March 25, 2024 • 23 mins
Ros and Eric have different feelings after their daughter attends her first real tween boy girl dance party and about when it is appropriate to bring up stories about exes bedrooms? They talk about some of this weeks hot topics including more dating with more traditional gender roles and the chase and the games when you first start going out with someone. Not seeing eye to eye on all of this weeks topics just means more laughs so strap in and get ready for some serious He Said, Ella Dijo.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is, he said a Yadiho with Eric Winter and
Rosalind Fantaz. Hello, good morning, good morning, good afternoon.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
When by the way, I've had a few, he said,
listeners talk about which we're going to do. I think
for our next episode we're going to post on our
social and we're going to open up to listener questions.
We want to hear whatever you guys are thinking. We
want to know, we want to talk about it. We
want to tackle it. So we will put that post
up and make sure you drop in your questions so
(00:33):
we can we can talk about it on the next episode.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
I forgot my retainer again.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
That's your retainer doesn't even exist.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
But why am I doing that?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
You don't even use it?
Speaker 1 (00:43):
It's so weird. Well, you know, surprisingly, my Joe has
been doing better.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
I don't know how. I don't know how is that possible?
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Maybe because of all the other stuff that I'm doing.
Inflammation is going down, things are moving around. Can we
talk about it's cooking.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Let me tell you all how proud I am of
myself for keeping my cool this weekend. What happened because
I took Dylan to Lego Land for one of his
good friend's birthdays, and let me tell you, you should
definitely stay. It's a great It was a great experience.
Lego Land was fantastic for the kids and they were
They treated us so well. But if you're ever going
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down there, stay down there. I decided to drive down
for the day. Everything's going great, We're on track. Thank
god my wife or my daughter were not with us,
because I have been a disaster. I get a flat tire,
which I haven't had in I don't even know. I've
had nails in my tires. You had to plug them.
I had a flat tire on the freeway, had to
pull off basically forty five minutes to get triple A.
(01:43):
Had to go with the doughnut tire can't go over fifty.
I have another, I don't know, seventy miles to get
to Lego Land. So I find a Mercedes dealer. I
get them to swap my tire. Now I'm behind three hours.
So our hour and forty five minute trip to Lego
Land took me over three hours to get there. Did
Lego Land for however, many hours. Came back and my
other tire was flat at the end of the night.
(02:05):
Had to fill it with air overfill it and basically
I'm driving home super late at night, monitoring as the
psis drop every ten miles. I'm dropping psid do all
the way down, trying to make it home. My trip
ended up taking about seven hours total, or like six
hours of my day.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
I am so glad I was.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
I'd been there or my daughter. By the way, they
were boking, Oh my god, this is ridiculous. On that
car is a car, is a jigs. Everything happens with
that car.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Everything happens with that car.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Was such a champ. Our little boy was so good.
He was he was so scared and panicked about my
tire being flat, and he was just so supportive and
down for the adventure. And my wife and my daughter would.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
In the meantime, I was at the Grove, which is
this fabulous outdoor.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Shopping mall join a big Cali I.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
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Speaker 1 (02:58):
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Speaker 2 (03:21):
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a product.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
I was with our daughter and we had a blast
and then sebid Inssa Hudgens and Nicky reed and then
we had Sabella had her first disco, my dance party
one of her kids at her class. It was his
birthday and they threw this neon. We talked about it, guys.
(03:46):
So Eric was in Lego Land Nightmare and now let's.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Not say Legoland was great.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
I was in Traveling Nimer and I had to go
take Sabella at seven to her disco thing, which is
a drop off. But I was like, you know what,
I haven't met I know the parents, but I haven't
seen them in a long time. I've never been to
this house, so I just want to walk her in.
She's mortified because she's like, mom, she doesn't want me
to go, but I walk her in.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
The house was stunning.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
The entire thing. It's decorated in neon colors. When I'm
talking about this pizza station, this graffiti station, this mocktail station,
dance floor DJ it was that party was lit. I
couldn't believe my eyes. I was like, I want to
stay here, like this is I want to be part
of this party. Of course she dismissed me, so I
had to. Yeah, so I left, and then three hours later,
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at ten o'clock at night, I pick her up.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
The thing is going. It was like like a rave fantastic.
I pick her up.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
She gets in the car, she is so happy. She goes,
this is the best day of my.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Life to a mocktail station DJs. All these different desserts
and treats and hydrogen. It was amazing, like pirates booty
or like smoke coming.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Out how a party should be done.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Yeah, it was incredible.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
But then she Now the pressure is on, guys, because
do you know that I have to do something incredible
enough for her next birthday.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I'm already I'm already planning. You know, she turns, she's
gonna go from a team will be a big one.
Do you call it a tweety?
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Now?
Speaker 1 (05:14):
From from from between to a team?
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Yeah, it's a Prepper team.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Guys is gonna be on that party.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
We have to do something. Here's what I will say,
so emotional. So she she doesn't she doesn't really have
a phone, Like I don't want her to have a
phone where she's calling, so she has, but she has
a phone. She likes. It's like a night and that
an AirPod, right. She likes to listen to music and
she likes to do all that with her with her phone.
We travel for tennis, but she also takes her pictures
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with it, and all the pictures come to my phone.
