September 26, 2026 • 42 mins
Bobby shares an awkward encounter he has with a DWTS pro and celebrity. He also shares what guys in radio need to STOP doing when meeting female country artists. Plus an update on baby Billie as she hits a new milestone and Bobby's latest dog problem.
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
I just got a text from my wife. My dog
has a hematoma in its ear.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
What is that?
Speaker 1 (00:16):
It sounds like a huge puffy thing that needs to
be drained. Ooh, let me look up a hematoma. Obviously
she knows what it is.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
So I texted Dr.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Josie and said, Hey, uh, Can you fix this?
Speaker 4 (00:32):
Love it. Straight into the point.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
I don't know if you fix a hematoma.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
Like she's a handyman.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
The dryer's broken. A hematoma is a pocket of blood
that is leaked out of a blood vessel and collected
in nearby tissue. Think of it as a more concentrated bruise.
Under the skin, it can feel tender, a swollen lump.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
A lump.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
I've had that before.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
It's huge in his ear.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
Sounds like that's just kind of a drain thing.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Drain it. My butt might have a hematoma.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
What on earth?
Speaker 1 (01:08):
So like I've torn my butthole before.
Speaker 5 (01:10):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Like I've torn it on a Peloton. And then also
I got a hemorrhoid a long time ago whenever I
was training to do triathlons. And that never really goes away.
It comes back sometimes. But there's like whenever it– it's
just hard to heal because you have to use it
all the time. Your butthole?
Speaker 4 (01:30):
Like every day.
Speaker 6 (01:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
If you're healthy.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
And so I have seasons where it just kills me.
Like it's killing me right now. So my dog's got
a hematoma and I have an injured butthole.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
But you've had that for a long time.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I do. It's chronic butthole.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
People don't know what you go through every day.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Welcome to in the weeds, everybody.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
That's how it is.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Eddie's sitting in this in the weeds.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
I'm a little worried though. Like how in the weeds
do you get on this thing?
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Very as we just got.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
It's pretty in the weeds.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Very as we got. Um, So I was looking at
some comments of people being upset at Taylor Swift and
I don't think they should be, but you familiar with
the artist, the artist Sombr, S-O-M-B-R. It's like 21. So
a new guy, really good. But Taylor Swift told him, hey,
you're getting hate, like appreciate the hate because that means
(02:22):
basically you matter. There'll be time when you don't get
the same hate. That's because you don't matter as much.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
Yeah, you've said that before.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
I have.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
And people are mad at Taylor going, oh, that's, insensitive
or that's, that's shallow or, but I don't think I've
heard her say anything more right.
Speaker 7 (02:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
I've had to readjust myself because of all at times
the negativity and hate that I get. If like my
star wasn't shooting, nobody would see it. And the only
time people can get upset at a shooting star is
if they see it.
Speaker 6 (02:51):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
And there, there are seasons where I get no hate.
I'm like, I'm not hitting right now. And I don't
want to judge it by just the hate. I don't
look at it and go, Oh, I feel great because
of the hate. But you really have to put into
perspective that unless you're doing something to hurt people, that
the reason more people are commenting in general is because
more people are seeing what you're doing. And if more
(03:12):
people are seeing what you're doing, you're just naturally going
to have a percentage of people that are upset with it.
And so also what they love you for will be
what another group hates you for. So I saw that
and actually thought it was quite poignant advice. But seeing
people get mad at her felt so weird.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
It's a hard one to understand when you're not in
the business because it's not very natural. It's not a
natural feeling to look at hate or comments or a
negative comment and think like, oh, hey, this is good.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Well, yeah, but it doesn't feel good and it's not good.
But if you don't look at it as data.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
That's it, data.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
You can really get depressed. Yeah. And think that everybody
hates you.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
And to you and Taylor coming from the data point
of view, like, hey, it's data. That means you're moving
the needle.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Yeah, but you have to experience it to get it.
And it sucks experiencing it to get it. It's one
of those, you only get perspective from situations that are hard.
Like nobody gets any sort of free perspective. Perspective always
come from situations you've been through. And to have that,
and her to say that, I thought this is right on.
And I would just imagine that All the people that
are upset at her have not been in that situation.
Speaker 4 (04:26):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
And not had to– it's not even mental gymnastics. It's
kind of rationalize with data the reason it's happening. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
And can you look at the data without diving into
the comments?
Speaker 2 (04:40):
No.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
No, it's just a feel. You feel because there are
times on this show I've been like, man, it feels
like everybody on the internet just hates me. And I
know rationally that's not true because I can look at
how things are– streams of things and downloads and ratings.
And I can look at numbers and go, well, even
(05:02):
though it feels that way, and even though I see that,
that's not reality. But most people that are happy with something,
they're not commenting. So I thought that was pretty good
advice by her, even though everybody was upset with her.
Speaker 4 (05:15):
I don't know why people get upset with her. You
know what I expect too with her is that now
that she's married, Uh, people don't like it when people
get married.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
People don't like it when people are happy.
Speaker 4 (05:25):
There we go. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
I think that's what it is.
Speaker 4 (05:27):
You know, even like some of my friends, I remember
like when I got serious with my wife and got married,
they weren't happy. Like, they're just like, bro, like what? Like,
you're just gonna get married now. Like, or, or even
some of her friends are just like, wow, my best
friends no longer going to be here. You're going to
go get married. And so like, it's a weird thing.
(05:49):
Like you should be happy for the person. For finding love.
And with Taylor, I think people are just like so
used to like, gimme, gimme, gimme, gimme. Taylor gives me
all of these feelings. She gives me good music. She
gives me so much to read about. And then now
she's like married to some dude.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
I think unhappy people don't like it when people are happy.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I think happy people understand and root for people to
be happy. But unhappy people don't like it when people
are happy.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Because it makes them feel inferior.
Speaker 6 (06:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
How come this person can have something and it isn't even...
just happiness. It could be anything. How come this person
gets to have something and I don't? I think that's
really why a lot of the hate just happens on
the internet anyway. How come this person gets whatever platform
they have and I don't? So I'm going to put
something negative here. I don't think I've ever put a
negative comment on anything ever in my life.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
No, I haven't either. I mean, I've done it for fun, right?
Like being funny.
Speaker 6 (06:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
You're like, you know, it's a joke.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
If I just don't like something, I get off of it.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
Right. Just swipe away.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I get off or I go away or I talk
about it with my friend. Like that was stupid. Don't,
comment publicly. Now, there are times where I'll be upset
at the entire Arkansas Razorbacks football program.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
Yes, there are those times.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
But I'm not a negative commenter. And to me, it's
crazy when people are, individually. I can see it as
a whole because I see it all the time on
my stuff. But individually, I think if you were to
talk to any of those people, they'd kind of be
normal people that are just so unhappy in one part
of their life, they've got to take it somewhere and
do something with it or try to show Why your
(07:20):
happiness isn't valid.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
Do you know negative commenters personally?
Speaker 2 (07:26):
No.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Really? Mm-mm.
Speaker 4 (07:28):
Ooh, I know a couple.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
No. I don't know the comment patterns of a lot
of my friends, but I would imagine that none– I've
never seen them be negative commenters.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
I've seen cousins of mine be negative commenters and be like, dude,
what are you– why?
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Like Facebook or what? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Just for no reason.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
No, but for a reason.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
It's a reason. And even for them, it's like, oh,
that checks out on the kind of person they are.
But overall, it's just like, just keep that comment to yourself.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
It doesn't even have to be a bad person. It
can just be someone that feels inadequate. I think there's
a lot of inadequacy in hate online. Yeah. Because you
don't have people that feel adequate just generally in life. Yeah.
Being negative.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
And there's no consequence either. And like in person, you
get punched.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
True.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
Online, what are you going to do?
Speaker 6 (08:23):
True.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
I've been seeing a lot of dudes in my industry
put their hands around the waist of female artists. You
got to stop that.
Speaker 4 (08:30):
Don't do that. Those days are over, man.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
You got to stop. It looks creepy too. And it doesn't.
Speaker 4 (08:36):
Speaking of, dude, I saw an old picture of mine
with like Carrie Underwood or something. And I think I
had my hand around her waist.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
That's creepy.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
And I'm like, dude, what were you thinking?
Speaker 2 (08:43):
I know.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
I'm seeing them as of two and three and four
weeks ago of dudes that are podcasters or radio guys
and like an artist goes in and they take the
picture together and they put their arm and you see
their hand around their waist. That's like they're using that
one opportunity to touch them.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
It's so creepy.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
And I don't know, you may go back 15 years
and find me. Like you said, you saw an.
Speaker 4 (09:06):
Old picture of you. I did, dude, and I cringed.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
But the past seven to 10 years... I, in 80%
of my pictures, don't touch anybody for any reason. I
put my hands in my pockets or I put them
in front of me. If I really know the person
or if they grab me first, I'll go up. Or
if I go behind, I don't really touch their back.
If they dig into the side, because a lot of
(09:29):
people just naturally want a picture being taken. It's like, okay,
get in. You do it tight. And you'll see pictures
now for the most part, my hands are in my
pockets or they're in front of me across the board.
But if it is, I don't put my hand on
their back either.
Speaker 5 (09:43):
It hovers.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
It's floating back there.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
It's like if you have to go into a public restroom,
you don't sit all the way down. I hover over
the back.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
Because the person feels it. The person knows that you're
feeling their side.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
If you are watching this, and we ended up clipping this,
if you are in entertainment and you're a dude and
a female artist comes in and take a picture, do
not put your hand around their waist. You look like
a creep. It looks like you're waiting for this opportunity
to touch a woman.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
Yeah, stop doing that.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Stop doing that. I made a note to talk about that.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
Good note. What about the... So you said if you're
a man, so can the women still do it? Because... Like,
I have a picture. I think Dolly's holding my waist. Hey,
have at it, ladies. Shania was holding my waist.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Have at it, ladies. They're probably not waiting for that opportunity.
I feel like creepy dudes are just, like, waiting. They're like,
five hours until she gets here. I can't wait to
touch her waist in the picture.
Speaker 4 (10:35):
Weirdo. Bro.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
I don't want to say who.
Speaker 4 (10:39):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
But I ran into some folks from Dancing with the Stars. Oh, locally?
Speaker 2 (10:45):
No.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
And it wasn't the warmest. Not for me. This whole
me versus Dancing with the Stars is a work.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
Dude, it's such a work that my son, my 18-year-old
was like, dang, dad, Bobby's feuding with Dancing with the Stars.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
No, it's wrestling. It's pure wrestling. And I say this.
I love the show. I love the people that run
the show. I love my time there, everything about it.
It's the hardcore fans that attack me all the time. So-
Instead of just hiding, I feud with the fans. But
it's such a work. I give no real crap. My
life is no different. And so I come on. And
(11:23):
in real life, though, it's fun and goofy. I don't care.
