May 5, 2026 • 22 mins
Carly Pepin is an International Speaker and Consultant with a specialized focus on human behavior. She shares the message that regardless of one's background, every individual encounters personal and professional challenges stemming from their own perceived flaws. The key to a fulfilling life, lies in how you transform these stories. Carly website: https://www.carlypepin.com Show notes: https://successgrid.net/sg271/ If you love this show, please leave a review. Go to https://ratethispodcast.com/successgrid Join AI Marketers Club: https://www.successgridacademy.com/3a30d0c6
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hallo, I welcome to the Success Great Podcast with also Stale.
I am excited to introduce you to a series of
conversations with some of the most successful and sparing individuals
from various industries. My aim is to dive into their
stories behind their success and explore the knowledge, strategiest, habits, mindsets,
and wisdom that have propelled their success. Each hypishode of
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the Success Great Podcast will feature a different guest who
will share their unique journey, the challenges they faced, and
the ressons they have learned along the way. I would
also be covering topics from entrepreneurship and innovation to leadership
and personal development. Whether you are inspiring entrepreneur, a seasoned
business profession, or just someone looking to improve your life,
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the Success Great Podcast is for you. My goal is
to bring you valuable insights and inspiration that will help
you achieve your own success in business and life. So
get ready to learn and be inspired. The Success Great
Podcast starts now. In this episode, we are going to
be talking with my guests about moving from challenge to
opportunity and how to create a live by design. Joining
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me for thisde Carlly Pippin. Carly is an international speaker
and consultant with a specialized focus on human behavior. She
shares the message that, regardless of one's background, even individuals
encounters personal and professional challenges stemming from their own perceived flows.
The key is to fulfilling life is how you transform
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these stories. So, Carly, welcome to this as Success Great podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Thank you so much for having me so.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
First of all, because this is the Success Great Podcast.
And before we dive in into how to move from
a challenge to an opportunity and find that, I want
to know what do you personally define success as and
how do you see or hear other people around Do you
defined or have certain conceptions around success.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Yeah, So when we think about casus me success, I
see a lot of people focus on that as an
achievement of goal.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Right.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
An achievement of a goal is something that they've accomplished,
received almost like a reward in a sense. And what's
really interesting is like, when I think about success, it's
not actually the achievement of the goal, it's the journey
that you're on with the many goals, right, Because success
you could achieve a goal and then all of a
sudden you realize, wow, I didn't think that that was
going to give me what I thought it was, and
I actually still feel unfulfilled.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Right.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
But when you kind of connect your life with your purpose,
your bigger why, and all those bits and pieces are
connected into your day to day, whether you achieve the
goal or not, you're actually you're not happy, you're not sad,
you're grateful for how your life goes, and you're more
enjoying the journey along the way, which is the longest
period of time when we think about success, So I
like to think about the success as the longer period
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of time, not those like short instant hits of gratification
from that momentary second of receiving an award or an
accolade like it's the it's a longer period of time.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
We see a lot of For example, Olympic athletes work
for it is to achieve one medal. Sometimes they don't,
So that's very important to work. It's about the process
of the progress of things. I guess it's more important
than anything else, so because we learn if we fail.
In general. So now, in your opinion, when we talk
about challenges and opportunities, a lot of us would see
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life as challenging and we don't huguely see the opportunities
that may be in front of us. Why do you
think is that is it a mindset thing or is
it like people around us with the negative thoughts. What's
the issue with that?
Speaker 3 (03:24):
It's mainly your perceptions, your mindset, right, because if we
think about it, you look at individuals on this planet
who are doing things that inspire us, right that, and
there's nothing without challenge. There's no person who has no
challenges his life, no matter what they're going through, and
they don't have challenges. It's just more important to embrace
and find the challenges that inspire you. When we think
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about Elon Musters a really cool video where he talks
about never giving up and if you go I think
you just google on our YouTube and never give up
and you'll see Elon must do it. But when he
says it, you'll also watch him say when the interviewer says, well,
how do you feel that some of your heroes are
basically saying that he shouldn't be doing this and going
against you, and he's like, well, I'll never give up, right,
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But he also tears up and he cries, right. So
there's a level of sadness because some of the people
that he has looked up to as the greatest individuals
on this planet are coming against him. Is he stopping No,
So does the negative impact and the feedback from other
people actually stop you?
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Absolutely not. We're the ones who stop ourselves, right.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
And so when you have something that's so important to you,
when that why is big enough, you're going to push
if the opportunities, if you can't see him right away,
you'll push to find opportunities. You'll push to go uncover
and discover them. Because sometimes there's plenty that are right there,
and sometimes it takes us doing the work to actually
go find the opportunities. And that's when we're embracing challenges
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as opposed to thinking we need to run from them.
But again, it's part of that journey that we love
because it's really important that we find something that aligns
with us, that we.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Love so much that it's like, well, I'm gonna do
this anyway. It's gonna be hard, but I'm gonna do
it anyways. You know, of course I'm gonna do it.
