May 16, 2024 • 30 mins
It’s our audience question episode! Today Ros and Eric answer your questions on where Eric would like to see his Rookie character go, what, if anything, they would change about each other, what they are binging, and even what would they do first if they could switch bodies for a day! You guys keep the questions coming in because they are just too god!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is He Said a Yah d Ho with Eric
Winter and Rosalind Fantaz.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Welcome to another episode of He Said a Ya d Ho.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
When I started as wheness notchez I for written moe
being what are we going to talk about it?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
We're doing audience questions some of my favorite episodes, and
we get to answer audience questions.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Okay, I haven't read anything.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
That's fun They get dropped on us. Then we just
have to figure it out, improvise.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
How do you handle the house and kids when either
of you travel?
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Hmmm, well we'll just handle it our own way. And
that's what's funny about And I know a lot of
people that deal with this when one of us travels,
especially for a longer period of time. There's a bit
of an integration that has to, you know, take place
to get back in the system. Because I was whoever's
at home take it with the taking care of the
kids has their way of doing things. And the longer
you are in your way of doing things, when the
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other person enters back into the fold, it's not always
seen less because you have your way. I have my way,
and it's it's a bit of you know, reintroduction into
how things are going to you know, flow as a joint,
you know, partnership, don't you agree? Because like you have
your way of doing it, I have my way of
doing it. We both are very particular about how we
handle it. So I think it's something that is we
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both handle well in our own individual ways. And then
it's like I think the reunion is what can be
challenging at times.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Wow, no, not in a bad way, but like we
should be a good reunion.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
It's always a good reunion. But you know what I'm saying,
Like we both have our specifics on how we do things.
You don't agree, you don't agree.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
I do. Yeah, I just think that a lot of
people deal with that.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I know.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Let people want to talk a little too deep.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
You know that. I don't mean it in a bad way.
I'm just saying, how do we handle when people travel?
I think traveling is not as hard. We have help.
I think it's the the reintegration back end sometimes.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Can so you communicate a lot when the other one travels.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
We do. I think we could probably do it more.
I always say that we communicate more by text, and
I think it's better if we actually usually if we.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Are traveling is because we're traveling for work and the
hours are brutal. In my case, there's always like a
time difference and you know, I'm still all he's sleeping
or vice versa. So communication can be a little tricky,
but we try. We tell our best. You know, it's
it's never fun.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
We can always do better, always, all right? Listener questions
at XSO FX seventy nine like to say everything so
they know who are getting the question from. I'm wondering
if you can give me some dating advice if my
husband has admitted that his best sex was with an
X what should I say or do? Holy most, if.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
My husband has admitted that his best sex was with
an eggs? First of all, why would he even tell you? That?
There is no need?
Speaker 2 (02:46):
And this isn't even really dating advice because you're married,
so I wouldn't give you. I don't want to take
you to go date that might complicate things more. But
some advice for the situation.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Give him give him back some of his own medicine.
I'm going, oh yeah, yeah, that's amazing. In congrat I
remember he was so freaking good the way he just
give him See how he feels.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
I was going to handle that differently. I was going
to say, first of all, if you're still married and
you haven't gotten in any kind of major fight over
him telling you that, that means you've accepted it and
you're you're part of It's in your relationship already this dialogue, right,
So my only advice would be, since that open landing
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communications there is ask what he liked and do it better?
What is it you like?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
That takes a really good it was better than me?
Speaker 2 (03:40):
So what did she do?
Speaker 1 (03:40):
So I can copy it or don't.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Even mentione the name, Just be like, what is it
you like? I want to make sure you are pleased
the same.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Your wife tells you.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
I don't not ask you to tell me anything. I'm saying,
tell me.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
You know what I remember. I had an ex that
you used to do this and I loved it. Can
you do it? Why would you do.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
At this moment if you would have brought that even dating,
if you would have brought that up out of excuse me,
but my point is so you would we would have
had major problems at that point that you brought it up.
I'm saying, based on this question, if I would not
to you, we would have major problems too. Yeah, exactly.
So based on this question, it sounds like they already
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did that and they're still married. So if they're already
past that stage, so I'm saying, how do you fix it?
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I don't have a good advice.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I don't think this is really weird who the X
was and what they did. But I'm saying, just in general,
what do you like? Do it better?
Speaker 1 (04:35):
But you know what, Eric Handeler, really well, just say really, okay,
so what did she or he do?
Speaker 2 (04:40):
So I can make say a person's name, what is
it you like, I'm going to take care of you.
I'm going to make this fun whatever it is. Make
then you be the best because you're the one communicating.
But just don't talk about the X. Talking about X's.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Like that, that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Savannah at Savannah, Eric, do you have any hopes for
what your storyline will be in the future and where
do you want to see your character go. I've talked
many times about meeting my mom on the show. I
would love to know what that relationship is like. I
think it's far better than the relationship Tim had with
his dad, So that's something I truly I want My
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sister to come back on the show. And right now
Tim's going through so much as a character, trying to
find himself again and his the liing he'd been doing
and all that. I think it'd be great to have
him come home to home base, be with mom, see
what their dynamic is like, and see how Mom might
actually be able to help him, because I think he
loves his mom to death and I think his mom
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was sort of his anchor in the family.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Okay, next question e underscore kat b Eager to be
Did you have an idol growing up?
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Growing up?
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Did you want to be something other than actors?
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Did you just say underscore kat be eager to be
Just he aated a name from somebody who used letters
there because otherwise it is weird he KTB. His name
is probably like Eddie underscore.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Did you have an idol eric growing up? Growing I
need pronounce that properly.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Growing up? You said it perfect?
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Did you want to be other than an actor?
Speaker 4 (06:24):
Well?
Speaker 2 (06:24):
I could answer that I wanted to be a doctor.
I wanted to work in sports medicine.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
I thought you wanted to be a paramedic.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Well, that's after I decided I wasn't going through med school,
and then I went to the fire department and went
to the fire academy, and I was.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Like, I don't want to want to.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I wanted to be a doctor first. And then when
I stopped the path to med school and I started
you know, acting and all that, and then I stopped
that and decided I'm going to go be a firefighter.
I never wanted to be justifirefighter. I wanted to work
on the medical side. I wanted to be a medic.
But as an idol growing up, no, I don't think
I ever had like an I mean, my idols were
football players. They were all athletes.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
I look up to the Rita Moreno, when I moved
to the States, samahaye, you know things like that, but
nobody that I was like, this is my north. You know,
I want to.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Have any other backup plan. Even younger, you always want
to be performer.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
For a second, because I went to school, I went
to college to do business administration or marketing. I thought
maybe I will just because my father was a businessman.
Well he thought so, and I thought about that, but no,
it was never a real possibility. I always knew what
I wanted to do. It's just that they really wanted
me to bring them a degree, and a drama degree
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was not going to cut it, you know, Okay, at
any underscore three zero seven? What three one zero three,
one zero seven? What are your favorite shows to binge
watch that you would recommend for others to watch? Right,
my God, Baby, which is crazy, that's intense, It's intense.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
The lady is supposed to be based on a true story.
And you know the girl is suing that guy now really, yeah,
she's suing him. It's a really fun show, British British
unor British show, but based on a real story. And
that is a comedian, struggling comedian meets a woman at
a bar who becomes a stalker that he's sort of
he's struggling to sort of find his way and get
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proper attention in his craft and everything else, and this
woman gives him attention out the gate. And I think
because of that, even though he knows she's off and
he knows something's not right, he's welcoming it a little
bit and then it gets too far carried away. She's
a hardcore stalker. You have to watch the show to
see how this plays out. We're about halfway through it,
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but I do know she is now suing the guy
for defamation.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
I want to see the guys I just got recommended to.
I haven't seen them, but maybe we can start watching
them together so then we can discuss them on the show.
One is called Looping on Netflix and the other one
is Apple TV and he's called Drops of God. They're
supposed to be incredible Apple TV, Drops of God and
Looping Netflix, so let's check it out. I'm looking forward
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to seeing them.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
The other show Roz would definitely recommend is Last Famosas.
What's it called? Last Well Famosas? And La Casa Like.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
I didn't see it. Yes, I haven't seen it for
two days because we watched the Tom Brady thing and
the day before I didn't know they didn't you saw us.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
The computer running.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
I've never done that one. Actually, let me ask you something.
I have something. Okay, here here, where is it again?
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (09:42):
What about if you had to choose one thing to
change about your partner? What would it be? That's from
the notchi wah wah.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
We've talked about this before, but I.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Don't think you want to do you want to change something?
Speaker 2 (09:54):
I love you? Just the way you are and when
you laugh a lot, I love it too.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
I love a lot every day.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
I don't think I change much, especially at this stage.
I know I know what I'm, what I'm, what I'm
in with, and you know what you're in with. There's
not much I want to try to change, I think.
I think quite the contrary. There are things. I'm at
the stage now in my life where I'm wanting to
fix things about myself.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Like what I'm trying to get better, give me an example.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
A lot of things, more patience. I'm trying to be
more understanding. I think I'm a good communicator. I need
to be better not holding on to things so long,
trying to move on from it, which is hard for me. Yeah,
a lot of stuff.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
You know what's interesting. I was literally on my way.
I was crossing the street. I parked the car to
come into the podcast room, and I'm crossing the street
and I don't know why this thing came to my mind,
which is I was like, I don't want to do
things that I don't want to do. It's like I'm
on a.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Stage in my life I want to do things that
i want to do.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Yeah, it's like I want to stage.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
I just want to doing things that I just want
to be.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
I honestly want to be. I want to do things
that make me happy.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
But I've never known something that does something you don't
want to do.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
No, but sometimes you compromise. I'm tired of compromising and
trying to push myself to do things that don't make
me happy or I don't want to do it just
because I want to please somebody or because I feel
like I have to do it. You know, like I'm
going to stay in my life that that's when you
said to me, let's go to dinner. Let's go to
dinner this week, right, I don't want to do it.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Look okay, But I'm talking about like with like work
or somebody. You could do things for your husband that
he wants to do.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
I know, yeah, but I'm doing yes, and I do
a lot.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
I compromise a lot, and then you always have a
good time.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
I do.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
But you how many times I force you to do
something and then you want to.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Maybe that was a good example, But you know what,
I'm gonna staate in my life that if it doesn't
make me happy, it doesn't If it doesn't fulfill a need,
if it's not done with intention, I don't want to
do it, or I'm just gonna say no, I'm gonna
I'm going to be more comfortable just if it doesn't
suit my soul, I'm just going to say no.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
I think I get that when it comes to work.
I think I get that when it comes to friendships overall.
I get that when it comes to your family. But
sometimes we make compromises with our family. I do things
all the time I don't want to do, and I
do it.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
But I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about
things that I know that things that need to be done.
I'm a parent, I'm a mom, so it can It's
not as easy as like, you know what, I don't
want to take my kids.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
They have a certain hangout that they want to do
and we got to go do it even though we
don't feel like doing it. Or if we have if
I want to go out to dinner with you and
have a date night, and maybe you're not the mood
to go to a restaurant, but you still do it
because we're gonna have date night.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Well, sometimes if I really don't want to do it,
I'm not going to do it.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Oh, man, I'm not talking about the trivia anymore, but
I'm talking about things.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I was talking about things that like really don't make
me happy. I get that, Anny Varni La la la
la la hell.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
I have two questions.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Did you have any weird habits as a kid that
has stuck with you as an adult? Oh? My god,
Eric has so many joking I don't.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
I don't know if I was even I'm very meticulous
now with like having things done in a certain way
and order, lighting up like you see me, even my vitamins.
I have everything like everything's very in order in my life.
I don't know if I was always like that as like,
even as a kid, to that degree, I was always
like a bit of a I remember with my hair,
like I fiddle things a certain way. I'm still like that,
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like the hair has to be just right. And I've
been like that for a long long time. So that
is maybe one thing. What about you like one meticulous?
Speaker 1 (13:53):
I guess one thing that I have done my entire life,
since I have years of reason, is every night. I
don't remember ever, ever, ever going to sleep in forty
something years, because I'd say I started consciously praying when
I was maybe five or six years old. I don't
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remember ever closing my eyes and going to sleep with
a praying. I do our Father, I do, even if
it's short. Hell Mary, and I do Angel. I don't
know how to say that in English. So I do
three prayers and I always always always start with grande Marvio.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Why are you doing this? Because I see us go
lights out and we say final thought and you go
to bed, and I don't see your praying.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
And because I don't pray in my head, I.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Think if I tried that, and I should be better
at it. Because I say good night and I close
my eyes and I'm asleep. You say good night. You're
staring at the same our father.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Do it in my mind every single night. I oh,
and it always starts. Is I met me Santa Martinez,
which is a dear friend of mine. He's the one
that told.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Me, but you five when him no, no no no.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
I always did these three prayers, but then I met
him as an adult in my twenties, and then I
added before doing those three things good quality. Yes, I
say the littlest thing in Spanish. Lord.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Second question, also, if you could switch bodies with each other?
For the day. What would be the first thing you
would do as the other person?
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Oh my god, that's a great question.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
You you could be in my body. What would you
do for the What would be the first thing you do?
Speaker 1 (15:34):
I don't know what is the first thing you would do.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
I would like pride. Go. Hey, let's let's let's look up,
let's hook up. What in the morning. I don't know.
If you were Rosalie, let's go and make you fired up. Okay,
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
I don't know what I would do, but I will
do what I will do. I have no idea.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
That's a tough question.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Make you make you go have good at tattoo?
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Make me go get a tattoo. Why would you make
me get a tattoo? My name and the kids? You
just want me to get a tattoo?
Speaker 1 (16:17):
I do.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
That's a tough question.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Salome don move. What are the names that you consider
for your children? And how do you come up with
names for your pets? Well, Sabella was going to be
a Emily Rose and Dylana wanted him to be Sebastian,
and we have said this story. He doesn't He doesn't
look like a Sabastian. He looks more like a Dylan,
and it was between Emily or Sabella. And then we said,
you know what, we when I deliver her, we're going
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to see her and we're going to realize if we.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
Love the meaning of Sabella too. Yes, God's promise was
the meaning. And with Dylan we talked about this. I
I thought Sebastian and Sabella were too close. I didn't
want to do Sebastian. He was without a name for
quite a few days. We found I found Dylan in
a book. I made a whole pitch to Rozaland about
the mean of Dylan, and then we played rock paper
Scissors and I won. God that's how Dylan got his name.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
Pets pets Mota because she looked like a like a
like a little mota, which is not in Mexico. Mota
is weed. In Puerto Rico, Mota is like a powder puff.
A Monta looked like a powder puff. And it's funny
because she was born and raised in California. So every
time I will go out with Mota Mota everybody, always,
every single day of my life, people will look at
me so weird because they thought I named her weed
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and I didn't. I may I named her power Puff
powder Puff Maraca because she looked like Araka.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
Because she was annoying, like a Moerica, Like how Morocca
sound like, just like drive you crazy, Morocca.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Jack, I don't know Jack was my mom named him Jack.
And then because it's black jack yes. And then Uzo
is because I went to Greece to work for months
and I don't drink. It was a drink and everybody
was an uzo and I didn't know what it was
and I realized, oh, it's alcohol, but I like this
this sound uzo. And I was like, if I ever
have a dog, a male dog, because by then I
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only had the German Shepherd was a boy and then
Mota was a girl. Said, if I get another boy,
I like Uzu.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
And that's why how did Archie get his name? Was
it or anything that was?
Speaker 1 (18:20):
My mom? Archie was Leo when when we rescued him,
and then my mom did Archie because of Megan marcle and.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
And bandit got banned because he has like a it.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Looks like it looks like a band freaking black like
what was going to be banned? It's name if it
wasn't banded. I don't remember if we were Wilson, we.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
Talked about tennis band it Wilson his middle.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Name, Okay, and Meghan Gibson. Where did the idea of
making a rum come from?
Speaker 2 (18:49):
Well, yeah, that's a great question, and we'll be talking
about this a lot more too, just with the story
of it. But I I've I was never a rum
drinker until I met Roz, and I'll never forget the
first time going to Puerto Rico, meet her family and
her dad and her brothers and people inviting me to
have some eight year rum with them, and I realized, Wow,
aged rum, premium rum is actually really nice. I was
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not accustomed to that. It's not what the rum I
grew up with. And since then I started sort of
developing more of an affinity towards darker spirits, RUMs and
whiskeys and exploring that space because I was always avodka drinker.
And because of that, I've sort of felt like rum
brought me closer to the family, brought us together a
bit more, and it's something I wanted to explore. And
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so in the past couple of years I went down
that path. I'm talking to Roz saying, there's not a
lot of great premium rum in the US, it's all
you know, coming from other countries, So we came up
with this blend ye at Whitney Lee Davis, you guys
spoke about therapy. Do you think it is more beneficial
to do as a couple to keep communication open or
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is it better to do individually. I don't think there's
a better I think it's good to do both. To
be honest, I I'm a huge family I have a
psych degree, so I'm a huge fan of therapy. I
think it's so beneficial for families and parents and couples
and individuals. I think if you have our therapist in particular,
who I think is phenomenal, we should ever on the
podcast one time. She's so good. I think she's so
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great because she saw each of us individually to understand
what our sort of past experiences were like, not just
within our relationship, but our upbringing, so she can understand
us a bit more. And then she had to use
that to work together with us. And I think it's
important for communication. I think it's important too. We had
a break from it for a while and I said,
you know, we need a reboot, Like let's just go
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back in and see what's stirring up.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
You know, what's one of the most valuable things that
I think, at least I have learned from going to Heavy.
That's her name. Heavy. It's like she's she basically says
to you. A lot of times when couples are together
for a long time, right, and things start to get
a little stay on, or there's a lot of fighting,
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you know, for no apparent reason, you know, and you
stop talking to each other for days, and what triggered
that specific fight. It's actually kind of like meaningless, you know,
it's just a lot of nothing that accumulates and it
becomes a big thing when it's actually nothing. And she goes.
You know, once in a while, when you realize you
picked this person, and if you've been with this person
for a while and this is the father of your children,
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you tend to overlook the goodness in them. So anything
that they do, even if it's minimal, it triggers you
and you create a movie in your mind and you
just like you get annoyed and you only see the
bad when it only takes you one second to be like,
you know what, I'm going to find the good in
this person. So even at this moment, he annoying the heck.
