Sexual coercion has been part of human history since we were Neanderthals living in caves. As abhorrent as rape is, it is something that has traveled the millennia with us through our genes. It is literally part of us. How do we deal with this horrific fact? We explore it so we can understand it so we can fight against it. A scientist who actually "wrote the book" about sexual coercion helps us get our heads around the truth. And the truth is that this situation involves every single one of us, even those we trust and love dearly.
Then there are the other elements of sexual coercion: intimidation and harassment. Most men never rape, but in the age of enlightenment known as #MeToo, "normal" guys are reflecting and remembering moments that make them cringe. Dr. Wendy talks to a listener who is still carrying the guilt of a moment that happened many years ago as a teenager and wanted to come clean. Please know now his story does not involve rape.
Dr. Wendy and I both feel the two Mating Matters episodes about sexual coercion are probably the most important episodes we could produce. Everyone could benefit from knowing more about our evolutionary wiring. If you are under 18, please include the guidance of a parent. If you are a parent, listen with your teen. If you are a health, sex ed, psychology, or sociology professor, please consider making these required listening.
The Mating Matters message line is 323-207-8277.
You can find all transcripts of full episodes HERE!