
So what I want you to understand is y'all gonna

(01:39:09):
stop thinking these men I'm paying y'all bills because they're
not they're not touching their money, not for you.

Speaker 4 (01:39:17):
They not.

Speaker 3 (01:39:19):
They are not gonna be doing none of that for
you because they ain't. So if you think that a
lot of these men, and I'm talking about regular men
get all this money, no no, no, no, no, no. Believe me.
I have doctors that I work for that had twenties

(01:39:39):
I think it was like twenty six clinics. Twenty six
clinics that he did absolutely nothing with, but yet he
owned them. So at the end of the day, I
don't want y'all been talking about because the money that
you have to put back into a business, now you're

(01:40:01):
gonna still be working a record ninety five jobs. And
most people when they start a business, they either use
their taxes or they go get a business loan or
again credit. So yeah, it's just like when you when
you have a stockholder or someone that's an investor, you

(01:40:22):
gotta pay them back their money. So that's what I'm saying.
I don't know what happened y'all be talking about when
y'all say this stuff, y'all be saying, because it's a
long time country, it's built off credit it's built off credit.
So if you think that it's not built off that,
it is. That's why I laugh at women when they say, oh,

(01:40:45):
you know, I got a man that adviys me this.
Does he pay in cash? Does he pay credit? If
these men really want to use their actual money, they
be broke. They'll be pretty broke. I don't know too many.

(01:41:06):
I don't know too many men now that use cash.
They use credit. So that's why I said I find
it funny when y'all say stuff, because y'all be on
these cameras, y'all be sitting up there up here arguing,
and I'm sitting here like y'all make no sense, cause

(01:41:27):
these men are not using their cash. When these dudes
by these by these girls out they're not using their money.
They're using credit cards. So all of your females out
here that are sitting up here thinking these men are
doing no, they're using credit cards. Unless you are his
girl opertive word girlfriend white, not even a girlfriend, but wife,

(01:41:53):
that's the only time you gonna get cash. And even then,
they don't use cash. They use credit cards. That's what
they use. So if you think you're getting this man's money, no,
you're not.

Speaker 1 (01:42:11):
He was.

Speaker 3 (01:42:11):
He's even gonna pay your alimony and spouse the support
and a credit card jesus, unless it's being withdrawn every
month from the bank. And why you think they'd be
hiding money that even amains how much money meant behind,

(01:42:32):
you'll be amazed. That's why I laugh at y'all and
y'all talking about some You know, I got a man
and he did all this. No, the credit card did
all of that for you, not the man. The credit card.
The credit cards is what pays for people's trips. The
credit cards, the loans. Yeah, a firm uplift is what's

(01:42:54):
paying for it and paying for it. Letter, that is
what they're doing. Hold on a second one. Mm hmm.

(01:43:18):
I had to taste some coffee medicine.

Speaker 4 (01:43:20):
I'm stuffy.

Speaker 3 (01:43:24):
So yeah, So for all you females that are sitting
up here, and then y'all get mad because when y'all
go to court, he ain't got nothing. Well, he got
all this money, he's worth this. That's property. Honey. Forbes
does not base it on money. They based it on
what your net worth is based upon. And most people

(01:43:46):
don't even put their whole entire mounths on there. So like,
for example, I think Selena Gomez just became a billionaire
because of her company. Her company is worth that, not
her career. So I need y'all to understand everything is

(01:44:08):
about property, Okay, property and land, that is what's of value,
not money. Money gets you what you want, But a
lot of y'all don't think to take your money and
put it instead of going and buying all this unnecessary stuff.

(01:44:32):
You might want to put your money into it into
doing ebooks because right now ebooks and like, well, it's
a digital marketing that right there is where the money
is getting ready to be. I don't mess with crypto.
I don't mess with stock, the stock exchange. I don't

(01:44:52):
mess with none of it because all of it is
a fraud. Stock exchange, you're not okay. When I watched
Shark Tank and confirmed one of my suspicions, I remember
watching Trading Places, and I remember me watching Eddie Murphy

(01:45:13):
and Dan After. I know y'all know anyway they switched places.
I learned with the stock market, you really don't have
no say so, so when you're an investor, you're able
to say what go on in a company. I'm not

(01:45:35):
messing with the stock exchange because same reason I don't
mess with a lot of the I'm bad at it.
I ain't messing with it. I'm not messing with cryptocurrency
because the government is about to take that oval because
I just seen an article in twenty and eighteen. Why
I'm not messing with crypto. Everything that's happened. I already
seen that all three of the dudes, their own crypto

(01:45:57):
was somehow somewhere gonna pass away, and the ones that
actually own and now the government's given. Man, what I
tell you, The government is about to take over crypto.
When I tell y'all that they about to get the all, man,
let me tell you something. Y'all do not understand what
is going on. But I'm explaining. The government is about

(01:46:20):
to have access to your bank accounts. The government is
about to have access to everything. Everything is in the Bible.
Everything that Nostradamis has talked about is absolutely accurate. It
ain't been wrong yet. The desert now has water now.
When I saw that, I said, oh boy, it's about

(01:46:40):
to be earthly. So while all the countries that have
done the most corruption and the most negative stuff is
now dying off and yet the desert has water. Oh,
when I seen the desert have water, When I seen

(01:47:02):
blood that was raided, I said, ooh when in revelations.
So I need y'all to understand some This is why
I don't feed into society standards because they line to
y'all tremendously. So, So when you go back and you
look at everything you've learned, everything you taught, man, you

(01:47:23):
gonna have to reprogram yourself or everything you learn and
figure out what that your parents taught you and everything
you went through from birth up until when you graduate
in high school. You got to take the time to
figure out what you learn from all of that to
bring into your adult life. While you're in and you're

(01:47:45):
in college, you're supposed to be finding yourself and figuring
yourself out. When you graduate, you're supposed to be able
to get a job and get a good life, and
then you meet the person you love and and that's it.
That's it. Not no more simple or complicated than that.
It ain't so. At the end of the day, like

(01:48:07):
I said, y'all thought I was gonna go a different way,
But again, y'all been bamboozle. Y'all have been completely and
utterly bamboozle. And that's why I'm telling black women you
got to have your own because I'm sorry. I've dated

(01:48:29):
men that could have put me in the ground, dated
men they could have done so many things it's not
even funny, and me and my son could have been
jeopardized because of it. Not saying anything really extremely terrible,
but just the infidelity, the domestic violence, the blatant just

(01:48:51):
having everybody at my house now. Now, at the end
of the day, I don't wish none of us X
is any ill will. I really don't. I really don't.
But at the end of the day, I don't want
no parts of it, so I'm not gonna get involved

(01:49:11):
in it. I lived my life and live my truth
and that's it. But like I said, y'all sitting up
here believe in all this nonsense that it's nowhere near accurate.
That's why I said, I cannot at this point. So
when I started looking at things in a different perspective,
that's what made me start getting away from the world.

(01:49:35):
So you want to know why I don't have see
the reason. I know why. I don't have a lot
of views, and I ain't know why because see there
are certain messages how This's how I know when certain
people don't get a lot of views now times out
of teams because the message that this ain't and they
don't want the rest of the world to hear it.
So that's what I'm saying. For some people, the reason

(01:49:56):
they don't go viral is not because they don't have talent,
not because they don't do they do bad videos, but
it's because it's something in that video that through all
their forces don't want out there, and this is one
of them. So all I'm saying to y'all is this
here when you are when you're dealing with people. I
don't care if it's family, put it away. Family, romantic relationships,

(01:50:20):
and friendships are all the same, honey. And let me
explain why. It's really simple and right smack dab in
front of your face. Let's say my best friend came
to see me, when my sister came to see me.
Let's say my sister that. Let's say I have my
biological sister, and then I have two females, three or
three that I think of like sisters. Okay, now my

(01:50:42):
sister's been my sister since birth. But yeah, I got
friends of mine that are like sisters to me that
she's never met. Now let's say, for example, we're going
to Vegas next year. So let's say, for an argument's sake,
that my girlfriend, who's never met my sister comes on

(01:51:04):
the boat. Okay, and I call her sister. Now, my
sister got friends of her she think of like sisters.
I'm not jealous of that. My mother has people who
she think of like her children, and I ain't mad
at that. I laugh. I joke with her all the time.
I said, all the times cheating on me, I said, Mom,

(01:51:26):
you're cheating on me. Every time I turn around, You're
gonna picked up another child. Now, wouldn't that be infidelity? Yes,
it would be because I'm her daughter, I'm her biological daughter,
and yet my mother has all these other people she
considers like her children. And we joke about it all

(01:51:47):
the time, and I'm like, Mom, when are you gonna
stop adopting kids that are not yours? But I laugh
about it all of the time. But at my point,
is my mother committing infidelity? Absolutely, she's cheating on me
with other people that she considers her daughters or her sons.

(01:52:09):
You know how many kids that I got that I'm
not related to that I have to share my mother with.
I'm just saying, so it's no different than that. It
is no different when it's your husband and your mama.
When your mama don't want you to move out and

(01:52:29):
she wants you to stay at home, but your girlfriend like, no,
you need to move out. Same scenario. It's the same
scenario between two best friends that are fighting over the
same female and they end up getting back together, but
then something else happened. So I I'm saying it is

(01:52:53):
whatever's gonna happen is gonna happen, But I'm not worried
about it. All I'm saying to y'all is adultry adultery.
Adultery is not even sexual. Adultery is platonic. Because you
can have mental infidelity, you can have emotional infidelity, you

(01:53:14):
can have financial infidelity. What are you talking about? Infidelity
comes in different forms. Y'all so focused on this romantic
and sexual relationship, but the platonic relationship is the one
that you matter most. You are not friends with the
person you're married to. You don't know this personal favorite color,

(01:53:37):
you don't even know what they're like. You just pick
out whatever it is that you want to pick out,
and that's crazy to me, It is absolutely insane. No
mm hm, absolutely nothing. There's absolutely no way. So what
I want people to understand all in all, is that

(01:53:58):
y'all worried about stepping on these matter at this point
because it don't. As long as you do it makes
you happy, what bring you joy, that's all they learn,
that's all that really does matter. So at the end
of the day, if you if you're working on yourself
and you and you getting yourself where you need to be,
and the other person is doing what they need to

(01:54:19):
do to I don't see the promise. So I don't
at your time fall as nonsense. I don't. So that's
why I said when I started paying attention and reading,
the New Testament is the new The only difference between

(01:54:40):
the New Testament and the Old Testament is the Old
Testament was beginning of time. The New Testament was more.
So I'm gonna give you a little bit of riggle
wriggle room, but it's still gonna be the same result regardless,
So you just gotta be I'm mindful of that. So

(01:55:12):
all I'm saying to y'all you're worried too much about
the wrong things. It don't matter because at the end
of the day, whatever is meant for you is meant
for you, and you don't got to go chase it,
lead alone. Just sit still. I know for some of y'all,
you see all these people in they're married, and you know,
oh my god, I ain't got a man. Oh my god,
I'm alone. Oh my god, I'm a virgin sweetheart. Sits still.

