Guess Who's Coming Home For Dinner - Part 2 - Your Resource For Success Podcast

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Speaker 1 (00:02):
All right, welcome back, Welcome back to part two. I
guess who's coming home for dinner, and Sir gets a
quick reminder of who our lovely host are today. We have,
of course the regulars. We have Carmine, we have Jen
and Chris, and we have our special special host with us.

Speaker 2 (00:23):
We have Annetta and Louise. We just love it, love it,
love it.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
So for those who don't remember, you're on listening to
Unveiled podcast show, and this is the show that is
completely unscripted and uncuffed. So if you heard something in
the part one you didn't like.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
Just don't listen.

Speaker 3 (00:40):
It's all I could tell you.

Speaker 4 (00:44):
Go back and listen to all of them.

Speaker 2 (00:48):
And we normally don't.

Speaker 1 (00:48):
Get a chance to do two parts, but we really
thought that this conversation was something that we needed to
continue to have. So here's part two and we'll move
on to where we ended at. Where we were talking
about in general, just how communicating with people, understanding that
who we are is not about what we look like

(01:09):
versus what we enjoy as is individuals and who we
are as individuals, and then bringing people together. But I
like the way Annetta had ended it about the fact
and Louise, were talking about the fact of how food.

Speaker 3 (01:24):
Brings you together, right, and what.

Speaker 1 (01:26):
Was the saying again, Louise. So that's where we're going
to start, is how when you're talking about guess who's
coming home for dinner, it's about so much about the individual,
as I say, as it is about as a whole
and food. It's amazing how food will truly bring people together.

Speaker 2 (01:52):
We have a chef at the table is sitting over
here like, oh, I keep talk about this. That's interesting.
You can you think of any holiday meal that you've
had where you haven't found something out about your family
or about somebody that was an eye opening, right, Like
I think about all the different holidays, whether it's Thanksgiving

(02:15):
or Russia, Shana or whatever. It might be Passover where
I learned something about somebody in my family, and it
could be something as simple as, oh, this one likes
chocolate cake and here the whole time I thought she
hated chalcol whatever it might be. So I think that's
a great way to look at like, you know, sit down,
eat something, talk one. You can't be a jerk if

(02:38):
you have food in your mouth, because you might choke
and die.

Speaker 5 (02:41):
Be surprised.

Speaker 3 (02:48):
Situations could be so choice, right.

Speaker 6 (02:51):
I I growing up by we go to my aunt's house,
my aunt and uncle's house. Uh, you know, Thanksgiving, Christmas
and stuff like that. And I was not a very
happy person. One being that it's a lot of fish around.
Oh yeah, but I overcame that because my aunt would
make me spaghetti and my cousin and I was sitting

(03:13):
in the kitchen away from the fish because she didn't
like fish eat.

Speaker 5 (03:16):
But anyway, uh, I didn't.

Speaker 6 (03:18):
I didn't really have a good relation.

Speaker 7 (03:21):
I don't want to say a good relationship.

Speaker 6 (03:23):
My family was very crazy and it.

Speaker 5 (03:25):
Was not it was not anything I took away from.

Speaker 6 (03:28):
I don't want to know anymore about you because you're
all crazy.

Speaker 4 (03:32):
I think we're trying. We're trying to go with this.

Speaker 8 (03:34):
It's like like I made a little know about marriage
differences and when it comes to like doing food like
the russiashana and what's the other on Passover?

Speaker 4 (03:47):
Passover is a big one.

Speaker 8 (03:49):
Like I had to learn about Jewish religious foods right,
and that was a.

Speaker 4 (03:57):
Big difference for me. And because a.

Speaker 8 (04:00):
Lot of people and I'm gonna bring up the G
word and if you don't like it, tough can filter fish,
because everybody sees can filter fish in this jar, and
it looks like a bunch of oysters.

Speaker 4 (04:12):
It's all slimy and so on and so forth.

Speaker 8 (04:14):
And I will tell you for somebody who's been married
to a Jewish one for some time now, like that
is not that.

Speaker 4 (04:19):
That is not the real thing.

Speaker 8 (04:23):
Like if you if you want to eat it, go ahead, biomeans.
But the way my wife makes it's pretty awesome and
I like it. But to bring people up different origins
with different types of food, it makes a really big difference.
Like for you guys, you guys are very eclectic background,
Like do you guys do stuff? Did you have something

(04:44):
to hers? I was like, okay, this is really weird.
And like in the beginning, right, all.

Speaker 9 (04:48):
The traditional Caribbean dishes I make because I just make
a ton of things, just kidding.

Speaker 5 (05:00):
Any of those the other week that we were there, Okay.

Speaker 3 (05:03):
I put the salad together, very good.

Speaker 2 (05:09):
Very good.

Speaker 10 (05:10):
I think Caribbean food between Latin food is not much
of a difference. Like everybody was saying, well, there's food
on the table. Everybody has come as human beings and
we eat and we talk smack, enjoy that moment, it
doesn't make a difference. It's taco, if it's American food,

(05:31):
if it's Caribbean, let's make it different, or you wish
it doesn't make a difference if you're going to be
curious about to be able to taste a different type
before you go to do it or not. But everybody
comes together as family or as friends or just human beings,
you know.

Speaker 1 (05:48):
Yeah, And then, like you said, though, there's still there
will be those times where you're gonna learn a lot
more about those individuals that you did not know. And
then you also have those moments where it's like why
are you even here because you're not engage, You're not
a part of wanting to be with the family, wanting
to experience that dinner time, wanting to sit down and

(06:08):
have those real conversations.

Speaker 3 (06:10):
Right.

Speaker 1 (06:10):
So's it can work, but it also gives you that
perspective of knowing who truly is in your corner, who
you truly are, what your family really is, and it's
not about blood.

Speaker 2 (06:22):
That is the key thing that people need to understand.
I've got so many opinions on that, and I agree
with you wholeheartedly. I think that we've lost our sense
of community. We get caught up in our rat race,
whatever your rat races and your rat race and my
rat race, unless you make a concerted effort to make
the time to get to know your neighbor, know your family,

(06:44):
know your friends, meet new people, right Like I can
tell you just the way I'm looking at it is
you have to put that effort in, and it is effort.
People with young kids have very different social structures and
calendar and people our age where we don't have an
eight year old and a six year old or five

(07:05):
year old and a three old, whatever the case might be,
so there's different conversations to be had and making that
time to figure out I say it this way, who's
in your tribe? When everything comes down to it, who's
in your tribe? And it's not just family like we
always tell people, Oh, Kim and Carmine and we just
had this conversation, Oh Kim and Carmine, Oh Kim and Carmine,

(07:27):
and oh yes and Kim and Carmine. It's because you
are our tribe. You are our family. We are your tribe,
We are family. And it's the effort that goes into
those relationships that make it so important So whether it's
a turkey on Thanksgiving or tackos on a Tuesday, or

(07:48):
I don't know, risk it for whatever you were holiday,
you do make that effort. And also you find out
who we really don't need as part of your tribe
because I'm not everyone's shot out tequila. I will tell
you that straight up. I know I'm not. I don't
need to be.

