Long-Distance Love & Bedroom Toys: When He's Intimidated | Talk To Me Tuesday LIVE - Ask Nyomi " Bridging The Gap" Podcast

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SPEAKER_01 (01:24):
Welcome to Axe Naomi Bridging the Gap Podcast.
This is where we talk aboutlove, sex, relationship,
cultural differences, and somuch more by bridging the gap
between them all and teachingthe world on sex, love,
language, and attitude, and alittle bit of spiritual
uplifting.
Well, I am your host, GoddessNaomi Banks.
What's going on, Dr.
Mike Mike?

SPEAKER_05 (01:42):
It's all good, all good.

SPEAKER_01 (01:44):
All right, what's going on, BTG crew?
I see you all out there.
You know, we were having alittle difficulties right here
in the moment.
It was a little slow.
I forgot it was Thursday today.
I forgot it was Thursday.
And I'm like, wait, hold on,wait, wait a minute.
So we came here kind of late,but I am so happy to see
everybody in there.
I see you, Jules.

(02:05):
I see Eddie.
I see Charmaine.
Hey, baby.
I see you all.
I see Anderson over here.
I see us, I see quite a fewpeople over here in these other
uh platforms.
If you are listening right now,live on the chat right now, I
want you all to drop me now aheart because today we're
talking about somethingdifferent.
Today is going to be fun.

(02:25):
Tonight is going to be real.
And tonight we are talking aboutsomething that a lot of y'all
have questions about.
A lot of y'all have questionsabout, and it don't always feel
comfortable asking.
We're talking about toys.
We're talking about toys in thebedroom.

(02:46):
We're talking about longdistance intimacy.
And we're talking about whathappens when you want to
explore, but your partner islet's just say, um a little
intimidated.

SPEAKER_05 (03:03):
Scared.

SPEAKER_01 (03:04):
You say scared?
I say a little intimidated, justa little bit.
So right now, I just want toknow that y'all here and y'all
feel me.
So I want y'all to drop a fire'sfire sign in the chat.
So fire sign chat.
You ready for some real talktonight?
We're not judging nobody.
We just want to talk some realtalk, ain't that right?

SPEAKER_05 (03:23):
Yep, yep.
Real, real talk, some fire talk.

SPEAKER_01 (03:26):
Some fire talk.
So is that what you call it?
Some fire talk?

SPEAKER_05 (03:28):
Yes, yes.

SPEAKER_01 (03:29):
Some fire talk.
So fire talk.
So I see y'all all out there.
Yes, I do.
I see y'all all out there.
So look, we don't have anyguests tonight, but I want to I
want to say this.
We had an amazing guest lastweek.
We had an amazing guest lastweek, um Nick Atkins from Pink
Socks.
And this is what we're gonna dobecause we have a bunch of socks

(03:51):
um to donate um for that cause,and we'd explain a little later
on, but you know, um we're gonnabe giving out a pair of socks
during this show, right?
I know I don't have it in notes,Mike.
I'm sorry.
I was thinking about it when Iwas doing my makeup.
We're gonna do it today, too.
We're gonna give out anotherpair of socks um to you know, to

(04:11):
a lucky one, but you have to beactive in the chat.
Last week Charmaine won.
Congratulations, Charmaine.
Charmaine won a pair.
And we were hoping to givesomebody else this um this week.
And if anybody listened to lastweek's show, we had a great
amazing show about spreadinglove um with Pink Socks um life.
And you can go, you know, andtake a look at their site.

(04:32):
Um, great um organization that'sgoing to raise money for
different organizations aroundthe world, like truly.
Um, and we had Nick Atkins here,who's one of the co-founders of
it, with great, great, greatinformation, just great love
that was spread all over theplace.
But today we're talking aboutgiving love to yourself and to
your partner.
But not only that, what are wetalking about with with with

(04:54):
with toys?
And not the toys that we play,but with things, we're talking
about the toys in the bedroom.

SPEAKER_03 (05:00):
The real toys.

SPEAKER_01 (05:01):
The real toys in the bedroom.
So even though we don't have aguest tonight, but I got a
letter from my talk to meTuesday letters, and I and I
thought it was really good tobring it here with us here on
Thursday show.
So, because this topic needs tobe amongst, you know, you and I,
you, the BTG family, because Ineed y'all, I need y'all's input
on this letter, all right?

(05:22):
So this letter is from a woman.
We're gonna name her Tracybecause we do, because a lot of
people don't like to use theirreal name, and so we're gonna
keep it anonymous.
You know, keep it anonymous.
So Tracy wrote in aboutsomething I know a lot of y'all
can relate to, all right.
So before we get into Tracy'sletter, let me hit y'all with
some announcements before weget, you know, too excited, all

(05:44):
right.
Uh uh uh uh uh all right.
Well, first I want to remind youthat May is just around the
corner.
It's just around the corner,y'all.
And I love the mental healthawareness.
It's returning.
So just like last year, excuseme, just like last year, we did

(06:06):
a whole month dedicated tomental health awareness month.
And it was so powerful.
So we had therapists, we hadreal conversation about mental
health and how it affects ourrelationship, our intimacy, and
our ability to be loved, to loveand to be loved.
And we are back in May.
Um, and we bringing it back awhole month-long series.
So I want y'all to mark yourcalendars, tell your friends

(06:27):
because it's about to betransformational.
And next week we'll be um havingthe t-shirts ready to go.
I'm still um in the last marksof designing the shirts, and all
the proceeds will go, be donatedto the mental health awareness,
just the same that we did lastyear.
Did you have something to say?

SPEAKER_05 (06:46):
Oh no.

SPEAKER_01 (06:47):
I I heard you do uh uh uh a deep breath, Ian.

SPEAKER_05 (06:50):
No, no, I'm good.
I'm waiting for my shirt.

SPEAKER_01 (06:53):
You just waiting for your shirt?
Did you like last week, last,last month, last week, last
month?

SPEAKER_05 (06:58):
Last year's, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (06:59):
Oh, okay.
Okay.
I'm looking at the chats rightnow, people saying that they
don't have, but yeah, but comeon.
Okay, yeah.
So, you know, next next month'sshows are going to be great.
Uh, for the first time, we havea comedian that's going to join
in on that conversation.
Of course, we have Dr.
Wheel that's going to be housed,and we have other two amazing um
specialists that's gonna come onas well with us.

