On this episode of Father Knows Less, Bobby Bones sits down with Lauren Alaina who shares what it’s really like adjusting to life with a newborn. The conversation turns deeply personal as Lauren walks through her birth story where the umbilical cord was wrapped around her daughter in multiple places, creating a dangerous situation during labor. From being induced to the intense, split-second decisions during delivery, and the overwhelming moment of hearing her daughter cry for the first time. Then Kickoff Kevin talks to Bobby about the different levels of chaos as a twin dad, sharing what it’s actually like to have two of everything and why nothing can truly prepare you for it. They get into the realities of paternity leave (and why it should be longer), the stuff no one tells you before becoming a parent, and the one thing every new mom or dad actually needs beyond all the gear and advice.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, another episode of Father Knows Less. And because
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we don't do this as a real podcast, this is
two different YouTube videos that we did. But the first
one you may have seen with Lauren Elena and we
talked about her and her birth experience and how crazy
it was. You'll hear the umbilical cord story. Uh, pretty wild.
Always loved talking with Lauren. And then after that we
talked with one of the guys that works here with me,
Kickoff Kevin, and he had twins, first babies, and we
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talked about what that's like for him. And so here
is another let's say episode, but yeah, you get it.
And if you want to watch these, they're up on
at Bobby Bones channel on YouTube. But here is Father
Knows Less. All right, I want to welcome Laura and
Elena to the Father Knows Less Show. Thank you Lauren.
Of course, did you ever feel completely clueless when you
had your kid?
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Every single day? I feel like I'm learning every day
how to take care of a child.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
My question about being a new parent. And you're ahead
of me a little bit because your baby's over a
year now, right.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
No, she's ten months.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Well, I saw a picture I thought it was your
your birthday party, like Hardy and all those other people,
every one thing exist.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
That was Rosy's birthday party. Everyone thinks it was my daughter's.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
I thought it was sure. That's why I thought it
was a year because a.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Lot of people have told me that they thought it
it was Herty's daughter's birthday.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Okay, yep, so your daughter is ten months.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Old, she'll be a year old June eleven.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
What's to do with traveling because we haven't traveled. Our
baby is just a few weeks old. When did you
start feeling comfortable traveling with your child.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Like on a plane?
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Yeah, I have not, you have not.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
I have done it. It's but you comfortable?
Speaker 1 (01:31):
What is that? Like?
Speaker 2 (01:33):
What's actually? Bennie is really great. She's a really easy traveler.
If my husband's with me or someone is with me,
I feel comfortable. But it would be really hard to
do it by myself.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Because what do you have to do extra with a
baby that you don't have to do when it is.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
You well, figuring out where to feed her, breastfeeding, and
then you have to travel with so much stuff that.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Seems to be the thing everywhere we go now, it's
just so much.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Stuff, like it's not just a die. I mean we
are now at the age where it does get better,
because we're at the age now where I feel like
I can take the baby and a change of clothes
if you know she poops all over herself or spill something,
and like diapers essentially and get away with it. If
we're going to like a restaurant, because she now eats
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food too, She's not just like taking milk.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
But.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
It's it is a total addressing. I mean, like if
you fly with your child, you have to take a
pack and play because they're gonna have to have somewhere
to sleep. I mean, you take a lot of stuff,
but you get used to it. It's just your whole
life change, Like you start taking less stuff for you
and you take everything for them. Like I'm re wearing
the shirt a couple of times, you know what I mean. Like,
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I'm not gonna take eighteen outfit choices. She has eighteen
outfit choices. I have one.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Have you had a situation where she's crying at a
public place.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Where I'm like feeling really bad about it. I'm not
gonna lie. My daughter is not a fussy baby. She's
like it's hilarious if you know her parents. I think
we are soaking up all the energy and she's just
hanging out. But I have had some situations where she's
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crying and I feel bad. But I will tell you
everyone's really nice when you have a crying baby, especially
when they're really little, Like people feel bad for you
worse than they feel for themselves. I think because especially
the mom, because you can just tell like the mom
is frantic and like it is piercing to a mother's
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ear when the baby is crying and needing something and
we're trying to figure out what it is. Like I mean,
mostly my maternal instinct kicks in and I don't really
care in that moment about everybody else. And then if
she continues to cry, then I would feel bad for
everyone else, But it would be like on a plane,
where you would feel bad if the baby cried the
whole time. But even then it's like you got to
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get where you're going and it's a baby, Like what
am I supposed to do? You know?
Speaker 1 (04:12):
I feel like my wife has some sort of like
echo location where if something she can sense it.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
I could hear my baby cry if she started crying
right now, We're across town I literally, it's crazy. It
initiates something in you, like my husband.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
I mean, that's really what I've been like.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Yeah, I mean if it were up to Cameron, Bennie
would cry all night long if something was wrong because
he would not wake up. And I I mean I
don't even need like a video monitor. I can hear
her across the house. It's done something to my ears.
It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
We're so early in. It's again, we're just a few
weeks in.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
And how old is she now?
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Over three weeks?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Oh my goodness.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
The snuggles and she doesn't do a lot right, It's
all as much.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
As you can because then they get busy and they
don't love to snuggle as much. Like I know people
say you can like spoil your baby, don't hold your
baby too much, hold that baby from morning to dark
if you want to, because it goes by so fast.
I know everyone says that, but it really could. I
could weep about it. I mean, we're in a really
fun age. She's crawling, learning to walk, and she like
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knows us and says mama and dadad.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
And that's crazy to think about our baby saying words
to us, or even that, are you.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Yeah, like to recognize you, to know you. That will
happen sooner than you think, where she.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Will recognize you, because right now.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
They live like they're like a little potato at first
that you know, eats and poops, and then all of
a sudden they're like, this is my person like you.
Especially with your wife, I think she the baby will
recognize her probably first and then I mean, but it
wasn't long after, but she, like Benny, knew who I was.
Like I think she knew who I was immediately, but
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I was more like the person that carried her and
fed her, you know. And then you become their person
that they trust and they recognize, and that is the
most rewarding part of being a parent to me.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
My wife will be crying sometimes and I'm like, what's wrong,
because like nothing, I'm just so happy that did that
happen to you?
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Oh yeah, and your wife's body just went through the
most miraculous gift and crazy shift of all time for
a woman. So yeah, the emotions are very heightened at
that time. And yes, I still look at my daughter
and cry, like I took these pictures of her with this,
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with these blocks that said forty two weeks because I
went way past my due date. I went twelve days
eleven days past. Wow, So I almost carried her full
forty two weeks?
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Were you doing it?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
And so I took a picture of her with blocks
that said forty two weeks and the way she held
her little hands and the bow and her hair made
me cry. So yeah, the crying doesn't stop, just out
of pure adoration for her. I cry like I love
her so much.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
We were doing things like curb walking. Uh were you trying? Oh,
hot spicy food.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
I did every trick you've if you've read a trick,
I did it. The only thing I never did was
castor oil. I never drank the castor oil. I was like,
because my doula told me that some people take drink
the castor oil and they have contractions, but it doesn't
actually get them into birth. And I was like, well,
we're not going to do that. I don't want to
do that.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
How did you know a lot.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Of women do it in it like immediately they have
the baby.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
But how did you know you're having a baby?
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Like, what was your I had to be induced.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
I ended up getting it for you, even though you
were two weeks late.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I had to be induced. Yeah, I mean it started
being it started. I really didn't want to be induced,
like I wanted my body to do it. And at
some point I was like getting kind of scared that
she was still in there.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
You know, expbout to graduate high school. She's still in there.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Yeah, she came out reading that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
She's driving a car for me. There have been certain
things that I've learned in the past even month. One
thing is how important the labor nurses are, labor and
delivery nurses. Like I could if I were to see
ours walking down the street and again she spent a
day with us, so and we're just another person coming
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in and going out. But to us same I would
hug her and go, what can I do for your life?
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Yeah? Can I like pay for your kids to go
to school? What do you need? Yeah? Say?
Speaker 1 (08:22):
So valued such a.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Crazy experience, isn't it? Just like have? I mean as
the person that had the but like even for my husband,
and Cameron's like the life of the party, he's mister
jokes or he's not a super emotional person. And when
Benny came out and he saw her, he stopped. I've
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never seen him cry. I mean like when someone passed away.
He cries in appropriate situations, but like stopped, and it's
just such an out of like it's otherworldly experience. Like
and those people and it's so hard on them, mom,
Like there's a lot going on. And those women that
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we had, like there was one nurse we had specifically
the saying like I love her, I love her.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
I'm very close to feeling that way about hers, and
I love her, yeah, because I.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Want her to be there when I have another child.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
She was there, and she was there for most of
it before our doctor got there, because the doctor got
called in. So it's like my wife started going into
labor and she's in all of it, and they should
pulled out the trash bag, and I know it was getting
real by the way, do you see him doing that
for you? Out the plastic?
