Stop Adding More Hobbies. Do This Instead.

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Oh good, all right, break it down.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
If you ever have feelings that you just falls mayby
and Cat got your cob and locking m brother, ladies
and fellows, do you just follow Anna spirit where it's
all of the front real stuff to the chill stuff
and the m but Swayne. Sometimes the best thing you
can do it just you feel things.

Speaker 3 (00:27):
This is feeling things with Amy and Cat.

Speaker 1 (00:29):
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy, I'm Cat,
and my feeling of the day is thankful, happy, joyful,
so much gratitude for whoever invented the M pellet for testosterone.

Speaker 4 (00:43):
My feeling of the day is grateful because you were
in a fabulous mood. And that is to say that
you're usually in a bad mood, but like it's elevated.

Speaker 1 (00:51):
Well, let's be honest. I have been feeling a little
bit met lately, and I with that meant I was
bummed because I've done the hormone replacement therapy stuff and
they said I was going to feel fabulous. But when
I first got my testosterone pellet, I also had low
iron and low vitamin D, so there were other things
to fix with that. And now I got my blood
work done last week. My vitamin D is good, my

(01:14):
iron is good, and those iron treatments they wore me out.
And that was during that first pellet. So and then
by the time I got situated with my vitamin D
and my iron, that first pellet was dissolving in my body.
And so then that was lowering because I just went
in and got my new pellet earlier. I guess it
was last week. Early last week. I got my new pillet,

(01:39):
So it's had time to dispense some testosterone in my body.
And that's got to be it, because I just feel better.

Speaker 3 (01:48):
I just you're glowing.

Speaker 1 (01:49):
Thank you.

Speaker 3 (01:50):
So question about the pellet.

Speaker 4 (01:52):
I know we talked about this last time, but you
showed a video on your instagrams one to ten.

Speaker 3 (01:59):
How bad does that hurt?

Speaker 1 (02:00):
Well, they do numb you. So she gives me a
shot of lytocane and that's what you're something else she
this time, she said, she puts some epinephrine in there.
And I don't not a nurse, I don't know why
you would do that. But I asked her why I
was feeling so jittery from head to toe and felt
a little and she goes, oh, I believe, she said, epinephrine.
She goes, I'll leave that out next time. I don't

(02:22):
know what it does, something with the blood vessels that
helps the disbursement of the lydocane. Maybe I don't know
what I'm talking about. Don't quote me, but she's whatever
that concoction was that she added, She goes, I'll leave
that out next time because your body must not like that.
And I was like, yeah, don't. I don't like the
way I'm feeling right now.

Speaker 3 (02:42):
A little, but now you do jittery.

Speaker 1 (02:44):
So she cut and then from there she makes a
little incision and inserts the pellets.

Speaker 3 (02:49):
Did you get a stitch?

Speaker 1 (02:50):
And I don't feel it?

Speaker 3 (02:52):
Did she stitch you back up?

Speaker 1 (02:53):
Yeah? Yeah, I guess they dissolve and then there's a
patch and I have to keep the patch on for
four days and then I just can't take a bath
or do any squats for the first four days. So
I'm past that now and it's looking good like. And
we alternated. So my first pellet was in my right
upper buttoks and this one is now on my left.

(03:16):
And when I have to go back, which is gonna
be about every four months to get replenished, I'll just alternate.
So that way, you don't build up scar tissue. So thanks, forever.

Speaker 3 (03:28):
You do this forever?

Speaker 1 (03:29):
I don't know. I guess do we do it forever?
Unless I can naturally start making making testosterone, which I
am trying to eat more foods that promote that and
doing my workouts. I'm about to get I'm about to
commit to the weights because she said.

Speaker 3 (03:47):
That's so, what about Pilate's Princess.

Speaker 1 (03:49):
I know, Well, my Plates Princess membership, my year that
I bought, is going to be up soon, so I
have to make a choice. You just got No, that
was last fall. No, yes, no it was.

Speaker 3 (04:00):
Not Kat, it was I think you just were talking
about that.

Speaker 1 (04:04):
No, it was last fall.

Speaker 3 (04:06):
Time flies when you're doing plates.

Speaker 1 (04:09):
Well, I think we're yeah. I mean, look, you're about
to give birth to a baby. I think I signed
up for Pilates before you got pregnant.

Speaker 4 (04:17):
You think, yes, okay, well, so you're gonna do weights.

Speaker 3 (04:22):
What are you gonna do?

Speaker 1 (04:23):
Well, that's the thing I don't know. Because I don't
have a gym. I think I'm gonna need to do
like free weights. I don't have a gym. My friend
is visiting a gym today and she said she was
going to report back to me the vibe, and I'm like, okay, yeah,
let me know because if she goes, I can maybe go.
She does plates with me. Actually she's a pilates princess

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as well, but she is in the same boat as
me where she needs some more weights and so she
may start to transfer over more to the gym. And
she's about my age and if I could have I
don't know, and she's like at my level.

Speaker 3 (04:58):
I think what.

Speaker 4 (04:58):
Works for you though, is a cl where you don't
have to think about anything. So maybe does this gym
have classes too?

Speaker 1 (05:05):
Yeah that the class needs to like lift Like I
used to do body pump back in the day, and
I do that three times a week. At Gold Gym,
I was body pump step class. I was the queen
of the classes. But I don't know. I think also
being tied to a class time, I think I just
need to pop into the gym, do my weight exercises,

(05:25):
and pop out and I could get some weights at home,
but I think I'm gonna need heavy stuff and I
don't like like like a fifty like a fifty pound.
My heaviest dumbell at home is fifteen pounds.

Speaker 3 (05:39):
What are you doing with the N fifty that makes
me sore?

Speaker 1 (05:41):
Well, I don't know yet, but I'm gonna build up
to that, so I imagine, I imagine I'm just already
acting as if I'm that strong. Okay, because the doctor
did say I need to prioritize, if I again, when
it comes to building your own testosterone, I need to
prioritize working the major muscle groups with some heavy weights

(06:02):
and not a ton of wraps, but just getting that in.
So anyway, that's just that's where I am on my
hormone journey. What is your feeling of the day. Oh,
is it just grateful?

Speaker 3 (06:10):
Because I feel it is grateful.

Speaker 4 (06:12):
That actually brightened my day because I was feeling a
little conflicted this morning because I had to do something
that I didn't I kind of liked doing it, but
I kind of didn't like doing it. So you've been
to my office before. We only have like six parking
spots and there's sometimes three more of us working, so

(06:36):
that could us post clients at six people whatever. Well,
they built a hotel behind our building, and the hotel
has parking garage, but for some reason, they always park
in our parking lot. To the point one time somebody
brought a portable grill and was like having a barbecue
in our parking lot.

Speaker 1 (06:54):
Because they're staying at the hotel.

Speaker 3 (06:56):
It's an extended stay hotel too. Yeah, So, like people
have been.

Speaker 4 (07:01):
Doing weird things in our parking lot, and I've gone
over there like five times.

Speaker 3 (07:06):
The people next door have gone up. I've had all
these conversations.

Speaker 4 (07:08):
I've been trying to be so nice because also I
don't want people to have to pay money to get
their car from Like that's the worst I had my
car towed a lot in college and it's a waste
of money.

Speaker 3 (07:21):
However, I towed some cars today.

Speaker 1 (07:24):
You did, you called and had them to eat you.

Speaker 3 (07:28):
Wow.

Speaker 1 (07:29):
Wow.

Speaker 4 (07:29):
It was actually the second time I did this. The
first time I was so mad because the car parked
not even in a parking spot.

Speaker 3 (07:37):
It was just parked in the middle of our parking lot,
like blocking.

Speaker 4 (07:43):
So I was like, I don't feel bad at all
because you didn't You didn't even parking a spot. And
there's signs everywhere that says if you park here, you
will be towed, but I think they're just like yeah, right,
So that one I didn't really feel that bad about.

Speaker 3 (07:54):
But I towed two cars and they were huge. Our
parking lot is small. It was like a Dunali, which
is huge. And then a lifted Ford expedition like lifted
high need a ladder.

