819. Why Looking “Perfect” Still Doesn’t Feel Safe

What happens when beauty, shame, and ambition collide? In this episode, Krista sits down with renowned couples therapist Dr. Molly Burrets to dissect the invisible burden so many women carry—the pressure to be attractive, accomplished, and "enough." Ahead, they reveal hard truths about self-image in the age of social media, untangling where validation comes from and why it's never as secure as we hope. Krista + Dr. Molly bravely unpack the emotional armor women wear to cope with comparison, aging, and fear of rejection.  You'll hear powerful personal stories that illuminate how our earliest relationships shape adult attachment, and why "winning" by society's standards never guarantees true connection or satisfaction. This convo will shift how you see yourself, your body, and your relationships forever. We also talk about: The science and stigma of cellulite How comparison + body image are amplified by social media The “reflected sense of self” + how to reclaim your own worth Why beauty + power are fleeting (and healthier sources for self-esteem) Navigating the double-bind: wanting male attention, fearing its consequences The difference between self-care + self-soothing (and why both matter) How childhood patterns + family dynamics create adult attachment styles Real talk on healing anxious attachment—alone and in partnership Outgrowing the “go through hell to get to heaven” relationship pattern The rising standards for women—and why finding a partner feels harder as you grow Resources: Website: www.drmollyburrets.com Instagram @drmollyburrets Order our book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide To A Life You Love For The Next Decade and Beyond, here: https://bit.ly/Almost30Book.  Sponsors: Our Place | Visit fromourplace.com/ALMOST30 and use code ALMOST30 for 10% off sitewide.  SKIMS | Shop my favorite bras and underwear at SKIMS.com/almost30. Ka’Chava | Go to kachava.com and use code ALMOST30 for 15% off your next order. Hero Bread | Hero Bread is offering 10% off your order. Go to hero.co and use code ALMOST30 at checkout. BEAM | Visit shopbeam.com/ALMOST30 and use code ALMOST30 to get our exclusive discount of up to 40% off. Bon Charge | Go to boncharge.com and use code almost30 to save 15%.  Revolve | Shop at REVOLVE.com/ALMOST30 and use code ALMOST30 for 15% off your first order. #REVOLVEpartner Aura Frames | Visit AuraFrames.com and get $45 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames by using promo code ALMOST30 at checkout. To advertise on this podcast please email: [e-mail]. Learn More: https://almost30.com/about https://almost30.com/morningmicrodose https://almost30.com/book Join our community: https://facebook.com/Almost30podcast/groups https://instagram.com/almost30podcast https://tiktok.com/@almost30podcast https://youtube.com/Almost30Podcast Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: almost30.com/disclaimer.  Almost 30 is edited by Garett Symes and Isabella Vaccaro. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices