November 20, 2025 • 34 mins
We will discuss the balance between playing it safe and taking risks in relationships and life, sharing personal stories of challenges and growth that led to betting on our togetherness.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
I want to know, are you playing it soft? Small?
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Stand office, playing in the background in your relationship. Let's
talk about it right after this, let's.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Talk about love and then the way of God intend
like experience to share.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Help transform. Hey, y'all, I'm coming from this perspective of
playing it small. Really, what it is is the idea
of playing it safe within your relationship.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
And I'm saying that because.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
For the longest time, I feel like I had to
play it safe and not take any risk in our relationship.
So you're like, Maurice, what the heck are you talking
about risk? Well, because of you hear and see other
people's situations, their challenges or whatever it is, sometimes you
(01:19):
don't want to. You feel like you gotta guard your
heart one hundred percent of the time and you don't
allow someone in to know who you really are. If
y'all been listening to some episodes, that's one of the
things we've been talking about, have been, you know, expressing yourself,
be expressive, right, Okay, but I'm just being expressive. And
(01:49):
but in that of not expressing or being a little
more open about who you are, what you are, what
your expectations are, or whatever it is. I don't feel like,
in all honesty that I've been able to live my
(02:10):
best life in my marriage.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
Tell me, why tell you?
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Why? Tell you?
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Why?
Speaker 1 (02:18):
What part? Why I haven't been or why I was planing?
And safe?
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Why you haven't been?
Speaker 2 (02:24):
I guess they're all the same answer, as I stated,
because of other influences. I've seen so many people get
married then there. I mean, look recently, somebody got married
in one month and within three two three months that
(02:45):
day got married. You know, them and their spouse were separated, right.
It was interesting because it was like right before the holiday,
I'm like, oh gosh, you know, so like you got
married and you great, go into the holiday is thinking like, hey,
you know what, We're gonna have holiday dinner together and
next thing, you know, nope, nope, I'm still I'm sitting
(03:08):
out here. I might as well just stay by myself.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Vibe right, you know. And so.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
If you don't, if you play it safe, then are
you really missing out on the opportunities for that person
to love you quote unquote unconditionally and for them to
really see the genuine you. And now it's the genuine
you in the moment, I'm not saying that, hey, you know,
(03:36):
they gonna know who you are ten years from now
because there's no way to show that.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
There's no way to express that part.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
But are they able to see who you are in
that moment and say, hey, I genuinely love this individual,
I see who this person really is. I don't think that.
In my opinion, Kafa, I think you or I have
played it safe. I think you and I have put
up boundaries in walls for a while because of our situations.
I can't say, I say, you know, we just put
(04:03):
it up now, you know whatever, But there are some
natural barriers that you put up because you want to
make sure that you feel safe, that you feel secure,
that you feel protected, that you feel even loved at
least a little bit. You get what I mean. Not
saying that we didn't feel that from one another, but
based on conversations, looks, attitudes, you know, of nonverbal communication.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
You know you don't always feel that way.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
You know, so I think, not you personally, I'm not
directing to you, but general in general, that sometimes we
don't feel comfortable enough and want to take that risk
because anytime we might have taken a risk in backfire.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
I think again, listeners, We've been married twenty five years,
so our level of risk taking is at another level
now than it was when we were five years in,
five years old, Like.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
I don't know what, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
When we were five years into this marriage thing. Even
five years into our relationship, the risks that we would
take were not one with another necessarily. The risks that
we were taking was with life.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Message.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
You know, I think it was absolutely risky for us
to be two urban youths getting married thinking that life
was going to be beautiful forever. That was a risk,
(05:53):
as Maurice said, you know, as you said, babe, like, hey,
everybody around us wasn't married. Nope, old folks, young folks, folks,
our age, folks down the street, folks, we worked with, folks,
we went to church with folks on the bus. Nobody.
(06:13):
We just didn't have that. So we took a risk
to get married. We took a risk to put out
thousands of dollars to prove to the world that we
wanted to be married.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
You know.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
So I think the risks that we take are different
depending on what stage of this relationship, this stage of
marriage that we're in. So then we took that risk
to jump the room. We took the risk to get
cars and houses and everything else. We took the risk
(06:50):
to have kids in this crazy world that we're in.
So I think we were not taking a whole lot
of risks in our relationship with each other because we
had so many other things to navigate during those first
few years of our marriage. So for those who are newlyweds,
(07:13):
y'all live in risky's. Risky business. Marriage is truly risky business.
Like you know, you don't know what you're gonna get
when you wake up in the morning, you don't know
what you're going to have when you come home from work.
It's risky business. And so with all that, you still
get up and do it, you know, well, at least
(07:33):
for us, we did. And we hope that everybody that's listening,
if you're in this, that you stay true to this
and you keep doing it for the right reasons and
with the right person and all that good stuff. But
that's kind of how I feel in reference to what
you're saying, babing reference to the risks and what you know,
(07:55):
were we risky and not?
Speaker 1 (07:58):
So?
Speaker 3 (07:58):
I think some of our risks were everything else, everything else,
you know, Hey, I'm with child, but babe, I want
to go back to school because I don't want to
work no more. I want to be a stay home mom. Risky. Hey, babe,
I don't like just to commute for work. I think
I'm just gonna quit, and you know, something else will
(08:21):
come up. I know we got two kids. I know
you're not working, but you know that's risky and we
paid for it too.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
And so I want you to listen to those two scenario,
just those two scenarios, because each one of those one
was one, one was the.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Other, that was both of us. Now, let's put down perspective.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Not even let's say with those things happening, not even
a year or so later, we filed for bankruptcy.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Let's understand this.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Within the next two and a half years, we were
in a process of going through a foreclosure. So those
moments of being risky or taking a risk on ourselves,
betting on ourselves, whatever the situation might have been, thinking
that you know what, we got this, we can handle
(09:20):
this or whatever it is, but not understanding what.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
The costs really were in those risks, where now.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Some people might say, well, you're old enough, you're risk
averse and not necessarily, but I would say this though
in this position, now we have to we understand better.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
And what to look for the potential risk.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
So again, and Kyp and I just talked about this
not too long ago about how anytime we talk about
ourselves were investing ourselves, just put a we could put
three dollars towards lunch, right, it could be just three dollars.
