November 11, 2025 • 55 mins
Amy and Kat are both feeling merry this week!! Kat because she just had the staycation of her dreams and she’s already decorated for Christmas (she’s in a season of creating as much joy as possible)! And Amy’s feeling merry because, well, it’s the most wonderful time of the year! However, she had some anxiety pop up around something she thought she’d worked through, so she shares about those feelings as well. Kat reminds her that healing isn’t about being “done” with a feeling…it’s about knowing how to move through it now. When familiar feelings show up again, it doesn’t mean you’re back at the beginning. It’s just a new moment to practice showing up differently…with more awareness, more tools, and more kindness for yourself.
Also in this episode: a cozy stovetop simmer recipe (see below!), the move to make out of a second story should there be a fire (random, but helpful), and a thoughtful email from new listener Dave, who shares how burnout shifted his relationship with work and a reminder to actually communicate needs in a relationship…men aren’t mind readers.
Smells Like Christmas: A Cozy Simmer Pot Recipe
1 large orange, sliced
3–4 cinnamon sticks
1 cup fresh cranberries
1 tablespoon whole cloves
2–3 sprigs of fresh rosemary (or a handful of pine needles if you’re feeling extra festive)
Water to fill the pot
How To:
Combine everything in a medium pot.
Fill with water until ingredients are just covered (leave about an inch from the top).
Bring to a gentle simmer over medium heat.
Reduce to low and let it quietly bubble away (uncovered) as long as you’d like.
Keep an eye on it and add more water as needed so it doesn’t dry out.
Pro tip…you can reuse the same pot a few times! Just pop it in the fridge overnight and add fresh water before reheating.
This little ritual makes your whole house smell like orange, cinnamon, and nostalgia. It’s one of those small, sensory things that makes the holidays feel like the holidays.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Good.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
All right, break it down.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
If you ever have feelings that you just won't Amy
and Cat got your cove and locking m brother, ladies
and felons, do you just follow an the spirit where
it's all the front over real stuff to the chill
stuff and the m But Twayne, sometimes the best thing
you can do it just stop you feel things. This
(00:27):
is feeling.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Things with Amy and Cat. Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things.
I'm Amy and.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
I'm Cat, and I'm coming in hot with my feeling
of the day because I'm feeling it at a level.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Eight oh eight out of ten. Mm, okay, I'm at nine.
I'm not you're just trying to I'm not trying to
one of you, I promise. I just really I'm feeling
I'm feeling.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
It, okay, in it Okay, Well I'm feeling merry and joyful.
Same me too, the same feelings, the same It's like
I gave you these feelings.
Speaker 4 (00:58):
I also have a little bit of anxiety, but not
about this topic at all. It's totally totally separate. But
it was like old feelings that came up. But we
can get to that later because I don't want to
kill the Mary and joyful vibe because I'm with you.
I watched my first Christmas movie of the season.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
What was it?
Speaker 4 (01:13):
It was on Netflix. It was the old one. It's
not even new. So it was called The Count the
Christmas Contract?
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Wait, what was that one about?
Speaker 4 (01:20):
A contract with She took a boy to her hometown
because her ex boyfriend was bringing a girl and she
didn't want to show up alone, so she took her
best friend's brother and they had a contract to do it.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Did they fall in love?
Speaker 4 (01:32):
You have to watch to find out.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I think I've seen that, but you know, they all
run together. It would be really funny if you were
like I watched Shoot, what's the one? You were?
Speaker 4 (01:42):
Old? Holiday?
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I watched Holiday Harmony. I was like, oh, you watch.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Your Christmas No, but I did wonder should my boyfriend
see that scene? I don't know. I want him to
watch the whole movie because I think the whole movie
is cute and adorable and awesome. And he does love
Christmas movies because he started watching him with his daughter.
I think she really enjoyed them. She liked watching with
their mom, and then when their mom died, it's like
he's like, well, I guess I have to step in
(02:06):
now as the Hallmark Christmas movie Lover and now it's
something they love to do, which we all watched it
last night, the Christmas Contract. We watched it her the
brothers watched the Daughter yea, so it was a it
was a family affair and it was feeling good and
like in my kitchen right now, I have my stovetop
smelly Christmas stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
We need a better name, stovetop smelly Christmas stuff. So
I want to get to that. But can I answer
your question that? What was the question should your boyfriend watch?
Speaker 4 (02:36):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Yeah, I already forgot a hundred percent. I feel like
the whole family should watch. If Patrick's seen it, then
your boyfriend should definitely have seen the movie that you're in. Okay,
acting debut, that's the thing to be like, hey guys, so.
Speaker 4 (02:52):
Now this is crazy. It's like the first Christmas we've
celebrated together. We're really close. I mean I was with
them last Christmas but we were still new. So now
that we're like all a lot closer, what do I say,
Like if we're all gathered around the TV and they're like,
what are we gonna watch tonight? And I'm like, how
about the movie I'm in.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
You should just say what about Holliday Harmony? And you say,
like what it's about, and then you play it and
then it's a surprise.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
Oh, like they don't they don't know that I'm in it,
and then my bathroom scene ends up. Okay, well, maybe
we'll do that and I'll report back. Cow please please
do that.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
If they don't know already, or if they wouldn't, maybe
they know if you've been in a Christmas movie. They don't,
but they don't know what it's called. Right, that would
be so good. And then you should like film his
reaction when he sees you on the big screen.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Mm hmm, okay, I'll report back if I do that.
But the the merriness and the joyfulness is alive, and well,
because I think we're tis the season?
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Tis the season? Why didn't even.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
Though there's other feelings happening, I just those are dominating.
So that's why I'm a nine. It's not just because
you're in eight.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
It feels like it. So what's the stovetop smelly stuff?
Speaker 4 (04:00):
Well you know about it because we put it in
our newsletter, But thank you for asking, just for podcast listeners.
It is something that was in our newsletter that went
out last Friday with our merch stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
I wonder who puts the newsletter together.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
You do, which is cute for you to act like
you didn't know what it was. But it smells so good.
It's like Christmas in a pot.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
I actually made it last year, the year before. I
remember I went to the store and got all the
stuff and Patrick was like, why don't you just light
a candle because it's different the same thing, and it's
you're creating a vibe.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
Yeah, it's cranberries, it's cinnamon sticks, it's cloves, it's a
sliced up orange, it's rosemary, it's water in a pot stove,
and you you you light it. We had we had
all of this in our newsletter. So this is why
you need to sign up for the newsletter. Not only
do we have little nuggets like this, which is the
week before you send out your potato souper recipe, so
(05:03):
you just like, never know what you're gonna get. We
have things that Cat and I are reading the Sure
Things were loving before you put your Q tips.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Yes, you never know what you're gonna get.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
Well, those Q tips to be fair or clutch or
a game changer. Before I found those Q tips, I
only bought Q tips where it was round on both sides. Yeah,
I did not know people made a Q tip round
on one side, pointy on the other. It's good for
if you're trying to clean up your nails. It's good
if you're trying to clean up makeup around your nose,
in your nose, in your eyes, your eyebrows, on your legs.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Don't in your ear.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
Yeah, the pointy part in your ear is a little rough.
But don't sleep on those special Q tips. So I
stand by that addition to the newsletter, and I'm saying
so you never know what you're gonna get. And then
on Friday, in our newsletter, we also had our merch
which is so exciting. We'll link everything in the bio.
If you are not on our newsletter yet, you can
go sign up in the not the bio.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
The it's also in our Instagram bio.
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Yeah, which is Feeling Things podcast. But sign up for
our newsletter. But we'll also link to our merch in
the show notes and I'll link to or I'll copy
and paste the Christmas on the Stove Smelly Stuff recipe
stovetop Christmas stovetop simmers, stovetop pop pourri. I just don't
(06:27):
like the word. I don't. I don't really like the
word potpourri. And ever happens poop, I don't know pop
potpourri speak enough?
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Can I tell that story?
Speaker 4 (06:38):
What story for you?
Speaker 1 (06:39):
On the phone?
Speaker 4 (06:40):
Sure?
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Amy, just add a phone call on speakerphone so I
could hear the person she was talking to. And she
answered the phone normal. She said hello, and the lady
was like, is the samey? That wasn't her accent, but
she had an accent and she said something and then
Amy changed her accent.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
Yeah, lady, But I didn't even know I was doing that.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
All of a sudden, we heard you go hello. I
don't know why I did that.
Speaker 4 (07:08):
I really don't. I didn't even know why. Y'all were
laughing at me. And then I thought, okay, well that
tracks like sometimes I just you know, conformed my environment
because I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
It's just like switch all of a sudden. I was like,
that was funny.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
I mean, I know it drug out a little bit.
I was like, hello, hello, but I mean I didn't
do it with other words, right.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
No, Then you went back to normal.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
When I was saying this, that would be awkward. Yeah,
I think just right away. I don't know. Is my
first time talking about person. I was a little nervous,
So I think I'm just just.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Like, oh, hello, that's how you did it.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
Yeah, it's the right, missus doubtfire.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Hello, can I shock you?
Speaker 4 (07:55):
Have you never watched that movie?
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Never seen it? Yeah? You?
Speaker 4 (07:58):
Oh, so many movies you've never seen. It blows my mind,
Like have you seen elf y? Oh, don't act like
that's a crazy question, because that's like more recent, quintessential
Christmas movie, like you have to watch it. And then
there's more like low key type Christmas movies like While
you were Sleeping That sounds scary. No, it was Sandra Bullock. Oh,
(08:20):
never seen and he gets hit by the train and
then oh, you need to watch that. You would love
it. It was my mom's favorite Christmas movie.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
So okay on our list this year.
Speaker 4 (08:30):
Added to the list with all the other movies were
supposed to be watching. I think there was something else
we were supposed to watch, and I had two weeks
to watch it, and I think the past. Yeah, I'm
not watching it. I'm just sorry. I don't want to.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
I mean, I get it. I don't think you I
get you know. I don't want to watch it again
right now currently where I am in my life. Yes,
there is a there's a cat crowd. Cat's asking if
there's a live action there was. I love Mulan, probably
one of my favorite Disney movies. I don't want to
go see the live action.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
Live action doesn't make me want to watch it anymore
or less. No, I just thought it not my things.
So okay, you're feeling the.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Joy and the Okay, okay, so the marry, the marry
and joyful, the merry joyful. So I feel like I'm
telling myself this. So I'll check it out with my
actual therapist soon. But I feel like I've still I've
been in this stage for a while, which I've talked
about where I'm just like there's a lot of things
that are not in my control and I'm there's nothing
I can do at all. I'm just in like a
(09:27):
waiting stage. And it is not just waiting for the thing,
but it's also like I can't do a lot of
things that I normally would be doing right now.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
I e.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Go on trips, plan things, fun things like that, And
because I can't do that, I can't distract myself. My
favorite way to distract myself is planning a trip, even
if I'm not going on a trip, even if it's
in the future. I can't do that right now. So
I have been trying to find little ways to create
joy and excitement in my life while this other thing
(10:01):
is happening in the background. And so I won what
on my stay cation.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
I'm on stay cation.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
A couple of weeks ago, and it was amazing, And
I highly recommend doing that, especially if you have lived
somewhere for a while and there are so many things
that feel normal to you because you live there, but
you've just never done them because you live there, you
know what I mean. Yeah, And then so I went
on a Sacasian and then I decorated for Christmas full
(10:32):
decorated for Christmas the day after Halloween, two days after Halloween,
November second, and I'm on it man, Yes, and so
I feel a lot of marrying from my Christmas, but
joyful from like these things. We went to places in
this city that I grew up in that I never
have done before.
Speaker 4 (10:53):
And I will say some advice like, if people are able,
you may just have to do it on a weekend,
you may have to work the full work week and
then you can do a staycation on the weekend. But
you and Patrick, oh, you took time off, like we
we even altered our podcast schedule because you're like, hey,
I'm really trying to have off as if I was
actually on vacation and in another town. It was almost
like you were leaving, but you weren't. And then y'all
(11:17):
even had your mom like drive you around.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
Okay, so we went to.
Speaker 4 (11:22):
But so but I'm I'm I'm giving people pro tips
of like how can you make it feel like save
money you're saving but doing more And and you took
off work and like you you still got your work
done of.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Work and you called your mom.
Speaker 4 (11:39):
Yeah, so I know not everybody has that option, but
I'm just make I'm painting a picture that it wasn't
like just you know, a Saturday or Sunday, Like y'all
really were intentional about it and made it a whole thing,
And I think that helped make the experience. Like you
got your work done because Patrick also has responsibilities. But
since you planned ahead, you're like, oh, let's look at
the calendar and let's figure out how can make this work,
(12:00):
just in case anybody else has the flexibility to do that.
I feel like that helped make the experience.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
One hundred percent because much more. Yeah, we were at home,
but we also weren't doing a lot of things with
other people, so we were just spending a lot of
time together as if we were on vacation. And my
mom didn't just drive us, she used like your uber.
So we went to Errington Vineyards, which is a vineyard
(12:27):
maybe twenty five minutes from our house. I'd only been
once ten years ago, and Patrick had never been, and
it's close by. Why wouldn't we do that? So on Friday,
that's what we did all days. We packed a picnic
and then he went on a run with me outside.
He has never done that before. And then we packed
a picnic and went We ubered there and it was
(12:48):
like twenty dollars, maybe fifteen twenty dollars. We looked for
ubers and we were getting ready to leave. Just guess
how much an uber was at that time.
