February 19, 2026 • 22 mins
Sky was visiting her dad at his grave site yesterday to spend some time with him on the anniversary of his passing. Of course, in classic Sky fashion, it wasn't a normal visit and a lot of things didn't make sense, but it was what is written on his gravestone that really confused us...
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
So, I don't want this to come off, you know,
like we're being insensitive here, because we're not.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
You know.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Obviously, yesterday was a little bit of a heavy day
for our friend Sky. It was the fifth anniversary and
it's weird to even put it like that of the
unfortunate death of your father, and so that's a heavy subject, right.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
But I do have to.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Admit I have some questions about what went down yesterday.
Sky went to visit her father's grave site. Yea posted
about it, and it made me question some things.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
That I listen, what are you doing? I don't know.
I just gotta I gotta get to the bot this.
We ain't done yet. It's time for the podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
A year completely uncensored and unacting filtered except for that part.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
The the show's after show.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Now, what are you doing? What are you?
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Just a question?
Speaker 4 (01:04):
Also, when I saw it, I felt like, oh man,
she didn't tell us, Okay, she didn't.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
I was, And I'm glad.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
I was glad you didn't because I didn't want to
take it easy on you yesterday.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
It didn't want to be nice.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I wanted to be honest, normal, to be honest.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
She wasn't even really sure that yesterday was the actual day,
to be honesty, that makes me feel better. And I thought,
so we were talking, you guys, we had left the room.
She goes, oh, yeah, today, I.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Think is the day that my dad. I know it
five years ago. And I go, you think you don't
know that.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
Dog Oscar died five years ago on May eighteenth.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
I know the exact date everything.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
Okay, dad passed in January for some reason.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
No, so it it all kicked off right after Valentine's
Day and then it was like a four to five
day process of you know, hospital ventilator, all kinds of stuff,
and clearly that was a fucking blur of a time.
And so I had thought it was the eighteenth, you know,
which was yesterday and then but for some reason, I
(02:16):
always questioned myself, even with my husband's birthday so many years,
and I go date, I did date, and I go,
or was it the seventeenth? And then I started talking
myself out of the fact that it was the eighteen.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
Yeah, on the what on like the grave site the date, No,
the year.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Year, it says the year.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
So this is a different kind of grave site. It's
not like a gravestone. Yeah, you know he's buried in
the wall.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
He's in the wall.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Military don't go full date.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
Nobody goes full date.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I don't think you do on that.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Yeah, it's just year to year. I don't know what
people do.
Speaker 5 (02:54):
On d I want date time. I got time of birth.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Okay, that's super weird, bro about it. So there was
a little confusion in my mind. I was like double guessing,
you know, to myself. But then I got a message
from my mom just being like, thinking about your dad today.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Even with your new dad, that's awkward.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Say, you know, I was saying some nice things, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
He was okay with those text messages.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
I don't think asked him about the corner.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
I don't. I don't think, yes, you are, you are
taking over the will Okay.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
No, no, none of that's going on with her new man.
Uh So she, you know, at some point in the morning,
then confirmed with me that it was definitely the dates.
I'm like, okay, cool.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
I wonder how that is for her though, in all seriousness,
to be with somebody else. It's been five years since
how long were there together? Forty years like something forever.
So it's like to be with somebody that's gotta be.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
A weird.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
I wonder if she feels guilty, like you know, I mean, yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
No, she said some things that maybe feel really nice.
She's like, yeah, you know, I was thinking about him
and I thank him all the time for the beautiful
life he you know, provided for all of us and
moved on though.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Okay, I mean, jeez, so you know, what the hell
Eddie could you possibly be talking about when it comes
to this kind of a situation.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
You're a weirdo man.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Yeah, okay, how dare you? Everyone grieves differently.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
For sure, Yeah, for sure. But listen, if you put
it out there, then I'm absorbing it and I have questions.
