Phoenix of the Northeast- The Stella Bordoloi Memoir, Chapter 5- They Called It Love, I Called It Survival.

What happens when the love you were given came wrapped in fear, silence, and shame?
In this searing chapter, Stella Bordoloi unpacks the blurred lines between love and survival in families where obedience is mistaken for care, and endurance is mistaken for loyalty.

This is not a story of heartbreak—this is a story of awakening.
Of realizing that what was labeled love was often just control.
That what passed as protection was sometimes fear.
And that choosing to leave was not betrayal, but a sacred act of self-rescue.

This chapter is for the daughters who grew up parenting their parents.
For the sons who were only ever safe when they were silent.
For the ones who learned to read moods like weather forecasts, and called that "connection."
It’s for everyone who had to teach themselves the difference between love and survival.

Raw, lyrical, and unapologetically honest—this is not just a chapter. It’s a truth spoken out loud, after generations of being swallowed.