October 14, 2025 • 22 mins
Every great leader has faced the quiet question: “Am I really enough?”
In this powerful episode, Dr. John Oda — International Best-Selling Author, business strategist, and neuroscience expert — reveals the hidden truth behind imposter syndrome and how to transform self-doubt into unstoppable confidence.
You’ll discover how to build inner esteem before outer leadership, why identity matters more than position, and how to use Dr. Oda’s Inner Command Reset to turn moments of fear into peak performance.
Through practical steps, emotional mastery, and a deep understanding of human behavior, Dr. Oda guides you to rewire your subconscious mind and step fully into your divine calling as a leader.
If you’ve ever doubted your worth… this episode will remind you:
You were built for this moment.
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Dr. John Oda is an International Best-Selling Author and Business Growth Strategist who has helped businesses uncover hidden millions by blending neuroscience and business mastery. Get a free chapter of his book *Unlimited Business Growth* plus $10,000 worth of online courses at https://ubgp.pnbcgroup.com/book. Connect with Dr. Oda on LinkedIn and discover more at DrJohnOda.com
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In this powerful episode, Dr. John Oda — International Best-Selling Author, business strategist, and neuroscience expert — reveals the hidden truth behind imposter syndrome and how to transform self-doubt into unstoppable confidence.
You’ll discover how to build inner esteem before outer leadership, why identity matters more than position, and how to use Dr. Oda’s Inner Command Reset to turn moments of fear into peak performance.
Through practical steps, emotional mastery, and a deep understanding of human behavior, Dr. Oda guides you to rewire your subconscious mind and step fully into your divine calling as a leader.
If you’ve ever doubted your worth… this episode will remind you:
You were built for this moment.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dr-john-oda-method--5470630/support.
Dr. John Oda is an International Best-Selling Author and Business Growth Strategist who has helped businesses uncover hidden millions by blending neuroscience and business mastery. Get a free chapter of his book *Unlimited Business Growth* plus $10,000 worth of online courses at https://ubgp.pnbcgroup.com/book. Connect with Dr. Oda on LinkedIn and discover more at DrJohnOda.com
Find all my articles, books, and downloads
https://drjohnoda.com/pr-media
Double Your Sales Using NLP
https://ubgp.pnbcgroup.com/
Sport performance ( mind coach) If you want to take your game to the next level,
https://sports.pnbcgroup.com
Six-Hour Business Assessment to find hidden millions in your business
https://drjohnoda.com/new-executive-coaching
Need a speaker at your next event
https://drjohnoda.com/keynote-speaking
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to the Doctor John, the Method where a narrow
science has made business master. Hi. I'm your host to
John Odell and the national best author business growth Strategists.
And each episode I'm gonna really reveal strategies and framworks
to totally change your personal and your professional life to
that next level. We could focus on finding hitting revenues
(00:22):
inside your business leadership. We can focus on sales and
time management. We can focus on symptoms of your business. Today, guys,
a special special spresh show, we're gonna focus on my
new article called Ask Doctor John. All right, so we'll
go from there. But then we'll flip on this side. Guys,
listen to me in each episode is we're gonna add value.
(00:45):
We're gonna but here it goes. Surely subscribe so you
won't miss any episodes. My outcomes to do three at
least a week before I'm not on the business side,
and three a week at least on the team side.
When you like this program, give me a five stars
because this help us reach more. Entrepreneur was just like
you don't forget to download a free chapter of my
book Unlimited Business Growth. Plus you get a ten thousand
(01:08):
dollars of online courses. So you can go to link below,
or you can hit doctor johnold dot com and clip
the picture of the book of the national best seller
of book and hit you there. So pretty jazzed about today,
So I decided to come up with ask doctor John.
Let me tell you how I got this whole subject. First,
when I was a kid, I used to watch Ann Landers,
you know, and when I used to write a column
(01:28):
of people of my age, you know, you know forties
fifty sixths.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
You guy should know a Landers. Right.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
So then when I was in the state of work,
and I used to write for a hundred one hundred papers,
but I was writing more of parenting teen stuff right,
writing columns and answering questions and giving feedback and strategies.
And I had an epiphany about a month ago. I said,
wait a minute, I got it. Let me do an
ask doctor John. So I do this about once or
(01:54):
twice a week on LinkedIn, right, and this one was
pretty cool. So I got to the lady from Shiticago.
She wrote me in and I thought it was a
really great topic. So I explored it and I.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Beat it up.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
So the name of the program is how do I
lead my team when I feel like an impostor.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Okay, that was a deep one. So here it goes.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
This came from Kathy in Chicago. She says, you know
I got this promotion. I do deserve it. But she says,
I feel like I felt you. I feel like I'm cheating.
