Episode 25 - African Melanin Queens VS Harlots, Jezebel, and Succubus Women

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey y'all. Hay, how y'all doing. Welcome to my podcast,
African melanin Queens. I'm your host. Y'all know who I
am by now, thank you so much for joining me
for this episode. If you guys like the commentary and
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(00:23):
to sprie dot com for us. That's my name A
s h A M A r I A M A
and you'll hear all of my podcasts. You can also
go on my email address which is A s h
A dot M A R I A M A zero
one at gmail dot com. And if you have anything
that you're going through as far as healing and recovery

(00:45):
as a black woman, we all have things that we're
dealing with. If you're struggling with something when it comes
to being a single mother, if you're someone that has
a story as far as the things you are struggling with,
and you want me to read your letters or your
emails on my podcast, or you just want one on
one coaching, you can email me as well a little

(01:06):
bit about me. I am a certify our recovery and
healing coach as well as a mental health practitioner. It's
all about helping African melan and queens to go from
being the women that black men have been telling you
for years that you should be, to the queens that
you are supposed to be and that you were always
meant to be. Now, I know it's been a minute.

(01:29):
I ain't been on this podcast in a minute, but
I have been trying to figure out where I want
to go with this podcast and what direction I want
to go as a healing coach because Black women, out
of every race of women, are not allowed to heal.
We are not allowed to heal to save our lives.
Every time we go through something, we have to suck
it up and act like it didn't happen, or we

(01:50):
have to take the abuse, or we're being forced to
or manipulated or bamboozled and being led astray by men.
And considering everything our ancestors have went through when it
came to slavery and things of that nature, it's amazing
how we as black people, black women are strong enough

(02:12):
to handle not only the disrespect of black men on
these social media platforms blatantly disrespecting Black women, but black
women that are doing this as well, and I'm not
gonna do that. I'm not going to male bash men
and I'm not going to bash women, but i am
gonna hold both accountable because at the end of the day,

(02:34):
like I said, we as a community have a very
huge problem and that is our identity. What are we?
Who are we? So today I'm gonna talk about the
fact that as African queens, as African American queens at
anybody's African descents, as far as being queens in America,

(02:59):
we don't represent ourselves as the queens that we are.
We don't we act like we can't have a throne
and be able to basically run our own thrones and
being able to run nations. Black women can run a
nation out of every race of women. Black women can

(03:21):
raise a nation. There's an actual culture of people that
are women that have no men in their community and
they have to go to the neighboring tribe to basically
marry a man. So there are a lot of women
in tribes in today that are forced when they have

(03:42):
people come to their tribes to have sex with other men.
There are a lot of African girls that are forced
to be married to men twice their age, some that
they're even related to Black women in the United States,
you have a choice that a lot of women don't have.
You get to choose your spouse. The problem is is

(04:05):
Black women are the number one when it comes to
being single mothers and the number one when it comes
to being unmarried. A lot of Black men do not
want to get married. And we're gonna talk about why
why do black men not want to get married. Well,
we're gonna have this conversation and it's gonna be very uncomfortable.
Number One, because they gonna cheat. That's why they don't want.

(04:29):
They know if they get married, they're gonna cheat, and
at least with girlfriend and boyfriend, they can end the relationship.
You can be left with nothing and the only thing
they may have to pay is child support, but alimony
and spouse to support and losing their assets. That is why.
Because they're gonna cheat. And women don't seem to understand this,

(04:52):
because if a man really is not gonna cheat on you,
then a prenupt won't even be necessary because he's not
gonna cheat and that man is only onto you, and
and you're being satisfied the way you will be satisfied
in the bedroom, then you ain't gonna cheat on him either.
So at the end of the day, if you if
you have two godly people together and both of them

(05:14):
are doing things the way they're supposed to be doing it,
then you wouldn't have the infidelity. So let me let
me get into it. If we raised our sons and
daughters and neither one of them were to have sex
at all until marriage, and every black woman did this,
we wouldn't have the problems we at right now. But see,

(05:35):
because of discrimination, diversity, and all of these different things
that are playing a very big factor in our history
is the reason why we as Americans have an issue
when it come to raise in our children. Our children
are not all raised equally and they're not raised fairly.
So even though, for example, you might want to hide

(05:57):
things from your kids, you may want wanna shelter your kids,
you can't. You can non shelter your kids from the world.
You just can't. The only thing you can do is
prepare them for it. So, for example, my son is
a virgin, he's virgin, and even if he didn't have autism,
I still would promote that I don't want my son

(06:18):
having sex to marriage. I don't, and I will tell
him that. I don't care what the little boys tell you.
I don't want you having sex until you're married. I
don't want you to have that experience. I don't want
you to get nobody pregnant. And the one thing that
I'm gonna do that the rest of y'all ain't be
honest with my son. I am telling my son the
truth about sex. I'm sorry. I'm telling him truth, and

(06:41):
I'm gonna tell him that he don't need to be
having sex until he's married. I don't. And if and
Ibody had a daughter, I will tell both of them.
I don't want neither one of them having sex to marriage,
and I don't want them hanging around kids gonna influence
them in that way. And the minute that somebody tries
to influence my child, you need to leave them alone.
Point blame, period. I'm not gonna sit up here and

(07:03):
treat one treat boys different than in girls when it
comes to emotions. I'm not gonna do that. Now. I
will tell both of them the same thing. And this
is how I raise my son. You can cry if
your feelings are hurt. You can cry if somebody does
something to you, But if you do something wrong, you
ain't got no reason to be sitting up and crying.

(07:23):
Why are you crying when you did something wrong? No,
you ain't gonna be sitting up here crying if you
did something wrong. No, I don't cry now because you
all of a sudden now I better get to deal
with the consequence and reap because of the crime of
your actions. We ain't doing that. We're not. So I
don't care if it's a male or female. You're not
gonna be crying because you don't because now that you
gonna got caught and whatever you're doing now you wanna cry.

(07:47):
Now you wanna feel bad. You wasn't feeling bad when
you did it. And number two, I don't care what
my son does. Whatever he does behind behind my back,
he better be mad and woman up. Do it in
front of my face, because my old thing is that
the rules don't change because you're not in front of

(08:07):
my face. Because why do I have to be around
you to make sure you don't cheat? That means I
can't even trust you with your friends, your family, I
can't trust you with nobody. So the fact that you're
out here messing around with a whole nother woman out
here sitting up here behind my back, letting your friends

(08:28):
and your family influence you, I can't be with you.
I'm sorry. I cannot be with a man that behind
my back. I can't trust you that you can't have
enough discipline if you are in a room with a
bunch of women and be able to have some type
of discernment, y'all give these men way too much grace.

(08:49):
I'm sorry, I can't. My thing is, if you want
me to trust you, then the rules apply no matter what.
So whatever rules be established in this relationship, you better
not think about doing it, and if you do, you
better be man enough to come to me and tell
me and take everything to come with it. But see,
the thing about it is where women go wrong. Is

(09:12):
you worrying about, oh my god, what am I gonna
do if he leaves me? Uh? Not lower yourself to
be with them. Stop lowering yourself to be with these men.
Stop trying to attract men that are going to do
this to you. If you walk around screaming sex, then
that is what you're going to attract. And that's the

(09:33):
one thing in healing that I try to tell people.
You are what you attract. You are what you draw
towards you. So if you want negativity to be drawn
towards you, then go ahead and show off what you got.
Go ahead and show off everything. That's why y'all get
the men you get, because that's what you attract. You

(09:55):
attract people that basically essentially are not good for you. You do.
You attract men that only want sex, and y'all get
flown out and you think this man ain't gonna want sex,
that are he gonna or that are he gonna make
you walk if you don't get these men sex. When

(10:18):
when you get flown out, you best believe they gonna
leave you stranded out there. And you can't be out
there doing that if you not, If you're not in
the sex industry, what are you doing? Why are you
even trying to be sexual? And you're not in the
sex industry, you are no better than these girls out here.
Just like Cardi b used to be a stripper, Young

(10:41):
Miami used to be a stripper. So at the end
of the day, these girls are oozing sexuality and it
shows because of where that came from. Just let all
these girls from the sex industry no differently when gonna prostitution,
street walking, I mean pouring stars. I mean, what's difference. Nothing.

(11:05):
There's nothing different between a stripper of the escort, nothing,
nothing at all. So instead of being queens and representing
yourselves and understanding that you over JJ, don't go, don't
go to everybody that your yover JJ, don't belong to everybody.
That's that's the first part of healing, when you relinquish

(11:27):
all of those spiritual warfarees and not only that spiritual
bale baggage. Let me break down what spiritual baggage is.
Spiritual baggage is when you take on somebody else's karmel,
somebody else's consequence and repercussion, you're paying for it. Some
Me give you an example. You have a you have

(11:47):
a man that wants to basically be intimate with your
best friend. You know your best friend ain't going for that,
but you're gonna lure your best friend over there for
her to have sex with your man and then unlive her.
And now you going to jail right along with him
because you lured her there so you can make your

(12:08):
hug your man, happen by sleeping with your best friend
and unliving her man. Stuff like that. So when you
sitting up here going back to a man's putting his
hands on you, and you sitting up here lowering yourself
for these men because you wouldn't be taken care of
because you're like a two year old versus getting up

(12:30):
and basically creating your own in your own empire. You
should never be with a man and not have your
own empire. You should never be with a man and
you don't have your own queendom. You ain't got a
place to go, So you don't never give up your apartments.
You never give up your house. If your house is
paid for, don't get that up. Don't even sell it,

(12:52):
keep it because you never know when you're gonna have
to go back to it. You can't. You can't not
have a safety net, and every woman needs to have
a safety net. That is a part of recovery, having
a safety net. So you can't never be where you
move in with a man and you don't have enough
place to go. So being that you're independent, self sufficient,

(13:15):
and dominant. If he got a problem with he and
the person for you anyway, and you might as well
leave him alone. There are a lot of people that
are not actually kings, and they're actually paupers. There are
a lot of men that don't make enough money to
be kings. So I'm not trying to be mean, but
I'm being real. The main ones that are running off

(13:36):
at the mouth are not the men that actually are kings.
Because a king is never gonna want a woman this week.
He's not. Every king wants a woman that's going to
be dominant, a woman that is feminine, but she if
he's a way for war. So let me break down
why I'm gonna contradict, divide and conquer when it comes

(13:58):
to men. Because if you're away and I'm at this
house by myself and a man comes in his house
and our children in the house, you not here to
defend me. So guess what I should be able to
defend myself. So why do you want me to be
weak and a man come in here and not only
sech to stop me, but underli me and your children.

