October 8, 2025 • 47 mins
This week on The Touchup™, your favorite duo gets way too real.
Tarryn is literally breastfeeding the entire episode (because #momlife waits for no mic), while Mari is deep in personal trainer study mode — balancing flashcards, fitness, and friendship like a pro.
In between giggles and diaper breaks, the girls talk about:
💄 The chaos of working while momming
💪 Mari’s journey into personal training (and what surprised her most)
🍼 Why multitasking is the real superpower
💬 And what clients the gals have been working with!
This one’s raw, hilarious, and full of real-life touchups. Enjoy!
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi, get a little such up. Hi am Karen.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I'm Mari, and you're listening to.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
We hope you're picking up what we're putting down. Hey, Hi, yeah,
I know, Hi, you got I know, welcome back. I
am feeding my child as we podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Delicious Little Baby Boy because.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
I am a mom and I have to work. Yeah,
so I'm feeding my child. You're working, Yeah, yeah, and
we're of double working.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
We just had the best conversation.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Oh, we had such a good conversation.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
That's going to be a sorry, great him and I
just had a great I'm so sorry. Yes, you and I.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Oh, yes, we just podcasted with a really great woman.
And I can't wait for you guys to hear it. Honestly,
it'll probably come out before this one, but I hope
you enjoyed the Laura Velts episode. It was amazing.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
She's wonderful, she's funny, wonderful, she's cute, she's.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Hot, she's sexy, she's successful, she's all the things she had,
she ticks all the very layered she's very late.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
I love a good layered person, vulnerable person.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
All the conversation, thank you. But I was talking about
the conversation between him and I that we just had.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
You had a conversation with my baby. Yes, what did
you guys talk about? It's but try it.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
It is you know. Okay, sins where the godmother? Okay,
confidentiality to keep that between him and I.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
All right, legally I can't talk about it.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
But we did we laugh. Oh, he was telling me
some funny stuff and we laughed and we laughed. And
then I held him like a little football for a while. Yeah.
I loved it. He was so chill. You were there,
you saw it.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Yeah, he likes to be held like a football.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Loved it. Charlie did too.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
And then as soon as I sat down, he got that.
Your boss got real pissed at me. Yeah. Oh he
is real pissed at my boss. And then I stood
up and Boss went, yeah, that's.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
What do you think you're doing. You don't sit down.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
You are my legs.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
I need you to be my hands and my legs.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
Yeah exactly. Children are wild. Show me the world, Show
me the world.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
I just want to sit here and look at you. No,
show me the world.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
Until I can walk. Be my legs. Be my legs,
until I can see, be my site.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
We just went to a place where there was a breeze.
I don't know if that's the word I'm trying to
use right now, breeze air air in my face. There
was sunlight, there was grass out.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
There, there never been there before, Monica.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
I was just out there. Yeah, there was something called
I think you said leaves that I was looking at
and it was so funny. Yeah, and you kept shaking them.
I want to see more of that. Yeah, I don't
want to see you. I want to see that.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
I know it's so funny. I I downloaded this up,
but I haven't like signed in. It's called I forgot
because I have cool. I'm nothing you are?
Speaker 2 (02:56):
And did you say that about yourself?
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Foot? I'm everything? But right now I'm parts and fragments.
It's an app that tells you what every day like,
what what's happening in their little body and brain and sight.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
So I got it going on today.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I haven't signed in for it yet. I downloaded it.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
That's as far as okay, he's starting to get a
sense of humor.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Oh, he's funny. He thinks everything is really funny.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
He's so funny.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
He loves this. It's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Look at the vibration in your mouth when you do that.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
But can he see my face? Yeah? At eight weeks?
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Yeah, I think so he looks like he can. He's
his pupils are getting bigger.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Okay, yeah, I really know nothing about babies.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I didn't eat a bad one. I didn't either. I mean,
we can ask Siri, but I like to play the
guessing game with you. Yeah, like all the information's obviously
at our disposal, but we like to be like, sure, yeah,
I come into focus at eight weeks.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Yeah, I don't. I don't think they do. Still a
little cross set.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Sure, yeah, Well things are funny, they're getting they're getting.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Clearer, yes, but I think what's clear is like the
edge of things color, because don't they see black and
white for the first That's why he loves basically the
entire hell and my cookies.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Oh yeah, black.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
And white everything we have. AJ just got him a
mobile and he just like.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Say mobile, mobil mobile mobile mobile? Yeah? Mobile?
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Yeah? Oh didn't sound you like how I say it
the right way? Mobile?
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Oh maybe that's what mobile is, don't Yeah, mobile's correction anyway. Yeah,
they see black and white, so everything is, but color
is so important to them, so that's why I think
what's happening? Oh now, yes, that's why all toys are
so bright and colorful. Yeah, because it's stimulating for their
little brains and it teaches them. Yeah, he's going to
(04:48):
like learn this is when they start processing.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
I know. It's so crazy information overload. Yeah. Oh yeah,
super stimulated.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Well he's really fucking cute.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
He is very cute. The smiles. I'm like, I love
my mornings with him. We just stare at each other
and smile. God, I'm so gay for my kid.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Yeah, as you should be. As you should be.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Man, I am like simpy simp simply. Yeah, simpy simp
for you.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
And it never goes away, Yeah, never goes away, gets
stronger probably. Oh god, it's Charlie literally has become like
my best friend.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Yeah. No, you guys have been that way for a
long time. We have.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
But she was also a big pain in my ass
for a while because kids are annoying.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Yeah you know that. Uh that's why I didn't like them.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Okay, like even your own get really annoying. Oh I'm
sure I love her so much. Yeah, but now she's
hit that age where she's like about to be nine
and she's always been a little wiser for She's like
she's been here many times over. Yes, So it's just
all clicking all the things were I was telling Laura
before where she'll say something and I'm like, oh, she's listening,
(05:57):
or I'll just be like, oh, that's me there. It
is like those little things that I've just've been repeating
over and over and over throughout her whole life. It's
finally like, oh there I am. I know, I know,
I know. Oh she was such a big heart. She's
just doesn't like give me like, yeah, they give you
(06:18):
little hard times here and whatever. But it's so far
in few now because she just wants to make me happy,
like I know she does. I know she wants to.
She loves our relationship and we're here just to like
you don't. You can't teach respect, You have to you
earn respect. Yeah yeah, and I feel like I've earned
it with her, so now she just shows it to me.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
That just hit. Yeah, Yeah, that's cool. So many things
to look forward to and not look forward to you Yeah,
and being annoying.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Yeah, and she'll still annoy me. Everyone annoys you children
get she'll annoy me when she's a teenager and think
she thinks she knows everything even now already She's like,
I know, Oh, I'm like you, I.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Don't know, but I feel like you don't know. Yeah,
I feel like you're so yeah, you know eight years
of things. That's not a lot I know more.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Yeah, And I'm not here to say it in like
a really cocky way. I just do. Those are the facts.
Two plus two is six, right, Okay, we all know that. Facts.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Facts. So let's sit bro, facts.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Let me help you. Yeah, that's all I want to do. Yeah,
I don't want to be a nagger or a I
know that. I'm just here to guide you because I
have the information and the experience and I want to
pour all that into you to help you be able
to navigate life easier.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Little feet sticking out?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Are they just little feet?
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Oh my god, that's actually really cute. Baby.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
We had a moment in the garage.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Oh, we had a moment in the garage.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Was really that was a that's a we'll never forget moment.
It was thirteen seconds long. There's a really great moment.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Yeah, Mario was telling me something. I looked at her
and I just said, everything's going to be okay, and
we kissed and then.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Yeah, you went for here's the best part. You went
for my cheek. I went in for a full so
it was like we're about to like make out for
a second, like I saw you like this, but I
went because we kiss on the lips all the time,
all the time, but you were going here and I
like turned it.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
So it was oh, I can't remember, yeah, because.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
That's that's the beginning of like the awkwardness, not but
the realness not not even awkward. We don't have we
don't have awkward moments. It was just the best, okay.
And I start crying and then I start started crying
and then laughing, laugh started laughing, and then I started leaking,
and then I said, I'm leaking on you.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
And then she said, well, I'm pean, so.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
So I'm going like this wiping the leak from her boob,
milk nipples off my body whilst your own my own
and then like walking out like this to the bathroom.
It was a very real moment.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Yeah, that's called friendship.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
It's called friendship.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Speaking of friendship, can you hand me my phone? I
have some questions. There's this app called Flamingo. Oh, So
there's it's I think it's like a card game fun
called Flamingo Fun. And every time I see it on Instagram,
I go, I gotta send this so that Mari and
I could talk about it on the podcast. So it's
(09:34):
called Flamingo Yeah, Flamingo cards, and it's like questions to
ask your partner, questions to ask your best friend, questions
to cute. Okay, five funny questions to ask your best
friend from Flamingo Cards. If I had a warning label,
what would it say you? Yeah, and Jesus, Yeah, mine
for you would would be will bite.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
We'll bite, we'll bite. Okay I like that. Yeah, yeah, bite,
we'll bite, We'll bite. Yours is like coming through Okay.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
If I joined a cult, what would it be about.
I could see you joining like a fitness cult.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Yeah, fitness kind of is like a cult.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Yeah, or starting one. Oh, maybe that's what you're about
to do, start a fitness cult.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
I always wanted to be a commander. I always wanted
to be a commander.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Then be a commander.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Okay, your cult would be about other cults. Okay, you
guys just sit around and talk about all the cults
in the world. Yeah, yeah, you're a cult of your
cult of cults.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
Cult of cults. Yeah, if you had to give me
a new first name, what would it be?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
Sarah? That's not right, Joyce? I was gay.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Hey guys, it's Joyce. I decided to end it all today.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
No way, Corey.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
That has a double meaning it What would I maybe
like a roz Riz Rizz.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Riz?
Speaker 1 (11:05):
I like Riz for me Brown?
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Brown's cool? Yeah, you would be something way.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Cooler Rizzyrizz Brownrizzy Brown. Yeah, I love Itzy Brown.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Hey, Riz Brown, that's cool?
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Yeah, maybe Gene, you're fuck you go fuck yourself, Riz.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
Okay, Jean, if you had to bet money on me
failing something, what would it be? Math same for you?
If I got kicked out of a bar tonight? What
would it be.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
For undercooked meat? Now?