I feel like, you know, this is not the role
I should be in. Yes, I'm doing the great job.
Yes I'm working my butt off. Yes I'm doing what
(02:39):
I needed and I should get that. But have you
guys ever thought or ever felt like you're not enough?
You know? You know? So here's what she writes, right,
So let me tell you what she writes exactly. She
writes this to me, I recently got promoted to be
a team league and a high performance on paper. I
(03:04):
should feel confident because I earned this role. The deep
inside for luck an impostor. I'm afraid my team is
gonna see through me. How do I lead my team
when I don't even feel like it should be?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
I should get this position. So that's what I told them,
And if you guys have.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
The same thing, I'm gona tell you the exact same thing. First,
take a deep breath.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
When you are feeling is not weakness. This is just awareness.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
You're being aware of the patterns, and you're noticing the
patterns that I should takeing place. And the most dangerous
leaders aren't the ones who doubt themselves. Those are the
ones who never reflect. Imposture syndrome is you're a mind
(04:00):
always asking are you ready to grow into the next
version of yourself? When you step into the leadership role,
the spotlight exposure both your greatness and your insecurities are
gonna show. That's not a sign that you don't belong.
(04:24):
It's a sign that you're evolving. It's almost like taking
the involvement from imagine a cawterpillar to a butterfly. You're
going through that metamorphosis and on this stage you're going
to a metamorphosis. But the cool thing about it is
I'm gonna guide you to that metamorphosis so you can
go further faster.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Does that make sense? Yes? Say yes.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
So when I heard that, I start smiling. I said,
listen to me. That means that.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Listen to me.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
We're human, means that you care, means that you're willing
to grow. So if you feel this way too, welcome.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
You're in powerful company.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Because I believe that every so often we all felt
the exact same way.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Do I belong, Am I enough? And everything else?
Speaker 1 (05:16):
But when I told us this, we need to first
and foremost and write this down where you need to
build your inner self esteem.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Confidence and leadership.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Before you can lead others. You must need you must
be you must be able to lead yourself. Most people
wait for compliments from their bosses and their spirals and
their peers, and it don't come easily. Inefferently, it comes sporadically.
I tell people all the time, listen to me. The
only people that's going to give you compliments is going
to be your parents of their life and if so,
(05:52):
man bless it. It's gonna also be your spouse or
your snooking other. It could probably be your kids if
they want something. It could be your co workers or
your workers. If you do something phenomenal. The rest of
the world is not gonna give you compliments, So you
have to do one and tooth as. You have to
(06:12):
compliment yourself. Build that self esteem up, build that build
what you have up. You build it up, or you wait.
Like most people give you compliments and sometimes they give
people competents. It's a gym they can't take 'em. They
fight with me, and I'm like, guy, stop take the compliments. Right,
But leadership doesn't start with external validation, It start with
(06:37):
internal recognition.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
You gotta work on yourself. So write this down.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Guys, w it's we're gonna have them find out if
this is what you're facing. Every morning, write down three
to five positive truths about yourself. It could be simple
as a man, I love my smile, I'm creative, I'm
i I can, I can do presentations, I c I
can do. The computers are very likable, right, whatever, they
(07:04):
write them down. So here goes do this for like
the next seven days seven days. At the end of
the seven days, you should have between twenty one and
thirty five positive troops about yourself. Now that becomes your
new mental blueprint. And now let me tell you. If
you're struggling with trying to find something greater about yourself, right,
(07:24):
talk to someone who loves you and curious for you.
Sniff canels, just kids, right, talk to even your pets.
Talk to your cat, talk to your dog. I'm not
sure about you, but they talk as well. Find out
someone who can give you positive Sometime people say.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I don't know what it is.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
I can't think that, okay, And don't say that three
are the same ones all the time? Should be three
to five different ones for the next seven days, right,
and then it would do. Now only we're gonna ask
you superchargeing. We're going to work on that subconscious mind.
So I want you to get a marror, maybe in
the bathroom, right, and I want you to say out
(07:59):
loud like, hey, hey, I like my smile. You know
I'm creative. After about two weeks, you change that like
the love. Now here it goes. Now you're listening to yourself. None,
you're you ain't going now and that could be true,
and here goes. If you say something over and over
and over and over again, you gotta believe it. Say
(08:22):
we might as well have to. We might as well
say something positive about ourself than something negative.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
Can I get a yes?
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Yeah, yes, beautiful? So he goes think about this now,
I used to work with that lessons and teams, right,
and I used to work with more you know, the
gangs and everything else. Can imagine. So a parent would say,
are you gonna be just like your dad?
Speaker 2 (08:46):
A loser? Gonna be just like your dad?
Speaker 1 (08:47):
A loser. You're gonna be just like your dad a loser.