(01:55:34):
I wish I would have done that. I wish i'd
have just sat still, not worried about a man, not
worried about nothing. Nobody until I was twenty five, and
I was in my career for like two or three years.
When I was in my career, and I wish other
than a lot of things differently. But like I said,
I can't change it. But guess what I'm doing it now.
I'm absolutely doing it now. So now when a man,

(01:55:57):
when a man meets me and he says to me, oh,
what do you do. I'm a life coach and I
also do all things. Oh and if I start making money,
he bet not ever come to me talking about I
need to quit my job, because I'm gonna look at
you like you're crazy and tell you absolutely not. I
am not giving up nothing, not my independence, not my

(01:56:19):
self sufficient, not my dominance. Because many men that walked
out on me, I ain't giving none of it up.
I'm sorry, I'm just not. I'm good. So all will
say is no, I ain't got time for all that.

(01:56:55):
So I'm gonna leave it here because I'm gonna bid
them turn. But I just want to say to ladies,
stop looking at a man as a daddy and look
at him as a partner. So I'm sorry, I want
a partner. I won't fifty to fifty. I'm sorry. I
won't set up anything less than that. I am not
letting my husband do everything on his own, and I

(01:57:17):
am not doing everything on my own. That is not
the whole person with me having a husband. The whole
person having a husband is that we work together as
a team, and that we take care of each other,
and then we take care of our children together. We
make decisions together, and when he walks out of the door,
he represents me no different than I represent him, and
every decision, choice, and behavior and action has consequences. He

(01:57:40):
needs to think about whatever it is that he does
outside of me. Does not impact and affect their house.
And that's it on that. I'm not gonna sit here
and have a man tell me I gotta quit my job.
Sure out my child is twenty eight by the twenty
nine this year. No, I don't me and my baby

(01:58:05):
gonna be traveling around the world. And now yah yah no,
hum huh. I'm sorry, but no, there's just certain things
I'm just not I refused to give up. So if
it's not a partnership where we both have extra money
to be able to enjoy our lives and he can
go wherever he wants to go because I trust him

(01:58:25):
enough to go and he understands that I have money too,
and I'm good, then that's a whole different story. So
the answers now, so I said, I get it, I

(01:58:47):
really do. But like I said, so, I'm not worried.
But none is nonsense because y'all can sit on these
cameras all and long and sit up and argue, and
none of y'all would have thought about any of what

(01:59:09):
I said, because it wouldn't even have crossed your mind.
And that's and the reason they don't want my videos
to go by it'll make women think it'll make men
have to think. It would make men have to readjust
everything because a lot of y'all are not worth the
time at all. Majority of y'all have been with too

(01:59:32):
many women, and I'm sorry, I'm not interested some a
lot of y'all got a lot of kids that you
no So, like I said, it's always gonna be soon.

(01:59:54):
So again, black men and black women into y'all heal
from your drama, both of you, male and female. I
recommend going to counseling, get a life coach. But what
y'all need to do is understand we are the only

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ones that were enslaved to the extent that we were,
and y'all need to always remember that so the end
they know it's not cool at all. So I said,

(02:00:37):
I'm just gonna be julling and just watching want something
until I fall asleep. But like I said, I live
God's standards. I don't live society standards. I live God's standards.
And like I said, it took me. Really, I've always
known all of this, but you know, being peer pressured
is why I got off the path I was supposed

(02:00:59):
to be on. But I'm on it now and I'm good.
But at the end of the day, Like I said,

(02:01:21):
y'all gonna keep getting on these panels and missing the
whole entire points of all of this. Men and women
are different because men are taught the emotions and weaknesses.
Women are taught that being alone is something wrong with them.
It goes. So with that being said, I'm want to

(02:01:50):
get some sleep and get some rest. I'm tired. Well,
like I said, all of these supplies to sex. Because
all of these things cause complications you can't have You
can't have great sex if if both parties are different
even when they come to sex. And like I said,
if we can't have these conversations about sex and be

(02:02:11):
more real, then I don't know tell you because me,
I'm being as real as I can because all of
this applies to that. All of this absolutely applies what
happens when you have children, how everything changes. Nothing's gonna
be the same anymore. So with that being said, I'm

(02:02:38):
gonna get some sleep. So anyway, that's it for me.
But I appreciate you y'all for joining me for this episode.
But yeah, black people gotta gotta let go of they trauma.

Speaker 5 (02:02:59):
Before they start dating each other because right now, both
sides are damaged. Both sides are not doing what they
supposed to be doing, and the ones that are are
sitting at home quiets up.

Speaker 3 (02:03:11):
And chilling. Anyway, I'm about to be bid. I'm tired.
So I love y'all. I appreciate y'all, but no, I
still stay. I don't want to say it about sex.

(02:03:31):
Like I said, all these things playing factor and until
y'all fix all this other stuff, your sex lives are
gonna suffer. And that's the moral to the story. The
moral to the story is if you're stressing about money
and you're stressing about having kids, honey, that's gonna tell
me to take a straight on your on your relationship.
So that's the reason I broke it down the way
you did. So if you have two people that's independent,

(02:03:54):
two people that work together as a team, two people
that actually both are gonna make sure each other, it's
straight to people that one can do a business and
another one can be something else. And she retires to
her husband. Okay, so what that thing said. I appreciate y'all.

(02:04:30):
I'm going to bed. Don't forget that the licenscribe and
notification button receiving indication of my videos. I appreciate y'all.
I do. I love y'all, y'all have I mean, And
like I said, I don't do these videos very often.
And there's a reason why social media. For I go
to bed. Social media is not about the truth. It

(02:04:51):
doesn't want the truth. It wants lies and deception. And
even if you come on here and you're a phenomenal
cas the creator, if you're a person of God, you're
going to struggle. And there are certain things that don't
want things out there. So it's like I said, you know,

(02:05:27):
at the end of the day, doing social media. Don't
get me wrong, a lot of people make a lot
of money. But if you didn't do it back in
the day and you're trying to be a content creator,
it's easier said than none. Because people don't want to
hear about health and wellness. They don't want to hear
about all the stuff that's going on as far as
the salmonella poisonings and all this other stuff. Now, so

(02:06:00):
it's not gonna be easy. But again I'm not looking
for some Like I said, at the end of the day,
social media can be cool, but like I said, now
everybody's gonna make a certain amount of views. It's just
not so I said, it is what it is. Are

(02:06:35):
just fun cause, like I say, a lot of y'all
gonna continue to leave your lives the way you want
to live it. But me personally, no, mm hmm. I
am walking the way God want me to walk. And
I've always been that way. But like I said, a
lot of a lot of people need me astraight not
no more. I am standing on business and I'm standing

(02:06:57):
on what I say. So at the end, no, So
I guess all answers as far as regardless, will come out,
and at the in the days, some of us will

(02:07:17):
be here to see it. Someone's won't. So just something
thing about I'm tired. I'm gonna get my words to
get more eventually. I'm just sleeping and I'm ramble. I

(02:07:40):
just don't feel like enough moving and getting computer this
every time I doing a computer and I don't feel
like moving. But it just is what it is. But
like I said, you can do things on your own,
and you have to figure out where people need to be.
So don't just bring somebody in your life and you
don't know where they're gonna take the time to get

(02:08:01):
to know them. And see where where they're gonna fit
your world. So, like I said, we all gonna go

(02:08:22):
through soon. Like I said, life is what you make it.
But when you grow up, you ain't gonna be the
way you are. Grow when you grow up, you're gonna
be exactly the way I am. Right now, Come as
you are. You ain't got time for this no nonsense,
nest message you want to go through. Absolutely not. I
ain't got a picience for all of that. So with

(02:08:43):
that being said, I'm going to bed. I'm gonna get
some rest and m So I'm just tired, but I
am getting up because I want to bed. But I

(02:09:05):
appreciate y'all, But y'all have fun with the panels, have
fun cussing each other out, have fun just going back
and forth and solving nothing. The single motherhood rate in
the black community is still gonna be at an all
time high, Domestic violence and sexual assault in my lestation
is gonna be at all time high, and men not

(02:09:27):
wanting to get married is gonna be at an all time high.
And women are gonna be going to the jails like
Shante and looking for men. We shall see. I digress,
but I'm off the bed so so, like I said,

(02:10:00):
I don't work. So that being said, Joe, I'm off
the bed because they have one more day in terrestional.
I'm still good and I really would like to just
go to something understanding bed all day, won't and do nothing.
This is what happens when you get sick. But that's
it again. They gonna continue doing these panels that mean

(02:10:22):
absolutely nothing. Nothing has changed in the black community at all,
the same way that HIV and full blown AIGs has changed.
I need black people to understand, y'all are talking out
the side of your necks, and nothing has changed. We
are still at the bottom of the barrel, even though
it seemed like we are. But yet we're not because
the younger generation is proving that that is not the case.

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The younger generation. Let me break it down for what
this is, and it's gonna hurt some people's feelings and
I don't care. At this point. It is time for
black people to get a reality check. And I'm here
for today because I'm going on vacation, so it don't
even matter at this point. And I'm gonna say it
exactly verbatim. Our kids know nothing about slavery. Our kids

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know nothing about what our parents went through. We are
more lenient on our children, which is the reason why
our children are the way they are. We put them
on electronics and now they're hooked on electronics. Don't want
to let go of electronics. Our kids don't even want
to be male or female, They want to be opposite sex.
There is a problem here. Our food is contaminated HIV

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and all these sexy tran like I said earlier, is full.
It's at an all time high. Black people can't get along.
Black people can't get away from all this negative nonsense
and not realize we are not supposed to be committing crimes.
We are not supposed to be feeding into anything that
is negative. And I'm gonna say it exactly the same

(02:11:53):
way my grandmother would say it to me as I
was a child. If y'all cannot get alone, leave each
other alone. If black men and black women cannot get along,
leave each other alone, just don't even date each other,
leave each other alone. Just please lead each other alone.

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Because I'm really really it's embarrassing. I'm tired of seeing
these panels. I really am. I'm tired of the arguments,
I really am. It's embarrassing. I don't see Caucasian people
doing this. I don't see any other race doing this.
So let me be frank lace. For those of y'all

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that are my dark skinned sisters, I love y'all. I do.
Majority of my family member and friends are dark skin
But for those of y'all that are saying that light
skinned women are getting all these men, I need y'all
to stop lying because that is not true. Every single
person and my family that is dark skin is married

(02:13:04):
or dating someone. I am the only one that is single,
So that's a lie. It is not the fact that
dark skinned women cannot get a man. That is a
bold faced lot. That is not the problem. The problem
is the men in the industry don't want dark skinned women.

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That's not their preference. But that is not coloriss See. No,
I'm gonna do this the way my grandmother did. I
remember my grandmother is both of my grandmother the dark
skinned women. Both of them are dark skinned women. Majority
of the women in my family are dark skinned women,

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and they've all been They all either are married or
still married. So there's a bold face lie that is
not true. It is not true that light skinned women
are over dark skinned women except in the industry. That's it.
On the outside worlds, there are men that love dark

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skinned women. You just don't want them. Let me let
me break down some truths in the situation. I've been
to tom girl, I've been the tomboy okay, I've been
the little sister to a bunch of dudes okay. And
they were all drug dealers. Okay, So we start there.

