January 22, 2026 • 49 mins
Amy and Kat read two very different but deeply connected listener emails. The first comes from a new listener sharing a powerful, tender moment she had with her mom shortly before she passed away from cancer. The second email is from a mom preparing to leave her baby for a two-week work trip for the first time ever. She’s wondering how she’s going to get through it. That opens up a conversation about compartmentalizing feelings and how sometimes the only way forward is to put things in their own little spaces…like a waffle. Along the way, Amy and Kat also wander into first podcasts they ever listened to, the difference between a content creator and an influencer, random home and style tangents (including a sweater belt moment and hanging cowboy hats on the wall), and the comfort of letting conversations be a little messy and a little real.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This reminder. Even though we are answering your questions on
Couch Talks, this podcast does not serve as replacement or
substitute for any actual mental health services.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
To break it down, if you ever have feelings that
you just fons home, Amy and Cat gotcha, Covin, locking
a Brother, ladies and felts, you just follow an the
spirit where it's all us go front over real stuff
to the chill stuff and the m but Swayne, sometimes
(00:26):
the best thing you can do it just stop you
feel things.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
This is Feeling Things with Amy and Kat.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Happy Thursday, Welcome to Couch Talks, the Q and a
episode to our Feeling Things podcast. I'm Amy and I'm Kat,
And today we have an email from Laurie that I'm
going to start off with. We kind of teased about
this one the other day, remember when it came in
like right as we were finishing, and so I pulled
it immediately to save it to go over. But Laurie's
(00:55):
a new listener. I didn't read it that at that moment,
did I?
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Oh, you didn't. You just said that it had something
to do with cancer and that she was.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Yeah, she just started like six listening. Yeah, six episodes deep.
Good morning. I started listening to your podcast recently and
I absolutely love it. I'm only about six episodes deep
and keep thinking about the episode you did with your sister,
episode four about bringing your mom home. Oh my gosh,
it's about four things. This is crazy, this is way back.
(01:26):
You and I both thought, yeah, but how'd she get
our email?
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Because she says, maybe it's in the show notes now.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Or maybe no Instagram. Oh yeah, it's in the show notes, but.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
The show notes would be no. The show notes are
the old show notes from the.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Yeah, okay, so obviously I didn't even I just grabbed it,
copied and pasted it and threw it in our dock.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
And I like, we'll read it on the so Maybe
Talks episode because those show notes would have your four
things email, so she has to be like following us
of some sort to Also, she's smart. She knows that
she's seeing to a podcast from like twenty seventeen, so
she probably was like I should double check this. Okay,
all right, that's so crazy.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Wow, No, okay, let's see. Let me back up a
little bit. Episode You with your Sister, Episode four maybe
about bringing your Mom home. I was about seven months pregnant.
When I lost my mom in two thousand and six
to ovarian cancer and went through very similar circumstances as
you did. What resonated with me the most about your
episode was what the nurses kept telling you. Keep talking
(02:31):
to her, She's still in there. I wanted to be
selfish and not tell my mom that it was okay
to go, because I needed her more than ever at
that point in my life. I finally had to come
to Jesus moment and realized that her pain is far
greater than my need. So on Valentine's Day two thousand
and six, I stood at her bedside, her right side,
and sobbed as I told her it was okay to go.
(02:53):
I mentioned the side I was on because she was
paralyzed on her right side, and as I stood there,
barely able to utter the words, she reached up with
her left hand and reached for my pregnant belly. She
passed early the next morning. Thank you for sharing your
story and all the ones that I'm about to listen to.
It's like free therapy new listener, but old Bobby Bone
(03:14):
Show listener Laurie Gonzalez, which, yeah, I'm most like Glad
that I was surprised by this whole thing, because, like,
you know, had I read it all before, i'd be like, Okay,
here's an email from someone that's starting things way back.
But first of all, it's really special. I just assumed
you were six episodes deep into Feeling Things, which Kat
and I started last April, but yeah, four things started
(03:36):
years ago.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
And wait, so she will she even we need to
email her and tell her that we read this because
she was not going to get to it.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
She's gonna go. She's like, I finally made it to
the Feeling Things launch. So I'm sorry that you two
have gone through something like that with your mom. It's
one of the hardest things I've ever been But what
a special moment you shared with her in those final hours,
and the fact that she was able to reach over
(04:06):
and touch your belly. So thank you for taking the
time to share that, especially as a new listener. And
I can't wait for you to get to Feeling Things.
Some stuff gets real good, yeah, but there are definitely
some nuggets and you'll hear Kat enter into like in
twenty twenty, twenty twenty one or so, Kat comes on as.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Co host on the Fifth Thing it's like a progression.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Yeah, I would be like terrified to go back and
listen to some of those episodes.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
I wish I could just delete everything off of But
then like I don't from you need therapy, yeah, because
I'm like what did I say? And like sometimes when
people are like, oh I went back and listened to
this episode, like if it's a therapy thing from a client,
I'm like, oh gosh, what did I say?
Speaker 3 (04:45):
You know?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Like, but I should trust myself.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
You know. There's that popular trend right now, everyone's posting
their pictures from twenty sixteen because it's in a decade
or whatever.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Well that's not why people. Do you know why people
are doing it?
Speaker 3 (04:57):
I guess I know I figured in ten years.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Well maybe some maybe it's people think that that's why.
But it started because twenty sixteen is like this nostalgic
year when like everything was good. Like there is a
podcast Cake, I talk about her a lot, Kate Kennedy.
Oh there, she did an episode in I think September
and it's just called twenty sixteen and she just reminisces
about twenty sixteen. But it's just a nostalgic year when
(05:21):
like influencing. It was like becoming a thing. And we
were wearing our bubble necklaces and our green like army
coats and our you know, all my Matt lipstick and chokers.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
Our big scarves and our big scarves.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Yeah, they hat little booties, our brunch hats.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
Oh the booties.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Yeah. It's just like a really nostalgic year. Is really
but I think maybe it guess people are thinking that's
a ten year. Maybe that's why some people are doing it.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Yeah, I guess I really, I just knew it was
a thing. And so yeah, she's going way back to.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Wait, when did you start your podcast?
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Twenty seventeen or eighteen? Okay not sixteen didn't even exist yet. Okay,
I did have a podcast in twenty sixteen, though I
was hosting it for somebody else. I mean I was
still on the Bobby Bone Show obviously, so we had
that podcast. But there was a podcast that called Love
What Matters and it highlighted good news and it was
it's a different company, but they brought me in as
(06:17):
the host of that podcast. So that was my first
technically my first podcast hosting gig. Yeah, but it wasn't
really mine.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
What was the first podcast you ever started listening to?
Speaker 4 (06:29):
Do you know?
Speaker 3 (06:30):
Oh? I loved How I Built This from Guy raz.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Oh, I don't think i've ever I thought that was
a show that's a podcast.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
I was listening to it as a podcast, but I
loved that he would just tell you the origin of
certain companies and how they built it.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Wait, no, I listened to that because I listened to
like the Girls that started Class Pass and then the
Girl that started Bumble. I think I did listen to that.
The first podcast I ever listened to was Cereal, like
the first season. Oh yeah, Like I didn't know what
a podcast.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
Was that True Crime. I definitely ate that up.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Yeah for sure, it was so good.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Like Doctor Death.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Oh, I don't listen to that.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
Oh you just listen to it now. It's a scared
one scared yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Which you definitely speaking of true crime, I don't want
to say her name. Okay. I feel this about like
all things like this when they make a documentary about
a bad person, which I feel like most documentaries are
about bad crime or whatever, right, Like, don't you think
a lot of a lot of a lot of the
popular ones. I'm like, Oh, I don't want to like
(07:34):
give more attention to them or fame. So I don't
want to say this person's name, but I have to
because it's the name of the documentary, The True Story
of Jodie Hildebrand. Do you know who that is?
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Was she the like a YouTube mom?
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Really, Frankie was the mom, okay, and then she was
the therapist in quotes life coach person who the kids
were in her basement.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
Okay, that's why they ran away from her same family.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
And I was watching it was when I was on
the treadmill, and I was just on the treadmill crying.
Watch it because it's fascinating, and I think that stuff
also does give awareness in some areas. But also don't
watch it if you like trigger warning for sure.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
It's so sad, sounds like it.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
So I don't know if I'm giving a recommendation or no.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
I think you are. So I think that you're like,
go into it with caution and know that it's heavy
and stuff obviously, but also fascinating evil.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
And this is another This is just a note to
people if you were going to get help from anybody,
whether it be a therapist or a coach or a
Instagram influencer. This is one of the reasons I feel
like I get so caught up on like people not
having the credentials or who gives them the right to
do that, or like not being scammed by people. It's
because she actually at one point, I'm only halfway through it,
(08:54):
but like she was got her license suspended for violating HIPPA,
which is like, don't do that. She worked in like
the Mormon community a lot, and she had like exposed
somebody's like addiction issues to people, and he got like
kicked out of school. Oh my, yeah, So like she
was suspended on a license and she still was able
to practice because she just changed her company from therapy
(09:16):
to coaching. Well that's not cool, right, So like just
be aware of the people that you're getting.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Information from and that you're telling information too. Yes, oh yeah,
because yeah, they may be able to give you information
that's valuable or not. But then also what are they doing?
What are you disclosing?
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Yeahek eek.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
I don't know how we got there.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
I don't know on a light or not. I think
just you said, what's first podcast you ever listened to?
And then I said that then we were in a
true crime and then we went into the show that
you just watched it, and I'm like speaking to evil people,
the Nightingale Hitler, God, he was awful.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
On a lighter note, I saw you exposed me to
something before we started recording this that i'd like to
talk about.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Oh before we get to the next email. Is that out?
Speaker 4 (10:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yes, that's okay, thank you.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
I'm working on it. So you just kind of lifted
your shirt up and took this band off that I
thought was a heart rate monitor? Would It does not
(10:26):
look like that.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
So it's just one of those bands I ordered off Amazon.
And I don't know what it's called technically, but I
call it a sweater belt, So what else would Yeah?
I don't think that idle cropper. Maybe I don't know
what it is called, but it does look like a
heart rate monitor, and it's adjustable and you put it
around your waist and then you can tuck your sweater
(10:48):
into it so you don't have to tuck your sweater
down into your pants and make it boldy.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Or sometimes I've tucked my sweater into my brosstrap right
and then too high, sometimes.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Too high, But this you can wear down low and
it looks as though your sweaters in your pants, but
it's not. It's tucked into the sweater belt.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
And I can attest to this. I had no idea
you had to. It looked like the sweater. It looked
just like a little cropped sweater. And now it looks
like you're wearing a whole different sweater. So it makes
your out, It makes your clothes two in one.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Yeah, extended my closet a little bit and I got
two sweaters for one. Is it mine? Five?
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Well, because it's adjustable, so you just make it fit.
It doesn't have to be really tight for the sweater
to like fold up into it.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
That reminds me of I was on TikTok the other
day and I was targeted with this thing called sweater
pulling or pulling your sweater?
Speaker 3 (11:35):
What is that?
Speaker 1 (11:37):
I thought the same thing. It was this girl and
she kept being like, this is me before pulling my sweater,
this is me after, and it looked so different, but
I was like, it's the same sweater. What is going on?
I was so confused. So basically, you can do this
with any sweater, especially after you wash a sweater and
(11:57):
people are taking their sweaters putting them in lukewarm water,
soaking them, and then you squeeze all the water out.
You don't wring it because that will like mess up
the sweater. And then they roll it up in a
towel and they squeeze more water out, and then they
roll it out on a surface and they pin it.
So if you have sweaters that like the sleeves are
(12:20):
like sometimes your sweater sleeves get like weird or whatever,
or like when you wash it, it kind of shrinks
and it gets a little bit like you know, misshaped.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Yeah, So you just get it really wet and then
you pull it, put it all out on a mat,
and you pin it to be the shape you want
it to be, and then it stays that way. It
seems kind of like dub But like I didn't know
people were doing.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
This, well, I did not know that was the thing.
