From emails to voicemails…Amy & Kat cover a variety of topics! Kasey from Oklahoma just started tretinoin, so Amy breaks down the sandwich method to help her skin out. They play a voicemail with a genius closet hack from Erika (seriously, such a good tip!) Carly emails asking very specific questions about finding the right therapist and knowing when you've got a good fit. Kat gives some excellent advice to Carly that will hopefully be helpful to others! They also play voicemails sharing a clever bird feeder and a budget-friendly laundry detergent swap. Lastly, Amy shares a list of things you should never do in front of others!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
While we hope couch Talks can be a tool that
helps and supports wherever you are in life, Couch Talks
does not serve as a replacement or substitute for therapy
or any mental health services.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Good a right, break it down.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
If you ever have feelings that you just falls home,
Amy and Cat gotcha covin locking a brother, Ladies and felawss.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
You just follow an the spirit where it's all go
phone or real stuff to the chill stuff and the
m but Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do
it jes stop to feel things. This is Feeling Things
with Amy and Kat. Happy Thursday, Welcome to Couch Talks,
our Q and a episode of the Feeling Things podcast.
(00:42):
I'm Amy and I'm Kat, and our first email is
from Casey out of Oklahoma. Now this is gonna be
about skincare. And then we have a more mental health
minded email after that, good night. And then we've got
some voicemails, all three of them. I believer tips from listeners.
Oh don't have to do that much work today. Then well, yeah,
(01:03):
the voicemails are kind of doing it for us. Well,
we're going to answer the emails. But then the voicemails
three tips in a row, unrelated, one about building a
capsule wardrobe, another if you're a bird lover and you've
got some bird feeders, and another one about laundry. Oh
we'd dynamic. I mean because Casey from Oklahoma emailed in saying, hey, ladies,
(01:26):
I'm thirty four and just started using Tretonoen, treton Oan
tret to know in.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
I think, I think it's sure tretton Oen treton oen,
but that sounds Tretonoen sounds a little bit more professional.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
I've heard Amy mentioned it before, and I was wondering,
if you have any tips or advice have the day
you need to have, Casey from Oklahoma. My first tip
for this medication is.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
It's a medication doscribed.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
I believe, so I believe tretton Owen is by prescription only.
I don't know, Shannon, maybe you can come from that
Tretonoen by prescription only, because I know you can buy
certain retine over the counter stuff, but Tretonoen, which isn't
the exact same thing, is a prescription. I will say
(02:15):
start slow with it. Pea size them ount two to
three nights a week. But your doctor maybe told you
that if it is by prescription only if you got
it over the counter. That's my advice for you. Also
with either retone or tretoen or any kind of retinoid thing.
The sandwich method is something that people love, which is
(02:35):
where you layer it between moisturizer. So you apply a
barrier layer of moisturizer after you wash your face, then
you put the tretono in on top of that, and
then you apply a second moisturizer layer, and that's the sandwich.
It's like moisturizer is bread, tretonoen is a little meat
and then bread again.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Uh, just because I've never used this, what is it
supposed to do?
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Well, I'm not on tretono and right now, but when
I have been on it or I do biopls retinoid
or retineid treatment, it makes my skin smooth. There's cell turnover,
helps with any kind of acne or fine lines, overall
improved skin tone. I'll say that. Okay, So depending on
what you have going on, it may help you in
different ways.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
But if you have a little bit of peeling, that's
like normal, right.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
That's normal, But that's why you want to ease into it.
Like if you do two to three times a week
with even an over the counter you don't want to
go out of the gate just applying it every night.
Your skin will not be happy and then you're going
to be peeling and it's not going to feel good.
So if you introduce it slowly then you can build up.
(03:46):
But the sandwich method is nice for any of those things.
So those are the tips that I have. Do expect
though a phase where it might be worse before it
gets better. So you love that stick it out. Got
to stick it out because it will get better and
you won't regret it. But sometimes you got to like
(04:07):
go through. The only way through is through.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
It's like when you go get like a I've never
done this, but when people get like chemical peels and stuff,
like their skin is here, it's like very irritated, irritated
and peely, but then like on the other side of it,
they look so glowy and fresh.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
So like oh yeah, okay. And then I will say,
make sure you're wearing sunscreen every single day, especially because
you're starting it and it's summertime. Load up on the
SPF every day because your skin is more sensitive because of.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
That, And don't do it if you're pregnant. Oh really,
one thing I can't put on my face. I actually
got pretty deep and I got very worried that things
that I was putting on my face were going to
be not okay because your skin absorbs it and then
the baby absorbs it and all that. And retina was one,
So I assume this is the same, like, same kind
of deal.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
Yeah, Well, onto a more mental health minded all boh
or tretonoid that can what your face acne, All those
things can lead to different emotions.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Okay, Like every want.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
To say that skincare can't be mental health related because
of sometimes if you're getting a prescription type product, then
your doctor is saying like, hey, this could help you out.
But yeah, it's not acutane. We both dabbled in that.
Not good times, not good times at all. Okay, next email, Hey,
Amy and kat I have a couple of therapy questions
(05:31):
that I'd love to get your opinions on. I feel
some shame embarrassment around this topic because I've seen a
few therapists over the years, but have never stuck with
one long term. Number one, how does someone decide which
type of therapist is best for them? I heard of
licensed counselor licensed social worker, psychologists, etc. Two would it
be weird to provide a new therapist with an about
(05:53):
me document that goes over some of my mental health
history and what I'm looking to get out of therapy.
Once in therapy, how do you decide that the therapist
is a good fit? Any tips on what to look for?
Thank you, ladies for all you do on the podcast.
You both have helped keep me company through some hard
times over the past few years. PS. I live in
(06:14):
Missouri and I'm thirty. I've been listening since my early
twenties PPS. Would a live show be a possibility in
the future. We'll call her cm CN. I guess if
we're trying to keep her anonymous, it could be cm
I don't know if she wants to be honest. She
didn't say, but.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
She'd give us her full name though, yeah she did.
Speaker 3 (06:35):
But then sometimes I feel bad when something's like yo,
yeah yah, yeah, she didn't say. Yeah, she didn't say.
And this is personal stuff and the side of caution,
so I think that's fair. I feel like the case
e from Oklahoma was fine that she's on.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Although prescription medication. We just kind of gave out her
medical history.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
Yeah, we don't have hippa here though. Yeah, you're right,
you're right. I guess you did your hippa carry over
with you just in life, well, because you have one
at practice, right.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Yeah, So if somebody shares with me as a professional,
like their history, that's protected. But like if my friend
tells me something I'm not required.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
To, like your hip, but doesn't just kick it out.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Now, I would hope that I wouldn't just like tell
my friend's medical history everywhere. But I don't think that's
like a universal I think it's common decency to not
share that stuff. But I can't. I don't think I
can get sued, you know.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Okay, Well, let's go to Carly's first question about how
we decide what kind of therapists we're looking for, whether
it's a licensed counsel or licensed social worker or psychologists
and their psychiatrist, et cetera.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Well, and even before I want to address, she says
she feels some shame and embarrassment about like not having
a long term therapist or not knowing some of these things.
And I would be curious, like what does long term
therapists mean to her? Because you having a therapist for
even a year. That is a good amount of time,
and a lot of people don't stay with the same therapist.
(08:02):
Some people do, but some people don't stay with the
same one for their whole lives. They'll see them and
then they'll see somebody else, and then that can be
very normal. So I just want to normalize that for her.
And then when it comes to the different types of therapists,
what matters is are they trained or do they do
what you're wanting to work on, Because a licensed counselor
(08:24):
a social worker and a psychologist can all technically depend
on what their training is do some of the same things.
So it's not so much their license, it's are they
experienced in what you need? Like if you have a
neating disorder, do they have a history with that? If
you are struggling with anxiety or relationships, do they talk
(08:45):
about that on their website or something like that?
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Or if you know you like experimental, experimental.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Experiential that's what I mean. I knew that wasn't coming.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Outright, so I could have experiential type therapy, which I do.
Then matching with someone that does that type of work, that'll, like,
you know, give you a little activity to do.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Yes, yeah, but all those people could do that, like
a social worker and a licensed counselor and American family therapist,
they all could be trained in experiential therapy.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
Yes, So that's good clarification. And then she didn't put
she put psychologists, et cetera. But a psychiatrist. The difference
in that and a psychologist would be that they can
prescribe medicine.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Well, psychiatrist is a doctor. They went to medical school.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
So that's why they can prescribe medicine.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Yeah, but they're mostly if you're just going to get therapy,
you probably I could be wrong on this and depending
on how these people work, but I wouldn't look for
a psychiatrist to be my therapist. They're going to be
more of a medication management and like oversee some stuff,
but they're not going to do as much talk therapy.