Here's a situation that comes up that now is going
to ask us for two dollars, right, and we're like, coffer,
(10:15):
all we got was a half of a McDonald's Happy Meal.
We got a half of a McDonald's Happy Meal. That's
all we got. Well, why is it that this situation
is coming up in our life.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Is asking for the half of our half?
Speaker 2 (10:32):
So we only got two chicken nuggets? Why does this
situation want one of that chicken nuggets? And we got
a half a hamburger and it was half of a
hamburger and our apple.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Juice, Like really, are you serious?
Speaker 2 (10:49):
And because it is, we only paid, we only got
three dollars worth, it wants two dollars. It wants our toy.
We can't even enjoy the toy because it wants the
toy the whole to wow. So, so can you imagine
anytime something like that happens and we're looking to again
(11:10):
take a risk on ourselves mentality wise or or whatever.
It might be like, hey, we're going to enjoy life.
Well here's a situation that pulls us back. Now we
again risk averse. Well, now we don't want to live life.
We don't want to enjoy it. We don't want to
be like Yola. You know, we don't want to go.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
There right because we realize we don't just live one
day to die, you know, like there's tomorrow we need,
you know, do we need to be safe enough? Especially
as parents? You know, it made us think like, you know,
do we need to save up a little bit better?
Do we need to look at some things? And that
became a whole nother issue because then we be like, okay,
we'll trailop on down to the life insurance office. You know,
(11:51):
we're going to get a plan for you and a
plan for you, and you get a plan and you
get a plan and not realizing like, oh that adds up?
Speaker 1 (11:58):
Oh yeah, most definite, definitely.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
You know what I mean. So try not to live risky,
trying to play things safe. But then all that added
up and then, like you said, then something else happened,
and something else happened, and it all began to pile
up and we had to kind of figure things out
real life.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
But here's the thing, though, because we did try some
risks and learned it and not try to play safe
one hundred percent of the time, take a risk on ourselves,
new job, going back to school, whatever it is, especially
since we were so young and early on, have we
(12:39):
been able to be somewhat successful later on in life.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
And based off of some of the things that we have.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Achieved individually leading up to now, because we shown we
have shown to one another who we are without the
other person. Though in all honesty, we have shown each
other that in if I'm putting this situation, I can excel.
(13:12):
I could be the best I could be. I could
be the bomb, I could be older. In the bag
of chips depend.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
On what why you bust out laughing. It depend on
what generation is listening right now.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
I can't go for a bag of chips right now.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
That might be risky because I don't want ships we
have oh gosh, so but I use that because in
that we've shown how we have grown as individuals. Now
that we're older, things have changed, life has changed or
(14:01):
whatever it is. And now we're like, you know what,
it's really time for us to make a difference with
each other. And in that our success has not been
actualized as of yet, but you could definitely see it
coming like we have in our eyes. There's a lot
(14:25):
of things we have accomplished, like other people are like,
oh no, y'all got it going on, but it's not
enough for us. You know why, because in our reality,
all we're doing is what God has told us to do, right,
you know, and we're touching lives, we are educating, we
(14:45):
are giving ideas and motivational and whatever it is and say,
you know what, all of you can do it.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
And guess what. It is a risk every single time
we touch this.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Microphone, pulling our information out there, bearing our business out
there to a degree, and there's some things that we're
talking to you about, like you could verify it, you know,
us far from bankruptcy.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
That's the whole court thing.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Like you can see that, you get what I mean,
you know, so some of the other financial challenges we've had,
you could go out there and see that here's a
reality though, the reality is is that we're speaking from
a real place, real life situations, from our own experiences.
(15:33):
So we're not making it up. We didn't chet gpt this,
we didn't ai this, right, you know, we are living
through this. So anything that you hear from us, anything
that you've seen from us, or any social media content, books,
whatever it is.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Whatever the situation might be, it's coming from us because
we've experienced a whole heck of a lot, and if
we would have pleaded a little more safe, we would
not be where we are today. We wouldn't be And
I'm gonna be honest with you. Life didn't really provide
those moments for us to be one hundred percent safe either.
(16:13):
It really didn't, because there were some moments where we
really had to better on ourselves. And like right now,
we're betting on our togetherness. We're not betting on us
as individuals. We're betting on our togetherness. We're betting on
the fact that conpronized mission, purpose or whatever else has
not again has not been actualized. How many of you
(16:33):
are in that same position, have that same mentality, have
that same thought that you know what my purpose today
is greater than what has ever been.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
Because it's that time.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
It's not for each and every one of us to
step up and create the world that we want to see.
So I ain't mean to get all you know, you
know what my calling is.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
I think through it all. You know. Yes, we talked
tonight a lot about risks, but I think even in
the safe times, you know, it's all about a mixture
of having both, you know, I think we had a
lot of safe moments of even like when we moved. Now,
(17:22):
you know, do we say it was a risk or
do we say we were playing it safe?
Speaker 1 (17:26):
So in this situation.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
We moved because of a situation, it wasn't necessarily I
can't see here. I don't know whether it was safe
or not. I think it was safe on one end,
but risky on another. It became more of a risk
the longer we stay here, You get what I mean,
(17:51):
catch everything that.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Goes with it.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
Right, So a lot of people think, you know, well,
home ownership is safe, right, you know, that's that's what
we're told. Hey, getting a college education is safe. You know,
you'll always have a job, And those are things that
we're told that are safe. Getting married is safe, you know,
it's it's what we're told. But the reality is again
(18:15):
they still have some risk. It still can be risky.
We said marriage is risky, going to college is risky.
You're gonna have a bill at to end and you
got to pay it. And when it comes to home ownership, yeah,
it's more of a debt at times than it is
an asset because it's always something always you know, as
(18:36):
people say you got a house, there's always something going on.