(07:21):
So um, yeah, it's going to besomething, something, something,
something.
So I can't wait.
I can't wait.
I I cannot wait.
I cannot wait.
And I'm going back and forthwith you know a few designs that
I have in mind.
And then I still got next lastyear's too, but I'm trying to
debate on what I'm gonna do withit.
So, you know, I just trying tomake it a little, you know,

(07:42):
right.
And I don't forget to go over toAxe Naomi um right now to submit
you, you know, if you got anylove, love letters, any letters
to talk to me Tuesday, becausetonight we are reading Tracy
letters, and it's a good one,all right?
So also I want you to check outthe reclamation series.
I started that back on thewebsite, and we're following six
characters that are um they'reon their healing journeys.

(08:03):
Um, and last week's was fire.
I start back next week again.
Again, this week has been verybusy because we are in um
pre-production, pre-production,post-production, and production
of films.
And you just saw what um call inthe game?
And called two will be comingout very, very soon.
So, Mike Mike, let me ask yousomething before I read this

(08:25):
letter.
And I want you to be honest.
I want you to be honest.
How do you feel about toys inthe bedroom?
Like, are you intimidated bythem?
Do they make you uncomfortable?
Uh um, or are you just cool withthem?

SPEAKER_05 (08:37):
I'm cool with I'm cool with toys in the in the
bedroom, you know, becauseactually it's a uh it's an extra
added pleasure, you know, forfor my girl.
You know, um you you you gottaspark things up, you gotta
change things up, you gotta addadd things in into your
relationship, especially in thebedroom.

(08:58):
So instead of her just sittingthere with the toy, you know, I
can hold a toy, I I can adjustthe toy, I can do things to to
make her feel good along withthe toy.
So I'm I'm not intimidated atall.

unknown (09:10):
No.

SPEAKER_01 (09:10):
Okay, I appreciate the honesty.
And that's that's that's whatgo, you know, that's what we're
gonna talk about today becauseeverybody don't see it that way
as Doccom Mike, my good.
You know, because a lot of menand a lot of partners, I don't
want to just say me and a lot ofpartners, they they gotta they
got feelings about toys, and wewe're gonna unpack them today.

SPEAKER_03 (09:27):
Let's unpack them.

SPEAKER_01 (09:28):
But first, but first, I want to read Miss Um
Miss Tracy Ladd.
Okay, all right.
All right, so this letter cameto me last week, and when I read
it, I said, Oh yeah, we gottatalk about this on this show.
We gotta talk about this righthere on Axe Naomi Letters.
So, y'all ready for this?
Let's do it.

(09:48):
All right, so the letter says,Dear Naomi, I've been with my
husband for eight years, marriedfor five, and we love each other
deeply.
And honestly, our relationshipis solid.

But here's the thing (10:01):
we both travel a lot for work.
Sometimes I'm gone for a week,and sometimes he's gone for two
weeks.
And when we are part, we reallymiss that intimate connection.
We do phone sex sometimes,FaceTime when we can, but it's
just not the same, you know.
Well, a few months ago, I boughta couple of vibrators, um, the

(10:23):
We Vibes sync too, because Iheard of the app control and you
can use it even when you indifferent cities.
I was so excited about it, and Ithought it would be perfect for
us when one of us is traveling.
But when I showed it to myhusband, he kind of shut it
down.

(10:44):
He didn't say much at first, butlater he told me he feels like
toys are unnecessary.
He said, if I'm not enough foryou, just say that.
And Naomi, that's not what Imeant at all.
I don't want a toy to replacehim.
I want it to connect us when wecan't get together physically.

(11:08):
And then she said, he alsoadmitted that he feels like toys
do the work for him.
And a lot of men feel that, andthat it makes him feel
inadequate, like his manhood isbeing challenged.
She said, I love my husband.
I don't want him to feel thatway, but I also don't want to
give up on exploring things thatcould bring us closer,
especially when we're apart somuch.

(11:29):
So her question is, how do Ihelp him see that toys are no
threat?
And how do I reassure him thatthis is about us?
A capital U S and not aboutreplacing him, a capital H-I-M.
Tracy, and it's not her realname.

(11:50):
Yeah.
First of all, thank you, Tracy,for that letter and chat.
I already know some of y'all andy'all feelings about this, but I
want to I want y'all to typethis.
I want y'all to type relate.
If you've ever been in thissituation, either as a person
wanting to bring toys in or theperson who felt intimidated by

(12:14):
them.
And I see one person right nowthat's that's saying, and I
think that's Jay Styles saying,that there are some insecurities
for some people when it comes totoys in the bedroom.
Yeah, it is.
You know, you know, I um and Iused to wonder why.

(12:37):
And I think once once once Ireally started getting into sex
education and understand whatthe um the mint the mental
aspect of it, um, of reallygetting into it, I kind of
understood it a little bit more.
You know what I mean?
Um so it it made it under itmade me understand it more, even

(13:04):
coming from that, and I can'tjust say it's men, because it
could be women as well, of theinsecurity of how they feel, or
wanted to try to prove to thatperson how much they care or how
much they they are able to do,you know, for them.
If they actually learn andunderstand that this can be an
enhancement for the both ofthem, then it'll be better.

(13:26):

unknown (13:27):
Right.

SPEAKER_01 (13:27):
Yeah.
Um, and see a lot of y'all canrelate to this.
So let me break it down.
Mike, my when you heard theletter, what was your first
reaction?

SPEAKER_05 (13:35):
My first reaction was, and I just thought about
the the man, it was almost likeit's uh it's an insecurity that
he has about feeling replaced.
And some men may think on thelevel like, well, she started
using using a toy once, and andwe traveling, she out of town,
he out of town.

(13:56):
Once that toy isn't pleasurable,will she bring another another
person in to replace him?
So his insecurity is aboutfeeling replaced.
The thing is, before you canuse, before you can even go to
using toys, there should be adiscussion about it.
You know, she should she sheshould ask him, or he should ask

(14:16):
her, whoever you ever get in thetoy, and you you need to know
how each other feel about iteven before bringing it into the
into the bedroom.

SPEAKER_01 (14:24):
Exactly.
Well, we're gonna talk aboutthat.
We that's some things that we'regonna we're gonna tell her about
the way to kind of break itdown, but because I think, you
know, I think she was justwanting to, you know, be able
to, okay, let's let's heightenthat relationship with us,
especially when we are away, youknow, from one another.
I want to be able to feel thatthat intimacy, but I want to
kind of you know spice up ourrelationship even more.

(14:46):
You you know what I'm saying?
And let's let's be real.
And some of those things, you'relike, we I want to make sure
that my man is pleased by justus through this way and not
looking for that outside of me.

SPEAKER_05 (14:57):
I understand that.
But yeah, you know, some do, Imean, I mean, some people may
have this issue.
Do people feel that their theirpartner, their spouse, or
whatever shouldn't be arousedwhen they're not around?
That's a good question, youknow, because maybe that's his
feeling.
Like, what do you mean you'rehaving these feelings?
I'm I'm not there, you know.

