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(00:14):
Hey y'all, Hey y'all, Heyy'all. How y'all doing, y'all good?
You make today good? Well,welcome back, Welcome back to the
Life of Lecks and it's your girlwith the clicks, you know, the
homie, the one and only.But for real, do how y'all doing.
I bet you didn't think that thehiatus will take this short or this
song, but here we are.You know, sometimes y'all take time off
(00:37):
to get your mind right. DidI get my mind right? We gonna
see about that. But I'm backright, and I have been having this
feeling all morning. I just neededto get back on this podcast and talk
my feelings out or whatever I needto do, and that's what I chose
to do. So Yeah, todayI want to highlight the importance of getting
(01:00):
help when you need it, becauseat the end of the day, we're
all going through something. Like everysingle person you encounter, walk past,
you know, see from my distance, see on your phone screen, we're
all going through something. And whenyou personally are going through something, When
(01:22):
I'm personally going through something, Ieither have to seek help or I'm gonna
just keep going lower and lower.Like me, I'm one of those stubborn
people that will refuse help like Igot this, and sometimes I ain't got
this, Like truth be told,sometimes we just don't have it. And
whether I'm seeking help from you know, straight from above, from God,
(01:46):
right, that's where my strength comesfrom. And you know, seeking help
from friends, family, seeking helpfrom a mental health professional, right,
seeking help from a doctor, justa regular degular doctor, because go into
the emergency room and go into urgentcare, it's just gonna get you a
(02:07):
prescription, you know that. Iknow that going to a regular degular doctor
that can you know, get youa referral to a specialist that's probably gonna
help what's underlying, all right,we gotta get to the bottom of the
issues to stop having to use allthe tissues. Yeah, we had to
(02:28):
had real help in any situation,in any form fashion, because we cannot
do this on our own. We'renot supposed to. We were designed to
need each other, whether that's asa friend, a listening ear like you
know, people will pay just totalk and have somebody listen, because not
(02:49):
enough people are willing to listen.Not enough people are willing to give up,
you know, their thoughts about themselvesand give up their you know,
ego to care about somebodyody else andtheir issues because if you actually listen,
you might be able to help them, and vice versa, Like if you're
not being open and being willing totalk about your issues, nobody can help
(03:12):
you. I know that from personalexperience, because, like I said,
I always think I got this,and I don't always got this, Like
I don't always have it, Andas much as it hurts to admit,
like it's the true, but Iam also very thankful for the help that
I do get. Like it's sohelpful to know that I can just sit
(03:34):
close my eyes and have a conversationwith God right because he put me here
right, and in my mind,I imagine I'm sitting in front of God,
Jesus, in the Holy Spirit,right, the whole Trinity, everybody
getting in on it, okay,and we just talked like I'm gonna hear
it from all three angles or theyjust gonna be the amen corner like yeah,
glow. So I mean that helps, you know, being able to
(03:59):
talk to people. I'm also verythankful for this podcast because I can just
talk and I'm somebody I can talkall day if I'm comfortable enough to talk
all day. Even if I'm notcomfortable enough to talk all day, I
still talk all day. Like ifI had to spend all day with a
stranger, we would be best friendsby the end of the day, and
probably the next day, I probablywon't even talk to you. Why,
(04:19):
I don't know. I'm also somebodythat ghosts on people. Like college aged
relationships that I had, I wouldghost or be ghosted. And that also
has to do with the fact thatthere wasn't a lot of communication going on
because people don't know how to talkabout their feelings, and that, I
(04:42):
mean that kind of fits the bill. Because we were in college, right,
who had time to talk about feelingstrying to turn up okay, red
fish, red fish, bluefish,yellowfish. You know, it's all there's
plenty of fishing to see. So, yeah, that mindset was not helping
me. It was not helping me. But yeah, as I got older,
(05:04):
you know, I was able tosee how healthy relationships work, how
unhealthy relationships work. I know thedifference. And so like I just say,
nobody can help you on anything ifyou're not able to communicate what you
need. Because you know, whena baby's crying sometimes you just you gotta
(05:26):
guess what's wrong with a baby.It might just be it's hungry, might
just be sleepy, might need adiaper change. You gotta play the guests
and game until they're old enough tosay, I got a potty eat eat
night night. Okay. So beingable to communicate helps us, and I
don't know. In this era ofmy life, I'm learning to communicate more
(05:48):
without over divulging, because not everybodyneeds to know all your business. And
that's just street facts. Okay.I used to be told that I had
a lot of book knowledge, butnot street knowledge. I'm like, yeah,
because I'm not in the streets.I'm in the house three books.
