The Smart Sex Podcast

The Smart Sex Podcast

Welcome to The Smart Sex Podcast – Real talk about Sex, Relationships and HOT Topics. Hi! I'm your host Leslie Gustafson, licensed Sex Therapist , Marriage & Relationship Coach & Master Psychotherapist of 30 years ( I say that humbly and for credibility so you know you are in knowledgeable, experienced hands.) I have had the privilege of being FOX TV’s Sex & Relationship Expert for 5 1/2 years as well as being a guest on Access Hollywood, and all the major networks and many radio channels. It was time to start my own show and dig in more deeply and expressively. In the coming episodes, you can expect we will be talking A LOT about Sex – how to have amazing sex, current #sexgeek facts, hot off the press research, sex enhancing tips, sex ed, and how to expand your own eroticism and intimacy. You will hear from experts and I will be your personal expert fielding your questions in my “askthetherapist” segments. If you’ve been following me elsewhere on social media platforms you know this is something I’ve been doing for the last 6 years. It will happen here now. You will also be hearing from couples in love. Couples willing to tell their stories and share the intimate details of their lives and include you in how they navigate their love. You will be able to listen in on conversations between women (some of my closet, most authentic girlfriends) sharing their real lives, histories, thoughts and humor regarding sex, wife-ing, mom-ing, their relationships, what they want and their big opinions about current HOT topics And, you will hear from men - Real Men willing to talk real about what it means to be a man in the current age and how life, sex and relationships work for them and what they want and hope for. My therapist husband will show up here too at times so I can pick his big, sexy brain and you can benefit from that. And we will have adventures where I learn about new things, try them out and let you in on the experiences. Yes. I kept that vague on purpose. And I hope you will tune in. I hope to entertain you! If these episodes aren’t stimulating, fun, interesting and at times lol humorous, then I’ve missed the point! So whether you listen in from the privacy of your own cars or rooms with your earbuds in or whether you gather as couples, or with friends and you listen and talk among each other. Let’s expand the conversation about SEX, LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS - be better, sexier and smarter for it & have a blast doing it! Pun intended.


October 8, 2021 61 min
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Caterina Passarelli is a former TV News Producer turned romance author and entrepreneur from Michigan, close to Detroit. She writes in the contemporary, billionaire, and soon-to-be mafia romance genres. When she worked for the news, she was the morning Producer, so she went from writing about murders to writing about love!.

Caterina gives us a behind-the-scenes look at her process of writing...
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You've heard of self-esteem, but have you heard of sex esteem? What do self-esteem and sex esteem mean for men in particular? What is intrinsic and extrinsic about both concepts? How does it help or hurt us in the bedroom and in our relationship with our partner?

Today I have a guest you know if you're a regular listener of The Smart Sex Podcast. Doug is not just my love, my sweet darling husband of 24 years. He is also a pe...
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September 10, 2021 36 min
The show is BACK! I took a break over the summer, I am thrilled to bring you season 3 of The Smart Sex Podcast.

Before we dive into the upcoming season, I want to take today to celebrate where we've been and highlight the connections we've made in the last year.

We're looking back at guests who have brought expertise to subjects involving having fun, being intentional and mindful, and some difficult discussions about sex...
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May 14, 2021 51 min
Today I'm excited to have a special guest, who is also my partner, my lover, and my best friend in life.

We're talking about such a timely topic. "Play" is so critical to our well-being and relationships, and it has been compromised in the pandemic.

Doug and I go into play in general, play individually, as a couple, and play in the bedroom. We want to inspire you to create a playful lifestyle with your partner!

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If there's an episode of The Smart Sex Podcast to listen to more than once, it's this one.

Dr. Lea Lis takes us through the journey of sex education, from birth to adulthood in a way that will rock your world. She gives advice about age-appropriate conversations and behavior to model for our kids that will challenge us toward a healthy view of sex and sexuality.

Lea pushes the envelope and even goes against what we view as cu...
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Kim Boda, today's guest, is passionate about helping entrepreneurs and Realtors to level up and reach their highest potential through high-performance coaching, mindfulness, and neuroscience programs. She is a real estate expert at eXp Realty, a certified High-Performance Coach, Neurochangesolutions Corporate Trainer, and teaches "Mindfulness At Work" to organizations.

Kim creates the real, strong, and legitimate link be...
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Today's guest has a truly remarkable story of finding grit within and rising strong.

After being in a terrible motorcycle accident, Amberly Lago went into a medically induced coma. She went through a painful process of 34 surgeries and a lot of physical therapy. For years she needed the assistance of a wheelchair.

Today, Amberly is a health and wellness coach, TEDx speaker, podcaster, and a leading expert in the field of resilie...
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The Smart Sex Podcast is all about REAL TALK, and today's guest brings that with a side of laughter and fun. It is my honor, joy and delight to have my good friend Kathie J. join me.

