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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You're listening to kfi Am six forty on demand. Being teachable.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
It may not be something that you think about often,
but the man or woman who wants to grow in
their faith, in their walk with God, if you want
to be that person, you have to be teachable. To
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go through life in stubborn fashion, shutting yourself off to
any of the thoughts or ideas, it could be a problem.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
You lose out on much.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
And what I'm not saying is to go around with
such an open mind that your brain falls out. You see,
an open mind is like that of an open mouth.
It's open, it receives sustenance, it closes to digest. I'm
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not talking about the lack of conviction, not standing on
a principal idea or understanding. What I'm saying is that
if you go around thinking that your glass is full,
you won't ever let anyone pour anything into it, and
in doing so, you'll miss out on new knowledge, new ideas,
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new understandings. And this process is so important to your
faith because faith it is in conjunction with knowledge that
if you shut yourself out to that kind of teachability
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being available for these new ideas, you lose out Scripture
is even a little more fierce when it says in
Proverbs twelve to one whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but
he who hates reproof is stupid. You see, you have
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to be willing to hear truth. You have to be
willing to know that you may not have the truth,
the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Being open
to receiving that and learning those new things puts you
on the path like an explorer of finding out this information.
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I tell people all the time, don't follow the person
who says they know everything. Follow the person who's asking
all the right questions, because the truth seeker asks questions.
An old Chinese proverb that says that he who asks
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a question is a fool for five minutes. He who
doesn't ask the question is a fool for a lifetime.
Now I realize there are people that you may think
can't teach anything. Abraham Lincoln said that he learned something
from every man he met. It was usually what not
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to do, but he learned something. Now in life, as
you stroll along on your adventure exploring and learning, there
are certain things, yes, that you may put into a
pouch labeled certain, but there are always new ideas, new
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ways to look at things, new ways to perceive an
old thing. And that comes from being open, That comes
from being pliable and receptive to what's out there. There's
oftentimes where I'm trying to teach you something or I
want you to know something, and you refuse to receive
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it because you think you're better than the person trying
to impart it to you. I want you to be open.
I want you to get to a place where you
thirst so much for truth that it doesn't matter where
you get it. You've seen people so hungry that they
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respect food like you never have every morsel, they clean
their plate, They are so appreciative for every last bite.
When you're fat, you're like, well, I don't need that
last bed or or you know, I'll throw that away,
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or I'll give it to the dog, almost without the
true appreciation for what's before you. And the same can
work with knowledge. You may get to a place where
you think you know so much.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
That you don't.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
You don't respect, you don't hunger for knowledge.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
The same way.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
I see professors all the time go through change. Professors
who were very learned, they had consumed much knowledge, and
all of a sudden something came into their life and
changed their perspective. They got to see things just a
little differently, and the hunger, that fire, that desire burned again.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Today. I want you to be in that same place today.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
I want you to thirst today. I want you to
have that mindset that isn't listen to me, but I
will listen to you.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
That place of.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Security where you are listening, where you are wanting to receive.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Being the student is the best seat to learn now.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Teaching can be a great place of learning as well
if you are open, if you remain like a sponge
and check your vocabulary and the things you say. Do
you often ask ask people's opinion on things? And do
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you ask it for real or do you ask it
because you think you should or because you really want
to receive what they have to say? Are you the
type of person that just merely offers your opinion.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Rather than receives.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Before someone finishes a sentence?
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Are you building a response being teachable? Today?
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I want you to ask yourself, am I self?
Speaker 1 (07:36):
I guess if.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
You'd like to refer to yourself as self self?
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Am I teachable?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
And the importance of this question cannot be overstated, because
this really is at the beginning of who you are,
what you will know in life, how you will know it,
and even how you'll be perceived by others, if they
will see you as somebody who just rejects or someone
who thinks there know it all. And having that platform
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as a seeker, having that platform at somebody who genuinely
explores life and wants to learn, that is the best
place to be. That is where you will get to
know God. You'll get to know God through God's creation.
I want you to know me and one of the
best ways to know me.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Is to know the family.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Now, I don't want you living your spirituality through someone else,
because people will let you down. But you will see,
and you will know, and you will learn things from others.
And getting in that mindset to love discipline, as it
says Proverbs twelve to one, whoever loves discipline loves knowledge.