I don't know that I would have thought to do it.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
And instead of throwing out us if your sweater, like
I've had favorite sweaters and I'm like, oh, it's like
message shape out weird. You just get it wet and
pin it the way you want it, so.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
You're reshaping it. It's sort of like shaping a hat,
which did you know if, like your cowboy hat, it
has been misshapen, Like when I'm moved the way my
cowboy hats were packed. By the time I got to
my new house and I was unpacking in my closet,
I was like, oh my gosh, the rims all my
hats are all wonky. And I thought, oh, maybe I
(13:12):
need to go to a hat shop because some of
the hats are really nice and I like to wear
them to work things. I'm like, I need to make
sure this is fixed. Well, I got on YouTube and
found a video, and you take the hat, you go
over I have a kettle and you heat up water
and then you lift up the little lid where the
when the water's coming out, lift it up and the
(13:33):
steam's shooting out, and you have this perfect little steamer
over your stove and you just move your hat around
it and get the the brim of the hat a
little a little hot, and then you shape it into
whatever you want and then put it down. And it
was that easy, Like I thought I was gonna have
to take it to.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
And pay like one hundred dollars or whatever, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
To have someone shape my hat. And then I shaped
it myself.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
I have gotten like very lost on Camille's videos, like
not losses and like I don't get it, but like
lost in watching them.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
Camille from Ambiguds, Yes.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Her videos of her cleaning old hats because she has
a vintage shop and she has all these hats, and
then she'll show you how she took a hat from
like looking like garbage to like looking like something somebody
would want to buy. It's so cool. Time consuming, time consuming.
Don't know that I would be able to have the patience.
Speaker 3 (14:24):
For it, but like, yeah, because some of it should
be like this had to soak for twenty four hours.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Literally, I'm like, oh, it was the time.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
But it does look really cool, especially if you like
vintage hats, because some of the hats are really cool
from you know, seventies, eighties, nineties, a hat that's so
unique you're not gonna find it, Like you could show
up to do a game being like, I've got a
cool hat on. But when you see it, when it's
dirty from like someone's garage, been on the floor for decades.
But then she turns it into she gives a little love, Yeah,
(14:53):
brings it back to life.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
She's probably so good at laundry. If I don't know,
you probably is not kidding. Next time I get like
a weird saying, I'm gonna have to text her.
Speaker 3 (15:02):
Be like, hey, Camille, I saw what you did to
that hat? Can you can you?
Speaker 1 (15:05):
Can you help me catchup out of my sweater?
Speaker 3 (15:10):
For sure? For sure? Forshizzle? Who am I fishizzle? A drizzle? Mizzle?
Speaker 1 (15:16):
Who am I flavorflying?
Speaker 4 (15:17):
No?
Speaker 3 (15:18):
No, no, forshizzle fishizzle my nestle fishizzle.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Give me a hint.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
Snoop Dogg? Shoot, why does Snoop.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Dogg harry an umbrella? Because of the drizzle full drizzle?
Speaker 3 (15:34):
We have another email? Uh it is anonymous? I believe.
I guess you put it in there? Is it anonymous? Okay?
By request, you're just making my decision. I don't know
executive decision.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Well, I don't know if it was, and so I'm
just saying it is.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
Went in doubt going on a nanny Nanni No, oh,
do you know what enormy is like a normal I
saw a picture of John Mayer out and people were
trying to figure out who the girl was, and they
were like, she's a normy, Oh, I not famous person,
Like she's just someone from LA not an influencer, not
a famous person, not an actress, not a singer. She's
(16:13):
just a normy. Wait and I was like a normy
got to go on a date with John Mayer.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
I thought he was dating Cat Stickler. Was that a rumor?
Speaker 3 (16:21):
No, I think they were dating. I don't know if
they still are. Maybe they are, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
But she's not Amy, She's not.
Speaker 3 (16:26):
That's what I mean. Like she's an influencer or a
content creator slash influencer service, But I mean she makes
a lot of she puts a lot of work into
her a little, not little, I don't want to downplay it,
but to her, I guess little because they're shorts like
a like a real she's funny, the comedy sketches, like
she has to put a lot of work into that.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Yeah, I guess influencing and content creator is different. And
yuse they're saying people it's an influencer. Wait, wait, hold on,
gotta work through this. A content a content influencer, a
content creator does not equal an influencer, but an influencer
equals a content creator or is that backwards means backwards?
Speaker 3 (17:08):
But I have I have dyslexia. A content creator does
not know content creat No, they all are influencers.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
I think some influencers are content creators.
Speaker 3 (17:20):
Yes, because not all influencers are content creators. They may
think that they are, but I don't think like.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
You might think you're a content creator.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
But I say that in the most I say that
in a loving way, like I don't, I don't, I
don't know. I'm not like saying this is black and white.
But I think some people if they are just sharing
their setting up a camera and like filming twenty stories
a day of their driving in a car, and then
they're at their house and then they're unloading groceries and
(17:52):
then you know they're like, oh, try on this outfit,
that's an influencer.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Yeah, but they are creating content, but not in the
way that a content create.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
Some people on YouTube or like Cat is doing it
because she's there's some creators that are.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Coming up with a cat stickler Cat like wait what.
Speaker 3 (18:13):
Like skits yes, that have nothing to do with her day.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
To day, like she's a comedian. I feel like of
sorts she's come.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
So that's what I mean by content creator in that sense.
Of course, there's people content creators with podcasts. There's content
creators on YouTube.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
We're content creators in our own way. Yes, that would
never call myself that.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
Yeah, because by day you're a therapist. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
But we've talked about this recently. We're like, I'm working
on that. You're has to be a podcaster, Okay, is
a podcaster a content creator? Is a content yes, yes,
but I would but the more niche way to say
that would be podcasters.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
This is riveting, but do you see how But not
every influencer, and I don't think every influencer would be like, oh, yeah,
I'm a content creator. They would be like, oh yeah, no,
I just filmed myself doing things and post links. Yeah,
like sick and try to connect and talk with people
like an influence.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Let's read this Normy's email.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
We don't know if this is anony me Anon ananik
A Nani Ananni anonymous and a little under two months,
I will be going away for the first time since
my daughter was born. My husband and I have taken
weekend trips together without her, but I've never gone more
than three days without seeing her since she was born
(19:28):
sixteen months ago. I will be on my own. It's
a work trip, so my husband isn't going, and I'm
gonna be gone for two weeks. I'm in the process
of weaning my daughter right now to ensure that there
is plenty of time for hormones to adjust before I leave,
and so she's not adjusting to that while I'm gone.
I guess my question is, when I'm gone, should I
(19:49):
be compartmentalizing these feelings that I'm predicting I'm going to
be having a missing her or should I be processing
them as I go for my job. I'm gonna be
relied heavy upon, and quite honestly, I'm going to be
living in a tent for those two weeks, so I
may not even have the opportunity to call, and it's
really freaking me out how I may react once I'm
out there on my own. I don't want to let
(20:10):
my team down when I'm out there in the field,
but I also know that I will be having a
lot of emotions. Any insight you guys could offer would
be great. Wow, I kind of want to know what
she's gonna be doing in a tent.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
Literally, that was my thoughts for two weeks.
Speaker 3 (20:24):
Like her job sells interesting.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Do you think she's an archaeologist. Maybe that was my
first thought. Or maybe she's like going and doing like
volunteer medical work somewhere.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Yeah, and her team is going to be relying on her.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Maybe she's giving like glasses to kids somewhere in a
country where they can't afford them, and she's going to
be giving kids eyesight. Yeah, could be anything. Okay, so
we're going to answer your email, and so we would
like to in return to know what you're going to
be doing for two weeks.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
If you can share, yeah, I guess because she's a nanny, Well.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
We won't have to share it with everybody else. I
just want to know for myself.
Speaker 3 (21:01):
Yeah, oh okay, yeah, just tell us.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
But also if you're like, if this is like a
top secret mission, I get it.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
And also if you want healthy parasocial relationship boundaries were cool,
Sure you don't able to tell us.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Oh yeah, but mine now we need to know.
Speaker 3 (21:13):
And I think that whatever advice Cat's about to give,
because she's the therapist, I'm throwing this one to her.
It's like for anybody that has something coming up where
you're already sort of predicting what you're going to feel
like when you don't even really know what it's going
to be like, but you have this anticipation of these
certain feelings that you're certain are going to be there,
(21:34):
whether it's separation from you know, loved ones or insert xyz,
it could be other things that you're future tripping over. Yeah,
but this is obvious. She knows, she's never left before,
so there's definitely going to be high emotions there.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
And sometimes I think to what you say, like, yeah,
obviously she's gonna have emotions, and sometimes the anticipation of
those emotions can be worse than the actual things, right. Yeah,
So my thoughts are I can't tell you exactly the
right thing to do because I would need more information
and I would never tell somebody what to do in general. However,
I do want people to know that I feel like
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compartmentalizing gets a bad reputation, Like compartmentalizing is not a
bad thing to do. It's actually a very healthy coping skill,
and it's a very normal coping skill. It's one that
a lot of people can access. The problem with compartmentalizing
is when we use it to like completely avoid things,
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we don't ever come back to them. So I'm sure
you've had a bad day and then you have to
go to work the next morning.
Speaker 3 (22:35):
Yeah, you have to set it aside. So it makes
me think of that book. And I'm not recommending the book.
I'm not even really referring the book. It just my
brain always goes to this, and I think of compartmentalizing
because of the book. Men are like waffles and women
are like spaghetti.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
I've never heard of that mata for Mars and women
are from Venus.
Speaker 4 (22:52):
What I don't know?
Speaker 3 (22:53):
Am I making it up?
Speaker 1 (22:54):
I've never heard of can you what?
Speaker 3 (22:56):
I'll google it while you're talking in a minute, Spaghetti?
Speaker 1 (22:59):
Yes, I say in that men.
Speaker 3 (23:01):
It like we're all wired differently, and it's not black
and white that all men are this and all women
are that. But women, like, our emotions are very intertwined, entangled,
like we feel in a lot of different ways, and
it impacts other things because we and I feel like
that's okay, but we're driven emotionally and it gets very
yeah like spaghetti, yeah right, okay, whereas men can be
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very like, Okay, this is my waffle, and I got
this year and this year and this year, and I'm
able to keep all my emotions in everything, my personal
my business separate.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Yeah, I love that metaphor. That might just be a metaphor.
You sure's a book.
Speaker 3 (23:37):
I'm about to look it up, don't you work your
pretty little face. Obviously, that's why I was like, I'm
not a book, We're gonna write it. I'm not recommending
the book because I have not read the book. That's
why I was like, don't take this the wrong way,
because I don't know. It could be a horrible book
but or non existent. But I feel like early in
my marriage, like it was recommended. So you go ahead
and keep talking and I'm gonna google.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
Okay. I was going to say, it might be helpful
for you to think about things that would soothe you
during the two weeks, because in a perfect world, be
awesome if you could compartmentalize for two weeks and not
think about your daughter. But I highly doubt for two
whole weeks you're going to be able to do that,
And if we're doing it for a prolonged period of
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time like that, it might backfire. However, we can kind
of compartmentalize during the day or during the times that
you said you're going to be highly relied upon. So
are there ways that you can kind of distract yourself
for those moments and then when you do have downtime
or if there is a period of time you might
not be able to call your daughter or call your husband.
But are there things that you want to be prepared
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with to able to self soothe whatever feelings are coming up?
So that could just be like bringing pictures or bringing
like something that smells like her, or bringing something that
like having videos on your phone that you can watch
of her or maybe you can't. It said that she
might not have a phone, but like, could your husband
send you videos every day of things like that might
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be really helpful. So like, yes, compartmentalized during certain times
and then sometimes allow yourself to be in the moment. Yeah,
you feel your feelings.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
I love that advice a lot, especially like the taking
of the pictures and having something near like a little
blanket or something she can snuggle up with and sleep
at night that's like one of her daughters. And also
this might make me sound like.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
A terrible mom.
Speaker 3 (25:29):
I also have the perspective that I adopted and I
didn't carry a child and give birth right. I adopted
older kids. They were seven and eleven when they came here.
And I love them dearly. I would do anything to
make sure they're okay.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
Right, are you like trying to prove that you're a mom?
What are you about to back me up?
Speaker 3 (25:53):
But you know I do have I do, but like
also I don't know again because I don't have that
birth connection that like, oh, I've not been separated from
my baby since it was born for like longer than
seventy two hours. Yeah, I don't. I don't have that.