Speaker 2 (09:37):
We had like kind of an a wild at birth
because and when I would push Benny's heart right plummeted
and they couldn't figure out why. So her umbellical cord
was wrapped around her head twice and up under her
shoulder and then between her legs, so when I would push,
it was pulling.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Wow, did you know that as it was happening.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
No, but I knew something was not right. So I
was very scared. It was very scary. It happens a lot.
I think.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
I can't imagine she was fully wrapped.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
She was like we and I think, and part of
me thinks, you know, the there's I never knew anything
about childbirth until I was getting prepared to have one.
And basically the way like your cervix and all the things,
like the way you dilate and stuff, is the baby's
head like burrows down. So I'm wondering, because she was
so wrapped up, if that's why I went so far
past my d date because she wasn't able to do
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what she needed to do to like prepare my body
for birth. But they basically they basically told me not
to push until the doctor got there. I wasn't like,
I did not push, and then I pushed and they
the doctor came in and told me all these things
that we were gonna have to do to get her out,
like not like forces really and there's like this vacuum
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that they can use and they're telling me this, and
I look up at my husband and I'm just like
scared to death, you know, I mean, and it's scary anyway.
But then that started happening and I was like, oh
my gosh, and I was like what, And then they
were and she was so far down in the birth
canal that they would have had to push her back
up for a C section, So they said that really
wasn't the greatest choice at that point either, So then
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we're like having to pick the best of not great choices.
And I'm not kidding. It scared me so much so
for them to do any of those things that you
have to push for the doctor to kind of assess,
and then they would do like bring in the force,
and she was also sideway, so he said he couldn't
do the vacuum, so you push and then they like
clamp on her head and pull her out, which is
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so graphic. I'm sorry, but it scared me so bad.
He said, well, we're gonna do. I want you to
push as hard as you can, and I just kind
of want to see the position of her head and
then you're gonna relax and then we'll do it again
and we're gonna get her out. And I looked up
at my husband. I will never forget it. Something happened
to me and I pushed her out, like they did
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not have to use anything, like something happened to me.
They scared me so bad. You know you see those
videos of people like lifting cars off of their children.
I had that experience because I was like, because they
tell me everything that if they used that stuff, which
I had a friend who had to use them and
the baby was perfectly fine, but it can hurt them,
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like the best option is to not have to use anything,
And so it just scared me, and I pushed her out.
I pushed twice and she was out.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
When you heard her cry, were like, oh my god, it.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
That right now will make me weep because I was
so scared that she wasn't gonna be okay. And I
heard her well first they I you know, I'm watched,
like I see them pull her out, and he's doing
this to my baby, like untangling my child, Like I
see the doctor untangled. He was like, she's really tangled,
and I'm like, is she okay? And my husband is
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hysterically sobbing, and I'm like look, and they laid her
on me and she didn't cry. Immediately they like suctioned
out of her mouth and she went and I literally
like have never heard a more beautiful sound that my
life changed instantly in that second when I I mean
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looking at her, just like yeah, it's crazy. Yeah, So
it was scary, and then that the reward of getting
I literally like never wanted them to take her away
from it. I was like, we're I didn't even want
them to weigh her. They were like, well, we have
to weigh her, and I was like, no, you don't.
I was like, because I was so scared, you.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Know, whenever they laid the baby on my wife's chest.
What was crazy was she immediately went from the intense
pressure of having to have a child physically mentally emotionally too.
She started going, I love her so much, I love
her so much. Yes, I've never seen it like that before.
Where As soon as it touched her, she was like,
I love her so much. This is and she was
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obviously crying and emotional instantly.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
It's the craziest. It's I can't It's an inexplainable feeling,
like it's.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Yeah, how long until you could sing again after you
gave birth? Because thedn't did it hurt singing? Yeah? Because yeah,
I know idea that it was that.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
I did not sing right at first. That actually really
scared me. That actually really scared me because I couldn't
control my voice in a way that I'm able to do.
That's a great question, Molly. How long do you think
it took a couple months? A couple months? Well, I
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mean you think about it, so you have like a
gaping wound in your and so I was like not
able to It was because I could had no core left,
so I could not control. I was still able to sing,
but I could not control like flipping my voice and stuff.
And it wasn't a voice thing. It was all like
a control. It was very interesting, like I did some
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like vocal therapy and stuff to try to fix it.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
I was very ignorant as to what it does to
the female body. It does a lot, because I've said
before I thought it was like, okay, rab some dirt
on it.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Get to Raisin, how is your wife doing?
Speaker 1 (15:10):
How great? Now? But I mean it's you know, we
read the thing five days in a bed, five days
around the bed, five days, and it's more than that.
It's way more than yep. Shout out to every woman
that has to go through this. There's a new respect
of having gone through it. Like you guys rule.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
We saw it like we are the superior. Yeah, women
are superior. I agree.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
When did you go out and start singing again on
the road?
Speaker 2 (15:36):
I had my first show. I think she was about
three months old.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
Did you were you there physically?
Speaker 2 (15:43):
No? But it was actually I don't even know if
I've talked about this, but I sobbed hysterically that I
had to go back to work. I was not ready,
and I thought, I mean when I was like looking
at the calendar, right, I was like, oh, I'll be
so ready by it was end of August. She was born,
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like I literally think it was maybe the last day
of August. That was my first show, and she was
born June eleventh, So that's actually sooner than I thought
now that I'm thinking about it.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
What also blows me away is that we don't have
like full paid maternity leave.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Well, and I don't have paid maternity leave at all.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
That our government doesn't like, right, that's what you're saying, yes,
because some countries it's it's like three months paid fully
maternity leave. Yeah, ours is like you had a baby,
all right, you do at nine a m get to work.
It's crazy. There's just a whole new respect from me
because I've not gone through it.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
I have so much respect for just mothers in general too,
because I am very fortunate in that my job, she
goes with me mostly. It's starting to be, like I have.
The whole month of May is going to be a tough,
tough month for me. She'll be fine because I'm going
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to leave her with her dad and I have West
Coast runs and I'm just not I'm not doing that
to her. So I now I'm at the stage where
I'm leaving her. But I think, you know, but a
lot of mothers have to go back to work way
sooner than I did, and they're they're gone from them
all day long. I guess the real difference is like
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when I'm gone from her, I'm I don't come home
at night.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
So for a few days.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Yeah, I'm gone for stretches of time. But this may
will be the first time where I've left her more
than like forty eight hours.
Speaker 3 (17:33):
May.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Second, you're doing the iHeart Country Festival.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
I am to Luke Bryn're gonna leave her there.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Kane Brown, Wait, you're gonna leve her in Texas? I'm
She's coming to Texas. No, that's not her home. Don't
leave her there. At least leave her here.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
I'm gonna leave her, I believe. Well, we haven't talked
about that. One's a quick one, so in Texas is
a little bit easier, so we're figuring out. Sorry, yes,
I'm going to Texas. I interrupted in talking.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
It's a big show. Everybody should get tickets ticketmaster dot com.
One final question. You were a gifted to Bronco by
Rascal Lights. Yes, I saw the picture.
Speaker 2 (18:05):
It's real. I'vey blindfolded us and took us out to
the garage and I was like, maybe they got us
a golf cart or something. I don't know. And then
they cranked up these cars and then a steal was like,
they're gonna put us in these cars and take us somewhere.
And then I realized that was my car.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
They were giving you the car.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
They gave us the car shipped it. I mean we
didn't drive them home from there, obviously, because we had
more shows, so they shipped the cars like they just
one day. I walked outside and it was in my driveway?
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Is that the greatest tour gift you've ever gotten?
Speaker 2 (18:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (18:35):
I mean that's insane. Well, I appreciate you talking about
all that stuff with me.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Oh my gosh, And I'm here if you have any questions.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
And my wife says same thing about you. She's like,
she's so grateful that you've reached out and.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Been She's asked me a couple of questions. I'm like,
there are no dumb questions because you know nothing. You
have this baby. Get back to the nurse thing. You
have this baby, and these people will help you bring
this baby into the world. And then they're like, here's
how the car seat goes in the car. Good luck.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Then you go home You're like, where do I put it?
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Where does it?
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (19:03):
But there, you know. And I told her about this
little thing that we laid Benny in. I told her
about it. It's like a pillow. Do you all have it?
Speaker 1 (19:10):
Probably we have.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
There's like a little indentation in the center of it.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Oh, we do have that.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
Yeah. I told her to get that.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
We do have that.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
I'm trying to think of what it's called, but I
sent her to the link and stuff.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Final question, what's the best thing about being a mom?
Speaker 2 (19:22):
Oh man, there's so many wonderful things. The way she
loves me, just the most pure innocence, love the way
she looks at me and needs me, and like just yeah,
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the there's nothing like it this to know that I
am and my husband too. But it's different with the
mother a little bit. But I am the number one
person in her life and I don't like just yeah,
oh my goodness, and she says mama and that was
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her first word, and that was pretty good.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Thank you, Lauren. Okay. On this episode we have kickoff
Kevin who has twins. Congratulations on that, Thank you very much. Dude.
That's crazy wild. But you don't know the difference, Like
you don't know what it would be like to have
one because I have one. Yeah, you just had two.