(09:53):
And if they are, you're going to be paying a
lot more for that. So I would I would steer
somebody to look for a therapist, counselor social worker person.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
It's only top of mind for me because I'm listening
to I'm listening to Kristen Hannah's Night Road and one
of the characters is in therapy with a psychiatrist and
she doesn't want to do much talking. So in one
of the appointments, the psychiatrists like, well why are you
you know why I'm here? I just want my medication.
But then yeah, there's the way, but they there's a
(10:29):
lot of talking too, Like it seemed like the psychiatrist
wants there to be more talking, whereas the client just
wanted the.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
I just my script, Trent knowing, I just yeah. So
they could do both, but you're most likely not going
to seek that out as your first.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Okay, what about the question she asked providing them within
about me I document? I think it's really sweet too.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Yeah, so surely you're therapy. I'm just gonna call a therapist.
That would be an umbrella your therapist when you go
to see them the first time. Before you meet them,
they're going to send you an intake, most likely, and
in that intake you can add whatever you want. There'll
be questions about like what brings you in, or give
me some history, or they'll kind of go over that
(11:20):
in a first session.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
I was just picturing someone like showing up to their
first time with you, Kat, and you're their therapist and
they sit down and they hand you like on legally blonde.
It's like on paper that's pink with perfume sprayed on it.
Here's my thank you mental health history.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Which that also if I didn't ask for an intake,
that would be really helpful. So if they don't give
you that, then like, yeah, that's great.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
If you want to give them something like that, I'd
be like, here's a flow chart, and here's all the
different people, and here's the Venn diagram and here's how
everybody overlaps and items to be helpful to bust that out.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Yeah, well, and some people don't know all of that
and either so don't feel pressure to have a ton
of information before you get to therapy.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Sometimes people don't know why they're there, and that's okay.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Like for to say like, I don't know, I just
like don't feel like myself, or I want more out
of life, or I'm struggling in this area.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
I don't know why.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
You don't have to have answers if you're new to therapy, like,
it's okay.
Speaker 3 (12:21):
And the third and final question she asked was, once
in therapy, how do you decide if the therapist is
a good fit and he tips on what to look
for Once in therapy, how do you decide if the
(12:45):
therapist is a good fit and he tips on what
to look for.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
So this was a little tougher to answer because it's
gonna be more subjective to what, again, what you're looking for.
I would say, you want to feel com trouble with
this person. You want to feel like you can let
your guard down. However, depending on who you are, that
might take longer than somebody else. So I wouldn't say
(13:09):
if you don't feel like you can tell your therapist
everything after the second session, like it's not a good fit.
Like you have to take into account your personality. So
sometimes you know in the first session this is not it,
Like I don't drive with this person. There's a caveat there.
But I normally would give it at least three fourth
sessions before you're like, this is not for me. So
(13:30):
that would be one of my tips is to try
this person out a couple times before you jump ship,
because it could just be the newness and awkwardness of
getting to know some therapy is weird, like you're going
and meeting a stranger and you're telling them your deepest,
darkest secrets and then they're not really sharing anything back
with you. So if it feels uncomfortable, it's because it's
(13:52):
not an everyday, normal thing we do. So I would
just monitor how you feel when you leave, and monitor
if you feel like this person is I want to
say non judgmental, but open, because sometimes when there's a
bad fit of a therapist, it's a lot of times
because they're bringing their stuff into the room and it
(14:14):
feels like they're pushing you one way. Does that make
sense versus you can just like be open and they're
this non judgmental by utral grounds, yes, like you want
to feel like they're neutral unless you are looking like
if you're like I want a Christian therapist who's going
to use Bible or scripture to help guide me accountable
in certain ways, that's one thing. But if you don't
(14:36):
want that, then you should feel like it is neutral. Yeah,
I think that's a good word.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
I like when my therapist says to me, oh, what
are you doing? What are you doing? And I'm like, well,
what do you mean? What am I doing? And normally
anytime she does that, I know that I've just judged
myself and she calls me out on that, like she doesn't.
She's like, oh, let's hold space for that judgment. So
I get no judgment for her. Honestly, she's so good
at you could throw anything at her and she's like, Okay,
(15:04):
let's hold space for that. Just sit with that. Let's
sit with that. Who what was that? I know anytimes
she does a little thing because I don't even know
that I'm judging myself because she'll I'm crafty with my words,
I guess or how I'm sharing it. Well, you think
you're being crafty. I think I get good point. I
think I'm being crafty to where she can sniff out
(15:26):
the judgment of myself right away and she'll she won't
allow it. She's like, ooo, what was that?
Speaker 1 (15:33):
So that's a good thing to look for. Somebody who
is helping you not be judgmental of yourself. Not even that,
like they're not judging me, it's that they're calling me out,
helping me be more neutral towards myself.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
Yeah. I saw a list of things you should never
do in front of others, and one of the top
things on the list was don't insult yourself because people
start believing what you repeatedly say about yourself. So I
know we've all heard the thing of like we start
to believe what we say and think about ourselves, but
if we start saying it out loud, other people start
(16:07):
to believe it about us too, And so you just
need a book. What was that?
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Don't say that you have that little voice in your
head now sometimes like you hear your therapists voice in
your head.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
Yeah, and she's probably not as high pitched as I'm
giving it. She is a little more I don't know,
maybe in my head it's a little more animated, and
she's really not. Again, she's very neutral, so she's probably
more like, oh, what was that, Let's hold space for it,
you know, but I'm I'm hearing her as a foot book.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
Since we're talking about what you should never do in
front of others, three other things on that list, in
addition to don't insult yourself is don't share every problem
to everyone because not everyone is rooting for you. Oh
so you're kind of giving people amo those that are
not on your side anyway. Don't mock your spouse or
family in front of others. Humor at their expense often
(17:03):
costs respect, and this is not in the same vein
of that, but it reminds me of something that my
ex boyfriend and I differed on at times around our kids.
He is never sarcastic with his children. What do you mean,
There's just no sarcasm. He doesn't do it so and
he barely would be sarcastic with me, and I would
(17:24):
be sarcastic a lot, and he's like, well, if you notice,
I don't even really do it that much with you,
although he would be playful with me at times, but
he's like, you don't ever see me doing it with
my kids because I don't want to confuse them. I
was like, oh my god, I'm sarcastic with my kids
a lot, but I see maybe with what when he
became the one and only parent and he needed to
(17:45):
be this like solid ground for them of like, hey,
I'm here, I'm always here for you. I don't want
to blur the lines of that with any confusion or sarcasm.
But and then I started to try to pay attention
to it, and I'm like, wow, he really isn't really.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
And I guess that makes that would be hard to
stop doing if you're used to being It's like you're
part of your personality is sarcastic, but there's a fine
line with that, and sometimes it gets mean. And then
also sometimes people use sarcasm as a way to actually
say what they're feeling. And I'm like, I was being sarcastic,
and I was like, no, you were just being kind
(18:21):
of mean, or you just don't.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
Want to take accountability.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
So it honestly is I don't hate that.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
As a parent, Yeah, I know he's a good dad.
It's again, that's not the same as mocking your spouser family,
but in a way it could be.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
But with the offshoot the mocking the spouser family too,
I guess it's the same with the one that you
said before. You'd be careful with who you're talking to
about what and what you're saying, because if you are
mocking or poking fun or complaining or whatever it is
about something with a family member or a partner, those
people are going to feel like they can join in
(18:55):
on that at some point. Have you ever been in
a situation where like you are keen, well, I can
say this, but you can't.
Speaker 3 (19:01):
Yes, I think with a lot of spouses I could
be wrong, But with my ex husband and I I
could say something about my mom, but if he did,
I did not like that. Yeah, but he was honestly
having my back. Yes, but suddenly it was no longer
okay yeah, because I'm like, whoa, yeah, And I feel
like that's a common thing where like you're allowed to
(19:23):
say something about your parents but not your partner.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
So if that is how you feel, what I would
say is just name that of I need a vent
or I need to talk about this, but I don't
want you to give it back. I want you to
just listen, because sometimes you do need to talk about
those things, like if you did he's your husband, like
you know, or he'll You'll need to realize that if
I'm sharing this, he might also. I mean, it's the
(19:47):
same thing you were talking about, like people start to
believe it, Like what we say people then believe. And
so I'm putting that into his head. So he's going
to believe this, and you're his number one, so he's
gonna want to support you, So it makes sense that
he would say some things.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
Right. The final thing you should never do in front
of others is don't brag. Confidence speaks insecurity, announces itself.
That's a good one.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
I've heard confidence is quiet, insecurity is loud, and that's
the same kind of regardless different words. That makes sense.
Say it again, confidence is quiet, insecurity is very loud insecurity?
Speaker 3 (20:25):
I thought you said and security is loud, and that's
really interesting. I don't get it an say it again
one more time. What's that you say?
Speaker 1 (20:36):
I think that's kind of one of the easier of these.
Bragging doesn't come natural to me me neither, I hope.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
I'm trying to think like me too, Right, Am I
a bragger?
Speaker 3 (20:49):
We're around each other a lot.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Do you know?
