October 13, 2024 • 31 mins
Dean talks about his vacation in Vermont and soaking in all the Fall vibes.
Dean talks about the three S's in the bedroom (sleep, sex and sickness). He covers bedroom function and how it can be anything you want it to be. Dean talks about roofs and how to preserve them.
Dean talks about the three S's in the bedroom (sleep, sex and sickness). He covers bedroom function and how it can be anything you want it to be. Dean talks about roofs and how to preserve them.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
KFI AM six forty. You're listening to Dean Sharp, the
House Whisperer on demand on the iHeartRadio app. Hey, welcome
to home where. Every week we help you better understand
that place where you live. I am Dean Sharp, the
House Whisperer, custom home Builder, custom home designer, and most
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important today, your guide to turning your ordinary house into
an extraordinary home. All right, we're getting very personal today,
very personal. We're going into the Holy of Holies, as
it were, for your home. We're talking about your bedroom,
bedrooms today, bedroom design, bedroom talk, boomb chick a boumb bomb. Now,
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it doesn't have to be it does not have to
be that way, although it's not a bad thing anyway.
We're gonna talk bedrooms today, and of course also we're
going to be taking your calls. Let me give you
the number right now, eight three three two. Ask Dean
A three three the numeral two. Ask Dean A three
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three two Beep ask Dean. It's just that simple. And
of course, you know, as it is every show, regardless
of what I have selected as my main topic of
the day, when it comes to calls, it's free for all.
You get to decide anything that you are scratching your
head about your home today, design, construction, DIY stuff. It's
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all fair game inside, outside, landscape, interior, scape decor, fluffing pillows,
whatever the case may be. A three three two ask Dean.
The phone lines are open right now. Producer Richie, he's
standing by. He's gonna take your call. He'll tell you
everything you need to know. Pop you into the queue.
You can listen to the show while you wait, and
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then hopefully we can put our heads together. We'll figure
it out. And if we do all of this right,
we're going to bring some light into your morning, and
we're gonna make you feel glad that you were here.
Speaking of being glad that somebody is here, Elmer is
on the board. Good morning, Wilmar, Good morning Dean. Thanks
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for having me morning now doing good. Yeah, I'm up
and I'm not tired, and I am happy to be here.
There you go. That's those are the three keys of
the process. Awesome. And like I said, producer Richie is
standing by, not near his mic right now. That's fine
because he's busy. Oh look at that, he's busy taking call. Hey,
I totally jelled. I did not look around the corner.
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Who is sitting at the news desk, who's hiding in
the booth. This is Eileen Gonzalez Live twenty four hour Newsroom. Wow. Wow,
there's a lot of energy coming out of there right now.
I'm faking it. I'm tired. I'm not gonna wine. Okay,
why did you have a You have a big Saturday, Eileen?
Just working, you know. Yeah, it's here till seven yesterday
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and yeah, and came back bright and bright eyed and
bushy tail this morning. Well you sounded, you sounded, and
I'm glad you're faking it. They continue, you make it.
But it's all working out great, all right, that's the team.
Oh oh and also now, you know, if you heard
the yesterday's show, you heard me kind of getting on
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the case that at this moment, at this moment in
yesterday's show, I looked across the table and who was there?
My dog, Sammy the beagle. That was it. Tina was taken.
You know. We're just back from spending a couple of
weeks in Vermont, just sucking in autumn in a big way.
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And Tina has extended her vacation time apparently, but today
she has a legit excuse for not sitting across the
table from me, because I'm looking at just an empty
sofa right there, a mic just hanging out there, no
one wearing the headphones. Why because today is Tina's birthday
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and exactly also, by the way, earlier this week on Wednesday,
my daughter in law, Christie's birthday, and so the two
of them are headed out to get some special pampering
right now before we have a little get together for
them this afternoon. Also Elmer's birthday this week, So you
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know what, three of my favorite people all lined up
in a row. Part of what makes autumn a very
very special time. So anyway, here I am sitting on
my own. We're gonna dive into bedrooms. Let me pull
up my special bedroom notes here because I had a
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couple of things. Oh, somebody asked yesterday, how was how
was Vermont? And you know what, what can I say?
Vermont is amazing? Just amazing? Did now we almost almost
hit peak color? And let me tell you, if what
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we saw wasn't peak, then I can't even imagine what
peak is because you know, born and raised in southern California,
and I've gotten around the planet some you know, But
never It's always been kind of a bucket list thing.
I've never been at ground zero for autumn in the
United States at the exact right time, and man, we
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were there. Autumn is a blaze in the state of Vermont.
And Vermont is such a cool, cool place. I'll tell
you more about it as times go, but yeah, we
we just had a blast. Just suffice it to say
that I rediscovered how fun it is to drive, to drive,
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like on highways and stuff. Wasn't expecting that, wasn't expecting
to feel relaxed driving, But you know what when you're
one of only like three cars on the highway and
everything around you is just gorgeous. And by the way,
here's a reason to love the state of Vermont. They
have a law that forever in today they do not
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allow billboards. Billboards are illegal in Vermont. There's no such thing.
Why because they don't want anything block in the view.