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But he who hates reproof is stupid. Are you bothered
when somebody comes to you and corrects you constructively? I
realize that there are those that take on the tone
and the attitude and they're ugly about it, and that
it's hard to receive that.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
I understand that.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
But I also want you to get to that place
where you have the sense of an old cow. You
eat the hay and you leave the sticks. You can
weed through these things and understand that there's a difference
between someone's attitude and the truth and if what they're
telling you is beneficial if you can learn from it.
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But how exciting has it been throughout your life those
times where you've come you've had an epiphany, or you've
learned something that has changed the way you do something.
For men, it's when they finally look at the instructions
after trying to put something together for the past twelve hours.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
On their own. I say that with love.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Men, But you may come across some sort of moment.
You may remember throughout your life a good teacher, someone
who took the time with you and spoke to you
on your level, and how wonderful it was to take
that knowledge. And I want you to get to that
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place today. I want you to remind yourself to be
in that spirit every single day, being that explorer, being
willing to learn new ways, not being stubborn or a
pushy that everyone needs to see things your way. Oh,
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you'll play a part in cycle. You'll be teaching others too,
but you have to be ready, willing, and able for
that report proof. It's not just ignoring reproof. It's not
just being bothered by reproof. In Scripture, it says you
hate reproof, you can't stand when someone corrects you. You're
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always in that place where you refuse to be teachable,
and today I want you to be teachable. It's okay
to make mistakes. Scripture says that a righteous man is
not someone who doesn't fall, but someone who falls seven
times and seven times gets up. It's okay to make
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mistakes as long as you learn from them, as long
as you are open to whatever reproof, whatever teaching moment.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
That is.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
The world is getting to a place where you are
looking with the internet, with all the technology, where you
can replay somebody's statement and thoughts over and over and
over again. The world is loving to pounce upon those
thoughts rather than showing reproof, wanting to solidify those as
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the only thought that person's ever had, that mistakes aren't
actually made. Don't get to that place. Don't get to
that place of hardening the heart towards somebody else or
even with your own self. Towards others, you feel that
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they are not teachable, that they can't learn, that that's
only who they are. And with yourself, thinking that you
know everything, that you're so well learned that you don't
need to consume anymore from anyone, and that becomes the
hating of reproof and that's what makes you stupid.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Moses, Hello, welcome to Jesus Christ show.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
Well, how are you, Lamb of God.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
I'm wonderful.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
How are you on your reconciliation themed It's not necessarily
a question of reconciliation. Fact, it's not. It's a matter
of forgiveness, reference to the Ephesians passage. It's got me thinking,
I'm in a position where I have split from a relationship,
a long term relationship. There are many children from that relationship,
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some of them. One of them in particular, is of
the Marian age now and is engaged to get married
and there's going to be a wedding, and the other
side their mother can't come around. There can't. It's not
reconciliation that I'm seeking, it's just let there be peace.
And I was suggesting to the call screen that maybe
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there's a guilt factor for me because I feel like
I've done all the the attempts to mend and make
things right and go forward, and there's something that nags
at the back of my brain because there's no forgiveness
that's forthcoming. I know I'm not entitled to it.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Well, okay, so you were in a relationship, yes, and
kids were in the middle of it, as they always are.
And those kids are getting to a place in a
time in their life when they're going to need both
you and her in the same place at the same
time for the same.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Reason, or at least that there be peaceful contact, normal
existing you know what people do when they get together.
For other divorced families joined the middle.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
And what caused the divorce, What caused the.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
Divorce multiple things, but I will it.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Was always a big thing.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I will say that they were there were chemical issues involved, okay.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
And so somebody was an addict or somebody had, you know,
serotonin issues both sides.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
One was one was alcohol and one was marijuana.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
And was this uh uh? Were you the one that
was partaking in the alcohol or the marijuana?
Speaker 3 (15:22):
I was the alcohol and she was the pot.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Okay? And uh are you an alcoholic?
Speaker 3 (15:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (15:28):
Okay? Recovering. Yeah, good boy.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
And so you both were using depressants, uh, which can
be a huge problem. Were you using them at the
beginning of the relationship as well?
Speaker 3 (15:46):
So did you did you think for that purpose?
Speaker 2 (15:50):
I mean, you know, alcoholism can take a while. Sometimes
it's you. When you guys met, were you both partaking
in alcohol and pot?