SPEAKER_01 (15:17):
That's a good question, but then that goes to
we can't assume.
See, there I go with the fouragreements.

SPEAKER_06 (15:23):
Can't assume.

SPEAKER_01 (15:23):
Yeah, we we can't assume.
So let's let's do this.
Let's the issue, let's unpackthe issue on why men or why
people will feel intimidated onthis, all right?
So we're gonna talk about theelephant in the room, why a lot
of men, and not all men, but alot of people will feel some
type of way about why toys inthe bedroom.
And here's the one thing thatthose are feeling valid.
And I'm not gonna say, I'm notgonna sit here and just say, oh,

(15:46):
you just being insecure aboutit, because it's it's how you
feel, and that's how you feelabout it.
Because it's not always to bethat you're insecure.
Let's just understand where it'scome from so then we can work
through it.
You understand what I'm saying?
Yeah, you know, because and thenI guess the big question that we

(16:07):
said before why do we think thatmen feel threatened by toys, or
why do we feel that the otherperson is, you know, threatened
by toys?
And you said it, you know,maybe, you know, and it's
another thing that I thoughtabout too.
Maybe it could be addiction tothe toy rather than always going
to them for that.

SPEAKER_05 (16:25):
Hey, you're absolutely right.
One of the things too is like,hey, I done seen some of these
toys.
I didn't I done hell one ofthese toys, like, shit.
I I can't compete with no damnbattery operating shit.
I ain't got I ain't got it likethat no more.
I ain't got it like that.
That that thing be moving, like,damn, you know.
Right, right.

(16:46):
I can't I can't compete withthem Hatachis and them we vibes
and them.
They be moving.

SPEAKER_01 (16:53):
Wow.
Well, you know, but this is whatI've learned with talking with a
lot of men over the years fromour own relationship.
And I'm I'm gonna break themdown, you know, for you.
One of them is the performanceaspect of it.
And you you kind of said it alittle bit about the performance
with the pressure of it.
When men feel like that theyshould be the one making their

(17:16):
partner feel good, like theyshould be enough, that their
body, that their body should beenough.
They like, why do we needsomething extra?
But here's the thing it's notabout being enough.
A toy doesn't replace you, itenhances the experience.
It's like, okay, you can cook anamazing meal with just your

(17:37):
hands, right?
But sometimes it is really goodto have a knife to make the
process easier or better, evensome spices to even spice it up
a little bit.
The knife doesn't replace theshelf, it helps the shelf.
The spices don't replace theshelf, it helps spice up the
dish.
And so the next one is thecomparison game, which you just
spoke about.

(17:58):
Some men worry that the the toyis better than them.
Like, what if she liked thevibrator more than she likes me?
And I get it, but baby, a toycan't hold you, a toy can't kiss
you, a toy can't look you in theeyes and tell you it loves you,
and a toy can't make you laugh.
A toy is a tool, it's not areplacement for you.

(18:23):
Yes, and the next one ismasculinity and control, and
this is a big one because somemen feel like using toys mean
that they're not man enough,like a real man doesn't need
help, but that's the ego talk,and that's not reality because
the best lovers, the bestpartners, they use every tool
available to make their partnerfeel good, and that's confidence

(18:47):
and that's security.
So, what I want to talk to rightnow to the my my chat,
especially the men that's in thechat, I want y'all to be honest.
Have you ever felt intimidatedby the idea of toys in the
bedroom?
I want you to type yes or no.
And for my women that's in thechat, have you ever had a
partner who was intimidated by atoy?

(19:08):
And if you were to type yes orno.
Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (19:15):
That's a good one.
I mean, that that's a good one.
And while we wait for some uhchat, I can tell you, you know,
I never felt never feltintimidated at all, you know.
We have a DJ, he never feltintimidated, you know.
And as a man, you need to speedup and and and and be honest
about it, if you have or not,because I know some men have.

(19:38):
Okay, we have a yes.

SPEAKER_01 (19:39):
Yes, you know, I I remember having this
conversation with an older man.
Um I remember having aconversation with an older man,
okay.
And um, I remember them sayingthat that that was something
that they never really had inhad to even uh address that they
don't know anything about that,you know, all of these different

(20:00):
types of toys and all of thesedifferent types of um different
positions and stuff like that.
You know what I'm saying?
This is something totally newfor them.
So how do I get into that?
You know, how am I supposed toplease, you know, my partner or
my person with all of these newthings that I have to learn, you
know, in such a you know uh oldage and you know, just stuck.

(20:24):
And I think some people need toopen up their minds.
To open up to be willing to totap into themselves.

SPEAKER_05 (20:36):
I understand.
As as as older person, as anolder person, it is like
learning, you know, hey,computers running around
forever, cell phones wentaround.
It is a part of technology thatyou gotta adapt in your life,
but you're using it together.

SPEAKER_01 (20:51):
Right.

SPEAKER_05 (20:52):
You're using it together.
I mean, even if even if Tracyout of town and she using it and
her husband on the phone, that'sjust another version of a phone
sex.

SPEAKER_01 (21:02):
Yeah, you know, you know it is, and you know, let me
so let me, I'm getting ready togive y'all uh uh what's the
name?
I'm I'm gonna tell y'all this.
Before I got into the industry,no, no, before I got into the
industry, I could not, I I wouldnot, it was certain words that I
would not say.
I'm I'm telling you, I was soprude.
It was certain words that Iwouldn't say, and I I couldn't

(21:24):
talk dirty.
Like I couldn't, I I couldn'ttalk dirty, like I I wouldn't.
Now I I can do it.
But before I didn't, I thinkonce I got into the into the
industry, it it's like I I'vegiven myself permission to do
that.
Does that make sense?

(21:45):
It's like I've given myselfpermission to to release myself
and start to tap into myself andjust explode with my sexuality
into my, you know, just.
Exploring different parts of mybody, you know, and I think I
shared it before that I didn'teven, you know, masturbate until

(22:08):
I got into the industry.
And I was I was 30 somethingyears old.

SPEAKER_03 (22:12):
Wow.

SPEAKER_01 (22:13):
Yeah.
Yeah.
And so that's a lot of times,especially when you're older,
those some of those things aretaboo.
Some of those things you aretaught not to do.
You are not to taught to exploreyour body.
You're not taught to taught todo any of those things.
So when it's foreign to you asan older person to do it, some
of these things seem ancient,and you have been taught that

(22:35):
from your parents.
That you know, that's that'sgoing down that, and I got brain
fog right now.
So it's going down that thatthat lineage of, you know, we
we're not taught that.
So we have to learn it fromsomewhere.
So that's where them toys in thebedroom will bring in something
else to enhance it, to stop itfrom being so vanilla, to add a

(22:56):
little flavor, a littlechocolate to it, that makes it
different.