And rightly so. It is rural. Their biggest city, Burlington,
not the capital. The capital's Montpellier. But but Burlington is
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their biggest city. And we're talking about metropolitan Burlington, bustling
with like forty five thousand people. That's it. It's literally
I think it. I think Burlington has the record of
being the smallest largest city in a state of all
the states, because it is the largest city in the
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entire state of Vermont, with forty five thousand people in
the immediate downtown Burlington area, and then outside of Burlington,
it just keeps getting smaller and smaller. I think most
of the villages and it's better to call them villages
than towns. I think. You know, we're talking like fifteen
hundred to three thousand people population. It's just so nice,
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and everybody had the same vibe, and I came back
full of maple syrup. There's a good amount of maple
syrup in my veins right now, which might explain my
energy level and the fact that we had two weeks
of rest. So anyway, there you go. Those of you
who are always annoyed that I spend the first segment
talking about personal stuff, I don't care.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from
KFI AM six forty.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Dean Sharp the house Whisper at your service. Hey, you
know what, whether you live in a condo or a
cottage or a castle, if it's the place you call home,
I'm here to help you take it to the next
level and do it in an encouraging and uplifting way. Yeah,
some say in a nerdy way, but why do those
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have to be opposites of each other. Let's just bring
it all in there, you go. Okay, we're talking about
bedrooms today, also taking calls. Let me give you the
number one more time, eight three to three two. Ask
Dean A three three the numeral two. Ask Dean. We've
got some calls on the board, but you know what,
I picked calls at random, so we got room for you.
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Give us a call eight three to three two, ask Dan.
All right, the bedroom. It seems like a pretty straightforward idea.
And by the way, can I just say that I'm
thrilled to get back to some design talk. It's been
a little while, been taking care of nuts and bolts,
fire season talk, roofing talk. You know, I love the
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contractor side of things, but even more or just as much,
I don't know, Yeah, probably even more. I love the
design side of things. So happy to be giving you
design advice today. So it seems like a pretty straightforward idea,
the bedroom. But it's really more difficult than most people
think to design a truly great bedroom. Now, how can
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I express to you the level of importance for design
in the bedroom from this perspective, From my perspective, and
again my perspective on your home is that it is
a beautiful place that other people appreciate, but it's your home.
It's for you. And of all the places in your
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home that are for you and probably least for everybody else, bedroom, right,
I mean, let's face it doesn't mean that it isn't
part of the tour when people come over and want
to see your awesome house. But your bedroom is for you.
It's your experience. This is a kind of you know,
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ground zero for you, and getting that right is something
that you got to get your head in that this
is my space for me kind of place. And it
starts with asking the big question, and that is what
is your bedroom for? Now that may seem super obvious
to you, there are strong opinions amongst most designers about bedrooms.
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I would say the majority of designers that I know
and their approach to the bedroom is very simply that
bedrooms are primarily about the three s's. The three s's.
What are the three s's sleep, sex, and sickness and
you know that's justifiably probably accurate. Right, These are the
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three things most likely to take place in the bedroom,
and some of you are like, well, maybe two of them,
but I don't know about that third way. All right,
I get it. We're not going to get that personal
with you. But the bedroom is where we spend a
lot of time when we are sick and otherwise recreational
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activities like sleep and other things. So here's the thing
that as a given, my view is that a bedroom
should be whatever you want it to be. Okay, it's
the twenty first century, and you know we live in
a post COVID world, and really the sky is the
limit when it comes to what you want and need
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your bedroom to do. And of course all of this
depends on the space that you have for the bedroom.
But it's often in the bedroom where we yield the
most to other people's stories. And that's what I want
to bring to an end. I want it to be
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your story in there. So, uh, this is the question,
the big question you put yourself in the bedroom, and
we need to ask at least four questions of this space. Okay,
Number one, what is the dressing experience? Okay, now you're like, yeah,
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I get up, I get my clothes out, and I
get dressed in Yeah, But I want you to think
in terms of what is the optimal dressing experience that
you want to have in your bedroom space, assuming that
the bedroom is where you get dressed. Okay, what's the
dressing experience? Two? What's the waking experience? And I don't
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mean being awake, I mean when you wake up. As
you are waking up, what is your experience in this place?
Is dark? Is it gloomy? What is And here's something
really important. One of the and I'm going to get
to this in a bit, but one of the primary
angles from which the bedroom must be judged is not
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not the magazine shot right, which is usually like from
the entry door in right, that's what you see in
the design magazines. That's a secondary angle as far as
I'm concerned, because where do we spend most of our
time in the bedroom, in the bed, and where should
you evaluate how your room looks and functions from your bed?
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Starting with what's right above your head? Right? So when
you wake up, your eyes first open up. Do we
have morning light coming in through windows? Is it dark?
Is it inclosed off? And when you look up at
the ceiling when your eyes flicker open from your pillow.
Is there anything there to greet you? Some folks have
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you know, popped into and maybe I can get a
shot of this. I'm not gonna show you everything, but
you know, we've got a ceiling treatment on our ceiling
in our bedroom. It just goes along with the motif
of our room. But we've put kind of a molded
and wallpapered ceiling treatment along with a really cool light
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fixture that hangs in our bedroom ceiling over our bedroom,
over our bed, and you know what, it's just a
really pleasant It's the thing I want to see when
I lift my eyes in the morning. That's what I
mean by what is the waking experience? Okay, the third
question is what is the sleep experience? And then we
have to talk about the bed, and we've got to
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talk about fresh air, and we've got to talk about
lights in the room or the absence of light in
the room and so on, and finally the fourth question
is your bedroom a sanctum? Right? Is it a retreat
for you? Is it a place where you just sleep
and then you're out? Is it for show, which in
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my book is a little weird. I always put that
at as the last priority. Or is it all of
the above or a combination of the above. So these
are the essential questions that we've got to warm our
brains up to in order to get into this subject
of how to design a bedroom best.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from
KFI Am six forty.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
You know your Home with Dean Sharp, the house whisper
Welcome home, Welcome to the program. Have I mentioned this yet?
