February 11, 2026 • 37 mins
Feeling tired of disappointment, setbacks, and delayed success? This powerful episode explores how to overcome disappointment, stay motivated, and keep believing in your dreams even when life feels unfair or exhausting. You’ll learn practical mindset strategies to rebuild confidence, regain hope, and move forward with clarity and purpose.
This content is perfect for anyone searching for how to stop feeling discouraged, how to stay positive during hard times, overcoming failure, emotional resilience, mental strength, motivation after setbacks, confidence building, faith-based encouragement, personal growth, and self-improvement.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
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✔ Ways to stay hopeful when dreams feel delayed
✔ How to rebuild confidence after setbacks
✔ Strategies to stop negative thinking
✔ Tools to stay consistent and emotionally strong
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This content is perfect for anyone searching for how to stop feeling discouraged, how to stay positive during hard times, overcoming failure, emotional resilience, mental strength, motivation after setbacks, confidence building, faith-based encouragement, personal growth, and self-improvement.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
✔ How to recover from disappointment
✔ Ways to stay hopeful when dreams feel delayed
✔ How to rebuild confidence after setbacks
✔ Strategies to stop negative thinking
✔ Tools to stay consistent and emotionally strong
If you’re feeling stuck, tired, overwhelmed, or discouraged, this episode will give you the encouragement, clarity, and strength you need to keep going without quitting on your future.
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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Blessings and peace to you. This is me favorite Thinking
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doing today? It is Wednesday, February eleventh, twenty twenty six,
another wonderful day and another day to be thankful. And
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then you can project something good to happen when you
focus on what is good, because you owe it to
yourself not to focus on the negative things, but focus
on the positive things to be built up. And if
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all right, so moving right along, The title of this
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episode is how to overcome disappointment and stay motivated, Don't
give up on your dreams. I'm going to repeat that
title again, how to overcome disappointment and stay motivated, don't
give up on your dreams. I decided to talk about
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this today because recently I was feeling a little discouraged
about a few things. And when I say a little,
I'm talking about literally a little, okay, a little discouraged.
Because I'm human and I want to be honest with you.
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I talk about all this positive stuff and I give
people encouragement, and I motivate others, but guess what, I
need to be motivated too, And there are days that
I am not one hundred percent. I can get to
eighty five percent and pray and bounce back, but there
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are days that are challenging sometimes for me. And when
those days are challenging, I have to find a way
to pull myself up, just like anybody else. So I
wanted to talk about this topic because I was feeling
a little disappointed. Yes, yes, yes, yes, I gotta be honest.
(04:45):
I was feeling a little disappointed. Now, I don't want
to get all into the details about why I was disappointed.
I just want to tell you what I did to
not stay there, because if I get into all the
personal stuff, I don't think that's beneficial. I think talking
about how I got up from that place is more important. Okay,
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So being disappointed it can be a setback mentally, spiritually,
it can be set back because you you some we
will we all sometimes excuse me, I'm talking fast again.
We all sometimes have moments when we are challenged and
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when we question things about life, and when we desire
certain things to happen. And when something doesn't happen the
way you want it to happen, or if it doesn't
happen at the time you want it to happen, sadly,
you know, in that time a person could be disappointed.
We all have experienced something like that, right, And if
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you haven't experienced anything like that, at some point, you
will in life, because that's just reality. Disappointment can happen
at any time, right, a simple delay, a delay of
success in a particular area, or it could be something
that you desire to see not just for you but
for someone else. Right. That can happen to any of us.
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So the point of the matter is this I wanted
to talk about this because when I was discouraged, I
had to tell myself and I still tell myself, Okay,
you got to get up. You got to get up,
because if you stay down and you decide to keep
going in the direction of what is not beneficial, then
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guess what, that's not good. So you have to function
in the direction mentally of what is beneficial. We all
have to stay motivated, and it takes a discipline to
stay motivated, because being motivated is all about a drive
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that you keep mentally so that you can just keep
moving forward. Because if you don't stay motivated, then you
won't have the drive to do anything. So that's why
it's important to stay motivated. It's not always a feeling.