So I'm thinking, like, girl, enjoy the break. Yeah, like
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what this sounds.
Speaker 4 (26:15):
I mean, I know it's a work trip, but like
it might be and I know you're gonna be in
a tent, so yeah, I don't know what to sleep
it's gonna be like, but I'm like, I'm like two
weeks of uninterrupted sleep at night, like or like, how
can you maybe look at some of the pro games?
Speaker 3 (26:32):
Not that it's a pro that you're away from.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Your kid, but also yeah, what are you get like?
Speaker 3 (26:37):
And then and then also your team is relying on you.
You have this other identity, Like, yes, being a mom
is your identity, but your career is part of who
you are too. And I don't know what this trip is.
But Kat and I are making of the scenario that
it's fabulous and so and you're changing the world, So like,
celebrate whatever it is you get to go do for
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two weeks too, and have that perspective of this is
something really cool and you're leading a team, and that
you are able to step away into it and that
your husband's able to stay back and give you this opportunity, unless,
of course it's something that you're dreading and you don't
want to go and you hate your job. But I
don't know. Then we have a whole other conversation, a
whole we have a whole other issue. But I guess
that's what I was thinking. It was making me feel
like a bad mom.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
But I would be like, see us, But I would
maybe feel that if my child was older, and when
I don't know, I'm not a mom, so I can't
say this for sure, but I would be curious about that.
And if I was going to like the Ritz Carlton
she's going to attend.
Speaker 3 (27:32):
I know, I I do.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
I'm respective of like, look at what you're getting to
do versus what you're focusing on.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
What you're going to be missing right, which I do understand,
Like I don't have that hormonal attachment like I don't,
so I totally get where you're coming from. I guess
I was just thinking, like, why would be fine?
Speaker 1 (27:53):
You also made up a book, so no, I didn't.
It's a book.
Speaker 3 (27:56):
It's for real. Huh. Yeah. Men are like waffles, women
are like speak understanding and delighting in your differences. This
book is written by Bill and Pam Ferrell. It's a
Christian relationship book that uses the metaphor of waffles because
men compartmentalized life and spaghetti for women who connect everything
to explain differences in male and female thinking and communication,
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offering practical advice for improving marriage and other relationships through
biblical wisdom, humor, and exercises so that tracks.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
I am curious did that come out before? Men are
from Mars and Women are for Venus, because it seems
a little copyrighting, like if I wrote a book.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
They didn't say when men are from waffles or I
guess men.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
Are likely that's like Tomato's tomatoes though, right, Like I
feel like if I wrote men are from Mars and
women are from Venus, that's the title, right.
Speaker 3 (28:47):
This came out in January two thousand and one. I
don't know if that was the original. Oh my gosh.
There's so many different like versions editions, So two knows
of two thousand and one is even the earliest, like
there could be. There's a lot of different additions, but
it's like five bucks.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
So maybe it didn't get it probably didn't get the hype.
It wasn't I don't know. It just feels like copyright infringement.
But also maybe I'm just creating drama when drama does
not exist.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Imagine that, so like nobody can say anything like men
are like this and women are like that. Because of
the Venus and.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
Mars, we've never nobody can do it ever again see them.
Speaker 3 (29:23):
But yeah, waffle, waffle, this trip up, Get your compartments ready.
Take some waffles with you as a as a reminder
you can do it.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
Do you like waffles? I would you rather have a
pancake or a waffle? Mmm?
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Yeah? I know it is such a hard question, but
I think a waffle from my waffle maker. For my
birthday in two thousand and nineteen, I got a waffle maker.
I'll never forget you.
Speaker 1 (30:10):
Ask for the Yeah, okay, I was like, imagine getting
that and you didn't want it and it's like.
Speaker 3 (30:14):
The clad like it's from Williams Sonoma.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
I was like religious flipped over like they haven't.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
I felt so legit. I haven't used it much since,
but but you have it. I loved it. No, I
don't know that it like from I don't have like
a specific restaurant.
Speaker 1 (30:30):
But but you know the waffle makers they have it
like a Continental breakfast and it flips. I think those
are cool.
Speaker 3 (30:36):
Those are legit. I just like the way the butter
goes into the little holes.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
Or the little or the little compartment apartment. So that's
why you like a waffle.
Speaker 3 (30:45):
Yeah, what are you?
Speaker 1 (30:46):
I think I'm pancake. I think I'm pancaked. Well, specifically
from this restaurant called Bubby's in New York City.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
I've never been there.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Oh my god. We bought t shirts. We love this kidding, Like,
so what does the T shirt look like? It says Bubbies.
It's like a dark green it says Bubbies, and it
has a stack of pancakes. It's really cute.
Speaker 3 (31:09):
I got a hat in New York from Leon's Bagels
and a pair of.
Speaker 1 (31:13):
Socks, and that was a cute hat.
Speaker 3 (31:15):
It's a cute hat and The socks are pretty cute too,
but those bagels are legit. That's the bagel I brought
back to you from New York. I flew it all
the way home and then brought it to you the
next day in a ziplog bag.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
And it was still good. It's still good. But these
pancakes are sour cream pancakes, which I don't need any
more information because I don't want to know. Yeah, I
don't want to know.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
Cap doesn't like anything white, by the way, she hates
her raise. She doesn't like ranch. She doesn't like sour cream.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
I like ranch, you do.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
I thought you didn't like anything white.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
I like ranch, like on a ranch with salad dressing.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
Okay, I've I corrected.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
Yea, you don't like mayonnaise.
Speaker 3 (31:57):
I don't like mayonnaise or sour cream or sour cream
cream cheese. Okay, Sorry, I was confused that I thought
you didn't like ranch.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
It's like talking, yeah, but I also don't want to
talk about what ranch is made out of, because I.
Speaker 3 (32:09):
Know it is. Because if you get a ranch packet
like Hin Valley Ranch to packet and make your own ranch,
you have to mix it.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
Don't bring it up okay, but I'm just like, that's
like saying, nah, no, it's not because it's like I
don't like eggs, but I eat cake. There's eggs and cake.
Speaker 3 (32:27):
Okay, that's right, that's true. Okay, fair, carry on.
Speaker 1 (32:32):
Well, I was just gonna say it's it feels nice
to reminisce about Bubbies because the pancakes were so good.
I can almost taste them. The first time we went there,
I just randomly picked it, and apparently it's just like
I mean, there's always like a line out the door
to wait to get in. Best pancake I've ever had
my life. In my life, I haven't had that many pancakes,
but it is the best one I've ever had. We
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went again this year and it was a It was
the best meal I think I had in New York City.
Is the pancakes crazy?
Speaker 3 (32:58):
That is crazy?
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Oh that's true. I ate a lot of good stuff, but.
Speaker 3 (33:02):
There was a lot of good food there. What's that
one place you went to and then you recommend it
to me? So I went to it and it was
so beautiful and decked out in flowers.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
Lily's Victorian. It's a bar and they also have surf
tea so you can have like high tea there. H
And they decorate it every season. It's like different and
it's like floor to ceiling decorations. The Christmas Chef's kiss,
there's like penguins in the sky.
Speaker 3 (33:24):
Yeah. I mean I went in the summer and it
was so it was like August, September and whatever decor
they had. I feel like it was like Bridgerton vibes
or something.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
There was like flowers everywhere.
Speaker 3 (33:34):
Oh my god, It's like it so pretty.
Speaker 1 (33:36):
Lily's Victorian like and it's like naked vibe is Bridgerton
because it's like tea and cute and antique. But it
had pink flowers everywhere when you went, because you sent
me a picture.
Speaker 3 (33:50):
Oh yeah, it was so stunning, Like it's worth going
just to look at it.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
Take it in.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
Like I don't even know how they do that.
Speaker 4 (33:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:58):
This year, all I got there was a I ate
coke and it was still worth it to go.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
You went there and you're like, one die coke please.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
Well, Patrick got a drink, but I just wanted to
go sit in the vibes of Christmas.
Speaker 3 (34:10):
So favorite diet coke ever.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
McDonald McDonald, I know the runner up would probably be
Sonic because they have good ice.
Speaker 3 (34:23):
Chick fil A has good ice too, but I I.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
Know I almost said that, but I have an affinity
for Sonic because I grew up with Sonic and it
like is nostalgic.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
I know, it's like, ye, no, I get it that
Sonic has a good one. You know what I did
with my Chick fil A order this week that I
have never done before, but it's pretty legit and I'm
gonna do it again. Tell me, I got a mac
and cheese and I got an order of nuggets, regular nuggets, fried,
not grilled. The grilled nuggets been creeping me out a
little bit, I.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
Told you, Like, I've been getting the hebgbs from them too.
Speaker 3 (34:52):
And so I don't know what it is because I
used to eat them no problem. And you know they
changed their fry recipe, which is good. They changed it
for the better.
Speaker 1 (34:58):
Wait what Yeah, the fries.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
Are better now that you have like some like extra
coating on it. That just makes it better. Since I
don't know my taste buds could recognize it, I have
and then I googled it and sure enough, but I
notice that I noticed it just as one of my
talents and then and then I googled it, and You're right,
my suspicions were correct. They did alter their fry recipe
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a little bit. Then maybe they also did something with
their grilled nugget recipe, because I feel like I used
to be able to eat them and now they are
grossing me out.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
It's inconsistent. Sometimes you get a really good batch and
there are no weird parts, because it was when chicken
has a weird part, it just throws everything off, everything off.
Speaker 3 (35:42):
So I guess I'm clarifying that for this concoction, you
need you go og nugs. So you get the chicken nuggets,
you get the mac and cheese, and then when I
got home, you take get some your kitchen scissors out
and cut the nugs up so like each nugget, maybe
you cut it into four so it makes little teeny
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tiny nutsnugs, and then dump the mac and cheese in
a bowl and then dump all your little teeny tiny
nuggets in the full and stir it together. And then
I added just a dollup of Heinz ketchup because like
I asked for some from the store because I'm out
at my house and I'm only clarifying that because Cat
asked for Ketchup earlier and I didn't have any, and
I felt so bad because I love Ketchup.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
So I was eating Chick fil A nugs. I forgot
to ask for ketchup. Wait, you put the ketchup in.
Speaker 3 (36:28):
Just a little bit.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Okay, just a little bit, not a lot.
Speaker 3 (36:30):
You don't want to overdo it, don't put the whole packet.
But for me, I just like that extra zing okay,
zing zing pal and I love Ketchup. If you don't
love ketchup, you could maybe just eat as is, or
do a little extra sea salt on top. It'd be
good to go. Maybe then a little ranch would be good,
but maybe not. Yeah, don't quote me on that, but
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I'm getting that again. Like I loved it so much.
It was so comforting.
Speaker 1 (36:57):
That sounds really good. But I don't like mac and cheese.
It's my problem.
Speaker 3 (37:00):
Oh, I got a diet coke. I love what I'm like.
Can I get some fried nuggets? A mac and cheese
die coke? Sat?
Speaker 1 (37:09):
I got today at Chick fil A. This is what
I've been getting is a Chick fil A chicken noodle
soup because it's the best chicken noodle soup there is
and if you don't know that, now you know and
you should go get it right now. And I always
get a side of nuggets for like extra because I
feel like there's not sometimes there's not a lot of
chicken in the chicken noodle soup. And I had been
getting the grilled and you can attest to that because
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I bring it over every other week.
Speaker 3 (37:33):
I know every time you're on your war where she's like,
I'm gonna stop by Chick fil A on the way
if you want anything, And I was like, oh, I
just had Chick fil A this week. Which that's the
thing too, is it's so savory, the mac and cheese
and the nuggets. It's like a lot that it's like
you get your fixed and you're like, Okay, I'm sad
a little bit, I'm satisfied, and then maybe I'll crave
it again next week.
Speaker 1 (37:50):
But today I did switch to the fried nuggets because
same thing. I've been just feeling weird about them. Not
to give anybody else food fears.
Speaker 3 (37:58):
No, if you're not feared viom, that's fine. Maybe it's
just our local Chick fil as.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
I'm also the kind of person who cuts up a
chicken breast and like end up using like half of
it because of all the weird parts of the chicken.
Speaker 3 (38:10):
Yeah, So, which Cat and I are going out to
eat together tonight, like on a double date.