It is a good, good, gorgeous day outside. Have you
looked out there? If you haven't, you're probably breaking some
law of nature. You really should get an eyeball full
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of what's going on outside in southern California. You this morning,
it is not cold and rainy, it's not overcast, it's
not blazing hot. It is a beautiful Southern California fall day.
And you know what, You've got to celebrate every single
one that comes our way. So I hope you got
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plans for today. Not yet, though, you stay right where
you are because we're talking about your bedroom. You know
how important that is. So anyway we are. Oh and
that was R two D two in the background. There
gotta shut that guy up. We're talking about your bedroom. Also,
let me throw out the number right after the break,
we're going to be going to the phones as we do.
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Eight three three two, Ask Dean eight three to three
the numeral two. Ask Dean. All right, let's get back
to it. Where'd I leave you? We've asked the big questions,
the four big questions. You know, what's our dressing experience
in the bedroom, what's our waking up experience? What's our
sleep experience? And is your bedroom a sanctum just for you?
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Is it for show? Is it both?
Speaker 3 (17:04):
You know?
Speaker 1 (17:04):
What do you want to do with this room? These
are the critical questions that you ask because the bedroom
is an awkward place in terms of just general design,
because it's so very you, and it's so very not
a part of what belongs to you know, public view, right, unless,
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of course that's your thing. So bedroom function, at the
end of the day, as far as I'm concerned, has
everything to do with just whatever you want it to be.
It's relative to the function of the whole house, by
the way, right, So, so is it a place for
just sleep or romance? Is it a media room? Is
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it a standalone retreat? Now, people who have a little
bit roomy or bedrooms. This is a concept that that's
an awkward concept. And what do I mean by awkward.
I mean that for a long long time, higher end
homes have classically had huge bedrooms, which coming from a
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guy who not only, you know, during daylight hours, designs
higher end homes, but also lives in a small cottage. Right,
my bedroom is dinky by just general standards, but it's
everything that we need it to be, okay, And so
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the idea of the huge bedroom. What that does is
it provides a space for not only the bed and
of course dressers or whatever, but also theoretically a sitting area.
Now Here is where this gets really important. I have
to say that the vast majority of sitting area bedrooms
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that I have encountered in consults and designery work and
so on, when I interview the owner the client, I
find out that, yeah, yeah, we never use this. I
mean we put a chair there, because if we didn't
put a chair there, this room would just be enormously crazy,
stupid big. But I find that the vast majority of
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quote unquote sitting areas in bedrooms, at least in the past,
go unused. They are just what they are, Okay, they're
just they're kind of taking up empty space. That's kind
of a shame. Well, during a major remodel request from homeowners,
will I asked that question right off the top, and
I'll tell you why. And you'll appreciate this, because if
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if we've got a large area in the master bedroom
or excuse me, primary bedroom that is going unused as
a seating area, and we're thinking about doing some major
changes on the house, then hey, how about we shrink
that area down and how about we slide a wall
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a little bit and enlarge the bathroom? Yeah, or a
closet or both, Okay, because these are the kinds of
things that people really really really love having more closet
space and enlarging the bathroom. So the question of is
the bedroom a retreat for you, I'm being very very
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I want you to be very specific about that. Is
the bedroom the retreat for you? It's a given these
days that more than ever, bathrooms are amazing spalike retreats
for people, and they have grown and grown and grown
in that role. And I would say, I would argue
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that that's just a natural that's unnatural. You've heard me
say this before, and I'll say it again that in
some ways we are culturally trained that the bathroom is
going to be a retreat. Okay, now you want to
hear this quick, the psychology of the bathroom as a
retreat from your very earliest year. Think about this when
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you're just a little toddler, Okay, as you start to
develop your potty skills, right, there is a landmark day
that comes in which your parents, instead of going in
with you and handling all of that, they encourage you,
I mean encourage you go into the bathroom alone with
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the door closed. In fact, I would argue for most
of us, the bathroom is the very very first room
in childhood development that your parents actually tell you, oh yeah,
please go in that room, be alone, close the door,
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and have that privacy space. I think we all carry
that with us. We carry it with us because even
as adults, let's face it, you're at a party, you're
at a restaurant, and the conversation lags or whatever, you know,
whatever the case may be, and you need a little
space for yourself. What do you do? Yeah, You're like, oh,
you guys, excuse me, I'm gonna go use the restroom.
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Even if you don't have to go why Because once
you're in there, that is your space, right, even if
it's a public space, it's your space while you're there.
So I would argue that that is ingrained in us
from day one, that the bathroom is a retreat space.
But the question of whether the bedroom, the actual room
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with the bed in it, is that a retreat space.
Is there a bed and a desk? Is there a
bed and a chair and a place to read? And
if there is, do you use it? That's a question
that has to get very very homeowner specific. Now I
may sound like I spent a lot of time on that,
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but and probably most of us don't have bedrooms large
enough to have a seating area in them. But I
I'm you know, I'm here for everybody, so I'm trying
to cover the entire it's a moot point if your
bedroom is like mine and you barely have room for
the bed, Okay, Nevertheless, you know, I just want to
cover this for everyone, so that whatever the degree of
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space you have in your bedroom, we're really thinking through
are we using it this way or could we use
it a different way? Okay, all right, we're going to
get into some bigger specifics and some very specific advice
on buying furniture and closet orientation and so on when
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we return to the subject. But when we come back
from the break, guess what it's time to go to
the phones.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from
KFI AM six forty.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
Welcome home. Thanks for joining us on the program here,
beautiful day outside. I appreciate that you are with me
here right now talking about your home, and specifically we're
talking about your bedroom today. Design ideas, design concepts, the
way to approach, of course, from a whole perspective, because
that's where I love to start, as you know, I
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love to you know, I'm all about the you know,
you know the old saying. You know, give a man
a fish, feed him for a day, teach him to fish,
feed him for a lifetime. Yeah, I'm all about to
teach somebody to fish thing, right. I just want to
equip you so that you can approach all of the
design for your home in a way that just goes
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and goes and goes and works for you instead of
just like, oh, that that picture in the magazine looked
pretty good. Maybe we should try to do that. You know,
it's just you know, sometimes you luck out. Sometimes it
works most of the time, trust me, does not does not.