I'm sorry, I got questions. I got questions.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
So Sky went to visit your dad in the Wall yesterday,
which is an amazing place. My father in law was
buried there. I didn't know that a few family members there.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Yes, okay, yes, go walk around a cemetery.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
To be clear. Yeah, so Sky went there yesterday. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Well, I was out at Miramar, so I know there's
some family I think you.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Have real Yeah, you're you're a Mirama.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
So my my grandparents are at Cabrillo in the Wall, right,
next to Eddie's father in law. Really, Eddie's wife went
to visit her father and then saw right next to
them my grandparents' name. So they're like, it's really crazy,
like out of all the people at Cabrio, yeah there, ye, yes,
(05:26):
so my grandparents at Cabrio. But you guys just heads
up Cabrio. Awful, awful. So now mirror mar is starting
to fill up for veterans and you know who pass away.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Okay, so Sky decided, you know, I'm gonna go visit
dad yesterday, which makes sense.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Spent some time.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Didn't realize you were picking up food, yes, for both
of you guys. You know he's passed. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
Interesting, Yeah, it was. It was noon. It was it
was lunchtime, and I knew I wanted to be there
for a little while. So I'm like, I'll bring lunch
and then sit there because just for you, well yes,
just for me, because I went rubios. My dad not
the biggest fan of Mexican food.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
I know why.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Too much spice and flavor something that he used to like.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
I was just gonna say, did you crack a beer?
Because a big beer only like ham and cheese sandwiches. Yes,
So you don't do a ham and cheese and a
beer in honor of them.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
You do a ham and cheese, go to the deli,
go to seven eleven. You guys, you guys are fucking
a million percent right. Here's where I went wrong. Day Hey,
the day before for lunch, Jersey Mike's oh sky, I
(06:44):
have a sandwich two days in a row with that,
and my doctor doesn't think I should be having cold.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Okay, Well it's tough. It's once a year, because once
a year any better? Yeah, I don't know healthy like
fried fish.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
I didn't get fried fish and I got chicken, rice,
black beans.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Beer.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
I thought about it, but I didn't know if it
would be allowed. I mean public drink wherever you was.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
Idel like they would get how many people probably drink
a beer at the gravesite?
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Oh, I'm sure it happens. All clean up after yourself,
don't leave it. I pour one out every day for
all the people.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
You pour one out for your dad, and then you
drink the other one.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
I did have the thought that he would love me
to bring him some cores light. I thought it may
get me in trouble.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
So I just you know, all right, So you got
your rubios.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
How did that go?
Speaker 3 (07:49):
It was delicious? Thank you for asking.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I didn't mean the food. I meant your visit.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
I was actually wanting to know more about corn it.
Yeah yeah, yeah, hell y b so super lucky because
you know there. I mean, if you've been, there's just
wall after wall after wall after wall. But where my
dad is there is literally a bench directly right in
(08:15):
front of them. So perfect. So I honestly stop bringing
up the beer. I didn't bring a beer, okay, but
just get over it. So yeah, So I pull up,
I get out, I got my bowl, I got my
Stanley full of water, and I'm ready to sit for
a while. And I realized as I'm walking up that
(08:40):
every time I've gone to visit since he was put
in the wall, I've been with somebody. My husband's come,
my daughters, come, my mom, all that stuff. But this
I realized my first solo visit. And the reason I'm
realizing this because I'm walking up to the wall and
(09:02):
see his name, I immediately get choked up. Oh and of course,
like when I've been there to visit with my husband
and my daughter, I always cry, but it's more of
like a misty eye like pat you know, just little
eyes welling up emotion yea. As I'm walking up to
the wall, dude, like I don't know, it was like repressed,
(09:28):
but fucking water come out to the point where I
walk up to the wall, and I'm now like in
a weird spot because the emotions are fully fucking flowing
out that I walk up to the bench, put down
my stuff, walk up to the wall where my dad is,
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and my dad is right in the middle of the wall,
kind of like directly where you're facing level. I walk
up to it, just flowing fucking tears, put both of
my hands on it. Put my forehead, my god on it.
Did you No, I didn't slam it. I mean I
could control my face. I mean it's a slab of
(10:12):
fucking stone. Bro your damn head open to make sure.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
So I put my head against the stone and I
stand there probably for like two full minutes, sobbing wow audibly,
sobbing oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Like other stuff going on.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Well, I realized you guys are suppressed that much. When
he pays I didn't do it.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
She came in the next day.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
Was very concerned because I came in here.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
I came I forgot that she was here.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
You forget because I came in to work. I came
into work the morning he passed because I got the
call from my mom like you got to get to
the hospital. They say, this is it. So I left here,
went to the hospital and then all of you guys
are like, take time, whatever you guys, whatever you need.