Speaker 4 (12:59):
It was like four sixty bucks.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Eighty dollars.
Speaker 4 (13:03):
Oh, oh my god, I mean I was guessing high
on the sixty just because you eighty dollars acted like
it was gonna be a lot.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
So I texted my mom when I was like, hey, Mom,
what are you doing? So she was yeah, she was
well she lives right there too. I guess you live
over there too, and she picked us up. It was
five stars best Uber ride. She showed up with. She
had made mummy dogs, which are hot dogs wrapped in
(13:33):
soured dough bread. She made them for my nephew and
she was bringing them to him, so she brought us
to It was literally like we were in on vacation.
We get into her car our Uber and she's like,
I brought you guys, waters and I have two mummy
dogs for you. She even packaged up individual mustard and
ketchup packets rush, so we had a snack on the
(13:53):
way home. So free Uber with snacks from my mother.
Thank you, Jody.
Speaker 4 (13:58):
I mean that would make me marry and joyful.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (14:00):
And then also I will say, ever since we've gotten
the Mercha gear a vibe, I know you have this
whole experience, so you're like, you know, got this energy
about you. But even living in our sweat set for
four days, so it's a hoodie and sweatpants and cats
living in it, and I feel like your energy around
it is so good.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Upset. As soon as I picked it up, I texted you,
I will say, if you're looking for something, I love
a comfy anything, and I've been looking for a lot
more comfy sets and I've been ordering them from different places.
Half of them I have sent back. I've not taken
this off for I took it off to wash, I
will say that. And it still fits perfecto after I
washed it.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
And it's a matching hoodie with sweatpants, and it has
like a feeling things like circle on the hoodie and
then it also has it on the pants too, which
people can go look. They might be if you're watching
on YouTube, you can see it, but if you're listening
on the podcast, then go check it out. But I
feel like a sweat set has made you happy. Your
staycation has made you happy. And then I think, I
(15:00):
think the excitement of what you have that you're talking
you have going on in the background, Like Kat and
I both have things happening in our life that we're
not talking about really publicly. But I think your situation
is rounding a corner where it's kind of getting exciting.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
We're getting good news and we're getting closer versus we're
just like we don't know what's going to happen kind
of thing.
Speaker 4 (15:21):
Whereas my situation is bringing up like good it's a
good reminder of how two things can be true at
the same time, because I do feel this excitement and
marry and joy towards this season. I love this time
of year and I want to go all in on that,
especially since I have my kids and then I have
now this other family that I get to celebrate with.
(15:44):
But side by side with that, I have this other
thing going on that is a lot, but it's not
as overwhelming, I think, as it would be if I
hadn't experienced something similar before. So it's sort of great
because it's not my first rodeo. You know. However, today
literally I had to do something with regarding like finances
(16:06):
and logging into stuff and I didn't want to do it,
and I felt this like uneasiness in my stomach. And
I used to get this thing in my throat with
my finances, like anytime I had to address it or
look at a spreadsheet or numbers or anything, and I
felt some of that stuff come up again, and I
was like, oh, I thought I dealt with this, like
(16:28):
we had graduated and I now know how to log
into stuff and I don't get queasy about it. And
I had to go log in, and it really was
to check something. Normally I maybe would be excited about it,
but all those old feelings came back. But I just
had to power through and I didn't let it overwhelm
(16:48):
me or stop me. Well, I didn't really have a choice,
but I think back in the day, I would have
found a way to escape it or delegate it or
figure out. But I was like, nope, just log in,
get the information, figure it out, and move on. And
so to anybody else, if like something comes up that
you haven't felt in a couple of years and you think, well, shoot,
(17:11):
I've done all this work and I was feeling empowered
and I've even talked about how much more confident I
feel about it and how I don't get that lump
in my throat anymore. And then it comes back. So
then you feel like, oh, does this mean I'm going backwards?
And I guess maybe it could depending on your situation.
Like it makes me think of eating disorders and even
you know, alcoholics and if they're in recovery or whatnot.
(17:33):
And you said something about recovery when we were talking
about eating disorders, and you were like, that's why they
call it recovery. You said something about recovery when we
(17:54):
were talking about eating disorders, and you were like, that's
why they call it recovery.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
That about recovered.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
You're never recovered. It's always there. And so looking at
my financial situation kind of like how I look at
eating disorder recovery, I was like, oh, that makes sense,
Like there is some sort of thing that's in me
and it may pop up next year, it may pop
up next month, it might go away and pop up
in five years, like it may be something that is
(18:20):
always within me. But it was also cool to see
that I just take the next move into the do
the next thing and the next thing, and then while
it was done and the pain was minimal, whereas I
if I had I don't know, the word that's coming
to mind is to come like if I had given
it to the all the anxiety that was coming up,
(18:43):
then I could have prolonged that whole process and it
would have made it more dreadful.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
Yeah, well I think that that's growth.
Speaker 4 (18:50):
Yeah, even though it felt like backwards it's like right,
it was like backwards, but growth.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
This is good that you're saying this because a lot
of people this happens all the time. Where I thought
I got over this, I thought I worked through this,
I thought this was an issue for me anymore, and
life happens, and like you said, that's always a part
of me. It's why people say I'm in recovery or
I'm recovering, versus I am recovered. You won't really hear
(19:16):
somebody say I'm a recovered addict or I'm a recovered
whatever I'm in recovery from or in. What you demonstrated
is I still had these feelings and I'm still a
human that is affected by things and can feel things.
And now I have better tools and I know more
and I'm better equipped to deal with them. So even
(19:37):
like me, I'll have days I've talked to you about
them all days where my body image is like killing me,
feels like and what do I always.
Speaker 4 (19:45):
Say, Oh, I have my coping skills.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I have to use my skills today. I'm using my skills.
I'm using my skills because I still am I'm a
female living in this world where stress and things affect
me but I know how to deal with those things better.
Sometimes I need to extra help, I know how to
ask for that help now, or I know what to
do when I'm in that place. And it sounds like
you had an experience where this came up again, and
(20:09):
instead of shutting my computer and going to and going
and ask somebody else to do this for me, I
worked through this, even though it was hard. You working
through something and processing something doesn't mean feelings go away.
It means you learn how to cope with those feelings better.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
Yeah, Nor does it mean that I've lost any progress
that I made. I do see how those thoughts could
enter though, and someone may feel that way. But I
just want to send encouragement to anybody else. Because we
had a question recently on the Bobby Bone Show. I
do a Best Bits or Morgan does the Best Bits
every weekend and she rotates people on the show, and
a couple of weeks ago was my week and a
(20:47):
question that came in was about a disorder and someone said,
or you ever fully recovered? And I wish I would
have had what you said about Well, that's why it's
called I'm in recovery. I'm not recovered well I answer
it in that way. I just didn't have that language,
and I was like, oh, yeah, that's such an easy
way to put it. Like it's sort of similar to grief,
(21:08):
like it's it's always there, you always carry it, but
the load doesn't feel as heavy. Like we've used the
backpack example before, like if grief is in a backpack
and you're carrying it around, like some days that backpack
may feel really heavy, and other days you're like, Okay,
the backpack is still here, but.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
I can live my life with the backpack.
Speaker 4 (21:27):
Yeah, I'm walking around fine, I'm walking around with ease,
like it will always be like there's not a day
that goes by that I mean, honestly, there's days go
by that I don't think of my mom and my dad.
That can't be true. I'm sure there's days where like
they don't cross my mind. I'm just saying there's days.
If they do cross my mind, I always miss them.
(21:48):
But of all the days, is that weird to say?
I feel like you gave me a weird look, like
you don't think of your mom and dad every day?
Speaker 1 (21:53):
I think you do. You don't realize that, Okay, I
think you like even looking in your backyard. You see
the the chair or the birds singing of yours, my
rocking chair.
Speaker 4 (22:03):
My mom's rocking chair. Oh, I sold that on Facebook
Marketplace the day.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Don't do that. We sold it update.
Speaker 4 (22:09):
I know we discussed me doing it, and I thought
that ultimately we decided on here that I was gonna sell.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
I thought we were going to refurbish it. But like, great,
I'm glad you sold it. Great, great, great, great, good
for you. That's the right thing to do.
Speaker 4 (22:20):
Hello, Hello, I thought.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
I think you probably think of your parents more than
you realize. It's just integrated into you.
Speaker 5 (22:29):
You.
Speaker 4 (22:29):
Yeah, like I have my mom's I don't have it
on right now, but like I normally I don't have
on my pinky ring for my mom right now because
it's a little teeny tiny diamond sell out and I'm
getting it fixed, so it's the only reason. But I
always have that on. So you're right, like I probably
look at that every day and think of her, but
I just don't.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
The grief feels different. It's more integrated. Yeah, so you
see that, and the feeling is still there, but it's
a different kind of feeling.
Speaker 4 (22:53):
Like my mom, what are we like almost mid November. Now,
so my mom her what do you call it death anniversary,
death of versary, her heaven birthday? What is it called?
Her day she got her wings? That sounds like a country,
but I feel like people call her Yeah, her birthday
(23:19):
is coming up in December. I don't know how I
feel about it, like come December, but her death of day.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
What do people call that? Avirtue of her death?
Speaker 4 (23:29):
I know, I feel like there's a better way to
say that. The day she got her wings, let's call
it her heavenly birthday. The day she got her wings
was October twenty seventh, and my sister's birthdays right after
that October twenty eighth, And those two days are always
kind of weird because my sister's birthday, my sister just
texted me a red balloon because we associate red balloon
with my mom died, and I texted the red balloon back.
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And then my sister was traveling. She was in Austin
and she was doing family things there, so we didn't
even really talk that day. And then it was weird
because some anniversaries of that have been really, really hard,
and this year it wasn't at all. Like I said,
the red blutant, and of course I missed her, but
I didn't. I wasn't overwhelmed, And I think normally when
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I feel overwhelmed, i'll do something like, Okay, well now
I need to do something special, or let's go on
her mom so that I can have like more peace
come over me.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
But I didn't.
Speaker 4 (24:25):
I didn't do that, And it was weird that I
didn't even talk to my sister that day. I tried
to call her, she didn't answer.
Speaker 1 (24:30):
Busy. But you also had a lot going on that day.
I will say that, like that.
Speaker 4 (24:35):
Was a it's a good point. I think maybe also
this team, this team, this time of year, not every
year or this time of year, but what I have
going on right now, You're right, Okay, I will say
I felt it, but it wasn't like as hard, Like
I didn't have a breakdown. Maybe I need to.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
So why do you think you have to have a
breakdown to miss somebody? I don't know.
Speaker 4 (25:00):
Good question, because then if you don't break down, do
you even really miss them? Do you miss your mom? Yes, okay,
I was joking. I don't think you have to have
a breakdown.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
But I think what I'm hearing too, is usually it
feels heavier.
Speaker 4 (25:16):
But also too, You're right, the other things were heavier. Yeah,
so it's like I only have so much capacity to
feel and so the mom stuff actually seemed manageable. But
that's okay. I feel like it's so it'll be every
years different. Yeah, this is an example of that.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
And I think to speak on what you were saying
before this year, it felt like it was manageable. It
didn't feel as heavy. That doesn't mean next year you
won't be in a place where like you do cry.
That doesn't mean that like you're bad at graving. That
means that grief is not linear, right, and growth oftentimes
(25:57):
is not linear like we in our heads think it's
supposed to be. But things are going to affect us
at different times in different ways based on what else
is going on within our environment. And you have a
lot going on within your environment that's probably taking up
a lot of space from these other things.
Speaker 4 (26:13):
Yeah, Shannon sent us other ways to say anniversary of
her death, are you ready for him? Remembrance day.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (26:23):
Commemoration okay? And angel versiary. Could you imagine if I
was like, what have I texted you today? Is my
mom's angel versary.
Speaker 1 (26:34):
I know I wouldn't say anything negative because I don't
want to judge somebody who if that's how they cope
with that, that's true. I can't see you saying that,
and I can't see myself using that. I think I
would just say anniversary of her death. But I agree,
I don't really like that. It's kind of a mouthful
and it's like.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
Don't dundun't like anniversary of her death? The day she died, Yeah,
the day then music died. I think heaven birthday is
cute birthday. Yeah, I think it's sweet. Okay, let's hope
she's there. I'm joking too heavy.
Speaker 5 (27:11):
Obviously, I'm just kidding, right, yeah for sure, Yes, yes, yes,
I know obviously, yeah, of course yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Mm hmmm. Question that doesn't come up?
Speaker 4 (27:26):
What?
Speaker 1 (27:27):
So I have a update okay about what two updates?
Kind of one for anybody who's wondering my treadmill's working.
Speaker 4 (27:38):
Oh yeah, you know people were wondering.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
And I will say somebody came and fixed it. I
last week I was talking about, like I have to
take it down the stairs. This is gonna suck. They
sent somebody to fix it for free. He was very nice,
and he also told me it might have just been
because I plugged it in wrong, but he waited to
tell me that until after he we we wired, rewired.
Speaker 4 (28:03):
Rewired, you know, RS and w's are hard hard.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
He rewired the whole thing and then he was like,
could have been just you plugged it in wrong. And
I was like, okay, thanks reding kind about that. That
brings me to upstairs, which brings me to my fire alarm.