But now I've been out in thestreets, picked up a couple you know
(06:11):
nuggets, brought that back, andso I guess I both know, and
I just wanted to help you allout because we all need some help,
and the sooner that we admit itand actually seek that help, the better
off we will be as a whole. Because closed mouths don't get fit.
And I also learned that from experience, because, like I said, I'm
(06:33):
gonna say it again, I alwaysthink that I got this. So when
I was younger, and I willgo to other people's houses while my mom
was doing whatever I right, probablyin school or whatever, And if I
was hungry, I wouldn't say anything. I would just sit there and wait
for somebody to offer me some foodbecause i'mould jump on it, like,
yeah, I'm hungry now. Butif you don't ask me, am I
(06:54):
hungry? How are you gonna knowI'm hungry? And so one day I
just sat there for hours, hourshours hungry at somebody's house, and when
they finally asked me I was ahungry I was say, yeah, I've
been hungry for a while, andthey were like, why didn't you say
anything? And I was like,I don't know. And I was old
enough to be able to say something, but in my head, I felt
(07:15):
like I didn't want to bother anybodyto face me something to eat. And
I was also dealing with self consciousnessbecause growing up I was on the thicker
side, right, and I'll getcalled fat. So I'm like, if
I'm hungry and I got a choiceon what I wanna eat, I'm gonna
choose the big backed option right pointblank, perry. But in order to
(07:40):
not be well, I guess inmy head people would just call me fat
without even actually calling me fat.I would just imagine that they were calling
me fat or thinking that I wasfat, just because I was hungry.
So I wouldn't be hungry unless theywere hungry, because if you're hungry,
then that must be normal. Butif I'm hungry you're not hungry, that
that means that I'm the big pactin the situation. And I don't know,
(08:03):
I have to grow out of it. I had to grow out of
that quick because, like I said, clothes, my mouths don't give it
and ain't no sense of sitting aroundbeing hungry when you can do something about
that. Because my mama would dropme off of food. I all I
had to do is cook it hurtwhatever. Anyhow, I'm probably didn't plan
for this to be. I don'tknow. I don't know what I was
(08:24):
planning for this episode to be,because it was gonna be just normal,
all right. But I didn't knowwhat I wanted to talk about. And
I was glad to talk about gettinghelp seeking help because like I said,
we can all accuse that. Also, it's just a matter of me doing
something for myself that's helping me rightnow because talking on this podcast is helping
(08:48):
me get my thoughts together, cometo a conclusion about what I actually need
within myself, and whether I'm helpinganybody or not, that's between you and
whoever else. Okay, my namePaul Nest between y'all, my name been
it and I ain't in it.I'm just here to talk to myself because
I guess I am one of thosepeople that like to hear myself talk.
(09:09):
And if you're listening, then obviouslyyou do too. So hey, but
yeah, I don't know if it'sgonna be a long episode. I feel
like it's gonna be a short episode. Then once ed it is, is
gonna be even shorter. But Idon't want to take up more of your
time. I just want to lety'all know that it's okay to need help,
Like it is absolutely okay, becausethere's gonna be somebody that can help
(09:35):
you. That is literally your purposein this world to need help because there's
somebody that can help you, andvice versa, because there's somebody that's gonna
need help and you're gonna be ableto help them because somebody helped you.
Like I'm pretty sure that's why Godput us here. So the more we
get to help and then seeking helpand getting our things and lives together,
(09:58):
the better off will be. SoI guess I'm gonna asking out for help,
like you know, lead some comments, reviews, stars, something like
you scratch my back, I scratchyours, because if you do, I'm
gonna be looking for you, andyou're gonna be, you know, on
my list of people that's good inthis world. Probably like I'm gonna be
your biggest fan you if you're afan of me and you love what I
(10:24):
do. Naturally, I'm just gonnabe a fan of you because what brought
you here? Boo? What broughtyou to me? And if I'm helping
you, baby, please help me? Like we need to help each other
at this point, because why elsewere we brought together like this? So
yeah, I'm gonna get out.Y'all's here. I love bees and chicken
(10:46):
grease, y'all, And like Ialways say, please don't go fucking up.