And I was like, honestly, I just need to keep
moving because all I'm gonna do is sit at home
(11:09):
and be sad. So I'd rather keep moving and laugh
and be around people who love me. And so I did.
I came into work the next day.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
So have you do you feel like maybe you haven't
dealt with it?
Speaker 3 (11:20):
That's like, I like, not that I haven't, but I
just hadn't let the sorrow out, like I've come to
terms with it, but I just never I think let
my body didn't take that time after, I didn't let
my body fully feel it. So I knew that this
was gonna be a wild visit based on because I
(11:42):
mean I had no shame. I mean, my head, my hands, like.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
If somebody.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
And there's walk on it brown and fast.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
You know, I get it. Though.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
I mean it's been five years since Oscar pass.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
I don't know how I'm gonna act on me. I
just feel I don't know. I saw I think.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Yeah, So when I'm doing this, I'm thinking if anybody
is seeing me, because there's like other people kind of
in the area, but not you know, they're like on
another side of the wall over there and walking past
over there.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
I feel like people understand.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
But I feel like if anybody sees me, they're gonna think, like,
my dad died yesterday because of the Yeah, well, peopill walk.
Speaker 4 (12:30):
By and they see twenty twenty one and they're like, what, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
You guys know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
You guys know what I mean. The way I the
way I was acting. So it was probably a full
hour of that of me sitting down. I chose to
put music on.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
I put because your dad like a certain artist.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
My dad didn't like music at all. Really, what he was.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
You got, no course, you got music that he doesn't like.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
He he was a news talk financial guy. Well, no,
what I put on is he used to drive an
old VW bus, like not one of the cool ones,
like one of the like eighties. I'm embarrassed people think
I probably live in here ones nice and He would
pick me up from swim practice every Saturday, and the
(13:21):
only music in his car was a cassette tape that
had eighties hits on it. We're talking our house in
the middle of the street, Madness, Toto Africa, like this
is this is the kind of stuff. So I put
that on because anytime I hear those songs, it reminds
me of my dad picking me up, taking me home,
(13:43):
spending time together. So I put that on and it
was a full hour of me sitting on the bench,
going back up to the wall, touching the wall again,
laying laying on the bench, at one point looking at
the clouds, thinking maybe I'm going to get like a
message or shape up there.
Speaker 4 (14:04):
She's she's sitting there crying and all now people here
is our house.
Speaker 7 (14:13):
You guys, they're walking around with people aren't hearing And then.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Put it on your phone and yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
And then you know, sometimes where you decide you're just
really going to get into your sorrow and just bring
it on Thursdays, I decided to put on the song Hallelujah.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
So you're forcing the emotions.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
Which literally makes me cry like anything, just because it's
so beautiful. And then I may have stood in front
of the wall and done some of my stretches and.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Why would you just stretch? Hell is going on here?
Speaker 2 (14:53):
By the way, we haven't even gotten to my questions yet.
Now this has gotten so bizarre. Now I don't even
know where to go.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
Well, yeah, I'm kind of like listening, and then I'm
like like, kind of no, there's no one around, right.
Speaker 6 (15:06):
And.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
Prayer, hands to my chest, played this is hajah not
during this moment, and then fling, flowing, flowing, and then
(15:32):
that was basically the experience. Told him I love you,
visit again soon, and.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
He's like, I'm good.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
Yeah, please don't please, don't stretch next time.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
The music choice is too much. Okay, well that was
way more than I was expecting. My only two questions really.
First of all, you posted on so media, which you
never do. You don't do this kind of a thing,
you know, you don't. You know a lot of people
on social media their post every single second of their
(16:06):
life and things like that. That's not really sky. It
takes a big thing, like a trip or something like that,
a momentous thing. Yeah, the first post on social media,
so I was a little bit surprised that you shared this,
which I think is cool. But you shared it, this
was the deal.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
I was surprised too, because honestly, when I was confused
about the date, I'm like, oh, well, maybe I did
a post when he died. And I look back, I
didn't even do a post. When I didn't, I didn't,
I wonder.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
It's the show.
Speaker 4 (16:33):
It's the show Sky her bio is silly Lady on
the radio.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
You don't have to read that right now.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
I had to.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
So as I am looking at the post, very interesting.
What went into this? Because you've talked a lot about
the hands on the gravestone gravestone, Yeah, and you've kept
saying I'm touching the wall, I'm doing that. Well, that's
that's the post is that it's it's your dad's stone
(17:04):
and with your hand.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
One hand get placed on it.