Speaker 4 (28:21):
Which brings you to the question that doesn't come up? Yes, okay.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
So after I had the issue with my smoke detector
that I talked about last week, and I had the
lady talking to me, Yeah, that was weird. So we
now have We haven't fixed it, we just took it off.
So I started kind of panicking, not super seriously, but
like a little bit thinking in the back of my head, well,
if there is a fire in our bedroom and we
(28:47):
have to escape and we cannot get out of our bedroom,
we're going to have to jump out our window, which
led me to how would you jump out of the window.
It's a two story building. Do you know how to
do this?
Speaker 4 (29:12):
I have thought about ordering one of those throw down
ladders from Amazon. Oh so I just haven't ever done it.
Wait what it's like a little you know rope with
little wooden. You know, it's not very sturdy at all,
but it'll work in an emergency and you throw it
out and then you like climb down. So you can
(29:33):
order those on Amazon.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Okay, I will be ordering that because carry on. Don't
know how to jump out of a window.
Speaker 4 (29:38):
Though, I'm thinking. I'm thinking what I would do probably
is I would get a sheet, my sheets, okay, and
make my own rope.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
Okay, Like, as I'm not jumping out, you're not jumping out.
Speaker 4 (29:54):
What would do? You have some special way to jump
and land and not hurt yourself like I would. I
would have my She won't go all the way down,
but I could maybe get down enough enough.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
What are you connecting the sheet to so it doesn't fall?
Speaker 4 (30:06):
Good question? Don't know yet. Maybe my curtain rod because
it's screwed into the wall.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
Yeah, could I tie it?
Speaker 4 (30:15):
And then yeah, hang out. I'm still gonna have to jump,
but just maybe not as far.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
Okay. I'm thinking, like the door it's burning, you have
ten seconds to get out of here. The smoke is coming.
Get out, Okay. So you're thinking I have some time
to make okay, contraption.
Speaker 4 (30:32):
I guess I'm just going to jump?
Speaker 1 (30:33):
Okay, do you know how to jump? Okay?
Speaker 5 (30:35):
Do you so?
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Okay, I'm glad to do Okay, I do now. But
I'm glad I'm talking about this because I asked Patrick
this and he acted like it was like, well, eevery,
I knows this. I said, Patrick, if we had to
jump out of our windows, how how do you land?
Because you don't want to land on your bottom because
you're hole. Your tailbone will completely shatter. If you land
just on your feet, your your legs are gonna shatter,
(30:58):
and then like you can't land on your hands, you
can't let Like, how do you land where you might
be able to walk again? Because two stories is kind
of high and we have concrete underneath of ours. So
he go I said, Patrick, how would you jump out
of this window? And he goes tuck and roll? What
he just said, tuck and roll? What are you talking to? Stop?
Speaker 4 (31:18):
Drop and roll?
Speaker 1 (31:19):
Like a little different tuck and roll.
Speaker 4 (31:22):
I'm not talking. I can't tuck and roll out of
a window.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
Like what No, he means when you so I looked
it up. I actually like googled this because I was like,
how do you He was like, everybody knows this, and
I was like, I'm a part of everybody, and I
don't know.
Speaker 4 (31:33):
Oh, so you jump out of the window and right
before you hit the ground and you tuck and roll.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
So like I've said, you would just hit the ground
as a roll.
Speaker 4 (31:42):
Because I'm picturing he's like in the window and he's roll.
He's like rolling out of the window. Like, how does it?
Speaker 1 (31:51):
How how you just do a front flip out of
the window. Okay, So basically it says the Internet says,
and this is what he was saying. When you land,
you land in as as soon as you land, you
you roll, so you're smoothing the impact so the impact
doesn't all go through your legs.
Speaker 4 (32:07):
I mean, I just don't know how I'm gonna I
do need to practice it, true.
Speaker 1 (32:11):
I need to practice, but not through the two story window.
But I also was thinking, maybe this is more This
is gonna sound a little bit sexist, but I don't
mean it that way. Maybe this is more natural for
men because they're like football. He was like, in football,
if you're gonna whatever, you you roll so you you
don't hurt yourself as much, or you slide or you
do whatever. So they're like taught how to and he
(32:32):
played rugby, so I'm assuming there's a lot of tucking
and rolling where nobody ever told me how.
Speaker 4 (32:37):
It's a classic rugby. Yeah, he's still manly.
Speaker 1 (32:48):
I will say every time that he's done something recently,
he'll be like, was that masculine?
Speaker 4 (32:52):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (32:53):
So does he know I showed him because I didn't
want him to find out about that.
Speaker 4 (32:57):
Yeah, I don't know what we're talking about. Listening to
last week's.
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Yeah, he knew exactly what I meant when I said it.
But then now he's like, was that masculine enough for you?
And I'm like, k, it's any any who tech and roll.
So if you live in a two story building and
there might be a fire, if you have to jump out,
which we hope that you have the time to make
(33:21):
the sheet ladder. We should put the ladder in our newsletter.
Can you give me that?
Speaker 4 (33:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (33:26):
Oh, Shannon already has it.
Speaker 4 (33:28):
It'll be on our next upcoming newsletter. So make sure
you sign up because you probably can't google. Lads, we
just make it easy for you. You never know a yeah, Okay, well,
so now we know how the questions rule don't come up.
I didn't know how to do that, and now I know.
So thank you for teaching me. I feel like you
saved my life.
Speaker 1 (33:48):
Honestly, Potentially we won't know until we know.
Speaker 4 (33:52):
But I'm like trying to figure out how manna practice
because I would be scared to like jump from my
kitchen counter.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
I think we need to go jump off stuff.
Speaker 4 (33:58):
Yeah, but I'm nervous. I need to stretch more before
or like, because I've got to build up like muscles
and and then form and what you could do if
you had time? Honestly, I know the fire's coming, the
fires coming. So could you go in your closet and
put on like Joey from Friends and put on like
every clothing item that you have, like every sweat jacket,
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and then jump out?
Speaker 1 (34:23):
That's actually really if there's a way to tie like
a pillow around your bottom, yes, or on your knee
you like, And can you jump with a pillow and
then roll into the pillow mm hmm. Okay, so we
can add some stuff to the tuck and roll. But
I do think maybe we should go to a park
and jump.
Speaker 4 (34:42):
On practicing okay, practicing our duck and roll.
Speaker 1 (34:45):
So if you see us tucking and rolling in a park.
Speaker 4 (34:47):
Nearby, just we could go to like a gymnastics place
and practice like tucking and rolling into the foam pit.
Speaker 1 (34:54):
Okay, oh we could. Just I was gonna say, what
do we say to the gymnastics people when we book
a session.
Speaker 4 (34:59):
Like, hey, we just want to you can do adult sessions.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
They're gonna be like, what do you want to come do?
Speaker 4 (35:03):
And we're like free, free form, we would like.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
To practice jumping out of our window caase there's a fire.
Speaker 4 (35:09):
I don't think they ask like what are you? What
are you training for?
Speaker 1 (35:12):
Whatever?
Speaker 4 (35:12):
You just say like, I'm I'm an athlete, Like I
want to practice, Like.
Speaker 1 (35:17):
I'm an athlete. What do you mean? What am I
here for? I'm here to do athletic things.
Speaker 4 (35:21):
And you can just sign up. Yeah, okay, tuck and
roll all right. I have an email from a new
listener named Dave. Hey, Dave, you don't.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
Know what that's from? Do you know what it's from? No?
Speaker 4 (35:35):
But I was hoping you did, because whenever I saw
that his name was Dave, I had in my mind,
Hey Dave, So if anybody listening right now, knows what
that's from, Like, do you know what what's up?
Speaker 1 (35:49):
That's a commercial?
Speaker 4 (35:50):
Yeah, Budweizer.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
So you think Dave is like a Dave.
Speaker 4 (35:55):
I don't know. It could be a movie, a TV show,
a commercial, a meme. Nothing could just be from like
I know, it could be from nothing. It just could
be from my brain.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
I could have had a conversation with somebody named Dave
in your head and.
Speaker 4 (36:09):
That's dinner rave, Like, I don't know, but I'm gonna
I'm gonna just I'm gonna read his note and I
just want to give a shout out because not only
is he a new listener and he's already emailing, but
he is also offering some advice.
Speaker 1 (36:25):
Okay, Dave, Hey, Dave, let's go.
Speaker 4 (36:28):
I'd listener give me that emailing because we've gotten some
really good emails lately lately from listeners that have been
listening a long time, and like, you don't have to
email right away at all, because these listeners had not.
They were like, I've been listening for years, this is
my first time emailing, and i've or I've thought about
emailing for two or three years now, and I'm finally
sitting down to do it and like that's really special,
(36:49):
Like if you take the time to sit down and
email us, that's not lost on us. But he just
started listening on October fourteenth, so he hasn't even listening
a full month. Oh my god, Hey Dave, Hey there,
Amy and Kat I just listened to your podcast on
burnout October fourteenth and enjoyed the whole show. Good to
hear the male caller who listens as a way to
learn more about being a good partner with his wife.
(37:11):
US guys can always use some help in that category. Amy,
you mentioned the meh massages from your boyfriend. My question
to you is do you ask him to do anything
differently or just receive what he gives feel unsatisfied and
not give feedback. Oh you found a good not can
you dig into that area a little more that feels good?
Like things? So Dave is saying, like, speak up, tell
(37:34):
him what you need. Don't hope he guesses right and
then feel disappointed when he doesn't guess right. Y'all know
we are not mind readers, So lay it out there
for us to digest and act on. Let's go Dave, Hey, Dave,
and why I listened in the first place. The burnout
is real. I finally learned to let go and not
be one hundred percent attached to my email and phone
(37:55):
when my dad was in his last days. Oh his dad, hassa.
Maybe he's a has an angel versiary or a heaven birthday.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
What did we.
Speaker 4 (38:04):
Decide heavenly birthday?
Speaker 1 (38:05):
We didn't say angel versary.
Speaker 4 (38:07):
Dave, tell us what you say. A coworker mentor encouraged
me to go a day without looking at email and
see if the world continued it did not blow up.
Since then, I have learned that I can go for
larger blocks of time without staying connected. It has really
helped me a new and happy listener and probably soon
(38:27):
to be a subscriber.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Dave, Dave.
Speaker 4 (38:30):
By this point, he probably has subscribed in the newsletter,
so he's emailed, offered advice and subscribe for the newsletter.
Speaker 1 (38:37):
Subscribe.
Speaker 4 (38:37):
Probably is walking around. Well, they haven't shipped out yet,
but I wonder if he's ordered a hoodie or a hat. Oh,
here's our hats.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
But also he could have.
Speaker 4 (38:47):
For people on YouTube sick. What does it say, cat?
It depends, it says it depends. This makes you think
of this time I tried to do this viral video
with Kat where I was like, hey, you know, like
if you therapists rank their coping coping skills. Yeah, so
it's like journaling and Cat's like, well, it depends. It's
(39:08):
like going for a walk. It depends. And it's like
just say if you think it's a one or a ten.
But Kat couldn't do it because it she has integrity
and it really depends. She can't just say something's a ten,
which when for somebody else it might be a one. Right,
So it depends. And then with the let them theory
and Mel Robbins, it's sort of like, okay, yeah, let
(39:29):
them works at times, but also it depends. So there's
so many things in life where it's not black and white.
This is a representation. Even though the hat is sort
of off white and brown. Life is gray, it's not.
Speaker 1 (39:44):
Mid life is an opportunity to make a gray hat
that says it.
Speaker 4 (39:47):
Depends, it's fine. I kind of like this color go better.
But our sweatsuit is gray sweat yeah, and our T
shirt is sort of gray and it says hat the
day you need to have, but it depends. Represents the
gray are in life. Where if you're feeling like it
(40:10):
has to be this one way or another because sometimes
we've been conditioned that way to be more black and
white with our thinking. This hat is an exhil it's
a deep breath and an exhale to be like you
know what it depends right, Yes, I think.
Speaker 1 (40:26):
That was the best natural commercial for that hat that
anybody could have ever.
Speaker 4 (40:31):
Except for we got to tell you. Oh yeah, the
hat arrives flat brimmed. It's not a flat brimmed hat.
It is a you have to mold it with your
hands yourself.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
Which I didn't know.
Speaker 4 (40:42):
I'm sure Dave probably knows how to do this with
a hat because sort of like Patrick with Tuck and Roll, like,
guys probably just know how to do hats better than girls. Yeah,
but Cat's like, oh no, this hat is flat. It
looked so ridiculous. But then finally can me who's doing
our merch. She's like, hey, guys, I've never had any
(41:03):
trouble bending the brim, so if you're having any trouble,
just keep messing with it, like keep you can't.
Speaker 1 (41:09):
She said. She said it really kindly, like hello, yeah,
you don't want to break it in half.
Speaker 4 (41:15):
But but like you just like fold from the and
like do like a scoop like a scoop. So it
depends a lot in life depends. Thanks Dave for yours
was going to give your advice subscriber.
Speaker 1 (41:29):
He could have been a thousandth YouTube script subscriber.
Speaker 4 (41:33):
Maybe do you think I took that as he was
subscribing to the newsletter.