Speaker 3 (20:51):
I don't think that you It's okay you can say
I don't.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
I couldn't name one thing you bragged about.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
I'm making sure I don't. No, I don't think we did. No, No, Pipa, no, Oh,
Shannon just typed in our dock.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Neither of you are braggers, probably the opposite. We probably
need to brag a little bit.
Speaker 3 (21:12):
Yeah, ours is not. Oh, confidence speaks insecurity announces itself,
so we can say things about ourselves confidently. Yeah, but
we're not like bragging.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
We're not like, oh, guess what I did, I'm so cool.
Speaker 3 (21:28):
We've got a closet tip. That's gonna be our first voicemail.
This is Erica. She's from Oklahoma, which our first email
from Casey she was from.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Oklahoma too, so this is Oklahoma.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
Oklahoma had the episode shout out to everyone, Hey, oh Oklahoma.
Was that where maternal instinct happened? Or was that the
corner of wait? I don't know, but oh we already
we've already gone into it. If you haven't watched that, Yeah,
(22:00):
we talked a little a little bit about it on Tuesday,
and boy, that's a doozy on Netflix. We talked about
it on The Bobby Bone Show too, and I did
give a palette cleanser on Netflix, which is voicemails to Isabelle.
Speaker 1 (22:14):
Is it like a sweet something?
Speaker 3 (22:15):
It is a rom com but all the feels so
you cry, laugh, smile, want to be her.
Speaker 1 (22:24):
You don't just become catatonic like I did.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
I know, I definitely got that way too. But since
you're already on Netflix, if you need a palette cleanser
or you need something to watch this weekend, it's a
new movie that they put out that is so stinkin cute.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Voice smails to what Isabelle Isabelle, you're gonna cry.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
Oh my gosh, ok are balling.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
The other day, I was laying in bed looking at tiktoks,
and I cry easily. In general. I'll cry it like
a dog video. I'll cry it like when people come
home from being deployed.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
I cry anything.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
At most, it was a video on what to pack
in your hospital bag for pregnancy, for delivering your baby.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
I'm gonna do it now. I don't know why. It
just made me boohoo because you're going to be packing
up Patrick, I don't know. Patrick looked at me, he
was like, what are you watching?
Speaker 1 (23:16):
And I was like, it's not even supposed to make
you cry, so I probably will be crying in this movie.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
Then, Kats, you're already crying right now. Telling me a
story about how you're crying at something that shouldn't go.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Off and make you cry.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
That's sweet. So Erica's got a closet tip for us.
And before we all hear this, just no. When Kat
and I were playing this voicemail and listening to it
before we recorded, we were like, Okay, that's a really
(23:50):
good tip. Like I think I might start doing this
with everything that I wear. So here's what Erica had
to say.
Speaker 4 (23:56):
Hey guys, okay, you are my Say podcast to listen to.
I've heard Kat Say a couple times talk about how
Amy always has super cute outfits and it always looks
put together and she feels like she never is well.
I felt like that for years and years and years.
And I am thirty four or thirty five, might don't
(24:21):
remember one of the two. And I've always wanted to
do a capsule wardrobe but never could quite figure it out.
But what I did start doing was getting all my
pieces that I felt good in, and if when I
wore it, if I did not feel good in it
that day, whether it be the top or the pants
(24:45):
or both the whole outfit, I put it into donate pile.
If I did feel good in a certain article of clothing,
I put it back in the closet. And then there's
some pieces that only look good with a certain other
piece in my closet, so I have paired them with
each other on hangers to make an outfit. So I'm
(25:10):
never second guessing and being like, oh, what did I like?
Speaker 2 (25:13):
What pants?
Speaker 4 (25:14):
Did I like with this top? If it only looks
good with one other thing, I just put it together
on the hanger, and it's always an outfit that I
know that I'm gonna feel good in. And then all
the other pieces that can go with multiple different things.
I have narrowed them down to only keeping them if
(25:37):
after I wear them, I totally feel good in them,
And that has helped so much and I hope that's
helpful for you. Oh and my name is Erica. I'm
from Oklahoma, and like I said, I'm somewhere in my
mid thirties. I have a teenager and two ch ollers,
so you know, I'm not really sure what ear it
(25:57):
is or how I am. Okay, Thanks bye.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
Now that that's played, real talks of behind the scenes,
we hope we haven't played that voicemail before. We don't
think that we have, because when we listen to it,
we're like, some parts sound familiar, But honestly, I feel
like I wouldn't for I wouldn't forget a tip like that,
like when I'm putting on clothes wearing them throughout the day,
like how do I feel in this? And then should
(26:20):
I just when I take it off, immediately put it
in the donate pile because I don't need to wear
it again if it didn't make me feel good, Like
it's an easy way to get a get one more
wear out of it and see how you really feel
about it instead of just trying to look at your
closet standing there and trying to remember or decide how
you feel about certain clothes.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
I feel like if we played that before, that'd be
really what's it called when you have no memory? I
don't know, goldfish brain of us because we both were like, oh,
that's a really good tip.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
But it came in over a month ago, and so
that's what makes me think, like, well, surely in the
last month we haven't played that. I don't remember. And
that's the thing when y'all send us voicemails, you never
know when your voicemail might pop up and we may
play one from you know, six months ago, February coming up.
Speaker 4 (27:08):
You never know.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
So thank you for that tip, Erica. I think that's
great that you discovered a way to build your capsule wardrobe,
because that whole process can be overwhelming. But when you
want to do something that's hard, you just got to
get after it, which sounds like what you're doing, because
you know, like the old Chinese proverb the best time
to plant a tree now, No, twenty years ago, because
(27:32):
then it would be like this fruitful tree. So when's
the second best time to build or to plant the
tree now? Yes? Okay, got it. Speaking of trees, it's
where birds hang out.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
And that was a really good segue.
Speaker 3 (27:52):
Our next voicemail is from a caller who didn't share
their name. We have named the caller anonymous bird lover
and I don't know where they're from.
Speaker 5 (28:04):
So here it is, Hey, Amy, about your bird feeder
this losing section. If you take and put a little
bit of oil on the section before you stick it
to the window, it will hold better. The problem is
that water evaporates when people use water to keep the
section on there, but the oil will hold it better.
So you might want to try that. Okay, I'm really
(28:26):
enjoying your podcast. I'm glad I started listening. Have a
great day.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
Thanks by all right, So, who knew a little oil?
Speaker 1 (28:34):
So are you going to try that before you get
a new bird feeder? Are used to? So?
Speaker 3 (28:37):
I think I was over the suction cups coming through
my window. I didn't even really like seeing them. So
I want the pretty stand with some still shopping for
the best one. You'd be surprised how difficult it is
to find one that at least passes my vibe check.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
Yeah, would you get the same one you had at
your old house?
Speaker 3 (28:57):
I couldn't find it anymore. That was a different celler
on Amazon Plus. While I loved those, it wasn't my favorite.
But I did look it up and they weren't there.
I'm trying to wonder what happened to my poll. My
mother in law had gifted that to me. It was
a it was a double double doozy, a double swinger,
a double feeder like it had hooks that would open
(29:18):
up on both sides. And I don't know if I
left that at the house like when I moved, but
I didn't mean to, So like, could I go get it?
If it's in the backyard and they don't have a
bird feeder, I know, I feel like I just that's
my bird feeder pole thingy.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
That's again what if it was also like sentimental? You
could like contact the cell the people that bought your
house and be like this was from my ex husband's
where you could Mom, I was saying, you could lie,
but I don't want to lie.
Speaker 3 (29:50):
They don't lie.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
But you can say it's from my ex husband's moment.
That means a lot to me. If you guys aren't
using it, I.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
Shantn't have that back and looked at what it's called.
It's called a double shepherd hook. I guess that's why
it know how to describe it. But now we do
the double shepherd.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
So you're listening and you bought Amy's house, do they.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
There definitely not listening? Yes, they do know because I
think they wanted to buy my house after they heard
oh oh signs of me moving on the radio. And
then they reached out to my neighbor because they knew
my neighbor lived by me, and they said, as Amy
selling her house, they said, we don't know, but she
does have a dumpster in her yard right now or
my driveway. And then they sent me a text and said,
(30:30):
are you moving because we have someone that maybe wants
to buy your house, and then they did, maybe they
are listening.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
And if you are listening and you're not using the
bird feeder.
Speaker 3 (30:36):
The double shepherd hook, you know, let us know. Palla.
Our next voicemail is about laundry rivet but it's it's
a main tip for you Kat, because you know you're
obsessed with your baby laundry detergent and apparently that can
get expensive. It is expensive. It is Oh, this is
(30:58):
a tip about that.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
Yeah, this is your friend Brianna from Pennsylvania. I have
emailed you guys previously when I lived in North Carolina
messaging about having PCOS and then getting pregnant. I'm so
excited for your news something I wanted to call on about.