Speaker 3 (17:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Yeah, And it made me, it did make me think,
like what goes into that? Like I'm gonna I'm gonna
take a picture of this. Yeah, this is what I
want to share. Yeah, what went into that thought?
Speaker 3 (17:18):
Well, like you said, I never post, but I was
feeling so emotional, and you know, I have a lot
of family in New York. My dad's from New York,
and so the only time we ever interact is on
social media really, all my cousins, aunts, uncles, all that,
and so I kind of wanted them to know that, like,
you know, this is the day this is going on.
(17:40):
And for some reason didn't see this coming because again
I've never done this before. When I visited with other people,
I kept feeling compelled the amount of times I got
out of the bench to put my hands, both hands,
mainly both hands, but you know, for the picture. I mean,
I'm bad enough at taking pictures with you know what
I mean, so so, and I didn't really like give
(18:05):
too much thought to it. It was just pure emotion
of like, I'm here, this is the day. I want
to share how much I'm missing him, and like my
hand there is the closest I can get to him physically. Okay,
And but here's the fucked up part. As soon as
I took the picture and was like, oh, I'll probably
(18:26):
post this, I go, oh, the fucking show is gonna
have a field day with it.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Well, not necessarily that question, my bigger question, A bigger question. Yes, okay,
So I've seen a lot of gravestones, you know, over
the years, and whatever, and you know a lot of
them are very similar of you know, loving father, caring mother,
great brother, whatever. It's kind of about the rest in peace,
(18:50):
go with God. Yeah, I have to understand what the
what's that called? Not an insignia.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
It's like there's an area where you can put a
message or as it's usually about the person the person. Yes, yes,
because your.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Hand is kind of covering the chart of it.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
I'm trying to reveal what this says because I see
a word that I cannot understand.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
It is on the gravestone.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
The word I see is babe, babe, babe.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Babe, And now I'm like, what the who the fuck
wrote babe that ham and cheese babe?
Speaker 5 (19:31):
Maybe I was assuming it's a quote from your dad,
Babe and cheese babe babe.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Yeah, in all of my not a quote. I don't
think I've ever seen babe on a gravestone.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
And you are correct, because on the entire wall I
looked at because while I was there, I was looking
at other people's messages. Some people have zero messages, which
make me kind of judge, like you, probably people didn't
really like quote.
Speaker 1 (19:58):
You want to hold my own qu question? What would
that be. I don't think about it, but something good.
I don't know. I don't like people. Yeah, there you go.
Stay away from me. If you're reading this, you're too close. Okay, okay,
makes sense. Get your hand off me. Yeah, don't touch me. Babe?
Speaker 5 (20:20):
What is it?
Speaker 1 (20:21):
What is this? What does it say?
Speaker 3 (20:22):
So? So it says love is the greatest gift? Thanks babe,
Thanks babe.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Babe, who's who's clothes?
Speaker 3 (20:32):
That? It's not a quote, it's something my mom wrote. Oh,
you can like and he said you can put anything.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
But she's saying that to your dad.
Speaker 3 (20:40):
Yes, yes, which now looking at it, I kind of
wish Babe wasn't there because I would like the message
to be from the whole family, not just my mom.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Yeah, it's a very one on one message.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
But at the time she was like filling it out,
and I think she was also maybe taking a little
bit of volume or x X. You know, she was well,
she was going through with you guys. She had just
lost her husband and the doctor said this is this
is what you need.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Been there?
Speaker 3 (21:12):
I would love I would love a lot of that. So,
so she was the one who wrote the message, and
I know she kind of struggled with it because she
had mentioned yeah, kind of forever. Yeah, I'm trying to
figure out what to put on it, and then we
didn't really see it until it was unveiled. But yeah,
love is the greatest gift, thanks babe.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Yeah, I don't think there's I don't know there's.
Speaker 3 (21:40):
I paused, like there was a comment.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
It was a great gift through the text, babe, just rushing.
Speaker 3 (21:53):
Yeah, so yeah, I after Yeah, So when I did
take the picture, I'm like, I'm covering up the words.
But then I'm like, I don't fucking care. I'm so
emotional and messed up right now that that this is
this is the best we're gonna get.