Speaker 3 (16:01):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Okay, so you both knew it was there? Well, how
does that become the problem? It just accelerated.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
Yeah, I think I think life issues, the circumstances of
sort of being caught into all of a sudden. One
child became four, became five, became six, and then I'm
not really sure. It's hard to be it's hard to
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be even honest attempting to be honest about it. It's
I look back, and part of it is I can't
quite figure out exactly, but I know that I've taken
the lion's share of the blame from all parties, the
extended family, on both sides.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Well, you must admit alcoholism rears its head much differently
than the abuse of marijuana.
Speaker 3 (16:55):
Yes, it does. I mean, well, Jesus, I'm at the
point where I've gone through so many steps and so
many measures that I feel very comfortable, in fact, comfortable
enough to make a phone call.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Okay, but what about amends.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
I mean, that's part of the.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
Stepsil that's the problem. I've made the gestures and attempts
just for just for the sake of what's going to
be happening. I've got a wedding coming, for example, with
my oldest daughter, and I look to the future of
seeing other things coming down the line, other events and grandchildren.
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It's just a matter of I'm done, I'm I'm contented
in my reconciliation forward, but there's just a hole that
and I don't I don't want anything from her necessarily
because it's never going to come. But I need something
that makes me look straight ahead and go forward.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Okay, And I think that's a healthy place to be.
One quick thing, and then then we'll point.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
It back to this.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
If I asked her, if I had her her on
the phone, your ex wife, and I asked her.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Why you got a divorce?
Speaker 2 (18:06):
What would what would she say?
Speaker 3 (18:12):
I really don't know that.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
What's the thing that she hates most about you?
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Meanness?
Speaker 2 (18:18):
She says that you're mean, You were a mean drunk.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
Not necessarily didn't have to be involved drinking at all.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
You're just a mean human being. Yeah, okay, and how
does that manifest? Did you ever hit her or harm
her physically? No, you paused a moment there, did you?
Were you mean to her? I was ugly and dark.
Speaker 3 (18:39):
I was rolling the eyes in the back of my
head and searching the memory banks there were it was,
believe it or not, it was the other way around.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
So she would be physical towards you because something you
did would hurt her or make her lash out. Yeah,
whether it was the way you talked to her, and
I'm not condoning in any way ship for him trying
to find the mechanics of it, and yeah, that was
I hate.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
To say it and minimize it, but the reality is,
over twelve year period of time, there was there's three
things that I can recall, three incidents. I don't I
don't mean to minimize it, but it doesn't It didn't seem.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
To me that that was And these incidences were provoked
by you. This was something that you were. You had
called her names or you had done something to Would
you say hurtful things like about who she was as
a person and things like that? Yeah, those can be
those can be very deep cutting. So I'm going to
say this, Moses, Uh. First of all, you seem to
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want to grow in the in the right direction. I
think that's healthy. You've obviously made leaps and bounds in
your own life, getting rid of the alcohol, going through
steps and learning what those steps are, and knowing that
that making amends is going to be one of them.
You're absolutely right in the sense that you can't you
can't play both sides. You can't be her side of
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the relationship in yours. If you reference to Fesians that
we spoke about earlier Ephesians four three, four thirty one,
and thirty two, rather says get rid of all bitterness,
rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form
of malice, be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving
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each other just as Christ Christ God forgave you. So
if that's where you are, great, you can't do that
for her as well. I would say, one last ditch
effort to reach out, maybe by way of letter, because
there's no arguing there, and not email necessarily, but a
physical letter that she can hold in her hands, where
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you say, simply not drawn out. We've gone through some
ugly times, and I've taken responsibility for the ugliness that
I brought into the real relationship. And although we may
not agree on everything across the board, we will agree
on the beauty of the children that we brought into
this world and that we raised, and as they grow
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and have special days like marriages, let us agree to
come together during.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
These times and be civil and grown in a.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
Way that will reflect who they are in our lives
and not who we are in each other's lives.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
And then, having done that, cross it off.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
Regardless of her response, Cross it off your list, because
there's a point where people harden their heart, as we
talked about earlier, and you cannot be accountable for that. Beth,
Welcome to the Jesus.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Christ Show, Shalem. How can I help you?