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It's all about what you think. Because if you don't
feel motivated and you start thinking about why you should
be motivated, then what can happen is you will stir
up the thoughts of being motivated, and then as you
start to think more positively, your feelings and your mindset
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will start to change in that very hour. Yeah, so
it's important to stay motivated and understand when you are
feeling something that is not positive. Be very clear with
yourself to understand that when you are not feeling your best,
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when you're not feeling positive. Because we're human and we
can't lie about how we feel. We have to be
honest with ourselves. If you're feeling sad, or if you're
feeling disappointed or discourage or whatever it is you may feel,
you have to be honest about what you are feeling
in the moment because when you identify what you are feeling,
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and when you are honest about it, then you can
do something about it. You can't just ignore it. You
have to understand what is it, Why are you feeling
the way you are feeling, and is this Why am
I feeling like this? And what is going on? You know,
some people say, oh, well, I'm not in the best
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of moods today. People say things like that. I would say,
manage how you feel, but don't just give in to
just saying, oh, I'm in a bad mood today, Like
you're just declaring that your whole day is bad by
saying I'm in a bad mood today. That doesn't make
any sense. And that's just my opinion. We all start
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the day the same way. How we open our eyes,
and the minute you open your eyes and that moment,
you have to take charge over how you feel and
what you think. And if for some reason you are
struggling with how you feel and what you're thinking, all
you have to do is just pray or talk to
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somebody or journal, but do something. But more than anything else,
understand where you are and what is going on. Start
to question and why you feel the way you feel.
Because if you start questioning why you feel the way
you feel, then you will give yourself the answers. You
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will give yourself clarity to understand what is going on.
For an example, when I was going through my discouragement,
I ask myself the question, why am I feeling like this?
And of course sometimes I journal. I write things down
like you know when I would. When I journal, I
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write this statement or this question, and it says what
is my attitude? And when I write that question what
is my attitude? Then I have to answer it with
an honest answer. And once I go back and read
that in my journal, then I'm able to identify why
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I am feeling the way I'm feeling. It's very therapeutic.
You should try it. And so disappointment and discouragement work together.
They're two friends. They are two friends that work together
that try to bring you into a place of their
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cousin called sadness. So you have disappointment, discouragement, and then
their cousin called sadness. They all work together, disappointment, discouragement,
and sadness. They're all a family. I'm saying what I'm
saying with a sense of humor because I want you
to small, but on a serious note, those three things
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work together because if a person is disappointed at some point,
they will be sad And if a person is disappointed
at some point, they may yes, they will be discouraged
right in some cases. So the point of what I'm
saying is this, if you have experienced any type of disappointment, setbacks,
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delayed success, or you're just feeling tired of the same thing,
it's time to do something about it. It's time to
examine what you need to do for you. Okay, It's
time to examine how to overcome disappointment, stay motivated, and
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also to keep believing in your dreams. Because along the way, disappointment,
discouragement and sadness are dream killers. They're dream killers. Yes,
they are disappointments, sadness and discouragement. They are dream killers.
They don't those three things they don't want you. I'm
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saying they because they're a family. I have to talk
a certain way, So catch on to what I'm saying.
I'm identifying with these these things as little people discouragement,
disappointment and discouragement, disappointment and sadness. There are three people
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that don't want you to achieve your dreams. They're not
literal people, but you know energies. So look at it
like that metaphorically, and you have to stand strong so
that you can keep the vision that you have for
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your life. You have to stand strong so that those
three people, those three energies, don't weigh you down to
give up on your dreams. Even when life feels unfair
or exhausting, you can practice strategies to rebuild your confidence,
regain your hope, and move forward with clarity and purpose
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so that you can keep dreaming and so that you
can keep the vision that you have for your life. Because,
like I said, those three energies, those three people call
I'm calling them people disappointment, discouragement, and sadness. They all
work together, and it's up to you to understand. If
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you are dealing with that, and if you feel that
and if you are thinking that way, identify it to
stand apart from it. And what do I mean by that.
I'm telling you to stand up for yourself and tell
yourself something better. Talk to yourself, pray, meditate, journal, talk
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to someone, talk to a counselor. But don't stay in
that place of disappointment, discouragement and sadness. Because like I said,
it's three is a family of three, family of three
and they work together. So you have to make sure
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that you use a strategy to stay focused, Use a
strategy to stay motivated, Use a strategy to stay positive
during hard times or overcoming failure, or just to renew
your emotional resilience, to have mental strength and put yourself
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on track to stay motivated. It is important you can
develop a strategy by simply understanding the why of everything.
Understand the why of everything, by using your faith, by
using positive thinking, by looking at the success that you
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have already achieved. Because you are not a failure. If
someone has told you that you are a failure, I
am telling you right now you are not a failure.
You have already achieved many things. And even if you
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didn't achieve things at the same level of others. It
does not mean you are a failure. We all have
a different journey that we must walk. My journey can't
be my sister's journey, and my journey can't be my
brother's journey. I have a journey that I must walk,
and you have a journey that you must walk. It
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can't be like the next person's journey. So remember discouragement, disappointment, disappointment,
excuse me, and sadness. They don't those three things, those
three energies, those three little evil people. They don't want
you to achieve your goals. They don't I want you
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to achieve your goals. I am saying all of this
today because of what I experience, and in the moment
of my discouragement, I kept telling myself, Okay, you gotta
stay focused, you gotta stay focused. I kept telling myself that,
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even though I was not feeling that way. I kept
telling myself, Okay, you gotta stay focused. And the more
I spoke to myself, the better I felt. And I
know everybody operates differently. Some people need to talk to
a counselor some people need to talk to friends and
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family members, for that support. Some people need to journal,
some people need to pray. Everybody operates differently. I pray,
I journal, and I talk to others, but I pray
in John more than anything else, because sometimes even if
you explain something to someone and they may not understand it,
you still have to find you would still have to
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find another way to release whatever it is you're thinking
about or whatever it is you are caring, you know.