You know, whether it's well, we had a squeaky pipe,
you know, trying to figure out where that's coming from,
or hey, you know it's getting cooler. We got to
figure out what to do in reference to win a
rising the home a little bit more. Have a car,
you think that's a blessing. You think it's safe. It
(18:57):
allows you to get to and from but it's also
a risk. You know, just driving safely up and down
the streets, it's gonna be risky. So I think finding
a combination and appreciating a combination of both is a
great tool to success. Whether it is in your four
(19:19):
oh one k you got to be risky and safe,
whether it's in your relationship, whether it's in any aspect
of life. I think having a little bit of a risk,
having some risks with some safety nets. There is my thoughts.
What are your thoughts, Babe.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
On which part all of it? I think that when
you open up your eyes as a risky because I
know when I wake up in the morning, that's a
(20:01):
risk whether or I'm going to pass gas or not.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
When does that happened to you pass gas in your sleep?
So that that that has nothing to do with your
eyes being open. Boom. Now, if you said whether or
not you're going to have you know, allergy eyes or whatever,
that might be the risk. But you know it's whether
or not you turn all the lights on for you.
(20:26):
It might be whether or not I opened the curtains
and you got to do it all the sunlight. That
that might be a risk.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
I don't know if that's a risk or not.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
I think the risk is in all honesty as you're
stating home ownership, car ownership, riding the bus, going to
the market, because sometimes you don't know whether or not
that head of letters is going to be two dollars,
(21:00):
three dollars or half a mortgage.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
You don't know if the head of lettuce is organic
or if it's a three D image, we just we
don't know what, you know. For real, let me tell y'all.
I bought ahead of lettuce. I swear it was a
(21:24):
month ago for Hamburgers or tacos or something. And that
thing has not will to yet. I'm going to throw
it out, but we haven't used it. But I was
just doing an experiment on how right and yeah, especially
(21:46):
because it was Iceberg letters, y'all, so that really doesn't
seem to have a good life. But this iceberg m
it's just something's wrong with that. It's going out in
the trash most definitely, you know. But we've bought stuff
for salad and that doesn't even last three days. But
that head of lettuce, it's just sitting there looking like, Hi,
(22:09):
I'm here, I'm still here. It's gotta be three D printed.
It's it's got some you know, whatever they putting that
head of lettuce. I need that on my face, your
face like that whatever preservatives and the thing I don't understand,
(22:33):
like I can understand, like they put preservatives on the outside.
But we peeled off a couple of layers for dinner,
you know, a while ago, and that thing is still
now it's wrapped up. It's not, you know, just sitting
out and it's wrapped tightly. But no, but I just
(22:55):
don't understand. I'm not a fan, really big of Iceberg.
Maybe that's why it's just sitting there wanting to tease me,
like I'm still here.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
It could be, it could be.
Speaker 3 (23:05):
I don't know if anybody knows what's going on with that,
let us know, should we no longer get it?
Speaker 1 (23:13):
That's a good point. But it's like you said, could
it be three D print? You know, are we really
in a matrix? Like it's going to show that we're
really in the matrix or something. I'm sorry, that's a
whole other level.
Speaker 3 (23:26):
But because it don't have no flavor.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
I don't know. I don't remember eating any of it.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
Yeah, it was a while ago.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
So but I think that all of this is a risk.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
That now I can't stop thinking about getting a three
D PRINM machine, Like that's all that's on my mind
right now.
Speaker 3 (23:45):
Would that be risky or would that be safe?
Speaker 1 (23:48):
That would be risky because who knows what I'll build?
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Who knows I'll be You be like Maurice again, you
buy enough from Amazon already how much more of this
three D pres and stuff do you need it?
Speaker 3 (24:01):
Would you three D P three D print your own pepsi?
Speaker 1 (24:05):
I was three D print.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
I don't know if I could do my own pepsi
maybe my own pepsi bottle.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Maybe, yes, but I mean maybe. I'm pretty sure there's
some you'd like.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
To collect transformers.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Could you I caut three three D print some of
that stuff? Yes, because they show how to do to
some of that.
Speaker 3 (24:23):
And all the accessories they are missing.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Yeah, I could do that.
Speaker 3 (24:26):
And it could fit perfectly and not fall off.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Yes, most definitely. Yeah. Oh yeah, they show you how
to do that.
Speaker 3 (24:33):
But he sounds excited, but no, well, yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:37):
I mean that sounds fun. But what I did see
someone was three D printing their bricks for their house.
I really want to see how that turns out. They're
going to build their house through from three D prints.
I'm pretty sure somebody else has done it already.
Speaker 3 (24:53):
I'm sure, you know.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
I'm just saying that there's one person I'm looking at.
They they three D printing the whole thing, And I'm curious.
Speaker 3 (25:02):
Where is this house going to be?
Speaker 1 (25:04):
It's in the United States. I can't remember exactly where that.
Speaker 2 (25:07):
But yeah, he's I mean, but he went and bought
his own land, you know, YadA, YadA, YadA.
Speaker 3 (25:12):
So this is the house that Jack built or Claude
whatever his name is, or was it the three.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
The three blind mice.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
No, not three blind mice, the Jack. No, the house
made out of straw, the house made out of.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Not the three blind mice.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
No, I'll huff and I'll puff and I'll blow your
house down.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
Not really red, red riding Hood.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
I'm trying reading reading Red, not Goldie Locks. No, I
don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
I had. I had to go through every single very
like I can't remember what it is.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
Yes, I just know.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
I'm gonna tell you all right, So here's what was
going on. I want you to understand what was going
on my brain. Everyone I mentioned, I could see what
book I was reading it in. Oh, okay, So I
had to go through and go through the pages. That's
why I kept pausing Kyle's turning and mentally turning the.
Speaker 4 (26:11):
Page just to say, oh, gosh, I am sorry.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
That's risky, yo, I'm gonna sha was risky. Like Maurice
just said, he gave an example of these nursery stories
that and he visualized turning the pages so that, let
you know, somewhere in his youth there was a book
with these stories. But when we had kids, he retold
(26:49):
these stories without a book. So there was no safety
in where the stories would go go, no safety at all.
