May 11, 2026 • 55 mins
Your Healing Playground - Dr. Tina Koopersmith What if the thing holding you back… isn’t something you need to fix—but something you’re finally ready to free? In this deeply activating episode of Your Healing Playground, I sit down with —a relationship guide, masculine embodiment teacher, and author of Uncaged—to explore what it truly means to live, love, and lead from truth. We dive into: The invisible cages men and women are living in Why “self-improvement” might actually be keeping you stuck Sacred union, polarity, and the future of love The root wound of humanity—and how it shows up in your relationships How to move from shame, numbness, and survival… into aliveness, devotion, and embodied power This is not surface-level relationship talk. This is about soul reclamation. Whether you’re navigating love, longing for deeper connection, healing from past wounds, or calling in your next-level partnership… This conversation will challenge you, open you, and invite you to remember who you really are. If you’ve ever wondered: Why do relationships feel so hard? What do men really need—and what do women need to understand? How do we create love that actually evolves us? Then this episode is for you. Press play if you’re ready to live uncaged. Dr. Matt Helm is one of the most powerful romantic and love shamans alive today—an elite men’s coach, relationship and marriage whisperer, and guide for those ready to live, love, and lead from unapologetic truth and embodied purpose. For over 30 years, he has helped thousands of men and women dissolve shame, trauma, and outdated conditioning to create lives and relationships rooted in freedom, devotion, and soul-level alignment. He is the author of Uncaged: A New Model of Masculinity for Men and the Women Who Love Them, a paradigm-shifting work redefining the future of masculine and feminine evolution. Matt is also the founder and owner of Primal Alchemy, a premium supplement and peptide company built on one embodied mission: To awaken and empower men to reclaim their bodies, their purpose, and their rightful place on this planet. Reclaim your body. Awaken your purpose. Lead with power. Primal Alchemy blends scientifically backed formulas with holistic coaching and conscious community to support visionary men in becoming the leaders their families, organizations, and the world are calling for. But Matt’s mission extends beyond men—he is deeply committed to helping women, couples, and relationships evolve into sacred union, healed polarity, erotic aliveness, and love that liberates both souls. Licensed Professional Counselor. Certified Accelerated Evolution Guide. Certified Erotic Blueprint™ Coach. Spiritual Intelligence Coach. Father of five. Devoted husband to his queen, Larissa. Matt’s work is not self-help. It is soul reclamation. Not therapy—evolution. Not “be better”—be whole, be real, be free. This is your time. Awaken. Lead. Live uncaged. https://drmatthelm.com/ Your Healing Playground: How Play, Pleasure, and Connection Unlock Your Body's Power to Heal Author Dr. Tina Koopersmith Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615347 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615347 ~ More About Your Healing Playground with Dr. Tina Koopersmith ~ Dr. Tina Koopersmith has practiced Western medicine for over 30 years. But she is so much more than a physician. An integrative medicine and fertility specialist, she is a transformational healer and coach who not only brings life to her patients but reminds them that it is their responsibility and, in their power, to bring themselves back to vibrancy and vitality. Root cause healing starts with energy, emotions, communication—between your cells and your soul. As a speaker-coach-author as well as mother, nonconformist, and recovering perfectionist, she is dedicated to modifying our health care system from one focused on illness and sickness to one devoted to prevention and wellness. She reminds us all that love, play, pleasure and purpose are the secret ingredients to wellness. She starts with the premise we all have the same parts and very similar DNA, and yet we all have different experiences and imprinting. Our unique signature means we are all wired to access safety and pleasure in a slightly different fashion; this diversity is to be praised and celebrated. When our body feels safe, we can move from our “childhood” survival stress mode to our “Wise Sage Self”. Healing, recovery and regeneration thrive only when we stop resisting what is and celebrate all of life with acceptance of the NOW. Health and Wellness is nourished with empathy, compassion innovation and connection—a total integration of the mind body, the heart body, the physical body and the energetic. ALL are worthy of self-care, self-acceptance and self-love. To learn more: https://drtinaplays.com/ or drtina@drtinaplays.com To get more of Your Healing Playground with Dr Tina Koopersmith, be sure to visit the archives page for replays of all her shows her
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Wellness begins where play, pleasure and the parasympathetic heat. You
were born to be you, and you were born to
be well. Your body is always trying to find its
way back to health. Now here's the host of Your
Healing Playground with doctor Tina Cooper Smith.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Hello, Hello, hello, my friends, welcome to this podcast, Your
Healing Playground.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
I am your host, doctor Tina Cooper Smith.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
You're a witchy doctor and change advocate, and we are
on the Inspired Choices Network where we are inspiring people
to live their best life. And today I am honored,
literally honored to have with me doctor matt Helm.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Doctor Matt Helm.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Is people overuse, underuse the word divine, masculine, but this
is a man who has done it all from athlete,
college athlete, college athletic coach, professor PhD, starting a business,
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building a business, going through marriages, having kids. Like he's
done it all and he has so much wisdom to share.
And my friends, he's a colleague that we met in
coaching programs. Yes, he's also an Erotic Blueprint coach, which
means he's an expert in the Erotic Blueprints sexuality, relationships communication.
(01:42):
He's a master coach of transformational life coaching with Rapid
Coherence Institute, which we are both involved in as well.
He brings to the table knowledge, yes, but heart, presence,
and just a fully balanced human being. And we're here because,
(02:05):
you know what, we all come into the world balanced
and then we get imbalanced by the society we live in,
and we're all on a journey to get back somehow
to who we really are. And Matt has done that journey,
and he has he's going to just help us.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Get there today. I know it.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
So I like what he wrote his title of his
book that's coming out Ungaged and well, actually I may
have the title completely wrong, So I'm gonna let Matt
take it away and tell me.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
What's the title of your book.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
It's called Well. First of all, doctor Tina, thank you
for having me on your show. I appreciate your leadership
for humanity. I appreciate what you're doing in the world.
And I have truly enjoyed coaching both in the Erotic
Blueprints with you and the Rapid Coherency Institute, where we
met and where I got to know about your story
and where we realized we are in it together to
(03:02):
help heal humanity, to help bring our people to something
new and different. When I think about men, I think
about I'm not really sure we've actually seen a real
man on the planet yet. So at some point we
can talk about that today. But the title of my
book that I just completed last month is called Uncaged Man,
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Resurrecting the Masculine, Honoring the Feminine, and Healing Humanity, And
so it's basically a deep dive of my life's work.
I wanted to understand why is it as a species
that we're designed to thrive and that yet we are
going extinct? Yeah, I wanted to understand that my own
personal life. Why am I having such a hard time
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like being human when this beautiful earth is here and
there's so much beauty that we get to experience on
a daily basis, and that there are so many things
clouding that, both inside me and external to me. So
that's the book, and honoring the feminine was a big
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part of it. I was raised by women and raised
in this culture, was learning what toxic masculinity was, was
learning that to be a man in the world was
not a positive thing, And as a boy growing up
in that culture, really wanted to reclaim that part of
myself understand what it means to be a boy, a man,
a leader. And then the notion of healing humanity. I
(04:32):
find that and what I talk about in the book
is that we're really sick as a species. We're really
unhealthy as a human family. And I would go as
far as to say diseased as a species. And Zach Bush,
he's another MD, I imagine you know who he is.
He says, we're in hospice as a species, like.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Ns are dropping egg counter driving dropping. Infertility is rising,
and not just in humans, but we're seeing it in
the animals because we've destroyed the planet, not just.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Our own species.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
Yes, and so for me as a leader who has
woken up you and I spent some time reading Ken
Wilber's book Radical Wholeness and the notion of we have
very few people on the planet who have actually experienced
what it feels to be whole. Yeah, and what is
the system that's in place that leads us to be
(05:33):
on whole, to feel unworthy all of that? And so
I'm sure we'll get into this today. What was it
in terms of my own awakening, waking up? And from there,
I don't use his term cleaning up. I use the
word healing up. I like that, maturing up the parts
of us that got stunted in trauma, got stunted and
(05:55):
our growth and evolution, and then cleaning up and showing up,
you know, on the planet. And that's kind of what
I'm doing here with you today. When people ask me
to come on and serve in the way that you did,
the answer is always yes. I may come on and
not know exactly, but I do know one thing. I'm
here to create a new humanity while I'm alive. So yeah,
(06:18):
that's what the book, you know, Uncaged, Uncaged Man, Uncaged Woman.
It's about being uncaged. Even though I wrote it for
the uncaging of man, I think that the readers are
going to be women because I'm talking about in the
book what has happened to us as men on the planet,
especially in this Western culture. But it's permeating across the planet.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Yeah, we're exporting a way of living that people around
the planet don't have, but they're desperate to want it,
and we're going there to learn how to live.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
Like I traveled to Africa twice.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
You know, in the last whatever, within the year, and
I remember we went to this one church in you know,
Sunday morning service.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
We're supposed to get.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Up and speak to them, right, and we walk in
sit down there there. And this is not the fancy
part of town. This is in the townships, which is.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
The you know, very.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
The lower poverty level kind of folks. But they come
every Sunday, they come to church. They have this big
community and they are singing and dancing and celebrating this Sunday.