But like I said, I pray and journal a lot
because that works for me. I don't always share everything
with everybody, and I do that for my own sanity.
I do that for my own sanity. You know, I
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know who I can trust. We all have somebody we
can trust on different levels, right, and then we have
certain things that we only want to talk to God about.
That's me, right, And it's nothing wrong with that. There's
nothing wrong with that at all. Because some people were like, oh,
you don't share anything, You need to open up more.
I'm very open. I'm very open. It's just that I
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think that when you share intimate details about how you
feel with God, he understands you better. I think that
people have to learn to understand you. And sometimes when
you talk to people about things they don't understand. Sometimes
they may say the wrong thing because they don't understand.
Saying the wrong thing comes from a lack of clarity.
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All right, that's another topic. But like I said, disappointment, discouragement,
and sadness, those three things work as a family. They
are all connected together. And when you feel any of
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those disappointment, discouragement, on sadness, when you feel any when
you feel anything related to those, you should always identify
what it is and why. And if you can't determine why,
that's when you really just need to pray. Yes, that's right,
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that's when you need to prayer because if you don't
know why, that's when you need to go inward. What
do I mean by that? Inwardly going into that place
so that you can share how you feel with God
because he is the only one that can help you
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in that type of situation. Going to a counselor yes,
that is a blessing as well, that is something good
to do as well. But going to God and prayer
that is vital because you don't want to stay there.
You don't want to stay in a place of disappointment, discouragement,
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and sadness. You don't want to stay there. You don't
want to sit there and not understand the power were
of getting up. Okay, you don't want to do that
because it's easy to just drown in sadness. It's easy
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to drown and disappointment. It's easy to drown and discouragement.
And I'm saying that the way I'm saying it because
I'm telling you in twenty twenty one, for those of
you that listened to this podcast consistently in twenty twenty one,
when my mom passed away, I was going through literal
hell what do I mean by that? And my mind
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and my spirit because my daughter was scheduled to be
married during that same time, right my daughter's scheduled to
be married and one week before my mom passes away.
So I was going through a lot because I had
to be happy and I had to grieve at the
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same time. We couldn't cancel the wedding, so we had
to man the events around what was sad and what
was happy at the same time. And then on top
of all of that, I was going through my own
personal stuff. But through it all, I kept telling myself,
I have to stay focused. I have to focus on
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what's good. I have to be what I need to
be for my daughter, for my family in this moment,
and I told myself, whatever I need, God will take
care of me as I show up for others. And
I did, regardless of how I felt. But disappointment, discouragement
and sadness. Oh, let me tell you. Those three people
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was chasing me. You know, those energies were chasing me.
But I was ducking and diving and fighting. Oh yes,
oh yes, I was ducking and diving and fighting. And
the whole entire time that I was ducking, diving and fighting,
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I was able to stand up. I was able to
be strong. I was able to regain my hope. I
was able to move forward with clarity and purpose. I
was able to use strategies to just keep going forward. Remember,
everything starts with how you think and what you agree with.
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If you're thinking something negative and you agree with it
to carry it out into an action, then it will
just all be negative. But if you agree with the
positivity that you are filled with, and if you agree
with the positive words that are said to you and
the positive words that are spoken over your life, if
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you agree with those things, then that agreement will carry
over into a action, so you get to decide where
you want to be mentally and spiritually. You get to
the side. When you feel what you feel, we can't
say it's not real. We can't say, oh, I don't
feel that, that's a lie. When you feel what you feel,
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be honest about it, identify exactly what it is, and
develop a strategy to get past it. And the strategies
that I mentioned are prayer, talking to a counselor drawling, meditation, exercise. Yes,
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because if you're feeling stuck, tired, and overwhelmed, you have
to do something. You cannot just say, oh, well, it
is what it is. I'm just gonna walk around and
feel bad and I'm not gonna say anything to nobody,
but I'm just gonna feel bad. And when a person
does that, guess what, it gets worse. Yes, if you're
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walking around and you're not talking about it, you're not journaling,
you're not praying, you're not doing anything about it, that's
when it gets worse. Yes, it does. It gets worse.
I'm telling you this because I know what it's like.
