How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!

Episodes

The Content Trap: Use My ‘80/20 Rule’ to Go from Overthinking to Effortless Flirting

July 17, 2025 • 30 mins
Social media is ruining your love life. You watch tons of dating advice, but you still struggle with women, right? You’ve fallen into the Content Trap—trying to remember so many tips that you overthink every move. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals why consuming too much TikTok or YouTube content kills your confidence. And his ‘80/20 Rule’ will help unlock your most fun, flirty, authentic s...
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The Neuroscience of Attraction: How to Rewire Your Brain for Dating Success (with Harvard’s Dr. Ali Binazir)

July 15, 2025 • 65 mins
Ever wonder, “Am I enough to find love?” Harvard-educated physician Ali Binazir has a hopeful answer! The man behind the “Trillion Sided Dice” theory of existence (seriously, it’ll break your brain) shares his own dating journey—still a virgin at 23—and the breakthroughs that changed everything. Plus, Binazir, co-author of the bestselling book “The 5 Hidden Love Questions,” explains why approach anxiety is hardwired into your brain...
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From Invisible to Irresistible: The 7 Dating Superpowers that Ignite Attraction—Even if You’re Shy or Introverted

July 10, 2025 • 71 mins
Why do some men effortlessly attract women while guys like you get overlooked? It comes down to mastering the 7 Dating Superpowers. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 7 super attractors that make women think, “Wow, he’s different from other guys!” Whether you want to confidently approach, take your texting skills to new levels, or have great first dates, this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” ...
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The Professional Man’s Paradox: Why You Succeed at Work but Struggle with Women (with Matchmaker Lisa Goodman)

July 8, 2025 • 44 mins
Isn’t it frustrating to achieve career success yet struggle with women? Dating coach Connell Barrett calls this the “Professional Man’s Dating Paradox.” Simply put, the communication skills that help you excel at work can actually hurt your love life. Renowned matchmaker Lisa Goodman, of Selective Search, is here to help. Goodman reveals why your career strengths can be dating weaknesses—and shares proven strategies to turn boardro...
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7 Make-or-Break Dating Moments to Either Get the Girl… or Get Friend-Zoned

July 3, 2025 • 38 mins
The difference between finding love or staying stuck can come down to small but pivotal moments of truth. Like when a conversation with a woman is going well, but you play it safe and don’t go for her number. Or when fear stops you from going for the first kiss on a date. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals 7 make-or-break dating moments that determine whether you get the girl… or stay frustrated. Handle these tur...
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Sex Tips for Shy Guys: How to Touch Her, Talk Dirty and Rock Her World (with Sex Coach Kirsten Trammell)

July 1, 2025 • 65 mins
Are you unsure what to do in bed—and worried you won’t please her the first time you’re intimate? Sex coach Kirsten Trammell, host of “The Naked Connection” podcast, shares insider secrets on how to rock a woman’s world. If you’re inexperienced sexually—or even a virgin—don’t worry. Kirsten’s tested, practical sex tips will help make you confident in the bedroom, so you can give that special woman an unforgettable, connected sexual...
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From Frozen to Fearless! True Stories of Shy Guys Who Beat Approach Anxiety and Found Love IRL

June 26, 2025 • 52 mins
Want to approach women IRL—but you freeze up or overthink it? Connell Barrett, bestselling author and top dating coach, helps shy men meet wonderful women without pickup lines or weird tricks. In this episode, hear how guys like you overcame anxiety, walked up to women in bars, bookstores and gyms, and sparked real-life romance.

You’re About to Learn:

02:42: How Short, Shy Ken Scored His First Kiss Ever—with a Tall, Stylish Blonde

16:...
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20 Dating Lessons That Took Me 20 Years to Master—You’ll Learn Them by Lunch (Special Series!)

June 24, 2025 • 49 mins
Struggling in your love life? Low on dates and confidence? Twenty years ago, Connell Barrett was in your shoes. So he began a journey to fix his dating problems. To mark his 20th year in the dating trenches, Connell kicks off a new series. In this premiere episode, he reveals 20 powerful, practical tips straight from his #1 Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t.” Here’s the good news: You don’t have to spend years swiping, ...
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The Speed Dating Move that Drives Women Wild: Why Vulnerability Wins Every Time (Featuring Kavita Ajwani)

June 19, 2025 • 47 mins
You struggle to connect with women, right? What if you could confidently walk into a crowded room and get numbers from women who find you utterly charming? You actually can—when you get great at speed dating! In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes speed dating expert Kavita Ajwani. As a woman, Kavita—founder of Dashing Date—knows what women really want from men. You’re about to learn why vulnerability, not pickup ta...
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Textual Healing! Connell’s 4-Part Texting Formula to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting Dates