It was like an orgasmic experience. And we were just
holding hands, all of us on our trip, like.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Crying from the beauty. And then they ask us.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
The timing was off, so we went to meet with
a small group instead of speaking in front of them
and to a tea.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
Every single one of us got up and like, what
do we have to teach you?
Speaker 5 (08:03):
You just taught us all about life.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
And community and love and belief and celebration of being alive.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
In the moment.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Yes, beautiful, even if you don't have, you know, And
we live in a society of haves and have nuts
and competing in comparison, and we live from the brain
and not from the heart.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
That's what I guess. This is how I summarize it.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
Yes, yes, and there's a wealth that money could never buy,
and there are cultures around the world that have that wealth.
And my work as I've uncovered, like why are we
living in a cage? What is it? This most advanced
form of slavery known to man? And I do define
it as advanced slavery.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Oh that's interesting.
Speaker 4 (08:51):
Freedom is actually the wealth, the wealth money can't buy,
and when you taste it and touch it, you know
what it feels like. It's hard to describe. Yeah, you
know what sovereignty feels like. It's not the freedom that
we're indoctrinated within this culture. Like we can go to
the store, or we can we can choose to do
certain things, but even our choices have been co opted
(09:15):
through a very very sophisticated indoctrination system, conditioning system. And
it happens from birth. So you know, I can talk
about that today, I can talk about that all day long,
but that is what's happened to our people and it's
affecting every aspect of our life in this culture. Yeah,
(09:37):
so so let me, yes, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
I just want to get because you and I, I mean,
we have met before numerous times and we're on that
same wavelength, and you know, I have my journey of
I'm still not one hundred percent sure what led me here,
but I realized that my life for especially after this
four day weekend when and I, you know, contemplated what
(10:02):
is life for three and a half days And I'm
still contemplating it? Right, But what was your journey that
led you.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
To ask these questions? Because I think the issue for
so many.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
In our society, right, we've stopped asking those questions. Education
is in doctrination, not curiosity anymore. And I'm curious. And
I realized, I mean, I was such a great student.
All I did was regurgitate what everybody, you know, like,
(10:36):
wait a minute, what about? And I was always asking why?
So hence my life force, you know, put me on this.
So what led you? What was that one moment twenty
moments that said I have to wake up and question
my life, my belief, what it means to be a
man in today's society?
Speaker 3 (10:57):
What what give us a little back story?
Speaker 2 (11:00):
And everybody thinks, oh, these people, that's not me because
I can't do it.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
Da da da da da. But we all have a backstory.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
You know, Picasso painted lots before he had his masterpieces, right,
So you're very brilliant, and you've always been brilliant.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
So that's not the question.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
But you started to ask different questions and I'm curious
how you got there.
Speaker 4 (11:28):
Well, it I love the question. It's like I thought
about it. It's like, how do I kind of summarize
and not tell the complete long story of it. But
you really have to go back to teenage parents. You
have to go back to my mother's They were in
a pretty typical fifties family. Dad was a teacher, mom
(11:48):
was a stay at my grandmother was a stay at
home mom. Infidelity in the family, so my mother, my
grandmother was so hurt she moved my mother and all
four of their kids, ranging from ten down to two,
four of them back to ann Arbor, and so divorce
and infidelity broke this what would have been a kind
of a typical fifties family. My father, who whose father
(12:15):
was in World War Two and came back with PTSD.
They didn't have a name for it back then, and
so my father witnessed his father coming back violent and
traumatized and basically without help. He took it out on
the whole family and these teenagers, my young mother and
(12:36):
father met at fifteen and sixteen years old in the
parking lot at annaberpione your high school. My father was
skipping school. My father was not going to school and
met my young mother at fifteen, and they had me
at seventeen. So you've got teenage mother, she had my
brother at eighteen, and you've got a father who was
(12:56):
really not in the picture. So when we get it,
we get into it like what what my core what
I would consider my core wound in existence as a
father that was absent, and what that's like to have
a mother who's working full time. We lived in a
trailer park, so you get a sense. My mother took
her college education and bought a small trailer and I
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grew up.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Hold on, hold on, I want to back up a minute,
because you just your mom had you at you said
fifteen or sixteen.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
She met my father at fifteen, they had me at seventeen.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Seventeen, and then nineteen, and yet she went to college.
Speaker 4 (13:37):
She did not go to college. She used her college money.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Oh, the money that was supposed to go to college, I.
Speaker 4 (13:42):
Got it to buy this trailer. And so I grew
up in a trailer park. And so very very white
you know, I guess they would have called it like
trailer park, kind of trash, right, trailer park people. It
was all white, very segregated. So just down the street
was all black, right on the corner, like right on
(14:05):
the borderline of Ipsy LANDI, which was like very African American,
and you had the Arabs and the Muslims and another
trailer park. It was really an interesting place to grow up.
But when I think about how did I get here,
it was coping with an absent father, having to fend
(14:27):
for myself and take care of myself in a world
that was not very friendly, especially with the working mother.
In schools, like I think about the K through twelve education,
and I went to school and that's where I mean
teachers were really really rough for me and boys at
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the time, because we did you know. They you take
this kind of adhd kind of kid, and that's what
you label it, and put him in a chair and
have him sit there all day and then punish him
and tell him he's bad for exactly who he is, right,
and that shame delivery, right, just delivery of shame. You're bad,
you're wrong, and learning to learning to cope with that.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
I'm going to stop at this moment.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
We have to take a break because we have it
programmed out, and I just want our guests to think
about the child with so much energy that is forced
to sit in a chair in our school system and
what Matt said about trying to be you in a
(15:38):
place that's telling you to be everybody else. We're going
to take our first break. You are listening to your
healing Playground. I am doctor Tina Cooper Smith, your host.
We are on the Inspired Choices Network and come right
back so we can hear more from doctor Matt Helm
and his expertise.
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Speaker 3 (18:13):
Welcome back, my friends.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Once again, you're listening to your healing Playground. Hope you
want to play, Hope you want to heal. I am
your host, doctor Tina Cooper Smith. We are on the
Inspired Choices Network. I invite you to go pick up
a copy of my new book, which is a funny thing.
It's called Your Healing Playground because I do believe in
a liveness, vitality play as the key to healing. And
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right now today I have with us Matt Helm, doctor
Matt Helm, and he's telling us how he got Let
me just mention this from a trailer park beginning teenage
mom and dad to a PhD and a soon to
be best selling author, I am convinced a professor, sir,
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of life and so much more, college athlete. How does
a little boy who can't sit in his seat in
first grade?
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Living?
Speaker 2 (19:10):
You know, not the you know the teachers you said,
difficult teachers on boys in general, but also you know,
I'm sure the teachers look down on the kids that
they don't think are going to make it. We have
haves and have nots. In our society and you know,
from trailer park to PhD Right, Like, come on, did
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your first grade teacher know that? And would she have
treated you differently if she realized who you really are,
if she saw who you were and your potential, if
she watered the seeds correctly, and maybe you wouldn't be
the same.
Speaker 3 (19:49):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
So how did you manage that life force of yours
to push up and go?
Speaker 3 (19:57):
I am not my past.
Speaker 4 (20:00):
I'm so grateful for whatever that part of me is.
There was a tenacious will in me. So because you
talk about nervous systems, it's like my nervous system that fight, flight, freeze, fawn.
It was paying attention to the world. And I didn't
have a mother who was there at parent teacher conferences,
(20:20):
who was protecting me. Certainly I did not have a
father who was there like the father that I am.
I never missed a parent teacher conference. I never missed
an athletic I coached all of my children's I coached sports.
I never played a day a day in so that
I could be with my children on the field. And
so was I really was, like you know, you ever
read the Huckleberry Fens and Tom Sawyer's I was very
(20:43):
much like a huck Finn Tom Sawyer. I was adventurous.
I walked into the nature was my first healer. I'd
walk into the woods and climb a tree, or catch
crawdads or a lot of other mischievous things. But from
that trailer that could have been the title of the book,
book from Trailer Park to PhD. But what happened was
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I knew I needed to protect myself. I knew that
nobody was coming to rescue me, and so it built
this resiliency. It built this analytic part of me that
monitored the external world for safety. And so I learned
how to go underground, and I learned how to in
(21:25):
a very sophisticated way, how to be successful and survive.
You know, my grades were always, you know, as a's
and b's, mostly a's, but in conduct it was an
F every single time. And there's where that humiliation and
that shame. I love of Brene Brown when she talks
about shame resiliency and what is the cure of being
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traumatized and disciplined by shame and finding myself and learning
about vulnerability and finding that part of myself that could
feel but probably one of the turning points in my
life was a stepfather that came into my life, okay,
and he saw right away that I had this high
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level activity, and he put me in wrestling, and I
just took off with it. I took off with it
right away. And then I said, because we had money,
and I said, the neighborhood kids are playing Little League?
Can I play Little League? Yes? So then I started
playing Little League. And then the football season came and
I'm like, can I play football? And so I played
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three and four sports at a time. And when I
think about it, what this athletics did for me, it
was that fatherless energy. It was a place to go
where I could feel that masculine, that fathering energy. It
was a place to take my hurt, my loss, my grief.
