Ep. 189: Deciding to Eliminate Goals: Former Green Beret & FBI Analyst Dr. Apollo Emeka on Making Big Decisions That Stick

What if achieving success had nothing to do with setting goals—and everything to do with making decisions you can’t turn back from?

In this episode of Decidedly, we sit down with Dr. Apollo Emeka – former Green Beret, FBI analyst, and business strategist – to uncover why goals keep so many leaders stuck, and why reframing them as decisions is the key to real progress. From evacuating during California wildfires to moving to Panama in just 30 days, Dr. Emeka shares hard-earned lessons in high-stakes decision-making, breaking default patterns, and leading with conviction.

We dive deep into his military-honed frameworks for making confident business choices, the science of commitment, and why creative constraints can be your biggest competitive advantage. If you’ve ever hesitated to take action because you didn’t feel “ready,” this conversation will change how you move forward—fast.

KEY TOPICS

• Why you should eliminate “goals” from your vocabulary

• The three types of decisions: inherited, default, and big

• How to break patterns of indecision in business and life

• The neuroscience of commitment and why it matters

• How to create urgency and creativity through constraints

• Lessons from Special Forces and FBI intelligence analysis

• The “most dangerous” vs. “most likely” risk framework

• How moving to Panama in 30 days shaped his philosophy

• Aligning decisions with happiness and purpose

• Activating your team’s creativity through clear decisions

CHAPTERS

• 00:00 Introduction

• 02:15 Why Constraints Create Creativity

• 04:00 Dr. Apollo’s Path from Green Beret to Business Coach

• 06:40 Inherited, Default, and Big Decisions Explained

• 09:15 Why Most Goals Don’t Actually Excite You

• 14:20 How to Craft a Decision That’s a “10” on the Happiness Scale

• 19:00 The 30-Day Move to Panama – Breaking Comfort Zones

• 21:45 Special Forces Decision-Making Framework

• 24:10 Finding and Mitigating the “Most Dangerous” Risk

• 29:00 The Power of Commitment in Leadership

• 33:00 Why You Should Lead with Emotion, Not Just Logic

• 38:00 Creating Messy, Inspiring Decisions for Your Team

• 41:00 The One Tip Every Business Owner Needs

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Dr. Apollo Emeka is the Founder and CEO of Apollo Strategy Group, a leadership and strategy consultancy that has generated over $500M in value for more than 100 leaders and organizations. A former U.S. Army Special Forces Green Beret and FBI intelligence analyst, he blends two decades of high-stakes experience with a Doctorate in Policy, Planning, and Development from USC. Known for turning diversity, equity, inclusion, and accessibility into engines of innovation, Dr. Emeka draws on his personal journey, from dropping out of high school to becoming a decorated military leader and trusted advisor, to help business owners make bol