(14:22):
So now you don't lost your whole entire family. Why
because you was not here to defend me. So all
of this provided protect nonsense is a lie. Because you
cannot protect your girl twenty four eight, not of you
at work now, if you're with your homeboys, not if
you're with your mom, and I'm somewhere, you can't protect

(14:43):
me at all times. So no man should ever want
a woman that wants to be taken care of financially.
A man should want a woman that is a helpmate.
And a helpmate let me. Let me go ahead on
and pull up my information and the glasses. Y'all know,
I gotta look some stuff up, so bear with me

(15:04):
a minute. I'm gonna have to look it up on
my tablet cause I need. Now we're gonna look up
the definition of a helpmate, but I gotta turn my
computer on. So while I'm waiting on my computer to
my lap my tablet to come on, I need y'all

(15:26):
to understand. A helpmate is not somebody that just cooks
and clean. A helpmate is someone that helps with the bills.
Is someone that everybody has to decide what their role is.
And there are some men that don't know how to
pay bills, and there are a lot of women that do.
So there are some women that are more responsible when
they come to paying bills than men are. So all

(15:48):
of this, a man is supposed to pay the bills.
How when you don't make enough? How when you're in
a society that needs a lower class. How how's that
bout that? Why I said, I can't with y'all. Y'all
say stuff and you contradict what you say, and that's
the problem is too many contradictions. So when it comes
to walking contradictions with men, there are women that are

(16:11):
going to have to step in those roles and they're
going to have to pretty much be the one to
be the breadwinner. There are women out here that will
sit there and be able to be better at business
than a man is. So yes, there are women that
are better that are more so suited for a business
than a man. I hate to say that, but it's

(16:34):
the truth. So the fact that you got an issue
with your girl because you make more money than you,
that should give you the inspiration to want to get
off your behind and stop being lazy. All it is
is you want to be lazy. You want her to
see potential in you operative word potential. No, y'all want
us to invest in you while you sit around and

(16:56):
mess around multiple women. What is the definition of a
helpmate when it comes to the Bible? Mm hm, m
mmm mmm. What is the definition of a helpmate when
it comes to the Bible. I don't want this thing,

(17:18):
don't want to work. Hey, Lou, I have a new
I have a new computer, new laptop, and this thing
just does not want to cooperated my type. But yeah,
I just need people to understand. Y'all need to go

(17:40):
ahead on somewhere and get out these fairy tales, because
y'all need to get out these fairy tales. Cause these
fairy tales are not good at all. So I get it,
I even understand it. But no, oh, now I want
to work. Y'all got to get I gotta take this
this thing from TikTok and it just gets and this

(18:04):
this tablet it's it's okay, okay, let me tap. I
am trying to tap the mic. Never man. But anyway,
like I said, a lot of y'all are sitting up
here and y'all allowing these m not allowing these men
to do whatever they want to. Y'all feed into the

(18:25):
swinging and the threesomes. And look what happened with Tianna
Taylor's look what happened to that, and how that didn't
work out very well. That didn't work out well at all. So,
like I said, all this stuff y'all trying to do
for men, I don't care what you do, you still
with the same result. It don't matter. It don't matter
at all. So I tell women, the best thing for

(18:47):
you to do in all honesty is, like I said,
keep your keep your legs closed, because if you really
want to know I for a member, you close your
legs and see what happened. Like I said, show that
man what you will look like and see what happened.
So I need people to understand y'all think I'm playing.

(19:09):
Healing is when you show people what you really look
like and you see how they treat you, when they
treat you a certain way, then that right there to
tell you those are enough people you need to be with.
But yet you're told to go out there and show
off everything and go out there and be with as
many men as you can. Know it's the opposite being modest.

(19:31):
Being modest, let's think, get them a nervese. Now, I
don't want to work today. So, like I said, it's
just funny when I sit here and I listen to
women and they're talking about, well, I'm married and I

(19:51):
got this great relationship. Do you do you have a
great relationship or are you just saying that because you
just want to be you want to make somebody jealous. Okay,
got it? Got it now. Like I said, I don't
be believing when people say that they have these perfect relationships.
I don't believe it at all. I believe that be

(20:12):
a lie. Just like all of y'all keep thinking that
Tianna Taylor's dating Aaron Pierre. I don't believe that either, because,
trust me, if she was dating Aaron Pierre, trust and
believe you would see them together. She got issues with
her baby daddy. So let me give you an example
why women don't need to be having children, especially now.
Number one, that man is going to cause problems in

(20:35):
your new relationship because he ain't gonna want you to date.
He ain't gonna wants you to be with nobody. He
gonna wants you to be by yourself, alone with his
kid while he does whatever it is that he wants
to do. Y'all need to go ahead on and let
them go and stop having all these babies. Stop thinking
that every man is gonna be different, because guess what, dang,

(20:59):
they are not gonna be different. Some of them will
be different in certain areas, but that does not mean
that they're going to be perfect when they come to
certain things, because they're not. And that's why I'm telling
y'all as somebody that's fifty years old, I'm gonna keep
it one hundred y'all. Young girls need to be traveling
the world, seeing the world, you know, living your dreams,

(21:22):
and not worrying about these men. I wouldn't even be
worrying about, honestly, a relationship at that age. I would
be going, I'll be going out of the country. I
would be seeing the world. I wouldn't even be worrying them.
Not no man in twenty twenty five, I just wouldn't
be me personally. And that's not even me being mean.
I'm just saying, as a life coach, where has these
relationships gotten, y'all? I'm trying to understand my talents acting crazy,

(21:47):
But where has he gotten y'all being in these relationships?
Because how many men have y'all been with? How many
of y'all have been with more than ten men? And
you think that you're with ten men because you just said,
I want to be with ten men. I just want
to be promiscuous. Or is it the fact that every
man that you with you thought was gonna be different.
And you thought by giving your body to this man

(22:10):
that this man was gonna be faithful to you. You
thought by paying, helping him pay his bills and putting
stuff in your name, that man was gonna be with you.
You thought by being faithful, that man was gonna be
with you. Honey, you are a seat filler. Honey, let
me tell you something. You be amazed how these men
sit up here and the way they sit around. They
talk about black women. They don't like black women, they

(22:34):
don't they wan't Caucasian women. And I tell him, go
ahead on and take your preference. Whatever your preference is.
I want you to have that because black women need
to get it in their head. You can do bad
by yourself. But if y'all don't start making these men
waits and stop having sex with them, and stop giving

(22:56):
your bodies to these men, you think you gonna get
a different result. As soon as he has sex with you,
he gonna change. And y'all don't pay attention to that.
Honna they come over, and I'm gonna say something, and
please understand where I'm going with this. A man will
tell you come and get you over JJ. And you

(23:19):
were like, I'm not telling you that because you don't
even take me nowhere. Oh so now I gotta take
you somewhere. You absolutely do. I'm not giving you mother
JJ because the fact you because you want to come over? No,
because then what do most of these men do. They
leave as soon as they get finished. What do they do?

(23:39):
They go right back to what they're doing. So it's
not about them being with you, laying next to you,
fall asleep with you. No, it's about them getting they
rock salt. Ninety nine point nine nine nine nine nine
percent of women complain that they are only being intimate
with a man when when they want to, not when

(24:01):
they feel like it when he wants to. So, y'all
gonna stop playing my face with the lies, y'all be
telling seriously because you lying. Y'all are sitting up here
trying to please men that will never reciprocate it, and
they never gonna give you what you give them. So
that's why I say, I sit right here and laugh

(24:22):
because I don't care if the girl is the most
beautiful woman in the world. Look at Holly Berry and
what she said every boy the time she can't kill
a man. She's like, why would I keep somebody that's
not good for me? And I agree, So in the
day you as far as keeping people, y'all need to
hang that up, because I ain't gonna geping nobody either. You
gonna leave them, somebody gonna leave you, gonna leave them,

(24:43):
They gonna leave you, somebody gonna die. I'm gonna be
as transparent as I can. And that's the one thing
that I learned the hard truth about. I'm only gonna
be with somebody until it's over with, and then I'm
gonna move on immediately. I'm not sitting around waiting if
it's over I'm moving on at the end of the day.
Marriage is not that sheet of paper. I don't know
why y'all think marriage is that sheet of paper. I

(25:05):
am really trying to pull this up in my computer.
My tablet is giving me the hardest time because it
keeps pulling up women's madness, and I'm like, that's not
what I'm trying to pull up. But it don't want
to cooperate. Today. So let me try you. Let me
try you too, fus ago And I got this tablet
from TikTok shop and now it don't want to work properly.

