BMMS 12-8-25

Wecome Back From The Weekend!!! We Talk About The Best & Worst Parts, We've Aged And It Shows, Watch Out For That Egret, Watch What You Send To The Bank Teller, Waking Up In The Morgue, We Talk To An Awesome Listener, Jeff Hensley Stops By, & Horrivle Foster Parents!!!

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Speaker 1 (00:03):
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(03:19):
Worst of the weekend. What's the best thing that happened
to you this weekend and the worst thing that happened
to you this weekend? Bmms and whatever that is to
eight two nine, four five Best and worst of the
weekend is coming up here in a little bit. We're
gonna talk with one of our listeners because they're awesome.
We love hearing from our listeners and their stories, and
everybody's got a story, man, and we're gonna do another

(03:40):
one of those. Coming up here in a little bit.
Jeff Finsley's gonna join us from Hensley and Associates. Hey,
you got a question about divorce, custody, guardianship, name change,
adult adoption. Maybe you'd like to give your step dad
the gift of adoption.

Speaker 5 (03:56):
I don't even know the right wording on.

Speaker 2 (03:58):
That, Like you want to adopted your stepdad? No? No,
Like you know how when people like when they're older
and like, I want to make you my dad? Yeah, yeah, yeah,
you've been my only dad I've ever known. Uh huh right,
Like that would have been something you could have done
with your dad? Yeah, I guess because he wasn't he

(04:19):
was your dad, yeah, but he was not your dad.
He didn't have any legal responsibility. He was the proverbial
father figure in my life. But I mean, I guess
the child who who goes first on that line right there?
Does the child go up to the to the to
the dad in this case and be like, hey, I

(04:41):
would want to be officially be your your child, have
your last name? Or does the dad go up to
the child and be like, hey, tell me what you
think about this? I don't know, but I know a
guy we can ask in about a couple hours. Did
I would I mean, I think typically the kid sets
everything up and then has the dad or mom sign it.
Uh huh, uh huh. It'd be kind of I guess

(05:03):
it'd be kind of. I don't know if it would
be weird or not. If the dad came up and
was like, Hey, you know, i've been in your life
for X amount of years, I would like to make
you my child, to give you my last name. What
do you think about that? Yeah, I think that's endearing
it And it doesn't guarantee you get the last name. Okay,
as you're an adult. Okay, well he as an adult,

(05:23):
but as a minor, you would, wouldn't you. I don't
think so. I think you have to go through a
legal name change. Really, see, I don't know. The only
experience that I have with adoption is my little brother,
and he was he was originally my cousin, right, and
then my folks adopted him and he took my stepdad's
last name. But we adopted him as a baby, like

(05:46):
you know, straight out there here you go. So I
figured that's just kind of how it always was. But
I guess if you have an option, but if you
if if let's just say you, uh, let's say you
got your your real dad's last name, right, and then
your stepdad's like, I want to adopt you. Is that
kind of like a backhanded dick move to be like,

(06:06):
I just want to keep I'm gonna keep my my
original last name. Sorry. I know you love me so
much you want me to be a part of your
life and take your last But I'm good where i'm at.
I like my last name.

Speaker 5 (06:15):
I don't think so.

Speaker 2 (06:17):
I think if you're an adult, like a lot of
things are established as an adult.

Speaker 6 (06:21):
As an adult, but as I think, if you're a minor,
you do take the person that's adopting you. I think
you take their last name.

Speaker 2 (06:27):
Now, that may be a part of the paperwork, right
that it's included, but I think you still have to
do the motion for that. I don't know what Jeff
and I was thinking that by doing that, you create
a weird scenario of hey, like you said, my name change.

Speaker 5 (06:48):
I like you, I don't like you that much, right, right, but.

Speaker 2 (06:51):
It could create a ten it's got to be like
you got to be older. I think, what do you
mean to be older to? I think you got to
do that conversation to pull that trigger. I think, Okay, yeah,
maybe I don't know. That's a dynamic. I you know,
I can't relate to or understand as having a stepparent. Yeah, well,
I mean I'll know all about stepparents. The adoption not
so much. Sure. Uh. And you know I was thinking

(07:13):
too because you said, oh, they you know your brother
and they just took the name. Maybe they did the
right paperwork. I don't know. But there's a lot of
times you can just do it and nobody says anything, right, right.
I think if you're doing it as a small child,
the child doesn't have a say in it. They can't
say anything, so it's like you're taking my last name,
whether you like it or not. But as an adult

(07:36):
or even an older child, the child could be like, no,
I'll let you adopt me. That's cool, make it all legal,
I'm yours. You get to make medical decisions and all
that stuff. But I kind of like the last name Smith, right,
I'm kind of liking. But again, if you've lived any
part of your life, I could see why someone be like,
I don't want to everybody knows me as gimpy, Yeah, exactly,
why do I want to change that? And we know

(07:57):
there are plenty of people that you know, took her
sister's kid and then never did it formally, right, they
just started raising them. Yeah, kind of like a common
law marriage, but it's a common law adoption. Yeah, and
they just gave them their last name. We're like, you're
Timmy Smith now, yeah, which I don't know, is it
is that legal?

Speaker 7 (08:17):
No?

Speaker 2 (08:18):
I mean no, yeah, no, I mean we used to
not care, right, We used to not like, as long
as you're going to school, good, right, right, exactly right.
Used to be a time where you could sell your
baby for fifty bucks to somebody in a grocery store
parking lot and that be it. I don't know of
those times, but I'll believe you I've never tested that
theory or have been uh connected to anybody that's tested

(08:40):
that theory. I've heard stories on television and in movies.
I mean, we've definitely read stories about somebody doing for meth. Yeah, yeah, right,
your life is worth a quarterback of meth. I can't
imagine you're a drug dealer. I just think of like
minister society or whatever, Like you're a drug dealer and
somebody wants their their stash or whatever, and they're like,

(09:02):
i'll give.

Speaker 5 (09:03):
You my kid, and the dealer's like, well, how old right, Like.

Speaker 2 (09:08):
What I mean that? Yeah, it depends. It depends on
the situation. I get where you're at, where you're like, Ah,
I'm just a drug dealer trying to, you know, hustle
the streets. I ain't got time to be raising no baby.
You know, I ain't looking to have a family. However,
as a business man, that's another employee coming up, come out.

(09:30):
You know, you could teach him and I'll be like,
this is the family business offer reads. Yeah, I think
it's a little hard to teach the streets. Maybe, I
don't know. I think you have to grow up in
the streets. You can identify those people that didn't grow
up the streets pretty quick. Oh yeah, so I also
grew up in the cozy little household. But I would
think taking a kid somebody that isn't your kid puts

(09:52):
you on the radar. Any interaction with DHS and like
puts you on the radar. If the there's any interaction
with DHS takes one nosy parent. If it's all done
under the table right, nobody knows anything, then DHS there's
no need for DHS to get involved. You're never gonna
take your kid to the doctor. What are you gonna

(10:14):
do if you get in a car accident? Wait, take
them to the vet like they normally do, you know,
the underground the underground doctor that does stuff on the side,
you know, so you don't have to go to the
hospital or the urgent care. You just go see doctor
Nick who operates you know, on the side outside of
his veterinary clinic, and he gets you taken care of. Now.

(10:36):
I know in movies, we've seen that happen in TV shows,
and I believe there is some sort of scenario where
that exists, or doctors that do side projects, right, side quests,
specifically ones that have gambling habits, that take a front.

Speaker 5 (10:51):
You know, for whatever, and then they're.

Speaker 2 (10:53):
Out whatever, right right. But I feel like when children
are involved, there's ah, I want to say this is
it's gonna be dumb the moment it comes out of
my mouth.

Speaker 5 (11:02):
There's like some morality involved with children.

Speaker 2 (11:05):
Ah No, I don't think so.

Speaker 6 (11:10):
If you're taking a child from someone you don't know,
and a child you don't know, you don't have morals.

Speaker 2 (11:15):
And the doctor who is doing side quests because he's
got a gambling problem there's no morals there either. You're like, Okay, listen,
I'm in it. I'm in it, so I'm gonna treat whoever.
I don't agree with that just because you are. Maybe
you've got a gambling problem or whatever. You don't just
then suddenly give up your hippocratic oath. There you do.

(11:38):
You gave that up the moment you started working out
of the back of your car.

Speaker 8 (11:43):
Uh.

Speaker 2 (11:45):
I still think you're trying to give good quality healthcare? No, no, no,
there's no good quality quote unquote. You're here to save
a life. You gotta pull a bullet out of Tommy
two steaks. Oh, also, you have to, you know, make
sure is his his newly adopted son that was given
to him for a quarterback of meth doesn't get cholera

(12:06):
or whatever. Yeah. Again, I think if you are mafia
doctor or drug dealer doctor, I'm gonna strongly disagree that
that doctor still wants to be a really good doctor.
I don't think. I don't Why would you not want
to be that and take a chance of getting popped
in the back of the head because you were like, well,
I huh, can't do nothing here, boss. Oh you know

(12:28):
you you you do the bare minimum. You do the
you save their life, and now you go on about
your business. They're not worried about bedside manor or follow
up you know, appointments. I gotta see you back on
Tuesday here in the alley, right right. They're gonna give
you a prescription of horse tranquilizer because that's what they got,

(12:51):
is their vets or whatever, you know, and then send
them on about your way quality service. When it comes
to mafia docks, get out of here. Yeah, of course,
I don't know. I've never been in the mafia, never
had to deal with them. Don't really want to. Never
dealt with a off the grid doctor. No, no, no,
no no, I barely deal with on the grid doctors.

Speaker 1 (13:11):
Go on.

Speaker 5 (13:13):
You can just say, don't.

Speaker 7 (13:16):
I do.

Speaker 2 (13:18):
Barely? But I do.

Speaker 6 (13:21):
He has more frequently as he's got.

Speaker 2 (13:23):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah. See. I know you
are not getting this badge, You are not getting this credit.

Speaker 1 (13:30):
Why not?

Speaker 2 (13:31):
Because you get one colonoscopy and you decide, hey, you
you just no doctor tells you, You decide you might
have liver problems, You decide you don't go seek medical.
You you decide hold on.

Speaker 5 (13:44):
You decided on your own and only when.

Speaker 2 (13:47):
You go to a doctor you go, oh, and they
tell you it's all good. You're like yeack bye, and
then you check out completely again. No, that's why I
am having to take two different kinds of cholesterol, Medice
said every goddamn day. If I didn't care, I wouldn't
be taking those, you know.

Speaker 5 (14:07):
So, yes, you in the past, not so much. But
I'm still giving your credit because.

Speaker 2 (14:13):
When you told me about that, you went you grudgingly,
were against it, and you were even contemplating getting the
prescription filed. Absolutely, but I did it, and I even
got my second one. But you hardly get a pat
on the bag, like you're suddenly the doctor got I
should get some kind of something. No, you can't just

(14:33):
leave it in the dark. At least, you know there's
that phrase something's better than nothing. No, right, I'm not
believing that. Okay, maybe if you're a child, you know,
here's your gold star for trying. So how is your
cholesterol now? I haven't been back. They haven't said hey,
come back and let's teck this. You know, so when

(14:54):
I go next year, you go next year for the chicken.
Oh yeah, I'll go in next year. You'd start getting
yearly checkups because that's uh, you know, as I said,
as I've gotten older, things things need to be changing.
You got a couple of grandkids you know that i'd
like to stay a live for, and some kids that
don't have kids yet that I kind of liked, you know,
see half kids. Sure, you know, it's just one of
those things. Yeah, I'll it's it's it's it's a process,

(15:16):
but I'm working it. Do you know your cholesterol number? Lindsay,
I don't. When was the last time you had attested
This is, by the way, Riveting Morning show radio.

Speaker 6 (15:26):
Probably it's been at least fourteen weeks.

Speaker 2 (15:30):
Fourteen weeks since you had called on, since you had
your cholesterol. Yeah, so then you you could know it.

Speaker 6 (15:37):
Yeah, if you don't remember what normal, I know I
remember it being normal.

Speaker 5 (15:40):
Listen, mine's on the high end, but it's still normal.

Speaker 2 (15:42):
Right right right. They just told me a little high.
I need to lay off the cheeses, which is disappointing
because cheese is man, that's your right. Well, do you
know your number?

Speaker 5 (15:54):
Do you know what the number was?

Speaker 2 (15:55):
Oh? I have no idea. They didn't share the number
with me. They're just like listen, it's a little high.
We're going at you a couple of prescriptions. I'm like
a couple. Uh so, I'm like, okay, whatever you gotta do.
So they just like you need to eat more leafy greens,
do a little bit more than just walking around, you know,
the neighborhood. And then they take these medicine daily daily.

(16:18):
Do you ever forget to do it a lot? Yeah?
Me too, I do. That's I'm the worst when it
comes to, you know, prescriptions like that. If it's a
painkiller because I broke my leg slipping on the smallest
patch of ice in the parking lot, not a problem
because my leg reminds me, hey, you hurt. You know,
my cholesterol is not reminding me like I'm higher than
you are right now. This show is so stupid. God,

(16:40):
I've been doing this show a long time, approaching twenty years.
The scale of things that we have talked about used
to be that first segment. I was like, oh now,
I'm like, what medical problem? My path? That's me? Because
kids were loud last night, actually with a Planter report.

(17:04):
Right now, let me tell you about the deal I
got on a hearing age the evolution.

Speaker 6 (17:11):
Man.

Speaker 2 (17:12):
Listen, I grow up. I don't well, I age, I
don't know what you don't want to hear? All right, listen,
we got to take a break. We got tickets to
the Cowboy Cup. We're gonna get a giveaway. We got
best and worst of the weekend, which is I want
to hear from you. What's the best thing that happened
to you this weekend and the worst thing that happened
to you this weekend. We'll do that coming up here
on the shows. Do our news quakies. It's time for

(17:36):
news quakies. World news, local news and news that just
makes you say, what the Here's Corbyn, Gimbi and Lindsay
with what's going on news quakies from the Big Mad
Morning Showing ninety five.

Speaker 6 (17:48):
SeaWorld claims woman hit by wild egret not duck, seeks
lawsuit dismissal. So this happened in Orlando, Florida at SeaWorld
and Hillary Martin was on the Makeo roller coaster on
March twenty fourth a SeaWorld, and she sued is trying

(18:08):
to sue SeaWorld. She filed lawsuit on October twenty seventh,
claiming a duck knocked her unconscious and caused permanent injuries,
but the park contends it cannot be held illegally responsible
for a wild animal's actions since the egret is a

(18:29):
wild migratory bird. SeaWorld also stated that miss Hillary Martin
refused medical transport because she wanted to keep going in
the park and did not want to be held up
any longer.

Speaker 2 (18:43):
Yeah, huh, you know much, SeaWorld t gutarian.

Speaker 6 (18:46):
She didn't actually seek medical treatment until the following day.
The company disputed Martin's claim that SeaWorld created a zone
of risk by placing a high speed coaster near water.
Now both parties are due in court today for their
scheduled hearing.

Speaker 2 (19:06):
I think she's got a case. I don't know if
she's gonna win, but I think she's got a case,
and her denying medical treatment at the scene hardly designates
she had a problem. Some people with car accidents say hey,
there's nothing, and then the next day they're like, oh
my gosh, right right right, So I don't see that
as a big thing. It's funny, but I don't see

(19:27):
that as a big thing. I don't know. I don't
know how you're gonna How did they determine it was
an egret and not a duck.

Speaker 6 (19:33):
Either way, both wild animals. They can't how can they
be held responsible for an animal a wild animal out
in the open.

Speaker 2 (19:45):
Yeah, I don't know what the requirements are to have
a roller coaster. Maybe you have to do like at airports,
they do things to keep birds away, right, So I
don't know if that same thing exists in a roller coaster.
What do you mean, I just wanted to little theme park.
What do you mean I gotta keep birds away?

Speaker 1 (20:02):
Right?

Speaker 2 (20:02):
So I don't know.

Speaker 5 (20:03):
Maybe that's the thing.

Speaker 6 (20:04):
Yeah, they're saying that the event could have occurred regardless
of the presence of anybody of water within the park
and still would not have been to Sea World's legal responsibility.

Speaker 2 (20:16):
I've seen videos of this happening where people on roller
coasters and get hit by a bird. I don't know
how common it is, but it's common enough for it
to make its rounds on social media. Sure I've been
hit by a bird ride my bike. Sure, Yeah, yeah,
it happens. It happens sometimes. Birds they fly and they
don't care. They don't care about you or who you
are or where you're going. They just mine in their

(20:36):
own business. Happen away. The only thing I can think
again is if there is some responsibility on the park's
part to keep birds away and they didn't do that right.
That's the only thing that I can think where she
has a chance to win and she definitely has a
right to go to court and say they didn't do
that right. Or if the park purchased let's just say
docs or egrets in this case as like you know,

(20:57):
props park pep, Yeah, props whatever, and these are the
parks animals, then then they would have some kind of responsibility.
But just some rando noop man arrested after accidentally sending
meth through the bank tube comes out of Ohio where
a guy he's forty six, his name's Jason Smith, and

(21:17):
he just went to the bank to do bank things,
and I guess he pulled everything out of his pocket
and he put it all in the tube and then
sent it to the tailer. There it goes. So the
tailer's like, okay, mister Smith, I'll be with you in
just a moment, and then like find this little plastic
bag that's got a crystalize substance in it. They're like, oh,
holy cow. So of course, the the narks of the

(21:40):
bank tellers called police, gave him back his deposit slip
and all that stuff, and then called the police and we're like, hey,
this guy just came in and we found this bag
of dope, and so they came down. They tested it,
and of course it was myth and so they tracked
down this Jason Feller. They found him, pulled him over,

(22:00):
dog ran through his truck. Of course, they found more
drugs and paraphernalia, and they went ahead and took him in.
They didn't say what the charges are yet, but I'm
imagining it's going to be at least possession of paraphernalia
and possession of whatever math and whatever else he had
on him. So he didn't even try to get it back.
He just was like a dirt and dirt. Yeah, would you,

(22:22):
I mean, excuse me, I forgot to put some in
that tube. Send it back, Send it on back with
everything I gave to you. No, no, sir, I'll just
take the deposits up sound and I'll send it back
and you can. Uh No, that's okay. Uh, I've changed
my mind. I wanted to go do a deposit somewhere
else right eight right? Yeah? That what is the fa

(22:45):
fa fo man. Right. I've had something similar to that
happened to me before. I'd be at the quick trip
digging for you know, money or whatever, and my bag
of weed fall out onto the onto the floor, and
you're like, oh, I don't feel like that's the same.
But no it's not, because it's not med. I feel

(23:05):
like that's a phrase. I hope I get to say
a lot. No, it's not meth. Absolutely. Mom pronounced dead
suddenly wakes up in morgue. Then English mother who was
pronounced dead after suffering a seizure suddenly woke up while
in the morgue without any medical care.

Speaker 5 (23:24):
Olivia, I'm done yet.

Speaker 2 (23:26):
Martin reportedly collapsed at her home in October and was
declared dead by paramedics after suffering the medical emergency. According
to a coroner's court hearing that took place recently, she
was transported to the hospital mortuary, at which point staffers
noticed signs of life prior to suddenly waking up, before
ultimately dining sometime later due to brain damage. The difficulty

(23:50):
we face is that we don't know how long she
was there. According to people with the hospital, we don't
know how long she had been without oxygen to her
brain at that point. I'm just assuming when someone has
a seizure you check. Do you check the heartbeat multiple
times or is just a one You would imagine it'd
be multiple times, not only just a heartbeat, a pulse.

(24:12):
Maybe even you could go so far as to holding
a mirror under their nose. And it don't stop breathing
just because you have a seizure. Well, and if you
deal with these type of bodies, you know that distinct
temperature they are right, it is undeniable. So it's shocking

(24:33):
to me that they weren't like, well, this one feels
a little bit warm than the others. The attorney for
the family says that she received no treatment at all
and that the outcome could have been different if a
doctor had been called within the crucial two hour window quote,
if all of had been treated in the way she

(24:53):
should have and taken to the hospital, would the outcome
have been different. There is a credible argument to say
there was a window of opera unity where Olive received
no treatment at all, and it was clear that there
was a real and immediate risk to her life and
it was in the hands of the paramedics, police investigation
into her death took place and resulted in no criminal

(25:14):
charges being filed against anybody. Two things, was this here
in the States? No? Okay, that makes sense England, right.
Second thing is it takes about twelve hours after a
body dies for it to feel cold to the touch.
It says that it drops about a degree to a
degree and a half per hour, but around twelve hours

(25:36):
to feel cool to the touch and up to twenty
four hours for the core to fully cool. So I
have been not to be graphic, but I got to
counter the statement you're making. I've been, unfortunately around two
people that passed in my presence, well three, but two
people that passed within my presence, and I got to
kiss them goodbye on their forehead, and each time it

(25:58):
was noticeable how their temperature was interesting. Yeah, I don't
know if they're using their lips or their hand or
a thermometer to test the temperature when it comes to
dead bodies, but you may have a point there. And
this was before I was a parent, right, So like
I can give my girls a kiss on their fore
and be like you have a fever. R. Yeah, I
won't know the temperature, but I know it isn't that's
not their normal. You're running too hot? Yes, yeah, so

(26:21):
that's I'm just going off my experience. Yeah, but I
would feel like people in the you know, the mortuary
deal with it all the time. They should be able
to they can tell the difference immediately, right, just like
people that wor can paint or construction or whatever they can.

Speaker 5 (26:36):
They can eye something before anybody else.

Speaker 2 (26:38):
Maybe it's just a bunch of newbies all the way around,
volunteer work, right, who goes? I want to be the
best mortuary doctor ever. Right, all right, we got to
take a break and we'll be back.

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Speaker 5 (27:07):
Good luck, Good morning, Gimpie, Well, good morning Corbin.

Speaker 3 (27:11):
Hey.

Speaker 2 (27:11):
I want to be out at the Cowboy Cup this
weekend Friday and Saturday all weekend long, so make sure
you swing by and say hi. It is Oklahoma's premier
Kenemis Championship. And if you can't win tickets through US,
you can always get him a Cowboy Cup dot com.
All right. Time for best and Worst of the weekend.
What's the best thing that happened this weekend? And the
worst thing that happened this weekend? Bmms and whatever that is?
To eight two nine four five? What's the best and

(27:32):
what's the worst? Bmms and whatever that is? To eight
two nine four five, lindsay what's the best and what's
the worst?