I think if you had one, then you had two.
Like my friend Ben Rector had a baby is it
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a girl? And then they were gonna have another baby.
Then they had twins, so they know what it's like
to have one, but then they had two. Ooh.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
And does he talk about how much harder two is
compared to one?
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Yeah, and I know it's gonna be really hard even
for you, But I don't know that you know the
difference and how easy it could have been with just one.
Speaker 3 (20:44):
Yeah, I don't we always like my wife and I
always hypothetically talk about imagine if we just.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
Had one, like you spread them out, one than one?
Speaker 3 (20:51):
Yeah, one, then one. But then we always say, but
imagine if we had three or four at the same time,
so you can always like go either avenue, I guess,
but yeah, we say that all the time, like at
least we started this way instead of having one and
then too. Now I just hope we don't have another
set of twins.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Does that ever happen where people have multiple sets of twins? Yeah,
you had them in your family, hers and she has
a lot of twins, a lot. Yeah, was she a twin?
Speaker 3 (21:15):
No, No, she wasn't.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
I made a list of things because ours is still
considered a newborn of really important items that I'm glad
we knew of. And if you have any want to
throw into this, she can. But there's something called a
bobby familiar with the Bobby No, you probably are, maybe
the brand name, I don't know. It's like a thing
that wraps. It's a pillow that kind of is a
half circle, and so it's used for a lot of things,
for if I'm sitting the baby up, if you're like
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our baby has like at times, like some reflex stuff
like the Bobby's legitimate as a pillow that goes around
your waist for the baby.
Speaker 3 (21:46):
Yes, now I know what you're talking about.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Yeah, that could also be the brand.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
Yeah, yeah, I think we just called it a horseshoe
pillow or something.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
That's probably good name for it.
Speaker 3 (21:54):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
There's also and I've mentioned this, there's a rubber duck
that we have that has the temperature on the rubber
duck where you put it in the water.
Speaker 3 (22:01):
That's legit.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Oh, it's the greatest thing. I thought everybody knew about this.
It's a rubber ducky, a yellow rubber ducky and on
the bottom you just flip it on and then you
put it on the water and it tells you the
temperature of the water. Huh, so you don't burn the
baby mine.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
Our temperature is just a finger.
Speaker 1 (22:14):
And well, now I'm getting good because of the rubber ducky.
Speaker 3 (22:16):
I'm getting good.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
But this thing's like six bucks. I encourage everybody on
Amazon if if you're wondering how even for me, I
take a bath at one fourteen, you know your temperature? Well,
could I put the duck in there? Because once we
had the baby, and because before that you didn't no idea,
had no idea. But Chad GBT was like, hey, if
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you're going to give a baby a bath, it should
be around ninety nine to one hundred, which is just
kind of warm. It's not even that hot body temperature. Okay,
so you got to think we're ninety nine ninety eight
point six whatever. So it's basically body temperature water to
give the baby a bath in. And then obviously I'm
curious about my own bath, so I would run it
to I would normally have it, and it's at one
(22:57):
fourteen to one sixteen. I think that's pretty hot for
a human, because my wife will sometimes forget that I've
run the bath and then she'll just turn it on
and then she'll put her foot in out here and go.
Speaker 3 (23:08):
What the heck, man, it's so hot, dude. We're opposite
where my wife is super hot and I'm the opposite.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
Where I like a cooler, the boppy, the rubber you
gotta get a rubber duck.
Speaker 3 (23:19):
I was gonna say, the rubber duck is awesome.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
Do you like your your kids are?
Speaker 3 (23:22):
How old? Now ten and a half months?
Speaker 1 (23:25):
So what do I have to look forward to, like,
what are the cool things between like one and six months.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
Well, right now, you're still early enough, I think where
you're just basically trying to keep her alive. Yeah, not
to be dramatic, but at the end of the day,
it's kind of what it is.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
I'm basically trying to keep my wife alive, to keep
the big alive. It's really hard too.
Speaker 3 (23:43):
And then so now you really have to look forward
to and even like my kids at ten and a
half months are changing every day, but really like after
six months or so, you start to see these personalities.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Six months when that happens, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
Like big even before that, but now it's really really
starting to come through after six months and the difference.
The good thing about twins is you see just how
different each one is. So like my girl is just wild,
she's a wild child, just wants to go go, go, yell, scream,
and then my boys just kind of sits back, puts
his fingers together, that kind of stuff. So it's really
cool to see the personalities come out and like which
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one might be more like you, or if she's gonna
be more like you or more like your wife. And
then as they get older, like, legit, every day, it's
a little bit more every single day. Once you hit
that little bit of personality in a few months from now,
and then from then on it just goes so fast.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
It's just me reading stuff, but it says it's a
big shift around three months where they start smiling regularly.
And baby Billy smiles now, but usually it's from gas
or something. Yeah, it's mostly a muscle thing, I think,
unless she's just delighted with me while she's pooping, I think,
so smiling regularly, the first laugh, stronger neck. That's around
two to three months. Is that pretty cool when the
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baby starts to react to you.
Speaker 3 (24:58):
Yeah, I was just gonna say the best now. I mean,
I get I walk in the door and both the
kids like they'll hear their door open and they'll kind
of pop up in the playpen and they'll look through
the bars and they'll see me and just these big smiles,
and I'm telling you, like, there is no better feeling.
I've heard all about that growing up, But that is
the best part getting home. Even if you had a
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crappy day, word, crappy day doing whatever. You see that
and they they don't care, they don't know about anything,
but you see that smile, even at this young of
an age, like it'll change your entire day when you
see that.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Any items that I haven't mentioned that you guys live
by diaper genie, I don't know. It's a pediatrician. They
have one, but it always stinks ours doesn't. Oh okay,
So the reason that we didn't do diaper genie is
because it smells like poop coming to that thing. It's
the pediatrician. But maybe that's just because people are reckless
because it's not theirs.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
Yeah, probably because we've had ours since day one and
were still I use it literally ever have a hole
in it. It turned like you throw it in and
it turns and not a turn, like you kind of
shove it down or you toss it down in there
and it has like a little like contraption where you know,
when the diper goes through, it shuts back up. Okay, Yeah,
And I mean it's in our living room and we
don't even smell anything.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
Something that I knew nothing about. And you guys are
double time this how many diapers a baby uses? Oh
my gosh, so much so that it's affected me in
a way of we donate diapers every week, because I
don't know that if you're just getting by like week
to week, like if you live a paycheck to paycheck
and you also got to buy diapers, that's so much money.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
It's insane. Luckily for us, shout out my father in law.
We've only had to buy like two boxes, I think
because since day one he's been I'll buy your diapers
for you, man.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
That is awesome. That's like a scholarship to college.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
Yeah. Every time we run out, especially with two, we
go through so much. Every time we run out, we
text them next days on our doorstep. It's the best.
And wipes and wipes.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
There's a lot of wipes.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
What about cloths like baby cloths, like wiping cloths so
like Burt Brabs. Yeah, I couldn't think of the word.
Speaker 1 (26:56):
There are times where I'm walking around the house and
I just look in a mirror and I've got two me.
I don't even remember putting them on me, but there's
like one on a shoulder, it's like a back of
my shirt. It's almost like when you take clothes out
of a dryer and there's like a sock attached to
your pants and you didn't realize that because the static cling.
Like I have burn cloths just on me. I'll go
to work in the morning and I got to do
a burn cloth check to make sure nothing is attached
to me right now, Yeah, they're everywhere. And the fact
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that you grow out of baby the babies grow so fat.
And again I'm only three four weeks into this, but
she's already grown out of so many onesies.
Speaker 3 (27:28):
Oh yeah, it's it's it's insane.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
What a racket that is.
Speaker 3 (27:32):
It's insane. And like I let my wife do whatever,
you know, get her clothes, but she's learning as she
goes along, Like why do we need all these clothes
because half of them they'll never wear because they just
grow out them so fast, especially the Onesi's at that
little And then you just start buying, like when they're
six months, you buy nine months because they're just gonna
grow into even if it's big now.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
So you put them. Ah, that's good, you put them
in something a little bigger so we will have it longer.
Speaker 3 (27:52):
Yeah. Yeah, especially if you're buying something nice.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
We've got rules. No nice clothes good right now? I
mean I who knows, but right it's all generic good.
I'm not sure when my wife gets it. But there's
no name brand. The fact they make name brand baby
stuff is crazy to me. I know it's only for Instagram.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
Right, Oh yeah, absolutely, And and kind of like a
lot of other people were you go out and your
baby's wearing this nice whatever brand and it's almost like
it this is for other people, not really for us.
They don't wear this unless we go out in public
so we can show other people we have this nice
brand on our baby.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
Did you guys have a wedge pillow? No, it's something
that we use now. It's basically a pillow that's a
wedge so if the baby needs to like not stand up,
but be elevated, so not laying down. Okay, the pillow
is great for that.
Speaker 3 (28:40):
Interesting, I haven't seen that one.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:43):
I just wait till the baby can hold herself up though.