Speaker 1 (11:46):
For biting people? Like for getting into a fight it's
sober Mari or or drunk Marie.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Well, I don't do that stuff anymore.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
No, but I think if if somebody pushed me, Mari.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
If somebody pushed you, I'm here to use my words, however, Okay,
I'm like, however, back I have pushed somebody back, I
have strong bout. Yes, if they like came at and
it was something that I had to I would have, yeah,
protect and start and protect me.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
I know. What's a bummer is that we'd probably get kicked.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Out of the bar, even though it wasn't our fault.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Yeah, they wouldn't be like they would just be like
your trouble, get out of here.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Yeah. Yeah, old me, I would have.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Just popped off, popped off.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Yeah, I would have been. I mean I've started that,
you know.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Yeah drunk you never so really ooh drunk me terrible.
I'm same though, yeah, terrible.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Like you were more of the shit starter. I was
more of the like crying and too drunk and passed
out or doing wizard hands or whatever or whatever. Shouldn't
shouldn't be a drunk And that's why I'm not.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Hm, I'm so glad it's ten years later.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
God same. Send this to your best friend. They have
to answer one question of their choice. Okay, okay from
Flamingo Cards. If today was the last day you could
say anything to me, what would it be? Or what's
the best thing I've ever said to you? Or what's
the one thing about me that recently surprised you. Pick
(13:13):
one of those I don't think it surprised me. And
it's not that I didn't know it was there. But
there's a much softer, gentler side of you that has
that's new, not like new new, but like within the
last year, much more gentle side of you. Yeah, that's surprising,
(13:33):
not surprising, Like I knew it was there. I've always
seen it, but it's very predominant now.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Yeah, because I I've had to do a lot of work.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Yeah, yeah, I was an angry person. No, I didn't
realize how angry I was.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Yeah, so we've had to do a lot of work. Yeah,
but thank you for seeing that. Yeah, that's who I am.
That's who I want to be now. I just want
to be this calm, peaceful energy that is not feeling
because all ang is is just like it's hatred, yeah,
and resentment and but it's all your childhood stuff that
you have to look deep down into. And I love
(14:10):
my parents very much, but you know, we all have
our reasons for why we are the way we are.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Why parents it's trendspond to, Yeah, it's it's there's childhood trauma.
I mean I have trauma from like friends, I have
trauma from grandparents.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Yeah, it's all. Yeah, I was so reactive, so reactive,
so defensive, and so very reactive, and it's not a
good place to be because it's angry. So I am
no longer that and you can do That's the cool
thing about like life and healing is that you can
(14:46):
you can change, you can can always heal in no
longer be that person. Yea, this is incredible.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Yeah, I I just like us. Talking about that makes
me think of my mother. And my mom's in her
seventies and she's changed the most, I think in the
past couple of years since her divorce, and she's much
different than she was even five years ago. You know,
(15:14):
it's awesome to say, yeah, I know, so like in
your seventies, you can do.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
Yeah, And my mom is too. Now in her seventies,
she's going through something where she's doing a lot of
healing and you know, growing now and realizing a lot
of things, and.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
It's crazy.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
It's yeah, we're more acts.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
You think you're acted out and you're like, nope, there's
more acts.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Well that's just four chapters. That's you get complacent and
then you're like, oh, this is just who I'm always
going to be. I just want to carry this stuff
around with me for the rest of my life. I
want to feel like this for the rest of my life.
I want to project all my shit onto other people.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Yeah, but here's the thing. Most people don't even make
it that far to get to that conclusion that you're
the problem. Most people don't. If you think about it,
you go. I wonder if they know that they are spewing.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Well, it's just because you're constantly blaming other people. It's
so much easier to point your finger at somebody else
and looking inward. It's so much easier to take that route.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
Yes, except for it's lame.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Except for it's lame and it's bullshit. And it's the
two things in my life, like I or the two
qualities about people that I have no tolerance for is
self awareness and victimizing yourself. Those two things I just
got to go. You gotta go because that's what it
(16:37):
takes to be able to look inwards, to go.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
You know, maybe it is me. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
If you don't have that self awareness or if you're
constantly like, well, I own the victim, I'm like, it's
not going to work.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
No, like have fun, never growing anywhere.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
Growing, staying in the same little vicious cycle of muck.
So fuck that shit, Fuck that shit. Thank you for
saying that I love you so much.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Oh I love you.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
It's just like, also not surprising, but how much of
an incredible mother yet you are and then becoming it's
just so amazing to see. And also, and I've said
it before, you are just you make it okay for
people to feel safe because you are so supportive and
(17:26):
so understanding.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
And thank you.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
I know that I could always come to you with
anything and regardless of if it makes me feel like
or whatever, and you're just like, it's okay, it's going
to be okay, I get it. Okay, yeah, I understand.
You're just the most supportive, understanding person I know. Yeah
you are.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Thank you, You're welcome. It's so sweet.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
It's important because I feel like i'm that too. So
when you want to have you want to have relationships
like that where you're like, yeah, this is you can
do the same thing to me. Will always get it.
You know, you want to back out of dinner, we're
supposed to do something, you're supposed to whatever, You're like, okay, cool,
I understand, or something doesn't worry and you're like, Okay,
I get it. We're human. Something about you too, you're
(18:10):
very clumsy.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
One thing about me, I'm gonna fall mm, yeah, I'm
gonna you're.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Gonna trip, You're gonna break something, You're gonna yeah. But
it happens so like effortlessly. It's not like a heart.
It's always just like m And your response after everything
is never like oh fuck, You're always just like you
do the thing, you break the thing, and then you
just look at it. You go hmmmm hmm, just coffee.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
Yeah, well, what am I gonna lose my mind?
Speaker 2 (18:38):
No, you're always. My favorite thing about you tern is
that you're so like I've never seen you lose your shit.
You've gone like this to me, You've gone, I'm so
sorry for that moment of overreacting.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
You see me pretty wound up.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
Yeah, but you do it in a way that's not
like for me. I compare me wound up then, like
who I was like angry or reactive or like yelling
or square, like really out there with my emotions. You
think that it's a lot worse than it is in
your head. Remember on my birthday when you had hot sauce.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
No it was. It was the Shashado peppers and they
were I love them. I always order them wherever we go.
Wherever I am, I'm like, I'll have an order of
the Shesado Peppers, Shashido whatever, however you say.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
It, and you had it. You went like this. You
looked at me and you were like for about three minutes,
it was a while. I just stared at you, trying
to compose yourself, and then when you came out of it,
(19:54):
you were like, I'm so sorry. That was must have
been crazy. Like I I that was the hottest thing
I've ever ate that. I went like, this is really hot,
and I went you were so composed, you were just
like whereas like I would have been like, fuck, God,
give me some fucking milk or water.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
When it did, you took one and you were like
ah fuck or like whatever. You ate something. You were like,
damn it, that was too hot exactly, and you were
just like, I don't view myself like that at all.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
That's what you do. So you think that you're reacting
like you think that you're making everyone feel weird in
your but you're not, Oh okay, yeah great, yeah, Like
you can still compose yourself in your in the midst
of your fury.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Yeah, I'm like, man, I feel like i'm such a
mean not mean. I don't think i'm a mean.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
No, you're very direct.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
So yeah, that's what I think. I think it's mean. Well,
I'm like, oops, I should have said that differently. You know,
you're the same way thing just fly out.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
Yeah, there's a different way of like being getting shipped on,
like looking talking to somebody. Yeah, so you have a
worker here who's not getting shipped on and you're like, hey, man,
what's going on with that? Yeah, that's assertive. That's being
a boss bitch. That's something that I struggle with. I
don't know how to do that because I still like
to please people, Like I'm very gentle with how my
(21:22):
approach moment was like instead I'm like, hey, do I
ain't gonna make you a sandwich? Like all truly hot out,
Why don't come inside and get some lemonade for a
second and then get back to work and a bath
and tell me about your story, tell me about your kids,
tell me about.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
It's not me. I know that really frustrated when people don't.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
But it's opposite. So it's your our actual like feelings
and emotions, how we like regulate ourselves. So like something
could happen where I break a glass and get coffee
all over the place, and I'd be like, fucking shit,
I'm the old may. I don't do it anymore because
I'm in a place where I am calm and I
protect my piece because I've done a lot of work.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
But old Mari.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
Would have done something like that, and it would have
like loose cannon and reactive, so it would have been
getting here whereas you that happens you to go.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I broke a glass.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
I broke a glass.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
Oh see, I only cared about getting glass on the baby,
which I know didn't happen because it broke down there,
and making sure that got the date out of the chair.
But m listen, we're going through so much stuff. What's
what's a coffee?
Speaker 2 (22:30):
So tired? You're tired?
Speaker 1 (22:32):
Oh my god, I'm so tired. When does it stop?
Speaker 2 (22:35):
When does when does everything stop? We have to, like
it stop, work on our bodies, work on our minds,
work on our spirits, work on our friendships, work on
our marriage, working on being mom. We have to work
regular work. We have to make money. We have to
do social media, to pose on social media. We have
to create content. We have to do a podcast, do
a podcast.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
We got to create for that, we have to It's
so everything, so much this past week.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
It got it got the best of me. The overwhelmingness, Yeah, yeah,
got the best of me. And then doing it alone. Yeah,
you know, sometimes you get a little lonely. It's nice
to do with a partner. Yeah, when you're like a
mom and you're doing everything, it's nice to have a partner.
And that's why I'm like, oh, that's when it's nice
to have a partner. That's why people do this with
a partner.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
So it was just like a emotionally not even emotional.
I was just putting the things in my head which
causes the body to start shutting down and causes anxiety
and that heaviness in your fucking chest and I hate
that feeling.
Speaker 1 (23:34):
I know, I hate that too.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
It's a lie. Like I was going on walks and
just listening to positive affirmations, manifestation affirmations on walk, just
saying things over and over to myself, breathing, doing all
things which helps, which is like why I said I
was grateful that I'm able to cope.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, because like what else are you supposed
to do? You gotta just this too, shall pass, been
through worse, And there's there something magical and juicy in it.
I don't know what it is.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
There is something magical and juicy, juicy in it.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
I agree, the space in between.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
The space between, the spish between.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
Wait, who was it?
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Who was that? Dave Matthews, Matt matt.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Wait, Matt David's Matthews?