Speaker 6 (27:39):
Uh, just when I thought I was running out of
recipe ideas for venison, I made the absolute best batch
of barbercoa Tacos venison.

Speaker 2 (27:51):
It was.

Speaker 6 (27:52):
They were slamming in the instapot for three hours and
they were in That was the best that they were
in there for three hours, because the worst was sitting
in the cold for two hours. Yesterday at Tiger Memorial
Stadium for the By Broken Arrow. I had so many

(28:13):
by Broken Arrow tickets, and you had that when you
shop local, you get tickets throughout the month and they
on December seventh, they give away they draw for two
thousand and three thousand and ten thousand dollars to Broken
Arrow residents and if you happen to have those tickets.

(28:34):
And this year they had done something different where you
had to be present to win, right.

Speaker 2 (28:39):
Because I think in the years past they did like
it was on their Facebook page or things like that.

Speaker 6 (28:43):
Yeah yeah, yeah, or they would announce them on air whatever.
And this was it was cold.

Speaker 4 (28:52):
And.

Speaker 6 (28:54):
Everyone that won was there. They were definitely present, which
was awesome. But the ten thousand dollars Winter just didn't
even see me because I was like, man, if I
was winning ten thousand dollars, I'd be running out on
that field.

Speaker 2 (29:07):
I would be so excited, I believe you.

Speaker 6 (29:10):
And then even worse than the two hours, it was
sitting in the parking lot for another forty minutes, just
waiting to get out of the parking lot at a standstill.

Speaker 2 (29:22):
That's why I hate those types of things. It's not
really the event, it's the leaving.

Speaker 6 (29:26):
Yes, it was the leaving.

Speaker 2 (29:28):
It's awful. So you didn't win anything, nope, No, but
I uh.

Speaker 6 (29:33):
Two of the tickets that were pulled were pulled from
stores that I shopped at, which was awesome. So I
was like, all right, cool, could have been me?

Speaker 2 (29:41):
So cool?

Speaker 6 (29:42):
I know, I know, I know that was the worst.

Speaker 2 (29:46):
What seasoning do you put in your tacos that you
think made it so good?

Speaker 6 (29:52):
Well, just when I thought I had overdone it because
I used a lot of cooman and but they were delicious.

Speaker 2 (30:01):
It's kumen.

Speaker 6 (30:02):
I used Mexican oregano, the adobo peppers, and I used
three cans instead of two like I normally do.

Speaker 3 (30:12):
But I used a little bit more meat than.

Speaker 6 (30:14):
Time and lemon juice use an extra lemon or excuse me,
lime juice, and I used an extra lime and beef
and I was running out of beef, so I used
a little bit of chicken broth as well. And it
just an apple cider vinegar.

Speaker 2 (30:35):
It was just on.

Speaker 6 (30:36):
Yeah, it was really good. And I thought to myself,
I was like, the only thing I wish I would
have added was a little bit maybe of doctor pepper.
I don't know why, but I've heard people use doctor
pepper in theirs, so maybe next time I'll try that.

Speaker 2 (30:49):
But they were so good. Anytime I hear people talk
about lemons, I just go, they're not real. No, when
life gives you lemons, life didn't give you lemons, No
man did, right, man gave you limits yeah, best and
worst of the weekend. What's the best thing that happened
this weekend and the worst thing that happened this weekend.
Gimme what's the best and what's the worst. I guess
Saturday probably would have been the best. So I had

(31:10):
a couple of people and my brother and his son,
so my nephew, and then my buddy doodoo Head that
I played video games with. They all came over. We
watched the games on Saturday. We watched Georgia run over
and Alabama, which is fantastic. My brother's a huge Alabama fan, right,
so it was great. He's just sitting over there, silent,

(31:30):
talking all this trash all week long, right, And I
was like, I saw the room's over there kind of
quiet tonight, and so that was awesome. And then so
so that game ended, and uh, dude, who stuck around
for a little bit to watch the watch the Indiana
Ohio game? Oh awesome, Right, that was a great game
as well. And while that was going up, put the

(31:52):
Christmas tree up. So it was just a good, awesome
Saturday of football and holiday stuff. And then I guess
the worst part of the weekend is now that I
got my tree up. This goddamn cat of mine won't
stay out of it, pissing me off right, breaking branches
on it, like climbing in the tree, not just you know,
jiggling the balls that are hanging low right now, some

(32:17):
bitches in it, Like I'll look over and they're staring
at me at the top of the tree, and I'm like, so,
I'm like, okay, Well, do I take the tree down
and then just go tree liss throughout the season, or
do I put the cat up in a room and
just be like, this is your room until Christmas is

(32:38):
over and then you can come out. Or do I
just deal with it and keep shooting that cat out
of the tree every five minutes. I haven't figured out what.
I'm like. Good, well, doors get accidentally left open all
the time.

Speaker 6 (32:49):
I know, right, you could spray the tree with either
white or apple cider vinegar, because cats tend not to
like that scent.

Speaker 2 (32:58):
Well, then my house is gonna smell like a douche.
It already does you. You walked right into that. It
already does, especially with two you told me was there
right right? Less more vinegar? Best and worst of the weekend?
What's the best thing that happened this weekend and the
worst thing that happened this weekend BMMS and whatever that

(33:19):
is to eight two, nine four five worst of the weekend.
My daughter wanted to go on a Daddy Donner day.
I was like, sure, where do you want to go?
Which one the youngest? Where do you want to go? Dave?
And busters a sure, yeah, We'll absolutely go there. Driving

(33:40):
down the road I always drive down, and I look
to my left and there is a Sheriff's deputy and
it's thirty five miles per hour and I'm going fifty two.
Oh my goodness, settled down, just saying you saying, oh
my goodness on speed. Yeah. I know it doesn't mean dick,

(34:03):
but I'm just saying when you put the numbers out
there like that, it's like, oh my goodness. I was
going with traffic. Nonetheless, Uh yeah, I knew he was
approaching and pulling me over. And he pulled me over,
license registration, all that good stuff, asked me all the questions,
you know, hey, do you know why I pulled you over? Oh? No, oh,

(34:30):
I'm not surprised to see you. Actually, anyway, does all
that goes back to his car? My daughter, did you
were you speeding, dad? Yes? Why I guess I was
excited to get to David Busters. You shouldn't be speeding, Yes,
I know. Wait till mom hears this. Your Mom's he's

(34:54):
way more than I do, more tickets than I do, and.

Speaker 5 (34:59):
Ke it's a long time. My daughter goes, this is boring.

Speaker 2 (35:02):
Yes, it is. We will tell him that when he returns.
And then the best part of the weekend is he
gave me a warning. Yes, yes, And then driving to
Dave and Busters, my daughter goes, are you speeding? No?

Speaker 5 (35:19):
I mean yes, why you he told you not to?

Speaker 2 (35:25):
Yeah, that's true. Okay, we'll go sixty five zerus z.
Other worse to getting scolded by an eight year old
you know, yeah, right, it's all good, get her trained early, right,
But that officer did not have to give me a warning. No,
So I was very grateful that. I I'm also like, eh,

(35:48):
I speed a lot. I got caught, okay, yeah. I
think of all the times that you got away with it, right, Yes,
you got confass time. Yes. Best and worst of the weekend.
What's the best thing that happened this weekend and the
worst thing that happened this weekend? Best thing is that
I beat my best friend in fantasy football and it
was a win to make the playoffs or a loss
and not make it. Worst thing is Alabama made college

(36:11):
football playoff despite being a three loss team. Another one
best had Chili had a chill weekend hanging with friends
and ding it with a nice movie night to ease
my son's anxiety about his appointment Today. Worst, my nine
year old is having double root canal on his top
front two teeth today. Last week, his friend kicked the

(36:32):
back of his leg too hard while playing, causing my
son to faceplant on the tile floor, breaking his two
front teeth in half. He has exposed nerves in both teeth.
Do you know how hard it is to find it
in a tooth doctor that will do pediatric root canals?
I mean, I can't be a complete abnomally I would

(36:54):
think there are doctors that do that right right. Best
Travis Kelcey could not catch at ball, Taylor Swift curse. Worse, Okay,
worse Oklahoma Sooners drew Alabama again. Best of the weekend
getting new ultrasound pictures of my new baby girl. Worst
of the weekend having to buy four new tires. Oh,

(37:15):
it's the Tires. Congratulations, Best and worst of my weekend.
Best went to TSO yesterday. Worst my wife's crappy attitude
made an appearance. Maybe don't take her to TSO. I
don't know who gets in a bad mood at Trans
Siberian Orchestra, Right, that's a good question. I mean, it's

(37:38):
not my bag, but you would leave going. But that
was fun? Yeah, I bet you. They was probably upset
at each other before the concert even happened. Probably there. Best.
I finally went on a first date with a woman
that I've had a connection with for over fifteen years,
but our relationship circumstances prevented anything from happening until now.
Turns out she felt the same way the entire higher time.

(38:00):
And of course we went to Andelini's Worst Thing. None congratulations,
bestros Packers went against the Bears. Also went to my
husband's company party and won a TV and some grilling stuff.
Worst was husband leaving yesterday to go back on the road.
Best had drilled this weekend and belted up in the
martial arts program.

Speaker 5 (38:21):
Worst dragging ass heading back to work this morning.

Speaker 2 (38:24):
Coffee assistant please. Best went to Hot Springs to see
Steve O. Worst weekend over and back to reality. Must
be a big Stevo fan. Best of the weekend, Both
my girls won basketball games. Worst of the weekend. All
four of my tires are off my car to be
replaced today. Do you know the guy that he's got

(38:47):
some All right? Corbyn daughter acting like a narcissist. Kids
are very humbling. I don't know if it's a narcissist.
She wasn't doing it for her. Oh he he nark
auto filled for him. Oh yeah, you write narcissist the
latter hilarious. All right, we got to take a break.

(39:09):
We got tickets to the Cowboy Cup we're gonna give away.
And see what Gimpi has in his four x four.
Hope is here that Tom Cotton defends heg sith Amid
to the Voat strike controversy. Now during an interview, Old
Senator Tom Cotton of Arkansas said everyone on the boats
are all valid targets. Meg Seth has also come out

(39:31):
recently to defend the strikes. President Trump's war secretary gave
a speech Saturday in an event in California and claimed
the eighty people who have been killed in these strikes
since September were considered terrorists and that the President can
take a military action as he sees fits. It says
here that ACA votes expected this week. This week is

(39:56):
pivotal in the fights over the Affordable Care ACTACK credits.
The government shut down ended after Senator Senate Majority Leader
John Thum promised a group of Democrats a vote on
the issue. Now, Republicans admit that they've been struggling to
craft legislation that would get enough votes to fix the
core issues of rising costs. Meanwhile, Senate Majority Leader Chuck

(40:20):
Schumer will propose extending ACA subsidies for three years, with
a vote in the Senate expected on Thursday. It's unlikely
Schumer's proposal will get enough Republican sports. The Obama Care
subsidies are due to expire at the end of the year,
and the Trump administration is looking to head off a
spike in premium. That says here that Bethlehem Christmas tree

(40:44):
lighting is the first since the start of the Gozl War.
Officials lit the tree, the gigantic traditional Christmas tree in
front of the historic Nativity Church in Manger Square on
Saturday after a recent ceasefire. Holy City said that this
year's festivities would return. Other neighboring towns in Israel are

(41:07):
also planning to light Christmas trees in the next few days,
and then lastly here Eastern red cedars are contributing to
the spread of the lone star tick in Oklahoma. These
ticks have the potential to spread certain diseases which pose
a range of problems for human, wildlife and livestock health. Specifically,

(41:29):
this tick carries the alpha gal syndrome, which can cause
people to develop a red meat allergy that sucks. Eastern
red cedars, which are native to more rocky areas in
eastern Oklahoma, have a negative impact on water sources, livestock productivity,
and rangeland quality. These trees use a large amount of

(41:50):
water and are highly flammable. Lone star ticks tend to
prefer living in the areas with these trees due to
the amount of moisture retained. Lone star tics prefer large
amounts of humidity and consurvived.