But I ran into and was awkward. Really? And not
because of me. I went right up and said, what's up?
And they kind of pariahed me.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
Do you think that you're a topic of conversation in
those circles?
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Persona non grata?
Speaker 4 (11:46):
I don't know what that means.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Person not welcomed?
Speaker 4 (11:50):
What's a non grata?
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Non grata?
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Is that a different language?
Speaker 1 (11:56):
I would assume it's Italian, but I don't know. I've
just always heard that. It's Latin.
Speaker 5 (12:00):
Oh, it is?
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Dang, dude. This stands for what?
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Unwelcome person.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
Okay. Yeah. I feel like I thought they would think
it was a work. And I'll say this. There was
a couple on the show this season.
Speaker 4 (12:11):
Dang.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
One of them was a little warmer because I had
actually met them. And they were like, hey. I was
kind of forced. But the pro would hardly even look
at me.
Speaker 4 (12:22):
No way.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
And I thought it was weird because I had a
great experience. And the pro I knew.
Speaker 5 (12:27):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
So do you think that– did you think that they
knew that it was all like.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
I don't think any of this stuff that I do
in a camera on a microphone is real when it
comes to stuff like that.
Speaker 4 (12:37):
You know that.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
But did you assume that they kind of– But I
don't attack anybody on the show ever.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
Right, right. Never. You don't go anyone individually. Never.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Just the fans that won't get off my comment section
or my DMs. And I'm like, I hate you.
Speaker 4 (12:48):
Do pros get mad at, say, someone like you because
you want it and they feel like you shouldn't have
won it?
Speaker 1 (12:54):
I think they know the game though. Like we saw
Whitney talking about, guys, this is a popularity contest. It's
not a real dance show. And it's such a popularity
contest that you have to vote now before the people
even get to dance because they kick them off by
the end of the show.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
That doesn't make sense.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
So you have to vote before they even dance. That's
why it's not a dance competition. So I just got
to text to sit up. My butthole hurts.
Speaker 4 (13:22):
Somebody texted you. Hey man, you're slashing too much.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Can you sit up a little bit? Bobby's butthole hurts.
That camera's blinking. Is that bad? That the light's blinking?
It's a fast blinking. Yeah, like it's going to explode.
Like this camera will explode.
Speaker 4 (13:38):
In 10 seconds.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
So my experience was weird.
Speaker 6 (13:41):
Oh, man.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
So what? Was there closure with that experience or just
kind of like you just.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
No, I said hi to everybody. I even said hi
to their PR people. In person, I'm going to be
super nice.
Speaker 4 (13:53):
Yeah. Well, you're a nice person.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Yeah. And in LA, it's weird. That dynamic's weird because
everybody doesn't... I appreciate everybody the same. Like in LA,
like only the, we'll say the word famous. The famous
people talk to the famous people.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Oh, wow. I know.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
I talk to everybody. Like their promo person was there,
their PR.
Speaker 4 (14:13):
Oh, I see what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
Yeah, I go through and say hi to everybody. I
treat everybody exactly the same.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Yeah, like the movie star sees the movie star with
all the crew around. They don't talk to the crew.
They ignore everybody else.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (14:20):
They talk to the movie star.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
So I had a weird experience. Dang, dude.
Speaker 7 (14:25):
Sorry.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
It made me feel like maybe everybody doesn't think it's
a word.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
I know. I know.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
That's what I was asking.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
All the pro dancers are like, that guy, he hates
our fans. He should have never won.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Weird.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
I do have my list of people that can win
this season of Dancing with the Stars. I did my
first list last week. I have six people that after
two weeks of the show can win the show. Here's
who I have. I have Ezra. He's the Paralympic track star.
good scores. Daniela is an amazing dancer. She creates amazing routines, performances.
(15:05):
I don't know what to call them, but she's really
one of the best at that. Ezra can and might
win the show. Amber Glenn was one of my picks
before the season started because I picked two. She is
the Olympic figure skater. She looks like someone who already
has it, but can still get better. And she's someone
who It's starting to be pretty likable. Nobody really knew
her as a person when she started the show, but
(15:27):
I think people are starting to get to know her
a little bit.
Speaker 4 (15:29):
What are the judges' numbers so far, those two?
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Ezra had 20 and 21, and then they said that
the tango for Amber was the best of the night.
I'm going from memory here. So I don't know her numbers,
but she did really good.
Speaker 4 (15:41):
21 out of 30.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Okay, there you go. Jenna Dewan, she is the absolute
ringer of the show. She is by far the best
dancer because she was a professional dancer. She next season
could just be a pro. They could just go, you won.
You're now a pro on the show. Her jive was
a little weird as they were like, you're not connecting,
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but I think they have to build in negatives for
people that are so good. Because otherwise she's just by far,
she's a pro. I mean, it's basically bringing Vlad Jr.
to wreck softball. And he's just hitting home runs. Of course.
Speaker 4 (16:20):
Isn't it crazy that you know what a jive is?
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Yeah, it's my favorite because it's the most athletic. Mara Higgins.
Speaker 4 (16:27):
I saw her dance.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Yeah, I didn't know her because she's on those shows
I don't watch.
Speaker 4 (16:32):
Yeah, I don't even know what she's on.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Traders, Love Island. Okay. She's on one of those or
maybe both. I saw her crying in her rehearsal. Do that.
You got to do everything on that show.
Speaker 4 (16:42):
Wait, even if you fake it? Do that.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
It's all the work.
Speaker 4 (16:45):
All right. I'll still fall for it.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
There's two more. Harry Shum Jr., who's from Glee, but
he's a professional dancer. You can't have both professional dancers
get to the finals. If so, that sucks. I don't
care if one of them does. I don't care if
one of them wins. You can't have both. That's not fun.
Or it's just go to YouTube and watch a pro
dance competition. And then still my guy to win it,
and he's by far not the best dancer, but it's
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Jackson Olsen, the Savannah Bananas player. He also had a
good second dance. He had 15 the first week and
18 the second week. The judges noticed. I'm not saying
he's the best dancer. But real growth.
Speaker 4 (17:17):
Are they liking him?
Speaker 1 (17:18):
And he's an athlete. And he's starting to be likable.
And he's saying things that are making people appreciate him.
For example, he has really white teeth.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
And people were commenting, are your teeth real? And he
was like, no, they're fake. They're veneers. Just do it.
Just say it. I like that about him.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
He's still my pick to win because I think if
we can move past the pro dancers, I think he's
the guy that has the most growth. Tatiana Ali had
a good episode. She had a bad first episode, but
you know who she is? Ashley Banks, Fresh Prince.
Speaker 4 (17:50):
Oh, wow.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
I don't think she can win. So those six are
the ones I think can win. The ones that can last,
but I don't think they can win are Tatiana Ali,
good rebound, Sierra Miller from Summer House, pretty good, and
Taylor Hanson. Hanson fans are going to be there. I
don't think they're as strong as they think they are,
(18:11):
but they're going to be there and push them through
a little bit. The judges want cleaner from Taylor Hanson,
but it's fun to watch him.
Speaker 4 (18:17):
Who's Taylor? The middle kid?
Speaker 1 (18:19):
The lead singer.
Speaker 4 (18:19):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
The ones who can't win, in my opinion, are Julia Stiles.
I like her a lot.
Speaker 4 (18:25):
She can't win, though?
Speaker 1 (18:26):
I don't think so.
Speaker 4 (18:27):
She's my favorite.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
You think she can win? I think she can win. Okay.
She needs a major breakthrough to become a threat.
Speaker 4 (18:33):
In which department? The dancing?
Speaker 6 (18:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (18:35):
The likable?
Speaker 1 (18:36):
She's likable, though. I really like her.
Speaker 3 (18:37):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (18:38):
I really like her. Connor Wood, good personality. I don't
think he has so far because he had a 15. Listen,
I got bad scores. I never got a 15, though.
So bad. Right now, I can't see him winning. I
don't think Tyler Cameron can win. He'll get the votes
for The Bachelor. But I think taking his shirt off
this early is a bad move strategically.
Speaker 4 (18:59):
Should have waited a little bit?
Speaker 1 (19:00):
A little bit because what they know him from is
being like the dude that hooks up and is The Bachelor. Also,
they matched him with Sharna, and they're both. Like sexy. It's, it's,
you need, you need, you need warmth.
Speaker 4 (19:16):
You, you had good balance with that. I was a dork.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
Sexy.
Speaker 4 (19:20):
Yeah. And then you.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
I was a dork, but I was warm. And with that,
you get too, it's, it's almost too much of that.
Good point. I wouldn't have taken a shirt off this early.
That's something you save for way later.
Speaker 4 (19:31):
How did it look though?
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Good? Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
He's ripped.
Speaker 6 (19:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
And then Guillermo, he can't win, but he's, he's in
my lower tier.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
Can he dance?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
No, he can't. No, but you root for him.
Speaker 4 (19:39):
He can't even dance, right?
Speaker 2 (19:40):
No.
Speaker 5 (19:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:42):
Because the clip I saw, he was just laying down.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
He did a little roll.
Speaker 4 (19:46):
He just did a roll, and I'm like, alright he's
not dancing.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
Whitney makes him fun to watch Whitney's pregnant too.
Speaker 4 (19:51):
She's pregnant oh that's right they talked about that that's.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
Right so if I were picking a final three today
I would take Jackson Olsen because I think he's going
to win I would take one of the pro dancers
so I'm just going to put Jenna Dewan in there
and then I'd put Ezra or Amber I'd do four
Ezra and Amber in the finals but that's as of
today After my awkward experience. So one of those people
I'm talking about was one of those people I just
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talked about.
Speaker 4 (20:14):
That's what I figured.
Speaker 5 (20:15):
Hang tight. The Bobbycast will be right back. And we're
back on The Bobbycast.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
Billy's eating food now, actual food.
Speaker 4 (20:25):
Oh, what does she like?
Speaker 1 (20:28):
We started her on avocado.
Speaker 4 (20:30):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
It was the first food ever, so there's a lot
of this. What's even happening in my mouth?
Speaker 4 (20:35):
It's weird, right? Because it's green. And it looks like
it's flavorful, but it's really not a lot of flavor.
But you don't even know what flavor is when you're
a baby.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
You've never had anything.
Speaker 4 (20:43):
Yeah, but some of the other... Well, you're right, I guess.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
There's no food. I think it was the first flavor.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
Unless it's milk or medicine.
Speaker 4 (20:51):
Right, right, right. Good point.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
So we did avocado first, and that was a little
odd flavor. Then it was something else. But then we
did banana. Life's over.
Speaker 4 (20:59):
I mean, banana, dude. I go crazy for banana.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Banana rocks. Oh, we did sweet potato second.
Speaker 4 (21:05):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
And she likes sweet potato. That's solid. But then banana.
Speaker 4 (21:09):
Oh, get out of here.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
Whole new game.