That's not the way to go about designing your own home.
It's learning and giving yourself permission a little. I think
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I'm going to share in just a bit, little bit
more about what I shared yesterday in terms of permission
about designing your place. But that'll be coming up. Here's
a quick thing, just so you know, a lot of
stuff happening now that the holidays have hit. Yes, for
those of you who are wondering the Sunday before Thanksgiving,
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which actually is not that far away, the Sunday before Thanksgiving,
we will we are confirmed, we are booked. We are
doing yet another House Whisper holiday home show with a
live studio audience right here on the fifth floor Honda
Theater in our studios in Burbank, sponsored of course by
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Aldick Home. And yes, we will be giving away another
fully decorated Aldi Christmas tree, which is awesome to a
lucky audience member. And yes, we're going to have some
special guests with us and tickets are going to be
available soon. So just no, that's coming up market calendars.
And then the Sunday after Thanksgiving a live pre Pastathon
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broadcast from a Smart and Final in Orange County. We're
going to be doing the entire show live at Smart
and Fine which Smart and Final don't know yet. I
will let you know as soon as I know, you'll know,
and then you can plan on coming out doing some
shopping at Smart and Final and supporting Pastathon and then
you know, coming out and seeing the show there as well.
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So a lot of stuff coming very very soon. All right,
it is nearing the top of the hour, which means
it's time to go to the phones. Let's do it.
I want to talk to Judy. Hey, Judy, welcome home.
Speaker 3 (26:43):
Thank you, Dean, good morning, Ben. Want I have a
roof that's they're on a little over twenty years old.
It's a shingle roof, and I want to preserve the
life of it a little longer. And I was wondering,
are you can you tell me anything about the roof
saver to prolong the life of the roof?
Speaker 1 (27:05):
The I'm sorry, which which, uh what was the oh,
the Henry Henry roofsaver?
Speaker 3 (27:14):
Correct?
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Uh, Yeah, I don't have a lot of experience with
the Henry roofsaver, uh directly. Uh, but uh it is
one of a whole family of coatings out there, uh
that are very popular these days. And uh and you
know in a lot of here's the thing, Uh, no
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direct experience with Henry's. Uh. They are a solid company
with a big reputation. Uh. But uh, here's what I'm
gonna do. I'm gonna turn the tables on you, and
I'm gonna recommend a local company, Okay, because one thing
to have the can of roofsaver coding. And by the way,
what we're talking about here for everybody else is let's
say you've got an asphalt company position roof and it's
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kind of getting up there in age, but it's not
fallen apart on you, and you're approaching the time when
you need to consider roof replacement. The question is, can
we extend the life of that roof. Well, if we've
caught it before it has begun to seriously deteriorate, then
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the answer, in my opinion, is yes. And we've had
some really really good success with these new coatings. They
don't change the color of the roof, they don't. It's
not paint anything like that. But I also have noticed, Judy,
that it's best usually when it's applied by professionals who
know what they're doing. They get up there, no risk
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to you or to any family members up on the roof.
They spray it on. It's a one day process and
it could easily extend the life of a shingle to
asphalt comp shingle roof five years. And if you get
successfully that five year, you could recode it and maybe
get another five years. So most of the coding specialist
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companies will tell you that you could do this in
theory up to three times three codings, which extends the
life of that roof another potentially fifteen years. Now that's
a real stretch. But you know what, these coatings they
work really well. And the coatings differ. The one that
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I trust the most, Judy, just to say, and they
are not a sponsor of the show. Although when you
call them, please tell them who gave the recommendation and
say why are you not a sponsor? Why are you
not a sponsor of Home with Dean Sharp? Because he
loves you guys. And that here in southern California is
roof Max Roof maa XX roof Max. Right, these guys
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are great. They have a fantastic reputation. They're actually a
nationwide company, but they have individual franchises, so they're all
over southern California and they specialize in the application of
exactly this coding. So you're going to save yourself potentially,
and they'll come out and go. They'll give you a
fair evaluation, but they could extend the life of your
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roof for several years and push off that very very
expensive reroof at a fraction of the costs. So yeah,
I you know what, I'm a fan. I am a
fan of good quality roof coatings. But not every roof
coating is made equally. I don't like ones that are caustic.
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I like ones that are that are more environmentally friendly.
But the Roofmax coating I find is not only more
environmentally friendly, but at the same time the best one
performance wise that I've seen. So that's the recommendation I'm
going to give to you, Judy.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
So to get a number, I just look up a
roof next company.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
Yeah, just go to roof Max with two x's dot
com and boom, you put in yours, You'll put in
your zip code. They'll take you right to the nearest dealer.
Speaker 3 (31:11):
Great, Oh Dean, thank you very very much. I greatly
appreciate all your help.
Speaker 1 (31:18):
Thank you, Judy, thank you for the call. Appreciate you
as always, love questions. You know what. We're going to
take more calls right on the other side of the break.
You are Home with Dean Sharp, the House Whisper on KFI.