(25:28):
But anyway, why I'm stating there trying to go through
it through YouTube because I ain't had no choice but
to do it through YouTube. Unfortunate. But I need people
to understand that when you are in relationships, just understand
that they don't last. They're not gonna last, and if
they do, they're gonna gonna last till you die. They're

(25:49):
only gonna last until you die. They're only gonna last
until the other person on whichever one of y'all is
tired and or they get caught or you leave because
this person is not doing what you want them to do.
Pretty much, Yeah, I gotta get this thing look at So, Yeah,

(26:13):
you sitting up here trying to make these men do
something they just ain't gonna do. See. The problem is
women see men in the way you want to see
them or not what they really are. And y'all need
to start seeing people for what they are and decide
based on what you see whether or not you stial
with them or not. And I say that specifically for
black women, because y'all definitely are the ones doing that.

(26:36):
Y'all up here dating these men that don't want you.
Y'all sit it on these cameras mad because these men
don't unt you. I don't understand why, because I don't care.
They don't have to want me, and I don't care
if they do or don't. But y'all up here worrying
about these men. Oh my god, these men don't want me.
Why is it black men want other women because that's

(26:57):
their preference. Honey, you can't stand in the way of
so man's preference. As soon as he says he likes
white women, don't even date him at this point. See,
the problem is y'all chase after these people even when
they don't want you. They've told you they don't want you,
and yet you continue to want them anyway they don't
want you. Let it go, move on. Let me tell

(27:19):
you something about the thing I love about Selena Godmanz,
and I love the fact that she's doing this. Selena
walked away from Justin, and y'all need to start walking
away from these men the minute they tell you they
just want friends with benefits. Walk away. The men they
tell you that they're messing around with multiple women community,
you know what, leave them where they are leading with it.

(27:46):
Stop trying to be with men that just are gonna
be with multiple women. The minute you even hear the
word multiple women. The minute you ask them how many
women have you had sex with? I don't know if
it's anything over fifty women. Y'all need to leave that
alone because that man ain't never gonna be faith But
let me tell you the truth based on what I

(28:07):
know about why these men want other racist women. And
for those of y'all who are Caucasian women, you might
want to hear me because y'all ain't gonna like what
I'm getting to say. But I'm gonna tell you the truth,
the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. So help
you God, Why these men want other racest women? Number one,
the real world and role rules. Let me start there.

(28:31):
Do y'all remember the real world? And do you remember
how if you watch sex in the city, the first
porn industry playboy, who are all the who were the
first ones that did porn? Was it black women or
was it Caucasian women? They think that Caucasian women are freaks.
So let me. Let me explain the difference in this situation. See,

(28:54):
Caucasian women can be freaks. Caucasian women can have one
nice stance. Caucasian women can do three, do whatever, and
they'll still get a husband. You won't. That's not gonna
happen for you. So Black women, y'all need to stop
at this point because you're never gonna be able to
do what Caucasian women do. You're never gonna be able
to do only fans and these men not throwing in

(29:15):
your face. It just ain't gonna happen. So I don't
know why you do it. Y'all up here trying to
sit up here and do all this stuff. Y'all need
to let it go and understand that these men are
not going to sit up here and accept the fact
that you are uphill and doing only fans. No, black

(29:37):
women can't do any fans. Black women can't be strippers,
Black women can't do this. But yet, and still you're
going to the strip club where all the black women are,
and yet you're still messing with women that are street walkers.
But yet you don't want your girlfriend to be that.
You sit up here and you talk to girl when
she was wearing this thing outfitst and now you're telling
her that she that you don't want her to wear.

(29:58):
See how to walking contradiction. That's why I came at
this point. It's the lies for me, and that's why
I said, I just cannot sit up here and listen
to the nonsense when men say where I want women to,
you know, black women to submit, submit to one. Y'all

(30:20):
don't make enough. Y'all ain't nowhere near on the level
of Eon Musk or Jeff Bezos or Mark Zuckerberg or
Steve Job. God, God rest his soul. What did you
make that's worth one hundred and fifty billion dollars? I'm
waiting on that because even Lebron James is not even

(30:41):
worth one hundred and fifty billion. So do me favorite
until you until y'all can get past one point something
billion dollars. Please stop talking to me at this point
because the majority of black men make under forty one
thousand dollars a year. So I'm not gonna sit up
here and listen to a black man telling me to submit.
But you made forty one thousand dollars a year, and

(31:04):
yet and still you don't have the money but yet
you want me to build you so you can get
these women that you want. All it is is Caucasian
women are allowed to be freaks. They're allowed to be
in their sexuality and it's okay for them to do it.
Caucasian women can be bisexual and it's okay for them

(31:27):
to do it. Caucasian women can go and buy dial
thos and do all that stuff. As far as sexual stuff,
you can't do it. As a black woman. You can't.
And that's why I need y'all to stop. You can't
do it. You are never gonna be able to do
what a Caucasian woman does sexually. That's why they want them.

(31:48):
They want them because they're freaks. They want them because
they'll do the free the three something man. I can
show y'all some stuff right now that I have seen
the other day, my friend and sends me videos of
these girls from Columbia twerking and dancing and stuff like that,
and it's okay for them to do it. They do
the exact same thing you do, but you're the ones

(32:11):
that's getting called out for it. They do it too,
it's just not exposed. And not only that, they don't
even understand the majority of the women in the industry,
there are men that are telling them to be sexual.
They don't want to do it, but the men are
telling them they have to. That's why black women right
now when it comes to pop music and country music

(32:34):
ain't on the same level. Why you think that Chloe's
not where she need to be. All she talks about
is sex. And then everybody's mad at Holly because Halle's
going in a different direction, not understanding Holly don't want
to talk about sex, shout outs to her, but they're
trying to make her do that. That's why she did
that song about love you Babe, because they're trying to

(32:57):
make her more sexual. And she's not trying to go
that way. And I don't blame her. And she got
a baby. She ain't trying to go that way. So
it's just like Normani. They made Normani do nothing but
talk about sex. So at the end of the day,
any of our women talking about nothing except sex. David

(33:18):
Ja Jakes and that's all they talk about the rap industry.
So at the end of the day, Nah, we ain't
doing that. Y'all saw Biggie and what Biggie did a
little Kim Little Kim just wanted wanted the rap he
dodn't want to tell her you need to go out
there and beat a black barbie. Go out there and
show all your stuff. That was Biggie that did that.

(33:39):
Every single female in the industry and hip hop will
tell you it's these men that be telling them to
go out there and show off everything. Trina has said
it all the time. They want them wearing them heels,
they want them wearing all this stuff. You think that
Quality Music wasn't telling Young Miami and JC to come

(34:00):
out the way they came out. You think somebody's not
telling Sexy Bred to go out there and do what
she does. Man, y'all better go ahead on somemer. Y'all
better stop believing that these women just out here doing
no They're doing it because that's what these men are
telling them to do. Because sex sells, even in the
fashion in dusty industry. Sex cells so, but it sells

(34:25):
for who cause it don't sell for black women because
the only thing black men are doing nothing is throwing
in your face the fact that you're out here doing
that mess. Black men are not Caucasian men. Caucasian men
don't care about them girls out there doing only fans.
They don't care about that. They get to benefit from it.
They get to benefit from it. Looking and you Tay

(34:47):
and all the women he allegedly took advantage of on
them webcams, that's not black women, because black women ain't
never gonna allow black men to get away with that. So,
if you want to know the real reason, they won't
Caucasian women, they won't Caucasian women because Caucasian women represent success.
That's why. And it's always been that way. It has

(35:10):
always been that way, where Caucasian women represent success, they
represent money, and every time a black man gets successful,
they're told, you need to get rid of that black woman,
and you need to get you a snowbody. You need
to get you this girl, this girl, this girl here.
That's non black. Majority of the cheerleaders, in the athletes,

(35:31):
all sports are a majority either white or or either
they're biracial or they're hispanic. There are not too many
dark skinned women that even have access to the men

(35:51):
that you won't. You don't, you don't have access to them.
And the truth is, I'm gonna say something, why these
men are treating y'all this way? It ain't got nothing
to do with the reasons y'all think the first prostitutes
in this country were biracial, light skinned women. Light skinned

(36:15):
women show with Soldi's prostitutes during slavery, and I need
dark skinned women to understand. Light skinned women went through
it way worse than what you might think. Light skinned
girls were raised to be nothing but sex. That's why
they even in today's society, why light skinned girls are

(36:37):
looked at as the same as a dumb blonde. So
the same way you have redheads and you got brown
haired girls, and then you have women that have blonde hair,
and why they call them dumb blonds. Well, guess what,
the same thing in the black community. Light skinned women
are basically dumb blonds except in the African community or

(36:59):
African descent community. That's why they won't light skinned women
because they're close to white. And like I said, you'll
be amazed how many Caucasian women, like I said, do
not have to deal with if they stuff get leaked out.
They don't care. Honey, I've watched I've watched the show.

(37:20):
These come on Cinemax when Cinemax used to sew like
theys are so certain types of porn or whatever the
case may be. And they talked about how Caucasian women,
even if they do porn, even if they do anything
in the sex industry, even if they have a lot
of sex partners, they still gonna get a husband. Even

(37:42):
if that girl is overweight, She's still gonna get a
husband no matter what. A Caucasian girl is going to
get a husband no matter what. But us, on the
other hand, that's not gonna be the case because even
though black women, you know, like Lizzo and all them are,
it's as heavy. They ain't gonna get a hundred, you
got flaws and im profection, you ain't gonna get a husband.