Speaker 1 (22:09):
All right, So that happened.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Well again, the only show I think that could break
down a grave visit of somebody's deceased father.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
Yes, you're welcome.
Uh.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
So, I don't want this to come off, you know,
like we're being insensitive here, because we're not.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
You know.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Obviously, yesterday was a little bit of a heavy day
for our friend Sky. It was the fifth anniversary and
it's weird to even put it like that of the
unfortunate death of your father, and so that's a heavy subject, right.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
But I do have to.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Admit I have some questions about what went down yesterday.
Sky went to visit her father's grave site. Yea posted
about it, and it made me question some things.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
That I listen, what are you doing? I don't know.
I just gotta I gotta get to the bot this.
We ain't done yet. It's time for the podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
A year completely uncensored and unacting filtered except for that part.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
The the show's after show.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Now, what are you doing? What are you?
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Just a question?
Speaker 4 (01:04):
Also, when I saw it, I felt like, oh man,
she didn't tell us, Okay, she didn't.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
I was, And I'm glad.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
I was glad you didn't because I didn't want to
take it easy on you yesterday.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
It didn't want to be nice.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I wanted to be honest, normal, to be honest.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
She wasn't even really sure that yesterday was the actual day,
to be honesty, that makes me feel better. And I thought,
so we were talking, you guys, we had left the room.
She goes, oh, yeah, today, I.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Think is the day that my dad. I know it
five years ago. And I go, you think you don't
know that.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
Dog Oscar died five years ago on May eighteenth.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
I know the exact date everything.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
Okay, dad passed in January for some reason.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
No, so it it all kicked off right after Valentine's
Day and then it was like a four to five
day process of you know, hospital ventilator, all kinds of stuff,
and clearly that was a fucking blur of a time.
And so I had thought it was the eighteenth, you know,
which was yesterday and then but for some reason, I
(02:16):
always questioned myself, even with my husband's birthday so many years,
and I go date, I did date, and I go,
or was it the seventeenth? And then I started talking
myself out of the fact that it was the eighteen.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
Yeah, on the what on like the grave site the date, No,
the year.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Year, it says the year.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
So this is a different kind of grave site. It's
not like a gravestone. Yeah, you know he's buried in
the wall.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
He's in the wall.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Military don't go full date.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
Nobody goes full date.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I don't think you do on that.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Yeah, it's just year to year. I don't know what
people do.
Speaker 5 (02:54):
On d I want date time. I got time of birth.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Okay, that's super weird, bro about it. So there was
a little confusion in my mind. I was like double guessing,
you know, to myself. But then I got a message
from my mom just being like, thinking about your dad today.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Even with your new dad, that's awkward.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Say, you know, I was saying some nice things, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
He was okay with those text messages.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
I don't think asked him about the corner.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
I don't. I don't think, yes, you are, you are
taking over the will Okay.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
No, no, none of that's going on with her new man.
Uh So she, you know, at some point in the morning,
then confirmed with me that it was definitely the dates.
I'm like, okay, cool.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
I wonder how that is for her though, in all seriousness,
to be with somebody else. It's been five years since
how long were there together? Forty years like something forever.
So it's like to be with somebody that's gotta be.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
A weird.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
I wonder if she feels guilty, like you know, I mean, yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
No, she said some things that maybe feel really nice.
She's like, yeah, you know, I was thinking about him
and I thank him all the time for the beautiful
life he you know, provided for all of us and
moved on though.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Okay, I mean, jeez, so you know, what the hell
Eddie could you possibly be talking about when it comes
to this kind of a situation.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
You're a weirdo man.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Yeah, okay, how dare you? Everyone grieves differently.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
For sure, Yeah, for sure. But listen, if you put
it out there, then I'm absorbing it and I have questions.