Kathie J. is a real life Wonder Woman. She's an Emmy award winning television host, a working mom of two beautiful girls, a wife, a daughter, a dog mom and advocate, and a #1 Morning Radio Show host of almost 20 years. She received her Best Lif...
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February 12, 2021 47 min
In the identity development stage of my 20’s, many know, I struggled with body preoccupation, anorexia and bulimia which was my way of dealing with managing a loss, and feelings, particularly shame and anxiety, I felt I had no control of. It took a lot of hard therapeutic work for me to get well and ultimately shaped who I have become today.

I discovered this episode’s guest on social media several years ago, and was so impressed by...
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I have a delightful couple on this episode, and we’re going to be talking about sex, marriage, and laughter.

Brittany and Ryan Ostofe cohost the podcast “The Laughing Couple,” which is #1 in Canada for Parenting and Relationships.

They love to discuss the rawness of parenthood and how to create a healthy relationship through laughter and effective communication, and they did not disappoint in this conversation!

By day, Brittany is the...
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My husband Doug joins me to dip into the fascinating world of fantasy and imagination in the bedroom.

There are many nuances and layers to this topic, but I want you to know that you are a creative and imaginative person in and out of the bedroom! Let yourself ponder that. Considering yourself and what you want to do with your inner life enhances you personally and could potentially improve your experience as a sexual person and a ...
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In this episode, our good friend Cindy Scharkey and I talk about cultivating our sensuality as women, but guys shouldn’t be in a hurry to skip this one: there’s some good stuff in there for you too!

We cover the definition of sexuality and erotic energy, how to put that into practice in one’s life and relationships, the history of what gets in our way, the need for emotional expression, mindfulness, and how to cultivate sexuality.

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I'm bringing you a very important topic today that is very near and dear to my heart. I'm talking with an expert on love, sexuality, and dating, as it relates to Autism. Many of you may know that I have a 21-year-old son who is Autistic: high-functioning, smart, brilliant, musical, but challenged. I have wanted to do this talk, not only because it's the life stage my son is in, but there is so much to be said about this...
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This is part 2 of my talk with three dating experts: Connell Barrett, Anwar White, and Nate Hockstra.

We’re picking where we left off, with Anwar talking about rejection and how dating is a numbers game, and then we tackle hookup culture from women’s perspective, being real and vulnerable in dating relationships, developing a blueprint for what you want sexually, the fears and hesitations women and men have around sex and dating, an...
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I was delighted to have three handsome, incredible, knowledgeable dating coaches to talk about what single people are up against, how to navigate dating, and what the sexual culture is like today. This panel of experts is going to give you the inside scoop on what to do.

With over 10,000 hours of one-on-one coaching and training experience, Nate Hockstra is an expert in helping men find meaningful relationships without the use of an...
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The subject of porn is not one that many people talk about openly. As a Sex Therapist, I have talked with so many couples about this issue. We dig deep around the topic: not just for men, but also for women and couples together.

Is it okay for couples to watch porn together as a way of enhancing their relationship? What about women and erotica? Does it have some of the same effects as pornography and the compulsivity that men can fo...
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There is an epidemic in our world and nation today that is of great concern to all of us. While the conversation can be hard and uncomfortable at times, there is much that needs to be known and understood about sex trafficking which is currently happening at astounding rates. I sat down with Madyson Marquette, who was trafficked for almost a decade as a porn star. Madyson has bravely spoken out about her time in the porn industry a...
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Happy, happy birthday, to The Smart Sex Podcast! Despite the complexities and sometimes the taboo of sex, and even in the midst of a pandemic, it has been a full, rich year of discussing intimacy and hot topics with you. I am so thrilled that you have been on this journey with me, and that you are so eager to learn more about sex, sexuality, and relationships.

We’ve had some extraordinary moments on the show, and I want to highlight...
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September 11, 2020 37 min
On today’s episode, you’ll be hearing me interviewed by my good friend, Kristen Wheeler, producer of this show.

The podcast today is for women and the guys who love them and could easily serve as a nice prompt for a mother-daughter or parent-daughter conversation about sex. We get real about sex and our sexuality as women, and WHY sex is so important for women, even when it doesn’t always feel like it. I talk about the benefits of s...
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August 28, 2020 51 min
“The Girlfriends” and I talk about the impact of having kids at home 24/7 has had on their sex lives.
They talk about getting creative in the bedroom when the kids are always, ALWAYS home.
How can it be done? Is walking in on your parents having sex a traumatic experience or a rite of passage?

We answer these questions and more, as we talk about how gaming headsets, iPads, suckers, and “prayer” all have to do with having sex.
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