So anyways, she I guess rose on the ladder to
take this to the party, which I would not have
but I'm glad she did because she was capturing memories
from her you know, night out. But when I watched,
because they all came up to upload into my cloud
to my phone. When I saw these videos, I was
I was crying. It was really weird, super emotional because
I was like, oh my god, we don't have a
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kid anymore, a baby. She's dancing and you know, just
like acting like a young lady. It was really difficult
for me. I didn't like it. I mean I did
like it for her because I know it's part of
the growth and the journey, but it was really hard
for me.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
And then on top of it all, we go to
the Pasadena Playhouse, to this beautiful theater in Pasadena to
watch a play written by a friend, Gloria Callete, and
it was about the Latino experience, about this, how this
will to do Latino family. They have an only child,
which is a daughter. The daughter goes to college and
now she comes back home and announces to the parents
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I have a boyfriend. They meet the boyfriend for the
first time and it happens to be that she is
married and she's pregnant, so all hilarity ensues. It was
so phenomenal, But it's about their baby girl, only child,
only child, becoming a woman, and how as Latinos, you know,
how how you navigate that world of your daughter eloping
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and not telling you anything about I just got married,
and how the mom's a Latino woman is devastated. So
it was all about his coming of age story, about
this girl and her parents an identity, you know, and
and how if you're Latino that don't speak Spanish you
feel a very certain way. And then if your husband's
it's fluent, and he's fully assimulated but still holds onto
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his roots.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
How it's different from you.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
I mean, Gloria covered every single topic imaginable and it
was so fantastic.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
So we left and I tell you.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Think And on top of that, after coming out of
this party, I.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Was Eric is crying because Sebbe is going to a
dance party and now Eric is crying.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Lose my mind. If she ever came home and Zach
got married without telling you, and I'm pregnant, I'll lose
my mind.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
What do you do?
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Like?
Speaker 2 (07:50):
What will you do?
Speaker 3 (07:51):
What?
Speaker 2 (07:52):
I lose my mind? I go supporter a supporter, I
lose my mind. Though at first I'd be so sad.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
But will you cheer her out?
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Can you do now it's done? I mean, you have
to support her, but I would be really bummed out.
I don't know if I would cheer out, but I
would probably go in a corner and scream and be mad.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
And then I come This is very interesting because the
play guy is the guy that she's dating. He's Mexican
American right, and he comes in to meet the parents
for the first time, so self assured, very outspoken, a
little too outspoken, right and very just very educated kid.
And the dad played brilliantly by Carlos Gomez. He's so
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annoyed that he's meeting this kid for the first time,
and the kid has zero fear or is showing zero
fear about me meeting the parents. You, Eric Winter, the
first time that Sebby brings a boy to the house
saying or whoever to the house saying, this is my
partner and I'm in love. Do you expect that person
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to be to fear you or you want the person
to be like, hey, mister Winter, how are you? And
talk to you like an equal and you're just I want.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
The person to respect me. I don't want them to
fear me. I don't want you want fear, for sure,
don't even the furthest thing from that. You'd be exactly
like Lana was in that movie, Oh my God. So
try to be happy until something turns sideways.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
I wouldn't turn sideways. I'd be like, hey, do you
need to check yourself?
Speaker 2 (09:18):
I definitely want I wouldn't be I don't know if
I want, mister I mean, they don't have to do
all that. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Of course, I have to said mister Winter. You're not
gonna say Hi, Eric, how are You'll be like, what
the heck are you talking about? It's mister Winter and Missentias. Really,
that's why I told Sabella already about the kid that
she believes is her boyfriend, and I said, when he
talks to me, tell him that I'm Missanchez. She said,
She's like, Mah, You've been ridiculous, and I'm going you
better tell that he doesn't even look at me, that.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
He's already scared. That's good and.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Good for him. I wanted to be scared. I wanted
to be scared.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
They yeah, I don't know. Yeah, a little bit of respect.
I want to try to be understanding. I'm hoping I'll
grow with this in the p.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Is a kid that just by looking at him, you go,
it's a butt seed.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Oh no, I don't like the vibe.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
I don't like the energy. That's if we know that
the parents are a little iffy.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
That's going to be hard family. That would be much harder,
because especially if the kid, even if he's respectful, but
I know this is a bad seed that we were
really tough. What do you do? The more you go
at him, the more she's gonna go opposite of you.
Has already made those comments to me, like the more
you tell me I can't do something, the more it
makes me want to do it. She's already said that
that's crazy, which is typical teenage behavior.
Speaker 3 (10:26):
Yeah, but to be able to verbalize that, like I
never told myself there.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
I will act on it and I will do it.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
My mom will tell me something and she will be like,
you cannot see that person, and I'll be like, okay,
now I really like him.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
But I never said to her flat out, the more
you tell me no, the more I'm going to do it.
She'll slap me.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
No.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
I would agree with that. There's a headline some dating
coaches online are pushing women to seek more traditional gender roles.
Dating coach carl Ella tells women not to go out
with a man who is nice or who treats you right,
(11:05):
but one who can afford them smart smart smart. You
don't want to be treated nice or right to someone
that can afford your lifestyle. I want to know advice.
While highly's not saying that, I want to criticized by
some who have seen her videos, has dominated the pocket
pockets of the internet and depicts heterosexual romance as a
deal between men and women in which women are receivers
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and men are providers. I like that, like the ant
the receiver.
Speaker 3 (11:33):
I want equality be the receiver. I want to be able.