I'm sorry, I got questions. I got questions.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
So Sky went to visit your dad in the Wall yesterday,
which is an amazing place. My father in law was
buried there. I didn't know that a few family members there.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Yes, okay, yes, go walk around a cemetery.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
To be clear. Yeah, so Sky went there yesterday. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Well, I was out at Miramar, so I know there's
some family I think you.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Have real Yeah, you're you're a Mirama.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
So my my grandparents are at Cabrillo in the Wall, right,
next to Eddie's father in law. Really, Eddie's wife went
to visit her father and then saw right next to
them my grandparents' name. So they're like, it's really crazy,
like out of all the people at Cabrio, yeah there, ye, yes,
(05:26):
so my grandparents at Cabrio. But you guys just heads
up Cabrio. Awful, awful. So now mirror mar is starting
to fill up for veterans and you know who pass away.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Okay, so Sky decided, you know, I'm gonna go visit
dad yesterday, which makes sense.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Spent some time.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Didn't realize you were picking up food, yes, for both
of you guys. You know he's passed. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
Interesting, Yeah, it was. It was noon. It was it
was lunchtime, and I knew I wanted to be there
for a little while. So I'm like, I'll bring lunch
and then sit there because just for you, well yes,
just for me, because I went rubios. My dad not
the biggest fan of Mexican food.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
I know why.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Too much spice and flavor something that he used to like.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
I was just gonna say, did you crack a beer?
Because a big beer only like ham and cheese sandwiches. Yes,
So you don't do a ham and cheese and a
beer in honor of them.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
You do a ham and cheese, go to the deli,
go to seven eleven. You guys, you guys are fucking
a million percent right. Here's where I went wrong. Day Hey,
the day before for lunch, Jersey Mike's oh sky, I
(06:44):
have a sandwich two days in a row with that,
and my doctor doesn't think I should be having cold.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Okay, Well it's tough. It's once a year, because once
a year any better? Yeah, I don't know healthy like
fried fish.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
I didn't get fried fish and I got chicken, rice,
black beans.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Beer.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
I thought about it, but I didn't know if it
would be allowed. I mean public drink wherever you was.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
Idel like they would get how many people probably drink
a beer at the gravesite?
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Oh, I'm sure it happens. All clean up after yourself,
don't leave it. I pour one out every day for
all the people.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
You pour one out for your dad, and then you
drink the other one.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
I did have the thought that he would love me
to bring him some cores light. I thought it may
get me in trouble.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
So I just you know, all right, So you got
your rubios.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
How did that go?
Speaker 3 (07:49):
It was delicious? Thank you for asking.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I didn't mean the food. I meant your visit.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
I was actually wanting to know more about corn it.
Yeah yeah, yeah, hell y b so super lucky because
you know there. I mean, if you've been, there's just
wall after wall after wall after wall. But where my
dad is there is literally a bench directly right in
(08:15):
front of them. So perfect. So I honestly stop bringing
up the beer. I didn't bring a beer, okay, but
just get over it. So yeah, So I pull up,
I get out, I got my bowl, I got my
Stanley full of water, and I'm ready to sit for
a while. And I realized as I'm walking up that
(08:40):
every time I've gone to visit since he was put
in the wall, I've been with somebody. My husband's come,
my daughters, come, my mom, all that stuff. But this
I realized my first solo visit. And the reason I'm
realizing this because I'm walking up to the wall and
(09:02):
see his name, I immediately get choked up. Oh and of course,
like when I've been there to visit with my husband
and my daughter, I always cry, but it's more of
like a misty eye like pat you know, just little
eyes welling up emotion yea. As I'm walking up to
the wall, dude, like I don't know, it was like repressed,
(09:28):
but fucking water come out to the point where I
walk up to the wall, and I'm now like in
a weird spot because the emotions are fully fucking flowing
out that I walk up to the bench, put down
my stuff, walk up to the wall where my dad is,
(09:51):
and my dad is right in the middle of the wall,
kind of like directly where you're facing level. I walk
up to it, just flowing fucking tears, put both of
my hands on it. Put my forehead, my god on it.
Did you No, I didn't slam it. I mean I
could control my face. I mean it's a slab of
(10:12):
fucking stone. Bro your damn head open to make sure.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
So I put my head against the stone and I
stand there probably for like two full minutes, sobbing wow audibly,
sobbing oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Like other stuff going on.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Well, I realized you guys are suppressed that much. When
he pays I didn't do it.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
She came in the next day.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
Was very concerned because I came in here.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
I came I forgot that she was here.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
You forget because I came in to work. I came
into work the morning he passed because I got the
call from my mom like you got to get to
the hospital. They say, this is it. So I left here,
went to the hospital and then all of you guys
are like, take time, whatever you guys, whatever you need.
And I was like, honestly, I just need to keep
moving because all I'm gonna do is sit at home
(11:09):
and be sad. So I'd rather keep moving and laugh
and be around people who love me. And so I did.