Speaker 1 (38:16):
I wonder what we're gonna get with our boyfriends? Almost
said a husband.
Speaker 3 (38:20):
I'm like, no, not be true. Just your boyfriend, Kat's husband,
my boyfriend. I really even loving cutting up food. I'm like,
what else do you watch tonight at dinner? Pull out
your kitchen, bust out my scissors, and I'm like, it's
just so much faster than cutting and like some people
I saw someone on TikTok do that with pizza, especially
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for their kids, just like instead just like get out
scissors and then just like cut these chunks of pizza
for your kids and like make a plate instead of
like especially if you bake the pizza yourself, and that's smart. Yeah, Oh,
have you ever I'm bring my scissors tonight.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
Have you watched.
Speaker 3 (38:59):
I'm just kidding, We're going to have like a kind
of a nice restaurant.
Speaker 1 (39:03):
Have you seen I think it's baked by Melissa? Her
videos videos of her making foods. Yeah, sometimes have you
seen her making the pizza salad. Yes, okay, I did
that and I really liked it. So her left of
her pizza. She cut it up, tossed it in the
air fryer, get it crispy, and then like the little
chunks of pizza are like your krutons. And then I
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put it in a caesar salad.
Speaker 3 (39:25):
Oh I didn't see that part.
Speaker 4 (39:27):
I've seen her like put the salad salad on top
of pizza and eat it like the pizzas the bowl.
Speaker 1 (39:33):
I saw that too.
Speaker 3 (39:34):
That's smart. She made the pizza the little kreutons her probably.
That sounds like she has a lot of little creative
things in the kitchen that she does.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
It was good.
Speaker 3 (39:42):
Sick. Well, I'm excited about our date night tonight, and
especially when we're going except for a cat and her husband.
They have other plans too, So Kat's like, I think
you're going to be there for an hour and a half,
which is totally fine, but do you think we're going
to be able to Okay, so it all.
Speaker 1 (39:58):
First of all, it's not I have other plans that
I'm like ditching you for. It's like I have to
do something time.
Speaker 3 (40:04):
Yeah, and I totally get that. I'm not even hating
on you for it, but I was like, Okay, I
don't want to feel rushed, like how do we do it?
So we should look at the menu before we get
there so you don't waste time.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
Well, so I already I told Patrick this. I was like, Patrick,
because we talked about doing something closer to our house.
Speaker 3 (40:21):
I know. But then what happened was my boyfriend went
ahead and snagged this reservation because it was available, and
it's like get them, and we really wanted to go there.
And then I was like, well, I'll just invite Patrick. Patrick.
But that's why I gave you two outs two different times.
Speaker 1 (40:36):
Like yeah, do you not want me to come? I know,
I take a hint.
Speaker 3 (40:42):
But what I said to you yesterday was like, sometimes
you just want to like make sure that your not
that you need permission, Like if it really was inconvenient,
you'd be like, hey, it's just not a good time, right,
like you feel safe and to say that. So I
wanted to make sure, like, hey, if you need permission,
I'm giving it to you, Like don't come, but I
want you to come.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
Well, no, I don't feel I don't feel like it's
inconvenient at all. And when I said to Patrick, I
was like, we're gonna have to leave it like seven
to fifteen, so we're only going to have like an
hour and forty five minutes. And he goes, that's like
a normal time to eat dinner. Oh okay, they were
going to an early dinner, so it's not like we
would be there till like nine pm. Right, Yeah, I
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would like want to flip the table. No, you're gonna
order anything else, because like we got out the reservation,
I know, we could just talk for a long time,
so I guess for guys, yeah, I know. So my
hope is we can get there on time so we
can savor every second.
Speaker 3 (41:35):
But let's look at the menu before.
Speaker 1 (41:38):
Well I have an idea of what I want already.
Ooh what for advertizers? The potstickers? Okay, have you had them?
Speaker 3 (41:46):
I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (41:47):
They're so good.
Speaker 3 (41:49):
So there's this place in Nashville on twelve South called
the Henry, And if y'all live here or you come
to town, it's definitely a place to like at least
go grab a drink.
Speaker 1 (41:56):
Yeah, so cute. It's really cute.
Speaker 3 (41:58):
Like they have a little rooftop area too, where they've
got the bar upstairs and and the bar downstairs is cute.
Oh that the bar downstairs is really cute to You're right, yeah,
so either place, it's definitely something to put on your
list to go and either yeah, get a drink and
an appetizer or have a meal. But it's on the yeah,
the nicer side of things. But I'm excited to go,
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and we're being intentional, we're going out. That's one thing
Alex and I were really working on, inspired by you
and Patrick, and I know you've encouraged for a long
time of like just pretend you are a guest in
your own city kind of thing. Like we're on vacation,
So tonight are we on vacation? Are where were going
to be from? Where are we from?
Speaker 1 (42:43):
Double date vacation. We're going on vacation with each other?
Speaker 3 (42:45):
Yeah, except for we all have to leave early. Wait,
where are we from?
Speaker 1 (42:53):
Somewhere? Like random?
Speaker 3 (42:55):
Like we're from Oregon.
Speaker 1 (42:58):
That almost feels too cool, Okay, Like we're from like
North Dakota, South Dakota.
Speaker 3 (43:03):
I've never been to either.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
Neither have I. So maybe that's not good because if
people ask us questions.
Speaker 3 (43:07):
It's really cold there right now.
Speaker 1 (43:09):
Be like we needed to escape the cold. Yeah, and
we can be like, it's so hot here kidding.
Speaker 3 (43:14):
Our server is not going to ask where are y'all from?
Speaker 1 (43:16):
Yes, say my, They're going to say have you ever
been here before?
Speaker 3 (43:19):
And we have?
Speaker 1 (43:20):
Oh, so we say we could lie. We could say no,
we're from out of town, and they're going to say
where are you from? And then we're going to say
North Dakota, South Dakota, Oregon, And.
Speaker 3 (43:32):
Then Alex san Patrick can be like, what are y'all
talking about?
Speaker 1 (43:35):
It's top.
Speaker 3 (43:36):
I feel like they would go they would play along
yeah okay, and be like, we don't even know each other.
We just decided to come here.
Speaker 1 (43:45):
Speaking of not knowing each other, what would you do?
What would you do if you were at a restaurant? Okay,
I'm setting the scene. We're in New York City. We're
in line for this Chinese restaurant called whoa Hoap So Good.
We also bought T shirts there. I literally, I'm not kidding.
(44:05):
I didn't buy anything in New York except at their
north Strom rack and then at restaurants.
Speaker 3 (44:10):
T shirts from Woe Hop, whoa Hop and Bubby's Bubby's.
Speaker 1 (44:14):
Okay, so we're in line for this Asian restaurant and
it's in a basement and it's really small, so it's
kind of like one in, one out. But there was
a line probably like the thirty to forty people deep.
So we're on line, we're waiting, blah blah blah. This
guy comes who's a local. He comes to himself and
as the people are like giving us tickets and numbers,
(44:35):
He's like, I'm just one person, so I can sit
with one of y'all. He kept saying, like I'm only
one to skip the line. He was like, I'm only
one person, so I can sit with one of these parties.
What would you do if somebody tried to sit with
you at a restaurant?
Speaker 3 (44:52):
Would you depends on am I on a date with John?
Speaker 1 (44:55):
Vacation with your boyfriend's slash husband?
Speaker 3 (44:58):
But not I'm not with a group.
Speaker 1 (45:00):
No, it's just you and your partner.
Speaker 3 (45:03):
I don't think I like that, but I feel I
guess I feel bad saying that, but.
Speaker 1 (45:07):
Like he's been intrusive though, I think, Okay, if it's
like somebody who doesn't is like a loaner and doesn't
you can tell that like they need company and they
need relationship. That's one thing. But if somebody's trying to
skip a line that you've been waiting in for an hour, I.
Speaker 3 (45:23):
Mean, yeah, that's kind of ridiculous. I'm trying to think
there's this restaurant in San Francisco. Oh, I think this
is a house of Nanking.
Speaker 1 (45:33):
Oh that sounds nice.
Speaker 3 (45:34):
Golly, I think that that's it, but maybe not. But
you go and you eat with strangers, like you just
get put at a table, but it's a communal eating
the vibe. And then also not only that.
Speaker 1 (45:48):
You don't share the food.
Speaker 3 (45:49):
You well, yeah, you just oh whatever the chef recommends,
Like you don't have to do that. But we were
recommended this place by friends that said what you do
as you go in and just say whatever the chef
says and then they just bring stuff out to you. No,
I could never do that, and we waited in line.
When you were telling that story, I was like, oh,
this sounds like this place in San Francisco, except for
(46:11):
we actually did eat with strangers. No, this is not
that that way and house of Nan King. When I
typed in those keywords Chinese restaurant, San Francisco, popular Red District.
Maybe chef recommends what to order the house if nanking
come came up, those are the keywords I type.
Speaker 1 (46:29):
Oh you typed that. I thought you said that's what
came up when you said name Nan King.
Speaker 3 (46:32):
No, I just typed what I'm looking at pictures and
like do just that even looked like what it was?
I don't remember. But the food was so freaking amazing.
Speaker 1 (46:43):
So if he brought it, the chef brings a dish out,
you're like putting some on your plate and passing it
to a stranger.
Speaker 3 (46:50):
Yeah, I guess that's the vibe. I don't really remember.
Or this was a long time ago, like shoot, what
year was this? Probably two thousand and eight.
Speaker 1 (47:01):
Maybe it's not open anymore, that's why you can't find it.
Speaker 3 (47:04):
No, I found house of Name King. I'm like, does that?
But then I'm like, who knows? Maybe someone listening you
know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1 (47:10):
If you know, you know?
Speaker 3 (47:12):
But okay, cool, Well there you go. There we have it,
and now you know. If Kat likes your food, just
can buy two shirt? Do you sleep and never work out?
And then or what.
Speaker 1 (47:24):
The bubbies one? I haven't worn yet because.
Speaker 3 (47:27):
I washed it before. You're gonna wear a good job.
Speaker 1 (47:30):
The Woe Hop one we sleep in. I mean it's
a shirt with it says wohap and there's like a
panda on it.
Speaker 3 (47:35):
It's not like a it's so like is there. You
went there and you're like, I love this place, I
want to get a shirt, or you're like, oh, their
shirts are cute, and get one.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
Their thing is that every year they have a shirt
with like the animal of the year. So like last
year their shirt had a snake on it, and the
first time we went, we got a shirt with the
dragon on it.
Speaker 3 (47:53):
Oh well, I'm glad you got lucky with the panda one.
Wanted the snake one.
Speaker 1 (47:57):
Well, the panda one is their like universal one, so
that's the one they always have. Oh so they don't
start selling them until like February or something. So this
year when we went, Patrick was going to buy a
third shirt, but they didn't have I think, what is
it the year the horse or something? They didn't have
the shirts yet.
Speaker 3 (48:15):
So how did you find these restaurants?
Speaker 1 (48:17):
Anyways, Woe Hop we found because his friend lived in
New York and he recommended it to us. And then
I mean, it's probably the best Chinese fooit I've ever
had the best egg girl I've ever had in my life,
and then Bubby's. I just randomly googled breakfast spots in
New York City when we were there two times ago,
and it just ended up being amazing. Yeah, I was
(48:39):
that was lucky. You got lucky.
Speaker 3 (48:41):
Yeah, Okay, well, I was still trying to figure out
if I could find for sure, for sure what the
slice is called. But we'll go with House of Nanking
for now.
Speaker 5 (48:50):
It's probably not even if people are gonna be like
they're going to go We're like, I'm going to San
Francisco tomorrow for work. I'm gonna go buy there, and
they're gonna be like I thought I was just sit
with the group and order from chef and they're like, no,
our menus on the wall here and you sit by yourself.
Speaker 3 (49:05):
It's like, no, here's a menu and we don't have
group seating.
Speaker 1 (49:10):
Like, oh, it's a funny story. Whoops.
Speaker 3 (49:14):
Okay, Well, we hope whatever you're doing well. Before we
tell you what kind of day we hope you're having,
make sure you email us with cutchuks into our nanny
that sent in. We hope your trip goes well, and
we would love an update on how it went and
if you were able to compartmentalize be a waffle. You
can do it.