I'm nice, kind and I can support myself. So I
want my men to be.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
A man who can afford you. You can afford yourself, I know.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
But it's the it's knowing that if this is the fan,
he's he's there to provide.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
And I want to know that it's a fan. You're
going to receive.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
What do you mean.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
You're a receiver? Receiver, You got to receive everything. You
got to be the one that I'm going to be
the provider. I'm gonna like me. You have to be
open to receiving whatever I'm auditioning out. You can't just
be demanding what you want.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
I'm not demanding anything.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
You can't be in control all the time.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
I'm so confused right now. I want to be sufficient
and i want to I'm saying I'm confused the receiver.
More of you can you can like the woman provides
and the man provides. Oh, you take the more traditional
domestic role. You could work, but you don't have to
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be the provider. You don't have to worry about all
of those. You know, maybe maybe I don't have to
be the provider, but I want to know that if
something happens, I can provide.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
I don't like, you know how, I have an issue
with being dependent.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
I cannot be understand that you're very stressed out about
that for whatever reason.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
And listen, and it's also like, you know, what's so interesting,
like and this is something that ladies you know, and
I wish I had.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
The maturity or the tools to understand.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
Things as simple as and he has nothing to do
with because it was like I'm going to give you,
like a dating experience with somebody that that wonderful, wonderful person,
great family.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
He was just amazing.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Right But the first time I went to his place
and I saw the place, and I saw the bedroom.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
What we're doing in his bedroom? I don't want to
talk about this anymore.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
No, I wasn't doing anything in the bedroom. I'm just
I'm talking about looking at the best disgusting.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
It was such a mess. Listen to me, it was
such a mess.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
It was such a mess, Eric Winter, I'm talking about insane.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Why were you in his bedroom?
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Like an earthquake because I saw you do as a
grown us woman. I was in my twenties. It was okay,
what why are you telling me the story? You're missing?
I wish I would have been like, you know what
I'm working.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
I want to change. I was in some women's bedroom.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I want to talk about that every night if you
were in my bedroom. Every single night.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
We're talking about I'm talking about.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
About Dame Cleans, I'll you about I'm not talking about
dating anything.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
I'm talking about his bedroom. We want to talk about that.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Go ahead yourself, you want to share, tell me all
about it.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Shaved when she works, when she cleaned, she smell rosy.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
God.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Anyway you want to talk about it.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
I'm not gonna talk about it because I want to
keep the harmony in my relationship.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
You're missing the point. I finished my startle. But this
is what's okay. Whatever the place, live, the living room.
It was such a mess that knowing like in hind hindsight, right,
I want I want to sending to be this kind
of girl. She walks in, she's assesses the situation. Place
is a freaking mess. Get out whatever she's at, even
(14:39):
if it's the kitchen. Walk in walk out, realize this
person is a mess. I don't tolerate that, and very
few women have that. You just settled.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
You just go like, it's okay, he's a little dirty,
but yeah, he's a mess. He's a slob, but he's
so nice.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Okay. So here's one of the things that I actually
think is this. One of the advice is you know,
a piece of advice they're giving is that when you're
in the dating space that you should you should treat
it as a bit of a game or a strategy
to win, to attract a man who's willing to pay
the bills, spoil his partner gifts and you know, fund
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the lavish lifestyle. Now I don't know about all of that.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Important, but the coach suggest the follow coach, but I
love the game.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
I always say this about dating, and I have to
say dating for me, I don't think you ever really
like dating, probably like I actually think dating is a
lot of fun, like especially first day, even if they
go bad. I used to love No, it's so fun
getting to know somebody, even if it's going sideways and
you pay for the dinner and you have you know whatever,
you never's not going to go any further. I love
the whole one on one and getting to know somebody.
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But the thing that's fun about dating, and maybe, like
I said, I don't think you like this is I agree,
there is a strategy. There's a game that has to
be played. People like the chase. They like the pursuit.
That's the animal nature, like you want to. As soon
as somebody just caves or they don't make you chase
or pursue, I think people lose interest.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
So then how do you deal with marriage.
Speaker 3 (16:06):
You've been with me for eighteen years, you already got me,
and you like the chase so much.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
You still make me all the time. So it's not like.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
You're like the dating getting to know you.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Constantly on the chase with you. Because it's like I was,
oh my god, here she made a right, she made
a left, like a chase her again. I'm like, it's
never a dull moment. I'm gonna have to keep it
like that is very good. Otherwise we get bored. No,
I agree, I agree.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Don't get bored on me. Huh, don't get bored.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
I ain't getting bored and getting bored. You're a lot
of fun when you want to be when I want
to be when you want to be. When you're not
just mouth guard in and pajamas in bed, you're a
lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
Wow, you know what.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
I'm watching it and now you just watched a good mood.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
You know.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
I'm watching this. I can't leave not watching it. This
documentary on the New Patriot fascinating. It's so good, it's
so well done. Somebody Imagine Entertainment. They did such a
good job with this documentary. That's totally did fall asleep, No,
I always fall asleep, but I mean, I just it's
something that we totally switched skiers from. Like it's on
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Apple TV. I think people should really like it. Whether
you love or hate the Patriots, I think it's a great.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Do you believe all the negative stuff that they're exposing, Yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Think all that stuff no way.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Do you think they were looking at the coaching that.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Was proven he got spending? Yeah yeah, but everybody does that.
This is what happened with the Astros back in like
their past World Series victory. They were stealing signs. People
do this all the time, you just can't get caught,
and they were video in it. That was the issue.
So people steal.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Signs anythink that was what is his name, Goliski, Chaliski
the coach?
Speaker 1 (17:39):
What is his name? Belichick?