Speaker 4 (21:55):
Oh Jesus, I have a problem. I'm fifty two years
old and I've been diagnosed with a brain Oh hold
on a second. This is part of the problem, brain atrophy, Okay,
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And I'm losing function in my legs and I slur
my words and I don't always make myself clear and
I'm just not ready for the physicality of it.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
Well, how could you be? You know those things. It's
a it's a very weighty thought to put on your lap,
isn't it the concept of losing things or dealing with
life threatening illnesses.
Speaker 4 (22:50):
I'm not looking forward to the furthering of the dementia,
would I.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
Would think not?
Speaker 2 (22:58):
And you have doctors that are talking you through this
and what it will mean.
Speaker 4 (23:03):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (23:04):
And are you on your own or are there family
in your life?
Speaker 4 (23:08):
I have family, but they're rather distant.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
Is that a new development or has it always been
that way?
Speaker 4 (23:14):
It's always been that way.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Why do you think that is?
Speaker 4 (23:18):
Oh, it's just the way my family is. I have
no exploite, just.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Distant by nature.
Speaker 4 (23:27):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (23:28):
Okay, So now you're in this place, So you're you're
you're You're obviously very strong. You've lived a life with
some distance with family and and that must suit you
to some degree as well, because you're a part of
that relationship. So you've got strength and the ability to
deal with many things. This isn't the first bump in
your life, correct, correct? This is just one that is
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incredibly unknown, and the unknown causes fear, right, yeah, yeah,
and having.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
To go through that.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
There's nothing scarier to many people than the con concept
of losing your faculties your ability to think and process,
and how that must be true. But the opportunity now
to take the time to write things down, or if
you have a video camera to videotape them to leave.
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I would recommend the writing just because of the therapy involved,
and it can be very cathartic to write down your
thoughts and the things that you're going through as you
experience them. I think could be quite comforting. In addition
to the basics, you know, I'm going to say to
pray and to read scripture and use the psalms and
the like to comfort you in times of pain or confusion.
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There's not going to be an easy way. There's an
old saying everyone wants to go to heaven, nobody wants
to die. Nothing easy about the decaying of humanness and
the process of dying in any form, whether it be
starting for a mental place or a physical place, or
any of these things. It's never going to be a
pleasant thing, and you just have to trust that God's
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going to bring you through it.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
In a way.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
That that keeps you from having to deal with too much.
But whatever you do go through, there is a purpose
to you do you understand that that to God, there's
a purpose.
Speaker 4 (25:26):
Yes, I understand.
Speaker 2 (25:27):
And it's not it's not punitive or punishment or anything
like that. It's it's the natural process, a process that
you may not have known specifically, but you knew you
were going to go through things where you were going
to deteriorate.
Speaker 4 (25:40):
I never expected this.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
Well, no one ever expects exactly the way it goes down.
It's an interesting thing, Beth from you know, the first
time you had a pet or something, a goldfish, anything
like that and they passed, or the first time some
a loved one passes. That death is one of those
things that not only in movies and television and in
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books and everything else, is thought about and read about,
heard about every single day of your life when you
come to the age of understanding. Yet it's it's always
going to be a surprise the way it happens. When
it happens, all those things are going to be a surprise.
And the best thing to do is to do it
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is to go through it with the most amount of race,
always looking towards God for guidance and comfort, and do
it with the most amount of understanding, and you know
you're not gone yet you have the ability to pick
up the phone and talk to me and be articulate.
Speaker 4 (26:40):
Yes, so I'm losing that ability a little at.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
A time, so is everyone else. Yours just might be
more noticeable for now, but everybody's going through it. There's
a sign that hangs in my producer's office that says,
he who lives the longest or the healthiest person is
dying the slowest. But they're all dying, and everybody's experiencing that.
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That's experiencing that from day one. But I would say
to to not to delay life. Experience every moment, you know,
enjoy every little moment of it. Write things down, Write
down memories, things that were important to you and that
are important to you, people that you've met, stories that
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you can now recall.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
Write them down.
Speaker 4 (27:33):
Yes, that sounds good.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
It just ends up being ends up being something tangible. Beth,
and I think that tangibility would be helpful right now
and therefore at times where you can't remember something or
something slips away, to have it there in written form,
and to enjoy them as you can.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
For as long as you can. KFI A six on demand.
Speaker 3 (28:00):
Yes,
You're listening to kfi Am six forty on demand. Being teachable.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
It may not be something that you think about often,
but the man or woman who wants to grow in
their faith, in their walk with God, if you want
to be that person, you have to be teachable. To
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go through life in stubborn fashion, shutting yourself off to
any of the thoughts or ideas, it could be a problem.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
You lose out on much.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
And what I'm not saying is to go around with
such an open mind that your brain falls out. You see,
an open mind is like that of an open mouth.