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Of course, you don't know it as a kid, that
that's what you're doing. But what I was doing, and
it doesn't surprise me more that I became an All
American and I became a state champ, a four time
all state college wrestling scholarship to multiple Big Ten and
multiple universities around the country. I chose Michigan State University
(23:16):
to wrestle for and so that's how I got into college. Actually,
I got recruited out of my city to go to
an elite high school, Detroit Catholic Central and where we
were state champs, and it was probably one of the
best things that ever happened because of the city I
was growing up in was not the best place for me,
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and ended up going to a really elite academically and
elite athletically, a school that I really believe it led
to my success. I had a wrestling coach there, Coach Rodriguez,
who took me under his wing and basically was a
father figure while I was in high school, and my
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brother ended up going there, so both of us. My
brother's a two time high school champ. We both wrestled
back to back at Michigan all the way through high
school and then at Michigan State. And it was in
college where I started to run into the deep suffering
because I went to high school. Okay, I got a stepfather,
I'm winning, I have my needs are met, I'm a
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pretty happy kid. Get a wrestling scholarship to go to
a major university, and that's where I ran into myself.
And when my mother and stepfather weren't there and I
was left to my own devices, and I had a
college girlfriend. So this first breakup in my life hurt.
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I can still feel it today. It's like the first
loss of your life other than that father and I
be in there. But that heartbreak led me to right
down that inherited family line. My father numbed with alcohol
and drugs, and I moved my way into it. Starts
it out as just having fun in college, and then
(25:02):
it became a way of coping with reality, coping with grief,
coping with loss. And so I went into higher education
and student affairs because I went through every part of
the system, judicial affairs, the residents hall, dean of students,
you know, and eventually the counseling center, all all of
(25:23):
which are now under my kind of professional umbrella of
departments i've worked in or for.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
Okay, I want to stop you because I'm not sure
I understand it correctly, and I think I do. But
if i'm not sure, it's possible, my listeners aren't sure too.
When you say you experienced all those parts of the
university system, it's because you, as an undergrad, had to meet, yes,
with the judicial system and the counseling system. And right,
(25:54):
so you, yes, you were going through school and once
again being the acted out five year old in first
grade now acting out in college in a sense it right, yeah,
and I invite you you know that I talk about
metabolizing emotions, right, And the bottom line is your five
(26:18):
year old didn't certainly didn't know how to metabolize the emotions.
Your father, biological father didn't know how to metabolize the emotions.
So they were stuck and stuffed in.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
And how amazing.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
I just I want to praise the men in your
life that were divine masculine men for you.
Speaker 3 (26:36):
So you had masculine.
Speaker 2 (26:38):
Figures to like, oh there is another way to be
And what happened? What I'm hearing, And again I'm not
your psychologist, but it's just is that breakup and we
all have them, you know, first loves rarely become forever loves.
But it opened up all the wounds from childhood that
had never been.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Actually dealt with. Right, that's right, and so you had
to go.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
It was like, oh, act too, all the same, it's
the same human, just a little bigger and now the
stakes were a little higher. Right, And so again we
all know how it ended.
Speaker 3 (27:18):
And so it's such a beautiful.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Hero's journey and there's more to come and more for
you to tell us. We're going to take our next
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Welcome back, everybody. Once again, we are on your healing playground.
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Speaker 3 (30:49):
Today I have with me my friend and just my hero.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
I just think he's such a cool guy, doctor Matt Helm,
and we were talking about his journey and from childhood
college to really becoming a fantastic coach, teacher, author, And
I want you to I want to get into your
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the nitty gritty of what you really want to teach
and help the world learn, because, as you said, the
world set of crossroads, help us, help.
Speaker 3 (31:27):
Us why we're melting.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
But tell me, you talk about the divine masculine, and
you had some really good masculine role models and some
not such good ones. You didn't necessarily have the tools.
Speaker 3 (31:42):
And you know I'm gonna.
Speaker 2 (31:44):
Out you because I know marriage one didn't last, but marriage,
you know, the kids are great. Marriage two is a
little bit better that starter marriage. That learning how to
negotiate relationships, that is part of your story and part
of your shift. And so let's start with the crux
of your message that you really want people to know
(32:04):
that you went through difficult times of how am I
supposed to be a man right?
Speaker 3 (32:11):
How am I supposed to deal with heartache?
Speaker 2 (32:13):
How am I supposed to stand up again? And how
am I supposed to raise my kids right so that
they are healthy humans to heal the planet?
Speaker 3 (32:23):
So can you can?
Speaker 2 (32:24):
I invite you to elaborate more on your message because
I don't want to waste our time. It's not a waste,
but it's we got to know where the cock cut came.
Speaker 4 (32:34):
From for this right well, to cut to the chase.
You know, I believe humanity's caged. There's a reason I
titled the book Uncaged. And there is a really really
powerful matrix and structure economically, politically, culturally, relationally designed to
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trigger our nervousness to stay at the fight flight. And
so in terms of self actualization, there are very very
few people who are self actualized, and those who believe
that they are self actualized believe that they are within
the current water the fish is swimming in. So we
were talking about self improvement and so you can basically
(33:20):
improve your life within competitive, hyper competitive capitalism. And this
is what I learned. In my doctoral program. I studied
with neo Marxist post Marxist critical theorists, all the piste
Off philosophers and sociologists of our time. And by the
time I was done with my PHA almost didn't finish.
I walked in because I realized that even our educational
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system K through twelve, educational system is designed to build workers,
to build sheep that will behave in our system exactly
as they were taught. And when I went into I
finished my bachelor's degrees and I was trying to figure
out what am I going to do with my life.
You can only make so much with a bachelor's degree
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in psychology and sociology. But I took my first job
in a minimum security prison for kids for boys, and
I got there. Eighty percent of the kids were black,
fifteen percent of them were Hispanic, and the other were white.
And I remember the trailer park. All of us whites
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for the trailer park. The blacks are down here in
the African Americans. And I said, there's something wrong here.
I was these kids. I didn't get caught as much
as they did, but they were doing similar things, and
most of them were coming from single parent households. And
I started to critically contemplate what's wrong here? And as
I started to try to decide, am I going to
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get a teaching special educ they were all ei emotionally impaired,
learning disabled joined the crowd, Right, I'm that same kid?
Or am I going to go on and do a
master's degree? And I wanted to poss positioned myself to
be of maximum service as a leader to our people.
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So I chose the master's route, not going into the classroom,
but to go deal with the bigger issues that we
were facing. And so I got a master's And one
of my mentors was a critical theorist, and he basically
critical theorists interrogate the external world for the oppressive forces
that were interacting. And one of the books that I read,
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and so, student affairs is a predominantly student development is
a predominantly white profession. It's a predominantly female profession. So
I entered for the first time in my life as
a minority into a feminine culture. And that's where the
light bulbs started going off again. I was being conditioned
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and socialized to be a woman's interesting in the caring professions.
And so here I am coming in as an administrator
with the master's degree and or in a master's program,
and all my all of my classmates are women, like
there's a handful of men in there. But I loved it.
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I loved the theoretical frameworks, learning the counseling aspects. But
women go into those teachers predominantly women. And when you
look at budget cuts and you look at money and
where money is delivered, it's the feminine professions that are
disproportionately funded less things when you look at the pay structures.
All of that was part of my master's and PhD program.
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But we read Pedagogy of the Oppressed by Paula Freiri
and it was it was basically Frairie liberated Brazil. He liberated.
He showed the cast system, and he showed how peasants
stayed present peasants their whole life. Yes, and when I
was when I was in. I read the book overnight.
My classmates didn't even understand it. I knew exactly what
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Freiri was saying. I knew exactly what it was like
to come from the lowest decois economic status. I knew
the way people from the lower sees were treated. And
that's where I started to the grief started coming up
and the anger started coming up, because before then I
was just studying harder, I was reading more as an athlete.
I adjusted. I adapted to the red marks on your
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paper and the criticism you get in graduate school, and
I'm like, you'll never defeat me, you will never bring
me down when I come from where I came from.
So I basically took to graduate education, Master's and PhD
like an athletic sport. Bring it on. And at some
point I truly fell in love with learning, and I
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devoured books. I read constantly so that I could understand
what was happening in my life and so that I
could leade at a higher level. But pedagogy, they'll press it.
Really looked at the banking system, the K through twelve system,
where you sit in the desk, you don't move, and
basically you take on the authority the external world since
(38:00):
and then doctor nates your internal reality and they use
discipline and shame and punishment until that internal prison guard
is you and that and this is my story. Yes,
that prison guard was rough on me. Once I internalized
the system the way that wanted you to do that
to yourself, the eyes of shame were not the external
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world anymore. That's the genius of the cage. Yes, it's
it's one thing to have for a to have power
over b because they're bigger and stronger men over women.
Speaker 3 (38:33):
Right, but then you take it on it's you.
Speaker 2 (38:37):
You have completely internalized your oppressor. So there it's the coppo,
you know how into jail or in the prison camps
there's still the hierarchy. Like the one who sleeps near
the latrine.