They were risky stories somehow Intertwined't I need to quiz
(27:09):
my kids, like do they really understand Goldilocks? You know,
because somehow Goldilocks and Red writing hoop like good friends
or something like that.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
He kind of, I don't remember that. It's possible, though,
it's possible. It's possible, I mean because of whatever. All right,
so if you think about it from a Disney movie perspective,
I can't remember which movie it was where they had
almost was it Disney or it's like one of those yeah,
(27:42):
something like a Shrek right where Shrek has intertwined all
of the fairy tales one way or another. Right, And
so so unfortunately, even if I were to tell the
story one hundred percent, because they looked at Shrek, I
mean you're talking about that was a movie that was
(28:02):
gonna repeat far or I'm sorry, how many movies?
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Was it? Three of them was on repeat? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (28:09):
That yeah, So even if I made something up. It
wasn't too far off because or even if I said
that story straight out, it didn't matter, because we had
all the other movies that would take those stories and twist.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
It up anyway.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
Okay, it's still as risky, yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (28:26):
Mean, but vivid imagination. But I knew the story enough
to twisted and not just make it up. I knew
that I knew the foundational part.
Speaker 3 (28:40):
But now the next generation, being our children, probably don't.
Speaker 1 (28:44):
I mean, we.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
Just need to confirm whether or not they understand the
true nursery rhyme or is it something where we have
to sit them down do the Actually.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
We need to get that book.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
I mean, I I think they're my mom's. I think
it's at my mom's. I think she still has it.
Speaker 3 (29:04):
Okay, we're gonna have to get a book and be like,
this is the true story.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
And here's the one that your dad read. Here's the
book that he read from. I believe it was a
blue cover. I think it was a blue cover, a
baby blue, not quite baby blue, almost like a sky
blue color.
Speaker 3 (29:25):
Okay, but that wasn't the one that you read to
the children.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Oh it wasn't. It was just the one that I know.
It was the one I read to my children from
my head. It was it was, it was there, The
story was there. How many of you know all the stories,
just like you know the Bible stories.
Speaker 3 (29:44):
But you don't not supposed to mix up the Bible stories?
Speaker 2 (29:48):
Who said was supposed to mix up Goldielocks with It's
a bitsy Spider.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
I don't know that. They was all hanging out.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Baby, I mean they even.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
When you're trying to say Goldielocks, little Miss Muffett and
Little Red riding Hood was all like.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Listen, they listened, all little kids out in the woods
somewhere by themselves.
Speaker 3 (30:11):
Why why, how do you know it was by themselves?
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Who's little Red Riding Hood? She was on her way
to grandmama house, Yes, by herself.
Speaker 3 (30:21):
But her parents had told her to go.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
Yeah, she was by herself though doing I don't know
who was Goldie Locks.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
You don't remember?
Speaker 3 (30:30):
Well, you know, when you get to adulthood, they tell
you it's a whole lot more behind those stories.
Speaker 1 (30:35):
All right handsel same thing.
Speaker 3 (30:37):
Yeah, a whole lot more behind all those stories.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
I don't know about. Humpty dumpty.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
I ain't hear nothing else crazy or risky about Humpty dumpty?
Speaker 3 (30:46):
What about Jack and jew a whole life?
Speaker 2 (30:53):
That was a risky laugh? What do you know, Gop,
what ain't you telling that? That's crazy? We need to
have a conversation off.
Speaker 3 (31:03):
Of we need to talk about the riskiness about that.
Speaker 2 (31:06):
One and are we tilling that to the kids.
Speaker 1 (31:13):
They were like, well, Dad, well, recall.
Speaker 3 (31:17):
Our daughter coming home from one of uh like I
think it was like one of her breaks from college,
and she's like, mom, I will never ever, ever ever
watching certain Disney movies again the same, or some of
those fairy tales the same, because in psychology class they
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broke them all down and she was just like, wow,
why do we do this to the kids?
Speaker 1 (31:46):
Well, unfortunately, daughter, you wouldn't have known until.
Speaker 3 (31:52):
You got that, until you got to college age, and
you can and.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
Now you see what the dealer is right now, you
see it?
Speaker 3 (31:57):
Right? Yeah? So maybe, yeah, maybe she won't.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
But that's no different than we're looking at any other cartoons. Yes,
you know, because every cartoon had risk.
Speaker 1 (32:09):
Yeah, yeah, and don't it. And here's the thing.
Speaker 3 (32:14):
You want to talk about, cancelation culture and all that stuff,
the stuff we looked at versus the stuff our parents
looked at cartoon sitcoms. Honey, that's why they don't have reruns.
You know, you gotta pay cable, pay somebody to look
at some of those things because mm hmmm.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
Noop. So if y'all have listened today, all of this
is a risk.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
That's why when I if you'll remember what I said
a few moments ago, over up your eyes, just wake
up in the morning.
Speaker 3 (32:52):
It's a risk, but with the risk there's such a
great reward.
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Finally caught the Westly webbit like what is it? What
the reward?
Speaker 3 (33:07):
But was it a three D printed rabbit?
Speaker 1 (33:09):
All right, y'all, we will talk to you all later.
Speaker 2 (33:11):
We're losing track, we're losing daylight, we're losing time, whatever
it is because Cope, I don't know, is a risk.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
Talking to her right now.
Speaker 3 (33:21):
That's quite safe.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
We think are very much for listening.
Speaker 3 (33:25):
We truly truly do, and we.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Will talk to you a little bit later. She's not
going to say bye. You're not going to see you later.
Speaker 3 (33:34):
That's the risk.
Speaker 2 (33:36):
Thanks for tuning in to another episode of a No
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Speaker 1 (33:49):
Use a little inspiration in their death.
Speaker 4 (33:50):
Until next time, stay rooted in love and remember every
seed you plant today shapes the fruit of tomorrow.
