The Strawberry Letter: We Did It & He's Trying To Do Me

Dear Steve and Shirley,

I'm a 32-year-old married woman, and I've got a problem with my district manager. For years, we flirted with each other, and it made work fun and interesting. He's married too, so I never imagined we'd ever fool around—but we did.

Here's how it happened. I've been married for three years, and my husband was being distant and staying out more than he usually does. I asked if he was okay, and he said he was stressed at work but that he was fine.

Right after that, I ran into one of his female friends from college—someone I never really clicked with. She told me she was praying things work out with my husband at work because she’s not used to seeing him so depressed. She went on to say that my husband confided in her about an issue with his boss and how he resolved it.

I could hardly breathe. I went home, and he confessed to confiding in her and having dinner with her a few times to talk. He swore to me that it was nothing major—just two friends talking.

I went to work the next day, and I lost it. I couldn’t stop crying, and my manager came in to check on me. He took me out for coffee, and we sat in his car talking. My wrap dress had all of my goodies on display, so he reached in and rubbed a few things. He kept on rubbing until I left his car with blurred vision.

Now he wants more—and I can’t give him more. What my husband did was very wrong, but I honestly do not think he would cheat on me. My district manager is using what he knows about my marriage to his advantage.

He is trying to coerce me into having an affair by saying my husband doesn’t appreciate me and that revenge sex always makes a person feel better.

Is this man crazy or just being manipulative?