Speaker 9 (08:06):
And that makes a good kind of question of like
how do you determine who comes to dinner or when
you're ready for someone to come to dinner. So it's
like like you're saying, you know, you have family and
you have friends, and you know, we had our little
get together last weekend and we were having a surprise
birthday for his dad and him and he had no idea,

(08:27):
but you know, the first thing that came to his
mind is like, Okay, we're in bagging family. He was like, Kim,
you know I have another good friend Ashley, And yeah,
you know, like you're saying, it's not just blood, but

(08:48):
it's those people who are in your corner. But I'm wondering,
like even for you guys, like when did you decide
that you were ready for your family or your tribe
to meet your significant other and how did that go? Like,
how did you know, Okay, it's time for us to
have dinner.

Speaker 2 (09:07):
That's a great question. That's a great question.

Speaker 1 (09:10):
Yeah, so you're saying, like with our families or just
with our friends either or well, I think you're ready
for us. It was it was to me, it was
a no brainer. You know, you guys are my family.
So I didn't look at.

Speaker 2 (09:22):
You as, oh, gosh, I'm gonna be scared.

Speaker 1 (09:25):
I can't talk to these people I can't introduce and
whether or not you knew who he was or didn't know,
for me, it's like you are my family. I want
you to understand this is the person that I'm going
to be with the rest of my life, that I
have fallen in love with. This is who we are,
and that whether not accept that that's on you. I
will still I will still love you. I'm not gonna
love you any less.

Speaker 2 (09:44):
But at the same time, I didn't really think we
didn't overthink it. I think we just.

Speaker 1 (09:48):
Really wanted to make sure that for us. I think
our big thing was our kids. You know, understanding that
we've decided to take another step, a stab at marriage
because I've been by myself for nineteen year and that's
a long time, you know, and for you you're but
almost fifteen. When you start just you start to think
about how many years you've been by yourself, and then
you're starting to bring somebody back into the fold.

Speaker 3 (10:10):
That was a little bit different, you know.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
But I didn't think of it as a chore of saying, oh,
I got to sit down and tell everybody there's there
was the significance of.

Speaker 2 (10:21):
You guys knowing.

Speaker 1 (10:22):
First that was important to me because you guys are
my family, you know. And then like seeing it there
was that that little minimal circle that to me is
just my everyday family that I wanted them to have.
You guys all have a part of this and what
we were about to do and become, you know, husband
and wife.

Speaker 3 (10:40):
So I don't really think much of it.

Speaker 6 (10:42):
I don't know about you and that I agree with you.

Speaker 2 (10:49):
Yes, yes, yes, dear, we all heard it. Happy wife,
happy life.

Speaker 5 (10:54):
Yes.

Speaker 6 (10:54):
I don't know how I tongue when you saw the falls, right,
I said, And just I'm too close.

Speaker 5 (11:03):
She was on the other side of the table.

Speaker 2 (11:05):
It would be a different story. It was like that, Butterfly,
I agree with you.

Speaker 5 (11:12):
Wholeheartedly. And I don't say that, you know, just.

Speaker 2 (11:16):
To be no.

Speaker 6 (11:21):
You know, we're in sync right the the And I
was writing down here because you know, you mentioned tribe
and all that stuff, and it's just really interesting. What
I'd like to understand is and I don't see it.
Maybe you could tell me if if you've noticed it
in any of our relationships with other people, certainly not
the people at this table, but who's left the tribe

(11:43):
because they can't see past the differences. They can't see
the past the religion. They can't see the black and white,
they can't see the you know, Republican Democrat side of
the table. I haven't experienced any of that, or maybe
I've shied away from people who were giving that vibe.

(12:04):
But I'm just curious, since anybody been your tribe at
one time and then your relationship caused that tribe to
for them not to be in.

Speaker 10 (12:13):
Your tribe anymore, I've been there. The way I see
it in my end, it's just me is like if
you can, if you cannot support me or be there
as a friend or as a family member, hey.

Speaker 7 (12:26):
I forget you. I forget about you.

Speaker 10 (12:28):
Just just like that.

Speaker 7 (12:29):
You know, sometimes we get caught on.

Speaker 10 (12:31):
This is my family, this, this is no if they're
not willing to be able to.

Speaker 7 (12:35):
Be there as real friends or real family.

Speaker 10 (12:39):
Fortunately, you got to move on, right because at the
end of the day, you're hurting your own selves.

Speaker 7 (12:45):
Your fortune is.

Speaker 10 (12:46):
A person to be in your life when that person
tenderly probably doesn't want to be in your life. And
I just go to next honestly.

Speaker 2 (12:55):
Right, and why do you have to pick and choose?

Speaker 10 (12:57):
Right?

Speaker 2 (12:57):
And I think that's the other thing, and.

Speaker 8 (13:00):
That's the problem, right the so going back to how
this all started from part one?

Speaker 4 (13:06):
But who's coming home for dinner?

Speaker 8 (13:09):
Is the The problem that we live in today is
people want to pick a side rather than just be
their own person and realize that you do not have
to pick a side. You can have an opinion for
both aspects or four aspects or five or how manyever
you want to have, just as long as you feel

(13:32):
good about yourself. Like Luisa is like, I'm the type
of versus like you don't support my decision and if
I fail, I'm gonna figure out how to pick myself
up and move on. Guess what, I ain't got time
for you and I don't really don't care about you,
so go forth do great things. I didn't marry my
wife because she was Jewish. I married her because she

(13:53):
was fun to be around. We joke all the time.

Speaker 7 (13:55):
We have some of.

Speaker 8 (13:56):
The same interest we have completely separate things that we
like to do alone, and it's great. It works and
if people can't support that, cool. Now what I get
a lot of times with her. People with her is like, so,
what do you guys celebrate honk I was like, yes,
I celebrate Honakok, and I celebrate Christmas and I have

(14:18):
to celebrate her birthday all.

Speaker 3 (14:19):
In the same month.

Speaker 5 (14:20):
Therefore, I what.

Speaker 8 (14:23):
You know, things like that are what different religious? It's
really I get a lot more religious questions about being Jewish.
I was like, whyn't you ask a person who is Jewish?