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These dudes dated all types of women, like skin, dark skin.
They didn't have no preference, So that's not true. What
it is the men that got money, the small percentage
of them, their preference is women that are not black.

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That's because Caucasian women represent money, they represent success. That's
why it ain't got nothing to do with nothing else
but that black women. I hate to say this, we

(02:15:20):
have a scarlet letter on us. And let me be
frank about this. There is a scarlet letter on black women.
And I'm gonna talk about this because I'm gonna pull
up some that's gonna prove my point. My great grandmother
told me black women have been sexually assaulted even before

(02:15:46):
we came here. Black women have been regardless of how
much we want to be weak, how much we want
to be, you know, in our in our our feminine error.
When black women can't be feminine if we want to be,
we just can't. We've been abandoned in all aspects, not

(02:16:10):
only from my country, but also between Caucasian men sexually
assaulting Black women and black men sat there and watched.
We also watched the emasculation of black men. Black women
have been separated from their children long before slavery. When

(02:16:33):
all these wars were going on, there were women that
were separated not only from their children, but their husbands.
Their children and their husbands lost their life. There are
children that lost both of their parents. So no, we're
not gonna do this, because this goes deeper than that.
It goes way deeper than that. Black women have been

(02:16:55):
separated from their children for a very long time, since
the beginning of time, So no, we're not doing that.
Black women have been single mothers for a very long time.

(02:17:20):
Black women were single mothers when we became slaves over here,
when the when the Portuguese, the Spanish, and the Dutch
came and got us. If you were my twelve years
of slavery, then you will remember that one lady that
when she was on that boat was sexually assaulted by

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all them Caucasian men, and then they promised her that
if she did it, then she would not be separated
from her kids. And what did they do? They sold
her kids. So if you think black women have not
been separated from their husbands and separated from their kids,

(02:18:02):
then you have another thing coming. Not only that, even
even if a woman had a black man that she
truly cared about, she was still stripped from him and
moved on to another hub. Come on, now, I ain't
doing that. But see, y'all don't want to have these
deep dives and these really deep conversations because that would

(02:18:25):
be too difficult for y'all to do, which is why
videos like mine don't go viral, because the first thing
you're gonna do is a tack it. But then when
you do, then when I pull up the research of
it all, y'all want to make excuse I because one
thing we're not gonna do if I pull up these receipts.
Please under that. No, it all goes together, if this

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all this all goes together, because this is why men,
black men, and black women can't date. Now, we just
going into the roots of these issues because it's not
just about the sex part. We're talking about trauma here.

(02:19:09):
All this goes together. So the reason y'all running around
here having sex is no different than back in slavery,
and we have to deal with that first before we
can even deal with relationships in modern time. There's some

(02:19:34):
apologies gotta be made because at the end of the day,
black men had to sit there and watch Black women
be sexually assaulted, which is why they're promiscuous at twenty
twenty four, y'all not even paying attention to that. That
is the reason why Black women are promiscuous now. And

(02:19:57):
that's why I keep saying to Black women, you cannot
be out here doing what you're doing because of our history.
And if I was to pull all of that up
and show you the way that our ancestors were treated
as women, a lot of y'all would not be running
around here being promiscuous. So, yeah, the commonsation and nice

(02:20:17):
is still going on, but all of this is a factor.
There is trauma. Black men and Black women are trauma bonding,
and until we stop trauma bonding over slavery, we ain't
never gonna have normal relationships, normal sex lives. We're not

(02:20:39):
gonna be able to have any of these conversations. So
that's what I've learned, So I got I have dealt
with the trauma bondings of slavery. I've dealt with the
trauma bondings when it comes to men. But that's the
reason why black men and black women not only can

(02:21:00):
not have great sex lives, and why black men and
black women because we're not supposed to be doing any
of these things in the first place. We're not. We
don't even know how to make love to each other.
We don't even know how to have sex with each other.
We don't even know how to have conversations with each other.

(02:21:20):
So you think having sex is gonna solve the problem. No,
having all these kids are gonna solve the problem. Running
around having sex with multiple women is gonna solve the problem. No,
it's not. You can't do what Caucasian people do because
you don't have a country to do it with. So

(02:21:44):
let me bring it out for you, playing and simple,
as a fifty year old woman. You cannot have a
great sex life for trauma bonde. You cannot love somebody
when you're trauma bonding. And we got to stop doing

(02:22:06):
that because now it feels like black men and black
women are only together because of trauma bonding. The way
y'all go at each other's throats. Why should y'all be together?
Why should black men and black women be together when

(02:22:28):
y'all complain about everything the opposite does. What is the
point of having sex with each other when it's just
trauma bonding? Seriously? Is trauma bonding? So the reason I
wanted to do this because God spoke this in my spirit.

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Sex is not supposed to be this way. Section B.
That I am with a man that's been with multiple women,
and I'm having sex behind these women and you haven't
even took time to cleanse yourself before you stick your
penis in my vaginal What so I'm just settling for

(02:23:16):
whatever it is you choose to give me sexually. You
don't want you, You really don't want to be with me,
You really don't want to be in a relationship with me,
But yet you can have sex with me unprotected and
give me a child. You don't make me feel safe,
you don't care about my feelings, you don't care about
my wants, and you certainly don't care about my needs.

(02:23:38):
You don't care about what I want sexually or how
it makes me feel. All you want is what it
is that you want. So again, I don't want what
my grandmother and how to deal with. I don't want
to be the F word. I don't want friends with benefits.

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I want a man that makes love to my mind,
my body, and my spirit and he has cleansed himself
from all the females he's been with before me. I
don't want a man that needs multiple women, because I don't.
So at the end of the day, the reason why
all of this matters is because that's the reason y'all

(02:24:25):
are messing around multiple women. Because during the time of slavery,
y'all were basically pro creating, and that was the whole
reason that you were having sex to basically make more
slave babies. Well, guess what, in twenty twenty four, you're
still doing the same behavior. So, no, there is nothing

(02:24:47):
good about being with multiple women. But the problem is
that has been embedded in our heads, not only for
the women but also the men. So if you with
a woman during slavery and y'all can have kids, they
moved her to another section and if she was barren,

(02:25:07):
she was no good. She wasn't useful. So black people
were not having sex to be having sex to be
made love to. They were having sex to have kids. Well,
guess what, y'all are still doing the same thing in
twenty and twenty four. Here's why. So, how in the

(02:25:28):
world could I do a comma seat your knights? And
I really had to sit down and think about this.
How could I do a comma such your knights knowing this?
I can't. So all you're doing is repeating the same
history as slavery. But you just don't even see it,
and y'all have no idea. Nobody ever thinks about it

(02:25:49):
from their perspective. That is the reason why we have
a single mother's because we're still doing the same behavior
when it comes to sex as it was during slavery.
It wasn't about making love to a woman, it was
about having children. The problem is we never stopped. We

(02:26:14):
still have adapted the same thing. So how in the
world of black men and black women are supposed to
know how to make love to each other when basically
you're having slaves sex? Yeah, that part. So you're not

(02:26:38):
having sex to be having sex, you're having sex to
have kids. You're not having sex to make sure that
woman has an orgasm, because majority of y'all don't even
care if they have one or not. Women don't even
know their own bodies, And that is the reason all
this stuff is going on. That's why all the promiscuous
and all of that is going on, because that has

(02:27:01):
been embedded in black women's heads for the longest, and
they thought they could do the same thing, and Caucasian
women did same thing black men when it came to
the drug industry and kind of find out that backfired.
You're not supposed to be doing these things. So until
we figure out why we're still repeating this behavior, black

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men and black women shouldn't be together at all. It's
just that blunt, it's just that straight like that. And
this is why I'm not feeding into this. It took
me learning this. It took me getting away from the
black community and learning from other cultures that I learned this.

(02:27:46):
I didn't learn this from black people. I learned this
from from other racist people, not just black people, but
from other racist people in general. Once I got rid
of the trauma, Once I got rid of the trauma bonding,
once I stopped a lot of things, I came to
the realization of what it was. So there you go. So,

(02:28:17):
like I said, all of this time together and a
lot of y'all probably didn't even think about any of
these things. But yet and still you're on panels blaming
each other. Nope, nope, nope. I'm not gonna let y'all
do that because both of y'all to blame. Black men
and black women are both to blame, point blame. Period.

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You're not Caucasian people. You cannot do a Caucasian people do.
So still, please stop doing it this way. It is
time for the Black community to stop. It is time
for one of y'all to let go of a took
of war. Let it go. It's not working. Nothing that

(02:28:59):
y'are talking is working in the Black community. If anything,
it is destroying our community. And y'all don't seem to
understand that there is nobody that can be a leader
because everybody want to tear somebody down. No, we're not
doing it. And I'm gonna use Beyonce for example. Beyonce
makes a looking that everybody mad because Beyonce rather sell
products than get up and do a video. See that's
what I'm saying. I can't with y'all. This point, y'all

(02:29:21):
will lift somebody up and tear them down as sure
as what they name is what it is, even Beyonce,
even Rihanna. So no, I'm not doing this with y'all.
I'm not. There is nobody that can be a leader
because Martin Luther King ended up losing his life, Malcolm
Max got killed by his own community. But like I said,
y'all don't want to have these conversations. You really don't.

(02:29:44):
You do not want to have these conversations because some
of y'all will get your feelings hurt. Some of y'all
will be so sensitive and so mad. But the reason
you mad because I'm telling the truth, and you know
I'm telling the truth. I have the receipts to pull it.
I've pulled it. I don't never see nothing that come
out of my mouth that I cannot prove. But beyond

(02:30:05):
a shadow of doubt, we have an issue when it
comes to black women and black men on how we
see relationships. It has not changed since slavery, and it
will not change unless we change it. My generation has changed.
We have to change what sex represents. And twenty twenty four,

(02:30:30):
and I say this, boys, and girls should not be
having sex until they're married, both of them, not just one, both,
neither one of them should. Number two, we need to

(02:30:53):
be honest with our children about sex. We gotta mean
it's all over social media. Number Number number three, y'all
need to be the example if you not marry close
your godsicking legs. Being pamisky is not benefit women in

(02:31:15):
any any shape, form or fashion. It benefits men. Men
are the one that get the pleasure out of it.
You don't. And until y'all understand how how women have
been violated over and over and over again. These men
are not paying attention of what you do in the bedroom,

(02:31:39):
but they are getting you pregnant. They are getting you pregnant.
So it's all good when you don't get pregnant and
y'all having sex, But as soon as that baby comes, Bye,
bye baby daddy, y'all got to stop. At this point,

(02:32:05):
both parties should not be having sex. A woman should
be able to have a man that has sex with
her for the first time and he's never had sex
at all, said the Internet. No, we're not doing this
in twenty twenty four, because just because a man has

(02:32:27):
sex with most women does not mean he knows what
he's doing. I hain't to be the very baden news.
It's a lot of y'all that don't know what you're doing.
A lot of y'all don't even know how to give
oral sex. Majority of y'all don't even care. You put
no effort into it. Y'all don't put no effort into nothing.
Sex is a three to six hour thing. It is

(02:32:52):
not temporary. When y'all gonna understand that, when are y'all
even gonna to grasp that you're fornicating for what? You're
not married, you're having kids. You cannot really enjoy sex

(02:33:16):
until you don't have no more kids and your kids
are eighteen years old than not the house. That's just
the reality of it. Until your kids are grown or
almost grown, at least about thirteen or seven or eight
when they're actually sleep. But from the age of birth

(02:33:39):
to five years old, no, it's not happening unless you're
gonna build you a sex room. And that's another thing.
But you're not doing anything for one person that you
ain't doing for the other. And that's what I'm saying.
You're having sex and you're giving other people the same thing.