Speaker 1 (08:06):
To get those expeditions are well what we were the
bigger ones the excursion. So in college, my dad or
when I was in college, my dad had a Ford
Excursion and we were taking a road trip somewhere. So
I borrowed that so me and all my friends could fit.

Speaker 3 (08:24):
I could park it.

Speaker 1 (08:25):
Well, that's the thing. I just had to find a
spot and it cut towed and I was like, I
had to call my dad and I'm out of town.
I need to get your car out. You have to
have cash, okay, So then I have to find an ATM.
I didn't have my debit card. I was it was
where you park it?

Speaker 4 (08:41):
Did you park it in a place that said if
probably right in front of the car. There's a sign
right in front of that says if you park here,
you will be toad.

Speaker 3 (08:48):
I mean I mean probably.

Speaker 1 (08:50):
I mean it was very obvious that how we made
how we parked, and so I was like, oh, maybe
it was just kat. You just towed some college kids
on a road trip and now they have to call
their dad.

Speaker 3 (09:00):
But okay, you acted shocked when I did that.

Speaker 1 (09:03):
Yeah, because I'm like, wow that I would that.

Speaker 3 (09:06):
Takes like I called the toe company kons Yes, wow,
So I feel good.

Speaker 4 (09:16):
And also I'm like, it's I've I've been hot on
the word respectful and disrespectful lately. Like I feel like
that's been a big thing for me lately, and that
what is what came up with me yesterday when that
car has been there for over twenty four hours.

Speaker 3 (09:31):
That's the other thing didn't just get there.

Speaker 1 (09:33):
So have you thought about, well finish your thing about it?

Speaker 4 (09:35):
I was just going to say I felt like they
were disrespecting me.

Speaker 1 (09:39):
Yeah, even though it wasn't directly at you, I felt
like the sign this.

Speaker 3 (09:42):
Is our business and we need this spot.

Speaker 1 (09:45):
So have you thought about leaving like a review on
the hotel or something like that. I saw a really
really funny review online. It made me laugh out loud.
Let me see if I can pull it up, because
what you would do is just leave a review, or
you could go talk to them. You've talked to the hotel, yes,

(10:07):
multiple times?

Speaker 4 (10:08):
Okay, the first time they are nice the second time,
they are so so rude and the people next door
have gone multiple times over there.

Speaker 1 (10:16):
Okay, I found the review. A woman named Diana left
a two star Google review of out Back Steakhouse after
her husband drove to pick up their takeout order and
the restaurant forgot to include the blooming onion. Her first
review said two stars. I'm absolutely livid. My husband drove
all the way to pick up our outback order and

(10:39):
you people forgot the blooming onion, forgotten all cabs. That
was the only thing I wanted. Minutes later, she left
a second review four point five stars. My fat husband
ate the blooming onion in the car and lied about it.
I'm sorry. I don't know how to delete reviews. So
her reviews were back to back, but it was their

(10:59):
fall and so now I'm picturing you like leaving your review.
I mean, it won't be that your fat husband ate something,
but you could just start leaving reviews and be like, they.

Speaker 3 (11:10):
Let people park wherever they want.

Speaker 1 (11:13):
These people are disrespectful, Yeah.

Speaker 4 (11:14):
Yeah yeah, but it's I think it's a hotel. Stayers
go like, yeah yeah.

Speaker 1 (11:18):
People that stay here are disrespectful.

Speaker 3 (11:20):
You don't want to be that one of those.

Speaker 1 (11:22):
Things, and then later you meet like a really nice
person that's staying there, and you're like, I've four point
five stars. I actually just met someone that was super
kind and respectful. But I don't know how to delete
the other reviews.

Speaker 4 (11:33):
So I have PTSD with reviews. I think in my life,
I have written one review that was not positive. I
wanted a positive review if it has to be exceptional

(11:54):
for me to do that, or if like somebody asked
me to and you can tell like they're asking because
it's going to help their job. I got a tattoo
years and years ago. I had a tattoo parlor, and
this was before all those like fine line tattoos and
like all those cutesy tattoo places were like a thing.

(12:14):
So I went to like a like not grungy, but
it was like a tattoo place where they do legit tattoos,
not like I just got this be still on my wrist,
you know. So I had a bad experience. I just
felt like they were annoyed with me. And when my
friend came with me, and I think she just got
like a little cross.

Speaker 3 (12:33):
You know.

Speaker 4 (12:33):
We were just like girls doing something crazy and I
think they were just annoyed that they had to do it,
but I'm like, we're paying customers.

Speaker 3 (12:43):
Nobody else is here. Anyway.

Speaker 4 (12:45):
I had a really bad experience, and so I wrote
a review because I felt disrespected. But I didn't know,
and I put time and effort into this. I didn't
know that if I posted a review on Yelp, it
would also cross posts to my Facebook.

Speaker 1 (13:05):
So they knew exactly who you were.

Speaker 3 (13:09):
Everybody to have Facebook friends with saw it.

Speaker 1 (13:12):
Oh my gosh, Karen, if.

Speaker 3 (13:14):
This was when Facebook was really cool.

Speaker 4 (13:16):
This was probably over ten years ago, like people were
still using Facebook.

Speaker 1 (13:20):
Well, some people still do use it as cool, like
it's their main It depends on your generation, but.

Speaker 4 (13:24):
Yeah, yeah, it was when my generation was still using Facebook.
So I didn't realize it posted to Facebook until I
got notifications that people were liking my review and I
was mortified. And what I learned from that was Catherine,
be nice and speak kind words, because if you don't,

(13:45):
karma will get you.

Speaker 3 (13:47):
So I deleted that immediately. So I am scared.

Speaker 4 (13:51):
I feel like if I post a bad review somewhere
else because I get like that, I'm like, oh, I'm
going to post a review about these people, blah blah blah,
and I'm.

Speaker 1 (13:58):
Like, no, not just pulled up some of our reviews.
I'm feeling things. Oh gosh, and we have We've had
a five star right next to a one star, so
I'll share both to even it out. Do you want
the one star first?

Speaker 3 (14:11):
Yes? Okay, well good.

Speaker 1 (14:13):
It's not even about you, it's about me, Amy, Amy.
I feel like sometimes she just talks to your her
own voice. Tough listen. Actually know I'm talking because it's
my job to be here and talk with cats, but
clearly talk. Clearly they think they think I have nothing
to say. Ok talking just to talk. The other review

(14:39):
is I freaking love this pod. Literally, when I get
out of the shower, I write on the mirror, fog,
have the day you need to have.

Speaker 3 (14:48):
That's cute.

Speaker 1 (14:49):
Oh wait, there's more. She wrote more there's a more button.
So I thought that was it. Amy, You're such an idol.
I literally had an essay I had to write about
a and I was gonna pick you, but unfortunately my
teacher said pick some one we have a book on
in our school. So lame kat. Congrats on your baby.

(15:10):
I love listening to the updates. It literally makes my
day when I hear how healthy the baby is and
how much it's evolving through its pregnancy. You're going to
be an amazing mother, recommending to my friends literally love y'all. Hey,
I'm done, Amy, You're an amazing mother too, she said. Ps.
Showing me to feel left out balances it out. I mean,
I don't know if we've ever read gone over these before,

(15:33):
but those are just the two. When I pulled them up,
those who were right next to each other and didn't
search for them or anything but that one. Then I
was like her name for a.

Speaker 4 (15:39):
Second, this should is this a thing that should be
a thing? Like I kind of know, like I like that.
How do I say this? I kind of like that
it posted my review to my Facebook because it was like, Catherine,
you can't hide behind a keyboard. You know, you can't
just comment mean thing. Not that I was mean, I
was just honest. You can't comment mean things on somebody's

(16:02):
Instagram and then like just act like you're like a
great person. So what if you posted reviews? They had
to show somewhere, like on your public forum somewhere. How
do you the world would be a better place, don't you.

Speaker 1 (16:15):
Think probably, but then people would just find loopholes in
that and like.

Speaker 3 (16:20):
It'd make like a fake fake Yes, okay, because.

Speaker 1 (16:22):
That's so for some people.

Speaker 3 (16:25):
That would work.

