Female Artists on Being Pitted Against Each Other: 'This Isn't Mean Girls'

By Dustin Stout

April 10, 2018

A wave of country females has begun to address their unfair coverage by the media.

Though sometimes inadvertently, the media has a tendency to pit country females against one another and create rivalries among them, they say.

Kelly Clarkson drew attention to the longstanding problem with a tweet in which publication The Tylt asked whether Kelly or Carrie Underwood is the “more iconic” American Idol winner.

“I think we’re both winning in life and pretty blessed,” Kelly responded. “Singers, mamas, CEO’s.... #AmbitiousBlondes go ahead @carrieunderwood.”

Carrie then responded herself, writing she wished “more publications would just celebrate women’s success without pitting them against each other.” 

Kelsea Ballerini chimed in two days later, sharing a tweet from a different, unnamed publication that asked which female star is the preferable ACM Awards performer.

Kelsea wrote in response those questions create “tension,” and it “sets us back.” “

I just don’t want the new females in country music to be misrepresented to the fans or the media as the popular girls in high school that pose for photos like were [sic] bffs but secretly despise the one that dates the quarterback,” Kelsea pens. “And more than that, I don’t want US to feel like that. This isn’t mean girls, this is country music. Where you actually CAN sit with us.” 

This made me really bummed today. Since I put out my first single over 4 years ago, every interview includes some form of question about the females in country music... or the current lack thereof. so we swim upstream and wear ourselves out trying to be heard and finally see the charts start to mention a few more of our names, the categories recognize a few more of our songs, and even start to cheer each other on. but then there’s something as simple and seemingly harmless as this, that sets us back. it takes the dozens of talented, determined, hard working, kind women that want to continue the incredible marks on the genre the woman before us have made, and it makes us feel like there’s only one spot available. so then there’s tension. And insecurity. and this magical bond that females have when we truly, actually want each other to win...it gets compromised. It makes me sad because I feel it. Heck, it makes me insecure. It makes me feel tension in a room where there is another girl that is successful. It makes me awkward. It makes me overthink conversations. It makes me assume the worst. Which is actually CRAZY. this is definitely an instavent, because I just don’t want the new females in country music to be misrepresented to the fans or the media as the popular girls in high school that pose for photos like were bffs but secretly despise the one that dates the quarterback. And more than that, I don’t want US to feel like that. This isn’t mean girls, this is country music. Where you actually CAN sit with us.

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LeAnn Rimes commented on Kelsea's posted to applaud her for speaking out.

"This is amazing," the "Blue" singer writes. "I'm so happy you spoke your heart on this. It's sad that as women we are made out to be each other's competition instead of each other's cheerleaders. Times, they are a changing and all because storing [sic] women are speaking up and standing in LovE! You are a beauty! Congrats on all your success."

What are your thoughts? Sound off on social media @cmtcody or online at CMTcody.com.

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Carrie UnderwoodKelsea BalleriniKelly ClarksonLeAnn Rimes
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