Speaker 2 (17:41):
There's Gronkowski Belichick.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
Do you think Belichick is the one that wanted that order?
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Somebody is the one that got nailed.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
So how is it posible that he's steal coaching because
he got he should be banned.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
That was a lot of them we shouldn't be man,
that was a lot of the issue they said that
didn't suspend him, They didn't put him through enough. They
just find him And which wasn't that?
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Do you think that what's his name? The love of
your life, Tom Brady.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Love of my life Island Sanchez.
Speaker 3 (18:06):
Tom Brady? Do you think it was proven that he
it was like the weight on the on the balls.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
That episode yet? But I can't wait to get to that.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Is he cheater?
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Like everybody in professional sports to some degree.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
They don't say that they don't break rules.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Into in some capacity. They do. It's just a matter
of who gets caught. There's always little things they they
would talk about when you go to other arenas and
you go to the locker room and they leave it dirty,
they leave it smelly, or it's not comfortable. They always
want to get in players heads, like they would mess
with players at the hotel. They always there's always something.
I don't think it's as extreme as maybe that all
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the time, but I think everybody's trying to find a
one up.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
Well, I'm watching I saw American Fiction. This movie guys
that I highly recommend.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Not a new movie. It's an older movie.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
No, it's new.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
They just want the Oscar the guy just American. Yeah,
listen to me, I have one. I have a new got.
I think the writer wants something. I think the writer
want something. Let me tell you something. I am obsessed
with Jeffrey Wright.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
That's a great actor. He was in West World. He's fantastic.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
Oh's yeah, but you know I like him more on
American Fiction. Of this movie, he's so good.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
He's really good.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
He's so good.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
I was like, oh my god, Like my whole my
dream was always to work with al Pacino. To this day,
hopefully I will accomplish that. Before he howled how Isino?
He's getting there right up there? Yeah, but I'm all
into I'm into Jeffrey right, so good. Anyways, what else
I was going to tell you? I have to tell
you one more thing before we go.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
We also have a one best adapted screenplay. That's what
it was and is eighty three.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
By the way, eighty three sometimes time soon. Why do
you say that?
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Because I just don't see it happening.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
Wow, thank you. I appreciate that that's eighty three. He
can work onto his night.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
I just don't know that the timing is going to
line up anyways.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Well whatever, maybe I like him.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Anyways, we better get planning, our making our spring break
spring break plans, and it's.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Going to be a blame.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
Oh look on this woman says her fifty thousand wedding
ruined her life after snowbowling out of control. Life isn't
a Disney movie.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
I mean that's our wedding.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Was out of control as well, and I was super stressing.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Was crazy.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
It was busier of my life. I had a blast.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
But the planning, I believe it when it's you do
all this work and it goes so fast and everybody
enjoys themselves more than you.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Although I have to say that it did enjoy myself
like Crazy's.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
Like she said, distress not only prevented her from enjoying
her wedding day, but it all. Finally it impacted her
months afterwards. I don't discredit that there was so much Okay,
going back to Sabella, she ever got married without telling us,
I'd be pissed. How and I give her we we
we would give her the best wedding. We would be
you know, part of that and pay.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
For We have to do my favor.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
I just I don't want you.
Speaker 3 (21:01):
I don't want you involved in her wedding. Allow me
to do it all and do the budget because I.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Can go through the seller house to do her wedding.
We have to have to manage some of the finances.
Speaker 3 (21:10):
No, don't manage anything because you're going to make it
not a great experience. Our wedding is going to be
all my planning.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
It will be great. But my point is there is
a lot.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
Of shows if she never wants to get married, she's
one of those chicks that goes. I don't. I don't
believe in married.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
I can see that's just a paper. I see her
wanting to, but I just do think there's too much
stress put on this one day that. Yeah, the repercussions
can go on long after. I mean financially, it can
really screw you up. People you know, put too much
money to that. They're even more about the down payment
of the house. They should be focusing on things like that.
And also it is supposed to be for you, and
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people are so worried about how everybody else is experiencing
your day, so it takes away from you.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
Why some people elope and they just keep it very simple.
I'm very small.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
I just think you can make it less stressful by
not doing too much. Can you Can you handle that?
Can you do that? You? Definitely? Every when we got married,
it was like you want to do more and more
and more it was and I was so stressed out.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
It was epic.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
It was great. It was It took us some time
to recover from it. It was definitely. It was an epic,
giant event.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
It was awesome.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
That was a stressful, beautiful.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
Day, stressful, amazing.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
So you think you have to spend all this money
for a wedding. You don't think it's worth it to
just try to pace yourself and do something nice and
have it under control.
Speaker 3 (22:24):
No, No, I feel like it depends on on on
the family and if you can't afford it to go
all out, by all means go all out. If you
can't and you have to do something medium size. As
long as you make it meaningful and beautiful, that it
means something and you is fine. And if you want
to make it with just three people, you can still
make it epic and make it stunning.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
Okay, so we'll do that for Sabella's thirteenth perty meaningful,
three people.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
I don't know what she wants. I will make whatever
she wants to do. I'll make it epic, even if
it's even if we invite it.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
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Speaker 1 (23:17):
Bye,
This is, he said a Yadiho with Eric Winter and
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Speaker 2 (00:11):
When by the way, I've had a few, he said,
listeners talk about which we're going to do. I think
for our next episode we're going to post on our
social and we're going to open up to listener questions.