It's open, it receives sustenance, it closes to digest. I'm
(01:04):
not talking about the lack of conviction, not standing on
a principal idea or understanding. What I'm saying is that
if you go around thinking that your glass is full,
you won't ever let anyone pour anything into it, and
in doing so, you'll miss out on new knowledge, new ideas,
(01:30):
new understandings. And this process is so important to your
faith because faith it is in conjunction with knowledge that
if you shut yourself out to that kind of teachability
(01:54):
being available for these new ideas, you lose out Scripture
is even a little more fierce when it says in
Proverbs twelve to one whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but
he who hates reproof is stupid. You see, you have
(02:16):
to be willing to hear truth. You have to be
willing to know that you may not have the truth,
the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Being open
to receiving that and learning those new things puts you
on the path like an explorer of finding out this information.
(02:42):
I tell people all the time, don't follow the person
who says they know everything. Follow the person who's asking
all the right questions, because the truth seeker asks questions.
An old Chinese proverb that says that he who asks
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a question is a fool for five minutes. He who
doesn't ask the question is a fool for a lifetime.
Now I realize there are people that you may think
can't teach anything. Abraham Lincoln said that he learned something
from every man he met. It was usually what not
(03:25):
to do, but he learned something. Now in life, as
you stroll along on your adventure exploring and learning, there
are certain things, yes, that you may put into a
pouch labeled certain, but there are always new ideas, new
(03:50):
ways to look at things, new ways to perceive an
old thing. And that comes from being open, That comes
from being pliable and receptive to what's out there. There's
oftentimes where I'm trying to teach you something or I
want you to know something, and you refuse to receive
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it because you think you're better than the person trying
to impart it to you. I want you to be open.
I want you to get to a place where you
thirst so much for truth that it doesn't matter where
you get it. You've seen people so hungry that they
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respect food like you never have every morsel, they clean
their plate, They are so appreciative for every last bite.
When you're fat, you're like, well, I don't need that
last bed or or you know, I'll throw that away,
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or I'll give it to the dog, almost without the
true appreciation for what's before you. And the same can
work with knowledge. You may get to a place where
you think you know so much.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
That you don't.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
You don't respect, you don't hunger for knowledge.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
The same way.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
I see professors all the time go through change. Professors
who were very learned, they had consumed much knowledge, and
all of a sudden something came into their life and
changed their perspective. They got to see things just a
little differently, and the hunger, that fire, that desire burned again.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Today. I want you to be in that same place today.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
I want you to thirst today. I want you to
have that mindset that isn't listen to me, but I
will listen to you.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
That place of.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Security where you are listening, where you are wanting to receive.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Being the student is the best seat to learn now.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Teaching can be a great place of learning as well
if you are open, if you remain like a sponge
and check your vocabulary and the things you say. Do
you often ask ask people's opinion on things? And do
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you ask it for real or do you ask it
because you think you should or because you really want
to receive what they have to say? Are you the
type of person that just merely offers your opinion.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Rather than receives.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Before someone finishes a sentence?
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Are you building a response being teachable? Today?
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I want you to ask yourself, am I self?
Speaker 1 (07:36):
I guess if.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
You'd like to refer to yourself as self self?
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Am I teachable?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
And the importance of this question cannot be overstated, because
this really is at the beginning of who you are,
what you will know in life, how you will know it,
and even how you'll be perceived by others, if they
will see you as somebody who just rejects or someone
who thinks there know it all. And having that platform
(08:08):
as a seeker, having that platform at somebody who genuinely
explores life and wants to learn, that is the best
place to be. That is where you will get to
know God. You'll get to know God through God's creation.
I want you to know me and one of the
best ways to know me.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Is to know the family.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Now, I don't want you living your spirituality through someone else,
because people will let you down. But you will see,
and you will know, and you will learn things from others.
And getting in that mindset to love discipline, as it
says Proverbs twelve to one, whoever loves discipline loves knowledge.
