February 10, 2024 • 12 mins
This podcast illuminates the biological, neurological, and psychological underpinnings of romantic love. It summarizes scientific research on the evolutionary origins of mating behaviors, key hormones and neurotransmitters involved in attraction and bonding, the genetics influencing long-term attachments, and theories on how childhood attachment patterns impact adult relationships. Insights from experts like evolutionary psychologist Dr. Helen Fisher and neuroscientist Dr. James Thomson help depict love as an intricate brain-based phenomenon that science continues to demystify.
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(00:00):
Welcome. I'm so glad you've tunedin to learn more about the science behind
one of life's greatest mysteries. Love. Understanding the psychology, biology, and
chemistry underpinning attraction and attachment promises tobe a fascinating journey. In the modern
age of dating apps and shifting relationshipnorms, having an evidence based perspective on
(00:22):
human bonding is more relevant than ever. By peering into the brains and behaviors
of people in love, science isshedding light on what makes affection take root
or wither, passion fade or endure, from the first flutters of a new
crush to the comfort of a decade'slong marriage. Such knowledge can help us
(00:44):
nurture stronger, more fulfilling bonds.It may reveal hidden compatibility clues when courting
a new flame, or offer insightsto regaining the spark when facing relationship rut
with a longtime partner. So,whether your happily single head over heels in
new love or striving to improve anexisting relationship, understanding the science of love
(01:10):
holds insight. Let's dive in andlearn how this unique human experience evolves in
our bodies and brains. I hopeyou'll come away feeling more connected both to
your loved ones and yourself. Lovehas been poetically and philosophically contemplated throughout human
history, but scientific research is allowingus to understand this complex emotion more deeply
(01:36):
than ever before. From the biologicaldrive to find a mate to the intoxicating
feeling of new love, science isshedding light on why and how we fall
in love. This essay will providean overview of our scientific understanding of romantic
love and the processes underlying this quintessentialhuman experience. First, will examine the
(02:01):
evolutionary origins of romantic love as amotivation system designed to enable mating and reproduction.
Next will explore what happens in thebrain during love, focusing on key
neurotransmitters and brain regions associated with romanticattachment. Finally, will consider the psychological
(02:25):
components of love, how personality,attachment, history, and other factors influence
who and how we love. Alongthe way, we'll hear from psychologists,
neuroscientists, and other experts studying lovefrom a scientific lens. Their insights will
help illustrate current theories about this timeless, universal human phenomenon. As this research
(02:52):
continues to advance, science promises adeeper appreciation of what love means, how
it works, and why it playssuch a pivotal role in the human experience.
The evolutionary origins of romantic love scientistsbelieve that the experience of romantic love
(03:14):
evolved as a drive to promote matingso our ancestors could pass on their genes.
They note that love is one ofthree primary brain systems that evolved for
reproduction, the others being lust andattachment. While lust encourages sexual relations with
a range of partners, romantic loveenables individuals to focus their mating energy on
(03:39):
specific partners. According to many theories, humans developed romantic love as a motivation
system to enable mate choice, aprocess of singles appraising partners based on attractiveness,
resources, personality, and other traitsindicating re productive fitness and genetic quality.
(04:02):
She proposes that love serves primarily todrive reproduction, just like thirst drives
us to get water and hunger drivesus to search for food. Many suggest
that love developed this way due tothe evolutionary burden that human infants uniquely require
(04:23):
intensive care for a prolonged span oftime compared with other mammals. Romantic attachment
between two mates may have promoted thisnecessary childcare, enabling humans to survive and
propagate the species. Brain chemicals involvedin romantic love. When we fall in
love with someone, we experience anintoxicating rush of euphoria and energy. What's
(04:48):
behind this almost addictive state of passionResearch points to the interplay of key hormones
and neurotransmitters. One of the mostimportant chemicals involved with bonding and pair bonding
behaviors is oxytocin, often called thelove hormone or cuddle hormone. Produced in
(05:11):
the hypothalamus region of the brain,Oxytocin facilitates trust, empathy, and generosity.
It surges during hugging, sex,childbirth, and breastfeeding. When a
couple falls in love, oxytocin helpscreate intimacy and attachment between partners. Other
key brain chemicals that increase feelings ofeuphoria and pleasure during love are dopamine,
(05:38):
adrenaline, and serotonin. Dopamine stimulatesdesire and reward pathways in the brain.