SPEAKER_05 (23:01):
Yeah, yeah.
I got a um, I mean, I got astatement, I guess is a quest
mix, but as for older people, isthis an issue that happens when
people get older?
Because when when you younger, Iknow when I was and most young
people, you didn't need toysbecause frankly, we was fucking
all the time.
It was always differentpositions, are always different

(23:21):
things.
It was more a sexual act all thetime, where per se you didn't
need toys, but as you get olderand as things progress in your
life, you may need toys to helpenhance it because you you can't
or you don't do it as much asyou used to.

SPEAKER_01 (23:39):
No, well, it what I mean like let's talk about you
have like the baby boomers, likebaby boomers, you will rarely
see them talk about using toys.
Right, which you understand, andthat's what I mean older, like
in that.
You know, you would talk aboutthe um Gen X.
You might see some Gen X say,no, I don't do that.

(23:59):
You know, you might see some GenX die a little bit on the thing
and say, Okay, yeah, I I getinto that toys.
But it took a minute for them toget into that.
I remember back in the day, Ithink it's probably in the um
the early 2000s, that I rememberwhen they started having the um
the toy parties.
I remember one of my one of mygood girlfriends, one of her
friends, used to do the the thetoy parties with the little

(24:22):
Western A.
And I remember having those, andit was like, wow, like we really
doing that now?
Like, yeah, because you you thatwas some something so taboo that
you rarely would see that.
And it wasn't wasn't nobodytalking about that.
You understand?
And that comes from what thebaby boomers, you know.
Then you got the Gen X, then yougot the Millennium.

(24:43):
So right now it's more open todiscuss and talk about, but it's
like now we need to start toeducate on what those toys do,
how they can be tools in thebedroom with you and your
partner, as well as teaching youhow to use it responsibly on
yourself, you know?
Yeah, yeah.
So when I say older, I'm meaningmore um generational.

(25:06):
Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah.
So so let me ask you, because itis also a certain way that we
have to introduce it tosomebody.
So for you, if your partner cameto you and said, I want to try
using a toy together, how wouldyou want her to approach you in
that conversation?

SPEAKER_05 (25:25):
Uh, pretty much just just like just like you said it,
you know, I want to try to useus use a toy together.
And the key word and the keyword that men have to understand
is she said together.
She didn't say, I want to startusing a toy, like just left it
at.
And because that leaves it as apoint of okay, you wanna start

(25:46):
using a toy.
Of course, we use it together,but his paranoia might be, but
you're gonna use it when you'realone, too.
Yeah, and that's the thing.
That's where the the men getinto it's gonna replace me.
She ain't gonna need me.
This toy gonna enjoy it so muchthat we ain't gonna have, you
know, we ain't gonna have thesame entity.
But the thing is, is when shesaid, Do you want to start using

(26:07):
this together?
Yeah, that's a whole different,that's a whole different thing
than I'm just gonna start usingthe toy.

SPEAKER_01 (26:13):
Yeah, and and that's the key, is saying together.
Now I'm sitting over here andI'm looking at the chat, right?
I'm looking at the chat go backand forth.
And I think that was um DJ justfirst said about that she
cheats.
And I think I just saw a littlebit from her cheats, from the
cheats.
Yeah, yeah.
I mean, she can cheat.
So I didn't see what he he saidbefore.
I guess that was in response towhat you were saying.

(26:34):
Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (26:36):
I'm blessed that I'm so confident.
I mean, she could cheat.
That was, I guess, something inthe discussion we were talking
about.

SPEAKER_01 (26:42):
Right.
So come down, set because then Iseen someone else say something.
Come on, right here.

SPEAKER_05 (26:49):
Uh it all depends, all depends on the men.
All depends on the man, some menare okay with toys, and some
question oh, it's okay to makesomebody use a toy when they
don't want to.

SPEAKER_01 (27:05):
Right.
But then somebody said you youhave to read it because my eyes
is her husband.
Shouldn't feel like that she'sthat she is thinking of him
every time she uses the sex toy.
She's not cheating.

SPEAKER_05 (27:18):
Right.
I mean, I guess when you go tothat, but that that's that could
be the same thing as when a manmasturbates.
So I guess what they're talkingabout is who are you thinking
about when you're using this sextoy if you're not with the
husband.
You know, just like women couldthink when you are a man and you
masturbated, who are youthinking about?

SPEAKER_01 (27:40):
Right.

SPEAKER_05 (27:41):
You know.

SPEAKER_01 (27:42):
Well, I I be thinking about my man when I be
using my tattoo.

SPEAKER_05 (27:45):
Yeah, but see, but that issue right there, I don't
think it has nothing to do withusing text.

SPEAKER_01 (27:51):
Right, no, it don't.
I'm uh yeah, I'm being, yeah,I'm being, but you know what DJ
said, just bring the toy anddon't um and don't don't ask.
You know, with that one, that'sthe thing.
It might it it might you mightfeel some type of way.
Hey, you you might feel sometype of way if that person just

(28:11):
brings a toy in there, andreally it depends on what kind
of toy you're bringing in there.
Yeah, you know, because there'sso many different toys.
I tell you, I got two drawersfull of toys.
I wouldn't look today because Iwas gonna bring some on screen
and then I thought about it, butlike, no, let me let me let me
hold on, let me hold on for amoment.
That be for another show.
Oh, but it depends on what umwhat toys that you're bringing

(28:35):
in.
But I definitely think thatthere is there should be a
conversation, especially if it'ssomething new and you're going
through these new experiences,especially together.
So I definitely uh agree withthat and agree with that
approach when you say it's justsaying that together.
That's definitely a key.
That's definitely a key on howyou know to approach that

(28:57):
conversation.
And that matters the most whenwhen doing that, because you you
can't just throw a toy on a at apartner, DJ.
DJ, you can't just do that,right, and be here like here,
we're gonna use this tonight,you know.
He don't know what he's doing,or she don't know what she's
doing.
You gotta have that conversationand you gotta make them feel

(29:19):
included, and you gotta makesure you reinsure them, you
know.
So, Tracy, so for Tracy, look,don't listen to DJ.
No scared.

SPEAKER_05 (29:30):
Tracy's gonna bust up there with her chaty.