You're gonna be like your dad are losing. Guess what happened?
Kids are just like a dad who was a loser,
went to jail the whole nine yards. So I believe
that we can speak things in existence. So we wanna
feed the nervous. We want to feed it so we
can actually say something positive about ourself.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
So it start with the bleeed system. So we feed
that nether.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
System right then we're gonna build the strength from from
the eternal from the Foundation's gonna be like a structure.
It's like when you see an architecture and a civil engineer.
Civil engineer, they're gonna build your structure right some build
your foundation right now. We're gonna build that foundation that
(09:30):
you belong. Foundation that you can love yourself, because if
you can't love yourself, how can you love anybody else?
If you can't love yourself, how can you love your team?
It doesn't work like that. So they have to start
with the first inside of you. How can I love myself?
Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Yes? Say yes, beautiful? And then when you do it enough,
you no longer feel like this fake.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
You just it's gonna feel easy and effything and naturally
because now you realize something that most people never do.
They never work on their inner side. They never work
on the inner side, the internal side of themselves. They
never they never do that. They work on the external. Sorry,
they you know, they get their hair done, they get
(10:12):
their nose done, they get a new clothes, right, which
is fine, don't get me wrong.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
But if you don't work on the inside, the innerview.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
When you can work on that and become one with
yourself and love yourself. Man, I tell people every day
at the gym, I said, man, you know, guys, listen
to me.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
I said, there's a.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Guy asks me, man, why you go to the gym
every day? I said, I'm sexy. I'm just getting the
sexy or part. I said, I'm already sexy. Man, come on,
really said look at me. And of course the laugh,
but I'm I'm dead serious. Why I work at myself?
It's an ongoing daily basis. So the next one you
have to inchor your identity, not your position. Oh let
(10:57):
me write this down again. Guys, write this down. You
gotta anchor your identity, not your position. If you're the
CEO of the VP, and you're going around trying to
be significant and say I'm the VP. You need to
treat me with some respects. It's not gonna work. It's
not work short term. You're gonna be scared of the job. X, Y,
and Z and a lot of people they go by
their position.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
I forget that, man.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
I want to go by my identity who I am
as a person, all right, because I worked on myself
and yes, I'm like the ball, I'm kind over nine years,
but I'm also directing to the point, and I work
on myself right. So your title does not define you.
(11:38):
Your standards, do your integrity, due your charisma, due your
care to do. You're chosen for a reason. Someone saw
leadership potential in you even before you did. Remember when
I first got my leadership job and mental health and
(12:00):
I was running the whole hospital and they asked me,
how am I gonna do things. I'm i'na say, well,
I need it. I'm gonna do it like Chicago Bulls.
I needed I need my Michael Jordan, I need my
Scottie Pippin. I was looking at all my whole team
and I said, everybody have to know their position, and
we have to play it each and every day, and
we did because we helped out so many people changing
their lives. Right, But then what you do, guys, right
(12:24):
to work on the inner side of it. Right? Have
you guys ever heard of affirmations on steroids? So affirmation
says something over and over and over and over again.
Think you girl, rich guy. Napoleon Hill mentioned all those
suggestions you say with something with feeling, with emotions to
get the subconscry's mind. We're gonna go to stuff for
We're gonna say something called incantations.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
And of course.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
You know people heard of incantations of in Canton like witchcraft,
not that, but in a positive way. Right, So I
want you to do I mean all those suggestion meets
and affirmation, no steroids, and once you just say.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
This theory and this statement over again.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Now, I'm a voice. I would lead, not follow. I
am a leader. I demand more for myself than anyone
would expect. And if we say this over and over,
see I got about six or seven incantations I do
each and every day. Why it feeds my nervous system,
it feeds my neurology, it feeds my internal Now when
(13:27):
I say that, No, I am the voice, right, And
I say these things for power, and then with the
emotions until it gets to the subconscious mind and now
it becomes a part of me. Does that make sense?
Beautiful guys, you pumping me up today again? You say,
(13:47):
now I am the voice. I would lead, not follow.
I am a leader. I demand for myself that any
one one is would expect. Right, And I say a
couple of you know, and I say something like I say,
you know, God's worth searching out left flos now in
easis like an avalanche of abundance on my knees to
close intontaneous amoan.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
God and God is everything. When I say these things
over and over and over and.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Over again, what's just doing? Guys's working on my innerside.
He's working on me right now. And I got a
little bit more, you know, As I said, guys, I've
studying with Tony Robbins and all these great people, and
I add stuff, tweak stuff out. I have a lot
of different ones, right, So just a thought right now,
when you.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Do this, it's make a positive change.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
So I do mine about every two or three hours
a day, doing about thirty forty minutes in the morning time,
I do a little ritual. Then about every two or
three hours a day visualization on dards I work on John.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
So with that comes identity.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
It's not a label, it's the standards of what I
live on a daily basis. Now the next one guys,
this huge one writes this down. The speedy leaders, the
speed of the pack. So your team's gonna marry your energy.