Speaker 2 (14:32):
Which is so surprised, And you know who's in your tribe?
Who do you want in your tribe? Who don't you want? Like,
who doesn't support it? We didn't have anyone, not nobody
in my family was without full support. And granted, my
parents are deceased, so it's my sister, and my sister's
got her husband and their ten children who are all
married and they're all, yeah, it's amazing. And she actually

(14:54):
has her first great grand baby, happened back in August. Well,
I was very excited for her, she became a great grandma.
Everybody was supportive. The questions were more about the things
that I don't even think about, like him being a soldier, Oh,
how long is christ and the military? What did he do?
And of course the littler ones like did you have

(15:15):
to shoot someone?

Speaker 10 (15:18):
You ask him?

Speaker 2 (15:19):
To that point, he really gets more of the questions
of so, how did you like that one? How Jewish
are you?

Speaker 8 (15:24):
Yeah, like like that is like no serious, no serious,
Like people are like how Jewish is she? And because
and it's kind of funny now that I when people
ask me that, like, well let me give let me give.

Speaker 4 (15:35):
You the broad scope.

Speaker 8 (15:37):
Her sister right is on the I am Orthodox done son,
whereas she is like there's a holiday coming up, maybe
we should say, you know. But going back to like
if you listen to part one, the whole thing about
tattoos and being Jewish.

Speaker 4 (15:53):
It's not really a thing. My wife she has some tattoos,
her husband has a lot of tattoos.

Speaker 5 (15:58):
It's like, well, so you've really are jew.

Speaker 8 (16:01):
Is I'm gonna start using I'm gonna when you're introducing
religion comes to place she's jew.

Speaker 5 (16:16):
Jewish, but I mean.

Speaker 2 (16:19):
How come you like don't you?

Speaker 8 (16:24):
But like when when it comes to certain like she's
very adamant about certain holidays, like young Kipper is you
know the.

Speaker 4 (16:31):
No I'm want to screw this up.

Speaker 8 (16:32):
I know, I am it's the new year, what day
of atonement? But going into the new year first, never mind.

Speaker 5 (16:45):
Just think about this. Russia home is the first step.

Speaker 2 (16:50):
Russia.

Speaker 8 (16:53):
But anyway, it's like I'm saying, like there's there's ones
that are very she's very particular about where is like
I don't remember where we did Sabbath one time with
our family, and I was like it was the middle
of the summer. And if you don't know anything about
the sabbath, when the sabbath starts, it starts when the
sun goes down. So when you're trying to eat dinner

(17:15):
at ninth thir day at night, there's a cranky tattooed
guy like why are.

Speaker 3 (17:18):
We waiting to eat right now?

Speaker 5 (17:20):
It's so bad? Like why?

Speaker 8 (17:22):
But then you have like an hour of prayer or
prior to that, it's like please stop, please make it
stop like feed me now, like those certain things where
it's like I can't do this right now. You need
to pick and choose because I can't live like that.

Speaker 2 (17:33):
I can't live on a.

Speaker 3 (17:33):
Friday and not be able to eat or drink until sundown.

Speaker 2 (17:38):
I think people want to be part of something that
they see you enjoying, right So for me, I've had
people ask if they could come to dinner at our
home because they want to understand whatever it is, whether
it's Russia, Chana, Passover, whatever the holiday is. You know
a lot of Jewish holidays are about food, that and alcohol.

(18:02):
I can't blownate that. That's just fact. They try to
kill us. Drink, eat, drink some more cool.

Speaker 3 (18:08):
We're still here.

Speaker 2 (18:09):
So people who want to appreciate it will appreciate it
from my standpoint because I am passionate about certain things
when it comes to my religion, I wear it on
my sleeve while you can't visually see it. I am
one hundred percent proud of being Jewish. There are people
who I think, you know, if there was something that

(18:29):
was important to you, or if it even slightly concerned you,
what other people thought about your relationship with Carmine they'd
pick up on it because it's easy to pick up
on something negative. It's easy to latch onto it and
almost exploit it. So that unification that the two of
you have, that bond, that you have, that joy that
you put out, I think that kind of gets rid

(18:52):
of those people, the haters, if you were, absolutely, because
they can't fight that beauty, they can't fight that passion.
And I like to think that when we discussed Russia,
Shanna coming up this year, Okay, so it's during the week,
who do we know would want to come and experience it?
And then it's oh, it's during the week, and it's
those lives again. Do you make time for your tribe,

(19:13):
whether it's an hour, two hours, or are you just
friends and family when the killing?

Speaker 8 (19:22):
I think, going back, going back to your question, it
was that I'm going to do it from my standpoint.
So when the wife and I got together, I was
on the tail end of my army career and my
friends were army.

Speaker 2 (19:38):
That was it.

Speaker 4 (19:38):
I had only army buddies.

Speaker 8 (19:39):
And then like one day, the next thing I know,
I wake up and I roll over. I'm like, so
who do I report to you? Who do I go
hang out with blah blah blah. She's like me fool
like all right, well, but it's so there, I mean
really like you two, Kim Karl, were are I gut?

Speaker 4 (19:55):
I guess they're proven authority.

Speaker 8 (19:57):
You know. It was kind of like that, Yeah, we're
gonna get married and when hey, whatever, cool, Great, you're
a wonderful But there wasn't I mean, there wasn't a
big friend group. I think we have more friends now
almost ten years of being retired that are not related
to the military than anything else.

Speaker 2 (20:20):
But the quality and the type of people as you,
as we've gotten older and we've become more settled, I
think that also changes who you attract as a friend.

Speaker 3 (20:31):
Absolutely.

Speaker 2 (20:32):
I know you like going to the gym and I
love watching the videos you post, but it's passion, and
I think we lose that. I think that, especially for women,
we are put into this box and fit in the box.
Don't be too loud.

Speaker 10 (20:47):
Well, I blew that one right.

Speaker 2 (20:48):
Out the water. Don't be don't make too much attention.
You definitely blew that one right out of the water.
Don't voice your opinions, Kim, you definitely blow out of order.
And that I do believe attracts us too each other
as women who are capable of supporting each other. And
I go so far as to say same thing with
a couple. I can tell that you support your husband.