Speaker 2 (24:26):
Do have any more funny questions? Or is that I
want to talk about something?
Speaker 1 (24:30):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Serious? Oh, let me just eat this juicy juicy Yeah, let.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Me just Morgan, she's gonna hate this episode. Our producer
is like, you guys, stop chewing, stop moving, stop crinkling paper,
stop all your ship your shenanigans. But we're not perfect, Morgan,
We're not perfect, and we come back for you. Guys
here we are. Well, we're coming back for us. But
(24:55):
also we uh just trying to find our people, just
trying to find our people.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
We will we're good people.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
Well, we're already starting there.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
I saw this on I don't remember where I was.
I believe I was like scrolling through Facebook or something.
There is a British doctor was sentenced to nearly two
and a half years behind bars for insurance fraud after
claiming his legs were lost due to sepsis when he
actually forced the amputation for sexual gratification. Andrew Neil Hopper
(25:29):
I wish I had my readers, a forty nine year
old vascular surgeon at the Royal Cornwall Hospital, pleaded guilty
to two counts of fraud by false representation and three
counts of possession of extreme pornography images. Where's the rest,
It's getting a little dark. He sat in an ice
bath Feldman.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
And cut off his own legs. Here he is.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
He was sentenced thirty two months in prison by a
true no no.
Speaker 1 (25:55):
Your own limbs off.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
Harper fraudently claimed over for six hundred and thirty thousand
dollars in insurance payouts after he claimed the injuries to
his limbs were the result of sepsis, but in reality,
Hopper had been packing his legs and ice and dry
ice and an act of self mutilation. The defendant was
a paying customer of a since shuttered website that sold
(26:20):
videos of amputations by modification, including penises being removed. Hopper
has a sexual fetish link to amputation and has paid
access to these images for his own gratification.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
Is he single? I'm just kidding. I ask him for
a friend, asking for a friend. I don't know where
to go, what to do with that. So he's in jail,
he served thirty two months.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
This is him now, No like Hopper, he's hoppin' around, hoppin' Hopper.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
Oh his last names Hopper, perfect fitting. He's out of
prison now. Oh yeah, I guess if it was only
X amount of mind.
Speaker 2 (26:53):
This is a disgusting human being. I'm mentally ill. I'm
very mentally ill. But this is like, you're a person
who number one, was born with no legs. You've been
in a really bad accident and you lost your legs.
You were in warn you got blown up and you
lost your legs, You got sick, you actually had sepsis,
you had diabetes, and you actually lost your legs and
(27:14):
had to suffer through this, and like you wish more
than anything that you could have your legs back. And
this guy's just like soaking him off to get to
jack off to what.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Yeah he's something, And here's my problem. Do whatever you
want to your body. I literally don't care. You're trying
to now get money.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
Yes, claiming that he was sick and.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
You may have gotten sepsis because you literally cut your
own legs off. Yeah, but that's that's not where it
started originally. Bruh.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
No, you sat in an ice bath and dry ice.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
Dry ice. That's not real ice? Was it?
Speaker 2 (27:50):
Did you say dry ice?
Speaker 1 (27:51):
It said dry ice? That does dry ice make things
icy in real life? Or is it just full? On
a second, Marri, you'll looking at me like you should
know this, beldy. Go ahead. What I when I think
of dry ice, I think it's meltless ice.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Meltless ice that very cold burns because it's so cold.
Oh well, burn burns the skin. Yeah, to the point
where he had to have his legs amputeed. So that's
what's going on in the world.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
Okay, go ahead, take me out of it.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
Take me out of it. Other than that, I am
all caught up on the lady, the terrible mother, what
a terrible.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
Idiot. And what's wild is that her daughter was like,
I just want to have a relationship with her.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
What was wild was when, first of all, and I'm
not here to ever bash anyone's appearance just but just
because she's an awful human being.
Speaker 1 (28:56):
Oh well, obviously she's jealous, obviously.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
Obviously sleep and had a thing for the boyfriend. I
mean she is a mentally ill woman. Yes, who did
and incredibly.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
Well and I think she's been lying for ever ever.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
Yeah, she's a liar.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
Is her husband still with her?
Speaker 2 (29:16):
No, he divorced her. Okay, good he remember at the
end he went, you need to leave.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
Yeah, but that's everybody would feel that way for a second.
Can I have one gummy bear?
Speaker 2 (29:27):
You got his sister. I think what she was doing,
just a red one yellow can go was the form
of an online form of like gypsy roses.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
Mom oh, Munchausen.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
Yeah, Munchausen. Because she would do all of it, I
mean then went on for a year and a half,
two years. Yeah, And every time her daughter found these
messages or was like really upset, she would come home
and her mother would be the one to console her.
So she's like, it's okay, honey, it's okay, sweetheart. And
that's why her.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Daughter also did the same thing. She was like holding
her hand.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
And when she found out I can't leave her, she
walked over and the daughter was just like in shock,
and she's just holding her hand like this because she
had her daughter thinking, you know, yeah manipulated.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Yeah, it feels like the daughter's like, I just want
to have a relationship with her. I mean, it's kind
of crazy. She told me to kill myself, but I
still don't know why she did that. But like, oh,
she's going to grow up and.
Speaker 2 (30:25):
I already think that she because she said she hasn't
seen her in like a year. Oh at the very end. Oh,
and then she went, my relationship with my father has
never been closer. However, I would like a relationship with
my mom when I moved to her. But like you said,
she will get older and realize how incredibly damaging. Yeah,
I do what her mom did to her.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
You got to be out of it for a while.
You need to get some therapy and really takes space
from that.
Speaker 2 (30:53):
Yeah, that's a that's a therapy to the point where
like that's a messed up human being. Yeah, these people,
these pebble. Did you watch the other one?
Speaker 1 (31:02):
No, Okay, I haven't been watching a lot of TV.
Speaker 2 (31:05):
No, I just watched I watched that that night when
I said I was gonna get five guys and just
watch the documentary I did, and I had grilled salmon.
Oh couldn't it wasn't ready. Okay, yeah, do you well?
I wanted to be like the perfect moment.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
Okay, you'll know it might be on this podcast.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
Well that's what I'm kind of waiting for.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
Okay, yeah, yeah, maybe it's next week.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
Oh my god, look at that sleeping baby bird on
your boob.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
What did did you work this week?
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Yes? I did it A do and go with for
Ashley Cook.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Oh she's cute, so cute. She's so cute, very sweet.
Speaker 2 (31:41):
She's such a great face and good hair to do,
banging little body.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
I was it.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
I've just been studying, like studying, are.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
You really going to do it? Yeah? You have to
study and you have to know all the Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
I have like a book on fitness anatomy and just
anatomy and just the body. So I'm just like in
my spare time, I'm just reading a lot. I don't know, Like,
who am I I'm learning science.
Speaker 1 (32:07):
I'm learning Like that's so cool.
Speaker 2 (32:09):
It's a lot. Yeah, but I don't need to know
all of it. I want to know as much as
I can. I want to be.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Yeah, it's a lot and then you just go, oh yeah,
the trap trapzoid and the monogram and the oh your monograms,
all right, well monogram and your tippy toe?
Speaker 2 (32:26):
What day is it?
Speaker 1 (32:27):
You is it?
Speaker 2 (32:28):
Oh? You got a monogram day.
Speaker 1 (32:29):
Oh, it's a tippy toe day. We got to work
on your tippy toes. Your tippy toes are see.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
I think that's why this is going to be great
for me, because like the more like I'll know what
I know, but even more so, but teaching people that
have no idea, that think that monogram is a part
of your body. I'm going to be like the Cox,
I know everything.
Speaker 1 (32:45):
Yeah, just listen to me.
Speaker 2 (32:47):
I know things. We have a monogram. Yeah, I'm gonna
sound like I know fucking everyone.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
You're like, well, you're fulangies. The placement of your falangies
aren't where your fulangies needs right exactly. So if you started,
if you start working on your falangies, your tippy toes
and your cauxus with your monograms, with your cauxss up
to your COVESA.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
Am I buy an anterior deltoid.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
The deltoids and the huh lateral del lattery lattery.
Speaker 2 (33:29):
Delts with your also known as the rear del the
rear delt with your.
Speaker 1 (33:36):
Shouldered.
Speaker 2 (33:38):
I got it. Oh, I can't wait to train you.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
I know, I can't wait to be trained. I can't
wait to be trained. I'm soaking this up. But also
I'm like, I can't fit into anything I own. I
look so different only to me probably, but I just
being crazy. But that's okay. This is post Parker park Parkinson.
(34:00):
Today it's plaus Parkinson. Everyone everything, Okay, we all got it.
Speaker 2 (34:14):
M A, look at me, Look at me? Anna, Do
I lose it? No? It used to be so good
at it.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
Damn it.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
Maybe after this, get a chic Oh, maybe after.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
This we'll go get akh. I still got it. But
that was that was obvious what you said. Oh yeah, yea.
Let's see what did I do last week? You know
what part of me was like, Oh I went back
to work too soon. I had to go do hair
for Miss Natalie Grant, who is has been referred to
(34:49):
as Miss Christmas. She is a Christian singer, but she
is like the the Christmas elf that world.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (35:01):
So I've heard she has a lot of Christmas stuff
Natalie Grant. Okay, there's probably a song that she's known
for that I probably know as well.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
A Christmas song.
Speaker 1 (35:10):
But yeah, anyway, I did hair and it was like
a ten hour day and I was like, I just
want to go home to my little baby boy. But
they all understand. It's just I'm like, I gotta go.
Speaker 2 (35:24):
And did you say I had to leave? I wait
the second time you've done this, yes, like I need.
I'm so sorry. I know I told you a full day,
but I gotta go.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
I gotta go. Yeah, yeah, it's just hard.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
I know, dude, you just had a baby eight he's
eight weeks old today.
Speaker 1 (35:40):
I know.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
I know, give yourself time. It's awesome that you're in
there working and doing your but uh.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
I have three more full days and then I think, I, well.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
I need more full days. I need some of that
full day. I'll get it. It's okay, it's okay, Like
we said, well, I could walk outside and get hit
by a comment like I'm not going to stress over
any Everything is paper, paper, money is over paper, over paper.
And it happens when things are being like I'm still
going to do always go to do hair and makeup.