Speaker 3 (38:49):
Is the lowest of the low and.
Speaker 2 (38:50):
They're usually sexually abused in It's what I learned in
South Africa and the right and our system actually went
and we're taught to be competitive against other women, so
we were we were doing the work for the men.
The female's circumcisions in Africa are done by the women.
Speaker 3 (39:11):
So yeah, I get you.
Speaker 4 (39:13):
And so as we get into the meat and bones
of this as I started to figure out, Oh my God,
putting me in a desk, shaming me, telling me that
I was bad, all the healing were waking up. I
woke up to it. It was like a light bulb
went off, and it went off a little too fast,
because you know when you walk into a dark room
and somebody turns the lights on and the lights hit you.
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That's how it hit me. It hit me like a
wake up call. I see it, I see the oppressor,
I see what they're doing, I see the design, and
I just happened to have all the Marxist Heidegger, fu Co,
all of the all of the rebels that were and
(39:55):
crudely including christ right flipping tables over. I have learned
learned that there's a way to go about this. But
what we've done to men in this culture, the sacred
masculine is missing. We have cut the kneecaps off on
men in this culture, and the educational system is part
of it, parenting in the culture that they're doing their best,
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but they're in the system. So I really think it's
important for the listeners to know. To wake up is
like to It's like a fish in water where that
fish has been swimming in water, and it doesn't know
what water is. And we are interacting in a reality
that's been socially constructed for us to exist in, and
it masquerades as the true self. And so you're just
(40:40):
coming out of who am I feel? Who you are here?
And now feel who you're not here? And now as
you do that, you recognize more and more and more
who you really are, beyond, beyond beyond. And so it's
a sort of like children and the K through twelves
(41:00):
all the way through higher education, because higher education really
is just more advanced conditioning to put you in a
system to work a profession that serves who. This serves
the system that serves what. And so then we've got, Okay,
if I'm truly gonna lead and I'm going to serve humanity,
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I've got to understand that system. I've got to understand
what we call the matrix the water, and it's it's
the invisible architecture of reality that people are born into
and it's self reinforcing. You know, it's the economic system
we're in. Oh, you got to go to college to
get a good job so you can make good money.
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Why where'd that come? From and when you look at
basically the seven major civilizations over the course of human
history that we can document, they all fell apart and
when it's and so it's really clear we're in one
of those right now where we've we've gone from nothing
(42:04):
to this abundance to the oppression of people to the
abuse of the environment and the resources and our planet,
and it's falling apart. There's the hospice level. We are
in hospital hospice. People think gas price is going up
in the war, and these kinds of things are just
normal parts of like, no, they're not. They are part
of what the oppressor does to keep their privileged place
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within the dominance world structure.
Speaker 5 (42:29):
Oh true, I see it in I'm watching a TV
show called Pull Dark and you're seeing what they're doing
in the seventeen hundred in the eighteenth and we have
to take our last break.
Speaker 2 (42:40):
And but yeah, the nervous system and being in fight
flight freezer. Please, when you're fighting for food, water safety,
clean water, clean air, and just to pay the bills,
you cannot.
Speaker 3 (42:59):
Use your alive now.
Speaker 2 (43:01):
For creativity, to create and express the you that you
really are and to change society.
Speaker 3 (43:08):
And so we're wasting seven.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
Billion humans on the planet by not putting our heads
together to figure out.
Speaker 3 (43:15):
How to get out of this mess. So I completely agree.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
We're going to take our last break and come back
because I bet you have some thoughts and answers on
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Speaker 3 (43:39):
Who need it.
Speaker 2 (43:40):
I want to keep doing this to bring healing and
a liveness to everybody that is willing to check in
and listen. So we're going to take our last break
once again. You're Healing Playground. I'm your host, Doctor Tina
Cooper Smith, and we're on the Inspired Choices Network, and
come right back because I know we got more wisdom,
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not just how we're falling apart, but how perhaps we
can build it back together.
Speaker 1 (44:08):
Your Healing Playground is the space where science, spirit and
sensation dance together. Your host, Doctor Tina Cooper Smith, physician, coach, healer,
and play advocate, returns weekly to remind you that healing
isn't just about pills and protocols. Western medicine is just
(44:29):
one of many healing modalities. True wellness is about energy, emotion, pleasure,
and play. On this show, doctor Tina explores the playground
of your body, mind, heart, and soul, from neuroscience to sensuality,
from root.
Speaker 3 (44:48):
Chakra to real talk.
Speaker 1 (44:50):
She'll share tools, stories, and soulful strategies to shift you
out of fear and back into joy. Because if you're
alive and breathing, your story is still unwritten and you
deserve to write it with love. Together, you'll learn to breathe, feel,
and play your way back to wellness because you are
(45:11):
your best healer. This is your healing Playground with doctor
Tina Cooper Smith. To participate in the program, join the
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Speaker 3 (45:39):
Welcome back, my friends.
Speaker 2 (45:41):
You are listening to your healing Playground. I am your host,
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Please celebrate this podcast by sharing it with your friends.
The more people that hear it, the more I can
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great guests like the one I have today, doctor Matt Helm,
(46:04):
author of the upcoming book Ungage. So we find we're
in a cage. We realize we see the bars. How
do we get ourselves to the other side before we
end today? And I feel like we need to do
three more podcasts with you.
Speaker 3 (46:21):
What do you propose?
Speaker 4 (46:23):
Well, the awakening process, right, So hopefully the listeners are
hearing that our reality has been taken and it's like
really clear it's been co opted by the powers. And
so when we get into stuff like love and intimacy
and sex and all these freedoms, like as an erotic
(46:44):
Blueprint coach, it's about erotic freedom and what are the barriers?
So I had done all of this work on myself,
many retreats, all kinds of trainings. I've trained with the
Nowetic Institute, which is an organization trying to rescue humanity
and these powers that we have underneath the surface, and
(47:05):
we do the healing work, so waking up, healing up,
and so there's part of people I know that are
listening that can feel that part of them that's in
the prison, that's that's gripped. And when I think about
my work with men it starts as boys, I mean
show up to yourself. And so the self improvement it's
(47:29):
not just it's not just get a gym membership, it's
not just get therapy. It's not just these are all
great things, but beginning to show up to yourself, taking
immaculate care of your body and your mind and your heart.
And when we get into the sacred masculine is really
the energetic of being present. And so your own sacred
(47:53):
masculine being present to your life and what are all
the things that get in the way of that, claiming
your life like it mattered and.
Speaker 3 (48:04):
Bring your choices are yours?
Speaker 4 (48:05):
Take responsibility, and it's a sacred when you realize, actually
I choose my reality moment to moment, I actually choose
from the thoughts moving through my head. That's the masculine.
Sacred masculine is that higher part of us that keeps
us present, and so you've got to cultivate it through
(48:26):
practices like meditation, practices like yoga. When I walk into nature,
it immediately brings me to present presence and so be
fully present in your life because without presence, you're like
ghost hunting in your own life, you know, And so
take extreme ownership for your life. And by that I
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mean stop blaming people, stop playing the victim card, and
take responsibility, radical responsibility for your growth and development. And
when you do that, I like when I think about
meeting Jaya and the Erotic blueprints. I had already met Satiana.
I thought as a pretty free person and pretty healthy person,
and then I met Jaya and I realize there's a
(49:13):
whole other level to erotic freedom. And I'm like, I'm
not completely free. I want to know what it feels
like to be free in every single dimension of my life.
And I can only take my clients as far as
I've gone, and reality as far as I've gone, to
uncover and to recover myself from this matrix, from these
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powers that are taking our energy, that are taking our attention.
I mean the super surveillance, the computers now with AI,
they are monitoring everything behind the surface. They are provoking
our deepest wounds so that we'll stay distracted from what's happened,
and so that the biggest example right now is the
Epstein files and what they've uncovered, and the newest Department
(50:02):
of Justice report says they're not going to prosecute and
so right and plain sight. We've got the powers and
what they've done to abuse children, and the highest level
people running our planet are basically turning a blind eye
to it and covering it up. It shows you all
(50:22):
powerful and we'll eventually forget about it like we have
and that abuse will continue. And so taking ownership now,
I built a model called serve. Select a global issue.
Educate yourself on that issue, human trafficking. Just pick one
human trafficking. How many people know what it really is?
(50:42):
Do something about it? Respond s. Select an issue is
educate yourself on that issue. Respond in some way. The
V is to give value to it and reflect and contemplate,
and the E is to evaluate and celebrate. This is
a model that I want to bring out into the
world and I want to take advance of I'm going
(51:05):
to take my student development. I want to take all
of these beautiful healing modalities, blend them into a structure
to take to the NC double A and make it
part of the ecosystem that college athletes go through so
they don't just come out of their sports. We're doing
a very poor job helping these high level athletes translate
(51:25):
the advanced skills they have into the world of work
and into the world of service, and I love it,
and I.
Speaker 2 (51:32):
Got to put you in, plug you into my sons.
These college athlete graduates that are ask starting to ask
me questions about the masculine and feminine.