Speaker 1 (16:25):
This is their hobby. That's fair writing the reviews, whether
positive or negative, which I will say I'm a taker
when it comes to that, Like I want to read
other people's reviews, but I don't always take time to
leave reviews. And as much as I appreciated that positive review,
you'd think how good that felt, Like I should go
leave positive reviews on things that I enjoyed because that
would be helpful. But some people being negative on the reviews,

(16:51):
like whether it's Yelp or wherever else, you can leave
reviews like if they want to be negative, and they
will figure it out. Which, speaking of hobbies, I do
have a way that you can easily find hobbies if
you're struggling in that department. And it's not about necessarily
finding more hobbies. It's about hobbies that fit into certain
categories that are gonna contribute to your overall well being,

(17:15):
like the best version of you. Okay, so you want
to know the categories.

Speaker 3 (17:18):
Yeah, I wanted the categories. I'm one person. I don't
need any more. Hobbies.

Speaker 1 (17:21):
You do not. You do not struggle with hobbies, but
I think some people do. Or they think that some
stuff they're doing doesn't count as a hobby and it
does so and they feel like like hiking, walking, reading,
they don't.

Speaker 3 (17:38):
What would it be if it wasn't a hobby.

Speaker 1 (17:40):
Just like I don't know part of their daily activity,
but hiking, hiking as a hobby, yeah, I think I
struggle with that counting it as like a hobby. But
if I look at my categories, see this will help
you with your whole hobby planning. You need a wellness hobby.
Pick one that feels doable even on your worst day. Walking, pilates, stretching,
et cetera. Boom check wellness hobby to Plautius princess, soon

(18:05):
to be weightlifting warrior or something like that. Uh Now,
everything that comes out of my mouth, am I? Am
I contributing something? Or am I speaking just to seek?
Am I talking just to talk?

Speaker 4 (18:16):
You're talking because it's your literal job and if you
don't talk, I don't know what I'm gonna do.

Speaker 1 (18:20):
Okay, Next hobby category creative, So pick something that's zero
pressure around it. Journaling, cooking, decorating, et cetera. That falls
into the creative category, making bracelets, adult coloring, pottery, pottery,
something like that. Solitude. I never thought of this as

(18:43):
being a hobby category, but it's important quiet evenings, time
and nature, meditation, gardening, anything that slows you down can
fall into the solitude category. And solitude is different than
loneliness or being alone.

Speaker 3 (19:02):
Right, yeah, it's well, it's chosen one in it.

Speaker 4 (19:06):
But also, as I'm listening to you say that, I
was thinking like that is something I think a lot.

Speaker 3 (19:13):
Of people would feel before.

Speaker 4 (19:16):
Hearing, maybe something like this, like sadness about that I
have to do this by myself, but I can choose
to do it by myself with intention, and I can
feel really good.

Speaker 3 (19:24):
Yes, you don't need a buddy for everything.

Speaker 1 (19:26):
No, And it's good to recharge and get comfortable with
being by yourself. And for some people that's hard for me, easy, basy.
Let's see. Connection is the next category. So this would
be a hobby that is like a class, a weekly
coffee thing. Don't put that pressure on yourself. If weekly

(19:46):
sounds too scary, it could be bi weekly, monthly. A
wellness community, oh like me, the gym I'm about to
join now that would tackle wellness and community. Yeah, if
you're taking a.

Speaker 3 (19:58):
Class, so you should talk to people.

Speaker 1 (20:00):
True and being consistent with that is more important than
like how intense you tackle it. Again, don't have to
do something like this every day, but just be consistent
on your calendar with it.

Speaker 4 (20:11):
Do you speak to people in your plates class or
do you go in and out and you're just like.

Speaker 1 (20:17):
I am speak to the people that work there. They say, hey,
thanks for coming, and I say thank you. I try
to always tell the teacher that was a really good class.

Speaker 3 (20:27):
What if it wasn't.

Speaker 1 (20:29):
Let's see what's the last thing they said to me? Oh,
I know last class I went to they said, are
you coming to the pool party on Sunday? And I
was like no, So that's not your community.

Speaker 3 (20:41):
You've not made a friend there.

Speaker 1 (20:43):
Well, my friend that is now looking at Jim's she's
my friend there and.

Speaker 3 (20:48):
You didn't make her there.

Speaker 5 (20:50):
No.

Speaker 1 (20:51):
I knew her before, but like not what I got
to know her better at pilates. She is an acquaintance
that turned into a friend because of Pilates. Like at Pilate's,
we exchange started texting.

Speaker 4 (21:02):
Okay, well, so I had have an interesting experience with
community and fitness classes because I worked in fitness for
so long. It was my job to like talk. I
mean I liked it, but it was my job to
talk to people, and a lot of the people where
I worked became my friends, whether it was other instructors
or people like regular worker outers.

Speaker 3 (21:24):
You know what do you call them?

Speaker 1 (21:26):
Yeah, classmates, fellow spinners, members or whatever.

Speaker 3 (21:33):
And I made some of my best friends there.

Speaker 4 (21:36):
But when I quit teaching, there was nothing that felt
better then going to a workout class where nobody knew me.
I could look however I wanted. I could be in
a bad mood, I could be in a good mood.
I could take the corner like I could hide. It
felt so good.

Speaker 3 (21:54):
And so now when I go to a class, I
don't want to talk to anybody.

Speaker 1 (21:58):
Well, hear me out on this. I feel like you
still tackle the community part, or the connection part ish
and the solitude part because you're amongst other people doing something.
So I think our bodies receive that as I'm in community,
I'm doing this class collectively, but I'm also over here
in my own little corner. So you just you you

(22:20):
knocked out two categories in one trip, because again, it's
not how many you have, it's it's the it's the
category that we're trying to focus on.

Speaker 3 (22:31):
Are you saying we should have one in each category?

Speaker 1 (22:34):
I mean that's the goal, Okay, But I would say
you could start with just two and try to work
your way up. But if you could just look at
these five categories and be like, oh, okay, or every
week you alternate, Oh, this is my wellness hobby week
hobby week, or this is my connection hobby week.

Speaker 3 (22:50):
Yeah, I just wonder.

Speaker 4 (22:52):
My whole point in telling that story is really like,
I wonder if I never taught in fitness classes, if
I would show up differently in them now? Yeah, because
now I kind of got burnt out by having to
always be on all the time that now when I go,
I don't want to.

Speaker 3 (23:06):
Talk to people.

Speaker 4 (23:07):
I mean unless I know the person, you know, I
don't want to make new friends there. I just want
to go in and go out. But I wonder if
that would be different because that's not technically my personality.

Speaker 1 (23:17):
No, you're very social. I met a friend at body
pump circling back to that, which I know it's been
a minute since I've gone to a body pump class.
But this is back when I moved to North Carolina,
when Ben was in the Air Force and we had
to move to this tiny town. Technically Fort Bragg, which
is where he was, is in Fayetteville, but we lived

(23:37):
about forty five minutes from there in Southern Pines. Really
cute small town.

Speaker 3 (23:41):
I thought Fayetteville was.

Speaker 1 (23:42):
Is there two there's a Fetteville, North Carolina. It's Pope
Air Force Base and Fort Bragg. That does kind of
merged because he was in the Air Force, but he
also worked for a joint unit. So sometimes that's confusing
to people. If you speak military, it's like, wait, he's
in the Air Force, why was he at Fort Bragg?
But that's a he was part of a joint know
so he worked with all the branches even though he
was Air Force. His unit had everybody joint special ops situation.

(24:09):
So I had no friends i moved there.

Speaker 3 (24:12):
He had.

Speaker 1 (24:13):
I had his friends, like his military friends and their wives,
but I had none that I had made myself. So
I joined golds Gym and there was this one girl
at body pump. She looked like we could be friends.
So I went up to her after class and said,
I'm new here, I don't have any friends, and do

(24:37):
you like, do you want to do something? Because you
look like we could be friends. Yes, and they became
our friends are so her husband ended up being in
a special ops army type situation and we would go
so we did double dates. Our husbands had plenty of
to talk about. We had plenty to talk about. We
worked out together, we went we cooked together, we went

(24:59):
on walks. In fact, a couple of weeks ago, she
was going to visit Nashville. I haven't seen her in forever.
I moved away from North Carolina in two thousand and twelve,
so it's been a minute. But we still keep in
touch over text every once in a while. And she
was going to try to come take a trip to
Nashville but ended up not working out. But I met
her at body Pump and I just went up cold,

(25:21):
cold caller.