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important today, your guide to turning your ordinary house into
an extraordinary home. All right, we're getting very personal today,
very personal. We're going into the Holy of Holies, as
it were, for your home. We're talking about your bedroom,
bedrooms today, bedroom design, bedroom talk, boomb chick a boumb bomb. Now,
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it doesn't have to be it does not have to
be that way, although it's not a bad thing anyway.
We're gonna talk bedrooms today, and of course also we're
going to be taking your calls. Let me give you
the number right now, eight three three two. Ask Dean
A three three the numeral two. Ask Dean A three
(01:04):
three two Beep ask Dean. It's just that simple. And
of course, you know, as it is every show, regardless
of what I have selected as my main topic of
the day, when it comes to calls, it's free for all.
You get to decide anything that you are scratching your
head about your home today, design, construction, DIY stuff. It's
(01:28):
all fair game inside, outside, landscape, interior, scape decor, fluffing pillows,
whatever the case may be. A three three two ask Dean.
The phone lines are open right now. Producer Richie, he's
standing by. He's gonna take your call. He'll tell you
everything you need to know. Pop you into the queue.
You can listen to the show while you wait, and
(01:49):
then hopefully we can put our heads together. We'll figure
it out. And if we do all of this right,
we're going to bring some light into your morning, and
we're gonna make you feel glad that you were here.
Speaking of being glad that somebody is here, Elmer is
on the board. Good morning, Wilmar, Good morning Dean. Thanks
(02:09):
for having me morning now doing good. Yeah, I'm up
and I'm not tired, and I am happy to be here.
There you go. That's those are the three keys of
the process. Awesome. And like I said, producer Richie is
standing by, not near his mic right now. That's fine
because he's busy. Oh look at that, he's busy taking call. Hey,
I totally jelled. I did not look around the corner.
(02:32):
Who is sitting at the news desk, who's hiding in
the booth. This is Eileen Gonzalez Live twenty four hour Newsroom. Wow. Wow,
there's a lot of energy coming out of there right now.
I'm faking it. I'm tired. I'm not gonna wine. Okay,
why did you have a You have a big Saturday, Eileen?
Just working, you know. Yeah, it's here till seven yesterday
(02:55):
and yeah, and came back bright and bright eyed and
bushy tail this morning. Well you sounded, you sounded, and
I'm glad you're faking it. They continue, you make it.
But it's all working out great, all right, that's the team.
Oh oh and also now, you know, if you heard
the yesterday's show, you heard me kind of getting on
(03:17):
the case that at this moment, at this moment in
yesterday's show, I looked across the table and who was there?
My dog, Sammy the beagle. That was it. Tina was taken.
You know. We're just back from spending a couple of
weeks in Vermont, just sucking in autumn in a big way.
(03:41):
And Tina has extended her vacation time apparently, but today
she has a legit excuse for not sitting across the
table from me, because I'm looking at just an empty
sofa right there, a mic just hanging out there, no
one wearing the headphones. Why because today is Tina's birthday
(04:04):
and exactly also, by the way, earlier this week on Wednesday,
my daughter in law, Christie's birthday, and so the two
of them are headed out to get some special pampering
right now before we have a little get together for
them this afternoon. Also Elmer's birthday this week, So you
(04:28):
know what, three of my favorite people all lined up
in a row. Part of what makes autumn a very
very special time. So anyway, here I am sitting on
my own. We're gonna dive into bedrooms. Let me pull
up my special bedroom notes here because I had a
(04:48):
couple of things. Oh, somebody asked yesterday, how was how
was Vermont? And you know what, what can I say?
Vermont is amazing? Just amazing? Did now we almost almost
hit peak color? And let me tell you, if what
(05:11):
we saw wasn't peak, then I can't even imagine what
peak is because you know, born and raised in southern California,
and I've gotten around the planet some you know, But
never It's always been kind of a bucket list thing.
I've never been at ground zero for autumn in the
United States at the exact right time, and man, we
(05:35):
were there. Autumn is a blaze in the state of Vermont.
And Vermont is such a cool, cool place. I'll tell
you more about it as times go, but yeah, we
we just had a blast. Just suffice it to say
that I rediscovered how fun it is to drive, to drive,
(05:57):
like on highways and stuff. Wasn't expecting that, wasn't expecting
to feel relaxed driving, But you know what when you're
one of only like three cars on the highway and
everything around you is just gorgeous. And by the way,
here's a reason to love the state of Vermont. They
have a law that forever in today they do not
(06:21):
allow billboards. Billboards are illegal in Vermont. There's no such thing.
Why because they don't want anything block in the view.
And rightly so. It is rural. Their biggest city, Burlington,
not the capital. The capital's Montpellier. But but Burlington is
(06:41):
their biggest city. And we're talking about metropolitan Burlington, bustling
with like forty five thousand people. That's it. It's literally
I think it. I think Burlington has the record of
being the smallest largest city in a state of all
the states, because it is the largest city in the
(07:05):
entire state of Vermont, with forty five thousand people in
the immediate downtown Burlington area, and then outside of Burlington,
it just keeps getting smaller and smaller. I think most
of the villages and it's better to call them villages
than towns. I think. You know, we're talking like fifteen
hundred to three thousand people population. It's just so nice,
(07:29):
and everybody had the same vibe, and I came back
full of maple syrup. There's a good amount of maple
syrup in my veins right now, which might explain my
energy level and the fact that we had two weeks
of rest. So anyway, there you go. Those of you
who are always annoyed that I spend the first segment
talking about personal stuff, I don't care.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from
KFI AM six forty.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Dean Sharp the house Whisper at your service. Hey, you
know what, whether you live in a condo or a
cottage or a castle, if it's the place you call home,
I'm here to help you take it to the next
level and do it in an encouraging and uplifting way. Yeah,
some say in a nerdy way, but why do those
(08:21):
have to be opposites of each other. Let's just bring
it all in there, you go. Okay, we're talking about
bedrooms today, also taking calls. Let me give you the
number one more time, eight three to three two. Ask
Dean A three three the numeral two. Ask Dean. We've
got some calls on the board, but you know what,
I picked calls at random, so we got room for you.