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Speaker 2 (42:24):
Good luck, Good morning Gimpie, Well, good morning Corbin. So
I don't know if you know from not a little
thing going on this week and called the Cowboy Cup.
It's at the Exchange Center over at the Expo Square.
Now I'm gonna be there all weekend. I think Friday,
I want to be there from like noonding on like
five o'clock in the evening, and then Saturday I'll be
there starting at ten in the morning to about three
in the afternoon. You got plenty of time to go

(42:47):
my say hi, you know, get your tickets at Cowboy
Cup dot com. Come see me this weekend. All right,
time for our listeners are awesome. This is where we
talk to a listener and they share part of their
life with us. And it looks like we're set up
right now with Brian is on. Hi Brian, how are you? Hi?

Speaker 7 (43:05):
I'm good.

Speaker 2 (43:06):
It's nice to talk to you. It says you're married.
You got married two years ago. How did you meet
your husband?

Speaker 7 (43:15):
I met on Facebook dating? Oh, I had tried other
dating apps, but it just didn't work out for me,
and I thought, I'm gonna give this a shot, and
sure enough met the love of my life.

Speaker 2 (43:26):
How many times on the Facebook dating app did you
have to how many rounds do you have to do
before you found this man?

Speaker 7 (43:33):
Well, I just I had a lot of you know,
men reach out to me. But he just seemed like
he was fun. He just looked fun and he seemed interesting.
So I went on a date with him and it
just stuck and we've been together ever since.

Speaker 5 (43:47):
What's your worst online dating story?

Speaker 7 (43:52):
Oh goodness, I'd have to say I met a guy
and went and for one I got catfished. He was
very overweight, and I'm just I don't know. He just
was kind of weird and awkward, and I had Oklahoma City.
I went to Oklahoma City with him and it just didn't.

(44:13):
I don't know, it just didn't. He kind of creeped
me out, almost gave me like, you know, pedophile vines.
I was like, I can't do this, but that had to.

Speaker 2 (44:20):
Be the worst. You went on to date with a
guy to Oklahoma City? Yes, locked in a car?

Speaker 7 (44:29):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (44:30):
What was the plan?

Speaker 7 (44:33):
I don't know I was. I mean, I can't say that.
I I wasn't even old enough really to be dating
at the time. I think I was like sixteen seventeen
years old. And this is when AOL was a thing,
so like, I didn't he had told me what he
looked like, you know, you didn't really get any pictures
or anything like that. And I had lied to my
dad and said that I was staying at a friend's

(44:53):
house and he came and picked me up, and he
thought I was of age, but I wasn't. I was
only like sixteen, and so I'd have to say it
was pretty scary because I thought, well, what if he
murders me and my dad doesn't know where I'm at,
how is he gonna you know, it crossed my mind,
but I thought, eh, nothing can happen to me.

Speaker 8 (45:11):
I was sixteen.

Speaker 7 (45:12):
I knew everything at that time.

Speaker 2 (45:13):
I'm so intrigued by this. So he picked you up
and you knew you were going to Oklahoma City when
he picked you up?

Speaker 7 (45:21):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (45:21):
And how long were you in Oklahoma City for one day?

Speaker 7 (45:26):
Because he brought me back the next morning.

Speaker 2 (45:27):
You stayed the night in Oklahoma City, Yes, in a hotel.

Speaker 7 (45:32):
With this man actually it was his house.

Speaker 2 (45:36):
He drove from Oklahoma City to Tall City to get you,
then drove back to Oklahoma City.

Speaker 7 (45:43):
Yes, and I was actually living in Cleveland, Oklahoma at
the time he picked me up, so he didn't drive
all the way to Tulsa, but he picked me up
from Cleveland and then we hopped on the turnpike and
went to his house.

Speaker 6 (45:54):
And how old was he?

Speaker 7 (45:56):
I'm going to say, if I remember, he was at least.

Speaker 5 (46:00):
Thirty And you.

Speaker 2 (46:05):
Did you have sex with mem?

Speaker 7 (46:07):
No? I did not because I wasn't attracted to him,
but I thought I have to follow through. I don't
want to hurt his feelings, but at the same time,
I don't want to sleep with you.

Speaker 5 (46:17):
How scared that had to have been terrifying?

Speaker 7 (46:21):
It was now that I look back on it, But
at the time, like you know, I just I was
a care free person, Like I didn't even I didn't
even think about things when I did them. I just don't.

Speaker 6 (46:32):
You're lucky you didn't get roofeed, right, That's that's.

Speaker 7 (46:36):
I sit back and I look at it, and I'm
just like, how stupid were you? Why would you do that?

Speaker 2 (46:42):
Or trafficked? Yes, m that is a crazy story. But
that's not to me. This first story you have about
slipping in the shower might be one of the craziest stories.
As I was prepping for this and I did not
have the Indian ikes that it says you sped in
the shower. Tell us what happened when you slipped in
the shower when you were a kid?

Speaker 7 (47:04):
Okay, so back then, you know, this was like twenty
thirty years ago. Showers came with the knob at the
front of the shower paset that you had to pull
up to make the water spray. So I had put
soap in my hair and I leaned my head up
against the wall underneath the shower head, and my feet

(47:25):
slipped out from underneath me, and the shower that knob
caught me right above my butthole. I'm talking about like
a half inch above my butthole. And I stopped about
halfway down, and my feet are still up or out
in front of me, and I'm like, why am I stuck?
Like why can't I get up? And I reached back
behind me and my skin was over that knob, and

(47:48):
so I was like, oh my God, and I screamed,
bloody murder. My brother ran back there and just kind
of stood. He was like maybe three years old, and
just stood with his mouth open. And my stepdad came
back there and he's like, why don't you get up?
Just get up, and I'm like, I can't. I'm caught.
And he was like, oh my god. And so he
had to pick me up off of that knob and
then he put through a couple of towels on my back.

(48:10):
I laid down in the backseat of the car. We
went up to my mom's job because she was working
at the time, and he made her come out there
and she was like, oh, yeah, we need to go
to the hospital. And so I went to the hospital.

Speaker 2 (48:23):
And did you get stitches?

Speaker 7 (48:24):
Or yes? I did. There was twenty four stitches. The
doctors had to come in and like make sure that
I didn't have like a tear in my colon because
it was so close to my colon. So I was
very close to having a cross to me back for
the rest of my life. Oh my god. Yeah, I
got lucky in that aspect.

Speaker 2 (48:47):
Lucky should be your middle name.

Speaker 7 (48:49):
I know.

Speaker 2 (48:51):
That is two for two on the Wildest Story. Yes,
that is crazy to me, and.

Speaker 7 (48:58):
So what was even more crazy is that my dad
after my I went to my dad after I got
kind of feeled up because I go to my mom,
and so I went to my dad's and my dad
was like, you know, to my mom, can you show
me like where it happened and how it happened. And
so my dad and her are back there at the
shower and she lifts up that knob and is showing

(49:18):
him where I got caught on it. And as she's
running her finger around it, there is like a chunk
of my fat still on that knob.

Speaker 2 (49:28):
And my dad was like, oh, my, so was it
baths for the rest of your life?

Speaker 7 (49:35):
After that, well, I've kind of got I always have
a shower at if I take a shower, but for
the longest time I did not like to take showers
because it was just it was so traumatic. Like I
screamed so loud that a neighbor three houses down could
hear that, Like they came out wondering what is going on? Yeah,

(49:56):
it was it was nuts.

Speaker 2 (49:58):
That is nuts. That is I also would I'm thinking
about now just taking baths based off what you said.
It says here that you embarrassed yourself in front of
your husband three months into your relationship. Tell me what happened.

Speaker 7 (50:14):
Okay, Well, that we had went out to his brother's
boss's lake house. We're out on Grand Lake, and I
don't know if you guys have ever been to Grand Lake,
but like the dock where they keep the boat and
the jet ski is usually a pretty high heel to
get back to the house or back down to the dock. Well,
we were just kind of out hanging out on the
lake and I was like, oh, my stomach's hurting, like

(50:36):
I need to you know, we need to hurry up
and get back to the dock. So he takes me
back to the dock, and as I'm running up the dock,
I'm like, oh no, oh, no, oh no. Luckily everybody
stayed down there. But by the time I got to
the front door of this house, I had to drop
my shorts and go to the bathroom right there next
to the staircase. And I didn't know what to do

(50:58):
other than cover it up with the grit that was
in the driveway, like it's that, you know, just like
I didn't know what to do. And so then I
ran in the house and I took a shower and
washed my bathing suit and everything, and I came back
out like nothing had ever happened. And I never told
them about it until probably a few months ago. I

(51:18):
was so embarrassed, Like if they come up there and
see me doing this, they're gonna be like, what the hell,
I don't know, you gotta go.

Speaker 2 (51:26):
What not?

Speaker 6 (51:32):
You you identify as a cat.

Speaker 2 (51:34):
You can't make you twenty more feet?

Speaker 7 (51:39):
No, I couldn't because I didn't know, like this was
a brand new house and it's one of those houses
that like had three floors and seventeen bedrooms in it.
You know, I'm over dramatic, but anyway, it I just
didn't know where the bathroom was on that first floor,
and I was just like, oh my god, it's it's
coming out right now, Like I can't make it to
the upstairs, and then I didn't want to like dribble
it up the carpet up the stairs to the second

(52:01):
floor where I knew the bathroom was.

Speaker 6 (52:03):
It's a new house, Yeah, is this a problem? Yeah,
because of the accident that you had.

Speaker 7 (52:11):
No, I don't think so. I mean at the time,
like I wasn't in the best place. I was still
drinking at the time, and I think that alcohol contributed to.
And plus we went to the marina across the lake
and we had ate some fresh fish, and I just
don't think it settled with my drinking at the time.

Speaker 2 (52:31):
So you think that maybe played a part in it
as well? Yes, do you find like that?

Speaker 7 (52:38):
But I later found out that there were cameras out there.
After I told his brother, he was like, oh my god,
I cannot believe you. There's cameras in his like in
the front of that house. And I'm just like, oh
my god.

Speaker 5 (52:49):
Yeah, And they weren't even.

