The Smart Sex Podcast

The Smart Sex Podcast

Welcome to The Smart Sex Podcast – Real talk about Sex, Relationships and HOT Topics. Hi! I'm your host Leslie Gustafson, licensed Sex Therapist , Marriage & Relationship Coach & Master Psychotherapist of 30 years ( I say that humbly and for credibility so you know you are in knowledgeable, experienced hands.) I have had the privilege of being FOX TV’s Sex & Relationship Expert for 5 1/2 years as well as being a guest on Access Hollywood, and all the major networks and many radio channels. It was time to start my own show and dig in more deeply and expressively. In the coming episodes, you can expect we will be talking A LOT about Sex – how to have amazing sex, current #sexgeek facts, hot off the press research, sex enhancing tips, sex ed, and how to expand your own eroticism and intimacy. You will hear from experts and I will be your personal expert fielding your questions in my “askthetherapist” segments. If you’ve been following me elsewhere on social media platforms you know this is something I’ve been doing for the last 6 years. It will happen here now. You will also be hearing from couples in love. Couples willing to tell their stories and share the intimate details of their lives and include you in how they navigate their love. You will be able to listen in on conversations between women (some of my closet, most authentic girlfriends) sharing their real lives, histories, thoughts and humor regarding sex, wife-ing, mom-ing, their relationships, what they want and their big opinions about current HOT topics And, you will hear from men - Real Men willing to talk real about what it means to be a man in the current age and how life, sex and relationships work for them and what they want and hope for. My therapist husband will show up here too at times so I can pick his big, sexy brain and you can benefit from that. And we will have adventures where I learn about new things, try them out and let you in on the experiences. Yes. I kept that vague on purpose. And I hope you will tune in. I hope to entertain you! If these episodes aren’t stimulating, fun, interesting and at times lol humorous, then I’ve missed the point! So whether you listen in from the privacy of your own cars or rooms with your earbuds in or whether you gather as couples, or with friends and you listen and talk among each other. Let’s expand the conversation about SEX, LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS - be better, sexier and smarter for it & have a blast doing it! Pun intended.... Show More

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February 12, 2021 47 min
In the identity development stage of my 20’s, many know, I struggled with body preoccupation, anorexia and bulimia which was my way of dealing with managing a loss, and feelings, particularly shame and anxiety, I felt I had no control of. It took a lot of hard therapeutic work for me to get well and ultimately shaped who I have become today.

I discovered this episode’s guest on social media several years ago, and was so impressed by...
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I have a delightful couple on this episode, and we’re going to be talking about sex, marriage, and laughter.

Brittany and Ryan Ostofe cohost the podcast “The Laughing Couple,” which is #1 in Canada for Parenting and Relationships.

They love to discuss the rawness of parenthood and how to create a healthy relationship through laughter and effective communication, and they did not disappoint in this conversation!

By day, Brittany is the...
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My husband Doug joins me to dip into the fascinating world of fantasy and imagination in the bedroom.

There are many nuances and layers to this topic, but I want you to know that you are a creative and imaginative person in and out of the bedroom! Let yourself ponder that. Considering yourself and what you want to do with your inner life enhances you personally and could potentially improve your experience as a sexual person and a ...
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In this episode, our good friend Cindy Scharkey and I talk about cultivating our sensuality as women, but guys shouldn’t be in a hurry to skip this one: there’s some good stuff in there for you too!

We cover the definition of sexuality and erotic energy, how to put that into practice in one’s life and relationships, the history of what gets in our way, the need for emotional expression, mindfulness, and how to cultivate sexuality.

We...
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I'm bringing you a very important topic today that is very near and dear to my heart. I'm talking with an expert on love, sexuality, and dating, as it relates to Autism. Many of you may know that I have a 21-year-old son who is Autistic: high-functioning, smart, brilliant, musical, but challenged. I have wanted to do this talk, not only because it's the life stage my son is in, but there is so much to be said about this...
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This is part 2 of my talk with three dating experts: Connell Barrett, Anwar White, and Nate Hockstra.

We’re picking where we left off, with Anwar talking about rejection and how dating is a numbers game, and then we tackle hookup culture from women’s perspective, being real and vulnerable in dating relationships, developing a blueprint for what you want sexually, the fears and hesitations women and men have around sex and dating, an...
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I was delighted to have three handsome, incredible, knowledgeable dating coaches to talk about what single people are up against, how to navigate dating, and what the sexual culture is like today. This panel of experts is going to give you the inside scoop on what to do.

With over 10,000 hours of one-on-one coaching and training experience, Nate Hockstra is an expert in helping men find meaningful relationships without the use of an...
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The subject of porn is not one that many people talk about openly. As a Sex Therapist, I have talked with so many couples about this issue. We dig deep around the topic: not just for men, but also for women and couples together.