(21:09):
I know you two support each other. Hopefully, God willing,
we give off that same that same vibe of we
are a couple, we are a pair. And those are
the people that I want attracted into the tribe. The
couples are the individuals who are so focused on the sour,
who who don't want to eat the taco they're gonna

(21:32):
they're gonna push the rice and beans around, which, by
the way, the cardinal sins and the cardinal I think
is worse. I think, uh, the grounds for termination one

(21:54):
hundred percent, not even a question. But if you come
to our home, and I'm very I don't like letting
people just come into our home because now I'm sharing
with you a piece of me and a piece of
my husband that is so personal and so specifically and
meticulously constructed for our joy. And so I want to

(22:16):
share that joy with you by letting you in our home.
If you come in my home and you poop on me,
or God forbid worse, you poop on my husband, I
will go sixteen ways of that shit. Crazy are you? Oh?
Thank you? And we've had that experience once with somebody
where they came into our home and they left, and

(22:38):
it got back to me that they were disrespectful toward
my husband, toward my home, and I was like, no,
mass that that is not happening again, because this is
our safe space. Your home is your safe space. Like
I don't know if you've ever been robbed. It's the
most violating experience. When I was child, our house was

(23:00):
broken into in Jersey, and I will never forget my
mother turning to my father made they both rest in peace,
and says we need to move because she felt violated.
And I guess to a degree, I carried that with
me with the people that I bring to our home,
who we lit in our home. Who when Amanda came
home with the gentleman. I don't know if you've ever

(23:22):
told that story, but she came home and she brought
this kid home for dinner and she was a sophomore
in college.

Speaker 4 (23:31):
Hold on, do you all have kids?

Speaker 7 (23:35):
We have seven kids.

Speaker 8 (23:39):
Go for it.

Speaker 5 (23:44):
He did not miss a beat.

Speaker 8 (23:45):
I was like, all right, cool man, good, okay.

Speaker 7 (23:50):
I like to say that. I like to see people's reaction.

Speaker 10 (23:53):
That was awesome.

Speaker 2 (23:57):
So our daughter brought this child, this your man home,
and he was not allowed back in our home. And
that was just very matter of fact, because again, if
you're going to come into our home, I don't care
who you are, whether you're family, you're a friend, or
you're trying to make you that first impression, do so
with an open heart and kindness. Don't be an.

Speaker 8 (24:16):
Ass, don't show up in a wife peter, and don't
use and do not use the term sir like there
was no sir. There is no yes sir, no sir,
and yes ma'am, no man.

Speaker 10 (24:28):
There was none of that.

Speaker 2 (24:29):
There is nothing in the full story is so much
more entertaining, but that has to be off the air.

Speaker 1 (24:37):
I would like to hear about it later.

Speaker 6 (24:41):
You bring up an excellent point, right, like who if
there's a family member or a member of your tribe, right, uh,
that has a problem with who you are, you know
you know, or who you're taking home for dinner? Right,
how would this affect your relationship ship with them?

Speaker 9 (25:01):
Right?

Speaker 5 (25:01):
And and and that's that's that's.

Speaker 6 (25:03):
Interesting because I'm using this word tribe because I love
it so much. Now, are there tribe members we no
longer allow in ours on our reservation?

Speaker 9 (25:13):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (25:14):
And that is good. Yeah, that is good.

Speaker 5 (25:16):
And we like people that we go to their their reservation.

Speaker 6 (25:19):
Rather than them come to our reservation, because I home
is your your sanctuary, right and there are people they
probably are people that subconsciously we don't allow into our
home or reservation we go there.

Speaker 1 (25:38):
Well, you know, when I even think about that part
of it, if I had that negative experience with those individuals,
I don't even want to go back to their reservation,
right because you've already shown me who you truly are.
Those are the things I might have missed before because
they felt comfortable enough that, oh, they think you're the same.
But then when you start to see that maybe there's
that additional persons in that in your life and they

(25:58):
start to show a different or that's really who they were.
We just didn't see it because it didn't affect us
in a certain way. Right, I don't want to be
in that reservation. I don't want to go to see
you anymore. You don't need to come see me if
I see yatta street cool whatever I speak, and keep
ab out of my business. That's the type of person
I am.

Speaker 2 (26:14):
That's why you're nicer than I am, because once that
veil comes down, it's almost like the end of a
honeymoon phase.

Speaker 3 (26:20):
Right.

Speaker 2 (26:20):
If I see you and you are your true character
is ugly done, I will cut you off like a
bad habit man.

Speaker 1 (26:27):
And I don't have to feel like I have to
engage with you. But if I'm in somebody great example,
we've been through this just here recently, and there was
people in their home that I've known as long as
I've known you, and they ignored the hell out of me,
and like they've never met me, had the nerve that
they had to come in front of my face and say, do.

Speaker 2 (26:49):
I know you?

Speaker 3 (26:50):
I was like, are you?

Speaker 1 (26:52):
It took everything. It took everything for me to be like,
are you fucking kidding me?

Speaker 7 (26:58):
Right?

Speaker 3 (26:58):
And I didn't say it that way out of respect
for the love that.

Speaker 1 (27:01):
I have for these two individuals sitting across this table
from me, but it was it hurt me more to
notice the ignorance that you're in their home. You're violating
their home, their love and respect for you because they
didn't have to ask you to come here. But then
at the same time you're in their environment and you're

(27:23):
totally just arrogance and the ignorant. It drove me over
the wall and I literally was like, I'm not We're
not leaving y'all untime I know they're gone. That was
because I just knew that at that moment, how you've
had that feeling like something else is going to happen.

Speaker 2 (27:39):
And we said.

Speaker 1 (27:40):
We're not leaving until we know whe Rails is gone.
And we stayed till like midnight yes night. I needed
to have that comfort of knowing that they were okay.

Speaker 3 (27:50):
That was that was my biggest concern.

Speaker 5 (27:56):
You, Yes, I want to share something.

Speaker 7 (27:59):
In my thought. My mom always upset too. We're six
boys and the second oldest true my father.

Speaker 10 (28:09):
My father always has said your house is your castle.
You respect the person who you with that's your husband
or your wife, and there's limited of people who is
allowed to come into your house. A house have to

(28:31):
be respected to the highest level. The way you treat,
the way you carry your house is the reflection of you.
That's one second. Not anybody is allowed.

Speaker 7 (28:44):
To come into your house. A lot of people don't
understand that.

Speaker 10 (28:47):
I don't have your family close family like jam was saying.
Kimber was saying, there's specific people that you allow to
come to your safe net, and this is where your
family is because a lot of people. You know, I'm
gonna be believe in hand with your father, that's my belief.
A lot of people they have different things going on,

(29:09):
and when a negative mind coming to your house, it's
a different world then beginning to spiritual right here, those
things when we started dating, when we had our house,
That's one of the things I have said to her,
I know where her heart is. Not everybody's hard to say.

(29:30):
And I'll tell that to our two boys. I have
a twenty four all and we have a seventeen. I
told both of them the day they decide to bring
somebody here, this is not a hotel. Second, you're going
to respect the house. There's always my fallowers have said
to us, there's only one queen here.

Speaker 7 (29:51):
That's your mother.

Speaker 10 (29:53):
Same thing I said to my son and to mother's son, Jayden.
The day they decide to bring somebody here, it's gonna
be one person, and that person have to learn how
to respect. If she doesn't know how to respect the house,
your mom, my wife, myself.