Speaker 4 (21:11):
When are you going to do ice cream? Dude, when
they do ice cream.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
I would have done it a month in.
Speaker 4 (21:17):
But your wife doesn't let you do this fun stuff.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
I know.
Speaker 4 (21:19):
Dude, I will never forget all of my kids when
they had ice cream for the first time. There is
a look on their face like, This is the best
thing I've ever tasted in my life.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
I like those videos where kids will eat a lemon.
Speaker 4 (21:34):
Oh yeah, that too.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
Like that will be fun for me to do.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
But yeah, she's kind of killing the banana and she
laughs every time she eats it.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
Really?
Speaker 4 (21:43):
That's how much joy she's having. I've seen videos of
her kissing herself in the mirror.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
I don't know if she's kissing herself, but she's definitely
going up for him to like figure it out.
Speaker 7 (21:56):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
It's been weird six months into this to watch like
motor skills get pretty good. Even from when we started
feeding her, she'd take a little spoon and she'd hit
herself in the nose. And now it's just like spoon
to mouth.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
She knows what she's done.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
Yeah. So obviously you've been through this already, but that
to me has been fun to watch.
Speaker 4 (22:20):
I mean, you can see her personality.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
A little bit, yeah.
Speaker 4 (22:23):
You know, you kind of know what kind of person
she is. Dude, what's crazy is knowing, you know, when
I have an 18-year-old, 12, 11, no, yeah, 11, 13. Gosh, 13, 11,
and 7. And when I watch old videos of even
my 18-year-old, like when he was like 5 years old,
it's so crazy to see them act like however they're
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acting and look at that same personality they had when
they were 5 or 6. that he still has that
he's 18. Like even the way he says certain words,
I'm just like, that is crazy. Dude, you've always been
acting like that since you were five, six years old.
Like that's amazing to me. So these little things that
she's doing now, she may, you know, continue to hit
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herself on the face with a spoon.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
No, she's better at that part.
Speaker 3 (23:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
The fun thing is, so we, you go in for
the three month and the six month checkups appointments. And
They give you and they tell you all the percentages of,
you know, her growth. And she was a longer, it's
not tall, it's just long until they can stand up,
I guess.
Speaker 5 (23:29):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
She was a longer baby, at least at first, with
a slightly larger head. She was just, Kaylin's family's big.
Like they're all really tall. My family is really tall,
except for like my biological dad and me. And I'm 6'1,
and I'm tall, but the rest of them, Like all
the estals, they're six foot two, six foot three. Everybody.
Speaker 4 (23:50):
I've seen them.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
And so it's two big families. But we knew that
with Billy, right when she was born, like babies basically
shrink and somehow get back to normal in their sizes.
We went back in at her sixth month and she's
like 97%. She's getting more.
Speaker 4 (24:05):
Oh, wow.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
And so we're like, when does this like adjust? Right.
And the doctor said around now is when it should
have started adjusting already. The fact that she's growing, we
probably can say she's going to be really tall.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
And just so you know, they're wrong sometimes with that
because they're just guesstimating, right? Based on the average of
what kids normally do.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
Well, that's not an estimate. I mean, they see what
kids really.
Speaker 4 (24:30):
Are at that age. Yes, but it's not necessarily true.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
Well, it's true on what they are now, but they
can't really project what it's going to be, right?
Speaker 4 (24:37):
How tall they're going to be, how big they're going
to be.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
Well, they're not telling me how tall she's going to be. Well, no,
I know.
Speaker 4 (24:43):
But even when they're going to start or stop.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
I looked it up and around six to nine months
is generally speaking, according to most medical journals, when the
averages will indicate if they're going to be taller or shorter. Okay.
But they're not telling me she's going to be six
foot three. They're just saying it about this point because
I thought she would slowly get back to normal, that
she will probably be a taller person because of what
she is now and our genetics. Okay. I would rather
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her not be.
Speaker 4 (25:09):
Yeah. What would you want?
Speaker 1 (25:12):
A good five, six, five, seven. Typical. I am rooting
for left-handed. Oh, yeah, just so you're not alone. I'm
trying to put the spoon... No, no, no. Because if
she wants to play ball... Because Kaitlyn's side is so athletic,
and if she wants to play softball or volleyball, especially softball,
if you're left-handed and you pitch, there's a big benefit there. Absolutely.
Speaker 4 (25:32):
I have one lefty.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
It's harder to be left-handed, but if you're good at
sports and left-handed, there's a whole market there for you.
Speaker 4 (25:40):
Man, so I have a lefty, right? But he's been
batting right... He throws left, but golfs right. He does
a lot of stuff with his right because he can.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
So he's not a true lefty then?
Speaker 4 (25:55):
No, he's naturally a lefty.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
But if he's not going to lefty at first, he's
not a true lefty.
Speaker 4 (25:59):
Well, the reason he plays golf right is because I
didn't get him left-handed clubs.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
But you can now, though. Would he play left-handed?
Speaker 4 (26:05):
Yeah, he can still swing left-handed.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
No, no, no. If you got him left-handed clubs, what
would he do?
Speaker 4 (26:10):
I think at this point he'd probably stick with the
right just because he's been playing with the right so often.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
He throws.
Speaker 4 (26:16):
Those left. Right's left.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
Why does he not bat left? You have an advantage
batting left.
Speaker 4 (26:20):
He doesn't play baseball. But didn't you just say he
bats right-handed? Yeah, like if he picks up a bat,
like he would naturally go right-handed.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
I'm just challenging it. I'm left-handed. Nobody can do both.
Speaker 4 (26:30):
He can do both.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
But no, left-handed people do left-handed. And then eventually you
can be a switch hitter.
Speaker 4 (26:35):
Did you ever try to go right?
Speaker 1 (26:37):
No, I couldn't. Also, I wasn't a great athlete. I
was okay, but played smart. I'm just being a hater
because I couldn't do it.
Speaker 4 (26:45):
Just telling you what he does, man.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
It's weird that he does some things right-handed.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
Does he play guitar at all?
Speaker 4 (26:51):
Yours? He plays violin. What does he play?
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Left or right-handed?
Speaker 4 (26:54):
Right-handed. That's bizarre, isn't it?
Speaker 1 (26:58):
So he only throws left-handed.
Speaker 4 (27:01):
And writes left-handed.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
Oh, yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
He's left-handed. Dang, he's left-handed. He's left-handed. But I don't know.
Speaker 4 (27:07):
But did I make him change?
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Yeah, you broke him. You broke him. It's your fault.
Speaker 7 (27:11):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (27:11):
I had a coach when he was like six years
old say, hey, make him do things right because he
can naturally he's a natural lefty so if you can
teach him to do things right and he can always
go back to left that's power but i really didn't
know what that meant so i just kind.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Of you just limited his options so he had to
figure out both i guess he didn't teach him how
to do the other yeah if he throws and he
writes left-handed he's left-handed yeah congratulations to him i take
back my hater comments all right that's it thank you
guys for uh watching and eddie for sitting in.
Speaker 4 (27:43):
Oh man thank you that was fun i got Dr.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Josie going over to my house right now.
Speaker 4 (27:47):
For the hemoglobin?
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Hematoma.
Speaker 6 (27:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Already taken care of. I drained it. Put some meds
in there. See if it'll resolve on its own. 30%
of them will. 30%? If it does, then I'll have
to come back next week and have to put a
drain in his ear that'll keep for three weeks.
Speaker 4 (28:07):
Yeah, she's nickel and diamond, you dude.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
We'll cry.
Speaker 4 (28:11):
Dr. Josie.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
You know... She can't nickel and dime me.
Speaker 4 (28:16):
Why not?
Speaker 1 (28:17):
Because she is a concierge vet. Ooh.
Speaker 4 (28:21):
Like American Express? Like, what do you mean? Like the
people at the hotel?
Speaker 1 (28:26):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (28:26):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
All right.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
So she comes to the houses of her clients.
Speaker 5 (28:32):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
So I don't pay her every time she comes over.
I pay her a yearly rate.
Speaker 4 (28:37):
Oh, so regardless, she gets paid that amount.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
I will nickel and dime her.
Speaker 5 (28:41):
Dang.
Speaker 4 (28:42):
Dude, while she's there, have her look at your... My butthole? Yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
I've had that looked at a bunch of times, man.
Speaker 4 (28:48):
Dang it.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
She can charge for medicine. Okay. But if one of
the dogs is going for surgery, that's a surgeon. That's
different money.
Speaker 4 (28:55):
Dude, did you decide to do that because Stanley is
just sick so much?
Speaker 1 (28:58):
No, I did that because she is my friend. And
she goes, I'm starting a concierge vet.
Speaker 4 (29:02):
Got it.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
And she was already our vet because she's a close friend.
And we were her first customers. We're like, we're in.
But Stanley was going to the vet. I mean, I
probably spent $ 100, 000 on his vet bills.
Speaker 4 (29:11):
Poor guy. Oh, poor you. Poor both of you guys.
Him for having all those ailments and you for paying
for it.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
He's an eight-year-old bulldog. And bulldogs, I wonder how long
they live. I'm going to guess nine years old. What's
the average age expectancy of a bulldog? I'm going to
guess eight.
Speaker 4 (29:32):
You said he is eight.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Oh, I should say American Bulldog, huh?
Speaker 5 (29:35):
Oh, yeah.
Speaker 4 (29:35):
Because there are those Frenchies.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
I'm going to say nine. He's eight. I don't want
to put it on the age he is. I'm going
to say nine. Okay.
Speaker 4 (29:42):
Come on, 13.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
No, I have an English Bulldog.
Speaker 4 (29:45):
Yeah, English.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
I think I said American.
Speaker 4 (29:48):
Well, Stanley is American.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
Yeah, yeah, true. Okay, English Bulldog. The lifespan is eight
to 10 years. It does say that's an average, not
a deadline. So don't freak out.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
Nice.
Speaker 4 (29:59):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
All right.
Speaker 4 (30:02):
Do you see him slowing down a little bit?
Speaker 1 (30:04):
Oh yeah. And he minds a little less.
Speaker 4 (30:07):
Oh, so he does. Cause old people just don't listen
to old people. Don't give a crap.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
So, and he really only listens to me. I'm his alpha.
And he probably listens about 70% of the time with Caitlin,
about 30% of the time. Wow. Our other dog is
the opposite. Eller. Caitlin is her alpha. And she listens
a little better than Stanley does. She's younger and just
a little more aware, but it's crazy that she, Caitlin
is her boss. Stanley, I'm his boss.
Speaker 4 (30:32):
Is this because of food?
Speaker 1 (30:33):
No, it's just because who got closer to the dog earlier.
I got Stanley as a puppy. We got Ella as
a puppy. And she was just with her in the
daytime a lot more.
Speaker 4 (30:42):
So my dog, Coachella, she's really old. Her hind legs shake.