I love it.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yeah, But this is the issue, like sometimes when we
have certain things going the wrong way, we start comparing
ourselves to other people, like we have the same as
you start thinking like other people or someone else I
saw that, for example, had the similar situation, but they
had a better opportunity and they did not get the challenge,
for example. So this is the story of comparing our
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stories with other people. It is one of the issues
that like we need to realize that we actually have
our own stories and we don't take other people stories
and we don't give them more stories. Like love is
abundant already, but we need to be let's say a
present or like try to climb the mountain.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
I would say, right, yeah, the comparison is a beautiful
thing to bring up. I'm super gratefully you did, because
we get so caught up in our comparisons of what
we think should be or we're supposed to be that
it does make us lose track of who we actually
are and the paths that we're on and the one
that we truly love and inspires us. So even the
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example of the Olympic athlete, right, Like an Olympic athlete,
they may win a gold medal and that's a great achievement,
but it's not an achievement for being at the Olympics.
It's the achievement, as you're saying, for the every day
what they're doing and investing to make sure that they
achieve that medal, right, and that's part of the journey
that they're inspired by. If I sit there and I
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look at an Olympic athlete and I judge myself and
I say, I'm not as fit as an Olympic athlete,
that's massively unrealistic expectation I'm putting on myself, right, And
then if I try to go get that fit, I'm like,
I don't have the time to invest.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I'm mak an Olympic athlete in that. Like I have
like a business, and I have like other things that
I'm doing.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
It would be insane for me to do that, right,
So if I think I need to have a body
like that, it's like according to who, Well, I've labeled
that individual with the fit toned body as better than mine,
and that moment I've compared myself to them, not realizing
that that's not important to me and that's not what
I'm going to go and achieve.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
We also put people on a pedestal because.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
We haven't admitted that we have that in our own form, right,
So The athletes are a great example because if I
look at someone who's really fit and toned, I can
look at them and say, well, what do I actually
admire about that?
Speaker 2 (07:19):
And I admire.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Their dedication to wake up daily to really master something, Right,
That's what I admire. Can I look in my life
and see where do I wake up daily and master things? Absolutely,
I'm doing it in my business, my personal development, my education,
my growth, and other people's businesses and human behavior that
I wake up every day every day like an athlete
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and focus on that. Right, So I'm actually not missing anything.
I just thought, for a moment their form was better
than mine, until I identify my own and what that
gives us the opportunity to do. Is it actually like
I could sit there and say I don't want to
be an athlete. I don't want to wake up every
day in extracise like you. That's not my destiny. I'm
still gonna make sure I'm not gonna subordinate to you
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and say I should exercise, I should eat this way,
I should do that. I'm gonna wake up every day
and say I'm already doing what I love to master
my life. I'm already doing what you're doing, and I'm
doing it in my form, and I'm gonna keep doing that.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
And the funny thing.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Is is that's where we feel the most fulfilled. And
that athlete can look at my life with a fine
two code.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
They'll never do what I do.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
They never will, and not because they're not capable, not
because they're not you know, amazing individuals.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
They just don't want to.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
And if they compare themselves to me and try to
do that, they're gonna feel challenged, they're gonna feel frustrated,
they're gonna get exhausted, they're gonna hate their life.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Because they're not focused on what they love. And so
that's like when comparison comes in, it's that imposter syndrome
of I should be doing it this way, as opposed
to looking at, well, where am I already doing this
in my life and my form and loving and appreciating
the form you do it and instead and just go
hard on that because you already love it like already.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
See.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Definitely, we need to to stop comparing story to be
because because someone start the ten years to go difference
from someone starting now to do whatever the goal might be.
So the mindset should from the beginning, I would say,
like should be like, we want to achieve certain things,
but at the same time, the mindset should be like
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it's the progress and have certain let's say, maybe being resilient.
So do you think being resilient is something that we
should have or apply because sometimes someone would say, like,
everything in my life is a challenge. Everything is a challenge.
I never get an opportunity. I never get an opportunity.
So how important being resilient to certain things in life
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could be?
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Yeah, Well, in those moments when people say that, you know,
I just immediately say, like that's bs. Like we have
twenty four hours in a day, and there's seven days
in a week, and I actually go through to see
where their successes are. So this is a great opportunity.
Like when you if you have that perception and that
story is running, just stop, sit down and write down
every single day where you have little successes and where
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you have resilience, and you're going to see that it's
going to all formulate and all come together and all
be grouped around certain areas of life and certain aspects
of life.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
That's your life purpose. Those are the things that are
most inspiring.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
To you, that athlete that we look at when we
look at Elon Musk, they're resilient because not because they're special,
not because they have something you don't. It's just because
we're watching them focus on something that's inspiring to them,
you know. And we see this a lot with parents
as well, right, Parents and individuals who are like, okay, well,
what would you do for their kids? Right, And it's like, oh,
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heaven and hell for my children.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
That sounds like resilience to me. You know, it's genuinely resilience.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
And it's like, it's not that you don't have it,
you just have it in the area of life that's
most inspiring to you.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
And so it was funny.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
I just did this the other day with a client
where we were going through where they had resilience. They
didn't think they had resilience, and I was like, okay,
well let's find it. And when we found it, because
they had the imposter syndrome by the way, they were
comparing themselves someone else. They're like, I can't do something
this hard because I don't have that resilience. And I
was like, well, let's see where you have the same
level resilience to that other person. They had it in
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their relationship, their health, their personal development, their growth. They
have phenomenal resilience, right, and so they thought they needed
to have it in this one specific area. But when
they got to see where they actually had it, I
was like, are you afraid to face this tough thing anymore?