If you show up in certain they will too. If
(15:13):
you play your B game, they're gonna play and see
your D game. If you complain, they're gonna play it.
If they gossip, they're gonna do the same thing about it. Right,
So I tell people up fronts. So I go to gym,
right and I said, they'd be how y'all doing today?
People always said I'm doing good and doing well.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Let's have a question for you.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Come to gym every freaking day. You're looking great, you're
looking amazing. How can you do and do it? How
can you do good? It doesn't align. We conform what
society wants to do. When they ask me what I'm doing,
I said, I'm doing magnificent, phenomenal, unfreaking believable, outstanding, because
that's what I think about I don't think about the
doom and gloom if you if you don't work on yourself,
(15:54):
you're gonna think about the dooman and the gloom and
the anger and the stress and the worry and all
this lower vipe that's not gonna get you to where
you need to be at in life anyway.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
So the speed the leader of the speed of the pack.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
So I can't come in there angry or piste off,
or or complaining or.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Gossiping, because that's what they're gonna do as well.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
So you need a first and from most set of tone.
You're got a set of tone where you're gonna be
at right. And here goes man. When people are doing
something well, man, celebraty to pump them up, great job,
you know, be their cheer leader and encourage them because
you're a leader. Does that make sense? Beautiful? Here goes
(16:40):
You need to when you go to work and arrive early,
you know, you need to do what I call supervision.
Talk to the team, figure out what's going on. There
goes the dreams, what they need to work on, give
them a game plan, and then measure to see if
they're getting closer in front of their way does that
(17:01):
make sense? The key is the buildger to um up
the keys the budgeer. I didnty, It's not about your title.
Have open door policy, listen to the y'all can come
in there, schedule time, scheduled appointment, figure out what's going on,
how we can do it right.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
But become that team person.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Then of course I created you know, you guys heard
of nural linguistic programming, you know, created back in the seventies,
and of course uh was it? Uh Tony created the
one neurow association conditioning. You also have created one narrow coding.
I created one to call it narrow business conditioning, right
and with the inner command method. Alright, so the narrow
(17:40):
of course nervous system business. I worked with some of
the the the the best minds in the world and
conditioning when W W W, when you get leverage, that's
when you make a change. So when the so when
so when you have like a the the voice that doubts,
that's like you're not ready, you know, you know? And
(18:01):
and so my whole thing about is I always try
to rewire everything. When I have the negativity, I try
to re I try to My outcome is to rewire
it right. And when you can rewire it, everything is
actually amazing. So here's what I want you to do.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Right.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
So man, imagine they say that you're angry, angry, angry, angry, angry. Right,
you get all pissed off like most of us do.
Once you stop, take a deep breath. Step in a
moment when you're total confident. Remember that Monday could be
on your wedding day, it could do when you graduated college,
could do whatever.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
But step in that moment when you're totally confident.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
I want you to feel that exact moment when you're
totally confident and that you're just walking like I'm on water.
I want you to feel that. I wanna hear it right,
very very good, very very good. There you go now,
and I want you to step inside this big giant
that you're a hundred feet tall, and you can feel
(18:58):
all the excitement, you can feel people cheering you because
you're doing such a great job. I want you to
step inside that picture. This is called my uh neuro
miss is conditioning. I want you to feel the excitement,
feel your f fill the part that you have this
big giant and you're talking and everyone's just cheering you
on with this big old stadium and they're going yes,
(19:20):
Johnny Doney, Doney Doney, guys, yes.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
And you're feeling that you're just excitement, right, very very good.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
I want you know, to declare this moment don't want
anything takes place. You can step inside that giant and
feel the power and feel the excitement and still a
treat your team might go. So we have different techniques
and different strategies and move forward. I teach this a
lot of when I'm working with my sports performance kids.
(19:50):
You know, an adults right, how to get in state,
how to get back into zone again.
Speaker 2 (19:57):
So people got understand this is not a fantasy.
Speaker 1 (19:59):
This is conditioned condition of self conscient mind. I'm trending
in your nervous system to return to certainty under pressure.
It's a big difference, right, final thoughts. Right, if you
feel like an.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
Aposter, it's not a curse man, it's a call. It's
a call to girl, it's a card of hill, It's
a call to evolve. Don't hide from it. Work on
yourself daily.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
If you need guidance, finamential coach who can help you
can see the results in weeks not years. So because
My mission is it is my moral obligation to help
people just like you to rise above the voice of
doubt and to step into the full divine of calling.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Yourself a leader.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
With my thirty eight years of being my neuroscience and
mental health and human behavior, I can tell you I
can transform. It isn't about time, It's about your decision.