Speaker 1 (49:31):
You can do it. Be a waffle during the day
and have some spaghetti at night.
Speaker 3 (49:34):
Yeah. Love it and email us. Hey, they're at Feeling
Things podcast dot com and we hope you're having the
day you need to have.
Speaker 1 (49:46):
Bye. Bye,
This reminder. Even though we are answering your questions on
Couch Talks, this podcast does not serve as replacement or
substitute for any actual mental health services.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
To break it down, if you ever have feelings that
you just fons home, Amy and Cat gotcha, Covin, locking
a Brother, ladies and felts, you just follow an the
spirit where it's all us go front over real stuff
to the chill stuff and the m but Swayne, sometimes
(00:26):
the best thing you can do it just stop you
feel things.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
This is Feeling Things with Amy and Kat.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Happy Thursday, Welcome to Couch Talks, the Q and a
episode to our Feeling Things podcast. I'm Amy and I'm Kat,
And today we have an email from Laurie that I'm
going to start off with. We kind of teased about
this one the other day, remember when it came in
like right as we were finishing, and so I pulled
it immediately to save it to go over. But Laurie's
(00:55):
a new listener. I didn't read it that at that moment,
did I?
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Oh, you didn't. You just said that it had something
to do with cancer and that she was.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Yeah, she just started like six listening. Yeah, six episodes deep.
Good morning. I started listening to your podcast recently and
I absolutely love it. I'm only about six episodes deep
and keep thinking about the episode you did with your sister,
episode four about bringing your mom home. Oh my gosh,
it's about four things. This is crazy, this is way back.
(01:26):
You and I both thought, yeah, but how'd she get
our email?
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Because she says, maybe it's in the show notes now.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Or maybe no Instagram. Oh yeah, it's in the show notes, but.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
The show notes would be no. The show notes are
the old show notes from the.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Yeah, okay, so obviously I didn't even I just grabbed it,
copied and pasted it and threw it in our dock.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
And I like, we'll read it on the so Maybe
Talks episode because those show notes would have your four
things email, so she has to be like following us
of some sort to Also, she's smart. She knows that
she's seeing to a podcast from like twenty seventeen, so
she probably was like I should double check this. Okay,
all right, that's so crazy.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Wow, No, okay, let's see. Let me back up a
little bit. Episode You with your Sister, Episode four maybe
about bringing your Mom home. I was about seven months pregnant.
When I lost my mom in two thousand and six
to ovarian cancer and went through very similar circumstances as
you did. What resonated with me the most about your
episode was what the nurses kept telling you. Keep talking
(02:31):
to her, She's still in there. I wanted to be
selfish and not tell my mom that it was okay
to go, because I needed her more than ever at
that point in my life. I finally had to come
to Jesus moment and realized that her pain is far
greater than my need. So on Valentine's Day two thousand
and six, I stood at her bedside, her right side,
and sobbed as I told her it was okay to go.
(02:53):
I mentioned the side I was on because she was
paralyzed on her right side, and as I stood there,
barely able to utter the words, she reached up with
her left hand and reached for my pregnant belly. She
passed early the next morning. Thank you for sharing your
story and all the ones that I'm about to listen to.
It's like free therapy new listener, but old Bobby Bone
(03:14):
Show listener Laurie Gonzalez, which, yeah, I'm most like Glad
that I was surprised by this whole thing, because, like,
you know, had I read it all before, i'd be like, Okay,
here's an email from someone that's starting things way back.
But first of all, it's really special. I just assumed
you were six episodes deep into Feeling Things, which Kat
and I started last April, but yeah, four things started
(03:36):
years ago.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
And wait, so she will she even we need to
email her and tell her that we read this because
she was not going to get to it.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
She's gonna go. She's like, I finally made it to
the Feeling Things launch. So I'm sorry that you two
have gone through something like that with your mom. It's
one of the hardest things I've ever been But what
a special moment you shared with her in those final hours,
and the fact that she was able to reach over
(04:06):
and touch your belly. So thank you for taking the
time to share that, especially as a new listener. And
I can't wait for you to get to Feeling Things.
Some stuff gets real good, yeah, but there are definitely
some nuggets and you'll hear Kat enter into like in
twenty twenty, twenty twenty one or so, Kat comes on as.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Co host on the Fifth Thing it's like a progression.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Yeah, I would be like terrified to go back and
listen to some of those episodes.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
I wish I could just delete everything off of But
then like I don't from you need therapy, yeah, because
I'm like what did I say? And like sometimes when
people are like, oh I went back and listened to
this episode, like if it's a therapy thing from a client,
I'm like, oh gosh, what did I say?
Speaker 3 (04:45):
You know?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Like, but I should trust myself.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
You know. There's that popular trend right now, everyone's posting
their pictures from twenty sixteen because it's in a decade
or whatever.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Well that's not why people. Do you know why people
are doing it?
Speaker 3 (04:57):
I guess I know I figured in ten years.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Well maybe some maybe it's people think that that's why.
But it started because twenty sixteen is like this nostalgic
year when like everything was good. Like there is a
podcast Cake, I talk about her a lot, Kate Kennedy.
Oh there, she did an episode in I think September
and it's just called twenty sixteen and she just reminisces
about twenty sixteen. But it's just a nostalgic year when
(05:21):
like influencing. It was like becoming a thing. And we
were wearing our bubble necklaces and our green like army
coats and our you know, all my Matt lipstick and chokers.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
Our big scarves and our big scarves.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Yeah, they hat little booties, our brunch hats.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
Oh the booties.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Yeah. It's just like a really nostalgic year. Is really
but I think maybe it guess people are thinking that's
a ten year. Maybe that's why some people are doing it.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Yeah, I guess I really, I just knew it was
a thing. And so yeah, she's going way back to.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Wait, when did you start your podcast?
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Twenty seventeen or eighteen? Okay not sixteen didn't even exist yet. Okay,
I did have a podcast in twenty sixteen, though I
was hosting it for somebody else. I mean I was
still on the Bobby Bone Show obviously, so we had
that podcast. But there was a podcast that called Love
What Matters and it highlighted good news and it was
it's a different company, but they brought me in as
(06:17):
the host of that podcast. So that was my first
technically my first podcast hosting gig. Yeah, but it wasn't
really mine.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
What was the first podcast you ever started listening to?
Speaker 4 (06:29):
Do you know?
Speaker 3 (06:30):
Oh? I loved How I Built This from Guy raz.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Oh, I don't think i've ever I thought that was
a show that's a podcast.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
I was listening to it as a podcast, but I
loved that he would just tell you the origin of
certain companies and how they built it.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Wait, no, I listened to that because I listened to
like the Girls that started Class Pass and then the
Girl that started Bumble. I think I did listen to that.
The first podcast I ever listened to was Cereal, like
the first season. Oh yeah, Like I didn't know what
a podcast.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
Was that True Crime. I definitely ate that up.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Yeah for sure, it was so good.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Like Doctor Death.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Oh, I don't listen to that.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
Oh you just listen to it now. It's a scared
one scared yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Which you definitely speaking of true crime, I don't want
to say her name. Okay. I feel this about like
all things like this when they make a documentary about
a bad person, which I feel like most documentaries are
about bad crime or whatever, right, Like, don't you think
a lot of a lot of a lot of the
popular ones. I'm like, Oh, I don't want to like
(07:34):
give more attention to them or fame. So I don't
want to say this person's name, but I have to
because it's the name of the documentary, The True Story
of Jodie Hildebrand. Do you know who that is?
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Was she the like a YouTube mom?
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Really, Frankie was the mom, okay, and then she was
the therapist in quotes life coach person who the kids
were in her basement.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
Okay, that's why they ran away from her same family.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
And I was watching it was when I was on
the treadmill, and I was just on the treadmill crying.
Watch it because it's fascinating, and I think that stuff
also does give awareness in some areas. But also don't
watch it if you like trigger warning for sure.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
It's so sad, sounds like it.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
So I don't know if I'm giving a recommendation or no.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
I think you are. So I think that you're like,
go into it with caution and know that it's heavy
and stuff obviously, but also fascinating evil.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
And this is another This is just a note to
people if you were going to get help from anybody,
whether it be a therapist or a coach or a
Instagram influencer. This is one of the reasons I feel
like I get so caught up on like people not
having the credentials or who gives them the right to
do that, or like not being scammed by people. It's
because she actually at one point, I'm only halfway through it,
(08:54):
but like she was got her license suspended for violating HIPPA,
which is like, don't do that. She worked in like
the Mormon community a lot, and she had like exposed
somebody's like addiction issues to people, and he got like
kicked out of school. Oh my, yeah, So like she
was suspended on a license and she still was able
to practice because she just changed her company from therapy
(09:16):
to coaching. Well that's not cool, right, So like just
be aware of the people that you're getting.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Information from and that you're telling information too. Yes, oh yeah,
because yeah, they may be able to give you information
that's valuable or not. But then also what are they doing?
What are you disclosing?
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Yeahek eek.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
I don't know how we got there.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
I don't know on a light or not. I think
just you said, what's first podcast you ever listened to?
And then I said that then we were in a
true crime and then we went into the show that
you just watched it, and I'm like speaking to evil people,
the Nightingale Hitler, God, he was awful.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
On a lighter note, I saw you exposed me to
something before we started recording this that i'd like to
talk about.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Oh before we get to the next email. Is that out?
Speaker 4 (10:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yes, that's okay, thank you.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
I'm working on it. So you just kind of lifted
your shirt up and took this band off that I
thought was a heart rate monitor? Would It does not
(10:26):
look like that.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
So it's just one of those bands I ordered off Amazon.
And I don't know what it's called technically, but I
call it a sweater belt, So what else would Yeah?
I don't think that idle cropper. Maybe I don't know
what it is called, but it does look like a
heart rate monitor, and it's adjustable and you put it
around your waist and then you can tuck your sweater
(10:48):
into it so you don't have to tuck your sweater
down into your pants and make it boldy.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Or sometimes I've tucked my sweater into my brosstrap right
and then too high, sometimes.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Too high, But this you can wear down low and
it looks as though your sweaters in your pants, but
it's not. It's tucked into the sweater belt.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
And I can attest to this. I had no idea
you had to. It looked like the sweater. It looked
just like a little cropped sweater. And now it looks
like you're wearing a whole different sweater. So it makes
your out, It makes your clothes two in one.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Yeah, extended my closet a little bit and I got
two sweaters for one. Is it mine? Five?
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Well, because it's adjustable, so you just make it fit.
It doesn't have to be really tight for the sweater
to like fold up into it.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
That reminds me of I was on TikTok the other
day and I was targeted with this thing called sweater
pulling or pulling your sweater?
Speaker 3 (11:35):
What is that?
Speaker 1 (11:37):
I thought the same thing. It was this girl and
she kept being like, this is me before pulling my sweater,
this is me after, and it looked so different, but
I was like, it's the same sweater. What is going on?
I was so confused. So basically, you can do this
with any sweater, especially after you wash a sweater and
(11:57):
people are taking their sweaters putting them in lukewarm water,
soaking them, and then you squeeze all the water out.
You don't wring it because that will like mess up
the sweater. And then they roll it up in a
towel and they squeeze more water out, and then they
roll it out on a surface and they pin it.
So if you have sweaters that like the sleeves are
(12:20):
like sometimes your sweater sleeves get like weird or whatever,
or like when you wash it, it kind of shrinks
and it gets a little bit like you know, misshaped.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Yeah, So you just get it really wet and then
you pull it, put it all out on a mat,
and you pin it to be the shape you want
it to be, and then it stays that way. It
seems kind of like dub But like I didn't know
people were doing.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
This, well, I did not know that was the thing.