Speaker 2 (11:22):
And they're like, nope, I got it. I definitely have it.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
I didn't see I had that level of strength and resilience,
but now I know I have it. So even if
you're saying like I don't have it, again, you do
have it. But you have it in the form that
you have purpose around because you will do anything, literally anything.
You will go through any amount of pain to get
the pleasure of fulfilling that purpose, any amount of pain.
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And so when I say, you know, talk about living
a life of purpose, I'm not doing it because it's
a fluffy reason. This isn't actually for the fluffy, feel
good reason. This is because I know that you're most
successful there. I know that any challenge that are thrown
out you, you're gonna say, I can get to the
other side. I want to get to the other side.
I'm going to figure out how to get to the
other side. And to me that just sets you up
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for an inspiring life that every day, like if I'm
not around, you don't need a cheerleader. You're gonna do
it anyways. And that's the most important thing, right. It's
not about like being a pleasure seeking individual. Trust me,
You'll get the pleasure from living in your life purpose
for sure, But at the same time, that's not the goal.
The goal is to make sure that you're so inspired
by not just the support that you're receiving, but also
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the challenges that all of a sudden, the journey becomes
like this level of oh my gosh, look what I
get to do. And all of that self confidence that
you're dying to have it's built on that journey because
every time you overcome a challenge, every time you get
to the other side, guess what you do, You increase
yourself worth in your self confidence. And that's compound interest.
It doesn't go away. It just keeps stacking up the
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more and more you do it. So the more I'm
the more I'm pushing people to face challenges that fulfill them,
the more I know they'll get to the other sie
side of which more and more that self confidence and
software is getting built up, and I'm like, do it
compound interest?
Speaker 2 (13:07):
It works on you too.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
That's a great point, like being doing certain things like
and feeling its compound interest. But you mentioned very like
talking about purpose, and you mentioned let's say that I
would say the support maybe with others, like do you
think these two are important? Like sometimes someone would say,
for example, I have all the people around the air negative,
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no one is supporting me. They are bringing me down.
And also on the other side, like if we talk
about life's purpose, someone would say, I don't even know
what my purpose is, So what would you say to
these people? Whatever the type of purpose, like whether it's
it's shallow or not shallow, deep or important things other people. Yeah,
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about the diabetes.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
For starters, if we think about that statement like I
can't do this because everyone else is bringing me down.
What a disempowering statement. You just told me that every
person around you is more powerful, like one hundred percent,
that's what you're saying, Like every single person is just
so much more powerful than you that they can control
you and they own you. Are you locked up in
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a cage jack handcuffs on?
Speaker 2 (14:16):
No, you don't.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
You're listening to this podcast like you have a level
of freedom, and every time you say that, you're actually
disempowering yourself as opposed to looking at things in a
different way. You people aren't controlling you with negative thoughts
if you're taking those on, and those are things that
you're taking on yourself. You can't take on a negative
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thought about yourself that you already didn't have a belief in.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
And this is a really beautiful reflection component.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Because people say like negative things to me all the time, right,
negative positive, the ones that impact me. I look and
I'm like, I agree with them, and I have a judgment.
Right the other ones where they say it to me
and it.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
Doesn't even impact me.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
I'm like, yeah, I totally have that, but it doesn't
bother me because I don't judge myself for it. So
this is actually a feedback mechanism. And when when you
say like it's holding you back, what you're actually doing
you didn't realize. Nobody teaches us this by the way
that it's just feedback when we have emotion around it,
it's feedback that we share the same judgment as them,
and we're frustrated with ourselves. We have guilt and shame, resentment,
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towards ourselves, right, and this is a really cool opportunity
for us to actually dive in and clear that. So
then when they say it again, you won't even notice.
It's just like, oh yeah, oh my gosh, they said
it again. It didn't even bother me, right, so we
kind of mistook it for something else. And then because
we get emotional around it, that's what controls us. They
don't control us. Our emotional reactions control us because those
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are the things that spiral out of control, get us
the brain noise, get us all like mixed up in
our heads so that we actually can't focus on the
task at hand, because if we didn't have the emotions
around it, it would just be nothing.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
Right.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
You just like wipe it off, wipe it off your shoulders.
It's not a big deal. So that's why it's like,
when you think about I only have the negative people
around me, it's not actually the negative people. It's that
you're having an emotional reaction to what they're sharing. And
so the personal empowerment within is how do I actually
clear that own judgment on myself? So if someone said
that again, I'd be okay. Because we go out and
we look at individuals in the world. The bigger that
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you get and the more people you reach, it's not
like the more people.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
That are going to support you.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
For sure, you'll have a lot of extra support, but
you also have the same degree of challengers. Right Donald
Trump is a beautiful example. It's just so clear and
so evident to the degree he has support in the world,
he has the same quantity of challengers. And if he
stops doing what he's doing, or anyone on this planet
stops doing what they're doing because they have someone challenging them, well,
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then obviously it must not have been that important to you,
you know, because why would you stop doing what you
love because someone said that you shouldn't or someone gave
you some feedback that wasn't awesome?