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He annoyed the heck out of me because he said
this and this and that, and he reacted like this
and that triggers me and goes aa. And you find
this all these excuses to be hating at the moment
and to justify your annoyance. But if you take a
beat and you just go, you know what, Okay, he's annoying,
I'm not happy. But let me just try and remind
myself this person is really good and he's been triggered
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to react like that because of something, So let me
find the goodness in him instead of always go into
attack mode and only see I don't know if you
remember that the specific session, she was like, you need
to find the goodness because this is your person unless
it's not, you know, But if this is somebody that
you have chose to spend the rest of your life
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with and you have invested so many years, you know,
into the relationship and the family, don't be so quick
to immediately find the shitty at all.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
You know. And I think that would lend itself to
the previous point as well, that individual therapy is super
important to find out what it is inside you that
of how you process things, how you think, Why do
you think the way you think because maybe your past
experiences and it gives you more clarity as a person
to understand your partner. Yeah, you know what I mean. Like,
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I think you do need both. I think it'd be
much harder for the therapist if you didn't, if they
didn't know more about you, and you also didn't know
more about you, because your partner could be triggered by
something small, like you said, and it would be very
hard for you to do that route you just talked about,
let me find the goodness in him, let me, let me,
let me think about that person in that way, because
you also have to find out what what's holding you
(23:22):
back from being that accepting and that open Yep. So
I think it's super important to have both. Yeah, you
agree very much.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
To finalize, guys, I just finished reading a book from
a friend of mine.
Speaker 4 (23:33):
Let me.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
And the name of the book is A guy with
cancer enters a bar on cancer, and Abar Serrio is
one of the It's actually the head writer for Televisa
Univision for anything that has to do with music and entertainment.
Every single reality show, competition, show Latin Grammy is premiuztro
(23:57):
Mira Kimbai Latina, anything that is entertainment and when it
comes to reality competition, he's the head writer. So I've
worked with him for many years in the different projects
for Univision Argentinian that grew up in Venezuela incredibly incredibly
smart writer, you know, like very funny at the top
(24:18):
of his game, gets diagnosed with a very rare form
of cancer, which called me a loma I believe it's called,
which is basically isn't attacked immune system, it's blood. Isn't
the blood like a leukemia, like a form of leukemia.
Then that became we found a lot of markings on
the MRIs on your chest and your femur and your thyroid,
(24:38):
so then it became thyro cancer and I knew that.
Said he was battling cancer through some of the shows
that we worked on together. Sometimes he will have to
do it remotely because he was going through chemo one radiation.
So he wrote about it. He wrote about cancer and
his journey and explains everything from A to Z about treatment, medication,
(24:59):
HIGs EXPERI means with doctors and nurses and navigating this
world of like I'm an athlete. He is a marathon runner.
He swims somebody that is very healthy and then out
of nowhere, I'm limping. My leg is bothering me to
you have cancer all over your body. You know, he's
in remission right now, but it's an ongoing battle. And
(25:20):
I have never read a book that is supposed to
be incredibly depressing, because he just talks about the beating
that you take as a human being and your loved ones,
the beating that they take when the word cancer is
brought up. You know, like your life changes dramatically from
one day to the next. So he's talking about the
(25:42):
brutal component of it all with humor. And it was
so interesting to follow this journey and actually find it interesting, intriguing, funny, compelling, emotional, amazing, sad,
you know. So I highly recommend it. And it freaks
me out that disease that pretty much more than half
(26:05):
of the population at some point in their life is
going to get it is so freaking scary, And the
most valuable thing for me was by reading his words.
It's it's what you make of it, you know. He
chose to be happy.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
Well that's but I would even add that that lesson
that he's teaching is for life. Correct, it's what you
make of it, you know, even if it's not a
life threatening disease. But any hardships you're going through, it's
how you handle it, what you make of it, and
if you can make it with humor, you'll probably get
through it a little quicker. Yeah, in any downside, any
downturn in your life.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
I just don't know how somebody that gets cancer area
because you know, one cancer decides to manifest in your body.
I guess we all live with cancer inside and then
it's not cancer until the cells decide to manifest multiply
and they can come.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
As you don't live with cancer. See, you have cells
that could be that I have the potential to shift.
It's like a bad cell.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
But what I don't understand is how do people have
the ability like because once you have one type of cancer,
even if it's they say that the one that you
want to get, if you're going to get any should
be thyroid, right, because it's the one that I know.
But you know what I mean, you know, it's very
different they say pancreas or call on or thyroid. You know,
like there's like very severe ones or varying cancer, uterine
cancer that you just go am I half five years,
(27:28):
you know, but once you have it and you go
through it and you're blessed enough to survive it, you
know that at any moment it comes.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
Back, you're still living with it. How do you function
the same way he said, he told you you're making
a choice. You're making a choice every day with any obstacle,
how you're going to handle it. So you have a decision.
Either you're going to live in this sort of depression
of like where I'm at and what I have or
what I'm dealing with, or you're going to overcome it,
(28:00):
maybe with humor or with positivity, just knowing like hey,
I'm living and I'm gonna not let this define me.
I'm choosing to be this way. I think that's what
it is to me. It always comes down to a choice.
You can be. You can be upset, sad, angry, matt
whatever you want to be. You have a choice to make.
If you don't make that choice, then you're allowing whatever
(28:21):
you're dealing with to consume you, whether it's cancer or otherwise,
could just be you're dealing with a bad day could
be dealing with dealing with a job. It could be
dealing with a lot of things. The extreme is death right,
but it could be a lot of things. It's how
you choose to handle it, because you make the choice. Yep,
all right, Well that was last quick thing, really fast
(28:43):
at Stempleton two four one one. Name one item in
your or belonging that you could not live without. I
know for me it'd be chopstick. Wow. I love chick
I needtickles. If I don't have chapstick, I stress out you.
It's gonna be your mouth guard, because you can I
live without that, your TMJ, and you use that mouth
guard religiously. No, I don't I know.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
I need to don't call me again yesterday.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Oh my god, that's a reminder to start.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
I don't know, guys, my lipstick all the time?
Speaker 2 (29:16):
No, I don't at all. After every restaurant at the
Hollywood Bowl. Oh my god, I don't know. What can
you live without?
Speaker 4 (29:27):
My right?
Speaker 1 (29:28):
I am my face Sope.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
That's that's good too. All right, this has been fun.