(36:17):
I just want to it's hard to balance like what
or put like one hundred percent into different things.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
Yeah, it's it's timing. Yeah, it's when you go and
you do and you'll get it. It'll all flow, it'll
all flow. Doing doing something new is like I'm the
captain of trying.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
Yeah, it's super, it's super.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
It's overwhelming. Yeah, you figure it out and then you're
gonna get to a part where you're like, why did
I get into this? Why did I do this?
Speaker 2 (36:46):
See, I'm not the captain of trying all the new things.
I've been captain complacement for a long time.
Speaker 1 (36:52):
Yeah, I mean I'm also that, but like, well, yeah,
but you you you dive into things, You try a
lot of new things, so like it's it stretches you.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
Yeah, it stretches you in ways that you don't know
what you're capable of until you until you're doing it.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
Yea.
Speaker 2 (37:07):
And sometimes along the way it is it's stressful. It
causes a lot of anxiety. It's like, well, if I'm
putting one hundred percent into this thing, how do I
also put the same amount into this and this and
this too? Because I don't want to leave anything else
high and dry. But it's also hard.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
Yeah, you have to, which you're really good at discipline.
When you go to work on a makeup job, that's
what you do. When you come to podcasts, that's what
you do. Yah, And you just you have to be
like you have to communicate at least with yourself, you know,
or whatever. And this is the time that's like so
(37:42):
hard where you're like learning something new and then you
have to get clients and then you'll you'll figure it
out where it's like you only train on Mondays and
Tuesdays or something. Yeah, like whatever, that's but that's the
beauty is all of it. You are the boss of
all of it. M you know. Yeah, it's it's you
(38:06):
just have to look at it that way. It's not
owning you. You own it. Sure like you will be
able to like if you only want to train on
the weekends and you want to stop doing glam altogether
on the weekends, it's like a choice that you get
to make. Yeah, eventually, maybe not right now because you're like,
i gotta you know, we got to bring in that
dough and we gotta.
Speaker 2 (38:24):
Gotta bring in that dough and I'm not like I'm
not doing this other thing like getting like wanting to
train to be a millionaire, to make my I genuinely
love helping people. Yeah, I love I want to be
a coach. I want to like I've already helping it.
My Deborah font had a bet to Fronto bots in
your I'm doing it with her right now. We're changing
(38:45):
up her routine next week. We got her used to
like a full, a nice little routine just to get
her started. But I don't like doing zoom I'm not
like an online coach typer. I want to be I
want to touch your body.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
How are you gonna do that with depa funds?
Speaker 2 (38:58):
Well, I I we we zoomed. Okay, but it's hard,
it's harder. I still did it. Yeah, but I loved
it like I loved. I loved walking her through every
step of the movement and her form. Yeah, I was like,
I could do this all day.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
So let me ask you a question. What is let's
touch up on fitness for a second. If I were
flirting with the idea of cleaning up my whether it's
my eating or my fitness or whatever, what should I
Because it's overwhelming, what should I look at first?
Speaker 2 (39:38):
Look at the amount of calories you're reading? Okay, yeah,
I mean fat loss literally begins with being in a
calorie deficit and moving your body more. Okay, So making
sure that you're getting your steps, counting your stef Like
(40:00):
if you just want to start with walking every day
or five times a week at least, just to get started,
to get your steps in, so you're burning the calories
and then staying in a deficit, okay, will burn what
you will lose fat?
Speaker 1 (40:15):
Okay. Yeah, because I think.
Speaker 2 (40:18):
And then we can talk about like eventually like incorporating
weights in it. Like for you, I think that we
should baby step it and we can get some bands
and just get those Yeah, just get your like core strengthened. Yeah,
you know, everything kind of fired up. I wouldn't just
send you into a gym and have you start like
leg pressing or lifting weights. Yeah, I would have you
(40:39):
just start by getting your steps in, yeah, burning some
calories along the way. Yeah, and being in a calorie deficit.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (40:48):
So that's counting your macros, your macro nutrients, which are
like your fats, your carbs, your proteins.
Speaker 1 (40:57):
I thank you for saying that I had no idea
what macros were.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
There you go, So making sure that you're counting your calories,
tracking your calories I think is super important and there's
like really good apps for that in the beginning, because
how are you going to know how many calories you're
eating in a day? How many How do you know
how many calories you're supposed to be eating in a day.
So you can put in your weight, your age, your
activity level, and it will give it to you. Will
(41:21):
give you like this is what your maintenance calories should be,
and usually like on the apps can subtract it by
three hundred so that would be considered a deficit. Ah okay, okay,
and get started like that, and then we can eventually
go up. Like your protein, I mean every once you
get a certain amount of protein is your protein's super
important for growing muscle. So when we start strength training
(41:43):
we can really like focus on protein. But for now,
like if you want to just shed weight, that's how
we're going to do it.
Speaker 1 (41:51):
Okay, what do you have any any apps that come
off the top of your brain?
Speaker 2 (41:55):
Do I do?
Speaker 1 (41:56):
Taran? I might have one because Chrys told me about
one a while ago.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
There's a couple of good ones. There's this one's the
one of the better ones. I'll give it to you
and then I'll we can like link it or I
can talk about it.
Speaker 1 (42:07):
Okay, Yeah, maybe we'll talk about it on Yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (42:09):
Gotta find it. But it's the easiest way for you to.
Speaker 1 (42:13):
Track your calories and food intakes. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
You already don't drink alcohol, so you're not having those
extra calories.
Speaker 1 (42:19):
Yeah. And sugar was high for me when I was pregnant,
but now that I'm not, I kind of I care
a little bit. But I think because I got used
to like having cookies and doing ting. Yeah, like having sodas.
I never had sodas. Yeah when I was pregnantoom.
Speaker 2 (42:34):
Yeah. Yeah, And here's a taper. Still lose weight if
you're in a deficit and you're burning more calories than
you are eating, you can still lose weight by eating
things like cookies because you're in a certain deficit. However,
you're not going to get the body composition that you're
looking for. You'll be you'll lose the weight, but then
(42:55):
you'll be like skinny fat because you're not getting the
right nutrients that are going to your muscles and creating. Yeah.
So that's where you want to have proper nutrition. Your
right amount of fibers, your right amount of proteins, Mario
moves beef sticks. Beef sticks, Still eat your cookies, still
do your things you don't want to.
Speaker 1 (43:15):
Like, That's why I'm the pro.
Speaker 2 (43:16):
The worst thing that you can do, I think is
like overwhelming yourself and being like I have to just
eat salads and proteins and we'll die die like that.
Speaker 1 (43:25):
It's not it's not you can freak you out.
Speaker 2 (43:26):
It's going to freak you out and it's going to
put push back on it, or being like I can
have a cheat day, because whatever, you should still be
able to live your life and like life and have
a cookie as long as you're still staying in the
calorie deficit.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
Calorie deficit. Okay, what are you grateful for?
Speaker 2 (43:47):
Beef sticks?
Speaker 1 (43:48):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (43:48):
My god today him, my godson.
Speaker 1 (43:52):
His little lashes are getting long.
Speaker 2 (43:54):
My god's on his foot. He is so terrian.
Speaker 1 (43:58):
I know, he's still like a real foot. He's so cute.
I mean, he's perfect, and I'm sitting here eating a
beefstick like an animal. Calorie deficit. That's what we talked
about today on the podcast Calorie Deficit.
Speaker 2 (44:13):
So Delicious. Yeah, I'm grateful for him today.
Speaker 1 (44:15):
We're grateful for him. Yep.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
Let me know when you're ready to start like doing
some light stuff.
Speaker 1 (44:22):
I think about it. It's just there's I'm so tired.
Speaker 2 (44:25):
I'm you can even we can even like have you
get a band and lay in bed and you can
just do like.
Speaker 1 (44:31):
Oh I have bands.
Speaker 2 (44:33):
Yeah yeah, we can just like start doing stuff like
this or like this. So when I like here, you're
like you're still engaging your core, but we're sitting. There's
some like seated stuff you can do just to get
things fired up ready prepared. So in like a month
from now, you're like when you start moving and you're
not gonna go, oh my god, everything's hurts so bad.
(44:56):
Or I love Yeah, sored's great.
Speaker 1 (44:59):
I love being sore.
Speaker 2 (45:00):
Lactic acid.
Speaker 1 (45:01):
Get out bro lactic acid? You want it? Gone right?
That's not good?
Speaker 2 (45:07):
Well that's what that's what that that's sore. That's soreness.
So like that. Lactic acid is a pump when you're like,
oh god, and then you're like sore.
Speaker 1 (45:16):
It does it, It moves around, it gets like this
and then it and then it hardens back up.
Speaker 2 (45:24):
That's lactic acid.
Speaker 1 (45:27):
Who am I? Who am I M lactic acid?
Speaker 2 (45:33):
I can't wait to like talk to like, so I'm
gonna bring my anatomy booking next time.
Speaker 1 (45:38):
Yes, yes, all right, well okay, thank you guys for
tuning in. I mean, no, I I got a whole
bunch of.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
Got more.
Speaker 1 (45:55):
No I can't, No I got it. Well, I'm like here,
you're like, no I, no I. I I wanted to
talk about products this this episode, but.
Speaker 2 (46:12):
Next one we're doing our beauty podcast.
Speaker 1 (46:14):
No we're not. We're a comedy podcast.
Speaker 2 (46:23):
Now we're like bipolar.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
No we're not. We're a comedy podcast. Feature that from
two Beauty.
Speaker 2 (46:31):
You heard it here first, folks.
Speaker 1 (46:34):
It's a beauty and comedy.
Speaker 2 (46:35):
It's all, it's all of it.
Speaker 1 (46:36):
What can it be?
Speaker 2 (46:38):
They? We dive into everything.
Speaker 1 (46:41):
We touch up all aspects of your life, the touch.
Speaker 2 (46:44):
We talk about, touching up every aspect of your life,
being a mom, being a single, stress, fitness, beauty.
Speaker 1 (46:57):
Close, all of its, all of it.
Speaker 2 (47:03):
What else that's.
Speaker 1 (47:05):
Right now? We're touching on, touching up, on ending. Okay,
we'll see you later, okay, ye, all right, see you later.