Speaker 7 (30:10):
That's the last time that person is going.

Speaker 10 (30:11):
To come to my house.

Speaker 3 (30:13):
Agreed, absolutely, And.

Speaker 10 (30:17):
It sounds very cold, but reality, it's not cold.

Speaker 7 (30:22):
It's a respect for other people.

Speaker 8 (30:25):
But there's there's a lot of you know, the dynamics
of how people at this table were raised that are
not done today, and it off.

Speaker 4 (30:40):
Air what we were talking about.

Speaker 8 (30:41):
Like people go on vacation and they still supplement, you know,
time with family or time with learning from the adults,
like here's your iPad, here's your phone, Like, no, teach
your child something. Teach your child about respect and disrespect
and you know how things really work.

Speaker 4 (30:59):
Don't be like, hey, you're.

Speaker 8 (31:00):
Gonna learn it from the internet. You're gonna learn it
from a YouTuber or something like that. You know, it's
about everyone here has a life lesson from their parents.
If we all were like when you're younger, we're like whatever.
Now it's like we said it to our kids, and it's.

Speaker 3 (31:16):
Like now we now understand.

Speaker 10 (31:21):
My father always upset. Enjoy your family. Now when I'm
six ft underground, I don't want you to be there
and do that all of that drama. Yeah, because that
might be a drama for somebody else who they may
see one angle, but the real angle is only you

(31:45):
the heavily father, because you were never there and you're
making all this drama crying over me when you don't
have to waste your time. You have the time to
do it. Why come and show this this persona from.

Speaker 7 (32:00):
The other people. In reality, you were not that you
had the chance.

Speaker 9 (32:02):
Yeah, but I think cut similar to what you were
saying to Carmine, Like, you know, your tribe can sometimes
change as you changed, you know, because when I was single,
it was like the tribe was a certain way, you know,
we all ran together with a certain group, you know,
having fun, party whatever. And then when you get married,
you notice that some of those tribes that not necessarily

(32:24):
you you get rid of, but they either stay behind
or you've moved on and it just doesn't fit in
your new circle. And so I've noticed that as I've
been married now that some of those people I didn't
necessarily kick out, they just didn't roll with me because
we're on in a different path now in life. And
but then you have some who you know, even though

(32:45):
they are still single, they're still supportive and you know
they care about you no matter what, you know, whether
you're married, single, divorce, whatever, they're going to be with you,
you know, unconditionally. And I think that's what I've seen
as now that we've been married now four years, that
you know, the ones who love you are going to

(33:06):
be with you in regardless, not because you're at a
certain stage or a certain title.

Speaker 2 (33:11):
They're gonna be with you.

Speaker 9 (33:12):
And I have to learn that it's okay to leave
those behind that are no longer with.

Speaker 5 (33:16):
You too, right.

Speaker 1 (33:17):
And then you have those people who want to become
the part of the tribe. They all they want to
be is the center of attention. They're not truly a
part of who you are. Nosy, they want to just
be in control. They want to be the center attention.
They want to be Hey, I want to be here
for you, But they're really not there for you. They
they just want you to believe that they are. But

(33:38):
then you can see right through them. And I know
y'all know who I'm talking about, and that I can't
deal with.

Speaker 3 (33:44):
I have had, you know, you have to.

Speaker 1 (33:46):
I had to find a way to walk away from
that nonsense because I can't take that and I don't
like that feeling of feeling I'm being used, right, or
that you just want to be a part of something
that's really not truly there, and so you get a
lot of that, especially I think for us now, you know,
because we're married and a lot of people do know
of us or know who we are. Everybody thinks they

(34:08):
wanted to jump on the bandwagon, and you start to realize, yeah,
you're not really a part of this bandwagon because you're
full of ass.

Speaker 6 (34:15):
You know.

Speaker 1 (34:15):
I don't have time for that. And he's a lot
nicer than I am, a whole lot nicer. I don't
have the what's the word I want to use, patience.
I'm just I just don't have it anymore to deal
with that. I feel like I got to hold on
hold your hand to keep you there. You know, the
hand handhelding is done. You're grown, You're a grown adult.

(34:38):
You make your decisions, and I'm okay with that. Make
your decision, but just know I'm done.

Speaker 9 (34:44):
You know.

Speaker 1 (34:44):
Like I said, I have problem with speaking to you
if I if I can see you, but it's a quarter,
but it's with a long handlespoon, right. I don't have
to have you in my safe haven, in my environment
and around the man that I love, around my family
and the people that I love my friends. But there
are some people who fel they have to put on
that persona in order to think that they're a part
of you. And then you start to realize, no, this

(35:07):
is not And I've had it happen twice in my
home and that pissed me opposite and never again.

Speaker 3 (35:12):
We're done. They're never coming back.

Speaker 2 (35:15):
So I sit here and I hear everything you just said,
and it's you use the words bandwagon like they want
to be part of it because you're the new shiny object. Oh,
Louisa Nanada, Oh, Jenny, Chris. And we have that for
a while where everyone was like, Oh, what do you

(35:36):
guys doing this weekend?

Speaker 3 (35:37):
Oh can we come with?

Speaker 2 (35:38):
Oh can we come to your house?

Speaker 3 (35:40):
Oh can we can?

Speaker 2 (35:41):
And then you realize it's that you're a shiny object.
And I'll tell to be somebodys shiny object. There's one
man in this world that I can be a shiny
object for, and that's in our home, and that is
our relationship, and that is between us. If you want
to be part of that great I love you. Please
come to my home, come into that, come to dinner,

(36:04):
let's get to know each other. Don't come to my home,
come to dinner, and have ill intention. And I do
know the situations that you're referring to about being disrespected
in your own home, and that feeling of violated, Yes,
being violated and disrespect runs deep. I have had many

(36:27):
lessons learned about respecting people and being respected, and I
think there's a I think I know in my world
there is a difference between respecting my home and my family,
because my home is my family, right, So what Chris
and I do in our home, if you can't appreciate it,

(36:47):
you don't have to come back. You will continue to
inhale and exhale with whether we are in your world
or not.

Speaker 6 (36:54):
It's right.

Speaker 2 (36:55):
And for some reason, there are people that don't want that,
like they need they need to be part of your
new shiny object. Oh my god, kim in Carmine, you're this,
so we need to be a part of it. And
how they treat you in that environment is so telling
about them and to your point, why do you want it?

Speaker 7 (37:15):
There's a thing that I use.