She has bad arthritis. She's last year for sure. Did
you say it's her last year for sure? I would
think so. I've been saying that for two years, though,
so who knows? But she... Like, it's crazy. I was
always alpha because I would take her for walks. I
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would give her food. Like, I was everything. And then
all of a sudden, I made my son, my 18-year-old, like, hey, dude,
you feed her every day. This is your chore. Feed
her every day. Take her on a walk, blah, blah, blah, whatever.
So now she doesn't give a crap about me. He's
new alpha because he feeds her.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
I think a little bit, too, with Stanley, he listens
less because he's older, but we also have a baby.
So he doesn't get the attention. Yeah. Yeah. That he got.
Speaker 4 (31:26):
That's amazing.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
And I think he's a little pissed at it. Yeah,
of course.
Speaker 4 (31:28):
It's like, what's this little thing? I've been here longer.
That's what he's saying. Yeah, poor dogs get the shaft
a little bit.
Speaker 1 (31:36):
They got the shaft a little bit for sure because
they were number one priority. Now they're like fourth and
there is no two and three. It's just baby. It's
Justin Bieber. Baby, baby, baby dog.
Speaker 5 (31:49):
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Speaker 1 (31:55):
Okay, now some of the upload with Brooke Taylor. If
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And this clip is going to be Shawn Johnson and
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Speaker 7 (32:16):
You have to be really careful allowing yourself to think
I'm out.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (32:19):
Because you have two paths to go down. Either I
don't like my husband right now, but I love him.
And he made me mad and he did this. But like,
I'm still going to show up tomorrow and we're still
going to fight through it. You can either go down
that path or you can go down the path of,
I don't like my husband. I'm out. I'm done with this.
I'm not going to do this again. And if you
choose to go down that path, that's really hard to
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come back from. Resentment of your spouse is a very contagious,
dangerous path that just picks up steam.
Speaker 3 (32:48):
Are you speaking from experience or.
No.
Speaker 2 (32:52):
Just wisdom.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
But I mean, I feel like.
Speaker 7 (32:55):
It's harder to, to continue going down that, that positive optimistic,
I'm going to show up like it takes more work,
but it has a more beautiful outcome. Not from experience.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
That words, the words you said earlier, you said it
delusional confidence. You have to have delusional confidence in marriage too.
Cause it's just like, how can I get over this fight?
And then the next day you're like, well, you know what?
Actually that wasn't that bad. What are we even fighting about?
Speaker 6 (33:22):
You know?
Speaker 3 (33:22):
Honestly, I love everyone. I feel like there's been these
new age people that talked about, ah, we're not made
to be monogamous. And it's like, okay, well, yeah we
got the monkey the monkey brains and the lizard brain
or whatever all these fancy people call it you're like
and then they talk about their like 4 a.m ice
baths you got to do hard things and train yourself
it's dude there's nothing harder than being married for a
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long time or having kids like bro that's a freaking
refinement right there you want self-improvement there's your there's your
tool i feel like uh we we had our third
kid and that it was like a real tough time
And so we went to, we just Googled biblical marriage counseling,
which I think was one of the most pivotal things
we'd done. It ended up being the 16 week course,
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two hours a week. They give you homework, this whole thing.
It's kind of all about like forgiveness and understanding the
biblical concept of identity, like, and who the Bible says
Andrew is, who the Bible says Sean is. And it's
like really amazing stuff to dig into, not to like
overdo the child of God Because I think some people
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take that as like a divine calling and I don't know,
they can overemphasize individualism, but like, it is amazing to
think that God made Sean and his own image.
Speaker 1 (34:36):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (34:36):
So yeah.
Speaker 3 (34:37):
Maybe instead of being judgmental on whatever part I don't
understand about that image, it's more of a curiosity of like, oh,
if I am able to understand this about Sean, maybe
I'll understand a little bit more about God. And then
that's like a really fascinating process. I would say not
taking things personally in the struggle has helped a lot.
And then, yeah, I think about like we used to
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argue about our dog. We have two golden retrievers. But
when we started with one, we had– 200 arguments.
Speaker 7 (35:05):
About our worst arguments for the dogs.
Speaker 3 (35:07):
She treats dogs like people. I love dogs, but I
treat them like a dog. She treats dogs like people.
And it was like, we have the same argument again
and again and again. And then you, I moved from
a point of, why aren't you understanding what I'm saying?
And you're beating your head against the wall. And then
you change to, Oh, maybe let me approach this 200
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first argument a little different. And maybe I'll like understand
what she's saying or like, Maybe I'll change my opinion.
And then you're like, oh, dang, wow, we're getting somewhere.
That's the cool thing about marriage too, though. It gives
you the timeline to work that out and to get
to that 201st argument. But those are my thoughts.
Speaker 2 (35:46):
But I think too that the fact that you guys
are talking about, I mean, almost 10 years into marriage
and the fact that you guys have since being married
gone to a biblical marriage counselor, I think that's a
huge thing to talk about that I don't think we've
really touched on on the podcast at all is that
counseling is... is a tool to help you get through
things better, you know? And I'm curious to know what
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your guys' experience obviously like was great, but what are
some of the tools that you learned through that? You
said forgiveness. What are some other tangible things people could
take away from this conversation who are like, maybe I
should seek counseling. Like that may be a good idea.
Speaker 7 (36:22):
Um, I would say definitely seek counseling and seek counseling
before things are bad. What's really cool, I think is
a generational difference. I feel like our parents saw counseling
as like, if you are on the edge and the
breaking point, then you go to counseling. Our generation's a
little different. It's changing to where it's like, it's a
great upkeep of just making sure things are good.
Speaker 3 (36:45):
But by the way, we went because we needed it.
Speaker 7 (36:47):
Yeah, we went because we needed it. We weren't in
like a crisis, but we needed it. I would say
one of my favorite things I learned in like the
counseling as a tool is it gets so easy in marriage.
to look at your spouse and say, why didn't you
do this? Why didn't you do that? How dare you?
You know, it's always like looking at the other person.
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And one of the coolest things and hardest things, and
it was a practice that we had to do is
every time we showed up to counseling, which it was
interesting at the counseling we went to, we'd never did
counseling together. It's always separate. And so I was with
a female and he was with male and I would
show up every day for two hours and you would
have to write down a list of like, say wrongdoings,
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things that annoyed you, frustrated, and go one by one
and put it back on yourself. So I would say,
Andrew did this. And she'd be like, okay, but you
can't control him. You can control yourself. So what's something
that you did wrong in this scenario and what's something
you can apologize for? So it was always like, how
about I look at myself and say, you know what?
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I'm going to be, say the bigger person. I'm going
to own my stuff. And she was always like, just watch.
If you start doing this, not expecting anything in return,
the tides will turn. And when you have two people
doing that at the same time, you start to feel
seen and loved and not just like you're taking each
other down.
Speaker 3 (38:17):
It goes back to the concept of God where it's
like the humility that Jesus represented. There's a lot of
ego that shows up in marriage where you're like, how
dare you do that to me? it softens things so
much when you think about, oh, I probably hurt her
feelings if I did that. Or she maybe didn't even
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think about that. You know, it's like, don't take it
as a personal attack. Move the ego aside. And it
creates a totally different environment.
Speaker 2 (38:49):
No, I was just going to say, I'm learning things
here today. I feel like I've gone to counseling a
little bit.
Speaker 4 (38:53):
No, absolutely.
Speaker 6 (38:54):
I love that it mirrors our relationship with the Holy Spirit.
When you pray and I'm like, Matt, about anything, injustice, something,
it's like, I don't want to see the mirror right now.
I don't want to see the mirror. I want you
to like bring fire down from heaven on that other person. Like,
you know, and it really, it's just like this kind
mirror of like, and I'm like, I kind of don't
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like that. You know, you've got a choice when you
look in the mirror. Do I like the, do I
want to look away? Cause it's not good. When I
look in the mirror, I'm like, dang, that's ugly. You know,
that's like a, yeah, I'm not talking physically, but I'm just,
saying I'm mid, I'm going to get on the self
deprecation train. But, um, my, my anger, my sense of justice,
(39:39):
my pride, like you talked about, you go like, I'm like,
I don't want to look at that. And it's so
easy to look away. Um, but I think that's such
a underrated point. of that process of write down all
the feelings that you feel like fired up about, because
there's such low hanging fruit and then take responsibility one
after the other. And if we could just do that
as a human race, you know, oh man, how, how special,
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like that is the Holy Spirit's job as the counselor,
by the way. And wise counsel, there's so many things
to say. I just, I kind of want to just
reiterate what you said about the non-negotiable of don't go
there without as an option. Because I think so many
people wrestle in the place of this, like it's this
(40:25):
decaying doubt that they've allowed to live in there. So
what was it? Is it a word from God? What
gives you, what protects you? What's the seatbelt to where
I'm like, that's never an option. Is it just a
pure decision of logical understanding? Is this something that you, man,
I need to know, I need a sign like Gideon, like,
You know, the sheepskin wet one day, like undeniable sign.
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What helps you stay doubt-free in a marriage?
Speaker 7 (40:53):
I have a small thing, but we did premarital counseling
before we got married with a wonderful biblical counselor.
Speaker 4 (41:04):
Shout out Dr.
Speaker 3 (41:05):
DeMerchant.
Speaker 7 (41:06):
Yeah, Dr. D. And he gave us the wonderful advice
of using... the D word, is that what we say,
as a word that's never used. You never go there.
You never say it. You never use it as a weapon.
It's just not allowed. And it's not allowed in our house.
It's not allowed in arguments. It's not allowed because it
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does no good. And if you start using it as
a weapon, you start creating doubt. And we both agreed
on that.
Speaker 3 (41:34):
I think it was like four months into dating after
Sean moved to Nashville. I read Tim Keller's book, The
Meaning of Marriage.
Speaker 1 (41:41):
Have you read this? Yeah.
Speaker 6 (41:42):
Oh, dude.
Speaker 7 (41:43):
Wonderful book.
Speaker 3 (41:43):
And then I was like, Sean, we got to read
this together. Because if we're looking at marriage.
Speaker 7 (41:48):
Four months into dating, he gave me this book.
Speaker 1 (41:50):
I was like, shoot or shoot.
Speaker 7 (41:51):
Are you going to propose?
Speaker 4 (41:53):
Precision.
Speaker 1 (41:54):
There it is again. I'm telling you.
Speaker 3 (41:56):
Just like to define what we're talking about, though, is
so helpful. And I think it's so fascinating how he
paints marriage as like the highest stakes, highest cost of
exit relationship. Which is, that's the way it's supposed to
be because it gets freaking slimy up in here.
Speaker 1 (42:12):
You know what I'm saying? It's brutal.
Speaker 4 (42:14):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
Thank you guys for watching In the Weeds or listening
to In the Weeds or however you get In the Weeds.
We will see you guys next time. Bye, everybody.
Speaker 5 (42:22):
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or wherever you listen to podcasts.