I want to know, are you playing it soft? Small?
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Stand office, playing in the background in your relationship. Let's
talk about it right after this, let's.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Talk about love and then the way of God intend
like experience to share.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Help transform. Hey, y'all, I'm coming from this perspective of
playing it small. Really, what it is is the idea
of playing it safe within your relationship.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
And I'm saying that because.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
For the longest time, I feel like I had to
play it safe and not take any risk in our relationship.
So you're like, Maurice, what the heck are you talking
about risk? Well, because of you hear and see other
people's situations, their challenges or whatever it is, sometimes you
(01:19):
don't want to. You feel like you gotta guard your
heart one hundred percent of the time and you don't
allow someone in to know who you really are. If
y'all been listening to some episodes, that's one of the
things we've been talking about, have been, you know, expressing yourself,
be expressive, right, Okay, but I'm just being expressive. And
(01:49):
but in that of not expressing or being a little
more open about who you are, what you are, what
your expectations are, or whatever it is. I don't feel like,
in all honesty that I've been able to live my
(02:10):
best life in my marriage.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
Tell me, why tell you?
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Why? Tell you?
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Why?
Speaker 1 (02:18):
What part? Why I haven't been or why I was planing?
And safe?
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Why you haven't been?
Speaker 2 (02:24):
I guess they're all the same answer, as I stated,
because of other influences. I've seen so many people get
married then there. I mean, look recently, somebody got married
in one month and within three two three months that
(02:45):
day got married. You know, them and their spouse were separated, right.
It was interesting because it was like right before the holiday,
I'm like, oh gosh, you know, so like you got
married and you great, go into the holiday is thinking like, hey,
you know what, We're gonna have holiday dinner together and
next thing, you know, nope, nope, I'm still I'm sitting
(03:08):
out here. I might as well just stay by myself.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Vibe right, you know. And so.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
If you don't, if you play it safe, then are
you really missing out on the opportunities for that person
to love you quote unquote unconditionally and for them to
really see the genuine you. And now it's the genuine
you in the moment, I'm not saying that, hey, you know,
(03:36):
they gonna know who you are ten years from now
because there's no way to show that.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
There's no way to express that part.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
But are they able to see who you are in
that moment and say, hey, I genuinely love this individual,
I see who this person really is. I don't think that.
In my opinion, Kafa, I think you or I have
played it safe. I think you and I have put
up boundaries in walls for a while because of our situations.
I can't say, I say, you know, we just put
(04:03):
it up now, you know whatever, But there are some
natural barriers that you put up because you want to
make sure that you feel safe, that you feel secure,
that you feel protected, that you feel even loved at
least a little bit. You get what I mean. Not
saying that we didn't feel that from one another, but
based on conversations, looks, attitudes, you know, of nonverbal communication.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
You know you don't always feel that way.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
You know, so I think, not you personally, I'm not
directing to you, but general in general, that sometimes we
don't feel comfortable enough and want to take that risk
because anytime we might have taken a risk in backfire.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
I think again, listeners, We've been married twenty five years,
so our level of risk taking is at another level
now than it was when we were five years in,
five years old, Like.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
I don't know what, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
When we were five years into this marriage thing. Even
five years into our relationship, the risks that we would
take were not one with another necessarily. The risks that
we were taking was with life.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Message.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
You know, I think it was absolutely risky for us
to be two urban youths getting married thinking that life
was going to be beautiful forever. That was a risk,
(05:53):
as Maurice said, you know, as you said, babe, like, hey,
everybody around us wasn't married. Nope, old folks, young folks, folks,
our age, folks down the street, folks, we worked with, folks,
we went to church with folks on the bus. Nobody.
(06:13):
We just didn't have that. So we took a risk
to get married. We took a risk to put out
thousands of dollars to prove to the world that we
wanted to be married.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
You know.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
So I think the risks that we take are different
depending on what stage of this relationship, this stage of
marriage that we're in. So then we took that risk
to jump the room. We took the risk to get
cars and houses and everything else. We took the risk
(06:50):
to have kids in this crazy world that we're in.
So I think we were not taking a whole lot
of risks in our relationship with each other because we
had so many other things to navigate during those first
few years of our marriage. So for those who are newlyweds,
(07:13):
y'all live in risky's. Risky business. Marriage is truly risky business.
Like you know, you don't know what you're gonna get
when you wake up in the morning, you don't know
what you're going to have when you come home from work.
It's risky business. And so with all that, you still
get up and do it, you know, well, at least
(07:33):
for us, we did. And we hope that everybody that's listening,
if you're in this, that you stay true to this
and you keep doing it for the right reasons and
with the right person and all that good stuff. But
that's kind of how I feel in reference to what
you're saying, babing reference to the risks and what you know,
(07:55):
were we risky and not?
Speaker 1 (07:58):
So?
Speaker 3 (07:58):
I think some of our risks were everything else, everything else,
you know, Hey, I'm with child, but babe, I want
to go back to school because I don't want to
work no more. I want to be a stay home mom. Risky. Hey, babe,
I don't like just to commute for work. I think
I'm just gonna quit, and you know, something else will
(08:21):
come up. I know we got two kids. I know
you're not working, but you know that's risky and we
paid for it too.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
And so I want you to listen to those two scenario,
just those two scenarios, because each one of those one
was one, one was the.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Other, that was both of us. Now, let's put down perspective.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Not even let's say with those things happening, not even
a year or so later, we filed for bankruptcy.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Let's understand this.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Within the next two and a half years, we were
in a process of going through a foreclosure. So those
moments of being risky or taking a risk on ourselves,
betting on ourselves, whatever the situation might have been, thinking
that you know what, we got this, we can handle
(09:20):
this or whatever it is, but not understanding what.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
The costs really were in those risks, where now.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Some people might say, well, you're old enough, you're risk
averse and not necessarily, but I would say this though
in this position, now we have to we understand better.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
And what to look for the potential risk.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
So again, and Kyp and I just talked about this
not too long ago about how anytime we talk about
ourselves were investing ourselves, just put a we could put
three dollars towards lunch, right, it could be just three dollars.