I know you guys are all about laundry will Aimy
more specifically, but Kat, you were mentioning about using the
baby laundry turgent for your baby's clothes, and while that
(31:22):
is great, I find it to be quite expensive. So
I actually use the free and clear, either the All
brand or I've recently switched to Power detergent and it's
way cheaper and then I can wash everyone's clothes with it,
not just my baby's. So just to help you save
some money and hopefully get all things ready for baby
girl's arrival, I would recommend switching to a different launch
(31:46):
turgeent just to help you in the future have the
day you guys need to have and think so much.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
Bye.
Speaker 3 (31:52):
All right, we got into Pennsylvania to Oklahoma's a Missouri.
Where are you listening from?
Speaker 1 (31:58):
Like?
Speaker 3 (31:58):
We love what hear we all are from? Well, I
feel like we some states aren't being represented. Rely, so
send us, send us your tips and tricks and questions
anything everything. Thank you for that laundry tip. I like
this tip, but it's the smell. I know it's the smell.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
What's weird is I'm hearing that? Also, sense are very
sensitive to babies, Yet this is a baby detergent that
smells so good.
Speaker 3 (32:23):
Yeah, but they're marketing that to you, not the baby.
Correct what I'm on getting duped or something? I saw
a woman in her fifties pop up in my feed
and she said she went entirely sent free and it
has changed her life. Now. You can't avoid smells if
you go somewhere else but her home. None of her
(32:44):
cleaning products have smell. Her shampoo conditioner don't have a smell.
She created her own smell hair, Caroline and different. She
she had to create her own products because she couldn't
find So what does she smell like?
Speaker 2 (32:57):
Then?
Speaker 1 (32:58):
What does her house smell like? What does I want
to know what her scent is? If she has no
other sense coming in to her world.
Speaker 3 (33:06):
I wonder can she use again? She popped up on
my FIP. I don't know her. I didn't do a
deep dive, so I don't know. But does anybody else
out there listening? Do you all have a scent free lifestyle?
And does like lemon count? Because if I get a
limon out of my fridge and squeeze it on my countertop,
you know, or down my drain, depending on what kind
(33:26):
of countertop you have, I'm not saying that's what you
could use, but some people use lemons to clean certain things.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
Yeah, like a grill man.
Speaker 3 (33:33):
People do that with her girl like a girl a lemon?
Like can you.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
You can rub an apple?
Speaker 3 (33:42):
Can you rub an apple? Apple? Smell? This is what
I want to know, Like if you did want to
smell like something, could you smell like fruit? Wait? But not?
She has no essential oils that natural. No, she is
one percent as much as it is in her control
(34:03):
scent free. What's the benefit her whole hormonal system? Because
it's certain smells, Like they say perfume can be an
endocrine disruptor. That sounds fancy. I'm not an expert, but
it can be disruptive to your hormones. Now everybody's going
to be impact a different way. Like there's some people
(34:24):
that they cannot walk into a room. If someone has
on a lot of perfume, they will instantly get a
headache and they have to.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
Go yeah, like it's in it. I don't know if
there was a specific thing this person was trying to.
Speaker 3 (34:35):
Well, she did build a business around it, so I
see where it's in her favor to sell this lifestyle.
But she got passionate about it after she eliminated sense
from her life and then she changed and like how
she felt and how her skin was, like how her
hair grew better. Like, but like, does she ever just
want to light a candle? I know, and smell it?
Speaker 1 (34:58):
You know, I'm sure she get unscended candle, but it's
a different vibe.
Speaker 3 (35:03):
Yeah, that's not the same thing. She ever just light
an apple? You know what fruit I've been crushing on lately.
But no, no, sang it. I thought you were going
to say that, and then we'd be the same. Raspberries
and blackberries, although they will break the bank, I tell
you what berries or I read an whole article the
(35:26):
other day, no news he saw this in his newsletter.
There was this whole thing about berries are causing people
to go broke and kids kids love berries too, and
like you want your kids to eat berries, and then
I have to yell at my kids, diversify your fruit
because they don't all buy.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
Wait, was it like Stevenson was eating too much pineapple
or something to eat?
Speaker 3 (35:52):
I think it was.
Speaker 1 (35:52):
There was a time that he ate like your pineapple
or something.
Speaker 3 (35:55):
Well, no, it's all of our pineapple. But if he
eats all all of it in one sitting, when there's apples, oranges, pineapples, raspberries, blackberries, grapes, bananas, Like,
if he would diversify his fruit in that sitting, then
everybody would get to enjoy all the different fruits. Well, yeah,
what the kids will do is they'll be like, oh, blackberries.
(36:17):
But instead of making you know, cutting up an apple
and then having a few blackberries and then a banana,
you know, diversifying the fruit, he'll just eat all the
blackberries because it's tiny container. Yeah, and then all the
blackberries are gone and nobody else got any. So that's
I'm always saying divers fire fruit, because you got it.
(36:37):
I mean the berries, those are the expensive parts. You
gotta sprinkle in the cheaper fruit.
Speaker 1 (36:41):
You need to like throw in a banana, I was
gonna say it, or like a canalope or a honey.
Do you know when you get a fruit salad at
a restaurant, they always pack it with the melons and
then you get like a half a strawberry and like
two blueberries.
Speaker 3 (36:54):
Yeah, well, I mean you can have a little more
than that. But I just want to see some fruit
diversity so that you don't take them. But I found
some on sale at Kroger. And I only went to
Kroger because I saw also in my FYP, I saw
this list of grocery stores that are like the most
expensive to shop at the publics. Publics was on there
(37:15):
unless you do their bogo.
Speaker 1 (37:16):
I was gonna say, And I let publics do the
shopping for you.
Speaker 3 (37:19):
Yeah, I mean, I love publics because and that's predominantly
where I go. But I was leaving Plates the other
day and I was driving right past to Kroger, and
I thought, I'm gonna pull in there. Sure enough, they
had way better prices. But you know what, I'm a
Texas girl, so I miss hib hib has the best
best prices ever.
Speaker 1 (37:37):
I just think that this is getting into adult conversations.
I never realized I would have. But Public's produce is
just so much better to me than Kroger's.
Speaker 3 (37:48):
I don't know, I'm happy good experience right now.
Speaker 1 (37:51):
Okay, you had a good experience, Well, then that'll because
Kroger's were convenient for me. But what Patrick has taught
me is you his quote, let Publics do the shopping
for you. And when you do their bogo stuff, you
save so much. Now they mark their prices up anyway,
so you're not saving as much as you think.
Speaker 3 (38:09):
But you get some deals. Like some days we get
some crazy deals.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
Sometimes they have buy two, get two free diet Cokes
twelve packs. That's such a good deal because an you
better believe I walk out with at least four packs
diet coke. Yeah, and then it's like I don't have
to buy diet coke for another two months. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (38:31):
That's something that gets me excited. You really are. Yeah,
you're almost you're almost out of breath.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
You're so excited for me to go out of bread
these days.
Speaker 3 (38:39):
Not everybody had it has a Trader Joe's near them,
and that that can be a great place for your
use because and that's the prices are so much better.
But the parking lots are always kind of difficult. Why
is it?
Speaker 1 (38:50):
I forget like they've only put Trader Joe's in inconvenient places.
I literally used to have to do like breathing exercises
before I went to the one that was in Greenhills.
Speaker 3 (38:59):
Oh yeah, one can be pretty if you go at
the right time, it's fine, like right when it opens lot.
But other than that, if you go out of primetime, yeap,
parking can be very, very, very stressful. I saw a
funny little like meme about that a long time ago
where someone was like acting like they were Trader Joe's employees,
(39:22):
and they're the ones that come up with where the
new locations are going to be, and they just pick
like the most complicated parking lot situation ever. They're like,
that's it, that's it, that's where we should put it.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
So that's a universal thing. Then it's not just it's
like a joke. Then they do do it on purpose,
Well I don't so much.
Speaker 3 (39:39):
They do it so much so that people are thinking
they do it on purpose, but I don't think they do.
It's probably a maybe it's part of their it's why
they can keep certain costs slow.
Speaker 1 (39:48):
Oh I was thinking more it's like marketing because the
parking lots always seem chaotic. So that means that people
are always there and like you have to like it
takes a lot of energy and stuff to go.
Speaker 3 (39:58):
Yeah, or it looks like, oh, everybody's so many people here.
I need to be here. It's so hard to get
a parking spot.
Speaker 1 (40:03):
Get one, so hard to get a parking spot.
Speaker 3 (40:05):
You're right, maybe that's the psychology behind it. Yeah, okay,
I get them. Go. All right, Well, I think we
found our quote of the day, and let's diversify your fruit.
But we'll end with our everyday quote, which is we
hope you have the day you need to have you
need to have. Yes, yes, yes, excuse me, I said
(40:29):
it after you said it. I think I was like, shoot,
I wanted to say the phone number in the email address,
I just repeated you. So I'll do that now. Eight
seven seven two oh seven two oh seven seven is
the number. Call and leave us a voicemail. Again. You
can leave us voicemail about anything, as you can see,
and you can also email us if you've got a
(40:50):
question for couch stocks. Now The question can be over
voicemail or email. Hey, they're at Feeling Things podcast dot com.