Speaker 4 (16:49):
You know.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
And another cool thing to look at, because again, if
you're running that story in your head, I want you
to go through your life and see who's actually supporting you,
because I guarantee it, to the degree that you have challenge,
you have the same quantity support in your life, and
you are most likely just frustrated because you expected it
to come in a certain form and you're not appreciating
the form that it actually came in. So when you say,
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like I only have negative people around me, I know
that you're not appreciating the form of the support and
where it's actually coming from. But when you ask those questions,
you can genuinely appreciate that support. And then the other
thing too is ask how the criticism serves you, you know,
and this is part of the overcoming any challenge. Ask
how whatever you're going through that is hard and difficult
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is serving you and your life purpose. And when you
can see that, all of a sudden, you realize, like, wow,
this is actually helpful.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Right.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Sometimes the criticism pushes us to use our voice. Right.
Speaker 3 (17:43):
Sometimes we're quiet and we haven't set boundaries, we're not
using our voice, and it pushes us into the forefront.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
It makes us do that.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
Right.
Speaker 4 (17:49):
Sometimes the criticism about you, guys, this is a good
one for me where someone will criticize me and I'll be.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Like watch watch me.
Speaker 5 (17:56):
I will show you and I can't wait to reach
back out when I do exactly what you say I
couldn't do, and then I do it. Then I do
reach back out because I am that person, because I'm like, yeah,
I could do it, and I believed in myself. But
at the end of the day, it's it's funny because
it's not important for them to believe in you.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
It's important for you.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
To believe in you and you to actually go do
it because their support does nothing. Their support doesn't get
you there. It's your actions that get you there. And
as long as you believe in yourself, that's the thing
that's going to get you to achieve what you want,
not anyone else's emotional support.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Yeah, so I would say, like important things zero. I
would encourage people to focus on and and have accept feedback,
but not be impacted by the criticism. I would say, right,
and also don't judge ourselves, like even if the if
it's a positive, great, if it's not, like I would say, like,
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it goes from one year, it goes from the other rail.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
So this is how you Yeah, that's actually part of
our process of growth and evolution. And don't have unrealistic
expectations to figure this all out at once, because when
you're a kid, there's gonna be a different type of
criticism that you have now, and in five years, even
a year, in a month, you might have different criticism
and a year and five years, ten years it's not
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ever gonna go away. It's gonna be with you forever,
and so we just work on it in different bits
and pieces as it comes up.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Yeah, yeah, school.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
So curly, what is the worst advice that you have
ever received?
Speaker 2 (19:30):
The worst advice than I've ever received. So worst advice
someone someone told me to put all my money into crypto.
That was pretty bad, and I'm I didn't and I'm
super grateful that person lost all their money. By the way. Yeah,
so I have like a nice little balanced portfolio that
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I feel really comfortable with and I risk a small
percentage that if I ever lost it fully, but that's
like that's like venture cap, like it's the highest verced
investment that you can have because it's very well it's it.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
I would say it's even more worse because it's very
emotionally driven. There's really no right now maybe later. There's
really no like solid concrete background behind it. There's no business,
there's no structure, and so we're really just spaceitting off
of how people feel.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
And so that's that's a rough one. So that was
like the worst advice ever, and I'm glad I didn't
follow it because they lost all their money.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Yeah, yeah, So what would you say your best resources
tool or books or your final takeaway for our episodes?
Speaker 3 (20:32):
You quality questions, guys, and we've already shared some today.
It's like, one of the best questions that you can
ask when you're going through a challenge is how is
this serving me right now? How is this going to
serve me in the future? What am I learning from this?
How is it helping me to grow? Like, when we
can ask those questions and we see it, you get
from a level of like any challenge that you appreciate
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and you can think about this, I know that you
won't want to run from and you're like, yeah, it's hard,
but I do it anyways because I like the heart
it's something I want to achieve. But when you're asking
those questions around something right now that you do want
to run from, that is really hard. It takes it
from feeling like that overwhelming, exhausting to oh, I can't
overcome this, I can't achieve it, and then the hardest
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thing that's taking up the most noise and giving you
the most stress, all of a sudden, it's no more stress.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
It goes away.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
So keep asking the question until you become grateful for it,
and you're like, I don't need this to change. That's
the key. The second that you say I actually don't
need this to change. That means you have an equal
amount of benefits to the challenge as you've had drawbacks.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
That's the key. You say, I don't need it to change.
I appreciate it. I'm okay.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
Awesome, Well, thank you very much Curry for joining me
for the sapsuite great insights and really amazing perspective into
new things and do how to change to take it
from challenges to opportunities and how we can improve our
lives and be a bitter human in general. And yeah,
thank you very much for joining me. And what can
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people learn more about it and get.