June 17, 2025 • 61 mins
Do you get ghosted on the apps and don’t know why? Do you freeze up on dates because you’re not sure what to talk about? Would you love to meet women at the gym, but you’re worried you’ll seem creepy? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you step-by-step solutions to all of these issues. Plus, you’ll discover his simple texting formula that will make it easy to spar...
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I Got Rejected 567 Times… Which is Why I’m GREAT with Women Now

June 10, 2025 • 38 mins
Fear of rejection can make you freeze. It’s why you don’t say hi to the stylish woman at the café or make a move on the date. In this episode of. “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett gets raw and real about his own fear of rejection. He also shares how getting blown off so many times (“F-off, Ginger!”) actually opened the door to real romantic wins! If you’re tired of being too afraid to make move, this episode w...
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The Flirty Dozen: 12 Ways to Smash Out of the Friend Zone and Spark Connection on First Dates

June 5, 2025 • 59 mins
Tired of getting stuck in the dreaded Friend Zone? It’s frustrating when your dates feel flat and women say, “I just didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down exactly how to go from the Friend Zone to the Flirty Zone, with 12 game-changing moves that make romantic sparks fly. From charming texts to confidently going for that first kiss, your love life is about ...
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How to Be Bold, Flirty—and Never, Ever ‘That Creepy Guy’: A Dating Guide for Modern Gentlemen

June 3, 2025 • 48 mins
Dating and flirting can feel like a minefield. If you’re like many men in the #MeToo era, the fear of seeming creepy or weird can crush your confidence. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shows you how to be bold, flirty, and totally respectful, so you can charm women without crossing any lines. This is your guide to building a real connection with class and confidence—...
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27 Flirting Tips in 27 Minutes! Go from the Friend Zone to the First Kiss—FAST

May 29, 2025 • 31 mins
Not knowing how to flirt with women can leave you awkwardly fumbling your words. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett has fast, field-tested fixes! In just 27 minutes, he shares 27 practical flirting tips to help you confidently make sparks fly—on dates, during approaches, and over text. Get ready to escape the friend zone and boldly land that first kiss, even if you’re shy!

Episode Highlights Include:

03:00: 3 Playful...
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Use these 8 Flirty Questions to Stop Boring Women and Spark Deep, Romantic Conversations

May 27, 2025 • 34 mins
Do you get stuck in “interview mode” on dates? Not sure how to text women in a way that actually gets replies? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett answers your questions to help you break out of boring small talk, ask magnetic flirty questions, and master texting with a simple 4-word rule. Whether you’re just starting out or stuck in a dating rut, this episode gives you the tools to build real connection—and get the girlf...
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Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)

May 22, 2025 • 43 mins
Do you struggle to read women? The fear of making the wrong move—and seeming creepy—can kill your confidence. In this encore episode, dating coach Connell Barrett talks with renowned expert and bestselling author Kezia Noble, who’s helped over 100,000 men. They dive into how to read a woman’s signals, how to make the right moves (and avoid the wrong ones), and create real attraction through authenticity.

Kezia and Connell discuss:

7:...
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Tongue-Tied with Women? Become a Funny Flirt with 3 Simple Moves and Get Her Giggling! (Live Coaching with Jake)

May 20, 2025 • 60 mins
Do you feel tongue-tied around attractive women? Want to be funnier and flirtier, but you’re not sure how? In this live coaching session with his client Jake, dating coach Connell Barrett shares 3 simple moves to master funny banter and playful flirting. You’ll hear Jake go from awkward silences to laugh-filled connections, learning how to be funnier and way more attractive—without any weird pickup-artist tricks! Because women are ...
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From Dateless to Dates on Demand! How to Improve Your Profile and Get 2 Dates Per Week (Part 4 of 4)

May 15, 2025 • 48 mins
Are you struggling to get great matches on the apps? Get ready for the game-changing finale of a 4-part series on the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Profile. Your host, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett, reveals how to troubleshoot and fix 7 hidden profile problems. Want to land two dates a week? Listen now!

Highlights of this Episode Include:

01:52: The 12 Essentials You Need for Great Results

06:15: Ben’s Success...
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7 Powerful Secrets to Attraction that Women Have Taught Me (You Need to Know These!)

May 13, 2025 • 24 mins
Do you ever wonder, “How the heck do I become more attractive to women?” You’re about to find out—from women themselves. After 20 years studying the art of male-female connection, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 7 powerful secrets he learned directly from women he’s dated. You’ll discover how to have better first dates, how to text women, how to avoid the friend zone—and more.

Highlights of this Episode:

02...
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Do Women on Tinder Ignore You? The Man Who Invented Swiping Reveals How to Finally Get Matches (with Tinder’s Jonathan Badeen)

May 8, 2025 • 59 mins
Back in the day, Jonathan Badeen was an introvert struggling to meet women and get dates. (Sound familiar?) So he did what any guy would do—he co-founded Tinder, invented swiping, and changed dating (and the world) forever. In this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Badeen joins host and dating coach Connell Barrett to help you finally get quality matches on the apps.

In this episode, Jonathan and Connell discuss:

5:59: Why...
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