I have gone through things in my life and I
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know more than anything else now at this time, I
have to make sure that I identify with what is
going on with me according to what I'm thinking, what
I'm feeling, and what I need to do to stand up,
to be strong, to be resilient, to regain my confidence.
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So when you feel what you feel, no matter what
it is, call it what it is, Write something to yourself,
pray the prayer that will help you to be focused.
Speak to that supportive family member or friend or cowork
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or the person you trust. Don't speak to somebody you
don't trust, because if you speak to someone you don't trust, oh,
that's gonna be the person that don't understand you. And
that person that doesn't understand you will eventually say the
wrong thing. So I'm going to give you ten powerful
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tips to help you to stay encouraged when you are
disappointed or discouraged, or you're just feeling sad. Okay, all
of those emotions are for you to identify so that
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you can stand against them and not in them, because
if you stand against them in your humanity, you are
just taking charge over what you are supposed to rightfully
take charge over. Yes, God made us human, but he
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made us human with power as well. Okay, So Number one,
accept your emotions without judging yourself because what you are
feeling is real, it's not a lie. You don't want
to just be phony, So accept your emotions without judging yourself.
Understand where you are, and take charge. Number two, remember
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that delay does not mean denial. Anytime you are pursuing
a goal and you have faith about something that's going
to take place, please understand that there is a process
to get from A to B and in some situations,
some things take time. So that does not mean that
whatever it is you see yourself having, you're not gonna
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have it. Just remember that faith matters every single day,
and remember that the lay does not mean denial. Keep
the faith and keep the vision that you have for
your life. Number three, refocus on progress instead of perfection.
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That's right because sometimes we want things to be perfect
and guess what, the process is never perfect. It is
important to understand that in the process, you want to
focus on the progress. Okay. Number four Speak positive affirmations, DELI,
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Think positive affirmations. DELI feed your spirit positive affirmations. DELI.
Saturate your mind with positive affirmations. DELI fill yourself up
with positive affirmations DELI. Number five, take small steps forward consistently,
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no matter how you feel. Take small steps forward. Yes,
because if you do that, that means you're walking in power.
You're not going by how you feel, You're going by
what you believe. Number six. Surround yourself with supported people
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that love you, people that cheer for you, people that
celebrate you, people that speak life over you, people that
adore you, people that pour into you, people that nurture you.
Not the people that speak against you, fight against you,
people that are envious against you. They are competing with you,
not those people. Number seven, revisit your purpose and learn
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term goals. Understand that you have already achieved many things,
and reflect on the things you have already achieved. Reflect
on what God has already done for you. You know
what you have achieved. You know how you had to
endure to get to where you are now. So reflect
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and think about how you have achieved what you have
already achieved. Number eight, turn setbacks into learning lessons. Anytime
there's a setback or delay, it is an opportunity to
grow in patience. It is an opportunity to regroup and
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extract a lesson from whatever it is you're going through. Yes,
Number nine, continually, always, constantly practice gratitude to shift your
mindset to where it needs to be even when there
is discouragement, disappointment, or sadness, because you have the power
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to take control over where you need to be. Mentally,
you have control over that. You have control over this
very moment, regardless regardless of what's going on. You have
control over this moment. And as you take control and
understand your power, you will shift your mind to the
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place it needs to be. And where your mind is,
that's where your heart will be, and where your heart is,
that's where your life will be focused on what is good. Yes,
that means good things will happen. Number ten. Trust that
growth happens even when results are invisible. I'm gonna say
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that again. Trust that growth happens even when results are invisible.
Why because everything that you go through is shaping you
and molding you into something better. Why because you are
still here. You are still here, and because you have
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endured and you have fought through things to be where
you are right now. You have grown and you have
received lessons from the things that you have gone through.
So trust that growth happens even when results are invisible. Yes,
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because we all are human and sometimes life doesn't always
look or smell like a rose. But one thing I
can tell you, you can have an attitude always that
smells and looks like a rose if you keep the
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mindset that helps you to be the best person you
can be. I am not talking about being perfect. I
am simply talking about what to do if you have
to deal with setbacks, failures, disappointment, discouragement, or sadness. Because
we all have different times and seasons and days and
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months and weeks when we experience different things on different levels.
So it is important to understand what to do to
be clear with yourself if you're going through a hard time,
if you need to overcome a failure, if you need
to stand and be focused and be strong, to have
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emotional resilience for mental strength. It's important because we're human
and in this life we don't know. As my mom
will always say, you don't know what's going to happen next,
But you can be prepared. And how do you prepare?