Speaker 3 (25:22):
But you would never do that today because.

Speaker 1 (25:25):
I definitely be desperates or I was desperate.

Speaker 4 (25:28):
I was like, Okay, you wouldn't do that because you
have friends now, or you wouldn't do that because like
that's intimidating to you.

Speaker 1 (25:33):
Well, I have my own community here now. But I
think with him being my ex husband being deployed, I
mean he would be gone for sixty to ninety days
at a time, so it was like I had to
really lock in or what was I going to do?

Speaker 3 (25:57):
Was your life kind of like army wives?

Speaker 1 (26:00):
I mean we weren't on base. Okay, those wives were
on base, right.

Speaker 3 (26:04):
Yeah, that's how imagine it always been.

Speaker 1 (26:07):
I mean occasionally I went to some of the spouse stuff,
but not often because a lot of times it was
in Fayetteville and I would have to drive the forty
five minutes. I mean, people could live when you're stationed
there if you didn't live on base. There were so
many surrounding areas, so it was very would you want
to live on the net was wide?

Speaker 3 (26:25):
Would you want to live on an army base or
what do they call that? On base?

Speaker 1 (26:30):
There's posts, there's base. No. But I could have done it.
I do think community part of it. I do think
the community part of it would have been cool and
kind of easy to just like have. I mean in
some of the houses were actually really really cute.

Speaker 3 (26:45):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (26:45):
I did go to He's well he's I don't know
if he's still in, but Admiral mccraven. So fun fact,
if you watched that movie zero Dark thirty is that
was called about the Osamavan Laden there's thing.

Speaker 3 (27:02):
Is he in it?

Speaker 1 (27:03):
Well, why I'm telling this is I was at the
movies and his character he's not in it, but a
character playing him because it's a true story. And I
was like, I've been to his house that I did
go to his house, okay, And I remember being telling
me it was a wives thing, and I remember him
telling me it was a big deal, but I didn't
register how big of a deal. Like I was just like, oh, yeah, okay,
wives gathering. He's like yeah, but this is at like
the boss's house, and I'm like okay. And see admiral

(27:27):
that's like a general. So admiral is head of the navy.
In general's are head of other parts, so this is
like really high up. But I don't I was new.
I was very green to the whole thing. And I'm
just like, you know, showing up. And then there's pictures
like on the fireplace mantle of him with like condoluza rice.
I'm like, okay, I guess he's probably pretty important, like
Colon Powell or Colin Powell. Colon. Why do I say colon?

(27:50):
I think Colin.

Speaker 3 (27:51):
Would be.

Speaker 1 (27:53):
Thinking about your coland thinking about my colon.

Speaker 3 (27:56):
I think that's.

Speaker 4 (27:57):
Pretty wild because we actually had it offline conversation about
this recently of like, what would it take for you
to up and move your life for a romantic partner? Remember,
m hmm, you did it. It seems like no questions
asked and a big deal. Were you living in Texas before? Yeah, okay,

(28:17):
didn't know anybody. You moved to a similar place that
I asked you like middle of nowhere kind of Well
is it middle of nowhere?

Speaker 3 (28:24):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (28:24):
Yeah, I mean flying out to Rally and it was
probably a little over an hour drive from Raleigh.

Speaker 3 (28:30):
You almost gave up your job.

Speaker 1 (28:31):
Yeah, I did quit and then said no Bobby said
he came back. We had a going away party for
me and everything, and then he came back. He's like, Hey,
we're going to put a studio in your house and
I was like really. And then we've been with deploy
some of his deployments, I would go back home and
work out of the studio in Austin and stay with
my mom, but not all the time. Yes, That's why
I needed to make friends.

Speaker 3 (28:50):
Yeah, I just feel like that's a huge maybe.

Speaker 4 (28:53):
I I think when I was younger, I would do
something like that, But when you get older and you
have friends in community and a life and the da
da da, it's a it feels like a bigger ask.

Speaker 1 (29:02):
And back then, like podcasting wasn't as big, the radio
show wasn't as syndicated now. I think we're on and Raleigh.
But the time that I moved there and was recording
out of my house, we weren't on air near there,
and people weren't aware of what we did. Well, I
don't care if they knew who I was. It was
more so like what do you do? And I was like, oh,

(29:22):
I'm part of a radio show, but it's in you know, Austin.
They just knew I'm like recording out of my garage
or up in my attic every day, and so they
would be trying to explain to people and they're like,
I don't know she she records herself in her attic
every day. We don't know who she's talking to. And
I'm like, no, no, no, it's like a legit, real job,
like I'm I'm on air. Sure yeah, sure. That's when

(29:44):
we were popped though we weren't country, so the show
was hadn't hadn't grown the way and that it did
after we moved to Nashville. Anyway, back to the hobbies,
you've got one more category after connection. We were sorry,
we've only hit four spand would be the fifth category.
So think of expanding your mind, like learning, so that

(30:07):
would be reading, studying, learning a language, writing podcasts, small
little daily deposits.

Speaker 4 (30:14):
Okay, So guys, if you're struggling with like, I don't
know this, just maybe have a memory. But if you're
struggling to find things to do, hobbies, whatever you do,
you do.

Speaker 3 (30:25):
All of these people do this stuff.

Speaker 1 (30:26):
Well, if you're listening to us right now, you're doing
your hobby.

Speaker 4 (30:29):
Yeah, we're expanding your mind. You were learning, so okay.
One time I was at a wedding with Patrick. Was
my first time going somewhere with his family, and we
were sitting at the wedding was lovely.

Speaker 3 (30:45):
I had a great time.

Speaker 4 (30:46):
We were sitting at our table, our signed table, and
I was sitting next to like, I don't know who
it was, like what it was his family, but he
was asking me. He asked me, like, what do I
like to do, or like what do I do outside
of work or something like that, and I just was
like well, and I was like thinking, you know, I

(31:08):
hate when people ask that question. I think everybody hates
that question. I was getting to my answer and he
just goes, well, you're great to talk to, or he
said like, well you're a great conversationalist or something like that,
and I was just like, I think Patrick stepped in
because I was like, I'm trying to have a conversation
with you.

Speaker 3 (31:26):
He justid he told me that I was boring, and
I was like, okay, I say to you too cool.
I love your family.

Speaker 1 (31:33):
Well, now you can have out of the gate be like, well,
I really try to handle the five categories for all
the hobbies. Yeah, so you know, for example, and then
you list the categories.

Speaker 3 (31:44):
And then I'll say, so, give me what you do
in each category?

Speaker 1 (31:47):
Yeah, like what do you do for why? Just what
do you do creative?

Speaker 4 (31:50):
I ever say to somebody like, oh, you're bad at conversation, I.

Speaker 1 (31:55):
Would say I think I was more so like I
don't know if it was trying to be funny, but
when you're not you're the outsider.

Speaker 3 (32:05):
I'm not part of the same.

Speaker 4 (32:06):
I don't know these people anyway, obviously it's still bothering me.

Speaker 1 (32:10):
I hate funny flops.

Speaker 3 (32:12):
Does that happen to you a lot?

Speaker 1 (32:13):
Well, I think it's happened to all of us, where
you feel like you're saying something kind of funny or
sarcastic that's going to hit and it's and then it's
like oh when it comes across his h and then
you're like, well, dang, yeah, not what I needed. So
what were y'all at a wedding?

Speaker 3 (32:30):
Yeah, at dinner.

Speaker 1 (32:31):
And anytime I think of like you and Patrick at
a wedding, it makes me think of me at your
rehearsal dinner or your wedding, because y'all's wedding was so fun.
And how I took a random date to your.

Speaker 3 (32:46):
I really wish you would have brought to the wedding.

Speaker 1 (32:49):
I know, I think the wedding would have been a
little bit too much. And he wasn't random. It was
just our second date ever, and I met him on
pitch random.

Speaker 3 (32:56):
It was just the second time we hung out.