Speaker 2 (52:52):
You were like at a brother's friend's uncle's cousin's.

Speaker 7 (52:55):
Bosses his boss's house.

Speaker 2 (53:01):
Girl, that is wild, I know. Do you now make
sure you know where every bathroom is?

Speaker 7 (53:09):
Yes? I do around about if I ever stay anywhere,
I make sure I know where the bathroom is, where
the back door is, where the pratt door is. So
if I need to escape, or if I need to
run to the bathroom, I make sure I know where
I'm going.

Speaker 5 (53:21):
Man, I don't even know how I'm we top that.

Speaker 2 (53:25):
I didn't think I was being facilling on kind of
embellishing a little that we're going to get a third one.
But yeah, tell me what you do for a living.

Speaker 7 (53:36):
I work for a company where we make electrical housing
for electrical wires and they put them in like navy
ships and cruise ships and anywhere that it's needed to
work and repel the water and keep the electrical wires
safe from you know that kind of stuff.

Speaker 2 (53:53):
Is that? What is that give you fulfillment? Or is
there something else in your life that makes you makes
you life, makes you happy.

Speaker 7 (54:03):
I enjoy assembly work. I used to put together wriskwatches
at the last company I worked for. It was a
watch customizing company that was a lot of fun. But
I've had so many jobs because I don't have the
greatest path. I used to be a drug addict and
an alcoholic. When I got with my husband, he said, Okay,

(54:24):
I can't take your alcoholism. You're going to have to
do something about it or we're not going to work.
And I said, well, I guess it's time to put
it down because I feel like I got something good here.
So I put the alcohol down and I straightened up
my life and good for you in a lot better place.

Speaker 2 (54:41):
Yeah, good for you. Did you go through a treatment
center or go to meetings or what is how did
you change that lifestyle.

Speaker 7 (54:50):
I just called cold turkey. I just put it down.
And when I got the craving, I would call my
mom or my daughter, I would call them and I
would just tell them, Hey, I'm I'm you want a
drink right now? Tell me all the reasons why I shouldn't,
and so it would just remind me of what I
should not do.

Speaker 2 (55:07):
Yeah, And what would you say to people that are
struggling with trying to quit?

Speaker 7 (55:15):
Just keep pushing and trying. I mean, you're gonna it's
an everyday process. You have to tell yourself every single
day that you you don't need it, like it's a want,
You don't need it, and just keep pushing for it,
and you can do it. I know, if I can
do it, you can do it.

Speaker 2 (55:32):
Yeah. Wild, that's you have keg quite the life. And
you're a young person.

Speaker 7 (55:39):
Well, I wouldn't say young.

Speaker 2 (55:40):
I think forty is kind of old, but no, forty
is young relatively. You might be halfway through your life expectancy,
but that's still pretty young, right to have those kind
of stories. Right, Yeah, what about you said your daughter?

(56:01):
Tell me about your kids.

Speaker 7 (56:03):
I have a twenty year old that is six and
two graduate from old mulgi os U t on the
twelfth of December this year. So I'm really proud of her.
She's the first person in my family to go to
college and graduate. Super exciting, yeah forrads. And then my
second daughter, I adopted out when she was born to
my aunt and uncle because I just like I said,

(56:25):
I have a past, and I wasn't in the best
place in my life, and I thought this is probably
the best thing I could give her was a fresh start,
So that's what I did. She and I were kind
of on the men of knowing, like talking, and she
reaches out to me and we talk over social media
and stuff like that. It's still a sob process to

(56:46):
gain a relationship with somebody that didn't know who you
were for ten years of her life. But she's seventeen, nound,
she's six and to graduate high school. Okay, it's super
excited to see the sacrifice that you made help her
be the person you wanted her to be. Because I

(57:07):
just knew if she had stayed with me, I probably
would have drug her down a road and should have
been a troubled team. So I got to say, like,
I just look at that, and I'm like I'm so
thankful that I made that decision for her.

Speaker 5 (57:20):
What's the hardest part about trying to mend that relationship?

Speaker 7 (57:26):
It's like where do you start? You know, like if
they I don't want to go to her and bombard
her with my life story. I would rather if she
wants to know something, come to me, and I would
be honest about it. Other than that, it's just the
how do you approach it? You know, how do you
go about talking to her about you know, why I

(57:48):
did what I did and and you know the circumstances,
like how do you how do you approach that situation
with someone that you gave up?

Speaker 2 (57:58):
Yeah, and you have had quite the interesting life. Congratulations
on your marriage and getting sober, and thanks so much
for sharing your story with us. And I hope you
have a great holiday.

Speaker 7 (58:11):
Okay, you guys too, Thank you so much.

Speaker 2 (58:14):
Feel later. That's our listeners are awesome. We'll take a
break and we'll be back, Lindsay, who is Billy McFarland.
You know who that is?

Speaker 6 (58:22):
Doesn't he do the Man on the Street stuff?

Speaker 2 (58:25):
That's I don't know if his last names McFarland, but
there's a guy that is Billy in the street. Yeah,
and he yells at everybody and stuff. That's not who
I'm talking about. GIMPI do you know who Billy McFarland is. Uh, yeah,
you haven't brought up you have issues. Yeah. Anyway, Billy

(58:46):
McFarland is the guy who did Fire Festival.

Speaker 6 (58:49):
Oh okay or didn't, right.

Speaker 2 (58:52):
He tried to do Fire Festival and then he got
in trouble and there's an amazing documentary about it, and
then he went to jail. And then he got out
of jail and was like, I'm going to do Fire
Festival again and didn't really get it. But then he
started something else called Phoenix Festival and it was this

(59:13):
past weekend. Oh, and it really happened, and people were
questioning whether it was happening because he was saying somebody
was the French Montana was the headliner, but it wasn't
anywhere listed on French Montana's stuff or whatever. Right, And
so I've been watching it online like waiting for the

(59:34):
development to happen, and I have a picture so you
can see what it looked like because it is not
and he streamed it so you got to see like
how not good it was, and it was a. I
mean it was a failure. Is this guy has he

(59:54):
done anything besides put on terrible music festivals? Like, is
he known for any or is he just like trying
to become this up and coming music festival producer gay
I don't know. I think some people are just good
at persuading people to give them money. That's fair, that's fair.
And he goes for people to give him money where

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he can rent an island, build infrastructure on the island,
build a stage, book an artist. I mean, French Montanna's
got to be two hundred and fifty five hundred thousand dollars. Sure,
I have no idea who that is, but that doesn't
mean anything. You would think that like after I don't
know the first Fire festival debac well, that people will

(01:00:39):
be like, I'm not donating any money to you and
your cause. I mean, but if people say like he's like,
it's different this time because of XYC. Again, some people
are just really good at persuading people and getting you
to believe them. And if you're somebody, here's the problem.
Investors will also sometimes take on projects to lose money

(01:01:00):
so they can write it off, right right. My thought
there was that what if this is all just part
of a laundering thing, right, you're taking dirty money and
you're investing it into this music festival that's supposed to happen.
It's clean in your money. Yeah, yeah, I know it's possible,
especially if he can go. I didn't know anything about it, right,

(01:01:23):
I didn't know anything that was going to They just
gave me money. I'll take your money. I doesn't matter
where it came from. Rarely has ever been a sequel
to a documentary, but I think we're getting.

Speaker 6 (01:01:35):
One, absolutely, because this supposedly happened and not one person
posted about it, Like he posted a lot of.

Speaker 2 (01:01:42):
It, and he had like this mascot person who posted
a lot about it.

Speaker 6 (01:01:46):
But if you're there seeing the show, wouldn't you be
posting about it taking.

Speaker 2 (01:01:51):
Pictures you maybe? Yeah, you'd think at least one or
cue somebody would would be. I mean, nobody of notoriety,
that's for sure, right. And apparently at one point he
was even like soliciting people like we'll get you here
for free, just to try and make it look like
it was something. But the video I just sent lindsay,

(01:02:12):
this is a new one. There for a festival, you
would think it would have to be packed, you would think.
And it's the ed. Now this is the same guy
that like promised all this luxurious food at the first
Fire Festival then like ended up getting handing out like
Bolooney sandwiches or something. Right, Yes, And this year somebody
posted the food and it was apparently the vegetarian meal

(01:02:37):
that because they were whatever, the DJ's vegetarian and it's
corn on the cobbon rice. Well, I mean that's vegetarian.
There's no meating ball. But if a Bolooney sandwich is
going to be vegetarian, I feel like this is a
pretty good depiction.

Speaker 5 (01:02:51):
And the corn still has strings on it.

Speaker 2 (01:02:54):
And oh, just straight out the farmer's market, huh. I
mean not even that, and there's like brown stuff on it,
which I don't understand. Nonetheless, how people attach themselves to
something like this is beyond me. Yeah, there's something. I
feel there's some shady business going on there. We just
don't know about it yet. I think he's going back

(01:03:16):
to prison. Mm hm, that's possible, but maybe a little
bit different because nobody bought tickets the time, so you
feel like they aren't getting swindled, right, But maybe the investors.
I don't know. I'm surprised that part of his agreement
wasn't he was he couldn't do this anymore, right, Hey,
you could no longer be a promoter. You duped people twice,
well now three times? Yes? No, maybe maybe that should

(01:03:39):
be a judgment against him. Yeah, somebody text in sounds
like a scam artist, like the dude who scammed n
SYNC in the Backstreet Boys. That guy did, but I
don't know if he did in Sync and the Backstreet
it was one of them. The the is it Pearlman? Yeah,
yea Ron Perlman, Ron Pearlman, not the guy for sense
of man arguing. Yeah, not Ron pearl But I think

(01:04:01):
the guy's name Lou Pearlman. There's another three letter first name,
Ron Lou. And uh. But that was like I'm a
manager and I took stuff off the top. That's not
a to me. That's not a scam artist. That's just
somebody in bezzling.

Speaker 6 (01:04:15):
Money, taking advantage of them.

Speaker 2 (01:04:18):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (01:04:18):
A scam artist is like, here's your snake oil.

Speaker 2 (01:04:22):
Right, this is promising an event, promising an experience, right,
promising music and none of that happened. Yeah, that's a
that's a scam all the way through. Plenty of people
try to be promoters and book shows and they don't work.
Plenty of people do that. Booking concerts to be successful
or festivals to be successful is not an easy task. No,

(01:04:44):
there have been some here that people are like, wow,
this is really good and it doesn't make money and
those away. Yeah, so to me, you can have it
look big but also not do well. So being successful
at running a festival, but you should have some form
of artists there if you're if you're booking a music
festival like this guy's doing, yeah, you should have somebody

(01:05:07):
there to play, right. Yeah.

Speaker 6 (01:05:08):
You always over promise and way under delivered even if you.

Speaker 2 (01:05:13):
If you like this, who is the personal Phoenix what
well Phoenix Festival?

Speaker 5 (01:05:17):
And the artist that he had performing?

Speaker 2 (01:05:19):
I mean, tell me if you know any of these
French Montana would be the biggest name. Bobby Schmurda Nope,
never heard of it. Slim Jimmy Mads, that's the guy
he met in the alley.

Speaker 5 (01:05:34):
Yeah, press on press.