Speaker 3 (21:59):
In just yeah, thank you so much for having me
in the inspiring conversation and they can go to Carlepepin
dot com best place you can contact me directly or
find any social media platforms you want to contact and
connect on as well.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
Awesome. Also, thank you very much Charty for joining me. Great,
great one.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
Thank you, thank you
Hallo, I welcome to the Success Great Podcast with also Stale.
I am excited to introduce you to a series of
conversations with some of the most successful and sparing individuals
from various industries. My aim is to dive into their
stories behind their success and explore the knowledge, strategiest, habits, mindsets,
and wisdom that have propelled their success. Each hypishode of
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the Success Great Podcast will feature a different guest who
will share their unique journey, the challenges they faced, and
the ressons they have learned along the way. I would
also be covering topics from entrepreneurship and innovation to leadership
and personal development. Whether you are inspiring entrepreneur, a seasoned
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you achieve your own success in business and life. So
get ready to learn and be inspired. The Success Great
Podcast starts now. In this episode, we are going to
be talking with my guests about moving from challenge to
opportunity and how to create a live by design. Joining
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me for thisde Carlly Pippin. Carly is an international speaker
and consultant with a specialized focus on human behavior. She
shares the message that, regardless of one's background, even individuals
encounters personal and professional challenges stemming from their own perceived flows.
The key is to fulfilling life is how you transform
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these stories. So, Carly, welcome to this as Success Great podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Thank you so much for having me so.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
First of all, because this is the Success Great Podcast.
And before we dive in into how to move from
a challenge to an opportunity and find that, I want
to know what do you personally define success as and
how do you see or hear other people around Do you
defined or have certain conceptions around success.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Yeah, So when we think about casus me success, I
see a lot of people focus on that as an
achievement of goal.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Right.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
An achievement of a goal is something that they've accomplished,
received almost like a reward in a sense. And what's
really interesting is like, when I think about success, it's
not actually the achievement of the goal, it's the journey
that you're on with the many goals, right, Because success
you could achieve a goal and then all of a
sudden you realize, wow, I didn't think that that was
going to give me what I thought it was, and
I actually still feel unfulfilled.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Right.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
But when you kind of connect your life with your purpose,
your bigger why, and all those bits and pieces are
connected into your day to day, whether you achieve the
goal or not, you're actually you're not happy, you're not sad,
you're grateful for how your life goes, and you're more
enjoying the journey along the way, which is the longest
period of time when we think about success, So I
like to think about the success as the longer period
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of time, not those like short instant hits of gratification
from that momentary second of receiving an award or an
accolade like it's the it's a longer period of time.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
We see a lot of For example, Olympic athletes work
for it is to achieve one medal. Sometimes they don't,
So that's very important to work. It's about the process
of the progress of things. I guess it's more important
than anything else, so because we learn if we fail.
In general. So now, in your opinion, when we talk
about challenges and opportunities, a lot of us would see
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life as challenging and we don't huguely see the opportunities
that may be in front of us. Why do you
think is that is it a mindset thing or is
it like people around us with the negative thoughts. What's
the issue with that?
Speaker 3 (03:24):
It's mainly your perceptions, your mindset, right, because if we
think about it, you look at individuals on this planet
who are doing things that inspire us, right that, and
there's nothing without challenge. There's no person who has no
challenges his life, no matter what they're going through, and
they don't have challenges. It's just more important to embrace
and find the challenges that inspire you. When we think
(03:45):
about Elon Musters a really cool video where he talks
about never giving up and if you go I think
you just google on our YouTube and never give up
and you'll see Elon must do it. But when he
says it, you'll also watch him say when the interviewer says, well,
how do you feel that some of your heroes are
basically saying that he shouldn't be doing this and going
against you, and he's like, well, I'll never give up, right,
(04:06):
But he also tears up and he cries, right. So
there's a level of sadness because some of the people
that he has looked up to as the greatest individuals
on this planet are coming against him. Is he stopping No,
So does the negative impact and the feedback from other
people actually stop you?
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Absolutely not. We're the ones who stop ourselves, right.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
And so when you have something that's so important to you,
when that why is big enough, you're going to push
if the opportunities, if you can't see him right away,
you'll push to find opportunities. You'll push to go uncover
and discover them. Because sometimes there's plenty that are right there,
and sometimes it takes us doing the work to actually
go find the opportunities. And that's when we're embracing challenges
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as opposed to thinking we need to run from them.
But again, it's part of that journey that we love
because it's really important that we find something that aligns
with us, that we.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Love so much that it's like, well, I'm gonna do
this anyway. It's gonna be hard, but I'm gonna do
it anyways. You know, of course I'm gonna do it.
I love it.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yeah, But this is the issue, like sometimes when we
have certain things going the wrong way, we start comparing
ourselves to other people, like we have the same as
you start thinking like other people or someone else I
saw that, for example, had the similar situation, but they
had a better opportunity and they did not get the challenge,
for example. So this is the story of comparing our
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stories with other people. It is one of the issues
that like we need to realize that we actually have
our own stories and we don't take other people stories
and we don't give them more stories. Like love is
abundant already, but we need to be let's say a
present or like try to climb the mountain.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
I would say, right, yeah, the comparison is a beautiful
thing to bring up. I'm super gratefully you did, because
we get so caught up in our comparisons of what
we think should be or we're supposed to be that
it does make us lose track of who we actually
are and the paths that we're on and the one
that we truly love and inspires us. So even the
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example of the Olympic athlete, right, Like an Olympic athlete,
they may win a gold medal and that's a great achievement,
but it's not an achievement for being at the Olympics.