Questions make sure to continue to email us or d
m us at our Instagram page and we will continue
to answer questions. Love you Thanks for listening. Don't forget
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Speaker 2 (29:57):
See you next time,
This is He Said a Yah d Ho with Eric
Winter and Rosalind Fantaz.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Welcome to another episode of He Said a Ya d Ho.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
When I started as wheness notchez I for written moe
being what are we going to talk about it?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
We're doing audience questions some of my favorite episodes, and
we get to answer audience questions.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Okay, I haven't read anything.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
That's fun They get dropped on us. Then we just
have to figure it out, improvise.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
How do you handle the house and kids when either
of you travel?
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Hmmm, well we'll just handle it our own way. And
that's what's funny about And I know a lot of
people that deal with this when one of us travels,
especially for a longer period of time. There's a bit
of an integration that has to, you know, take place
to get back in the system. Because I was whoever's
at home take it with the taking care of the
kids has their way of doing things. And the longer
you are in your way of doing things, when the
(00:56):
other person enters back into the fold, it's not always
seen less because you have your way. I have my way,
and it's it's a bit of you know, reintroduction into
how things are going to you know, flow as a joint,
you know, partnership, don't you agree? Because like you have
your way of doing it, I have my way of
doing it. We both are very particular about how we
handle it. So I think it's something that is we
(01:19):
both handle well in our own individual ways. And then
it's like I think the reunion is what can be
challenging at times.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Wow, no, not in a bad way, but like we
should be a good reunion.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
It's always a good reunion. But you know what I'm saying,
Like we both have our specifics on how we do things.
You don't agree, you don't agree.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
I do. Yeah, I just think that a lot of
people deal with that.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I know.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Let people want to talk a little too deep.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
You know that. I don't mean it in a bad way.
I'm just saying, how do we handle when people travel?
I think traveling is not as hard. We have help.
I think it's the the reintegration back end sometimes.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Can so you communicate a lot when the other one travels.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
We do. I think we could probably do it more.
I always say that we communicate more by text, and
I think it's better if we actually usually if we.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Are traveling is because we're traveling for work and the
hours are brutal. In my case, there's always like a
time difference and you know, I'm still all he's sleeping
or vice versa. So communication can be a little tricky,
but we try. We tell our best. You know, it's
it's never fun.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
We can always do better, always, all right? Listener questions
at XSO FX seventy nine like to say everything so
they know who are getting the question from. I'm wondering
if you can give me some dating advice if my
husband has admitted that his best sex was with an
X what should I say or do? Holy most, if.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
My husband has admitted that his best sex was with
an eggs? First of all, why would he even tell you? That?
There is no need?
Speaker 2 (02:46):
And this isn't even really dating advice because you're married,
so I wouldn't give you. I don't want to take
you to go date that might complicate things more. But
some advice for the situation.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Give him give him back some of his own medicine.
I'm going, oh yeah, yeah, that's amazing. In congrat I
remember he was so freaking good the way he just
give him See how he feels.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
I was going to handle that differently. I was going
to say, first of all, if you're still married and
you haven't gotten in any kind of major fight over
him telling you that, that means you've accepted it and
you're you're part of It's in your relationship already this dialogue, right,
So my only advice would be, since that open landing
(03:27):
communications there is ask what he liked and do it better?
What is it you like?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
That takes a really good it was better than me?
Speaker 2 (03:40):
So what did she do?
Speaker 1 (03:40):
So I can copy it or don't.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Even mentione the name, Just be like, what is it
you like? I want to make sure you are pleased
the same.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Your wife tells you.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
I don't not ask you to tell me anything. I'm saying,
tell me.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
You know what I remember. I had an ex that
you used to do this and I loved it. Can
you do it? Why would you do.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
At this moment if you would have brought that even dating,
if you would have brought that up out of excuse me,
but my point is so you would we would have
had major problems at that point that you brought it up.
I'm saying, based on this question, if I would not
to you, we would have major problems too. Yeah, exactly.
So based on this question, it sounds like they already
(04:22):
did that and they're still married. So if they're already
past that stage, so I'm saying, how do you fix it?
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I don't have a good advice.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I don't think this is really weird who the X
was and what they did. But I'm saying, just in general,
what do you like? Do it better?
Speaker 1 (04:35):
But you know what, Eric Handeler, really well, just say really, okay,
so what did she or he do?
Speaker 2 (04:40):
So I can make say a person's name, what is
it you like, I'm going to take care of you.
I'm going to make this fun whatever it is. Make
then you be the best because you're the one communicating.
But just don't talk about the X. Talking about X's.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Like that, that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Savannah at Savannah, Eric, do you have any hopes for
what your storyline will be in the future and where
do you want to see your character go. I've talked
many times about meeting my mom on the show. I
would love to know what that relationship is like. I
think it's far better than the relationship Tim had with
his dad, So that's something I truly I want My
(05:19):
sister to come back on the show. And right now
Tim's going through so much as a character, trying to
find himself again and his the liing he'd been doing
and all that. I think it'd be great to have
him come home to home base, be with mom, see
what their dynamic is like, and see how Mom might
actually be able to help him, because I think he
loves his mom to death and I think his mom
(05:40):
was sort of his anchor in the family.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Okay, next question e underscore kat b Eager to be
Did you have an idol growing up?
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Growing up?
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Did you want to be something other than actors?
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Did you just say underscore kat be eager to be
Just he aated a name from somebody who used letters
there because otherwise it is weird he KTB. His name
is probably like Eddie underscore.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Did you have an idol eric growing up? Growing I
need pronounce that properly.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Growing up? You said it perfect?
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Did you want to be other than an actor?
Speaker 4 (06:24):
Well?
Speaker 2 (06:24):
I could answer that I wanted to be a doctor.
I wanted to work in sports medicine.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
I thought you wanted to be a paramedic.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Well, that's after I decided I wasn't going through med school,
and then I went to the fire department and went
to the fire academy, and I was.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Like, I don't want to want to.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I wanted to be a doctor first. And then when
I stopped the path to med school and I started
you know, acting and all that, and then I stopped
that and decided I'm going to go be a firefighter.
I never wanted to be justifirefighter. I wanted to work
on the medical side. I wanted to be a medic.
But as an idol growing up, no, I don't think
I ever had like an I mean, my idols were
football players. They were all athletes.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
I look up to the Rita Moreno, when I moved
to the States, samahaye, you know things like that, but
nobody that I was like, this is my north. You know,
I want to.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Have any other backup plan. Even younger, you always want
to be performer.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
For a second, because I went to school, I went
to college to do business administration or marketing. I thought
maybe I will just because my father was a businessman.