Speaker 1 (41:36):
I subscriber to anything. You could subscribe and be a
follower of the podcast and subscribe to the podcast.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (41:42):
We finally got a thousand subscribers on YouTube and I
found out because I got an email. Because I don't
I didn't go to the YouTube. I got an email
from YouTube and they were like, congratulations, you hit a thousand,
And I opened it up and it was all these
falling bananas. It was like a little dopamine hit. I
don't know. I mean YouTube has to know what they're doing,
like something was rewarding about the falling bananas and.
Speaker 1 (42:03):
You want to get more for They were like, let's.
Speaker 4 (42:05):
Like, go bananas, you just hit a thousand subscribers que
or something. So I thought it was cute.
Speaker 1 (42:11):
I think when you get one hundred thousand, they send
you a plaque. Sweet soro to one hundred thousand.
Speaker 4 (42:17):
Yeah, here we're going to go. Except for you and
I are the we're not big on like the best
at promoting it.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
The YouTube.
Speaker 4 (42:25):
The YouTube, yeah, the YouTube.
Speaker 1 (42:27):
But it will happen naturally.
Speaker 4 (42:29):
It is happening naturally.
Speaker 1 (42:30):
You're listening and you have a internet if you have
subscribed to us on YouTube phone, yeah, subscribe to us
on YouTube. Just there was a little that's like giving
Essa thank you. You just subscribe.
Speaker 4 (42:48):
Yeah, even if you don't watch it over there, can.
Speaker 1 (42:50):
You have to love if you did watch it.
Speaker 4 (42:52):
I don't really know what that does for us, Like
I'm sort of old school with this, like podcasting, Like
I like that we just have listeners that listen on podcasts.
Speaker 1 (43:00):
Well they can listen on the podcast and subscribe to
our YouTube.
Speaker 4 (43:04):
I know. I still just haven't figured out what that's
doing for us yet.
Speaker 1 (43:06):
It was making us get banana emails.
Speaker 4 (43:10):
I wonder what they send you at two thousand that
that dopamine hit though, is real? Like when I did
plates the other day that I tell you, I signed
up for one plotate's class and I hadn't done it
(43:31):
in months, and I was going to a new place
and you're assigned a locker when you get there, like
whatever bed or machine you're on, they're numbered like one
through fifteen.
Speaker 1 (43:40):
I love that you called them beds. They call it.
Speaker 4 (43:43):
I'm calling it back. I love that because I lay
on it sometimes and do nothing like say I have
bed number seven or machine machine numbers. Workout that then
that means I'm locker seven and I can go put
my stuff in locker seven. When I got out on
my first class and I went to this class on
(44:03):
a code. My friend had a code, so I went
for free, cost me nothing. I go to my locker
and they put a card to my locker that said, like, congratulations, Amy,
you're a Pilates princess. You just finished your first class.
Guess what I did. Guess what I did because I
bought a package. Now I'm a Pilates prince.
Speaker 1 (44:20):
You bought a package.
Speaker 4 (44:21):
I bought a year stop.
Speaker 1 (44:25):
Yeah, like they know what they're doing.
Speaker 4 (44:27):
They my dopamine hit was so high. But here's the thing.
They gave me a code. The code was twenty percent off.
Speaker 1 (44:36):
Well they know how to get you, so.
Speaker 4 (44:38):
Twenty percent off for a pack of five. Okay, but
now I'm a plates princess, so I have to show
up way more like I'm in the class was so
good too, Like I really loved it. Guess what I've
been every day since I signed up? Every single day.
Speaker 1 (44:52):
Let's go.
Speaker 4 (44:53):
Why Sometimes I just lay there like it's a bed,
but I've been there.
Speaker 1 (44:57):
Can I tell you some insider baseball of the gym
atmosphere of selling.
Speaker 4 (45:02):
Yeah, so they got me. Well, no, it was, but
hes it is dope. It was fresh off of a
dopemine hit from a good workout.
Speaker 1 (45:09):
Yeah, ding ding ding.
Speaker 4 (45:10):
Then I opened the locker and I have a card
congratulating me, calling me a plates princess and giving me
a discount code.
Speaker 1 (45:16):
I mean that's probably.
Speaker 4 (45:17):
And then I purchased something.
Speaker 1 (45:19):
Did you get so you bought that? Did you get
any merch too? Were they like, if you buy a merch,
well you have to have those.
Speaker 4 (45:24):
Yeah, but I already have plenty of socks, but I needed.
Speaker 1 (45:26):
Did you give a socks discount on their socks? Now
you're like, well, I'm going to buy these socks for
you since you gave me this discount.
Speaker 4 (45:33):
Yeah, you help me, But the discount was sick. It
was good twenty percent off of a year.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
Yeah, the year.
Speaker 4 (45:38):
So that was where I say, I did the math,
I save the most money, and now I'm a polite princess,
so I have to show up.
Speaker 1 (45:44):
Because you might be a queen eventually. Maybe here's the thing.
To get your money's worth of that you have to
go the whole year.
Speaker 4 (45:51):
That's why I'm going.
Speaker 1 (45:52):
But you don't need to go.
Speaker 4 (45:52):
Actually you just go, I know a couple times now.
But I'm but right now I'm motivated and I'm in
and I'm feeling stronger, like I already on the bands,
like I was having to do, you know, the different
resistance levels, like saying, I was having to always go
down from the recommended. They're like just you know, for
this move, it's recommended red red red, but you know,
if you need to go red, red blue, you're good.
(46:14):
And I was always having to I was like, shoot,
I can do blood red yellow like that's and so
and now red red blue, which you know what's around
the corner, red red red.
Speaker 2 (46:26):
I know.
Speaker 4 (46:26):
So I'm getting stronger. Also, I feel better. Maybe my
merry and joyfulness is from like cause you're a politics princess, yes,
And I'm moving my body like endorphins are legit and
doorphins make you happy, and happy people don't kill their husbands. Boom,
just saying, so, name that movie Legally Blonde. Okay, I've
seen that.
Speaker 1 (46:46):
One wouldn't be crazy if I hadn't seen Legally Blonde.
Speaker 4 (46:50):
Not really, you haven't seen like a lot of classics.
Speaker 1 (46:54):
Okay. I worked over ten years ago at this gym
and my job was front desk, but I had to
do sales, so I had to sell the memberships and
I wasn't very good at it because it gave me
too much thing. I don't like selling things to people.
I'm like, if you want it, here it is. But
they were what their motto was, you take the you
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get to every class. The first class is free to
get people in and like I don't remember the percentages
of it, but because people are like so hopped up
on the endorphins after a workout, they are most if
they're gonna buy it, they're gonna buy it. Then they're
not gonna like I mean, sometimes they do go home
and think about it and buy it, but like that's
when you wanted to lock it in. And they put
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so much pressure on us to put pressure on them,
and I knew I was the annoying salesperson. You know
that feeling? Do you know that feeling?
Speaker 4 (47:42):
Oh, and you're like.
Speaker 1 (47:43):
I know you don't want to buy this, but I
have to give you this spiel anyway. Anyway, if you
didn't buy it, then what they did is we'll give
you another class for free, but if you don't end
up buying a membership, you have to pay for that class.
So people would come back in and they would be
on endorphins again, and then I would get them m
So that's how they do it.
Speaker 4 (48:03):
Now.
Speaker 1 (48:03):
We didn't do We didn't do the cards, and we
didn't call people like kickboxing queens, which we should have
because that would have been a little extra humph. But
I think, but your studio is doing it. They're doing
it right.
Speaker 4 (48:17):
Oh yeah, no, I mean props to them. So anybody,
if you own a fitness studio, used to a card
in somebody's locker, so I call them a princess like
depending on their I'm sure Dave probably wouldn't want to you.
Maybe maybe Dave would. I don't know Dave's preference, but whatever,
you just it's c it was good, you know, It's
something I just learned about both of us as I
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used to work front desk at a gym. You know,
we find our similarities.
Speaker 1 (48:42):
Like the same we're the same kind of gym.
Speaker 4 (48:45):
Yeah, Gold Gym. I work at the front desk. I
didn't have to sell any memberships though. But it was
right after I got out of college and I was
living with my sister and I needed to get a
job because I didn't have a job, my job yet.
I got into sales after that, but it was because
I ran in to a friend when she came in
to work out there and she was like, oh, yeah,
I'm working at Luke over with Luke over at AGM.
(49:06):
And I'm like what. So then I call Luke and
she was like, yeah, I think we might be hiring.
And I'm like, Luke, what up? He was my bff
in high school. And I was like, are y'all hiring?
And he was like yeah, let me set you up
an interview. So it was all that, like you never know,
Like I did not want to go work at the
front desk at Gold's, but it's like that is what
led me to my next job. So somebody you just
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got to do what you got to do. Like I
was working, I had to get there at five am,
and I was working with some eighteen year old kid
and here.
Speaker 1 (49:34):
I am, you're like twenty one.
Speaker 4 (49:36):
No, I was like twenty two, but he was like
I was out of college and yes, And then my
classmates that are starting a professional careers were coming into
work out and I'm like, you need to tell.
Speaker 1 (49:53):
But no, shame.
Speaker 4 (49:54):
Like I think at the time I wouldn't have a
problem with it now because it's like whatever, like I
understand life better. But I think at the time I
was embarrassed. Yeah, I like, don't forget to beat your card.
Excuse me your car did skin? You need to check
in because they were they were sticklers about being the
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card and making sure you had a towel.
Speaker 1 (50:16):
What if they were laid on their payments because you
have to like be like you.
Speaker 4 (50:19):
Know, I wasn't even that high level, Like I was
like literally bottom of the like I was started from
the bottom. I was with the eighteen year old punk
kid from like that just had finished high school and he's.
Speaker 1 (50:35):
He's like, you went to college for this, and I
was like, yeah, yep, I did. Could you fold the
towels really well?
Speaker 4 (50:41):
Yeah, okay, you know skills I'd skills, you know, But
did your gym have a I had to wake up
so early. Remind me, my sister's husband would talk about this,
like I had to wake up so early. This before
I got into radio, which then I learned what early
early was doing a morning show. But I had to
be at Golds at five am. And I would go
to bed at night and I would be so I'm
dreading waking up, but I would sleep in my uniform
(51:04):
and then uh huh, and then I would wake up
and just get my car and go to work. Yeah,
I'd sleep and it was like a black like the
material was horrible, but black with like gold stripes. It
was cold, and I wear these gold pants. Oh, and
I would just sleep in it. And that was when
I was living with my sister's little It was more
like a shed, but we painted it and it didn't
(51:27):
have a bad shed. Well, it was the only space
and it was either that or go like live with.
Speaker 1 (51:32):
My air conditioning. No, I lived outside.
Speaker 4 (51:36):
I lived outside and it didn't have a bathroom, and
I was too scared to walk into their house at night.
I would pee in a vase. Yeah, yeah, you come
a long way.
Speaker 1 (51:49):
You were working at Gold gym, and you lived outside
and you peed in a vase.
Speaker 4 (51:54):
Yes, Oh my gosh, this is like the story you know,
you hear of those people where they're like, you know,
like Jewel was like before I was famous. I slept
in my car.
Speaker 1 (52:02):
You're like, I slept in the shed and I peed
in a vase.
Speaker 4 (52:05):
Yeah. But but we painted the inside purple and then
the outside we painted to match their house.
Speaker 1 (52:13):
Could she know you sleep on the couch inside with it?
Speaker 4 (52:15):
I was excited about living in the shadow. It's on
my own space. Okay, we don't litle makeshift closet.
Speaker 1 (52:22):
Are you sure you have electricity?
Speaker 4 (52:25):
Yeah? We had, I'm Sureeah. We had a light. Yeah,
I had a light like a you know from the
ceiling where you pull that string down.
Speaker 1 (52:32):
Do you have any pictures of this? You think? Hmmm?
Did you have in bite? Anybody over to your shed?
Speaker 4 (52:37):
I know the vase looked like a bamboo.
Speaker 1 (52:39):
Yeah. I did. Go on.
Speaker 4 (52:43):
So so I have.
Speaker 1 (52:45):
My own place. You want to come over? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (52:47):
So while I was working at Gold's gym, I got
to work out there for free, and so one day
after a workout, actually I think I had already did
I move up to my sales job. Yet no, because
once I got my sales job, I got an apartment
with roommates because I could afford it. But I must
have just been working out one day, because when I
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was going to the parking lot this guy that was
also working out. I did work there at the time,
because I would check him in and be like, do
you need to tell Yeah, okay, how I told you
the guy where I went on a couple dates to them,
and then we went to the lake for one of
our dates, and I real est he shaved his legs
and I was like, no, I can't that was him.
Speaker 1 (53:24):
So but he wasn't a deal breaker that you lived outside.
Speaker 4 (53:27):
I don't think you realized that because when he picked
me up for my date, I had to meet me
at my sister's front door, so we probably thought that
was my house.
Speaker 1 (53:33):
I was like, baller, she must own Gold Show. No
I have.
Speaker 4 (53:37):
My sister wasn't rocking that way back then. But okay,
they were newly married with a baby. I mean it
was a super cute house.
Speaker 1 (53:43):
But like she's the manager of gold Show.
Speaker 4 (53:46):
Maybe yeah, like the manager, but.
Speaker 1 (53:47):
He never you never brought anybody to your quarters.
Speaker 4 (53:52):
Okay, that would be hilarious, hilarious, all right, so yeah,
it's fun, all right, so fun. The one thing we
used to both work at the gym, yep, good times.
Speaker 1 (54:04):
Used to be in a vase.