Speaker 2 (01:05:36):
A lot of these are the oneaters man like, I
don't know how to say these. Kanye K, Kanye K,
that's the wish version of Kanye exactly the fear McQueen.
I don't know if that's the lost car from cars
right licur Most Dangerous City. Yeah, I don't know any

(01:06:00):
of these honists. That means doesn't mean they're not popular, right,
It could be just like dance or something like that,
right right, But like the French Montana is the big
get right there, that's the big name, so you can
book all these turds apparently he has, right. Oh man,
last minute, old French you decided to cancel on. It's sorry, guys,
no refunds.

Speaker 6 (01:06:21):
And if you are Frenchman Montana and you didn't have
this actually booked, you can you sue Billy for saying like, yeah,
he was gonna be there like.

Speaker 2 (01:06:33):
You would think you would think. I don't know, I
have no idea, but if he got a contract with money,
I'm sure he's like, yeah, I'll be there like he
was gonna him flying on a helicopter and land like
on the dock. Anyway, can't wait for the sequel to
that documentary, right, all right, we're gonna take a break
and we'll be back. You're listening to the Big Mad

(01:06:54):
Morning Show. We did football Picks and and uh Kansas
City and Houston. You guys got that one, right, and
Lindsay and give you both got points for that. And
then Cowboys at Lions, you guys got points for that.

(01:07:18):
And then Chicago at Packers and Dimpy and I got
points for that. So how about that ending? Man? Oh yeah,
that was so solid. I'm sitting there because like, my
brother's a Packers fan, right and uh and uh, I
knew it's like, they're gonna go up, They're gonna go
for two, They're gonna in it. And then that interception
right at the end. I was text my brother's like,

(01:07:40):
what an ending to a great game.

Speaker 6 (01:07:43):
I felt like a Cowboys fan at the ending of
that game because I was screaming at my TV.

Speaker 2 (01:07:48):
I was like, Caleb idiot. Yeah, that's Caleb though, threw
it right to them, right, Yeah, that's that's Caleb. That's
that's part of his problem. He went back to his
old ways. And they say that's the difference. Can you
carry your team in those moments? Yeah? And he did?
He did not. No, So Gimbi went three and oho,

(01:08:13):
taking him to twenty seven and fifteen. Lindsay went too
and one, taking her to twenty seven and fifteen. And
then uh me one and two took me to twenty
one and twenty one to be fair. Huh. This year
in the NFL is wild, Tell me about it. Everybody
thought the Ravens were gonna make it. Nope, no they're out. No.

(01:08:35):
Everybody thought the Bucks were gonna make it. Nope, they're out.
That was an interesting game with the Saints. Yeah. Everybody
thought the Chiefs are gonna make it. Nope, they're out right,
Like this is not. Everybody thought the Eagles are gonna
be dominant. Nope, No, it's gonna be a bunch of underdogs.
It's gonna be like Carolina, you know somebody else. The

(01:08:59):
Colts were well, everybody like the Colts were leading, right,
Everybody's like, oh, the Colts are playing Nope. Yeah, yeah,
they finally ask the bed.

Speaker 5 (01:09:06):
Yeah, Daniel Jones is out.

Speaker 8 (01:09:07):
Uhuh.

Speaker 5 (01:09:08):
So I am not I am not sure who I think.

Speaker 2 (01:09:12):
I mean. I think the Rams, maybe the Patriots, Okay,
we'll see. No, I don't think the Broncos have it.
The Rams I could totally see going to the Super Bowl. Yes,
they're they're pretty well on fire, unless they end up
just crapping all over the place. But even then the Jags, No,

(01:09:34):
I think the Bills maybe, and the Patriots I think
are the two that are probably gonna win the AFC.
Now the Cowboys are still in the hunt right, so
like it is a possibility. Barely, oh god, oh bad
with every Dallas fan in the country. See, I told
you this is our year.

Speaker 5 (01:09:56):
No barely run in it for the wild Yeah, exactly.

Speaker 2 (01:10:01):
The Bears my mess out too, yeah, completely if they
can't get it done, you know, on the way out.
But I think the Rams are a good pick for
them to make it into be the in the Super Bowl.
And I mean the quarterback's plane lights out. So yeah.

(01:10:21):
Good morning Lindsay, Good morning Corbyn.

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Speaker 2 (01:10:41):
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In the studio is Jeff Heinsley from Hinsleys Associates. Hey, buddy,

(01:11:02):
how are you good? Man?

Speaker 3 (01:11:03):
I love Rob Schneider. What are you talking about? What
are you laughing?

Speaker 2 (01:11:08):
Nider?

Speaker 1 (01:11:08):
For?

Speaker 8 (01:11:08):
Man?

Speaker 3 (01:11:08):
I mean think if any Sandler movie right and he's
in it, so you know he's great.

Speaker 2 (01:11:14):
If you have a question, not Rob Schneider related, but
anything family law, Jeff can't.

Speaker 5 (01:11:18):
He probably can answer some Rob Schneider information too, but
I don't know.

Speaker 4 (01:11:21):
Man.

Speaker 2 (01:11:21):
We'll see a three three four six, oh KMOD, or
you can text BM mass and whatever your question is
to eight two nine four five or email show at
kmod dot com. We have a couple that hung back
from last week, but we were having a conversation earlier
this morning. Okay, we wanted to get your thoughts on this.
When you do an adoption, is the name change automatic
or do you have to include that in the paperwork.

Speaker 3 (01:11:42):
We'll to include that in there. I mean, if you
don't want to change the name, you don't have to bit,
you know, you know, nine point nine nine nine nine
out of ten times they do. I mean I've never
had one not change it. I mean you can even
change It's not just the last name. I mean, if
you want to change the middle name, whatever you want
to change, you can change. If you want to change
the first name, we can change the name to whatever
you want to change it to. But we have to

(01:12:03):
ask for it. It's technically, I mean, I guess technically
it would be automatic in the sense that they want
to know if you want to do it or not.
But yeah, I mean we can change it to whatever,
and if you want to keep it, we can keep it.
It's really up to what you want to do.

Speaker 2 (01:12:16):
But it asked to be in the document.

Speaker 3 (01:12:17):
Yeah, you have to put it in the in the documents,
that's correct.

Speaker 5 (01:12:19):
Yeah, it's just like in a divorce, right when you
want to change your name back.

Speaker 3 (01:12:22):
Correct, absolutely, and when except on that one, you can
only change it back to your maiden name. You can't
go changing other.

Speaker 2 (01:12:29):
Parts of your name.

Speaker 5 (01:12:30):
You can't make up a new name.

Speaker 3 (01:12:31):
No, No, you can't be you know rock station. Yeah, yeah,
that sort of thing.

Speaker 2 (01:12:36):
So what about when like an adult wants to have
their stepfather adopt them.

Speaker 5 (01:12:42):
You see that sometimes around the.

Speaker 2 (01:12:43):
Holidays like that, phraise me as my dad.

Speaker 5 (01:12:46):
Does that name change happen automatically?

Speaker 2 (01:12:48):
Or is that? Is that a little bit different?

Speaker 3 (01:12:50):
No, I mean again, it's the it can be the same.
I mean, it's it's all tied together like that. But yeah,
that would. And again, adult adoptions are a lot easier
than children simply because there's no none of the notice
requirements and IQUA doesn't apply and all that stuff. So
you know, that's the beauty of the adult adoption.

Speaker 2 (01:13:07):
Eight three three four six. Oh, kmod. You can text
BMMS and whatever your question is to eight two nine
four five or email show at kmod dot com. This
one says question for Jeff, I'm paying child support. Do
I get to claim the kid for taxes if she
got full custody?

Speaker 3 (01:13:23):
It depends on what's in your decree. I mean, your
decree should set forth exactly who gets the tax exemption
on what year and if if at all. I mean,
typically though, judges will tell you if if you are
paying child support, the judge is going to order that
you get some deduction at some point. So, in other words,
custody only goes to legal decision making. It has nothing
to do with the amount of time that you spend
with the child. It has nothing to do technically with

(01:13:45):
the tax exemption. So judges will say, if you're paying
child support, you should get a deduction at some point,
whether it be every other year or if you've got
multiple children. Obviously, let's say you've got two, you would
each get one until the oldest age is out, unless
they're twins, and then once the oldest age is out,
then of course they you would alternate that last one
back and forth. But you know, yeah, you can. You're

(01:14:06):
going to get that deduction. But it's not automatic. I mean,
it sounds like there's an order out there somewhere, So
I guess my question to this individual would be, is, well,
what's in your order? It should be set in order.
So whoever this is, call my office. Let's go to
Let's go through your decree and find out exactly what's
in there so we can get it straightened out. And
if it's not in there, that's something we need to address.

Speaker 2 (01:14:25):
Eight three three four to six oh kmod or text
bmmss and whatever your question is to eight two nine
four five or email show at kmod dot com. Someone says,
is it standard? Does still have to pay child support?
When you have fifty to fifty custody and we both
work and have decent paying jobs. I do make a
little more. After the mediation I found out that my
lawyer is my kid's mom's friends brother. What should I

(01:14:47):
do if anything?

Speaker 3 (01:14:49):
Sisters, uncle's next door nimbers, cat's friend.

Speaker 2 (01:14:52):
Right, So.

Speaker 3 (01:14:54):
It's one of those things. Okay, that's a separate issue.
I will do with that one. Let's talk about the
child support. It depends, and the reason it depends is
it's all based upon a calculation. Right, So we have
to put in your pretext income per month and her
pretext income per month. Obviously we need to look and
see are there any do you have any other children?
Do we need to include those in that information? Who's
paying insurance? A lot of times when it comes down

(01:15:16):
to people who make the same or about the same
and they have a fifty to fifty schedule, a lot
of times it comes down to who's paying child who's
to be who's paying insurance because that's a cost. So
you may have some ode on that because of the
insurance cost, because you've got to pay for a portion
of that. Now, a lot of times we have is
fifty to fifty, but we've got someone who makes way

(01:15:36):
more than the other person, so that that's kind of
a no brainer. Since you make more, there has to
be an offset to make it equal. So yes, that
can happen. As far as the weird relation thing there,
I mean that sounds a little distant to me. That's
too much, right, Like, well, yeah, I mean I think
it's a little distant. I mean if it was your
if the attorney was your ex's, you know, best friend's husband,

(01:15:58):
maybe okay because the interaction possibilities, But this seems too
remote after that. And then remember too, if you're in
a small county or small town, everybody knows everybody, everybody's
related to everybody, that kind of thing. So it's harder
to not have that situation when you're in a smaller
county because of those issues.

Speaker 5 (01:16:19):
Right, there's not much that you can do.

Speaker 3 (01:16:22):
But and you would have to prove that the attorney
did something unethical. I mean, are they representing you appropriately?
Have do you feel that they've done something that they
shouldn't have or that they are holding back on something
because they're afraid of upsetting the other. So, I mean
it'd be those kind of things, but he didn't complain
about that, and I think it's too remote of a relation.

Speaker 2 (01:16:43):
I think you're fine, Yeah, what do you think they
got away with because of that? Right?

Speaker 3 (01:16:47):
Right exactly? And if the answer is nothing, then and
they've done their job that you've paid them to do,
then there's zero issues.