We want to hear whatever you guys are thinking. We
want to know, we want to talk about it. We
want to tackle it. So we will put that post
up and make sure you drop in your questions so
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we can we can talk about it on the next episode.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
I forgot my retainer again.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
That's your retainer doesn't even exist.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
But why am I doing that?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
You don't even use it?
Speaker 1 (00:43):
It's so weird. Well, you know, surprisingly, my Joe has
been doing better.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
I don't know how. I don't know how is that possible?
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Maybe because of all the other stuff that I'm doing.
Inflammation is going down, things are moving around. Can we
talk about it's cooking.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Let me tell you all how proud I am of
myself for keeping my cool this weekend. What happened because
I took Dylan to Lego Land for one of his
good friend's birthdays, and let me tell you, you should
definitely stay. It's a great It was a great experience.
Lego Land was fantastic for the kids and they were
They treated us so well. But if you're ever going
(01:20):
down there, stay down there. I decided to drive down
for the day. Everything's going great, We're on track. Thank
god my wife or my daughter were not with us,
because I have been a disaster. I get a flat tire,
which I haven't had in I don't even know. I've
had nails in my tires. You had to plug them.
I had a flat tire on the freeway, had to
pull off basically forty five minutes to get triple A.
(01:43):
Had to go with the doughnut tire can't go over fifty.
I have another, I don't know, seventy miles to get
to Lego Land. So I find a Mercedes dealer. I
get them to swap my tire. Now I'm behind three hours.
So our hour and forty five minute trip to Lego
Land took me over three hours to get there. Did
Lego Land for however, many hours. Came back and my
other tire was flat at the end of the night.
(02:05):
Had to fill it with air overfill it and basically
I'm driving home super late at night, monitoring as the
psis drop every ten miles. I'm dropping psid do all
the way down, trying to make it home. My trip
ended up taking about seven hours total, or like six
hours of my day.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
I am so glad I was.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
I'd been there or my daughter. By the way, they
were boking, Oh my god, this is ridiculous. On that
car is a car, is a jigs. Everything happens with
that car.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Everything happens with that car.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Was such a champ. Our little boy was so good.
He was he was so scared and panicked about my
tire being flat, and he was just so supportive and
down for the adventure. And my wife and my daughter would.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
In the meantime, I was at the Grove, which is
this fabulous outdoor.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Shopping mall join a big Cali I.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
Know, in Los Angeles, doing the launch of Callie Water
Water Kids.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
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Speaker 2 (03:00):
Amazing drink that we love right Kelli Water. It's it's
an electrolyte drink. It's it's a cactus water instead of
coconut water. And we now have kids pouches that are.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
Investors in the company, by the way, and we believe
in the product a lot and is so is hydrating.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
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Speaker 3 (03:18):
Ten Every pouch is only ten calories and three grounds
of sugar.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Sweet with stevia among fruit like good sweeteness, moretificial. It's
a product.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
I was with our daughter and we had a blast
and then sebid Inssa Hudgens and Nicky reed and then
we had Sabella had her first disco, my dance party
one of her kids at her class. It was his
birthday and they threw this neon. We talked about it, guys.
(03:46):
So Eric was in Lego Land Nightmare and now let's.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Not say Legoland was great.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
I was in Traveling Nimer and I had to go
take Sabella at seven to her disco thing, which is
a drop off. But I was like, you know what,
I haven't met I know the parents, but I haven't
seen them in a long time. I've never been to
this house, so I just want to walk her in.
She's mortified because she's like, mom, she doesn't want me
to go, but I walk her in.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
The house was stunning.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
The entire thing. It's decorated in neon colors. When I'm
talking about this pizza station, this graffiti station, this mocktail station,
dance floor DJ it was that party was lit. I
couldn't believe my eyes. I was like, I want to
stay here, like this is I want to be part
of this party. Of course she dismissed me, so I
had to. Yeah, so I left, and then three hours later,
(04:37):
at ten o'clock at night, I pick her up.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
The thing is going. It was like like a rave fantastic.
I pick her up.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
She gets in the car, she is so happy. She goes,
this is the best day of my.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Life to a mocktail station DJs. All these different desserts
and treats and hydrogen. It was amazing, like pirates booty
or like smoke coming.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Out how a party should be done.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Yeah, it was incredible.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
But then she Now the pressure is on, guys, because
do you know that I have to do something incredible
enough for her next birthday.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I'm already I'm already planning. You know, she turns, she's
gonna go from a team will be a big one.
Do you call it a tweety?
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Now?
Speaker 1 (05:14):
From from from between to a team?
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Yeah, it's a Prepper team.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Guys is gonna be on that party.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
We have to do something. Here's what I will say,
so emotional. So she she doesn't she doesn't really have
a phone, Like I don't want her to have a
phone where she's calling, so she has, but she has
a phone. She likes. It's like a night and that
an AirPod, right. She likes to listen to music and
she likes to do all that with her with her phone.
We travel for tennis, but she also takes her pictures
(05:40):
with it, and all the pictures come to my phone.