Speaker 4 (54:05):
Yeah, I'm surprised I never told you that story.
Speaker 1 (54:09):
I'm glad we're doing this podcast because I'm learning more
about you. Things that don't come up.
Speaker 4 (54:13):
That's right, things that don't come up.
Speaker 1 (54:16):
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Speaker 4 (54:16):
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Speaker 2 (00:03):
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Speaker 3 (00:05):
If you ever have feelings that you just won't Amy
and Cat got your cove and locking m brother, ladies
and felons, do you just follow an the spirit where
it's all the front over real stuff to the chill
stuff and the m But Twayne, sometimes the best thing
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is feeling.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Things with Amy and Cat. Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things.
I'm Amy and.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
I'm Cat, and I'm coming in hot with my feeling
of the day because I'm feeling it at a level.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Eight oh eight out of ten. Mm, okay, I'm at nine.
I'm not you're just trying to I'm not trying to
one of you, I promise. I just really I'm feeling
I'm feeling.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
It, okay, in it Okay, Well I'm feeling merry and joyful.
Same me too, the same feelings, the same It's like
I gave you these feelings.
Speaker 4 (00:58):
I also have a little bit of anxiety, but not
about this topic at all. It's totally totally separate. But
it was like old feelings that came up. But we
can get to that later because I don't want to
kill the Mary and joyful vibe because I'm with you.
I watched my first Christmas movie of the season.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
What was it?
Speaker 4 (01:13):
It was on Netflix. It was the old one. It's
not even new. So it was called The Count the
Christmas Contract?
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Wait, what was that one about?
Speaker 4 (01:20):
A contract with She took a boy to her hometown
because her ex boyfriend was bringing a girl and she
didn't want to show up alone, so she took her
best friend's brother and they had a contract to do it.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Did they fall in love?
Speaker 4 (01:32):
You have to watch to find out.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I think I've seen that, but you know, they all
run together. It would be really funny if you were
like I watched Shoot, what's the one? You were?
Speaker 4 (01:42):
Old? Holiday?
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I watched Holiday Harmony. I was like, oh, you watch.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Your Christmas No, but I did wonder should my boyfriend
see that scene? I don't know. I want him to
watch the whole movie because I think the whole movie
is cute and adorable and awesome. And he does love
Christmas movies because he started watching him with his daughter.
I think she really enjoyed them. She liked watching with
their mom, and then when their mom died, it's like
he's like, well, I guess I have to step in
(02:06):
now as the Hallmark Christmas movie Lover and now it's
something they love to do, which we all watched it
last night, the Christmas Contract. We watched it her the
brothers watched the Daughter yea, so it was a it
was a family affair and it was feeling good and
like in my kitchen right now, I have my stovetop
smelly Christmas stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
We need a better name, stovetop smelly Christmas stuff. So
I want to get to that. But can I answer
your question that? What was the question should your boyfriend watch?
Speaker 4 (02:36):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Yeah, I already forgot a hundred percent. I feel like
the whole family should watch. If Patrick's seen it, then
your boyfriend should definitely have seen the movie that you're in. Okay,
acting debut, that's the thing to be like, hey guys, so.
Speaker 4 (02:52):
Now this is crazy. It's like the first Christmas we've
celebrated together. We're really close. I mean I was with
them last Christmas but we were still new. So now
that we're like all a lot closer, what do I say,
Like if we're all gathered around the TV and they're like,
what are we gonna watch tonight? And I'm like, how
about the movie I'm in.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
You should just say what about Holliday Harmony? And you say,
like what it's about, and then you play it and
then it's a surprise.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
Oh, like they don't they don't know that I'm in it,
and then my bathroom scene ends up. Okay, well, maybe
we'll do that and I'll report back. Cow please please
do that.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
If they don't know already, or if they wouldn't, maybe
they know if you've been in a Christmas movie. They don't,
but they don't know what it's called. Right, that would
be so good. And then you should like film his
reaction when he sees you on the big screen.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Mm hmm, okay, I'll report back if I do that.
But the the merriness and the joyfulness is alive, and well,
because I think we're tis the season?
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Tis the season? Why didn't even.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
Though there's other feelings happening, I just those are dominating.
So that's why I'm a nine. It's not just because
you're in eight.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
It feels like it. So what's the stovetop smelly stuff?
Speaker 4 (04:00):
Well you know about it because we put it in
our newsletter, But thank you for asking, just for podcast listeners.
It is something that was in our newsletter that went
out last Friday with our merch stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
I wonder who puts the newsletter together.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
You do, which is cute for you to act like
you didn't know what it was. But it smells so good.
It's like Christmas in a pot.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
I actually made it last year, the year before. I
remember I went to the store and got all the
stuff and Patrick was like, why don't you just light
a candle because it's different the same thing, and it's
you're creating a vibe.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
Yeah, it's cranberries, it's cinnamon sticks, it's cloves, it's a
sliced up orange, it's rosemary, it's water in a pot stove,
and you you you light it. We had we had
all of this in our newsletter. So this is why
you need to sign up for the newsletter. Not only
do we have little nuggets like this, which is the
week before you send out your potato souper recipe, so
(05:03):
you just like, never know what you're gonna get. We
have things that Cat and I are reading the Sure
Things were loving before you put your Q tips.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Yes, you never know what you're gonna get.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
Well, those Q tips to be fair or clutch or
a game changer. Before I found those Q tips, I
only bought Q tips where it was round on both sides. Yeah,
I did not know people made a Q tip round
on one side, pointy on the other. It's good for
if you're trying to clean up your nails. It's good
if you're trying to clean up makeup around your nose,
in your nose, in your eyes, your eyebrows, on your legs.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Don't in your ear.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
Yeah, the pointy part in your ear is a little rough.
But don't sleep on those special Q tips. So I
stand by that addition to the newsletter, and I'm saying
so you never know what you're gonna get. And then
on Friday, in our newsletter, we also had our merch
which is so exciting. We'll link everything in the bio.
If you are not on our newsletter yet, you can
go sign up in the not the bio.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
The it's also in our Instagram bio.
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Yeah, which is Feeling Things podcast. But sign up for
our newsletter. But we'll also link to our merch in
the show notes and I'll link to or I'll copy
and paste the Christmas on the Stove Smelly Stuff recipe
stovetop Christmas stovetop simmers, stovetop pop pourri. I just don't
(06:27):
like the word. I don't. I don't really like the
word potpourri. And ever happens poop, I don't know pop
potpourri speak enough?
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Can I tell that story?
Speaker 4 (06:38):
What story for you?
Speaker 1 (06:39):
On the phone?
Speaker 4 (06:40):
Sure?
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Amy, just add a phone call on speakerphone so I
could hear the person she was talking to. And she
answered the phone normal. She said hello, and the lady
was like, is the samey? That wasn't her accent, but
she had an accent and she said something and then
Amy changed her accent.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
Yeah, lady, But I didn't even know I was doing that.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
All of a sudden, we heard you go hello. I
don't know why I did that.
Speaker 4 (07:08):
I really don't. I didn't even know why. Y'all were
laughing at me. And then I thought, okay, well that
tracks like sometimes I just you know, conformed my environment
because I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
It's just like switch all of a sudden. I was like,
that was funny.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
I mean, I know it drug out a little bit.
I was like, hello, hello, but I mean I didn't
do it with other words, right.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
No, Then you went back to normal.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
When I was saying this, that would be awkward. Yeah,
I think just right away. I don't know. Is my
first time talking about person. I was a little nervous,
So I think I'm just just.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Like, oh, hello, that's how you did it.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
Yeah, it's the right, missus doubtfire.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Hello, can I shock you?
Speaker 4 (07:55):
Have you never watched that movie?
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Never seen it? Yeah? You?
Speaker 4 (07:58):
Oh, so many movies you've never seen. It blows my mind,
Like have you seen elf y? Oh, don't act like
that's a crazy question, because that's like more recent, quintessential
Christmas movie, like you have to watch it. And then
there's more like low key type Christmas movies like While
you were Sleeping That sounds scary. No, it was Sandra Bullock. Oh,
(08:20):
never seen and he gets hit by the train and
then oh, you need to watch that. You would love
it. It was my mom's favorite Christmas movie.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
So okay on our list this year.
Speaker 4 (08:30):
Added to the list with all the other movies were
supposed to be watching. I think there was something else
we were supposed to watch, and I had two weeks
to watch it, and I think the past. Yeah, I'm
not watching it. I'm just sorry. I don't want to.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
I mean, I get it. I don't think you I
get you know. I don't want to watch it again
right now currently where I am in my life. Yes,
there is a there's a cat crowd. Cat's asking if
there's a live action there was. I love Mulan, probably
one of my favorite Disney movies. I don't want to
go see the live action.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
Live action doesn't make me want to watch it anymore
or less. No, I just thought it not my things.
So okay, you're feeling the.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Joy and the Okay, okay, so the marry, the marry
and joyful, the merry joyful. So I feel like I'm
telling myself this. So I'll check it out with my
actual therapist soon. But I feel like I've still I've
been in this stage for a while, which I've talked
about where I'm just like there's a lot of things
that are not in my control and I'm there's nothing
I can do at all. I'm just in like a
(09:27):
waiting stage. And it is not just waiting for the thing,
but it's also like I can't do a lot of
things that I normally would be doing right now.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
I e.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Go on trips, plan things, fun things like that, And
because I can't do that, I can't distract myself. My
favorite way to distract myself is planning a trip, even
if I'm not going on a trip, even if it's
in the future. I can't do that right now. So
I have been trying to find little ways to create
joy and excitement in my life while this other thing
(10:01):
is happening in the background. And so I won what
on my stay cation.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
I'm on stay cation.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
A couple of weeks ago, and it was amazing, And
I highly recommend doing that, especially if you have lived
somewhere for a while and there are so many things
that feel normal to you because you live there, but
you've just never done them because you live there, you
know what I mean. Yeah, And then so I went
on a Sacasian and then I decorated for Christmas full
(10:32):
decorated for Christmas the day after Halloween, two days after Halloween,
November second, and I'm on it man, Yes, and so
I feel a lot of marrying from my Christmas, but
joyful from like these things. We went to places in
this city that I grew up in that I never
have done before.
Speaker 4 (10:53):
And I will say some advice like, if people are able,
you may just have to do it on a weekend,
you may have to work the full work week and
then you can do a staycation on the weekend. But
you and Patrick, oh, you took time off, like we
we even altered our podcast schedule because you're like, hey,
I'm really trying to have off as if I was
actually on vacation and in another town. It was almost
like you were leaving, but you weren't. And then y'all
(11:17):
even had your mom like drive you around.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
Okay, so we went to.
Speaker 4 (11:22):
But so but I'm I'm I'm giving people pro tips
of like how can you make it feel like save
money you're saving but doing more And and you took
off work and like you you still got your work
done of.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Work and you called your mom.
Speaker 4 (11:39):
Yeah, so I know not everybody has that option, but
I'm just make I'm painting a picture that it wasn't
like just you know, a Saturday or Sunday, Like y'all
really were intentional about it and made it a whole thing,
And I think that helped make the experience. Like you
got your work done because Patrick also has responsibilities. But
since you planned ahead, you're like, oh, let's look at
the calendar and let's figure out how can make this work,
(12:00):
just in case anybody else has the flexibility to do that.
I feel like that helped make the experience.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
One hundred percent because much more. Yeah, we were at home,
but we also weren't doing a lot of things with
other people, so we were just spending a lot of
time together as if we were on vacation. And my
mom didn't just drive us, she used like your uber.
So we went to Errington Vineyards, which is a vineyard
(12:27):
maybe twenty five minutes from our house. I'd only been
once ten years ago, and Patrick had never been, and
it's close by. Why wouldn't we do that? So on Friday,
that's what we did all days. We packed a picnic
and then he went on a run with me outside.
He has never done that before. And then we packed
a picnic and went We ubered there and it was
(12:48):
like twenty dollars, maybe fifteen twenty dollars. We looked for
ubers and we were getting ready to leave. Just guess
how much an uber was at that time.
Speaker 4 (12:59):
It was like four sixty bucks.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Eighty dollars.
Speaker 4 (13:03):
Oh, oh my god, I mean I was guessing high
on the sixty just because you eighty dollars acted like
it was gonna be a lot.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
So I texted my mom when I was like, hey, Mom,
what are you doing? So she was yeah, she was
well she lives right there too. I guess you live
over there too, and she picked us up. It was
five stars best Uber ride. She showed up with. She
had made mummy dogs, which are hot dogs wrapped in
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soured dough bread. She made them for my nephew and
she was bringing them to him, so she brought us
to It was literally like we were in on vacation.
We get into her car our Uber and she's like,
I brought you guys, waters and I have two mummy
dogs for you. She even packaged up individual mustard and
ketchup packets rush, so we had a snack on the
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way home. So free Uber with snacks from my mother.
Thank you, Jody.
Speaker 4 (13:58):
I mean that would make me marry and joyful.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (14:00):
And then also I will say, ever since we've gotten
the Mercha gear a vibe, I know you have this
whole experience, so you're like, you know, got this energy
about you. But even living in our sweat set for
four days, so it's a hoodie and sweatpants and cats
living in it, and I feel like your energy around
it is so good.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Upset. As soon as I picked it up, I texted you,
I will say, if you're looking for something, I love
a comfy anything, and I've been looking for a lot
more comfy sets and I've been ordering them from different places.