(08:56):
But he who hates reproof is stupid. Are you bothered
when somebody comes to you and corrects you constructively? I
realize that there are those that take on the tone
and the attitude and they're ugly about it, and that
it's hard to receive that.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
I understand that.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
But I also want you to get to that place
where you have the sense of an old cow. You
eat the hay and you leave the sticks. You can
weed through these things and understand that there's a difference
between someone's attitude and the truth and if what they're
telling you is beneficial if you can learn from it.
(09:41):
But how exciting has it been throughout your life those
times where you've come you've had an epiphany, or you've
learned something that has changed the way you do something.
For men, it's when they finally look at the instructions
after trying to put something together for the past twelve hours.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
On their own. I say that with love.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Men, But you may come across some sort of moment.
You may remember throughout your life a good teacher, someone
who took the time with you and spoke to you
on your level, and how wonderful it was to take
that knowledge. And I want you to get to that
(10:28):
place today. I want you to remind yourself to be
in that spirit every single day, being that explorer, being
willing to learn new ways, not being stubborn or a
pushy that everyone needs to see things your way. Oh,
(10:51):
you'll play a part in cycle. You'll be teaching others too,
but you have to be ready, willing, and able for
that report proof. It's not just ignoring reproof. It's not
just being bothered by reproof. In Scripture, it says you
hate reproof, you can't stand when someone corrects you. You're
(11:15):
always in that place where you refuse to be teachable,
and today I want you to be teachable. It's okay
to make mistakes. Scripture says that a righteous man is
not someone who doesn't fall, but someone who falls seven
times and seven times gets up. It's okay to make
(11:36):
mistakes as long as you learn from them, as long
as you are open to whatever reproof, whatever teaching moment.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
That is.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
The world is getting to a place where you are
looking with the internet, with all the technology, where you
can replay somebody's statement and thoughts over and over and
over again. The world is loving to pounce upon those
thoughts rather than showing reproof, wanting to solidify those as
(12:13):
the only thought that person's ever had, that mistakes aren't
actually made. Don't get to that place. Don't get to
that place of hardening the heart towards somebody else or
even with your own self. Towards others, you feel that
(12:34):
they are not teachable, that they can't learn, that that's
only who they are. And with yourself, thinking that you
know everything, that you're so well learned that you don't
need to consume anymore from anyone, and that becomes the
hating of reproof and that's what makes you stupid.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Moses, Hello, welcome to Jesus Christ show.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
Well, how are you, Lamb of God.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
I'm wonderful.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
How are you on your reconciliation themed It's not necessarily
a question of reconciliation. Fact, it's not. It's a matter
of forgiveness, reference to the Ephesians passage. It's got me thinking,
I'm in a position where I have split from a relationship,
a long term relationship. There are many children from that relationship,
(13:32):
some of them. One of them in particular, is of
the Marian age now and is engaged to get married
and there's going to be a wedding, and the other
side their mother can't come around. There can't. It's not
reconciliation that I'm seeking, it's just let there be peace.
And I was suggesting to the call screen that maybe
(13:54):
there's a guilt factor for me because I feel like
I've done all the the attempts to mend and make
things right and go forward, and there's something that nags
at the back of my brain because there's no forgiveness
that's forthcoming. I know I'm not entitled to it.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Well, okay, so you were in a relationship, yes, and
kids were in the middle of it, as they always are.
And those kids are getting to a place in a
time in their life when they're going to need both
you and her in the same place at the same
time for the same.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Reason, or at least that there be peaceful contact, normal
existing you know what people do when they get together.
For other divorced families joined the middle.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
And what caused the divorce, What caused the.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
Divorce multiple things, but I will it.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Was always a big thing.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I will say that they were there were chemical issues involved, okay.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
And so somebody was an addict or somebody had, you know,
serotonin issues both sides.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
One was one was alcohol and one was marijuana.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
And was this uh uh? Were you the one that
was partaking in the alcohol or the marijuana?
Speaker 3 (15:22):
I was the alcohol and she was the pot.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Okay? And uh are you an alcoholic?
Speaker 3 (15:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (15:28):
Okay? Recovering. Yeah, good boy.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
And so you both were using depressants, uh, which can
be a huge problem. Were you using them at the
beginning of the relationship as well?
Speaker 3 (15:46):
So did you did you think for that purpose?
Speaker 2 (15:50):
I mean, you know, alcoholism can take a while. Sometimes
it's you. When you guys met, were you both partaking
in alcohol and pot?