It's the achievement, as you're saying, for the every day
what they're doing and investing to make sure that they
achieve that medal, right, and that's part of the journey
that they're inspired by. If I sit there and I
(06:25):
look at an Olympic athlete and I judge myself and
I say, I'm not as fit as an Olympic athlete,
that's massively unrealistic expectation I'm putting on myself, right, And
then if I try to go get that fit, I'm like,
I don't have the time to invest.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I'm mak an Olympic athlete in that. Like I have
like a business, and I have like other things that
I'm doing.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
It would be insane for me to do that, right,
So if I think I need to have a body
like that, it's like according to who, Well, I've labeled
that individual with the fit toned body as better than mine,
and that moment I've compared myself to them, not realizing
that that's not important to me and that's not what
I'm going to go and achieve.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
We also put people on a pedestal because.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
We haven't admitted that we have that in our own form, right,
So The athletes are a great example because if I
look at someone who's really fit and toned, I can
look at them and say, well, what do I actually
admire about that?
Speaker 2 (07:19):
And I admire.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Their dedication to wake up daily to really master something, Right,
That's what I admire. Can I look in my life
and see where do I wake up daily and master things? Absolutely,
I'm doing it in my business, my personal development, my education,
my growth, and other people's businesses and human behavior that
I wake up every day every day like an athlete
(07:42):
and focus on that. Right, So I'm actually not missing anything.
I just thought, for a moment their form was better
than mine, until I identify my own and what that
gives us the opportunity to do. Is it actually like
I could sit there and say I don't want to
be an athlete. I don't want to wake up every
day in extracise like you. That's not my destiny. I'm
still gonna make sure I'm not gonna subordinate to you
(08:04):
and say I should exercise, I should eat this way,
I should do that. I'm gonna wake up every day
and say I'm already doing what I love to master
my life. I'm already doing what you're doing, and I'm
doing it in my form, and I'm gonna keep doing that.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
And the funny thing.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Is is that's where we feel the most fulfilled. And
that athlete can look at my life with a fine
two code.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
They'll never do what I do.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
They never will, and not because they're not capable, not
because they're not you know, amazing individuals.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
They just don't want to.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
And if they compare themselves to me and try to
do that, they're gonna feel challenged, they're gonna feel frustrated,
they're gonna get exhausted, they're gonna hate their life.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Because they're not focused on what they love. And so
that's like when comparison comes in, it's that imposter syndrome
of I should be doing it this way, as opposed
to looking at, well, where am I already doing this
in my life and my form and loving and appreciating
the form you do it and instead and just go
hard on that because you already love it like already.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
See.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Definitely, we need to to stop comparing story to be
because because someone start the ten years to go difference
from someone starting now to do whatever the goal might be.
So the mindset should from the beginning, I would say,
like should be like, we want to achieve certain things,
but at the same time, the mindset should be like
(09:17):
it's the progress and have certain let's say, maybe being resilient.
So do you think being resilient is something that we
should have or apply because sometimes someone would say, like,
everything in my life is a challenge. Everything is a challenge.
I never get an opportunity. I never get an opportunity.
So how important being resilient to certain things in life
(09:39):
could be?
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Yeah, Well, in those moments when people say that, you know,
I just immediately say, like that's bs. Like we have
twenty four hours in a day, and there's seven days
in a week, and I actually go through to see
where their successes are. So this is a great opportunity.
Like when you if you have that perception and that
story is running, just stop, sit down and write down
every single day where you have little successes and where
(10:02):
you have resilience, and you're going to see that it's
going to all formulate and all come together and all
be grouped around certain areas of life and certain aspects
of life.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
That's your life purpose. Those are the things that are
most inspiring.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
To you, that athlete that we look at when we
look at Elon Musk, they're resilient because not because they're special,
not because they have something you don't. It's just because
we're watching them focus on something that's inspiring to them,
you know. And we see this a lot with parents
as well, right, Parents and individuals who are like, okay, well,
what would you do for their kids? Right, And it's like, oh,
(10:36):
heaven and hell for my children.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
That sounds like resilience to me. You know, it's genuinely resilience.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
And it's like, it's not that you don't have it,
you just have it in the area of life that's
most inspiring to you.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
And so it was funny.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
I just did this the other day with a client
where we were going through where they had resilience. They
didn't think they had resilience, and I was like, okay,
well let's find it. And when we found it, because
they had the imposter syndrome by the way, they were
comparing themselves someone else. They're like, I can't do something
this hard because I don't have that resilience. And I
was like, well, let's see where you have the same
level resilience to that other person. They had it in
(11:08):
their relationship, their health, their personal development, their growth. They
have phenomenal resilience, right, and so they thought they needed
to have it in this one specific area. But when
they got to see where they actually had it, I
was like, are you afraid to face this tough thing anymore?