(08:43):
Give us a call eight three to three two, ask Dan.
All right, the bedroom. It seems like a pretty straightforward idea.
And by the way, can I just say that I'm
thrilled to get back to some design talk. It's been
a little while, been taking care of nuts and bolts,
fire season talk, roofing talk. You know, I love the
(09:03):
contractor side of things, but even more or just as much,
I don't know, Yeah, probably even more. I love the
design side of things. So happy to be giving you
design advice today. So it seems like a pretty straightforward idea,
the bedroom. But it's really more difficult than most people
think to design a truly great bedroom. Now, how can
(09:29):
I express to you the level of importance for design
in the bedroom from this perspective, From my perspective, and
again my perspective on your home is that it is
a beautiful place that other people appreciate, but it's your home.
It's for you. And of all the places in your
(09:52):
home that are for you and probably least for everybody else, bedroom, right,
I mean, let's face it doesn't mean that it isn't
part of the tour when people come over and want
to see your awesome house. But your bedroom is for you.
It's your experience. This is a kind of you know,
(10:16):
ground zero for you, and getting that right is something
that you got to get your head in that this
is my space for me kind of place. And it
starts with asking the big question, and that is what
is your bedroom for? Now that may seem super obvious
to you, there are strong opinions amongst most designers about bedrooms.
(10:43):
I would say the majority of designers that I know
and their approach to the bedroom is very simply that
bedrooms are primarily about the three s's. The three s's.
What are the three s's sleep, sex, and sickness and
you know that's justifiably probably accurate. Right, These are the
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three things most likely to take place in the bedroom,
and some of you are like, well, maybe two of them,
but I don't know about that third way. All right,
I get it. We're not going to get that personal
with you. But the bedroom is where we spend a
lot of time when we are sick and otherwise recreational
(11:27):
activities like sleep and other things. So here's the thing
that as a given, my view is that a bedroom
should be whatever you want it to be. Okay, it's
the twenty first century, and you know we live in
a post COVID world, and really the sky is the
limit when it comes to what you want and need
(11:49):
your bedroom to do. And of course all of this
depends on the space that you have for the bedroom.
But it's often in the bedroom where we yield the
most to other people's stories. And that's what I want
to bring to an end. I want it to be
(12:10):
your story in there. So, uh, this is the question,
the big question you put yourself in the bedroom, and
we need to ask at least four questions of this space. Okay,
Number one, what is the dressing experience? Okay, now you're like, yeah,
(12:32):
I get up, I get my clothes out, and I
get dressed in Yeah, But I want you to think
in terms of what is the optimal dressing experience that
you want to have in your bedroom space, assuming that
the bedroom is where you get dressed. Okay, what's the
dressing experience? Two? What's the waking experience? And I don't
(12:56):
mean being awake, I mean when you wake up. As
you are waking up, what is your experience in this place?
Is dark? Is it gloomy? What is And here's something
really important. One of the and I'm going to get
to this in a bit, but one of the primary
angles from which the bedroom must be judged is not
(13:21):
not the magazine shot right, which is usually like from
the entry door in right, that's what you see in
the design magazines. That's a secondary angle as far as
I'm concerned, because where do we spend most of our
time in the bedroom, in the bed, and where should
you evaluate how your room looks and functions from your bed?
(13:41):
Starting with what's right above your head? Right? So when
you wake up, your eyes first open up. Do we
have morning light coming in through windows? Is it dark?
Is it inclosed off? And when you look up at
the ceiling when your eyes flicker open from your pillow.
Is there anything there to greet you? Some folks have
(14:06):
you know, popped into and maybe I can get a
shot of this. I'm not gonna show you everything, but
you know, we've got a ceiling treatment on our ceiling
in our bedroom. It just goes along with the motif
of our room. But we've put kind of a molded
and wallpapered ceiling treatment along with a really cool light
(14:27):
fixture that hangs in our bedroom ceiling over our bedroom,
over our bed, and you know what, it's just a
really pleasant It's the thing I want to see when
I lift my eyes in the morning. That's what I
mean by what is the waking experience? Okay, the third
question is what is the sleep experience? And then we
have to talk about the bed, and we've got to
(14:48):
talk about fresh air, and we've got to talk about
lights in the room or the absence of light in
the room and so on, and finally the fourth question
is your bedroom a sanctum? Right? Is it a retreat
for you? Is it a place where you just sleep
and then you're out? Is it for show, which in
(15:11):
my book is a little weird. I always put that
at as the last priority. Or is it all of
the above or a combination of the above. So these
are the essential questions that we've got to warm our
brains up to in order to get into this subject
of how to design a bedroom best.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from
KFI Am six forty.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
You know your Home with Dean Sharp, the house whisper
Welcome home, Welcome to the program. Have I mentioned this yet?
It is a good, good, gorgeous day outside. Have you
looked out there? If you haven't, you're probably breaking some
law of nature. You really should get an eyeball full
(15:57):
of what's going on outside in southern California. You this morning,
it is not cold and rainy, it's not overcast, it's
not blazing hot. It is a beautiful Southern California fall day.