(38:06):
Because black men all they care about is looks. All
they care about is the fact that they want. A
female is gonna let them do what they want, to
be a seat filler while they out here cheating, messing
around with other women. But then when they go to
court and they gotta pay, happen, happen everything, and then
all of a sudden, it's, oh my god, how can
I just went out here and did this. No, you

(38:27):
did this to yourself, Homer, you did this to yourself.
So I want people to understand that black women you
can't do what Caucasian women do and get away with it.
You just can't. And it's nothing personal towards Caucasian women.
They are this standard, they're the standard when it comes

(38:49):
to the modeling industry. Do you think clothes are catered
to black women? Do you really think makeup is catered
to black You know what, let me go ahead says
black women ain't supposed to be wearing makeup unless you
got it matter. In fact, let me tell you the
history of makeup so that way everybody can understand. Makeup
was never for women that did not have nothing wrong
with their faces. The reason why makeup was even created

(39:10):
because there were a lot of men that were putting
their hands on women, and in order to cover up
the bruises, they use makeup. If you had ezema, if
you had if you had acne really bad, you were
a makeup to cover it up. You are not supposed
to be wearing makeup if you have nothing wrong with
your face. If you are someone that go only skin,

(39:32):
you ain't supposed to be wearing makeup no way, but
just y'all put it on if you notice that your
skin looks glossy because you have very only skin. Do
you not know these chemicals get into your skin and
get into your pores, which is the reason why y'all
look older than what you are. For those of y'all
who don't wear makeup, y'all gonna look younger. Lipstick is

(39:54):
one thing, eye shadows one thing, But all that contour
and blush and ca seiler that's just way too much.
Y'all are putting stuff in your skin that's gonna make
you look old. Do you not know the chemicals that
are in in makeup causes you the age. If you
look at Kim Kardashi and all them without makeup, do

(40:16):
you realize how old they look? Makeup ages you, And
yet y'all keep putting it up. It was never meant
for y'all. The only one that's supposed to be wearing
makeup is people that got hit in the face and
they are trying to cover up the bruises. Other than that,

(40:39):
y'all ain't supposed to be wearing it, But yet you are.
So Again, if y'all don't know the history of something,
then you need to gonna look it up, because it
is true. That's the whole point of wearing makeup. It
wasn't because people wearing makeup just be wearing makeup. They
wear a makeup to cover up flaws and imperfections or

(40:59):
for spiritual reason. So if your spirituality is where y'all
wear a certain makeup, then that's what you did, and
that's for the culture, but not just be warning to
be wearing it. No m M, but I get it.
I do. But y'all got to stop thinking that you

(41:22):
can be somebody that you're not. If you somebody that's
an intellect, then being sexual is not gonna be you.
If you somebody that don't get breast, that's okay. You
just ain't got none love the body that you in't.
Trust me, I can tell you how to grow your breasts,
and there's one sure find way to do it. Yeah,

(41:43):
it ain't that hard. But I can't talk about on him.
At the end of the day, Like I said, y'all
need to love yourself to stop worrying about everybody else
and with everybody else got something saying about y'all for
some reason, why does it matter? At the end of
the day, Black women, if these men don't want you,
please stop fighting for just walk away. Just walk away.

(42:04):
I know being alone is hard. I know doing it
by yourself is hard, but I'd rather do it by
myself to be with somebody that's gonna tell me they
want me to quit my job and quit my dreams.
And then I end up pregnant and now I got
a baby to raise while this man moves on to
the next chick. I'm sorry, I'm just not gonna do that.
I'm not doing that. I'm sorry. I'm just not And

(42:27):
in my own recovery, when I look back at all
these men and having sex with them, I wasted so
much time. And what made me stop was a dude
that I don't know if he had sex that day
or what happened, but the energy that I felt from
that female. I quit. Not only that I don't want

(42:52):
multiple partners. I don't. And if you somebody that don't
want to have multiple partners, then yeah, you gonna be.
You're gonna have to quit. You have to say no
quite often because I'm not trying to be with a
man and sleep with another woman. I'm not trying to
be the man that won't be community. You know what,
I just say no it, I'm sorry. I have standards.

(43:13):
I have standards for her, and I have standards for myself,
and y'all need to get some standards when it comes
to what's between your legs. Y'all have absolutely no standards
for what's between your legs. All you care about is
a dollar that you can get out there and get
yourself verse depending on these men to give you a dollar.
You think Chris Brown care about y'all? You think if
you miss you think if you meet Chris Brown and

(43:36):
you think he gonna look at you and think, it's
not gonna be another chick man. As long as these
dudes got their mamas, they are never gonna do right
by you. Let me say it again, Chris Brown is
a mama's boy. That man is never gonna get married.
As long as that woman is still living. As long
as his mother is still living, he ain't never gonna
get married. Trey Songs, Mama, it's still alive. As long

(43:58):
as she's still living, you ain't never gonna get them.
These men only love one woman. That's their mamas. They
grandmas and they and they siblings. That is it, or
they immediate family or homegirl. But for the rest of y'all,
you just another name, another body that they don't even remember.

(44:19):
They don't care. They don't care at all. And yet
you think you're different. Well, guess what the one before
you said the same thing, and where she at? Single?
All these women, these men are sleeping with, all of

(44:42):
them probably thought the same thing that they did. All
these things they would get these men, and this just
does not apply to black women's. Plus, all women y'all
are chasing after men that basically a sense. You may
say they don't want y'all being side chicks, that'll be
a lie. They love the fact that having side chicks

(45:02):
and they enjoy it. So now I'm missing what y'all
talking about as black women. Consider everything our ancestors that
women went through. You're the last one that should be
out here being permissions, y'all, the last one that should
be out here giving your body to a man for
a dollar. So what makes you better than a hope?
What made you better than a prostitute? What makes you

(45:23):
better than a street walker? What makes you better than
a porn star or or any of that? What makes
you better? Oh? You mean, because you're a normal girl
and you're not in a strip love, but you out
here having sas with men? No different than strippers. And
you think you better. Okay, okay, guess what you not?

(45:45):
You are not any better than any of these other
females out here that are out here in the in
the sex industry, cause you're doing the exact same thing.
You're giving your body to men that's never gonna marry you.
You're in relationships with a man that's not gonna put
a ring on your finger, and you shouldn't be living
with a man until he does that. Way, you ain't

(46:06):
gotta worry about it if that man can't court you
where he's supposed to coach court you. But then again,
he can't because he don't have an example, because why
he doesn't have a daddy, because majority of kids are
single mothers, have single mothers and no father. And even
if the father is there, he ain't around long enough
because he moves over the next check, and that like
he ain't got kids. Please don't make me have to

(46:28):
gohere today, because I hate to have to do this.
But where are all these men at when y'all get
pregnant and you gotta raise them by yourself? Where are
all these men at when every other week they complain
about coming to get these kids every other week, and
they gotta pick them up. And now they pissed off
because they lay for work and they gotta go pick
him up in school. You know what they gonna do,

(46:50):
get a female to come in and do it. Honey.
They just need you for whatever purpose they need you voe.
And then when you don't serve their purpose and you
get on their nerves, they gonna leave you. That's what
they do. I apeak these games a long time ago,
so I'm gonna say it. The only time men gona
date is when they need somebody, and that's it. See,

(47:17):
you might all let it go and just walk away
and move. So, like I said, ain't no point of
being out here having sex with these dudes just having
sex randomly. It don't benefit you. You don't want to go
get pregnant. I don't know why women think y'all can
do the same things that men can do. You can't

(47:38):
not when it comes to that. And then the average
male only lasts between forty five minutes from a couple
seconds to maybod thirty minutes on average unless they take
a viger. And then depending on what moved you in
determines if it works or not. If you pissed off,
then guess what if you take some ecstasy pills, guess

(47:59):
what you gonna be whatever mood you're gonna be in
based upon that. So no, that mess don't work. There's
only one thing abstinence not having sex to marriage and
y'all grow together. If that person can't understand that you
ain't trying to have sex to marriage, and they can't
understand that and they don't want to do it, then

(48:20):
guess what. That ain't the person for you? Off the
rip And if y'all thought like that, you wouldn't have
gave your body to these men. You would have kept
your stands. I don't care what he says. If you
love me, you have sex me. If you love me,
you wait. And if you can't wait, then you ain't
the one for me. Stop being alone with these men

(48:40):
and go into their cribs. If you not gonna have sex.
That's why women, that's why these girls end up being
say because y'all out here going to these frat parties,
these dudes putting something in your drink. Now you being
gang art. When y'all better stop going to these parties,
lead them parties when they add when you get where

(49:01):
you where you need to be, then you can go party.
But if you are tryna basically get yourself together as
a as a woman, and you tryna run a business
or whatever it is you tryna do, do that first
start dating when you turn twenty five. I wouldn't even
be thinking about no man in high school. I wouldn't

(49:21):
even think about that young boy in high school. That
mess wouldn't even pay me this shit. I was like
that when I was younger. I didn't even like boys.
At first. I hated boys. I thought boys were stupid.
It wasn't until I got older. But I had daddy
issues though, and a lot of y'all do got daddy issues.
Y'all got parent issues that you think a ma a

(49:44):
a young boy can fix. So no, I'm not gonna
speak to grown men. I'm'a speak to young boys, cause
y'all act like these young boys ain't the reason these
girls are getting pregnant by the time they turn twenty one. No,
any these young boys getting these girls pregnant because men
are telling them go out there and be it as
many women as they can. Please stop playing my face
at this one. Please, We'll love it. God, stop playing

(50:07):
my face at the end of the day, Like I said,
y'all sitting up here settling for men that you know
that don't even deserve you. But yet you won't go
outside of your race, and there's somebody that will. We're
in a country where you have the right to do
that you do, soe I need y'all to go ahead

(50:32):
on with the lives of this point seriously, because if
women really stop being side chicks and stop being in
a sex industry, do you know how much money men
would lose if women stop wanting to be beautiful and
actually be who they are? Do you know how pissed
off men would be if we actually just retaliated and
just say, you know what, we as black women are

(50:52):
not gonna mess with another woman's husband. We're not gonna
be sitting up here trying to show y'all what's the
point you don't like black women. I promise you you'll
see a different result. So instead of getting out here
trying to attract these men in it sexually matter, dress
down and see what happened. Dress down and see how
many men approach you. Then that right there'll tell you

(51:15):
you need to change, because, like I said, why is
it that you have to wear makeup and do all
this stuff just to get a man's attention. None of
y'all don't never think about that. Why do you have
to do that? You shouldn't, but you are. And yet
and still I'm able to sit and wait and see

(51:38):
what's wrong with them. So I'm saying is make it
make sense. Make it make sense. So I got said,
black women deserve so much better than what y'all get.
And like I said, these black men don't want you.