Speaker 4 (51:43):
Yes, so a man in his power and this gets
into the sacred feminine. And yes it's another whole podcast,
but the feminine is inviting us constantly inviting us to
take responsibility as men on the planet and to put
TechEd and to be warriors. And we don't have that
(52:04):
kind of man on it. That's why I said at
the very beginning. Women have this, especially with hyper capitalism,
have had to build a masculine shell to cope with it.
And so you got now you've got two of those working,
and you got two people depleted. At the end of
the day. Women take most of the responsibility for the household,
so they're doing double duty. And you got polarity evaporated,
(52:29):
polarity being the masculine and the feminine bringing the essence
of who and what they are together, which is the beauty.
And what we have is we have two masculine energies
in a household. People are exhausted. There's no polarity, and
so we've got the fewest number of children being born
on the planet right now, We've got men and women
(52:49):
not living in their natural essence. And I still believe
we've not really seen a real man on the planet yet. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (52:57):
Well, and I think the women are hiding too scared
to be fully present because being fully present is still scary,
because we were burned at the steak, right and are
we going to be The women nowadays are starting to
speak up and refuse to be silenced, and refuse to
be subjugated and refuse to be shamed. And we're all
(53:20):
aware that if Epstein Files goes away, it's like a
proof that we might get burned at the steak all
over again and at all or not. And unfortunately we're
running out of time, and it is crazy.
Speaker 3 (53:32):
But I do think, Matt, that.
Speaker 2 (53:37):
We do have I always, I just believe love and
life is a powerful force that is underneath it all,
and there are enough people who refuse to go backwards.
The life force is pushing us forward and the more
and again, I'll have you on again, maybe when your
(53:59):
book actually reaches the shelves, and to explore this again,
because life is right here right now, it's no body,
it's no mind, it's no thing. It is eternal life force.
It's the earth, it's the sky, it's the plants, it's
(54:19):
the humans. We're all made of We're all just microcosms, macrocosms.
Speaker 3 (54:25):
Of the same energy. And I'll leave it at that.
Speaker 1 (54:29):
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Speaker 2 (00:24):
Hello, Hello, hello, my friends, welcome to this podcast, Your
Healing Playground.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
I am your host, doctor Tina Cooper Smith.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
You're a witchy doctor and change advocate, and we are
on the Inspired Choices Network where we are inspiring people
to live their best life. And today I am honored,
literally honored to have with me doctor matt Helm.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Doctor Matt Helm.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Is people overuse, underuse the word divine, masculine, but this
is a man who has done it all from athlete,
college athlete, college athletic coach, professor PhD, starting a business,
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building a business, going through marriages, having kids. Like he's
done it all and he has so much wisdom to share.
And my friends, he's a colleague that we met in
coaching programs. Yes, he's also an Erotic Blueprint coach, which
means he's an expert in the Erotic Blueprints sexuality, relationships communication.
(01:42):
He's a master coach of transformational life coaching with Rapid
Coherence Institute, which we are both involved in as well.
He brings to the table knowledge, yes, but heart, presence,
and just a fully balanced human being. And we're here because,
(02:05):
you know what, we all come into the world balanced
and then we get imbalanced by the society we live in,
and we're all on a journey to get back somehow
to who we really are. And Matt has done that journey,
and he has he's going to just help us.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Get there today. I know it.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
So I like what he wrote his title of his
book that's coming out Ungaged and well, actually I may
have the title completely wrong, So I'm gonna let Matt
take it away and tell me.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
What's the title of your book.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
It's called Well. First of all, doctor Tina, thank you
for having me on your show. I appreciate your leadership
for humanity. I appreciate what you're doing in the world.
And I have truly enjoyed coaching both in the Erotic
Blueprints with you and the Rapid Coherency Institute, where we
met and where I got to know about your story
and where we realized we are in it together to
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help heal humanity, to help bring our people to something
new and different. When I think about men, I think
about I'm not really sure we've actually seen a real
man on the planet yet. So at some point we
can talk about that today. But the title of my
book that I just completed last month is called Uncaged Man,
(03:22):
Resurrecting the Masculine, Honoring the Feminine, and Healing Humanity, And
so it's basically a deep dive of my life's work.
I wanted to understand why is it as a species
that we're designed to thrive and that yet we are
going extinct? Yeah, I wanted to understand that my own
personal life. Why am I having such a hard time
(03:46):
like being human when this beautiful earth is here and
there's so much beauty that we get to experience on
a daily basis, and that there are so many things
clouding that, both inside me and external to me. So
that's the book, and honoring the feminine was a big
(04:08):
part of it. I was raised by women and raised
in this culture, was learning what toxic masculinity was, was
learning that to be a man in the world was
not a positive thing, And as a boy growing up
in that culture, really wanted to reclaim that part of
myself understand what it means to be a boy, a man,
a leader. And then the notion of healing humanity. I
(04:32):
find that and what I talk about in the book
is that we're really sick as a species. We're really
unhealthy as a human family. And I would go as
far as to say diseased as a species. And Zach Bush,
he's another MD, I imagine you know who he is.
He says, we're in hospice as a species, like.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Ns are dropping egg counter driving dropping. Infertility is rising,
and not just in humans, but we're seeing it in
the animals because we've destroyed the planet, not just.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Our own species.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
Yes, and so for me as a leader who has
woken up you and I spent some time reading Ken
Wilber's book Radical Wholeness and the notion of we have
very few people on the planet who have actually experienced
what it feels to be whole. Yeah, and what is
the system that's in place that leads us to be
(05:33):
on whole, to feel unworthy all of that? And so
I'm sure we'll get into this today. What was it
in terms of my own awakening, waking up? And from there,
I don't use his term cleaning up. I use the
word healing up. I like that, maturing up the parts
of us that got stunted in trauma, got stunted and
(05:55):
our growth and evolution, and then cleaning up and showing up,
you know, on the planet. And that's kind of what
I'm doing here with you today. When people ask me
to come on and serve in the way that you did,
the answer is always yes. I may come on and
not know exactly, but I do know one thing. I'm
here to create a new humanity while I'm alive. So yeah,
(06:18):
that's what the book, you know, Uncaged, Uncaged Man, Uncaged Woman.
It's about being uncaged. Even though I wrote it for
the uncaging of man, I think that the readers are
going to be women because I'm talking about in the
book what has happened to us as men on the planet,
especially in this Western culture. But it's permeating across the planet.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Yeah, we're exporting a way of living that people around
the planet don't have, but they're desperate to want it,
and we're going there to learn how to live.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
Like I traveled to Africa twice.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
You know, in the last whatever, within the year, and
I remember we went to this one church in you know,
Sunday morning service.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
We're supposed to get.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Up and speak to them, right, and we walk in
sit down there there. And this is not the fancy
part of town. This is in the townships, which is.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
The you know, very.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
The lower poverty level kind of folks. But they come
every Sunday, they come to church. They have this big
community and they are singing and dancing and celebrating this Sunday.
It was like an orgasmic experience. And we were just
holding hands, all of us on our trip, like.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Crying from the beauty. And then they ask us.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
The timing was off, so we went to meet with
a small group instead of speaking in front of them
and to a tea.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
Every single one of us got up and like, what
do we have to teach you?
Speaker 5 (08:03):
You just taught us all about life.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
And community and love and belief and celebration of being alive.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
In the moment.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Yes, beautiful, even if you don't have, you know, And
we live in a society of haves and have nuts
and competing in comparison, and we live from the brain
and not from the heart.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
That's what I guess. This is how I summarize it.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
Yes, yes, and there's a wealth that money could never buy,
and there are cultures around the world that have that wealth.
And my work as I've uncovered, like why are we
living in a cage? What is it? This most advanced
form of slavery known to man? And I do define
it as advanced slavery.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Oh that's interesting.
Speaker 4 (08:51):
Freedom is actually the wealth, the wealth money can't buy,
and when you taste it and touch it, you know
what it feels like. It's hard to describe. Yeah, you
know what sovereignty feels like. It's not the freedom that
we're indoctrinated within this culture. Like we can go to
the store, or we can we can choose to do
certain things, but even our choices have been co opted
(09:15):
through a very very sophisticated indoctrination system, conditioning system. And
it happens from birth. So you know, I can talk
about that today, I can talk about that all day long,
but that is what's happened to our people and it's
affecting every aspect of our life in this culture. Yeah,
(09:37):
so so let me, yes, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
I just want to get because you and I, I mean,
we have met before numerous times and we're on that
same wavelength, and you know, I have my journey of
I'm still not one hundred percent sure what led me here,
but I realized that my life for especially after this
four day weekend when and I, you know, contemplated what
(10:02):
is life for three and a half days And I'm
still contemplating it? Right, But what was your journey that
led you.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
To ask these questions? Because I think the issue for
so many.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
In our society, right, we've stopped asking those questions. Education
is in doctrination, not curiosity anymore. And I'm curious. And
I realized, I mean, I was such a great student.
All I did was regurgitate what everybody, you know, like,
(10:36):
wait a minute, what about? And I was always asking why?
So hence my life force, you know, put me on this.
So what led you? What was that one moment twenty
moments that said I have to wake up and question
my life, my belief, what it means to be a
man in today's society?
Speaker 3 (10:57):
What what give us a little back story?