Bye bye. One more thing? Oh wait, okay, bye love
you bye bye bye
Hi, get a little such up. Hi am Karen.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I'm Mari, and you're listening to.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
We hope you're picking up what we're putting down. Hey, Hi, yeah,
I know, Hi, you got I know, welcome back. I
am feeding my child as we podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Delicious Little Baby Boy because.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
I am a mom and I have to work. Yeah,
so I'm feeding my child. You're working, Yeah, yeah, and
we're of double working.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
We just had the best conversation.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Oh, we had such a good conversation.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
That's going to be a sorry, great him and I
just had a great I'm so sorry. Yes, you and I.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Oh, yes, we just podcasted with a really great woman.
And I can't wait for you guys to hear it. Honestly,
it'll probably come out before this one, but I hope
you enjoyed the Laura Velts episode. It was amazing.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
She's wonderful, she's funny, wonderful, she's cute, she's.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Hot, she's sexy, she's successful, she's all the things she had,
she ticks all the very layered she's very late.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
I love a good layered person, vulnerable person.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
All the conversation, thank you. But I was talking about
the conversation between him and I that we just had.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
You had a conversation with my baby. Yes, what did
you guys talk about? It's but try it.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
It is you know. Okay, sins where the godmother? Okay,
confidentiality to keep that between him and I.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
All right, legally I can't talk about it.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
But we did we laugh. Oh, he was telling me
some funny stuff and we laughed and we laughed. And
then I held him like a little football for a while. Yeah.
I loved it. He was so chill. You were there,
you saw it.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Yeah, he likes to be held like a football.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Loved it. Charlie did too.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
And then as soon as I sat down, he got that.
Your boss got real pissed at me. Yeah. Oh he
is real pissed at my boss. And then I stood
up and Boss went, yeah, that's.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
What do you think you're doing. You don't sit down.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
You are my legs.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
I need you to be my hands and my legs.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
Yeah exactly. Children are wild. Show me the world, Show
me the world.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
I just want to sit here and look at you. No,
show me the world.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
Until I can walk. Be my legs. Be my legs,
until I can see, be my site.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
We just went to a place where there was a breeze.
I don't know if that's the word I'm trying to
use right now, breeze air air in my face. There
was sunlight, there was grass out.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
There, there never been there before, Monica.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
I was just out there. Yeah, there was something called
I think you said leaves that I was looking at
and it was so funny. Yeah, and you kept shaking them.
I want to see more of that. Yeah, I don't
want to see you. I want to see that.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
I know it's so funny. I I downloaded this up,
but I haven't like signed in. It's called I forgot
because I have cool. I'm nothing you are?
Speaker 2 (02:56):
And did you say that about yourself?
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Foot? I'm everything? But right now I'm parts and fragments.
It's an app that tells you what every day like,
what what's happening in their little body and brain and sight.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
So I got it going on today.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I haven't signed in for it yet. I downloaded it.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
That's as far as okay, he's starting to get a
sense of humor.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Oh, he's funny. He thinks everything is really funny.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
He's so funny.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
He loves this. It's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Look at the vibration in your mouth when you do that.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
But can he see my face? Yeah? At eight weeks?
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Yeah, I think so he looks like he can. He's
his pupils are getting bigger.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Okay, yeah, I really know nothing about babies.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I didn't eat a bad one. I didn't either. I mean,
we can ask Siri, but I like to play the
guessing game with you. Yeah, like all the information's obviously
at our disposal, but we like to be like, sure, yeah,
I come into focus at eight weeks.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Yeah, I don't. I don't think they do. Still a
little cross set.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Sure, yeah, Well things are funny, they're getting they're getting.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Clearer, yes, but I think what's clear is like the
edge of things color, because don't they see black and
white for the first That's why he loves basically the
entire hell and my cookies.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Oh yeah, black.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
And white everything we have. AJ just got him a
mobile and he just like.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Say mobile, mobil mobile mobile mobile? Yeah? Mobile?
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Yeah? Oh didn't sound you like how I say it
the right way? Mobile?
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Oh maybe that's what mobile is, don't Yeah, mobile's correction anyway. Yeah,
they see black and white, so everything is, but color
is so important to them, so that's why I think
what's happening? Oh now, yes, that's why all toys are
so bright and colorful. Yeah, because it's stimulating for their
little brains and it teaches them. Yeah, he's going to
(04:48):
like learn this is when they start processing.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
I know. It's so crazy information overload. Yeah. Oh yeah,
super stimulated.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Well he's really fucking cute.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
He is very cute. The smiles. I'm like, I love
my mornings with him. We just stare at each other
and smile. God, I'm so gay for my kid.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Yeah, as you should be. As you should be.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Man, I am like simpy simp simply. Yeah, simpy simp
for you.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
And it never goes away, Yeah, never goes away, gets
stronger probably. Oh god, it's Charlie literally has become like
my best friend.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Yeah. No, you guys have been that way for a
long time. We have.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
But she was also a big pain in my ass
for a while because kids are annoying.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Yeah you know that. Uh that's why I didn't like them.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Okay, like even your own get really annoying. Oh I'm
sure I love her so much. Yeah, but now she's
hit that age where she's like about to be nine
and she's always been a little wiser for She's like
she's been here many times over. Yes, So it's just
all clicking all the things were I was telling Laura
before where she'll say something and I'm like, oh, she's listening,
(05:57):
or I'll just be like, oh, that's me there. It
is like those little things that I've just've been repeating
over and over and over throughout her whole life. It's
finally like, oh there I am. I know, I know,
I know. Oh she was such a big heart. She's
just doesn't like give me like, yeah, they give you
(06:18):
little hard times here and whatever. But it's so far
in few now because she just wants to make me happy,
like I know she does. I know she wants to.
She loves our relationship and we're here just to like
you don't. You can't teach respect, You have to you
earn respect. Yeah yeah, and I feel like I've earned
it with her, so now she just shows it to me.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
That just hit. Yeah, Yeah, that's cool. So many things
to look forward to and not look forward to you Yeah,
and being annoying.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Yeah, and she'll still annoy me. Everyone annoys you children
get she'll annoy me when she's a teenager and think
she thinks she knows everything even now already She's like,
I know, Oh, I'm like you, I.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Don't know, but I feel like you don't know. Yeah,
I feel like you're so yeah, you know eight years
of things. That's not a lot I know more.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Yeah, And I'm not here to say it in like
a really cocky way. I just do. Those are the facts.
Two plus two is six, right, Okay, we all know that. Facts.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Facts. So let's sit bro, facts.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Let me help you. Yeah, that's all I want to do. Yeah,
I don't want to be a nagger or a I
know that. I'm just here to guide you because I
have the information and the experience and I want to
pour all that into you to help you be able
to navigate life easier.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Little feet sticking out?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Are they just little feet?
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Oh my god, that's actually really cute. Baby.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
We had a moment in the garage.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Oh, we had a moment in the garage.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Was really that was a that's a we'll never forget moment.
It was thirteen seconds long. There's a really great moment.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Yeah, Mario was telling me something. I looked at her
and I just said, everything's going to be okay, and
we kissed and then.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Yeah, you went for here's the best part. You went
for my cheek. I went in for a full so
it was like we're about to like make out for
a second, like I saw you like this, but I
went because we kiss on the lips all the time,
all the time, but you were going here and I
like turned it.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
So it was oh, I can't remember, yeah, because.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
That's that's the beginning of like the awkwardness, not but
the realness not not even awkward. We don't have we
don't have awkward moments. It was just the best, okay.
And I start crying and then I start started crying
and then laughing, laugh started laughing, and then I started leaking,
and then I said, I'm leaking on you.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
And then she said, well, I'm pean, so.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
So I'm going like this wiping the leak from her boob,
milk nipples off my body whilst your own my own
and then like walking out like this to the bathroom.
It was a very real moment.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Yeah, that's called friendship.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
It's called friendship.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Speaking of friendship, can you hand me my phone? I
have some questions. There's this app called Flamingo. Oh, So
there's it's I think it's like a card game fun
called Flamingo Fun. And every time I see it on Instagram,
I go, I gotta send this so that Mari and
I could talk about it on the podcast. So it's
(09:34):
called Flamingo Yeah, Flamingo cards, and it's like questions to
ask your partner, questions to ask your best friend, questions
to cute. Okay, five funny questions to ask your best
friend from Flamingo Cards. If I had a warning label,
what would it say you? Yeah, and Jesus, Yeah, mine
for you would would be will bite.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
We'll bite, we'll bite. Okay I like that. Yeah, yeah, bite,
we'll bite, We'll bite. Yours is like coming through Okay.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
If I joined a cult, what would it be about.
I could see you joining like a fitness cult.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Yeah, fitness kind of is like a cult.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Yeah, or starting one. Oh, maybe that's what you're about
to do, start a fitness cult.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
I always wanted to be a commander. I always wanted
to be a commander.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Then be a commander.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Okay, your cult would be about other cults. Okay, you
guys just sit around and talk about all the cults
in the world. Yeah, yeah, you're a cult of your
cult of cults.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
Cult of cults. Yeah, if you had to give me
a new first name, what would it be?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
Sarah? That's not right, Joyce? I was gay.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Hey guys, it's Joyce. I decided to end it all today.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
No way, Corey.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
That has a double meaning it What would I maybe
like a roz Riz Rizz.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Riz?
Speaker 1 (11:05):
I like Riz for me Brown?
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Brown's cool? Yeah, you would be something way.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Cooler Rizzyrizz Brownrizzy Brown. Yeah, I love Itzy Brown.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Hey, Riz Brown, that's cool?
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Yeah, maybe Gene, you're fuck you go fuck yourself, Riz.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
Okay, Jean, if you had to bet money on me
failing something, what would it be? Math same for you?
If I got kicked out of a bar tonight? What
would it be.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
For undercooked meat? Now?
Speaker 1 (11:46):
For biting people? Like for getting into a fight it's
sober Mari or or drunk Marie.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Well, I don't do that stuff anymore.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
No, but I think if if somebody pushed me, Mari.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
If somebody pushed you, I'm here to use my words, however, Okay,
I'm like, however, back I have pushed somebody back, I
have strong bout. Yes, if they like came at and
it was something that I had to I would have, yeah,
protect and start and protect me.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
I know. What's a bummer is that we'd probably get kicked.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Out of the bar, even though it wasn't our fault.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Yeah, they wouldn't be like they would just be like
your trouble, get out of here.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Yeah. Yeah, old me, I would have.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Just popped off, popped off.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Yeah, I would have been. I mean I've started that,
you know.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Yeah drunk you never so really ooh drunk me terrible.