(52:01):
Find you somebody who do. Find a man that acts
you do care about you. Find a man, regardless of
what he looked like, if he treats you well, then
that's who you need to be with. Y'all need to
be with men that the godly men that men are.
They about their purpose. Having These dudes are not on
no purpose. Having these dudes are just about having men

(52:21):
having money so they can get women. All that stuff
they do is for women. It ain't for them. It's
for women because most women are lord based upon money,
not based upon the fact that you like that man.
Most of y'all don't even know nothing about that man.
It's about the money, and that's all y'all care about
is the money. You don't care nothing about that man

(52:45):
in any other way. So, like I said, if y'all
would stop showing everything makes somebody think you broke, you
gonna see how many people know, how many people don't
want to f with you. But then as soon as
you get some money, here come everybody that's been in
your face and never been in your faith. Befoe, Nah,
we ain't no mm hm. That is the reason why
I'm saying in recovery, it's the opposite. When you recovered,

(53:06):
it ain't about being pretty no more. No, this is
what I look like, This is who I am. Take
me and they am gonna let me. Because now you're
gonna know who really like you versus you being something
that you ain't. That's how you know if somebody truly
care about you, Because number one, they gonna be okay
what you look like, and they still gonna think you

(53:27):
cute with it without makeup. They still gonna think you cute,
whether you dressed down or whether you ain't. You and men,
when Gina went to the point where you men, when
Gina came in, when when Gina was gonna go today
Martin's family reunion and you remember what happened to her
face and stuff like that, and how you know they
were trying to get or not to go, and she

(53:48):
ended up going anyway. And even though your face was
the way it did, Martin still claimed her. That's my point.
Sometimes you gotta dress down to see if a man
really likes you, if a man like you without makeup,
if a man can accept your flaws and imperfection, and
most importantly, if he is celibant, if he is trying

(54:09):
to cleanse himself for all them women that he's been
messing with, and he is taking some time to be celibate,
just like Moses when it came to Country Wayne, he
would celibating. What did Brittany do broke her celibacy to
go and be with somebody that ain't worth it? I'm sorry, No,
I just can't. So all I can say is good luck,

(54:42):
y'all gonna need it, because if black women don't stop
trying to understand, we're tribal people. We're not horrors. Were
tribal people. If you notice when y'all beach working, that
ain't nothing but tribal. We are tribal people. We're not
of chaos and destruction. So what I'm gonna do is

(55:13):
mind my bi ei isness and go to bed. So
what I'm gonna do is give the bed because I
was up to four o'clock in the morning. I ain't
trying to be a bleep, but I just wanna do

(55:33):
this podcast because I am so tired of black women
thinking you can do with other races of women can
and you don't. You can't, You can't. Y'all can't be
out here doing what they do. You're gonna have to
be different, meaning it's gonna have to be on your
your intellect. And like I said, if if you look

(55:54):
at Britney's pears right now, look at what she doing,
What's what's different than what Britney is doing and what
y'all doing. Nothing, But yet nobody is telling them. Brittany
and she's wrong being panties and a T shirt dance
and nobody is telling her she's wrong. But let that
be a black woman doing that. Oh, it be a
whole nother conversation. That's why I say, the double standards,
that's why you can't do it. The double standards is

(56:15):
weird real and there are a lot of men that
is they preference when when you see their preferences, and
you see their exes, and you see the majority of
them are white. That right there is telling you leave
him alone. And I know it ain't gonna be easy,
but y'all need to wait and let God bring your husband.
Matter of fact, don't even look for nothing. Don't even

(56:36):
go on no dating site, don't do nothing. Just go
mind your business. Now you tell God. Now let me
tell you what you do. You don't just sit up
here and tell God. I want a man that's attractive.
I want a man that got money. No, that is
not what you say. You tell them, you tell you

(56:56):
telling them. Simply put. I want a man that number
one is a man of God and he's working in
his purpose. Number two, I want a man that is
either celibate a vision or not married or are not
you know, entertaining women to marriage. I want a man
that proves that he loves me through his actions. A

(57:17):
man that has a sermon, a man that is disciplined,
A man that if he is in a in a
room with a beautiful woman, drop dead, gorgeous butt ball naked,
he gonna walk out. I want a man to understands
the Biblical version of marriage. The Biblical version of relationships
and is in the Word and understands it's not easy.

(57:47):
So all I'm telling you is, y'all need to get
it to go seriously. So, like I said, y'all can't

(58:08):
do what these other females do. Like I said, these
girls can have multiple different dates and it's okay for
them to do it. It's I mean, Taylor Swift, I'm
I'm gonna use Taylor. Taylor. I love you girl, but
i'm'a have to use you. Taylor has is a serial dater.
Every man she's dealt with has cheated on her. Seli

(58:29):
and gold Mask ten years with Justin Bieble and put
her through hem. You got Jason Deludo's baby mama who
he cheated on, cheated on Jordan's or Sparks. So it
don't matter what race you are, all they see is sex.

(58:52):
They want you to be the girl that's gonna be
the seed Phillip. And when they wanna get they rocks off.
When they want you to put something in your name
and they want you to give them some money, that's
when they coming to you. But they're not coming to
you in any other way, shape or fashion. That's why
when they when you say, you know what, no mum hmm,
no so no mmmm we about to do that today.

(59:19):
M hmm. People have lost their minds. So, like I said,
you know, we have to wait and see what happens
with black women. Please put your crown on. Please dress

(59:40):
like you a queen. Please find out what the difference
is between the salad fork and a regular for Please
go take etiquette classes because either you're gonna be a
queen or you gonna be a Harley sucking bitter or
a Jezebel j'apnna start making up your minds because like
I said, these men you are only looking at y'all

(01:00:01):
for lust. They're not looking for you. As far as
being committed, marriage is nothing but a female that's gonna
be a god for second seat filler and a single mother.
And whether she married or whether she is, she's single.
They just want to crokate, pro create, but don't want
to take care of these kids. I'm sorry, I ain't

(01:00:21):
doing it. I have one. I ain't doing it. And
when I started coming to these realizations about what sex
really was, I said, absolutely not. So with that being said,
I think that's infamy for this week. But I just
want to come on here and tell y'all close your legs.
If these men don't want you, leave them where they are.

(01:00:45):
It's okay for them not to want you. Rejection's not
the end of the world. That just ain't the person
for you. If somebody don't want you to be in
a group, that ain't meant to the group that's meant
for you to be there, leave them alone. It ain't
meant for you to be there, that's all. You ain't
supposed to be them type people. But yet y'all still
be trying to get back over there with the people.
I don't understand why, but you do me personally, not

(01:01:07):
really at the end of the day when I start
getting out after I move, honey, No, I'm very selective
a boy who I bring into my world, honey, my
piece and tranquility, Honey. I pay my own bills. I've
been paying my own bills my whole entire life, except
my daddy when I was a kid. But I have
a father, and like I said, my sister was married.

(01:01:29):
I wasn't. They all wanted my sister, they didn't want me.
So now I realize. Now let me tell you now,
he'll has helped me in this situation. I'm no longer
an option for men. No more. I am no longer
an option for men. I don't go on any social
media platform. I do not post any pictures, no sexy pictures,

(01:01:50):
no nothing. I don't do none of that. Why cause
there's only one man that needs to see that, and
that's the man I'm in a relationship with. So no,
I let me and see what I really look like.
If you're gonna accept me, you're gonna accept me. If
you ain't, you ain't. I got men all the time
saying tell me that you want this. Nope, I ain't
telling you none of that because the only thing you're
gonna do is come over here and you're gonna leave. Nope,

(01:02:12):
I'm not messing with a man that you want to
gonna be here for a good what thirty minutes? And
let me also bring up something else. Majority of y'all
are not even getting four play you are. You are
basically having sex like you a porn star, And y'all
need paying attention to none of that because all you
want is just to be with a man, and that

(01:02:33):
ain't nothing but tap behavior. And I ain't mad at
these young generation of girls saying, now I don't want kids.
I'm not mad, and why would I want kids? And
I'm gonna be a single mother. Why would I wanna
lure myself for a man and gonna do nothing but
destroy my life? And that, and then when you give
out forty five, you gonna be mad because for eighteen
years you had to raise a child and all the

(01:02:55):
traveling that you want to do, because your parents certainly
are not gonna raise your kids and twins withy five.
Parents are not raising kids, So y'all can hang that up.
They ain't They're not this new generation of parents. No,
I ain't watching your kids. They're only gonna watch And
the and the reason they will not raise raise your kids.