(02:33:59):
You're gonna get to the person that's gonna be your
husband or your wife. Oh okay, like I said, And
that's the reason why people are not getting married because
they're not the first, which is why they're going after
these young girls and not understanding they've been with a
young boy before they got with you. So I don't

(02:34:21):
know why men, older men don't understand. You also got
young men that are having sex with these girls. So
by the time you get to them, they're already experienced,
they've already had sex. The majority of these girls are
not even virgins by the time these older men get
their hands on them, but they think they do. They
think that they are, but they're not. So it's crazy,

(02:34:50):
the delusion. Y'all sit up here and believe. So again,
no care what you do, negative, it is always gonna
be negative. I don't care how many excuses you may.
The consequences and repercussion is something you cannot run from.
So if you have any respect for yourself as a woman, no,

(02:35:12):
you don't give your body to a man that is
having sex with multiple women. You shouldn't even be messing
with a man that is messing with another woman. You
shouldn't even want to even take him from her, let
her have him. The minute you find out that another woman,
the answer should be no, you should not be out
here competing with another No, I'm not doing it because

(02:35:37):
that man is not the one for me. Because a
man that is for me is a man that is
not out here with multiple women. He is with me
and only me and him and I are not having sex.
We're both celibate. We are cleansing ourselves or all the
past relationships. So when we have sex, it's gonna be
like us having sex for the first time, Like we

(02:36:01):
don't know about sex at all, and we're learning and
we're growing and we're enjoying each other and we're building
that connection. Like Chris Brown said, I need to feel
some do I need to play the song for my boy.

(02:36:22):
I need a connection. I'm sorry, I need a connection.
I need to know you're in love with me. I
need to know that you have plans for me. I
need to know that you want to build a future
with me, that when we make it, we're able to
enjoy the fruits of our labor. What happens, you get
the fruits of your labor, you get divorced. So neither

(02:36:42):
one of y'all don't even get a chance to reap
the fruits of your labor because you're getting divorced, spending
all this money, and now you're both right back the
way you started. It makes no sense, It don't because
it's all y'all, do you get married, these big, gigantic weddings.
You're getting married all of a sudden. The sex is gone,

(02:37:04):
all of a sudden, relationship is gone. The romantic side
of relationship is gone. Y'all ain't even like no more
each other month, And like ju here said, we're not
making love, no mar we don't even talk no. I mean,
I'm saying nothing's gonna stay the same. Everything is gonna change.

(02:37:26):
And if you can't change with it, and you can't
adapt and try something different when it comes to sex,
then we have a very serious problem. If you can't
change the way y'all communicate, there's a problem. There's no growth.
So the reason your marriage is not working because there's
no growth, you're basing it on the wrong thing. It

(02:37:47):
doesn't matter because, like I said, how do you know
sexually that you have a connection with somebody? You don't
know why because you weren't taught that. You weren't taught
about having a conne The only thing you would taught
was to have children. That's why if you're noticed for
your kids learn about sex education, why do you think

(02:38:09):
they teach them just the body parts. But they don't
teach them about orgasms, they don't teach them about sexual positions.
They don't teach them about the responsibility of it. That's
your job as a parent, so welcome. No great problem,
come great responsibility. But every time I try to do

(02:38:31):
my common suit you nights, every time I try to
do it correctly, I've either got somebody trying to flag
and stuff, or I can't play music. I can't say
certain things, and that's not the way sex works. The
things you're not supposed to say are the things this
should be said. At the end of the day, these
kids don't find out anyway because somebody gonna tell it.

(02:38:55):
I'm sorry. I don't lie on my child. I'm not
doing it now at the end of the day, Yes,
out is twenty eight, Yes he is a virgin, But
at the same time, I have to be careful because
he has autism, and I have to teach my child.
When somebody says no, they mean no, because I don't

(02:39:16):
ever want my child to ever be, you know, convicted
or even accused of the art work. But some of
y'all are normal people. I'm starting to question y'all my
son have an autism is one thing. The rest of
y'all that don't know the definition of the word no,
that's problem. So at the end of the day, no,

(02:39:39):
that is why these men are acting the way they're
acting when they come to asking for your phone number.
Like I said, I ain't got time for none of this.
I don't. I ain't got time for it at all.
So all I'm saying to y'all is this here. I
am not trying to be mean, but y'all are adults
at this point, and I'm not feeling bad for none
of y'all at this point. You know better. You know

(02:40:04):
better when you first win and get y'all keep running
around thinking these men are gonna be different. No, you
gotta be different cause until women start understanding that you
need to have your own and you need to build
your own and do for yourself, and then see where
a man's gonna fit in, it's one thing. So until then, no,

(02:40:29):
line I said, none of this is made no sense.
So I want to do this common such a nice
different because until we get to these issues are just
y'all should be having sex at all because y'all are
only having sex to have kids. That's the only reason
y'all having sex. You're having sex because it feels good.
And don't get me wrong, it does and it's great,

(02:40:50):
and there are benefits to having sex. There really is.
But at the same time, do you know that? No,
And like I said, there's nothing wrong with a woman
touching herself and making herself feel good. But at the
same time, why does sex gotta be rushed? Why is

(02:41:10):
it that it has to be rushed? It doesn't. That's
why you have sex at night. You have sex at
the end of the night or first thing in the
morning when you have time. You know, the rest of
your day for eight hours, you're not gonna have time.
And I'm sorry, I am not having quickies no more.
I don't want quickies no more. It ain't even worth it, no,

(02:41:35):
because then I'm gonna go to sleep, and then I
can't go to sleep, gotta go to work. No, I
have sex at night. I have sex between nine and
six in the morning. If I have to work. I'm
gonna be in bed before eleven o'clock. I'm being bad
by ten. So being that my child is grown, I'm
having sex between eight and ten pm, and then I'm

(02:41:57):
going to sleep. On the weekends, I'm having sex between
twelve and six in the morning. That is it, or
either seven thirty in the morning for the kids wake up.
So no, mm hmm, and that is non negotiable. So

(02:42:18):
and if you think you leave it, Nope, you're spending
the night. Uh huh, ain't no, ain't no, it ain't no.
You having sex and media leaving? Absolutely not. You stay,
You're you're staying. I'm not doing I'm not doing no
more sex. No more where a man comes over, has
sex and leading. Nope, we are going to make a
night of it. You are spending the night, were cuddling

(02:42:38):
and going to sleep, and that's it. You ain't gonna
home or either going to your house. But ain't gonna
ain't the more that. Nope. If I can't have three
hours at at maximum, I don't want it. I want
the full music. I won't. I want the full four
play experience. I want it all and I deserve that,

(02:43:05):
But I don't need multiple men for that. I've never
wanted multiple men. I don't even wanted one. I don't
need multiple men for what? What? What do I need
most men for? If anything, I want one? Then I
can learn that I can basically brush my skills with
somebody that we both sexually can grow together and build

(02:43:29):
a great sex life. But if neither one of us
was having sex, would it matter how big it is?
Would it matter what size it is? No, it wouldn't
matter at all because the same thing. It goes back
to Adam and Eve. If you have one that already
ate the fruit and now realize that she looked at

(02:43:50):
his pen and like, I do want that, and then
she sees another man because she ate the fruit, Now
she won't that. But the one that may not have
the biggest penis maybe the one that's gonna satisfy her
better in other areas where the one that get the
larger pen ain't gonna do nothing but bang her out.
See that's what I'm saying. Y'all don't understand that it's

(02:44:15):
not about whether or not the person is bigger or not.
It's a question of which person and multiple aspects is
going to make you have multiple orgasms. And now that
you know that you don't need neither one of them
to make you have multiple orgasms as a male or female,

(02:44:37):
then it doesn't matter. Just what So if you read
define sects, if these kids just did everything else besides
them two touching each other, wouldn't be no pregnancy. And men,
if people just did four playing, that was it. You're

(02:44:57):
still gonna be satisfied. You still you're still gonna be satisfied.
It's just like a prott to where she goes and
you pay her, she sucks your pin and that's it.
It's no different than that. You still get in your
rock soft So what's the difference. Nothing. But again, you

(02:45:28):
don't use them to unless you're gonna have kids, or
unless you you can't have them kids. But you're really
not gonna enjoy sex as a woman until you can't
have the more kids. And that's the part that men
don't understand. They don't never have kids. They know what
I'm saying. They never had to push your baby out,
so they don't understand. So that's why I said, men
and women will never be on the same page because

(02:45:49):
we are. We are so different. And until mentally men
understand women and understand. Okay, in the world, you can
be as unemore know as you want to, just not
with me. There has to be some type of connection.
I don't care what you're talking about, because you can

(02:46:11):
get somebody that is as good as what they do,
but they for the streets, for everybody. So that means
even if he's good at what he does, I still
wouldn't want to have sex with him because he's for everybody.
Why would I want to? Why would I go on
and go behind another woman? And I don't know, you
know what I'm saying. So the first female may because

(02:46:32):
he hasn't had sex in a while, may only get
him for five minutes. The other girl may get him
for fifteen to twenty minutes. The next one may only
get him, may be able to keep it up, and
there's nothing coming out. So let me break down how
I know the man is cheating when he releases, when
he ejaculates. Okay, now I'm gonna go here and and

(02:46:56):
please forgive me no lord, but I'm gonna have to.
If a man's come sperm is white, it means he
hasn't had sex in a while. If it's got older
to it, that means that either he's been with another
female or he has venarirow disease. And let me also

(02:47:17):
tell you your pubic hairs does not get rid of that
smell for thirty days. I don't care how much you
wash your stuff, You're still going to be able to
smell the condoms. You can even taste it. You'd have
to take a thorough, thorough shower and bush to get
rid of it. So you, a woman knows not only

(02:47:40):
that if it's really liquidy, then that means he's been
having sex very often, see a lot see stuff like that.
Y'all wouldn't know nothing that stuff. Women don't even pay
attention to a man's come honey, If there's hardly none
that came out, that means he's already had sex that week. Sorry,

(02:48:00):
but it's the truth. Sorry not sorry, So again, please
please y'all. I'm telling y'all men do not want me
to have this conversation because I know when men cheap,
because if it's not a lot that come out and
it's not white, that means you've had sex prior. Because

(02:48:24):
if it comes out white, that means you haven't had
sex in a while. When it's clear it means you
have especially if it's liquity, and then if none comes out,
that means you you pretty in it. See and me
also break this down to in sex education class. If

(02:48:46):
there's nothing coming out, you shouldn't be having sex at
all anyway because you have nothing to give. But then again,
men don't pay attention to penis. They don't even talk
to it. They don't even know it. They don't even
know their penises. They don't even know what their penis is.
Won't you think your penis won't what you want? No,
it don't it don't it don't want what you want.