Here's a situation that comes up that now is going
to ask us for two dollars, right, and we're like, coffer,
(10:15):
all we got was a half of a McDonald's Happy Meal.
We got a half of a McDonald's Happy Meal. That's
all we got. Well, why is it that this situation
is coming up in our life.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Is asking for the half of our half?
Speaker 2 (10:32):
So we only got two chicken nuggets? Why does this
situation want one of that chicken nuggets? And we got
a half a hamburger and it was half of a
hamburger and our apple.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Juice, Like really, are you serious?
Speaker 2 (10:49):
And because it is, we only paid, we only got
three dollars worth, it wants two dollars. It wants our toy.
We can't even enjoy the toy because it wants the
toy the whole to wow. So, so can you imagine
anytime something like that happens and we're looking to again
(11:10):
take a risk on ourselves mentality wise or or whatever.
It might be like, hey, we're going to enjoy life.
Well here's a situation that pulls us back. Now we
again risk averse. Well, now we don't want to live life.
We don't want to enjoy it. We don't want to
be like Yola. You know, we don't want to go.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
There right because we realize we don't just live one
day to die, you know, like there's tomorrow we need,
you know, do we need to be safe enough? Especially
as parents? You know, it made us think like, you know,
do we need to save up a little bit better?
Do we need to look at some things? And that
became a whole nother issue because then we be like, okay,
we'll trailop on down to the life insurance office. You know,
(11:51):
we're going to get a plan for you and a
plan for you, and you get a plan and you
get a plan and not realizing like, oh that adds up?
Speaker 1 (11:58):
Oh yeah, most definite, definitely.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
You know what I mean. So try not to live risky,
trying to play things safe. But then all that added
up and then, like you said, then something else happened,
and something else happened, and it all began to pile
up and we had to kind of figure things out
real life.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
But here's the thing, though, because we did try some
risks and learned it and not try to play safe
one hundred percent of the time, take a risk on ourselves,
new job, going back to school, whatever it is, especially
since we were so young and early on, have we
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been able to be somewhat successful later on in life.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
And based off of some of the things that we have.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Achieved individually leading up to now, because we shown we
have shown to one another who we are without the
other person. Though in all honesty, we have shown each
other that in if I'm putting this situation, I can excel.
(13:12):
I could be the best I could be. I could
be the bomb, I could be older. In the bag
of chips depend.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
On what why you bust out laughing. It depend on
what generation is listening right now.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
I can't go for a bag of chips right now.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
That might be risky because I don't want ships we
have oh gosh, so but I use that because in
that we've shown how we have grown as individuals. Now
that we're older, things have changed, life has changed or
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whatever it is. And now we're like, you know what,
it's really time for us to make a difference with
each other. And in that our success has not been
actualized as of yet, but you could definitely see it
coming like we have in our eyes. There's a lot
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of things we have accomplished, like other people are like,
oh no, y'all got it going on, but it's not
enough for us. You know why, because in our reality,
all we're doing is what God has told us to do, right,
you know, and we're touching lives, we are educating, we
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are giving ideas and motivational and whatever it is and say,
you know what, all of you can do it.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
And guess what. It is a risk every single time
we touch this.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Microphone, pulling our information out there, bearing our business out
there to a degree, and there's some things that we're
talking to you about, like you could verify it, you know,
us far from bankruptcy.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
That's the whole court thing.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Like you can see that, you get what I mean,
you know, so some of the other financial challenges we've had,
you could go out there and see that here's a
reality though, the reality is is that we're speaking from
a real place, real life situations, from our own experiences.
(15:33):
So we're not making it up. We didn't chet gpt this,
we didn't ai this, right, you know, we are living
through this. So anything that you hear from us, anything
that you've seen from us, or any social media content, books,
whatever it is.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Whatever the situation might be, it's coming from us because
we've experienced a whole heck of a lot, and if
we would have pleaded a little more safe, we would
not be where we are today. We wouldn't be And
I'm gonna be honest with you. Life didn't really provide
those moments for us to be one hundred percent safe either.
(16:13):
It really didn't, because there were some moments where we
really had to better on ourselves. And like right now,
we're betting on our togetherness. We're not betting on us
as individuals. We're betting on our togetherness. We're betting on
the fact that conpronized mission, purpose or whatever else has
not again has not been actualized. How many of you
(16:33):
are in that same position, have that same mentality, have
that same thought that you know what my purpose today
is greater than what has ever been.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
Because it's that time.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
It's not for each and every one of us to
step up and create the world that we want to see.
So I ain't mean to get all you know, you
know what my calling is.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
I think through it all. You know. Yes, we talked
tonight a lot about risks, but I think even in
the safe times, you know, it's all about a mixture
of having both, you know, I think we had a
lot of safe moments of even like when we moved. Now,
(17:22):
you know, do we say it was a risk or
do we say we were playing it safe?
Speaker 1 (17:26):
So in this situation.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
We moved because of a situation, it wasn't necessarily I
can't see here. I don't know whether it was safe
or not. I think it was safe on one end,
but risky on another. It became more of a risk
the longer we stay here, You get what I mean,
(17:51):
catch everything that.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Goes with it.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
Right, So a lot of people think, you know, well,
home ownership is safe, right, you know, that's that's what
we're told. Hey, getting a college education is safe. You know,
you'll always have a job, And those are things that
we're told that are safe. Getting married is safe, you know,
it's it's what we're told. But the reality is again
(18:15):
they still have some risk. It still can be risky.
We said marriage is risky, going to college is risky.
You're gonna have a bill at to end and you
got to pay it. And when it comes to home ownership, yeah,
it's more of a debt at times than it is
an asset because it's always something always you know, as
(18:36):
people say you got a house, there's always something going on.