That's it's a relief. What do you mean, like, is
she strong enough to hold her neck up quite yet?
Speaker 1 (28:50):
She turns her head over?
Speaker 3 (28:51):
Okay, but she can't, like she doesn't.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
Mile on the treadmill, max, Dang, she's already there.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
Yeah, she doesn't mind see the little ours, So that's okay.
But no, when you don't have to like support her
head in every little movement, and she can start to
support herself, like if you just move her just even
from you know, sitting here to sitting here, and you
don't have to like hold her head as you move her.
It's just a nice relief just internally, so you don't
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feel like you're going to break a baby's neck.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
I was talking on an episode prior where the car
seat was actually a lot easier than I thought because
people had built that up to be you never get
like a ten thousand piece puzzle with no picture on
the box, You're never going to figure it out. It's
actually quite simple. Yeah, And I put a mirror on
that head rest of the seat so you can see
in the mirror end of the kit. And then I
(29:40):
got a lot of message going, hey, you can get
cameras that are pretty inexpensive, and you so cause I
don't want. My vision's not good. And also I got
to look in a mirror to see a mirror to
see the baby. What do you guys have to see
the babies?
Speaker 3 (29:50):
We have a mirror. I didn't even know they had cameras.
Speaker 1 (29:52):
We just ordered one. We haven't opened it yet, but
I didn't know if you had done that at all.
Speaker 3 (29:56):
No, But honestly, I can't stand in the mirrors because
those are harder to put together than the car seats.
Ours are the ones that we have. At least we
should probably get new ones. But like, if we go
from my wife's car, which is the car seats are
normally in there, to my truck for whatever reason, I'm like,
I don't even want to take the mirrors off and
put them back on, because it's that much of a hassle.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
You go blind on the baby just when you get there,
you just cross your fingers and help, Oh my god,
help the baby.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
I just pulled down and I just take a peek
if I can at a red light. Okay, we're good,
all right, keep going, And that's about it. But we
know we have the mirrors.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
What's been the best part about it?
Speaker 3 (30:28):
Man? This is something that I've looked forward to since
I was little. I have a great relationship with my dad,
so I think just looking forward to this my entire life,
but not rushing it at the same time, like, thank
God I found a great woman and a great mom
and a great wife. So I think the best part
has been like it's been everything I've wanted my entire life.
But then even.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
More, what's been the hardest part about it.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
Sleep by far, Because we have our little boy, he's
still not sleeping to to night, so we wake up
at least once to night with him, and then he
wakes her up sometimes, so then it's like you get
the double whammy and then you're up for an hour
instead of just being over fifteen minutes, and then you
try to go back to sleep, and then the other
one wakes up. So just the lack of sleep and
like the inconsistent sleep schedule is definite over them too.
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And it would take an when they were a little
little month, first month or two, it would take an
hour and a half when they would wake up in
the mid night to feed them, could feed them, burp them,
change them. All that would take an hour and a
half to get both of them done.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
I get so excited when there was a big bar
type belly fat man burp that comes out of hers.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
You know how good it feels?
Speaker 1 (31:35):
Yes, And also it's like, you know, you get an
iPhone used to peel that plastic off and you'd be
like that's so satisfying, Like this is stupid, but it
just Matt, that's kind of when if I'm burboner, like
if my wife's done and I'm doing That's what I'm
talking about. Yeah, because at first too, like they're so small,
you really don't You get a little tight looked tap
and then you realize these babies are built to be burned. Yeah,
(31:57):
that's a pretty satisfying part of being a bad So far,
did your wife I wish you ever telling you like
stop hitting and stop hitting her so hard or any
they know, because she was doing it before me because
I was scared to death. I never I'd ever held
one baby ever my whole life prior to our baby,
and it was for like thirty seconds. It was my nephew,
because I think they were like, hey hold this baby
for a second. So anything any of my relationship mentally
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with the baby was I'm going to break this thing,
so do not touch. Uh. So mine was always like
one finger tap and she's like no, no, no, you're not
gonna get anything out of her unless you really. The
other thing that I've learned is like the rub up
on the back.
Speaker 3 (32:30):
Oh yeah, that's.
Speaker 1 (32:32):
Been good for me to get some burps.
Speaker 3 (32:34):
Out, Like your wife does it to you.
Speaker 1 (32:36):
No, I wish I wish you would do like because
you could do like bicycle legs to get to get poop.
I told my wife, I want to do some of
this stuff, like do some of this stuff to me
because I have stomach issues. So what do I have
to look like? What's the best part about the next
few months coming up for me?
Speaker 3 (32:52):
Just the drastic change of like not her, not you,
just you know, trying to keep her alive. Like I
said earlier, Now you're really going to to She's gonna
start to notice you. She's gonna to your point, she's
already kind of seen you and noticed you a little bit,
but then she'll start following you, She'll start laughing at
things you say. You'll make her laugh. Then the little giggle,
I mean, there's nothing like a baby's giggle, especially when
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it's her own baby. So I think just seeing that
come through so fast, and it's gonna happen like that,
and then another week goes by and she's gonna have
another new personality come out of her. So all of
that rapidly happening so fast is probably gonna be the
best part.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
What is your advice to new dads, like, if they're
just about to have a baby, be there.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
For your wife number one, cause we've talked about this before.
You don't really know what they go through until you
see them go through it, and then it's like, okay,
well she just went through nine months of all this
and then labor and then all this. Now you just
need to be there for your wife, making sure the
kids okay, of course, but also just being like, hey,
what do you need, Let me support you, and how
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can I make your life easier for at least the
first couple weeks until they can get their feetback on
her own and they can feel normal and she can
feel good again. That would be my biggest thing, is
just be there for her and just take a step
back of like your own rule, don't even think about yourself,
and just really be unselfish.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
I remember whenever you told me you were having twins.
This is months before you actually the baby, like, we're
having twins, and you're like, I'm gonna be gone for
a while, and I did I listen. I didn't know
the benefit of paternity leave. I now do, and I
was just like, dude, I didn't know I would me.
I just always want the people to work for me
to feel like they have full support for me regardless
of what they're doing. And I was just like, dude,
(34:34):
don't even answer the phone from us, take off as
much time as you want, like you just let me
know when you're good. And you were like, no, no, I
think I'm gonna work a little bit. I didn't know.
I didn't know what I was saying, but I was like, no, no,
you're not gonna want to work. You're going to want
to And it turns out this is one of those
times where I was randomly really right, and I'm glad
I've been through it now because it's so important for
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your wife, your partner to have somebody there with them. Yes,
it's crazy, like what they've been through physically and now
what they're expected to do immediately, it is wild.
Speaker 3 (35:05):
Yeah, and to your point, I mean, you were immediately
like go away, turn off your phone, whatever you need
to do, your email, everything. And thank God for that,
because internally we always want to be like I want
to help where I can and work where I can.
But to be able to have that like space of
separation with work while dealing with that is a game changer.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
I didn't even really know what I was saying. I
just want everybody to feel supported. Who works for me?
And you were like I need time off, I'm like,
well take it. But now if someone were to come
to me and say, hey, I need some time, double
it and I'll see.
Speaker 3 (35:38):
I was gonna say, what do you two years now?
What do you feel like?
Speaker 1 (35:41):
Like?
Speaker 3 (35:42):
Do you feel like two weeks? Is? It depends everyone's
situation is a little bit different.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
I guess yeah, I feel I took a week, but
I made sure the show is still fully covered, and
the second week I worked from home, so I was
working fully but I was a stone's throw and there
were times where we be in the studio and MOI
I feel like, hey can you and I could because
I was close. In a perfect world. First of all,
I would, and our country kind of sucks at maternity leave,
like there are laws that protect women from losing their jobs,
(36:09):
but they're not getting paid. I think if it were me,
I would try to mandate six months paid maternity leave
for everyone. And that's probably not enough because there are
countries in Europe that do way better than that. But
I would do six months paid maternity leave, government covered
and then if possible for the dudes, three weeks, I
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think it's a sufficient amount of time to fully be dedicated,
and then if it's little more than that, If it's
a less than that, great, But I think three weeks
is a number that we should not scoff at if
a dude wants to take off time for their wife,
because I think, uneducated to me, would be like paternity leave.
You didn't have the baby, suck it up. I could
not feel more. And I never said that out loud,
but I think as dudes were kind of taught that,
(36:53):
like why does a dude need to leave? But now
that I've been through it, it's needed. Yeah, I would
three weeks to a month for a dude. You must
take off. It's not even that you get paid, Like,
you have to take off three to four weeks so
you can be there and we're gonna come and look
in your window and make sure you're supporting that, Like
that would be part of that.
Speaker 3 (37:13):
Yeah, you're not going on vacations.
Speaker 1 (37:14):
That would be part of the rules, part of the law. Yeah. Thanks,
often use you as a source when I'm like, man,
i think it's crazy for us. What about if we
had two? Yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (37:23):
That's what a lot of people say that. I can't
believe you do too. But to your point, you know
the different story. You don't know the difference, and thank god,
we don't know the difference, and hopefully it's just one
from here on.