We're gonna try one more time. Yeah, let me hope.
Wherever you are, you have.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
The day you need to have.
Speaker 3 (41:03):
Bye Bye,
While we hope couch Talks can be a tool that
helps and supports wherever you are in life, Couch Talks
does not serve as a replacement or substitute for therapy
or any mental health services.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Good a right, break it down.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
If you ever have feelings that you just falls home,
Amy and Cat gotcha covin locking a brother, Ladies and felawss.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
You just follow an the spirit where it's all go
phone or real stuff to the chill stuff and the
m but Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do
it jes stop to feel things. This is Feeling Things
with Amy and Kat. Happy Thursday, Welcome to Couch Talks,
our Q and a episode of the Feeling Things podcast.
(00:42):
I'm Amy and I'm Kat, and our first email is
from Casey out of Oklahoma. Now this is gonna be
about skincare. And then we have a more mental health
minded email after that, good night. And then we've got
some voicemails, all three of them. I believer tips from listeners.
Oh don't have to do that much work today. Then well, yeah,
(01:03):
the voicemails are kind of doing it for us. Well,
we're going to answer the emails. But then the voicemails
three tips in a row, unrelated, one about building a
capsule wardrobe, another if you're a bird lover and you've
got some bird feeders, and another one about laundry. Oh
we'd dynamic. I mean because Casey from Oklahoma emailed in saying, hey, ladies,
(01:26):
I'm thirty four and just started using Tretonoen, treton Oan
tret to know in.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
I think, I think it's sure tretton Oen treton oen,
but that sounds Tretonoen sounds a little bit more professional.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
I've heard Amy mentioned it before, and I was wondering,
if you have any tips or advice have the day
you need to have, Casey from Oklahoma. My first tip
for this medication is.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
It's a medication doscribed.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
I believe, so I believe tretton Owen is by prescription only.
I don't know, Shannon, maybe you can come from that
Tretonoen by prescription only, because I know you can buy
certain retine over the counter stuff, but Tretonoen, which isn't
the exact same thing, is a prescription. I will say
(02:15):
start slow with it. Pea size them ount two to
three nights a week. But your doctor maybe told you
that if it is by prescription only if you got
it over the counter. That's my advice for you. Also
with either retone or tretoen or any kind of retinoid thing.
The sandwich method is something that people love, which is
(02:35):
where you layer it between moisturizer. So you apply a
barrier layer of moisturizer after you wash your face, then
you put the tretono in on top of that, and
then you apply a second moisturizer layer, and that's the sandwich.
It's like moisturizer is bread, tretonoen is a little meat
and then bread again.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Uh, just because I've never used this, what is it
supposed to do?
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Well, I'm not on tretono and right now, but when
I have been on it or I do biopls retinoid
or retineid treatment, it makes my skin smooth. There's cell turnover,
helps with any kind of acne or fine lines, overall
improved skin tone. I'll say that. Okay, So depending on
what you have going on, it may help you in
different ways.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
But if you have a little bit of peeling, that's
like normal, right.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
That's normal, But that's why you want to ease into it.
Like if you do two to three times a week
with even an over the counter you don't want to
go out of the gate just applying it every night.
Your skin will not be happy and then you're going
to be peeling and it's not going to feel good.
So if you introduce it slowly then you can build up.
(03:46):
But the sandwich method is nice for any of those things.
So those are the tips that I have. Do expect
though a phase where it might be worse before it
gets better. So you love that stick it out. Got
to stick it out because it will get better and
you won't regret it. But sometimes you got to like
(04:07):
go through. The only way through is through.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
It's like when you go get like a I've never
done this, but when people get like chemical peels and stuff,
like their skin is here, it's like very irritated, irritated
and peely, but then like on the other side of it,
they look so glowy and fresh.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
So like oh yeah, okay. And then I will say,
make sure you're wearing sunscreen every single day, especially because
you're starting it and it's summertime. Load up on the
SPF every day because your skin is more sensitive because of.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
That, And don't do it if you're pregnant. Oh really,
one thing I can't put on my face. I actually
got pretty deep and I got very worried that things
that I was putting on my face were going to
be not okay because your skin absorbs it and then
the baby absorbs it and all that. And retina was one,
So I assume this is the same, like, same kind
of deal.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
Yeah, Well, onto a more mental health minded all boh
or tretonoid that can what your face acne, All those
things can lead to different emotions.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Okay, Like every want.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
To say that skincare can't be mental health related because
of sometimes if you're getting a prescription type product, then
your doctor is saying like, hey, this could help you out.
But yeah, it's not acutane. We both dabbled in that.
Not good times, not good times at all. Okay, next email, Hey,
Amy and kat I have a couple of therapy questions
(05:31):
that I'd love to get your opinions on. I feel
some shame embarrassment around this topic because I've seen a
few therapists over the years, but have never stuck with
one long term. Number one, how does someone decide which
type of therapist is best for them? I heard of
licensed counselor licensed social worker, psychologists, etc. Two would it
be weird to provide a new therapist with an about
(05:53):
me document that goes over some of my mental health
history and what I'm looking to get out of therapy.
Once in therapy, how do you decide that the therapist
is a good fit? Any tips on what to look for?
Thank you, ladies for all you do on the podcast.
You both have helped keep me company through some hard
times over the past few years. PS. I live in
(06:14):
Missouri and I'm thirty. I've been listening since my early
twenties PPS. Would a live show be a possibility in
the future. We'll call her cm CN. I guess if
we're trying to keep her anonymous, it could be cm
I don't know if she wants to be honest. She
didn't say, but.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
She'd give us her full name though, yeah she did.
Speaker 3 (06:35):
But then sometimes I feel bad when something's like yo,
yeah yah, yeah, she didn't say. Yeah, she didn't say.
And this is personal stuff and the side of caution,
so I think that's fair. I feel like the case
e from Oklahoma was fine that she's on.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Although prescription medication. We just kind of gave out her
medical history.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
Yeah, we don't have hippa here though. Yeah, you're right,
you're right. I guess you did your hippa carry over
with you just in life, well, because you have one
at practice, right.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Yeah, So if somebody shares with me as a professional,
like their history, that's protected. But like if my friend
tells me something I'm not required.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
To, like your hip, but doesn't just kick it out.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Now, I would hope that I wouldn't just like tell
my friend's medical history everywhere. But I don't think that's
like a universal I think it's common decency to not
share that stuff. But I can't. I don't think I
can get sued, you know.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Okay, Well, let's go to Carly's first question about how
we decide what kind of therapists we're looking for, whether
it's a licensed counsel or licensed social worker or psychologists
and their psychiatrist, et cetera.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Well, and even before I want to address, she says
she feels some shame and embarrassment about like not having
a long term therapist or not knowing some of these things.
And I would be curious, like what does long term
therapists mean to her? Because you having a therapist for
even a year. That is a good amount of time,
and a lot of people don't stay with the same therapist.
(08:02):
Some people do, but some people don't stay with the
same one for their whole lives. They'll see them and
then they'll see somebody else, and then that can be
very normal. So I just want to normalize that for her.
And then when it comes to the different types of therapists,
what matters is are they trained or do they do
what you're wanting to work on, Because a licensed counselor
(08:24):
a social worker and a psychologist can all technically depend
on what their training is do some of the same things.
So it's not so much their license, it's are they
experienced in what you need? Like if you have a
neating disorder, do they have a history with that? If
you are struggling with anxiety or relationships, do they talk
(08:45):
about that on their website or something like that?
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Or if you know you like experimental, experimental.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Experiential that's what I mean. I knew that wasn't coming.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Outright, so I could have experiential type therapy, which I do.
Then matching with someone that does that type of work, that'll, like,
you know, give you a little activity to do.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Yes, yeah, but all those people could do that, like
a social worker and a licensed counselor and American family therapist,
they all could be trained in experiential therapy.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
Yes, So that's good clarification. And then she didn't put
she put psychologists, et cetera. But a psychiatrist. The difference
in that and a psychologist would be that they can
prescribe medicine.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Well, psychiatrist is a doctor. They went to medical school.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
So that's why they can prescribe medicine.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Yeah, but they're mostly if you're just going to get therapy,
you probably I could be wrong on this and depending
on how these people work, but I wouldn't look for
a psychiatrist to be my therapist. They're going to be
more of a medication management and like oversee some stuff,
but they're not going to do as much talk therapy.
(09:53):
And if they are, you're going to be paying a
lot more for that. So I would I would steer
somebody to look for a therapist, counselor social worker person.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
It's only top of mind for me because I'm listening
to I'm listening to Kristen Hannah's Night Road and one
of the characters is in therapy with a psychiatrist and
she doesn't want to do much talking. So in one
of the appointments, the psychiatrists like, well why are you
you know why I'm here? I just want my medication.