I just got a text from my wife. My dog
has a hematoma in its ear.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
What is that?
Speaker 1 (00:16):
It sounds like a huge puffy thing that needs to
be drained. Ooh, let me look up a hematoma. Obviously
she knows what it is.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
So I texted Dr.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Josie and said, Hey, uh, Can you fix this?
Speaker 4 (00:32):
Love it. Straight into the point.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
I don't know if you fix a hematoma.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
Like she's a handyman.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
The dryer's broken. A hematoma is a pocket of blood
that is leaked out of a blood vessel and collected
in nearby tissue. Think of it as a more concentrated bruise.
Under the skin, it can feel tender, a swollen lump.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
A lump.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
I've had that before.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
It's huge in his ear.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
Sounds like that's just kind of a drain thing.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Drain it. My butt might have a hematoma.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
What on earth?
Speaker 1 (01:08):
So like I've torn my butthole before.
Speaker 5 (01:10):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Like I've torn it on a Peloton. And then also
I got a hemorrhoid a long time ago whenever I
was training to do triathlons. And that never really goes away.
It comes back sometimes. But there's like whenever it– it's
just hard to heal because you have to use it
all the time. Your butthole?
Speaker 4 (01:30):
Like every day.
Speaker 6 (01:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
If you're healthy.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
And so I have seasons where it just kills me.
Like it's killing me right now. So my dog's got
a hematoma and I have an injured butthole.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
But you've had that for a long time.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I do. It's chronic butthole.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
People don't know what you go through every day.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Welcome to in the weeds, everybody.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
That's how it is.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Eddie's sitting in this in the weeds.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
I'm a little worried though. Like how in the weeds
do you get on this thing?
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Very as we just got.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
It's pretty in the weeds.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Very as we got. Um, So I was looking at
some comments of people being upset at Taylor Swift and
I don't think they should be, but you familiar with
the artist, the artist Sombr, S-O-M-B-R. It's like 21. So
a new guy, really good. But Taylor Swift told him, hey,
you're getting hate, like appreciate the hate because that means
(02:22):
basically you matter. There'll be time when you don't get
the same hate. That's because you don't matter as much.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
Yeah, you've said that before.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
I have.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
And people are mad at Taylor going, oh, that's, insensitive
or that's, that's shallow or, but I don't think I've
heard her say anything more right.
Speaker 7 (02:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
I've had to readjust myself because of all at times
the negativity and hate that I get. If like my
star wasn't shooting, nobody would see it. And the only
time people can get upset at a shooting star is
if they see it.
Speaker 6 (02:51):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
And there, there are seasons where I get no hate.
I'm like, I'm not hitting right now. And I don't
want to judge it by just the hate. I don't
look at it and go, Oh, I feel great because
of the hate. But you really have to put into
perspective that unless you're doing something to hurt people, that
the reason more people are commenting in general is because
more people are seeing what you're doing. And if more
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people are seeing what you're doing, you're just naturally going
to have a percentage of people that are upset with it.
And so also what they love you for will be
what another group hates you for. So I saw that
and actually thought it was quite poignant advice. But seeing
people get mad at her felt so weird.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
It's a hard one to understand when you're not in
the business because it's not very natural. It's not a
natural feeling to look at hate or comments or a
negative comment and think like, oh, hey, this is good.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Well, yeah, but it doesn't feel good and it's not good.
But if you don't look at it as data.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
That's it, data.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
You can really get depressed. Yeah. And think that everybody
hates you.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
And to you and Taylor coming from the data point
of view, like, hey, it's data. That means you're moving
the needle.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Yeah, but you have to experience it to get it.
And it sucks experiencing it to get it. It's one
of those, you only get perspective from situations that are hard.
Like nobody gets any sort of free perspective. Perspective always
come from situations you've been through. And to have that,
and her to say that, I thought this is right on.
And I would just imagine that All the people that
are upset at her have not been in that situation.
Speaker 4 (04:26):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
And not had to– it's not even mental gymnastics. It's
kind of rationalize with data the reason it's happening. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
And can you look at the data without diving into
the comments?
Speaker 2 (04:40):
No.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
No, it's just a feel. You feel because there are
times on this show I've been like, man, it feels
like everybody on the internet just hates me. And I
know rationally that's not true because I can look at
how things are– streams of things and downloads and ratings.
And I can look at numbers and go, well, even
(05:02):
though it feels that way, and even though I see that,
that's not reality. But most people that are happy with something,
they're not commenting. So I thought that was pretty good
advice by her, even though everybody was upset with her.
Speaker 4 (05:15):
I don't know why people get upset with her. You
know what I expect too with her is that now
that she's married, Uh, people don't like it when people
get married.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
People don't like it when people are happy.
Speaker 4 (05:25):
There we go. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
I think that's what it is.
Speaker 4 (05:27):
You know, even like some of my friends, I remember
like when I got serious with my wife and got married,
they weren't happy. Like, they're just like, bro, like what? Like,
you're just gonna get married now. Like, or, or even
some of her friends are just like, wow, my best
friends no longer going to be here. You're going to
go get married. And so like, it's a weird thing.
(05:49):
Like you should be happy for the person. For finding love.
And with Taylor, I think people are just like so
used to like, gimme, gimme, gimme, gimme. Taylor gives me
all of these feelings. She gives me good music. She
gives me so much to read about. And then now
she's like married to some dude.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
I think unhappy people don't like it when people are happy.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I think happy people understand and root for people to
be happy. But unhappy people don't like it when people
are happy.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Because it makes them feel inferior.
Speaker 6 (06:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
How come this person can have something and it isn't even...
just happiness. It could be anything. How come this person
gets to have something and I don't? I think that's
really why a lot of the hate just happens on
the internet anyway. How come this person gets whatever platform
they have and I don't? So I'm going to put
something negative here. I don't think I've ever put a
negative comment on anything ever in my life.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
No, I haven't either. I mean, I've done it for fun, right?
Like being funny.
Speaker 6 (06:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
You're like, you know, it's a joke.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
If I just don't like something, I get off of it.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
Right. Just swipe away.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I get off or I go away or I talk
about it with my friend. Like that was stupid. Don't,
comment publicly. Now, there are times where I'll be upset
at the entire Arkansas Razorbacks football program.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
Yes, there are those times.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
But I'm not a negative commenter. And to me, it's
crazy when people are, individually. I can see it as
a whole because I see it all the time on
my stuff. But individually, I think if you were to
talk to any of those people, they'd kind of be
normal people that are just so unhappy in one part
of their life, they've got to take it somewhere and
do something with it or try to show Why your
(07:20):
happiness isn't valid.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
Do you know negative commenters personally?
Speaker 2 (07:26):
No.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Really? Mm-mm.
Speaker 4 (07:28):
Ooh, I know a couple.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
No. I don't know the comment patterns of a lot
of my friends, but I would imagine that none– I've
never seen them be negative commenters.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
I've seen cousins of mine be negative commenters and be like, dude,
what are you– why?
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Like Facebook or what? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Just for no reason.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
No, but for a reason.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
It's a reason. And even for them, it's like, oh,
that checks out on the kind of person they are.
But overall, it's just like, just keep that comment to yourself.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
It doesn't even have to be a bad person. It
can just be someone that feels inadequate. I think there's
a lot of inadequacy in hate online. Yeah. Because you
don't have people that feel adequate just generally in life. Yeah.
Being negative.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
And there's no consequence either. And like in person, you
get punched.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
True.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
Online, what are you going to do?
Speaker 6 (08:23):
True.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
I've been seeing a lot of dudes in my industry
put their hands around the waist of female artists. You
got to stop that.
Speaker 4 (08:30):
Don't do that. Those days are over, man.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
You got to stop. It looks creepy too. And it doesn't.
Speaker 4 (08:36):
Speaking of, dude, I saw an old picture of mine
with like Carrie Underwood or something. And I think I
had my hand around her waist.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
That's creepy.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
And I'm like, dude, what were you thinking?
Speaker 2 (08:43):
I know.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
I'm seeing them as of two and three and four
weeks ago of dudes that are podcasters or radio guys
and like an artist goes in and they take the
picture together and they put their arm and you see
their hand around their waist. That's like they're using that
one opportunity to touch them.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
It's so creepy.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
And I don't know, you may go back 15 years
and find me. Like you said, you saw an.
Speaker 4 (09:06):
Old picture of you. I did, dude, and I cringed.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
But the past seven to 10 years... I, in 80%
of my pictures, don't touch anybody for any reason. I
put my hands in my pockets or I put them
in front of me. If I really know the person
or if they grab me first, I'll go up. Or
if I go behind, I don't really touch their back.
If they dig into the side, because a lot of
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people just naturally want a picture being taken. It's like, okay,
get in. You do it tight. And you'll see pictures
now for the most part, my hands are in my
pockets or they're in front of me across the board.
But if it is, I don't put my hand on
their back either.
Speaker 5 (09:43):
It hovers.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
It's floating back there.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
It's like if you have to go into a public restroom,
you don't sit all the way down. I hover over
the back.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
Because the person feels it. The person knows that you're
feeling their side.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
If you are watching this, and we ended up clipping this,
if you are in entertainment and you're a dude and
a female artist comes in and take a picture, do
not put your hand around their waist. You look like
a creep. It looks like you're waiting for this opportunity
to touch a woman.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
Yeah, stop doing that.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Stop doing that. I made a note to talk about that.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
Good note. What about the... So you said if you're
a man, so can the women still do it? Because... Like,
I have a picture. I think Dolly's holding my waist. Hey,
have at it, ladies. Shania was holding my waist.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Have at it, ladies. They're probably not waiting for that opportunity.
I feel like creepy dudes are just, like, waiting. They're like,
five hours until she gets here. I can't wait to
touch her waist in the picture.
Speaker 4 (10:35):
Weirdo. Bro.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
I don't want to say who.
Speaker 4 (10:39):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
But I ran into some folks from Dancing with the Stars. Oh, locally?
Speaker 2 (10:45):
No.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
And it wasn't the warmest. Not for me. This whole
me versus Dancing with the Stars is a work.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
Dude, it's such a work that my son, my 18-year-old
was like, dang, dad, Bobby's feuding with Dancing with the Stars.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
No, it's wrestling. It's pure wrestling. And I say this.
I love the show. I love the people that run
the show. I love my time there, everything about it.
It's the hardcore fans that attack me all the time. So-
Instead of just hiding, I feud with the fans. But
it's such a work. I give no real crap. My
life is no different. And so I come on. And
(11:23):
in real life, though, it's fun and goofy. I don't care.
But I ran into and was awkward. Really? And not
because of me. I went right up and said, what's up?
And they kind of pariahed me.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
Do you think that you're a topic of conversation in
those circles?
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Persona non grata?
Speaker 4 (11:46):
I don't know what that means.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Person not welcomed?