Speaker 1 (32:59):
And it was at your rehearsal dinner, and I had
to give like a little speech, and so then I
said from the speech. I'm like, everybody, could we give
around the clause? Because Kat and Patrick met on hinge
and I'm here with my Hinge date and this is
our second date. If that would have worked out, it
felt like a little romk oh good. Yeah, yeah, like

(33:20):
a cute moment. But it didn't work out.

Speaker 3 (33:21):
And my friends asked about him this past weekend.

Speaker 1 (33:24):
Oh really.

Speaker 4 (33:25):
They were like, what happened to the guy that Amy
brought to your rehearsal dinner? And I was like, oh,
let me tell you. But they were like, he was
so nice, he is so cute, and he is cute,
and they're like, I wonder if like because they were
trying to they were talking about trying to set up
another friend in the same age range, I think, And

(33:46):
I was like, I don't know if he's looking for
what your friend is looking for, so but.

Speaker 1 (33:49):
Yeah, like I think he's just looking a hangang.

Speaker 3 (33:52):
He's looking to come to rehearsal dinners.

Speaker 1 (33:54):
Yeah, he's down for that.

Speaker 3 (33:55):
He was such a good sport. Yeah I would do
that too. Probably.

Speaker 4 (33:59):
Well, what I if somebody asked me on a second
date to go to rehearsal dinner, what would I think?

Speaker 1 (34:05):
I mean, I think you would be a good sport
about it. If not, Like, now that I know his personality,
I totally get sat down. Why you down to do it?

Speaker 3 (34:14):
Yeaheah, that's just like intense.

Speaker 4 (34:16):
You met a lot of people and you didn't even
know a lot of the people they know.

Speaker 1 (34:20):
Like I think he left there having more conversations with
people than I did. You know, I saw something that
they do it in Finland at grocery stores where they've
got you know, the baskets that are smaller that you
put on your.

Speaker 3 (34:31):
Arm, grocery basket, well but.

Speaker 1 (34:33):
Not the cart that you push, but like the little okay,
the little basket, and they have pink ones, and the
pink ones signify that you're single and you would like
to meet somebody, so you can go and grab a
pink basket and then someone may come up and start
talking to you. And so it's the opportunity for a

(34:55):
little meat cute at the grocery store and you don't
have to do the dating app or the awkward you know,
oh are they wearing a wedding ring? The only problem
I could see if someone didn't know this and they
accidentally grabbed a pink basket, not knowing surely they're labeled. Yeah,
I mean I think there was a sign. But then
what if you just like see a pink basket and
you're like, oh, I need a basket real quick, like
I'll grab that, and then you're married. So I just thought, well,

(35:19):
look at Finland getting creative and helping out their communities.

Speaker 3 (35:23):
Would you do that?

Speaker 4 (35:26):
I mean maybe because this is my this is where
my thought process went.

Speaker 3 (35:31):
Maybe this was is my own trauma.

Speaker 4 (35:33):
But I was like, well, how many times would I
let myself pick the pink basket and then not get
spoken to.

Speaker 1 (35:40):
They're like, you're here a lot. She keeps walking around
the store with that pink basket.

Speaker 4 (35:46):
But it's more so like, okay, I've I've done this
fifteen times. Nobody's ever asked me out. Should I just
stop signifying, Hey, everybody, I'm single, talk to me, because
if you pick the pink basket, you're saying I want
somebody to talk to me. Like that is pretty vulnerable.
I think, yeah, Versus it's a law and they're like,

(36:06):
if you're single, you must use the pink basket.

Speaker 3 (36:08):
Then I would feel I wish I would rather. I
don't want them. I don't want them to That seems
very bad.

Speaker 4 (36:17):
And I kind of would like it because if it
was the law, then it takes out the vulnerability and
it's just like, well, I have to have the pink basket,
so I'm not really putting myself out there, but I
am by law versus if it's just by choice, then
you're saying, I want somebody to talk to me. Then
if somebody doesn't, it's kind of like want want why

(36:39):
I'm trying.

Speaker 3 (36:39):
Nobody, you know what I mean. That's a little bit
of my brain.

Speaker 1 (36:44):
Two relationship things have popped into my head while we're
talking about this one. I am listening to a book
called Yours Truly right now, and it.

Speaker 3 (36:50):
Is so cute.

Speaker 1 (36:50):
Speaking of cute little relationship things, if you were looking
for something to download on audible or even if I
have the physical copy too, because I and I read.
But I was explaining this to Kat earlier when I
because you're always looking for something to listen to and
read too, and this one is just so stink and cute.
And I love that the narrators they have a girl

(37:11):
narrator for her part and a guy narrator because sometimes
the actor will do both voices and you're like.

Speaker 3 (37:17):
That's what I'm experiencing right now.

Speaker 1 (37:19):
She's trying a big man and she talks like this,
and then it's just like gives weird vibes.

Speaker 5 (37:23):
This.

Speaker 1 (37:23):
The actors are so good in the are they called
actors or voice actors? They are so good and I
want this situation. They are doctors though, and I'm not
a doctor.

Speaker 3 (37:35):
How did they meet?

Speaker 1 (37:36):
They're doctors. I don't want to give anything away. Oh okay,
but they have lunch in the supply closet, and I'm like,
I want to have lunch in this.

Speaker 3 (37:43):
So it's not a break or are they doing other
things in the No.

Speaker 1 (37:46):
They're just having lunch. But you'll see when you get
to know the characters' personalities. I really want you to
listen to it or read it. It's such a cute
book that came to mind because it's relationship related. Also,
my friend is in a situation right now where she
has been hanging out with this guy a little bit,
but she feels as though she's been really clear about

(38:08):
expectations and he still texts her all the time. And
she showed me her phone the other day. She goes,
how many times did you text someone? Before you just
chill out on it and they're not replying.

Speaker 3 (38:20):
She's not wanting this, she.

Speaker 1 (38:23):
Doesn't want anything. She's fine with just being friends. He
clearly wants just friends, just friends, okay, And they're in
each other's lives for various reasons. But she just wants
to like keep it cool and like if they want
to hang out every once in a while or just
as their kids want to play whatever, just as friends.

(38:43):
She doesn't want anything more. Why do you keep clarifying.

Speaker 4 (38:45):
Because you're saying like, she's cool if they hang out.
It's like, well, if they started dating and now she's like,
I'm cool to hang out, is he going to think
like you want a casual relationship or.

Speaker 1 (38:54):
You just okay, well, let's not muddy the water with
all that. It's really the how many times do you
think someone will text without getting response and they just
keep bringing the same text, which just kind of makes
me think of hinge day guy that I brought to
your rehearsal under like some guys are just like whatever.
But she showed me her phone and he had texted her,

(39:16):
and this is Day's worth like multiple times in a row,
just things like you know, just did the laundry or
like drive, you know, driving, wow, this weather, you know,
just but but she's not engaging at all. But then
twelve hours later he'll be like, wow, I'm tired, you know,
like be little just he's trying to tea. He's trying

(39:39):
to connect and she's not responding, and she's like, at
what point is he gonna get the hint? And then
eventually she feels like she has to respond, so this
is weird, but she does a very platonic answer, and
she'll engage with one thing, but then the cycle starts
back up to where it's multiple texts where she's not responding,
and then she'll.

Speaker 3 (39:57):
Reply and then already said I just want to be friends.

Speaker 1 (40:01):
Yes, and so maybe this is his way of being friends,
but she could tell he definitely wants more. So I
was just curious of like, at what point does he
get the hint of, like maybe I should stop texting
this person right because he's still hitting her up.

Speaker 4 (40:20):
So I would think that a triple text, I mean
right now, triple text to me is really putting yourself
out there depending on what the texts say, like sometimes
it is appropriate to text. I mean, I'm saying this
for myself, because sometimes I look at my text and
it's like Catherine, Catherine, Cather Catherine five is a lot,

(40:44):
especially if somebody has said I'm not interested.

Speaker 3 (40:48):
In you in this way.

Speaker 4 (40:50):
My grace for him is what you said. Maybe he
is just trying to be normal and like he's trying
to like build a pultonic friendship with her, and these
sound like platonic texts like watching my car.

Speaker 3 (41:04):
It's not like yeah, no.