You know, whether it's well, we had a squeaky pipe,
you know, trying to figure out where that's coming from,
or hey, you know it's getting cooler. We got to
figure out what to do in reference to win a
rising the home a little bit more. Have a car,
you think that's a blessing. You think it's safe. It
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allows you to get to and from but it's also
a risk. You know, just driving safely up and down
the streets, it's gonna be risky. So I think finding
a combination and appreciating a combination of both is a
great tool to success. Whether it is in your four
(19:19):
oh one k you got to be risky and safe,
whether it's in your relationship, whether it's in any aspect
of life. I think having a little bit of a risk,
having some risks with some safety nets. There is my thoughts.
What are your thoughts, Babe.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
On which part all of it? I think that when
you open up your eyes as a risky because I
know when I wake up in the morning, that's a
(20:01):
risk whether or I'm going to pass gas or not.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
When does that happened to you pass gas in your sleep?
So that that that has nothing to do with your
eyes being open. Boom. Now, if you said whether or
not you're going to have you know, allergy eyes or whatever,
that might be the risk. But you know it's whether
or not you turn all the lights on for you.
(20:26):
It might be whether or not I opened the curtains
and you got to do it all the sunlight. That
that might be a risk.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
I don't know if that's a risk or not.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
I think the risk is in all honesty as you're
stating home ownership, car ownership, riding the bus, going to
the market, because sometimes you don't know whether or not
that head of letters is going to be two dollars,
(21:00):
three dollars or half a mortgage.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
You don't know if the head of lettuce is organic
or if it's a three D image, we just we
don't know what, you know. For real, let me tell y'all.
I bought ahead of lettuce. I swear it was a
(21:24):
month ago for Hamburgers or tacos or something. And that
thing has not will to yet. I'm going to throw
it out, but we haven't used it. But I was
just doing an experiment on how right and yeah, especially
(21:46):
because it was Iceberg letters, y'all, so that really doesn't
seem to have a good life. But this iceberg m
it's just something's wrong with that. It's going out in
the trash most definitely, you know. But we've bought stuff
for salad and that doesn't even last three days. But
that head of lettuce, it's just sitting there looking like, Hi,
(22:09):
I'm here, I'm still here. It's gotta be three D printed.
It's it's got some you know, whatever they putting that
head of lettuce. I need that on my face, your
face like that whatever preservatives and the thing I don't understand,
(22:33):
like I can understand, like they put preservatives on the outside.
But we peeled off a couple of layers for dinner,
you know, a while ago, and that thing is still
now it's wrapped up. It's not, you know, just sitting
out and it's wrapped tightly. But no, but I just
(22:55):
don't understand. I'm not a fan, really big of Iceberg.
Maybe that's why it's just sitting there wanting to tease me,
like I'm still here.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
It could be, it could be.
Speaker 3 (23:05):
I don't know if anybody knows what's going on with that,
let us know, should we no longer get it?
Speaker 1 (23:13):
That's a good point. But it's like you said, could
it be three D print? You know, are we really
in a matrix? Like it's going to show that we're
really in the matrix or something. I'm sorry, that's a
whole other level.
Speaker 3 (23:26):
But because it don't have no flavor.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
I don't know. I don't remember eating any of it.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
Yeah, it was a while ago.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
So but I think that all of this is a risk.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
That now I can't stop thinking about getting a three
D PRINM machine, Like that's all that's on my mind
right now.
Speaker 3 (23:45):
Would that be risky or would that be safe?
Speaker 1 (23:48):
That would be risky because who knows what I'll build?
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Who knows I'll be You be like Maurice again, you
buy enough from Amazon already how much more of this
three D pres and stuff do you need it?
Speaker 3 (24:01):
Would you three D P three D print your own pepsi?
Speaker 1 (24:05):
I was three D print.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
I don't know if I could do my own pepsi
maybe my own pepsi bottle.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Maybe, yes, but I mean maybe. I'm pretty sure there's
some you'd like.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
To collect transformers.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Could you I caut three three D print some of
that stuff? Yes, because they show how to do to
some of that.
Speaker 3 (24:23):
And all the accessories they are missing.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Yeah, I could do that.
Speaker 3 (24:26):
And it could fit perfectly and not fall off.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Yes, most definitely. Yeah. Oh yeah, they show you how
to do that.
Speaker 3 (24:33):
But he sounds excited, but no, well, yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:37):
I mean that sounds fun. But what I did see
someone was three D printing their bricks for their house.
I really want to see how that turns out. They're
going to build their house through from three D prints.
I'm pretty sure somebody else has done it already.
Speaker 3 (24:53):
I'm sure, you know.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
I'm just saying that there's one person I'm looking at.
They they three D printing the whole thing, And I'm curious.
Speaker 3 (25:02):
Where is this house going to be?
Speaker 1 (25:04):
It's in the United States. I can't remember exactly where that.
Speaker 2 (25:07):
But yeah, he's I mean, but he went and bought
his own land, you know, YadA, YadA, YadA.
Speaker 3 (25:12):
So this is the house that Jack built or Claude
whatever his name is, or was it the three.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
The three blind mice.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
No, not three blind mice, the Jack. No, the house
made out of straw, the house made out of.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Not the three blind mice.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
No, I'll huff and I'll puff and I'll blow your
house down.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
Not really red, red riding Hood.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
I'm trying reading reading Red, not Goldie Locks. No, I
don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
I had. I had to go through every single very
like I can't remember what it is.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
Yes, I just know.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
I'm gonna tell you all right, So here's what was
going on. I want you to understand what was going
on my brain. Everyone I mentioned, I could see what
book I was reading it in. Oh, okay, So I
had to go through and go through the pages. That's
why I kept pausing Kyle's turning and mentally turning the.
Speaker 4 (26:11):
Page just to say, oh, gosh, I am sorry.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
That's risky, yo, I'm gonna sha was risky. Like Maurice
just said, he gave an example of these nursery stories
that and he visualized turning the pages so that, let
you know, somewhere in his youth there was a book
with these stories. But when we had kids, he retold
(26:49):
these stories without a book. So there was no safety
in where the stories would go go, no safety at all.