Speaker 4 (11:50):
What's a non grata?
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Non grata?
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Is that a different language?
Speaker 1 (11:56):
I would assume it's Italian, but I don't know. I've
just always heard that. It's Latin.
Speaker 5 (12:00):
Oh, it is?
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Dang, dude. This stands for what?
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Unwelcome person.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
Okay. Yeah. I feel like I thought they would think
it was a work. And I'll say this. There was
a couple on the show this season.
Speaker 4 (12:11):
Dang.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
One of them was a little warmer because I had
actually met them. And they were like, hey. I was
kind of forced. But the pro would hardly even look
at me.
Speaker 4 (12:22):
No way.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
And I thought it was weird because I had a
great experience. And the pro I knew.
Speaker 5 (12:27):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
So do you think that– did you think that they
knew that it was all like.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
I don't think any of this stuff that I do
in a camera on a microphone is real when it
comes to stuff like that.
Speaker 4 (12:37):
You know that.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
But did you assume that they kind of– But I
don't attack anybody on the show ever.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
Right, right. Never. You don't go anyone individually. Never.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Just the fans that won't get off my comment section
or my DMs. And I'm like, I hate you.
Speaker 4 (12:48):
Do pros get mad at, say, someone like you because
you want it and they feel like you shouldn't have
won it?
Speaker 1 (12:54):
I think they know the game though. Like we saw
Whitney talking about, guys, this is a popularity contest. It's
not a real dance show. And it's such a popularity
contest that you have to vote now before the people
even get to dance because they kick them off by
the end of the show.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
That doesn't make sense.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
So you have to vote before they even dance. That's
why it's not a dance competition. So I just got
to text to sit up. My butthole hurts.
Speaker 4 (13:22):
Somebody texted you. Hey man, you're slashing too much.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Can you sit up a little bit? Bobby's butthole hurts.
That camera's blinking. Is that bad? That the light's blinking?
It's a fast blinking. Yeah, like it's going to explode.
Like this camera will explode.
Speaker 4 (13:38):
In 10 seconds.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
So my experience was weird.
Speaker 6 (13:41):
Oh, man.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
So what? Was there closure with that experience or just
kind of like you just.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
No, I said hi to everybody. I even said hi
to their PR people. In person, I'm going to be
super nice.
Speaker 4 (13:53):
Yeah. Well, you're a nice person.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Yeah. And in LA, it's weird. That dynamic's weird because
everybody doesn't... I appreciate everybody the same. Like in LA,
like only the, we'll say the word famous. The famous
people talk to the famous people.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Oh, wow. I know.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
I talk to everybody. Like their promo person was there,
their PR.
Speaker 4 (14:13):
Oh, I see what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
Yeah, I go through and say hi to everybody. I
treat everybody exactly the same.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Yeah, like the movie star sees the movie star with
all the crew around. They don't talk to the crew.
They ignore everybody else.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (14:20):
They talk to the movie star.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
So I had a weird experience. Dang, dude.
Speaker 7 (14:25):
Sorry.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
It made me feel like maybe everybody doesn't think it's
a word.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
I know. I know.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
That's what I was asking.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
All the pro dancers are like, that guy, he hates
our fans. He should have never won.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Weird.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
I do have my list of people that can win
this season of Dancing with the Stars. I did my
first list last week. I have six people that after
two weeks of the show can win the show. Here's
who I have. I have Ezra. He's the Paralympic track star.
good scores. Daniela is an amazing dancer. She creates amazing routines, performances.
(15:05):
I don't know what to call them, but she's really
one of the best at that. Ezra can and might
win the show. Amber Glenn was one of my picks
before the season started because I picked two. She is
the Olympic figure skater. She looks like someone who already
has it, but can still get better. And she's someone
who It's starting to be pretty likable. Nobody really knew
her as a person when she started the show, but
(15:27):
I think people are starting to get to know her
a little bit.
Speaker 4 (15:29):
What are the judges' numbers so far, those two?
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Ezra had 20 and 21, and then they said that
the tango for Amber was the best of the night.
I'm going from memory here. So I don't know her numbers,
but she did really good.
Speaker 4 (15:41):
21 out of 30.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Okay, there you go. Jenna Dewan, she is the absolute
ringer of the show. She is by far the best
dancer because she was a professional dancer. She next season
could just be a pro. They could just go, you won.
You're now a pro on the show. Her jive was
a little weird as they were like, you're not connecting,
(16:03):
but I think they have to build in negatives for
people that are so good. Because otherwise she's just by far,
she's a pro. I mean, it's basically bringing Vlad Jr.
to wreck softball. And he's just hitting home runs. Of course.
Speaker 4 (16:20):
Isn't it crazy that you know what a jive is?
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Yeah, it's my favorite because it's the most athletic. Mara Higgins.
Speaker 4 (16:27):
I saw her dance.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Yeah, I didn't know her because she's on those shows
I don't watch.
Speaker 4 (16:32):
Yeah, I don't even know what she's on.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Traders, Love Island. Okay. She's on one of those or
maybe both. I saw her crying in her rehearsal. Do that.
You got to do everything on that show.
Speaker 4 (16:42):
Wait, even if you fake it? Do that.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
It's all the work.
Speaker 4 (16:45):
All right. I'll still fall for it.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
There's two more. Harry Shum Jr., who's from Glee, but
he's a professional dancer. You can't have both professional dancers
get to the finals. If so, that sucks. I don't
care if one of them does. I don't care if
one of them wins. You can't have both. That's not fun.
Or it's just go to YouTube and watch a pro
dance competition. And then still my guy to win it,
and he's by far not the best dancer, but it's
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Jackson Olsen, the Savannah Bananas player. He also had a
good second dance. He had 15 the first week and
18 the second week. The judges noticed. I'm not saying
he's the best dancer. But real growth.
Speaker 4 (17:17):
Are they liking him?
Speaker 1 (17:18):
And he's an athlete. And he's starting to be likable.
And he's saying things that are making people appreciate him.
For example, he has really white teeth.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
And people were commenting, are your teeth real? And he
was like, no, they're fake. They're veneers. Just do it.
Just say it. I like that about him.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
He's still my pick to win because I think if
we can move past the pro dancers, I think he's
the guy that has the most growth. Tatiana Ali had
a good episode. She had a bad first episode, but
you know who she is? Ashley Banks, Fresh Prince.
Speaker 4 (17:50):
Oh, wow.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
I don't think she can win. So those six are
the ones I think can win. The ones that can last,
but I don't think they can win are Tatiana Ali,
good rebound, Sierra Miller from Summer House, pretty good, and
Taylor Hanson. Hanson fans are going to be there. I
don't think they're as strong as they think they are,
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but they're going to be there and push them through
a little bit. The judges want cleaner from Taylor Hanson,
but it's fun to watch him.
Speaker 4 (18:17):
Who's Taylor? The middle kid?
Speaker 1 (18:19):
The lead singer.
Speaker 4 (18:19):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
The ones who can't win, in my opinion, are Julia Stiles.
I like her a lot.
Speaker 4 (18:25):
She can't win, though?
Speaker 1 (18:26):
I don't think so.
Speaker 4 (18:27):
She's my favorite.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
You think she can win? I think she can win. Okay.
She needs a major breakthrough to become a threat.
Speaker 4 (18:33):
In which department? The dancing?
Speaker 6 (18:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (18:35):
The likable?
Speaker 1 (18:36):
She's likable, though. I really like her.
Speaker 3 (18:37):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (18:38):
I really like her. Connor Wood, good personality. I don't
think he has so far because he had a 15. Listen,
I got bad scores. I never got a 15, though.
So bad. Right now, I can't see him winning. I
don't think Tyler Cameron can win. He'll get the votes
for The Bachelor. But I think taking his shirt off
this early is a bad move strategically.
Speaker 4 (18:59):
Should have waited a little bit?
Speaker 1 (19:00):
A little bit because what they know him from is
being like the dude that hooks up and is The Bachelor. Also,
they matched him with Sharna, and they're both. Like sexy. It's, it's,
you need, you need, you need warmth.
Speaker 4 (19:16):
You, you had good balance with that. I was a dork.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
Sexy.
Speaker 4 (19:20):
Yeah. And then you.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
I was a dork, but I was warm. And with that,
you get too, it's, it's almost too much of that.
Good point. I wouldn't have taken a shirt off this early.
That's something you save for way later.
Speaker 4 (19:31):
How did it look though?
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Good? Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
He's ripped.
Speaker 6 (19:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
And then Guillermo, he can't win, but he's, he's in
my lower tier.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
Can he dance?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
No, he can't. No, but you root for him.
Speaker 4 (19:39):
He can't even dance, right?
Speaker 2 (19:40):
No.
Speaker 5 (19:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:42):
Because the clip I saw, he was just laying down.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
He did a little roll.
Speaker 4 (19:46):
He just did a roll, and I'm like, alright he's
not dancing.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
Whitney makes him fun to watch Whitney's pregnant too.
Speaker 4 (19:51):
She's pregnant oh that's right they talked about that that's.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
Right so if I were picking a final three today
I would take Jackson Olsen because I think he's going
to win I would take one of the pro dancers
so I'm just going to put Jenna Dewan in there
and then I'd put Ezra or Amber I'd do four
Ezra and Amber in the finals but that's as of
today After my awkward experience. So one of those people
I'm talking about was one of those people I just
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talked about.
Speaker 4 (20:14):
That's what I figured.
Speaker 5 (20:15):
Hang tight. The Bobbycast will be right back. And we're
back on The Bobbycast.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
Billy's eating food now, actual food.
Speaker 4 (20:25):
Oh, what does she like?
Speaker 1 (20:28):
We started her on avocado.
Speaker 4 (20:30):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
It was the first food ever, so there's a lot
of this. What's even happening in my mouth?
Speaker 4 (20:35):
It's weird, right? Because it's green. And it looks like
it's flavorful, but it's really not a lot of flavor.
But you don't even know what flavor is when you're
a baby.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
You've never had anything.
Speaker 4 (20:43):
Yeah, but some of the other... Well, you're right, I guess.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
There's no food. I think it was the first flavor.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
Unless it's milk or medicine.
Speaker 4 (20:51):
Right, right, right. Good point.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
So we did avocado first, and that was a little
odd flavor. Then it was something else. But then we
did banana. Life's over.
Speaker 4 (20:59):
I mean, banana, dude. I go crazy for banana.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Banana rocks. Oh, we did sweet potato second.
Speaker 4 (21:05):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
And she likes sweet potato. That's solid. But then banana.
Speaker 4 (21:09):
Oh, get out of here.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
Whole new game.
Speaker 4 (21:11):
When are you going to do ice cream? Dude, when
they do ice cream.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
I would have done it a month in.
Speaker 4 (21:17):
But your wife doesn't let you do this fun stuff.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
I know.