Speaker 1 (37:31):
Out right there he is kickoff Kevin On. Father knows less.
All right, another episode of Father Knows Less. And because
(00:02):
we don't do this as a real podcast, this is
two different YouTube videos that we did. But the first
one you may have seen with Lauren Elena and we
talked about her and her birth experience and how crazy
it was. You'll hear the umbilical cord story. Uh, pretty wild.
Always loved talking with Lauren. And then after that we
talked with one of the guys that works here with me,
Kickoff Kevin, and he had twins, first babies, and we
(00:23):
talked about what that's like for him. And so here
is another let's say episode, but yeah, you get it.
And if you want to watch these, they're up on
at Bobby Bones channel on YouTube. But here is Father
Knows Less. All right, I want to welcome Laura and
Elena to the Father Knows Less Show. Thank you Lauren.
Of course, did you ever feel completely clueless when you
had your kid?
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Every single day? I feel like I'm learning every day
how to take care of a child.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
My question about being a new parent. And you're ahead
of me a little bit because your baby's over a
year now, right.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
No, she's ten months.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Well, I saw a picture I thought it was your
your birthday party, like Hardy and all those other people,
every one thing exist.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
That was Rosy's birthday party. Everyone thinks it was my daughter's.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
I thought it was sure. That's why I thought it
was a year because a.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Lot of people have told me that they thought it
it was Herty's daughter's birthday.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Okay, yep, so your daughter is ten months.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Old, she'll be a year old June eleven.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
What's to do with traveling because we haven't traveled. Our
baby is just a few weeks old. When did you
start feeling comfortable traveling with your child.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Like on a plane?
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Yeah, I have not, you have not.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
I have done it. It's but you comfortable?
Speaker 1 (01:31):
What is that? Like?
Speaker 2 (01:33):
What's actually? Bennie is really great. She's a really easy traveler.
If my husband's with me or someone is with me,
I feel comfortable. But it would be really hard to
do it by myself.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Because what do you have to do extra with a
baby that you don't have to do when it is.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
You well, figuring out where to feed her, breastfeeding, and
then you have to travel with so much stuff that.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Seems to be the thing everywhere we go now, it's
just so much.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Stuff, like it's not just a die. I mean we
are now at the age where it does get better,
because we're at the age now where I feel like
I can take the baby and a change of clothes
if you know she poops all over herself or spill something,
and like diapers essentially and get away with it. If
we're going to like a restaurant, because she now eats
(02:23):
food too, She's not just like taking milk.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
But.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
It's it is a total addressing. I mean, like if
you fly with your child, you have to take a
pack and play because they're gonna have to have somewhere
to sleep. I mean, you take a lot of stuff,
but you get used to it. It's just your whole
life change, Like you start taking less stuff for you
and you take everything for them. Like I'm re wearing
the shirt a couple of times, you know what I mean. Like,
(02:52):
I'm not gonna take eighteen outfit choices. She has eighteen
outfit choices. I have one.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Have you had a situation where she's crying at a
public place.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Where I'm like feeling really bad about it. I'm not
gonna lie. My daughter is not a fussy baby. She's
like it's hilarious if you know her parents. I think
we are soaking up all the energy and she's just
hanging out. But I have had some situations where she's
(03:22):
crying and I feel bad. But I will tell you
everyone's really nice when you have a crying baby, especially
when they're really little, Like people feel bad for you
worse than they feel for themselves. I think because especially
the mom, because you can just tell like the mom
is frantic and like it is piercing to a mother's
(03:45):
ear when the baby is crying and needing something and
we're trying to figure out what it is. Like I mean,
mostly my maternal instinct kicks in and I don't really
care in that moment about everybody else. And then if
she continues to cry, then I would feel bad for
everyone else, But it would be like on a plane,
where you would feel bad if the baby cried the
whole time. But even then it's like you got to
(04:07):
get where you're going and it's a baby, Like what
am I supposed to do? You know?
Speaker 1 (04:12):
I feel like my wife has some sort of like
echo location where if something she can sense it.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
I could hear my baby cry if she started crying
right now, We're across town I literally, it's crazy. It
initiates something in you, like my husband.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
I mean, that's really what I've been like.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Yeah, I mean if it were up to Cameron, Bennie
would cry all night long if something was wrong because
he would not wake up. And I I mean I
don't even need like a video monitor. I can hear
her across the house. It's done something to my ears.
It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
We're so early in. It's again, we're just a few
weeks in.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
And how old is she now?
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Over three weeks?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Oh my goodness.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
The snuggles and she doesn't do a lot right, It's
all as much.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
As you can because then they get busy and they
don't love to snuggle as much. Like I know people
say you can like spoil your baby, don't hold your
baby too much, hold that baby from morning to dark
if you want to, because it goes by so fast.
I know everyone says that, but it really could. I
could weep about it. I mean, we're in a really
fun age. She's crawling, learning to walk, and she like
(05:17):
knows us and says mama and dadad.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
And that's crazy to think about our baby saying words
to us, or even that, are you.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Yeah, like to recognize you, to know you. That will
happen sooner than you think, where she.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Will recognize you, because right now.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
They live like they're like a little potato at first
that you know, eats and poops, and then all of
a sudden they're like, this is my person like you.
Especially with your wife, I think she the baby will
recognize her probably first and then I mean, but it
wasn't long after, but she, like Benny, knew who I was.
Like I think she knew who I was immediately, but
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I was more like the person that carried her and
fed her, you know. And then you become their person
that they trust and they recognize, and that is the
most rewarding part of being a parent to me.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
My wife will be crying sometimes and I'm like, what's wrong,
because like nothing, I'm just so happy that did that
happen to you?
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Oh yeah, and your wife's body just went through the
most miraculous gift and crazy shift of all time for
a woman. So yeah, the emotions are very heightened at
that time. And yes, I still look at my daughter
and cry, like I took these pictures of her with this,
(06:32):
with these blocks that said forty two weeks because I
went way past my due date. I went twelve days
eleven days past. Wow, So I almost carried her full
forty two weeks?
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Were you doing it?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
And so I took a picture of her with blocks
that said forty two weeks and the way she held
her little hands and the bow and her hair made
me cry. So yeah, the crying doesn't stop, just out
of pure adoration for her. I cry like I love
her so much.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
We were doing things like curb walking. Uh were you trying? Oh,
hot spicy food.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
I did every trick you've if you've read a trick,
I did it. The only thing I never did was
castor oil. I never drank the castor oil. I was like,
because my doula told me that some people take drink
the castor oil and they have contractions, but it doesn't
actually get them into birth. And I was like, well,
we're not going to do that. I don't want to
do that.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
How did you know a lot.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Of women do it in it like immediately they have
the baby.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
But how did you know you're having a baby?
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Like, what was your I had to be induced.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
I ended up getting it for you, even though you
were two weeks late.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I had to be induced. Yeah, I mean it started
being it started. I really didn't want to be induced,
like I wanted my body to do it. And at
some point I was like getting kind of scared that
she was still in there.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
You know, expbout to graduate high school. She's still in there.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Yeah, she came out reading that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
She's driving a car for me. There have been certain
things that I've learned in the past even month. One
thing is how important the labor nurses are, labor and
delivery nurses. Like I could if I were to see
ours walking down the street and again she spent a
day with us, so and we're just another person coming
(08:11):
in and going out. But to us same I would
hug her and go, what can I do for your life?
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Yeah? Can I like pay for your kids to go
to school? What do you need? Yeah? Say?
Speaker 1 (08:22):
So valued such a.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Crazy experience, isn't it? Just like have? I mean as
the person that had the but like even for my husband,
and Cameron's like the life of the party, he's mister
jokes or he's not a super emotional person. And when
Benny came out and he saw her, he stopped. I've
(08:46):
never seen him cry. I mean like when someone passed away.
He cries in appropriate situations, but like stopped, and it's
just such an out of like it's otherworldly experience. Like
and those people and it's so hard on them, mom,
Like there's a lot going on. And those women that
(09:06):
we had, like there was one nurse we had specifically
the saying like I love her, I love her.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
I'm very close to feeling that way about hers, and
I love her, yeah, because I.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Want her to be there when I have another child.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
She was there, and she was there for most of
it before our doctor got there, because the doctor got
called in. So it's like my wife started going into
labor and she's in all of it, and they should
pulled out the trash bag, and I know it was getting
real by the way, do you see him doing that
for you? Out the plastic?
Speaker 2 (09:37):
We had like kind of an a wild at birth
because and when I would push Benny's heart right plummeted
and they couldn't figure out why. So her umbellical cord
was wrapped around her head twice and up under her
shoulder and then between her legs, so when I would push,
it was pulling.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Wow, did you know that as it was happening.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
No, but I knew something was not right. So I
was very scared. It was very scary. It happens a lot.
I think.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
I can't imagine she was fully wrapped.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
She was like we and I think, and part of
me thinks, you know, the there's I never knew anything
about childbirth until I was getting prepared to have one.