And you know what, You've got to celebrate every single
one that comes our way. So I hope you got
(16:17):
plans for today. Not yet, though, you stay right where
you are because we're talking about your bedroom. You know
how important that is. So anyway we are. Oh and
that was R two D two in the background. There
gotta shut that guy up. We're talking about your bedroom. Also,
let me throw out the number right after the break,
we're going to be going to the phones as we do.
(16:40):
Eight three three two, Ask Dean eight three to three
the numeral two. Ask Dean. All right, let's get back
to it. Where'd I leave you? We've asked the big questions,
the four big questions. You know, what's our dressing experience
in the bedroom, what's our waking up experience? What's our
sleep experience? And is your bedroom a sanctum just for you?
(17:02):
Is it for show? Is it both?
Speaker 3 (17:04):
You know?
Speaker 1 (17:04):
What do you want to do with this room? These
are the critical questions that you ask because the bedroom
is an awkward place in terms of just general design,
because it's so very you, and it's so very not
a part of what belongs to you know, public view, right, unless,
(17:25):
of course that's your thing. So bedroom function, at the
end of the day, as far as I'm concerned, has
everything to do with just whatever you want it to be.
It's relative to the function of the whole house, by
the way, right, So, so is it a place for
just sleep or romance? Is it a media room? Is
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it a standalone retreat? Now, people who have a little
bit roomy or bedrooms. This is a concept that that's
an awkward concept. And what do I mean by awkward.
I mean that for a long long time, higher end
homes have classically had huge bedrooms, which coming from a
(18:09):
guy who not only, you know, during daylight hours, designs
higher end homes, but also lives in a small cottage. Right,
my bedroom is dinky by just general standards, but it's
everything that we need it to be, okay, And so
(18:30):
the idea of the huge bedroom. What that does is
it provides a space for not only the bed and
of course dressers or whatever, but also theoretically a sitting area.
Now Here is where this gets really important. I have
to say that the vast majority of sitting area bedrooms
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that I have encountered in consults and designery work and
so on, when I interview the owner the client, I
find out that, yeah, yeah, we never use this. I
mean we put a chair there, because if we didn't
put a chair there, this room would just be enormously crazy,
stupid big. But I find that the vast majority of
(19:17):
quote unquote sitting areas in bedrooms, at least in the past,
go unused. They are just what they are, Okay, they're
just they're kind of taking up empty space. That's kind
of a shame. Well, during a major remodel request from homeowners,
will I asked that question right off the top, and
I'll tell you why. And you'll appreciate this, because if
(19:41):
if we've got a large area in the master bedroom
or excuse me, primary bedroom that is going unused as
a seating area, and we're thinking about doing some major
changes on the house, then hey, how about we shrink
that area down and how about we slide a wall
(20:01):
a little bit and enlarge the bathroom? Yeah, or a
closet or both, Okay, because these are the kinds of
things that people really really really love having more closet
space and enlarging the bathroom. So the question of is
the bedroom a retreat for you, I'm being very very
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I want you to be very specific about that. Is
the bedroom the retreat for you? It's a given these
days that more than ever, bathrooms are amazing spalike retreats
for people, and they have grown and grown and grown
in that role. And I would say, I would argue
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that that's just a natural that's unnatural. You've heard me
say this before, and I'll say it again that in
some ways we are culturally trained that the bathroom is
going to be a retreat. Okay, now you want to
hear this quick, the psychology of the bathroom as a
retreat from your very earliest year. Think about this when
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you're just a little toddler, Okay, as you start to
develop your potty skills, right, there is a landmark day
that comes in which your parents, instead of going in
with you and handling all of that, they encourage you,
I mean encourage you go into the bathroom alone with
(21:30):
the door closed. In fact, I would argue for most
of us, the bathroom is the very very first room
in childhood development that your parents actually tell you, oh yeah,
please go in that room, be alone, close the door,
(21:50):
and have that privacy space. I think we all carry
that with us. We carry it with us because even
as adults, let's face it, you're at a party, you're
at a restaurant, and the conversation lags or whatever, you know,
whatever the case may be, and you need a little
space for yourself. What do you do? Yeah, You're like, oh,
you guys, excuse me, I'm gonna go use the restroom.
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Even if you don't have to go why Because once
you're in there, that is your space, right, even if
it's a public space, it's your space while you're there.
So I would argue that that is ingrained in us
from day one, that the bathroom is a retreat space.
But the question of whether the bedroom, the actual room
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with the bed in it, is that a retreat space.
Is there a bed and a desk? Is there a
bed and a chair and a place to read? And
if there is, do you use it? That's a question
that has to get very very homeowner specific. Now I
may sound like I spent a lot of time on that,
(22:53):
but and probably most of us don't have bedrooms large
enough to have a seating area in them. But I
I'm you know, I'm here for everybody, so I'm trying
to cover the entire it's a moot point if your
bedroom is like mine and you barely have room for
the bed, Okay, Nevertheless, you know, I just want to
cover this for everyone, so that whatever the degree of
(23:16):
space you have in your bedroom, we're really thinking through
are we using it this way or could we use
it a different way? Okay, all right, we're going to
get into some bigger specifics and some very specific advice
on buying furniture and closet orientation and so on when
(23:37):
we return to the subject. But when we come back
from the break, guess what it's time to go to
the phones.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from
KFI AM six forty.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
Welcome home. Thanks for joining us on the program here,
beautiful day outside. I appreciate that you are with me
here right now talking about your home, and specifically we're
talking about your bedroom today. Design ideas, design concepts, the
way to approach, of course, from a whole perspective, because
that's where I love to start, as you know, I
(24:12):
love to you know, I'm all about the you know,
you know the old saying. You know, give a man
a fish, feed him for a day, teach him to fish,
feed him for a lifetime. Yeah, I'm all about to
teach somebody to fish thing, right. I just want to
equip you so that you can approach all of the
design for your home in a way that just goes
(24:33):
and goes and goes and works for you instead of
just like, oh, that that picture in the magazine looked
pretty good. Maybe we should try to do that. You know,
it's just you know, sometimes you luck out. Sometimes it
works most of the time, trust me, does not does not.