Speaker 4 (21:19):
Dude, I will never forget all of my kids when
they had ice cream for the first time. There is
a look on their face like, This is the best
thing I've ever tasted in my life.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
I like those videos where kids will eat a lemon.
Speaker 4 (21:34):
Oh yeah, that too.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
Like that will be fun for me to do.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
But yeah, she's kind of killing the banana and she
laughs every time she eats it.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
Really?
Speaker 4 (21:43):
That's how much joy she's having. I've seen videos of
her kissing herself in the mirror.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
I don't know if she's kissing herself, but she's definitely
going up for him to like figure it out.
Speaker 7 (21:56):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
It's been weird six months into this to watch like
motor skills get pretty good. Even from when we started
feeding her, she'd take a little spoon and she'd hit
herself in the nose. And now it's just like spoon
to mouth.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
She knows what she's done.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
Yeah. So obviously you've been through this already, but that
to me has been fun to watch.
Speaker 4 (22:20):
I mean, you can see her personality.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
A little bit, yeah.
Speaker 4 (22:23):
You know, you kind of know what kind of person
she is. Dude, what's crazy is knowing, you know, when
I have an 18-year-old, 12, 11, no, yeah, 11, 13. Gosh, 13, 11,
and 7. And when I watch old videos of even
my 18-year-old, like when he was like 5 years old,
it's so crazy to see them act like however they're
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acting and look at that same personality they had when
they were 5 or 6. that he still has that
he's 18. Like even the way he says certain words,
I'm just like, that is crazy. Dude, you've always been
acting like that since you were five, six years old.
Like that's amazing to me. So these little things that
she's doing now, she may, you know, continue to hit
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herself on the face with a spoon.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
No, she's better at that part.
Speaker 3 (23:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
The fun thing is, so we, you go in for
the three month and the six month checkups appointments. And
They give you and they tell you all the percentages of,
you know, her growth. And she was a longer, it's
not tall, it's just long until they can stand up,
I guess.
Speaker 5 (23:29):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
She was a longer baby, at least at first, with
a slightly larger head. She was just, Kaylin's family's big.
Like they're all really tall. My family is really tall,
except for like my biological dad and me. And I'm 6'1,
and I'm tall, but the rest of them, Like all
the estals, they're six foot two, six foot three. Everybody.
Speaker 4 (23:50):
I've seen them.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
And so it's two big families. But we knew that
with Billy, right when she was born, like babies basically
shrink and somehow get back to normal in their sizes.
We went back in at her sixth month and she's
like 97%. She's getting more.
Speaker 4 (24:05):
Oh, wow.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
And so we're like, when does this like adjust? Right.
And the doctor said around now is when it should
have started adjusting already. The fact that she's growing, we
probably can say she's going to be really tall.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
And just so you know, they're wrong sometimes with that
because they're just guesstimating, right? Based on the average of
what kids normally do.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
Well, that's not an estimate. I mean, they see what
kids really.
Speaker 4 (24:30):
Are at that age. Yes, but it's not necessarily true.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
Well, it's true on what they are now, but they
can't really project what it's going to be, right?
Speaker 4 (24:37):
How tall they're going to be, how big they're going
to be.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
Well, they're not telling me how tall she's going to be. Well, no,
I know.
Speaker 4 (24:43):
But even when they're going to start or stop.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
I looked it up and around six to nine months
is generally speaking, according to most medical journals, when the
averages will indicate if they're going to be taller or shorter. Okay.
But they're not telling me she's going to be six
foot three. They're just saying it about this point because
I thought she would slowly get back to normal, that
she will probably be a taller person because of what
she is now and our genetics. Okay. I would rather
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her not be.
Speaker 4 (25:09):
Yeah. What would you want?
Speaker 1 (25:12):
A good five, six, five, seven. Typical. I am rooting
for left-handed. Oh, yeah, just so you're not alone. I'm
trying to put the spoon... No, no, no. Because if
she wants to play ball... Because Kaitlyn's side is so athletic,
and if she wants to play softball or volleyball, especially softball,
if you're left-handed and you pitch, there's a big benefit there. Absolutely.
Speaker 4 (25:32):
I have one lefty.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
It's harder to be left-handed, but if you're good at
sports and left-handed, there's a whole market there for you.
Speaker 4 (25:40):
Man, so I have a lefty, right? But he's been
batting right... He throws left, but golfs right. He does
a lot of stuff with his right because he can.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
So he's not a true lefty then?
Speaker 4 (25:55):
No, he's naturally a lefty.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
But if he's not going to lefty at first, he's
not a true lefty.
Speaker 4 (25:59):
Well, the reason he plays golf right is because I
didn't get him left-handed clubs.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
But you can now, though. Would he play left-handed?
Speaker 4 (26:05):
Yeah, he can still swing left-handed.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
No, no, no. If you got him left-handed clubs, what
would he do?
Speaker 4 (26:10):
I think at this point he'd probably stick with the
right just because he's been playing with the right so often.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
He throws.
Speaker 4 (26:16):
Those left. Right's left.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
Why does he not bat left? You have an advantage
batting left.
Speaker 4 (26:20):
He doesn't play baseball. But didn't you just say he
bats right-handed? Yeah, like if he picks up a bat,
like he would naturally go right-handed.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
I'm just challenging it. I'm left-handed. Nobody can do both.
Speaker 4 (26:30):
He can do both.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
But no, left-handed people do left-handed. And then eventually you
can be a switch hitter.
Speaker 4 (26:35):
Did you ever try to go right?
Speaker 1 (26:37):
No, I couldn't. Also, I wasn't a great athlete. I
was okay, but played smart. I'm just being a hater
because I couldn't do it.
Speaker 4 (26:45):
Just telling you what he does, man.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
It's weird that he does some things right-handed.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
Does he play guitar at all?
Speaker 4 (26:51):
Yours? He plays violin. What does he play?
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Left or right-handed?
Speaker 4 (26:54):
Right-handed. That's bizarre, isn't it?
Speaker 1 (26:58):
So he only throws left-handed.
Speaker 4 (27:01):
And writes left-handed.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
Oh, yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
He's left-handed. Dang, he's left-handed. He's left-handed. But I don't know.
Speaker 4 (27:07):
But did I make him change?
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Yeah, you broke him. You broke him. It's your fault.
Speaker 7 (27:11):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (27:11):
I had a coach when he was like six years
old say, hey, make him do things right because he
can naturally he's a natural lefty so if you can
teach him to do things right and he can always
go back to left that's power but i really didn't
know what that meant so i just kind.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Of you just limited his options so he had to
figure out both i guess he didn't teach him how
to do the other yeah if he throws and he
writes left-handed he's left-handed yeah congratulations to him i take
back my hater comments all right that's it thank you
guys for uh watching and eddie for sitting in.
Speaker 4 (27:43):
Oh man thank you that was fun i got Dr.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Josie going over to my house right now.
Speaker 4 (27:47):
For the hemoglobin?
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Hematoma.
Speaker 6 (27:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Already taken care of. I drained it. Put some meds
in there. See if it'll resolve on its own. 30%
of them will. 30%? If it does, then I'll have
to come back next week and have to put a
drain in his ear that'll keep for three weeks.
Speaker 4 (28:07):
Yeah, she's nickel and diamond, you dude.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
We'll cry.
Speaker 4 (28:11):
Dr. Josie.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
You know... She can't nickel and dime me.
Speaker 4 (28:16):
Why not?
Speaker 1 (28:17):
Because she is a concierge vet. Ooh.
Speaker 4 (28:21):
Like American Express? Like, what do you mean? Like the
people at the hotel?
Speaker 1 (28:26):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (28:26):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
All right.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
So she comes to the houses of her clients.
Speaker 5 (28:32):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
So I don't pay her every time she comes over.
I pay her a yearly rate.
Speaker 4 (28:37):
Oh, so regardless, she gets paid that amount.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
I will nickel and dime her.
Speaker 5 (28:41):
Dang.
Speaker 4 (28:42):
Dude, while she's there, have her look at your... My butthole? Yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
I've had that looked at a bunch of times, man.
Speaker 4 (28:48):
Dang it.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
She can charge for medicine. Okay. But if one of
the dogs is going for surgery, that's a surgeon. That's
different money.
Speaker 4 (28:55):
Dude, did you decide to do that because Stanley is
just sick so much?
Speaker 1 (28:58):
No, I did that because she is my friend. And
she goes, I'm starting a concierge vet.
Speaker 4 (29:02):
Got it.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
And she was already our vet because she's a close friend.
And we were her first customers. We're like, we're in.
But Stanley was going to the vet. I mean, I
probably spent $ 100, 000 on his vet bills.
Speaker 4 (29:11):
Poor guy. Oh, poor you. Poor both of you guys.
Him for having all those ailments and you for paying
for it.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
He's an eight-year-old bulldog. And bulldogs, I wonder how long
they live. I'm going to guess nine years old. What's
the average age expectancy of a bulldog? I'm going to
guess eight.
Speaker 4 (29:32):
You said he is eight.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Oh, I should say American Bulldog, huh?
Speaker 5 (29:35):
Oh, yeah.
Speaker 4 (29:35):
Because there are those Frenchies.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
I'm going to say nine. He's eight. I don't want
to put it on the age he is. I'm going
to say nine. Okay.
Speaker 4 (29:42):
Come on, 13.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
No, I have an English Bulldog.
Speaker 4 (29:45):
Yeah, English.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
I think I said American.
Speaker 4 (29:48):
Well, Stanley is American.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
Yeah, yeah, true. Okay, English Bulldog. The lifespan is eight
to 10 years. It does say that's an average, not
a deadline. So don't freak out.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
Nice.
Speaker 4 (29:59):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
All right.
Speaker 4 (30:02):
Do you see him slowing down a little bit?
Speaker 1 (30:04):
Oh yeah. And he minds a little less.
Speaker 4 (30:07):
Oh, so he does. Cause old people just don't listen
to old people. Don't give a crap.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
So, and he really only listens to me. I'm his alpha.
And he probably listens about 70% of the time with Caitlin,
about 30% of the time. Wow. Our other dog is
the opposite. Eller. Caitlin is her alpha. And she listens
a little better than Stanley does. She's younger and just
a little more aware, but it's crazy that she, Caitlin
is her boss. Stanley, I'm his boss.
Speaker 4 (30:32):
Is this because of food?
Speaker 1 (30:33):
No, it's just because who got closer to the dog earlier.
I got Stanley as a puppy. We got Ella as
a puppy. And she was just with her in the
daytime a lot more.
Speaker 4 (30:42):
So my dog, Coachella, she's really old. Her hind legs shake.
She has bad arthritis. She's last year for sure. Did
you say it's her last year for sure? I would
think so. I've been saying that for two years, though,
so who knows? But she... Like, it's crazy. I was
always alpha because I would take her for walks. I
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would give her food. Like, I was everything. And then
all of a sudden, I made my son, my 18-year-old, like, hey, dude,
you feed her every day. This is your chore. Feed
her every day. Take her on a walk, blah, blah, blah, whatever.