(02:49:08):
Just like Mava JJ don't want what I want. I
may I may like somebody. She be like, Nope, I
don't like it. I listen to her, but at the
same time I also tell her, Nope, there is a
reason why you're not playing right now. See, that's the

(02:49:30):
thing a playmates. See. I like to experiment, and I
have to have somebody that likes experiment too. I have
to have a man that if I do something, we

(02:49:52):
introduce each other to something new. I gotta read somebody.
I gotta have somebody to got patience that's gonna be
able to understand that we've I've never done this before,
So why would I want to be with somebody that's
already experienced it and gonna be mad because I'm not
doing it the way they want me to do it. No,

(02:50:12):
I'd rather have somebody that basically doesn't have the same
experience like myself, and we're both learning how to do
it and it can be fun, just the fact of
learning how to do it. Sex is not something you
got to be a pro at. If anything, is more
fun that you've never done it than it is if
you've done it, because then you're gonna be doing the

(02:50:32):
same thing. And that's my point. There's eighteen hundred sexual
positions out there, and on a website there's two and
forty four of them. Can't show it to you on it,
but there are. So I just want y'all to understand
that sex is way more, is not that complicated. But
the fact that y'all basing it on the things they

(02:50:55):
have nothing to do with it. Sex has nothing to
do with somebody look like, cause it don't because if
you have kids, you have kids. That's what y'all believe
based on top behavior. I mean, I've dated all kinds
of dudes, unattractive dudes, bigger dudes. I've dated all kids,

(02:51:16):
and that's why I did, because I wanted to prove
this point. It doesn't matter what they look like. It's
how they make you feel. When the lights get cut off.
It don't matter. But that's what y'all believe. You believe
that everything is about attraction. No, it's not because if

(02:51:40):
I kiss you, and if I'm unattractive and I kiss
you and you got tenuos going down your spine, that's
because the way I kissed you, not because of what
I look like. If I get down there and I
just start sucking on something like a lollipop, it feels

(02:52:00):
good and he rises. What you're gonna do? Tell me no,
But yet you get a beautiful girl that get down
there and don't put no effort, doesn't even enjoy doing it,
and yet it don't rise at all. So y'all gonna
ahead on somewhere, because again, there's a lot of other

(02:52:22):
things that make this what this is. Also, does do
women really like sucking certain things? No, there are a
lot of women that just do it because they don't
want to lose the man they with a lot of
women do threeesomes good. They don't want to lose the
man they' with. You're not doing it because it's something
you truly want to do. So again, do women really

(02:52:44):
want to have sex before they really want to? No? No,
absolutely not. They're doing it to hold on to a man.
Sorry to say, so, can we please start there? Believe me? So? Yeah,

(02:53:11):
I've done nine hours, my baby daddy, we have SAX
for nine hours, nine hours. So no, I'm not doing this.
I've had SAX for six hours. So trust me when
I say this to you. I don't have I don't

(02:53:34):
have an hour saple SAX. I have at least two
to three hours. I don't play that cause again, I've
been with men that don't want to give me fourth played.
I will never do it again mm hmm. Because I

(02:53:55):
love the fact of just being able to just not
feel pressured. I just like the touch, I like the kids,
and I just like to enjoy each other. And if
we get to that, we get to it. But there
sixty nine alone can be enough. Cause again, like I said,

(02:54:18):
when they get together, a lot of men don't even
know how to how to have sex and then keep going.
They don't even know how to do that, and that's
something that can be done. I know men who've done it,
So I mean, at the end of the day, I've
had to train a lot of men because I Am
not trying to be like I'm secretly assaulted. I'm absolutely

(02:54:42):
and I don't want to be on the man's with
other women. I just don't. That's just not my proference.
So I'm not settling. So I'd rather be by myself
than settle. So that's just not happening. But it doesn't
mean that I'm not happy, because I'm very happy. But

(02:55:05):
like I said, the fact that more women are going
without sex and not dating and are either going gay
shure you think there's not a problem here. So maybe
it's because men. I don't care if you're not emotional
to the rest of the world, but the one thing
you are gonna do is be emotional when it comes

(02:55:25):
towards me. So all of these things play a factor.
Every last bit of what I said plays a factor.
And why there is issues between black men and black women,
and not just black men and black women, but every
race of women and men, same thing, same issue. It's
just black women. It's just worse for y'all. So at

(02:55:50):
the end of the day, like I said, you need
to reconsider what you choose to do. So I get it,
really do. Sex is amazing, but if you don't know
what it's for and what the purpose of it is
and how all of these things sensuality, subduction, enticement, experience,

(02:56:16):
having a full fledged experience, that's not just what's between
your legs. That's the whole entire thing, from text message
to phone calls to videos, everything from whipped cream to chocolate,
all these different things. But that's for somebody that's not
out here with most people. Y'all need to get substances

(02:56:39):
because you're giving yourself to somebody that's with other women
and don't and could care less about what you do
in the bedroom. They don't care. But when you're when
But when you're a man that's not out here like that,
he's going to care because the effort you put in him,
he's gonna pay attention to. Whereas a man who is
not he's not going to. And that's the thing. Y'all

(02:57:01):
need to get some pride about yourself because if you
don't have no standards, I don't know what to tell you.
I don't care what a man says, if I say
I want for a play that is a requirement and
you say no, then hey, deuces, I don't care if
you got money or h And that's what I'm saying.

(02:57:22):
Being independent is not what y'all think it is. Being
independent is okay, deuces, you can get out. I don't
need you at this point. Whatever your purpose is for
this person, you let it be known what their purpose is.
If they cannot handle what their purpose is and what
you need them for, there's the door walk out of it.

(02:57:42):
So women need to understand the whole purpose of being
independent is not for the reason you think it is.
It's for the fact that you ain't gotta put up
with nonsense. Because if you already pay your bills and
do for yourself and got yourself together, why do you
need to put up with nisense. Again, I'm just trying
to get clarification. So being independent has nothing to do

(02:58:03):
with y'all think it is. It got everything to do
with the fact it makes a man have to step up.
So by your lord yourself and saying I want a
sugar daddy, I want this. First of all, that's not
your daddy, that's your husband. That is your man that
is a man that is that basically is a god
besacond John, and you are a god forsakeingd free positute.

(02:58:24):
Just let all these girls, they will be flown out somewhere.
But yet you don't want to get these men sex?
Then why the world they flying you out for it?
You can't finesse a man. I'm sorry, you can't, because
if he decides to be violent or decides to leave
you out there, you screwed. You can't finesse these men

(02:58:45):
no more. They ain't stupid and they certainly are not done.
They'll fly you out, but you ain't gonna be able
to get back home. Got luck with that one. So
we gotta deal with these issues. And until y'all understand that,
I don't know what to tell you, because great sex

(02:59:08):
is everything from sex games to food to blindfolds. Man,
I've done it all. I've done it all. I've done
everything from blind for the only thing I haven't done
is handcuffs. Sex is supposed to be fun, and that's
what I'm saying. Y'all do not understand how fun sexies.
Sex is so much fun, but if the other person

(02:59:31):
cannot do what they want to do, that is a problem.
That is another issue that we have. Women cannot do
what they want to do because men at life, they
don't have time. No, uh uh, you gonna make the time.
And y'all wonder why these girls talking about they taking
y'all PlayStations and deleting all your characters, and you wonder why, Oh, okay,

(02:59:57):
if you don't understand what that girl does de leaded
all your videos while you delivered all your step on
your game, I don't know tell you, because that's exactly why.
So there you are. It's a lot of it's a
lot of bear a lot of things that y'all have

(03:00:18):
put in the way. Y'all claim is about sex, but
yet you want to have sex when I'm in the
bed and I gotta get up six o'clock in the morning.
It's not about putting me in the mood. It's not
about making me feel good. It's not about putting me
in positions where I don't really have to move. Mean,
I ain't gotta get up, I ain't gotta do all this.

(03:00:38):
And yes, there are there are positions where you don't
have to move, and there are, but like I said,
at the end of the day, if I'm not getting
nothing out of it. I'm not able to reciprocate. Then
I'm just not interested. So all I was saying is

(03:01:05):
no mm hm, I ain't gotta tell my fallows nonsense,
because like I said, I have been down this road
and now I'm teaching it. Ladies, you're losing. You're losing
out y'all having sex with men like this is some
god forsaken trophy when actually just number the free prostitute.

(03:01:27):
These men don't care about y'all and what y'all do.
They don't care about how you perform. They don't care,
they don't even pay attention to that. They don't even care.
None of that matters. So again, I didn't wanna do
this commonsation Knights the way y'all thought I was gonna
do it. I was gonna be straight up direct, because
like I said, there is no point in me doing
this common sution Knights until I have this conversation, because

(03:01:53):
until women expect more and tier women make, these men
have to be selling it. But the problem is another
woman will still give him what he needs. Well that
if that's the case, then you don't need me. What
do you need me for? Because if you're gonna continue
seeing this female, stay where you're at. Stop being side chicks,

(03:02:15):
stop being groupies. And I actually thought about this because
it came to rich homely krawn the fact that Erica
Bains posted to shoot the side chick the witch only Kwan,
that's stupid and ump to know. I ain't got time
for none of this nosense. So again, y'all gotta stop settling,

(03:02:40):
because that's all you're doing is settling. You're lowering yourself
for people that's not gonna lower themselves for you. You're
sitting up here getting the short ending stick because you
want to lower yourself because you like this person. I'm sorry,
but no, no, no, no, I ain't in time fallings nonsense. No. So,

(03:03:07):
like I said, until these issues are addressed, you can't
have great sex until you're older. So that's the truth,
the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. You can't
have great sex until you can't have no more children.
The best sex is when you can't have no more kids,

(03:03:31):
point blank periods. So yes, older women are better when
it comes to having sex. We cannimal kids. So our
men have been thinking the whole entire time getting a
younger girl nope. Actually, older women, when it comes to
us and our sexual peaks, we will have sex to

(03:03:52):
the day we pass away. And older women are a
whole lot more freakier. We're more were able to now
we can actually express a sexuality. We can actually And
like I said, you be amazed how many girls women
don't like having sex and they're only doing it because

(03:04:13):
they like the dude or they have no sexual they
have no no, no comparison at all. So like I said, no,
I'm good, thank you. So, like I said, all the stuff,
y'all be just sitting and thinking it is a boldfaced