It sends signals between nerve cells thatcontrol pleasure. Feelings of exhilaration when initially
falling in love activate the brain's dopaminereward system. Adrenaline and no Orpinephyrine also
(06:00):
spike when people fall for someone new, producing physiological arousal like increased heart rate,
flushed skin, and sweaty palms.Meanwhile, decreases in serotonin intensify this
obsessive focus and almost addictive passion.Collectively, these chemicals produce an intoxicating high
(06:21):
at the start of new romantic relationships. The neuroscience of long term attachment as
intense new love transitions to long termattachment, other neurobiological processes support bonded pairs
staying together. Two neurotransmitters in particularhelp maintain long term relationships. Oxytocin and
(06:44):
vasopressin. Researchers found that prairie voles, small rodents which form monogamous lifetime bonds,
have high densities of oxytocin and vasopressinreceptors in brain areas a sociated with
reward and reinforcement. In an influentialstudy, scientists injected a receptor blocker into
(07:06):
female prairievolus brains, preventing vasopressin fromactivating their reward center neurons. This stopped
their bond formation with their male partners. This led scientists to hypothesize that vasopressin
and oxytocin evolved to help regulate longterm bonding in humans, too, motivating
(07:27):
couples to remain together through factors likemutual affection, shared goals, commitment,
and companionship. Studies also found agenetic basis to long term bonding regulated by
variations in receptors for oxytocin and vasopressin. These neurotransmitters likely modulate human social attachment
(07:51):
behaviors as well brain circuits underlying love. Neuroimaging studies are also elus sedating which
areas of the brain become activated byromantic love. When looking at photos of
a love partner, key regions lightup, including dopamine rich striatum generating feelings
of reward and motivation, emotion processing, limbic areas like the insula, bonding
(08:18):
centers in the singulate cortex, memorylinked hippocampal complex. It's quite remarkable how
a basic biological human function like loveactivates some of the most advanced regions of
our brain, notes a leading neuroscientist. Scientists believe love co opts our neuronal
circuits for drive pleasure and long termattachment to focus our mating energy and encourage
(08:43):
pair bonding for reproduction. Psychological theoriesof romantic love. While biology clearly influences
who and how we love, psychologicalfactors shape relationships too. Humanistic psychologists explain
that individuals have unique love maps,a mental template people develop in childhood based
(09:07):
on their needs, attachment styles,interests, and experiences with caregivers. Our
love maps lead us to be drawnto certain personalities and dispositions over others.
They say they guide us like aninternal GPS, telling us what partners are
a good match. Love maps helpexplain why people are attracted to different personality
(09:28):
types and have varying types they aredrawn to Romantically. Psychologists also study how
attachment theory applies to adult love relationships. Research shows that adult relationships are strongly
impacted by individuals attachment histories from theearliest bonds they formed with caregivers in infancy.
(09:52):
Securely attached individuals tend to have betterfunctioning, longer lasting Romantic relationship science
is bringing unprecedented insights into the biological, neurological, and psychological processes underlying love,
one of our most treasured human experiences. Understanding the behavioral, chemical,
(10:15):
genetic, and neural correlates of bonding, attraction, and attachment promises to offer
new knowledge about relationships, compatibility,and what makes love last. While a
scientific framework can never fully capture themagic or mystery of love, it provides
an important complement to philosophical, spiritual, and poetic perspectives on this eternal human
(10:41):
phenomenon. As research continues illuminating why, how, and who we love,
science and poetry may discover they havemuch to learn from one another. Thank
you so much for joining me toexplore the science of love. I hope
this podcast has illuminated some new insightsinto attraction, bonding, and maintaining healthy
(11:05):
relationships over time. If you enjoyedthis episode, I encourage you to subscribe
to the Quiet Please podcast network soyou never miss the latest releases. We
frequently publish new episodes focusing on thepsychology and neuroscience behind aspects of the human
(11:26):
experience, spanning love, motivation,habits, memory, and much more.
You can find Quiet Pleas across allmajor podcast platforms such as Apple Podcasts,
Spotify, Google Podcasts, Stitcher andmore. Be sure to follow us so
you get automatic updates. Whenever new, mind expanding episodes like this one are
(11:48):
released. I also welcome you toshare this podcast with friends, family,
colleagues, or your online community ifyou found it impactful, help spread knowledge
that could aid others gain a littlemore wisdom navigating the intricate experience of human
love. Thanks again so much forspending some time learning about love along with
(12:11):
me today. This episode was broughtto you by Quiet Please. I hope
to have you back as a lovelylistener and loyal subscriber very soon.