Speaker 2 (01:16:55):
Jeff Finsley's here from Hensley and Associates BMMS and whatever
you'd like to say to eight two nine four five
your question for Jeff, or you can call it eight
three three four six oh kmod This says, I signed
the final divorce decree and in it orders for my
child support to be reduced. How long should I expect
to wait to see wait before I see the actual changes?

Speaker 3 (01:17:14):
So what happens once a decree is signed off in
this case of reduction, that decree is then sent to
dhs W. Then so it gets sent to the main
processing in Oklahoma City. All right, they have to process it,
so that takes time, and then they have to send
it to the new change to the employer as far
as the income assignment change. So typically we tell people

(01:17:34):
between thirty and forty five days is typically how long
it takes to see the change. Now, it doesn't mean
that you don't That doesn't mean you stop paying child support. Okay,
a lot of time. If it's a reduction, you know, obviously,
if you two can agree that you can start the
reduction right now. But remember you've got to pay it
and not just expect it to come out of your

(01:17:54):
check all right now. If it's still coming out of
your check at the higher amount for thirty to forty
five days, you've now got a little bit of an
asset we need to deal with. But if it's not,
you know, gigantic, we can deal with it later. You know,
it just depends, is it's it takes thirty to forty
five days typically, is the change is what DHS has
told us to tell people.

Speaker 2 (01:18:12):
Jeff Finsley from Hensley Associates is here. Nathan's been waiting.
Hey Nathan, how are you? Yeah? Hey good man, what's
your question for? Jeff? Hensley?

Speaker 4 (01:18:21):
My they got two teenage boys. Their grandfather passed away
in a nursing home in Indiana and then filed a
lawsuit and won. I got something in the middle telling
me I needed to get a hold of an attorney
and all that, and I was really wondering if they
did that type of thing.

Speaker 3 (01:18:42):
Well, if it's a lawsuit out of Indiana, we're not
licensed in Indiana. Where do these kids live?

Speaker 2 (01:18:49):
Okay?

Speaker 3 (01:18:50):
They live here with me, Okay, and.

Speaker 4 (01:18:53):
Passed away when they were toddlers.

Speaker 3 (01:18:56):
No, I get it. So what was the lawsuit? You
said the grandfather died?

Speaker 1 (01:18:59):
What was a lassuit about?

Speaker 3 (01:19:02):
Was it probate? Was it about his estate once he died?
I mean, what was it? What did you receive in
the mail? And how does that apply to the teenagers?

Speaker 4 (01:19:11):
Well, they were they had the lawsuit. I don't remember
exactly what it was. He died and under you know,
bad circumstances, it shouldn't have happened. So they filed lawsuit
and ruin. And I got something telling me I needed
to get on you're an attorney to get to make

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sure that I got their mother's share from them.

Speaker 3 (01:19:35):
Okay. So that's going to be dealt with in Indiana,
not in Oklahoma. So you're gonna have to find a
an attorney up in Indiana. If you know the county.
What I would is look at that paperwork you got
and see what county it is. And then call the
local bar association up in that county and they can
probably refer you to somebody up there. I don't know
any Indiana attorneys, sou, but that was you do have

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to deal with it up there, not down here.

Speaker 2 (01:20:00):
Oh okay, good luck, Nathan, thanks buddy, all right, but
I don't have to show it to see you later.

Speaker 5 (01:20:05):
I mean, Nathan's bringing up something that I think is fair.

Speaker 2 (01:20:08):
As you get the thing in the mail, it says, hey,
you need an attorney.

Speaker 5 (01:20:12):
It's kind of hard to know where to start.

Speaker 3 (01:20:13):
Right and it's a shock, and you're like, well, where
do I go?

Speaker 8 (01:20:16):
What I do?

Speaker 3 (01:20:16):
How do I start? That's that sort of thing, you know.
The only reason we can't do is because nothing was
filed here in Oklahoma, and we're only licensed in Oklahoma. Obviously,
with something that was filed, it sounds like it was
a wrongful death suit. Okay, died due to something he
shouldn't have died about. Maybe it was a medical mod
practice lawsuit or something, and they want it. Mom deserves
a share out of that, out of the estate. And

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so yeah, I mean, obviously that is an issue dealing
with Indiana and where it was filed. But yeah, I
can be confusing. Even if it's out of state, Guys
call us. We're happy to answer questions about, Hey, where
to go, what to do?

Speaker 7 (01:20:49):
You know?

Speaker 3 (01:20:50):
Obviously we can't quote you state law from other states
because we're not licensed there, but we can definitely give
you some information and help you figure out some ideas
on who to contact and move forward ahead.

Speaker 6 (01:21:02):
Typically, if an attorney is representing a family, like in
that wrongful death suit, which we're assuming that it is,
couldn't they represent the entire family, like on behalf of
his children as well?

Speaker 3 (01:21:16):
Well, we'd have to find out exactly who filed the
lawsuit on and it's probably the executor of the estate
that filed it on behalf of the estate. We'd have
to look and see. But not typically no, I mean,
probably what it is is because mom is dead and
the kids live out of state. That's probably the biggest issues.
Because the kids live out of state, Mom is no

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longer alive. That's why they're saying, get hold of an
attorney so you can make sure we get now. Typically
a lot of times what will happen is they'll figure
out those divisions anyway and send out the checks automatically.
I've seen that happen. But again, Indiana may have some
very specific requirements that we do or do not have
in Oklahoma, and so it's always best when you get
those letters, call us. We can help you. You know

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who to call or what to do next?

Speaker 5 (01:22:00):
Tell you what those first couple of steps are you
going to need to be?

Speaker 3 (01:22:02):
Yeah, we'll answer the confusing questions, Well where do I
f you know, do I file here? Do I file
in that state? You know, how does it apply that
sort of thing? Well, you know, can do everything we
can to help you get moving forward on that.

Speaker 2 (01:22:12):
Russ is on the line. He's got a question. Russ,
go ahead, and you're on with Jeff Hensley of Hensley
and Associates.

Speaker 8 (01:22:17):
Hey, Jeff, I've got a question. If you have a
custody decree that gives you supervised visitation, how long would
you expect to have to abide by that before you
can request a change?

Speaker 3 (01:22:28):
Well, it depends. And the reason I say that is
because it depends on the facts of the case. I mean,
why is the person in supervised visits? How long have
they been doing them already? How often are the supervised
is it's are they only two hours a week. Are
they four? Are they six? Are they? You know, do
you get to see him two days a week, three
days a week, one day a week. I mean there's
a lot of factors behind it that goes into that.

(01:22:52):
You know, the idea is that someone doesn't live in
supervised visits forever. But at the same time, too, every
case is fact specific, and there's a lot that goes
into it as there regarding that light them or a
counselor that's saying that this needs to occur for a
longer amount of time. I mean, there's there's all sorts
of things that play into it. So it's very very

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very case in fact specific.

Speaker 2 (01:23:15):
Yeah.

Speaker 8 (01:23:15):
So could they keep you on supervised visitation because of
a previously reported alcohol problem?

Speaker 3 (01:23:22):
Potentially? Yeah, I mean that is a concern, especially if
you've driven drunk with the children in the car, or
if you've you know, done something while in a drunk
drunken stupor to the children or something like that. I mean, again,
all very case and sat facts specific on that. But yes,
that is a possibility. Yes, that's correct.

Speaker 8 (01:23:40):
Okay, Well, if you can't afford visitation.

Speaker 3 (01:23:44):
Well the court would expect you to find some way
to afford it. It's really that simple. I mean, I
hate to put it that way, but the court basically
looks and says, if you care enough about your kids,
you're going to make it work one way or another.
You're going to figure it out, and if you don't,
then that's to your detriment. That's kind of court looks
at it.

Speaker 8 (01:24:01):
Okay, all right, that was my question.

Speaker 2 (01:24:03):
Thanks man, Good luck, buddy, Thank you so much.

Speaker 4 (01:24:05):
Thanks.

Speaker 2 (01:24:06):
Let's go to some texts that are backing up. This says,
I signed for a vehicle when we were together, getting
divorced now, but the car is getting repolled. What can
I say? So they don't garnish my paycheck. I haven't
seen the vehicle in almost two years. Haven't only filled
the Porsche part petition so far. The judge told me

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that the courts can't make her refinance if she doesn't
have the credit.

Speaker 3 (01:24:33):
It's kind of the way. I mean, the thing is
is if it goes into a repo and there's something
that's been filed in court, I mean, you're on the hook.
And that's kind of the problem with even divorces in general. Okay,
So we have these issues where it's very clearly delineated
who gets what, and who's supposed to pay what, and
all these things, and unfortunately the creditors don't care. You

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can present them at de create all day to your
blue in the face, but they simply don't care. Because
if you were tied to it in some way, they
will find a way to try to garnish you. And
if the other person is ungarnishable for some reason, but
you have remedies for that. If that happens, we can
file contempt citations because of the failure to pay and
take care of that issue. You know, get money back
that way. So there's different ways to handle it, but

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you know, the court. All the court can do is
say you need to refinance this to your best ability,
and if you're unable to do so, you know, and
at least you've tried, then you've fulfilled that and they
can't be held in contempts. So it's a tough situation.
I'd like to know a few more specifics. Whoever this is,
please when Corbyn gives out our number, please give the

(01:25:38):
office a call today or this week and we'd be
happy to talk a little more about the specifics.

Speaker 2 (01:25:42):
Jeff Hensley's in the studio from Hensley Associates Answering your
family law questions. I want to move out of state
with my kids. The father of my children hasn't been
in their lives for over a year and we were
never married.

Speaker 5 (01:25:53):
Can I just leave or do I need his permission?

Speaker 3 (01:25:56):
If you were never married and there's not any orders. Otherwise,
under the law, you've got sole custody. Enjoy Florida or wherever
you're going, you can do whatever you want. Yeah, from
a legal standpoint, Okay, there's obviously a flip side to that.
And the flip side is is, well, A, is that
the right thing to do? And B is that the
moral thing to do? To just move out in the dark.

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But if you haven't seen him in a couple of
years and they have no interest in the kids, and
there's no orders, enjoy your new state.

Speaker 5 (01:26:23):
What if his name's on the birth certificate.

Speaker 3 (01:26:24):
It didn't matter in the state of Oklahoma. Unfortunately, the
Losses November first of twenty eleven has been even if
your name is on the birth certificate, even if you
sign the acknowledgment at the hospital, that only gives you
a presumption that your dad you have to be found
legally dad by being adjudicated in court, either by a
district judge or a child support judge to find that

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you were dad. And even if you're a judicated dad
in a child support case, that doesn't give you any
legal visitation or custody right. You have to go and
deal with that in district court. So yeah, I mean,
if he's not been around her, she wants to move
than audios.

Speaker 2 (01:27:01):
Yeah, and that ruled. That law that's been in for
a while now, fourteen years, seems to have negative parts
to it and also can has benefited some moms in
some scenario.

Speaker 3 (01:27:13):
It really hasn't, honestly, between you and me, and I've
said this for many years. I'm surprised that nobody has
challenged it at the Supreme Court level in Oklahoma in
the last fourteen years, or if they have, they or
if they've tried, it's not been picked up by the
Supreme Court or the Court of Appeals to make any
rulings on. So there may be people that have applied
to have it looked at, but we've not seen any
caselaw on it.