But then yeah, there's the way, but they there's a
(10:29):
lot of talking too, Like it seemed like the psychiatrist
wants there to be more talking, whereas the client just
wanted the.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
I just my script, Trent knowing, I just yeah. So
they could do both, but you're most likely not going
to seek that out as your first.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Okay, what about the question she asked providing them within
about me I document? I think it's really sweet too.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Yeah, so surely you're therapy. I'm just gonna call a therapist.
That would be an umbrella your therapist when you go
to see them the first time. Before you meet them,
they're going to send you an intake, most likely, and
in that intake you can add whatever you want. There'll
be questions about like what brings you in, or give
me some history, or they'll kind of go over that
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in a first session.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
I was just picturing someone like showing up to their
first time with you, Kat, and you're their therapist and
they sit down and they hand you like on legally blonde.
It's like on paper that's pink with perfume sprayed on it.
Here's my thank you mental health history.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Which that also if I didn't ask for an intake,
that would be really helpful. So if they don't give
you that, then like, yeah, that's great.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
If you want to give them something like that, I'd
be like, here's a flow chart, and here's all the
different people, and here's the Venn diagram and here's how
everybody overlaps and items to be helpful to bust that out.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Yeah, well, and some people don't know all of that
and either so don't feel pressure to have a ton
of information before you get to therapy.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Sometimes people don't know why they're there, and that's okay.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Like for to say like, I don't know, I just
like don't feel like myself, or I want more out
of life, or I'm struggling in this area.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
I don't know why.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
You don't have to have answers if you're new to therapy, like,
it's okay.
Speaker 3 (12:21):
And the third and final question she asked was, once
in therapy, how do you decide if the therapist is
a good fit and he tips on what to look
for Once in therapy, how do you decide if the
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therapist is a good fit and he tips on what
to look for.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
So this was a little tougher to answer because it's
gonna be more subjective to what, again, what you're looking for.
I would say, you want to feel com trouble with
this person. You want to feel like you can let
your guard down. However, depending on who you are, that
might take longer than somebody else. So I wouldn't say
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if you don't feel like you can tell your therapist
everything after the second session, like it's not a good fit.
Like you have to take into account your personality. So
sometimes you know in the first session this is not it,
Like I don't drive with this person. There's a caveat there.
But I normally would give it at least three fourth
sessions before you're like, this is not for me. So
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that would be one of my tips is to try
this person out a couple times before you jump ship,
because it could just be the newness and awkwardness of
getting to know some therapy is weird, like you're going
and meeting a stranger and you're telling them your deepest,
darkest secrets and then they're not really sharing anything back
with you. So if it feels uncomfortable, it's because it's
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not an everyday, normal thing we do. So I would
just monitor how you feel when you leave, and monitor
if you feel like this person is I want to
say non judgmental, but open, because sometimes when there's a
bad fit of a therapist, it's a lot of times
because they're bringing their stuff into the room and it
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feels like they're pushing you one way. Does that make
sense versus you can just like be open and they're
this non judgmental by utral grounds, yes, like you want
to feel like they're neutral unless you are looking like
if you're like I want a Christian therapist who's going
to use Bible or scripture to help guide me accountable
in certain ways, that's one thing. But if you don't
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want that, then you should feel like it is neutral. Yeah,
I think that's a good word.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
I like when my therapist says to me, oh, what
are you doing? What are you doing? And I'm like, well,
what do you mean? What am I doing? And normally
anytime she does that, I know that I've just judged
myself and she calls me out on that, like she doesn't.
She's like, oh, let's hold space for that judgment. So
I get no judgment for her. Honestly, she's so good
at you could throw anything at her and she's like, Okay,
(15:04):
let's hold space for that. Just sit with that. Let's
sit with that. Who what was that? I know anytimes
she does a little thing because I don't even know
that I'm judging myself because she'll I'm crafty with my words,
I guess or how I'm sharing it. Well, you think
you're being crafty. I think I get good point. I
think I'm being crafty to where she can sniff out
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the judgment of myself right away and she'll she won't
allow it. She's like, ooo, what was that?
Speaker 1 (15:33):
So that's a good thing to look for. Somebody who
is helping you not be judgmental of yourself. Not even that,
like they're not judging me, it's that they're calling me out,
helping me be more neutral towards myself.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
Yeah. I saw a list of things you should never
do in front of others, and one of the top
things on the list was don't insult yourself because people
start believing what you repeatedly say about yourself. So I
know we've all heard the thing of like we start
to believe what we say and think about ourselves, but
if we start saying it out loud, other people start
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to believe it about us too, And so you just
need a book. What was that?
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Don't say that you have that little voice in your
head now sometimes like you hear your therapists voice in
your head.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
Yeah, and she's probably not as high pitched as I'm
giving it. She is a little more I don't know,
maybe in my head it's a little more animated, and
she's really not. Again, she's very neutral, so she's probably
more like, oh, what was that, Let's hold space for it,
you know, but I'm I'm hearing her as a foot book.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
Since we're talking about what you should never do in
front of others, three other things on that list, in
addition to don't insult yourself is don't share every problem
to everyone because not everyone is rooting for you. Oh
so you're kind of giving people amo those that are
not on your side anyway. Don't mock your spouse or
family in front of others. Humor at their expense often
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costs respect, and this is not in the same vein
of that, but it reminds me of something that my
ex boyfriend and I differed on at times around our kids.
He is never sarcastic with his children. What do you mean,
There's just no sarcasm. He doesn't do it so and
he barely would be sarcastic with me, and I would
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be sarcastic a lot, and he's like, well, if you notice,
I don't even really do it that much with you,
although he would be playful with me at times, but
he's like, you don't ever see me doing it with
my kids because I don't want to confuse them. I
was like, oh my god, I'm sarcastic with my kids
a lot, but I see maybe with what when he
became the one and only parent and he needed to
(17:45):
be this like solid ground for them of like, hey,
I'm here, I'm always here for you. I don't want
to blur the lines of that with any confusion or sarcasm.
But and then I started to try to pay attention
to it, and I'm like, wow, he really isn't really.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
And I guess that makes that would be hard to
stop doing if you're used to being It's like you're
part of your personality is sarcastic, but there's a fine
line with that, and sometimes it gets mean. And then
also sometimes people use sarcasm as a way to actually
say what they're feeling. And I'm like, I was being sarcastic,
and I was like, no, you were just being kind
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of mean, or you just don't.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
Want to take accountability.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
So it honestly is I don't hate that.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
As a parent, Yeah, I know he's a good dad.
It's again, that's not the same as mocking your spouser family,
but in a way it could be.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
But with the offshoot the mocking the spouser family too,
I guess it's the same with the one that you
said before. You'd be careful with who you're talking to
about what and what you're saying, because if you are
mocking or poking fun or complaining or whatever it is
about something with a family member or a partner, those
people are going to feel like they can join in
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on that at some point. Have you ever been in
a situation where like you are keen, well, I can
say this, but you can't.
Speaker 3 (19:01):
Yes, I think with a lot of spouses I could
be wrong, But with my ex husband and I I
could say something about my mom, but if he did,
I did not like that. Yeah, but he was honestly
having my back. Yes, but suddenly it was no longer
okay yeah, because I'm like, whoa, yeah, And I feel
like that's a common thing where like you're allowed to
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say something about your parents but not your partner.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
So if that is how you feel, what I would
say is just name that of I need a vent
or I need to talk about this, but I don't
want you to give it back. I want you to
just listen, because sometimes you do need to talk about
those things, like if you did he's your husband, like
you know, or he'll You'll need to realize that if
I'm sharing this, he might also. I mean, it's the
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same thing you were talking about, like people start to
believe it, Like what we say people then believe. And
so I'm putting that into his head. So he's going
to believe this, and you're his number one, so he's
gonna want to support you, So it makes sense that
he would say some things.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
Right. The final thing you should never do in front
of others is don't brag. Confidence speaks insecurity, announces itself.
That's a good one.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
I've heard confidence is quiet, insecurity is loud, and that's
the same kind of regardless different words. That makes sense.
Say it again, confidence is quiet, insecurity is very loud insecurity?
Speaker 3 (20:25):
I thought you said and security is loud, and that's
really interesting. I don't get it an say it again
one more time. What's that you say?
Speaker 1 (20:36):
I think that's kind of one of the easier of these.
Bragging doesn't come natural to me me neither, I hope.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
I'm trying to think like me too, Right, Am I
a bragger?
Speaker 3 (20:49):
We're around each other a lot.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Do you know?
Speaker 3 (20:51):
I don't think that you It's okay you can say
I don't.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
I couldn't name one thing you bragged about.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
I'm making sure I don't. No, I don't think we did. No, No, Pipa, no, Oh,
Shannon just typed in our dock.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Neither of you are braggers, probably the opposite. We probably
need to brag a little bit.