SPEAKER_01 (29:32):
Right, right, right, right.
And for anybody who's watchingbring toys in the bedroom, here
is what you should say.
Here is what you should say,really.
All right, and Tracy, thisadvice is for you as well.
So I want you to listen.
You do have to have a vulnerableand honest conversation, you
know.
And people think, when y'alljust having sex, you know, this

(29:54):
is you just do, and I heard,wait, pause for a second.
I saw, I saw uh a guy say whenuh a man doesn't want to, and
that's I that's a very hardthing.
When that husband or thatpartner doesn't want to have
sex, and it's like, what do wedo?
Doesn't want to bring the toy inthe bedroom, what do we do?
This is for a whole notherconversation, but sometimes,

(30:15):
whoo! Yeah, we're gonna say thisone.
We we're gonna save this one.
I gotta write this down.
Yeah, this is a whole nothershow.
This is for a whole nother showbecause this is where sometimes
where you have to be real inthat intimacy, where sometimes
you don't always show up ahundred percent in that room,
and sometimes you do needsomething to um assist because

(30:39):
we we playing a team sport inthis bedroom, and every night
you can't be joined somethinglike that.
Every night you can't be doinghey, hey, you might have a hard

(31:00):
day at work, your mind might notbe there, you know.
You you might come before herand be like shot, and she's just
like, what about me?
You know, so you have to belike, okay, you know, let's talk
about that.
Let's not just think about you,let's think about us in this
process.

(31:21):
Let's let's think about us.
Let's let's let's bring us tothis this ultimate, you know,
thing together.

SPEAKER_05 (31:30):
Right, right.

SPEAKER_01 (31:30):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (31:33):
Hey, I'm a George fan.
Even George wasn't joined everyday.
I guess he didn't pass to Scottya little bit.

SPEAKER_01 (31:42):
Right.
You know, so this is what youdo.
You sit your partner and you sityour husband down, um, Tracy,
and not in the bedroom, not inthe bedroom, not during sex,
somewhere neutral, you know, andyou say like this.
Come on, dog palm.
You say, baby, I love you.
I love us.

(32:03):
Look, I bought this toy becauseI want to feel connected to you
even when we are apart.
It's not about you not beingenough, it's about me missing
you when you're gone.
And I thought it could be a wayfor us to still be intimate
across these miles.
Make it about connection and notabout what he's lacking.

(32:26):
And I'm so honest right now.
And let me say something, I wantyou to pause for a second.
Because me saying this rightnow, I promise you, I heard the
problem I might say, mm.
And I felt I felt his eyes comelike on the side of my head.
And I'm not, I I promise you, itmight sound like it's bullshit.
BS, but that's Mike was like,that's bullshit.

(32:49):
But for real, tell me if that'snot what you would say, can you
be honest?

SPEAKER_05 (32:53):
I mean, yeah, in a sense, in a sense.

SPEAKER_01 (32:56):
But you don't have to say the words that I said,
but but be vulnerable and saythat.
Like, you know, yes, like look,baby, it's I miss you.
I be in my room, and I need toyou, I need us to be connected.
And I know you can't come to meand I can't come to you, but we
could be on the phone comingtogether, and you can act like
you you could push that buttonright there on that thing, and

(33:20):
you can buzz me, and it couldmake me feel so connected.
Let's try it.
You you understand?
You can let's try that.
Let's let's try something new,you know, in that manner.
Because it's not about you notdoing enough or I'm not doing
enough.
Let's let's do enough so we canbe, you know, so we can keep
spicing it up, so we can getbetter in what we're doing in

(33:42):
this connection, you know.
And number two, reinsure therole.
Say, I don't want the toy toreplace you, I want you.
But when you're in another cityand I'm here alone, I still want
to feel close to you.
We are here together.
I want us to explore new thingstogether.
Let him know that he isirresplaceable, that the toy is

(34:03):
just a tool.

And I'm gonna tell you this: even though I've been using my (34:04):
undefined
nine-speed Hatachi, yes, that'sgood.
But no, I want that intimate.
I want my man.
I want him right next to me.
I want him holding me, I wanthim doing all the things and
more that the Hatachi cannot do.

SPEAKER_05 (34:21):
I hear you.
I hear you.

SPEAKER_01 (34:22):
Yes.

SPEAKER_05 (34:23):
You know something, and not though you cannot just
flip this to one side becausethere are toys for men too,
right?

SPEAKER_01 (34:29):
Yes, it is, and we're gonna talk about that.
You, you, you, you, you're goingahead of time and make it about
you, and make it about both ofyou.
Because there is the day set.
See, he be trying to jump on thefront.
I got it, I got it.
Or the romance that it comes in,it comes in because it is not
just for her.
There's things for both of youall.

(34:49):
So then you gotta show him that.
You got to show him that thereare toys for the both of you
that you can explore.
And I'm just not talking aboutthe the um the deal though.
There's other toys that can thatyou both can use, that you both
have fun, that both that you canlearn from, the learning each
other's bodies in new ways from,you know, from that.

(35:10):
Um, and then start small.
Don't go from zero to 100 to awhole collection overnight.
You want to start with somethingsimple, maybe even with that
sync tool that you alreadybought.
Let him control that app.
So when you were part, um lethim be the one making you feel
good from across the across thecountry.

(35:30):
Um, that puts his power back inthere.
Or start something like acouple's ring when um something
he can wear that enhances theexperience for both of you, the
way that he's not watching fromthe sidelines.
That he's a part of the action.
And you know, and be patient.
So hold on what for a second.
So let me tell you how he can dothis because I remember I

(35:50):
remember back when I used to beon Playboy Radio.
I remember I used to um writethese erotic stories.
I used to write these eroticstories and I used to read them
on air.
And it used to be this oneerotic fantasy story that I used
to talk about.
And I was talking about going toum going to a restaurant, you
know, in a full dress with, youknow, bear, no, you know,
commando is what we call it.

(36:12):
So imagine you you kind ofcommando, whatever, you got some
whether, and you have thatlittle twigg thing in you, and
you're there on a businessmeeting with somebody or there
with some girlfriends out,whatever.
You across country, you inanother city, and she got that
on, and you push a button.

(36:32):
Yeah, and you're texting her asyou push pushing a button, and
you say, baby, how that feel?
Text her bad baby, that feelreal good.
How everybody looking at you,you know what I'm saying?
Just like that.
Tell me that that tell me thatdon't sound good.
Tell me, tell me that don'tsound good.

(36:53):
She like in somewhere, just likejust like some taboo type.
Okay, let me stop.
I'm about to give a whole bunchof folks in trouble.
But you understand what I'msaying?
Like, like stuff like that thatyou that you would think that we
would we can never do, but youcan do, or you can be together,
you in a bathroom, or he in thebathroom, and you at the table,

(37:15):
and he doing that at the table,and he comes back, and you all
hot and bothered, and you readyto go.
You ready to get it on.
So it's so many things that youcould do with these toys like
that.
It's so many things, it's somany things to just the vanilla
stuff, ladies.