Half of them I have sent back. I've not taken
this off for I took it off to wash, I
will say that. And it still fits perfecto after I
washed it.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
And it's a matching hoodie with sweatpants, and it has
like a feeling things like circle on the hoodie and
then it also has it on the pants too, which
people can go look. They might be if you're watching
on YouTube, you can see it, but if you're listening
on the podcast, then go check it out. But I
feel like a sweat set has made you happy. Your
staycation has made you happy. And then I think, I
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think the excitement of what you have that you're talking
you have going on in the background, Like Kat and
I both have things happening in our life that we're
not talking about really publicly. But I think your situation
is rounding a corner where it's kind of getting exciting.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
We're getting good news and we're getting closer versus we're
just like we don't know what's going to happen kind
of thing.
Speaker 4 (15:21):
Whereas my situation is bringing up like good it's a
good reminder of how two things can be true at
the same time, because I do feel this excitement and
marry and joy towards this season. I love this time
of year and I want to go all in on that,
especially since I have my kids and then I have
now this other family that I get to celebrate with.
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But side by side with that, I have this other
thing going on that is a lot, but it's not
as overwhelming, I think, as it would be if I
hadn't experienced something similar before. So it's sort of great
because it's not my first rodeo. You know. However, today
literally I had to do something with regarding like finances
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and logging into stuff and I didn't want to do it,
and I felt this like uneasiness in my stomach. And
I used to get this thing in my throat with
my finances, like anytime I had to address it or
look at a spreadsheet or numbers or anything, and I
felt some of that stuff come up again, and I
was like, oh, I thought I dealt with this, like
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we had graduated and I now know how to log
into stuff and I don't get queasy about it. And
I had to go log in, and it really was
to check something. Normally I maybe would be excited about it,
but all those old feelings came back. But I just
had to power through and I didn't let it overwhelm
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me or stop me. Well, I didn't really have a choice,
but I think back in the day, I would have
found a way to escape it or delegate it or
figure out. But I was like, nope, just log in,
get the information, figure it out, and move on. And
so to anybody else, if like something comes up that
you haven't felt in a couple of years and you think, well, shoot,
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I've done all this work and I was feeling empowered
and I've even talked about how much more confident I
feel about it and how I don't get that lump
in my throat anymore. And then it comes back. So
then you feel like, oh, does this mean I'm going backwards?
And I guess maybe it could depending on your situation.
Like it makes me think of eating disorders and even
you know, alcoholics and if they're in recovery or whatnot.
(17:33):
And you said something about recovery when we were talking
about eating disorders, and you were like, that's why they
call it recovery. You said something about recovery when we
(17:54):
were talking about eating disorders, and you were like, that's
why they call it recovery.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
That about recovered.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
You're never recovered. It's always there. And so looking at
my financial situation kind of like how I look at
eating disorder recovery, I was like, oh, that makes sense,
Like there is some sort of thing that's in me
and it may pop up next year, it may pop
up next month, it might go away and pop up
in five years, like it may be something that is
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always within me. But it was also cool to see
that I just take the next move into the do
the next thing and the next thing, and then while
it was done and the pain was minimal, whereas I
if I had I don't know, the word that's coming
to mind is to come like if I had given
it to the all the anxiety that was coming up,
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then I could have prolonged that whole process and it
would have made it more dreadful.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
Yeah, well I think that that's growth.
Speaker 4 (18:50):
Yeah, even though it felt like backwards it's like right,
it was like backwards, but growth.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
This is good that you're saying this because a lot
of people this happens all the time. Where I thought
I got over this, I thought I worked through this,
I thought this was an issue for me anymore, and
life happens, and like you said, that's always a part
of me. It's why people say I'm in recovery or
I'm recovering, versus I am recovered. You won't really hear
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somebody say I'm a recovered addict or I'm a recovered
whatever I'm in recovery from or in. What you demonstrated
is I still had these feelings and I'm still a
human that is affected by things and can feel things.
And now I have better tools and I know more
and I'm better equipped to deal with them. So even
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like me, I'll have days I've talked to you about
them all days where my body image is like killing me,
feels like and what do I always.
Speaker 4 (19:45):
Say, Oh, I have my coping skills.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I have to use my skills today. I'm using my skills.
I'm using my skills because I still am I'm a
female living in this world where stress and things affect
me but I know how to deal with those things better.
Sometimes I need to extra help, I know how to
ask for that help now, or I know what to
do when I'm in that place. And it sounds like
you had an experience where this came up again, and
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instead of shutting my computer and going to and going
and ask somebody else to do this for me, I
worked through this, even though it was hard. You working
through something and processing something doesn't mean feelings go away.
It means you learn how to cope with those feelings better.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
Yeah, Nor does it mean that I've lost any progress
that I made. I do see how those thoughts could
enter though, and someone may feel that way. But I
just want to send encouragement to anybody else. Because we
had a question recently on the Bobby Bone Show. I
do a Best Bits or Morgan does the Best Bits
every weekend and she rotates people on the show, and
a couple of weeks ago was my week and a
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question that came in was about a disorder and someone said,
or you ever fully recovered? And I wish I would
have had what you said about Well, that's why it's
called I'm in recovery. I'm not recovered well I answer
it in that way. I just didn't have that language,
and I was like, oh, yeah, that's such an easy
way to put it. Like it's sort of similar to grief,
(21:08):
like it's it's always there, you always carry it, but
the load doesn't feel as heavy. Like we've used the
backpack example before, like if grief is in a backpack
and you're carrying it around, like some days that backpack
may feel really heavy, and other days you're like, Okay,
the backpack is still here, but.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
I can live my life with the backpack.
Speaker 4 (21:27):
Yeah, I'm walking around fine, I'm walking around with ease,
like it will always be like there's not a day
that goes by that I mean, honestly, there's days go
by that I don't think of my mom and my dad.
That can't be true. I'm sure there's days where like
they don't cross my mind. I'm just saying there's days.
If they do cross my mind, I always miss them.
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But of all the days, is that weird to say?
I feel like you gave me a weird look, like
you don't think of your mom and dad every day?
Speaker 1 (21:53):
I think you do. You don't realize that, Okay, I
think you like even looking in your backyard. You see
the the chair or the birds singing of yours, my
rocking chair.
Speaker 4 (22:03):
My mom's rocking chair. Oh, I sold that on Facebook
Marketplace the day.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Don't do that. We sold it update.
Speaker 4 (22:09):
I know we discussed me doing it, and I thought
that ultimately we decided on here that I was gonna sell.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
I thought we were going to refurbish it. But like, great,
I'm glad you sold it. Great, great, great, great, good
for you. That's the right thing to do.
Speaker 4 (22:20):
Hello, Hello, I thought.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
I think you probably think of your parents more than
you realize. It's just integrated into you.
Speaker 5 (22:29):
You.
Speaker 4 (22:29):
Yeah, like I have my mom's I don't have it
on right now, but like I normally I don't have
on my pinky ring for my mom right now because
it's a little teeny tiny diamond sell out and I'm
getting it fixed, so it's the only reason. But I
always have that on. So you're right, like I probably
look at that every day and think of her, but
I just don't.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
The grief feels different. It's more integrated. Yeah, so you
see that, and the feeling is still there, but it's
a different kind of feeling.
Speaker 4 (22:53):
Like my mom, what are we like almost mid November. Now,
so my mom her what do you call it death anniversary,
death of versary, her heaven birthday? What is it called?
Her day she got her wings? That sounds like a country,
but I feel like people call her Yeah, her birthday
(23:19):
is coming up in December. I don't know how I
feel about it, like come December, but her death of day.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
What do people call that? Avirtue of her death?
Speaker 4 (23:29):
I know, I feel like there's a better way to
say that. The day she got her wings, let's call
it her heavenly birthday. The day she got her wings
was October twenty seventh, and my sister's birthdays right after
that October twenty eighth, And those two days are always
kind of weird because my sister's birthday, my sister just
texted me a red balloon because we associate red balloon
with my mom died, and I texted the red balloon back.
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And then my sister was traveling. She was in Austin
and she was doing family things there, so we didn't
even really talk that day. And then it was weird
because some anniversaries of that have been really, really hard,
and this year it wasn't at all. Like I said,
the red blutant, and of course I missed her, but
I didn't. I wasn't overwhelmed, And I think normally when
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I feel overwhelmed, i'll do something like, Okay, well now
I need to do something special, or let's go on
her mom so that I can have like more peace
come over me.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
But I didn't.
Speaker 4 (24:25):
I didn't do that, And it was weird that I
didn't even talk to my sister that day. I tried
to call her, she didn't answer.
Speaker 1 (24:30):
Busy. But you also had a lot going on that day.
I will say that, like that.
Speaker 4 (24:35):
Was a it's a good point. I think maybe also
this team, this team, this time of year, not every
year or this time of year, but what I have
going on right now, You're right, Okay, I will say
I felt it, but it wasn't like as hard, Like
I didn't have a breakdown. Maybe I need to.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
So why do you think you have to have a
breakdown to miss somebody? I don't know.
Speaker 4 (25:00):
Good question, because then if you don't break down, do
you even really miss them? Do you miss your mom? Yes, okay,
I was joking. I don't think you have to have
a breakdown.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
But I think what I'm hearing too, is usually it
feels heavier.
Speaker 4 (25:16):
But also too, You're right, the other things were heavier. Yeah,
so it's like I only have so much capacity to
feel and so the mom stuff actually seemed manageable. But
that's okay. I feel like it's so it'll be every
years different. Yeah, this is an example of that.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
And I think to speak on what you were saying
before this year, it felt like it was manageable. It
didn't feel as heavy. That doesn't mean next year you
won't be in a place where like you do cry.
That doesn't mean that like you're bad at graving. That
means that grief is not linear, right, and growth oftentimes
(25:57):
is not linear like we in our heads think it's
supposed to be. But things are going to affect us
at different times in different ways based on what else
is going on within our environment. And you have a
lot going on within your environment that's probably taking up
a lot of space from these other things.
Speaker 4 (26:13):
Yeah, Shannon sent us other ways to say anniversary of
her death, are you ready for him? Remembrance day.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (26:23):
Commemoration okay? And angel versiary. Could you imagine if I
was like, what have I texted you today? Is my
mom's angel versary.
Speaker 1 (26:34):
I know I wouldn't say anything negative because I don't
want to judge somebody who if that's how they cope
with that, that's true. I can't see you saying that,
and I can't see myself using that. I think I
would just say anniversary of her death. But I agree,
I don't really like that. It's kind of a mouthful
and it's like.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
Don't dundun't like anniversary of her death? The day she died, Yeah,
the day then music died. I think heaven birthday is
cute birthday. Yeah, I think it's sweet. Okay, let's hope
she's there. I'm joking too heavy.
Speaker 5 (27:11):
Obviously, I'm just kidding, right, yeah for sure, Yes, yes, yes,
I know obviously, yeah, of course yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Mm hmmm. Question that doesn't come up?
Speaker 4 (27:26):
What?
Speaker 1 (27:27):
So I have a update okay about what two updates?
Kind of one for anybody who's wondering my treadmill's working.
Speaker 4 (27:38):
Oh yeah, you know people were wondering.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
And I will say somebody came and fixed it. I
last week I was talking about, like I have to
take it down the stairs. This is gonna suck. They
sent somebody to fix it for free. He was very nice,
and he also told me it might have just been
because I plugged it in wrong, but he waited to
tell me that until after he we we wired, rewired.
Speaker 4 (28:03):
Rewired, you know, RS and w's are hard hard.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
He rewired the whole thing and then he was like,
could have been just you plugged it in wrong. And
I was like, okay, thanks reding kind about that. That
brings me to upstairs, which brings me to my fire alarm.
Speaker 4 (28:21):
Which brings you to the question that doesn't come up? Yes, okay.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
So after I had the issue with my smoke detector
that I talked about last week, and I had the
lady talking to me, Yeah, that was weird. So we
now have We haven't fixed it, we just took it off.
So I started kind of panicking, not super seriously, but
like a little bit thinking in the back of my head, well,
if there is a fire in our bedroom and we
(28:47):
have to escape and we cannot get out of our bedroom,
we're going to have to jump out our window, which
led me to how would you jump out of the window.
It's a two story building. Do you know how to
do this?
Speaker 4 (29:12):
I have thought about ordering one of those throw down
ladders from Amazon. Oh so I just haven't ever done it.
Wait what it's like a little you know rope with
little wooden. You know, it's not very sturdy at all,
but it'll work in an emergency and you throw it
out and then you like climb down. So you can
(29:33):
order those on Amazon.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Okay, I will be ordering that because carry on. Don't
know how to jump out of a window.
Speaker 4 (29:38):
Though, I'm thinking. I'm thinking what I would do probably
is I would get a sheet, my sheets, okay, and
make my own rope.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
Okay, Like, as I'm not jumping out, you're not jumping out.
Speaker 4 (29:54):
What would do? You have some special way to jump
and land and not hurt yourself like I would. I
would have my She won't go all the way down,
but I could maybe get down enough enough.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
What are you connecting the sheet to so it doesn't fall?
Speaker 4 (30:06):
Good question? Don't know yet. Maybe my curtain rod because
it's screwed into the wall.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
Yeah, could I tie it?