Speaker 4 (41:08):
So maybe he's trying to do that and he just
doesn't realize how it's coming off. So she's not asking
for my advice, but my advice would be to just
like what she's like, every once in a while, respond,
but don't continuously feed that.

Speaker 3 (41:25):
But also if there's something that you want to respond to,
respond to that.

Speaker 1 (41:41):
I looked at a guy on LinkedIn the other day
and I was like, do people do this?

Speaker 3 (41:46):
Is this a guy? Is this a potential suitor?

Speaker 1 (41:48):
I mean it was something that I heard from something. No,
I mean, I'm not, it's just a curiosity thing. But
and so then I'm like, do people look at people
and linked And it is a thing, but.

Speaker 4 (42:01):
You got to be careful because they can see that
you look at them.

Speaker 1 (42:04):
Well, here's the thing. I don't have a LinkedIn account,
and sometimes I'm able to look only so far. I
can't see everything. And here what's weird is maybe you
only get so many of those per month, per month,
because sometimes I'm able to look, and then other times
it's like you need an account and I'm like, well,
why was I able to see the other day?

Speaker 3 (42:27):
So what did you find anything interesting?

Speaker 1 (42:29):
Well, I just liked looking at previous work how long
he was staying at the jobs, and then with the
job title, I google, well, okay, well so I wonder
what they make. And then I'm just getting nosy. Yeah,
And not that matters because I take care of myself,
but I'm just curious.

Speaker 4 (42:49):
People definitely do that because people it's I recommend this
if you're especially online dating or dating. This is a
date that you don't have a mutual connection where somebody
can say this is a safe normal person. You need
to google these people. And when you google them, most
of the time, when of the first things that comes
up is.

Speaker 1 (43:08):
There like LinkedIn pops up.

Speaker 4 (43:09):
That's would I never did that because I was always
afraid they would see that I looked at them.

Speaker 1 (43:14):
Yeah, but you have a LinkedIn. See I don't, but.

Speaker 4 (43:17):
I haven't gotten on my LinkedIn. I made my LinkedIn
in grad school and I've never used it.

Speaker 1 (43:21):
I mean, why would I would I need? Do I
need a LinkedIn? Like? Maybe once I come a when
I finish my key No, not motivation.

Speaker 3 (43:31):
A keynote, sorry, a keynote speaker.

Speaker 1 (43:34):
Once I finish, which I'm I'm almost done with my speech,
then maybe I need to build a LinkedIn just for
my credibility. Okay, I found the survey. I found that
one in eight people have started a romantic relationship through LinkedIn,
while one in five have used the platform to check
out a potential partner. Nearly half of respondents also said

(43:57):
LinkedIn profiles feel more trustworthy than dating app profiles.

Speaker 4 (44:01):
They that's actually, I mean, it's their professional life. But
like you can't lie on there, because you can say
anything about yourself on your dating app, but on your
LinkedIn you can't lie, like if this is your job
or I mean, I guess you could lie, but I
feel like you're less likely to.

Speaker 3 (44:18):
I one time thought somebody was asking me out on LinkedIn.

Speaker 1 (44:23):
Of what happened?

Speaker 3 (44:24):
They just were networking? Oh yeah, but hey, guy did
you say, was it a guy?

Speaker 1 (44:30):
Yeah, a girl could ask you.

Speaker 3 (44:32):
Oh yeah, it was a guy.

Speaker 1 (44:33):
I mean, you wouldn't be interesting.

Speaker 4 (44:34):
I probably would't have gone. I probably would have gone
with the girl, but I would have known it was
for networking. But I was like, oh interesting, crazy this
guy found me on here, you know.

Speaker 1 (44:45):
Like stop stalking me. He's like, look, I was trying
to invite you to a mixer.

Speaker 4 (44:48):
And then I think he wanted to be like my
financial advisor or something, which my financial advisor is somebody
I want to dated. So full circle, but you got
you gotta be careful. They're not always asking you.

Speaker 1 (45:01):
Yeah. Oh, they just want to manage my feeling really
good about myself.

Speaker 4 (45:06):
I guess I've done a lot of background checks on people, though,
were you like pay the money and some for good reason?

Speaker 3 (45:15):
One had a felony.

Speaker 1 (45:17):
Yeah that's good to know.

Speaker 3 (45:18):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (45:19):
I did the only background check, which my friend did it.
I didn't do it. I think that I've done maybe
maybe we did more, but this one is the only
one I remember. Was a really weird email that I
got from one of my neighbors about me. It was really,
really weird, and we just tried to look up stuff
about them, and then it showed on the record that

(45:40):
they had DUI's and I'm like, okay, this tracks. I
think maybe they drink like weird, Like was it? No?
It was just a not nice email about me and
I didn't even know them, but they were judging me
and my encounters with them, like when I would walk
my dog, if I would say hi or not, and
then they sent me it was just a really not
a nice email. But it was sent at almost midnight,

(46:05):
so sipping the sauce, you know, like the background check
gave me info. I think through the background track. Oh,
this is what I was trying to figure out. Why
we did the background check is because she just signed
that she lived on my street, but I didn't know
which address, so we just ran a bunch of stuff
to figure out exactly which home she was in, so

(46:25):
that now I know not to walk that way at all.

Speaker 3 (46:27):
Ever. Did you ever see this person after and were
you like Hi?

Speaker 2 (46:31):
No?

Speaker 1 (46:32):
I think I just started trying to wave more to anybody.
She did sign it for all the moms on my street,
though she represented everybody.

Speaker 3 (46:39):
Yeah wait wait wait wait was this in Texas or
North Carolina? No, it was here. It was here neighborhood now, Okay.
I was like, I would have known about this, No, but.

Speaker 1 (46:49):
She signed it. It's like name a street name.

Speaker 3 (46:52):
Just give a street name, John Street, Okay.

Speaker 1 (46:55):
She would be like, she was like, sincerely, the mom's
of John Street. And I was like, wow, she's signing
it for the whole and that she'd lived on the
street forever.

Speaker 4 (47:05):
But did she just say that because she wanted to
write it and then she didn't want to.

Speaker 1 (47:09):
Just I think if other moms knew she was sending
that on their behalf, they would have been mortified. Yeah,
but that's why I did that background check. But I'm like, wow,
you really can't find out a lot about people. And
I hope she got help. I mean, if she I
know people that have gotten DUIs, like, they're good people.
I'm not saying she's bad. I mean, driving well you
drink is not smart, but people make stupid mistakes. And

(47:30):
she had that on a record. But that gave me
information of like, oh, I need to have grace for
this email because I think there might be a situation
having here and I think maybe she was drinking and
that's why she sent this very bizarre, rude email and
then signed it for the street. Yeah, but just saying
that I was unfriendly on my walks, and then.

Speaker 3 (47:53):
I'm sure I'm unfriendly on walks.

Speaker 1 (47:55):
Yeah, I have my earbuds and I got my dog,
or if I would turn that meant I was going
that direction. I really was perplexed by it. And then
she also said, if our kids ever want to get together,
let her know. I'm like, sure, okay, I mean I
never replied.

Speaker 3 (48:13):
So this was not that long ago because you had
your kids.

Speaker 1 (48:16):
I had just gotten them. Okay, so it what I mean,
I've had my kids now for.

Speaker 3 (48:20):
Yeah, but it wasn't I was.

Speaker 1 (48:22):
This was like fens I only lived here thirteen Yeah,
so wow.

Speaker 3 (48:28):
Okay, wow, I would have hurt my feelings a little bit.

Speaker 1 (48:30):
It definitely did. I still have it in my email.
I keep it.

Speaker 3 (48:35):
Oh maybe one day we'll pull it out in just
in case, just in case.

Speaker 1 (48:39):
What I don't, I don't know. I keep a lot
of emails, Like, if I go back, I have emails
from my mom.

Speaker 3 (48:44):
Well, I guess I don't delve.

Speaker 1 (48:45):
I have emails from when my ex husband I first
started emailing, like that's how we communicated because he was
overseas and we would send emails and you could totally
tell I was turning on the charm. I mean, so cheesy,
but I was excited, Like you can see how you
act in the early days.