Speaker 10 (37:19):
When we are out in a marketplace with dealing with people.
I'd like to talk to people like to We like
to empower other people, and some people that we talk to.
They like to have a real conversation and we start
digging into deep, deep conversation. I come back and say,
you know, a real person can see another real person,

(37:41):
and they look at me and they like, yeah, a
real person can feel another real person. A fake person
is gonna be a fake person. Like you said, Kimberly,
Not everybody's gonna be allowed to jump to that wagon.
Now those doors are gonna be close. Is because I'm

(38:02):
twenty two.

Speaker 7 (38:04):
And you know my wife young. Not everybody can be
part of that.

Speaker 5 (38:19):
That wagon.

Speaker 10 (38:21):
It's a restriction to it.

Speaker 7 (38:24):
There's standards.

Speaker 10 (38:26):
Mm hmm. There's standards as a couple, husband, wife, as friends,
and as people and real can.

Speaker 7 (38:34):
See real too. That's right period.

Speaker 10 (38:37):
There's no there's no shoe coating things.

Speaker 9 (38:40):
No.

Speaker 10 (38:41):
If if you come to the table with respect, humble
and want to fit in the right way, and what
type of value going to bring in as a person.

Speaker 7 (38:53):
Hey, we're human beings. We're learning every single day.

Speaker 10 (38:57):
But if you want to take space, there's plenty of
spaces down there in the world that you can take
somewhere else.

Speaker 3 (39:04):
And plenty people who want to jump on that bandwagon.

Speaker 2 (39:06):
Fort yeah, exactly.

Speaker 6 (39:08):
You look deep in thought.

Speaker 2 (39:10):
Somebody's over here thinking.

Speaker 8 (39:11):
No, I'm just so my thought process with both this last.

Speaker 4 (39:16):
Portion of it is.

Speaker 8 (39:18):
We all pretty much are setting an example for other individuals,
other couples and the young girl people. I mean twenty
two myself, so I know. But it's like we have.

Speaker 4 (39:36):
A friend and she's a really great person.

Speaker 9 (39:40):
She is.

Speaker 8 (39:41):
I think the past two years of her life has
been dealt the literally box of.

Speaker 4 (39:47):
Shit show and just some things that we have I
guess I don't know.

Speaker 8 (39:53):
There's some things that we have done Jen, and I
like I feel it's like you can is like okay,
that is like this, like you said, luis the standard,
Like there's a standard for people.

Speaker 7 (40:07):
Like she.

Speaker 8 (40:10):
Has gone through divorce with two little ones, just cancer
twice in the same week, and she's trying to bounce
back from it.

Speaker 4 (40:20):
And it's like it's it's crazy to see that.

Speaker 8 (40:25):
But there are her and a couple other people are
always like, well, how long you guys been doing this together?
You guys always do this together. You're always together, always together,
And I'm like, we're not always together. Like my wife
is about to be a widow for like three months
because it's hunting seasons coming up, so you know, that's
that's where I'm at. But the the standard is is

(40:47):
like I just do what I do to make her happy,
and if that shows other people, that's this is what
it's supposed to be, like cool, great, grind whatever. I
believe that again, the younger generations now need a little
bit of the standards and discipline and you know, brought

(41:09):
back to hey, it doesn't matter again what you look like.
It's about how you feel towards a person, how you
have respect towards the other people and treat them and
get it along.

Speaker 4 (41:20):
Yeah, and I wholeheartedly agree.

Speaker 8 (41:22):
You don't come into my house and disrespect nothing at
all because that's the last time you're going to see
the driveway.

Speaker 4 (41:26):
Yep, that's it.

Speaker 7 (41:27):
So I feel I feel like I.

Speaker 2 (41:30):
Was just saying.

Speaker 9 (41:30):
I was saying, I like how you said you give
each other space to do you and I think as
a couple sometimes there's a misconception you got to be
always in each other's spaces or you know, running around together.
But like you said, you allow each other to be
who you are and that's what brings you together. But
you have times you spend together and other times you

(41:51):
can do your own thing independently and you give yourself.

Speaker 8 (41:54):
I mean, like one example is people will see us
like when we go to the gym. So we go
across for a gym down Stafford and everybody's like, don't
you guys like working out together? They're like, yeah, we
love working out together. She's on that side of the y.
It's all kids over there. I don't pay attention. No,
she's still there, but she's not there.

Speaker 10 (42:16):
I think one of the things that thank you Kimberly,
Chris Jen and marcay to what I knows to be here.

Speaker 7 (42:22):
It's a privilege is.

Speaker 10 (42:26):
We try our best model what a real husband and
wife is. There's a lot of people have that title
and I don't know what they have that title for.

Speaker 7 (42:40):
It's because.

Speaker 10 (42:43):
I'm pretty sure everybody remembers this for her parents to say,
stop hanging around with those type of friends. Yes, yes,
who you hang around with, it's the reflection who you
listen that this goes into play as an adult to
not just for kids, as a couple or as husband
and wife.

Speaker 7 (43:03):
If you hang around with people who are single.

Speaker 10 (43:08):
Not nine point nine, but that's gonna be chaos. But
when you hang around the right association, the right couple,
the right examples. Together, you're gonna be able to lift
ourselves and become better as human beings as as husband
in life because probably the trust that we are building,

(43:28):
one of you guys can be able to say, at least, look,
I saw this the you know it's about learning how
to communicate to ABC and F that could be able
to help me in my marriage. But you're not coming
here to attack. It's because I see your relationship. You
have credibility and have seen the respect how you treat
but you cannot come to me if you have a

(43:50):
chaos in your house and trying to get me advice.

Speaker 7 (43:54):
You gotta see what you have inside.

Speaker 10 (43:56):
And if you can't fix us inside, how you gonna
tell somebody else?

Speaker 7 (43:59):
Oh do the it's not going to happen.

Speaker 2 (44:01):
Well, how do you That's a great point. How do
you even welcome somebody else into your tribe if your
tribe isn't stable, if your home isn't stable. And I
really like that because when you're welcoming different as point
with this movie, which again I haven't seen the movie,
but I'm sitting here thinking to myself, Okay, so the
girl's white in the movie, right, and this gentleman is black,

(44:22):
and she brings him home and the parents are, oh,
how you know what's going on? That makes me go
back to and now I really want to see this movie.
What was going on in their house to bring it
to that point where you're not questioning, oh do you
love this man? You're questioning why did you choose somebody
who is black? You know that can go into so

(44:44):
many different places in the world. Right, So we and
I'm trying to find like the the commonality, if you will.
Somebody comes into our home, I fully expect them to
appreciate our home, appreciate the time that it takes for
christ to cook, I love you here, and then walk

(45:09):
away at the end of it going wow, I had
a good experience. So in the movie, in my mind,
I've now created this whole movie of you know, the
parents giving the daughter the third degree, maybe not conversing
directly with the gentleman, not affording him that opportunity to
have a conversation, and maybe at dinner they finally do
have a conversation and they realize So again, I've built

(45:32):
this movie up. So now I better not be let
down when I watch it.