I'm same though, yeah, terrible.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Like you were more of the shit starter. I was
more of the like crying and too drunk and passed
out or doing wizard hands or whatever or whatever. Shouldn't
shouldn't be a drunk And that's why I'm not.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Hm, I'm so glad it's ten years later.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
God same. Send this to your best friend. They have
to answer one question of their choice. Okay, okay from
Flamingo Cards. If today was the last day you could
say anything to me, what would it be? Or what's
the best thing I've ever said to you? Or what's
the one thing about me that recently surprised you. Pick
(13:13):
one of those I don't think it surprised me. And
it's not that I didn't know it was there. But
there's a much softer, gentler side of you that has
that's new, not like new new, but like within the
last year, much more gentle side of you. Yeah, that's surprising,
(13:33):
not surprising, Like I knew it was there. I've always
seen it, but it's very predominant now.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Yeah, because I I've had to do a lot of work.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Yeah, yeah, I was an angry person. No, I didn't
realize how angry I was.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Yeah, so we've had to do a lot of work. Yeah,
but thank you for seeing that. Yeah, that's who I am.
That's who I want to be now. I just want
to be this calm, peaceful energy that is not feeling
because all ang is is just like it's hatred, yeah,
and resentment and but it's all your childhood stuff that
you have to look deep down into. And I love
(14:10):
my parents very much, but you know, we all have
our reasons for why we are the way we are.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Why parents it's trendspond to, Yeah, it's it's there's childhood trauma.
I mean I have trauma from like friends, I have
trauma from grandparents.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Yeah, it's all. Yeah, I was so reactive, so reactive,
so defensive, and so very reactive, and it's not a
good place to be because it's angry. So I am
no longer that and you can do That's the cool
thing about like life and healing is that you can
(14:46):
you can change, you can can always heal in no
longer be that person. Yea, this is incredible.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Yeah, I I just like us. Talking about that makes
me think of my mother. And my mom's in her
seventies and she's changed the most, I think in the
past couple of years since her divorce, and she's much
different than she was even five years ago. You know,
(15:14):
it's awesome to say, yeah, I know, so like in
your seventies, you can do.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
Yeah, And my mom is too. Now in her seventies,
she's going through something where she's doing a lot of
healing and you know, growing now and realizing a lot
of things, and.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
It's crazy.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
It's yeah, we're more acts.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
You think you're acted out and you're like, nope, there's
more acts.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Well that's just four chapters. That's you get complacent and
then you're like, oh, this is just who I'm always
going to be. I just want to carry this stuff
around with me for the rest of my life. I
want to feel like this for the rest of my life.
I want to project all my shit onto other people.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Yeah, but here's the thing. Most people don't even make
it that far to get to that conclusion that you're
the problem. Most people don't. If you think about it,
you go. I wonder if they know that they are spewing.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Well, it's just because you're constantly blaming other people. It's
so much easier to point your finger at somebody else
and looking inward. It's so much easier to take that route.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
Yes, except for it's lame.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Except for it's lame and it's bullshit. And it's the
two things in my life, like I or the two
qualities about people that I have no tolerance for is
self awareness and victimizing yourself. Those two things I just
got to go. You gotta go because that's what it
(16:37):
takes to be able to look inwards, to go.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
You know, maybe it is me. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
If you don't have that self awareness or if you're
constantly like, well, I own the victim, I'm like, it's
not going to work.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
No, like have fun, never growing anywhere.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
Growing, staying in the same little vicious cycle of muck.
So fuck that shit, Fuck that shit. Thank you for
saying that I love you so much.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Oh I love you.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
It's just like, also not surprising, but how much of
an incredible mother yet you are and then becoming it's
just so amazing to see. And also, and I've said
it before, you are just you make it okay for
people to feel safe because you are so supportive and
(17:26):
so understanding.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
And thank you.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
I know that I could always come to you with
anything and regardless of if it makes me feel like
or whatever, and you're just like, it's okay, it's going
to be okay, I get it. Okay, yeah, I understand.
You're just the most supportive, understanding person I know. Yeah
you are.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Thank you, You're welcome. It's so sweet.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
It's important because I feel like i'm that too. So
when you want to have you want to have relationships
like that where you're like, yeah, this is you can
do the same thing to me. Will always get it.
You know, you want to back out of dinner, we're
supposed to do something, you're supposed to whatever, You're like, okay, cool,
I understand, or something doesn't worry and you're like, Okay,
I get it. We're human. Something about you too, you're
(18:10):
very clumsy.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
One thing about me, I'm gonna fall mm, yeah, I'm
gonna you're.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Gonna trip, You're gonna break something, You're gonna yeah. But
it happens so like effortlessly. It's not like a heart.
It's always just like m And your response after everything
is never like oh fuck, You're always just like you
do the thing, you break the thing, and then you
just look at it. You go hmmmm hmm, just coffee.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
Yeah, well, what am I gonna lose my mind?
Speaker 2 (18:38):
No, you're always. My favorite thing about you tern is
that you're so like I've never seen you lose your shit.
You've gone like this to me, You've gone, I'm so
sorry for that moment of overreacting.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
You see me pretty wound up.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
Yeah, but you do it in a way that's not
like for me. I compare me wound up then, like
who I was like angry or reactive or like yelling
or square, like really out there with my emotions. You
think that it's a lot worse than it is in
your head. Remember on my birthday when you had hot sauce.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
No it was. It was the Shashado peppers and they
were I love them. I always order them wherever we go.
Wherever I am, I'm like, I'll have an order of
the Shesado Peppers, Shashido whatever, however you say.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
It, and you had it. You went like this. You
looked at me and you were like for about three minutes,
it was a while. I just stared at you, trying
to compose yourself, and then when you came out of it,
(19:54):
you were like, I'm so sorry. That was must have
been crazy. Like I I that was the hottest thing
I've ever ate that. I went like, this is really hot,
and I went you were so composed, you were just
like whereas like I would have been like, fuck, God,
give me some fucking milk or water.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
When it did, you took one and you were like
ah fuck or like whatever. You ate something. You were like,
damn it, that was too hot exactly, and you were
just like, I don't view myself like that at all.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
That's what you do. So you think that you're reacting
like you think that you're making everyone feel weird in
your but you're not, Oh okay, yeah great, yeah, Like
you can still compose yourself in your in the midst
of your fury.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Yeah, I'm like, man, I feel like i'm such a
mean not mean. I don't think i'm a mean.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
No, you're very direct.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
So yeah, that's what I think. I think it's mean. Well,
I'm like, oops, I should have said that differently. You know,
you're the same way thing just fly out.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
Yeah, there's a different way of like being getting shipped on,
like looking talking to somebody. Yeah, so you have a
worker here who's not getting shipped on and you're like, hey, man,
what's going on with that? Yeah, that's assertive. That's being
a boss bitch. That's something that I struggle with. I
don't know how to do that because I still like
to please people, Like I'm very gentle with how my
(21:22):
approach moment was like instead I'm like, hey, do I
ain't gonna make you a sandwich? Like all truly hot out,
Why don't come inside and get some lemonade for a
second and then get back to work and a bath
and tell me about your story, tell me about your kids,
tell me about.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
It's not me. I know that really frustrated when people don't.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
But it's opposite. So it's your our actual like feelings
and emotions, how we like regulate ourselves. So like something
could happen where I break a glass and get coffee
all over the place, and I'd be like, fucking shit,
I'm the old may. I don't do it anymore because
I'm in a place where I am calm and I
protect my piece because I've done a lot of work.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
But old Mari.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
Would have done something like that, and it would have
like loose cannon and reactive, so it would have been
getting here whereas you that happens you to go.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I broke a glass.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
I broke a glass.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
Oh see, I only cared about getting glass on the baby,
which I know didn't happen because it broke down there,
and making sure that got the date out of the chair.
But m listen, we're going through so much stuff. What's
what's a coffee?
Speaker 2 (22:30):
So tired? You're tired?
Speaker 1 (22:32):
Oh my god, I'm so tired. When does it stop?
Speaker 2 (22:35):
When does when does everything stop? We have to, like
it stop, work on our bodies, work on our minds,
work on our spirits, work on our friendships, work on
our marriage, working on being mom. We have to work
regular work. We have to make money. We have to
do social media, to pose on social media. We have
to create content. We have to do a podcast, do
a podcast.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
We got to create for that, we have to It's
so everything, so much this past week.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
It got it got the best of me. The overwhelmingness, Yeah, yeah,
got the best of me. And then doing it alone. Yeah,
you know, sometimes you get a little lonely. It's nice
to do with a partner. Yeah, when you're like a
mom and you're doing everything, it's nice to have a partner.
And that's why I'm like, oh, that's when it's nice
to have a partner. That's why people do this with
a partner.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
So it was just like a emotionally not even emotional.
I was just putting the things in my head which
causes the body to start shutting down and causes anxiety
and that heaviness in your fucking chest and I hate
that feeling.
Speaker 1 (23:34):
I know, I hate that too.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
It's a lie. Like I was going on walks and
just listening to positive affirmations, manifestation affirmations on walk, just
saying things over and over to myself, breathing, doing all
things which helps, which is like why I said I
was grateful that I'm able to cope.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, because like what else are you supposed
to do? You gotta just this too, shall pass, been
through worse, And there's there something magical and juicy in it.
I don't know what it is.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
There is something magical and juicy, juicy in it.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
I agree, the space in between.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
The space between, the spish between.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
Wait, who was it?
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Who was that? Dave Matthews, Matt matt.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Wait, Matt David's Matthews?
Speaker 2 (24:26):
Do have any more funny questions? Or is that I
want to talk about something?
Speaker 1 (24:30):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Serious? Oh, let me just eat this juicy juicy Yeah, let.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Me just Morgan, she's gonna hate this episode. Our producer
is like, you guys, stop chewing, stop moving, stop crinkling paper,
stop all your ship your shenanigans. But we're not perfect, Morgan,
We're not perfect, and we come back for you. Guys
here we are. Well, we're coming back for us. But
(24:55):
also we uh just trying to find our people, just
trying to find our people.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
We will we're good people.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
Well, we're already starting there.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
I saw this on I don't remember where I was.