Speaker 3 (49:05):
I wish cute.

Speaker 4 (49:06):
Patrick and I were just talking because I had another
one of those like Instagram things that's like five questions
to ask your partner whatever, and we did it the
other night, and one of the questions was, who's the
first person that you told how you felt about me?
And then one of the questions was something about, like,

(49:26):
at what point did you know you were falling from me?
Like what did I do that made you know that
you were falling from me or something like that, and
we both struggled figuring out the answers to those two questions.

Speaker 3 (49:35):
And we have only.

Speaker 4 (49:36):
Been together for like four and a half years, so
it's not like it's been a ton of time.

Speaker 3 (49:40):
So we were talking. We wish that we would have
both kept.

Speaker 4 (49:43):
A journal when we were dating, or I guess an
email log or something like that. And I always have
that thought of it would be really cool if I
had a journal and I could look back at this
or I could see how I was feeling. But I
cannot force myself to do it. If you're listening to
this and you have not found your partner, I highly amy,

(50:05):
will you journal already?

Speaker 1 (50:07):
Yeah? But I could do better. That's one of my hobbies.

Speaker 4 (50:09):
That would be so cool to look back and be
Like went to dinner with the girls tonight.

Speaker 3 (50:13):
We talked about so.

Speaker 1 (50:14):
And so like with my uh ex boyfriend, my last one. Yeah,
I only have one ex boyfriend since my marriage. And
he on our like on our second or third date,
we wrote some stuff down on receipts because we were
getting to know each other and we were writing down
the three qualities that we are looking for in a partner.

(50:37):
And I kept both of our answers and I have them.
I still have it in mind.

Speaker 3 (50:41):
What are your three qualities that you look for?

Speaker 1 (50:43):
Well, I have to go back up there and see,
because I mean, I have more than three, but I
don't know what three I chose. I know that his
three he wanted someone that's kind.

Speaker 3 (50:51):
That lady on your street would not think that.

Speaker 1 (50:53):
Which I just pulled out that email, by the way,
Oh yay to read it.

Speaker 3 (50:56):
Yes, I will. Okay, Wait, what were the other things
he was looking for?

Speaker 1 (51:02):
Same? Faith? And I can't remember the third m hm, well,
this was like almost coming up on two years ago.

Speaker 3 (51:10):
I think it's fine that you don't remember.

Speaker 1 (51:11):
I just was like, first I could go get it
out on my door and show you. Okay, but I remember.
And we went to Henrietta Red. It's on a Henrietta
Red receipt.

Speaker 3 (51:19):
That was your Is that the date that you went
and you wore the pink dress?

Speaker 1 (51:25):
That was the first date and that was that. That
was a one name, a one girl named restaurant. Okay,
I knew it was like a name now Audrey Audrey. No, no, Aubrey, Hey, Abrey,
Hey Anita?

Speaker 3 (51:39):
Hey, what what's the age? Oh wasn't it wasn't a
steak place? No, maybe it was Audrey.

Speaker 1 (51:48):
I did want to get some pork thing and he
made a face and I was like, Okay, guess I'm
not getting that. But then I learned with his daughter,
his not his daughter, his wife's colon cancer. He just
doesn't eat pork and thing pork. So I was like,
guess we're not going to get that. I mean, I
guess he will occasionally, but it's very rare.

Speaker 4 (52:07):
But he did he say like that on the first date,
like pork is bad for you.

Speaker 1 (52:11):
No. I didn't learn until later. I just thought, well,
that was a weird encounter, Like the server was at
our table ordering and I was like questioning that one,
and then his face and then I was like, okay,
I guess I'm not going to get the bacon.

Speaker 3 (52:21):
Do you remember what you got?

Speaker 1 (52:23):
I know, I got the Pamena cheese dish there if
it's just a thing of Pamena cheese and your dip,
well yeah I like cheese.

Speaker 4 (52:33):
Yeah I know you do, but you don't remember what
you got on your first like what meal?

Speaker 3 (52:36):
That stuff? I remember?

Speaker 1 (52:37):
See, I should have journaled it.

Speaker 3 (52:39):
Well, yeah, it's not the most important thing.

Speaker 1 (52:41):
Yeah, okay, you went the femail. Yes, okay, I read
this on the Bobby Bone Show way back too, so
well I've never heard Okay, this was years ago?

Speaker 3 (52:51):
Mm hmm, heymy we sorry? Sorry, what year? Can you see?

Speaker 1 (52:56):
Twenty nineteen?

Speaker 3 (52:58):
That long ago? Cat?

Speaker 1 (53:00):
This was seven over, This is seven and a half
years ago. That's a long time.

Speaker 4 (53:05):
Twenty nineteen does not feel that long ago because that's
the year after.

Speaker 3 (53:08):
This was a pre COVID I know, but that's year
before COVID, and COVID seems like two years ago to me.

Speaker 1 (53:13):
Okay, sorry, but everything before COVID seems like eons ago.

Speaker 3 (53:17):
Okay, okay, Amy.

Speaker 1 (53:19):
I listen every morning on my way to work. Love
the show. I figured out a while back that you
live on my street, as have a few other moms.
Believe me when I tell you that when we wave
hello as you are walking by our houses with your husband, kids, friends,
when we are in the front yard with our kids,
we are being neighborhood friendly like we have been for

(53:40):
most of the ten to fifteen years. We have all
lived here, So when you turn away, ignore and don't
return the greeting, it's just rude. We all have kids,
and we'd love for your adorable kids to join in
with the neighborhood kids anytime. No one cares about your
radio celebrity. We are all native Nashvillians and have plenty

(54:00):
of celebrity friends. We are a fun We are a
fun group of moms who like to drink wine on
the porch and have a good time while keeping it real.
Even if you're not interested or give zero cares, returning
away or hello is just polite. Sincerely, Johnstream Moms, Does

(54:24):
that make you want to walk by and be like okay.

Speaker 3 (54:26):
And also like we have plenty of celebrity and we.

Speaker 1 (54:29):
Don't care about you. First of all, I do not
put myself in that category.

Speaker 4 (54:32):
And you know it, I was gonna say that, I
was like you were when I met you. I was actually,
I don't know as shocked as the word, but I
was like, oh, she doesn't realize that more people know who.

Speaker 3 (54:42):
She is then she thinks, so you will. You would
never consider yourself a celebrity.

Speaker 1 (54:50):
And if I like, if I'm at with my friends,
my husband's my friends, or I've got my headphones in,
like I I don't know if I just didn't notice,
Like there's no way. We did walk a lot in
that neighborhood my wed like, but think of these friends
I'm about to name Gracie, she's like the nicest.

Speaker 3 (55:07):
Person ever heard.

Speaker 4 (55:08):
Yeah, Like we would we would wave like I did
she live over there too?

Speaker 3 (55:13):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (55:13):
And we had like Caroline Hobby again, one of the
sweetest people ever. Who else was in our walking crew?
Jackie so nice abby, Like I don't it just it
was very perplexing to me. But also sometimes when I walk,
I'm in my own we're like having a conversation we're

(55:34):
in our own zone, so we may not see.

Speaker 3 (55:37):
But I think she wanted.

Speaker 4 (55:39):
I think she did care that you were on the
radio and she wanted to be your friend. Because it's
also interesting how she's like, we have plenty of celebrity friends.
I have lived in Nashville Franklin my entire life.

Speaker 3 (55:51):
I have none.

Speaker 4 (55:52):
Like that's not like a normal I guess it's not
abnormal when you're from here, but it also isn't like
it's not like everybody is friends with famous people here.

Speaker 3 (56:00):
I think I don't know that that line.

Speaker 1 (56:02):
Is also the fact that I'm reading it again and
I did read it on the show, and it's come
up and numerous times on the show throughout the years.
If I were her, I would also be like, Okay,
let this go, like.

Speaker 3 (56:12):
Let it go.

Speaker 1 (56:13):
But it is a funny story you have let it go,
and I'm not safe.

Speaker 3 (56:15):
I've never heard this story.

Speaker 1 (56:16):
Like I'm not giving her away at all, whatsoever. I
would never do that. It just to me was this
is sort of like a weird YELP review.

Speaker 3 (56:24):
I was.