Speaker 4 (30:15):
And then yeah, hang out. I'm still gonna have to jump,
but just maybe not as far.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
Okay. I'm thinking, like the door it's burning, you have
ten seconds to get out of here. The smoke is coming.
Get out, Okay. So you're thinking I have some time
to make okay, contraption.
Speaker 4 (30:32):
I guess I'm just going to jump?
Speaker 1 (30:33):
Okay, do you know how to jump? Okay?
Speaker 5 (30:35):
Do you so?
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Okay, I'm glad to do Okay, I do now. But
I'm glad I'm talking about this because I asked Patrick
this and he acted like it was like, well, eevery,
I knows this. I said, Patrick, if we had to
jump out of our windows, how how do you land?
Because you don't want to land on your bottom because
you're hole. Your tailbone will completely shatter. If you land
just on your feet, your your legs are gonna shatter,
(30:58):
and then like you can't land on your hands, you
can't let Like, how do you land where you might
be able to walk again? Because two stories is kind
of high and we have concrete underneath of ours. So
he go I said, Patrick, how would you jump out
of this window? And he goes tuck and roll? What
he just said, tuck and roll? What are you talking to? Stop?
Speaker 4 (31:18):
Drop and roll?
Speaker 1 (31:19):
Like a little different tuck and roll.
Speaker 4 (31:22):
I'm not talking. I can't tuck and roll out of
a window.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
Like what No, he means when you so I looked
it up. I actually like googled this because I was like,
how do you He was like, everybody knows this, and
I was like, I'm a part of everybody, and I
don't know.
Speaker 4 (31:33):
Oh, so you jump out of the window and right
before you hit the ground and you tuck and roll.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
So like I've said, you would just hit the ground
as a roll.
Speaker 4 (31:42):
Because I'm picturing he's like in the window and he's roll.
He's like rolling out of the window. Like, how does it?
Speaker 1 (31:51):
How how you just do a front flip out of
the window. Okay, So basically it says the Internet says,
and this is what he was saying. When you land,
you land in as as soon as you land, you
you roll, so you're smoothing the impact so the impact
doesn't all go through your legs.
Speaker 4 (32:07):
I mean, I just don't know how I'm gonna I
do need to practice it, true.
Speaker 1 (32:11):
I need to practice, but not through the two story window.
But I also was thinking, maybe this is more This
is gonna sound a little bit sexist, but I don't
mean it that way. Maybe this is more natural for
men because they're like football. He was like, in football,
if you're gonna whatever, you you roll so you you
don't hurt yourself as much, or you slide or you
do whatever. So they're like taught how to and he
(32:32):
played rugby, so I'm assuming there's a lot of tucking
and rolling where nobody ever told me how.
Speaker 4 (32:37):
It's a classic rugby. Yeah, he's still manly.
Speaker 1 (32:48):
I will say every time that he's done something recently,
he'll be like, was that masculine?
Speaker 4 (32:52):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (32:53):
So does he know I showed him because I didn't
want him to find out about that.
Speaker 4 (32:57):
Yeah, I don't know what we're talking about. Listening to
last week's.
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Yeah, he knew exactly what I meant when I said it.
But then now he's like, was that masculine enough for you?
And I'm like, k, it's any any who tech and roll.
So if you live in a two story building and
there might be a fire, if you have to jump out,
which we hope that you have the time to make
(33:21):
the sheet ladder. We should put the ladder in our newsletter.
Can you give me that?
Speaker 4 (33:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (33:26):
Oh, Shannon already has it.
Speaker 4 (33:28):
It'll be on our next upcoming newsletter. So make sure
you sign up because you probably can't google. Lads, we
just make it easy for you. You never know a yeah, Okay, well,
so now we know how the questions rule don't come up.
I didn't know how to do that, and now I know.
So thank you for teaching me. I feel like you
saved my life.
Speaker 1 (33:48):
Honestly, Potentially we won't know until we know.
Speaker 4 (33:52):
But I'm like trying to figure out how manna practice
because I would be scared to like jump from my
kitchen counter.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
I think we need to go jump off stuff.
Speaker 4 (33:58):
Yeah, but I'm nervous. I need to stretch more before
or like, because I've got to build up like muscles
and and then form and what you could do if
you had time? Honestly, I know the fire's coming, the
fires coming. So could you go in your closet and
put on like Joey from Friends and put on like
every clothing item that you have, like every sweat jacket,
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and then jump out?
Speaker 1 (34:23):
That's actually really if there's a way to tie like
a pillow around your bottom, yes, or on your knee
you like, And can you jump with a pillow and
then roll into the pillow mm hmm. Okay, so we
can add some stuff to the tuck and roll. But
I do think maybe we should go to a park
and jump.
Speaker 4 (34:42):
On practicing okay, practicing our duck and roll.
Speaker 1 (34:45):
So if you see us tucking and rolling in a park.
Speaker 4 (34:47):
Nearby, just we could go to like a gymnastics place
and practice like tucking and rolling into the foam pit.
Speaker 1 (34:54):
Okay, oh we could. Just I was gonna say, what
do we say to the gymnastics people when we book
a session.
Speaker 4 (34:59):
Like, hey, we just want to you can do adult sessions.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
They're gonna be like, what do you want to come do?
Speaker 4 (35:03):
And we're like free, free form, we would like.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
To practice jumping out of our window caase there's a fire.
Speaker 4 (35:09):
I don't think they ask like what are you? What
are you training for?
Speaker 1 (35:12):
Whatever?
Speaker 4 (35:12):
You just say like, I'm I'm an athlete, Like I
want to practice, Like.
Speaker 1 (35:17):
I'm an athlete. What do you mean? What am I
here for? I'm here to do athletic things.
Speaker 4 (35:21):
And you can just sign up. Yeah, okay, tuck and
roll all right. I have an email from a new
listener named Dave. Hey, Dave, you don't.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
Know what that's from? Do you know what it's from? No?
Speaker 4 (35:35):
But I was hoping you did, because whenever I saw
that his name was Dave, I had in my mind,
Hey Dave, So if anybody listening right now, knows what
that's from, Like, do you know what what's up?
Speaker 1 (35:49):
That's a commercial?
Speaker 4 (35:50):
Yeah, Budweizer.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
So you think Dave is like a Dave.
Speaker 4 (35:55):
I don't know. It could be a movie, a TV show,
a commercial, a meme. Nothing could just be from like
I know, it could be from nothing. It just could
be from my brain.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
I could have had a conversation with somebody named Dave
in your head and.
Speaker 4 (36:09):
That's dinner rave, Like, I don't know, but I'm gonna
I'm gonna just I'm gonna read his note and I
just want to give a shout out because not only
is he a new listener and he's already emailing, but
he is also offering some advice.
Speaker 1 (36:25):
Okay, Dave, Hey, Dave, let's go.
Speaker 4 (36:28):
I'd listener give me that emailing because we've gotten some
really good emails lately lately from listeners that have been
listening a long time, and like, you don't have to
email right away at all, because these listeners had not.
They were like, I've been listening for years, this is
my first time emailing, and i've or I've thought about
emailing for two or three years now, and I'm finally
sitting down to do it and like that's really special,
(36:49):
Like if you take the time to sit down and
email us, that's not lost on us. But he just
started listening on October fourteenth, so he hasn't even listening
a full month. Oh my god, Hey Dave, Hey there,
Amy and Kat I just listened to your podcast on
burnout October fourteenth and enjoyed the whole show. Good to
hear the male caller who listens as a way to
learn more about being a good partner with his wife.
(37:11):
US guys can always use some help in that category. Amy,
you mentioned the meh massages from your boyfriend. My question
to you is do you ask him to do anything
differently or just receive what he gives feel unsatisfied and
not give feedback. Oh you found a good not can
you dig into that area a little more that feels good?
Like things? So Dave is saying, like, speak up, tell
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him what you need. Don't hope he guesses right and
then feel disappointed when he doesn't guess right. Y'all know
we are not mind readers, So lay it out there
for us to digest and act on. Let's go Dave, Hey, Dave,
and why I listened in the first place. The burnout
is real. I finally learned to let go and not
be one hundred percent attached to my email and phone
(37:55):
when my dad was in his last days. Oh his dad, hassa.
Maybe he's a has an angel versiary or a heaven birthday.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
What did we.
Speaker 4 (38:04):
Decide heavenly birthday?
Speaker 1 (38:05):
We didn't say angel versary.
Speaker 4 (38:07):
Dave, tell us what you say. A coworker mentor encouraged
me to go a day without looking at email and
see if the world continued it did not blow up.
Since then, I have learned that I can go for
larger blocks of time without staying connected. It has really
helped me a new and happy listener and probably soon
(38:27):
to be a subscriber.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Dave, Dave.
Speaker 4 (38:30):
By this point, he probably has subscribed in the newsletter,
so he's emailed, offered advice and subscribe for the newsletter.
Speaker 1 (38:37):
Subscribe.
Speaker 4 (38:37):
Probably is walking around. Well, they haven't shipped out yet,
but I wonder if he's ordered a hoodie or a hat. Oh,
here's our hats.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
But also he could have.
Speaker 4 (38:47):
For people on YouTube sick. What does it say, cat?
It depends, it says it depends. This makes you think
of this time I tried to do this viral video
with Kat where I was like, hey, you know, like
if you therapists rank their coping coping skills. Yeah, so
it's like journaling and Cat's like, well, it depends. It's
(39:08):
like going for a walk. It depends. And it's like
just say if you think it's a one or a ten.
But Kat couldn't do it because it she has integrity
and it really depends. She can't just say something's a ten,
which when for somebody else it might be a one. Right,
So it depends. And then with the let them theory
and Mel Robbins, it's sort of like, okay, yeah, let
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them works at times, but also it depends. So there's
so many things in life where it's not black and white.
This is a representation. Even though the hat is sort
of off white and brown. Life is gray, it's not.
Speaker 1 (39:44):
Mid life is an opportunity to make a gray hat
that says it.
Speaker 4 (39:47):
Depends, it's fine. I kind of like this color go better.
But our sweatsuit is gray sweat yeah, and our T
shirt is sort of gray and it says hat the
day you need to have, but it depends. Represents the
gray are in life. Where if you're feeling like it
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has to be this one way or another because sometimes
we've been conditioned that way to be more black and
white with our thinking. This hat is an exhil it's
a deep breath and an exhale to be like you
know what it depends right, Yes, I think.
Speaker 1 (40:26):
That was the best natural commercial for that hat that
anybody could have ever.
Speaker 4 (40:31):
Except for we got to tell you. Oh yeah, the
hat arrives flat brimmed. It's not a flat brimmed hat.
It is a you have to mold it with your
hands yourself.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
Which I didn't know.
Speaker 4 (40:42):
I'm sure Dave probably knows how to do this with
a hat because sort of like Patrick with Tuck and Roll, like,
guys probably just know how to do hats better than girls. Yeah,
but Cat's like, oh no, this hat is flat. It
looked so ridiculous. But then finally can me who's doing
our merch. She's like, hey, guys, I've never had any
(41:03):
trouble bending the brim, so if you're having any trouble,
just keep messing with it, like keep you can't.
Speaker 1 (41:09):
She said. She said it really kindly, like hello, yeah,
you don't want to break it in half.
Speaker 4 (41:15):
But but like you just like fold from the and
like do like a scoop like a scoop. So it
depends a lot in life depends. Thanks Dave for yours
was going to give your advice subscriber.
Speaker 1 (41:29):
He could have been a thousandth YouTube script subscriber.
Speaker 4 (41:33):
Maybe do you think I took that as he was
subscribing to the newsletter.
Speaker 1 (41:36):
I subscriber to anything. You could subscribe and be a
follower of the podcast and subscribe to the podcast.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (41:42):
We finally got a thousand subscribers on YouTube and I
found out because I got an email. Because I don't
I didn't go to the YouTube. I got an email
from YouTube and they were like, congratulations, you hit a thousand,
And I opened it up and it was all these
falling bananas. It was like a little dopamine hit. I
don't know. I mean YouTube has to know what they're doing,
like something was rewarding about the falling bananas and.
Speaker 1 (42:03):
You want to get more for They were like, let's.
Speaker 4 (42:05):
Like, go bananas, you just hit a thousand subscribers que
or something. So I thought it was cute.
Speaker 1 (42:11):
I think when you get one hundred thousand, they send
you a plaque. Sweet soro to one hundred thousand.
Speaker 4 (42:17):
Yeah, here we're going to go. Except for you and
I are the we're not big on like the best
at promoting it.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
The YouTube.
Speaker 4 (42:25):
The YouTube, yeah, the YouTube.
Speaker 1 (42:27):
But it will happen naturally.
Speaker 4 (42:29):
It is happening naturally.
Speaker 1 (42:30):
You're listening and you have a internet if you have
subscribed to us on YouTube phone, yeah, subscribe to us
on YouTube. Just there was a little that's like giving
Essa thank you. You just subscribe.
Speaker 4 (42:48):
Yeah, even if you don't watch it over there, can.
Speaker 1 (42:50):
You have to love if you did watch it.
Speaker 4 (42:52):
I don't really know what that does for us, Like
I'm sort of old school with this, like podcasting, Like
I like that we just have listeners that listen on podcasts.
Speaker 1 (43:00):
Well they can listen on the podcast and subscribe to
our YouTube.
Speaker 4 (43:04):
I know. I still just haven't figured out what that's
doing for us yet.