Is it okay for couples to watch porn together as a way of enhancing their relationship? What about women and erotica? Does it have some of the same effects as pornography and the compulsivity that men can fo...
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There is an epidemic in our world and nation today that is of great concern to all of us. While the conversation can be hard and uncomfortable at times, there is much that needs to be known and understood about sex trafficking which is currently happening at astounding rates. I sat down with Madyson Marquette, who was trafficked for almost a decade as a porn star. Madyson has bravely spoken out about her time in the porn industry a...
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Happy, happy birthday, to The Smart Sex Podcast! Despite the complexities and sometimes the taboo of sex, and even in the midst of a pandemic, it has been a full, rich year of discussing intimacy and hot topics with you. I am so thrilled that you have been on this journey with me, and that you are so eager to learn more about sex, sexuality, and relationships.

We’ve had some extraordinary moments on the show, and I want to highlight...
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September 11, 2020 37 min
On today’s episode, you’ll be hearing me interviewed by my good friend, Kristen Wheeler, producer of this show.

The podcast today is for women and the guys who love them and could easily serve as a nice prompt for a mother-daughter or parent-daughter conversation about sex. We get real about sex and our sexuality as women, and WHY sex is so important for women, even when it doesn’t always feel like it. I talk about the benefits of s...
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August 28, 2020 51 min
“The Girlfriends” and I talk about the impact of having kids at home 24/7 has had on their sex lives.
They talk about getting creative in the bedroom when the kids are always, ALWAYS home.
How can it be done? Is walking in on your parents having sex a traumatic experience or a rite of passage?

We answer these questions and more, as we talk about how gaming headsets, iPads, suckers, and “prayer” all have to do with having sex.
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According to an NBC news poll, 24% of couples say that the extra time at home has positively affected their sex life, and a whopping 47% said it has negatively affected their sex life. According to eHarmony, 14% of couples have realized that their relationship is over, while 4% of people uncovered a virtual affair, and 3% have uncovered an affair in real life.
Where do you and your significant other stand when it comes to these sta...
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Dr. Lea Lis, double board certified Adult and Child Psychiatrist and Author of the book, "No Shame - Real Talk with Your Kids About Sex, Self Confidence and Healthy Relationships" * joins Leslie to talk about all things teens, sexuality, relationship development, parenting and how to help teens navigate their boundaries confidently.

Dr. Lis is a true expert in child psychology and sexuality and is changing the way we talk to...
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Men are curious and want to know many things about sexuality and how sex works for their partner. In this episode, Doug Gustafson, Men's Coach asks Leslie the many questions men wonder about including:

"Why does sex have to be so hard and complicated?"
"Why does my wife never seem to initiate sex?'
"What can I do about my anger and frustration around being sexually rejected?"
"I have a huge sex d...
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Through many years educating and answering questions on TV and social media, Leslie has heard from 1000's of people about what they most want to know about sex and relationships. So, in this episode the table is turned and Leslie is on the "hot seat". Her Coach/Therapist husband Doug Gustafson takes on the role of interviewer and asks questions YOU want to know - none of which Leslie was aware of before the interview.

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Ross and Jessica Costanza* join Leslie for an inside look at Boudoir Photography.

What actually happens when a woman chooses to shed her clothes and be photographed? What does she experience ?

What is it like for a husband and wife team to be in the business of photographing women? Why would they choose to do this kind on work? How does it effect their marriage?

You will likely be quite surprised by the truth of what really happens a...
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Welcome to the fascinating world of Sex Technology - fast developing, cutting edge and at times jaw-dropping!

In this episode, Leslie is joined by the smart, clinically savvy, sextech expert somatic psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Holly Richmond to talk about what is available to men and women in the current age where sexual devices, remotes and robotics are now at our finger tips.

Sex technology is here to stay and Holly has imme...
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In this Part 2 of Men & Sex with Doug Gustafson*, what healthy sexuality is for men and what is underneath men's desires is the central focus of this episode 15.

"Most men want to be better men" but don't necessarily know the path in the intimate, sexual, interpersonal and relational arenas.

Men are lovers and leaders but need to unearth the "huge needs that have been put away in exile".

Identity, emotions,...
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In this episode, Leslie's husband and coach/therapist of 40+ years Doug Gustafson joins her for a thorough look at male sexuality. In a date-like set up over a nice glass of red wine, Doug and Leslie have a very real and at times raw conversation about men, sex and what it's all about.

From male sexual development, the importance of sex, addiction, out of control sexual behavior, men's feelings and desires, pornograp...
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