And basically the way like your cervix and all the things,
like the way you dilate and stuff, is the baby's
head like burrows down. So I'm wondering, because she was
so wrapped up, if that's why I went so far
past my d date because she wasn't able to do
(10:29):
what she needed to do to like prepare my body
for birth. But they basically they basically told me not
to push until the doctor got there. I wasn't like,
I did not push, and then I pushed and they
the doctor came in and told me all these things
that we were gonna have to do to get her out,
like not like forces really and there's like this vacuum
(10:52):
that they can use and they're telling me this, and
I look up at my husband and I'm just like
scared to death, you know, I mean, and it's scary anyway.
But then that started happening and I was like, oh
my gosh, and I was like what, And then they
were and she was so far down in the birth
canal that they would have had to push her back
up for a C section, So they said that really
wasn't the greatest choice at that point either, So then
(11:15):
we're like having to pick the best of not great choices.
And I'm not kidding. It scared me so much so
for them to do any of those things that you
have to push for the doctor to kind of assess,
and then they would do like bring in the force,
and she was also sideway, so he said he couldn't
do the vacuum, so you push and then they like
clamp on her head and pull her out, which is
(11:38):
so graphic. I'm sorry, but it scared me so bad.
He said, well, we're gonna do. I want you to
push as hard as you can, and I just kind
of want to see the position of her head and
then you're gonna relax and then we'll do it again
and we're gonna get her out. And I looked up
at my husband. I will never forget it. Something happened
to me and I pushed her out, like they did
(11:59):
not have to use anything, like something happened to me.
They scared me so bad. You know you see those
videos of people like lifting cars off of their children.
I had that experience because I was like, because they
tell me everything that if they used that stuff, which
I had a friend who had to use them and
the baby was perfectly fine, but it can hurt them,
(12:19):
like the best option is to not have to use anything,
And so it just scared me, and I pushed her out.
I pushed twice and she was out.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
When you heard her cry, were like, oh my god, it.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
That right now will make me weep because I was
so scared that she wasn't gonna be okay. And I
heard her well first they I you know, I'm watched,
like I see them pull her out, and he's doing
this to my baby, like untangling my child, Like I
see the doctor untangled. He was like, she's really tangled,
and I'm like, is she okay? And my husband is
(12:55):
hysterically sobbing, and I'm like look, and they laid her
on me and she didn't cry. Immediately they like suctioned
out of her mouth and she went and I literally
like have never heard a more beautiful sound that my
life changed instantly in that second when I I mean
(13:16):
looking at her, just like yeah, it's crazy. Yeah, So
it was scary, and then that the reward of getting
I literally like never wanted them to take her away
from it. I was like, we're I didn't even want
them to weigh her. They were like, well, we have
to weigh her, and I was like, no, you don't.
I was like, because I was so scared, you.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Know, whenever they laid the baby on my wife's chest.
What was crazy was she immediately went from the intense
pressure of having to have a child physically mentally emotionally too.
She started going, I love her so much, I love
her so much. Yes, I've never seen it like that before.
Where As soon as it touched her, she was like,
I love her so much. This is and she was
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obviously crying and emotional instantly.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
It's the craziest. It's I can't It's an inexplainable feeling,
like it's.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Yeah, how long until you could sing again after you
gave birth? Because thedn't did it hurt singing? Yeah? Because yeah,
I know idea that it was that.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
I did not sing right at first. That actually really
scared me. That actually really scared me because I couldn't
control my voice in a way that I'm able to do.
That's a great question, Molly. How long do you think
it took a couple months? A couple months? Well, I
(14:37):
mean you think about it, so you have like a
gaping wound in your and so I was like not
able to It was because I could had no core left,
so I could not control. I was still able to sing,
but I could not control like flipping my voice and stuff.
And it wasn't a voice thing. It was all like
a control. It was very interesting, like I did some
(14:59):
like vocal therapy and stuff to try to fix it.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
I was very ignorant as to what it does to
the female body. It does a lot, because I've said
before I thought it was like, okay, rab some dirt
on it.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Get to Raisin, how is your wife doing?
Speaker 1 (15:10):
How great? Now? But I mean it's you know, we
read the thing five days in a bed, five days
around the bed, five days, and it's more than that.
It's way more than yep. Shout out to every woman
that has to go through this. There's a new respect
of having gone through it. Like you guys rule.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
We saw it like we are the superior. Yeah, women
are superior. I agree.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
When did you go out and start singing again on
the road?
Speaker 2 (15:36):
I had my first show. I think she was about
three months old.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
Did you were you there physically?
Speaker 2 (15:43):
No? But it was actually I don't even know if
I've talked about this, but I sobbed hysterically that I
had to go back to work. I was not ready,
and I thought, I mean when I was like looking
at the calendar, right, I was like, oh, I'll be
so ready by it was end of August. She was born,
(16:03):
like I literally think it was maybe the last day
of August. That was my first show, and she was
born June eleventh, So that's actually sooner than I thought
now that I'm thinking about it.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
What also blows me away is that we don't have
like full paid maternity leave.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Well, and I don't have paid maternity leave at all.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
That our government doesn't like, right, that's what you're saying, yes,
because some countries it's it's like three months paid fully
maternity leave. Yeah, ours is like you had a baby,
all right, you do at nine a m get to work.
It's crazy. There's just a whole new respect from me
because I've not gone through it.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
I have so much respect for just mothers in general too,
because I am very fortunate in that my job, she
goes with me mostly. It's starting to be, like I have.
The whole month of May is going to be a tough,
tough month for me. She'll be fine because I'm going
(16:57):
to leave her with her dad and I have West
Coast runs and I'm just not I'm not doing that
to her. So I now I'm at the stage where
I'm leaving her. But I think, you know, but a
lot of mothers have to go back to work way
sooner than I did, and they're they're gone from them
all day long. I guess the real difference is like
(17:20):
when I'm gone from her, I'm I don't come home
at night.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
So for a few days.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Yeah, I'm gone for stretches of time. But this may
will be the first time where I've left her more
than like forty eight hours.
Speaker 3 (17:33):
May.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Second, you're doing the iHeart Country Festival.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
I am to Luke Bryn're gonna leave her there.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Kane Brown, Wait, you're gonna leve her in Texas? I'm
She's coming to Texas. No, that's not her home. Don't
leave her there. At least leave her here.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
I'm gonna leave her, I believe. Well, we haven't talked
about that. One's a quick one, so in Texas is
a little bit easier, so we're figuring out. Sorry, yes,
I'm going to Texas. I interrupted in talking.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
It's a big show. Everybody should get tickets ticketmaster dot com.
One final question. You were a gifted to Bronco by
Rascal Lights. Yes, I saw the picture.
Speaker 2 (18:05):
It's real. I'vey blindfolded us and took us out to
the garage and I was like, maybe they got us
a golf cart or something. I don't know. And then
they cranked up these cars and then a steal was like,
they're gonna put us in these cars and take us somewhere.
And then I realized that was my car.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
They were giving you the car.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
They gave us the car shipped it. I mean we
didn't drive them home from there, obviously, because we had
more shows, so they shipped the cars like they just
one day. I walked outside and it was in my driveway?
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Is that the greatest tour gift you've ever gotten?
Speaker 2 (18:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (18:35):
I mean that's insane. Well, I appreciate you talking about
all that stuff with me.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Oh my gosh, And I'm here if you have any questions.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
And my wife says same thing about you. She's like,
she's so grateful that you've reached out and.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Been She's asked me a couple of questions. I'm like,
there are no dumb questions because you know nothing. You
have this baby. Get back to the nurse thing. You
have this baby, and these people will help you bring
this baby into the world. And then they're like, here's
how the car seat goes in the car. Good luck.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Then you go home You're like, where do I put it?
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Where does it?
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (19:03):
But there, you know. And I told her about this
little thing that we laid Benny in. I told her
about it. It's like a pillow. Do you all have it?
Speaker 1 (19:10):
Probably we have.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
There's like a little indentation in the center of it.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Oh, we do have that.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
Yeah. I told her to get that.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
We do have that.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
I'm trying to think of what it's called, but I
sent her to the link and stuff.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Final question, what's the best thing about being a mom?
Speaker 2 (19:22):
Oh man, there's so many wonderful things. The way she
loves me, just the most pure innocence, love the way
she looks at me and needs me, and like just yeah,
(19:43):
the there's nothing like it this to know that I
am and my husband too. But it's different with the
mother a little bit. But I am the number one
person in her life and I don't like just yeah,
oh my goodness, and she says mama and that was
(20:03):
her first word, and that was pretty good.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Thank you, Lauren. Okay. On this episode we have kickoff
Kevin who has twins. Congratulations on that, Thank you very much. Dude.
That's crazy wild. But you don't know the difference, Like
you don't know what it would be like to have
one because I have one. Yeah, you just had two.
I think if you had one, then you had two.
Like my friend Ben Rector had a baby is it
(20:30):
a girl? And then they were gonna have another baby.
Then they had twins, so they know what it's like
to have one, but then they had two. Ooh.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
And does he talk about how much harder two is
compared to one?