So today, if you guys need some help to go
further faster, I would love to help you out. I
would love to show you how to actually function as
a human, how to be that leader and not to
(21:08):
be the imposture, but to have a stronger identity so
you can actually change the quality of your life and
all the clubs you have the honor of touching everybody else.
I believe that transmission taking a heartbeat and you're actually done.
But what we need is you need to decide today
that you never ever, ever, ever, ever ever ever want.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
To have that imposture syndrome.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
You're being invited to become who you were and who
you always was meant to be and carethy thank you
so much for writing this in everyone's listening in you
got this. If this episode serves you in the highest way,
share this with one of your leaders. Share this with
(21:55):
anyone else. Give me five stars. Five stars is great
pastor the five more areentreneurs. Right when you wanna go
further faster, you know what to do, and we have
a teen program. Do we do the exact same thing.
We change people lives on teen issues, on parenting issues.
I'm free to go further faster. Give me a five star,
you guys, until next time. We got links below of
(22:16):
my pr stuff and stuff that we actually do to
actually change your lives. Till next time, take care and
always got blessed.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
Bye for now
Welcome to the Doctor John, the Method where a narrow
science has made business master. Hi. I'm your host to
John Odell and the national best author business growth Strategists.
And each episode I'm gonna really reveal strategies and framworks
to totally change your personal and your professional life to
that next level. We could focus on finding hitting revenues
(00:22):
inside your business leadership. We can focus on sales and
time management. We can focus on symptoms of your business. Today, guys,
a special special spresh show, we're gonna focus on my
new article called Ask Doctor John. All right, so we'll
go from there. But then we'll flip on this side. Guys,
listen to me in each episode is we're gonna add value.
(00:45):
We're gonna but here it goes. Surely subscribe so you
won't miss any episodes. My outcomes to do three at
least a week before I'm not on the business side,
and three a week at least on the team side.
When you like this program, give me a five stars
because this help us reach more. Entrepreneur was just like
you don't forget to download a free chapter of my
book Unlimited Business Growth. Plus you get a ten thousand
(01:08):
dollars of online courses. So you can go to link below,
or you can hit doctor johnold dot com and clip
the picture of the book of the national best seller
of book and hit you there. So pretty jazzed about today,
So I decided to come up with ask doctor John.
Let me tell you how I got this whole subject. First,
when I was a kid, I used to watch Ann Landers,
you know, and when I used to write a column
(01:28):
of people of my age, you know, you know forties
fifty sixths.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
You guy should know a Landers. Right.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
So then when I was in the state of work,
and I used to write for a hundred one hundred papers,
but I was writing more of parenting teen stuff right,
writing columns and answering questions and giving feedback and strategies.
And I had an epiphany about a month ago. I said,
wait a minute, I got it. Let me do an
ask doctor John. So I do this about once or
(01:54):
twice a week on LinkedIn, right, and this one was
pretty cool. So I got to the lady from Shiticago.
She wrote me in and I thought it was a
really great topic. So I explored it and I.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Beat it up.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
So the name of the program is how do I
lead my team when I feel like an impostor.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Okay, that was a deep one. So here it goes.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
This came from Kathy in Chicago. She says, you know
I got this promotion. I do deserve it. But she says,
I feel like I felt you. I feel like I'm cheating.
I feel like, you know, this is not the role
I should be in. Yes, I'm doing the great job.
Yes I'm working my butt off. Yes I'm doing what
(02:39):
I needed and I should get that. But have you
guys ever thought or ever felt like you're not enough?
You know? You know? So here's what she writes, right,
So let me tell you what she writes exactly. She
writes this to me, I recently got promoted to be
a team league and a high performance on paper. I
(03:04):
should feel confident because I earned this role. The deep
inside for luck an impostor. I'm afraid my team is
gonna see through me. How do I lead my team
when I don't even feel like it should be?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
I should get this position. So that's what I told them,
And if you guys have.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
The same thing, I'm gona tell you the exact same thing. First,
take a deep breath.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
When you are feeling is not weakness. This is just awareness.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
You're being aware of the patterns, and you're noticing the
patterns that I should takeing place. And the most dangerous
leaders aren't the ones who doubt themselves. Those are the
ones who never reflect. Imposture syndrome is you're a mind
(04:00):
always asking are you ready to grow into the next
version of yourself? When you step into the leadership role,
the spotlight exposure both your greatness and your insecurities are
gonna show. That's not a sign that you don't belong.