Speaker 2 (11:00):
And everybody thinks, oh, these people, that's not me because
I can't do it.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
Da da da da da. But we all have a backstory.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
You know, Picasso painted lots before he had his masterpieces, right,
So you're very brilliant, and you've always been brilliant.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
So that's not the question.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
But you started to ask different questions and I'm curious
how you got there.
Speaker 4 (11:28):
Well, it I love the question. It's like I thought
about it. It's like, how do I kind of summarize
and not tell the complete long story of it. But
you really have to go back to teenage parents. You
have to go back to my mother's They were in
a pretty typical fifties family. Dad was a teacher, mom
(11:48):
was a stay at my grandmother was a stay at
home mom. Infidelity in the family, so my mother, my
grandmother was so hurt she moved my mother and all
four of their kids, ranging from ten down to two,
four of them back to ann Arbor, and so divorce
and infidelity broke this what would have been a kind
of a typical fifties family. My father, who whose father
(12:15):
was in World War Two and came back with PTSD.
They didn't have a name for it back then, and
so my father witnessed his father coming back violent and
traumatized and basically without help. He took it out on
the whole family and these teenagers, my young mother and
(12:36):
father met at fifteen and sixteen years old in the
parking lot at annaberpione your high school. My father was
skipping school. My father was not going to school and
met my young mother at fifteen, and they had me
at seventeen. So you've got teenage mother, she had my
brother at eighteen, and you've got a father who was
(12:56):
really not in the picture. So when we get it,
we get into it like what what my core what
I would consider my core wound in existence as a
father that was absent, and what that's like to have
a mother who's working full time. We lived in a
trailer park, so you get a sense. My mother took
her college education and bought a small trailer and I
(13:20):
grew up.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Hold on, hold on, I want to back up a minute,
because you just your mom had you at you said
fifteen or sixteen.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
She met my father at fifteen, they had me at seventeen.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Seventeen, and then nineteen, and yet she went to college.
Speaker 4 (13:37):
She did not go to college. She used her college money.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Oh, the money that was supposed to go to college, I.
Speaker 4 (13:42):
Got it to buy this trailer. And so I grew
up in a trailer park. And so very very white
you know, I guess they would have called it like
trailer park, kind of trash, right, trailer park people. It
was all white, very segregated. So just down the street
was all black, right on the corner, like right on
(14:05):
the borderline of Ipsy LANDI, which was like very African American,
and you had the Arabs and the Muslims and another
trailer park. It was really an interesting place to grow up.
But when I think about how did I get here,
it was coping with an absent father, having to fend
(14:27):
for myself and take care of myself in a world
that was not very friendly, especially with the working mother.
In schools, like I think about the K through twelve education,
and I went to school and that's where I mean
teachers were really really rough for me and boys at
(14:49):
the time, because we did you know. They you take
this kind of adhd kind of kid, and that's what
you label it, and put him in a chair and
have him sit there all day and then punish him
and tell him he's bad for exactly who he is, right,
and that shame delivery, right, just delivery of shame. You're bad,
you're wrong, and learning to learning to cope with that.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
I'm going to stop at this moment.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
We have to take a break because we have it
programmed out, and I just want our guests to think
about the child with so much energy that is forced
to sit in a chair in our school system and
what Matt said about trying to be you in a
(15:38):
place that's telling you to be everybody else. We're going
to take our first break. You are listening to your
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We are on the Inspired Choices Network and come right
back so we can hear more from doctor Matt Helm
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Speaker 3 (18:13):
Welcome back, my friends.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Once again, you're listening to your healing Playground. Hope you
want to play, Hope you want to heal. I am
your host, doctor Tina Cooper Smith. We are on the
Inspired Choices Network. I invite you to go pick up
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It's called Your Healing Playground because I do believe in
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(18:38):
right now today I have with us Matt Helm, doctor
Matt Helm, and he's telling us how he got Let
me just mention this from a trailer park beginning teenage
mom and dad to a PhD and a soon to
be best selling author, I am convinced a professor, sir,
(19:01):
of life and so much more, college athlete. How does
a little boy who can't sit in his seat in
first grade?
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Living?
Speaker 2 (19:10):
You know, not the you know the teachers you said,
difficult teachers on boys in general, but also you know,
I'm sure the teachers look down on the kids that
they don't think are going to make it. We have
haves and have nots. In our society and you know,
from trailer park to PhD Right, Like, come on, did
(19:34):
your first grade teacher know that? And would she have
treated you differently if she realized who you really are,
if she saw who you were and your potential, if
she watered the seeds correctly, and maybe you wouldn't be
the same.
Speaker 3 (19:49):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
So how did you manage that life force of yours
to push up and go?
Speaker 3 (19:57):
I am not my past.
Speaker 4 (20:00):
I'm so grateful for whatever that part of me is.
There was a tenacious will in me. So because you
talk about nervous systems, it's like my nervous system that fight, flight, freeze, fawn.
It was paying attention to the world. And I didn't
have a mother who was there at parent teacher conferences,
(20:20):
who was protecting me. Certainly I did not have a
father who was there like the father that I am.
I never missed a parent teacher conference. I never missed
an athletic I coached all of my children's I coached sports.
I never played a day a day in so that
I could be with my children on the field. And
so was I really was, like you know, you ever
read the Huckleberry Fens and Tom Sawyer's I was very
(20:43):
much like a huck Finn Tom Sawyer. I was adventurous.
I walked into the nature was my first healer. I'd
walk into the woods and climb a tree, or catch
crawdads or a lot of other mischievous things. But from
that trailer that could have been the title of the book,
book from Trailer Park to PhD. But what happened was
(21:04):
I knew I needed to protect myself. I knew that
nobody was coming to rescue me, and so it built
this resiliency. It built this analytic part of me that
monitored the external world for safety. And so I learned
how to go underground, and I learned how to in
(21:25):
a very sophisticated way, how to be successful and survive.
You know, my grades were always, you know, as a's
and b's, mostly a's, but in conduct it was an
F every single time. And there's where that humiliation and
that shame. I love of Brene Brown when she talks
about shame resiliency and what is the cure of being
(21:49):
traumatized and disciplined by shame and finding myself and learning
about vulnerability and finding that part of myself that could
feel but probably one of the turning points in my
life was a stepfather that came into my life, okay,
and he saw right away that I had this high
(22:11):
level activity, and he put me in wrestling, and I
just took off with it. I took off with it
right away. And then I said, because we had money,
and I said, the neighborhood kids are playing Little League?
Can I play Little League? Yes? So then I started
playing Little League. And then the football season came and
I'm like, can I play football? And so I played
(22:33):
three and four sports at a time. And when I
think about it, what this athletics did for me, it
was that fatherless energy. It was a place to go
where I could feel that masculine, that fathering energy. It
was a place to take my hurt, my loss, my grief.
(22:53):
Of course, you don't know it as a kid, that
that's what you're doing. But what I was doing, and
it doesn't surprise me more that I became an All
American and I became a state champ, a four time
all state college wrestling scholarship to multiple Big Ten and
multiple universities around the country. I chose Michigan State University
(23:16):
to wrestle for and so that's how I got into college. Actually,
I got recruited out of my city to go to
an elite high school, Detroit Catholic Central and where we
were state champs, and it was probably one of the
best things that ever happened because of the city I
was growing up in was not the best place for me,
(23:37):
and ended up going to a really elite academically and
elite athletically, a school that I really believe it led
to my success. I had a wrestling coach there, Coach Rodriguez,
who took me under his wing and basically was a
father figure while I was in high school, and my
(23:57):
brother ended up going there, so both of us. My
brother's a two time high school champ. We both wrestled
back to back at Michigan all the way through high
school and then at Michigan State. And it was in
college where I started to run into the deep suffering
because I went to high school. Okay, I got a stepfather,
I'm winning, I have my needs are met, I'm a
(24:20):
pretty happy kid. Get a wrestling scholarship to go to
a major university, and that's where I ran into myself.
And when my mother and stepfather weren't there and I
was left to my own devices, and I had a
college girlfriend. So this first breakup in my life hurt.
(24:41):
I can still feel it today. It's like the first
loss of your life other than that father and I
be in there. But that heartbreak led me to right
down that inherited family line. My father numbed with alcohol
and drugs, and I moved my way into it. Starts
it out as just having fun in college, and then
(25:02):
it became a way of coping with reality, coping with grief,
coping with loss. And so I went into higher education
and student affairs because I went through every part of
the system, judicial affairs, the residents hall, dean of students,
you know, and eventually the counseling center, all all of
(25:23):
which are now under my kind of professional umbrella of
departments i've worked in or for.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
Okay, I want to stop you because I'm not sure
I understand it correctly, and I think I do. But
if i'm not sure, it's possible, my listeners aren't sure too.
When you say you experienced all those parts of the
university system, it's because you, as an undergrad, had to meet, yes,
with the judicial system and the counseling system. And right,
(25:54):
so you, yes, you were going through school and once
again being the acted out five year old in first
grade now acting out in college in a sense it right, yeah,
and I invite you you know that I talk about
metabolizing emotions, right, And the bottom line is your five
(26:18):
year old didn't certainly didn't know how to metabolize the emotions.