Welcome. I'm so glad you've tunedin to learn more about the science behind
one of life's greatest mysteries. Love. Understanding the psychology, biology, and
chemistry underpinning attraction and attachment promises tobe a fascinating journey. In the modern
age of dating apps and shifting relationshipnorms, having an evidence based perspective on
(00:22):
human bonding is more relevant than ever. By peering into the brains and behaviors
of people in love, science isshedding light on what makes affection take root
or wither, passion fade or endure, from the first flutters of a new
crush to the comfort of a decade'slong marriage. Such knowledge can help us
(00:44):
nurture stronger, more fulfilling bonds.It may reveal hidden compatibility clues when courting
a new flame, or offer insightsto regaining the spark when facing relationship rut
with a longtime partner. So,whether your happily single head over heels in
new love or striving to improve anexisting relationship, understanding the science of love
(01:10):
holds insight. Let's dive in andlearn how this unique human experience evolves in
our bodies and brains. I hopeyou'll come away feeling more connected both to
your loved ones and yourself. Lovehas been poetically and philosophically contemplated throughout human
history, but scientific research is allowingus to understand this complex emotion more deeply
(01:36):
than ever before. From the biologicaldrive to find a mate to the intoxicating
feeling of new love, science isshedding light on why and how we fall
in love. This essay will providean overview of our scientific understanding of romantic
love and the processes underlying this quintessentialhuman experience. First, will examine the
(02:01):
evolutionary origins of romantic love as amotivation system designed to enable mating and reproduction.
Next will explore what happens in thebrain during love, focusing on key
neurotransmitters and brain regions associated with romanticattachment. Finally, will consider the psychological
(02:25):
components of love, how personality,attachment, history, and other factors influence
who and how we love. Alongthe way, we'll hear from psychologists,
neuroscientists, and other experts studying lovefrom a scientific lens. Their insights will
help illustrate current theories about this timeless, universal human phenomenon. As this research
(02:52):
continues to advance, science promises adeeper appreciation of what love means, how
it works, and why it playssuch a pivotal role in the human experience.
The evolutionary origins of romantic love scientistsbelieve that the experience of romantic love
(03:14):
evolved as a drive to promote matingso our ancestors could pass on their genes.
They note that love is one ofthree primary brain systems that evolved for
reproduction, the others being lust andattachment. While lust encourages sexual relations with
a range of partners, romantic loveenables individuals to focus their mating energy on
(03:39):
specific partners. According to many theories, humans developed romantic love as a motivation
system to enable mate choice, aprocess of singles appraising partners based on attractiveness,
resources, personality, and other traitsindicating re productive fitness and genetic quality.
(04:02):
She proposes that love serves primarily todrive reproduction, just like thirst drives
us to get water and hunger drivesus to search for food. Many suggest
that love developed this way due tothe evolutionary burden that human infants uniquely require
(04:23):
intensive care for a prolonged span oftime compared with other mammals. Romantic attachment
between two mates may have promoted thisnecessary childcare, enabling humans to survive and
propagate the species. Brain chemicals involvedin romantic love. When we fall in
love with someone, we experience anintoxicating rush of euphoria and energy. What's
(04:48):
behind this almost addictive state of passionResearch points to the interplay of key hormones
and neurotransmitters. One of the mostimportant chemicals involved with bonding and pair bonding
behaviors is oxytocin, often called thelove hormone or cuddle hormone. Produced in
(05:11):
the hypothalamus region of the brain,Oxytocin facilitates trust, empathy, and generosity.
It surges during hugging, sex,childbirth, and breastfeeding. When a
couple falls in love, oxytocin helpscreate intimacy and attachment between partners. Other
key brain chemicals that increase feelings ofeuphoria and pleasure during love are dopamine,
(05:38):
adrenaline, and serotonin. Dopamine stimulatesdesire and reward pathways in the brain.