Speaker 6 (01:27:34):
So they would have had to have been married in
order for it to right.

Speaker 3 (01:27:38):
You can't if you're married and you want to get
a divorce, you can't just up and move. You've got
to file and notice relocation. They've got thirty days to
respond and object and all those things. So there's a
whole statute on relocation. But relocation does apply in a
paternity case, but only when something's already been filed. If
there's nothing filed and there's no orders, then she can
kind of do whatever she wants to do.

Speaker 6 (01:27:59):
No, she says that he hasn't been active in the
child's life for over a year, right, But let's say
that he had been active but they were still never married.

Speaker 2 (01:28:08):
Does that matter?

Speaker 3 (01:28:09):
I mean, she could still move, But what I would
tell him is that he needs to file for paternity
right away, and that locks her in and that allows
her to she can't move with the kids until there's
been a ruling by court, So that that's what you
do there.

Speaker 2 (01:28:22):
On those situations, it's always good to not rely on
your buddy or whatever internet search you have, chat chee,
whatever chat GPT response you get. You need to have
somebody that knows what they're talking about, because you don't
want to get caught in the wrong scenario and having
to clean it up and Jeff and the folks at
Hinsley Associates are there to help you. And if you
mentioned Camod you get a free consultation over the phone.

Speaker 5 (01:28:44):
Three nine eight five six nine two.

Speaker 2 (01:28:46):
Is the phone number nine one eight three nine eight
five six nine two for Hinsley Associates. They're there to
answer your questions about family law and if you find
yourself in a situation that is outside family law, they
are actually there to help with that as well.

Speaker 3 (01:28:58):
It's right, so give say I'm Allison in our PAHUSCA
office a call. It's the Shaemaike Law Firm. If you
don't remember the name, you can call here in Tulsa.
We'll get you hooked up with Sam up there. But
Sam handles all of our additional stuff. So in addition
to family law, he also handles any criminal cases. We
got a lot of those up there. If you've got
any protective order issues, we've got a lot of those.
Been doing a lot of prenuptial agreements, if you have

(01:29:20):
probate issues, if you've got wills and trusts that need
to be drafted, if you need any any help with
anything else, selling land, buying land, anything. In addition car
Rex anything in addition to family law same can help
you with. Please give us a call. We'd love to
help you out with that.

Speaker 2 (01:29:37):
Nine eight three nine eight five six nine two for
Hensley Associates nine one eight three nine eight five six
nine two. Jeff, have a great week.

Speaker 3 (01:29:43):
Hey two.

Speaker 2 (01:29:43):
Thanks. That's Rush more of the Big Mad Morning Show.
I was sharing with Lindsay earlier about a situation in
my neighborhood and there's no way I'm getting involved, no
way at all. But then I read stories like this
and it makes me go, maybe I should. And I
wouldn't know how to get involved anyway. But this happened

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down in Texas, where Candice Thompson has been arrested and
facing multiple charges including aggravated kidnapping, assault, and crimes related
to the abuse of a disabled person, following a discovery
on her property in ants And, Texas, which is outside
San Antonio. Apparently, a mentally disabled woman was found locked

(01:30:28):
in a dog kindle kennel after neighbors heard screams oh God.
It was made by a neighbor who heard the young
woman crying for help and saying that she needed to
go to the bathroom. Quote just screaming, I have to pee,
I'm scared, and then you hear banging like chain link fence.

(01:30:49):
He used his phone camera to record the woman, who
was just visible inside the outdoor kennel wrapped in tarps.
Outdoor kennel wrapped in tarps, I mean lazily provided some
kind of shelter from the elements. Officers re responded and
found a twenty two year old female locked in the

(01:31:09):
backyard of a residence. At the time of the arrest,
two adult foster children were present in the home. The woman,
who was known locally for adopting over fifty foster children
with her late husband and former police chief, tried to
justify her actions. She claimed the young woman in her
care was urinating everywhere and tearing up my house, which

(01:31:33):
is why she put her outside like a dog. It's
just amazing what somebody who's in charge of disabled, mentally
challenged people will do to them. I don't understand it.
One neighbor said, I just felt sorry for the girls.
I'm so glad the other neighbors stepped up to the plate.

(01:31:53):
The victim is safe, the woman is in custody, and
obviously this is a very serious matter. I don't know.
I guess you got to do what this guy did
with modern technology and you just kind of video it
and then call the police and go, here's what I found,
and not confront the neighbor. Yeah, that's gonna cause even
more problems, could cause harm on yourself, right, you know,

(01:32:14):
And if you don't have that kind of proof, I mean,
you got nothing, you know what I mean? So I
think this guy did the right thing by taking video
and going from there. Who would what would the uh
was it in Indiana where those kids were being well,
girls were being held captive in that house and one
of them broke through? Ohio? Was it? Ohio? Like I

(01:32:37):
wouldn't know how to get involved in that, and you go, oh,
it's it isn't it doesn't happen? Apparently it does. Apparently
it's more common than shark attacks. Yeah, which is said,
Which this isn't far from the thing. I was explaining
to lindsay that I that is perceived to be happening

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in my neighborhood, and like I I don't want to
go and I can't help myself. I can't stop myself
from getting involved in those things. Like an idiot, right,
why I get it sounds to me like this, this
family here, this man and woman are are the type

(01:33:19):
that take in a foster children strictly for the paycheck, right,
And that's what it sounds like to me. But if
you can't, and I being a foster parent, I imagine
is really hard, right, and it takes a big heart
to do something like that. But if you can't handle it,
why are we even messing with it? Yeah, because you

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don't care and you just you said it, you just
want to check. That's terrible. There's a special place for
people like that. Well. And also if you can't handle it,
bring some people in, right, you just put the outside.
So I had to look. Okay, this says in Oklahoma

(01:34:01):
you get how much do you think you get per day? Okay?

Speaker 6 (01:34:05):
Ooh, I have no idea. I would think you would
get something monthly, and I don't know the breach.

Speaker 2 (01:34:15):
So they do it per day. They do it per day.
But if you want to go ahead and give me
a monthly number, that's fine, Like twelve hundred a month, okay, gimpie,
I'm gonna say per day you're probably getting about maybe
one hundred bucks. So in the oldest kids get the
most money twenty seven dollars and sixty two cents a day,

(01:34:36):
So a little over eight hundred dollars a month. Did
you say twenty seven dollars twenty seven dollars and sixty
two cents. Is twenty seven dollars and sixty two cents
enough for anybody to live off of per day? I mean,
I guess that that'll get you a get you some food.
I mean I could get some I could definitely eat

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off twenty seven dollars and sixty two cents in a day.
I probably do it for less than that, but house utilities, clothes,
medical attention, No, no, you cannot. No, that's just not reality. That.
So when people make the statement that people do it
for the check, I don't know if I'm there right

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right now. That's just in the state of Oklahoma, crackt.
Things could be different in Texas and various other states,
but I don't think. I don't know if they you
get a check in the mail every day. You said
that's about eight hundred dollars a month, right, Well, that's
an extra eight hundred bucks that right there is reason

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enough for some people to do you know, the fun
I'm getting an extra eight hundred dollars and all I
gotta do is take care of this bratty little kid
that likes to piss on the floor. Yeah, but you're
still paying taxes. I mean it's I hear you. It
is extra. In Texas, it's about the same, maybe a
little bit more, just depending on the age of the child.
And is there a limit, a limit to how many

(01:35:59):
foster get that you can have. Yeah, that's a good question.
I would think there should be. There absolutely should be.
But then you get people like this who will foster
in six, seven, ten kids and under the guys of
I'm doing it for the kids, they don't have anybody else.
You take that eight hundred dollars a month per kid,

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you got ten kids, that's eight grand at the end
of the month. This says five. Oklahoma is a limit
of five foster children, six if you include your own.
But exceptions are made, of course. There are exceptions because
if they need a foster home, they need a foster home.
And if your house is big enough. Yeah, limit of

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two children under the age of two at a home
at once also, which makes sense. Yeah, okay, up to
eight in certain scenarios. Five is a lot, Yes, you're
just none in and then one day you have five.
That's a lot, right, that is a shock to the system.

(01:37:06):
That's five lunches. You got to prepare every day. And
I know people have kids, and some people have five kids,
but when you go from one or zero to five, right,
that is stressful. Yeah, but you're getting that four thousand
dollar paycheck. Me that money, that's that's money. I got
a game, right, all's I gotta do is just make

(01:37:27):
sure these kids go to school.

Speaker 5 (01:37:29):
Shut up the kennel. It happens.

Speaker 6 (01:37:33):
We had a neighbor growing up that they were They
had one child and he was young, and they kept
him in like a cage, and we didn't know that
until they had a yard sale.

Speaker 2 (01:37:47):
They didn't have a dog, they didn't have a.

Speaker 6 (01:37:49):
Cat, they had no pets, and they were selling this cage.
And my dad actually walked over and to ask about
it because it was a dog cat and we had dogs,
and they're like, I didn't realize you had a dog,
and he goes, no, this was our kids. Your kids,

(01:38:10):
you're joking. No, whatever the kid's name was, he was
in this when he was a toddler. My wife never
wanted to buy a playpen when he was bad. This
is what we had for him.

Speaker 2 (01:38:24):
Oh and he said that. Yes, Because as you're telling that,
like before he got to that part, my thought was, well,
maybe because kids like weird stuff, like right, they'll take
a refrigerator box and that's their toy. Yeah, you know,
a couple of months or whatever. So maybe I was
thinking that the kid just liked, you know, play in
the kennel. You know, that's that's his little hangout spot.
But no, you change that by saying.

Speaker 6 (01:38:47):
And they shortly moved after that too, like it was
almost like but.

Speaker 5 (01:38:50):
They never got trouble. So here's a question.

Speaker 2 (01:38:54):
Is it because it has a door because you partition
off part of your house so they can't get away
so far as like with baby gates and stuff like that. Yeah, yeah,
it's supposed to be for safety though, Corbyn. So's the kennel. Yeah,
you really can't go anywhere. Yeah, if you're if you're
locked in a cake. I'm not advocating for it. I'm
just saying, what's the difference between that and you building

(01:39:17):
some sort of fortress with nine hundred little you know,
fence things like people do to keep them in one spot,
or you just leave them in their crib, right, there's not.
It's a fine line. It's a fine line, you know.
One it's not you know if you were building a
little area out of out of baby gates. This is

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where Timmy plays, you know. Yeah, yeah, there's still openness, right,
there's still why you're not because the cage is completely
boxed in, squared in top bottom two sides. Yeah, right,
it's not there's no openness to it. Take the lid
off of the cage and I guess maybe you all
right find you're just putting them in a box at
that point, well box with no ti right, right exactly.

(01:40:01):
It is weird though. Now when my kids are little,
I would put them in like the playroom and put
a baby gate up so that we just called a
baby gate. So it's fine, right, right, So if it's
not a it's not a dog cannel anymore. It's it's
a beta cage. Yeah, they had those ones way back
in the day. You see the old time photos of

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so kids could get fresh air in the big city
hanging hanging out the window in a cage and like
what is happening like fifteen stories. Yes, we got to
take a break we'll be back. More of the Big
Man Morning Show is next.