SPEAKER_05 (37:37):
Just don't wear the church.
But you know, when you see thatbusiness meeting, that's not
funny.

SPEAKER_01 (37:48):
Look, then my little ponytail went down on that one.

SPEAKER_05 (37:52):
See the the knock the knock the ponytail out.

SPEAKER_01 (37:58):
And the last one is to be patient, it will not
change overnight.
It will not change overnight.
It will need some process.
He might need to see the toythat it doesn't replace him.
It actually makes yourconnection stronger and have fun
with it.
Play games with it, play gameswith it.
Now, what I want to chat, whatadvice would you give?

(38:20):
I want the chat now.
What advice would you give toTracy?
And I want y'all to drop it inthe chat.
What advice would you give toTracy?
Yeah, please, please don't eggdog pound mic mic on right now.

SPEAKER_05 (38:38):
Hey, really?
You said it's gonna be a greatshow today.

SPEAKER_01 (38:41):
I did, I told you that.
I told you that, I did, I did.
Yeah, I told you that.

SPEAKER_05 (38:48):
We just waited for some advice for Tracy, but my
advice to Tracy, like what youjust said, you just can't spring
it on.
No, you can't come in thebedroom, y'all finna get it on,
and he he get up like, okay, wewant to use this as well.
Yeah, right.
That's gotta be a talk at in thekitchen before you get up to the

(39:08):
bedroom.

SPEAKER_01 (39:09):
Right.
Right.
All right, y'all.
All right, so since we'retalking about toys tonight,
since we are talking about toystonight, since we are talking
about toys tonight, thank you somuch.
Uh, let me put you all on someoptions because we Vive is one

(39:32):
of our sponsors, and honestly,they make some of the best
coupled products on the market.
And this one right here, thisone right here.
Um, hold on, and they got somegood deals happening.
So I want y'all to, so let mesee.
I got three options for y'all.
So let me let me go down mylittle list.

(39:53):
Let me go down my little list ofoptions.
They got the first one, optionone.
And this is the one that Tracygot.
Actually, I have that one too.
This is one of the first onesthat um, and it's called the We
Vi 2, but I call it the purplepassion.
That's what I call it.
The purple passion.
Nope, that's not it.

SPEAKER_02 (40:12):
That's not it.
Okay.
The purple passion.

SPEAKER_01 (40:29):
Yeah, the purple passion.
This one, and I want him to showy'all the picture of it because
I got the picture for y'all too.
Yeah, right here.
This one right here is one ofthe first ones that I got um um
um before I even came involvedwith V Viving the partner.
And this is the one that Tracysaid that she has as well.

(40:49):
And this is a couple's uhvibrator, it's designed to be
worn during sex, but it's also,and this is where the magic,
because it's app control, it canbe controlled by the app.
So when your partner is istraveling and when they're in
different cities and when you'redoing long distance, that is
definitely um it can becontrolled from the phone, and

(41:10):
that you can literally be in uhintimate across uh cross miles.
Um, so Mike, doesn't that soundlike a game changer for the
couples who travel?

SPEAKER_05 (41:18):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
You can do it from anywhere,yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (41:22):
Yeah.
And so actually, what I wantedDog Power Mike Mike to do, you
hold on for one second, Mike.
So what I wanted Dogpound MikeMike to do is actually with each
one of them, I wanted him to tagthe link as well in there um in
the chat so you guys can go takea look at it for yourselves with
it.
So yeah, that's the link rightthere.
Yeah, right there.

SPEAKER_02 (41:41):
Yeah, right there.
No, okay, go ahead, do what youdo.

SPEAKER_01 (41:56):
Okay, all right, so then um so the thing is is that
you can still control it, andit's not just about distance,
it's about spontaneity.
So when you heard me when I saidis that just you could be
anywhere walking down the streetin the stores, shopping or
getting you a coffee, standingin the Starbuck line or whatever

(42:19):
you get in your coffee at or thedeli or whatever, like that, and
he can push or she can push abutton, or he can push a button
because he'll be, I mean, she'llbe wearing it.
Just imagine that all of that'shappening.
Imagine your partner has the appon their phone and they're able
to control the vibration.
Tell me that's not fun.
That's playful, that's aconnection.
That's a connection, that's aconnection, and that's called

(42:43):
the um the sync to.
I call it purple passion.
That's what I call I call purplepassion.
All right, so the second one,the second option, that is
called the We Vibe Date NightSetting.
This is the double combo action.
Now, this right here, this isfor the men who are nervous

(43:04):
about toys because sets do getyou in the thick of things.
This set gets you in the thickof things.
It it's um it's got a couple ofrings that he wears.
It's a couple of rings that hewears, plus a vibrator, and the
vibrator is for the woman.
So it's not just for her, it'sfor both of you.
And he can actively getinvolved.

(43:24):
He is a part of the experience.
And a lot of men who areintimidated by toys, so this
would be great for them.
Once they try something likethis, they will realize oh, this
isn't replacing me.
This is making the experiencebetter for the both of us.
So, chats, what I want you to dofor me, men, would you be
comfortable with a toy likethis?

(43:45):
If you were involved, would itbe different for you?

SPEAKER_02 (43:47):
Yes or no?
Would it be different for you?

SPEAKER_05 (43:56):
Um yeah, that'd be a lot different for me.
I'm waiting for check, but forme, yeah, that'll be a lot
different for me.

SPEAKER_01 (44:03):
Yeah.
Yeah, but uh send that link out.
Send our link out.
Yeah, send our link out.
Yeah.

unknown (44:11):
But yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (44:12):
Yeah, that's the date night.
All right.
And the last option right hereis what I like the best right
here is the revive romance set.
This is a 12-piece set now.
Now, if you and your partner arelike, we want to explore, but we
don't know where to start, andwe're on a budget.
This is the move.

(44:32):
Right now, Revive has a 12-pieceromance set on sale.
That's usually worth$322, butyou can get it for nine for$99
right now.
That's$69 off.
That's 69% off.
69% off.
It's got toys, massage oil,restraints, a blindfold, lubes,

(44:53):
everything you need to explorein one box.
And it's giftable.
So you can get it for youranniversary, your birthdays, or
just if you want to treatyourself and your partner.
So this is the move.
Might make$99.

SPEAKER_05 (45:08):
Yeah, that's a steal.

SPEAKER_01 (45:09):
That's a whole exploration kit.
That's a steal right there.
Look, I can go, that's that'sless than uh a combo from um
from Chicago.
One of those packets they usedto get from uh the six combos.

SPEAKER_05 (45:25):
Yeah, yeah.
Why you have to compare it tothat?