Speaker 3 (16:01):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Okay, so you both knew it was there? Well, how
does that become the problem? It just accelerated.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
Yeah, I think I think life issues, the circumstances of
sort of being caught into all of a sudden. One
child became four, became five, became six, and then I'm
not really sure. It's hard to be it's hard to
(16:30):
be even honest attempting to be honest about it. It's
I look back, and part of it is I can't
quite figure out exactly, but I know that I've taken
the lion's share of the blame from all parties, the
extended family, on both sides.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Well, you must admit alcoholism rears its head much differently
than the abuse of marijuana.
Speaker 3 (16:55):
Yes, it does. I mean, well, Jesus, I'm at the
point where I've gone through so many steps and so
many measures that I feel very comfortable, in fact, comfortable
enough to make a phone call.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Okay, but what about amends.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
I mean, that's part of the.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
Stepsil that's the problem. I've made the gestures and attempts
just for just for the sake of what's going to
be happening. I've got a wedding coming, for example, with
my oldest daughter, and I look to the future of
seeing other things coming down the line, other events and grandchildren.
(17:31):
It's just a matter of I'm done, I'm I'm contented
in my reconciliation forward, but there's just a hole that
and I don't I don't want anything from her necessarily
because it's never going to come. But I need something
that makes me look straight ahead and go forward.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Okay, And I think that's a healthy place to be.
One quick thing, and then then we'll point.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
It back to this.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
If I asked her, if I had her her on
the phone, your ex wife, and I asked her.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Why you got a divorce?
Speaker 2 (18:06):
What would what would she say?
Speaker 3 (18:12):
I really don't know that.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
What's the thing that she hates most about you?
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Meanness?
Speaker 2 (18:18):
She says that you're mean, You were a mean drunk.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
Not necessarily didn't have to be involved drinking at all.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
You're just a mean human being. Yeah, okay, and how
does that manifest? Did you ever hit her or harm
her physically? No, you paused a moment there, did you?
Were you mean to her? I was ugly and dark.
Speaker 3 (18:39):
I was rolling the eyes in the back of my
head and searching the memory banks there were it was,
believe it or not, it was the other way around.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
So she would be physical towards you because something you
did would hurt her or make her lash out. Yeah,
whether it was the way you talked to her, and
I'm not condoning in any way ship for him trying
to find the mechanics of it, and yeah, that was
I hate.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
To say it and minimize it, but the reality is,
over twelve year period of time, there was there's three
things that I can recall, three incidents. I don't I
don't mean to minimize it, but it doesn't It didn't seem.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
To me that that was And these incidences were provoked
by you. This was something that you were. You had
called her names or you had done something to Would
you say hurtful things like about who she was as
a person and things like that? Yeah, those can be
those can be very deep cutting. So I'm going to
say this, Moses, Uh. First of all, you seem to
(19:45):
want to grow in the in the right direction. I
think that's healthy. You've obviously made leaps and bounds in
your own life, getting rid of the alcohol, going through
steps and learning what those steps are, and knowing that
that making amends is going to be one of them.
You're absolutely right in the sense that you can't you
can't play both sides. You can't be her side of
(20:06):
the relationship in yours. If you reference to Fesians that
we spoke about earlier Ephesians four three, four thirty one,
and thirty two, rather says get rid of all bitterness,
rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form
of malice, be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving
(20:26):
each other just as Christ Christ God forgave you. So
if that's where you are, great, you can't do that
for her as well. I would say, one last ditch
effort to reach out, maybe by way of letter, because
there's no arguing there, and not email necessarily, but a
physical letter that she can hold in her hands, where
(20:49):
you say, simply not drawn out. We've gone through some
ugly times, and I've taken responsibility for the ugliness that
I brought into the real relationship. And although we may
not agree on everything across the board, we will agree
on the beauty of the children that we brought into
this world and that we raised, and as they grow
(21:13):
and have special days like marriages, let us agree to
come together during.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
These times and be civil and grown in a.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
Way that will reflect who they are in our lives
and not who we are in each other's lives.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
And then, having done that, cross it off.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
Regardless of her response, Cross it off your list, because
there's a point where people harden their heart, as we
talked about earlier, and you cannot be accountable for that. Beth,
Welcome to the Jesus.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Christ Show, Shalem. How can I help you?