Speaker 1 (43:06):
It was making us get banana emails.
Speaker 4 (43:10):
I wonder what they send you at two thousand that
that dopamine hit though, is real? Like when I did
plates the other day that I tell you, I signed
up for one plotate's class and I hadn't done it
(43:31):
in months, and I was going to a new place
and you're assigned a locker when you get there, like
whatever bed or machine you're on, they're numbered like one
through fifteen.
Speaker 1 (43:40):
I love that you called them beds. They call it.
Speaker 4 (43:43):
I'm calling it back. I love that because I lay
on it sometimes and do nothing like say I have
bed number seven or machine machine numbers. Workout that then
that means I'm locker seven and I can go put
my stuff in locker seven. When I got out on
my first class and I went to this class on
(44:03):
a code. My friend had a code, so I went
for free, cost me nothing. I go to my locker
and they put a card to my locker that said, like, congratulations, Amy,
you're a Pilates princess. You just finished your first class.
Guess what I did. Guess what I did because I
bought a package. Now I'm a Pilates prince.
Speaker 1 (44:20):
You bought a package.
Speaker 4 (44:21):
I bought a year stop.
Speaker 1 (44:25):
Yeah, like they know what they're doing.
Speaker 4 (44:27):
They my dopamine hit was so high. But here's the thing.
They gave me a code. The code was twenty percent off.
Speaker 1 (44:36):
Well they know how to get you, so.
Speaker 4 (44:38):
Twenty percent off for a pack of five. Okay, but
now I'm a plates princess, so I have to show
up way more like I'm in the class was so
good too, Like I really loved it. Guess what I've
been every day since I signed up? Every single day.
Speaker 1 (44:52):
Let's go.
Speaker 4 (44:53):
Why Sometimes I just lay there like it's a bed,
but I've been there.
Speaker 1 (44:57):
Can I tell you some insider baseball of the gym
atmosphere of selling.
Speaker 4 (45:02):
Yeah, so they got me. Well, no, it was, but
hes it is dope. It was fresh off of a
dopemine hit from a good workout.
Speaker 1 (45:09):
Yeah, ding ding ding.
Speaker 4 (45:10):
Then I opened the locker and I have a card
congratulating me, calling me a plates princess and giving me
a discount code.
Speaker 1 (45:16):
I mean that's probably.
Speaker 4 (45:17):
And then I purchased something.
Speaker 1 (45:19):
Did you get so you bought that? Did you get
any merch too? Were they like, if you buy a merch,
well you have to have those.
Speaker 4 (45:24):
Yeah, but I already have plenty of socks, but I needed.
Speaker 1 (45:26):
Did you give a socks discount on their socks? Now
you're like, well, I'm going to buy these socks for
you since you gave me this discount.
Speaker 4 (45:33):
Yeah, you help me, But the discount was sick. It
was good twenty percent off of a year.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
Yeah, the year.
Speaker 4 (45:38):
So that was where I say, I did the math,
I save the most money, and now I'm a polite princess,
so I have to show up.
Speaker 1 (45:44):
Because you might be a queen eventually. Maybe here's the thing.
To get your money's worth of that you have to
go the whole year.
Speaker 4 (45:51):
That's why I'm going.
Speaker 1 (45:52):
But you don't need to go.
Speaker 4 (45:52):
Actually you just go, I know a couple times now.
But I'm but right now I'm motivated and I'm in
and I'm feeling stronger, like I already on the bands,
like I was having to do, you know, the different
resistance levels, like saying, I was having to always go
down from the recommended. They're like just you know, for
this move, it's recommended red red red, but you know,
if you need to go red, red blue, you're good.
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And I was always having to I was like, shoot,
I can do blood red yellow like that's and so
and now red red blue, which you know what's around
the corner, red red red.
Speaker 2 (46:26):
I know.
Speaker 4 (46:26):
So I'm getting stronger. Also, I feel better. Maybe my
merry and joyfulness is from like cause you're a politics princess, yes,
And I'm moving my body like endorphins are legit and
doorphins make you happy, and happy people don't kill their husbands. Boom,
just saying, so, name that movie Legally Blonde. Okay, I've
seen that.
Speaker 1 (46:46):
One wouldn't be crazy if I hadn't seen Legally Blonde.
Speaker 4 (46:50):
Not really, you haven't seen like a lot of classics.
Speaker 1 (46:54):
Okay. I worked over ten years ago at this gym
and my job was front desk, but I had to
do sales, so I had to sell the memberships and
I wasn't very good at it because it gave me
too much thing. I don't like selling things to people.
I'm like, if you want it, here it is. But
they were what their motto was, you take the you
(47:16):
get to every class. The first class is free to
get people in and like I don't remember the percentages
of it, but because people are like so hopped up
on the endorphins after a workout, they are most if
they're gonna buy it, they're gonna buy it. Then they're
not gonna like I mean, sometimes they do go home
and think about it and buy it, but like that's
when you wanted to lock it in. And they put
(47:37):
so much pressure on us to put pressure on them,
and I knew I was the annoying salesperson. You know
that feeling? Do you know that feeling?
Speaker 4 (47:42):
Oh, and you're like.
Speaker 1 (47:43):
I know you don't want to buy this, but I
have to give you this spiel anyway. Anyway, if you
didn't buy it, then what they did is we'll give
you another class for free, but if you don't end
up buying a membership, you have to pay for that class.
So people would come back in and they would be
on endorphins again, and then I would get them m
So that's how they do it.
Speaker 4 (48:03):
Now.
Speaker 1 (48:03):
We didn't do We didn't do the cards, and we
didn't call people like kickboxing queens, which we should have
because that would have been a little extra humph. But
I think, but your studio is doing it. They're doing
it right.
Speaker 4 (48:17):
Oh yeah, no, I mean props to them. So anybody,
if you own a fitness studio, used to a card
in somebody's locker, so I call them a princess like
depending on their I'm sure Dave probably wouldn't want to you.
Maybe maybe Dave would. I don't know Dave's preference, but whatever,
you just it's c it was good, you know, It's
something I just learned about both of us as I
(48:38):
used to work front desk at a gym. You know,
we find our similarities.
Speaker 1 (48:42):
Like the same we're the same kind of gym.
Speaker 4 (48:45):
Yeah, Gold Gym. I work at the front desk. I
didn't have to sell any memberships though. But it was
right after I got out of college and I was
living with my sister and I needed to get a
job because I didn't have a job, my job yet.
I got into sales after that, but it was because
I ran in to a friend when she came in
to work out there and she was like, oh, yeah,
I'm working at Luke over with Luke over at AGM.
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And I'm like what. So then I call Luke and
she was like, yeah, I think we might be hiring.
And I'm like, Luke, what up? He was my bff
in high school. And I was like, are y'all hiring?
And he was like yeah, let me set you up
an interview. So it was all that, like you never know,
Like I did not want to go work at the
front desk at Gold's, but it's like that is what
led me to my next job. So somebody you just
(49:27):
got to do what you got to do. Like I
was working, I had to get there at five am,
and I was working with some eighteen year old kid
and here.
Speaker 1 (49:34):
I am, you're like twenty one.
Speaker 4 (49:36):
No, I was like twenty two, but he was like
I was out of college and yes, And then my
classmates that are starting a professional careers were coming into
work out and I'm like, you need to tell.
Speaker 1 (49:53):
But no, shame.
Speaker 4 (49:54):
Like I think at the time I wouldn't have a
problem with it now because it's like whatever, like I
understand life better. But I think at the time I
was embarrassed. Yeah, I like, don't forget to beat your card.
Excuse me your car did skin? You need to check
in because they were they were sticklers about being the
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card and making sure you had a towel.
Speaker 1 (50:16):
What if they were laid on their payments because you
have to like be like you.
Speaker 4 (50:19):
Know, I wasn't even that high level, Like I was
like literally bottom of the like I was started from
the bottom. I was with the eighteen year old punk
kid from like that just had finished high school and he's.
Speaker 1 (50:35):
He's like, you went to college for this, and I
was like, yeah, yep, I did. Could you fold the
towels really well?
Speaker 4 (50:41):
Yeah, okay, you know skills I'd skills, you know, But
did your gym have a I had to wake up
so early. Remind me, my sister's husband would talk about this,
like I had to wake up so early. This before
I got into radio, which then I learned what early
early was doing a morning show. But I had to
be at Golds at five am. And I would go
to bed at night and I would be so I'm
dreading waking up, but I would sleep in my uniform
(51:04):
and then uh huh, and then I would wake up
and just get my car and go to work. Yeah,
I'd sleep and it was like a black like the
material was horrible, but black with like gold stripes. It
was cold, and I wear these gold pants. Oh, and
I would just sleep in it. And that was when
I was living with my sister's little It was more
like a shed, but we painted it and it didn't
(51:27):
have a bad shed. Well, it was the only space
and it was either that or go like live with.
Speaker 1 (51:32):
My air conditioning. No, I lived outside.
Speaker 4 (51:36):
I lived outside and it didn't have a bathroom, and
I was too scared to walk into their house at night.
I would pee in a vase. Yeah, yeah, you come
a long way.
Speaker 1 (51:49):
You were working at Gold gym, and you lived outside
and you peed in a vase.
Speaker 4 (51:54):
Yes, Oh my gosh, this is like the story you know,
you hear of those people where they're like, you know,
like Jewel was like before I was famous. I slept
in my car.
Speaker 1 (52:02):
You're like, I slept in the shed and I peed
in a vase.
Speaker 4 (52:05):
Yeah. But but we painted the inside purple and then
the outside we painted to match their house.
Speaker 1 (52:13):
Could she know you sleep on the couch inside with it?
Speaker 4 (52:15):
I was excited about living in the shadow. It's on
my own space. Okay, we don't litle makeshift closet.
Speaker 1 (52:22):
Are you sure you have electricity?
Speaker 4 (52:25):
Yeah? We had, I'm Sureeah. We had a light. Yeah,
I had a light like a you know from the
ceiling where you pull that string down.
Speaker 1 (52:32):
Do you have any pictures of this? You think? Hmmm?
Did you have in bite? Anybody over to your shed?
Speaker 4 (52:37):
I know the vase looked like a bamboo.
Speaker 1 (52:39):
Yeah. I did. Go on.
Speaker 4 (52:43):
So so I have.
Speaker 1 (52:45):
My own place. You want to come over? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (52:47):
So while I was working at Gold's gym, I got
to work out there for free, and so one day
after a workout, actually I think I had already did
I move up to my sales job. Yet no, because
once I got my sales job, I got an apartment
with roommates because I could afford it. But I must
have just been working out one day, because when I
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was going to the parking lot this guy that was
also working out. I did work there at the time,
because I would check him in and be like, do
you need to tell Yeah, okay, how I told you
the guy where I went on a couple dates to them,
and then we went to the lake for one of
our dates, and I real est he shaved his legs
and I was like, no, I can't that was him.
Speaker 1 (53:24):
So but he wasn't a deal breaker that you lived outside.
Speaker 4 (53:27):
I don't think you realized that because when he picked
me up for my date, I had to meet me
at my sister's front door, so we probably thought that
was my house.
Speaker 1 (53:33):
I was like, baller, she must own Gold Show. No
I have.
Speaker 4 (53:37):
My sister wasn't rocking that way back then. But okay,
they were newly married with a baby. I mean it
was a super cute house.
Speaker 1 (53:43):
But like she's the manager of gold Show.
Speaker 4 (53:46):
Maybe yeah, like the manager, but.
Speaker 1 (53:47):
He never you never brought anybody to your quarters.
Speaker 4 (53:52):
Okay, that would be hilarious, hilarious, all right, so yeah,
it's fun, all right, so fun. The one thing we
used to both work at the gym, yep, good times.
Speaker 1 (54:04):
Used to be in a vase.
Speaker 4 (54:05):
Yeah, I'm surprised I never told you that story.
Speaker 1 (54:09):
I'm glad we're doing this podcast because I'm learning more
about you. Things that don't come up.
Speaker 4 (54:13):
That's right, things that don't come up.
Speaker 1 (54:16):
All right.
Speaker 4 (54:16):
Well, we hope y'all are having the day you need.
Speaker 1 (54:19):
To have, right, Can I say half of it?
Speaker 4 (54:22):
Yeah, but you could say, like, check out our merch.
Speaker 1 (54:25):
Okay, we didn't pre plan this.
Speaker 4 (54:29):
We never do.
Speaker 1 (54:30):
Can you say your thing again and I'll say mine? Okay.
Speaker 4 (54:33):
We hope y'all are having the day you need to have.
Speaker 1 (54:36):
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Shop our merch.
Speaker 4 (55:00):
Where they can shop the merge. We're linking in the
show notes.
Speaker 1 (55:02):
But Feeling Things podcast dot Com.
Speaker 4 (55:05):
It's hard on the video to see the pants. I
think people should just go check it out because Cat
ordered an extra large sweatshirt so it covers the pants.
Speaker 1 (55:12):
I like to be overflowed in my sweat attire. My
lounge wears better way. I don't think you can really
see them, but it says feeling things, feeling things, feeling things,
matching set.
Speaker 4 (55:24):
Cute, and then have there you need to have on
a T shirt cute cute. It depends on a hat cute.
All right, bye, we can do it together now. Okay, Oh,
now we can say it. Now. Let's say okay, so
have the day you need to have. Bye, bye
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