Speaker 3 (21:12):
Yeah, ours is not. Oh, confidence speaks insecurity announces itself,
so we can say things about ourselves confidently. Yeah, but
we're not like bragging.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
We're not like, oh, guess what I did, I'm so cool.
Speaker 3 (21:28):
We've got a closet tip. That's gonna be our first voicemail.
This is Erica. She's from Oklahoma, which our first email
from Casey she was from.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Oklahoma too, so this is Oklahoma.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
Oklahoma had the episode shout out to everyone, Hey, oh Oklahoma.
Was that where maternal instinct happened? Or was that the
corner of wait? I don't know, but oh we already
we've already gone into it. If you haven't watched that, Yeah,
(22:00):
we talked a little a little bit about it on Tuesday,
and boy, that's a doozy on Netflix. We talked about
it on The Bobby Bone Show too, and I did
give a palette cleanser on Netflix, which is voicemails to Isabelle.
Speaker 1 (22:14):
Is it like a sweet something?
Speaker 3 (22:15):
It is a rom com but all the feels so
you cry, laugh, smile, want to be her.
Speaker 1 (22:24):
You don't just become catatonic like I did.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
I know, I definitely got that way too. But since
you're already on Netflix, if you need a palette cleanser
or you need something to watch this weekend, it's a
new movie that they put out that is so stinkin cute.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Voice smails to what Isabelle Isabelle, you're gonna cry.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
Oh my gosh, ok are balling.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
The other day, I was laying in bed looking at tiktoks,
and I cry easily. In general. I'll cry it like
a dog video. I'll cry it like when people come
home from being deployed.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
I cry anything.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
At most, it was a video on what to pack
in your hospital bag for pregnancy, for delivering your baby.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
I'm gonna do it now. I don't know why. It
just made me boohoo because you're going to be packing
up Patrick, I don't know. Patrick looked at me, he
was like, what are you watching?
Speaker 1 (23:16):
And I was like, it's not even supposed to make
you cry, so I probably will be crying in this movie.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
Then, Kats, you're already crying right now. Telling me a
story about how you're crying at something that shouldn't go.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Off and make you cry.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
That's sweet. So Erica's got a closet tip for us.
And before we all hear this, just no. When Kat
and I were playing this voicemail and listening to it
before we recorded, we were like, Okay, that's a really
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good tip. Like I think I might start doing this
with everything that I wear. So here's what Erica had
to say.
Speaker 4 (23:56):
Hey guys, okay, you are my Say podcast to listen to.
I've heard Kat Say a couple times talk about how
Amy always has super cute outfits and it always looks
put together and she feels like she never is well.
I felt like that for years and years and years.
And I am thirty four or thirty five, might don't
(24:21):
remember one of the two. And I've always wanted to
do a capsule wardrobe but never could quite figure it out.
But what I did start doing was getting all my
pieces that I felt good in, and if when I
wore it, if I did not feel good in it
that day, whether it be the top or the pants
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or both the whole outfit, I put it into donate pile.
If I did feel good in a certain article of clothing,
I put it back in the closet. And then there's
some pieces that only look good with a certain other
piece in my closet, so I have paired them with
each other on hangers to make an outfit. So I'm
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never second guessing and being like, oh, what did I like?
Speaker 2 (25:13):
What pants?
Speaker 4 (25:14):
Did I like with this top? If it only looks
good with one other thing, I just put it together
on the hanger, and it's always an outfit that I
know that I'm gonna feel good in. And then all
the other pieces that can go with multiple different things.
I have narrowed them down to only keeping them if
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after I wear them, I totally feel good in them,
And that has helped so much and I hope that's
helpful for you. Oh and my name is Erica. I'm
from Oklahoma, and like I said, I'm somewhere in my
mid thirties. I have a teenager and two ch ollers,
so you know, I'm not really sure what ear it
(25:57):
is or how I am. Okay, Thanks bye.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
Now that that's played, real talks of behind the scenes,
we hope we haven't played that voicemail before. We don't
think that we have, because when we listen to it,
we're like, some parts sound familiar, But honestly, I feel
like I wouldn't for I wouldn't forget a tip like that,
like when I'm putting on clothes wearing them throughout the day,
like how do I feel in this? And then should
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I just when I take it off, immediately put it
in the donate pile because I don't need to wear
it again if it didn't make me feel good, Like
it's an easy way to get a get one more
wear out of it and see how you really feel
about it instead of just trying to look at your
closet standing there and trying to remember or decide how
you feel about certain clothes.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
I feel like if we played that before, that'd be
really what's it called when you have no memory? I
don't know, goldfish brain of us because we both were like, oh,
that's a really good tip.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
But it came in over a month ago, and so
that's what makes me think, like, well, surely in the
last month we haven't played that. I don't remember. And
that's the thing when y'all send us voicemails, you never
know when your voicemail might pop up and we may
play one from you know, six months ago, February coming up.
Speaker 4 (27:08):
You never know.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
So thank you for that tip, Erica. I think that's
great that you discovered a way to build your capsule wardrobe,
because that whole process can be overwhelming. But when you
want to do something that's hard, you just got to
get after it, which sounds like what you're doing, because
you know, like the old Chinese proverb the best time
to plant a tree now, No, twenty years ago, because
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then it would be like this fruitful tree. So when's
the second best time to build or to plant the
tree now? Yes? Okay, got it. Speaking of trees, it's
where birds hang out.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
And that was a really good segue.
Speaker 3 (27:52):
Our next voicemail is from a caller who didn't share
their name. We have named the caller anonymous bird lover
and I don't know where they're from.
Speaker 5 (28:04):
So here it is, Hey, Amy, about your bird feeder
this losing section. If you take and put a little
bit of oil on the section before you stick it
to the window, it will hold better. The problem is
that water evaporates when people use water to keep the
section on there, but the oil will hold it better.
So you might want to try that. Okay, I'm really
(28:26):
enjoying your podcast. I'm glad I started listening. Have a
great day.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
Thanks by all right, So, who knew a little oil?
Speaker 1 (28:34):
So are you going to try that before you get
a new bird feeder? Are used to? So?
Speaker 3 (28:37):
I think I was over the suction cups coming through
my window. I didn't even really like seeing them. So
I want the pretty stand with some still shopping for
the best one. You'd be surprised how difficult it is
to find one that at least passes my vibe check.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
Yeah, would you get the same one you had at
your old house?
Speaker 3 (28:57):
I couldn't find it anymore. That was a different celler
on Amazon Plus. While I loved those, it wasn't my favorite.
But I did look it up and they weren't there.
I'm trying to wonder what happened to my poll. My
mother in law had gifted that to me. It was
a it was a double double doozy, a double swinger,
a double feeder like it had hooks that would open
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up on both sides. And I don't know if I
left that at the house like when I moved, but
I didn't mean to, So like, could I go get it?
If it's in the backyard and they don't have a
bird feeder, I know, I feel like I just that's
my bird feeder pole thingy.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
That's again what if it was also like sentimental? You
could like contact the cell the people that bought your
house and be like this was from my ex husband's
where you could Mom, I was saying, you could lie,
but I don't want to lie.
Speaker 3 (29:50):
They don't lie.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
But you can say it's from my ex husband's moment.
That means a lot to me. If you guys aren't
using it, I.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
Shantn't have that back and looked at what it's called.
It's called a double shepherd hook. I guess that's why
it know how to describe it. But now we do
the double shepherd.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
So you're listening and you bought Amy's house, do they.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
There definitely not listening? Yes, they do know because I
think they wanted to buy my house after they heard
oh oh signs of me moving on the radio. And
then they reached out to my neighbor because they knew
my neighbor lived by me, and they said, as Amy
selling her house, they said, we don't know, but she
does have a dumpster in her yard right now or
my driveway. And then they sent me a text and said,
(30:30):
are you moving because we have someone that maybe wants
to buy your house, and then they did, maybe they
are listening.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
And if you are listening and you're not using the
bird feeder.
Speaker 3 (30:36):
The double shepherd hook, you know, let us know. Palla.
Our next voicemail is about laundry rivet but it's it's
a main tip for you Kat, because you know you're
obsessed with your baby laundry detergent and apparently that can
get expensive. It is expensive. It is Oh, this is
(30:58):
a tip about that.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
Yeah, this is your friend Brianna from Pennsylvania. I have
emailed you guys previously when I lived in North Carolina
messaging about having PCOS and then getting pregnant. I'm so
excited for your news something I wanted to call on about.
I know you guys are all about laundry will Aimy
more specifically, but Kat, you were mentioning about using the
baby laundry turgent for your baby's clothes, and while that
(31:22):
is great, I find it to be quite expensive. So
I actually use the free and clear, either the All
brand or I've recently switched to Power detergent and it's
way cheaper and then I can wash everyone's clothes with it,
not just my baby's. So just to help you save
some money and hopefully get all things ready for baby
girl's arrival, I would recommend switching to a different launch
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turgeent just to help you in the future have the
day you guys need to have and think so much.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
Bye.