I don't know that I would have thought to do it.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
And instead of throwing out us if your sweater, like
I've had favorite sweaters and I'm like, oh, it's like
message shape out weird. You just get it wet and
pin it the way you want it, so.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
You're reshaping it. It's sort of like shaping a hat,
which did you know if, like your cowboy hat, it
has been misshapen, Like when I'm moved the way my
cowboy hats were packed. By the time I got to
my new house and I was unpacking in my closet,
I was like, oh my gosh, the rims all my
hats are all wonky. And I thought, oh, maybe I
(13:12):
need to go to a hat shop because some of
the hats are really nice and I like to wear
them to work things. I'm like, I need to make
sure this is fixed. Well, I got on YouTube and
found a video, and you take the hat, you go
over I have a kettle and you heat up water
and then you lift up the little lid where the
when the water's coming out, lift it up and the
(13:33):
steam's shooting out, and you have this perfect little steamer
over your stove and you just move your hat around
it and get the the brim of the hat a
little a little hot, and then you shape it into
whatever you want and then put it down. And it
was that easy, Like I thought I was gonna have
to take it to.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
And pay like one hundred dollars or whatever, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
To have someone shape my hat. And then I shaped
it myself.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
I have gotten like very lost on Camille's videos, like
not losses and like I don't get it, but like
lost in watching them.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
Camille from Ambiguds, Yes.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Her videos of her cleaning old hats because she has
a vintage shop and she has all these hats, and
then she'll show you how she took a hat from
like looking like garbage to like looking like something somebody
would want to buy. It's so cool. Time consuming, time consuming.
Don't know that I would be able to have the patience.
Speaker 3 (14:24):
For it, but like, yeah, because some of it should
be like this had to soak for twenty four hours.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Literally, I'm like, oh, it was the time.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
But it does look really cool, especially if you like
vintage hats, because some of the hats are really cool
from you know, seventies, eighties, nineties, a hat that's so
unique you're not gonna find it, Like you could show
up to do a game being like, I've got a
cool hat on. But when you see it, when it's
dirty from like someone's garage, been on the floor for decades.
But then she turns it into she gives a little love, Yeah,
(14:53):
brings it back to life.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
She's probably so good at laundry. If I don't know,
you probably is not kidding. Next time I get like
a weird saying, I'm gonna have to text her.
Speaker 3 (15:02):
Be like, hey, Camille, I saw what you did to
that hat? Can you can you?
Speaker 1 (15:05):
Can you help me catchup out of my sweater?
Speaker 3 (15:10):
For sure? For sure? Forshizzle? Who am I fishizzle? A drizzle? Mizzle?
Speaker 1 (15:16):
Who am I flavorflying?
Speaker 4 (15:17):
No?
Speaker 3 (15:18):
No, no, forshizzle fishizzle my nestle fishizzle.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Give me a hint.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
Snoop Dogg? Shoot, why does Snoop.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Dogg harry an umbrella? Because of the drizzle full drizzle?
Speaker 3 (15:34):
We have another email? Uh it is anonymous? I believe.
I guess you put it in there? Is it anonymous? Okay?
By request, you're just making my decision. I don't know
executive decision.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Well, I don't know if it was, and so I'm
just saying it is.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
Went in doubt going on a nanny Nanni No, oh,
do you know what enormy is like a normal I
saw a picture of John Mayer out and people were
trying to figure out who the girl was, and they
were like, she's a normy, Oh, I not famous person,
Like she's just someone from LA not an influencer, not
a famous person, not an actress, not a singer. She's
(16:13):
just a normy. Wait and I was like a normy
got to go on a date with John Mayer.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
I thought he was dating Cat Stickler. Was that a rumor?
Speaker 3 (16:21):
No, I think they were dating. I don't know if
they still are. Maybe they are, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
But she's not Amy, She's not.
Speaker 3 (16:26):
That's what I mean. Like she's an influencer or a
content creator slash influencer service, But I mean she makes
a lot of she puts a lot of work into
her a little, not little, I don't want to downplay it,
but to her, I guess little because they're shorts like
a like a real she's funny, the comedy sketches, like
she has to put a lot of work into that.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Yeah, I guess influencing and content creator is different. And
yuse they're saying people it's an influencer. Wait, wait, hold on,
gotta work through this. A content a content influencer, a
content creator does not equal an influencer, but an influencer
equals a content creator or is that backwards means backwards?
Speaker 3 (17:08):
But I have I have dyslexia. A content creator does
not know content creat No, they all are influencers.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
I think some influencers are content creators.
Speaker 3 (17:20):
Yes, because not all influencers are content creators. They may
think that they are, but I don't think like.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
You might think you're a content creator.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
But I say that in the most I say that
in a loving way, like I don't, I don't, I
don't know. I'm not like saying this is black and white.
But I think some people if they are just sharing
their setting up a camera and like filming twenty stories
a day of their driving in a car, and then
they're at their house and then they're unloading groceries and
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then you know they're like, oh, try on this outfit,
that's an influencer.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Yeah, but they are creating content, but not in the
way that a content create.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
Some people on YouTube or like Cat is doing it
because she's there's some creators that are.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Coming up with a cat stickler Cat like wait what.
Speaker 3 (18:13):
Like skits yes, that have nothing to do with her day.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
To day, like she's a comedian. I feel like of
sorts she's come.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
So that's what I mean by content creator in that sense.
Of course, there's people content creators with podcasts. There's content
creators on YouTube.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
We're content creators in our own way. Yes, that would
never call myself that.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
Yeah, because by day you're a therapist. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
But we've talked about this recently. We're like, I'm working
on that. You're has to be a podcaster, Okay, is
a podcaster a content creator? Is a content yes, yes,
but I would but the more niche way to say
that would be podcasters.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
This is riveting, but do you see how But not
every influencer, and I don't think every influencer would be like, oh, yeah,
I'm a content creator. They would be like, oh yeah, no,
I just filmed myself doing things and post links. Yeah,
like sick and try to connect and talk with people
like an influence.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Let's read this Normy's email.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
We don't know if this is anony me Anon ananik
A Nani Ananni anonymous and a little under two months,
I will be going away for the first time since
my daughter was born. My husband and I have taken
weekend trips together without her, but I've never gone more
than three days without seeing her since she was born
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sixteen months ago. I will be on my own. It's
a work trip, so my husband isn't going, and I'm
gonna be gone for two weeks. I'm in the process
of weaning my daughter right now to ensure that there
is plenty of time for hormones to adjust before I leave,
and so she's not adjusting to that while I'm gone.
I guess my question is, when I'm gone, should I
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be compartmentalizing these feelings that I'm predicting I'm going to
be having a missing her or should I be processing
them as I go for my job. I'm gonna be
relied heavy upon, and quite honestly, I'm going to be
living in a tent for those two weeks, so I
may not even have the opportunity to call, and it's
really freaking me out how I may react once I'm
out there on my own. I don't want to let
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my team down when I'm out there in the field,
but I also know that I will be having a
lot of emotions. Any insight you guys could offer would
be great. Wow, I kind of want to know what
she's gonna be doing in a tent.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
Literally, that was my thoughts for two weeks.
Speaker 3 (20:24):
Like her job sells interesting.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Do you think she's an archaeologist. Maybe that was my
first thought. Or maybe she's like going and doing like
volunteer medical work somewhere.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Yeah, and her team is going to be relying on her.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Maybe she's giving like glasses to kids somewhere in a
country where they can't afford them, and she's going to
be giving kids eyesight. Yeah, could be anything. Okay, so
we're going to answer your email, and so we would
like to in return to know what you're going to
be doing for two weeks.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
If you can share, yeah, I guess because she's a nanny, Well.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
We won't have to share it with everybody else. I
just want to know for myself.
Speaker 3 (21:01):
Yeah, oh okay, yeah, just tell us.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
But also if you're like, if this is like a
top secret mission, I get it.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
And also if you want healthy parasocial relationship boundaries were cool,
Sure you don't able to tell us.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Oh yeah, but mine now we need to know.
Speaker 3 (21:13):
And I think that whatever advice Cat's about to give,
because she's the therapist, I'm throwing this one to her.
It's like for anybody that has something coming up where
you're already sort of predicting what you're going to feel
like when you don't even really know what it's going
to be like, but you have this anticipation of these
certain feelings that you're certain are going to be there,
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whether it's separation from you know, loved ones or insert xyz,
it could be other things that you're future tripping over. Yeah,
but this is obvious. She knows, she's never left before,
so there's definitely going to be high emotions there.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
And sometimes I think to what you say, like, yeah,
obviously she's gonna have emotions, and sometimes the anticipation of
those emotions can be worse than the actual things, right. Yeah,
So my thoughts are I can't tell you exactly the
right thing to do because I would need more information
and I would never tell somebody what to do in general. However,
I do want people to know that I feel like
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compartmentalizing gets a bad reputation, Like compartmentalizing is not a
bad thing to do. It's actually a very healthy coping skill,
and it's a very normal coping skill. It's one that
a lot of people can access. The problem with compartmentalizing
is when we use it to like completely avoid things,
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we don't ever come back to them. So I'm sure
you've had a bad day and then you have to
go to work the next morning.
Speaker 3 (22:35):
Yeah, you have to set it aside. So it makes
me think of that book. And I'm not recommending the book.
I'm not even really referring the book. It just my
brain always goes to this, and I think of compartmentalizing
because of the book. Men are like waffles and women
are like spaghetti.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
I've never heard of that mata for Mars and women
are from Venus.
Speaker 4 (22:52):
What I don't know?
Speaker 3 (22:53):
Am I making it up?
Speaker 1 (22:54):
I've never heard of can you what?
Speaker 3 (22:56):
I'll google it while you're talking in a minute, Spaghetti?
Speaker 1 (22:59):
Yes, I say in that men.
Speaker 3 (23:01):
It like we're all wired differently, and it's not black
and white that all men are this and all women
are that. But women, like, our emotions are very intertwined, entangled,
like we feel in a lot of different ways, and
it impacts other things because we and I feel like
that's okay, but we're driven emotionally and it gets very
yeah like spaghetti, yeah right, okay, whereas men can be
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very like, Okay, this is my waffle, and I got
this year and this year and this year, and I'm
able to keep all my emotions in everything, my personal
my business separate.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Yeah, I love that metaphor. That might just be a metaphor.
You sure's a book.
Speaker 3 (23:37):
I'm about to look it up, don't you work your
pretty little face. Obviously, that's why I was like, I'm
not a book, We're gonna write it. I'm not recommending
the book because I have not read the book. That's
why I was like, don't take this the wrong way,
because I don't know. It could be a horrible book
but or non existent. But I feel like early in
my marriage, like it was recommended. So you go ahead
and keep talking and I'm gonna google.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
Okay. I was going to say, it might be helpful
for you to think about things that would soothe you
during the two weeks, because in a perfect world, be
awesome if you could compartmentalize for two weeks and not
think about your daughter. But I highly doubt for two
whole weeks you're going to be able to do that,
And if we're doing it for a prolonged period of
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time like that, it might backfire. However, we can kind
of compartmentalize during the day or during the times that
you said you're going to be highly relied upon. So
are there ways that you can kind of distract yourself
for those moments and then when you do have downtime
or if there is a period of time you might
not be able to call your daughter or call your husband.
But are there things that you want to be prepared
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with to able to self soothe whatever feelings are coming up?
So that could just be like bringing pictures or bringing
like something that smells like her, or bringing something that
like having videos on your phone that you can watch
of her or maybe you can't. It said that she
might not have a phone, but like, could your husband
send you videos every day of things like that might
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be really helpful. So like, yes, compartmentalized during certain times
and then sometimes allow yourself to be in the moment. Yeah,
you feel your feelings.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
I love that advice a lot, especially like the taking
of the pictures and having something near like a little
blanket or something she can snuggle up with and sleep
at night that's like one of her daughters. And also
this might make me sound like.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
A terrible mom.
Speaker 3 (25:29):
I also have the perspective that I adopted and I
didn't carry a child and give birth right. I adopted
older kids. They were seven and eleven when they came here.
And I love them dearly. I would do anything to
make sure they're okay.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
Right, are you like trying to prove that you're a mom?
What are you about to back me up?
Speaker 3 (25:53):
But you know I do have I do, but like
also I don't know again because I don't have that
birth connection that like, oh, I've not been separated from
my baby since it was born for like longer than
seventy two hours. Yeah, I don't. I don't have that.
So I'm thinking, like, girl, enjoy the break. Yeah, like
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what this sounds.
Speaker 4 (26:15):
I mean, I know it's a work trip, but like
it might be and I know you're gonna be in
a tent, so yeah, I don't know what to sleep
it's gonna be like, but I'm like, I'm like two
weeks of uninterrupted sleep at night, like or like, how
can you maybe look at some of the pro games?