Well he thought so, and I thought about that, but no,
it was never a real possibility. I always knew what
I wanted to do. It's just that they really wanted
me to bring them a degree, and a drama degree
(07:39):
was not going to cut it, you know, Okay, at
any underscore three zero seven? What three one zero three,
one zero seven? What are your favorite shows to binge
watch that you would recommend for others to watch? Right,
my God, Baby, which is crazy, that's intense, It's intense.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
The lady is supposed to be based on a true story.
And you know the girl is suing that guy now really, yeah,
she's suing him. It's a really fun show, British British
unor British show, but based on a real story. And
that is a comedian, struggling comedian meets a woman at
a bar who becomes a stalker that he's sort of
he's struggling to sort of find his way and get
(08:24):
proper attention in his craft and everything else, and this
woman gives him attention out the gate. And I think
because of that, even though he knows she's off and
he knows something's not right, he's welcoming it a little
bit and then it gets too far carried away. She's
a hardcore stalker. You have to watch the show to
see how this plays out. We're about halfway through it,
(08:44):
but I do know she is now suing the guy
for defamation.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
I want to see the guys I just got recommended to.
I haven't seen them, but maybe we can start watching
them together so then we can discuss them on the show.
One is called Looping on Netflix and the other one
is Apple TV and he's called Drops of God. They're
supposed to be incredible Apple TV, Drops of God and
Looping Netflix, so let's check it out. I'm looking forward
(09:10):
to seeing them.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
The other show Roz would definitely recommend is Last Famosas.
What's it called? Last Well Famosas? And La Casa Like.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
I didn't see it. Yes, I haven't seen it for
two days because we watched the Tom Brady thing and
the day before I didn't know they didn't you saw us.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
The computer running.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
I've never done that one. Actually, let me ask you something.
I have something. Okay, here here, where is it again?
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (09:42):
What about if you had to choose one thing to
change about your partner? What would it be? That's from
the notchi wah wah.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
We've talked about this before, but I.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Don't think you want to do you want to change something?
Speaker 2 (09:54):
I love you? Just the way you are and when
you laugh a lot, I love it too.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
I love a lot every day.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
I don't think I change much, especially at this stage.
I know I know what I'm, what I'm, what I'm
in with, and you know what you're in with. There's
not much I want to try to change, I think.
I think quite the contrary. There are things. I'm at
the stage now in my life where I'm wanting to
fix things about myself.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Like what I'm trying to get better, give me an example.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
A lot of things, more patience. I'm trying to be
more understanding. I think I'm a good communicator. I need
to be better not holding on to things so long,
trying to move on from it, which is hard for me. Yeah,
a lot of stuff.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
You know what's interesting. I was literally on my way.
I was crossing the street. I parked the car to
come into the podcast room, and I'm crossing the street
and I don't know why this thing came to my mind,
which is I was like, I don't want to do
things that I don't want to do. It's like I'm
on a.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Stage in my life I want to do things that
i want to do.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Yeah, it's like I want to stage.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
I just want to doing things that I just want
to be.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
I honestly want to be. I want to do things
that make me happy.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
But I've never known something that does something you don't
want to do.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
No, but sometimes you compromise. I'm tired of compromising and
trying to push myself to do things that don't make
me happy or I don't want to do it just
because I want to please somebody or because I feel
like I have to do it. You know, like I'm
going to stay in my life that that's when you
said to me, let's go to dinner. Let's go to
dinner this week, right, I don't want to do it.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Look okay, But I'm talking about like with like work
or somebody. You could do things for your husband that
he wants to do.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
I know, yeah, but I'm doing yes, and I do
a lot.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
I compromise a lot, and then you always have a
good time.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
I do.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
But you how many times I force you to do
something and then you want to.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Maybe that was a good example, But you know what,
I'm gonna staate in my life that if it doesn't
make me happy, it doesn't If it doesn't fulfill a need,
if it's not done with intention, I don't want to
do it, or I'm just gonna say no, I'm gonna
I'm going to be more comfortable just if it doesn't
suit my soul, I'm just going to say no.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
I think I get that when it comes to work.
I think I get that when it comes to friendships overall.
I get that when it comes to your family. But
sometimes we make compromises with our family. I do things
all the time I don't want to do, and I
do it.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
But I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about
things that I know that things that need to be done.
I'm a parent, I'm a mom, so it can It's
not as easy as like, you know what, I don't
want to take my kids.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
They have a certain hangout that they want to do
and we got to go do it even though we
don't feel like doing it. Or if we have if
I want to go out to dinner with you and
have a date night, and maybe you're not the mood
to go to a restaurant, but you still do it
because we're gonna have date night.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Well, sometimes if I really don't want to do it,
I'm not going to do it.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Oh, man, I'm not talking about the trivia anymore, but
I'm talking about things.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I was talking about things that like really don't make
me happy. I get that, Anny Varni La la la
la la hell.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
I have two questions.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Did you have any weird habits as a kid that
has stuck with you as an adult? Oh? My god,
Eric has so many joking I don't.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
I don't know if I was even I'm very meticulous
now with like having things done in a certain way
and order, lighting up like you see me, even my vitamins.
I have everything like everything's very in order in my life.
I don't know if I was always like that as like,
even as a kid, to that degree, I was always
like a bit of a I remember with my hair,
like I fiddle things a certain way. I'm still like that,
(13:45):
like the hair has to be just right. And I've
been like that for a long long time. So that
is maybe one thing. What about you like one meticulous?
Speaker 1 (13:53):
I guess one thing that I have done my entire life,
since I have years of reason, is every night. I
don't remember ever, ever, ever going to sleep in forty
something years, because I'd say I started consciously praying when
I was maybe five or six years old. I don't
(14:13):
remember ever closing my eyes and going to sleep with
a praying. I do our Father, I do, even if
it's short. Hell Mary, and I do Angel. I don't
know how to say that in English. So I do
three prayers and I always always always start with grande Marvio.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Why are you doing this? Because I see us go
lights out and we say final thought and you go
to bed, and I don't see your praying.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
And because I don't pray in my head, I.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Think if I tried that, and I should be better
at it. Because I say good night and I close
my eyes and I'm asleep. You say good night. You're
staring at the same our father.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Do it in my mind every single night. I oh,
and it always starts. Is I met me Santa Martinez,
which is a dear friend of mine. He's the one
that told.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Me, but you five when him no, no no no.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
I always did these three prayers, but then I met
him as an adult in my twenties, and then I
added before doing those three things good quality. Yes, I
say the littlest thing in Spanish. Lord.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Second question, also, if you could switch bodies with each other?