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You can prepare by keeping your mind focused on the
things that make you better, keep your mind focused on
what helps you to stay in the position of personal
growth and self improvement. Keep your mind focused on what
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helps you to be more strong when it comes to
who you are to stand and hope. It's important. And
I want you to understand that you're not alone. That's right,
You are not alone. When you feel like you are alone,
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just remember that God is present. He is present, and
I hope that you believe that He is present. He's
right here, right now, and we don't have to give
into disappointment and sadness and discouragement. We don't have to
give into it. When something happens and you're not happy
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about it. You can be disappointed for the moment, but
if you live a whole week disappointed, you just wasted
a whole week disappointment, sadness, and discouragement. There are emotions,
and they are feelings that have to be managed. They
are not feelings and emotions for us to carry around
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in a bag on our shoulder, because they're burdens. All
emotions should be managed, but I'm specifically talking about those
because staying motivated is essential to live and it takes
discipline to do that, and it starts by how you think.
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So I hope that everything that I said was beneficial
for you to think about and if you know somebody
that needs to hear what I have talked about today,
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episode is how to overcome disappointment and stay motivated, Don't
give up on your dreams. I'm going to repeat that
title again, how to overcome disappointment and stay motivated, don't
give up on your dreams. I decided to talk about
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this today because recently I was feeling a little discouraged
about a few things. And when I say a little,
I'm talking about literally a little, okay, a little discouraged.
Because I'm human and I want to be honest with you.
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I talk about all this positive stuff and I give
people encouragement, and I motivate others, but guess what, I
need to be motivated too, And there are days that
I am not one hundred percent. I can get to
eighty five percent and pray and bounce back, but there
(04:22):
are days that are challenging sometimes for me. And when
those days are challenging, I have to find a way
to pull myself up, just like anybody else. So I
wanted to talk about this topic because I was feeling
a little disappointed. Yes, yes, yes, yes, I gotta be honest.
(04:45):
I was feeling a little disappointed. Now, I don't want
to get all into the details about why I was disappointed.
I just want to tell you what I did to
not stay there, because if I get into all the
personal stuff, I don't think that's beneficial. I think talking
about how I got up from that place is more important. Okay,
(05:08):
So being disappointed it can be a setback mentally, spiritually,
it can be set back because you you some we
will we all sometimes excuse me, I'm talking fast again.
We all sometimes have moments when we are challenged and
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when we question things about life, and when we desire
certain things to happen. And when something doesn't happen the
way you want it to happen, or if it doesn't
happen at the time you want it to happen, sadly,
you know, in that time a person could be disappointed.
We all have experienced something like that, right, And if
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you haven't experienced anything like that, at some point, you
will in life, because that's just reality. Disappointment can happen
at any time, right, a simple delay, a delay of
success in a particular area, or it could be something
that you desire to see not just for you but
for someone else. Right. That can happen to any of us.
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So the point of the matter is this I wanted
to talk about this because when I was discouraged, I
had to tell myself and I still tell myself, Okay,
you got to get up. You got to get up,
because if you stay down and you decide to keep
going in the direction of what is not beneficial, then
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guess what, that's not good. So you have to function
in the direction mentally of what is beneficial. We all
have to stay motivated, and it takes a discipline to
stay motivated, because being motivated is all about a drive
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that you keep mentally so that you can just keep
moving forward. Because if you don't stay motivated, then you
won't have the drive to do anything. So that's why
it's important to stay motivated. It's not always a feeling.
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It's all about what you think. Because if you don't
feel motivated and you start thinking about why you should
be motivated, then what can happen is you will stir
up the thoughts of being motivated, and then as you
start to think more positively, your feelings and your mindset
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will start to change in that very hour. Yeah, so
it's important to stay motivated and understand when you are
feeling something that is not positive. Be very clear with
yourself to understand that when you are not feeling your best,
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when you're not feeling positive. Because we're human and we
can't lie about how we feel. We have to be
honest with ourselves. If you're feeling sad, or if you're
feeling disappointed or discourage or whatever it is you may feel,
you have to be honest about what you are feeling
in the moment because when you identify what you are feeling,
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and when you are honest about it, then you can
do something about it. You can't just ignore it. You
have to understand what is it, Why are you feeling
the way you are feeling, and is this Why am
I feeling like this? And what is going on? You know,
some people say, oh, well, I'm not in the best
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of moods today. People say things like that. I would say,
manage how you feel, but don't just give in to
just saying, oh, I'm in a bad mood today, Like
you're just declaring that your whole day is bad by
saying I'm in a bad mood today. That doesn't make
any sense. And that's just my opinion. We all start
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the day the same way. How we open our eyes,
and the minute you open your eyes and that moment,
you have to take charge over how you feel and
what you think. And if for some reason you are
struggling with how you feel and what you're thinking, all
you have to do is just pray or talk to
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somebody or journal, but do something. But more than anything else,
understand where you are and what is going on. Start
to question and why you feel the way you feel.