They were risky stories somehow Intertwined't I need to quiz
(27:09):
my kids, like do they really understand Goldilocks? You know,
because somehow Goldilocks and Red writing hoop like good friends
or something like that.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
He kind of, I don't remember that. It's possible, though,
it's possible. It's possible, I mean because of whatever. All right,
so if you think about it from a Disney movie perspective,
I can't remember which movie it was where they had
almost was it Disney or it's like one of those yeah,
(27:42):
something like a Shrek right where Shrek has intertwined all
of the fairy tales one way or another. Right, And
so so unfortunately, even if I were to tell the
story one hundred percent, because they looked at Shrek, I
mean you're talking about that was a movie that was
(28:02):
gonna repeat far or I'm sorry, how many movies?
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Was it? Three of them was on repeat? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (28:09):
That yeah, So even if I made something up. It
wasn't too far off because or even if I said
that story straight out, it didn't matter, because we had
all the other movies that would take those stories and twist.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
It up anyway.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
Okay, it's still as risky, yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (28:26):
Mean, but vivid imagination. But I knew the story enough
to twisted and not just make it up. I knew
that I knew the foundational part.
Speaker 3 (28:40):
But now the next generation, being our children, probably don't.
Speaker 1 (28:44):
I mean, we.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
Just need to confirm whether or not they understand the
true nursery rhyme or is it something where we have
to sit them down do the Actually.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
We need to get that book.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
I mean, I I think they're my mom's. I think
it's at my mom's. I think she still has it.
Speaker 3 (29:04):
Okay, we're gonna have to get a book and be like,
this is the true story.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
And here's the one that your dad read. Here's the
book that he read from. I believe it was a
blue cover. I think it was a blue cover, a
baby blue, not quite baby blue, almost like a sky
blue color.
Speaker 3 (29:25):
Okay, but that wasn't the one that you read to
the children.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Oh it wasn't. It was just the one that I know.
It was the one I read to my children from
my head. It was it was, it was there, The
story was there. How many of you know all the stories,
just like you know the Bible stories.
Speaker 3 (29:44):
But you don't not supposed to mix up the Bible stories?
Speaker 2 (29:48):
Who said was supposed to mix up Goldielocks with It's
a bitsy Spider.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
I don't know that. They was all hanging out.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Baby, I mean they even.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
When you're trying to say Goldielocks, little Miss Muffett and
Little Red riding Hood was all like.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Listen, they listened, all little kids out in the woods
somewhere by themselves.
Speaker 3 (30:11):
Why why, how do you know it was by themselves?
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Who's little Red Riding Hood? She was on her way
to grandmama house, Yes, by herself.
Speaker 3 (30:21):
But her parents had told her to go.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
Yeah, she was by herself though doing I don't know
who was Goldie Locks.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
You don't remember?
Speaker 3 (30:30):
Well, you know, when you get to adulthood, they tell
you it's a whole lot more behind those stories.
Speaker 1 (30:35):
All right handsel same thing.
Speaker 3 (30:37):
Yeah, a whole lot more behind all those stories.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
I don't know about. Humpty dumpty.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
I ain't hear nothing else crazy or risky about Humpty dumpty?
Speaker 3 (30:46):
What about Jack and jew a whole life?
Speaker 2 (30:53):
That was a risky laugh? What do you know, Gop,
what ain't you telling that? That's crazy? We need to
have a conversation off.
Speaker 3 (31:03):
Of we need to talk about the riskiness about that.
Speaker 2 (31:06):
One and are we tilling that to the kids.
Speaker 1 (31:13):
They were like, well, Dad, well, recall.
Speaker 3 (31:17):
Our daughter coming home from one of uh like I
think it was like one of her breaks from college,
and she's like, mom, I will never ever, ever ever
watching certain Disney movies again the same, or some of
those fairy tales the same, because in psychology class they
(31:38):
broke them all down and she was just like, wow,
why do we do this to the kids?
Speaker 1 (31:46):
Well, unfortunately, daughter, you wouldn't have known until.
Speaker 3 (31:52):
You got that, until you got to college age, and
you can and.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
Now you see what the dealer is right now, you
see it?
Speaker 3 (31:57):
Right? Yeah? So maybe, yeah, maybe she won't.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
But that's no different than we're looking at any other cartoons. Yes,
you know, because every cartoon had risk.
Speaker 1 (32:09):
Yeah, yeah, and don't it. And here's the thing.
Speaker 3 (32:14):
You want to talk about, cancelation culture and all that stuff,
the stuff we looked at versus the stuff our parents
looked at cartoon sitcoms. Honey, that's why they don't have reruns.
You know, you gotta pay cable, pay somebody to look
at some of those things because mm hmmm.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
Noop. So if y'all have listened today, all of this
is a risk.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
That's why when I if you'll remember what I said
a few moments ago, over up your eyes, just wake
up in the morning.
Speaker 3 (32:52):
It's a risk, but with the risk there's such a
great reward.
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Finally caught the Westly webbit like what is it? What
the reward?
Speaker 3 (33:07):
But was it a three D printed rabbit?
Speaker 1 (33:09):
All right, y'all, we will talk to you all later.
Speaker 2 (33:11):
We're losing track, we're losing daylight, we're losing time, whatever
it is because Cope, I don't know, is a risk.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
Talking to her right now.
Speaker 3 (33:21):
That's quite safe.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
We think are very much for listening.
Speaker 3 (33:25):
We truly truly do, and we.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Will talk to you a little bit later. She's not
going to say bye. You're not going to see you later.
Speaker 3 (33:34):
That's the risk.
Speaker 2 (33:36):
Thanks for tuning in to another episode of a No
Fruit podcast, where we bring you fruitful conversations, ripen wisdom
and love that's deeply rooted. If you enjoyed this episode,
don't forget to subscribe, leave us a review, and share
it with someone who could.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
Use a little inspiration in their death.
Speaker 4 (33:50):
Until next time, stay rooted in love and remember every
seed you plant today shapes the fruit of tomorrow.
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