So anyways, she I guess rose on the ladder to
take this to the party, which I would not have
but I'm glad she did because she was capturing memories
from her you know, night out. But when I watched,
because they all came up to upload into my cloud
to my phone. When I saw these videos, I was
I was crying. It was really weird, super emotional because
I was like, oh my god, we don't have a
(06:01):
kid anymore, a baby. She's dancing and you know, just
like acting like a young lady. It was really difficult
for me. I didn't like it. I mean I did
like it for her because I know it's part of
the growth and the journey, but it was really hard
for me.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
And then on top of it all, we go to
the Pasadena Playhouse, to this beautiful theater in Pasadena to
watch a play written by a friend, Gloria Callete, and
it was about the Latino experience, about this, how this
will to do Latino family. They have an only child,
which is a daughter. The daughter goes to college and
now she comes back home and announces to the parents
(06:39):
I have a boyfriend. They meet the boyfriend for the
first time and it happens to be that she is
married and she's pregnant, so all hilarity ensues. It was
so phenomenal, But it's about their baby girl, only child,
only child, becoming a woman, and how as Latinos, you know,
how how you navigate that world of your daughter eloping
(07:03):
and not telling you anything about I just got married,
and how the mom's a Latino woman is devastated. So
it was all about his coming of age story, about
this girl and her parents an identity, you know, and
and how if you're Latino that don't speak Spanish you
feel a very certain way. And then if your husband's
it's fluent, and he's fully assimulated but still holds onto
(07:26):
his roots.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
How it's different from you.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
I mean, Gloria covered every single topic imaginable and it
was so fantastic.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
So we left and I tell you.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Think And on top of that, after coming out of
this party, I.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Was Eric is crying because Sebbe is going to a
dance party and now Eric is crying.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Lose my mind. If she ever came home and Zach
got married without telling you, and I'm pregnant, I'll lose
my mind.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
What do you do?
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Like?
Speaker 2 (07:50):
What will you do?
Speaker 3 (07:51):
What?
Speaker 2 (07:52):
I lose my mind? I go supporter a supporter, I
lose my mind. Though at first I'd be so sad.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
But will you cheer her out?
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Can you do now it's done? I mean, you have
to support her, but I would be really bummed out.
I don't know if I would cheer out, but I
would probably go in a corner and scream and be mad.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
And then I come This is very interesting because the
play guy is the guy that she's dating. He's Mexican
American right, and he comes in to meet the parents
for the first time, so self assured, very outspoken, a
little too outspoken, right and very just very educated kid.
And the dad played brilliantly by Carlos Gomez. He's so
(08:31):
annoyed that he's meeting this kid for the first time,
and the kid has zero fear or is showing zero
fear about me meeting the parents. You, Eric Winter, the
first time that Sebby brings a boy to the house
saying or whoever to the house saying, this is my
partner and I'm in love. Do you expect that person
(08:55):
to be to fear you or you want the person
to be like, hey, mister Winter, how are you? And
talk to you like an equal and you're just I want.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
The person to respect me. I don't want them to
fear me. I don't want you want fear, for sure,
don't even the furthest thing from that. You'd be exactly
like Lana was in that movie, Oh my God. So
try to be happy until something turns sideways.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
I wouldn't turn sideways. I'd be like, hey, do you
need to check yourself?
Speaker 2 (09:18):
I definitely want I wouldn't be I don't know if
I want, mister I mean, they don't have to do
all that. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Of course, I have to said mister Winter. You're not
gonna say Hi, Eric, how are You'll be like, what
the heck are you talking about? It's mister Winter and Missentias. Really,
that's why I told Sabella already about the kid that
she believes is her boyfriend, and I said, when he
talks to me, tell him that I'm Missanchez. She said,
She's like, Mah, You've been ridiculous, and I'm going you
better tell that he doesn't even look at me, that.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
He's already scared. That's good and.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Good for him. I wanted to be scared. I wanted
to be scared.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
They yeah, I don't know. Yeah, a little bit of respect.
I want to try to be understanding. I'm hoping I'll
grow with this in the p.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Is a kid that just by looking at him, you go,
it's a butt seed.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Oh no, I don't like the vibe.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
I don't like the energy. That's if we know that
the parents are a little iffy.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
That's going to be hard family. That would be much harder,
because especially if the kid, even if he's respectful, but
I know this is a bad seed that we were
really tough. What do you do? The more you go
at him, the more she's gonna go opposite of you.
Has already made those comments to me, like the more
you tell me I can't do something, the more it
makes me want to do it. She's already said that
that's crazy, which is typical teenage behavior.
Speaker 3 (10:26):
Yeah, but to be able to verbalize that, like I
never told myself there.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
I will act on it and I will do it.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
My mom will tell me something and she will be like,
you cannot see that person, and I'll be like, okay,
now I really like him.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
But I never said to her flat out, the more
you tell me no, the more I'm going to do it.
She'll slap me.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
No.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
I would agree with that. There's a headline some dating
coaches online are pushing women to seek more traditional gender roles.
Dating coach carl Ella tells women not to go out
with a man who is nice or who treats you right,
(11:05):
but one who can afford them smart smart smart. You
don't want to be treated nice or right to someone
that can afford your lifestyle. I want to know advice.
While highly's not saying that, I want to criticized by
some who have seen her videos, has dominated the pocket
pockets of the internet and depicts heterosexual romance as a
deal between men and women in which women are receivers
(11:25):
and men are providers. I like that, like the ant
the receiver.
Speaker 3 (11:33):
I want equality be the receiver. I want to be able.
I'm nice, kind and I can support myself. So I
want my men to be.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
A man who can afford you. You can afford yourself, I know.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
But it's the it's knowing that if this is the fan,
he's he's there to provide.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
And I want to know that it's a fan. You're
going to receive.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
What do you mean.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
You're a receiver? Receiver, You got to receive everything. You
got to be the one that I'm going to be
the provider. I'm gonna like me. You have to be
open to receiving whatever I'm auditioning out. You can't just
be demanding what you want.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
I'm not demanding anything.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
You can't be in control all the time.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
I'm so confused right now. I want to be sufficient
and i want to I'm saying I'm confused the receiver.