(03:04:34):
lie because attraction don't mean nothing. Kim Kardashian can't keep
a man. I seen her sex tape and it wasn't
nothing to brag about. Paris Hilton's was nothing to brag
about lat China. And like I said, uptures don't know
Jesus honey, y'all be thinking all these females megas downion,

(03:04:56):
all of them, be freaked. Y'all keep believing that keep boom,
that Cardi b is an example offset but still cheating.
So that's the old phase line. When y'all say it's
about attraction, it's a bold fase lie, because these men
are still cheating Jesus Christ. That's why I don't pay

(03:05:18):
That's why when it comes to beautiful women, I don't
pay them no attention because they are no different than me.
Because now they have to deal with other race of women. So,
like I said, the same way black women talked about
overweight women, and all these different women are now going
through it with the same with other race of women.
So now, ain't karma bitch at this point? Excive me, Lord,

(03:05:44):
forgive me. Ain't in a bitch. That's y'all karma. That
is y'all black women's karma. For the way y'all taught
about overweight women, the way y'all taught about unattracted women,
average women. No, this is y'all karma. At this point,

(03:06:05):
y'all sat there and said, all these women couldn't get
a man. Well guess what, now you can't either, because
now y'all gotta deal with these other races of women.
So no, this is nothing but karma. Y'all didn't want
none of these dudes when they were broke. You didn't
want them when they and have nothing. Now they got something,
Now you want them. Now you want all the nerves

(03:06:25):
that are actually successful. But then again, like I said,
that's the whole point in this conversation. You didn't want
any of these men, but yet y'all want to bring
up colorism. You cannot bring up colorism when these dudes,
when you had a chance to be with these dudes
and you chose not to. Because now Chris Brown got money,

(03:06:46):
Now y'all want him, but y'all didn't want him when
he was goofy in high school. Absolutely not. No, I'm
not trying to hear none of that. I don't do
excuse have these men that y'all don't want now don't
want y'all. That's it. So I said, nobody get top

(03:07:15):
of this nonsense. Y'all are not living in the real world.
And that's why I said, pretty soon, ain't gonna be
no kids. There ain't gonna be none of that because
women are now coming to the same realization that I
just said. They're coming into the realization they don't want kids.
Women are coming to the realization men don't want to

(03:07:37):
get married. So everything is going back in the order
that it's supposed to be, where women are not supposed
to be having sex to a marriage. So women who
have had sex, who have had sex and had kids
are now become a celibate because women now are realizing
there is no purpose of having sex and lessons coming
to having children. So until men bring back the interest

(03:08:02):
in sex for women, which I doubt very serious, is
gonna happen, You're gonna have more women having the same mentality.
I'm not the only person that's saying this, but it's
the truth. Is that God's honest truth. A lot of
women and girls are going into being celibent, meaning they're

(03:08:24):
not having sex until marriage, and that's just it on that.
So no, mm hmm. So, like I said, it's gonna
be interesting. But I couldn't. I couldn't do my common
sution knights unless I had this conversation. And I can't

(03:08:47):
do my comma sution knights on him. Y'all not ready,
y'all not ready for the real You're not. And then
the people that actually are being honest and being truthful,
we're saying, oh, you can't say that, you can I
ain't say that. Well, guess what I just said it
with no apologies. I told you I don't do apologies.
I stand on what I say. Because I can turn

(03:09:08):
right back around and pull the receipts. And then the
first thing you're gonna say is and make excusees. First
of all, uh, we ain't doing that because the first
thing I'm not gonna do excuse us. I don't do
excuse es. I don't do apologies because nobody does it.
When it comes to me stand on what you said.
I stand on what I said with no apologies. These

(03:09:32):
men having sex with multiple women are not good in bed.
I don't care what you got to say about it,
because you're not around long enough to really know. Just
because I have sex with you one time does not
mean you're good in bed. I have to have set
with you a couple of times and firstly figure it out.
Noh uh uh, Because what happens is the same dudes

(03:09:57):
and the are having sex. Eventually, they're penis gonna stop
working and they're gonna have to take bacle when it
gets six five years old. H If y'all would stop
having said to so many women, your penis would actually
still work, shy rod, do you let me take it.

(03:10:20):
I'm not doing these excuses. There is no justification for
any of this. It is no justification for the irresponsibility
and the trifleness that shouldn't that should be stopped by
now STDs. Don't stop y'all having children, don't stop you
not being married, don't stop you. What is gonna stop

(03:10:41):
y'all from fornicating with our marriage? What is it gonna take?
So now? Mm hmm. So now I'm going to bed.
I think I said everything I need to say. At
this point, I get it. Sex is a beautiful thing.

(03:11:01):
It really is with the ripers, not with everybody. So

(03:11:29):
there you go. On that note, I am going to bed.
So again, I can leave social media tomorrow and could
care less. But at the end of the day, it
goes right back to what I said. A lie can

(03:11:49):
be a truth, and the truth can be a lie.
And the reality of it is, Ladies, you're not getting
sex the way you're supposed to. You're not even getting
even not even five percent. That's why men are not
number seventeen and number twenty when it comes to American
men and when it comes to not only satisfying women,
but when they come to having sex once a week,

(03:12:10):
because women in America are not having sex with the
same man, because these men don't know how to stick
around and have sex with one woman. No, they can't
do that. I don't know why, but for some reason,
they just can't. So, like I said, we're good time

(03:12:34):
for all that I don't like. I said, keep on y'all,
keep on thinking the way y'all thinking, and don't expand
your mind and don't grow and evolve and let these
people keep constantly pulling you back and following behind these
rabbits down a rabbit hole. You gonna end up stupid.
And that's why the average person only uses to not

(03:12:56):
even uses five percent of their brain, and ninety five
percent in your brain is subconscious aka actions and behavior. See,
your thoughts are only five percent, so your decisions and
choices are only five percent, and your actions and behavior
are ninety five percent. Good to them, I said, y'all

(03:13:19):
got a lot to learn, because sex is way more
than that. There's touching, there's kissing, there are other things
that are you know, And we went over this is
the last time I was here about all the different
orgasms a woman can have. So now I'm good. So

(03:13:49):
I'm going to bed. I'm going to miss some sleep.
I think that's it for me because I'm probably gonna
be go over the next couple of days. But again,
I'm not apologizing for anything that I said because I
can prove it. I can spend six hours just showing
you what I'm talking about, and then somebody going like,
that's not fair, you shouldn't show that. Uh, let me

(03:14:10):
tell you what I do. Because I'm all about the truth.
I don't like lies. I don't and will never accept
a lie. I want the truth to hold truth and
nothing but the truth, So help me God, and the
reality of it is the way y'all have sex is
not God's version of it. So again, you want a

(03:14:31):
young person for what a young person that has absolutely
no experience, and you do so it's so it's fair
for an older man to mess with a twenty year old,
but a nineteen year old who's never had sex mess
with a fifteen year old. I would think the twenty
I would think the twenty year gap would be worse

(03:14:51):
for me. It is unacceptable the fact that y'all can't
leave these young kids alone and let them be with
each other. No, you gotta mess with them for what.
Because you messed up your life. Because you screwed your
life up, you gonna screw theirs. What is wrong with y'all?
What is wrong with y'all? Y'all supposed to be the

(03:15:11):
example of what being a husband, being a wife, being
a father, and being a mother. Please explain, because I've
been there for mine. Mine has autisms, so mine is
a whole different, different situation. But y'all got normal kids.
I'm not doing any excuse me with y'all. I'm not

(03:15:32):
I'm not doing it with y'all. There is no more
making excuses at this point because there are consequences and
repercussions to your actions. And if y'all don't grow up
and get out of this high school mentality and asking
people to be your parents because your parents didn't do
it they were supposed to do when it come to you,

(03:15:53):
absolutely not. I am not raising a grown man. I'm sorry.
If that grown man don't want wanna elevate and don't
want to evolve, and yet I do, he gonna stay
his behind right where he's at because you are not
gonna stop me from being independent. And this has nothing
to do with feminism. Just got everything to do with

(03:16:13):
me being a godly person. And being a godly person,
I have set up here and lowered myself for negative
people that I should have never lowered myself for in
the first place. Absolutely not, will I ever do that.
So y'all go ahead on somewhere, y'all can go on,

(03:16:34):
go ahead on where women's supposed you gonna say if
you don't. If I make more money than you, your
ask gonna excuse my language, Lord, because a Sunday it's
a holy day. But I really get upset about this. No,
if you at home and you make more, you may.
If you get off work before I do, you pick
them kids up. You gonna get them something to eat,
and you are gonna help them with homework. I'm not

(03:16:56):
doing this. You gonna clean up behind yourself because I
am not your mama. I am your wife. If I
do anything the way and the mortal words of Claire
from The Cosmic Show. If I fix my husband breakfast,
because he fixed me breakfast, my husband gives me a

(03:17:19):
break for my kids. My husband's never told me I
can never have a career. My husband has been patient
when it come to me having children. I'm not ready
to have children. He is okay with that, so on
and so forth. He's not trying to get me pregnant.
Because we at this point cannot afford a child. We

(03:17:43):
both lead this marriage. It is not just him. We
both pay the bills, so we both can have extra
money to be able to do things not only with
each other, but by ourselves. We're able to give our
children the best life. And we make time for And

(03:18:05):
it ain't about us going out with our friends separately.
We go out with our friends together. We go out
to dinner with our friends, and we do stuff together.
And if we do, we both go out at the
same time, meaning we both go out on the same day.
It ain't no, it ain't no he going I'm going out.

(03:18:27):
If he go out, I ain't staying at home. Mmm,
I'm getting dressed. Where youre going? I'm going out? Where
are you going? And worry about where I'm going? I'm
going out. Oh no, I'm saying, I don't care if
you stay home and office. They're going out. And matter
of fact, and matter of fact, he can leave the
house and and he gonna be like he gonna be gone,

(03:18:50):
I'm gonna be gone. In a completely different direction. He
gets to go. If he gets to go to all
the NFL games, I get to go to the ball
all the places I want to go, as far as barbers.
I'm not staying home while that man is gone. I'm
gonna be gone too. I'm dropping the kids off and
I'm going on vacation at the opposite direction. He gonna

(03:19:12):
be more worried about what I'm doing than I'm gonna
be worried about him, because I ain't gonna care. And
that's what women's mistake is. While these men are running around,
y'all sitting at home. Now that I said, cat ask
my ex. He went out. I went out too, except
I went the opposite direction. Mm hmm, you go out,

(03:19:38):
I'll go out. We go out on the exact same day,
only the differences. I might leave earlier than you, I
might leave later than you, but best believe I'm leaving
the house. I'm not staying stuck at home while you
go out and do what you want. Absolutely not, because me,
I'll get on a plane and you go wake up

(03:20:00):
and I'm gone. I'm like, where are you at? I'm gone?
Where the kids at my mama house? Where are you
going to the Bahamas? How you don't worry about that?
Now you understand why I got extra money, why I
won't fifty to fifty because, like I said, he go out,
I go out. Whatever he does, I get to do.