Because if you start questioning why you feel the way
you feel, then you will give yourself the answers. You
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will give yourself clarity to understand what is going on.
For an example, when I was going through my discouragement,
I ask myself the question, why am I feeling like this?
And of course sometimes I journal. I write things down
like you know when I would. When I journal, I
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write this statement or this question, and it says what
is my attitude? And when I write that question what
is my attitude? Then I have to answer it with
an honest answer. And once I go back and read
that in my journal, then I'm able to identify why
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I am feeling the way I'm feeling. It's very therapeutic.
You should try it. And so disappointment and discouragement work together.
They're two friends. They are two friends that work together
that try to bring you into a place of their
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cousin called sadness. So you have disappointment, discouragement, and then
their cousin called sadness. They all work together, disappointment, discouragement,
and sadness. They're all a family. I'm saying what I'm
saying with a sense of humor because I want you
to small, but on a serious note, those three things
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work together because if a person is disappointed at some point,
they will be sad And if a person is disappointed
at some point, they may yes, they will be discouraged
right in some cases. So the point of what I'm
saying is this, if you have experienced any type of disappointment, setbacks,
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delayed success, or you're just feeling tired of the same thing,
it's time to do something about it. It's time to
examine what you need to do for you. Okay, It's
time to examine how to overcome disappointment, stay motivated, and
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also to keep believing in your dreams. Because along the way, disappointment,
discouragement and sadness are dream killers. They're dream killers. Yes,
they are disappointments, sadness and discouragement. They are dream killers.
They don't those three things they don't want you. I'm
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saying they because they're a family. I have to talk
a certain way, So catch on to what I'm saying.
I'm identifying with these these things as little people discouragement,
disappointment and discouragement, disappointment and sadness. There are three people
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that don't want you to achieve your dreams. They're not
literal people, but you know energies. So look at it
like that metaphorically, and you have to stand strong so
that you can keep the vision that you have for
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your life. You have to stand strong so that those
three people, those three energies, don't weigh you down to
give up on your dreams. Even when life feels unfair
or exhausting, you can practice strategies to rebuild your confidence,
regain your hope, and move forward with clarity and purpose
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so that you can keep dreaming and so that you
can keep the vision that you have for your life. Because,
like I said, those three energies, those three people call
I'm calling them people disappointment, discouragement, and sadness. They all
work together, and it's up to you to understand. If
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you are dealing with that, and if you feel that
and if you are thinking that way, identify it to
stand apart from it. And what do I mean by that.
I'm telling you to stand up for yourself and tell
yourself something better. Talk to yourself, pray, meditate, journal, talk
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to someone, talk to a counselor. But don't stay in
that place of disappointment, discouragement and sadness. Because like I said,
it's three is a family of three, family of three
and they work together. So you have to make sure
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that you use a strategy to stay focused, Use a
strategy to stay motivated, Use a strategy to stay positive
during hard times or overcoming failure, or just to renew
your emotional resilience, to have mental strength and put yourself
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on track to stay motivated. It is important you can
develop a strategy by simply understanding the why of everything.
Understand the why of everything, by using your faith, by
using positive thinking, by looking at the success that you
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have already achieved. Because you are not a failure. If
someone has told you that you are a failure, I
am telling you right now you are not a failure.
You have already achieved many things. And even if you
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didn't achieve things at the same level of others. It
does not mean you are a failure. We all have
a different journey that we must walk. My journey can't
be my sister's journey, and my journey can't be my
brother's journey. I have a journey that I must walk,
and you have a journey that you must walk. It
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can't be like the next person's journey. So remember discouragement, disappointment, disappointment,
excuse me, and sadness. They don't those three things, those
three energies, those three little evil people. They don't want
you to achieve your goals. They don't I want you
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to achieve your goals. I am saying all of this
today because of what I experience, and in the moment
of my discouragement, I kept telling myself, Okay, you gotta
stay focused, you gotta stay focused. I kept telling myself that,
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even though I was not feeling that way. I kept
telling myself, Okay, you gotta stay focused. And the more
I spoke to myself, the better I felt. And I
know everybody operates differently. Some people need to talk to
a counselor some people need to talk to friends and
(17:44):
family members, for that support. Some people need to journal,
some people need to pray. Everybody operates differently. I pray,
I journal, and I talk to others, but I pray
in John more than anything else, because sometimes even if
you explain something to someone and they may not understand it,
you still have to find you would still have to
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find another way to release whatever it is you're thinking
about or whatever it is you are caring, you know.
But like I said, I pray and journal a lot
because that works for me. I don't always share everything
with everybody, and I do that for my own sanity.
I do that for my own sanity. You know, I
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know who I can trust. We all have somebody we
can trust on different levels, right, and then we have
certain things that we only want to talk to God about.