More of you can you can like the woman provides
and the man provides. Oh, you take the more traditional
domestic role. You could work, but you don't have to
(12:30):
be the provider. You don't have to worry about all
of those. You know, maybe maybe I don't have to
be the provider, but I want to know that if
something happens, I can provide.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
I don't like, you know how, I have an issue
with being dependent.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
I cannot be understand that you're very stressed out about
that for whatever reason.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
And listen, and it's also like, you know, what's so interesting,
like and this is something that ladies you know, and
I wish I had.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
The maturity or the tools to understand.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
Things as simple as and he has nothing to do
with because it was like I'm going to give you,
like a dating experience with somebody that that wonderful, wonderful person,
great family.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
He was just amazing.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Right But the first time I went to his place
and I saw the place, and I saw the bedroom.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
What we're doing in his bedroom? I don't want to
talk about this anymore.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
No, I wasn't doing anything in the bedroom. I'm just
I'm talking about looking at the best disgusting.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
It was such a mess. Listen to me, it was
such a mess.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
It was such a mess, Eric Winter, I'm talking about insane.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Why were you in his bedroom?
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Like an earthquake because I saw you do as a
grown us woman. I was in my twenties. It was okay,
what why are you telling me the story? You're missing?
I wish I would have been like, you know what
I'm working.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
I want to change. I was in some women's bedroom.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I want to talk about that every night if you
were in my bedroom. Every single night.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
We're talking about I'm talking about.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
About Dame Cleans, I'll you about I'm not talking about
dating anything.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
I'm talking about his bedroom. We want to talk about that.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Go ahead yourself, you want to share, tell me all
about it.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Shaved when she works, when she cleaned, she smell rosy.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
God.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Anyway you want to talk about it.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
I'm not gonna talk about it because I want to
keep the harmony in my relationship.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
You're missing the point. I finished my startle. But this
is what's okay. Whatever the place, live, the living room.
It was such a mess that knowing like in hind hindsight, right,
I want I want to sending to be this kind
of girl. She walks in, she's assesses the situation. Place
is a freaking mess. Get out whatever she's at, even
(14:39):
if it's the kitchen. Walk in walk out, realize this
person is a mess. I don't tolerate that, and very
few women have that. You just settled.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
You just go like, it's okay, he's a little dirty,
but yeah, he's a mess. He's a slob, but he's
so nice.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Okay. So here's one of the things that I actually
think is this. One of the advice is you know,
a piece of advice they're giving is that when you're
in the dating space that you should you should treat
it as a bit of a game or a strategy
to win, to attract a man who's willing to pay
the bills, spoil his partner gifts and you know, fund
(15:16):
the lavish lifestyle. Now I don't know about all of that.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Important, but the coach suggest the follow coach, but I
love the game.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
I always say this about dating, and I have to
say dating for me, I don't think you ever really
like dating, probably like I actually think dating is a
lot of fun, like especially first day, even if they
go bad. I used to love No, it's so fun
getting to know somebody, even if it's going sideways and
you pay for the dinner and you have you know whatever,
you never's not going to go any further. I love
the whole one on one and getting to know somebody.
(15:47):
But the thing that's fun about dating, and maybe, like
I said, I don't think you like this is I agree,
there is a strategy. There's a game that has to
be played. People like the chase. They like the pursuit.
That's the animal nature, like you want to. As soon
as somebody just caves or they don't make you chase
or pursue, I think people lose interest.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
So then how do you deal with marriage.
Speaker 3 (16:06):
You've been with me for eighteen years, you already got me,
and you like the chase so much.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
You still make me all the time. So it's not like.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
You're like the dating getting to know you.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Constantly on the chase with you. Because it's like I was,
oh my god, here she made a right, she made
a left, like a chase her again. I'm like, it's
never a dull moment. I'm gonna have to keep it
like that is very good. Otherwise we get bored. No,
I agree, I agree.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Don't get bored on me. Huh, don't get bored.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
I ain't getting bored and getting bored. You're a lot
of fun when you want to be when I want
to be when you want to be. When you're not
just mouth guard in and pajamas in bed, you're a
lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
Wow, you know what.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
I'm watching it and now you just watched a good mood.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
You know.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
I'm watching this. I can't leave not watching it. This
documentary on the New Patriot fascinating. It's so good, it's
so well done. Somebody Imagine Entertainment. They did such a
good job with this documentary. That's totally did fall asleep, No,
I always fall asleep, but I mean, I just it's
something that we totally switched skiers from. Like it's on
(17:09):
Apple TV. I think people should really like it. Whether
you love or hate the Patriots, I think it's a great.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Do you believe all the negative stuff that they're exposing, Yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Think all that stuff no way.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Do you think they were looking at the coaching that.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Was proven he got spending? Yeah yeah, but everybody does that.
This is what happened with the Astros back in like
their past World Series victory. They were stealing signs. People
do this all the time, you just can't get caught,
and they were video in it. That was the issue.
So people steal.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Signs anythink that was what is his name, Goliski, Chaliski
the coach?
Speaker 1 (17:39):
What is his name? Belichick?
Speaker 2 (17:41):
There's Gronkowski Belichick.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
Do you think Belichick is the one that wanted that order?