So now she doesn't give a crap about me. He's
new alpha because he feeds her.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
I think a little bit, too, with Stanley, he listens
less because he's older, but we also have a baby.
So he doesn't get the attention. Yeah. Yeah. That he got.
Speaker 4 (31:26):
That's amazing.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
And I think he's a little pissed at it. Yeah,
of course.
Speaker 4 (31:28):
It's like, what's this little thing? I've been here longer.
That's what he's saying. Yeah, poor dogs get the shaft
a little bit.
Speaker 1 (31:36):
They got the shaft a little bit for sure because
they were number one priority. Now they're like fourth and
there is no two and three. It's just baby. It's
Justin Bieber. Baby, baby, baby dog.
Speaker 5 (31:49):
The Bobbycast. We'll be right back. Welcome back to The Bobbycast.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
Okay, now some of the upload with Brooke Taylor. If
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is a very fun, sometimes serious, but a worthy faith-based show.
And this clip is going to be Shawn Johnson and
her husband, Andrew East. Okay, enjoy.
Speaker 7 (32:16):
You have to be really careful allowing yourself to think
I'm out.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (32:19):
Because you have two paths to go down. Either I
don't like my husband right now, but I love him.
And he made me mad and he did this. But like,
I'm still going to show up tomorrow and we're still
going to fight through it. You can either go down
that path or you can go down the path of,
I don't like my husband. I'm out. I'm done with this.
I'm not going to do this again. And if you
choose to go down that path, that's really hard to
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come back from. Resentment of your spouse is a very contagious,
dangerous path that just picks up steam.
Speaker 3 (32:48):
Are you speaking from experience or.
No.
Speaker 2 (32:52):
Just wisdom.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
But I mean, I feel like.
Speaker 7 (32:55):
It's harder to, to continue going down that, that positive optimistic,
I'm going to show up like it takes more work,
but it has a more beautiful outcome. Not from experience.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
That words, the words you said earlier, you said it
delusional confidence. You have to have delusional confidence in marriage too.
Cause it's just like, how can I get over this fight?
And then the next day you're like, well, you know what?
Actually that wasn't that bad. What are we even fighting about?
Speaker 6 (33:22):
You know?
Speaker 3 (33:22):
Honestly, I love everyone. I feel like there's been these
new age people that talked about, ah, we're not made
to be monogamous. And it's like, okay, well, yeah we
got the monkey the monkey brains and the lizard brain
or whatever all these fancy people call it you're like
and then they talk about their like 4 a.m ice
baths you got to do hard things and train yourself
it's dude there's nothing harder than being married for a
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long time or having kids like bro that's a freaking
refinement right there you want self-improvement there's your there's your
tool i feel like uh we we had our third
kid and that it was like a real tough time
And so we went to, we just Googled biblical marriage counseling,
which I think was one of the most pivotal things
we'd done. It ended up being the 16 week course,
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two hours a week. They give you homework, this whole thing.
It's kind of all about like forgiveness and understanding the
biblical concept of identity, like, and who the Bible says
Andrew is, who the Bible says Sean is. And it's
like really amazing stuff to dig into, not to like
overdo the child of God Because I think some people
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take that as like a divine calling and I don't know,
they can overemphasize individualism, but like, it is amazing to
think that God made Sean and his own image.
Speaker 1 (34:36):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (34:36):
So yeah.
Speaker 3 (34:37):
Maybe instead of being judgmental on whatever part I don't
understand about that image, it's more of a curiosity of like, oh,
if I am able to understand this about Sean, maybe
I'll understand a little bit more about God. And then
that's like a really fascinating process. I would say not
taking things personally in the struggle has helped a lot.
And then, yeah, I think about like we used to
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argue about our dog. We have two golden retrievers. But
when we started with one, we had– 200 arguments.
Speaker 7 (35:05):
About our worst arguments for the dogs.
Speaker 3 (35:07):
She treats dogs like people. I love dogs, but I
treat them like a dog. She treats dogs like people.
And it was like, we have the same argument again
and again and again. And then you, I moved from
a point of, why aren't you understanding what I'm saying?
And you're beating your head against the wall. And then
you change to, Oh, maybe let me approach this 200
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first argument a little different. And maybe I'll like understand
what she's saying or like, Maybe I'll change my opinion.
And then you're like, oh, dang, wow, we're getting somewhere.
That's the cool thing about marriage too, though. It gives
you the timeline to work that out and to get
to that 201st argument. But those are my thoughts.
Speaker 2 (35:46):
But I think too that the fact that you guys
are talking about, I mean, almost 10 years into marriage
and the fact that you guys have since being married
gone to a biblical marriage counselor, I think that's a
huge thing to talk about that I don't think we've
really touched on on the podcast at all is that
counseling is... is a tool to help you get through
things better, you know? And I'm curious to know what
(36:08):
your guys' experience obviously like was great, but what are
some of the tools that you learned through that? You
said forgiveness. What are some other tangible things people could
take away from this conversation who are like, maybe I
should seek counseling. Like that may be a good idea.
Speaker 7 (36:22):
Um, I would say definitely seek counseling and seek counseling
before things are bad. What's really cool, I think is
a generational difference. I feel like our parents saw counseling
as like, if you are on the edge and the
breaking point, then you go to counseling. Our generation's a
little different. It's changing to where it's like, it's a
great upkeep of just making sure things are good.
Speaker 3 (36:45):
But by the way, we went because we needed it.
Speaker 7 (36:47):
Yeah, we went because we needed it. We weren't in
like a crisis, but we needed it. I would say
one of my favorite things I learned in like the
counseling as a tool is it gets so easy in marriage.
to look at your spouse and say, why didn't you
do this? Why didn't you do that? How dare you?
You know, it's always like looking at the other person.
(37:09):
And one of the coolest things and hardest things, and
it was a practice that we had to do is
every time we showed up to counseling, which it was
interesting at the counseling we went to, we'd never did
counseling together. It's always separate. And so I was with
a female and he was with male and I would
show up every day for two hours and you would
have to write down a list of like, say wrongdoings,
(37:32):
things that annoyed you, frustrated, and go one by one
and put it back on yourself. So I would say,
Andrew did this. And she'd be like, okay, but you
can't control him. You can control yourself. So what's something
that you did wrong in this scenario and what's something
you can apologize for? So it was always like, how
about I look at myself and say, you know what?
(37:57):
I'm going to be, say the bigger person. I'm going
to own my stuff. And she was always like, just watch.
If you start doing this, not expecting anything in return,
the tides will turn. And when you have two people
doing that at the same time, you start to feel
seen and loved and not just like you're taking each
other down.
Speaker 3 (38:17):
It goes back to the concept of God where it's
like the humility that Jesus represented. There's a lot of
ego that shows up in marriage where you're like, how
dare you do that to me? it softens things so
much when you think about, oh, I probably hurt her
feelings if I did that. Or she maybe didn't even
(38:40):
think about that. You know, it's like, don't take it
as a personal attack. Move the ego aside. And it
creates a totally different environment.
Speaker 2 (38:49):
No, I was just going to say, I'm learning things
here today. I feel like I've gone to counseling a
little bit.
Speaker 4 (38:53):
No, absolutely.
Speaker 6 (38:54):
I love that it mirrors our relationship with the Holy Spirit.
When you pray and I'm like, Matt, about anything, injustice, something,
it's like, I don't want to see the mirror right now.
I don't want to see the mirror. I want you
to like bring fire down from heaven on that other person. Like,
you know, and it really, it's just like this kind
mirror of like, and I'm like, I kind of don't
(39:16):
like that. You know, you've got a choice when you
look in the mirror. Do I like the, do I
want to look away? Cause it's not good. When I
look in the mirror, I'm like, dang, that's ugly. You know,
that's like a, yeah, I'm not talking physically, but I'm just,
saying I'm mid, I'm going to get on the self
deprecation train. But, um, my, my anger, my sense of justice,
(39:39):
my pride, like you talked about, you go like, I'm like,
I don't want to look at that. And it's so
easy to look away. Um, but I think that's such
a underrated point. of that process of write down all
the feelings that you feel like fired up about, because
there's such low hanging fruit and then take responsibility one
after the other. And if we could just do that
as a human race, you know, oh man, how, how special,
(40:04):
like that is the Holy Spirit's job as the counselor,
by the way. And wise counsel, there's so many things
to say. I just, I kind of want to just
reiterate what you said about the non-negotiable of don't go
there without as an option. Because I think so many
people wrestle in the place of this, like it's this
(40:25):
decaying doubt that they've allowed to live in there. So
what was it? Is it a word from God? What
gives you, what protects you? What's the seatbelt to where
I'm like, that's never an option. Is it just a
pure decision of logical understanding? Is this something that you, man,
I need to know, I need a sign like Gideon, like,
You know, the sheepskin wet one day, like undeniable sign.
(40:47):
What helps you stay doubt-free in a marriage?
Speaker 7 (40:53):
I have a small thing, but we did premarital counseling
before we got married with a wonderful biblical counselor.
Speaker 4 (41:04):
Shout out Dr.
Speaker 3 (41:05):
DeMerchant.
Speaker 7 (41:06):
Yeah, Dr. D. And he gave us the wonderful advice
of using... the D word, is that what we say,
as a word that's never used. You never go there.
You never say it. You never use it as a weapon.
It's just not allowed. And it's not allowed in our house.
It's not allowed in arguments. It's not allowed because it
(41:28):
does no good. And if you start using it as
a weapon, you start creating doubt. And we both agreed
on that.
Speaker 3 (41:34):
I think it was like four months into dating after
Sean moved to Nashville. I read Tim Keller's book, The
Meaning of Marriage.
Speaker 1 (41:41):
Have you read this? Yeah.
Speaker 6 (41:42):
Oh, dude.
Speaker 7 (41:43):
Wonderful book.
Speaker 3 (41:43):
And then I was like, Sean, we got to read
this together. Because if we're looking at marriage.
Speaker 7 (41:48):
Four months into dating, he gave me this book.
Speaker 1 (41:50):
I was like, shoot or shoot.
Speaker 7 (41:51):
Are you going to propose?
Speaker 4 (41:53):
Precision.
Speaker 1 (41:54):
There it is again. I'm telling you.
Speaker 3 (41:56):
Just like to define what we're talking about, though, is
so helpful. And I think it's so fascinating how he
paints marriage as like the highest stakes, highest cost of
exit relationship. Which is, that's the way it's supposed to
be because it gets freaking slimy up in here.
Speaker 1 (42:12):
You know what I'm saying? It's brutal.
Speaker 4 (42:14):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
Thank you guys for watching In the Weeds or listening
to In the Weeds or however you get In the Weeds.
We will see you guys next time. Bye, everybody.
Speaker 5 (42:22):
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