I believe I was like scrolling through Facebook or something.
There is a British doctor was sentenced to nearly two
and a half years behind bars for insurance fraud after
claiming his legs were lost due to sepsis when he
actually forced the amputation for sexual gratification. Andrew Neil Hopper
(25:29):
I wish I had my readers, a forty nine year
old vascular surgeon at the Royal Cornwall Hospital, pleaded guilty
to two counts of fraud by false representation and three
counts of possession of extreme pornography images. Where's the rest,
It's getting a little dark. He sat in an ice
bath Feldman.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
And cut off his own legs. Here he is.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
He was sentenced thirty two months in prison by a
true no no.
Speaker 1 (25:55):
Your own limbs off.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
Harper fraudently claimed over for six hundred and thirty thousand
dollars in insurance payouts after he claimed the injuries to
his limbs were the result of sepsis, but in reality,
Hopper had been packing his legs and ice and dry
ice and an act of self mutilation. The defendant was
a paying customer of a since shuttered website that sold
(26:20):
videos of amputations by modification, including penises being removed. Hopper
has a sexual fetish link to amputation and has paid
access to these images for his own gratification.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
Is he single? I'm just kidding. I ask him for
a friend, asking for a friend. I don't know where
to go, what to do with that. So he's in jail,
he served thirty two months.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
This is him now, No like Hopper, he's hoppin' around, hoppin' Hopper.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
Oh his last names Hopper, perfect fitting. He's out of
prison now. Oh yeah, I guess if it was only
X amount of mind.
Speaker 2 (26:53):
This is a disgusting human being. I'm mentally ill. I'm
very mentally ill. But this is like, you're a person
who number one, was born with no legs. You've been
in a really bad accident and you lost your legs.
You were in warn you got blown up and you
lost your legs, You got sick, you actually had sepsis,
you had diabetes, and you actually lost your legs and
(27:14):
had to suffer through this, and like you wish more
than anything that you could have your legs back. And
this guy's just like soaking him off to get to
jack off to what.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Yeah he's something, And here's my problem. Do whatever you
want to your body. I literally don't care. You're trying
to now get money.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
Yes, claiming that he was sick and.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
You may have gotten sepsis because you literally cut your
own legs off. Yeah, but that's that's not where it
started originally. Bruh.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
No, you sat in an ice bath and dry ice.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
Dry ice. That's not real ice? Was it?
Speaker 2 (27:50):
Did you say dry ice?
Speaker 1 (27:51):
It said dry ice? That does dry ice make things
icy in real life? Or is it just full? On
a second, Marri, you'll looking at me like you should
know this, beldy. Go ahead. What I when I think
of dry ice, I think it's meltless ice.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Meltless ice that very cold burns because it's so cold.
Oh well, burn burns the skin. Yeah, to the point
where he had to have his legs amputeed. So that's
what's going on in the world.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
Okay, go ahead, take me out of it.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
Take me out of it. Other than that, I am
all caught up on the lady, the terrible mother, what
a terrible.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
Idiot. And what's wild is that her daughter was like,
I just want to have a relationship with her.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
What was wild was when, first of all, and I'm
not here to ever bash anyone's appearance just but just
because she's an awful human being.
Speaker 1 (28:56):
Oh well, obviously she's jealous, obviously.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
Obviously sleep and had a thing for the boyfriend. I
mean she is a mentally ill woman. Yes, who did
and incredibly.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
Well and I think she's been lying for ever ever.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
Yeah, she's a liar.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
Is her husband still with her?
Speaker 2 (29:16):
No, he divorced her. Okay, good he remember at the
end he went, you need to leave.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
Yeah, but that's everybody would feel that way for a second.
Can I have one gummy bear?
Speaker 2 (29:27):
You got his sister. I think what she was doing,
just a red one yellow can go was the form
of an online form of like gypsy roses.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
Mom oh, Munchausen.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
Yeah, Munchausen. Because she would do all of it, I
mean then went on for a year and a half,
two years. Yeah, And every time her daughter found these
messages or was like really upset, she would come home
and her mother would be the one to console her.
So she's like, it's okay, honey, it's okay, sweetheart. And
that's why her.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Daughter also did the same thing. She was like holding
her hand.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
And when she found out I can't leave her, she
walked over and the daughter was just like in shock,
and she's just holding her hand like this because she
had her daughter thinking, you know, yeah manipulated.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Yeah, it feels like the daughter's like, I just want
to have a relationship with her. I mean, it's kind
of crazy. She told me to kill myself, but I
still don't know why she did that. But like, oh,
she's going to grow up and.
Speaker 2 (30:25):
I already think that she because she said she hasn't
seen her in like a year. Oh at the very end. Oh,
and then she went, my relationship with my father has
never been closer. However, I would like a relationship with
my mom when I moved to her. But like you said,
she will get older and realize how incredibly damaging. Yeah,
I do what her mom did to her.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
You got to be out of it for a while.
You need to get some therapy and really takes space
from that.
Speaker 2 (30:53):
Yeah, that's a that's a therapy to the point where
like that's a messed up human being. Yeah, these people,
these pebble. Did you watch the other one?
Speaker 1 (31:02):
No, Okay, I haven't been watching a lot of TV.
Speaker 2 (31:05):
No, I just watched I watched that that night when
I said I was gonna get five guys and just
watch the documentary I did, and I had grilled salmon.
Oh couldn't it wasn't ready. Okay, yeah, do you well?
I wanted to be like the perfect moment.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
Okay, you'll know it might be on this podcast.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
Well that's what I'm kind of waiting for.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
Okay, yeah, yeah, maybe it's next week.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
Oh my god, look at that sleeping baby bird on
your boob.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
What did did you work this week?
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Yes? I did it A do and go with for
Ashley Cook.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Oh she's cute, so cute. She's so cute, very sweet.
Speaker 2 (31:41):
She's such a great face and good hair to do,
banging little body.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
I was it.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
I've just been studying, like studying, are.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
You really going to do it? Yeah? You have to
study and you have to know all the Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
I have like a book on fitness anatomy and just
anatomy and just the body. So I'm just like in
my spare time, I'm just reading a lot. I don't know, Like,
who am I I'm learning science.
Speaker 1 (32:07):
I'm learning Like that's so cool.
Speaker 2 (32:09):
It's a lot. Yeah, but I don't need to know
all of it. I want to know as much as
I can. I want to be.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Yeah, it's a lot and then you just go, oh yeah,
the trap trapzoid and the monogram and the oh your monograms,
all right, well monogram and your tippy toe?
Speaker 2 (32:26):
What day is it?
Speaker 1 (32:27):
You is it?
Speaker 2 (32:28):
Oh? You got a monogram day.
Speaker 1 (32:29):
Oh, it's a tippy toe day. We got to work
on your tippy toes. Your tippy toes are see.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
I think that's why this is going to be great
for me, because like the more like I'll know what
I know, but even more so, but teaching people that
have no idea, that think that monogram is a part
of your body. I'm going to be like the Cox,
I know everything.
Speaker 1 (32:45):
Yeah, just listen to me.
Speaker 2 (32:47):
I know things. We have a monogram. Yeah, I'm gonna
sound like I know fucking everyone.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
You're like, well, you're fulangies. The placement of your falangies
aren't where your fulangies needs right exactly. So if you started,
if you start working on your falangies, your tippy toes
and your cauxus with your monograms, with your cauxss up
to your COVESA.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
Am I buy an anterior deltoid.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
The deltoids and the huh lateral del lattery lattery.
Speaker 2 (33:29):
Delts with your also known as the rear del the
rear delt with your.
Speaker 1 (33:36):
Shouldered.
Speaker 2 (33:38):
I got it. Oh, I can't wait to train you.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
I know, I can't wait to be trained. I can't
wait to be trained. I'm soaking this up. But also
I'm like, I can't fit into anything I own. I
look so different only to me probably, but I just
being crazy. But that's okay. This is post Parker park Parkinson.
(34:00):
Today it's plaus Parkinson. Everyone everything, Okay, we all got it.
Speaker 2 (34:14):
M A, look at me, Look at me? Anna, Do
I lose it? No? It used to be so good
at it.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
Damn it.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
Maybe after this, get a chic Oh, maybe after.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
This we'll go get akh. I still got it. But
that was that was obvious what you said. Oh yeah, yea.
Let's see what did I do last week? You know
what part of me was like, Oh I went back
to work too soon. I had to go do hair
for Miss Natalie Grant, who is has been referred to
(34:49):
as Miss Christmas. She is a Christian singer, but she
is like the the Christmas elf that world.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (35:01):
So I've heard she has a lot of Christmas stuff
Natalie Grant. Okay, there's probably a song that she's known
for that I probably know as well.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
A Christmas song.
Speaker 1 (35:10):
But yeah, anyway, I did hair and it was like
a ten hour day and I was like, I just
want to go home to my little baby boy. But
they all understand. It's just I'm like, I gotta go.
Speaker 2 (35:24):
And did you say I had to leave? I wait
the second time you've done this, yes, like I need.
I'm so sorry. I know I told you a full day,
but I gotta go.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
I gotta go. Yeah, yeah, it's just hard.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
I know, dude, you just had a baby eight he's
eight weeks old today.
Speaker 1 (35:40):
I know.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
I know, give yourself time. It's awesome that you're in
there working and doing your but uh.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
I have three more full days and then I think, I, well.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
I need more full days. I need some of that
full day. I'll get it. It's okay, it's okay, Like
we said, well, I could walk outside and get hit
by a comment like I'm not going to stress over
any Everything is paper, paper, money is over paper, over paper.
And it happens when things are being like I'm still
going to do always go to do hair and makeup.
(36:17):
I just want to it's hard to balance like what
or put like one hundred percent into different things.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
Yeah, it's it's timing. Yeah, it's when you go and
you do and you'll get it. It'll all flow, it'll
all flow. Doing doing something new is like I'm the
captain of trying.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
Yeah, it's super, it's super.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
It's overwhelming. Yeah, you figure it out and then you're
gonna get to a part where you're like, why did
I get into this? Why did I do this?
Speaker 2 (36:46):
See, I'm not the captain of trying all the new things.
I've been captain complacement for a long time.