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Yeah, and I know it's gonna be really hard even
for you, But I don't know that you know the
difference and how easy it could have been with just one.
Speaker 3 (20:44):
Yeah, I don't we always like my wife and I
always hypothetically talk about imagine if we just.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
Had one, like you spread them out, one than one?
Speaker 3 (20:51):
Yeah, one, then one. But then we always say, but
imagine if we had three or four at the same time,
so you can always like go either avenue, I guess,
but yeah, we say that all the time, like at
least we started this way instead of having one and
then too. Now I just hope we don't have another
set of twins.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Does that ever happen where people have multiple sets of twins? Yeah,
you had them in your family, hers and she has
a lot of twins, a lot. Yeah, was she a twin?
Speaker 3 (21:15):
No, No, she wasn't.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
I made a list of things because ours is still
considered a newborn of really important items that I'm glad
we knew of. And if you have any want to
throw into this, she can. But there's something called a
bobby familiar with the Bobby No, you probably are, maybe
the brand name, I don't know. It's like a thing
that wraps. It's a pillow that kind of is a
half circle, and so it's used for a lot of things,
for if I'm sitting the baby up, if you're like
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our baby has like at times, like some reflex stuff
like the Bobby's legitimate as a pillow that goes around
your waist for the baby.
Speaker 3 (21:46):
Yes, now I know what you're talking about.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Yeah, that could also be the brand.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
Yeah, yeah, I think we just called it a horseshoe
pillow or something.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
That's probably good name for it.
Speaker 3 (21:54):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
There's also and I've mentioned this, there's a rubber duck
that we have that has the temperature on the rubber
duck where you put it in the water.
Speaker 3 (22:01):
That's legit.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Oh, it's the greatest thing. I thought everybody knew about this.
It's a rubber ducky, a yellow rubber ducky and on
the bottom you just flip it on and then you
put it on the water and it tells you the
temperature of the water. Huh, so you don't burn the
baby mine.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
Our temperature is just a finger.
Speaker 1 (22:14):
And well, now I'm getting good because of the rubber ducky.
Speaker 3 (22:16):
I'm getting good.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
But this thing's like six bucks. I encourage everybody on
Amazon if if you're wondering how even for me, I
take a bath at one fourteen, you know your temperature? Well,
could I put the duck in there? Because once we
had the baby, and because before that you didn't no idea,
had no idea. But Chad GBT was like, hey, if
(22:37):
you're going to give a baby a bath, it should
be around ninety nine to one hundred, which is just
kind of warm. It's not even that hot body temperature. Okay,
so you got to think we're ninety nine ninety eight
point six whatever. So it's basically body temperature water to
give the baby a bath in. And then obviously I'm
curious about my own bath, so I would run it
to I would normally have it, and it's at one
(22:57):
fourteen to one sixteen. I think that's pretty hot for
a human, because my wife will sometimes forget that I've
run the bath and then she'll just turn it on
and then she'll put her foot in out here and go.
Speaker 3 (23:08):
What the heck, man, it's so hot, dude. We're opposite
where my wife is super hot and I'm the opposite.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
Where I like a cooler, the boppy, the rubber you
gotta get a rubber duck.
Speaker 3 (23:19):
I was gonna say, the rubber duck is awesome.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
Do you like your your kids are?
Speaker 3 (23:22):
How old? Now ten and a half months?
Speaker 1 (23:25):
So what do I have to look forward to, like,
what are the cool things between like one and six months.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
Well, right now, you're still early enough, I think where
you're just basically trying to keep her alive. Yeah, not
to be dramatic, but at the end of the day,
it's kind of what it is.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
I'm basically trying to keep my wife alive, to keep
the big alive. It's really hard too.
Speaker 3 (23:43):
And then so now you really have to look forward
to and even like my kids at ten and a
half months are changing every day, but really like after
six months or so, you start to see these personalities.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Six months when that happens, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
Like big even before that, but now it's really really
starting to come through after six months and the difference.
The good thing about twins is you see just how
different each one is. So like my girl is just wild,
she's a wild child, just wants to go go, go, yell, scream,
and then my boys just kind of sits back, puts
his fingers together, that kind of stuff. So it's really
cool to see the personalities come out and like which
(24:19):
one might be more like you, or if she's gonna
be more like you or more like your wife. And
then as they get older, like, legit, every day, it's
a little bit more every single day. Once you hit
that little bit of personality in a few months from now,
and then from then on it just goes so fast.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
It's just me reading stuff, but it says it's a
big shift around three months where they start smiling regularly.
And baby Billy smiles now, but usually it's from gas
or something. Yeah, it's mostly a muscle thing, I think,
unless she's just delighted with me while she's pooping, I think,
so smiling regularly, the first laugh, stronger neck. That's around
two to three months. Is that pretty cool when the
(24:57):
baby starts to react to you.
Speaker 3 (24:58):
Yeah, I was just gonna say the best now. I mean,
I get I walk in the door and both the
kids like they'll hear their door open and they'll kind
of pop up in the playpen and they'll look through
the bars and they'll see me and just these big smiles,
and I'm telling you, like, there is no better feeling.
I've heard all about that growing up, But that is
the best part getting home. Even if you had a
(25:18):
crappy day, word, crappy day doing whatever. You see that
and they they don't care, they don't know about anything,
but you see that smile, even at this young of
an age, like it'll change your entire day when you
see that.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Any items that I haven't mentioned that you guys live
by diaper genie, I don't know. It's a pediatrician. They
have one, but it always stinks ours doesn't. Oh okay,
So the reason that we didn't do diaper genie is
because it smells like poop coming to that thing. It's
the pediatrician. But maybe that's just because people are reckless
because it's not theirs.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
Yeah, probably because we've had ours since day one and
were still I use it literally ever have a hole
in it. It turned like you throw it in and
it turns and not a turn, like you kind of
shove it down or you toss it down in there
and it has like a little like contraption where you know,
when the diper goes through, it shuts back up. Okay, Yeah,
And I mean it's in our living room and we
don't even smell anything.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
Something that I knew nothing about. And you guys are
double time this how many diapers a baby uses? Oh
my gosh, so much so that it's affected me in
a way of we donate diapers every week, because I
don't know that if you're just getting by like week
to week, like if you live a paycheck to paycheck
and you also got to buy diapers, that's so much money.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
It's insane. Luckily for us, shout out my father in law.
We've only had to buy like two boxes, I think
because since day one he's been I'll buy your diapers
for you, man.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
That is awesome. That's like a scholarship to college.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
Yeah. Every time we run out, especially with two, we
go through so much. Every time we run out, we
text them next days on our doorstep. It's the best.
And wipes and wipes.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
There's a lot of wipes.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
What about cloths like baby cloths, like wiping cloths so
like Burt Brabs. Yeah, I couldn't think of the word.
Speaker 1 (26:56):
There are times where I'm walking around the house and
I just look in a mirror and I've got two me.
I don't even remember putting them on me, but there's
like one on a shoulder, it's like a back of
my shirt. It's almost like when you take clothes out
of a dryer and there's like a sock attached to
your pants and you didn't realize that because the static cling.
Like I have burn cloths just on me. I'll go
to work in the morning and I got to do
a burn cloth check to make sure nothing is attached
to me right now, Yeah, they're everywhere. And the fact
(27:19):
that you grow out of baby the babies grow so fat.
And again I'm only three four weeks into this, but
she's already grown out of so many onesies.
Speaker 3 (27:28):
Oh yeah, it's it's it's insane.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
What a racket that is.
Speaker 3 (27:32):
It's insane. And like I let my wife do whatever,
you know, get her clothes, but she's learning as she
goes along, Like why do we need all these clothes
because half of them they'll never wear because they just
grow out them so fast, especially the Onesi's at that
little And then you just start buying, like when they're
six months, you buy nine months because they're just gonna
grow into even if it's big now.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
So you put them. Ah, that's good, you put them
in something a little bigger so we will have it longer.
Speaker 3 (27:52):
Yeah. Yeah, especially if you're buying something nice.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
We've got rules. No nice clothes good right now? I
mean I who knows, but right it's all generic good.
I'm not sure when my wife gets it. But there's
no name brand. The fact they make name brand baby
stuff is crazy to me. I know it's only for Instagram.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
Right, Oh yeah, absolutely, And and kind of like a
lot of other people were you go out and your
baby's wearing this nice whatever brand and it's almost like
it this is for other people, not really for us.
They don't wear this unless we go out in public
so we can show other people we have this nice
brand on our baby.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
Did you guys have a wedge pillow? No, it's something
that we use now. It's basically a pillow that's a
wedge so if the baby needs to like not stand up,
but be elevated, so not laying down. Okay, the pillow
is great for that.
Speaker 3 (28:40):
Interesting, I haven't seen that one.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:43):
I just wait till the baby can hold herself up though.
That's it's a relief. What do you mean, like, is
she strong enough to hold her neck up quite yet?
Speaker 1 (28:50):
She turns her head over?