Speaker 3 (26:32):
Not that it's a pro that you're away from.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Your kid, but also yeah, what are you get like?
Speaker 3 (26:37):
And then and then also your team is relying on you.
You have this other identity, Like, yes, being a mom
is your identity, but your career is part of who
you are too. And I don't know what this trip is.
But Kat and I are making of the scenario that
it's fabulous and so and you're changing the world, So like,
celebrate whatever it is you get to go do for
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two weeks too, and have that perspective of this is
something really cool and you're leading a team, and that
you are able to step away into it and that
your husband's able to stay back and give you this opportunity, unless,
of course it's something that you're dreading and you don't
want to go and you hate your job. But I
don't know. Then we have a whole other conversation, a
whole we have a whole other issue. But I guess
that's what I was thinking. It was making me feel
like a bad mom.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
But I would be like, see us, But I would
maybe feel that if my child was older, and when
I don't know, I'm not a mom, so I can't
say this for sure, but I would be curious about that.
And if I was going to like the Ritz Carlton
she's going to attend.
Speaker 3 (27:32):
I know, I I do.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
I'm respective of like, look at what you're getting to
do versus what you're focusing on.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
What you're going to be missing right, which I do understand,
Like I don't have that hormonal attachment like I don't,
so I totally get where you're coming from. I guess
I was just thinking, like, why would be fine?
Speaker 1 (27:53):
You also made up a book, so no, I didn't.
It's a book.
Speaker 3 (27:56):
It's for real. Huh. Yeah. Men are like waffles, women
are like speak understanding and delighting in your differences. This
book is written by Bill and Pam Ferrell. It's a
Christian relationship book that uses the metaphor of waffles because
men compartmentalized life and spaghetti for women who connect everything
to explain differences in male and female thinking and communication,
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offering practical advice for improving marriage and other relationships through
biblical wisdom, humor, and exercises so that tracks.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
I am curious did that come out before? Men are
from Mars and Women are for Venus, because it seems
a little copyrighting, like if I wrote a book.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
They didn't say when men are from waffles or I
guess men.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
Are likely that's like Tomato's tomatoes though, right, Like I
feel like if I wrote men are from Mars and
women are from Venus, that's the title, right.
Speaker 3 (28:47):
This came out in January two thousand and one. I
don't know if that was the original. Oh my gosh.
There's so many different like versions editions, So two knows
of two thousand and one is even the earliest, like
there could be. There's a lot of different additions, but
it's like five bucks.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
So maybe it didn't get it probably didn't get the hype.
It wasn't I don't know. It just feels like copyright infringement.
But also maybe I'm just creating drama when drama does
not exist.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Imagine that, so like nobody can say anything like men
are like this and women are like that. Because of
the Venus and.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
Mars, we've never nobody can do it ever again see them.
Speaker 3 (29:23):
But yeah, waffle, waffle, this trip up, Get your compartments ready.
Take some waffles with you as a as a reminder
you can do it.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
Do you like waffles? I would you rather have a
pancake or a waffle? Mmm?
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Yeah? I know it is such a hard question, but
I think a waffle from my waffle maker. For my
birthday in two thousand and nineteen, I got a waffle maker.
I'll never forget you.
Speaker 1 (30:10):
Ask for the Yeah, okay, I was like, imagine getting
that and you didn't want it and it's like.
Speaker 3 (30:14):
The clad like it's from Williams Sonoma.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
I was like religious flipped over like they haven't.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
I felt so legit. I haven't used it much since,
but but you have it. I loved it. No, I
don't know that it like from I don't have like
a specific restaurant.
Speaker 1 (30:30):
But but you know the waffle makers they have it
like a Continental breakfast and it flips. I think those
are cool.
Speaker 3 (30:36):
Those are legit. I just like the way the butter
goes into the little holes.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
Or the little or the little compartment apartment. So that's
why you like a waffle.
Speaker 3 (30:45):
Yeah, what are you?
Speaker 1 (30:46):
I think I'm pancake. I think I'm pancaked. Well, specifically
from this restaurant called Bubby's in New York City.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
I've never been there.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Oh my god. We bought t shirts. We love this kidding, Like,
so what does the T shirt look like? It says Bubbies.
It's like a dark green it says Bubbies, and it
has a stack of pancakes. It's really cute.
Speaker 3 (31:09):
I got a hat in New York from Leon's Bagels
and a pair of.
Speaker 1 (31:13):
Socks, and that was a cute hat.
Speaker 3 (31:15):
It's a cute hat and The socks are pretty cute too,
but those bagels are legit. That's the bagel I brought
back to you from New York. I flew it all
the way home and then brought it to you the
next day in a ziplog bag.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
And it was still good. It's still good. But these
pancakes are sour cream pancakes, which I don't need any
more information because I don't want to know. Yeah, I
don't want to know.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
Cap doesn't like anything white, by the way, she hates
her raise. She doesn't like ranch. She doesn't like sour cream.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
I like ranch, you do.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
I thought you didn't like anything white.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
I like ranch, like on a ranch with salad dressing.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
Okay, I've I corrected.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
Yea, you don't like mayonnaise.
Speaker 3 (31:57):
I don't like mayonnaise or sour cream or sour cream
cream cheese. Okay, Sorry, I was confused that I thought
you didn't like ranch.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
It's like talking, yeah, but I also don't want to
talk about what ranch is made out of, because I.
Speaker 3 (32:09):
Know it is. Because if you get a ranch packet
like Hin Valley Ranch to packet and make your own ranch,
you have to mix it.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
Don't bring it up okay, but I'm just like, that's
like saying, nah, no, it's not because it's like I
don't like eggs, but I eat cake. There's eggs and cake.
Speaker 3 (32:27):
Okay, that's right, that's true. Okay, fair, carry on.
Speaker 1 (32:32):
Well, I was just gonna say it's it feels nice
to reminisce about Bubbies because the pancakes were so good.
I can almost taste them. The first time we went there,
I just randomly picked it, and apparently it's just like
I mean, there's always like a line out the door
to wait to get in. Best pancake I've ever had
my life. In my life, I haven't had that many pancakes,
but it is the best one I've ever had. We
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went again this year and it was a It was
the best meal I think I had in New York City.
Is the pancakes crazy?
Speaker 3 (32:58):
That is crazy?
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Oh that's true. I ate a lot of good stuff, but.
Speaker 3 (33:02):
There was a lot of good food there. What's that
one place you went to and then you recommend it
to me? So I went to it and it was
so beautiful and decked out in flowers.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
Lily's Victorian. It's a bar and they also have surf
tea so you can have like high tea there. H
And they decorate it every season. It's like different and
it's like floor to ceiling decorations. The Christmas Chef's kiss,
there's like penguins in the sky.
Speaker 3 (33:24):
Yeah. I mean I went in the summer and it
was so it was like August, September and whatever decor
they had. I feel like it was like Bridgerton vibes
or something.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
There was like flowers everywhere.
Speaker 3 (33:34):
Oh my god, It's like it so pretty.
Speaker 1 (33:36):
Lily's Victorian like and it's like naked vibe is Bridgerton
because it's like tea and cute and antique. But it
had pink flowers everywhere when you went, because you sent
me a picture.
Speaker 3 (33:50):
Oh yeah, it was so stunning, Like it's worth going
just to look at it.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
Take it in.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
Like I don't even know how they do that.
Speaker 4 (33:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:58):
This year, all I got there was a I ate
coke and it was still worth it to go.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
You went there and you're like, one die coke please.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
Well, Patrick got a drink, but I just wanted to
go sit in the vibes of Christmas.
Speaker 3 (34:10):
So favorite diet coke ever.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
McDonald McDonald, I know the runner up would probably be
Sonic because they have good ice.
Speaker 3 (34:23):
Chick fil A has good ice too, but I I.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
Know I almost said that, but I have an affinity
for Sonic because I grew up with Sonic and it
like is nostalgic.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
I know, it's like, ye, no, I get it that
Sonic has a good one. You know what I did
with my Chick fil A order this week that I
have never done before, but it's pretty legit and I'm
gonna do it again. Tell me, I got a mac
and cheese and I got an order of nuggets, regular nuggets, fried,
not grilled. The grilled nuggets been creeping me out a
little bit, I.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
Told you, Like, I've been getting the hebgbs from them too.
Speaker 3 (34:52):
And so I don't know what it is because I
used to eat them no problem. And you know they
changed their fry recipe, which is good. They changed it
for the better.
Speaker 1 (34:58):
Wait what Yeah, the fries.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
Are better now that you have like some like extra
coating on it. That just makes it better. Since I
don't know my taste buds could recognize it, I have
and then I googled it and sure enough, but I
notice that I noticed it just as one of my
talents and then and then I googled it, and You're right,
my suspicions were correct. They did alter their fry recipe
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a little bit. Then maybe they also did something with
their grilled nugget recipe, because I feel like I used
to be able to eat them and now they are
grossing me out.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
It's inconsistent. Sometimes you get a really good batch and
there are no weird parts, because it was when chicken
has a weird part, it just throws everything off, everything off.
Speaker 3 (35:42):
So I guess I'm clarifying that for this concoction, you
need you go og nugs. So you get the chicken nuggets,
you get the mac and cheese, and then when I
got home, you take get some your kitchen scissors out
and cut the nugs up so like each nugget, maybe
you cut it into four so it makes little teeny
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tiny nutsnugs, and then dump the mac and cheese in
a bowl and then dump all your little teeny tiny
nuggets in the full and stir it together. And then
I added just a dollup of Heinz ketchup because like
I asked for some from the store because I'm out
at my house and I'm only clarifying that because Cat
asked for Ketchup earlier and I didn't have any, and
I felt so bad because I love Ketchup.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
So I was eating Chick fil A nugs. I forgot
to ask for ketchup. Wait, you put the ketchup in.
Speaker 3 (36:28):
Just a little bit.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Okay, just a little bit, not a lot.
Speaker 3 (36:30):
You don't want to overdo it, don't put the whole packet.
But for me, I just like that extra zing okay,
zing zing pal and I love Ketchup. If you don't
love ketchup, you could maybe just eat as is, or
do a little extra sea salt on top. It'd be
good to go. Maybe then a little ranch would be good,
but maybe not. Yeah, don't quote me on that, but
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I'm getting that again. Like I loved it so much.
It was so comforting.
Speaker 1 (36:57):
That sounds really good. But I don't like mac and cheese.
It's my problem.
Speaker 3 (37:00):
Oh, I got a diet coke. I love what I'm like.
Can I get some fried nuggets? A mac and cheese
die coke? Sat?
Speaker 1 (37:09):
I got today at Chick fil A. This is what
I've been getting is a Chick fil A chicken noodle
soup because it's the best chicken noodle soup there is
and if you don't know that, now you know and
you should go get it right now. And I always
get a side of nuggets for like extra because I
feel like there's not sometimes there's not a lot of
chicken in the chicken noodle soup. And I had been
getting the grilled and you can attest to that because
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I bring it over every other week.
Speaker 3 (37:33):
I know every time you're on your war where she's like,
I'm gonna stop by Chick fil A on the way
if you want anything, And I was like, oh, I
just had Chick fil A this week. Which that's the
thing too, is it's so savory, the mac and cheese
and the nuggets. It's like a lot that it's like
you get your fixed and you're like, Okay, I'm sad
a little bit, I'm satisfied, and then maybe I'll crave
it again next week.
Speaker 1 (37:50):
But today I did switch to the fried nuggets because
same thing. I've been just feeling weird about them. Not
to give anybody else food fears.
Speaker 3 (37:58):
No, if you're not feared viom, that's fine. Maybe it's
just our local Chick fil as.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
I'm also the kind of person who cuts up a
chicken breast and like end up using like half of
it because of all the weird parts of the chicken.
Speaker 3 (38:10):
Yeah, So, which Cat and I are going out to
eat together tonight, like on a double date.
Speaker 1 (38:16):
I wonder what we're gonna get with our boyfriends? Almost
said a husband.