Your father, biological father didn't know how to metabolize the emotions.
So they were stuck and stuffed in.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
And how amazing.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
I just I want to praise the men in your
life that were divine masculine men for you.
Speaker 3 (26:36):
So you had masculine.
Speaker 2 (26:38):
Figures to like, oh there is another way to be
And what happened? What I'm hearing, And again I'm not
your psychologist, but it's just is that breakup and we
all have them, you know, first loves rarely become forever loves.
But it opened up all the wounds from childhood that
had never been.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Actually dealt with. Right, that's right, and so you had
to go.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
It was like, oh, act too, all the same, it's
the same human, just a little bigger and now the
stakes were a little higher. Right, And so again we
all know how it ended.
Speaker 3 (27:18):
And so it's such a beautiful.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Hero's journey and there's more to come and more for
you to tell us. We're going to take our next
break and then come back for this amazing wisdom from
Matt Helm that's going to come out once again. You're
listening to your healing playground. Please come back to hear more,
because I'm sure the wise adult is going to start
(27:40):
dropping some wisdom bombs. We are on your healing playground.
I am your host, Doctor Tina Cooper Smith, and we
are on the Inspired Choices Network.
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(28:11):
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and play. On this show, doctor Tina explores the playground
of your body, mind, heart and soul. From neuroscience to sensuality,
from root.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
Chakra to real talk.
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out of fear and back into joy. Because if you're
alive and breathing, your story is still unwritten, and you
deserve to write it with love. Together, you'll learn to breathe, feel,
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(28:53):
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Speaker 3 (30:49):
Today I have with me my friend and just my hero.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
I just think he's such a cool guy, doctor Matt Helm,
and we were talking about his journey and from childhood
college to really becoming a fantastic coach, teacher, author, And
I want you to I want to get into your
(31:15):
the nitty gritty of what you really want to teach
and help the world learn, because, as you said, the
world set of crossroads, help us, help.
Speaker 3 (31:27):
Us why we're melting.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
But tell me, you talk about the divine masculine, and
you had some really good masculine role models and some
not such good ones. You didn't necessarily have the tools.
Speaker 3 (31:42):
And you know I'm gonna.
Speaker 2 (31:44):
Out you because I know marriage one didn't last, but marriage,
you know, the kids are great. Marriage two is a
little bit better that starter marriage. That learning how to
negotiate relationships, that is part of your story and part
of your shift. And so let's start with the crux
of your message that you really want people to know
(32:04):
that you went through difficult times of how am I
supposed to be a man right?
Speaker 3 (32:11):
How am I supposed to deal with heartache?
Speaker 2 (32:13):
How am I supposed to stand up again? And how
am I supposed to raise my kids right so that
they are healthy humans to heal the planet?
Speaker 3 (32:23):
So can you can?
Speaker 2 (32:24):
I invite you to elaborate more on your message because
I don't want to waste our time. It's not a waste,
but it's we got to know where the cock cut came.
Speaker 4 (32:34):
From for this right well, to cut to the chase.
You know, I believe humanity's caged. There's a reason I
titled the book Uncaged. And there is a really really
powerful matrix and structure economically, politically, culturally, relationally designed to
(32:58):
trigger our nervousness to stay at the fight flight. And
so in terms of self actualization, there are very very
few people who are self actualized, and those who believe
that they are self actualized believe that they are within
the current water the fish is swimming in. So we
were talking about self improvement and so you can basically
(33:20):
improve your life within competitive, hyper competitive capitalism. And this
is what I learned. In my doctoral program. I studied
with neo Marxist post Marxist critical theorists, all the piste
Off philosophers and sociologists of our time. And by the
time I was done with my PHA almost didn't finish.
I walked in because I realized that even our educational
(33:40):
system K through twelve, educational system is designed to build workers,
to build sheep that will behave in our system exactly
as they were taught. And when I went into I
finished my bachelor's degrees and I was trying to figure
out what am I going to do with my life.
You can only make so much with a bachelor's degree
(34:00):
in psychology and sociology. But I took my first job
in a minimum security prison for kids for boys, and
I got there. Eighty percent of the kids were black,
fifteen percent of them were Hispanic, and the other were white.
And I remember the trailer park. All of us whites
(34:23):
for the trailer park. The blacks are down here in
the African Americans. And I said, there's something wrong here.
I was these kids. I didn't get caught as much
as they did, but they were doing similar things, and
most of them were coming from single parent households. And
I started to critically contemplate what's wrong here? And as
I started to try to decide, am I going to
(34:44):
get a teaching special educ they were all ei emotionally impaired,
learning disabled joined the crowd, Right, I'm that same kid?
Or am I going to go on and do a
master's degree? And I wanted to poss positioned myself to
be of maximum service as a leader to our people.
(35:04):
So I chose the master's route, not going into the classroom,
but to go deal with the bigger issues that we
were facing. And so I got a master's And one
of my mentors was a critical theorist, and he basically
critical theorists interrogate the external world for the oppressive forces
that were interacting. And one of the books that I read,
(35:27):
and so, student affairs is a predominantly student development is
a predominantly white profession. It's a predominantly female profession. So
I entered for the first time in my life as
a minority into a feminine culture. And that's where the
light bulbs started going off again. I was being conditioned
(35:48):
and socialized to be a woman's interesting in the caring professions.
And so here I am coming in as an administrator
with the master's degree and or in a master's program,
and all my all of my classmates are women, like
there's a handful of men in there. But I loved it.
(36:08):
I loved the theoretical frameworks, learning the counseling aspects. But
women go into those teachers predominantly women. And when you
look at budget cuts and you look at money and
where money is delivered, it's the feminine professions that are
disproportionately funded less things when you look at the pay structures.
All of that was part of my master's and PhD program.
(36:30):
But we read Pedagogy of the Oppressed by Paula Freiri
and it was it was basically Frairie liberated Brazil. He liberated.
He showed the cast system, and he showed how peasants
stayed present peasants their whole life. Yes, and when I
was when I was in. I read the book overnight.
My classmates didn't even understand it. I knew exactly what
(36:53):
Freiri was saying. I knew exactly what it was like
to come from the lowest decois economic status. I knew
the way people from the lower sees were treated. And
that's where I started to the grief started coming up
and the anger started coming up, because before then I
was just studying harder, I was reading more as an athlete.
I adjusted. I adapted to the red marks on your
(37:16):
paper and the criticism you get in graduate school, and
I'm like, you'll never defeat me, you will never bring
me down when I come from where I came from.
So I basically took to graduate education, Master's and PhD
like an athletic sport. Bring it on. And at some
point I truly fell in love with learning, and I
(37:38):
devoured books. I read constantly so that I could understand
what was happening in my life and so that I
could leade at a higher level. But pedagogy, they'll press it.
Really looked at the banking system, the K through twelve system,
where you sit in the desk, you don't move, and
basically you take on the authority the external world since
(38:00):
and then doctor nates your internal reality and they use
discipline and shame and punishment until that internal prison guard
is you and that and this is my story. Yes,
that prison guard was rough on me. Once I internalized
the system the way that wanted you to do that
to yourself, the eyes of shame were not the external
(38:21):
world anymore. That's the genius of the cage. Yes, it's
it's one thing to have for a to have power
over b because they're bigger and stronger men over women.
Speaker 3 (38:33):
Right, but then you take it on it's you.
Speaker 2 (38:37):
You have completely internalized your oppressor. So there it's the coppo,
you know how into jail or in the prison camps
there's still the hierarchy. Like the one who sleeps near
the latrine.
Speaker 3 (38:49):
Is the lowest of the low and.
Speaker 2 (38:50):
They're usually sexually abused in It's what I learned in
South Africa and the right and our system actually went
and we're taught to be competitive against other women, so
we were we were doing the work for the men.
The female's circumcisions in Africa are done by the women.
Speaker 3 (39:11):
So yeah, I get you.
Speaker 4 (39:13):
And so as we get into the meat and bones
of this as I started to figure out, Oh my God,
putting me in a desk, shaming me, telling me that
I was bad, all the healing were waking up. I
woke up to it. It was like a light bulb
went off, and it went off a little too fast,
because you know when you walk into a dark room
and somebody turns the lights on and the lights hit you.
(39:34):
That's how it hit me. It hit me like a
wake up call. I see it, I see the oppressor,
I see what they're doing, I see the design, and
I just happened to have all the Marxist Heidegger, fu Co,
all of the all of the rebels that were and
(39:55):
crudely including christ right flipping tables over. I have learned
learned that there's a way to go about this. But
what we've done to men in this culture, the sacred
masculine is missing. We have cut the kneecaps off on
men in this culture, and the educational system is part
of it, parenting in the culture that they're doing their best,
(40:17):
but they're in the system. So I really think it's
important for the listeners to know. To wake up is
like to It's like a fish in water where that
fish has been swimming in water, and it doesn't know
what water is. And we are interacting in a reality
that's been socially constructed for us to exist in, and
it masquerades as the true self. And so you're just
(40:40):
coming out of who am I feel? Who you are here?