It sends signals between nerve cells thatcontrol pleasure. Feelings of exhilaration when initially
falling in love activate the brain's dopaminereward system. Adrenaline and no Orpinephyrine also
(06:00):
spike when people fall for someone new, producing physiological arousal like increased heart rate,
flushed skin, and sweaty palms.Meanwhile, decreases in serotonin intensify this
obsessive focus and almost addictive passion.Collectively, these chemicals produce an intoxicating high
(06:21):
at the start of new romantic relationships. The neuroscience of long term attachment as
intense new love transitions to long termattachment, other neurobiological processes support bonded pairs
staying together. Two neurotransmitters in particularhelp maintain long term relationships. Oxytocin and
(06:44):
vasopressin. Researchers found that prairie voles, small rodents which form monogamous lifetime bonds,
have high densities of oxytocin and vasopressinreceptors in brain areas a sociated with
reward and reinforcement. In an influentialstudy, scientists injected a receptor blocker into
(07:06):
female prairievolus brains, preventing vasopressin fromactivating their reward center neurons. This stopped
their bond formation with their male partners. This led scientists to hypothesize that vasopressin
and oxytocin evolved to help regulate longterm bonding in humans, too, motivating
(07:27):
couples to remain together through factors likemutual affection, shared goals, commitment,
and companionship. Studies also found agenetic basis to long term bonding regulated by
variations in receptors for oxytocin and vasopressin. These neurotransmitters likely modulate human social attachment
(07:51):
behaviors as well brain circuits underlying love. Neuroimaging studies are also elus sedating which
areas of the brain become activated byromantic love. When looking at photos of
a love partner, key regions lightup, including dopamine rich striatum generating feelings
of reward and motivation, emotion processing, limbic areas like the insula, bonding
(08:18):
centers in the singulate cortex, memorylinked hippocampal complex. It's quite remarkable how
a basic biological human function like loveactivates some of the most advanced regions of
our brain, notes a leading neuroscientist. Scientists believe love co opts our neuronal
circuits for drive pleasure and long termattachment to focus our mating energy and encourage
(08:43):
pair bonding for reproduction. Psychological theoriesof romantic love. While biology clearly influences
who and how we love, psychologicalfactors shape relationships too. Humanistic psychologists explain
that individuals have unique love maps,a mental template people develop in childhood based
(09:07):
on their needs, attachment styles,interests, and experiences with caregivers. Our
love maps lead us to be drawnto certain personalities and dispositions over others.
They say they guide us like aninternal GPS, telling us what partners are
a good match. Love maps helpexplain why people are attracted to different personality
(09:28):
types and have varying types they aredrawn to Romantically. Psychologists also study how
attachment theory applies to adult love relationships. Research shows that adult relationships are strongly
impacted by individuals attachment histories from theearliest bonds they formed with caregivers in infancy.
(09:52):
Securely attached individuals tend to have betterfunctioning, longer lasting Romantic relationship science
is bringing unprecedented insights into the biological, neurological, and psychological processes underlying love,
one of our most treasured human experiences. Understanding the behavioral, chemical,
(10:15):
genetic, and neural correlates of bonding, attraction, and attachment promises to offer
new knowledge about relationships, compatibility,and what makes love last. While a
scientific framework can never fully capture themagic or mystery of love, it provides
an important complement to philosophical, spiritual, and poetic perspectives on this eternal human
(10:41):
phenomenon. As research continues illuminating why, how, and who we love,
science and poetry may discover they havemuch to learn from one another. Thank
you so much for joining me toexplore the science of love. I hope
this podcast has illuminated some new insightsinto attraction, bonding, and maintaining healthy
(11:05):
relationships over time. If you enjoyedthis episode, I encourage you to subscribe
to the Quiet Please podcast network soyou never miss the latest releases. We
frequently publish new episodes focusing on thepsychology and neuroscience behind aspects of the human
(11:26):
experience, spanning love, motivation,habits, memory, and much more.
You can find Quiet Pleas across allmajor podcast platforms such as Apple Podcasts,
Spotify, Google Podcasts, Stitcher andmore. Be sure to follow us so
you get automatic updates. Whenever new, mind expanding episodes like this one are
(11:48):
released. I also welcome you toshare this podcast with friends, family,
colleagues, or your online community ifyou found it impactful, help spread knowledge
that could aid others gain a littlemore wisdom navigating the intricate experience of human
love. Thanks again so much forspending some time learning about love along with
(12:11):
me today. This episode was broughtto you by Quiet Please. I hope
to have you back as a lovelylistener and loyal subscriber very soon.
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