Speaker 2 (11:22):
And they're like, nope, I got it. I definitely have it.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
I didn't see I had that level of strength and resilience,
but now I know I have it. So even if
you're saying like I don't have it, again, you do
have it. But you have it in the form that
you have purpose around because you will do anything, literally anything.
You will go through any amount of pain to get
the pleasure of fulfilling that purpose, any amount of pain.
(11:47):
And so when I say, you know, talk about living
a life of purpose, I'm not doing it because it's
a fluffy reason. This isn't actually for the fluffy, feel
good reason. This is because I know that you're most
successful there. I know that any challenge that are thrown
out you, you're gonna say, I can get to the
other side. I want to get to the other side.
I'm going to figure out how to get to the
other side. And to me that just sets you up
(12:09):
for an inspiring life that every day, like if I'm
not around, you don't need a cheerleader. You're gonna do
it anyways. And that's the most important thing, right. It's
not about like being a pleasure seeking individual. Trust me,
You'll get the pleasure from living in your life purpose
for sure, But at the same time, that's not the goal.
The goal is to make sure that you're so inspired
by not just the support that you're receiving, but also
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the challenges that all of a sudden, the journey becomes
like this level of oh my gosh, look what I
get to do. And all of that self confidence that
you're dying to have it's built on that journey because
every time you overcome a challenge, every time you get
to the other side, guess what you do, You increase
yourself worth in your self confidence. And that's compound interest.
It doesn't go away. It just keeps stacking up the
(12:52):
more and more you do it. So the more I'm
the more I'm pushing people to face challenges that fulfill them,
the more I know they'll get to the other sie
side of which more and more that self confidence and
software is getting built up, and I'm like, do it
compound interest?
Speaker 2 (13:07):
It works on you too.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
That's a great point, like being doing certain things like
and feeling its compound interest. But you mentioned very like
talking about purpose, and you mentioned let's say that I
would say the support maybe with others, like do you
think these two are important? Like sometimes someone would say,
for example, I have all the people around the air negative,
(13:31):
no one is supporting me. They are bringing me down.
And also on the other side, like if we talk
about life's purpose, someone would say, I don't even know
what my purpose is, So what would you say to
these people? Whatever the type of purpose, like whether it's
it's shallow or not shallow, deep or important things other people. Yeah,
(13:51):
about the diabetes.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
For starters, if we think about that statement like I
can't do this because everyone else is bringing me down.
What a disempowering statement. You just told me that every
person around you is more powerful, like one hundred percent,
that's what you're saying, Like every single person is just
so much more powerful than you that they can control
you and they own you. Are you locked up in
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a cage jack handcuffs on?
Speaker 2 (14:16):
No, you don't.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
You're listening to this podcast like you have a level
of freedom, and every time you say that, you're actually
disempowering yourself as opposed to looking at things in a
different way. You people aren't controlling you with negative thoughts
if you're taking those on, and those are things that
you're taking on yourself. You can't take on a negative
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thought about yourself that you already didn't have a belief in.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
And this is a really beautiful reflection component.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Because people say like negative things to me all the time, right,
negative positive, the ones that impact me. I look and
I'm like, I agree with them, and I have a judgment.
Right the other ones where they say it to me
and it.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
Doesn't even impact me.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
I'm like, yeah, I totally have that, but it doesn't
bother me because I don't judge myself for it. So
this is actually a feedback mechanism. And when when you
say like it's holding you back, what you're actually doing
you didn't realize. Nobody teaches us this by the way
that it's just feedback when we have emotion around it,
it's feedback that we share the same judgment as them,
and we're frustrated with ourselves. We have guilt and shame, resentment,
(15:18):
towards ourselves, right, and this is a really cool opportunity
for us to actually dive in and clear that. So
then when they say it again, you won't even notice.
It's just like, oh yeah, oh my gosh, they said
it again. It didn't even bother me, right, so we
kind of mistook it for something else. And then because
we get emotional around it, that's what controls us. They
don't control us. Our emotional reactions control us because those
(15:39):
are the things that spiral out of control, get us
the brain noise, get us all like mixed up in
our heads so that we actually can't focus on the
task at hand, because if we didn't have the emotions
around it, it would just be nothing.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
Right.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
You just like wipe it off, wipe it off your shoulders.
It's not a big deal. So that's why it's like,
when you think about I only have the negative people
around me, it's not actually the negative people. It's that
you're having an emotional reaction to what they're sharing. And
so the personal empowerment within is how do I actually
clear that own judgment on myself? So if someone said
that again, I'd be okay. Because we go out and
we look at individuals in the world. The bigger that
(16:14):
you get and the more people you reach, it's not
like the more people.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
That are going to support you.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
For sure, you'll have a lot of extra support, but
you also have the same degree of challengers. Right Donald
Trump is a beautiful example. It's just so clear and
so evident to the degree he has support in the world,
he has the same quantity of challengers. And if he
stops doing what he's doing, or anyone on this planet
stops doing what they're doing because they have someone challenging them, well,
(16:39):
then obviously it must not have been that important to you,
you know, because why would you stop doing what you
love because someone said that you shouldn't or someone gave
you some feedback that wasn't awesome?