(04:24):
It's a sign that you're evolving. It's almost like taking
the involvement from imagine a cawterpillar to a butterfly. You're
going through that metamorphosis and on this stage you're going
to a metamorphosis. But the cool thing about it is
I'm gonna guide you to that metamorphosis so you can
go further faster.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Does that make sense? Yes? Say yes.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
So when I heard that, I start smiling. I said,
listen to me. That means that.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Listen to me.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
We're human, means that you care, means that you're willing
to grow. So if you feel this way too, welcome.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
You're in powerful company.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Because I believe that every so often we all felt
the exact same way.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Do I belong, Am I enough? And everything else?
Speaker 1 (05:16):
But when I told us this, we need to first
and foremost and write this down where you need to
build your inner self esteem.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Confidence and leadership.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Before you can lead others. You must need you must
be you must be able to lead yourself. Most people
wait for compliments from their bosses and their spirals and
their peers, and it don't come easily. Inefferently, it comes sporadically.
I tell people all the time, listen to me. The
only people that's going to give you compliments is going
to be your parents of their life and if so,
(05:52):
man bless it. It's gonna also be your spouse or
your snooking other. It could probably be your kids if
they want something. It could be your co workers or
your workers. If you do something phenomenal. The rest of
the world is not gonna give you compliments, So you
have to do one and tooth as. You have to
(06:12):
compliment yourself. Build that self esteem up, build that build
what you have up. You build it up, or you wait.
Like most people give you compliments and sometimes they give
people competents. It's a gym they can't take 'em. They
fight with me, and I'm like, guy, stop take the compliments. Right,
But leadership doesn't start with external validation, It start with
(06:37):
internal recognition.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
You gotta work on yourself. So write this down.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Guys, w it's we're gonna have them find out if
this is what you're facing. Every morning, write down three
to five positive truths about yourself. It could be simple
as a man, I love my smile, I'm creative, I'm
i I can, I can do presentations, I c I
can do. The computers are very likable, right, whatever, they
(07:04):
write them down. So here goes do this for like
the next seven days seven days. At the end of
the seven days, you should have between twenty one and
thirty five positive troops about yourself. Now that becomes your
new mental blueprint. And now let me tell you. If
you're struggling with trying to find something greater about yourself, right,
(07:24):
talk to someone who loves you and curious for you.
Sniff canels, just kids, right, talk to even your pets.
Talk to your cat, talk to your dog. I'm not
sure about you, but they talk as well. Find out
someone who can give you positive Sometime people say.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I don't know what it is.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
I can't think that, okay, And don't say that three
are the same ones all the time? Should be three
to five different ones for the next seven days, right,
and then it would do. Now only we're gonna ask
you superchargeing. We're going to work on that subconscious mind.
So I want you to get a marror, maybe in
the bathroom, right, and I want you to say out
(07:59):
loud like, hey, hey, I like my smile. You know
I'm creative. After about two weeks, you change that like
the love. Now here it goes. Now you're listening to yourself. None,
you're you ain't going now and that could be true,
and here goes. If you say something over and over
and over and over again, you gotta believe it. Say
(08:22):
we might as well have to. We might as well
say something positive about ourself than something negative.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
Can I get a yes?
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Yeah, yes, beautiful? So he goes think about this now,
I used to work with that lessons and teams, right,
and I used to work with more you know, the
gangs and everything else. Can imagine. So a parent would say,
are you gonna be just like your dad?
Speaker 2 (08:46):
A loser? Gonna be just like your dad?
Speaker 1 (08:47):
A loser. You're gonna be just like your dad a loser.
You're gonna be like your dad are losing. Guess what happened?
Kids are just like a dad who was a loser,
went to jail the whole nine yards. So I believe
that we can speak things in existence. So we wanna
feed the nervous. We want to feed it so we
can actually say something positive about ourself.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
So it start with the bleeed system. So we feed
that nether.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
System right then we're gonna build the strength from from
the eternal from the Foundation's gonna be like a structure.
It's like when you see an architecture and a civil engineer.
Civil engineer, they're gonna build your structure right some build
your foundation right now. We're gonna build that foundation that
(09:30):
you belong. Foundation that you can love yourself, because if
you can't love yourself, how can you love anybody else?
If you can't love yourself, how can you love your team?
It doesn't work like that. So they have to start
with the first inside of you. How can I love myself?
Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Yes? Say yes, beautiful? And then when you do it enough,
you no longer feel like this fake.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
You just it's gonna feel easy and effything and naturally
because now you realize something that most people never do.