And now feel who you're not here? And now as
you do that, you recognize more and more and more
who you really are, beyond, beyond beyond. And so it's
a sort of like children and the K through twelves
(41:00):
all the way through higher education, because higher education really
is just more advanced conditioning to put you in a
system to work a profession that serves who. This serves
the system that serves what. And so then we've got, Okay,
if I'm truly gonna lead and I'm going to serve humanity,
(41:22):
I've got to understand that system. I've got to understand
what we call the matrix the water, and it's it's
the invisible architecture of reality that people are born into
and it's self reinforcing. You know, it's the economic system
we're in. Oh, you got to go to college to
get a good job so you can make good money.
(41:43):
Why where'd that come? From and when you look at
basically the seven major civilizations over the course of human
history that we can document, they all fell apart and
when it's and so it's really clear we're in one
of those right now where we've we've gone from nothing
(42:04):
to this abundance to the oppression of people to the
abuse of the environment and the resources and our planet,
and it's falling apart. There's the hospice level. We are
in hospital hospice. People think gas price is going up
in the war, and these kinds of things are just
normal parts of like, no, they're not. They are part
of what the oppressor does to keep their privileged place
(42:26):
within the dominance world structure.
Speaker 5 (42:29):
Oh true, I see it in I'm watching a TV
show called Pull Dark and you're seeing what they're doing
in the seventeen hundred in the eighteenth and we have
to take our last break.
Speaker 2 (42:40):
And but yeah, the nervous system and being in fight
flight freezer. Please, when you're fighting for food, water safety,
clean water, clean air, and just to pay the bills,
you cannot.
Speaker 3 (42:59):
Use your alive now.
Speaker 2 (43:01):
For creativity, to create and express the you that you
really are and to change society.
Speaker 3 (43:08):
And so we're wasting seven.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
Billion humans on the planet by not putting our heads
together to figure out.
Speaker 3 (43:15):
How to get out of this mess. So I completely agree.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
We're going to take our last break and come back
because I bet you have some thoughts and answers on
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Speaker 3 (43:39):
Who need it.
Speaker 2 (43:40):
I want to keep doing this to bring healing and
a liveness to everybody that is willing to check in
and listen. So we're going to take our last break
once again. You're Healing Playground. I'm your host, Doctor Tina
Cooper Smith, and we're on the Inspired Choices Network, and
come right back because I know we got more wisdom,
(44:02):
not just how we're falling apart, but how perhaps we
can build it back together.
Speaker 1 (44:08):
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Speaker 3 (45:39):
Welcome back, my friends.
Speaker 2 (45:41):
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Please celebrate this podcast by sharing it with your friends.
The more people that hear it, the more I can
continue to do it, and the more we bring you
great guests like the one I have today, doctor Matt Helm,
(46:04):
author of the upcoming book Ungage. So we find we're
in a cage. We realize we see the bars. How
do we get ourselves to the other side before we
end today? And I feel like we need to do
three more podcasts with you.
Speaker 3 (46:21):
What do you propose?
Speaker 4 (46:23):
Well, the awakening process, right, So hopefully the listeners are
hearing that our reality has been taken and it's like
really clear it's been co opted by the powers. And
so when we get into stuff like love and intimacy
and sex and all these freedoms, like as an erotic
(46:44):
Blueprint coach, it's about erotic freedom and what are the barriers?
So I had done all of this work on myself,
many retreats, all kinds of trainings. I've trained with the
Nowetic Institute, which is an organization trying to rescue humanity
and these powers that we have underneath the surface, and
(47:05):
we do the healing work, so waking up, healing up,
and so there's part of people I know that are
listening that can feel that part of them that's in
the prison, that's that's gripped. And when I think about
my work with men it starts as boys, I mean
show up to yourself. And so the self improvement it's
(47:29):
not just it's not just get a gym membership, it's
not just get therapy. It's not just these are all
great things, but beginning to show up to yourself, taking
immaculate care of your body and your mind and your heart.
And when we get into the sacred masculine is really
the energetic of being present. And so your own sacred
(47:53):
masculine being present to your life and what are all
the things that get in the way of that, claiming
your life like it mattered and.
Speaker 3 (48:04):
Bring your choices are yours?
Speaker 4 (48:05):
Take responsibility, and it's a sacred when you realize, actually
I choose my reality moment to moment, I actually choose
from the thoughts moving through my head. That's the masculine.
Sacred masculine is that higher part of us that keeps
us present, and so you've got to cultivate it through
(48:26):
practices like meditation, practices like yoga. When I walk into nature,
it immediately brings me to present presence and so be
fully present in your life because without presence, you're like
ghost hunting in your own life, you know, And so
take extreme ownership for your life. And by that I
(48:51):
mean stop blaming people, stop playing the victim card, and
take responsibility, radical responsibility for your growth and development. And
when you do that, I like when I think about
meeting Jaya and the Erotic blueprints. I had already met Satiana.
I thought as a pretty free person and pretty healthy person,
and then I met Jaya and I realize there's a
(49:13):
whole other level to erotic freedom. And I'm like, I'm
not completely free. I want to know what it feels
like to be free in every single dimension of my life.
And I can only take my clients as far as
I've gone, and reality as far as I've gone, to
uncover and to recover myself from this matrix, from these
(49:36):
powers that are taking our energy, that are taking our attention.
I mean the super surveillance, the computers now with AI,
they are monitoring everything behind the surface. They are provoking
our deepest wounds so that we'll stay distracted from what's happened,
and so that the biggest example right now is the
Epstein files and what they've uncovered, and the newest Department
(50:02):
of Justice report says they're not going to prosecute and
so right and plain sight. We've got the powers and
what they've done to abuse children, and the highest level
people running our planet are basically turning a blind eye
to it and covering it up. It shows you all
(50:22):
powerful and we'll eventually forget about it like we have
and that abuse will continue. And so taking ownership now,
I built a model called serve. Select a global issue.
Educate yourself on that issue, human trafficking. Just pick one
human trafficking. How many people know what it really is?
(50:42):
Do something about it? Respond s. Select an issue is
educate yourself on that issue. Respond in some way. The
V is to give value to it and reflect and contemplate,
and the E is to evaluate and celebrate. This is
a model that I want to bring out into the
world and I want to take advance of I'm going
(51:05):
to take my student development. I want to take all
of these beautiful healing modalities, blend them into a structure
to take to the NC double A and make it
part of the ecosystem that college athletes go through so
they don't just come out of their sports. We're doing
a very poor job helping these high level athletes translate
(51:25):
the advanced skills they have into the world of work
and into the world of service, and I love it,
and I.
Speaker 2 (51:32):
Got to put you in, plug you into my sons.
These college athlete graduates that are ask starting to ask
me questions about the masculine and feminine.
Speaker 4 (51:43):
Yes, so a man in his power and this gets
into the sacred feminine. And yes it's another whole podcast,
but the feminine is inviting us constantly inviting us to
take responsibility as men on the planet and to put
TechEd and to be warriors. And we don't have that
(52:04):
kind of man on it. That's why I said at
the very beginning. Women have this, especially with hyper capitalism,
have had to build a masculine shell to cope with it.
And so you got now you've got two of those working,
and you got two people depleted. At the end of
the day. Women take most of the responsibility for the household,
so they're doing double duty. And you got polarity evaporated,
(52:29):
polarity being the masculine and the feminine bringing the essence
of who and what they are together, which is the beauty.
And what we have is we have two masculine energies
in a household. People are exhausted. There's no polarity, and
so we've got the fewest number of children being born
on the planet right now, We've got men and women
(52:49):
not living in their natural essence. And I still believe
we've not really seen a real man on the planet yet. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (52:57):
Well, and I think the women are hiding too scared
to be fully present because being fully present is still scary,
because we were burned at the steak, right and are
we going to be The women nowadays are starting to
speak up and refuse to be silenced, and refuse to
be subjugated and refuse to be shamed. And we're all
(53:20):
aware that if Epstein Files goes away, it's like a
proof that we might get burned at the steak all
over again and at all or not. And unfortunately we're
running out of time, and it is crazy.
Speaker 3 (53:32):
But I do think, Matt, that.
Speaker 2 (53:37):
We do have I always, I just believe love and
life is a powerful force that is underneath it all,
and there are enough people who refuse to go backwards.
The life force is pushing us forward and the more
and again, I'll have you on again, maybe when your
(53:59):
book actually reaches the shelves, and to explore this again,
because life is right here right now, it's no body,
it's no mind, it's no thing. It is eternal life force.
It's the earth, it's the sky, it's the plants, it's
(54:19):
the humans. We're all made of We're all just microcosms, macrocosms.
Speaker 3 (54:25):
Of the same energy. And I'll leave it at that.
Speaker 1 (54:29):
If you felt something moved today, a molecule, a mindset,
or your mood, that's going Your body listens to your stories,
your thoughts, your breadth. So speak to yourself with kindness,
lay with curiosity, and let your nervous system know it's
safe to rest. Doctor Tina returns Monday at eleven am
Eastern ten Central nine Mountain eight Pacific on Inspired Choices
(54:54):
Network dot com. Remember, pleasure is a practice and play
is your medicine.
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