Speaker 3 (31:52):
All right, we got into Pennsylvania to Oklahoma's a Missouri.
Where are you listening from?
Speaker 1 (31:58):
Like?
Speaker 3 (31:58):
We love what hear we all are from? Well, I
feel like we some states aren't being represented. Rely, so
send us, send us your tips and tricks and questions
anything everything. Thank you for that laundry tip. I like
this tip, but it's the smell. I know it's the smell.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
What's weird is I'm hearing that? Also, sense are very
sensitive to babies, Yet this is a baby detergent that
smells so good.
Speaker 3 (32:23):
Yeah, but they're marketing that to you, not the baby.
Correct what I'm on getting duped or something? I saw
a woman in her fifties pop up in my feed
and she said she went entirely sent free and it
has changed her life. Now. You can't avoid smells if
you go somewhere else but her home. None of her
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cleaning products have smell. Her shampoo conditioner don't have a smell.
She created her own smell hair, Caroline and different. She
she had to create her own products because she couldn't
find So what does she smell like?
Speaker 2 (32:57):
Then?
Speaker 1 (32:58):
What does her house smell like? What does I want
to know what her scent is? If she has no
other sense coming in to her world.
Speaker 3 (33:06):
I wonder can she use again? She popped up on
my FIP. I don't know her. I didn't do a
deep dive, so I don't know. But does anybody else
out there listening? Do you all have a scent free lifestyle?
And does like lemon count? Because if I get a
limon out of my fridge and squeeze it on my countertop,
you know, or down my drain, depending on what kind
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of countertop you have, I'm not saying that's what you
could use, but some people use lemons to clean certain things.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
Yeah, like a grill man.
Speaker 3 (33:33):
People do that with her girl like a girl a lemon?
Like can you.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
You can rub an apple?
Speaker 3 (33:42):
Can you rub an apple? Apple? Smell? This is what
I want to know, Like if you did want to
smell like something, could you smell like fruit? Wait? But not?
She has no essential oils that natural. No, she is
one percent as much as it is in her control
(34:03):
scent free. What's the benefit her whole hormonal system? Because
it's certain smells, Like they say perfume can be an
endocrine disruptor. That sounds fancy. I'm not an expert, but
it can be disruptive to your hormones. Now everybody's going
to be impact a different way. Like there's some people
(34:24):
that they cannot walk into a room. If someone has
on a lot of perfume, they will instantly get a
headache and they have to.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
Go yeah, like it's in it. I don't know if
there was a specific thing this person was trying to.
Speaker 3 (34:35):
Well, she did build a business around it, so I
see where it's in her favor to sell this lifestyle.
But she got passionate about it after she eliminated sense
from her life and then she changed and like how
she felt and how her skin was, like how her
hair grew better. Like, but like, does she ever just
want to light a candle? I know, and smell it?
Speaker 1 (34:58):
You know, I'm sure she get unscended candle, but it's
a different vibe.
Speaker 3 (35:03):
Yeah, that's not the same thing. She ever just light
an apple? You know what fruit I've been crushing on lately.
But no, no, sang it. I thought you were going
to say that, and then we'd be the same. Raspberries
and blackberries, although they will break the bank, I tell
you what berries or I read an whole article the
(35:26):
other day, no news he saw this in his newsletter.
There was this whole thing about berries are causing people
to go broke and kids kids love berries too, and
like you want your kids to eat berries, and then
I have to yell at my kids, diversify your fruit
because they don't all buy.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
Wait, was it like Stevenson was eating too much pineapple
or something to eat?
Speaker 3 (35:52):
I think it was.
Speaker 1 (35:52):
There was a time that he ate like your pineapple
or something.
Speaker 3 (35:55):
Well, no, it's all of our pineapple. But if he
eats all all of it in one sitting, when there's apples, oranges, pineapples, raspberries, blackberries, grapes, bananas, Like,
if he would diversify his fruit in that sitting, then
everybody would get to enjoy all the different fruits. Well, yeah,
what the kids will do is they'll be like, oh, blackberries.
(36:17):
But instead of making you know, cutting up an apple
and then having a few blackberries and then a banana,
you know, diversifying the fruit, he'll just eat all the
blackberries because it's tiny container. Yeah, and then all the
blackberries are gone and nobody else got any. So that's
I'm always saying divers fire fruit, because you got it.
(36:37):
I mean the berries, those are the expensive parts. You
gotta sprinkle in the cheaper fruit.
Speaker 1 (36:41):
You need to like throw in a banana, I was
gonna say it, or like a canalope or a honey.
Do you know when you get a fruit salad at
a restaurant, they always pack it with the melons and
then you get like a half a strawberry and like
two blueberries.
Speaker 3 (36:54):
Yeah, well, I mean you can have a little more
than that. But I just want to see some fruit
diversity so that you don't take them. But I found
some on sale at Kroger. And I only went to
Kroger because I saw also in my FYP, I saw
this list of grocery stores that are like the most
expensive to shop at the publics. Publics was on there
(37:15):
unless you do their bogo.
Speaker 1 (37:16):
I was gonna say, And I let publics do the
shopping for you.
Speaker 3 (37:19):
Yeah, I mean, I love publics because and that's predominantly
where I go. But I was leaving Plates the other
day and I was driving right past to Kroger, and
I thought, I'm gonna pull in there. Sure enough, they
had way better prices. But you know what, I'm a
Texas girl, so I miss hib hib has the best
best prices ever.
Speaker 1 (37:37):
I just think that this is getting into adult conversations.
I never realized I would have. But Public's produce is
just so much better to me than Kroger's.
Speaker 3 (37:48):
I don't know, I'm happy good experience right now.
Speaker 1 (37:51):
Okay, you had a good experience, Well, then that'll because
Kroger's were convenient for me. But what Patrick has taught
me is you his quote, let Publics do the shopping
for you. And when you do their bogo stuff, you
save so much. Now they mark their prices up anyway,
so you're not saving as much as you think.
Speaker 3 (38:09):
But you get some deals. Like some days we get
some crazy deals.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
Sometimes they have buy two, get two free diet Cokes
twelve packs. That's such a good deal because an you
better believe I walk out with at least four packs
diet coke. Yeah, and then it's like I don't have
to buy diet coke for another two months. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (38:31):
That's something that gets me excited. You really are. Yeah,
you're almost you're almost out of breath.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
You're so excited for me to go out of bread
these days.
Speaker 3 (38:39):
Not everybody had it has a Trader Joe's near them,
and that that can be a great place for your
use because and that's the prices are so much better.
But the parking lots are always kind of difficult. Why
is it?
Speaker 1 (38:50):
I forget like they've only put Trader Joe's in inconvenient places.
I literally used to have to do like breathing exercises
before I went to the one that was in Greenhills.
Speaker 3 (38:59):
Oh yeah, one can be pretty if you go at
the right time, it's fine, like right when it opens lot.
But other than that, if you go out of primetime, yeap,
parking can be very, very, very stressful. I saw a
funny little like meme about that a long time ago
where someone was like acting like they were Trader Joe's employees,
(39:22):
and they're the ones that come up with where the
new locations are going to be, and they just pick
like the most complicated parking lot situation ever. They're like,
that's it, that's it, that's where we should put it.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
So that's a universal thing. Then it's not just it's
like a joke. Then they do do it on purpose,
Well I don't so much.
Speaker 3 (39:39):
They do it so much so that people are thinking
they do it on purpose, but I don't think they do.
It's probably a maybe it's part of their it's why
they can keep certain costs slow.
Speaker 1 (39:48):
Oh I was thinking more it's like marketing because the
parking lots always seem chaotic. So that means that people
are always there and like you have to like it
takes a lot of energy and stuff to go.
Speaker 3 (39:58):
Yeah, or it looks like, oh, everybody's so many people here.
I need to be here. It's so hard to get
a parking spot.
Speaker 1 (40:03):
Get one, so hard to get a parking spot.
Speaker 3 (40:05):
You're right, maybe that's the psychology behind it. Yeah, okay,
I get them. Go. All right, Well, I think we
found our quote of the day, and let's diversify your fruit.
But we'll end with our everyday quote, which is we
hope you have the day you need to have you
need to have. Yes, yes, yes, excuse me, I said
(40:29):
it after you said it. I think I was like, shoot,
I wanted to say the phone number in the email address,
I just repeated you. So I'll do that now. Eight
seven seven two oh seven two oh seven seven is
the number. Call and leave us a voicemail. Again. You
can leave us voicemail about anything, as you can see,
and you can also email us if you've got a
(40:50):
question for couch stocks. Now The question can be over
voicemail or email. Hey, they're at Feeling Things podcast dot com.
We're gonna try one more time. Yeah, let me hope.
Wherever you are, you have.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
The day you need to have.
Speaker 3 (41:03):
Bye Bye,
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