They never work on their inner side. They never work
on the inner side, the internal side of themselves. They
never they never do that. They work on the external. Sorry,
they you know, they get their hair done, they get
(10:12):
their nose done, they get a new clothes, right, which
is fine, don't get me wrong.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
But if you don't work on the inside, the innerview.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
When you can work on that and become one with
yourself and love yourself. Man, I tell people every day
at the gym, I said, man, you know, guys, listen
to me.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
I said, there's a.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Guy asks me, man, why you go to the gym
every day? I said, I'm sexy. I'm just getting the
sexy or part. I said, I'm already sexy. Man, come on,
really said look at me. And of course the laugh,
but I'm I'm dead serious. Why I work at myself?
It's an ongoing daily basis. So the next one you
have to inchor your identity, not your position. Oh let
(10:57):
me write this down again. Guys, write this down. You
gotta anchor your identity, not your position. If you're the
CEO of the VP, and you're going around trying to
be significant and say I'm the VP. You need to
treat me with some respects. It's not gonna work. It's
not work short term. You're gonna be scared of the job. X, Y,
and Z and a lot of people they go by
their position.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
I forget that, man.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
I want to go by my identity who I am
as a person, all right, because I worked on myself
and yes, I'm like the ball, I'm kind over nine years,
but I'm also directing to the point, and I work
on myself right. So your title does not define you.
(11:38):
Your standards, do your integrity, due your charisma, due your
care to do. You're chosen for a reason. Someone saw
leadership potential in you even before you did. Remember when
I first got my leadership job and mental health and
(12:00):
I was running the whole hospital and they asked me,
how am I gonna do things. I'm i'na say, well,
I need it. I'm gonna do it like Chicago Bulls.
I needed I need my Michael Jordan, I need my
Scottie Pippin. I was looking at all my whole team
and I said, everybody have to know their position, and
we have to play it each and every day, and
we did because we helped out so many people changing
their lives. Right, But then what you do, guys, right
(12:24):
to work on the inner side of it. Right? Have
you guys ever heard of affirmations on steroids? So affirmation
says something over and over and over and over again.
Think you girl, rich guy. Napoleon Hill mentioned all those
suggestions you say with something with feeling, with emotions to
get the subconscry's mind. We're gonna go to stuff for
We're gonna say something called incantations.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
And of course.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
You know people heard of incantations of in Canton like witchcraft,
not that, but in a positive way. Right, So I
want you to do I mean all those suggestion meets
and affirmation, no steroids, and once you just say.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
This theory and this statement over again.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Now, I'm a voice. I would lead, not follow. I
am a leader. I demand more for myself than anyone
would expect. And if we say this over and over,
see I got about six or seven incantations I do
each and every day. Why it feeds my nervous system,
it feeds my neurology, it feeds my internal Now when
(13:27):
I say that, No, I am the voice, right, And
I say these things for power, and then with the
emotions until it gets to the subconscious mind and now
it becomes a part of me. Does that make sense?
Beautiful guys, you pumping me up today again? You say,
(13:47):
now I am the voice. I would lead, not follow.
I am a leader. I demand for myself that any
one one is would expect. Right, And I say a
couple of you know, and I say something like I say,
you know, God's worth searching out left flos now in
easis like an avalanche of abundance on my knees to
close intontaneous amoan.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
God and God is everything. When I say these things
over and over and over and.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Over again, what's just doing? Guys's working on my innerside.
He's working on me right now. And I got a
little bit more, you know, As I said, guys, I've
studying with Tony Robbins and all these great people, and
I add stuff, tweak stuff out. I have a lot
of different ones, right, So just a thought right now,
when you.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Do this, it's make a positive change.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
So I do mine about every two or three hours
a day, doing about thirty forty minutes in the morning time,
I do a little ritual. Then about every two or
three hours a day visualization on dards I work on John.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
So with that comes identity.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
It's not a label, it's the standards of what I
live on a daily basis. Now the next one guys,
this huge one writes this down. The speedy leaders, the
speed of the pack. So your team's gonna marry your energy.
If you show up in certain they will too. If
(15:13):
you play your B game, they're gonna play and see
your D game. If you complain, they're gonna play it.
If they gossip, they're gonna do the same thing about it. Right,
So I tell people up fronts. So I go to gym,
right and I said, they'd be how y'all doing today?
People always said I'm doing good and doing well.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Let's have a question for you.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Come to gym every freaking day. You're looking great, you're
looking amazing. How can you do and do it? How
can you do good? It doesn't align. We conform what
society wants to do. When they ask me what I'm doing,
I said, I'm doing magnificent, phenomenal, unfreaking believable, outstanding, because
that's what I think about I don't think about the
doom and gloom if you if you don't work on yourself,
(15:54):
you're gonna think about the dooman and the gloom and
the anger and the stress and the worry and all
this lower vipe that's not gonna get you to where
you need to be at in life anyway.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
So the speed the leader of the speed of the pack.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
So I can't come in there angry or piste off,
or or complaining or.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Gossiping, because that's what they're gonna do as well.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
So you need a first and from most set of tone.