Speaker 1 (56:24):
I was about to say, it's like circling back.

Speaker 4 (56:27):
She should have been posted on her Facebook, and then
she would never have done it.

Speaker 1 (56:30):
She's like Diane with the outback, like getting all mad,
but then comes back with a four point by And
here she did come back like we we'd love to
hang out with you, Like she's saying, it's like a
it's like a weird mix of like, you know what,
you're rude, but like let's hang out.

Speaker 3 (56:47):
You know what.

Speaker 4 (56:47):
I wish she would have done if she was feeling
like you were, because this is very confusing. So I
wish she would have been like, hey, if you're new
to the street, like there's a group of us that
do this whatever. We've seen you walking a couple of times.
I know it's hard to meet new people and sometimes
it can be intimidating, but we'd love to have you
over one night for a glass of wine in the porch,
or for a play date.

Speaker 1 (57:06):
With our kids, like inviting me.

Speaker 3 (57:08):
Yeah, that would.

Speaker 4 (57:09):
Be solving the same problem, because then if you were
just really rude and didn't care about them.

Speaker 3 (57:13):
You would have ignored the email.

Speaker 4 (57:15):
But you also probably would have answered that email and
gone and then she would have.

Speaker 3 (57:19):
Her celebrity friend interesting, Okay.

Speaker 1 (57:24):
We did it.

Speaker 3 (57:25):
I'm sorry that you got that email.

Speaker 1 (57:27):
Yeah, I was trying to pull up, like if there
was like a cute email from between me and Ben
in like two thousand and six somewhere of my side,
Like I can give you an example of like my
you know, my email flirting, which is probably like so awkward.

(57:48):
Oh here's one. Hey, Oh I was email. This is
before I even joined the Bobby Bone Show, because I
was emailing him from my architecture granted and marble email.
So this is so you didn't send your work email?
Is that mad?

Speaker 4 (58:07):
That's actually crazy because your boss could read these what what?

Speaker 3 (58:12):
Really? Yes, I would never.

Speaker 4 (58:14):
I would never use my work email to any personal email.

Speaker 1 (58:19):
Let me tell you I probably did that. This was
my first job out of college with my first real email.
I probably was funk to have it.

Speaker 3 (58:26):
You didn't have another email I did. I had.

Speaker 1 (58:28):
I had my my gmail.

Speaker 3 (58:29):
You were like, he's Ben's gonna think it's but I
have a work email.

Speaker 1 (58:33):
Yeah, I had a I have such a business woman.
I'm in sales. I even had one of those next
telephones that was also like a walk at the same time,
Like I thought, I was so cool. Oh this is
how I ended out. Well, I'd better let you go.
Like after sending like three paragraphs. Well, I better let

(58:54):
you go. Good luck on your papers, text, et cetera.
I have a great day. What if I was like,
have the day you need to have and I was
saying that was that?

Speaker 3 (59:01):
Then wit did you send like racy emails.

Speaker 1 (59:05):
My fork?

Speaker 3 (59:06):
Well that's what I say, first of all.

Speaker 1 (59:08):
No, second of all, No, did you say like I
miss you?

Speaker 3 (59:15):
Or I said like cutie?

Speaker 1 (59:17):
How I said? I said, work is great, selling rock
is great, so great, I won't make you jealous with
the details.

Speaker 3 (59:24):
He's like, tell me more.

Speaker 1 (59:27):
And then I said, Christy, that's my sister. I said,
Christy was telling me about the plane you fly, So
I did.

Speaker 3 (59:43):
I want to know what's so funny.

Speaker 1 (59:45):
I'm just laughing at this twenty four, twenty five year
old me. That's like, so I did some research online.
Pretty impressive, mister Brown.

Speaker 3 (59:59):
And I I just knowing how like you would never
talk to him like that now?

Speaker 1 (01:00:02):
Yes, And he was in a special school because he
went to the Air Force Academy and then he was
already a pilot. He was already a pilot, but I
guess he had to do some like special school like
education in the military.

Speaker 3 (01:00:13):
Guys, like you've talked about how he was older. Yes,
and you were like, mister.

Speaker 1 (01:00:17):
Brown, and I'm like, so, my sister was telling me
about the plane you fly, so I did some research online.
Pretty impressive, mister Brown, I said, so, what are you
in school for if it's top secret. If it's top secret,
I understand. Sometimes the granite industry, I told you, I

(01:00:40):
was flarting an awkward I said, sometimes the granite industry
prohibits me from sharing information too. Obviously they don't. And
then I said, well, I hope things settled down for you,

(01:01:00):
at least enough for you to know what day it is,
I guess. In his reply, he said, things are so busy.
What if like, after I read all these emails, I've
like fall back in love and I'm like, hey, mister Brown,
what in the world? I mean?

Speaker 4 (01:01:17):
This is like you have a legit like big tear
coming down your cheek. Oh, I mean that is how
That's cute, though, Amy, I don't think you're awkward.

Speaker 3 (01:01:26):
That is like, if you did that now would be weird.

Speaker 4 (01:01:30):
But like, as a twenty four year old who's like
intrigued by this mysterious cute older guy, what is that
your faith?

Speaker 1 (01:01:37):
Well, I'm counting how many paragraphs. Another reply in this
chain was where I wrote him one, two, three. These
are paragraphs four, five, six, seven, and the seventh paragraph
I start that one with. Now that I rambled.

Speaker 3 (01:01:51):
About all that, but you couldn't have phone calls, right.

Speaker 1 (01:01:57):
Yeah, we weren't able to talk. But I was actually
talking through with him that I was trying to decide
if I was going to go join this radio show
or not. And I was like, I think I have
an opportunity to join the show. You probably don't know it.
It's the Bobby Bone Show. And I'm explaining all that,
and I'm like, but do I really want to leave
this job to go do that? Or fast forward?

Speaker 5 (01:02:16):
Yeah, on my cry Okay, just brought up a good point.
I'm like on my granted email talking about how I
might go.

Speaker 1 (01:02:28):
Take another job. But the Granted people knew because I
auditioned at the mall and that audition ended up on
the radio. So I had to come clean to them,
and then I had to go do my auditions.

Speaker 3 (01:02:36):
What is on the for the radio? What do you mean?
How did well?

Speaker 1 (01:02:42):
The female co host was leaving, they were hiring somebody else.
The mall thing was just like a shtick, but I
thought I was really making it. So I made it
to the top two. But they ended up hiring someone
that wasn't even at the mall, which that was the
plan all along, but I didn't know it, and then
she got the job. But then later they wanted to
move her to producer and bring in a girl and
that's where but during the audition, that's where I ended

(01:03:02):
up coming in and taking the job. But during the
audition process from the mall, it was about a six
week process, and I was taking off of work in
the morning to go be on the radio show. But
I would get done at nine and so then I
would go to my granted job after that, Like I
would get there at five thirty in the morning, do
the radio show, then go to my granted job. And
so they knew I had to come clean to them. Yeah,

(01:03:23):
I'm like technically.

Speaker 4 (01:03:24):
They probably were like, yeah, we already know because we've
been reading your love letters to your boyfriend.

Speaker 1 (01:03:30):
Yeah. So anyways, a little peek inst sharing that and
here I just sent him. He's like, wait, what is
the station? And so I sent him a link. Www.
Ninety six seven KISSFM dot com is the web address.
And then go to the Bobby Bone Show, click on
the listen live button and you can hear us. I
mean this is before I don't even know if we

(01:03:52):
had the iHeartRadio app.

Speaker 3 (01:03:54):
Probably not.

Speaker 1 (01:03:56):
So anyway, there's a little stroll down memory lane. But
those is the kind of emails I keep, and I
want to keep them, and I go back. I read
once from my mom. Yeah, like those are fun. My
mom signed all of her emails speaking of like how
we're about to sign off on the show we have
like our little ending. My mom signed all of her
emails here to serve Judy so here to serve you

(01:04:20):
with entertainment, whether you enjoy it or you just think
we're talking to hear ourselves talk one star, five stars.
We're going to be here and we hope you have
the day you need to have.

Speaker 4 (01:04:30):
Bye.

Speaker 1 (01:04:30):
Bye,

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