Speaker 4 (16:49):
You know.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
And another cool thing to look at, because again, if
you're running that story in your head, I want you
to go through your life and see who's actually supporting you,
because I guarantee it, to the degree that you have challenge,
you have the same quantity support in your life, and
you are most likely just frustrated because you expected it
to come in a certain form and you're not appreciating
the form that it actually came in. So when you say,
(17:10):
like I only have negative people around me, I know
that you're not appreciating the form of the support and
where it's actually coming from. But when you ask those questions,
you can genuinely appreciate that support. And then the other
thing too is ask how the criticism serves you, you know,
and this is part of the overcoming any challenge. Ask
how whatever you're going through that is hard and difficult
(17:31):
is serving you and your life purpose. And when you
can see that, all of a sudden, you realize, like, wow,
this is actually helpful.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Right.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Sometimes the criticism pushes us to use our voice. Right.
Speaker 3 (17:43):
Sometimes we're quiet and we haven't set boundaries, we're not
using our voice, and it pushes us into the forefront.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
It makes us do that.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
Right.
Speaker 4 (17:49):
Sometimes the criticism about you, guys, this is a good
one for me where someone will criticize me and I'll be.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Like watch watch me.
Speaker 5 (17:56):
I will show you and I can't wait to reach
back out when I do exactly what you say I
couldn't do, and then I do it. Then I do
reach back out because I am that person, because I'm like, yeah,
I could do it, and I believed in myself. But
at the end of the day, it's it's funny because
it's not important for them to believe in you.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
It's important for you.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
To believe in you and you to actually go do
it because their support does nothing. Their support doesn't get
you there. It's your actions that get you there. And
as long as you believe in yourself, that's the thing
that's going to get you to achieve what you want,
not anyone else's emotional support.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Yeah, so I would say, like important things zero. I
would encourage people to focus on and and have accept feedback,
but not be impacted by the criticism. I would say, right,
and also don't judge ourselves, like even if the if
it's a positive, great, if it's not, like I would say, like,
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it goes from one year, it goes from the other rail.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
So this is how you Yeah, that's actually part of
our process of growth and evolution. And don't have unrealistic
expectations to figure this all out at once, because when
you're a kid, there's gonna be a different type of
criticism that you have now, and in five years, even
a year, in a month, you might have different criticism
and a year and five years, ten years it's not
(19:19):
ever gonna go away. It's gonna be with you forever,
and so we just work on it in different bits
and pieces as it comes up.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Yeah, yeah, school.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
So curly, what is the worst advice that you have
ever received?
Speaker 2 (19:30):
The worst advice than I've ever received. So worst advice
someone someone told me to put all my money into crypto.
That was pretty bad, and I'm I didn't and I'm
super grateful that person lost all their money. By the way. Yeah,
so I have like a nice little balanced portfolio that
(19:52):
I feel really comfortable with and I risk a small
percentage that if I ever lost it fully, but that's
like that's like venture cap, like it's the highest verced
investment that you can have because it's very well it's it.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
I would say it's even more worse because it's very
emotionally driven. There's really no right now maybe later. There's
really no like solid concrete background behind it. There's no business,
there's no structure, and so we're really just spaceitting off
of how people feel.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
And so that's that's a rough one. So that was
like the worst advice ever, and I'm glad I didn't
follow it because they lost all their money.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Yeah, yeah, So what would you say your best resources
tool or books or your final takeaway for our episodes?
Speaker 3 (20:32):
You quality questions, guys, and we've already shared some today.
It's like, one of the best questions that you can
ask when you're going through a challenge is how is
this serving me right now? How is this going to
serve me in the future? What am I learning from this?
How is it helping me to grow? Like, when we
can ask those questions and we see it, you get
from a level of like any challenge that you appreciate
(20:53):
and you can think about this, I know that you
won't want to run from and you're like, yeah, it's hard,
but I do it anyways because I like the heart
it's something I want to achieve. But when you're asking
those questions around something right now that you do want
to run from, that is really hard. It takes it
from feeling like that overwhelming, exhausting to oh, I can't
overcome this, I can't achieve it, and then the hardest
(21:14):
thing that's taking up the most noise and giving you
the most stress, all of a sudden, it's no more stress.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
It goes away.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
So keep asking the question until you become grateful for it,
and you're like, I don't need this to change. That's
the key. The second that you say I actually don't
need this to change. That means you have an equal
amount of benefits to the challenge as you've had drawbacks.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
That's the key. You say, I don't need it to change.
I appreciate it. I'm okay.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
Awesome, Well, thank you very much Curry for joining me
for the sapsuite great insights and really amazing perspective into
new things and do how to change to take it
from challenges to opportunities and how we can improve our
lives and be a bitter human in general. And yeah,
thank you very much for joining me. And what can
(21:58):
people learn more about it and get.
Speaker 3 (21:59):
In just yeah, thank you so much for having me
in the inspiring conversation and they can go to Carlepepin
dot com best place you can contact me directly or
find any social media platforms you want to contact and
connect on as well.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
Awesome. Also, thank you very much Charty for joining me. Great,
great one.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
Thank you, thank you
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