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Somebody is the one that got nailed.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
So how is it posible that he's steal coaching because
he got he should be banned.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
That was a lot of them we shouldn't be man,
that was a lot of the issue they said that
didn't suspend him, They didn't put him through enough. They
just find him And which wasn't that?
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Do you think that what's his name? The love of
your life, Tom Brady.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Love of my life Island Sanchez.
Speaker 3 (18:06):
Tom Brady? Do you think it was proven that he
it was like the weight on the on the balls.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
That episode yet? But I can't wait to get to that.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Is he cheater?
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Like everybody in professional sports to some degree.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
They don't say that they don't break rules.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Into in some capacity. They do. It's just a matter
of who gets caught. There's always little things they they
would talk about when you go to other arenas and
you go to the locker room and they leave it dirty,
they leave it smelly, or it's not comfortable. They always
want to get in players heads, like they would mess
with players at the hotel. They always there's always something.
I don't think it's as extreme as maybe that all
(18:41):
the time, but I think everybody's trying to find a
one up.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
Well, I'm watching I saw American Fiction. This movie guys
that I highly recommend.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Not a new movie. It's an older movie.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
No, it's new.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
They just want the Oscar the guy just American. Yeah,
listen to me, I have one. I have a new got.
I think the writer wants something. I think the writer
want something. Let me tell you something. I am obsessed
with Jeffrey Wright.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
That's a great actor. He was in West World. He's fantastic.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
Oh's yeah, but you know I like him more on
American Fiction. Of this movie, he's so good.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
He's really good.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
He's so good.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
I was like, oh my god, Like my whole my
dream was always to work with al Pacino. To this day,
hopefully I will accomplish that. Before he howled how Isino?
He's getting there right up there? Yeah, but I'm all
into I'm into Jeffrey right, so good. Anyways, what else
I was going to tell you? I have to tell
you one more thing before we go.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
We also have a one best adapted screenplay. That's what
it was and is eighty three.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
By the way, eighty three sometimes time soon. Why do
you say that?
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Because I just don't see it happening.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
Wow, thank you. I appreciate that that's eighty three. He
can work onto his night.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
I just don't know that the timing is going to
line up anyways.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Well whatever, maybe I like him.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Anyways, we better get planning, our making our spring break
spring break plans, and it's.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Going to be a blame.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
Oh look on this woman says her fifty thousand wedding
ruined her life after snowbowling out of control. Life isn't
a Disney movie.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
I mean that's our wedding.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Was out of control as well, and I was super stressing.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Was crazy.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
It was busier of my life. I had a blast.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
But the planning, I believe it when it's you do
all this work and it goes so fast and everybody
enjoys themselves more than you.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Although I have to say that it did enjoy myself
like Crazy's.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
Like she said, distress not only prevented her from enjoying
her wedding day, but it all. Finally it impacted her
months afterwards. I don't discredit that there was so much Okay,
going back to Sabella, she ever got married without telling us,
I'd be pissed. How and I give her we we
we would give her the best wedding. We would be
you know, part of that and pay.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
For We have to do my favor.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
I just I don't want you.
Speaker 3 (21:01):
I don't want you involved in her wedding. Allow me
to do it all and do the budget because I.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Can go through the seller house to do her wedding.
We have to have to manage some of the finances.
Speaker 3 (21:10):
No, don't manage anything because you're going to make it
not a great experience. Our wedding is going to be
all my planning.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
It will be great. But my point is there is
a lot.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
Of shows if she never wants to get married, she's
one of those chicks that goes. I don't. I don't
believe in married.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
I can see that's just a paper. I see her
wanting to, but I just do think there's too much
stress put on this one day that. Yeah, the repercussions
can go on long after. I mean financially, it can
really screw you up. People you know, put too much
money to that. They're even more about the down payment
of the house. They should be focusing on things like that.
And also it is supposed to be for you, and
(21:46):
people are so worried about how everybody else is experiencing
your day, so it takes away from you.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
Why some people elope and they just keep it very simple.
I'm very small.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
I just think you can make it less stressful by
not doing too much. Can you Can you handle that?
Can you do that? You? Definitely? Every when we got married,
it was like you want to do more and more
and more it was and I was so stressed out.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
It was epic.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
It was great. It was It took us some time
to recover from it. It was definitely. It was an epic,
giant event.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
It was awesome.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
That was a stressful, beautiful.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
Day, stressful, amazing.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
So you think you have to spend all this money
for a wedding. You don't think it's worth it to
just try to pace yourself and do something nice and
have it under control.
Speaker 3 (22:24):
No, No, I feel like it depends on on on
the family and if you can't afford it to go
all out, by all means go all out. If you
can't and you have to do something medium size. As
long as you make it meaningful and beautiful, that it
means something and you is fine. And if you want
to make it with just three people, you can still
make it epic and make it stunning.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
Okay, so we'll do that for Sabella's thirteenth perty meaningful,
three people.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
I don't know what she wants. I will make whatever
she wants to do. I'll make it epic, even if
it's even if we invite it.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
All right, until next time, everybody look for that post,
put your questions in there and we will. We will
tackle it next time. Love you, thanks for listening. Don't
forget to write us a review and tell us what
you think.
Speaker 3 (23:04):
If you want to follow us on Instagram, check us
out at e said ajab Orson is an email Eric
and Ross at iHeartRadio dot com.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
He said.
Speaker 3 (23:12):
Ajab is part of iHeartRadio's Miculduda podcast network.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
See you next time.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
Bye,
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