(01:03:15):
Nobody raised dours. And not only that, our parents said, no,
y'all laid down and have these kids. You gonna you're
gonna have to raise them. But see, if I would
have aborted my child, I would have had no child.
I wouldn't been there to have another one. So at
the end of the thing, mine's blessed. Don't get me wrong,

(01:03:37):
But you don't know if your child will have a disability,
and then what if you can't afford to take them
and and they tell him, I'll take away section eight
in housing. What y'all gonna do? Then? Now y'all gonna
play full rents? Seriously, See, y'all need to talking nonsense.
It don't make no sense. Men need stop lying to women.

(01:04:01):
Just say, y'all, y'all just say it for what it is.
You don't want to be alone. And I notice everybody
keeps saying or being alone is the worst thing in
the world. No, it ain't. That's a bold face a lie,
because when God wants you to be alone with him,
it ain't nobody else but you and God. And that's it.
When you on that God for sakend that table have

(01:04:24):
a surgeon, you better pray to God that God got
his hands on all the people that's doing that surgeon.
And the end of the day, these people walk out
on you tomorrow. God ain't walking out on you. God
is the only thing that will not walk out on you.
Your own family will walk out on you if we
don't even have the family dynamic. What makes y'all think

(01:04:45):
romantic relationship is gonna work? What determines a romantic relationship?
And where in the Bible does it say that marriage
got something to do with being romantic. It don't none
of that. Ain't got nothing to do with God's virgion
of Marria. Nothing but yet, that's what y'all won't believe. Okay,

(01:05:07):
go ahead on and keep believing in nonsense. Ladies, y'all
got to be just honest with yourself. Black men won't
other raise the women, let them have it. Build your businesses,
build your brands. Don't have no kids, do not sleep
with them, do not depend on them. Do not be
an option. There's your answer right there. Don't even be

(01:05:28):
an option, because in recovery, that's what you're gonna be,
not an option, hone. Even when you get better and
when you when you heal mentally, you ain't. You don't
care whether that your your mom and then love you
no more. You gonna respect them, You're gonna be respectful,
but you're not asking them to love you no more.
You're not asking your parents to give you the love

(01:05:50):
that they didn't give you no more. You ain't even
looking for that even in nobody, looking for that within yourself.
And once you find that in yourself, if you don't care,
whether you alone or not, not saying you don't done
saying that you want to be alone. But if that's
your circumstance, and this society is saying the only women
that can get a man is beauty, then stop lying

(01:06:12):
to unattractive women. Please stop lying at this point. Stop
lying to women say if they change this, if they
do this, No, that's a lot. I'm a testament of that.
That's a lie. It doesn't matter if that, because you
got other people that will turn right back around and
expose that female of what she really used to look like.

(01:06:33):
So no, y'all not playing my face like that. If
people want to expose you, they will expose you. So
there is no no matter what you do, it doesn't
change nothing nothing. These men have their preferences. Stop being
a option, Stop being a seat feelers, kept the save

(01:06:53):
old bill bill dolls. Please stop doing that because it's stupid.
And I know this is hard to hear, but guess what.
That's what recovery leads to you. No longer want to
be a part of man's standards. You want to be
a part of God's standers. And God's standers is Look,
I'm gonna bring you your people, but not by you

(01:07:17):
being promiscuous, not by you being a hurlet a secubiserve Jezebel.
So y'all stop being more modest and stop screaming and
oozing sex. Then you'll get the husband that you won't.
But if you think that husband is gonna be drop
dead gorgeous, no, God ain't gonna bring you no drop

(01:07:40):
dead gorgeous husband. But the devil gonna bring you that.
I play the Devil's African all the time because he
says al Patrino says, the devil is gonna basically bring
you everything you want. The devil is all about man's
desires and fantasies. God I ain't giving you that because

(01:08:02):
God don't want you to feed into that. God don't
want you to be the man because he looks good.
They don't mean that man. They're gonna come in there
and destoy your life. God wants you to be the
man that is of God, not a man that is
a man. And that's your problem. You don't even know
which one is a man of God and which one ain't.
And you're not gonna know about looking at him either.

(01:08:26):
So I get it. I understand it was a hard
pill for me to swallow. But there will be people
that will be alone. And that's because they're on a purpose.
And it can be ten years, twenty years, the rest
of your life. Jesus with thirty three years and never

(01:08:46):
had sex with nobody. He didn't lawyer himself and nobody,
and he sat there quietly while they crucified him the
whole time. Time and yet instill, y'all want to sit
up there and explain yourself, explain yourself for what for what?
What are you putting yourself for? For people to no
matter what, go still think what they think about you,

(01:09:08):
The same people that when you get happy, go try
to destroy everything that you got. Sweet are if you
don't keep stuff to yourself and move in silence. Man,
don't even tell nobody that you're married. Don't even tell them,
matter of fact, don't even have a wedding. Matter of fact,
I'm also gonna stop something else y'all need y'all in
these weddings. Man, look, go to the justice. Let me
tell you the easiest solution to these problems. You really

(01:09:30):
want to make your marriages work? Tell you what, Go
to the justice piece, go to go just you and
him and whoever your mama, your mama, matter of fact,
no matter of fact, don't bring nobody, just you, her
and your too. But whoever it is you want to
stand up for you, that's who you take. Go ahead

(01:09:51):
and get married. Go ahead and get married way to
your tenth anniversary, and didn't have you, no matter of fact,
way to your twenty fifth anniversary, and then have a wed.
Do not have no wed into your twenty fifth anniversary
when y'all know it's gonna be death to your part
because if you do it any of the time before that,
you're gonna be stupid if you do that's an omen.

(01:10:15):
God never said that y'all had to pay fifty thousand
dollars for a God's second wedding. Where do y'all get
this stuff from? You can? You can be on an
ocean in the water with a pastor and go ahead
and get married. And what people don't know is God
ain't chose none of these people's profits, none of them.

(01:10:43):
So y'all need to go ahead on some much because
I'm not even going there, like I said, until I'm
until God bring my person. I'm waiting, And while I'm waiting,
I am building my business and my brand. I am
traveling the world because who knows my husband might be
out of the country and that's fine. But right now,

(01:11:03):
you know what I'm doing, healing, recovering, getting over what
needs to be getting over before I move forward. So
absolutely not. I no longer want to be an option
because I know men don't want me, and I have
people all the time telling me, well, yes, no, please
don't do that. I'm fifty years old. I ain't never

(01:11:23):
gonna be married. I've accepted that. But no, no, if
that's in God's hands at this point, I put that
in God's hands. So when people tell me, oh, well,
if you nope, I'm not doing it. I am not
putting makeup on. I am not gonna sit up here
and be something I'm not. No, I work too hard
to accept myself as I am. Nope, you gonna see
me exactly for what I look like. I'm not going

(01:11:45):
to do that. Why Because I want a man that's
going to see me for all my war wounds and
my flaws represent my war wounds. Honey, I done been
through some things. Now you're gonna see what I went through. Why,
Cause that's the only way you ain't gonna hurt me,
because you see it. A man that sees what you've
been through, and he sees the scars and the bruises. Oh,

(01:12:08):
hangards the ones that hurts you, the ones that can't
see the bruises. So now you don't go cover that
step up. No no, no, no no no. You show
exactly what you've been through. You ain't gotta say nothing.
It'll show. Take it le So, like I said, y'all

(01:12:40):
can have it. I said, I knew it's somebody out
there for me. But like I said, I told God,
he's picking my husband. And God told me, do not
go on no dating sites. Don't do none of that,
because you ain't. I'm not supposed to go and look
for something. If I'm a person of God, I ain't
supposed to go look for noning. God is gonna bring
me what was meant for me. I'm gonna wait. And

(01:13:01):
while I'm waiting, I'm getting my health together. I'm losing weight.
That's what I'm focusing on. I am focusing on my
health and wellness. I am not focused on on nothing else.
I'm not focusing on anything except building my business, my brand,
being a mother to my son, being healthy and being
here a long time for my child. And that's it.
I am not worried about whether I don't get a man.
I raised a kid by myself and don't go wrongan

(01:13:25):
Thad is very much in his life, but it didn't
happen till later on down the line. If y'all think
I'm gonna sit up here and wait for some man, no,
I ain't wait. No nothing. He want to build all
these femails of habit. I'm over it. I'm moving forward,
moving forward. I don't care bet them have it because

(01:13:50):
it don't make me a bit of difference. People gonna
be who they are no matter what, and that's just
this is what it is. So that being said, y'all,
I'm about to go to bed and get some sleep.
But yeah, just stop being men's options. Like I said, iff,

(01:14:12):
black women will stop being men's options altogether. If black
women will respect each other's boundaries when it comes to
men we are dating and not mess with somebody and
dating somebody else, a lot of things will be a
whole lot easier, it would. So yeah, So that being said,

(01:14:37):
I think I've said everything I need to say, because
like I said, I ain't got time for it's nonsense.
I ain't got time for man's standards. I don't care
about man's standings. Y'all can have it. I am recovered
from that. I am recovered. I accept the fact if
people think I'm ugly. I accept the fact that people
think a lot of things. I don't care because I'm
gonna be exactly what you think I am. If you

(01:14:59):
think I'm ugly, I'm gonna be that because I don't
want to be bothered my peace and tranquility. After everything
I've been through, every man has cheated on me. I
would just absolutely not am I doing that again. When
I tell you I'm not doing it again, I'm serious.
I'm not giving my body to another man. No, I'm
not doing that. I'm not being No friends with benefits

(01:15:21):
because it don't work. It don't benefit women. That is
a lie. Threesomes don't benefit of women. That's a lie.
Swinging you don't benefit of women. No, it benefits men.
All this stuff y'all doing is just benefiting men. It
ain't benefiting you at all. But like I said, being
this y'all and I taught this stuff you don't understand.