For the day. What would be the first thing you
would do as the other person?
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Oh my god, that's a great question.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
You you could be in my body. What would you
do for the What would be the first thing you do?
Speaker 1 (15:34):
I don't know what is the first thing you would do.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
I would like pride. Go. Hey, let's let's let's look up,
let's hook up. What in the morning. I don't know.
If you were Rosalie, let's go and make you fired up. Okay,
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
I don't know what I would do, but I will
do what I will do. I have no idea.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
That's a tough question.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Make you make you go have good at tattoo?
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Make me go get a tattoo. Why would you make
me get a tattoo? My name and the kids? You
just want me to get a tattoo?
Speaker 1 (16:17):
I do.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
That's a tough question.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Salome don move. What are the names that you consider
for your children? And how do you come up with
names for your pets? Well, Sabella was going to be
a Emily Rose and Dylana wanted him to be Sebastian,
and we have said this story. He doesn't He doesn't
look like a Sabastian. He looks more like a Dylan,
and it was between Emily or Sabella. And then we said,
you know what, we when I deliver her, we're going
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to see her and we're going to realize if we.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
Love the meaning of Sabella too. Yes, God's promise was
the meaning. And with Dylan we talked about this. I
I thought Sebastian and Sabella were too close. I didn't
want to do Sebastian. He was without a name for
quite a few days. We found I found Dylan in
a book. I made a whole pitch to Rozaland about
the mean of Dylan, and then we played rock paper
Scissors and I won. God that's how Dylan got his name.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
Pets pets Mota because she looked like a like a
like a little mota, which is not in Mexico. Mota
is weed. In Puerto Rico, Mota is like a powder puff.
A Monta looked like a powder puff. And it's funny
because she was born and raised in California. So every
time I will go out with Mota Mota everybody, always,
every single day of my life, people will look at
me so weird because they thought I named her weed
(17:34):
and I didn't. I may I named her power Puff
powder Puff Maraca because she looked like Araka.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
Because she was annoying, like a Moerica, Like how Morocca
sound like, just like drive you crazy, Morocca.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Jack, I don't know Jack was my mom named him Jack.
And then because it's black jack yes. And then Uzo
is because I went to Greece to work for months
and I don't drink. It was a drink and everybody
was an uzo and I didn't know what it was
and I realized, oh, it's alcohol, but I like this
this sound uzo. And I was like, if I ever
have a dog, a male dog, because by then I
(18:09):
only had the German Shepherd was a boy and then
Mota was a girl. Said, if I get another boy,
I like Uzu.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
And that's why how did Archie get his name? Was
it or anything that was?
Speaker 1 (18:20):
My mom? Archie was Leo when when we rescued him,
and then my mom did Archie because of Megan marcle and.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
And bandit got banned because he has like a it.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Looks like it looks like a band freaking black like
what was going to be banned? It's name if it
wasn't banded. I don't remember if we were Wilson, we.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
Talked about tennis band it Wilson his middle.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Name, Okay, and Meghan Gibson. Where did the idea of
making a rum come from?
Speaker 2 (18:49):
Well, yeah, that's a great question, and we'll be talking
about this a lot more too, just with the story
of it. But I I've I was never a rum
drinker until I met Roz, and I'll never forget the
first time going to Puerto Rico, meet her family and
her dad and her brothers and people inviting me to
have some eight year rum with them, and I realized, Wow,
aged rum, premium rum is actually really nice. I was
(19:11):
not accustomed to that. It's not what the rum I
grew up with. And since then I started sort of
developing more of an affinity towards darker spirits, RUMs and
whiskeys and exploring that space because I was always avodka drinker.
And because of that, I've sort of felt like rum
brought me closer to the family, brought us together a
bit more, and it's something I wanted to explore. And
(19:32):
so in the past couple of years I went down
that path. I'm talking to Roz saying, there's not a
lot of great premium rum in the US, it's all
you know, coming from other countries, So we came up
with this blend ye at Whitney Lee Davis, you guys
spoke about therapy. Do you think it is more beneficial
to do as a couple to keep communication open or
(19:53):
is it better to do individually. I don't think there's
a better I think it's good to do both. To
be honest, I I'm a huge family I have a
psych degree, so I'm a huge fan of therapy. I
think it's so beneficial for families and parents and couples
and individuals. I think if you have our therapist in particular,
who I think is phenomenal, we should ever on the
podcast one time. She's so good. I think she's so
(20:17):
great because she saw each of us individually to understand
what our sort of past experiences were like, not just
within our relationship, but our upbringing, so she can understand
us a bit more. And then she had to use
that to work together with us. And I think it's
important for communication. I think it's important too. We had
a break from it for a while and I said,
you know, we need a reboot, Like let's just go
(20:37):
back in and see what's stirring up.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
You know, what's one of the most valuable things that
I think, at least I have learned from going to Heavy.
That's her name. Heavy. It's like she's she basically says
to you. A lot of times when couples are together
for a long time, right, and things start to get
a little stay on, or there's a lot of fighting,
(21:02):
you know, for no apparent reason, you know, and you
stop talking to each other for days, and what triggered
that specific fight. It's actually kind of like meaningless, you know,
it's just a lot of nothing that accumulates and it
becomes a big thing when it's actually nothing. And she goes.
You know, once in a while, when you realize you
picked this person, and if you've been with this person
for a while and this is the father of your children,
(21:24):
you tend to overlook the goodness in them. So anything
that they do, even if it's minimal, it triggers you
and you create a movie in your mind and you
just like you get annoyed and you only see the
bad when it only takes you one second to be like,
you know what, I'm going to find the good in
this person. So even at this moment, he annoying the heck.