Speaker 3 (38:20):
I'm like, no, not be true. Just your boyfriend, Kat's husband,
my boyfriend. I really even loving cutting up food. I'm like,
what else do you watch tonight at dinner? Pull out
your kitchen, bust out my scissors, and I'm like, it's
just so much faster than cutting and like some people
I saw someone on TikTok do that with pizza, especially
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for their kids, just like instead just like get out
scissors and then just like cut these chunks of pizza
for your kids and like make a plate instead of
like especially if you bake the pizza yourself, and that's smart. Yeah, Oh,
have you ever I'm bring my scissors tonight.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
Have you watched.
Speaker 3 (38:59):
I'm just kidding, We're going to have like a kind
of a nice restaurant.
Speaker 1 (39:03):
Have you seen I think it's baked by Melissa? Her
videos videos of her making foods. Yeah, sometimes have you
seen her making the pizza salad. Yes, okay, I did
that and I really liked it. So her left of
her pizza. She cut it up, tossed it in the
air fryer, get it crispy, and then like the little
chunks of pizza are like your krutons. And then I
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put it in a caesar salad.
Speaker 3 (39:25):
Oh I didn't see that part.
Speaker 4 (39:27):
I've seen her like put the salad salad on top
of pizza and eat it like the pizzas the bowl.
Speaker 1 (39:33):
I saw that too.
Speaker 3 (39:34):
That's smart. She made the pizza the little kreutons her probably.
That sounds like she has a lot of little creative
things in the kitchen that she does.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
It was good.
Speaker 3 (39:42):
Sick. Well, I'm excited about our date night tonight, and
especially when we're going except for a cat and her husband.
They have other plans too, So Kat's like, I think
you're going to be there for an hour and a half,
which is totally fine, but do you think we're going
to be able to Okay, so it all.
Speaker 1 (39:58):
First of all, it's not I have other plans that
I'm like ditching you for. It's like I have to
do something time.
Speaker 3 (40:04):
Yeah, and I totally get that. I'm not even hating
on you for it, but I was like, Okay, I
don't want to feel rushed, like how do we do it?
So we should look at the menu before we get
there so you don't waste time.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
Well, so I already I told Patrick this. I was like, Patrick,
because we talked about doing something closer to our house.
Speaker 3 (40:21):
I know. But then what happened was my boyfriend went
ahead and snagged this reservation because it was available, and
it's like get them, and we really wanted to go there.
And then I was like, well, I'll just invite Patrick. Patrick.
But that's why I gave you two outs two different times.
Speaker 1 (40:36):
Like yeah, do you not want me to come? I know,
I take a hint.
Speaker 3 (40:42):
But what I said to you yesterday was like, sometimes
you just want to like make sure that your not
that you need permission, Like if it really was inconvenient,
you'd be like, hey, it's just not a good time, right,
like you feel safe and to say that. So I
wanted to make sure, like, hey, if you need permission,
I'm giving it to you, Like don't come, but I
want you to come.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
Well, no, I don't feel I don't feel like it's
inconvenient at all. And when I said to Patrick, I
was like, we're gonna have to leave it like seven
to fifteen, so we're only going to have like an
hour and forty five minutes. And he goes, that's like
a normal time to eat dinner. Oh okay, they were
going to an early dinner, so it's not like we
would be there till like nine pm. Right, Yeah, I
(41:22):
would like want to flip the table. No, you're gonna
order anything else, because like we got out the reservation,
I know, we could just talk for a long time,
so I guess for guys, yeah, I know. So my
hope is we can get there on time so we
can savor every second.
Speaker 3 (41:35):
But let's look at the menu before.
Speaker 1 (41:38):
Well I have an idea of what I want already.
Ooh what for advertizers? The potstickers? Okay, have you had them?
Speaker 3 (41:46):
I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (41:47):
They're so good.
Speaker 3 (41:49):
So there's this place in Nashville on twelve South called
the Henry, And if y'all live here or you come
to town, it's definitely a place to like at least
go grab a drink.
Speaker 1 (41:56):
Yeah, so cute. It's really cute.
Speaker 3 (41:58):
Like they have a little rooftop area too, where they've
got the bar upstairs and and the bar downstairs is cute.
Oh that the bar downstairs is really cute to You're right, yeah,
so either place, it's definitely something to put on your
list to go and either yeah, get a drink and
an appetizer or have a meal. But it's on the yeah,
the nicer side of things. But I'm excited to go,
(42:21):
and we're being intentional, we're going out. That's one thing
Alex and I were really working on, inspired by you
and Patrick, and I know you've encouraged for a long
time of like just pretend you are a guest in
your own city kind of thing. Like we're on vacation,
So tonight are we on vacation? Are where were going
to be from? Where are we from?
Speaker 1 (42:43):
Double date vacation. We're going on vacation with each other?
Speaker 3 (42:45):
Yeah, except for we all have to leave early. Wait,
where are we from?
Speaker 1 (42:53):
Somewhere? Like random?
Speaker 3 (42:55):
Like we're from Oregon.
Speaker 1 (42:58):
That almost feels too cool, Okay, Like we're from like
North Dakota, South Dakota.
Speaker 3 (43:03):
I've never been to either.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
Neither have I. So maybe that's not good because if
people ask us questions.
Speaker 3 (43:07):
It's really cold there right now.
Speaker 1 (43:09):
Be like we needed to escape the cold. Yeah, and
we can be like, it's so hot here kidding.
Speaker 3 (43:14):
Our server is not going to ask where are y'all from?
Speaker 1 (43:16):
Yes, say my, They're going to say have you ever
been here before?
Speaker 3 (43:19):
And we have?
Speaker 1 (43:20):
Oh, so we say we could lie. We could say no,
we're from out of town, and they're going to say
where are you from? And then we're going to say
North Dakota, South Dakota, Oregon, And.
Speaker 3 (43:32):
Then Alex san Patrick can be like, what are y'all
talking about?
Speaker 1 (43:35):
It's top.
Speaker 3 (43:36):
I feel like they would go they would play along
yeah okay, and be like, we don't even know each other.
We just decided to come here.
Speaker 1 (43:45):
Speaking of not knowing each other, what would you do?
What would you do if you were at a restaurant? Okay,
I'm setting the scene. We're in New York City. We're
in line for this Chinese restaurant called whoa Hoap So Good.
We also bought T shirts there. I literally, I'm not kidding.
(44:05):
I didn't buy anything in New York except at their
north Strom rack and then at restaurants.
Speaker 3 (44:10):
T shirts from Woe Hop, whoa Hop and Bubby's Bubby's.
Speaker 1 (44:14):
Okay, so we're in line for this Asian restaurant and
it's in a basement and it's really small, so it's
kind of like one in, one out. But there was
a line probably like the thirty to forty people deep.
So we're on line, we're waiting, blah blah blah. This
guy comes who's a local. He comes to himself and
as the people are like giving us tickets and numbers,
(44:35):
He's like, I'm just one person, so I can sit
with one of y'all. He kept saying, like I'm only
one to skip the line. He was like, I'm only
one person, so I can sit with one of these parties.
What would you do if somebody tried to sit with
you at a restaurant?
Speaker 3 (44:52):
Would you depends on am I on a date with John?
Speaker 1 (44:55):
Vacation with your boyfriend's slash husband?
Speaker 3 (44:58):
But not I'm not with a group.
Speaker 1 (45:00):
No, it's just you and your partner.
Speaker 3 (45:03):
I don't think I like that, but I feel I
guess I feel bad saying that, but.
Speaker 1 (45:07):
Like he's been intrusive though, I think, Okay, if it's
like somebody who doesn't is like a loaner and doesn't
you can tell that like they need company and they
need relationship. That's one thing. But if somebody's trying to
skip a line that you've been waiting in for an hour, I.
Speaker 3 (45:23):
Mean, yeah, that's kind of ridiculous. I'm trying to think
there's this restaurant in San Francisco. Oh, I think this
is a house of Nanking.
Speaker 1 (45:33):
Oh that sounds nice.
Speaker 3 (45:34):
Golly, I think that that's it, but maybe not. But
you go and you eat with strangers, like you just
get put at a table, but it's a communal eating
the vibe. And then also not only that.
Speaker 1 (45:48):
You don't share the food.
Speaker 3 (45:49):
You well, yeah, you just oh whatever the chef recommends,
Like you don't have to do that. But we were
recommended this place by friends that said what you do
as you go in and just say whatever the chef
says and then they just bring stuff out to you. No,
I could never do that, and we waited in line.
When you were telling that story, I was like, oh,
this sounds like this place in San Francisco, except for
(46:11):
we actually did eat with strangers. No, this is not
that that way and house of Nan King. When I
typed in those keywords Chinese restaurant, San Francisco, popular Red District.
Maybe chef recommends what to order the house if nanking
come came up, those are the keywords I type.
Speaker 1 (46:29):
Oh you typed that. I thought you said that's what
came up when you said name Nan King.
Speaker 3 (46:32):
No, I just typed what I'm looking at pictures and
like do just that even looked like what it was?
I don't remember. But the food was so freaking amazing.
Speaker 1 (46:43):
So if he brought it, the chef brings a dish out,
you're like putting some on your plate and passing it
to a stranger.
Speaker 3 (46:50):
Yeah, I guess that's the vibe. I don't really remember.
Or this was a long time ago, like shoot, what
year was this? Probably two thousand and eight.
Speaker 1 (47:01):
Maybe it's not open anymore, that's why you can't find it.
Speaker 3 (47:04):
No, I found house of Name King. I'm like, does that?
But then I'm like, who knows? Maybe someone listening you
know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1 (47:10):
If you know, you know?
Speaker 3 (47:12):
But okay, cool, Well there you go. There we have it,
and now you know. If Kat likes your food, just
can buy two shirt? Do you sleep and never work out?
And then or what.
Speaker 1 (47:24):
The bubbies one? I haven't worn yet because.
Speaker 3 (47:27):
I washed it before. You're gonna wear a good job.
Speaker 1 (47:30):
The Woe Hop one we sleep in. I mean it's
a shirt with it says wohap and there's like a
panda on it.
Speaker 3 (47:35):
It's not like a it's so like is there. You
went there and you're like, I love this place, I
want to get a shirt, or you're like, oh, their
shirts are cute, and get one.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
Their thing is that every year they have a shirt
with like the animal of the year. So like last
year their shirt had a snake on it, and the
first time we went, we got a shirt with the
dragon on it.
Speaker 3 (47:53):
Oh well, I'm glad you got lucky with the panda one.
Wanted the snake one.
Speaker 1 (47:57):
Well, the panda one is their like universal one, so
that's the one they always have. Oh so they don't
start selling them until like February or something. So this
year when we went, Patrick was going to buy a
third shirt, but they didn't have I think, what is
it the year the horse or something? They didn't have
the shirts yet.
Speaker 3 (48:15):
So how did you find these restaurants?
Speaker 1 (48:17):
Anyways, Woe Hop we found because his friend lived in
New York and he recommended it to us. And then
I mean, it's probably the best Chinese fooit I've ever
had the best egg girl I've ever had in my life,
and then Bubby's. I just randomly googled breakfast spots in
New York City when we were there two times ago,
and it just ended up being amazing. Yeah, I was
(48:39):
that was lucky. You got lucky.
Speaker 3 (48:41):
Yeah, Okay, well, I was still trying to figure out
if I could find for sure, for sure what the
slice is called. But we'll go with House of Nanking
for now.
Speaker 5 (48:50):
It's probably not even if people are gonna be like
they're going to go We're like, I'm going to San
Francisco tomorrow for work. I'm gonna go buy there, and
they're gonna be like I thought I was just sit
with the group and order from chef and they're like, no,
our menus on the wall here and you sit by yourself.
Speaker 3 (49:05):
It's like, no, here's a menu and we don't have
group seating.
Speaker 1 (49:10):
Like, oh, it's a funny story. Whoops.
Speaker 3 (49:14):
Okay, Well, we hope whatever you're doing well. Before we
tell you what kind of day we hope you're having,
make sure you email us with cutchuks into our nanny
that sent in. We hope your trip goes well, and
we would love an update on how it went and
if you were able to compartmentalize be a waffle. You
can do it.
Speaker 1 (49:31):
You can do it. Be a waffle during the day
and have some spaghetti at night.
Speaker 3 (49:34):
Yeah. Love it and email us. Hey, they're at Feeling
Things podcast dot com and we hope you're having the
day you need to have.
Speaker 1 (49:46):
Bye. Bye,
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