(01:15:42):
So again, if you get a good man, okay, cool. So,
like I said, I'll be good regardless, no matter what.
But God just told me the weeds. God said, you
need some one on one time with me. So just

(01:16:04):
because I'm alone does not mean that I'm not alone.
God is with me every step of the way. But
God want me to get sleep, which I'm grid to know,
go to bed, get sleep. God want me to heal
and take care of myself medically and heal from all
the damage internally. So yeah, sometimes you're gonna be alone
to heal, not because you lonely, because you need to heal.

(01:16:29):
And if you don't, and if you don't, God is
gonna God is going to shut you down. I'm ana
living testament. I am a testament about God shutting me down.
You think that I'm going through what I'm going through
medically just because no. God shut me down because the
world was tearing me apart literally and God got tired

(01:16:52):
of me suffering, so he pulled me from the world
because the world didn't deserve me. So that's the way
I look at it. These people don't deserve me. They
don't deserve my time, my energy, nothing. You're not gonna
use me, take advantage of me, na and bamboozle me.
We ain't doing none of that. Because at the end
of the day, no uh uh no, So we're not

(01:17:21):
gonna do that today. So, like I said, you are
but the wrong things. It don't matter. All this stuff
y'all think it matters. It don't. When you start healing
and recovering and you look at them, how many times

(01:17:41):
you've been cheating, how many times you've been cheated on,
How these men have always been looking for looking for women,
How these men use you for whatever purpose it is
they want to use you for. You're gonna get sick
of it. And when you think about all these men
and how if you when you start researching what sex
is all lord of y'all gonna be pissed, very very pissed.

(01:18:06):
Y'all gonna be pissed. So if men don't want to be,
don't want you, leave them with it. Point bla beard,
leave them with it. If women don't, if the women
that are only out for money, and I'm gonna throw
a monkey rinch for men as well. If these women

(01:18:27):
only want you for money and don't want to get
to know, you, leave them where they at. It go
both ways. If you have to be, if you have
to be, if you have to go out here, and
get money just for a women to want you. She
ain't the person for your either. I say, leave each
other alone. Call of the day. Personally, if you if

(01:18:48):
you know these men don't want you and that's their preference,
or these women don't want you and and and you're
not their preference, leave them alone. Leave each other alone.
There's your solution right there. Leave each other alone. At
the end of dare black women and black men do
not want each other, Leave each other alone. Stop having sex,

(01:19:12):
stop having children, stop leaving women being single mothers and women.
Stop using these men that y'all don't want. Leave each
other alone. Leave each other alone. Because I am tired
of y'all going at the people that you don't want
and because they got money, or because they look good,

(01:19:33):
or because you just want to have sex with them.
You want to come in in their life and cause
all these god for second damage, damage for what that
person does not deserve to be used or taken advantage of,
especially if they've already been through it, and they've been
through it multiple times before. Nobody wants to keep being

(01:19:54):
cheated on. Nobody wants to come to be used for
putting something in their name or paying for everything, or
whatever the case may be. Nobody wants to go through that.
Nobody wants to go through having sex where I feel
like I'm being essayed. Honey, When I went back and
looked and I realized I was actually being I was

(01:20:17):
actually being essayed each and every god for sakend time.
Why because it wasn't about the way I wanted to
have sex. I felt like I was a prostitute, except
I wasn't getting paid for it. I'm telling y'all, y'all,
don't y'all don't want me as a coach, because when
you start learning things for what they are, you gonna

(01:20:40):
look at all these men that you had sex with
and you gonna be mad. You want me mad, I'm
telling you. When you go down these journeys and you
look at all these people that done that, have you
sitting in jail right now? You got me mad. Damn.
People never cared about you, cause why in the world
would you be sitting in jail? Folk? Why would you

(01:21:02):
Why would you be raising a child by yourself? This
man cared about you. They don't care. Why should you? So?
If y'all stop looking at relationships from a demonic perspective,
and look at it from a godly perspective, then you
will make better choice. Now, don't get me wrong, there's

(01:21:23):
some godly people that ain't right either. Don't get a
twisted But if that person is not celibate, if that
person is not out here trying to cleanse himself with
all of them women that he been with prior, that
ain't the man for you. If that man cannot be
able to control himself when he's not around you, that

(01:21:45):
ain't the man for you. If that man got a
bunch drama going on with baby mama issues, you shouldn't
date 'em. If you don't wanna be a baby mama,
don't date a man this baby dad. Keep your last closed.
That will solve a lot of your problems. So, like

(01:22:08):
I said, healing and recovery is about stopping the behavior completely,
and it means you leave well enough alone. You create,
You create your own your own family, You create your
own community. That's how you meet people. So when you
aren't helping people in becoming coaches or writing books or

(01:22:29):
being business owners or whatever you're doing, you're gonna you're
gonna have a community of people. And that community is
gonna be great and that's what happens. You do you
step on TikTok and and posting somewhere else. That's it.

(01:22:59):
So't worth it for what. Once y'all accept things for
what they are and you don't fit society standards, you
decide to be a godly person hunting you don't want
to be. I'm telling you recovery is I choose God.
I don't want no parts, so none of this stuff.
So I'm no longer an option because I ain't having
sex for a marriage. I'm no longer in option because

(01:23:20):
I'm not trying to be the man based on what
I look like. I don't want a man to even
look at me that way. Now do you see where
I'm going with this? Now? Does it make sense? You're
doing the opposite of society standards, So you no longer
want men. You're no longer trying to attract men based
on looks. You're no longer trying to be sexual because

(01:23:44):
it's really a waste time because men don't care. So
when you start learning these things you're gonna learn, you're
gonna be like, oh my god, I didn't even think
about that exactly because you ain't care. So y'all can

(01:24:11):
do with it as you will. I don't care. But
when you go through, when you go through recovery, the
last stage is healing physically and because you realize the
damage has been done for all these people that came
in your life with call damage, the fact that you
didn't have money to go to the doctor because you
gave your money away, the fact that you can't do

(01:24:35):
certain things. You can't do certain things because of whatever reason. No,
So what I will say is it's okay by yourself,
you by yourself, working on yourself, healing yourself from past experiences.

(01:25:00):
You're eighteen and you by yourself is not just something
wrong with you. It just means that you're with you're
with somebody else. So, like I said to end this,

(01:25:30):
when you all go to recovery, you not gonna want
nobody between your legs. Honestly. Matter of fact, sex ain't
even gonna mean nothing you no more. You're gonna realize
these men know nothing about sex. So what's the point.
If you want sex, please go get your prositute. And
don't get me wrong, it is not easy being celibate

(01:25:51):
or abstinent. It's not easy. But your hymen does go
back to normal. I forgot to tell people that your
hymen does grow back, even if you have kids, it
does grow back. So so, like I said, it ain't

(01:26:27):
worth it when you think back to all the men
you with, and you thinking back to did you have
I'm telling y'all their stuff about sex. Y'all don't know.
Women don't know, and men been keeping this from y'all
for a reason. Honey. They take so many things out
of books. Honey, when y'all go out of the country,
go look up the books, to look up the Bibles

(01:26:48):
and see how different they are. See how different everybody's
Bibles and Korans and all these spiritual books are that
ain't in the America an the United States. You gonna
learn the United States has kept so many things must
it's not ain't funny and have so the end of
the day, like I said, I get it, I understand it,

(01:27:09):
but in the end, it's not worth it. I chose God.
So I ain't no more chasing after men, no more.
Ain't no more maba jj being available to them, Ain't
no more alluring myself to be with them. I am
walking in my purpose, and if alone the way. While
I'm on my purpose, my journey in my path. I

(01:27:30):
just so happened to meet my husband and he's on
the exact same path. So, like I said, accept things

(01:27:56):
with they are go out there without no makeup on,
don't go out there. I'll tell you what I I
I would love to get a bunch. I wanna do
a show. Seriously, i'ma tell you how my show gonna go.
My show would go exactly like this. I would get
a bunch of beautiful women and I would make them
straight up and down ugly, and I would I want

(01:28:16):
them to see how it feels to be like somebody
like me. I want you to see how many men
will not approach you, how many men would not wanna
date you. And I wanna see their initial reactions. I
didn't we wanna, we wanna dress them down like Holly
Barry and all them. When they took that makeup up,
they looked different. Tyler P Tyler ty I don't think

(01:28:38):
about telerpart Tyler Tyler from Tiger. I mean suse a
Tyra Tyra from America the other one M So there

(01:29:07):
you go. So if you think they're having sex with
these men, it's gonna make black men, won't you uh,
I'm afraid not. They don't want you anyway. And black women,
y'all are on your own, cause that is just something
y'all gonna have to accept. You just gonna be stepping
stones to other other race of women that don't get

(01:29:27):
me wrong, there are now let me say this also,
if you didn't get 'em when they were in high school,
and you didn't get 'em when they were in elementary school,
and you didn't get 'em like l like Llcoj's wife
got him when he was in high school, when Lawren's
chestnock got his girl when he was in college. If
you didn't get him there, you ain't gonna get him now,
you not. You have to get these men when they're young.

