5/15 How To Ask Your Boss For a Raise

Joanna and Sean share tips from Body Language Expert Vanessa Van Edwards on how to ask your boss for a raise. Spoiler Alert; they disagree with most of them. 

Episode Transcript

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If you are in a position whereyou feel like you need, nay deserve
a raise, Joanna and I arehere to help you. This morning.
It is Sunny Mornings with Joanna andSean on Sunny Window was six point five.
Now, Joanna, I mentioned Icaught something on Jennifer Hudson recently her
talk show Okay, and she hada body language expert on her show,

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and her name was Vanessa van Edwards. Never heard of this person before Okay.
But she had a bunch of adviceon how to ask for a raise
in the workplace. And I thoughtI would play a few of her clips
and we could kind of just reactto it in real time. Sound good,
Yeah, let's do it all right? Cool. Here's her first advice
on how to ask for a raise. If you're not sure about your raise,
if you're afraid to ask, goto a meeting with your boss or

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manager and say, hey, Ireally want to raise, but I want
your advice on what I should doso I can really deserve one. I'm
iffy on that. Oh my god, that's terrible advice on if I deserve
what. No, that's not howyou do it. Listen. I've always
been taught as you were asking fora raise first and foremost, leave feelings
out of it, uh huh,And go in there with examples of your

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work that you've done, things thatyou revenue generated, whatever it is.
But you have to show proof inorder to ask for a race. But
leave any of that wishy washy stuffout of it. That's terrible. You're
educating me too, because full disclosure, I've never asked for a raise.
Wow, I've just looked for jobsthat paid better. Oh my god.
Here's her next tip on asking fora raise. Anytime you're with your manager

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or your boss and they make asupportive point or they say something that you
really like, you can try doinga little lean in. We know as
humans that when we lean in meanswe're about to engage something or we agree
with something, and it's a greatrapport building move. So in your meetings
with your manager, your boss,before you even ask for the raise,
lean in anytime they say something alittle positive. I don't like this one

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either, Frankly, I don't likeanything like this, lady. It feels
like eighties power move. Just leanin. I don't think anyone's like you
know, I wasn't gonna give hima raise with any leaned in. I
couldn't say no at that point.That's terrible. Moving on number three,
third power. This one's a littlecrazy, but it works. Mirroring mirror
is when we subtly mimic or copysomeone else's nonverbal Now, I don't want

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you to do, Simon says,but if someone's leaning forward, you could
lean forward. If someone is noddingat you, you could not back.
If someone's using broad, expansive gestures, you could try widening your gestures a
little bit. Studies show that mirroringyour boss is going to help you get
your number charades. What are wedoing, Joeanne, I would listen.
That's not a natural thing for peopleto do, right, And so if

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you are going to be asking formore money potentially, don't make it awkward.
Yes, if it's not in yournaturally who you are and your mannerisms,
don't try to fake the front basedon stuff like this. It's going
to make things more weird. Itfeels like psychological games. Now, let's
see if her last tip is anybetter. Number one, don't accidentally use
the question inflection. Most of us, when we're feeling anxious or nervous,

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we ask our sentences. By goingup at the end of our phrase as
if we're asking a question, immediatelygives away all of your vocal confidence and
power. So when you're going intoyour raise, talk state your name,
state your needs, and state yourass Finally, one I agree with I
think your inflection in tone has alot to do with how successful you are.

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There's a major difference between you know, I think I deserve a raise
and I think I deserve a raiseabsolutely and listen. I don't know many
people these days that maybe discuss itin person. I think a lot of
this conversation is done via email too, And if you're not good with face
to face, you know, conversation, eye contact, then put it all
out in an email to have tolike summarize and like send it right after

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your meeting. Plus you need thatpaper trail with all your facts exactly