SPEAKER_01 (45:31):
I'm just saying.
And once you eat those sixcombos from patillos, that's
over with this.
You can go on and on and on andmake more memories on and on.
Right.
All right, so that I've giveny'all all that information.

SPEAKER_02 (45:50):
So y'all ready to explain.

(46:13):
Oh, yes, you don't want to missit at oh.
And I don't wonder what oh at ohuh at oh mm mm.

SPEAKER_01 (46:33):
Yes, why don't y'all drop me some hearts in there
right now?
Woo! Drop me some hearts, let itroll, drop me some hearts, drop
me some hearts.
But yes, I love the revivething.
Um, it's it's a couple of fewother um toy companies that that

(46:55):
I've worked with that I havesome in my things, but yeah,
that's a good one.
All right, so we we we talkedabout Tracy's situation, we
talked about why men feelintimidated, we talked about the
products, but now I want to justopen up a little bit for some
real questions that come up whenwe talk about toys.
All right, so thank y'all forthe hearts.

(47:16):
Thank you for those hearts.
That's that's beautiful.

Question number one (47:19):
what if my partner gets addicted to the
toys and doesn't want meanymore?
Mike, Mike, my question is foryou what do you think about that
fear?

SPEAKER_05 (47:31):
Um, well, that fear is it's it's more than going on
than just the sex in thebedroom.
That's that's a um they feelintimidating, feeling insecure
is more than just about whathappened in the bedroom when
that comes around.
You know, if you feel likeyou're gonna be replaced by toys
in the bedroom, it's probablyother things that you're worried

(47:51):
about being replaced for.

SPEAKER_01 (47:54):
Exactly.
That's the truth because a toycannot replace a human
connection, it cannot replaceintimacy, it cannot replace you,
and you're right, it's deeperthan that.
It's deeper than that.
But a good toy can providephysical pleasure, yes, but it
cannot provide emotionalconnection, vulnerability,
presence, or love.
And that's what makes sex withthe partner special.

(48:16):
So if your partner gets addictedto a toy, that's not about the
toy, that's about something elsethat's going on in the
relationship that needs to beaddressed or in that person.
My next question is how do Ibring up wanting to use toys
without making my partner feelbad?
You know, the thing is that thisis what you can say, all right?

(48:40):
I love our sex life, I lovebeing intimate with you, and
I've been thinking about waysthat we can explore together and
make it even more fun.
Would you be open to tryingsomething new with me or this
with me?
You're not saying you're notgood enough, you're not saying
you know, this is already good,but let me make it better

(49:04):
together.
But you're you're you're you'resaying.
So I remember, so let me telly'all how Axe Naomi came about.
Ask Naomi came about many, manyyears ago when I was at Playboy
Radio, and I remember receivingletters when I was at Playboy,
and I believe my my show thenwas Woman of the World.

(49:26):
I think that was the name of theshow.
The show that they had, and itwas like where we used to do um
late night sex talk.
That's all I used to do, justtalk, sex talk.
Like they call on the phone andjust that's it, and just talk
sexy or tell me the phone.
But the letters that I used toget, they used to be mailed in
to me a lot and even emailed wasyou know, men wanting to know

(49:48):
how um how can they talk theirtheir significant other or their
wife into doing different acts.
And and one of the acts wasdoing um, hang them, you know,
doing that backdoor, doing that,and so with that started with
Axe Naomi.
That's where it comes from.

(50:09):
And I started to give advice onthat, and that kind of you know
rolled into different, you know,shows that I had on Playboy and
then became, you know, a fixtureon chocolate radio, then now on
this.
And so from there I said, okay,that really told me, you know,
go and you know, get certifiedas a sex, you know, specialist

(50:29):
and stuff like that, coach, andkind of, you know, where you
really know what you're talkingabout, and you can give advice
on on that as well as coachingon that.
So when when people say, youknow, a lot of people don't want
to know how to, you know, getbetter at sex or try new things.
Yes, they do, but a lot ofpeople are afraid.

(50:50):
A lot of people are afraid to bethemselves in those
relationships.
I think we talked about thislast year, it was a few years
ago, about being arepresentative and about not
being being open to who you arein that relationship and
exploring yourself in oneanother in those relationships.
How best to do, especially ifyou marry to that person.

(51:14):
You know, she says they've beentogether for eight years and
they've been married with five.
This is the time that you doneed to explore with one
another, to tap in, to see, tobe, you know what I'm saying?
But you are growing together andnot growing apart.
You know, this is where you doit together.
You know, okay, well, I likethis, I don't like this, I like
this, I don't like this.

(51:34):
I remember even tapping into theswinger lifestyle and seeing
these couples that's in theselifestyles.
Some of these lifestyles are notfor everyone, it's not.
But you do, you see, I see a lotof couples that do very well in
this lifestyle on their own, andthen they have a great family

(51:55):
structure.
And some of them you don't, youknow.
So it depends on who you are,what securities or insecurities
that you have on yourself beforegetting into any relationship.
And so, but tapping in, tryingto tap in to get better in with
your sexual needs, especiallywith someone else, you truly got

(52:16):
to tap in with yourself.
And I think that's somethingthat we lack in doing is because
we are ashamed from tapping intoourselves and exploring
ourselves when doing that.
Yeah, yeah.
So the next one is what if wetry and my partner still feels
weird about it?

(52:37):
Then you respect that.
You don't force it and you don'tguilt them.
Um, but you do have aconversation about why they feel
weird.
Is it insecurity?
Is it a bad past experience?
Is it something cultural orreligious, or is it just a
preference?
And understanding the why helpsyou to navigate that

(52:58):
conversation.
And this is a question for you,chat.
What other questions do y'allhave about bringing toys in the
bedroom?
I want y'all to drop them in thechat and we we could talk about
it.
I like that.
What's the cause Cassandra?
I'm because you like a man, butI don't want to say that.

(53:21):
Keep the spice alive in the yes,keep the spice alive in the
relationship.
Yeah, make sure this uh yeah,make sure the partner is open to
it, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (53:32):
Right.
Yes, communication is the key.

SPEAKER_01 (53:45):
Yeah, I'm seeing this cheating again.
I I guess what I'm missing init, yeah.
Yeah, communication is the key,and you have to be open.
You have to be open, you have tobe open and honest about what
you want in your man.
You you have to.
Um you you just have to.

(54:07):
All right, Mike, Mike.
Um, are we open up the linestonight or are we gonna um roll
out?

SPEAKER_05 (54:13):
Uh we can let me put the link up.