That's me, right, And it's nothing wrong with that. There's
nothing wrong with that at all. Because some people were like, oh,
you don't share anything, You need to open up more.
I'm very open. I'm very open. It's just that I
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think that when you share intimate details about how you
feel with God, he understands you better. I think that
people have to learn to understand you. And sometimes when
you talk to people about things they don't understand. Sometimes
they may say the wrong thing because they don't understand.
Saying the wrong thing comes from a lack of clarity.
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All right, that's another topic. But like I said, disappointment, discouragement,
and sadness, those three things work as a family. They
are all connected together. And when you feel any of
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those disappointment, discouragement, on sadness, when you feel any when
you feel anything related to those, you should always identify
what it is and why. And if you can't determine why,
that's when you really just need to pray. Yes, that's right,
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that's when you need to prayer because if you don't
know why, that's when you need to go inward. What
do I mean by that? Inwardly going into that place
so that you can share how you feel with God
because he is the only one that can help you
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in that type of situation. Going to a counselor yes,
that is a blessing as well, that is something good
to do as well. But going to God and prayer
that is vital because you don't want to stay there.
You don't want to stay in a place of disappointment, discouragement,
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and sadness. You don't want to stay there. You don't
want to sit there and not understand the power were
of getting up. Okay, you don't want to do that
because it's easy to just drown in sadness. It's easy
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to drown and disappointment. It's easy to drown and discouragement.
And I'm saying that the way I'm saying it because
I'm telling you in twenty twenty one, for those of
you that listened to this podcast consistently in twenty twenty one,
when my mom passed away, I was going through literal
hell what do I mean by that? And my mind
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and my spirit because my daughter was scheduled to be
married during that same time, right my daughter's scheduled to
be married and one week before my mom passes away.
So I was going through a lot because I had
to be happy and I had to grieve at the
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same time. We couldn't cancel the wedding, so we had
to man the events around what was sad and what
was happy at the same time. And then on top
of all of that, I was going through my own
personal stuff. But through it all, I kept telling myself,
I have to stay focused. I have to focus on
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what's good. I have to be what I need to
be for my daughter, for my family in this moment,
and I told myself, whatever I need, God will take
care of me as I show up for others. And
I did, regardless of how I felt. But disappointment, discouragement
and sadness. Oh, let me tell you. Those three people
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was chasing me. You know, those energies were chasing me.
But I was ducking and diving and fighting. Oh yes,
oh yes, I was ducking and diving and fighting. And
the whole entire time that I was ducking, diving and fighting,
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I was able to stand up. I was able to
be strong. I was able to regain my hope. I
was able to move forward with clarity and purpose. I
was able to use strategies to just keep going forward. Remember,
everything starts with how you think and what you agree with.
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If you're thinking something negative and you agree with it
to carry it out into an action, then it will
just all be negative. But if you agree with the
positivity that you are filled with, and if you agree
with the positive words that are said to you and
the positive words that are spoken over your life, if
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you agree with those things, then that agreement will carry
over into a action, so you get to decide where
you want to be mentally and spiritually. You get to
the side. When you feel what you feel, we can't
say it's not real. We can't say, oh, I don't
feel that, that's a lie. When you feel what you feel,
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be honest about it, identify exactly what it is, and
develop a strategy to get past it. And the strategies
that I mentioned are prayer, talking to a counselor drawling, meditation, exercise. Yes,
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because if you're feeling stuck, tired, and overwhelmed, you have
to do something. You cannot just say, oh, well, it
is what it is. I'm just gonna walk around and
feel bad and I'm not gonna say anything to nobody,
but I'm just gonna feel bad. And when a person
does that, guess what, it gets worse. Yes, if you're
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walking around and you're not talking about it, you're not journaling,
you're not praying, you're not doing anything about it, that's
when it gets worse. Yes, it does. It gets worse.
I'm telling you this because I know what it's like.
I have gone through things in my life and I
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know more than anything else now at this time, I
have to make sure that I identify with what is
going on with me according to what I'm thinking, what
I'm feeling, and what I need to do to stand up,
to be strong, to be resilient, to regain my confidence.
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So when you feel what you feel, no matter what
it is, call it what it is, Write something to yourself,
pray the prayer that will help you to be focused.
Speak to that supportive family member or friend or cowork
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or the person you trust. Don't speak to somebody you
don't trust, because if you speak to someone you don't trust, oh,
that's gonna be the person that don't understand you. And
that person that doesn't understand you will eventually say the
wrong thing. So I'm going to give you ten powerful
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tips to help you to stay encouraged when you are
disappointed or discouraged, or you're just feeling sad. Okay, all
of those emotions are for you to identify so that
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you can stand against them and not in them, because
if you stand against them in your humanity, you are
just taking charge over what you are supposed to rightfully
take charge over. Yes, God made us human, but he
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made us human with power as well. Okay, So Number one,
accept your emotions without judging yourself because what you are
feeling is real, it's not a lie. You don't want
to just be phony, So accept your emotions without judging yourself.