You're got a set of tone where you're gonna be
at right. And here goes man. When people are doing
something well, man, celebraty to pump them up, great job,
you know, be their cheer leader and encourage them because
you're a leader. Does that make sense? Beautiful? Here goes
(16:40):
You need to when you go to work and arrive early,
you know, you need to do what I call supervision.
Talk to the team, figure out what's going on. There
goes the dreams, what they need to work on, give
them a game plan, and then measure to see if
they're getting closer in front of their way does that
(17:01):
make sense? The key is the buildger to um up
the keys the budgeer. I didnty, It's not about your title.
Have open door policy, listen to the y'all can come
in there, schedule time, scheduled appointment, figure out what's going on,
how we can do it right.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
But become that team person.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Then of course I created you know, you guys heard
of nural linguistic programming, you know, created back in the seventies,
and of course uh was it? Uh Tony created the
one neurow association conditioning. You also have created one narrow coding.
I created one to call it narrow business conditioning, right
and with the inner command method. Alright, so the narrow
(17:40):
of course nervous system business. I worked with some of
the the the the best minds in the world and
conditioning when W W W, when you get leverage, that's
when you make a change. So when the so when
so when you have like a the the voice that doubts,
that's like you're not ready, you know, you know? And
(18:01):
and so my whole thing about is I always try
to rewire everything. When I have the negativity, I try
to re I try to My outcome is to rewire
it right. And when you can rewire it, everything is
actually amazing. So here's what I want you to do.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Right.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
So man, imagine they say that you're angry, angry, angry, angry, angry. Right,
you get all pissed off like most of us do.
Once you stop, take a deep breath. Step in a
moment when you're total confident. Remember that Monday could be
on your wedding day, it could do when you graduated college,
could do whatever.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
But step in that moment when you're totally confident.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
I want you to feel that exact moment when you're
totally confident and that you're just walking like I'm on water.
I want you to feel that. I wanna hear it right,
very very good, very very good. There you go now,
and I want you to step inside this big giant
that you're a hundred feet tall, and you can feel
(18:58):
all the excitement, you can feel people cheering you because
you're doing such a great job. I want you to
step inside that picture. This is called my uh neuro
miss is conditioning. I want you to feel the excitement,
feel your f fill the part that you have this
big giant and you're talking and everyone's just cheering you
on with this big old stadium and they're going yes,
(19:20):
Johnny Doney, Doney Doney, guys, yes.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
And you're feeling that you're just excitement, right, very very good.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
I want you know, to declare this moment don't want
anything takes place. You can step inside that giant and
feel the power and feel the excitement and still a
treat your team might go. So we have different techniques
and different strategies and move forward. I teach this a
lot of when I'm working with my sports performance kids.
(19:50):
You know, an adults right, how to get in state,
how to get back into zone again.
Speaker 2 (19:57):
So people got understand this is not a fantasy.
Speaker 1 (19:59):
This is conditioned condition of self conscient mind. I'm trending
in your nervous system to return to certainty under pressure.
It's a big difference, right, final thoughts. Right, if you
feel like an.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
Aposter, it's not a curse man, it's a call. It's
a call to girl, it's a card of hill, It's
a call to evolve. Don't hide from it. Work on
yourself daily.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
If you need guidance, finamential coach who can help you
can see the results in weeks not years. So because
My mission is it is my moral obligation to help
people just like you to rise above the voice of
doubt and to step into the full divine of calling.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Yourself a leader.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
With my thirty eight years of being my neuroscience and
mental health and human behavior, I can tell you I
can transform. It isn't about time, It's about your decision.
So today, if you guys need some help to go
further faster, I would love to help you out. I
would love to show you how to actually function as
a human, how to be that leader and not to
(21:08):
be the imposture, but to have a stronger identity so
you can actually change the quality of your life and
all the clubs you have the honor of touching everybody else.
I believe that transmission taking a heartbeat and you're actually done.
But what we need is you need to decide today
that you never ever, ever, ever, ever ever ever want.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
To have that imposture syndrome.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
You're being invited to become who you were and who
you always was meant to be and carethy thank you
so much for writing this in everyone's listening in you
got this. If this episode serves you in the highest way,
share this with one of your leaders. Share this with
(21:55):
anyone else. Give me five stars. Five stars is great
pastor the five more areentreneurs. Right when you wanna go
further faster, you know what to do, and we have
a teen program. Do we do the exact same thing.
We change people lives on teen issues, on parenting issues.
I'm free to go further faster. Give me a five star,
you guys, until next time. We got links below of
(22:16):
my pr stuff and stuff that we actually do to
actually change your lives. Till next time, take care and
always got blessed.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
Bye for now
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