SPEAKER_01 (54:17):
All right, y'all.
So we have done this in a while.
So we're gonna put the link up.
And what we do here, I know somesome of you are new, we're gonna
put the link up, and we and whenwe put the link up, that means
you can come and join the showif you have any questions.
But you gotta keep, you gottakeep it, you gotta keep it
classy and sexy.
No, no, no naughtiness.

(54:40):
No naughtiness, all right.
No, no naughtiness.
So if you have any questions, uhyou can hop on live with us uh
right here, right now.
Uh Dalpa might we'll put thelink up right now.
Um, we're not opening up anyphone lines at this time, um,
but we are opening up the thestreaming lines um if um if you
guys want to join us.

(55:01):
So we're gonna um keep that livefor for a few moments um in
doing that.
So drop on my mic, have you seenanybody that was um who's active
in here, active in in the in thechat?

SPEAKER_05 (55:18):
Um actually the active uh was Cassandra Hussus
2566 and uh DJ.
DJ was pretty active early,maybe he uh fell out.
Uh and Mike Wilson have beenwith us uh since the star.
But uh Cassandra's been realactive uh today.

SPEAKER_04 (55:43):
Okay, okay, yeah.
All right.

SPEAKER_05 (55:49):
I think that is the I would give it to you.

SPEAKER_01 (55:55):
All right, all right.
So in the beginning of the show,we had said that we had um uh
some giveaways, and thegiveaways actually um came over
from last week.
Last week we had an amazingguest.
We had an amazing guest, um NickAtkins from um Pink Socks Um
Life, and that's an organizationthat raised money for different

(56:15):
organizations from all over theworld that they spread love, and
I should have brought the socksin with me again.
And um what we did, we donatedand we ordered a whole bunch of
socks.
And what we do is um we I do Ithink um put it.

(56:36):
Um am I sitting on nope, I don'tsee it.
And what we do is um we ordereduh a we bought a like a dozen,
ordered a dozen a pair of socks.
We donated, we donate money, gotuh a dozen pair of socks, and
each week we would give away apair.

(56:56):
So the pair is you have a pairand you will give one away.
Um Nick had explained it greatlast week.
I think next week we're gonnatake a uh take a little uh audio
of what he said.
So he explained it because heexplained it great, uh, how he
said it.
He said that what you do with itis you wear it out, you wear

(57:16):
your socks out, and whensomebody said, Oh my god, them
some great socks, and you givethe pair of socks to another
person.
But what this does, it buildsconnection, it builds connection
with someone else.
It's all about spreading love toone another.
So whoever watched it last,watched the show last week, let
me know in the chats if I got itat least somewhat right on what

(57:37):
he said.
But next week I'll definitely behaving it.
So until we are out of thesocks, we will be getting the
socks.
So um, what's the name?
Because uh Cassandra umCassandra Hustles.
Yeah, hustles.
If you can hit us in the themessenger uh right now with your

(57:59):
email address, and uh we willdefinitely be hitting you up if
there's something that you wouldlike to be uh included in.
We will send you the socks.
Just give us your mailingaddress, we will send you the
socks.
And all we ask you to do is justtake a picture in the socks,
hashtag axeyomi, hashtag umpinksocks that life, and give it
to somebody um when you wearthem.

(58:20):
It's it's for a good cause.
It really is, it's for um goodcause.
That's across the board.
Okay, and he's a new viewer.
Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful,beautiful.
Congratulations.
So make sure you um you hit himin a yeah, yeah, hit me on um on
IG in the you want to hit himright here?

SPEAKER_05 (58:44):
No, that's where everybody knows.

SPEAKER_01 (58:46):
Yeah, that's where everybody knows.
Yeah, just hit me on the DM inIGM.
So we got Charmaine andCassandra.
And I know I'm tearing your nameup, baby.
I'm so sorry.
Um I am so sorry.
All right, so we had a couple ofpeople in the chat, and I guess
y'all are new here.
Um, I'm always dominant, baby.
I'm always dominant, never stopbeing dominant.

SPEAKER_05 (59:10):
Cassandra's a new member.

SPEAKER_01 (59:11):
Yeah, a new subscriber.
Yeah, thank you, and welcome.
All right, my BTG crew.
We have covered a lot tonight.
Uh, we talked about Tracy'sletter, we talked about male
insecurity around toys, wetalked about long-distance uh
intimacy, we talked aboutproducts, um, we talked about
all of that.
Uh, so let me leave y'all withthis.

(59:32):
Let me leave y'all with this.
Sex is supposed to be fun,intimacy is supposed to be
playful.
In toys, toys are just tools toenhance what's already there.
So if you want to bring toysinto your bedroom, that's
beautiful.
And if you don't, that'sbeautiful too.
There's no right or wrong answeras long as you and your partner

(59:56):
are on the same page and thatyou are communicating.
And for the men watching whofeel intimidating, I want you to

hear me clearly (01:00:03):
you are not being replaced.
You are irreplaceable.
And toys are not the enemy.
Insecurity is, fear is, and thelack of communication is.
But when you show up confident,when you show up curious, when
you show up willing to explorewith your partner, that's sexy.

(01:00:26):
That's powerful.
That's what makes you greatlovers.
So, Mike, Mike, do you have anyfinal thoughts today?

SPEAKER_05 (01:00:33):
Just uh everything you said, that's uh bring them
towards the bedroom and use themas needed.
Because uh can't be intimidatedby them.
Sometimes you need them,sometimes you don't.
But you always have it therewhen you need it.

SPEAKER_01 (01:00:45):
Yes, yes, yes.
Perfect.
All right, y'all.
Here's what I need you all todo.
I need you to go to revive umthe link.
Mike had put the link, link inthe chat, or go to Axe Naomi and
submit to um a letter to talk tome Tuesday.
Check out my reclamation seriesblog.
And remember, May is coming, isour love and mental health
series.
It returns for our mental healthawareness month.

(01:01:06):
Next week, the new shirts willdrop for our May series, and our
proceeds go to our mental healthawareness just like last year.
All right, this is your girl, DGoddess Naomi Banks here with
Dogpound Mike.

SPEAKER_05 (01:01:18):
Mike, yep, yep, yep.

SPEAKER_01 (01:01:19):
We love you all.
Stay reclaimed and unashamed.
And as I always say, be good toone another and yourselves, and
always keep it sexy.
Have an amazing and amazingweekend.
I will see y'all next week.
We are back.

unknown (01:01:36):
Have a good one.

SPEAKER_01 (01:01:38):
Hey, it's the goddess Naomi Banks.

SPEAKER_02 (01:01:40):
And I hope you enjoyed that last episode of Axe
Naomi Bridging the Gap.
And if you did, please like,subscribe, press that
notification button, as well ascomment.
I'll see you next week.
Keep it sexy.

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