I came into work the next day.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
So have you do you feel like maybe you haven't
dealt with it?
Speaker 3 (11:20):
That's like, I like, not that I haven't, but I
just hadn't let the sorrow out, like I've come to
terms with it, but I just never I think let
my body didn't take that time after, I didn't let
my body fully feel it. So I knew that this
was gonna be a wild visit based on because I
(11:42):
mean I had no shame. I mean, my head, my hands, like.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
If somebody.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
And there's walk on it brown and fast.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
You know, I get it. Though.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
I mean it's been five years since Oscar pass.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
I don't know how I'm gonna act on me. I
just feel I don't know. I saw I think.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Yeah, So when I'm doing this, I'm thinking if anybody
is seeing me, because there's like other people kind of
in the area, but not you know, they're like on
another side of the wall over there and walking past
over there.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
I feel like people understand.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
But I feel like if anybody sees me, they're gonna think, like,
my dad died yesterday because of the Yeah, well, peopill walk.
Speaker 4 (12:30):
By and they see twenty twenty one and they're like, what, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
You guys know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
You guys know what I mean. The way I the
way I was acting. So it was probably a full
hour of that of me sitting down. I chose to
put music on.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
I put because your dad like a certain artist.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
My dad didn't like music at all. Really, what he was.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
You got, no course, you got music that he doesn't like.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
He he was a news talk financial guy. Well, no,
what I put on is he used to drive an
old VW bus, like not one of the cool ones,
like one of the like eighties. I'm embarrassed people think
I probably live in here ones nice and He would
pick me up from swim practice every Saturday, and the
(13:21):
only music in his car was a cassette tape that
had eighties hits on it. We're talking our house in
the middle of the street, Madness, Toto Africa, like this
is this is the kind of stuff. So I put
that on because anytime I hear those songs, it reminds
me of my dad picking me up, taking me home,
(13:43):
spending time together. So I put that on and it
was a full hour of me sitting on the bench,
going back up to the wall, touching the wall again,
laying laying on the bench, at one point looking at
the clouds, thinking maybe I'm going to get like a
message or shape up there.
Speaker 4 (14:04):
She's she's sitting there crying and all now people here
is our house.
Speaker 7 (14:13):
You guys, they're walking around with people aren't hearing And then.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Put it on your phone and yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
And then you know, sometimes where you decide you're just
really going to get into your sorrow and just bring
it on Thursdays, I decided to put on the song Hallelujah.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
So you're forcing the emotions.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
Which literally makes me cry like anything, just because it's
so beautiful. And then I may have stood in front
of the wall and done some of my stretches and.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Why would you just stretch? Hell is going on here?
Speaker 2 (14:53):
By the way, we haven't even gotten to my questions yet.
Now this has gotten so bizarre. Now I don't even
know where to go.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
Well, yeah, I'm kind of like listening, and then I'm
like like, kind of no, there's no one around, right.
Speaker 6 (15:06):
And.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
Prayer, hands to my chest, played this is hajah not
during this moment, and then fling, flowing, flowing, and then
(15:32):
that was basically the experience. Told him I love you,
visit again soon, and.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
He's like, I'm good.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
Yeah, please don't please, don't stretch next time.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
The music choice is too much. Okay, well that was
way more than I was expecting. My only two questions really.
First of all, you posted on so media, which you
never do. You don't do this kind of a thing,
you know, you don't. You know a lot of people
on social media their post every single second of their
(16:06):
life and things like that. That's not really sky. It
takes a big thing, like a trip or something like that,
a momentous thing. Yeah, the first post on social media,
so I was a little bit surprised that you shared this,
which I think is cool. But you shared it, this
was the deal.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
I was surprised too, because honestly, when I was confused
about the date, I'm like, oh, well, maybe I did
a post when he died. And I look back, I
didn't even do a post. When I didn't, I didn't,
I wonder.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
It's the show.
Speaker 4 (16:33):
It's the show Sky her bio is silly Lady on
the radio.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
You don't have to read that right now.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
I had to.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
So as I am looking at the post, very interesting.
What went into this? Because you've talked a lot about
the hands on the gravestone gravestone, Yeah, and you've kept
saying I'm touching the wall, I'm doing that. Well, that's
that's the post is that it's it's your dad's stone
(17:04):
and with your hand.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
One hand get placed on it.