Speaker 3 (45:36):
It's a movie. If you are, I'll find my own
wigwam or whatever.

Speaker 5 (45:44):
T But.

Speaker 2 (45:49):
I'm not. But you want to build people. People should
want to build each other up, and we again don't
see that either. You brought up a great point about
mixing couples and singles and how it can be devastating,
It can be very traumatic. They become trust issues, there

(46:10):
become questions that come up, and I think that has
to do with the character of the individuals themselves. And
you know, I love picking on y'all. Y'all want him
for a week, have at it. He's all yours, brad Less.
At no point in time am I going to be like, oh,
I wonder what they're doing?

Speaker 10 (46:28):
What did I do?

Speaker 2 (46:30):
But that is something that happens very commonplace now, and
I hear it just from the people that I look.
If you're going to have your phone on speaker, public
service announcement, if you have your phone on speaker, I
am going to listen, M answer to. I might chime in,
good chance I'll chime in. But more importantly, I will listen.
And I hear it young kids, one not realizing where

(46:54):
they are, that what they're speaking about. But they're talking
about their relationships, their significant others are talking about their children.
This little ship that's your child. Like, okay, everyone has
a moment with her kid. I got it. We all
do it, but not in public. That is what you're
putting out there. How are you supposed to help somebody

(47:15):
else or guide somebody else, or be that representation of
being welcoming? Two difference if you're sitting there on your
high horse being judgmental. And like you said, Anada is
the queen in that house. I know my husband is
a king in our home.

Speaker 7 (47:31):
I just.

Speaker 8 (47:41):
Make sure when she's gone, she's still in charge.

Speaker 2 (47:49):
But you know who you want to come in? And
then once they're there, what do you do with them?
What were to happen if your boys brought home young
ladies that were just respectful.

Speaker 1 (48:02):
I've been through that problem, okay, okay, So how do you,
as the mom, as the queen of your home, contend
with that?

Speaker 2 (48:10):
Because it might be surprising for people.

Speaker 5 (48:12):
So just a quick story.

Speaker 1 (48:13):
So my son went time when he first got here
many years ago, he had you know, he stayed with me,
and I was fine with that because I'm like, hey,
he's like, mom, I want to come home. I want
to come live with, you know, be out in Virginia.
I'm like, cool, you've been through school and everything, you know.
And so he came and he started like, call.

Speaker 3 (48:31):
Us updating this young lady. Right, cute girl, nice to him.

Speaker 1 (48:38):
But what drove me over the edge is that if
I would come to my house and she was there,
she was disrespectful, wouldn't speak to me, you know, didn't
mean any knowledge I was in the house, and this
is my house. So I'm like, you know, I'll see
how long this is going to go. I tried to
be calm and decent. I'm like, you know, obviously the

(48:58):
upbringing is not there. I could see it immediately because
I never raised my son to be that way, right,
my son and I communicate every day, you know, whether
you're in the house out of the house type thing.
And you know, she just kept doing it. And when
I it just kind of got to me because I
just I couldn't take it anymore. I'm like, you know,

(49:19):
and I talked to my son about previously. I'm like, look,
I'm gonna explain this to you. You know, this is
not how we do in this house. You've been raised
to be respectful, and I don't want to come in
my home or I'm sitting in my home.

Speaker 3 (49:30):
You bring this young.

Speaker 1 (49:31):
Lady over here, and she won't even communicate with me
or won't even say hello in the house. So I'm
gonna let you handle it first. If you don't handle it,
I'm gonna handle it.

Speaker 6 (49:42):
Well.

Speaker 2 (49:42):
Obviously it didn't work out that way, right, so she don't.

Speaker 1 (49:47):
I had to let her know, and we we I
literally sat down and had a conversation.

Speaker 3 (49:52):
With the young lady time there in there, late.

Speaker 1 (49:56):
Twenties, you know, early early thirties, late twenties, and she
had never had anybody sit down and talk to her
about the right way and the wrong way, because she
was told me, nobody communicates that way in my house.
In our house, my mother never taught me that when
you come through the door, that you speak to people.

(50:17):
It was it was the it was I never had
such a sad conversation. But at the same time I
had to educate her and make her understand this is
the proper way. You never sit in somebody's home and
not communicate with them or address them when you when
you're walking through the.

Speaker 3 (50:31):
Door, you know you.

Speaker 2 (50:34):
No hello, ma'am, no, you know.

Speaker 1 (50:35):
You're sitting here, you eat my food, you're drinking up
my why. I mean, a girl, she she just thought
she was the one all be all. She thought she
was the queen. I had to make her understand No,
they a' but one queen up in here, and it's me.
And when you walk through this door, you will respect
this house if you want to come back to this house.
And like I said, as we can continue to community.

Speaker 3 (50:54):
And she's crying. I mean, there was so much she
had to.

Speaker 1 (50:57):
Get off of her chest and so much weight that
she was caring as a child.

Speaker 2 (51:01):
Right.

Speaker 1 (51:02):
But the worst part about sh at the time she
had a child. I'm like, do you understand what you're doing?

Speaker 3 (51:08):
You know?

Speaker 1 (51:08):
So it's all those little lessons that people understand and
had and you sometimes have to make them aware. And
I I couldn't be angry with her anymore. I had
to make her. I had to make her see the lights.
And I also learned no valuable lesson myself that my
judgment towards her was not wrong. But my judgment towards
her was because she wasn't she hadn't been educated. Nobody
explained to her this is this is not the proper

(51:30):
way she had been raised right that way. Yeah, so
she took she took what I had, you know, the
value information. We s We stayed friends, We community still
communicate off and on.

Speaker 2 (51:39):
Till this day.

Speaker 1 (51:41):
But it's just that same conversation we were having at
this table about how some people just don't know right right,
and just that five minutes of conversation changed her life.

Speaker 3 (51:50):
Mm.

Speaker 9 (51:51):
And I think that's the thing once again, going back
to sitting down at dinner. It's not always about you know,
kicking people out your life or you know, judging them,
but understand them.

Speaker 6 (52:01):
And most of the time when.

Speaker 3 (52:02):
People do, you know, stupid things.

Speaker 9 (52:04):
Or say stupid stuff, it's because of their history or
their experiences or lack of knowledge of you know, just
common sense or decency. But it sounds like once you
sat down with her and understood, like, Okay, I get it,
that's your upbringing and maybe it's not intentional, it's just
what you were taught, then it helps you.

Speaker 10 (52:22):
To connect with them.

Speaker 3 (52:23):
And I think that's awesome.

Speaker 9 (52:24):
That you still have a relationship or friendship with them
and you've probably changed her life for future relationship.