That's not the way to go about designing your own home.
It's learning and giving yourself permission a little. I think
(24:58):
I'm going to share in just a bit, little bit
more about what I shared yesterday in terms of permission
about designing your place. But that'll be coming up. Here's
a quick thing, just so you know, a lot of
stuff happening now that the holidays have hit. Yes, for
those of you who are wondering the Sunday before Thanksgiving,
(25:19):
which actually is not that far away, the Sunday before Thanksgiving,
we will we are confirmed, we are booked. We are
doing yet another House Whisper holiday home show with a
live studio audience right here on the fifth floor Honda
Theater in our studios in Burbank, sponsored of course by
(25:41):
Aldick Home. And yes, we will be giving away another
fully decorated Aldi Christmas tree, which is awesome to a
lucky audience member. And yes, we're going to have some
special guests with us and tickets are going to be
available soon. So just no, that's coming up market calendars.
And then the Sunday after Thanksgiving a live pre Pastathon
(26:05):
broadcast from a Smart and Final in Orange County. We're
going to be doing the entire show live at Smart
and Fine which Smart and Final don't know yet. I
will let you know as soon as I know, you'll know,
and then you can plan on coming out doing some
shopping at Smart and Final and supporting Pastathon and then
you know, coming out and seeing the show there as well.
(26:26):
So a lot of stuff coming very very soon. All right,
it is nearing the top of the hour, which means
it's time to go to the phones. Let's do it.
I want to talk to Judy. Hey, Judy, welcome home.
Speaker 3 (26:43):
Thank you, Dean, good morning, Ben. Want I have a
roof that's they're on a little over twenty years old.
It's a shingle roof, and I want to preserve the
life of it a little longer. And I was wondering,
are you can you tell me anything about the roof
saver to prolong the life of the roof?
Speaker 1 (27:05):
The I'm sorry, which which, uh what was the oh,
the Henry Henry roofsaver?
Speaker 3 (27:14):
Correct?
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Uh, Yeah, I don't have a lot of experience with
the Henry roofsaver, uh directly. Uh, but uh it is
one of a whole family of coatings out there, uh
that are very popular these days. And uh and you
know in a lot of here's the thing, Uh, no
(27:39):
direct experience with Henry's. Uh. They are a solid company
with a big reputation. Uh. But uh, here's what I'm
gonna do. I'm gonna turn the tables on you, and
I'm gonna recommend a local company, Okay, because one thing
to have the can of roofsaver coding. And by the way,
what we're talking about here for everybody else is let's
say you've got an asphalt company position roof and it's
(28:01):
kind of getting up there in age, but it's not
fallen apart on you, and you're approaching the time when
you need to consider roof replacement. The question is, can
we extend the life of that roof. Well, if we've
caught it before it has begun to seriously deteriorate, then
(28:22):
the answer, in my opinion, is yes. And we've had
some really really good success with these new coatings. They
don't change the color of the roof, they don't. It's
not paint anything like that. But I also have noticed, Judy,
that it's best usually when it's applied by professionals who
know what they're doing. They get up there, no risk
(28:43):
to you or to any family members up on the roof.
They spray it on. It's a one day process and
it could easily extend the life of a shingle to
asphalt comp shingle roof five years. And if you get
successfully that five year, you could recode it and maybe
get another five years. So most of the coding specialist
(29:05):
companies will tell you that you could do this in
theory up to three times three codings, which extends the
life of that roof another potentially fifteen years. Now that's
a real stretch. But you know what, these coatings they
work really well. And the coatings differ. The one that
(29:27):
I trust the most, Judy, just to say, and they
are not a sponsor of the show. Although when you
call them, please tell them who gave the recommendation and
say why are you not a sponsor? Why are you
not a sponsor of Home with Dean Sharp? Because he
loves you guys. And that here in southern California is
roof Max Roof maa XX roof Max. Right, these guys
(29:50):
are great. They have a fantastic reputation. They're actually a
nationwide company, but they have individual franchises, so they're all
over southern California and they specialize in the application of
exactly this coding. So you're going to save yourself potentially,
and they'll come out and go. They'll give you a
fair evaluation, but they could extend the life of your
(30:14):
roof for several years and push off that very very
expensive reroof at a fraction of the costs. So yeah,
I you know what, I'm a fan. I am a
fan of good quality roof coatings. But not every roof
coating is made equally. I don't like ones that are caustic.
(30:35):
I like ones that are that are more environmentally friendly.
But the Roofmax coating I find is not only more
environmentally friendly, but at the same time the best one
performance wise that I've seen. So that's the recommendation I'm
going to give to you, Judy.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
So to get a number, I just look up a
roof next company.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
Yeah, just go to roof Max with two x's dot
com and boom, you put in yours, You'll put in
your zip code. They'll take you right to the nearest dealer.
Speaker 3 (31:11):
Great, Oh Dean, thank you very very much. I greatly
appreciate all your help.
Speaker 1 (31:18):
Thank you, Judy, thank you for the call. Appreciate you
as always, love questions. You know what. We're going to
take more calls right on the other side of the break.
You are Home with Dean Sharp, the House Whisper on KFI.
This has been Home with Dean Sharp, the House Whisper.
Tune into the live broadcast on KFI AM six forty
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