Speaker 3 (28:51):
Okay, but she can't, like she doesn't.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
Mile on the treadmill, max, Dang, she's already there.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
Yeah, she doesn't mind see the little ours, So that's okay.
But no, when you don't have to like support her
head in every little movement, and she can start to
support herself, like if you just move her just even
from you know, sitting here to sitting here, and you
don't have to like hold her head as you move her.
It's just a nice relief just internally, so you don't
(29:17):
feel like you're going to break a baby's neck.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
I was talking on an episode prior where the car
seat was actually a lot easier than I thought because
people had built that up to be you never get
like a ten thousand piece puzzle with no picture on
the box, You're never going to figure it out. It's
actually quite simple. Yeah, And I put a mirror on
that head rest of the seat so you can see
in the mirror end of the kit. And then I
(29:40):
got a lot of message going, hey, you can get
cameras that are pretty inexpensive, and you so cause I
don't want. My vision's not good. And also I got
to look in a mirror to see a mirror to
see the baby. What do you guys have to see
the babies?
Speaker 3 (29:50):
We have a mirror. I didn't even know they had cameras.
Speaker 1 (29:52):
We just ordered one. We haven't opened it yet, but
I didn't know if you had done that at all.
Speaker 3 (29:56):
No, But honestly, I can't stand in the mirrors because
those are harder to put together than the car seats.
Ours are the ones that we have. At least we
should probably get new ones. But like, if we go
from my wife's car, which is the car seats are
normally in there, to my truck for whatever reason, I'm like,
I don't even want to take the mirrors off and
put them back on, because it's that much of a hassle.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
You go blind on the baby just when you get there,
you just cross your fingers and help, Oh my god,
help the baby.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
I just pulled down and I just take a peek
if I can at a red light. Okay, we're good,
all right, keep going, And that's about it. But we
know we have the mirrors.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
What's been the best part about it?
Speaker 3 (30:28):
Man? This is something that I've looked forward to since
I was little. I have a great relationship with my dad,
so I think just looking forward to this my entire life,
but not rushing it at the same time, like, thank
God I found a great woman and a great mom
and a great wife. So I think the best part
has been like it's been everything I've wanted my entire life.
But then even.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
More, what's been the hardest part about it.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
Sleep by far, Because we have our little boy, he's
still not sleeping to to night, so we wake up
at least once to night with him, and then he
wakes her up sometimes, so then it's like you get
the double whammy and then you're up for an hour
instead of just being over fifteen minutes, and then you
try to go back to sleep, and then the other
one wakes up. So just the lack of sleep and
like the inconsistent sleep schedule is definite over them too.
(31:13):
And it would take an when they were a little
little month, first month or two, it would take an
hour and a half when they would wake up in
the mid night to feed them, could feed them, burp them,
change them. All that would take an hour and a
half to get both of them done.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
I get so excited when there was a big bar
type belly fat man burp that comes out of hers.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
You know how good it feels?
Speaker 1 (31:35):
Yes, And also it's like, you know, you get an
iPhone used to peel that plastic off and you'd be
like that's so satisfying, Like this is stupid, but it
just Matt, that's kind of when if I'm burboner, like
if my wife's done and I'm doing That's what I'm
talking about. Yeah, because at first too, like they're so small,
you really don't You get a little tight looked tap
and then you realize these babies are built to be burned. Yeah,
(31:57):
that's a pretty satisfying part of being a bad So far,
did your wife I wish you ever telling you like
stop hitting and stop hitting her so hard or any
they know, because she was doing it before me because
I was scared to death. I never I'd ever held
one baby ever my whole life prior to our baby,
and it was for like thirty seconds. It was my nephew,
because I think they were like, hey hold this baby
for a second. So anything any of my relationship mentally
(32:18):
with the baby was I'm going to break this thing,
so do not touch. Uh. So mine was always like
one finger tap and she's like no, no, no, you're not
gonna get anything out of her unless you really. The
other thing that I've learned is like the rub up
on the back.
Speaker 3 (32:30):
Oh yeah, that's.
Speaker 1 (32:32):
Been good for me to get some burps.
Speaker 3 (32:34):
Out, Like your wife does it to you.
Speaker 1 (32:36):
No, I wish I wish you would do like because
you could do like bicycle legs to get to get poop.
I told my wife, I want to do some of
this stuff, like do some of this stuff to me
because I have stomach issues. So what do I have
to look like? What's the best part about the next
few months coming up for me?
Speaker 3 (32:52):
Just the drastic change of like not her, not you,
just you know, trying to keep her alive. Like I
said earlier, Now you're really going to to She's gonna
start to notice you. She's gonna to your point, she's
already kind of seen you and noticed you a little bit,
but then she'll start following you, She'll start laughing at
things you say. You'll make her laugh. Then the little giggle,
I mean, there's nothing like a baby's giggle, especially when
(33:13):
it's her own baby. So I think just seeing that
come through so fast, and it's gonna happen like that,
and then another week goes by and she's gonna have
another new personality come out of her. So all of
that rapidly happening so fast is probably gonna be the
best part.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
What is your advice to new dads, like, if they're
just about to have a baby, be there.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
For your wife number one, cause we've talked about this before.
You don't really know what they go through until you
see them go through it, and then it's like, okay,
well she just went through nine months of all this
and then labor and then all this. Now you just
need to be there for your wife, making sure the
kids okay, of course, but also just being like, hey,
what do you need, Let me support you, and how
(33:53):
can I make your life easier for at least the
first couple weeks until they can get their feetback on
her own and they can feel normal and she can
feel good again. That would be my biggest thing, is
just be there for her and just take a step
back of like your own rule, don't even think about yourself,
and just really be unselfish.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
I remember whenever you told me you were having twins.
This is months before you actually the baby, like, we're
having twins, and you're like, I'm gonna be gone for
a while, and I did I listen. I didn't know
the benefit of paternity leave. I now do, and I
was just like, dude, I didn't know I would me.
I just always want the people to work for me
to feel like they have full support for me regardless
of what they're doing. And I was just like, dude,
(34:34):
don't even answer the phone from us, take off as
much time as you want, like you just let me
know when you're good. And you were like, no, no, I
think I'm gonna work a little bit. I didn't know.
I didn't know what I was saying, but I was like, no, no,
you're not gonna want to work. You're going to want
to And it turns out this is one of those
times where I was randomly really right, and I'm glad
I've been through it now because it's so important for
(34:55):
your wife, your partner to have somebody there with them. Yes,
it's crazy, like what they've been through physically and now
what they're expected to do immediately, it is wild.
Speaker 3 (35:05):
Yeah, and to your point, I mean, you were immediately
like go away, turn off your phone, whatever you need
to do, your email, everything. And thank God for that,
because internally we always want to be like I want
to help where I can and work where I can.
But to be able to have that like space of
separation with work while dealing with that is a game changer.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
I didn't even really know what I was saying. I
just want everybody to feel supported. Who works for me?
And you were like I need time off, I'm like,
well take it. But now if someone were to come
to me and say, hey, I need some time, double
it and I'll see.
Speaker 3 (35:38):
I was gonna say, what do you two years now?
What do you feel like?
Speaker 1 (35:41):
Like?
Speaker 3 (35:42):
Do you feel like two weeks? Is? It depends everyone's
situation is a little bit different.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
I guess yeah, I feel I took a week, but
I made sure the show is still fully covered, and
the second week I worked from home, so I was
working fully but I was a stone's throw and there
were times where we be in the studio and MOI
I feel like, hey can you and I could because
I was close. In a perfect world. First of all,
I would, and our country kind of sucks at maternity leave,
like there are laws that protect women from losing their jobs,
(36:09):
but they're not getting paid. I think if it were me,
I would try to mandate six months paid maternity leave
for everyone. And that's probably not enough because there are
countries in Europe that do way better than that. But
I would do six months paid maternity leave, government covered
and then if possible for the dudes, three weeks, I
(36:31):
think it's a sufficient amount of time to fully be dedicated,
and then if it's little more than that, If it's
a less than that, great, But I think three weeks
is a number that we should not scoff at if
a dude wants to take off time for their wife,
because I think, uneducated to me, would be like paternity leave.
You didn't have the baby, suck it up. I could
not feel more. And I never said that out loud,
but I think as dudes were kind of taught that,
(36:53):
like why does a dude need to leave? But now
that I've been through it, it's needed. Yeah, I would
three weeks to a month for a dude. You must
take off. It's not even that you get paid, Like,
you have to take off three to four weeks so
you can be there and we're gonna come and look
in your window and make sure you're supporting that, Like
that would be part of that.
Speaker 3 (37:13):
Yeah, you're not going on vacations.
Speaker 1 (37:14):
That would be part of the rules, part of the law. Yeah. Thanks,
often use you as a source when I'm like, man,
i think it's crazy for us. What about if we
had two? Yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (37:23):
That's what a lot of people say that. I can't
believe you do too. But to your point, you know
the different story. You don't know the difference, and thank god,
we don't know the difference, and hopefully it's just one
from here on.
Speaker 1 (37:31):
Out right there he is kickoff Kevin On. Father knows less.
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