Speaker 10 (52:30):
Well.

Speaker 3 (52:30):
Yeah, and I think for me on the biggest thing.

Speaker 1 (52:32):
And even you know, like I said, we only talk sparingly,
you know, and it maybe she might reach out to
me on Facebook, whatever. But the thing is, for me,
was most important at that time was that she had
a child that she was showing the same things that
she had been raised. She literally that child was exactly
like her. I'll never forget the date that she came over,
so you know, we could see meet the child.

Speaker 3 (52:53):
I was like, okay, this is interesting. Wasn't ready for
any of that.

Speaker 1 (52:56):
But at the same token, when I've seen in just
a few minutes of spending time with the child, she
was identical to her mom.

Speaker 2 (53:03):
Totally disrespectful.

Speaker 1 (53:05):
Every time you tell don't touch this, don't do this,
she would just do it anyway, totally ignored everything that
you were trying to because I have boundaries, I have standards,
and you know, in my household is not a child
related home, right, So I'm trying to make you understand.
You know, you can't pick this up, you can't do that.
But everything was so opposite with her. She it was
like she was being def you. You know, what's the

(53:27):
word I'm looking for. She deliberately was doing everything and
she did it because that's how her mother acts. Everything
was deliberate even if you did, even if she didn't know.
But if you have to be told more than once,
hey don't do this, don't do that.

Speaker 3 (53:42):
I'm trying to make you please, you know, communicate with me.

Speaker 1 (53:45):
It was the same thing she was showing her daughter
on a day to day basis, right. So, like I said,
just a few minutes of conversation we had and learning
all the things that she was going through at such
a young age. It broke my heart for one to
see that you have so much weight on your shoulders
a child, and you have a child, and then you're
you know, and then later on I realize that you're
not here for my son in the right way. You're

(54:07):
looking for somebody to take care of you and your daughter.
That ain't gonna happen, That's what she's saying.

Speaker 2 (54:12):
But that's such a blessing for you, and you know,
looking for that positive side to it. What a blessing
that you were able to receive this child, this girl,
this woman, help her educate her and set an example
for her, which hopefully she took away from it and
is doing better.

Speaker 5 (54:29):
Right.

Speaker 2 (54:30):
So, Chris always says this, be better, do better, and
there words just very simple. Be better, be a better person,
be a better wife, be a better husband.

Speaker 3 (54:40):
Just be better.

Speaker 2 (54:42):
But also do better. Show me that you have a
vested interest in whatever it is and make it better
and give that effort. And I'll let him tell it.
He still has soldiers that call on him for guidance
for the like, hey, dad, you know he's got a

(55:03):
one hundred and some odd little.

Speaker 4 (55:05):
I mean, I've had soldiers call me in the middle
of night drunk trying to figure life out.

Speaker 8 (55:10):
I've had soldiers call me and tell him I just
had my first child, and or they'll they'll be like,
I don't know how to deal with this issue?

Speaker 4 (55:18):
How do I do this?

Speaker 5 (55:19):
And it's just.

Speaker 8 (55:22):
She's like the first time I had and she's like,
what is going on?

Speaker 4 (55:28):
And I explained her.

Speaker 8 (55:29):
I was like, this is some of these some people
in the army probably other armed forces too, like come
from broken homes and a lot of them, you know,
they find that one person they can latch onto. And
I sometimes I don't know if I was the best
role model, but evidently I was because that they still
call me to this day.

Speaker 2 (55:49):
So but they become part of your tribe too.

Speaker 8 (55:52):
Yeah, but I think like the so going along with
the best role model, I think, like everything that we're
talking about, and I know I'm getting the signal over
here is that the best role models I think we
could actually look upon are the kids. And I see
it all the time, and people are just like, no

(56:13):
matter what goes on in the world and the news,
what people say on social media, Facebook, blah blah blah
blah blah. But when you see two little kids that
are under the age of five, and they're different ethnicities
and they're outside playing, holding each other, hugging each other,
guess what they're the standard because they don't care. They
know that in no judgment, it's like they don't they

(56:37):
don't understand what they're looking at. What they know is
is somebody that they can have fun with and engage
with and just learn how to be a good person
at that age.

Speaker 4 (56:50):
Father, Patty, I'm.

Speaker 10 (56:51):
Sorry, it's.

Speaker 5 (56:55):
Just a great conversation.

Speaker 6 (56:57):
Sometimes time just sneaks up on you, right, But between
we covered many scenarios and during our discussion today we
talked about a lot of things. But you know, starting
off in part one and just steamrolling into part two.
We talked about the obvious differences, you know, black, white, Hispanic,

(57:19):
whatever you want to say, religion, ethnicity, cultures, And it's
not just the color thing. It's not just those things
that I just mentioned. It's it goes beyond that. What
we do find is that we have friends, and those
friends are.

Speaker 5 (57:37):
Really our support structure.

Speaker 6 (57:38):
Right, Our commonalities help us to overcome the differences, whether
it's race or religion, or region or what have you.
The word tribe came up. I love that word. I
said it before. Who is your tribe? Who's not in
your tribe? There really is only one race that we're in,
and it's the human race.

Speaker 5 (57:57):
And if we.

Speaker 6 (57:58):
Can't be human to one another and open and honest
to one another, we were failing as human beings.

Speaker 5 (58:06):
Wow, I amazed myself.

Speaker 4 (58:10):
Sometimes you're never gonna top that one.

Speaker 5 (58:18):
Just some of the other notes I wrote down.

Speaker 6 (58:21):
Uh being on the same page, which I think we're
all out here. We brought so much good discussions.

Speaker 7 (58:28):
In this this this, This.

Speaker 6 (58:30):
Is probably one of my favorite podcasts that we've done.
But you know, the mutual respect, to consistency with each other, uh,
this our significant others and our tribe are.

Speaker 5 (58:41):
Important in life.

Speaker 6 (58:42):
Uh uh. At the end of the day, there are
anyone that has an issue with your relationship because of
the differences that we have, that's their issue, and don't
make it yours.

Speaker 3 (59:00):
All right, And man, well said, well said.

Speaker 5 (59:03):
And tacos are not just for Tuesdays.

Speaker 6 (59:07):
Good food brings people together no matter what the difference is.
It's a great opportunity to bring bring our differences to
the table and show the human beings who we all are.
And then we love tacos.

Speaker 7 (59:20):
All right.

Speaker 1 (59:21):
Well, that comes to the end of guests. Who's coming
home for dinner? Welcome to dinner, everybody. I loved it,
loved it. So I want to just thank everybody for
listening in tonight, and of course our wonderful hosts and special.

Speaker 2 (59:37):
Hosts, thank you very much for hanging out with us.
Appreciate it.

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