Understand where you are, and take charge. Number two, remember
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that delay does not mean denial. Anytime you are pursuing
a goal and you have faith about something that's going
to take place, please understand that there is a process
to get from A to B and in some situations,
some things take time. So that does not mean that
whatever it is you see yourself having, you're not gonna
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have it. Just remember that faith matters every single day,
and remember that the lay does not mean denial. Keep
the faith and keep the vision that you have for
your life. Number three, refocus on progress instead of perfection.
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That's right because sometimes we want things to be perfect
and guess what, the process is never perfect. It is
important to understand that in the process, you want to
focus on the progress. Okay. Number four Speak positive affirmations, DELI,
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Think positive affirmations. DELI feed your spirit positive affirmations. DELI.
Saturate your mind with positive affirmations. DELI fill yourself up
with positive affirmations DELI. Number five, take small steps forward consistently,
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no matter how you feel. Take small steps forward. Yes,
because if you do that, that means you're walking in power.
You're not going by how you feel, You're going by
what you believe. Number six. Surround yourself with supported people
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that love you, people that cheer for you, people that
celebrate you, people that speak life over you, people that
adore you, people that pour into you, people that nurture you.
Not the people that speak against you, fight against you,
people that are envious against you. They are competing with you,
not those people. Number seven, revisit your purpose and learn
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term goals. Understand that you have already achieved many things,
and reflect on the things you have already achieved. Reflect
on what God has already done for you. You know
what you have achieved. You know how you had to
endure to get to where you are now. So reflect
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and think about how you have achieved what you have
already achieved. Number eight, turn setbacks into learning lessons. Anytime
there's a setback or delay, it is an opportunity to
grow in patience. It is an opportunity to regroup and
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extract a lesson from whatever it is you're going through. Yes,
Number nine, continually, always, constantly practice gratitude to shift your
mindset to where it needs to be even when there
is discouragement, disappointment, or sadness, because you have the power
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to take control over where you need to be. Mentally,
you have control over that. You have control over this
very moment, regardless regardless of what's going on. You have
control over this moment. And as you take control and
understand your power, you will shift your mind to the
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place it needs to be. And where your mind is,
that's where your heart will be, and where your heart is,
that's where your life will be focused on what is good. Yes,
that means good things will happen. Number ten. Trust that
growth happens even when results are invisible. I'm gonna say
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that again. Trust that growth happens even when results are invisible.
Why because everything that you go through is shaping you
and molding you into something better. Why because you are
still here. You are still here, and because you have
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endured and you have fought through things to be where
you are right now. You have grown and you have
received lessons from the things that you have gone through.
So trust that growth happens even when results are invisible. Yes,
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because we all are human and sometimes life doesn't always
look or smell like a rose. But one thing I
can tell you, you can have an attitude always that
smells and looks like a rose if you keep the
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mindset that helps you to be the best person you
can be. I am not talking about being perfect. I
am simply talking about what to do if you have
to deal with setbacks, failures, disappointment, discouragement, or sadness. Because
we all have different times and seasons and days and
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months and weeks when we experience different things on different levels.
So it is important to understand what to do to
be clear with yourself if you're going through a hard time,
if you need to overcome a failure, if you need
to stand and be focused and be strong, to have
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emotional resilience for mental strength. It's important because we're human
and in this life we don't know. As my mom
will always say, you don't know what's going to happen next,
But you can be prepared. And how do you prepare?
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You can prepare by keeping your mind focused on the
things that make you better, keep your mind focused on
what helps you to stay in the position of personal
growth and self improvement. Keep your mind focused on what
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helps you to be more strong when it comes to
who you are to stand and hope. It's important. And
I want you to understand that you're not alone. That's right,
You are not alone. When you feel like you are alone,
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just remember that God is present. He is present, and
I hope that you believe that He is present. He's
right here, right now, and we don't have to give
into disappointment and sadness and discouragement. We don't have to
give into it. When something happens and you're not happy
(35:03):
about it. You can be disappointed for the moment, but
if you live a whole week disappointed, you just wasted
a whole week disappointment, sadness, and discouragement. There are emotions,
and they are feelings that have to be managed. They
are not feelings and emotions for us to carry around
(35:28):
in a bag on our shoulder, because they're burdens. All
emotions should be managed, but I'm specifically talking about those
because staying motivated is essential to live and it takes
discipline to do that, and it starts by how you think.
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So I hope that everything that I said was beneficial
for you to think about and if you know somebody
that needs to hear what I have talked about today,
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