(03:20:23):
Mm hm No, nah, homeboy, he ain't doing that. Mm hmm.
So again that's why independence is so important, because if
it's more important for him to be in his friends,
he can get out of my house and go stay
with somebody else and let me do afe skim the
lord trying to. I've been doing good as far as

(03:20:45):
no curse him. Just today, I'm just irritated. I'm irritated
with these black panels. I'm irritated with all this nonsense,
and I wish y'all stop. It's very simple solutions. Stop
doing negativity, stop cheating, stop doing things is knowing there's
consequence and repercause to your answer to the carme that
come with it. Stop live your life to golly where

(03:21:08):
y'all will be all right. And that's my point of this.
I don't care what you do negative, it's still gonna
be negative. It's not gonna change nothing. It just ain't.

(03:21:35):
So like I said, I get it with me personally.
Mm hmmm. Nope, I know now what being a godly
person means, and a godly person is not me lawing
myself to be to fill somebody up. I'm still gonna
be the same person. I'm helping that person in a
different manner. I'm guiding them, I'm not I am not

(03:21:56):
being somebody's mother. I'm gonna send you right back to
your mama. I am no longer babing nobody is an adult.
If you are an adult, I am not babing you.
I am not feeling sorry for you, because at the
end of the day, you shouldn't have did what you did.
But at the same time, will I help you through
what you're going through? Of course I will. Now when

(03:22:16):
I start getting to the root of it and I
start having conversations about it and you tell me about
your past, then yes, I will feel sorry for you.
If it only happened once, If it continues to happen,
then it falls on you. So fool me once, shame
on you. Fool me twice, shame on me anytime after that,
dumb on me. Y'all are not children at this point,

(03:22:43):
so it is not my responsibility to be your mama.
So if you're gonna be a mama bo, I'm gonna
send you right back to your mama. The minute you
do anything that's gonna jeopardize me and my child. Anything
that you do outside of me, when you're not around me,
that's going to jeopardize me and my son. You have
to go. So the minute that I find out you're cheating,

(03:23:05):
I'm not having a conversation with you. I'm automatically going
to get a divorce. I am not wasting my time.
I don't want an explanation. You did because you wanted to.
I don't care what nobody says. You did what you
did negatively because you chose to do it because it

(03:23:25):
was what you wanted to do. Take will come with that,
But now y'all don't want to take what come with that?
You don't want to take it. Y'all make so many
excuses for the negative bs that still will end up
being negative. What makes y'all think the negatives gonna end
up being positive? What makes you think that? What makes

(03:23:48):
you think going after somebody and doing whatever this is,
y'all do that there's not consequences, especially when you mess
with a godly person. There are consequences. When you underlive somebody.
You going to prison. When you steal. You're never gonna
keep what you steal. But you do it anyway. So
you think sex is different. Oh, okay, you think sex

(03:24:12):
doesn't have consequences, children, STDs. So I don't care how
many times you wanna sit there and think that COVID
ain't still here. I don't care how many times you
think that there's not gonna be all these bacteria infections
in our food. Keep believing that. Keep believing it, cause

(03:24:32):
you're gonna be sitting there for the longest time feeling stupid.
I don't got time for this nonsense. I really truly
speaking of them, because I don't live in society standing world.
I live in the real world, so y'all can have that.
I don't have time for that. And as a life coach,

(03:24:55):
I accept things exactly for what they are, and I'm
not trying to change nothing. And that is the one
thing in recovery that you gonna learn. You can't change
people or their behavior. They gotta want to change themselves.
So the people I deal with are people that actually
want to change themselves. Can I say with marriage, absolutely,

(03:25:18):
I don't have to have a ring to be married.
I was with two men for seven years. There was
no different than being married. So no, I'm not doing
this with y'all. This bes about there's a difference between
being a girlfriend and being a wife. No, there's not,
because girlfriend is the first step of marriage, so please
go ahead on somewhere. Because being a girlfriend and then
being a wife and then being a mother, which is

(03:25:41):
which it really is, What being a wife is is
being a mother. So now no, uh, miss me with that,
miss me with it, because God's version of wife is mother.
It's being a mother, not just you being a wife. Okay,
not you just ringing ring, it's you being a mother.

(03:26:02):
So let me let me bring it down for Aliosa.
You can make this. I can make this crystal clear
for you. Being a being a wife is being a
parent to someone that came in this world and know nothing.
So let me make this crystal clear for you. How
you raise your kids determines what kind of person you are.

(03:26:27):
And being that my son is autistic and still a virgin,
and being that my son is autistic and probably acts
way better than majority of these kids out here, I
think I've done a phenomenal job as a wife because
my son's father never has to worry about his son
at all. So even though yes, he is married to

(03:26:50):
another woman, legally, I am married to that man's spirits.
I'm married to that man because of that child. I
have my child, his first born son, and that is
something nobody can never take away from me, not even

(03:27:13):
the one he got the second one by I gave
him his first and that nobody can ever trump. But
that does not mean I can't beat another man because
him and I are not together because of infidelity. So
there you have it. God never said that women can't

(03:27:36):
get a can cannot get remarried if adultery, abandonment, addiction,
and abuse those are the four reasons the woman can
get remarried. So yeah, I think I'm good. So that
ring and the wedding and all of that means absolutely

(03:27:57):
nothing because that's not even what a spiritual says ceremony
as far as what a wedding is, because the majority
of the stuff that y'all that is supposed to be
in a wedding, y'all don't even put in the wedding
best upon the Bible. So what are you talking about
this one? You are not doing anything that is of
God when it comes to these weddings. So yeah, okay,

(03:28:21):
So on that note, I'm going to bed I'm going
to bed. The on that note, so again I'm happy.
I'm good. I really am. So I'm good. Thank you. So,

(03:28:46):
like I said, I didn't make this channel. Just sit
here and tell y'all what y'all want to hear. Not
doing it because y'all are not kids, and I shouldn't
have to say, for example, I shouldn't have to say
nothing if I say somebody's name, noting un likely, I'm
using it as an example because trust me, if I'm
gonna call you out, I will call you out. That's
one thing about me. If I wanna call somebody out,

(03:29:06):
I will just call you out by name, meaning that
I'll start off with. For I shouldn't even have to say.
For example, if I just use something as an example
and you and you're in the room and you say, okay,
well that's not mean, then that means you're guilty. The
minute you responded, that means you're guilty. So why would
you respond if I just said I don't recognize it?

(03:29:36):
So now, so what I'm gonna do is go to bed,
get some sleep, and then go back to my life.
And if I gotta get all social media utter, I say,
oh this, then I will get all social media and
calling it. Then at the end of the day, like
I said, y'all want the demonic nonsense, and y'all want
to continue these panels, have fun with that. But I
just set all your solutions in one video where the

(03:30:01):
problem is how to solve it everything get rid of
the slave mentality, then you should be good. We as
we in the black community, have to We have to
go through a complete detox of four hundred years before
we can even have relationships with each other. And we

(03:30:22):
really have to redefine and really do everything. So now,
so what that beings said? Yep, So No, at the

(03:30:44):
end of the day, there is trauma. The black communities
all the way messed up. This is what y'all have
not figured out. That you're supposed to be people of God.
Y'all supposed to be the first right. Then please explain
to me what y'all act, the what you do. Please
explain while you go get everything that is of God
to do stuff that is demonic. See, you ain't figured

(03:31:06):
out a lot of stuff that y'all ain't suposed to do.
On See, I have figured out out a long time
ago as a person, as an African American person, that
you're not supposed to do a lot of things. That's
why I don't do things that other races of women
do because I'm not supposed to. Because I'm a child
of God. That's why I'm not supposed to do that.
I'm supposed to live a boring life. I am supposed
to only be married to one man and one man only.

(03:31:27):
I am not supposed to be out here like that.
Is that clear enough for you? As a person in God,
I'm not supposed to be doing any of these things,
and I choose not to. So as a person of God,
I will wait for my husband. I will sit still,
and I will wait for my husband until then. No

(03:31:49):
man is going to touch me until then, and I'm
standing on that. I don't care if any man come along.
Some man come along saying can I get your fun? Sure?
Matter of fact, what's yours? I'll call you call them
a little start sist none number, Nope. Until I know
that I get a sign from God saying that person

(03:32:13):
is my person. No, I'm good. I'm absolutely good. So
that's pretty much it for me. So I can pull
up everything I want too. I just don't feel like it,

(03:32:36):
but I can find the articles and post them, and
then what you're gonna argument to the ground about that.
That's why I'm not doing it. What's the point of
being showing my receipts with somebody gon say I'm lying,
Keep thinking I'm lying because black community has not gotten nowhere.
We have no generational wealth none. So with that being said,

(03:33:08):
I'm going to be I appreciate y'all for joining me
for this episode. I really do. I thank y'all. But
this had this had to come out this way. So
now I'm gonna do my conversation you nights. I'm gonna
do it the correct way because now I'm gonna talk
about the same things I've been talking about. And now
I'm going to deprogram you. First of all, I'm gonna

(03:33:30):
deprogram you everything that you know about sex and then
reprogram and newly program you and the stuff that's different,
something better. So there you go. So with that being said,

(03:33:55):
thank y'all for doing me. I appreciate y'all. I'm Pandora's box.
Like I told y'all, this channel is with no apologies.
I don't do apologies. I don't I say what I say,
I stand on it, and that's it, and I stand
on everything I just at this evening. But the reason
this video is not gonna go viral, and I really

(03:34:17):
don't care if it does or doesn't, is because this
content is too hard for people to handle. And that's
why I'm doing my stuff on Patreon. I decided I'm
doing my conversation nights on Patreon. I can play music,
I can actually do it without no problem, but at

(03:34:38):
the end of the day, I'm not doing this. I'm
not doing this with black people at this point. I'm
not I am not gonna sit here and let y'all
continuously says, now you're mad about these these these immigrants. Nope,
that could have been y'all. You're making excuses that I
just don't want to hear. At this point, I don't

(03:34:58):
care about what other black men and black women want
to be together or not. I don't care. I don't
care nothing about y'all issues with these immigrants, because again,
y'all don't understand you could have been got this stuff
and chose not to, so I'm not doing it. So

(03:35:25):
what that means said, y'all have a very loving night.
I'm going to get sleep and I'm going to recuperaculums
till sick, and that's it on that. I did not
make this channel to kiss nobody's behind. I did not
make this channel to please everybody, because I don't care.
At this point, I don't care. What I'm trying to

(03:35:46):
do is help people recover from the nonsense that I
had to deal with my whole entire life. I don't
want people to make the same mistakes I did. I
don't want nobody lowering themselves for nobody. I don't think
nobody should have to. There's a differ between lowering yourself
and doing the right thing. No, I really do the

(03:36:07):
right thing. That do the wrong thing. So no, I'm
just not gonna do that at this point. I deserve
better at this point. I'm not settling at this point.
I want what I want and that's it, and I
will wait for it. And until then I will meet
some great people that will basically bring something smart in

(03:36:29):
my life. I ain't gonna time for all the dozen
I'm grown. I'm sorry, I'll never followed the more rabbits
in a rabbit hole. I'm not going to Wonderland. I'm
not negative, and negative will always equal negative negative positive
will always et negative, positive and positive will always even
positive does it anything that's negative? I want no positive.