Speaker 3 (17:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Yeah, And it made me, it did make me think,
like what goes into that? Like I'm gonna I'm gonna
take a picture of this. Yeah, this is what I
want to share. Yeah, what went into that thought?
Speaker 3 (17:18):
Well, like you said, I never post, but I was
feeling so emotional, and you know, I have a lot
of family in New York. My dad's from New York,
and so the only time we ever interact is on
social media really, all my cousins, aunts, uncles, all that,
and so I kind of wanted them to know that, like,
you know, this is the day this is going on.
(17:40):
And for some reason didn't see this coming because again
I've never done this before. When I visited with other people,
I kept feeling compelled the amount of times I got
out of the bench to put my hands, both hands,
mainly both hands, but you know, for the picture. I mean,
I'm bad enough at taking pictures with you know what
I mean, so so, and I didn't really like give
(18:05):
too much thought to it. It was just pure emotion
of like, I'm here, this is the day. I want
to share how much I'm missing him, and like my
hand there is the closest I can get to him physically. Okay,
And but here's the fucked up part. As soon as
I took the picture and was like, oh, I'll probably
(18:26):
post this, I go, oh, the fucking show is gonna
have a field day with it.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Well, not necessarily that question, my bigger question, A bigger question. Yes, okay,
So I've seen a lot of gravestones, you know, over
the years, and whatever, and you know a lot of
them are very similar of you know, loving father, caring mother,
great brother, whatever. It's kind of about the rest in peace,
(18:50):
go with God. Yeah, I have to understand what the
what's that called? Not an insignia.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
It's like there's an area where you can put a
message or as it's usually about the person the person. Yes, yes,
because your.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Hand is kind of covering the chart of it.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
I'm trying to reveal what this says because I see
a word that I cannot understand.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
It is on the gravestone.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
The word I see is babe, babe, babe.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Babe, And now I'm like, what the who the fuck
wrote babe that ham and cheese babe?
Speaker 5 (19:31):
Maybe I was assuming it's a quote from your dad,
Babe and cheese babe babe.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Yeah, in all of my not a quote. I don't
think I've ever seen babe on a gravestone.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
And you are correct, because on the entire wall I
looked at because while I was there, I was looking
at other people's messages. Some people have zero messages, which
make me kind of judge, like you, probably people didn't
really like quote.
Speaker 1 (19:58):
You want to hold my own qu question? What would
that be. I don't think about it, but something good.
I don't know. I don't like people. Yeah, there you go.
Stay away from me. If you're reading this, you're too close. Okay, okay,
makes sense. Get your hand off me. Yeah, don't touch me. Babe?
Speaker 5 (20:20):
What is it?
Speaker 1 (20:21):
What is this? What does it say?
Speaker 3 (20:22):
So? So it says love is the greatest gift? Thanks babe,
Thanks babe.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Babe, who's who's clothes?
Speaker 3 (20:32):
That? It's not a quote, it's something my mom wrote. Oh,
you can like and he said you can put anything.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
But she's saying that to your dad.
Speaker 3 (20:40):
Yes, yes, which now looking at it, I kind of
wish Babe wasn't there because I would like the message
to be from the whole family, not just my mom.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Yeah, it's a very one on one message.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
But at the time she was like filling it out,
and I think she was also maybe taking a little
bit of volume or x X. You know, she was well,
she was going through with you guys. She had just
lost her husband and the doctor said this is this
is what you need.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Been there?
Speaker 3 (21:12):
I would love I would love a lot of that. So,
so she was the one who wrote the message, and
I know she kind of struggled with it because she
had mentioned yeah, kind of forever. Yeah, I'm trying to
figure out what to put on it, and then we
didn't really see it until it was unveiled. But yeah,
love is the greatest gift, thanks babe.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Yeah, I don't think there's I don't know there's.
Speaker 3 (21:40):
I paused, like there was a comment.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
It was a great gift through the text, babe, just rushing.
Speaker 3 (21:53):
Yeah, so yeah, I after Yeah, So when I did
take the picture, I'm like, I'm covering up the words.
But then I'm like, I don't fucking care. I'm so
emotional and messed up right now that that this is
this is the best we're gonna get.
Speaker 1 (22:09):
All right, So that happened.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Well again, the only show I think that could break
down a grave visit of somebody's deceased father.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
Yes, you're welcome.
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