Speaker 4 (21:55):
Oh Jesus, I have a problem. I'm fifty two years
old and I've been diagnosed with a brain Oh hold
on a second. This is part of the problem, brain atrophy, Okay,
(22:17):
And I'm losing function in my legs and I slur
my words and I don't always make myself clear and
I'm just not ready for the physicality of it.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
Well, how could you be? You know those things. It's
a it's a very weighty thought to put on your lap,
isn't it the concept of losing things or dealing with
life threatening illnesses.
Speaker 4 (22:50):
I'm not looking forward to the furthering of the dementia,
would I.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
Would think not?
Speaker 2 (22:58):
And you have doctors that are talking you through this
and what it will mean.
Speaker 4 (23:03):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (23:04):
And are you on your own or are there family
in your life?
Speaker 4 (23:08):
I have family, but they're rather distant.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
Is that a new development or has it always been
that way?
Speaker 4 (23:14):
It's always been that way.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Why do you think that is?
Speaker 4 (23:18):
Oh, it's just the way my family is. I have
no exploite, just.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Distant by nature.
Speaker 4 (23:27):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (23:28):
Okay, So now you're in this place, So you're you're
you're You're obviously very strong. You've lived a life with
some distance with family and and that must suit you
to some degree as well, because you're a part of
that relationship. So you've got strength and the ability to
deal with many things. This isn't the first bump in
your life, correct, correct? This is just one that is
(23:51):
incredibly unknown, and the unknown causes fear, right, yeah, yeah,
and having.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
To go through that.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
There's nothing scarier to many people than the con concept
of losing your faculties your ability to think and process,
and how that must be true. But the opportunity now
to take the time to write things down, or if
you have a video camera to videotape them to leave.
(24:19):
I would recommend the writing just because of the therapy involved,
and it can be very cathartic to write down your
thoughts and the things that you're going through as you
experience them. I think could be quite comforting. In addition
to the basics, you know, I'm going to say to
pray and to read scripture and use the psalms and
the like to comfort you in times of pain or confusion.
(24:45):
There's not going to be an easy way. There's an
old saying everyone wants to go to heaven, nobody wants
to die. Nothing easy about the decaying of humanness and
the process of dying in any form, whether it be
starting for a mental place or a physical place, or
any of these things. It's never going to be a
pleasant thing, and you just have to trust that God's
(25:07):
going to bring you through it.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
In a way.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
That that keeps you from having to deal with too much.
But whatever you do go through, there is a purpose
to you do you understand that that to God, there's
a purpose.
Speaker 4 (25:26):
Yes, I understand.
Speaker 2 (25:27):
And it's not it's not punitive or punishment or anything
like that. It's it's the natural process, a process that
you may not have known specifically, but you knew you
were going to go through things where you were going
to deteriorate.
Speaker 4 (25:40):
I never expected this.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
Well, no one ever expects exactly the way it goes down.
It's an interesting thing, Beth from you know, the first
time you had a pet or something, a goldfish, anything
like that and they passed, or the first time some
a loved one passes. That death is one of those
things that not only in movies and television and in
(26:03):
books and everything else, is thought about and read about,
heard about every single day of your life when you
come to the age of understanding. Yet it's it's always
going to be a surprise the way it happens. When
it happens, all those things are going to be a surprise.
And the best thing to do is to do it
(26:24):
is to go through it with the most amount of race,
always looking towards God for guidance and comfort, and do
it with the most amount of understanding, and you know
you're not gone yet you have the ability to pick
up the phone and talk to me and be articulate.
Speaker 4 (26:40):
Yes, so I'm losing that ability a little at.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
A time, so is everyone else. Yours just might be
more noticeable for now, but everybody's going through it. There's
a sign that hangs in my producer's office that says,
he who lives the longest or the healthiest person is
dying the slowest. But they're all dying, and everybody's experiencing that.
(27:08):
That's experiencing that from day one. But I would say
to to not to delay life. Experience every moment, you know,
enjoy every little moment of it. Write things down, Write
down memories, things that were important to you and that
are important to you, people that you've met, stories that
(27:30):
you can now recall.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
Write them down.
Speaker 4 (27:33):
Yes, that sounds good.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
It just ends up being ends up being something tangible. Beth,
and I think that tangibility would be helpful right now
and therefore at times where you can't remember something or
something slips away, to have it there in written form,
and to enjoy them as you can.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
For as long as you can. KFI A six on demand.
Speaker 3 (28:00):
Yes,
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