(03:36:51):
I don't care what you do. I still ain't gonna
do it. I'm not doing nothing stupid. I'm not doing
nothing that. I'm a gully person. That's it on that.
So with that being said, I'm gonna say what I feel.
I'm gonna say exactly for what it is, and I'm

(03:37:13):
gonna say it based upon the truth, not based on lies.
I'm not lying to nobody. I ain't got no reason
to as a life coach. Hany welcome to to love,
because honey does exact what decis. Y'all better grow up because,
like I said, if you think that growing up is,
i'ma lie to you. Nope, growing up is. I had
sense to this person last night and I'm leaving. I'm

(03:37:33):
packing my stuff. I'm leaving because I know in no
point of us being together, I'm miles week. That's me.

(03:37:55):
So didn't happen. So, but that being said, good night, y'all.
I will see y'all next time if I decide it all,
because like I said, I don't have time for any
at this at this point in twenty twenty four, I
just don't. This is the age of truth at this point.

(03:38:16):
And I don't have time to sit up in a
loud of people because that's just too much trouble for me.
I ain't got time to tell people what they want
to hear because I'll be lying, and I'm somebody don't
believe in lying. I believe in telling the truth unless
I just don't want to be bothered. Now, if I
don't want to be bothered and I don't want you
in my business as a home of a conversation, I
will make sure you're none of my business. I'll let
you believe whatever it is that you want to believe

(03:38:37):
in call it a day. But when it comes to me,
I don't care.

Speaker 1 (03:38:47):
So m.

Speaker 3 (03:38:49):
So with that being said, I am going to bed.
So I said, this channel ain't for everybody. I'm not
trying to go viral. I'm not trying to do none
of that. I ain't. I don't care. I don't care
about having one hundred and fifty million people. I don't
care about none of that. All I want is the
people that are going to be my tribe, the people
that are like me, that have had enough of being people.

(03:39:13):
Please just see Phyllis Captain saber Hold and Bill Bears.

(03:39:36):
So what that being said? Yeah, I'm gonna be good night, y'all.
So I ain't got time to kiss nobody behind at
this point, I ain't got time to lie, lie for
what I'm not. Look, I ain't leading nobody nowhere but
except the truth, and as is it, I don't have

(03:39:58):
time to sit up here and tell somebody what they
want to hear. I don't play games like that. Games
are for children. I'm gonna say it in the more
words of the best way I can put it my
own words. I am not a PlayStation. I am not
an Xbox, I am not a Rubus C. I am
not a board game. I am not any game whatsoever.

(03:40:19):
So if you're gonna play games with me, you need
to PlayStation yourself out of my visual and go xbox yourself.
Matter of fact, no, let me flip that. Then you
can Xbox yourself out of way from me and PlayStation
yourself to Final Fantasy, Mario, NFL two K, whatever, all

(03:40:42):
of the Sonic games, all of the Atari games, all
of the WI Nintendo Switch. I don't care, but you
will not be playing them with me. And as a
fifty year old woman. I am not going through this nonsense.
And if I had to deal with a bunch of
true that I did not like, that I had to accept.

(03:41:03):
Guess what, so do you? So the truth don't bother me?
The truth does not bother me in any comparison. You
don't like me, I don't care, and you reject me.
I don't care. It don't mean nothing to me because
it just means you're not meant for me. That's it,
That's all it means. It means that I'm not supposed
to be there. So anywhere that I've been rejected, I

(03:41:25):
ain't meant to be there. And that's why when they
come to that sector, I ain't going back to it
because I was rejected from it and I ain't coming back.
I'm okay with it. Then, Like when somebody said they
were gonna mute me, guess what, I don't care. You
can mute me all you like. I'm still not going
back over there. So again, are we clear at this one?

(03:41:45):
I just wanna men sure. I just wanna make sure
I'm absolutely clear what this channel is about. This channel
is not about I don't care if I say somethingbout
NICKI minach and I gotta do it a bunch of barbs.
I don't care. I don't care if I said something
about barb cardi b I don't care. I'm going to
say whatever it is I choose to that is based

(03:42:06):
upon what is right. I ain't got time for it.
I do not have time to lie to nobody, because,
like I said, I have a conscience and I am
somebody that if I gotta look somebody in the face
knowing I'm lying in them, I'm gonna sit there and
cry because I'm gonna fel bad. And I don't like

(03:42:26):
even making nobody feel bad. But at the same time,
I don't got time for nonsense. I don't not in
my life right now. My life is peaceful, it is quiet,
it's and I'm not bringing none of that mess back.
I'm sorry. I've worked too hard for my spiritual godly
peace and tranquility. No, not regular piece and tranquility, God's

(03:42:49):
version of peace and tranquility. Oh, I'm sorry. No, And
it's a gestures it on that. So if you can't
handle the truth, please don't come on out, because I'm
telling you now you ain't gonna like it. I'm telling
you now, I don't care because one thing about me,
I'm gonna pull up some receipts, and then when I

(03:43:10):
pulled up this sweets, I don't want to hear nothing
because one thing about it the way I feel about it.
The same way, God don't do excuses. I don't either,
because God certainly does on judgment Day, is not gonna
care about your excuses. God already knows that you did

(03:43:31):
what you did. All God want to know is why
you did it? What were you thinking when you did it,
and what was the purpose of you doing it? And
what did you get out? And was it worth it? No,
So the same way God is a no nonsense God,
the same way God is the jealous God. The same

(03:43:53):
way that God is like, Nope, yup, you're going down
the wrong path. Now tell me, y'all like going down
the rabbit hole and following the rabbit down the rabbit hole.
But I'm sorry, but I ain't following the rabbit runing
rebit hole because I'm not a follower. I've never been
a follower. So the answer is no. So if I

(03:44:15):
had to deal with some very uncomfortable truths, guess what.
So there you go. That's where I stand on things.
When I first came on YouTube, it was a problem.

(03:44:37):
Well guess what, I don't care about it. I don't
care about the problems at this one because either you
gonna either you gonna deal with the truth or you ain't.
Now mind you, I have no problem learning. I have
no problem in it when I'm wrong. But to me,
this ain't about wrong. This is about This is about knowledge.
This is not about Knowledge is never wrong. Knowledge can

(03:44:59):
go either way regardless. That's why I love knowledge, because
knowledge can go any anywhere it wants to go, no
matter what, no matter how I feel about it, no
matter how you feel about it. What matters is knowledge
is exactly what it is. Knowledge is in the change.
You're right or wrong, it's still in the change. So,
like I said, i'm looking I'm gonna look at it

(03:45:19):
as right or wrong. I'm not gonna look at it
any other way as they do on that. So if
somebody brings something to me and so on and so forth,
the way I look at it, I'm not saying that
what they said was wrong, because it's not. But at
the same time, I'm gonna turn around and say, okay, well,
let me show you a different perspective. Of how to

(03:45:40):
look at it. As long as we both learn from it,
that's it, And that's the whole point of this conversation.
The whole point is if I didn't why I sell trial.
Next Friday, I'll bring people up and they have the
right to say their thoughts, their opinions and their feelings.
But at the same time, you don't have the right
to say they're wrong, because if they try around to
pull up receipts and make you look stupid, what makes

(03:46:03):
you think that what they said was no different than
what you said, just in a different way of looking
at it. And it's good when you have different people
with different different mentalities. So it's not about right or
wrong when it comes to knowledge. It's not about right
or wrong when it comes to knowing when somebody's going
to attack you, you're gonna if somebody's come to tamp you.

(03:46:23):
If somebody come to you and say, look, somebody's getting
ready to attack you, and you don't believe them and
then they attack you, then you're gonna be mad because
you didn't listen to the person that told you they
were going to attack you. So again, there's nothing wrong
with saying you know what, Yeah, and now she's it
or not, So I'm gonna go let it out and

(03:46:45):
get some sleep. So yeah, that's it on that. So
we are not gonna start twenty twenty four with lies.
I think Kat Williams pretty much said it pretty much.
This is the year of truth. This is not the
year of Aquarius, because Aquarius has been gone. That's another

(03:47:07):
conversation within itself. There's nothing that shows that it's the
age of Aquarium because the Age of Aquarius is the
age of lies. The only reason everybody wants to have
the Age of lies of Aquarius because Age of Aquarius
is the age of lies. That's a whole nother conversation. Yes,
we are not in the Age of Aquarius if you
really want to go here, because the Age of Aquarius

(03:47:28):
has never been about the truth. Whenever a Quarius ever
told the truth when especially considering the fact that aquariuses
are polity, Aquariuses are do whatever whatever the wind blows.
So that would mean that the age of Aquarius is
the age of lies. We have been out of the

(03:47:53):
Age of Aquarius, but you know it's been gone. World
to the Age of Query is since nineteen sixty We're
still in the age of quarries. The age of lines
has been since I don't even know how long I

(03:48:13):
think it's been since nineteen sixty up until now. No,
mm hmm so now, mm hmm. So do you have it?

(03:48:37):
So that beings said, I think that's it. Y'all have
a great night, and again, don't forget this delightscribe notification button.
But if you think for those of y'all and you'll
know who you are, gonna come over here and think
you're gonna run my channel. No, not happening. I'm gonna

(03:48:58):
do what I want and say what I want on
my channel, and if it's a problem, please just exit
yourself with me. Is it? I'm not for everybody, and
I'm not trying to be, and I intentionally am this
way because I'm not for everybody, and I don't want
to be, because if I really want to be for everybody,

(03:49:18):
i'd be kissing everybody's behind. But since I don't want
to do that, and since I don't want to be
in nobody else's laying except my own, and because I'm
not worried about rejection, and nor do I care anything
about it, now, I'm musa say what I want to do.
What I want to and it's just freeing to be
able to do that. That's what I represent. I represent

(03:49:41):
someone that does not want to be a part of
any of that. If I'm rejected or well, I don't
care because at the end of day, I'm a godly
woman and I'm apprized and I'm not worried about them.
I'm worried about me. So with that being said, that's
it for me. If that's gonna be a problem, then
keep on strolling. But until then, I'm gonna continue to

(03:50:04):
be the person I've always been rejected or not not
loved to, not not like to appreciate it. I don't care.
But I am no longer gonna be a captain, saberhole,
build a bear, and build a doll for nobody. I'm
just not. And I'm no longer gonna be a seat
filler either, So you can hang that up. But then again,

(03:50:24):
I'm just being me, just honest. That's all just straight,
with no chaser and just telling it like it is,
with no apologies not doing it. So that being said,
good night y'all, well good morning, because it is next morning.
Good morning, y'all. I'll see y'all later.

Speaker 4 (03:50:43):
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