Nobody to stay because they ain't helpingthe situation. Okay, pe
Hey y'all, Hey y'all, Heyy'all. How y'all doing, y'all good?
You make today good? Well,welcome back, Welcome back to the
Life of Lecks and it's your girlwith the clicks, you know, the
homie, the one and only.But for real, do how y'all doing.
I bet you didn't think that thehiatus will take this short or this
song, but here we are.You know, sometimes y'all take time off
(00:37):
to get your mind right. DidI get my mind right? We gonna
see about that. But I'm backright, and I have been having this
feeling all morning. I just neededto get back on this podcast and talk
my feelings out or whatever I needto do, and that's what I chose
to do. So Yeah, todayI want to highlight the importance of getting
(01:00):
help when you need it, becauseat the end of the day, we're
all going through something. Like everysingle person you encounter, walk past,
you know, see from my distance, see on your phone screen, we're
all going through something. And whenyou personally are going through something, When
(01:22):
I'm personally going through something, Ieither have to seek help or I'm gonna
just keep going lower and lower.Like me, I'm one of those stubborn
people that will refuse help like Igot this, and sometimes I ain't got
this, Like truth be told,sometimes we just don't have it. And
whether I'm seeking help from you know, straight from above, from God,
(01:46):
right, that's where my strength comesfrom. And you know, seeking help
from friends, family, seeking helpfrom a mental health professional, right,
seeking help from a doctor, justa regular degular doctor, because go into
the emergency room and go into urgentcare, it's just gonna get you a
(02:07):
prescription, you know that. Iknow that going to a regular degular doctor
that can you know, get youa referral to a specialist that's probably gonna
help what's underlying, all right,we gotta get to the bottom of the
issues to stop having to use allthe tissues. Yeah, we had to
(02:28):
had real help in any situation,in any form fashion, because we cannot
do this on our own. We'renot supposed to. We were designed to
need each other, whether that's asa friend, a listening ear like you
know, people will pay just totalk and have somebody listen, because not
(02:49):
enough people are willing to listen.Not enough people are willing to give up,
you know, their thoughts about themselvesand give up their you know,
ego to care about somebodyody else andtheir issues because if you actually listen,
you might be able to help them, and vice versa, Like if you're
not being open and being willing totalk about your issues, nobody can help
(03:12):
you. I know that from personalexperience, because, like I said,
I always think I got this,and I don't always got this, Like
I don't always have it, Andas much as it hurts to admit,
like it's the true, but Iam also very thankful for the help that
I do get. Like it's sohelpful to know that I can just sit
(03:34):
close my eyes and have a conversationwith God right because he put me here
right, and in my mind,I imagine I'm sitting in front of God,
Jesus, in the Holy Spirit,right, the whole Trinity, everybody
getting in on it, okay,and we just talked like I'm gonna hear
it from all three angles or theyjust gonna be the amen corner like yeah,
glow. So I mean that helps, you know, being able to
(03:59):
talk to people. I'm also verythankful for this podcast because I can just
talk and I'm somebody I can talkall day if I'm comfortable enough to talk
all day. Even if I'm notcomfortable enough to talk all day, I
still talk all day. Like ifI had to spend all day with a
stranger, we would be best friendsby the end of the day, and
probably the next day, I probablywon't even talk to you. Why,
(04:19):
I don't know. I'm also somebodythat ghosts on people. Like college aged
relationships that I had, I wouldghost or be ghosted. And that also
has to do with the fact thatthere wasn't a lot of communication going on
because people don't know how to talkabout their feelings, and that, I
(04:42):
mean that kind of fits the bill. Because we were in college, right,
who had time to talk about feelingstrying to turn up okay, red
fish, red fish, bluefish,yellowfish. You know, it's all there's
plenty of fishing to see. So, yeah, that mindset was not helping
me. It was not helping me. But yeah, as I got older,
(05:04):
you know, I was able tosee how healthy relationships work, how
unhealthy relationships work. I know thedifference. And so like I just say,
nobody can help you on anything ifyou're not able to communicate what you
need. Because you know, whena baby's crying sometimes you just you gotta
(05:26):
guess what's wrong with a baby.It might just be it's hungry, might
just be sleepy, might need adiaper change. You gotta play the guests
and game until they're old enough tosay, I got a potty eat eat
night night. Okay. So beingable to communicate helps us, and I
don't know. In this era ofmy life, I'm learning to communicate more
(05:48):
without over divulging, because not everybodyneeds to know all your business. And
that's just street facts. Okay.I used to be told that I had
a lot of book knowledge, butnot street knowledge. I'm like, yeah,
because I'm not in the streets.I'm in the house three books.