(01:29:50):
You can't get the men when they're older. So if
you didn't get 'em when y'all were friends first and
then y'all ended up getting together and y'allways y'all being
together like Lebron's and so you ain't gonna get them
at that point. At this point, so there's gonna be
a lot of women's gonna be single and loan the
rest of their life. And it's okay, So just let

(01:30:16):
it go and move on. So, like I said, there's
somebody out there for you, but you need to let
God bring that person. Let God know you, God know you,
God know what you need. Y'all dave people based on
what you want, not what you need, what you won't.

(01:30:37):
And that's why y'all divorced now because of what you want,
because you want somebody to attractive good in bed. That
ain't what God said marriage is. There ain't nothing of
God said marriage is. Oh, that's what man is. To
get money out of y'all. They just want to make
money off y'all. That's it. So, like I said, I

(01:30:59):
wanted to do this podcast that's right quick to tell
black women. Look it is. Let men know, won't you
and they dating outside they race, leave them alone. As
soon as you hear him say that, if you ask
him what his preference is and he says, other races
of women don't even do it. So let me let
me use. Let me give you one example. I go
Genie Mi. Y'all been ragged. Y'all been ragged this woman

(01:31:23):
since her and gen separated. We still don't know what happened.
I think I know what happened, and I'm gonna say allegedly.
Let me tell you what came between Genny Mine and Jeez,
her mama, her mother. Let me break down something about
viting these people in the Asian community. Honey, their family

(01:31:48):
lives with them, They always live with them. So what
happens is they all live in the same house. So
Genie Mine, when she moved Mama Mine moved in there,

(01:32:08):
and when Mama Man moved in there, that's when their
problems came. It wasn't the fact. And like I said, GenZ,
the way that Genie Genie is, Genie can be very
annoying to a man because Genie is somebody that talks
a lot. She's one of them type of people. She's

(01:32:28):
very friendly and I like Genie. To me, there's nothing
wrong with Genie. But Genie's not a Black woman. So
at first, yes, it's it's cool when you date outside
your race, but there's just certain things that other races
of women will never understand that black woman will. And
so when they get around your black friends. And being

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that Genie is not someone I don't I don't think
she's ever hung around a bunch of black women up
in till she was on the view. So being that
she didn't hang around a bunch of black women. You
know what I'm saying, She can't relate to a lot
of things. And plus the fact that Genie's always on
social media, Jeanne likes to put stuff out there. I'm sure,

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like I said, this was a slap in the face
to her because she thought everything was fine. But all
it was was she was a breadwinner. She makes more
money than he does. So that's why. Because when everything

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goes down, that's when everything get weird. So, like I said,

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maybe if y'all stop being options, maybe y'all stop being
available and being side checks. These mental change, y'all gotta change.
Women have to change. Y'all wait for men to change. No,
y'all gotta change. If women are no longer available and
women are no longer options, and women are saying, no,

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we don't want men to be what they are, you
can go down there and do whatever is you're gonna do.
Cause guess what, I can travel and go be the
man too. And I understand a lot of y'all do
want a black man, but guess what they don't want? Yump.
So you're up here, low, you up here waiting for
a black man that's not gonna want you chasing out

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that black man that's sitting up here laughing with his
homeboys and trashing the daylights out of you. Boy. I'm
telling Y'all'm gonna hear some of y'all, a lot of y'all.
If I am your coach, y'all gonna hate me because
I'm telling you the stuff these men say about y'all,
how stupid you are. You pay for everything. They go
over there and they and they, and they give you,

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give you sex, and then you turn around and pay
their bills. That's a jigglo man. How many jewelo's be
on him. So y'all worry about the wrong things. Ladies,

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Black women, If Chris Brown don't ont date you, let
it go Trey songs one day. If they wanted it
outside the race, let him have it, let him have it.
Stop worrying about it, because take a cue from Selina Gomez,
you are a prized Black women. You are prized, and
the black men can't see the beauty that's in you.

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They ain't worth you no way, leave me alone as
a life. Coaches wanna tell you leave ma alone. And
black women, we got to stop light skinned, dark skinned.
This got to stop being side chicks, being groupies, being
in the sex industry. If we are the first race

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of women that no longer want to be looked at
in a sexual manner, and every black woman says, I'm
now closing my legs cause because I'm not married, honey,
every other woman gonna follow suit. Honey. You know how
many rays of women follow suit? If that works, how
many Caucasian women be like, Look, I ain't having sex.

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We ain't married. I ain't gonna animal kids cause no
matter if you use consciracept or not, does not mean
you can't get pregnant. I'm living pregnant. I'm living. I'm
a living testament. I got pregnant off of cotton, of
breaking and off broken Joe. That ain't gonna stop. No man,
ain't your stock from having kids. If y'all are not married,

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do not give them sex. Let them go ahead on
out there and be whoever they want to be with.
Just sit back and continue doing. You travel the world,
because you're gonna meet somebody when you're traveling out there.
You gonna meet your person when you travel out there.
If you have it, that's only because mentally, psychological whatever reason,
you ain't ready, and it's time to get ridy. It

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is so like I said, y'all worry about the wrong things.
It don't matter because when y'all get along with God,
God gonna show you why you shouldn't be worrying about
these men. God gonna show you why you shouldn't have

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says for a marriage. It's in that Bible. A lot
of stuff is taking out of their Bible, but God
is gonna lead you to the other chapters is missing.
He led me to it. I didn't know about the
book enough until I found it. I haven't gotten the
book yet, but I plan on it. So the goal

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is to get back on the path that God put
you on and keep and stay there. So all this
other stuff don't even matter because once you become a
person of God, I am no longer. Uhh. I ain't
looked for nothing. I'm just showing. So with that being said,

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I think that's it for me. Come getting sleeping. I'm tired.
It's been a long day. But like I said, recovery
is not easy, just like the version of That's where
I'm at right now, and that's our recovery as a woman.
Gonna take you to being one with God, not having sex,
to marriage, having standards. So now it's no longer going

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on these dinner dates and none of this stuff. Now
it's I'm not looking for nothing. I don't expect nothing.
I have my own money. I'm not lwering myself for nobody,
absolutely nobody. So yeah, you're just no longer gonna be
an option. So when you walk out the door, you
walk in the door as I am, and that's how
you know you You you are healed. I saw look

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Demi Levado looked. Demi Levado looked like she did no
makeup on. She looked like she looked before she got
on drugs. She looked good. People now going back to
their original versions of themselves, even people they got plastics
certainly going back to their original version of themselves. Taying
all that stuff out. Pamela Anderson took out all that stuff.

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Like I said, this stuff did not start with the
Black community. This started with Caucasian women. Botox all that
to start with Caucasian women. This then start with black people. So,
like I said, if y'all stop looking and leave well
and up alone and just say you know what me
myself and eyes all I got. I'm'a build a business,

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i'm'a build a brand. I'm gonna do what I need
to do to make sure my kids can go to college.
And I ain't worried about a man. And when your
kids reach a certain age, do you really need one
at this point? No, your kids are grown. Once your
kids are grown, unless you meet a man right like
seventeen eighteen, they're about to be at the house. That's

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one thing. And if you have to be traveled, and
and nowadays you gotta be careful anyway. Look at them
girls that went to Columbian almost got human trafficking. Honey,
you gotta be careful nowadays, cause halving these men something
wrong with them. Them two girls have got decapitated and
unlive and they went on a day. Absolutely not. That's
scary going to the ATM and got a worry about somebody,

(01:41:00):
y'alla attack you. I don't think something. Dating is not
the way it used to be. So nowadays, I'm gonna
let you have what you want. You tell me you're
not interested. Cool, you got more than more than two,
baby Martin to more than two? Maybe three? Uh, I
ain't if you got three. But the same woman I

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can deal with that. But when you got six seven
kids and you lie nope, has somebody a lot to me?
Tell me that they only had one, couldn't find out
they had six none, they had two, lie to to
the other one's nephew, couldn't find out that's the son.
Mm hmm. Absolutely not. So I'm not saying none of

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this to be mean. I'm not, but y'all gotta stop
chasing behind stuff because you want something. Just because you
want something don't mean you can have. Y'all gotta learn
that once it's something that y'all need to let go of,
let go of what you want and focus on what
you need because once don't coincide with the other person

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because once, in other words, the other person really don't
want you to just tolerate you because they don't want
to be by themselves. To be honest, they just don't
want to be alone. If you would like me to
be completely transparent. So one person's gonna get what they want,
the other person's not. It's never gonna be evenly gold
because in this country it's by diversity, division, discrimination, and racism.

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It's not about equality. So y'all can hang it up.
So that being said on my podcast, I thank y'all
for joining me for this episode. I hope this gives
you some clarity. So stop worrying about what you want
and worry about what you need. If you don't need
to be in a relationship, don't be in one. If
you're gonna be single, that that's another thing. Next week

(01:42:58):
we're gonna talk about what is the definition of the
words single because some of y'all say you single and
i'll ast you out of you ain't y'all are actually
with other people. So with that being said, I love y'all,
I appreciate y'all. I thank y'all for joining me for
this episode, and I will see y'all next week. Now,

(01:43:19):
I just did two podcasts and one. Yeah, I wanted
to make up for the one I didn't do the
other week, so nice. This is two podcasts and one.
So with that being said, next week we're gonna talk
about single. Are people really single or are they lying
just to be able to lure you in, to suck

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the life out of you like a vampire. With that
being said, I will talk to y'all later. Bye.