(21:45):
He annoyed the heck out of me because he said
this and this and that, and he reacted like this
and that triggers me and goes aa. And you find
this all these excuses to be hating at the moment
and to justify your annoyance. But if you take a
beat and you just go, you know what, Okay, he's annoying,
I'm not happy. But let me just try and remind
myself this person is really good and he's been triggered
(22:08):
to react like that because of something, So let me
find the goodness in him instead of always go into
attack mode and only see I don't know if you
remember that the specific session, she was like, you need
to find the goodness because this is your person unless
it's not, you know, But if this is somebody that
you have chose to spend the rest of your life
(22:29):
with and you have invested so many years, you know,
into the relationship and the family, don't be so quick
to immediately find the shitty at all.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
You know. And I think that would lend itself to
the previous point as well, that individual therapy is super
important to find out what it is inside you that
of how you process things, how you think, Why do
you think the way you think because maybe your past
experiences and it gives you more clarity as a person
to understand your partner. Yeah, you know what I mean. Like,
(23:01):
I think you do need both. I think it'd be
much harder for the therapist if you didn't, if they
didn't know more about you, and you also didn't know
more about you, because your partner could be triggered by
something small, like you said, and it would be very
hard for you to do that route you just talked about,
let me find the goodness in him, let me, let me,
let me think about that person in that way, because
you also have to find out what what's holding you
(23:22):
back from being that accepting and that open Yep. So
I think it's super important to have both. Yeah, you
agree very much.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
To finalize, guys, I just finished reading a book from
a friend of mine.
Speaker 4 (23:33):
Let me.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
And the name of the book is A guy with
cancer enters a bar on cancer, and Abar Serrio is
one of the It's actually the head writer for Televisa
Univision for anything that has to do with music and entertainment.
Every single reality show, competition, show Latin Grammy is premiuztro
(23:57):
Mira Kimbai Latina, anything that is entertainment and when it
comes to reality competition, he's the head writer. So I've
worked with him for many years in the different projects
for Univision Argentinian that grew up in Venezuela incredibly incredibly
smart writer, you know, like very funny at the top
(24:18):
of his game, gets diagnosed with a very rare form
of cancer, which called me a loma I believe it's called,
which is basically isn't attacked immune system, it's blood. Isn't
the blood like a leukemia, like a form of leukemia.
Then that became we found a lot of markings on
the MRIs on your chest and your femur and your thyroid,
(24:38):
so then it became thyro cancer and I knew that.
Said he was battling cancer through some of the shows
that we worked on together. Sometimes he will have to
do it remotely because he was going through chemo one radiation.
So he wrote about it. He wrote about cancer and
his journey and explains everything from A to Z about treatment, medication,
(24:59):
HIGs EXPERI means with doctors and nurses and navigating this
world of like I'm an athlete. He is a marathon runner.
He swims somebody that is very healthy and then out
of nowhere, I'm limping. My leg is bothering me to
you have cancer all over your body. You know, he's
in remission right now, but it's an ongoing battle. And
(25:20):
I have never read a book that is supposed to
be incredibly depressing, because he just talks about the beating
that you take as a human being and your loved ones,
the beating that they take when the word cancer is
brought up. You know, like your life changes dramatically from
one day to the next. So he's talking about the
(25:42):
brutal component of it all with humor. And it was
so interesting to follow this journey and actually find it interesting, intriguing, funny, compelling, emotional, amazing, sad,
you know. So I highly recommend it. And it freaks
me out that disease that pretty much more than half
(26:05):
of the population at some point in their life is
going to get it is so freaking scary, And the
most valuable thing for me was by reading his words.
It's it's what you make of it, you know. He
chose to be happy.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
Well that's but I would even add that that lesson
that he's teaching is for life. Correct, it's what you
make of it, you know, even if it's not a
life threatening disease. But any hardships you're going through, it's
how you handle it, what you make of it, and
if you can make it with humor, you'll probably get
through it a little quicker. Yeah, in any downside, any
downturn in your life.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
I just don't know how somebody that gets cancer area
because you know, one cancer decides to manifest in your body.
I guess we all live with cancer inside and then
it's not cancer until the cells decide to manifest multiply
and they can come.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
As you don't live with cancer. See, you have cells
that could be that I have the potential to shift.
It's like a bad cell.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
But what I don't understand is how do people have
the ability like because once you have one type of cancer,
even if it's they say that the one that you
want to get, if you're going to get any should
be thyroid, right, because it's the one that I know.
But you know what I mean, you know, it's very
different they say pancreas or call on or thyroid. You know,
like there's like very severe ones or varying cancer, uterine
cancer that you just go am I half five years,
(27:28):
you know, but once you have it and you go
through it and you're blessed enough to survive it, you
know that at any moment it comes.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
Back, you're still living with it. How do you function
the same way he said, he told you you're making
a choice. You're making a choice every day with any obstacle,
how you're going to handle it. So you have a decision.
Either you're going to live in this sort of depression
of like where I'm at and what I have or
what I'm dealing with, or you're going to overcome it,
(28:00):
maybe with humor or with positivity, just knowing like hey,
I'm living and I'm gonna not let this define me.
I'm choosing to be this way. I think that's what
it is to me. It always comes down to a choice.
You can be. You can be upset, sad, angry, matt
whatever you want to be. You have a choice to make.
If you don't make that choice, then you're allowing whatever
(28:21):
you're dealing with to consume you, whether it's cancer or otherwise,
could just be you're dealing with a bad day could
be dealing with dealing with a job. It could be
dealing with a lot of things. The extreme is death right,
but it could be a lot of things. It's how
you choose to handle it, because you make the choice. Yep,
all right, Well that was last quick thing, really fast
(28:43):
at Stempleton two four one one. Name one item in
your or belonging that you could not live without. I
know for me it'd be chopstick. Wow. I love chick
I needtickles. If I don't have chapstick, I stress out you.
It's gonna be your mouth guard, because you can I
live without that, your TMJ, and you use that mouth
guard religiously. No, I don't I know.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
I need to don't call me again yesterday.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Oh my god, that's a reminder to start.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
I don't know, guys, my lipstick all the time?
Speaker 2 (29:16):
No, I don't at all. After every restaurant at the
Hollywood Bowl. Oh my god, I don't know. What can
you live without?
Speaker 4 (29:27):
My right?
Speaker 1 (29:28):
I am my face Sope.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
That's that's good too. All right, this has been fun.
Questions make sure to continue to email us or d
m us at our Instagram page and we will continue
to answer questions. Love you Thanks for listening. Don't forget
to write us a review and tell us what you think.
Speaker 4 (29:45):
If you want to follow us on Instagram, checks out
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iHeartRadio dot com, he said, is part of iHeart Radio's
Mike Will Do That podcast network.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
See you next time,
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