But now I've been out in thestreets, picked up a couple you know
(06:11):
nuggets, brought that back, andso I guess I both know, and
I just wanted to help you allout because we all need some help,
and the sooner that we admit itand actually seek that help, the better
off we will be as a whole. Because closed mouths don't get fit.
And I also learned that from experience, because, like I said, I'm
(06:33):
gonna say it again, I alwaysthink that I got this. So when
I was younger, and I willgo to other people's houses while my mom
was doing whatever I right, probablyin school or whatever, And if I
was hungry, I wouldn't say anything. I would just sit there and wait
for somebody to offer me some foodbecause i'mould jump on it, like,
yeah, I'm hungry now. Butif you don't ask me, am I
(06:54):
hungry? How are you gonna knowI'm hungry? And so one day I
just sat there for hours, hourshours hungry at somebody's house, and when
they finally asked me I was ahungry I was say, yeah, I've
been hungry for a while, andthey were like, why didn't you say
anything? And I was like,I don't know. And I was old
enough to be able to say something, but in my head, I felt
(07:15):
like I didn't want to bother anybodyto face me something to eat. And
I was also dealing with self consciousnessbecause growing up I was on the thicker
side, right, and I'll getcalled fat. So I'm like, if
I'm hungry and I got a choiceon what I wanna eat, I'm gonna
choose the big backed option right pointblank, perry. But in order to
(07:40):
not be well, I guess inmy head people would just call me fat
without even actually calling me fat.I would just imagine that they were calling
me fat or thinking that I wasfat, just because I was hungry.
So I wouldn't be hungry unless theywere hungry, because if you're hungry,
then that must be normal. Butif I'm hungry you're not hungry, that
that means that I'm the big pactin the situation. And I don't know,
(08:03):
I have to grow out of it. I had to grow out of
that quick because, like I said, clothes, my mouths don't give it
and ain't no sense of sitting aroundbeing hungry when you can do something about
that. Because my mama would dropme off of food. I all I
had to do is cook it hurtwhatever. Anyhow, I'm probably didn't plan
for this to be. I don'tknow. I don't know what I was
(08:24):
planning for this episode to be,because it was gonna be just normal,
all right. But I didn't knowwhat I wanted to talk about. And
I was glad to talk about gettinghelp seeking help because like I said,
we can all accuse that. Also, it's just a matter of me doing
something for myself that's helping me rightnow because talking on this podcast is helping
(08:48):
me get my thoughts together, cometo a conclusion about what I actually need
within myself, and whether I'm helpinganybody or not, that's between you and
whoever else. Okay, my namePaul Nest between y'all, my name been
it and I ain't in it.I'm just here to talk to myself because
I guess I am one of thosepeople that like to hear myself talk.
(09:09):
And if you're listening, then obviouslyyou do too. So hey, but
yeah, I don't know if it'sgonna be a long episode. I feel
like it's gonna be a short episode. Then once ed it is, is
gonna be even shorter. But Idon't want to take up more of your
time. I just want to lety'all know that it's okay to need help,
Like it is absolutely okay, becausethere's gonna be somebody that can help
(09:35):
you. That is literally your purposein this world to need help because there's
somebody that can help you, andvice versa, because there's somebody that's gonna
need help and you're gonna be ableto help them because somebody helped you.
Like I'm pretty sure that's why Godput us here. So the more we
get to help and then seeking helpand getting our things and lives together,
(09:58):
the better off will be. SoI guess I'm gonna asking out for help,
like you know, lead some comments, reviews, stars, something like
you scratch my back, I scratchyours, because if you do, I'm
gonna be looking for you, andyou're gonna be, you know, on
my list of people that's good inthis world. Probably like I'm gonna be
your biggest fan you if you're afan of me and you love what I
(10:24):
do. Naturally, I'm just gonnabe a fan of you because what brought
you here? Boo? What broughtyou to me? And if I'm helping
you, baby, please help me? Like we need to help each other
at this point, because why elsewere we brought together like this? So
yeah, I'm gonna get out.Y'all's here. I love bees and chicken
(10:46):
grease, y'all, And like Ialways say, please don't go fucking up.
Nobody to stay because they ain't helpingthe situation. Okay, pe
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