Speaker 1 (36:52):
Yeah, I mean I'm also that, but like, well, yeah,
but you you you dive into things, You try a
lot of new things, so like it's it stretches you.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
Yeah, it stretches you in ways that you don't know
what you're capable of until you until you're doing it.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
Yea.
Speaker 2 (37:07):
And sometimes along the way it is it's stressful. It
causes a lot of anxiety. It's like, well, if I'm
putting one hundred percent into this thing, how do I
also put the same amount into this and this and
this too? Because I don't want to leave anything else
high and dry. But it's also hard.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
Yeah, you have to, which you're really good at discipline.
When you go to work on a makeup job, that's
what you do. When you come to podcasts, that's what
you do. Yah, And you just you have to be
like you have to communicate at least with yourself, you know,
or whatever. And this is the time that's like so
(37:42):
hard where you're like learning something new and then you
have to get clients and then you'll you'll figure it
out where it's like you only train on Mondays and
Tuesdays or something. Yeah, like whatever, that's but that's the
beauty is all of it. You are the boss of
all of it. M you know. Yeah, it's it's you
(38:06):
just have to look at it that way. It's not
owning you. You own it. Sure like you will be
able to like if you only want to train on
the weekends and you want to stop doing glam altogether
on the weekends, it's like a choice that you get
to make. Yeah, eventually, maybe not right now because you're like,
i gotta you know, we got to bring in that
dough and we gotta.
Speaker 2 (38:24):
Gotta bring in that dough and I'm not like I'm
not doing this other thing like getting like wanting to
train to be a millionaire, to make my I genuinely
love helping people. Yeah, I love I want to be
a coach. I want to like I've already helping it.
My Deborah font had a bet to Fronto bots in
your I'm doing it with her right now. We're changing
(38:45):
up her routine next week. We got her used to
like a full, a nice little routine just to get
her started. But I don't like doing zoom I'm not
like an online coach typer. I want to be I
want to touch your body.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
How are you gonna do that with depa funds?
Speaker 2 (38:58):
Well, I I we we zoomed. Okay, but it's hard,
it's harder. I still did it. Yeah, but I loved
it like I loved. I loved walking her through every
step of the movement and her form. Yeah, I was like,
I could do this all day.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
So let me ask you a question. What is let's
touch up on fitness for a second. If I were
flirting with the idea of cleaning up my whether it's
my eating or my fitness or whatever, what should I
Because it's overwhelming, what should I look at first?
Speaker 2 (39:38):
Look at the amount of calories you're reading? Okay, yeah,
I mean fat loss literally begins with being in a
calorie deficit and moving your body more. Okay, So making
sure that you're getting your steps, counting your stef Like
(40:00):
if you just want to start with walking every day
or five times a week at least, just to get started,
to get your steps in, so you're burning the calories
and then staying in a deficit, okay, will burn what
you will lose fat?
Speaker 1 (40:15):
Okay. Yeah, because I think.
Speaker 2 (40:18):
And then we can talk about like eventually like incorporating
weights in it. Like for you, I think that we
should baby step it and we can get some bands
and just get those Yeah, just get your like core strengthened. Yeah,
you know, everything kind of fired up. I wouldn't just
send you into a gym and have you start like
leg pressing or lifting weights. Yeah, I would have you
(40:39):
just start by getting your steps in, yeah, burning some
calories along the way. Yeah, and being in a calorie deficit.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (40:48):
So that's counting your macros, your macro nutrients, which are
like your fats, your carbs, your proteins.
Speaker 1 (40:57):
I thank you for saying that I had no idea
what macros were.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
There you go, So making sure that you're counting your calories,
tracking your calories I think is super important and there's
like really good apps for that in the beginning, because
how are you going to know how many calories you're
eating in a day? How many How do you know
how many calories you're supposed to be eating in a day.
So you can put in your weight, your age, your
activity level, and it will give it to you. Will
(41:21):
give you like this is what your maintenance calories should be,
and usually like on the apps can subtract it by
three hundred so that would be considered a deficit. Ah okay, okay,
and get started like that, and then we can eventually
go up. Like your protein, I mean every once you
get a certain amount of protein is your protein's super
important for growing muscle. So when we start strength training
(41:43):
we can really like focus on protein. But for now,
like if you want to just shed weight, that's how
we're going to do it.
Speaker 1 (41:51):
Okay, what do you have any any apps that come
off the top of your brain?
Speaker 2 (41:55):
Do I do?
Speaker 1 (41:56):
Taran? I might have one because Chrys told me about
one a while ago.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
There's a couple of good ones. There's this one's the
one of the better ones. I'll give it to you
and then I'll we can like link it or I
can talk about it.
Speaker 1 (42:07):
Okay, Yeah, maybe we'll talk about it on Yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (42:09):
Gotta find it. But it's the easiest way for you to.
Speaker 1 (42:13):
Track your calories and food intakes. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
You already don't drink alcohol, so you're not having those
extra calories.
Speaker 1 (42:19):
Yeah. And sugar was high for me when I was pregnant,
but now that I'm not, I kind of I care
a little bit. But I think because I got used
to like having cookies and doing ting. Yeah, like having sodas.
I never had sodas. Yeah when I was pregnantoom.
Speaker 2 (42:34):
Yeah. Yeah, And here's a taper. Still lose weight if
you're in a deficit and you're burning more calories than
you are eating, you can still lose weight by eating
things like cookies because you're in a certain deficit. However,
you're not going to get the body composition that you're
looking for. You'll be you'll lose the weight, but then
(42:55):
you'll be like skinny fat because you're not getting the
right nutrients that are going to your muscles and creating. Yeah.
So that's where you want to have proper nutrition. Your
right amount of fibers, your right amount of proteins, Mario
moves beef sticks. Beef sticks, Still eat your cookies, still
do your things you don't want to.
Speaker 1 (43:15):
Like, That's why I'm the pro.
Speaker 2 (43:16):
The worst thing that you can do, I think is
like overwhelming yourself and being like I have to just
eat salads and proteins and we'll die die like that.
Speaker 1 (43:25):
It's not it's not you can freak you out.
Speaker 2 (43:26):
It's going to freak you out and it's going to
put push back on it, or being like I can
have a cheat day, because whatever, you should still be
able to live your life and like life and have
a cookie as long as you're still staying in the
calorie deficit.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
Calorie deficit. Okay, what are you grateful for?
Speaker 2 (43:47):
Beef sticks?
Speaker 1 (43:48):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (43:48):
My god today him, my godson.
Speaker 1 (43:52):
His little lashes are getting long.
Speaker 2 (43:54):
My god's on his foot. He is so terrian.
Speaker 1 (43:58):
I know, he's still like a real foot. He's so cute.
I mean, he's perfect, and I'm sitting here eating a
beefstick like an animal. Calorie deficit. That's what we talked
about today on the podcast Calorie Deficit.
Speaker 2 (44:13):
So Delicious. Yeah, I'm grateful for him today.
Speaker 1 (44:15):
We're grateful for him. Yep.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
Let me know when you're ready to start like doing
some light stuff.
Speaker 1 (44:22):
I think about it. It's just there's I'm so tired.
Speaker 2 (44:25):
I'm you can even we can even like have you
get a band and lay in bed and you can
just do like.
Speaker 1 (44:31):
Oh I have bands.
Speaker 2 (44:33):
Yeah yeah, we can just like start doing stuff like
this or like this. So when I like here, you're
like you're still engaging your core, but we're sitting. There's
some like seated stuff you can do just to get
things fired up ready prepared. So in like a month
from now, you're like when you start moving and you're
not gonna go, oh my god, everything's hurts so bad.
(44:56):
Or I love Yeah, sored's great.
Speaker 1 (44:59):
I love being sore.
Speaker 2 (45:00):
Lactic acid.
Speaker 1 (45:01):
Get out bro lactic acid? You want it? Gone right?
That's not good?
Speaker 2 (45:07):
Well that's what that's what that that's sore. That's soreness.
So like that. Lactic acid is a pump when you're like,
oh god, and then you're like sore.
Speaker 1 (45:16):
It does it, It moves around, it gets like this
and then it and then it hardens back up.
Speaker 2 (45:24):
That's lactic acid.
Speaker 1 (45:27):
Who am I? Who am I M lactic acid?
Speaker 2 (45:33):
I can't wait to like talk to like, so I'm
gonna bring my anatomy booking next time.
Speaker 1 (45:38):
Yes, yes, all right, well okay, thank you guys for
tuning in. I mean, no, I I got a whole
bunch of.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
Got more.
Speaker 1 (45:55):
No I can't, No I got it. Well, I'm like here,
you're like, no I, no I. I I wanted to
talk about products this this episode, but.
Speaker 2 (46:12):
Next one we're doing our beauty podcast.
Speaker 1 (46:14):
No we're not. We're a comedy podcast.
Speaker 2 (46:23):
Now we're like bipolar.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
No we're not. We're a comedy podcast. Feature that from
two Beauty.
Speaker 2 (46:31):
You heard it here first, folks.
Speaker 1 (46:34):
It's a beauty and comedy.
Speaker 2 (46:35):
It's all, it's all of it.
Speaker 1 (46:36):
What can it be?
Speaker 2 (46:38):
They? We dive into everything.
Speaker 1 (46:41):
We touch up all aspects of your life, the touch.
Speaker 2 (46:44):
We talk about, touching up every aspect of your life,
being a mom, being a single, stress, fitness, beauty.
Speaker 1 (46:57):
Close, all of its, all of it.
Speaker 2 (47:03):
What else that's.
Speaker 1 (47:05):
Right now? We're touching on, touching up, on ending. Okay,
we'll see you later, okay, ye, all right, see you later.
Bye bye. One more thing? Oh wait, okay, bye love
you bye bye bye
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Are You A Charlotte?
In 1997, actress Kristin Davis’ life was forever changed when she took on the role of Charlotte York in Sex and the City. As we watched Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte navigate relationships in NYC, the show helped push once unacceptable conversation topics out of the shadows and altered the narrative around women and sex. We all saw ourselves in them as they searched for fulfillment in life, sex and friendships. Now, Kristin Davis wants to connect with you, the fans, and share untold stories and all the behind the scenes. Together, with Kristin and special guests, what will begin with Sex and the City will evolve into talks about themes that are still so relevant today. "Are you a Charlotte?" is much more than just rewatching this beloved show, it brings the past and the present together as we talk with heart, humor and of course some optimism.
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